She's got a lot of psych wisdom. One of the best psych teachers on the internet. Period. And I've watched most. I'm also a lifelong counselor. LISTEN. Shalom.
In last couple of years, i have noticed where ever i go people are talking behind my back. They are judging me for my actions. Now i realised, it is not them. Its me who was critizing myself. And when i stopped that, everything is back to normal.. hope this helps to someone.
honestly, it depends on your therapist. cbt are most common, but they have a diferent view on things. if you want someone similar to teal, try gestalt, humanist, existenstencialst etc
when i was younger i was going through identity crisis and i was also unconsciously people pleaser. i recall moments where i was called a “copycat”. and part of me knew i was but not intentionally but in a sense that i was exploring things but at the same time people pleasing. thinking about it right now it’s not a good combination. so those words like “copycat” made me more confused about myself and i’ve put people on pedestal that everyone is original except me. it felt unfair to me because a side of me thinks everything is learned from someone else. i had a friendship wherein i find myself putting myself in a rescuer role and always thought of myself as the strong and wise friend back then, only to realize overtime that i don’t really know what i’m saying or advicing to others or this friend in particular. overtime i felt that my world had revolve around her to the point that i felt crazy and that she is perfect and everyone around us loves her no matter what. having a tendency not to see myself it consumed me always analyzing if im the one copying or influenced by her or am i the one influencing her. i want it to be the latter but i hate that everything that she does is remembered and mine is not even if it’s something similar about us. interacting with her i felt drained, envious feelings arise, i feel in competitive mode around her. there are also times where internally i try to look for her flaws just to validate how i feel but even her imperfections registered to me as perfect. it made me feel that i had to be like her to be accepted. i kept all of it to myself because i know it’s about my feelings and insecurities. i also have the urge to get to the point of staying around her and trying to prove myself that i can stat around her without feeling any of those unpleasant feelings. however, i got really exhausted. i managed to distance myself as i’m aware all this is about me and also i don’t like feeling that way anymore. however, i feel traumatized with the whole experience. that every time i see her on my social media i feel threatened again and afraid of seeing her again everywhere. in the present i’m more capable of being true to myself and needs unlike before where it’s always about getting to know what other people like and keeping my interests or thoughts to myself. but i still want to overcome this feeling and not feel threatened or envious or competitive or not unique whenever i see her. i don’t have anything against but i just want to under why i feel certain things with her in particular and how can i move past the trauma. i want to know if it’s just incompatibility between us that i’m convincing myself otherwise and cabt accept? is it possible for two people to not do anything bad to each other but the interaction bring out the worst in one or another or each other? one thing about me before is that i thought i can love just about anyone and just accepting everything. now i don’t think that way anymore i realize the essence of compatibility now. but i still can’t help but try to understand and justify me walking away from the friendship i mentioned because i know those feelings are mine and most i see on social media about envy being in a tone of “oh youre just insecure” amplifies the urge to search for more answers that make sense. i really want to know that it’s not just me who’s causing this feeling.
I'm reflecting upon your videos. It saddens me deeply that we are all so far away from being our authentic selves. Though we are far away, you are helping us get closer. The closer I get the more I feel I can breath, The more I feel I can love. The growing pains are worth everything. These videos have given me so much understanding. An Understanding that I would have died for and thought that I would never have. 💙 Forever grateful.
Thank God you exist, Teal. I just wanna to say think you. I wanna to scream it because the feeling of Gratitude is so intense, I must scream it. I'll say again, thank you Teal. You're literaly saving my life. The knowledge you're sharing is showing me how to find my negatives aspects, so I can overcome my abusive childhood and my trumas. Thank you Teal, I want to cry, It's really intense. Thank you so much. Thank you for existing. Thank you. You're saving my life. The feeling I have is that I'm lucky that you exist and everything is the way it is so I can learn with you. I feel some insecurity and fear that thinkgs was not the way it is, so I can't watch your videos. I don't know. I don't have words to express what I'm feeling. I WANT TO SCREAM THE LOUDEST I CAN HOW GRATEFUL I AM! Teal, thank you. If weren't you, I would be lost. Thank you Teal. Thank you. Thank God you escaped from those mad guys that tortured you, man, I don't know this feeling. Worry and fear, if you weren't there. Thank you Teal. I would like to have a chance to return it because it's so intense what I'm feeling. Thank you is the word that is inside my hear I want to scream the loudest. I want you to know that you saved my life. I'm transforming myself to a better person. Thank you Teal from the deep of my heart. Thank you.
My mother has projected a lot of her fears, insecurities and harmful beliefs onto me that has harmed and hurt me. Today I can see it for what it is and help myself and heal and hopefully forgive her so we are both free. Thank you for sharing
I have found that playing with stuffed animals is a great way to see how you are projecting your emotions onto people. It is surprising how much I was projecting!
@@nicoledoubleyou I assume she / he means that during roleplay with stuffed animals you must assume some personality for them. And by doing so you can see what traits you associate with others.
This is a difficult concept to get ones head around. Thank you Teal for explaing it so well; simply and with compassion. Your videos are again helping me so much, and I can't wait to use this knowledge to empower others 😊
"In a cinema hall, you look at the screen, you never look at the back--the projector is at the back. The film is not there really on the screen; it is just a projection of shadow and light. The film exists just at the back, but you never look at that. And the projector is there. Your mind/ego is at the back of the whole thing, and the mind is the projector. But you always look at the other, because the other is the screen. When you are in love the person seems beautiful, no comparison. When you hate, the same person seems the ugliest, and you never become aware of how the same person can be the ugliest and the same person can be the most beautiful.... So the only way to reach to truth is to learn how to be immediate in your vision, how to drop the help of the mind/ego. This agency of the mind/ego is the problem, because mind/ego can create only illusions/fears.... Through your excitement the illusion/fear starts looking like reality. If you are too excited then you are intoxicated, then you are not in your senses. Then whatsoever you see is just your projection. And there are as many worlds as there are minds, because every mind/ego lives in his own world". Osho Subconscious mind projects on another person/screen and then we are able to see who we are, by observing the reflection of our mind. We are the source of the light or the shadow we are projecting. Why we need another person in this process? Because he or she acts as a mirror. Mirror/screen doesn't do anything, except for reflecting back projected image. You might like or hate the reflection of yourself in the mirror, but that is a different topic. Projections we make, become noticeable, if we are self aware. Seeing our own reflection in the mirror, will teach us more about ourselves. Take advantage of this benefit, when interacting with people. Right on Teal!
Wise. I had a realizing a long time ago, that personal psychological emptiness: is actually self-abandonment. I'm not really sure how it struck me, just came spontaneously. It's like you've rejected yourself so successfully, that your spirit can't stand to live in you (or is forced to hide itself from you).
You beautifully gather the bulk of information into a 20 mins video and it is so damn good actually it gets better all the time. Thank you so much for these videos.
This is why I listen more then I speak. Human nature is HUMAN nature. People worse fears are facing their own demons in other people. Let that sink in. I know my WORTH & I PROTECT IT
Thank you SO MUCH, Teal. I really really appreciate your Saturday morning talks. They have helped me realize so many things and I have made progress in my recovery from past mistakes and traumas. This video hits especially at the root of how I can work on myself some more and to understand why I react so strongly to certain things in others. Again, I thank you ! 🙂♊️♉️♏️💕☮️
Im going hard on the mercury retrograde shadow work already... thank you for your video!! Im taking notes and I've done quite a few exercises. You are incredible! You open my eyes and the psychology view you have is perfect for shadow work! Studying psychology on my own was how I found my spirituality and then found you and the other resources available. Thank you for your work! You are truly beautiful inside and out! Everyone has a subconscious and you know what you're doing and know how to overcome yours. It really shows. Blessed be.
3:42 stab through the heart. Wow.. I never realized until now. All of it is true. This is why I subscribed, it opens more lanes in my mind to travel through.
Mateeee, I was annoyed at work today because of lazy people but I was projecting. I used to just listen to these videos without doing the work but now 👌 IM READY! ❤️❤️❤️ Thank you Teal!
