What I love so much about this podcast/Eamon & Bec is how genuinely real they are. They don’t just share authentically; they somehow always seem to expand on and give comments/answers to exactly what I’m still wondering or want to hear. It’s so fulfilling to hear them voice the thoughts and questions many of us have but rarely get fully addressed. Unlike other conversations that sometimes leave key points unsaid or glossed over, they dive in and cover everything you hope they will-and it feels so satisfying when topics are explored that completely.
I wanted to say that I really appreciate this comment, and find it so refreshing, as this is where my mind was at listening to this episode and was very surprised by what I found in the comments ❤️
Eamon, I think you are dyslexic, which it can be “humorous “ but I think it’s important to know it’s how your brain function with letters/ words/ information… it doesn’t come in the same way in your brain especially phonics. 90% of ADHD / ADD have struggles with learning difference/ disabilities. Bec, these things are developmental, rewiring the brain is not possible to make it like yours, a brain you seem to think is superior. Please be careful with mocking people that deal with these things, ADHD and Dyslexia are real are have challenges you do not understand and seem not to want to understand. I find this a disappointing side of your personality and I am concerned with how you will handle these developmental differences and disabilities in Frankie, which ADHD/ ADD and dyslexia are inherited… learn about these things before you continue mocking Eamon. He would not say it hurts him, ADHD and dyslexia has taught him to be “tough “ but it does, it has always hurt and root pain does not go away without processing. Furthermore meditation, though good is not for everyone, meditation can look very different for different people. We Eamon is in his zone he is in meditative state, a state you will never know. And let him scratch his nose… stop with being hyper-healer it’s not you- you are in denial Or trapped in toxic positivity and it’s starting to show. What I witness here was on the edge of abusive… Bec you are so controlling and Eamon you need to a boundaries to protect yourself, salt least protect the child in you that is still hurt by the mocking. This was a sad show.
Eamon, your introduction to parenthood was traumatic. Becoming a parent is challenging enough, but you 2 were faced with extremely stressful life events on top of it. Give yourself some grace. You are both doing an amazing job❤ Signed a mama of 2
And to Bec: trying to be perfect ruins our bodies 😯🙁 I know from experience Let Eamon be who he is! and you Bec are more than enough just the way you are 💕
This is coming from my heart, and from teaching in the classroom for decades and witnessing the incredible diversity of how we exist as humans in my students. BEC I don't think you mean it but it seems like you keep coming back to a perspective with a huge load of judgement when you think and talk about Eamon wanting to be with and around (lots of) other people. You're telling Eamon he needs to experience life and solitude and reflection the way you do to be fulfilled and self actualized. It's great to encourage self-reflection, everyone can benefit from that but choosing to be with other people in person is NOT necessarily a negation or avoidance of self-reflection. Some people are wired as extroverts. Interaction FEEDS THEM. Because of the WAY-THEY-ARE at the core, it actually elevates them. It isn't a lacking, its a difference. If that level of human interaction doesn't feed you, you're not the same level of extrovert. That doesn't make you less either, it makes you different. Sometimes the task is to be able to deeply understand difference with acceptance.
Wow , your so right , Eamons need to be with people is the way he wants and needs to live his life , eamon and bec are odvioulsy very different but they make it work and that’s what being together is all about ❤ just reading the comments will help bec understand more x
I agree 100%. She's been hyper critical of him lately and wonder if it's her trying to control something external when feeling out of control with her own health issues. Eamon is a gem, albeit quirky. She's getting inside his head and making him wrong, projecting her own "shoulds" onto him. I hope it doesn't take up residence.
As a clinical psychologist, I see that finding “comfort in chaos” is a genuine phenomenon, often rooted in one's personal history and coping mechanisms. For many, chaos provides excitement or serves as a distraction from inner struggles. Those raised in turbulent environments may unconsciously recreate similar dynamics because they feel familiar. Additionally, low self-esteem and limited coping skills can lead individuals to seek emotional highs and lows, making chaotic external stimuli feel safer than confronting internal thoughts and feelings. Chaos becomes a focus for the brain, allowing people to avoid uncomfortable self-reflection and instead engage with tangible, familiar challenges.
Yes, in some cases, BUT there’s also just people who thrive in chaos, they just love to be in the juice of life, there doesn’t always have to be an underlying cause
Love you both…big fan for years❤️Surprisingly this felt more like Bec analyzing Eamon and even challenging and correcting his comments rather than getting to know Eamon’s personal views.
As someone with an adhd diagnosis, bec I’d love for you to learn and explore it a bit more. It’s a diffrent brain type and there’s a lack of dopamine in our brains. That’s why Eamon seeks Chaos and thrill ! It’s really interesting to learn!
Your diagnosis is real. But it may not be simply something you’re born with. ADHD can be a stress response learned at a young age. A great book, “Scattered Minds” by Dr. Gabor Mate
As someone with ADD I highly recommend Bec researches it and tries to understand it more. Without having it yourself, you can't be in a position to suggest it's changeable....
@carlagat1075 Literally everyone else but you, has said it is not. Yes, medicines can somewhat control it. But at what cost? As a retired educator, and the wife of a man diagnosed as a middle aged man with ADHD, I have done a tremendous amount of reading about it. And everything I have read disagrees with you!
My daughter has ADD and I know that it is changeable. Yes, there is medication that helps with the inability to concentrate, but there is also therapy which helps the person train their brain to work more efficiently. The checklists that Bec makes are one of the tools used.
Im a retired teacher from Maine. Forget big machinery operator or drug addict. I think you would make an excellent teacher. Everyday is something new and you’re constantly striving to help others.
The comments are brutal but so, so valuable if the choice is made to take them constructively and do that deep introspection that you, Bec, are so committed to. You have a beautiful partner, a beautiful child, a beautiful life (and a rock star of an awesome doggo). I'm not sure you realize how rare it is to have so many blessings and to be so well loved. Please don't be afraid to confront those things within yourself that many of these comments address. I promise you, it will be extremely beneficial and very well might be the most valuable inner work you've ever done. Much love to all four of you, darlin'.
Excuse me, but were you around the past two years? This beautiful mom and wife went through hell. Yes, she is blessed, but I imagine when her mind wanders, there are times she becomes frightened. Thankfully, she is positive, loving and caring, and is always looking out for others. If you haven’t traveled Bec’s road, just know she needs positive reinforcement. She doesn’t need amateur psychologists dissecting her every word. They are a beautiful family, so let’s focus on the positive.
