Please check out Kevin samuels on TH-cam, and current state of marriage and women in the United States. Really interesting, although he is kinda savage
Or to give men with these thoughts a place to not feel alone.Being able to protect and provide is a large umbrella of things.If you aren't struggling to get it right. Then you are most likely doing something wrong. Thanks WP
This is no longer the best gun channel on TH-cam. It is the BEST CHANNEL PERIOD. This content right here might push me to WPSN if this is what is in store on there. Keep it up John and God bless you!
John, you nailed it brother... 👏 "this is a one way Covenant, where I will love you regardless of circumstances". Holy literally means different. To be set apart. Theres a reason why that is the word used by the seraphim to describe what they see as the fly circling around the Most High. There is none like Him. So in a sense, you're saying "let's make our marriage holy, different, set apart, something that brings honor and reflects the Most High.
It shouldn't be "Happy wife, happy life." it should be "Happy spouse, happy house" and in that statement its not dependent on the other spouse to provide that full happiness. That is on each of us individually. Your spouse can add to the happiness but not the cornerstone.
My 10th anniversary is coming up in july. Im only 29, so we went through hell to make this work, but in the end id do it all again. My wife is my rock.
My wife and I are going through our second separation in 2 years. We’ve been married for 8 years and have 3 children under 6. It’s hard. I needed the first separation to re-evaluate my life and the choices I was making as a man and a father. I’ve come along way I feel. I’m proud of the man I am for the first time in a long time. This second one though, may not be anything that can be fixed. I wish I would’ve heard this kind of stuff 5 years ago. I may not be in this mess now
I have the inverse problem, I have friends that are no longer friends because simply having a girlfriend renders everything else in life unimportant and less valuable to them, superseding all else.
@@ctsxhp326 interesting to see what the other end looks like. Luckily I've been able to work on the problem and not lose any friends, but relationships were damaged for sure
I haven’t neglected my family and my wife has not neglected hers, but really neither one of us talk to our friends anymore. That’s something I sincerely miss and regret.
You have hit on so many of the issues my wife and I have had during our 50 year relationship. (We were 16 when we met.) One of the most important things we have found is when we don't have joy in God, ourselves, each other, our family, that's when our marriage does not work well. Seldom do we feel joy in all those categories at the same time. But, when we cannot find joy in any these, we have had to rethink how we are living our lives. Everything changes and, to keep our marriage healthy, we have changed to maintain our own identities while growing our love and respect for each other.
It’s the husband’s job to lead in humility. God has designed it as such, so as soon as you decided to hold up your end of the deal, she was inclined for follow your lead. Well done, my man. You have been blessed. Keep up the grind!
Wow. I am reading all the comments about how hard marriage is. I just thanked God that my marriage has NOT been hard or a challenge or a struggle. We have had 2 arguments in 24 years. We are both Christians, we competed in Bodybuilding, shoot guns (she is a firearms instructor) go fishing, watch horror movies and have fun. She makes my life EASIER, not harder. I waited until I was 31 and found a fit, ranch girl, who liked the outdoors and didn’t want kids. She is with me because she chooses to be. She has a PhD in mathematics and is a professor at a local university here in Montana. I called her and thanked her for being the way she is after watching this video. She is a big fan of the Warrior Poet and told her to see what you guys are discussing in the video today. She is a logical female, not driven be emotional crap like most women. I can count on her.
We've been married since 1994, raised two lads who are doing well into their late 20s now. I love my wife more than ever, friends and hobbies have come and gone, past few years I've been a biker and in a club, not her thing but she encourages me and loves that I love it. Her sweet spot is chilling at our caravan in Wales so we love that. I'm thinking I'm just blessed 👊
I really appreciate seeing a believer communicate topics that I am interested in. The last few years have been an absolute nightmare, so getting fed any way I can is really important. Thank you.
This is super deep. I used to always think having a significant other was just about having fun, and when it’s not fun anymore then it’s time to move on....This video has taught me that it’s so much more! Being able to challenge each other to become better!
Jordan Peter's is not spicy, he is controlled opposition just like Ben Shapiro. I'd rather see him chat with a young buck like Nick Fuentes or John Doyle.
Learned this from a mentor: The first 3 of the fruit of the spirit (love, joy, and peace) are emotions. The other 6 are godly characters (unnatural to us). The cool thing is, when you read it backwards, it starts with self-control and ends with love, joy, and peace. The saying goes “start from the bottom to get to the top”. By starting with self control, the results will end with love, joy, and peace. But trying to get love, joy, and peace first will not go well.
To the "this is hard" (24:54) I remind my daughter that it's triple reinforced when we play that game. We thought it, said it and heard it from a voice we trust implicitly. This gives the defeatist attitude significant strength when we didn't have to make that choice. There are times to use this loop in a positive way to our advantage. Finding a ways to prop ourselves up in the face of adversity and challenge is vital in many aspects of a life that strives and thrives irrespective of circumstances.