Why were you projecting? Sometimes we do have colleges who are not doing what they agreed to and have excuses right? Not everything is a projection right?
This is freakin amazing Teal. So simple but yet difficult to understand. The keys that you are handing out to me are huge. I am so grateful for your messages because they help me to clarify, to love me more, to meet others in a whole new way. Thank you so much. I love you.
What a wonderful blessing Teal is to the world. Before I found Teal on the internet, and before I watched any of her videos, I was so full of anger and rage regarding a 'circumstance' , that seemed to keep cycling over and over. After watching several of her videos and doing the practice she teaches in "Healing The Emotional Body", I can't even believe the difference I feel today, from before I began these exercises. She is so 'dead on' when she says to go towards that part of you that you have been avoiding, and when you do that, and heal that part of your inner self, you begin to feel relief more and more....You begin to realize that these 'unhealed parts' of yourself, are most likely what you have been 'projecting' onto everyone else....
That is exactly how I feel actually ! I'm so truly blessed and grateful that I've found her channel! In the right moment at the right time! Universe truly has the most perfect imagination :)
I find it remarkable that, especially lately, that the very thing I have been pondering the days before your video discusses. It's a nice connection or the Universe's way of bringing clarity. Pretty awesome♡ Thank you lovely, Teal ♡
To become whole again we have to see and accept the aspects of ourselves that we disowned. WOW! That is going to be with me for the rest of my life... ❤
Her explanation proving that we are all connected. I never thought that I could stumble on a better explanation of what im doing in my life subconsciously.
You are the earth angel, a chosen one the one who helped so many ppl who were stuck. I wish you and all the team well in doing what you doing and helping millions of people including me! Thank you❤
i fall in love easily. it can be any age, race, occupation, and yes both sexes. these crushes are overwhelming, exciting and hurtful. for some reason i also have sabatoged every one of these crushes if i feel that crush or love is returned to me. i am kinda old now and still do not understand this mechanism or if this is projection. in each crush i have idolized, adored, and worshipped the person. i keep most of these emotions to myself. hell i dont even know if it is projection.
+Linda Kloss Watch the horror film AntiViral. It is the depiction of self rejection and the worship of celebrities. Never reject your own body. When we have a crush we reject ourselves. A crush is not love. I have been there done that. Love, love, love your own body and mind. Check out what Dr. Kristin Neff says about self forgiveness. Teal talks about that as well. When we had been hurt in childhood we grow up to believe that we were at fault for that hurt which results in guilt and self hate. We can heal that.
+Linda Kloss i did so ,but i have never really found my match and like you i 'm kinda of old now (50) and i'm like the hell i no more care .Now i love me;,that 's the most important thing right now .
The Buddha talks about finding love this way (I'm paraphrasing): when you meet somebody and your heart pounds, your hands shake, your knees go week, that is NOT the one. When you meet your soul mate, you'll feel calm. No anxiety. No agitation.
Linda Kloss I wouldn’t call that projection. I would it a way to protect yourself. I’ve done it but not for that reason. I’ve done it because when you see someone you can’t get your eyes off and are infatuated with that person, sometimes you want to keep it like that if you start feeling down. It’s like this person almost isn’t human and you never want to change that, for feeling you won’t survive, especially if you know you’ll never run across that type of infatuation ever again, and you know it’s once in a lifetime thing.
I have a problem with laziness. I become very judgemental when someone is lazy... And at the same time, some days i just wish to lie down on the couch and do nothing, but i don't let myself do that, cause it was not allowed for me to be lazy as a child and i would be shamed and punished for that. I'm so hard on myself, i have to be busy all the time: read a book, clean the home, work on my personal development, start a side hustle.. It's crazy. Lazy=shameful in my book. I have to rewrite this chapter. I was writing the comment before you started speaking about laziness... And bam... Laziness is the example topic in this video. So useful for me
I have never disagreed with her videos until this one. I give and give to people. As soon as I decided to set boundaries and not allow people to dump on me whenever they want, people started doing things to intentionally hurt me.
This is true inner reflection. Between developing your communication skills and using this projection as knowing yourself better. I am a human being so it takes work daily to not go backwards and stay in the present
This video answered all my problems! And this video was the only one that truly helped me. My friend called me out for projecting and ever since I couldn't get it out of my head. Even though the things I sad were not only relevant to me but to her as well since I know her pretty well and we mirror each other. But I don't think we will be friends for a long time since a lot of differences came out and I am constantly changing to better and don't want to be held back by her negative traits I was trying to solve for many years.
Most of the time, when I accuse someone of projection, it is when I am viewing a conversation between two people, normally online, and it is clear (from what they both have said, up until that point) that the person doing the accusing is projecting their own (normally negative) personality traits onto the other person. When it happens to you, you might mistakenly accuse someone of projection, as you may not be aware of some of your own (suppressed) personality traits, but if a neutral observer accuses you of projection, there is a good chance that is exactly what you are doing.
Yep, I see this quite a bit online. I'm part of a Facebook group and one user went out of her way to hurt the admin. I told her that what she did was not nice and she accused me of being childish and rude. If you were to look at the conversation, it was blatant and obvious that she was projecting her own characteristics onto me. Not sure if she got triggered. Even others told her that what she said was not nice.
@@dustysparkle2429 on a real level, going out of your way to tell someone their not being nice, is probably a low level expression of the same. You are putting someone else in their place (what im doing rn, again reflecting that same projection) often the best play is to leave it be. Sometimes it isn’t. Really depends. It was probably a chance for you to notice something about yourself. You will have ample opportunity as will I. Self awareness is the most important step though. “It IS within me…” so powerful
Thank you for this.. It was absolutely amazing and on point. I have learned how to utilize projection as a positive aspect and I've never felt more whole in my life. xoxo
Another spot-on share dear Teal! I've been on my journey to wholeness - to re-integration for some time now. I have embraced the wisdom of many teachers, especially the one in my heart ... and I must share that you seem to pull it all together so succinctly - so fully - clearly - wonderfully - magically! Your Spirituality 2.0 and 3.0 shares, for example, should be core curriculum in public schools (following 101 of course...:) Imagine that world! Imagine the world where adults who embrace and love themselves their wholeness invite newborns into an environment that honors their wholeness - holding it sacred. Imagine a world where folks create from a state of wholeness - that is the garden - what we can create right now. It is no accident that you are doing what you are doing right now Teal - this share on projection - so freaking on target and so important! - so clear - so, so important for folks to embrace and take ownership of - we must take back the power that we have stolen from ourselves. I am so full of appreciation for what you are doing Teal - and me too :)
love the opportunity to see the pattern in myself. given me a whole new outlook on how my behavior my attitude and my ruminating on things that really don't mean much and the long-term affect my daily and hourly and minute what time wasted but some valuable lessons ,thanks Tealyou rock
I see that you have a brode perspective on many subjects. You see things on a different level than just logical. But still it all makes sense. Thanks for the video.
Really interesting video, nice and clear. Projective identification is also part of this as we sometimes introject what is projected onto us, even if it is outside our own awareness and then end up playing this out even though it belongs to the other person. We tend to absorb what’s around us.
WOW you are fast becoming one of my favourite channels ever. I don't agree with everything you say but you definitely do provide perspective and insights that i never considered.
At 12:20 she says: "These aspects that you despise in other people are always a reflection of yourself. These are attributes that you have suppressed." Hmmmm, I can't really agree with that one. Yes, absolutely much of the time that is the case, but I wouldn't say always. Is a kind-hearted person who despises cruelty in others necessarily suppressing cruelty within themselves? In some cases perhaps, but not always. I think it can absolutely be a matter of truth to strongly reject unacceptable behavior. Sometimes that rejection maybe indeed be from a place of projection. Other times it's appropriate and from a place of balance within, which is not accepting imbalance without.
