,,Never Re-friend a person who has tried to destroy your character, your relationship or your money - Snakes only shed it’s skin to become bigger snakes."
I agree with you. No human being can help a narcissist, they need God to save them. The most loving thing we can do for a narcissist is to walk away, leave them alone and pray for them.
@@irenehamilton2981 same. One of my friends helped me to escape from my dad's narcissistic abuse and brought me out of state to be helped by family members of mine that we both trusted. It took me years and years and a ton of further psychological damage to see that those family members were narcissistic as well.😢
when it comes to a narcissist, it’s not called abandonment, it’s called leaving, to improve, if not save your life. if you abandon a child, or a dog it's called that because you are responsible for them. you are not responsible for an adult-aged manipulating toddler who is abusing you, and has no interest or ability in making lasting changes for the better. cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁
@@clintonnagy1662 good move that you opted out. you really dodged a bullet. when you discard a narcissist, it's just capitalizing on an opportunity to better yourself. which is exactly what they tried to do to you in their time with you. -cheers, steven
I will never forget the day he physically assaulted me because I said that I love Jesus.......he went CRAZY. I was terrified, his blue eyes turned black, and I saw the demon inside him. It was horrific.
"Whoever fights monsters must be careful not to look too deep in to the abyss, because when you look in to the abyss, the abyss is also looking in to you".
Don't chase em or save em. Replace em! The delusional world they live in is absolutely insane. Watching and listening to a narc twist events and words are eye openers.
Just recently John got evicted, it was entirely his own fault. But as it drew closer to leaving he went berserk, smashing things up, and throwing them outside. He slashed his couch up and ruined it completely. He gradually blamed what was happening on one of his neighbours and mostly his Landlord. He got a black marker pen with indelible ink, and wrote all over walls and doors. He wrote vicious lies about them. His Landlord was very upset. I helped him as best I could, not to take it personally. He's just like Billy on a show called 'Billy liar'. The main character tells lies he later believes are real and the truth. All Narcs lie, then later start believing their own lies. With John, I've seen it countless times. I am John's former Wife, and his carer as a volunteer. He's currently on a Section 3. This has given me a desperately needed break from him. He's had some unsupervised leave, he bought black permanent marker pens and wrote all over the walls. I did say to search him for pens, which they failed to do. John has the most extreme form of Narcissism which is a Christ Complex. He has other mental health issues going on as well.
I've always felt this again and again in my fking life. Everything is just healing healing healing. Realizing things, getting out of them, running away from monsters, getting up on your feet again and again and again. Its a true real life horror movie. Realizing how evil ppl are and distancing from them. Healing, healing, healing. A narcissists main goal is wasting other ppls time. Thats what they want. Either you spend time healing, or you waste time fighting, or you waste time isolating yourself.
I'm going through that now. You are correct. I want to move to an island away from every female on this planet. This is too much. I'm 51, and I had enough of the this crap. Games, manipulation, lies by omission, blame shifted, gas lit, selfishness and vulnerability. I can't fix her or her life.
I feel the exact same way. I swear it's so crazy I'm starting to believe that I'm the problem since we tend to attract what we are and also because I keep facing this same demon with a different face, that portrays itself differently. It's exhausting.
@@Tambrose0405 I know what you mean and I hope my comment doesnt get deleted by YT. Never doubt yourself. It doesnt matter why you are in the situation, what matters is that nothing is strong enough to overpower you. Deal with your demons whatever way you chose but do not doubt yourself. Always believe in your self. Your Self is stronger than anything else. 🙏🏻
Yeah, I've lived that crazy cycle until I stopped it with knowledge, therapy, and my will to love my authentic self. To love, care, and forgive myself. To be more self-aware. It doesn't happen over night and it may take the rest of my life but at least I am no longer caught up in a vicious cycle of abuse, run, heal repeat! Now, it's just healing! Recognizing other abusers is key and not settling for anything but healthy. Learn effective, compassionate communication and be an active observer, listen to your body when engaging people. All the things were never taught to do. We can make it and we can get better. Never give it trying!
Narc is a demon-human-hybrid-network in a meat-suit called a human body. Some narcs eyes even morph into demonic black eyeballs (cluster B personality phenom). This is highly a spiritual problem, so trying to help them is futile. A narc I knew his child personality, was his scariest personality for he seemed to have seemed to have several distinct personalities (spirits). It doesn't want to be rescued. It is spoiled and twisted. Great vid!
My narcissist is 32 years older than me but acts like a toddler, throwing temper tantrums when he doesn't get his way. I'm so sick of being cast into the role of caregiver/maid/mother. Got rejected from an apartment application for lack of income (narcissist has had me be a housewife for 12 years) so now finding a job is priority #1 😮💨
Praying that you get out I'm extremely grateful to get out thank God in the process of mentally emotionally and spirituality healing physically I'm fine thank you God I got out before he could go there all the way
EXACTLY! So many therapists and well-meaning flying monkeys get it wrong - they listen to the narcissists pouring out their inner angst and urge their victims to keep forgiving them, to let gp of "bitterness", and then vilifying the victims for not following this toxic advice.