❤❤❤ You both so much Please Both of you don’t ever change Live your life and do what makes you happy Eamon Baby want a Burger eat it Food is food you need it to survive Eat what you enjoy Don’t waste your time and energy on what you are supposed to eat ❤❤❤ Kisses to you both and of course Miracle and Totally Gorgeous Frankie And Osso God Bless ❤❤❤
I just finished a great book, "Your Brain's Not Broken: Strategies for Navigating Your Emotions and Life with ADHD." There are so many things I didn't understand about myself that I simply could not explain to others. Being neuro-diverse in a neuro-typical world requires being okay with (or adapting to) being misunderstood. "I'm still figuring myself out" is a common sentiment because we work hard to adapt to fit in. I have an older friend (like myself) who has a multi-million dollar company. He once said that he feels sorry for those who don't have ADHD. This friend has learned to embrace his neurodivergence as a gift and not a deficit. Eamon, your ADHD is a gift from and to the universe.
I have a child with adhd and my husband was diagnosed last year with adhd. I promise you he tried everything under the sun to “rewire his brain” in his 45 years. It isn’t possible. You can develop coping mechanisms, but an adhd brain is different than a neurotypical one. And adhd meds work differently for their brains. It calms their mind and allows them to focus.
“Chaos” is another way to describe how a person with ADD thrives because of the way their brain works. It is just as valuable and genuine as being in a meditative state.
It's also viewed in a "disorder" lense but only because of how our western society at least, is set up is very colonized and putting us all into the same box. I think neurodiverence is here for a reason. We need diversity. Even animals have neurodiverence.
Bec, just so you know, adhd is a thinning of the prefrontal cortex as well as a lack of dopamine in the brain, a chemical imbalance, it’s literally a difference in the physical brain, nothing can change that. Same with autism for example, it is a brain with more connections, usually those connections prune during early development but autistic brains don’t. So we intake more information that allistic people. Nothing will change that either, just food for thought. It’s hard to understand when you don’t have it but it is very much real and unchangeable. You can manage the symptoms and have a great balanced life, but you can’t rewire it away. And you should remember that because adhd is genetic and your children could end up with it. I have autism and my husband has adhd and I have a hard time understanding adhd and it’s many facets but it’s not our job to tell them it’s not real or they can ‘fix’ it. And if your kids have it, it would be a major disservice to them to say what you said to eamon. It’s important to lead as a good example and be supportive of people who are different than you and believe them.
Just want to say here. A label doesn't define a person. A label helps us to help that person navigate the world with the correct tools. I love how eamon says his ADD is a gift. Yes. Yes it is. ❤
Bec, I will preface this with love for your position of learning and personal betterment. But a diagnosis or label has a good side. It doesn't necessarily tell a child "this is your limitation". It gives them access to support and an understanding of how their brain functions and why they have been struggling. It gives them validation for their strengths that aren't always recognized otherwise. Getting diagnosed, given a label, can be cathartic and very healing. It's not a bad thing to have adhd, add, dislexia, autism (the list goes on). Using it as a crutch not good, but understanding the way your brain works and getting support in that capacity is awesome and a label or diagnosis does that.
100% this. Seeing a diagnosis as a “negative label” is based in old, stigmatized thinking. And it’s very damaging. New research and thinking about neurological differences allows for self discovery and empowerment. Embracing our brains, as they are, with self-compassion and curiosity, allows us to pinpoint our needs, find wonderful resources, magnify our gifts, and live life as our authentic selves.
Focusing on positivity should also be about supporting your partner's opinions and the quirks that make him, him. Criticising and nitpicking is not helpful.
So, I've been watching you on TH-cam for literally years. And your videos drew me in immediately. I'd have to go back through to remember where in the world you were when I discovered you. But I so enjoyed them, that I went back and watched all the ones you had done up until that point. I was actually kind of bummed when I'd totally caught up and had to wait for a new one to come out. But much as I enjoyed your videos, these podcasts are on a whole different level! Maybe because I'm a retired educator, and therefore have always been a studier of human nature. But I've found the podcasts utterly fascinating. Eamon, I thought I had you somewhat figured out. But, now, after watching this I understand so much more about what makes you tick! Thank you for being so open and honest with us! I know that can't have been easy. But this was truly an incredible podcast!! But after reading a lot of the other comments, I do want to add one thing I saw no one else talk about. As a long time viewer, I remember back aways, and an issue Bec had. I'm sorry, I forget the scientific name for it, but Bec, I remember you talking about a hypersensitive you have to noises, that don't bother most people, for example how loud someone else chews. I remember you often objecting to Eamon chewing around you, and when you were in the van, he had to go outdoors so as not to make you uncomfortable. As I recall, he never objected to that, because he understood it was a divergence in your brain that made you hypersensitive, and he realized it was not something you could control. So Bec, perhaps the next time you're inclined to tell Eamon he needs to rewire his brain and get rid of his ADD, perhaps you need to remember you had your own brain issues. I assume you still have the issue, although I've not heard you guys discuss it for awhile. Anyway please try to give him a bit more grace, and as others suggested, perhaps you need to learn more about ADD or ADHD.
As a trauma therapist and a big fan of you guys, I do want to nuance some of the things you say because the mental health advice might be very painful for some listeners. I’m specialized in cognitive behavioral therapy, act and somatic work so I do believe in the power of thoughts and working with it as a tool. Yet, it’s very important to know that not everyone has the access to this tool and it’s not as easy as you portray it for some ppl. It’s not your mind that controls it, but your nervous system. So, where some people might be able to work with their thoughts like you do Bec, other people, especially ppl with a trauma history or neurodivergent ppl just don’t have that acces as easily. I see people beating themselves up on a daily basis because they can’t ’be normal, can’t control their thoughts, can’t meditate, can’t focus, can’t be mindful, can’t be fully present…’. They blame themselves for something their system just doesn’t have access to that easily. To be able to selfregulate like you suggest, you need to be able to feel safe. A lot of people live in a chronic state of fight and flight or freeze. In those states, the thinking isn’t in control but the nervous system, and it focuses on protecting the body or mind from any kind of ‘danger’. I know you both mean well and I really appreciate the way you try to help others but please be considerate giving mental health advice because believe me, people are trying their hardest to feel better and advice like this can be very triggering, painful or harmful. Unfortunately it’s not a one size fits all approach and advice like this makes people beat themselves up even more and I know that’s the opposite of what you want to achieve with this advice. Might be interesting to have a psychologist on the show, also regarding adhd because I think it might give a lot of insight and acceptance to the both of you :) I’m living too far away but I m sure a lot of psychologists would love to help you out guys. Lots of love, Kelly
Exactly! It’s all about the body and the nervous system in the end, yes of course it’s healthy to have a positive outlook on life, but if you start trying to control how your body is feeling from the mind you’re doing more harm than good. Listen to your body and it will guide the way to find true and genuine peace and fulfillment that comes from within that you don’t have to work so hard for.