I think words make difficult to explain ambiguous things. I think there's a pure state of reaction that is related to a state of authenticity that doesn't necessarily express something that we "supress" and, on the other side, there are reactions that are a result from modifications to our emotional system and we end up projecting those things... (sick feelings that are related to beliefs and it's what this video is about). I'm going to give a religious example because I don't remember another one: When Jesus drove the merchants from the temple - the known example to express the pure anger. He was purely mad with that. Just as you said " a kind-hearted person who despises cruelty in others is necessarily supressing cruelty within themselves?" I think of course not, that person is affected with the suffering that those cruel people inflict on others. Purely mad with that. It comes from Empathy and understanding. Not necessarily affected on her EGO with the cruel people themselves. I think the feeling that Teal is trying to approach here is a sick feeling of denial (that secretly has an issue within us) that I believe it's different from a authentic feeling of anger towards the bad guy mixed compassion towards the opressed (your example). But a kind-hearted person will automatically feel compassion towards the bad guy, besides the anger that feels at first, right? or not? I'm not sure if I made my point... And also I feel myself being contradictory! I'm not sure about what I'm saying. If we create our own reality, we are constantly projecting... or not? better asking: about the enlightened person, does that person have a conscience of creating their reality or is like the buddhists say "in the 3th level of consciousness the hills and the vales are again the hills and the vales and the subject doesn't create the reality anymore". And this last part is me expecting from you an answer, because I know who you are :) at least on youtube !
Yes I think that's right Helennah, that words are limiting in trying to explain these types of topics. And I'm sure that Teal would have a more expanded view on that if discussed more in-depth, because she never has a black-and-white perspective on these matters....that's an interesting Buddhist quote, I'll have to think about it!
I feel like Teal really hit this one on the head and that any strong negative emotion we experience in life, especially with "others", is ultimately us (Our Higher Self et all) trying to get our own attention to show ourselves something deep and profound for us. In a way I feel Teal is expressing in this video what I would call Practical Ways to Learn to Really "BE the Change We Wish to See in the World" or maybe it could be better said, "BECOME the Change we wish to see in the world", which is far more easier said than done, because of this 3D illusion of thinking we are all separated. At the same time this is all part of our great adventure experience here too. :) Interesting discussion, Gabriel, Mrs. Helennah and Marie... I understand your point, Gabriel. I feel "always a reflection of yourself" is a broad phrase that can be interpreted in many ways. Like how do we each define "self"? To me, Who I am in the all that I am includes who you ALL are in the all that you are, because We are all One. I like to call it "Our One Infinite WE Within Our Individual Me". We are each the infinite All experiencing ourselves as fractal parts. And part of that being all one means that we share this "separate" 3D experience at least in part to see within each other our own blind spots to learn, grow and ultimately expand the universe of all that is (that we all are... :) So in that light it makes so much sense to me. But if I think of one of my own reflections in some others I still haven't worked through completely, I fall back into "separation", that my Heart tells me when I listen is like cutting off a piece of my self. So to despise something we observe in another is to judge them; and despising and judging them is despising and judging our own selves too from another point of view. I think of the analogy of when "I" point the finger at someone, if I look at my hand I can see 3 other fingers pointing back at me. So why do we judge ourselves? It's not about beating ourselves up, but really about discovering a new area within us individually where Love has been blocked out of us subconsciously. This is so much of what this human adventure is all about, at least from my experiential point of view... :) Thank you all for being you, Which shows me more of myself too, From an another point of view... Much Love from the heart (((♥))) Charles
its been 2 years of mind/body psychology physiology and neurology followed by 8 years of many distorted researching and im still baffled by the many layers of damage my childhood effected me from toxic shame to emotional numbness driving me to the edge of despair and addiction to misanthropy and Antinatalism to weak boundaries and need of validation to the false self and identity disturbance and loneliness causing regression of mental cognitions just one hellish spiral of traumas that i cant connect the beginning from end , we are definitely not evolved , humanity is like a deeply wounded lost child … we dont even grasp how to not poison relationships and enmesh boundaries like psychopaths does , we are really good at mutilating not nurturing i bet billions of people never wrestled with questions of what the child need because of they did it will be a mass era of grieving on our lost humanity followed by extinction or at least crumbling of the current institutions of the economical system its just too much for a child to go through that process and stay in one piece
I wanted to share something about projection. What I do not accept of others, I do not accept of myself. True! I do not accept people lying to me and I do not accept it of myself to lie to others. But the question is, can I forgive myself, if I ever did that? If yes, then I can forgive others. Especially if it wasn’t intended or there was a real good reason to do so. Still being able to forgive myself or others, still doesn’t make it right. It just makes it understandable.
Seeing abunch of videos so treat projecting as a negitive thing and not talk about the reasons why made it feel worse seeing this video and taking notes was really hard but that tells me that i am willing to learn those aspects in myself and change the way i treat others and to be able to feel more complete and more of a compassionate person being told that i project in such a negative way knowing that those same people telling me this doesnt realize its a coping mechanism and a truama response and the fact its completely unconscious hurts a lot more than it should
I love your videos. They are so helpful and the topics are always right on point.. Also, I just want to say how very much I appreciate the fact that you don't feel compelled to accompany your teachings with some sort of music. Everything about your video messages is so nice and "clean," and I feel because of that the message itself can therefore come through so much more clearly (figuratively as well as literally).
Maybe. Or we just are too willing to let go of control over our own wellbeing and therefore give too much power&importance to the idea of necessarily beimg in love as in movies
This is entertaining, well delivered, and a textbook example of how effective mind control techniques can be. All the important boxes have been ticked with a check mark. Here we have an intelligent, pretty, white woman, delivering a dose of truth with fiction, and the amount of positive commentary I have seen here proves that it's working. Bravo Teal Swan! No doubt you are very good at what you do, but the sweeping statement: "These aspects that you despise in other people are always a reflection of yourself. These are attributes that you have suppressed." just ain't so! And that is easy to prove with two words: "Racism" and "Rape". Any educated person knows that it is impossible for a person of color, especially a black person, to be racist. They can't be racist because racism requires a systemic component. Anyone who doesn't understand that will have to educate themselves, as I am not going to digress. Since they cannot be racist, people of color are not projecting when they are directing anger at white racists. That notion is simply absurd. It is equally absurd to suggest that men who despise rapists also secretly desire to rape women! The thought of raping a woman has never crossed my mind; not even in fantasy! I am not projecting by hating men who abuse women. I am sure there are other examples as well, but these are the first that came to mind. Life is a lot more complex than your wonderful narrative here would have us believe.
I hate the alcoholism in the guy I have a crush on. He falls asleep drunk and wakes up with vivid memories of things that never happened in real life and has accused me of saying things I've never said, like talking about other (better) men in my life. I'm not and never have been addicted to any drugs. If anything, I was addicted to this guy, but I never made up stories to ruin our relationship. He's angry at me now and hasn't said a kind word to me in many months. I don't see any of these qualities in myself. I'd like to get over him and don't know why it's so hard.
You want to "fix" him, be the one who helps him become the better version of himself.u see his potential and feel if you stick around, don't give up hope on him that he will 1 day wakeup and see how great you are and how much u care about him and helped him and he will become this super amazing man that u already know he is and yall will skip off into the sunset together. Been there done that. It never works...no matter how much u pour yourself into this man, neglect your own desires in life bc helping him will become the #1 TOP priority. You'll only lose yourself and have your spirit crushed in the process.
to Gabriel Kundalini…even for a kind-hearted sincere person…..his response to the cruel person definitely is a teaching for himself. A truly kind-hearted person has probably traveled through being cruel in his life. His shadow has become his gift. Now he can share/"teach"/be with the cruel person in a way that no other can. But yes, if one despises, I agree with Teal, that is about yourself. Probably you are not free of your own cruelity.
I'm an aquarius born into a family of capricorns. There was one another aquarius in my family which is my mother who was pushed out the family by the time I was seven. I hardly knew my mom but I was constantly compared to her unfavorably my entire childhood. When I got out of the house I was constantly being paired up with capricorn women especially at work. From what I can tell the biggest difference between capricorns and aquarius people is capricorns take pride in gaining power within established systems whereas aquarius people take pride in being different. Most of the friction between capricorns and me is that I can't be myself around them. I don't see how I can be like them in ways I find unnerving about them.