You are absolutely correct. Thank you for saying this, however sadly if they reject God and Continue to blaspheme Jesus over and over again and chose to do that to the day they die they will never be freed of these narcissistic demons. It's sad I pray that most of these people will WANT to go to god Simply admit everything lay it out there suck it up confess their sins and asked jesus to Heal them but it's so hard The confusion they cause inside of their victims. Some days we want them to suffer and we're happy that they're suffering other days We want them to be delivered Healed and become the person.They were meant to be all those years ago during their development.And then one day they could ride off into the sunset with us and become a happy family but it doesn't happen like that because they choose to be this way the narcissistic energy is so strong and they're so hell bent on being right all the time It's so frustrating to watch someone Choose to be this way to not want Jesus is unbelievable.😢
Isn't it insane guys?Trust me I know how it feels because you're looking at that person that you loved and you hate at the same time and you're just like Wow you would rather live being hell bent into being right all the time stuck in straight delusion.. Not to mention coming off as a mental case in front of normal people on a daily basis in society then rather be healed Be free of these demons for yourself and be able to have a loving family 1 day😢It's unimaginable that these people can't wake up and recognize what's going on
My mother foams at the mouth if you mention TMH or his only begotten son! She grieves and is blasphemous toward ANYTHING relating to the scriptures and holy spirit! It's frightening to realize when I was searching years ago she only pretended to be searching for God with me to keep herself enmeshed in my affairs. From reading scripture she will DIE and go to the lake of fire. She's spiritually dead already. She, nor any other abuser I've had in my family [including my father] or otherwise will not make it. That used to make me very sad.😢 Now, I'm comforted by it. They are enemies of God. They are my enemies and I'm happy that the God I'm in service to doesn't accept people like them. Amen.❤
He once physically assaulted me because I told him that I love Jesus. What he said about our Lord is unprintable. That's when I jew that I had 'triggered' the demon in him.........because of my Love for Jesus.
No child in there for sure! Even in a child who is narcissistic, there is something else lurking within. I say this from experience, being born to one, married to one and having birthed one too. Trying to save that imaginary inner child is what breaks you eventually. Our genuine intent is seen as a weakness and weaponised against us.
This makes me so sad. You feel compassion for them. But, it’s just more fuel for them, more pain and disappointment for you. And the cycle continues. It can be so hard to let go when you’re stuck in the that place. Like somehow you’ll be letting them down if you break away. 😢
Thank you for speaking the truth. Anytime someone is harmed by a narcissist they will be gaslighted with the narcissist must have been traumatized as a child.
Danish Bashir, you are truly one of the best experts on narcissists out there. I am always impressed by your channel. Your understanding of human psychology and the sickness behind the narcissists' personality is unrivaled. I love your channel and I will continue to recommend it to people. It is so sad to recover from narcissists and you help everything make sense. You are a Life Saver!!! ❤❤
Unfortunately for children of narc parents, this is a trap that we fall into to "save" our parents and you are 100% right, there is no inner child only a demon [s]. Now, a covert narcissist can try to bait you with this "inner child" healing attempt my mother did for all of my childhood and adult life. Until I realized she could not be saved. Until I accepted she liked being evil. It was devastating. I wanted so deeply to believe she was innately a good person only to accept she is a deplorable human being who says often "I don't give a f@#%". She doesn't care about anything or anyone but herself. The raging, the projecting, the smear campaigns, the pathological lying, the manipulations, and the total lack of responsibility are mind-numbing. That flicker, that false light doesn't happen often when you can catch a glimpse of vulnerability in them, even if they "think out loud " what's wrong, missing, who they are it never lasts long and they keep doing what they've always done try to destroy you. They act like that conversation, that moment never happened. They have no soul. Only empty, and filled with a host of demons seeking to kill, steal, and destroy. Smh. I'm all too happy to give up trying to help any of them, especially the person who gave birth to me.
I have been in a relationship with a narcissist for 23 years.. At first the mental torture had me breaking down crying & fighting back, arguing everyday.. I didn’t understand what I was involved in.. I would always go back & forth with myself because on one side I was defending myself & trying to make sense of things & on the other end I truly felt sorry for him realizing that his upbringing was the reason for the way he was.. Thank God I came across these videos speaking on exactly what I was experiencing.. I completely get it now.. Unfortunately the economy is not the best right now so we need eachother right now financially.. But we are only roommates sharing a house until the lease ends.. But everything discussed in every video I can relate to & I now have a very clear vision of what is taking place.. I no longer feed into anything.. He is completely ignored unless he speaks to me respectfully & he’s understanding that the veil has been lifted.. He knows that I see right thru him.. The temper tantrums haven’t stopped but I no longer give it any attention.. I’m much happier in my own space & when he is negatively trying to get my attention I simply put my headphones 🎧 on & listen to music or these videos & zone out.. I don’t allow myself to be affected anymore.. The End 😁
What happens when you have children? What children would think of a husband- wife relationship?. Being a roommate is a true relationship in that case? Will it work? .
I'm a people pleaser and I know it is because of not wanting someone to get angry at me, hit me, scold me. My family is filled with people who if you say or do the wrong thing, the beatings commenced. Would come out of nowhere, you never knew when you hit a nerve. That has continued into adulthood for me and very difficult to get out of.
Danish your superb!!...no one describes well a narcissist as much as you!!... You spoke of people pleasing...your absolutely right....childhood rejections make us people pleasers...I experienced the same....I became a people pleaser, an over empathetic person and ultimately cheated by a narcissistic husband...
Thank you for educating people. This is so true. After I get away from one, I feel more of a horror and sickness in my soul than anger. They are total ingrates and just so mean. A well known exorcist describes demons as people without a body. There are people who are demons with a body. It was their own free will choice to go against all that is good and right and decent and kind, and their God given conscience. They are monstrously selfish and enjoy hurting others.