Yes! One size Does Not Fit All. And for the record: Planet Fitness Is just fine - for me, for my husband. It has saved our sanity through these last few stressful years.
Eamon, you are a great dad!! We CAN always be doing more with our kids, but that isn’t ALWAYS healthy for parent and/or child. I can imagine you are such a FUN and HAPPY dad- and that means everything!!! ❤ You are amazing.
As someone who has ADD also, I would love to see both of you learn more about it. I think it could really benefit both of you in different ways in your relationship and work life to understand how Eamons brain works.
For the first half of the video I was a bit sad for all the reasons other people are sharing in the comments, but then I realized that it is actually refreshing to see that even after having experienced immense personal growth, Bec is still only human and has much to learn - just like all of us humans! Their relationship is amazing in many ways, but is also imperfect and that leaves space for them to get to know each other better and love each other even more. I am 1000% sure they both know this and hope that the comments are not being taken the wrong way. To me, seeing your imperfections is just as enriching as seeing your growth❤ Thank you for sharing your life with us and lots of love for you, Frankie and Oso 🐶
Clinical psychologist here - In clinical psychology, "ADD" is no longer recognized as a diagnostic term. Instead, we use the umbrella diagnosis of ADHD-Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder-which has three subtypes: ADHD, Predominantly Inattentive Presentation (often observed in women, though it can affect men), ADHD, Predominantly Hyperactive/Impulsive Presentation, and ADHD, Combined Presentation (characterized by both inattentive and hyperactive-impulsive symptoms).
Thank you for the explanation. My 41 year old son was diagnosed with ADD when he was six. I’d love to finally learn more about it. I’ve read things but never really understood. Can you recommend any books I could read? My son is on medication now but I don’t know what. He says it helps
I always thought add, was attention deficit disorder without the hyperactivity. Ie.. eg.. unable to concentrate in a classroom.. so looks out the window, and the mind goes into dreamland, imaginations. It’s harder to diagnose, because the person is not disruptive.
Dear Eamon, Your love is a palpable force that resonates deeply, inspiring countless hearts. The unwavering support and devotion you've shown Bec throughout her cancer journey is a testament to the transformative power of unconditional love. Your unique energy, fueled by your ADD, brings creativity, spontaneity, and enthusiasm to every aspect of your life. It's a gift, allowing you to approach challenges with innovative solutions and infectious positivity. Frankie, your little miracle daughter, has brought out the best in you. Her presence has awakened new depths of love, patience, and purpose. Witnessing your fatherhood journey has been a privilege, showcasing the beauty of vulnerability and selflessness. Your journey hasn't been without darkness. We've seen you face struggles, doubts, and fears, especially during Bec's cancer battle. Yet, you've emerged stronger, wiser, and more compassionate. Your resilience inspires us to confront our own shadows and persevere. Through trials and triumphs, you've demonstrated that true strength lies not in perfection but in vulnerability, empathy, and love. Your bond with Bec and Frankie is a shining example of what it means to live with intention, authenticity, and an open heart. Thank you for sharing your story, for being raw and real, and for showing us that love can conquer even the darkest moments. Your vibrations of hope, love, and resilience continue to ripple outward, touching lives and warming hearts. With deepest gratitude and admiration. Zack.
Thanks for the podcasts . Your podcasts have already shed light on cancer, depression, suicide, ADHD, perfectionism, ethics around foods and drugs/ medicines and so much more . Opening up discussions on these topics helps others . With all the privatisation , medicalisation and economic focus , we rarely get to discuss individual, community and society trauma and the repercussions in a meaningful, genuine and honest way ; so thank you both for already raising awareness on so many important issues. Prayers and hugs
26:36 Love ya Bec but I sure disagree about rewiring the ADHD out of a brain. You can force a left handed person with great effort to fake being right handed but what has been lost? ADHD isn’t a disease or even a disability in the right environment. It gets diagnosed that way because the K-12 educational environment is biased towards a certain type of brain and natural traits. Those that don’t shine there get diagnosed and offered remediation for a way of being that is not a liability for many normal healthy life patterns outside of education. There are many many necessary jobs that need people who are wired to enjoy a highly stimulating environment. ER or other emergency staff on all levels, creators of many types, child care (not school), retail, technical work that requires on the spot diagnosis with lots of variables, zillions more that aren’t coming to me now. It’s not a fringe group that shines and comes into their own after k-12. It’s a large portion of the population. We are not damaged, we’re just waiting until we are not living an institutional life to come into full flower.
Just wanted to comment on forcing Leftys to be rightys. School did this to my daughter and told me oh she may be dyslexic. Also her hand writing was so bad I couldn't read it. At all! 4 years later, we discovered she's left handed and has no issues writing letters or numbers backwards. Her writing is clear now.
I love what you said. My son has adhd and is struggling a bit with his really tough engineering classes. But he is such a born engineer in every other way. He can build anything and trouble shoot any problem. I feel like his creativity and passion will allow him to see solutions that neurotypical minds wouldn’t see.
Ok, I’m a retired maternity nurse and an old granny and I love you guys! I’ve watched your TH-cam’s for a few years and think you are both amazing. First, I believe a baby rolling off the bed is a right of passage and rarely harmful. Next, as a premie, you should adjust Frankie’s age to align with her due date for at least for 12 -18 months when watching her developmental milestones. And by the way, she is sooo cute and adorable! I so admire how you guys are doing life. Wishing you happiness and good health ❤
I literally cried when Bec explained what her cancer numbers are, I could not be happier for you and I have always loved your videos, but I am loving the reroot podcast
I just have to say, kids falling off the bed is common. As a toddler i fell off the bed and have a scar on my forehead to this day to show it. Love you guys!
It might well be common, but can it simply be avoided? Can simple steps be taken to avoid it? While we can easily say it's common, is the preponderance of occurrence shown it to be negligence? Please note I'm referring to all occurrences and not one in particular.
@@tracygarrett3952 Yes, we definitely took steps to avoid it, but we are not perfect. I was right next to my baby when he rolled over. I didn’t realize he could roll yet.
I fell off a kitchen counter because my cousin decided to fry an egg - he was baby sitting - i am now 31 and I’m fine - Bec, stop being so dramatic - there are going to be sooo many worse things than falling off the bed and you seem so hard on Eamon about EVERYTHING
There’s a beautiful wealth of information and people to connect with and relate to within the neurodivergent community. I’d highly encourage you both to explore as much as you can to understand for yourselves and also to be a better advocate and compassionate observer of others within your community. I have Autism and ADHD and was diagnosed as a 32 year old. I’m so grateful for everyone who has nourished my life and wrapped me in love within the neurodivergent community.
