How To Handle Your Anger In Poker & Life
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- Do you feel anger when you play poker or during your everyday life and want to know how to handle this? Bencb discusses what you can do to handle the anger!
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I used to need at least 10-11 hours of sleep everyday, sometimes I even slept for 12-13 hours and still felt like it was not enough. A year ago, I began having a morning and an evening routine, which both include meditation. I also do relaxation when I am in bed to fall asleep. I slowly began needing less and less sleep and now, I sleep 8 hours a day and feel perfectly fine. It works. And not only for sleeping. I had never tried to implement such routines, but I decided to give it a try after watching the video you made about your own daily one. Now, I would never go back.
so happy for you! Keep it up!
Holy shit i just had to download this video. I play poker for a living and this video really is gold.
Glad it was so helpful!
„What u fight, u stuck with it. whatever u accept u Go beyond. Thats the miracle“ -E. Tolle. Awesome vid again ben! Thank you. Wish u and your loved ones the best!
so true! Thanks man
Reading your quote, I assume E. Tolle's words of wisdom were written on an I phone.
I ordered the mindset course about 2 months ago - not cheap I have to admit but then quality always comes at a price. A totally new approach for me in dealing with my huge tilt problem it really tries to get down to the bare bones of the causes.
I've gone through it once going through it again no doubt I'll be working through it for sometime to come as the course reiterates numerous times. All I can say is great work Ben
glad it helped you and thanks for taking the time to give feedback
This video upload in time, thank u Ben and team RYE. I hate myself in badrun, but after 10 min I recognize I did all I can made. A few times a blocked all poker to 1 week or month, one time it was half year. After unblocked I great play, but it going 3-5 weeks and tilt get me in higher level. And block again. (sorry for my eng)
You're welcome Leon, hope it helps you dealing with these things!
I really do not like Ben as a person and find him a pretty unsympathetic character, but this video is very good! Clear, concise and very helpful
absolutely brilliant channel ben
will definitely give mediation a go
great!
@@RaiseYourEdge Meditating four days now , downloaded that Sam Harris mediation app, thanks for the advice
Thank you so much for this very deep topic and the informative and lovely way you explained it ☺♥
Glad you enjoyed it! Ben goes even more in depth in the Unchained Mindset course, so if you really liked the video be sure to check it out: www.raiseyouredge.com/unchainpokermindset
as a recovering alcoholic it is meditation along with a spiritual belief that has kept me sober for 11 years. yes it OK to feel anger but remember its you anger your emotion and you can do the fuck what you like with it . someone some place or some thing might have sparked it BUT OWN IT .you can use it positively or negatively.
always bring your self back to the breath to ease the monkey mind.
Thanks Ben
i almost burned out completely after years of multi-tabling without giving myself rest. i compensated with a lot of caffeine, it took me a while learning the hard way that working out and resting is necessary to keep playing your a-game and not burn out. the cliche, good diet, working out (boxing in my case) and enough sleep is really so important.
How have things been going for you now David? Sounds like you became aware of it and turned things around!
@@RaiseYourEdge pretty good, thanks for asking. diet was also key, which i talked about a bit in the discord food-diet section today. i was close to a burn-out i still need to force myself to rest a bit more than before but things are moving up!
Not gonna lie, SCOOP this year is starting to really test my anger, which I thought I had under control. (Nice score today Ben!)
Love your videos Ben. Super insightful. Thanks
Awesome to hear, thank you Invest!
Thank you Ben! For everything
This was one I needed 🤣 losing AA over and over again is pretty tilting
To your service! Hope it helped!
Matty, something I've done to control tilt with this, as like you I feel that I get felted every time I get AA, is write down how many times I win/lose with aces to make me realize that the maths isnt lying, and I'm only focusing on the negative. It's surprisingly effective.