You are absolutely the most knowledgeable person on narcissism on TH-cam! I'm so happy that I've found your videos. Due to a severe chronic illness, I'm living with my narcissistic mother, and she is everything you describe. It's so hard because I can't escape her. It's great to learn new tools of coping with this impossible mental illness.
This is the problem question that has plagued me for a long time. The narc in my life (father) played on my sympathy as if he was a needing child. He took everything that was mine from me that way. Someone finally explains how he lost his sense of self and how he took mine instead.
yes this is the CLEAREST description VISUAL ever describing the Narcs I have endured. I watched as my fathers "kind" looking blue eyes turn Black. as his soul willingly stepped aside to let the demonic take over to destroy me. his 6 year old daughter who challenged his abuse. I have cold shivers as I recall looking into the demon standing infront of me.
@Danish Bashir I truly loved your analogy about a narcissist being like a building that is destroyed. You can go there, visit and leave, but do not go inside nor try to rebuild. That was a very helpful metaphor that will help me continue to stay on the path of walking away from an unhealthy marriage.
I married the 72 year old Narc ignorantly. blindly hoping.... I was 66 yrs old. I gave the man "3 strikes". other smaller daily ones. when it was obvious to me that this mature man was deceptive. predatory for my $$$s. I quietly closed as many financial doors as possible. and planned to run from the home I paid cash for. to pick up the pieces later. at 10 months married. I accepted his ingrained personality. his limitless foul rages and absolutely refusal to accept responsibility for his actions drove ME out. as they say "3 strikes you're out!!!!!!" it took a year to get divorced and cost me significant $s. and I had to threaten law enforcement to evict him. yet I had to accept that it was an essential LIFE SAVING SURGERY. if it had been cancer in me I would have willingly paid such $$$$$$$s. no difference. yes it was a cold evil. the abuse I endured from birth on from family. that lived out through my adulthood my late marriage to the Narc shattered the cognitive dissonance of my life time. and kicked me forward to a new and quality life.
@@user-q992what the hell? That’s all you took from her important comment? 72 and 66 are very close in age there is definitely no problem with that. Now, if it was a 72 year old with a 18-30 year old that’d be weird
@@palmtrees2420 What I meant is that, for very late marriages or second marriages, women should try to marry younger men or they will end up nursing them. Men have less longevity and become ill earlier than women, usually. Although that might be a broad generalisation, something to bear in mind. For the 72 year old man, there is always an 80 year old woman. See how the relationship ended up? So there is nothing wrong in considering our own interests when the world is full of selfish cheats! All other points from her post is already understood and discussed well🙏
I will share a incident in my life. A girl is my friend.We were very close with each other. One day we were going home together. It was very sunny that day which means temperature is about 35 degrees. I asked her for an umbrella so that both of us can go under one umbrella.She never once gave me an umbrella saying her loyalty would go away. How can she take this on a day when it is so hot that my condition is getting worse.
So true my narcissist wife of 12 years she done bad thing’s to me, but let say this event i took a photo behind her body and a horrible face neck and head with evil eyes look at my direction 3 weeks after she discarded me and this was the time when i careful looked at photo and the back of hairs went up.
Yes my mother my whole life said often, “You have no idea what it is like to live in this skin.” I never understood this until I realized it was an indwelling demon talking to me because she always had perfect porcelain skin. I too have kept pictures in my top desk drawer that show this hateful being staring at me as I took pictures. These eyes were behind her eyes and full of sheer hatred .😢
Another reason one might be a people pleaser is their parent is one and that’s how they were raised to be. My mom is not a narcissist nor abusive but her mom was very volatile and strict so she grew up meek and taught me to always smile, inconvenience yourself rather than others, etc. She also gave me a lot of anxiety.
I agree. I have known many of them, including members of my family of birth. There is a NARCISSIST and a MASK. That's all. The mask can change with time because they are like unfinished patchworks. They abandon some pieces and add others.
I realize now all of it,suffered from stroke 3 yrs ago this give time to pause and analize,now I know the true colors they hide.thanks to all of the video you share ❤
The narcassist wants you to identify with them, opening and connecting on a emotional/soul level so you feel deeply involved and your soul wrapped up in them and feeling deep compassion and feelings for them even making excuses for them and in denial. This is the arena they wanted you in. Where you think you are equals. You are not. I have a dog, I'm a dog owner and that's how I should identify and connect to my dog. If your a narcassist your overtaken by and at the will of malevolent beings, looking to overtake my senses and connect to my soul. We are not one, neither are we equal, your a different species
I was stalked and tortured by lies in over 40 years, by a narcissist. In the end I even knew how this person felt and who she was, because she smeard herself on me. A disgusting way of preserving a friendship that was never to be. Btw i am autistic with hsp. Imagine how I felt!
im 52 an only child daughter of my now 72 yr old mother all the yrs wasted i could never get back eats me alive everyday.. i could have really been something great if only i knew who n what she really was when i was 7.. it was like yesterday i knew something wasn't right but had no idea how wrong it all was.. at 44 all the boxes were checked im a daughter of a covert narcissist so now what.... exactly i have no idea.. but Danish thank u for always giving me that one more day not to let her win..