The founding fathers should've kept it as "Life, Liberty, and the pursuit of property." Do we really have the right to be happy? This is a great episode. I could've used this advise a few years ago. Psychiatrists/couples therapists, at least the ones we talked to, just made things worse.
John, you have been a constant pain in my butt, always reminding me that nothing falls in place without aligning myself first to God and then my family. Love you and the team for not being any different.
Don’t take this the wrong way, I love these two men. So much knowledge dropping here I am watching twice. Happiness vs Fulfillment. I remember telling my wife a few times, remember you are an individual first, fulfillment is the goal. We aim to make each other the best versions of ourselves.
Maybe there's hope for me after all, lol. I'm 38 and my last serious girlfriend was almost 20 years ago (God it sounds so long ago). For a while though I wasn't in a good place and struggled with alcohol for years. But I've since been sober over 7 years and beginning of last year got in the gym to make some changes to my body, which I absolutely had despised for years (too skinny). I'm thinking maybe later this year I'll try dating again.
After 50yrs of marriage I can tell you it’s not a battle, and it shouldn’t be. There is a lot of give and take and that comes with the understanding that the person you married is not perfect and never will be. It’s funny because we always think they are when we fall in love with them, but we soon realize that isn’t the case. That’s why God tells us we are to be ONE. My wife is the smartest woman in the world because she married me, regardless of what the media or Hollywood tries to convince me of otherwise. People often give up when times get tough only to regret it later, because the best thing about marriage is the later years when you see what your union has created. God will bless you if you are true to yourself and to your vows. I love my wife more every day. And being married doesn’t mean you can’t be yourself or do other stuff by yourself. Just don’t forget that your decisions affect others, so make good, considerate ones. Does that mean we don’t disagree, of course not, but we’re not going to kill each other over them. Take them in stride, the world doesn’t hinge on them, keep it in perspective.
10 year anniversary just past in March, got into one of our biggest fights, getting counseling, still working. This was encouraging guys thanks for the video
Love this content. Truth spoken! #sacredmarriage My wife and I recovered from a year long separation in 2010. Same kind of issues and had to discover (the hard way) these truths too. Holy vs Happy. Now more in love than ever before and its not because we focus on being happy, we see conflict as growth trying to happen. Great channel!
We celebrate 20 years of marriage and 22 years together this year. This is the first time I have ever considered leaving. I have no idea where to go, but continue to ask God to lead me. Thank you, gentlemen.
Wow guys, so excellent to hear you speak openly about God. Praise Jesus! I love you brothers. I love prepping, but all the prep in the world means nothing without God
I did ditch nearly all of my friends when I started dating my now wife of 7 years. But in my own situation, she had a 1 year old kid that is now legally and spiritually my son. I looked at my set of friends at the time and thought, which of these friends would I not be ashamed to be associated with as a father to this kid. I took inventory and decided to change for the better. I have since gone back to church and have improved to be a better husband and father(still more improvements to be made). I hold no animosity to those past friends and have fond memories of them. I hope they too have found purpose as I have in being a follower in Christ and fathers or mothers.
There is true wisdom in here. The key to a successful marriage is commitment. Not love, because sometimes you can't stand each other. Not communication, because sometimes you can't hear each other. Commitment to stay, and commitment to do what needs to be done. Sometimes you need to fight for your marriage, and sometimes you need to surrender. Keep it coming, fellas.
Awesome discussion! It is so true marriage is difficult but so worth it! My first marriage was 20years too long😳 Now, my second marriage 10years strong. You have to realize your spouse is not you and you have to allow them to be themselves. Work on yourself and love them through their faults (unless there is abuse). Happiness comes from within and then you share it with the one you love❤❤
This is the most revelatory vid I've seen in a llooooonnnggg time. We're coming up on 13th anniversary. Got married at 22. Had no idea the difference between covenant and contract. That is a great analogy. I wanted to bag the whole thing when my husband didnt meet my fairly unrealistc expectations. I tried to seperate a few times in first 6 years and actually picked up a divorce packet and retained a divorce attorney. But I decided I would rather work thru some hard things now than leave at the first sign of weather. And have likely all the same issues with the next guy. I would like to say that I dont think the majority of men Ive ever conversed with have thought thru marraige in depth. And on another note, I usually watch the tactical vids. I had no one to teach me, and I love that content. But this was amazing. I also love how there is no shame in your faith, or marraige struggles.
Hey John! I want to thank you guys for this video. I am a Christian young looking to pretty soon put a ring on the hand of a beautiful, strong, Godly young lady, and this video really cleared up some of the questions that have been flooding my mind. As a young man making my way onwards in the Lord and in this world, I am bombarded with wrong thoughts and ideas as to what marriage should hold. God put this young lady in my life, and I want to treat her accordingly. Thank you again for your sound advice!