That's a very clear explanation of projection. Projection is self-preservation? Self-awareness is not for those that wat to avoid pain, but I think it is more painful not to be self-aware. Yes, we project more when we are young, but we grow up and just accept others more. My son wanted me to watch your videos and so I am. I'm very pleasantly surprised at how practical and down to earth your work is.
Very timely for me to come across this. Something I have been contemplating and trying to understand more about. It helped a lot in clarifying things for me. Thank you!
I think it's because we are trying too hard to understand everything. We would be less confused if we stopped trying to understand every little aspect about human behavior and thought.. I believe it is actually doing more harm than good but we won't see that for decades.
The thing I most like about shadow work is its simplicity. Of course, con$umeri$m has to dress it up as a whole lot more complicated than it is. Also, a consumerist society is indoctrinated with shame/inferiority to make self reflection unbearable...and it sells us a tacky, half-arsed, pain free "solution". It is simple. But don't confuse simple with comfortable/easy!
That's not a bad thing dan, imagine what richness beauty and unity of we all understood each others' beliefs without judgment to better understand ours, integrated them, became more flexible...
HI Teal, Thank you for those words. Every day i'm learning something new, and i can agree on the things you said. Thank you so much. Pretoria, South Africa
I learned a method of projecting a long time ago while I was a body builder, which is as follows. Look in the mirror at the gym and look at your body and project on yourself what you want to look like. I set goals and worked out; I also changed my eating habits; and I took protein and other supplements. It was interesting to note, that my body changed into what I wanted. I would submit then, if you want specific things, then you could project them and make them happen.
You are amazing . Thank you I really appreciate the videos that you given out today! I had a dream about this video couple weeks ago and I was expecting it! There was something I needed to hear! And you did just that! Special Thanks with love, my dear sister!
I hate how judgmental I am and I freak myself out and get really angry and mad at myself with my mind and it feels like every one else is better than me but every once in a while I just get so over it I just let go somehow and experience other peoples perspectives where I become more aware of truth I would have rather not known... In other words I feel like my mind either expands or contracts and it feels better to expand or be more of yourself/conscious in general of life and self... for me my biggest problem is something I think I am just not aware of yet :) and I will only understand or know when I just become more conscious... YOUR TECHNIQUES and Insight Is very helpful in cultivating and developing a mind conducive for self expanding conscious awareness and trusting in the universe to support enlightenment
Explains a lot regarding the perspective of which people can have multiple personalities or dual mental capacity of thought processing, of which some people are able to tell a story as by ‘an act’: Of which like a joke is the ability to arrange words in such a nature… to take a situation and turn it into ‘humor’. However some will have g to he ability to make a lie appear as truth… as by the choice of words in a falsified arrangement.
Teal, you probably don't have time to get around to answering all the comments, but I've listened to almost all of your videos, and agree with you on many, if not most things because I am of the same consciousness, but different in being a man. I used to end up relying on the feminine for healing (the nature of nurture being feminine, not deliberately) but recently realized that I have had to tune back into the masculine in order to lead myself out of shame. I've started a men's group and have been guiding other men out of direct atunement with the feminine to find their core. There is such thing as too much or even "toxic" femininity. I know you are not. Many of us men these days are raised by ourselves, media, women or soft men and have no hardship, or right of passage into the world of men, and no spiritual guide elders. Thank you for filling the void. I see the feminine movement as a direct rebuttal to the thread of toxic masculinity at the heart of the patriarchy, and it becomes a complex path for a man to walk, but a necessary fight, as we are all now called to becoming "integrated" in essense - tuning into, and respecting both the masculine and feminine identity. One thing I've heard you say, which I am working on, is that the people we love will reflect back what and how we make them feel. What I found though, is that when we find our center, we no longer are powerless to reflect back the pain that others project onto us, and thus break the cycle of shame, blame, abuse, etc. so that each can rise up to their true calling and focus on sharing their gifts with the world. I see you are doing that. I appreciate you.
Thank you so much for sharing this, Teal! I would call this Practical Ways to Learn to Really "BE the Change We Wish to See our the World" or maybe it could be better said, "BECOME the Change we wish to see our the world", which is far more easier said than done... :) Here is some poetry that resonates with this that I wrote the last few years.: In seeing in you what is so much in me I enable myself to truly be able to see The contrast of what I most prefer to really be From that which I can sometimes so wish to flee. It’s learning to accept, embrace and love all of that me Choosing more clearly to define what I most wish to be And focusing all my attention on what I wish most to see In the sacred space of my Heart where all is infinitely free. We are all one Infinite We Within our own individual Me. Yet we have one another to truly be able to see What we came here to live out and re-member to BE In this YOUniversity of Earth where we learn again to be FREE In dreaming up and recreating anew our own “WE Within Me” And then to finally choose to step back into and BE Through this ride of Life we have chosen to come experientially see!!! So who then are We, if not to BE Our Greatest We that We can Be Expressing Through our Only Me? -- Charles I hope it will bless someone out there too... :) Many Blessings to everyone (((♥))) Charles
The only thing that triggers me is people being horrible to me out of nowhere. That always upsets me a lot. But people just randomly being loud or lazy or something, I don't care.
Teal! Thank you so much. I asked this question this past week, and as a beautiful synchronicity, you have answered! Thank you so much. I'm getting to work here ;D much love to you and fam. Can't wait to meet you at Miami Synchronization Workshop! ;*
The three faces of Eve is a wonderful movie that just remembered. Old film, well made. The protagonist had three sides of herself, each being unaware of the other parts (denied).
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She's got a lot of psych wisdom. One of the best psych teachers on the internet. Period. And I've watched most. I'm also a lifelong counselor. LISTEN. Shalom.
Corporate Robot Slave yes. She definitely is. But someone has to be ready for the knowledge at her level.
Do you have any recommendations for me to watch like teal swan?
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shalom
In last couple of years, i have noticed where ever i go people are talking behind my back. They are judging me for my actions. Now i realised, it is not them. Its me who was critizing myself. And when i stopped that, everything is back to normal.. hope this helps to someone.
It really did! Thank you for the reminder.
It is so important to free ourselves from suffering.
She did more therapy on this video than a therapist in a year of sessions
I love my therapist but she really hits the spot and explains emotions on such a good level.
Hahaha for sure!! And all this for free 🙏
She’s hit the nail on the head in so many issues it’s unreal I’m so grateful for all of her talks she’s a savior
honestly, it depends on your therapist. cbt are most common, but they have a diferent view on things. if you want someone similar to teal, try gestalt, humanist, existenstencialst etc
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when i was younger i was going through identity crisis and i was also unconsciously people pleaser. i recall moments where i was called a “copycat”. and part of me knew i was but not intentionally but in a sense that i was exploring things but at the same time people pleasing. thinking about it right now it’s not a good combination. so those words like “copycat” made me more confused about myself and i’ve put people on pedestal that everyone is original except me. it felt unfair to me because a side of me thinks everything is learned from someone else. i had a friendship wherein i find myself putting myself in a rescuer role and always thought of myself as the strong and wise friend back then, only to realize overtime that i don’t really know what i’m saying or advicing to others or this friend in particular. overtime i felt that my world had revolve around her to the point that i felt crazy and that she is perfect and everyone around us loves her no matter what. having a tendency not to see myself it consumed me always analyzing if im the one copying or influenced by her or am i the one influencing her. i want it to be the latter but i hate that everything that she does is remembered and mine is not even if it’s something similar about us. interacting with her i felt drained, envious feelings arise, i feel in competitive mode around her. there are also times where internally i try to look for her flaws just to validate how i feel but even her imperfections registered to me as perfect. it made me feel that i had to be like her to be accepted. i kept all of it to myself because i know it’s about my feelings and insecurities. i also have the urge to get to the point of staying around her and trying to prove myself that i can stat around her without feeling any of those unpleasant feelings. however, i got really exhausted. i managed to distance myself as i’m aware all this is about me and also i don’t like feeling that way anymore. however, i feel traumatized with the whole experience. that every time i see her on my social media i feel threatened again and afraid of seeing her again everywhere.
in the present i’m more capable of being true to myself and needs unlike before where it’s always about getting to know what other people like and keeping my interests or thoughts to myself. but i still want to overcome this feeling and not feel threatened or envious or competitive or not unique whenever i see her. i don’t have anything against but i just want to under why i feel certain things with her in particular and how can i move past the trauma. i want to know if it’s just incompatibility between us that i’m convincing myself otherwise and cabt accept? is it possible for two people to not do anything bad to each other but the interaction bring out the worst in one or another or each other? one thing about me before is that i thought i can love just about anyone and just accepting everything. now i don’t think that way anymore i realize the essence of compatibility now. but i still can’t help but try to understand and justify me walking away from the friendship i mentioned because i know those feelings are mine and most i see on social media about envy being in a tone of “oh youre just insecure” amplifies the urge to search for more answers that make sense. i really want to know that it’s not just me who’s causing this feeling.