I'm following your vedios last 1 year those vedios helped me a lot to overcome of my trauma nd now I have gained my power back....thank you Angel Danish❤❤God bless you❤❤❤
Yup even asked my daughter last month, last time I saw her if she was the devil sent to destroy me, oh my, gave wanna be narc hubby his father's day gift already, I'm out! 😊🎉😂❤
I witnessed the black pupils when my soon X husband was on his way out to his next supply. 12 years of my life were robbed by a demon. He definitely showed his hate towards me
💥 Ephesians 6:12 💥 🔥👹👺🔥 Narcissist Most Definitely Have demonS dwelling inside them 💯‼️ It’s their demons talking, getting angry, belittling you, lying etc, Etc! Jesus Christ of Nazareth is the ONLY ONE WHO CAN CAST THEM OUT…. “ All unclean spirit/demons get OUT IN JESUS NAME “ ‼️ There’s real freedom In Jesus Christ. Thank you King Jesus! ✨🤍👑🕊️✨🙌🏽🙌🏽
Sometimes it feels freeing to accept that the malignant narcissists in my life will probably never be saved. But, it's also such a horrifying thought that I can't help praying that they might find the light if at all possible. Sometimes I wonder if my presence around them could bring them any hope or help. And, sometimes I wonder if associating with a narcissist at all is as foolish as buying and playing with a ouija board. What blows my mind the most is that the whole story about the prodigal son is meant to illustrate how destructive it is to rebel against God and that God uses this obvious fact to turn people around. What kind of a being has a "prodigal son"moment and decides to keep following the path of rebellion? What makes someone decide that they love their own evil so much that they delude themselves about their own destruction both physical and spiritual until they pass the point of no return? I don't get it.
Read Romans 1 and I believe, 2 Timothy. These passages in the Bible explains that through their continued rebellion and sin towards God, even given multitudes of opportunities to repent, they move further and further on the spectrum of narcissism. Until finally God let's them go. Go to do what it is their wickedness leads them to do. It called having a reprobate mind. They're in a spiral of destruction. Anyone in their sphere gets thrown into this cycle of abuse/destruction.
You're right.I've thought about it since. And, I remembered how someone once referred to growing in faith as being a "spiritual athlete" . You start out following God in small things. Then you are able to tackle bigger and bigger things as you grow. I guess if someone starts on a path of rejecting God and deluding themselves in small ways, they keep growing in that direction until it becomes easy to delude themselves about the big stuff.
I believe you are right in that a real Narcissist has sold their soul to Satan, and as such won't be helped to be free of their Demon possession, no matter how much you pray for them to be set free.
Danish,,,,for 6 years I used to think he was my twinflame…..& his distorted pattterens are gonna recover one day….. but he didn’t change ……… can you please make more informative videos to clarify these two dynamics??? I mean twinflame & empath-narcissist ?????
In denying themselves or their inner child, what do you think about suppressed left-handedness. Apparently, it is the cause of many ailments, and this could be one. Decades ago it was common to force right-handedness on students at school, to a greater or lesser extent in various countries, and this means suppression of personality in quite a fundamental way. There is some literature on the impact of forced right-handedness.
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Why do narcissist tend back in to parking stalls /driveways? Or is this not a narcissistic trait?
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,,Never Re-friend a person who has tried to destroy your character, your relationship or your money - Snakes only shed it’s skin to become bigger snakes."
Trust me. Demonic is the right word.
Amen.
Amen 🙏
Yup, exactly
I agree with you. No human being can help a narcissist, they need God to save them. The most loving thing we can do for a narcissist is to walk away, leave them alone and pray for them.
That’s what I have done, I pray and I know God is in full control.
Trying to get out of a NARCISSISTIC ABUSIVE relationship is like trying to climb out of the bottom of a well. 😢
Sad but true I got out of one to run into family members that is one Dear lord protect us all from these broken souls
@@irenehamilton2981 same. One of my friends helped me to escape from my dad's narcissistic abuse and brought me out of state to be helped by family members of mine that we both trusted. It took me years and years and a ton of further psychological damage to see that those family members were narcissistic as well.😢
Pray 🙏
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100% you can see it in their eyes.
when it comes to a narcissist, it’s not called abandonment, it’s called leaving, to improve, if not save your life.
if you abandon a child, or a dog it's called that because you are responsible for them.
you are not responsible for an adult-aged manipulating toddler who is abusing you, and has no interest or ability in making lasting changes for the better.
cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁
My ex girlfriend only wanted to make changes if I would commit for marriage or moved in with her and her son.
Correct, spot on. Ontario 🇨🇦
@@clintonnagy1662 good move that you opted out. you really dodged a bullet.
when you discard a narcissist, it's just capitalizing on an opportunity to better yourself. which is exactly what they tried to do to you in their time with you.
-cheers, steven
@@jackiemirza8068 thanks for your support. a friendly hello back at you, wherever you are residing. 😉
-cheers, steven
Hello from Northern Ontario!! You are spot on!
I will never forget the day he physically assaulted me because I said that I love Jesus.......he went CRAZY. I was terrified, his blue eyes turned black, and I saw the demon inside him. It was horrific.
Aye that makes sense now omg doesn't approve of praying or accountability hmmmm
They are very dark and unhappy souls pray for them and then love them at a distance just sad
Because he thinks he is your "god".
When the eyeballs morph into black....run for your life
The Black eyes, they have no soul 🤢
He can not destroy me. He's only digging his own grave by not facing reality that he has mental issues. I figured him inside out already.
"Whoever fights monsters must be careful not to look too deep in to the abyss, because when you look in to the abyss, the abyss is also looking in to you".
Who said that quote?? 🤔
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@@jangunning1676 Friedrich Nietzsche
In every Religion, the demon is synonymous with lies. The old proverb that only the truth will set you free is confirmed. Thnx for your work Danish!