There is a lot to unpack. This comment comes from a place of pure love for you both. First, I love you guys. My sons now watch you guys and take a lot of advice. So, I want to start this comment with that tone. Secondly, IT IS SOOOO NORMAL FOR KIDS TO FALL. Off the bed, out of your arms, off steps, off slides, just pretty much everywhere. And it doesn't make anyone a bad parent. There shouldn't have been an issue, but a quick "you're okay? Awesome, let's move on." Mom of 8 here. Two from my body and 6 adopted in, in some form or another. Lastly, after being married for most my life, a HUGE and AMAZING lesson I learned as I grew wiser: my husband is his own person and thank GOD he isn't like me or like how I want him to be because I couldn't live with another me. Eamon, be you. Bec, love him, don't parent him. ❤ I learned the hard way on this and caused so much disruption of peace in my home for overcorrecting, bossing, and judging my hubby. I'm not saying you are doing that fully, but I see a lot of beginning stages. A therapist told me once that I was doing that because some part of me felt out of control, so I doubled down on myself and perfectionism and, in turn, started analyzing everything my husband did. Fear. Lots of love and respect for both of you. I am so grateful for you sharing the real and raw. ❤
Really sound advice! While watching this and their interaction, I instantly thought wow that’s a lot of nitpicking. Totally normal in any relationship, but I do think it’s easy to swing too far towards criticism like you were saying. Hope they find the balance since it does seem like they’ve been going through some tough times especially around minute 40 with the “clearly” comment. Clearly, these two are not all happy go lucky and I think that rawness is nice to see versus pretending everything is great through gritted teeth.
Bec, You are so beautiful! I was diagnosed 22 years ago with Stage 4 Ovarian cancer, and like you, my doctors thought I had 1 to 5 years to live based on statistics. I, however, disagreed because my middle child, a son, was emotionally dependent on me as he was quadriplegic due to being 12 weeks premature. I always believed that I would bury him. Amazingly, I was able to be present for him until his death 4 years ago. He was a gift to our family, and everyone adored him. Much to the doctors amazement, I have survived, thrived, and now I am 82!! So much of who we are is determined by our individual beliefs. You are so present for Frankie and Eamon, and I truly believe you will continue to be here for a long time. Your attitude toward life is inspiring to others, and obviously, you are doing so much for yourself at the same time. Eamon is a prince, and, together, you both are a model for those who follow you. I will keep praying for your very special family. I will order Habit too!!
Wow you are an inspiration! Thank You for sharing about your Son and health battle. Obviously you are a Warrior 💕. I don’t want to share my story after reading yours but just know you give me hope just as much as Eamon and Bec. Thank You from the bottom of my heart for your comment. So glad I read it!
What a beautiful story. I believe Bec has come a long ways. Her meditation practice and other natural modalities is keeping her healthy. I was really scared for them both when Frankie was born. Frankie is such a gift isn’t she? Her eyes tell a story. She’s adorable.❤❤❤❤Keep it up Bec, we love you guys so much.
there are people who are like "soul of the company" and Eamon this person who connect and inspires people around. these type of people are rare but really needed. Thanks for sharing!
I’ve been married to a man who loves chaos for 40 years. There is never a dull moment and life is so much fun! There can be great joy in the chaos!! And he has helped me to break out of the prison of perfectionism! I’m so much more gracious with myself and free-er to break the rules and go with the flow and surrender to the things out of my control! Love you guys!
Much love to you both. You may find it interesting to compare how often Bec adjusted her shawl vs Eamon touching his nose… keepin’ it real with much love in my heart. 😉❤️
Searched comments for this exact observation. They are both continuing to learn about themselves and each other Mirror Mirror On The Wall much love to them both on their journey
and so what is the deal that Eamon touches his nose, it's his nose and it's not like he is touching his privates while on camera ( in private he can obviously touch as much as he likes lol )
I heard a great quote the other day.... When you figure out what you want to be in life and you go for it and apply yourself to a single thing i.e nurse, doctor etc. then you are just a noun your entire life! But if you never really know what you want to be and you can do a lot of things, then you become a verb! How exciting to be a verb all your life...... so go out there and be the best Verb you can be!
Eamon if you ever want a crazy career change I see you as some kind of healthcare worker or teacher. You are surrounded by, and literally helping in the most important ways, people in your community
I love them and the banter…but this at times is difficult to hear Eamon try to answer fully while being so open, but then be cut short and re routed or Bec takes over with her own view or it turns into being about her instead of him. Not being negative…just an observation. They’re a great pair and you can feel the deep love they have for each other. True partners. ❤
Yes, this and please Bec stop getting on him in a public forum for touching his face, I do it all the time and if my partner reprimanded me for it we’d have a huge problem, very unkind and judgmental…
I’m glad I wasn’t the only one that’s noticed! I feel like she’s on his case… and why does there have to be such a deep answer to his wanting to be surrounded by community 😂
So sweet to hear more of you Eamon, really big respect to your for dealing with all things you mentioned. Love your energy, your good heart, your crazyness and openness. :) So awesome to have such great dads in the world who also talk open about their parenting struggles.
All 5 of my kids have fallen off the bed and as they got older much more happen to them . They are fine today . Frankie is beautiful and lucky to have you all for parents.💕
Came to say both my kids have fallen off the bed! I feel like it just happens especially when they go from immobile to mobile within like a day haha then you learn and keep going
Yes! This! My kids are teenagers now; as hard as you try, none of us are perfect and sometimes you’re going to stuff up and accidents happen. The main thing is she’s okay; it’s a lesson learned. 😊
My daughter fell off the bed once. It's a normal rite of passage it seems like. You guys are rockin' the parenting thing. You'll have to keep giving each other grace through all the stages of Frankie's growth.
Eamon, you are a creative thinker. Many who have ADHD have a need to figure out how things work, then get bored. Your mind is running faster than others. Embrace your gift ! But, tissues, dude 🤧! Bec, you help Eamon balance, and he helps you balance. You are great parents and friends to those you love. Thank you both for sharing your adventures in this life. I pray 🙏 for you to have continued health, happiness, joy, and love.
Eamon, I have 5 kids, I have had one fall off the bed, they were totally fine and I learned she could roll. My husband didn't secure a baby gate and one fell down the stairs, also fine thankfully. There is that brief pause when you hear a disaster happening and being thankful you hear a cry. You are a great dad!
Eamon has accepted Bec through hell and back. I hope she can learn to accept Eamon in the same way. Different is not less, he doesn't have to be like you. He loves you so much, why isn't he enough the way he is. He's pretty awesome. None of us are perfect.