Selfishness is at the core of nearly ALL marriage problems. Almost everything boils down to an obsession with ME opposed to an obsession with giving of yourself to your spouse. The sooner you learn that, the more problems you'll avoid.
Gentlemen. You both separately are fantastic and I love your channels and content. You both together is epic. To like minded men (and women) we are an important society of God fearing people. Thank for the content and for the guidance I absorb from your chats. Love you guys and God Bless.
Watching this on my one year of marriage anniversary! It wouldn’t have been possible without God, my wife’s patience, and good community around us. Great video John! Here is to many more years ✊❤️
My marriage is by no means perfect, so I love this so much. With so much garbage in the world today, having strayed so far from traditional values, it is wonderful to hear these men talk about the unpopular opinion. Thank you John and Ryan for the work you guys put into your prospective channels. Amazing content.
I would argue is that marriage is for happiness, but true happiness is is fought for. Happiness is much like peace that, seemingly ironically, requires fighting for, sweat, blood, and tears.
Guys, sometimes it just isn't worth saving. It's hard to see it when you are right in the middle of a marriage crisis, you want to fight, win, and save it. But when a gal gets the divorce idea in her head, it's like a reoccurring cancer, it just keeps coming back. Divorced after 20 years and 4 kids. She wanted freedom etc, the usual story, don't love you anymore, blah blah. 15 years later, she is miserable, on husband number 3, estranged from the kids for the most part and I'm living a damn good single life, financially secure, and happy. Sometimes you can't save people from themselves and the harder you try the more they resent it. Good luck gents.
Together over 20 yrs, married (by the state) 3. People always say you guys have the such a great relationship. I always compare it to a duck on a lake, we make it look easy, but look under the water and see all the hard work it takes to float across that lake.
Married 43 years and have been together 51 years. We grew up together, same neighborhood, same kind of working families, same schools and friends. I've never felt it was a "war" bit certainly is a challenge at times. We've always been on the same team. We do still have differences but we work thru them. The "war" has always been against those from outside, those who were against our values and life. In all that I'm a very lucky man with a greater woman.
Greetings from Spain! I’m so happy you released this video now. In the past three weeks my pastor has been preaching in church about marriage, divorce and kids and it’s been hard but very blessing. And it’s awesome to see you now, understanding, explaining and defending true biblical marriage! God bless you.
Will be married 10 years this year and I gotta say this is a message from God, I needed to hear this, Thank you guys! But the hi five for not knowing were the kids are but knowing there safe on 50 acres is a true dad goal of mine!
Amen Brother. I'm just over 10 years now, and we both have made mistakes though mine I consider to be the "worse" of those mistakes. God willing she will come back to Christ and at least start going to Church with our daughter and I again. I believe that God is the key to making everything work in life..
You guys nailed it. I’ve been married going on 13 years and my wife and I have stumbled through every single one of the issues you talked about. Immaturity, naïvety, and unrealistic/ undiscussed expectations lead to disaster. We separated for several months several years back but chose to slug it out for the exact reasons you talked about. We made a covenant and so we had to work it out. Today, my wife and I are doing so much better. It took lots of long, hard, tear filled conversations as well as a healthy dose of counseling to get to where we are. We still have a ways to go but we are unified in purpose and in our matured love for one another so I know we will get there. We challenge each other in ways that help us grow as individuals, as a couple, and as parents to get to be the best version of us that we can be. Thanks for this guys. I really hope that your words can help folks be better together and have a healthier and more mature outlook on what a successful marriage really takes.
This is the video I needed to see, going through a separation with a girl I’ve believe since day one God brought us together. I hope it works out in the end. Great video!
THANK YOU for publicly stating what my own mind, heart, and soul believe. It is a rare and refreshing change from our selfish and materialistic culture. As someone "in the trenches of struggle" myself, your encouragement is a needed shot in the arm to help guys like me persevere and to keep the faith, continuously moving forward with the Lord at my side. Please pray for so many couples in the same boat and that both husbands and wives may avoid the hardness of heart that destroys. God bless!
It is extremely encouraging to see that there are still men out there. We aren't alone. We can still stem the tide. Trust the Lord His is in control! Thank you so much!
From a woman, I SO appreciate your comment on "happy wife, happy life". I'm so sick of hearing that. It really denigrates your wife and relationship, as well as all the things you've mentioned. Thank you!
I found an exception You can change everything and go to al the marriage counseling, can't please a bipolar spouse, that was abused as a child, with a mother in law pushing for divorce, and then misery for her daughter and grandkids. When the VA counselor tells you "next time she will send you to the morgue, not the emergency room" you then succumb to her demands for divorce.
Love this! Very solid food for thought to chew on, even as a single man looking for a Godly, solid, fun woman. Getting things in order. I love the segment about covenant. It's not something many understand, even within the Christian community. And that covenant is between you, your spouse, AND God! Awesome content!
What kind of loser thumbs downs this? 😤 Great advice on keeping people grounded, balanced, honest, and grown up/mature/adult within a relationship. I could see this helping nearly everyone I know or at least reaffirming to others that they’re on a good path.