Don't chase em or save em. Replace em! The delusional world they live in is absolutely insane. Watching and listening to a narc twist events and words are eye openers.
Just recently John got evicted, it was entirely his own fault. But as it drew closer to leaving he went berserk, smashing things up, and throwing them outside. He slashed his couch up and ruined it completely. He gradually blamed what was happening on one of his neighbours and mostly his Landlord. He got a black marker pen with indelible ink, and wrote all over walls and doors. He wrote vicious lies about them. His Landlord was very upset. I helped him as best I could, not to take it personally. He's just like Billy on a show called 'Billy liar'. The main character tells lies he later believes are real and the truth. All Narcs lie, then later start believing their own lies. With John, I've seen it countless times. I am John's former Wife, and his carer as a volunteer. He's currently on a Section 3. This has given me a desperately needed break from him. He's had some unsupervised leave, he bought black permanent marker pens and wrote all over the walls. I did say to search him for pens, which they failed to do. John has the most extreme form of Narcissism which is a Christ Complex. He has other mental health issues going on as well.
The best description of narcissistic personality disorder
I've always felt this again and again in my fking life. Everything is just healing healing healing. Realizing things, getting out of them, running away from monsters, getting up on your feet again and again and again. Its a true real life horror movie. Realizing how evil ppl are and distancing from them. Healing, healing, healing. A narcissists main goal is wasting other ppls time. Thats what they want. Either you spend time healing, or you waste time fighting, or you waste time isolating yourself.
I'm going through that now. You are correct. I want to move to an island away from every female on this planet. This is too much. I'm 51, and I had enough of the this crap. Games, manipulation, lies by omission, blame shifted, gas lit, selfishness and vulnerability. I can't fix her or her life.
I feel the exact same way. I swear it's so crazy I'm starting to believe that I'm the problem since we tend to attract what we are and also because I keep facing this same demon with a different face, that portrays itself differently. It's exhausting.
@@Tambrose0405 I know what you mean and I hope my comment doesnt get deleted by YT.
Never doubt yourself. It doesnt matter why you are in the situation, what matters is that nothing is strong enough to overpower you.
Deal with your demons whatever way you chose but do not doubt yourself.
Always believe in your self. Your Self is stronger than anything else. 🙏🏻
@Tambrose0405 it's NOT you. You attract abusers because you were programmed by abusers. To end the cycle heal. Leave them alone and heal.
Yeah, I've lived that crazy cycle until I stopped it with knowledge, therapy, and my will to love my authentic self. To love, care, and forgive myself. To be more self-aware. It doesn't happen over night and it may take the rest of my life but at least I am no longer caught up in a vicious cycle of abuse, run, heal repeat!
Now, it's just healing! Recognizing other abusers is key and not settling for anything but healthy. Learn effective, compassionate communication and be an active observer, listen to your body when engaging people. All the things were never taught to do. We can make it and we can get better. Never give it trying!
Narc is a demon-human-hybrid-network in a meat-suit called a human body. Some narcs eyes even morph into demonic black eyeballs (cluster B personality phenom). This is highly a spiritual problem, so trying to help them is futile. A narc I knew his child personality, was his scariest personality for he seemed to have seemed to have several distinct personalities (spirits). It doesn't want to be rescued. It is spoiled and twisted. Great vid!
My narcissist is 32 years older than me but acts like a toddler, throwing temper tantrums when he doesn't get his way. I'm so sick of being cast into the role of caregiver/maid/mother. Got rejected from an apartment application for lack of income (narcissist has had me be a housewife for 12 years) so now finding a job is priority #1 😮💨
You can do it! Never give up
Praying that you get out I'm extremely grateful to get out thank God in the process of mentally emotionally and spirituality healing physically I'm fine thank you God I got out before he could go there all the way
Fortunately,I wasted 7 months,+6 months and counting from former narc.Grateful and Thankful that God,intervened in my life.🙏💜🙏❤️😊
EXACTLY! So many therapists and well-meaning flying monkeys get it wrong - they listen to the narcissists pouring out their inner angst and urge their victims to keep forgiving them, to let gp of "bitterness", and then vilifying the victims for not following this toxic advice.
Pray to God and have Jesus deliver them. This is the only thing you can do for them.
You are absolutely correct. Thank you for saying this, however sadly if they reject God and Continue to blaspheme Jesus over and over again and chose to do that to the day they die they will never be freed of these narcissistic demons. It's sad I pray that most of these people will WANT to go to god Simply admit everything lay it out there suck it up confess their sins and asked jesus to Heal them but it's so hard The confusion they cause inside of their victims. Some days we want them to suffer and we're happy that they're suffering other days We want them to be delivered Healed and become the person.They were meant to be all those years ago during their development.And then one day they could ride off into the sunset with us and become a happy family but it doesn't happen like that because they choose to be this way the narcissistic energy is so strong and they're so hell bent on being right all the time It's so frustrating to watch someone Choose to be this way to not want Jesus is unbelievable.😢
Isn't it insane guys?Trust me I know how it feels because you're looking at that person that you loved and you hate at the same time and you're just like Wow you would rather live being hell bent into being right all the time stuck in straight delusion.. Not to mention coming off as a mental case in front of normal people on a daily basis in society then rather be healed Be free of these demons for yourself and be able to have a loving family 1 day😢It's unimaginable that these people can't wake up and recognize what's going on
The ONLY ONLY thing
My mother foams at the mouth if you mention TMH or his only begotten son! She grieves and is blasphemous toward ANYTHING relating to the scriptures and holy spirit! It's frightening to realize when I was searching years ago she only pretended to be searching for God with me to keep herself enmeshed in my affairs.