Someone told me my videos were like watching Teal Swan's grandmother, so I had to check her out. I'm impressed by her level of focus and preparation.
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I'm reflecting upon your videos. It saddens me deeply that we are all so far away from being our authentic selves. Though we are far away, you are helping us get closer. The closer I get the more I feel I can breath, The more I feel I can love. The growing pains are worth everything. These videos have given me so much understanding. An Understanding that I would have died for and thought that I would never have.
💙 Forever grateful.
wooow,awesome 🙏
Thank God you exist, Teal. I just wanna to say think you. I wanna to scream it because the feeling of Gratitude is so intense, I must scream it.
I'll say again, thank you Teal. You're literaly saving my life. The knowledge you're sharing is showing me how to find my negatives aspects, so I can overcome my abusive childhood and my trumas.
Thank you Teal, I want to cry, It's really intense. Thank you so much. Thank you for existing. Thank you.
You're saving my life. The feeling I have is that I'm lucky that you exist and everything is the way it is so I can learn with you. I feel some insecurity and fear that thinkgs was not the way it is, so I can't watch your videos. I don't know. I don't have words to express what I'm feeling. I WANT TO SCREAM THE LOUDEST I CAN HOW GRATEFUL I AM!
Teal, thank you. If weren't you, I would be lost. Thank you Teal. Thank you. Thank God you escaped from those mad guys that tortured you, man, I don't know this feeling. Worry and fear, if you weren't there.
Thank you Teal. I would like to have a chance to return it because it's so intense what I'm feeling. Thank you is the word that is inside my hear I want to scream the loudest.
I want you to know that you saved my life. I'm transforming myself to a better person.
Thank you Teal from the deep of my heart. Thank you.
My mother has projected a lot of her fears, insecurities and harmful beliefs onto me that has harmed and hurt me.
Today I can see it for what it is and help myself and heal and hopefully forgive her so we are both free. Thank you for sharing
I love listening to what you have to say. It’s like finally finding someone who you can relate to. You put it so nicely and clearly into words.
I have found that playing with stuffed animals is a great way to see how you are projecting your emotions onto people. It is surprising how much I was projecting!
This comment is old, but I don't understand how you played to see the projection, teach me please!
@@nicoledoubleyou I assume she / he means that during roleplay with stuffed animals you must assume some personality for them. And by doing so you can see what traits you associate with others.
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@@fxxalaba3836 proof?
This is a difficult concept to get ones head around. Thank you Teal for explaing it so well; simply and with compassion.
Your videos are again helping me so much, and I can't wait to use this knowledge to empower others 😊
"In a cinema hall, you look at the screen, you never look at the back--the projector is at the back. The film is not there really on the screen; it is just a projection of shadow and light. The film exists just at the back, but you never look at that. And the projector is there. Your mind/ego is at the back of the whole thing, and the mind is the projector. But you always look at the other, because the other is the screen.
When you are in love the person seems beautiful, no comparison. When you hate, the same person seems the ugliest, and you never become aware of how the same person can be the ugliest and the same person can be the most beautiful.... So the only way to reach to truth is to learn how to be immediate in your vision, how to drop the help of the mind/ego. This agency of the mind/ego is the problem, because mind/ego can create only illusions/fears....
Through your excitement the illusion/fear starts looking like reality. If you are too excited then you are intoxicated, then you are not in your senses. Then whatsoever you see is just your projection. And there are as many worlds as there are minds, because every mind/ego lives in his own world". Osho
Subconscious mind projects on another person/screen and then we are able to see who we are, by observing the reflection of our mind. We are the source of the light or the shadow we are projecting.
Why we need another person in this process? Because he or she acts as a mirror. Mirror/screen doesn't do anything, except for reflecting back projected image. You might like or hate the reflection of yourself in the mirror, but that is a different topic.
Projections we make, become noticeable, if we are self aware. Seeing our own reflection in the mirror, will teach us more about ourselves. Take advantage of this benefit, when interacting with people.
Right on Teal!
Nice...
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Hate is a strong word. I’ve never hated anyone. I have wanted people
to leave me alone.
The projector illustration is what I thought of, also. When I was watching this.
Wise. I had a realizing a long time ago, that personal psychological emptiness: is actually self-abandonment. I'm not really sure how it struck me, just came spontaneously. It's like you've rejected yourself so successfully, that your spirit can't stand to live in you (or is forced to hide itself from you).
So right
You beautifully gather the bulk of information into a 20 mins video and it is so damn good actually it gets better all the time. Thank you so much for these videos.
This is why I listen more then I speak. Human nature is HUMAN nature. People worse fears are facing their own demons in other people. Let that sink in. I know my WORTH & I PROTECT IT
This is pretty complicated in the way it works itself out, but I like the way she breaks it down.
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Thank you SO MUCH, Teal. I really really appreciate your Saturday morning talks. They have helped me realize so many things and I have made progress in my recovery from past mistakes and traumas. This video hits especially at the root of how I can work on myself some more and to understand why I react so strongly to certain things in others. Again, I thank you ! 🙂♊️♉️♏️💕☮️
Never have i heard such a simple, logic and round explanation of projection. Thank you so much, Teal!
Im going hard on the mercury retrograde shadow work already... thank you for your video!! Im taking notes and I've done quite a few exercises. You are incredible! You open my eyes and the psychology view you have is perfect for shadow work! Studying psychology on my own was how I found my spirituality and then found you and the other resources available. Thank you for your work! You are truly beautiful inside and out! Everyone has a subconscious and you know what you're doing and know how to overcome yours. It really shows. Blessed be.
My God!! I think this is the most important video I've seen this week..thank you
me too!!
3:42 stab through the heart. Wow.. I never realized until now. All of it is true. This is why I subscribed, it opens more lanes in my mind to travel through.
Mateeee, I was annoyed at work today because of lazy people but I was projecting. I used to just listen to these videos without doing the work but now 👌 IM READY! ❤️❤️❤️ Thank you Teal!
Why were you projecting? Sometimes we do have colleges who are not doing what they agreed to and have excuses right? Not everything is a projection right?
This is freakin amazing Teal. So simple but yet difficult to understand. The keys that you are handing out to me are huge. I am so grateful for your messages because they help me to clarify, to love me more, to meet others in a whole new way.
Thank you so much.
I love you.
What a wonderful blessing Teal is to the world. Before I found Teal on the internet, and before I watched any of her videos, I was so full of anger and rage regarding a 'circumstance' , that seemed to keep cycling over and over. After watching several of her videos and doing the practice she teaches in "Healing The Emotional Body", I can't even believe the difference I feel today, from before I began these exercises. She is so 'dead on' when she says to go towards that part of you that you have been avoiding, and when you do that, and heal that part of your inner self, you begin to feel relief more and more....You begin to realize that these 'unhealed parts' of yourself, are most likely what you have been 'projecting' onto everyone else....
That is exactly how I feel actually ! I'm so truly blessed and grateful that I've found her channel! In the right moment at the right time! Universe truly has the most perfect imagination :)
+Fox Tail Wonderful!!