Crazy authoritarian "liberals" that care nothing for traditional values, maturity, growth, honesty, having children, or being committed to the betterment of anyone but their own, ultimately empty and purposeless, pleasure. That kind of loser.
Awesome conversation between two great men that I look up to. As a zoomer it's a very refreshing change to hear about these hard, yet positive experiences. I've grown up around twisted expectations/perspectives regarding marriage, and seeing failed marriages all around me (including my own parents') really made me question whether it's even a "smart" option these days. After growing a bit, I'm quite convinced that marriage, with the right partner, is a beautiful thing to pursue and fight for. Thank you gentlemen, looking forward to the content to come! Also, congrats on hitting the 1 million milestone! Been here since about 250k and this channel still deserves 10x the subs it has.
Guys, thank you for all the great wisdom and sharing. Always important to look at ourselves and see how we can become a better person each day. God bless!
Love this! So much of this rings true, balance is so important. Family and work with a reasonable, healthy amount of focus on your own well being. Awesome to see MEN engaged in a real conversation about the reality and responsibility of marriage.
I try not to pursue happiness but produce the fruit of Joy. From what I've personally encountered Joy in it's purest form can only flourish in the fields of holiness you're referring to. The integrous life I battle for isn't for me but for those in my life today and those who will need that version of me in my tomorrows. And THAT produces serious Joy in my soul 🤙🏻
We are all working everyday to either better ourselves or not to, this type of knowledge sharing and community helps everyone involved better themselves which in turn helps better everyone else in our lives.
John, I LOVE your non-gun content! Not saying that your core firearms content is bad, but I want more of this, I want more stuff applicable to life as a man
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Wow
Thank you for ALL that you guys do to educate US good American People and for keeping Christ first!
Please check out Kevin samuels on TH-cam, and current state of marriage and women in the United States. Really interesting, although he is kinda savage
Thanks for this video John, very much needed today.
I love this channel. There are so few channels that teach men how to be good men, this is one of them.
We all need to speak up to change our failing culture.
@@WarriorPoetSociety amen
Or to give men with these thoughts a place to not feel alone.Being able to protect and provide is a large umbrella of things.If you aren't struggling to get it right. Then you are most likely doing something wrong. Thanks WP
@@WarriorPoetSociety I'm thinking of starting my own channel to tell heroic true stories. Might help someone I suppose.
I’m a little bit of a better man after watching this. Thank you
"My personal EDC is John Lovell" - Evan
That cracked me up 🤣😂😂
“Marriage is a duel to the death which no man of honour should decline” - G.K. Chesterton
Lol
Lol 😆
thats a great quote
If your marriage is a duel, you married the wrong person. Life is a duel, marriage should be a refuge.
As a woman, I loved to hear two men truly speaking truth!
This is no longer the best gun channel on TH-cam. It is the BEST CHANNEL PERIOD. This content right here might push me to WPSN if this is what is in store on there. Keep it up John and God bless you!
I was an early WPSN member, it's worth every penny!
Wpsn is amazing brother. Support them! Get great content at the same time.
I’m on WPSN for the sole purpose of supporting this mans mission financially
I'm only 35 seconds into the video, and I can tell you, I need this today.
On the same boat brother
IF you only who save and other side destroy.. you play bad game.
@ETomatoeMan come again where?
same here brother
A month later......have you been taking the advice? And is it helping? Hoping the best for ya!
Probably the most information packed talk of marriage I've ever seen.
Hopefully not the last.
John, you nailed it brother... 👏 "this is a one way Covenant, where I will love you regardless of circumstances". Holy literally means different. To be set apart. Theres a reason why that is the word used by the seraphim to describe what they see as the fly circling around the Most High. There is none like Him. So in a sense, you're saying "let's make our marriage holy, different, set apart, something that brings honor and reflects the Most High.
Words mean nothing, it's your actions that speak volumes.
Words mean a lot, but your actions mean more.
Words mean more to women.
Actions mean more to men.
Both still need both.
@@918Mitchell I must be a weird woman then, I value action over word.
A hundred actions will be forgotten if she hears one word she doesn't like.
Marriage is not a stroll in the park.
It's a cross country treck that requires teamwork to survive. Only it doesn't stop.
There may be a bear or two also along the way.
And you did NOT have all the right stuff when you set out. You're going to have to get it, make it, or adapt around it.
The juice ain’t worth the squeeze
@@afghanyeti 500 Magnum?
It shouldn't be "Happy wife, happy life." it should be "Happy spouse, happy house" and in that statement its not dependent on the other spouse to provide that full happiness. That is on each of us individually. Your spouse can add to the happiness but not the cornerstone.
I’m 22, single, and I took a ton of notes. God bless you two!
*Love is a Verb.* It takes work, and a lot of it.