@@MrShikasta good idea but the maths does lie to me... I've lost an insane % when having the best hand (just for the last month)
@@Steezy93 I feel your pain -the river has not been kind this month so far
For us poker players the outcomes will come whether its turn or river its...us to overcome those outcomes with with good practice....I come to grips of losing the pots but haven't come to grips why is happens so often so I'm stuck I think
You actually did keep it pretty simple considering the complexity of this subject. Really enjoyed the video. I have personally noticed a direct correlation between meditation and positive results in sessions. (I primarily play live cash)
It can get pretty granular when it comes to neuroticism and its sub domains. The conclusions of varies studies on neuroticism indicate its 40% genetic and 60% environmental. That is a generalization and debatable, but it seems fairly accurate. There are ways to alter genetics via epigenetics. Likewise, there are often ways to control our environment to make more suitable for flow. This video drops a lot of quality points.
Very good healthy content you put out. Much love 🙏
Thanks Ben! I'm going to try meditation. I used to in my psychology class years ago, but it just faded away over time.
I'm fortunate to when I'm feeling mentally drained or just physically exhausted, my wife sees it and tells me to take a nap. She's awesome and it definitely helps when I'm doing a late night grind. Great video, keep 'em coming!
Hi RYE, do you guys have transcript of Bencb's videos? I am more of a reader.
Keep this videos coming. Thank you for the free content
"Lets keep it simple"
Talks about brain chemistry. I love it.
Chemistry made simple :P
Great and mega useful video, thanks for the huge amount of such cool content, you do a big job!!
Our pleasure!
Thank you Ben, you have helped me so much :)
Thank you Toni, keep it up!
I stopped drinking alcohol and to much caffeine when I play poker and I feel much relaxer and more focused on the tables.
"Be here now" by Ram Dass a great book to read for this.
Hello friend I am reading it right now!
^Enjoy your trip^
RIP Baba Ram Dass
enjoyed this one ben! Would love to hear your thoughts on what separates pokers 10% me, from pokers 1% you. Fells like a hell of a gap. Take care
this is gold.
very nice ,thank you Ben
amazing content , thank you so much !
Thanks for your support!
Literally just broke my phone after I got 3 outed on the final table bubble. So I might need this today...
We hope it helped!
Well i was twice 9th in daily Marathon i Hope u feelbetter now
or mark newhouse two times 9th wsop main ^^
@@walt4162 Bro... same here, same tournament, back to back days even, 9th and 11th i believe
Those animations looked a lot like the ones from Headspace, the meditation app. :)
They are part of the Mindset Course, Headspace also makes use of these animations, we love them!
Thank you for these messages!
Bencb, I highly recommend you try a vipassana retreat. I did one in 2015 and it was a truly eye opening experience. The first time i sat still for an hour i felt like a xmen, did not know it was even possible. thanks for the video, great content as always
have heard of it. I am doing my owns where I rent a place and I cut out all distraction.
The key to mindset on bad beats and getting sucked out on ect is you must accept that poker is not a sprint but a marathon and those bad beats, 2 outed ect are just all part of that marathon. It’s funny because we get so used to not getting 2 outed that we don,t expect to get 2 outed and that’s why it’s such a strong shock to our brain as it’s used to the same waves of not getting 2 outed and that shock to the brain courses anger and leaves some people to tilt or not play there A game ect from that point! But as it’s a marathon this means these things must happen as it’s 100% probability correct for it to happen.
Perspective is indeed very helpful!
thank you bro
You are welcome Jessy!
Thanks Ben for those strong Words ☺♥ RYE
Headspace is a great app.
thank you my guru
Istart playing classical music with headphones and haven't had a single tilt session yet.
I play rap music it helpe
Great content
What type of mediation do you recommend?
I very often feel regret about the play "I could have made" or "I didnt make" after I study my hands the next day after the session and thus I feel anxious and angry at times. Any tips on how to improve?
Hi Benc, did you tryed to do or read about No Fap? What do you think about that. Thank for your contents
J. Tandler: The menthal game of poker
I have my table that gets punished every time I run bad.
Sounds like your table is in a bad position!
you have to balance between slaming the table and punching walls , mix it up.
i,vee implementing some of your previous advices (cold shower some days, writting down my porpuse of the day or spots that i want to be more focus on the session).