I have been looking for a clear description all over the web. this is super clear! Thanks a lot!
I find it remarkable that, especially lately, that the very thing I have been pondering the days before your video discusses. It's a nice connection or the Universe's way of bringing clarity. Pretty awesome♡ Thank you lovely, Teal ♡
I meant to place a comma between before and your. It doesn't make much sense without it, lol
I have been experiencing this also :) it is gratifying.
Me too. It really is awesome how it works with such amazing synchronicity...
+Marie Thomas Ooooor It's just the psychological effect of selective perception. ;-)
To become whole again we have to see and accept the aspects of ourselves that we disowned. WOW! That is going to be with me for the rest of my life... ❤
This phycology is extra relevant during covid. I feel like cutting off so many people. The social media projecting is so excessive
Her explanation proving that we are all connected. I never thought that I could stumble on a better explanation of what im doing in my life subconsciously.
Teal thank you for your wisdom, Philosophy, spiritual etc. I enjoy listening to your powerful massages almost everyday. You are my hero.
You are the earth angel, a chosen one the one who helped so many ppl who were stuck. I wish you and all the team well in doing what you doing and helping millions of people including me! Thank you❤
This is one of the most helpful videos I've seen Teal I love you
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Living this NOW in my relationship. Thanks Teal! Always on time! :)
i fall in love easily. it can be any age, race, occupation, and yes both sexes. these crushes are overwhelming, exciting and hurtful. for some reason i also have sabatoged every one of these crushes if i feel that crush or love is returned to me. i am kinda old now and still do not understand this mechanism or if this is projection. in each crush i have idolized, adored, and worshipped the person. i keep most of these emotions to myself. hell i dont even know if it is projection.
+Linda Kloss Watch the horror film AntiViral. It is the depiction of self rejection and the worship of celebrities. Never reject your own body. When we have a crush we reject ourselves. A crush is not love. I have been there done that. Love, love, love your own body and mind. Check out what Dr. Kristin Neff says about self forgiveness. Teal talks about that as well. When we had been hurt in childhood we grow up to believe that we were at fault for that hurt which results in guilt and self hate. We can heal that.
+Linda Kloss i did so ,but i have never really found my match and like you i 'm kinda of old now (50) and i'm like the hell i no more care .Now i love me;,that 's the most important thing right now .
The Buddha talks about finding love this way (I'm paraphrasing):
when you meet somebody and your heart pounds, your hands shake, your knees go week, that is NOT the one. When you meet your soul mate, you'll feel calm. No anxiety. No agitation.
Linda Kloss
I wouldn’t call that projection. I would it a way to protect yourself.
I’ve done it but not for that reason. I’ve done it because when you
see someone you can’t get your eyes off and are infatuated with
that person, sometimes you want to keep it like that if you start
feeling down. It’s like this person almost isn’t human and you never
want to change that, for feeling you won’t survive, especially if you
know you’ll never run across that type of infatuation ever again, and
you know it’s once in a lifetime thing.
traviswall1982 true that
I have a problem with laziness. I become very judgemental when someone is lazy... And at the same time, some days i just wish to lie down on the couch and do nothing, but i don't let myself do that, cause it was not allowed for me to be lazy as a child and i would be shamed and punished for that. I'm so hard on myself, i have to be busy all the time: read a book, clean the home, work on my personal development, start a side hustle.. It's crazy. Lazy=shameful in my book. I have to rewrite this chapter.
I was writing the comment before you started speaking about laziness... And bam... Laziness is the example topic in this video. So useful for me
I have never disagreed with her videos until this one. I give and give to people. As soon as I decided to set boundaries and not allow people to dump on me whenever they want, people started doing things to intentionally hurt me.
This is true inner reflection. Between developing your communication skills and using this projection as knowing yourself better. I am a human being so it takes work daily to not go backwards and stay in the present
This video answered all my problems! And this video was the only one that truly helped me. My friend called me out for projecting and ever since I couldn't get it out of my head. Even though the things I sad were not only relevant to me but to her as well since I know her pretty well and we mirror each other. But I don't think we will be friends for a long time since a lot of differences came out and I am constantly changing to better and don't want to be held back by her negative traits I was trying to solve for many years.
One of the best videos I have ever seen. :-) Thank you Teal!
You must really know what ppl need because this was right on the money... Totally could have used this video a day ago, but very helpful as always...
Most of the time, when I accuse someone of projection, it is when I am viewing a conversation between two people, normally online, and it is clear (from what they both have said, up until that point) that the person doing the accusing is projecting their own (normally negative) personality traits onto the other person.
When it happens to you, you might mistakenly accuse someone of projection, as you may not be aware of some of your own (suppressed) personality traits, but if a neutral observer accuses you of projection, there is a good chance that is exactly what you are doing.
Yep, I see this quite a bit online. I'm part of a Facebook group and one user went out of her way to hurt the admin. I told her that what she did was not nice and she accused me of being childish and rude. If you were to look at the conversation, it was blatant and obvious that she was projecting her own characteristics onto me. Not sure if she got triggered. Even others told her that what she said was not nice.
@@dustysparkle2429 you were a match to that experience. I think everything in this video should certainly still apply online lmao
@@dustysparkle2429 on a real level, going out of your way to tell someone their not being nice, is probably a low level expression of the same. You are putting someone else in their place (what im doing rn, again reflecting that same projection) often the best play is to leave it be. Sometimes it isn’t. Really depends. It was probably a chance for you to notice something about yourself. You will have ample opportunity as will I. Self awareness is the most important step though.
“It IS within me…” so powerful
Thank you for this Teal, perfect timing, needed this right now! :)
Thank you Teal, this was so much needed!
Thank you for this.. It was absolutely amazing and on point. I have learned how to utilize projection as a positive aspect and I've never felt more whole in my life. xoxo
Another spot-on share dear Teal! I've been on my journey to wholeness - to re-integration for some time now. I have embraced the wisdom of many teachers, especially the one in my heart ... and I must share that you seem to pull it all together so succinctly - so fully - clearly - wonderfully - magically! Your Spirituality 2.0 and 3.0 shares, for example, should be core curriculum in public schools (following 101 of course...:) Imagine that world! Imagine the world where adults who embrace and love themselves their wholeness invite newborns into an environment that honors their wholeness - holding it sacred. Imagine a world where folks create from a state of wholeness - that is the garden - what we can create right now. It is no accident that you are doing what you are doing right now Teal - this share on projection - so freaking on target and so important! - so clear - so, so important for folks to embrace and take ownership of - we must take back the power that we have stolen from ourselves. I am so full of appreciation for what you are doing Teal - and me too :)
love the opportunity to see the pattern in myself. given me a whole new outlook on how my behavior my attitude and my ruminating on things that really don't mean much and the long-term affect my daily and hourly and minute what time wasted but some valuable lessons ,thanks Tealyou rock
I see that you have a brode perspective on many subjects. You see things on a different level than just logical. But still it all makes sense.
Thanks for the video.
This is a really great discussion of projection, thanks :)
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Really interesting video, nice and clear. Projective identification is also part of this as we sometimes introject what is projected onto us, even if it is outside our own awareness and then end up playing this out even though it belongs to the other person. We tend to absorb what’s around us.
One of the most helpful episodes in a while.
defenitely
WOW you are fast becoming one of my favourite channels ever. I don't agree with everything you say but you definitely do provide perspective and insights that i never considered.
At 12:20 she says: "These aspects that you despise in other people are always a reflection of yourself. These are attributes that you have suppressed." Hmmmm, I can't really agree with that one. Yes, absolutely much of the time that is the case, but I wouldn't say always. Is a kind-hearted person who despises cruelty in others necessarily suppressing cruelty within themselves? In some cases perhaps, but not always. I think it can absolutely be a matter of truth to strongly reject unacceptable behavior. Sometimes that rejection maybe indeed be from a place of projection. Other times it's appropriate and from a place of balance within, which is not accepting imbalance without.