Yes I think that is what most don't understand, I call it an action....everyone thinks it's a feeling, tingles fade.
OK, that’s my favourite ad.
“When my personal EDC is away, John...”
We all need a WPS John in our EDC, make us basically invincible.
My 10th anniversary is coming up in july. Im only 29, so we went through hell to make this work, but in the end id do it all again. My wife is my rock.
Salute to you my brother 👏
I found my wife’s switch too. That’s why kid number seven will be here any day now.
Well done! Congratulations.
My wife and I are going through our second separation in 2 years. We’ve been married for 8 years and have 3 children under 6. It’s hard. I needed the first separation to re-evaluate my life and the choices I was making as a man and a father. I’ve come along way I feel. I’m proud of the man I am for the first time in a long time. This second one though, may not be anything that can be fixed. I wish I would’ve heard this kind of stuff 5 years ago. I may not be in this mess now
First mistake when I started dating was neglecting my family and friends. Dont do it guys. One of my biggest regrets.
Noted.
I have the inverse problem, I have friends that are no longer friends because simply having a girlfriend renders everything else in life unimportant and less valuable to them, superseding all else.
@@ctsxhp326 interesting to see what the other end looks like. Luckily I've been able to work on the problem and not lose any friends, but relationships were damaged for sure
If you don't, you get scandal.
I haven’t neglected my family and my wife has not neglected hers, but really neither one of us talk to our friends anymore. That’s something I sincerely miss and regret.
You have hit on so many of the issues my wife and I have had during our 50 year relationship. (We were 16 when we met.) One of the most important things we have found is when we don't have joy in God, ourselves, each other, our family, that's when our marriage does not work well. Seldom do we feel joy in all those categories at the same time. But, when we cannot find joy in any these, we have had to rethink how we are living our lives. Everything changes and, to keep our marriage healthy, we have changed to maintain our own identities while growing our love and respect for each other.
Can we get an episode where Mrs. Poet and Mrs. OOM have a similar conversation? This was great; I want to hear more and their wives perspective.
I would show my wife that. We already watch it together, every time John brings her on the show
Damn this is good. We are celebrating 14 years and I would have loved this sort of wisdom in the earlier years if our marriage
It’s the husband’s job to lead in humility. God has designed it as such, so as soon as you decided to hold up your end of the deal, she was inclined for follow your lead. Well done, my man. You have been blessed. Keep up the grind!
Wow. I am reading all the comments about how hard marriage is. I just thanked God that my marriage has NOT been hard or a challenge or a struggle. We have had 2 arguments in 24 years. We are both Christians, we competed in Bodybuilding, shoot guns (she is a firearms instructor) go fishing, watch horror movies and have fun. She makes my life EASIER, not harder. I waited until I was 31 and found a fit, ranch girl, who liked the outdoors and didn’t want kids. She is with me because she chooses to be. She has a PhD in mathematics and is a professor at a local university here in Montana. I called her and thanked her for being the way she is after watching this video. She is a big fan of the Warrior Poet and told her to see what you guys are discussing in the video today. She is a logical female, not driven be emotional crap like most women. I can count on her.
No kids.
This video has been encouraging. Thanks for posting.
Glad it was helpful!
We've been married since 1994, raised two lads who are doing well into their late 20s now. I love my wife more than ever, friends and hobbies have come and gone, past few years I've been a biker and in a club, not her thing but she encourages me and loves that I love it. Her sweet spot is chilling at our caravan in Wales so we love that. I'm thinking I'm just blessed 👊
As a 19 year old new husband and father, I need this. Dad tired and loving it 🤘🏻
May your marriage be deeply blessed, so blessed that it requires you & her to forge your union stronger together. May God guide you. ❤
I really appreciate seeing a believer communicate topics that I am interested in. The last few years have been an absolute nightmare, so getting fed any way I can is really important. Thank you.
This is super deep. I used to always think having a significant other was just about having fun, and when it’s not fun anymore then it’s time to move on....This video has taught me that it’s so much more! Being able to challenge each other to become better!
Exactly. It's a battle but you're fighting the battle together. Not against each other.
My favorite youtuber talking with my favorite podcaster about real and important issues. More of this!!
I'd love to see Jordan Peterson and John have a conversation. It would be so spicy
That would be amazing.
That certainly would be no trivial thing, I hope John loves lobster hierarchies.
I'd like to see that too. John has already taken weight lifting lessons from Mark Rippetoe, Jordan Peterson would complete the trifecta.
Oh yes. Two widely different personalities but both widely read.
A good conversation.
Jordan Peter's is not spicy, he is controlled opposition just like Ben Shapiro. I'd rather see him chat with a young buck like Nick Fuentes or John Doyle.
So awesome that two of my favorite content creators did an episode together. Hopefully just the first of many.
Holiness is what I consider enlightenment. Being able to break through your challenges despite the pain, you are happy
Learned this from a mentor: The first 3 of the fruit of the spirit (love, joy, and peace) are emotions. The other 6 are godly characters (unnatural to us). The cool thing is, when you read it backwards, it starts with self-control and ends with love, joy, and peace.