Im not a tilting person, i ve grind many hundred and thousand of hands (specially sits and tourneys) so i understand or i thik i can understand the variance in 1K games or 2K( its just a bit ridiculus example and sample i know xd).
But for real i think this advice you give could help me in a way (as you say), to be more focus, not only in the daily session "sino"(spanish term) in the mid and long term of my career. I trust in your advice and im going to implement it on my daily rutine and will see, thank you Ben for sharing your thoughts and what u have learn in order to be a proffesional in your task and have a proffesional approach and mindset :D.
and sorry for writting like a troglodite jajajaj
Bruh I have played 1000 tournies in the last 3 months I think u need to play a lot more first
@@Steezy93 xDD i play between 500-800 games every month. I think u say that beacuase of the sample i said 1K-2K, i was taking about the mindset in a down of that sample, that is irrisorius, but can hurt for many reasons.
Good luck Paco, be sure to let us know how you get on with it!
At what point do you just quit? At what point is enough, enough?
I'm currently about 700 buyins down in 2020. I study 2-3 hours a day, every single day. I meditate, eat healthy, shower cold, work out, rest, play with good focus.
Before every session I go over some key spots of last session, read my notes a few times and I like to sit in silence and process this for about 5-8 minutes before starting my session.
I do not tilt when I lose, but I am slowly losing hope of ever becoming a profitable player again. After every session I recap and go through every single tournament. Look at all spots, see where I can improve, what I could do better, make notes, look up answers, run some hands, edit my main note file with whatever I find went wrong and needs changing.
I do not play with scared money, I am happy in life, in love, with my job and with myself and with where I am in life. Yet, literally 95% (i could send you my HM3 stats) of my deepruns end in getting sucked out on at the final 4 tables, final 3 tables, final 2, etc. Huge equity spots.
I review the tournaments and come to the conclusion I play to the maximum of my capabilities. I don't make major mistakes, i just run bad in a sickening amount of key spots, leading to the -700 buyin streak I am currently going through.
My question? My question is simple. What should I do? I am literally doing every single thing I should be doing to become a profitable player and to do it the right way. Everything Ben teaches, I've absorbed into my routine.
Do I take a break? Do I keep going hoping my luck turns around? Do I quit? Do I study more? Less? Any tips are welcome, because I'm more and more thinking about giving up the dream of being a poker pro if this run keeps going. I have 4 close friends and we all started studying and grinding at around the same time and they all have progressed into the midstakes and even lower highstakes and have brilliant ROI doing so. Two of them have already been able to quit their jobs and live off poker and I am 700 buyins down in the microstakes.
Help.
moment of silence for this guy :(
You should always have some alternative. There will be always high stake players that are crushing, but those that are losing are always silence. If you really studied, your brain should be in good shape so you can study something else. If you have less than 5bb/100 hands, you should move on lower stakes even if that means that you can't get out of makeup. I was learning too every day for the last 6 months and basically at some point just saw that I should learn something else just to have an alternative and started some programming course which you can buy for 10$ nowadays.
And on microstakes you should really focus on how to exploit fishes, no gto and similar shit at all. No balancing, if you think that you have knowledge try to avoid big spots in late phase of the tournament as much as you can and to steal small spots from fishes.
Don't know is it helpful, but this is my opinion. :)
Smaller fields. If u loose Hope u Look a lot into the future. Ur attention needs to be more present...Go in the forrest just observe, just listend as u Never listend before, with every cell of the/ your (only lend Atoms and moleculs) body.
You have to play smaller fields to become profitable on a constant basis. If you can up your avg buy-in a bit and play tournaments that have less registered players it will be better. The skill of players in higher buy-in tournaments is not staggering. Im sure you can beat higher stakes if you focus on each decision you face. Also I do not recommend to play on Pokerstars. Look for a smaller site, which offers some lower stake tournaments.