@@Emma-dx2hbfinally someone that saw this podcast as completely normal and loving as I did. I really don't get people nowadays so much negativity and nitpicking 🤷 I think Becks energy is everything and Eamon loves it 😊
@anjicaphotography7990 Yes thank you! these comments are making me feel crazy, I'm not the type to write comments but my god I think we need to spam these comments with some common sense 🙄
@Emma-dx2hb I'm the same, I don't think I left a comment on you tube in the last 5 years. But it's crazy how offended people feel in the name of Eamon and completely twist everything. All I see is a deep conversation between two people that love each other so much. And I'm sure if he reads all the comments, he would feel the same as we do right now🤷❤️
Bec you kept saying you choose your feelings but when Eamon would state one of his feelings you'd disagree with him and tell him what you thought he should feel. We don't necessarily 'choose' our feelings, we don't 'choose' to be hurt or feel unsafe (like Eamon's fear of sharks, he doesn't choose that) or upset. We should still get to feel those feelings and process them but not have to deny those feelings under the banner of 'choice'. This episode was a real eye opener for me, it felt very hipocritical of Eamon. At 1:24:17 you tell Eamon 'stop touching your ears now' but do you realise you're holding on to your leg for a lot of this? Or retucking your hair? That's the same thing. Just let him be.
As someone who fell off of the bed when I was young and broke a bone, you guys are FINE! You love that baby. She’s your whole world. You would never intentionally hurt her. It’s hard for parents to realize when their baby isn’t so much of a baby anymore. You can set them down ANYWHERE for at least 4 months and KNOW they won’t move.. it’s hard to break that cycle. You guys are absolutely amazing. Big hugs ❤️
Thank you for saying that ADD is a gift. I truly believe it is. My kid is dyslexic in addition to adhd and we tell her all the time it's her super power :)
I am a Pediatric nurse and my daughter fell off the bed too. 29 years ago. It can happen and doesn’t mean you have to fall in the cross. Yes I felt terrible of course and thankfully she was okay. I would be deeply hurt if my husband had kept bringing it up.
I've been following you guys for a couple of years now and you never seized to amaze me. Thank you for sharing your world with us. Lots of love from SA
You two are amazing together! I look forward to all your videos including this reroot podcast now. I was diagnosed with Guillain Barre Syndrome in 2007. I have been in a wheelchair since then. What gets me through the day are my children and grandchildren and the positive attitude that I try to exude. Definitely count my blessings every day. Sure, there are days that are tough, but I use humor and joking to help me through! You have such a positive attitude Bec and I’m so glad that you have Eamon for support and to lean on. I can’t tell you how much I enjoy listening to your ideas and how to keep positive in your life. Thank you so much!
I'd be careful about perpetuating the myth that they give kids "speed" for ADHD, there's already enough stigma around the diagnosis, it doesn't help to spread misinformation. ADHD is a dopamine deficiency disorder, meaning that the brain can't respond to dopamine as well as neurotypical brains. ADHD medication is often stimulants, because the brain needs that extra boost. They are often in the class of "amphetamines" but that doesn't mean they are literally meth or speed. Also, lots of non stimulant medication exists now for ADHD. It wasn't like that when Eamon or myself were kids, but things have changed a lot!
@@h33-q8w I agree with you! As a fellow ADHD person on stimulants, I just think without context, the phrase "they're giving kids speed" sounds like they're unnecessarily doping kids with hard drugs. I think there's already too much stigma around the use of medication for kids with ADHD to be throwing around phrases like that. I just wish people would say "stimulants" instead of loaded language that I think is meant to garner a specific emotional response.
I hope she gets your fearlessness Eamon you seem to be so fearless in life which will make her successful and we love watching you be that way 💙💙 its common that kids fall off things, it does happen, you guys are such great parents and Frankie is SOOOOOOO Lucky to have you both
I remember my son was around 7m when he rolled off our bed! I was completely traumatized over it! Had a mark of the floor board right acrossed his little forehead! Luckily we already had an appointment with a neurologist because he was born with a little cyst on his head! I went in and explained the whole situation my tears to the doctor and ill never forget the smile he gave me and he goes "ohh sweetheart you must be a first time mom, kids fall off the bed it happens! It probably will happen again! He will be just fine!" Give yourself a little grace parenting is hard, you guys are doing a wonderful job❤
I’m here for the positive energy and love you both give off - living life to the fullest..it’s so inspiring! Thank you for sharing yourselves so freely!
I’m ADHD but not in need of intervention. I have some very close ADHD friends and we have been very successful humans, ( in our 60’s and 70’s.). Get it Eamon!! You are so fun to watch because you are always busy on a project that you complete with ease!! Love the turmeric tea!! Gotta get some more for the fall!! I have a secret crush on Bob! Hi Bob!!
I absolutely love how much Eamon loves his family. Bec you’re doing a great job. Give each other grace through parenthood & love each other. It’s a tough job
Parenting is HARD AF - and I'm here for normalizing saying that. It's hard, it's exhausting, it's challenging, and sometimes you just want to get tf away from it for a day or five. THAT IS NORMAL and no one should beat themselves up about it. Take care of you so you can take care of Frankie; and give yourself some grace. 💜
I want to say I LOVE that you are open to discuss issues. You are open!! I hear sighs of frustration the further I watch. You’re ahead of most couples with the open discussion!!!!!! PLEASE continue these discussions behind the camera. You get it and your days are very in tune to each other even if you don’t fully see it now.! That is unless the videos you put out are only for theatrical purposes.
I am 61, and this is my first comment on any pod cast or video. I discovered you guys while watching Max and Occy, and I just love you! I love your energy and zest for life. I was saddened when you decided to slow down on your posts, but I understand your need to pull back. Now I eagerly anticipate your weekly Reroot Podcast and really enjoy it!! I am currently dealing with depression and I had a really bad day yesterday . This episode has inspired me to try to be a better version of myself. I watch you guys and Max's vlogs and see you talk about meditation, and it is really inspiring me to give it a try.
Bec needs to understand that you don’t have to actively be working so intensely on yourself. You need to find a place of contentment and have periods of your life where you’re just living. it’s exhausting to constantly be over analyzing yourself and those around you. You’re both great people and great parents and you will naturally grow as you experience life. No need to intensify and put pressure on that growth. I wish she would understand that brains do not need to be rewired to be happy. You do not need to change.