The saying goes “start from the bottom to get to the top”. By starting with self control, the results will end with love, joy, and peace. But trying to get love, joy, and peace first will not go well.
To the "this is hard" (24:54) I remind my daughter that it's triple reinforced when we play that game. We thought it, said it and heard it from a voice we trust implicitly. This gives the defeatist attitude significant strength when we didn't have to make that choice. There are times to use this loop in a positive way to our advantage. Finding a ways to prop ourselves up in the face of adversity and challenge is vital in many aspects of a life that strives and thrives irrespective of circumstances.
All people struggling in their marriage should hear this.
Great conversation! And a big YES PLEASE to a convo between the two of you about Christianity/spirituality
Idk how I haven’t found warrior poet sooner. I’m on TH-cam all the time. This is the best channel I have ever found. Period. John’s book is amazing.
The founding fathers should've kept it as "Life, Liberty, and the pursuit of property." Do we really have the right to be happy?
This is a great episode. I could've used this advise a few years ago. Psychiatrists/couples therapists, at least the ones we talked to, just made things worse.
Going through a similar situation, This video is a blessing. Good testimony.
John, you have been a constant pain in my butt, always reminding me that nothing falls in place without aligning myself first to God and then my family. Love you and the team for not being any different.
Don’t take this the wrong way, I love these two men. So much knowledge dropping here I am watching twice. Happiness vs Fulfillment. I remember telling my wife a few times, remember you are an individual first, fulfillment is the goal. We aim to make each other the best versions of ourselves.
"My wife is not the center of my universe. " As a wife of 30 years blessed to be married to a wonderful man, a hearty AMEN!!!! Great stuff!
13 yrs married, 15 together, shes my best friend and im hers. Didnt marry till i was 46 and wouldnt change a thing.
Maybe there's hope for me after all, lol. I'm 38 and my last serious girlfriend was almost 20 years ago (God it sounds so long ago). For a while though I wasn't in a good place and struggled with alcohol for years. But I've since been sober over 7 years and beginning of last year got in the gym to make some changes to my body, which I absolutely had despised for years (too skinny). I'm thinking maybe later this year I'll try dating again.
After 50yrs of marriage I can tell you it’s not a battle, and it shouldn’t be. There is a lot of give and take and that comes with the understanding that the person you married is not perfect and never will be. It’s funny because we always think they are when we fall in love with them, but we soon realize that isn’t the case. That’s why God tells us we are to be ONE.
My wife is the smartest woman in the world because she married me, regardless of what the media or Hollywood tries to convince me of otherwise.
People often give up when times get tough only to regret it later, because the best thing about marriage is the later years when you see what your union has created.
God will bless you if you are true to yourself and to your vows. I love my wife more every day. And being married doesn’t mean you can’t be yourself or do other stuff by yourself. Just don’t forget that your decisions affect others, so make good, considerate ones. Does that mean we don’t disagree, of course not, but we’re not going to kill each other over them. Take them in stride, the world doesn’t hinge on them, keep it in perspective.
This was literally one of the best videos I've ever seen
10 year anniversary just past in March, got into one of our biggest fights, getting counseling, still working. This was encouraging guys thanks for the video
Love this content. Truth spoken! #sacredmarriage
My wife and I recovered from a year long separation in 2010. Same kind of issues and had to discover (the hard way) these truths too. Holy vs Happy. Now more in love than ever before and its not because we focus on being happy, we see conflict as growth trying to happen.
Great channel!
Damn man, this really hit hard. Thank you gentlemen.
Wow, some of this really resonates. It's nearly impossible to find other men that think like I do so I deeply appreciate your perspectives.
We celebrate 20 years of marriage and 22 years together this year. This is the first time I have ever considered leaving. I have no idea where to go, but continue to ask God to lead me. Thank you, gentlemen.
Ryan, hands down the best segment I’ve seen you do bro. Respect!
Getting married to my wife is the best thing I have ever done.
This might be the video that gets me to join the WPS network, thanks for the great content!
Wow guys, so excellent to hear you speak openly about God. Praise Jesus! I love you brothers. I love prepping, but all the prep in the world means nothing without God
I did ditch nearly all of my friends when I started dating my now wife of 7 years. But in my own situation, she had a 1 year old kid that is now legally and spiritually my son. I looked at my set of friends at the time and thought, which of these friends would I not be ashamed to be associated with as a father to this kid. I took inventory and decided to change for the better. I have since gone back to church and have improved to be a better husband and father(still more improvements to be made). I hold no animosity to those past friends and have fond memories of them. I hope they too have found purpose as I have in being a follower in Christ and fathers or mothers.
John, you are so right. 49 years in June. Good stuff..