From reading scripture she will DIE and go to the lake of fire. She's spiritually dead already. She, nor any other abuser I've had in my family [including my father] or otherwise will not make it. That used to make me very sad.😢 Now, I'm comforted by it. They are enemies of God. They are my enemies and I'm happy that the God I'm in service to doesn't accept people like them. Amen.❤
He once physically assaulted me because I told him that I love Jesus. What he said about our Lord is unprintable. That's when I jew that I had 'triggered' the demon in him.........because of my Love for Jesus.
No child in there for sure! Even in a child who is narcissistic, there is something else lurking within. I say this from experience, being born to one, married to one and having birthed one too. Trying to save that imaginary inner child is what breaks you eventually. Our genuine intent is seen as a weakness and weaponised against us.
This makes me so sad. You feel compassion for them. But, it’s just more fuel for them, more pain and disappointment for you. And the cycle continues. It can be so hard to let go when you’re stuck in the that place. Like somehow you’ll be letting them down if you break away. 😢
Thank you for speaking the truth. Anytime someone is harmed by a narcissist they will be gaslighted with the narcissist must have been traumatized as a child.
Yes I have wasted 25+ years
Me too wasted 20 years 😢
11 here
I empathise 20 years here and still not broke free
22 years
20 years here …
This explains how the narcissist truly is !! PERFECT DESCRIPTION! (the old building that's BEYOND REPAIR)
The comparison to an abandoned house was powerful
Danish Bashir, you are truly one of the best experts on narcissists out there. I am always impressed by your channel. Your understanding of human psychology and the sickness behind the narcissists' personality is unrivaled. I love your channel and I will continue to recommend it to people. It is so sad to recover from narcissists and you help everything make sense. You are a Life Saver!!! ❤❤
I remember these moments with a number of narcissistics, after they confess their illness they got even worse in selfe defence.
Unfortunately for children of narc parents, this is a trap that we fall into to "save" our parents and you are 100% right, there is no inner child only a demon [s]. Now, a covert narcissist can try to bait you with this "inner child" healing attempt my mother did for all of my childhood and adult life. Until I realized she could not be saved. Until I accepted she liked being evil. It was devastating. I wanted so deeply to believe she was innately a good person only to accept she is a deplorable human being who says often "I don't give a f@#%". She doesn't care about anything or anyone but herself.
The raging, the projecting, the smear campaigns, the pathological lying, the manipulations, and the total lack of responsibility are mind-numbing.
That flicker, that false light doesn't happen often when you can catch a glimpse of vulnerability in them, even if they "think out loud " what's wrong, missing, who they are it never lasts long and they keep doing what they've always done try to destroy you. They act like that conversation, that moment never happened.
They have no soul. Only empty, and filled with a host of demons seeking to kill, steal, and destroy. Smh. I'm all too happy to give up trying to help any of them, especially the person who gave birth to me.
I have been in a relationship with a narcissist for 23 years.. At first the mental torture had me breaking down crying & fighting back, arguing everyday.. I didn’t understand what I was involved in.. I would always go back & forth with myself because on one side I was defending myself & trying to make sense of things & on the other end I truly felt sorry for him realizing that his upbringing was the reason for the way he was.. Thank God I came across these videos speaking on exactly what I was experiencing.. I completely get it now.. Unfortunately the economy is not the best right now so we need eachother right now financially.. But we are only roommates sharing a house until the lease ends.. But everything discussed in every video I can relate to & I now have a very clear vision of what is taking place.. I no longer feed into anything.. He is completely ignored unless he speaks to me respectfully & he’s understanding that the veil has been lifted.. He knows that I see right thru him.. The temper tantrums haven’t stopped but I no longer give it any attention.. I’m much happier in my own space & when he is negatively trying to get my attention I simply put my headphones 🎧 on & listen to music or these videos & zone out.. I don’t allow myself to be affected anymore.. The End 😁
What happens when you have children? What children would think of a husband- wife relationship?. Being a roommate is a true relationship in that case? Will it work? .
I'm a people pleaser and I know it is because of not wanting someone to get angry at me, hit me, scold me. My family is filled with people who if you say or do the wrong thing, the beatings commenced. Would come out of nowhere, you never knew when you hit a nerve. That has continued into adulthood for me and very difficult to get out of.
Or wasting life just trying to protect yourself from such a person.
So they're just an empty shell of a person with a demonic entity living inside?
Yes a legion of them , Jezebel, leviathan, pride spirit of envy jealousy … I had to get delivered from Ahab Spirit
Yap. That about sums it up
You're doing great and essential work. Thank you. ☘️
Danish your superb!!...no one describes well a narcissist as much as you!!... You spoke of people pleasing...your absolutely right....childhood rejections make us people pleasers...I experienced the same....I became a people pleaser, an over empathetic person and ultimately cheated by a narcissistic husband...
Thank you for educating people. This is so true. After I get away from one, I feel more of a horror and sickness in my soul than anger. They are total ingrates and just so mean. A well known exorcist describes demons as people without a body. There are people who are demons with a body. It was their own free will choice to go against all that is good and right and decent and kind, and their God given conscience. They are monstrously selfish and enjoy hurting others.