I think words make difficult to explain ambiguous things. I think there's a pure state of reaction that is related to a state of authenticity that doesn't necessarily express something that we "supress" and, on the other side, there are reactions that are a result from modifications to our emotional system and we end up projecting those things... (sick feelings that are related to beliefs and it's what this video is about).
I'm going to give a religious example because I don't remember another one: When Jesus drove the merchants from the temple - the known example to express the pure anger. He was purely mad with that. Just as you said " a kind-hearted person who despises cruelty in others is necessarily supressing cruelty within themselves?" I think of course not, that person is affected with the suffering that those cruel people inflict on others. Purely mad with that. It comes from Empathy and understanding. Not necessarily affected on her EGO with the cruel people themselves. I think the feeling that Teal is trying to approach here is a sick feeling of denial (that secretly has an issue within us) that I believe it's different from a authentic feeling of anger towards the bad guy mixed compassion towards the opressed (your example). But a kind-hearted person will automatically feel compassion towards the bad guy, besides the anger that feels at first, right? or not?
I'm not sure if I made my point... And also I feel myself being contradictory! I'm not sure about what I'm saying. If we create our own reality, we are constantly projecting... or not? better asking: about the enlightened person, does that person have a conscience of creating their reality or is like the buddhists say "in the 3th level of consciousness the hills and the vales are again the hills and the vales and the subject doesn't create the reality anymore". And this last part is me expecting from you an answer, because I know who you are :) at least on youtube !
Yes I think that's right Helennah, that words are limiting in trying to explain these types of topics. And I'm sure that Teal would have a more expanded view on that if discussed more in-depth, because she never has a black-and-white perspective on these matters....that's an interesting Buddhist quote, I'll have to think about it!
Agreed, Gabriel. Not always
I feel like Teal really hit this one on the head and that any strong negative emotion we experience in life, especially with "others", is ultimately us (Our Higher Self et all) trying to get our own attention to show ourselves something deep and profound for us. In a way I feel Teal is expressing in this video what I would call Practical Ways to Learn to Really "BE the Change We Wish to See in the World" or maybe it could be better said, "BECOME the Change we wish to see in the world", which is far more easier said than done, because of this 3D illusion of thinking we are all separated. At the same time this is all part of our great adventure experience here too. :)
Interesting discussion, Gabriel, Mrs. Helennah and Marie...
I understand your point, Gabriel. I feel "always a reflection of yourself" is a broad phrase that can be interpreted in many ways. Like how do we each define "self"? To me, Who I am in the all that I am includes who you ALL are in the all that you are, because We are all One. I like to call it "Our One Infinite WE Within Our Individual Me". We are each the infinite All experiencing ourselves as fractal parts. And part of that being all one means that we share this "separate" 3D experience at least in part to see within each other our own blind spots to learn, grow and ultimately expand the universe of all that is (that we all are... :) So in that light it makes so much sense to me. But if I think of one of my own reflections in some others I still haven't worked through completely, I fall back into "separation", that my Heart tells me when I listen is like cutting off a piece of my self.
So to despise something we observe in another is to judge them; and despising and judging them is despising and judging our own selves too from another point of view. I think of the analogy of when "I" point the finger at someone, if I look at my hand I can see 3 other fingers pointing back at me. So why do we judge ourselves? It's not about beating ourselves up, but really about discovering a new area within us individually where Love has been blocked out of us subconsciously. This is so much of what this human adventure is all about, at least from my experiential point of view... :)
Thank you all for being you,
Which shows me more of myself too,
From an another point of view...
Much Love from the heart (((♥)))
Charles
***** Yes, well said.
Me looking at the computer screen in saying "Oh God" in disgust and contempt when Ms. Swan reveals the absolute truth.
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I don't know why but I feel like lately your videos match exact to the questions I have been asking the universe .... Thank you Teal
its been 2 years of mind/body psychology physiology and neurology followed by 8 years of many distorted researching and im still baffled by the many layers of damage my childhood effected me from toxic shame to emotional numbness driving me to the edge of despair and addiction to misanthropy and Antinatalism to weak boundaries and need of validation to the false self and identity disturbance and loneliness causing regression of mental cognitions just one hellish spiral of traumas that i cant connect the beginning from end , we are definitely not evolved , humanity is like a deeply wounded lost child … we dont even grasp how to not poison relationships and enmesh boundaries like psychopaths does , we are really good at mutilating not nurturing i bet billions of people never wrestled with questions of what the child need because of they did it will be a mass era of grieving on our lost humanity followed by extinction or at least crumbling of the current institutions of the economical system its just too much for a child to go through that process and stay in one piece
so true
I wanted to share something about projection.
What I do not accept of others, I do not accept of myself. True!
I do not accept people lying to me and I do not accept it of myself to lie to others.
But the question is, can I forgive myself, if I ever did that?
If yes, then I can forgive others.
Especially if it wasn’t intended or there was a real good reason to do so.
Still being able to forgive myself or others, still doesn’t make it right.
It just makes it understandable.
Teal is the essence of chill
Dennis Bayazitov lolol
Seeing abunch of videos so treat projecting as a negitive thing and not talk about the reasons why made it feel worse seeing this video and taking notes was really hard but that tells me that i am willing to learn those aspects in myself and change the way i treat others and to be able to feel more complete and more of a compassionate person being told that i project in such a negative way knowing that those same people telling me this doesnt realize its a coping mechanism and a truama response and the fact its completely unconscious hurts a lot more than it should
I love your videos. They are so helpful and the topics are always right on point..
Also, I just want to say how very much I appreciate the fact that you don't feel compelled to accompany your teachings with some sort of music. Everything about your video messages is so nice and "clean," and I feel because of that the message itself can therefore come through so much more clearly (figuratively as well as literally).
Listening to this gave me an instant energy shift.
Maybe. Or we just are too willing to let go of control over our own wellbeing and therefore give too much power&importance to the idea of necessarily beimg in love as in movies
This is entertaining, well delivered, and a textbook example of how effective mind control techniques can be. All the important boxes have been ticked with a check mark. Here we have an intelligent, pretty, white woman, delivering a dose of truth with fiction, and the amount of positive commentary I have seen here proves that it's working.
Bravo Teal Swan! No doubt you are very good at what you do, but the sweeping statement: "These aspects that you despise in other people are always a reflection of yourself. These are attributes that you have suppressed." just ain't so! And that is easy to prove with two words: "Racism" and "Rape".
Any educated person knows that it is impossible for a person of color, especially a black person, to be racist. They can't be racist because racism requires a systemic component. Anyone who doesn't understand that will have to educate themselves, as I am not going to digress. Since they cannot be racist, people of color are not projecting when they are directing anger at white racists. That notion is simply absurd.
It is equally absurd to suggest that men who despise rapists also secretly desire to rape women! The thought of raping a woman has never crossed my mind; not even in fantasy! I am not projecting by hating men who abuse women. I am sure there are other examples as well, but these are the first that came to mind. Life is a lot more complex than your wonderful narrative here would have us believe.
This makes a lot of sense to me. Thank you. Working on this for sure.
So if I think that you are really beautiful...it actually means...that I'm beautiful? Cool ;)
Ye, thnx.
+Sbeast we fall in love when we see a trait in some1 we like but in some way we have denied in ourselves
+brenda gomez Hehe thanks Brenda :)
you're a potato
i'm a potato
We're all potatoes :D
I hate the alcoholism in the guy I have a crush on. He falls asleep drunk and wakes up with vivid memories of things that never happened in real life and has accused me of saying things I've never said, like talking about other (better) men in my life. I'm not and never have been addicted to any drugs. If anything, I was addicted to this guy, but I never made up stories to ruin our relationship. He's angry at me now and hasn't said a kind word to me in many months. I don't see any of these qualities in myself. I'd like to get over him and don't know why it's so hard.
You want to "fix" him, be the one who helps him become the better version of himself.u see his potential and feel if you stick around, don't give up hope on him that he will 1 day wakeup and see how great you are and how much u care about him and helped him and he will become this super amazing man that u already know he is and yall will skip off into the sunset together. Been there done that. It never works...no matter how much u pour yourself into this man, neglect your own desires in life bc helping him will become the #1 TOP priority. You'll only lose yourself and have your spirit crushed in the process.