There is true wisdom in here. The key to a successful marriage is commitment. Not love, because sometimes you can't stand each other. Not communication, because sometimes you can't hear each other. Commitment to stay, and commitment to do what needs to be done. Sometimes you need to fight for your marriage, and sometimes you need to surrender.
Keep it coming, fellas.
Awesome discussion!
It is so true marriage is difficult but so worth it!
My first marriage was 20years too long😳 Now, my second marriage 10years strong.
You have to realize your spouse is not you and you have to allow them to be themselves.
Work on yourself and love them through their faults (unless there is abuse). Happiness comes from within and then you share it with the one you love❤❤
I know Ryan personally. He is a good man and lives out these convictions.
This is a great conversation. Thanks for posting this video.
My husband and I appreciate you so much, John! Thank you for your courage to make waves in order to reveal Truth.
This is the most revelatory vid I've seen in a llooooonnnggg time. We're coming up on 13th anniversary. Got married at 22. Had no idea the difference between covenant and contract. That is a great analogy. I wanted to bag the whole thing when my husband didnt meet my fairly unrealistc expectations. I tried to seperate a few times in first 6 years and actually picked up a divorce packet and retained a divorce attorney. But I decided I would rather work thru some hard things now than leave at the first sign of weather. And have likely all the same issues with the next guy. I would like to say that I dont think the majority of men Ive ever conversed with have thought thru marraige in depth. And on another note, I usually watch the tactical vids. I had no one to teach me, and I love that content. But this was amazing. I also love how there is no shame in your faith, or marraige struggles.
Such a great timing for this video for me. Love these videos on how to be a real man that defines the Warrior Poet life.
Hey John! I want to thank you guys for this video.
I am a Christian young looking to pretty soon put a ring on the hand of a beautiful, strong, Godly young lady, and this video really cleared up some of the questions that have been flooding my mind. As a young man making my way onwards in the Lord and in this world, I am bombarded with wrong thoughts and ideas as to what marriage should hold. God put this young lady in my life, and I want to treat her accordingly. Thank you again for your sound advice!
Selfishness is at the core of nearly ALL marriage problems. Almost everything boils down to an obsession with ME opposed to an obsession with giving of yourself to your spouse. The sooner you learn that, the more problems you'll avoid.
The center of all SIN is 'I'.
Gentlemen. You both separately are fantastic and I love your channels and content. You both together is epic. To like minded men (and women) we are an important society of God fearing people. Thank for the content and for the guidance I absorb from your chats.
Love you guys and God Bless.
Watching this on my one year of marriage anniversary! It wouldn’t have been possible without God, my wife’s patience, and good community around us. Great video John! Here is to many more years ✊❤️
Long time watcher of the channel John.
The Lord DEFINITELY put this one in front of me today!
Great video and thank you!
My marriage is by no means perfect, so I love this so much. With so much garbage in the world today, having strayed so far from traditional values, it is wonderful to hear these men talk about the unpopular opinion. Thank you John and Ryan for the work you guys put into your prospective channels. Amazing content.
I would argue is that marriage is for happiness, but true happiness is is fought for. Happiness is much like peace that, seemingly ironically, requires fighting for, sweat, blood, and tears.
Guys, sometimes it just isn't worth saving. It's hard to see it when you are right in the middle of a marriage crisis, you want to fight, win, and save it. But when a gal gets the divorce idea in her head, it's like a reoccurring cancer, it just keeps coming back. Divorced after 20 years and 4 kids. She wanted freedom etc, the usual story, don't love you anymore, blah blah. 15 years later, she is miserable, on husband number 3, estranged from the kids for the most part and I'm living a damn good single life, financially secure, and happy. Sometimes you can't save people from themselves and the harder you try the more they resent it. Good luck gents.
Together over 20 yrs, married (by the state) 3. People always say you guys have the such a great relationship. I always compare it to a duck on a lake, we make it look easy, but look under the water and see all the hard work it takes to float across that lake.
Married 43 years and have been together 51 years. We grew up together, same neighborhood, same kind of working families, same schools and friends. I've never felt it was a "war" bit certainly is a challenge at times. We've always been on the same team. We do still have differences but we work thru them. The "war" has always been against those from outside, those who were against our values and life. In all that I'm a very lucky man with a greater woman.
Greetings from Spain! I’m so happy you released this video now. In the past three weeks my pastor has been preaching in church about marriage, divorce and kids and it’s been hard but very blessing. And it’s awesome to see you now, understanding, explaining and defending true biblical marriage! God bless you.
Will be married 10 years this year and I gotta say this is a message from God, I needed to hear this, Thank you guys!
But the hi five for not knowing were the kids are but knowing there safe on 50 acres is a true dad goal of mine!
Amen Brother. I'm just over 10 years now, and we both have made mistakes though mine I consider to be the "worse" of those mistakes. God willing she will come back to Christ and at least start going to Church with our daughter and I again. I believe that God is the key to making everything work in life..