Agreed. This kind of mentality is unfortunately very popular these days in a popularized version of spirituality and manifestation mindset. I think we need to give bec the credit she deserves since she’s dealing with immense challenges and being a mom, partner, friend etc on top of that. But yes this kind of mindset can be exhausting and I hope eamon doesn’t feel too much pressure to be this way too as that could cause distance in their relationship
Eamon, I also have ADHD. We aren’t sick, we’re different, and that’s okay. It’s not an excuse to let the negative aspects of the diagnosis run rampant, and it’s possible to keep those parts of you in check. But, be easy on yourself. ADHD often comes with a lot of negative self talk and I just want you to know that it’s okay to be who you are even if it doesn’t match what society wants. Bec, I’m so proud and happy for you girl! I’ve been praying for you and I’ll keep praying. ❤
I love that you guys operate from different levels of casualty toward parenting. I have never heard such an honest sharing of hard experiences (my oldest fell off the bed as a baby) and I identified myself in your dichotomy of wanting to feel heard and hear that it is significant and a safety concern and not wanting to feel hammered about a mistake with someone you love. I have 6 month old twins that were born two months early so I’ll be clinging to your 7 month mark like a life raft. Thank you for sharing and being someone that others can relate to. Sometimes it feels lonely in the hard times, thank you for making it feel less lonely.
new follower here just catching up on all of your posts. i rarely comment on things - but i wanted to say thank you to eamon for sharing his experience during bec's diagnosis and journey with cancer and pregnancy. my husband was in a major accident last summer and was in the hospital for over a month - most of which was in the icu and mentally in a state that was not him. it was so hard. so hard for him but i'm still coming to terms with all of it as well, and know that i need to continue to process it. he's doing well now and we're both happy and healthy. thank you so much for doing this podcast and sharing your life. i love listening to you guys and the perspectives you bring to the table that i had maybe never thought of. you inspire me so much.
Dear Bec. Thank you for sharing your journey. Stage 3 cancer patient here. You are amazing and my inspiration since being diagnosed in June and now going through chemotherapy. You are an inspiration to all. Warm genuine and kind.
50:42 I had to pause. BAWLING with joy and gratitude. 15 years ago my youngest had an issue, everyone said it could only go one way. I read somewhere that in .0001 of cases, it just goes away. I BELIEVED with everything in my soul, and felt the love, ease and gratitude of KNOWING it would just disappear. It did. Around the same time my grandmother (who was my greatest champion and the love of my life) was diagnosed with stage 4 ovarian cancer. She would NOT speak life into that. She called it "some trouble with her belly"... was supposed to live a few months and lasted YEARS. I myself now am struggling with remembering how to believe. Thank you for reminding me. I will be better every single day. When you went ghost, I knew why. I put out the most loving, positive healing energy for you whenever you crossed my mind. Thank you for reminding me. Those who "feel sorry" don't understand how wrong they are. It's not the right tone...lol I love you both so much. Thank you for reminding me to keep rewiring. I've done it for others, and now I'll do it for me!... I'm going to finish this now. lol xoxo
I identify with Bec's parenting style so very much. I've always been a bit of a perfectionist. Now that my daughter is almost 27, I wished I had been more chill raising her. I wore myself emotionally and physically unnecessaly and gave her a bit of anxiety in the process.
I've watched you guys on TH-cam for a few years now and now I'm watching reroot too and honestly you are both so inspiring you make me look on life with so much more positivity and I'm just thankful to you both for that ❤
I appreciate how authentic and vulnerable you both are in these conversations. I am sure many will have opinions and that is ok as well but thank you for doing your best to be brave and real. Many cater to others but your intentions are so clear …you want to be honest, open, encourage, and empower others. Keep being you. ❤
This podcast has easily become my “habit”. The fact that I need to have a box of tissues when I watch your episode, my heart is always touched by the beauty and the depth of your discussions. Clearly, you are two heart centered people in hoping to spread light and joy in our world. Thank you for sharing your light so people do not have to live in darkness.❤❤❤
Emon you’re awesome. The amount of love you have is inspiring. I see some sadness in your eyes maybe i am wrong but you are awesome, awesome dad, awesome human, awesome husband. Don’t ever forget that please!!
I appreciate you guys being vulnerable on such a public platform it truly touches all of our lives in a positive way. So happy you chose to come back to the podcast not only to share your personal values but also help all of us open up to have meaningful conversations with our closest family members but also the person sitting next to you on the subway or coffee shop. Thank you! Also very happy to hear Eamon share his story it means a lot.
As a mom. I totally connect with Eamon on the first months being terrible. I felt like a terrible mom because I didn’t really enjoy those months. I didn’t have any serious complications. Once he started navigating life around 6-8 months is when everything started to get easier and my love was always there, but definitely grew stronger. My boy is almost 7 and the absolute best! I carried the guilt for awhile but have since learned to let it go. We are all so happy now!
Bec, I wish, I WISH, you could understand the seriousness of ADHD/ADD and know that it’s not something you can just “mind over matter” to fix. It really hurt my heart to hear you say that 😔 I would give anything for that to be true though, as someone who has been diagnosed since they were 12 (now 34) and who has tried to go off her meds or been in situations where I’ve been without my meds. I know you’ll never see this comment so I’m not going to go off into explaining everything but if you ever want a perspective of a female adult with ADD who also had it during childhood I have a lot to share lol.
Bec, one of the symptoms of ADD/ADHD is fidgeting. He’s not comfortable talking about himself, either. And the opposite of fear is not love. It’s calmness or confidence. The opposite of of love is indifference.
I have to say that finding spirituality less than a year ago has changed my life enormously. It's so refreshing to hear you talk about being connected to everyone and approaching things with love. my daughter was diagnosed in 2021 and my sister in 2022 and spirituality has been a gift and so is your podcast. Found you back in 2020 on TH-cam and enjoy every single episode. Bec you are the living example of what positive thinking and spirituality can do. And I have nothing but positive outcomes for you and your adorable little family. ❤
I was recently diagnosed with ADHD myself. The label helped me understand myself SO much more. It felt like an explanation for why I struggle with certain things that a neurotypical person cannot relate to. And I feel less isolated because of it. I found the label to actually be less limiting, and more so felt validating. I allot myself much more grace and patience, which in turn has only improved my mental health.
Yes! I know Bec was quick to talk about how damaging she thinks the label of ADHD is on kids, but I was disappointed she didn’t entertain the other option. I wasn’t diagnosed until my 40s and now I’m working to undo all the damage of years of not understanding why certain things were so hard and impossible to do like others. All the years of being labeled lazy and an underachiever and not being able to make sense of the disconnect between my effort and the outcomes. Years of hating myself causing foundational harm. Her perspective on ADHD was outdated and ableist. Whether she wants to accept it or not, neurodivergence has a huge genetic component. I don’t think it’s a bad thing if Frankie is neurodivergent, but I hope Bec broadens her perspective before long.