You are absolutely the most knowledgeable person on narcissism on TH-cam! I'm so happy that I've found your videos. Due to a severe chronic illness, I'm living with my narcissistic mother, and she is everything you describe. It's so hard because I can't escape her. It's great to learn new tools of coping with this impossible mental illness.
Me too 25 yrs tortured by 2 of them mother and son it was like they were married and I was their slave.
This is the problem question that has plagued me for a long time. The narc in my life (father) played on my sympathy as if he was a needing child. He took everything that was mine from me that way. Someone finally explains how he lost his sense of self and how he took mine instead.
Thank you, Danish! Again, you've made a powerful video. I wish everyone suffering under a narcissist (or two...or three) could hear this.
yes this is the CLEAREST description VISUAL ever describing the Narcs I have endured.
I watched as my fathers "kind" looking blue eyes turn Black. as his soul willingly stepped aside to let the demonic take over to destroy me.
his 6 year old daughter who challenged his abuse.
I have cold shivers as I recall looking into the demon standing infront of me.
@Danish Bashir I truly loved your analogy about a narcissist being like a building that is destroyed. You can go there, visit and leave, but do not go inside nor try to rebuild. That was a very helpful metaphor that will help me continue to stay on the path of walking away from an unhealthy marriage.
Wow! What a powerful message! It absolutely makes sense. Very well stated!
My God the truth in this video…
I married the 72 year old Narc ignorantly.
blindly hoping....
I was 66 yrs old.
I gave the man "3 strikes". other smaller daily ones. when it was obvious to me that this mature man was deceptive. predatory for my $$$s. I quietly closed as many financial doors as possible. and planned to run from the home I paid cash for. to pick up the pieces later.
at 10 months married.
I accepted his ingrained personality.
his limitless foul rages and absolutely refusal to accept responsibility for his actions drove ME out.
as they say "3 strikes you're out!!!!!!"
it took a year to get divorced and cost me significant $s. and I had to threaten law enforcement to evict him.
yet I had to accept that it was an essential LIFE SAVING SURGERY.
if it had been cancer in me I would have willingly paid such $$$$$$$s.
no difference. yes it was a cold evil.
the abuse I endured from birth on from family.
that lived out through my adulthood
my late marriage to the Narc
shattered the cognitive dissonance of my life time.
and kicked me forward to a new and quality life.
66 year old women should marry 60 year old men, not 72 yr! 😮
@@user-q992what the hell? That’s all you took from her important comment? 72 and 66 are very close in age there is definitely no problem with that. Now, if it was a 72 year old with a 18-30 year old that’d be weird
@@palmtrees2420 What I meant is that, for very late marriages or second marriages, women should try to marry younger men or they will end up nursing them. Men have less longevity and become ill earlier than women, usually. Although that might be a broad generalisation, something to bear in mind. For the 72 year old man, there is always an 80 year old woman.
See how the relationship ended up? So there is nothing wrong in considering our own interests when the world is full of selfish cheats!
All other points from her post is already understood and discussed well🙏
Whenever l go to the Narc to show some love l always get back smitten and hurting.
I will share a incident in my life.
A girl is my friend.We were very close with each other. One day we were going home together. It was very sunny that day which means temperature is about 35 degrees. I asked her for an umbrella so that both of us can go under one umbrella.She never once gave me an umbrella saying her loyalty would go away. How can she take this on a day when it is so hot that my condition is getting worse.
So true my narcissist wife of 12 years she done bad thing’s to me, but let say this event i took a photo behind her body and a horrible face neck and head with evil eyes look at my direction 3 weeks after she discarded me and this was the time when i careful looked at photo and the back of hairs went up.
Yes. Isn’t it strange how they are all the same.
They're under the control of the same demonic strongman.
Yes my mother my whole life said often, “You have no idea what it is like to live in this skin.”
I never understood this until I realized it was an indwelling demon talking to me because she always had perfect porcelain skin.
I too have kept pictures in my top desk drawer that show this hateful being staring at me as I took pictures.
These eyes were behind her eyes and full of sheer hatred .😢
I am so grateful for your help. The importance of what you do is immense!
Wow, that was extremely enlightening
Thank you for bringing awareness to what we went through. Being aware is the first step in the right direction.
I pray that God has mercy on him and helps him. Only God can help him.🙏
Another reason one might be a people pleaser is their parent is one and that’s how they were raised to be.
My mom is not a narcissist nor abusive but her mom was very volatile and strict so she grew up meek and taught me to always smile, inconvenience yourself rather than others, etc.
She also gave me a lot of anxiety.
This is what I experienced with the narcissist. 3 months free now. Workshop on my birthday. I may join.
I agree. I have known many of them, including members of my family of birth.
There is a NARCISSIST and a MASK. That's all.
The mask can change with time because they are like unfinished patchworks. They abandon some pieces and add others.
Powerful message. So insightful. Thank you so much. May God bless you.
I realize now all of it,suffered from stroke 3 yrs ago this give time to pause and analize,now I know the true colors they hide.thanks to all of the video you share ❤
Thank you for this video. I am intrigued about the inner child as a counseling student and for personal reasons.
The narcassist wants you to identify with them, opening and connecting on a emotional/soul level so you feel deeply involved and your soul wrapped up in them and feeling deep compassion and feelings for them even making excuses for them and in denial. This is the arena they wanted you in. Where you think you are equals. You are not. I have a dog, I'm a dog owner and that's how I should identify and connect to my dog. If your a narcassist your overtaken by and at the will of malevolent beings, looking to overtake my senses and connect to my soul. We are not one, neither are we equal, your a different species
Well said!