Dear Teal, you always point on topics that bother me right now. Thanks an good luck for you!
to Gabriel Kundalini…even for a kind-hearted sincere person…..his response to the cruel person definitely is a teaching for himself. A truly kind-hearted person has probably traveled through being cruel in his life. His shadow has become his gift. Now he can share/"teach"/be with the cruel person in a way that no other can. But yes, if one despises, I agree with Teal, that is about yourself. Probably you are not free of your own cruelity.
Perfect explanation, Teal. I've been looking for an answer to this question for quite a while
I'm an aquarius born into a family of capricorns. There was one another aquarius in my family which is my mother who was pushed out the family by the time I was seven. I hardly knew my mom but I was constantly compared to her unfavorably my entire childhood. When I got out of the house I was constantly being paired up with capricorn women especially at work. From what I can tell the biggest difference between capricorns and aquarius people is capricorns take pride in gaining power within established systems whereas aquarius people take pride in being different. Most of the friction between capricorns and me is that I can't be myself around them. I don't see how I can be like them in ways I find unnerving about them.
That's a very clear explanation of projection. Projection is self-preservation? Self-awareness is not for those that wat to avoid pain, but I think it is more painful not to be self-aware. Yes, we project more when we are young, but we grow up and just accept others more. My son wanted me to watch your videos and so I am. I'm very pleasantly surprised at how practical and down to earth your work is.
Best explanation of projection EVAR! Thank you ❤
What an incredibly important video. You described everything perfectly and this has truly helped me, thank you.
Very timely for me to come across this. Something I have been contemplating and trying to understand more about. It helped a lot in clarifying things for me. Thank you!
So many different views and beliefs. No wonder people are so confused
I think it's because we are trying too hard to understand everything. We would be less confused if we stopped trying to understand every little aspect about human behavior and thought.. I believe it is actually doing more harm than good but we won't see that for decades.
Nickles inMinecraft information overload
The thing I most like about shadow work is its simplicity. Of course, con$umeri$m has to dress it up as a whole lot more complicated than it is. Also, a consumerist society is indoctrinated with shame/inferiority to make self reflection unbearable...and it sells us a tacky, half-arsed, pain free "solution". It is simple. But don't confuse simple with comfortable/easy!
That's not a bad thing dan, imagine what richness beauty and unity of we all understood each others' beliefs without judgment to better understand ours, integrated them, became more flexible...
HI Teal, Thank you for those words. Every day i'm learning something new, and i can agree
on the things you said. Thank you so much. Pretoria, South Africa
I learned a method of projecting a long time ago while I was a body builder, which is as follows. Look in the mirror at the gym and look at your body and project on yourself what you want to look like. I set goals and worked out; I also changed my eating habits; and I took protein and other supplements. It was interesting to note, that my body changed into what I wanted. I would submit then, if you want specific things, then you could project them and make them happen.
You are amazing . Thank you I really appreciate the videos that you given out today! I had a dream about this video couple weeks ago and I was expecting it! There was something I needed to hear! And you did just that! Special Thanks with love, my dear sister!
Miss the old Teal❤
Thank you Teal. Very powerful guidance. God help us as they say, if we choose to apply it.
I hate how judgmental I am and I freak myself out and get really angry and mad at myself with my mind and it feels like every one else is better than me but every once in a while I just get so over it I just let go somehow and experience other peoples perspectives where I become more aware of truth I would have rather not known... In other words I feel like my mind either expands or contracts and it feels better to expand or be more of yourself/conscious in general of life and self... for me my biggest problem is something I think I am just not aware of yet :) and I will only understand or know when I just become more conscious... YOUR TECHNIQUES and Insight Is very helpful in cultivating and developing a mind conducive for self expanding conscious awareness and trusting in the universe to support enlightenment
min 6:52 I fell in love with extra pathos list and the way she laughed to that ahhhaahahhaahh
Explains a lot regarding the perspective of which people can have multiple personalities or dual mental capacity of thought processing, of which some people are able to tell a story as by ‘an act’:
Of which like a joke is the ability to arrange words in such a nature… to take a situation and turn it into ‘humor’.
However some will have g to he ability to make a lie appear as truth… as by the choice of words in a falsified arrangement.
Primary socialization and secondary socialization learned it watching a sociology video! Helps to understand those two.
Oh My … something.
This is the perfect … clarity of the Biblical teaching.
This was a true eye opener for me...thank you 💕
Wow, all Teal's videos are good but this one is profound. Thank you so much.
what attracts me is not the Topic, but your attraction.
Such a concise and fundamental video. Thank you kindly you, are marvelous.
I've just stumbled upon your channel through this video. Thank you so much for this. Very clear and useful.
To TEAL... Thank you for this platform where we can help each other solve issues. Good project you have done.
Teal, you probably don't have time to get around to answering all the comments, but I've listened to almost all of your videos, and agree with you on many, if not most things because I am of the same consciousness, but different in being a man. I used to end up relying on the feminine for healing (the nature of nurture being feminine, not deliberately) but recently realized that I have had to tune back into the masculine in order to lead myself out of shame. I've started a men's group and have been guiding other men out of direct atunement with the feminine to find their core. There is such thing as too much or even "toxic" femininity. I know you are not. Many of us men these days are raised by ourselves, media, women or soft men and have no hardship, or right of passage into the world of men, and no spiritual guide elders. Thank you for filling the void. I see the feminine movement as a direct rebuttal to the thread of toxic masculinity at the heart of the patriarchy, and it becomes a complex path for a man to walk, but a necessary fight, as we are all now called to becoming "integrated" in essense - tuning into, and respecting both the masculine and feminine identity. One thing I've heard you say, which I am working on, is that the people we love will reflect back what and how we make them feel. What I found though, is that when we find our center, we no longer are powerless to reflect back the pain that others project onto us, and thus break the cycle of shame, blame, abuse, etc. so that each can rise up to their true calling and focus on sharing their gifts with the world. I see you are doing that. I appreciate you.
Thank you so much for sharing this, Teal! I would call this Practical Ways to Learn to Really "BE the Change We Wish to See our the World" or maybe it could be better said, "BECOME the Change we wish to see our the world", which is far more easier said than done... :)
Here is some poetry that resonates with this that I wrote the last few years.:
In seeing in you what is so much in me
I enable myself to truly be able to see
The contrast of what I most prefer to really be
From that which I can sometimes so wish to flee.
It’s learning to accept, embrace and love all of that me
Choosing more clearly to define what I most wish to be
And focusing all my attention on what I wish most to see
In the sacred space of my Heart where all is infinitely free.
We are all one Infinite We
Within our own individual Me.
Yet we have one another to truly be able to see
What we came here to live out and re-member to BE
In this YOUniversity of Earth where we learn again to be FREE
In dreaming up and recreating anew our own “WE Within Me”
And then to finally choose to step back into and BE
Through this ride of Life we have chosen to come experientially see!!!
So who then are We, if not to BE
Our Greatest We that We can Be
Expressing Through our Only Me?
-- Charles
I hope it will bless someone out there too... :)
Many Blessings to everyone (((♥)))
Charles
Thanks Charles- I hope you are still writing :)
This is such a valuable life lesson
The only thing that triggers me is people being horrible to me out of nowhere. That always upsets me a lot. But people just randomly being loud or lazy or something, I don't care.
Good one 💚
Teal! Thank you so much. I asked this question this past week, and as a beautiful synchronicity, you have answered! Thank you so much. I'm getting to work here ;D much love to you and fam. Can't wait to meet you at Miami Synchronization Workshop! ;*
Simply the best video I've seen this month...thanks a ton!😚
Finnely a Clear explanation and how to use it
Thanks !🥰
The three faces of Eve is a wonderful movie that just remembered. Old film, well made. The protagonist had three sides of herself, each being unaware of the other parts (denied).
Wow amazing... I'm lost for words and looking forward to the discovery.