I have followed and LOVED your YT channel for years. This podcast, the insight, reflection, guests, conversations are extraordinary. Honestly, I never appreciated/knew tue depth of your shared passion and brilliance. This is so much more than entertainment. This is humanity out in the open. Thank you!
Guys!!!! ❤❤❤ My first born fell off the bed one too many times 🤦🏻♀️ You’re awesome parents. It is so common. We would pile up the pillows and he’d still get around. It happened to me and it happened to my husband. Just have love and grace for each other 💕 Y’all are going to mess up along the way but as long as you remain a team and know that the other would never harm Frankie on purpose yall will fly in parenthood. ❤ Parenting is so amazing! Hard but the best ever. Love you guys so much!!!
Why I loved this episode? Because you guys are always yourselves! And showing you are also not perfect. That makes you perfect and worthy listening to you! Keep going you’re doing great! ♥️
Been watching Eamon and Bec navigate life for several years now. I'm not really a commenter, but here to contribute to their goal of being the most reviewed podcast. The podcast really gives more detail to who they are outside of the TH-cam channel and only adds to their relatability. Being pillars for what is possible with a challenging diagnosis and as parents. It is so nice to see people sharing their experiences in this way. Thankful for your honesty and work ❤
37:37 I relate to this so much. What recently clicked for me was a conversation with an old friend who choses to be child free for a number of reasons, but one big one was that her Mom was a stay at home mom that in her eyes was the perfect mom. She cant see herself living up to that expectation, loves her job, and has no example on how she could be a mom thats 'good enough' without losing who she is. For kids seeing us moms balancing life, self care, rest and showing up to help others, and finding our way in that (without mastering that skill yet) might be the thing they need to see to have the confidence they can achieve growth too 🙂 Hope this helps someone ❤ love this podcast btw, binge watching it rn 😅
Hmmmmm this is really shedding a new ( not in the best of light ) on Becs perfectionism vs Eamon just being a normal human. Eamon you are enough and speak from the heart.
I would love to hear you have an episode on ADHD and neurodivergence as a topic. I think there is so much to learn from a therapist or someone who specializes in neurodivergence and how your brain works in each stage of life with having adhd or autism and understanding the characteristics of both.
I could listen to you guys for hours and never get bored. Such an interesting, thoughtful and respectful conversation, handing some tough topics with grace and care. You're both badasses!
ADHD is very real, it is a neurological condition that we are born with. I really encourage you both to do more research on what it really means and how it affects someone’s life. Eamon, I think learning more would be a huge step in realizing your identity! I was diagnosed, 2 yrs ago at 45 and it has completely changed my life, how I function and how I understand myself.
Except we’re not born with it. The brain develops in context. It’s also not a condition- it’s a neuro type. Aaaaand neuro types aren’t fixed. It’s you who needs to do the reading- I suggest starting with Norman Doidge, then into Van De Kolk and then look at Maté/ Grandin. Just because you type it/read it online/claim a label for yourself/get slapped with one, it doesn’t make it true.
Partners interviewing themselves has also these components of completing the other sentences. It doesn’t come from imposing themselves. Is just their natural talking and the fact they have angles of the other that they feel important to talk. That happened also with Bec for initial part of the talk (maybe because Eamon talks less Bec was compensating without noticing ). But once Eamon started to open up, it was Eamon been interviewed. I appreciate their honesty; Bec could edit to “look better” to fit the standards that I have read in the comments but she/they didn’t. They are 2 human beings growing up together and navigating the ups and downs of their daily life as a family in a healing process and showing their positive way. Thank you for sharing 😊.
My battle was during chemo I was the patient that ate "healthy". No dairy. No smoking. Exercise daily. I get cancer. My twin sister. Smoker. No exercise. No veggies. Clean bill of health. Also I asked myself many times " How did eating well, taking vitamins, exercise help me?". Should I even try anymore?
Glad to hear about the diet stuff. I’ve been on my own journey and struggling hard with what I eat and I watch way too much of the keto/carnivore influencers and thinking it will click any day now. I even left a comment on one of your first cancer videos because I felt deeply that veganism was the exact opposite of what Bec needed to be healthy. I’m a cancer survivor as well. But I’m not an expert and really know nothing that I should be telling other people. But I feel that my health is the priority and that figuring out how to make the world a better place will naturally come from that.
I'm so impressed with your relationship and authenticity and courage. I imagine a lot of the criticism in these comments come from people who haven't ever experienced the honesty and openness that I see in your relationship. What a gift that you have found each other. Thank you for sharing - I'm guessing a lot of subscribers are trying to learn how to find the same with their partners. Nothing make believe here! I'll be watching and listening as long as you keep creating. Keep growing, beautiful people. Entertainment is much kinder because of you and your guests.
What I love so much about this podcast/Eamon & Bec is how genuinely real they are. They don’t just share authentically; they somehow always seem to expand on and give comments/answers to exactly what I’m still wondering or want to hear. It’s so fulfilling to hear them voice the thoughts and questions many of us have but rarely get fully addressed. Unlike other conversations that sometimes leave key points unsaid or glossed over, they dive in and cover everything you hope they will-and it feels so satisfying when topics are explored that completely.
I wanted to say that I really appreciate this comment, and find it so refreshing, as this is where my mind was at listening to this episode and was very surprised by what I found in the comments ❤️
Eamon, I think you are dyslexic, which it can be “humorous “ but I think it’s important to know it’s how your brain function with letters/ words/ information… it doesn’t come in the same way in your brain especially phonics. 90% of ADHD / ADD have struggles with learning difference/ disabilities. Bec, these things are developmental, rewiring the brain is not possible to make it like yours, a brain you seem to think is superior. Please be careful with mocking people that deal with these things, ADHD and Dyslexia are real are have challenges you do not understand and seem not to want to understand. I find this a disappointing side of your personality and I am concerned with how you will handle these developmental differences and disabilities in Frankie, which ADHD/ ADD and dyslexia are inherited… learn about these things before you continue mocking Eamon. He would not say it hurts him, ADHD and dyslexia has taught him to be “tough “ but it does, it has always hurt and root pain does not go away without processing. Furthermore meditation, though good is not for everyone, meditation can look very different for different people. We Eamon is in his zone he is in meditative state, a state you will never know. And let him scratch his nose… stop with being hyper-healer it’s not you- you are in denial
Or trapped in toxic positivity and it’s starting to show. What I witness here was on the edge of abusive… Bec you are so controlling and Eamon you need to a boundaries to protect yourself, salt least protect the child in you that is still hurt by the mocking. This was a sad show.