You guys nailed it. I’ve been married going on 13 years and my wife and I have stumbled through every single one of the issues you talked about. Immaturity, naïvety, and unrealistic/ undiscussed expectations lead to disaster. We separated for several months several years back but chose to slug it out for the exact reasons you talked about. We made a covenant and so we had to work it out. Today, my wife and I are doing so much better. It took lots of long, hard, tear filled conversations as well as a healthy dose of counseling to get to where we are. We still have a ways to go but we are unified in purpose and in our matured love for one another so I know we will get there. We challenge each other in ways that help us grow as individuals, as a couple, and as parents to get to be the best version of us that we can be. Thanks for this guys. I really hope that your words can help folks be better together and have a healthier and more mature outlook on what a successful marriage really takes.
As someone who recently married, this was a great video. I took a lot from this, thanks to the both of you for the honest conversations and guidance.
This is the video I needed to see, going through a separation with a girl I’ve believe since day one God brought us together. I hope it works out in the end. Great video!
THANK YOU for publicly stating what my own mind, heart, and soul believe. It is a rare and refreshing change from our selfish and materialistic culture. As someone "in the trenches of struggle" myself, your encouragement is a needed shot in the arm to help guys like me persevere and to keep the faith, continuously moving forward with the Lord at my side. Please pray for so many couples in the same boat and that both husbands and wives may avoid the hardness of heart that destroys. God bless!
Well put Brother.
Marriage is not about happiness, it is about holiness. Some of the most impactful words shared with my wife and I during pre-marital counseling.
It is extremely encouraging to see that there are still men out there. We aren't alone. We can still stem the tide. Trust the Lord His is in control! Thank you so much!
From a woman, I SO appreciate your comment on "happy wife, happy life". I'm so sick of hearing that. It really denigrates your wife and relationship, as well as all the things you've mentioned. Thank you!
I found an exception
You can change everything and go to al the marriage counseling, can't please a bipolar spouse, that was abused as a child, with a mother in law pushing for divorce, and then misery for her daughter and grandkids.
When the VA counselor tells you "next time she will send you to the morgue, not the emergency room" you then succumb to her demands for divorce.
One of the best WP videos EVER!
Fellas, this is genuine and honest and appreciated. I’m grateful I found this when I did.
Marriage is an unconditional commitment to an imperfect person.
Married 8 months yesterday and loving it! Teamwork and the Lord!
Thank you for videos like this!
Congrats! May your marriage be so deeply blessed!
Love this! Very solid food for thought to chew on, even as a single man looking for a Godly, solid, fun woman. Getting things in order. I love the segment about covenant. It's not something many understand, even within the Christian community. And that covenant is between you, your spouse, AND God! Awesome content!
What kind of loser thumbs downs this? 😤 Great advice on keeping people grounded, balanced, honest, and grown up/mature/adult within a relationship. I could see this helping nearly everyone I know or at least reaffirming to others that they’re on a good path.
Crazy authoritarian "liberals" that care nothing for traditional values, maturity, growth, honesty, having children, or being committed to the betterment of anyone but their own, ultimately empty and purposeless, pleasure. That kind of loser.
Rayn is henpecked. Why should adequate man like that?
I know this video is 3 years old already, but still so good and full of truth.
Awesome conversation between two great men that I look up to. As a zoomer it's a very refreshing change to hear about these hard, yet positive experiences. I've grown up around twisted expectations/perspectives regarding marriage, and seeing failed marriages all around me (including my own parents') really made me question whether it's even a "smart" option these days. After growing a bit, I'm quite convinced that marriage, with the right partner, is a beautiful thing to pursue and fight for. Thank you gentlemen, looking forward to the content to come!
Also, congrats on hitting the 1 million milestone! Been here since about 250k and this channel still deserves 10x the subs it has.
What I needed, when I needed it. Thank you John and Ryan!
Guys, thank you for all the great wisdom and sharing. Always important to look at ourselves and see how we can become a better person each day. God bless!
Love this! So much of this rings true, balance is so important. Family and work with a reasonable, healthy amount of focus on your own well being. Awesome to see MEN engaged in a real conversation about the reality and responsibility of marriage.
I try not to pursue happiness but produce the fruit of Joy. From what I've personally encountered Joy in it's purest form can only flourish in the fields of holiness you're referring to. The integrous life I battle for isn't for me but for those in my life today and those who will need that version of me in my tomorrows. And THAT produces serious Joy in my soul 🤙🏻
Holiness not happiness, the best, thank you guys!
I love nearly ever video that is produced on this channel, but this one is on a new level of awesomeness! Mike you are my kind of man bro!
We are all working everyday to either better ourselves or not to, this type of knowledge sharing and community helps everyone involved better themselves which in turn helps better everyone else in our lives.
I come back and watch this video often. It’s packed with so much wisdom.
John, I LOVE your non-gun content! Not saying that your core firearms content is bad, but I want more of this, I want more stuff applicable to life as a man