You say you don't make mistakes. How do you know? Do you get feedback from other good players? If not, than get a coach and you will improve 10x+ faster.
i agree with you ben but im wondering..do you make indian type of meditation or christian one ?i do christian way meditation and i think that you dont know christian meditation ...im wrong ?
more energy to your days: Sweet potatoes the main source of carbs, stay the hell away from processed carbs
so pasta is bad and bread but rice is good, potatoes vegis right?
@@Chris-rd9ui yeah man :) eat it the way nature gives it to you
Check 😆 just this morning I was looking for a Zen bag to sit on 😎
Did you find one?
I did thank you 😎 😆
Everytime i tilt, i watch the clip of BBZ folding QJhh on A35KXhhhhx and vs limitless. and bazam I'm off tilt.
do you have a link?
@@rEAdyOrN clips.twitch.tv/AlertAgitatedPuddingRickroll
savage
Ouch that hurt, but really who the fuck bluffs there...
If that helps.. great! Always gotta find what works best for you
I started good. And now I’m losing so much. And I’m frustrated because I’m losing money.
I handle my anger from going all in under the gun with 8 5 off suit
I dont wanna tilt anymore. I want a mindset like a shaolin monk. Pls help me
Check out our mindset content here on TH-cam, as well as our podcast with Elliot Roe.
rub cayenne pepper in your eye after any session you tilt - problem fixed
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I am a psycho......i feel nothing when i loose or win 🤣 no feelings, no empaty.....nothing 🤣🤣🙂
Increase your stakes
well it all has it merits, so in poker its great i guess. ur almost like a computer programm
@@Chris-rd9ui 🙂🙂
Ben, I need some advice from you really. I lost 4days Ago $2600 which was my all bankroll I built them from $50. I can't really control myself like always I want more adrenaline I can't enjoy playing lowerstakes I always want to risk. I was up to 2600$ I lost all playing 5/10 which Is 2buyins
if u wanna have a professinal approach use br management. work on your tilt issues. otherwise ur destined to loose all what u got. till u learn to be inteligent with ur ressources.
im far from being a good poker player as i am only a casual player in the weekends but heres my advice:
in your situation you REALLY need to calm down and stop hunting the adrenaline! you have to be prepared to grind for alot of hours on lower stakes without losing focus or motivation. it is the only way!
i have a friend who does not have BRM at all and goes broke all the time..
he loads up 50 bucks and than he plays a 50 bucks tournament because all he cares for is how much money he can win if he grabs the W. ofcourse he never ever wins and goes flat broke. every weekend again. because he chooses to gamble instead of playing solid poker.
me on the other hand, i deposited 3x 10 euros in total in the past half year to play 1 and 2 euro tournaments.. now im sitting at a healthy 380euros bankroll strictly from playing 1 and 2 euro tournaments.. lots of time spend for basicly no show but if i can keep this up for the years to come it could be a very nice bankroll in the future.
if your not prepared and motivated to grind low stakes and build up your bankroll very carefully than you will NEVER be able to maintain a bankroll at higher stakes either. if you play 5k buy in tournaments for a year, than after that year you wont get a adrenaline rush from it anymore and you want to play 10k or 25k buy ins.. there is no end to it.
dont play to feel a rush or gamble.. play because you want to be good in the game and make a long term profit.
if you know you cant get yourself to that mindset than you will never ever get to where you wanna be in poker as you constantly will be punting off your bankroll.
you are capable of building a solid bankroll from 50 to 2600.. impressive. but all will be wasted if you cannot control the urge to gamble by playing to high stakes or managing your tilt.
hope this is of any help to you and best of luck!
@@Crypto4always Thank you very much for your advices. I'm starting all over again with $100 and trying to play some safe poker not rushing.
@@Crypto4always btw those $2600 I built for 3days with $50☺️
Meditation + Nofap / NoPMO = Godmode... Upswing guaranteed :)
100%
Do you consider working out with no distractions as a form of mediation?
Yes, but doesnt replace the traditional kind of meditation.
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can i work in your zoo?