ITS BEATING BUT ITS DEAD. THATS SUPER DEEP.
Best video and explanation, hands down!! I wish I'd had this explanation years ago. Thank you so much for all of your videos, especially this one.
Thanks for all this
I was stalked and tortured by lies in over 40 years, by a narcissist.
In the end I even knew how this person felt and who she was, because she smeard herself on me. A disgusting way of preserving a friendship that was never to be.
Btw i am autistic with hsp.
Imagine how I felt!
im 52 an only child daughter of my now 72 yr old mother all the yrs wasted i could never get back eats me alive everyday.. i could have really been something great if only i knew who n what she really was when i was 7.. it was like yesterday i knew something wasn't right but had no idea how wrong it all was.. at 44 all the boxes were checked im a daughter of a covert narcissist so now what.... exactly i have no idea.. but Danish thank u for always giving me that one more day not to let her win..
✨Doe not work! 😢 abuse😢✨
I'm following your vedios last 1 year those vedios helped me a lot to overcome of my trauma nd now I have gained my power back....thank you Angel Danish❤❤God bless you❤❤❤
Thank you! This is powerful information!
This was very educational. Thank you!
What a beautiful way to end the video with that statement!
Yup even asked my daughter last month, last time I saw her if she was the devil sent to destroy me, oh my, gave wanna be narc hubby his father's day gift already, I'm out! 😊🎉😂❤
GREAT info❗️ Thank you
I have wasted 33 yrs and now have cancer and hes gotten worse
The stress and sadness destroys you from within. 🙏🏼🍫🍰☕️🍧
Y I m feeling sad for my narcissist bf after knowing all this, although he has destroyed me completely 😢
Yes, there is an inner child.
" Rosemary's baby"
Ok… this made me laugh 😆 Thank You. Lol
@@libbysimpson9127 lol. You're welcome.
😂
Narcissists ARE their inner child.
Thanks for giving such valuable informations 😊
Thanks Danish
Nicely explained ❤
I believe you. They need an exorcism and a relationship with Christ.
Perfect explanation, thank you.
Thank you❤
Thank you so mush ir is very useful and saved life
Well said 💯
I witnessed the black pupils when my soon X husband was on his way out to his next supply. 12 years of my life were robbed by a demon. He definitely showed his hate towards me
Spot on. An inner demon
💥 Ephesians 6:12 💥 🔥👹👺🔥
Narcissist Most Definitely Have demonS dwelling inside them 💯‼️
It’s their demons talking, getting angry, belittling you, lying etc, Etc!
Jesus Christ of Nazareth is the ONLY ONE WHO CAN CAST THEM OUT….
“ All unclean spirit/demons get OUT IN JESUS NAME “ ‼️
There’s real freedom In Jesus Christ. Thank you King Jesus! ✨🤍👑🕊️✨🙌🏽🙌🏽
Sometimes it feels freeing to accept that the malignant narcissists in my life will probably never be saved. But, it's also such a horrifying thought that I can't help praying that they might find the light if at all possible.
Sometimes I wonder if my presence around them could bring them any hope or help. And, sometimes I wonder if associating with a narcissist at all is as foolish as buying and playing with a ouija board.
What blows my mind the most is that the whole story about the prodigal son is meant to illustrate how destructive it is to rebel against God and that God uses this obvious fact to turn people around. What kind of a being has a "prodigal son"moment and decides to keep following the path of rebellion? What makes someone decide that they love their own evil so much that they delude themselves about their own destruction both physical and spiritual until they pass the point of no return? I don't get it.
Read Romans 1 and I believe, 2 Timothy. These passages in the Bible explains that through their continued rebellion and sin towards God, even given multitudes of opportunities to repent, they move further and further on the spectrum of narcissism. Until finally God let's them go. Go to do what it is their wickedness leads them to do. It called having a reprobate mind. They're in a spiral of destruction. Anyone in their sphere gets thrown into this cycle of abuse/destruction.
You're right.I've thought about it since. And, I remembered how someone once referred to growing in faith as being a "spiritual athlete" . You start out following God in small things. Then you are able to tackle bigger and bigger things as you grow. I guess if someone starts on a path of rejecting God and deluding themselves in small ways, they keep growing in that direction until it becomes easy to delude themselves about the big stuff.
And am still trapped.what should I do I have no clue.I think I cant live without him.I wouldn't survive this trauma i extremely fear.
diabolical is everything they do, they cant be saved, just save yourself & your kids instead..
I believe you are right in that a real Narcissist has sold their soul to Satan, and as such won't be helped to be free of their Demon possession, no matter how much you pray for them to be set free.
100% correct.
Evolution and growth make us human. Chagrin.
Danish,,,,for 6 years I used to think he was my twinflame…..& his distorted pattterens are gonna recover one day….. but he didn’t change ……… can you please make more informative videos to clarify these two dynamics??? I mean twinflame & empath-narcissist ?????
Yes danish plz make video on this topic
such a powerful powerful video - are you saying the "true self" of a narcissist is no longer their "true self" because it's gone?
Awesome
Interesting question because severe child abuse can CAUSE demon possession.
Thank you! that really enlightens me.
I'm staying away.
In denying themselves or their inner child, what do you think about suppressed left-handedness. Apparently, it is the cause of many ailments, and this could be one. Decades ago it was common to force right-handedness on students at school, to a greater or lesser extent in various countries, and this means suppression of personality in quite a fundamental way. There is some literature on the impact of forced right-handedness.
Sigh...it's sad.