Eamon, your introduction to parenthood was traumatic. Becoming a parent is challenging enough, but you 2 were faced with extremely stressful life events on top of it. Give yourself some grace. You are both doing an amazing job❤ Signed a mama of 2
I like how authentic Eamon is, Allow him more space no one is a perfect Parent! He was truthful about how difficult the first few months can be!
And to Bec: trying to be perfect ruins our bodies 😯🙁 I know from experience Let Eamon be who he is! and you Bec are more than enough just the way you are 💕
Parenting is hard and it is okay to be honest about how hard it is. I appreciate the honesty.
This is coming from my heart, and from teaching in the classroom for decades and witnessing the incredible diversity of how we exist as humans in my students. BEC I don't think you mean it but it seems like you keep coming back to a perspective with a huge load of judgement when you think and talk about Eamon wanting to be with and around (lots of) other people. You're telling Eamon he needs to experience life and solitude and reflection the way you do to be fulfilled and self actualized. It's great to encourage self-reflection, everyone can benefit from that but choosing to be with other people in person is NOT necessarily a negation or avoidance of self-reflection. Some people are wired as extroverts. Interaction FEEDS THEM. Because of the WAY-THEY-ARE at the core, it actually elevates them. It isn't a lacking, its a difference. If that level of human interaction doesn't feed you, you're not the same level of extrovert. That doesn't make you less either, it makes you different. Sometimes the task is to be able to deeply understand difference with acceptance.
Wow , your so right , Eamons need to be with people is the way he wants and needs to live his life , eamon and bec are odvioulsy very different but they make it work and that’s what being together is all about ❤ just reading the comments will help bec understand more x
Wow well said
Beautifully said ❤
Truth!
I agree 100%. She's been hyper critical of him lately and wonder if it's her trying to control something external when feeling out of control with her own health issues. Eamon is a gem, albeit quirky. She's getting inside his head and making him wrong, projecting her own "shoulds" onto him. I hope it doesn't take up residence.
As a clinical psychologist, I see that finding “comfort in chaos” is a genuine phenomenon, often rooted in one's personal history and coping mechanisms. For many, chaos provides excitement or serves as a distraction from inner struggles. Those raised in turbulent environments may unconsciously recreate similar dynamics because they feel familiar. Additionally, low self-esteem and limited coping skills can lead individuals to seek emotional highs and lows, making chaotic external stimuli feel safer than confronting internal thoughts and feelings. Chaos becomes a focus for the brain, allowing people to avoid uncomfortable self-reflection and instead engage with tangible, familiar challenges.
100%!
Yes, in some cases, BUT there’s also just people who thrive in chaos, they just love to be in the juice of life, there doesn’t always have to be an underlying cause
Love you both…big fan for years❤️Surprisingly this felt more like Bec analyzing Eamon and even challenging and correcting his comments rather than getting to know Eamon’s personal views.
As someone with an adhd diagnosis, bec I’d love for you to learn and explore it a bit more. It’s a diffrent brain type and there’s a lack of dopamine in our brains. That’s why Eamon seeks Chaos and thrill ! It’s really interesting to learn!
Wouldn't it be great if they had a true ADHD expert on
@@kristinporter4888Would be great if they’d get more variety in their guests including experts in different fields rather than just their friends
Yes! A lot of what Bec doesn't understand is his very obvious symptoms of adhd.
I agree as someone with ADHD and i came specifically to the comments for this. Being told its not real can be very discouraging.
Your diagnosis is real. But it may not be simply something you’re born with. ADHD can be a stress response learned at a young age. A great book, “Scattered Minds” by Dr. Gabor Mate
As someone with ADD I highly recommend Bec researches it and tries to understand it more. Without having it yourself, you can't be in a position to suggest it's changeable....
If you do some research, you'll see that it is changeable.
@carlagat1075 Literally everyone else but you, has said it is not. Yes, medicines can somewhat control it. But at what cost? As a retired educator, and the wife of a man diagnosed as a middle aged man with ADHD, I have done a tremendous amount of reading about it. And everything I have read disagrees with you!
@@carlagat1075If you do some further research, from credible and accurate sources, you'll see that it's not
My daughter has ADD and I know that it is changeable. Yes, there is medication that helps with the inability to concentrate, but there is also therapy which helps the person train their brain to work more efficiently. The checklists that Bec makes are one of the tools used.
Im a retired teacher from Maine. Forget big machinery operator or drug addict. I think you would make an excellent teacher. Everyday is something new and you’re constantly striving to help others.
Mainer here too 😉
Neighbor tonight man here. Love that state. I’m in Massachusetts close to the Vermont New Hampshire border. ❤❤❤❤
Oh my gosh yes!!!!
I had this same thought! yes!! Never ever a boring day and you can’t get more community than that
The comments are brutal but so, so valuable if the choice is made to take them constructively and do that deep introspection that you, Bec, are so committed to. You have a beautiful partner, a beautiful child, a beautiful life (and a rock star of an awesome doggo). I'm not sure you realize how rare it is to have so many blessings and to be so well loved. Please don't be afraid to confront those things within yourself that many of these comments address. I promise you, it will be extremely beneficial and very well might be the most valuable inner work you've ever done. Much love to all four of you, darlin'.
Well said thx.
Excuse me, but were you around the past two years? This beautiful mom and wife went through hell. Yes, she is blessed, but I imagine when her mind wanders, there are times she becomes frightened. Thankfully, she is positive, loving and caring, and is always looking out for others. If you haven’t traveled Bec’s road, just know she needs positive reinforcement. She doesn’t need amateur psychologists dissecting her every word. They are a beautiful family, so let’s focus on the positive.
Eamon you don't need to change the way you are and never put yourself down.
Bec does that enough for him
❤❤❤ You both so much Please Both of you don’t ever change Live your life and do what makes you happy Eamon Baby want a Burger eat it Food is food you need it to survive Eat what you enjoy Don’t waste your time and energy on what you are supposed to eat ❤❤❤ Kisses to you both and of course Miracle and Totally Gorgeous Frankie And Osso God Bless ❤❤❤
I think you are an excellent dude and a wonderful couple. Lots of growth over the past years that I have been watching. Onward and upward.
Yes!! 💯💯💯 I agree🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
@jennyrego7321 I completely agree 💯 with you... Eamon is a Gem and such a Beautiful Soul 🙌🏼💯✌🏼
I just finished a great book, "Your Brain's Not Broken: Strategies for Navigating Your Emotions and Life with ADHD." There are so many things I didn't understand about myself that I simply could not explain to others. Being neuro-diverse in a neuro-typical world requires being okay with (or adapting to) being misunderstood. "I'm still figuring myself out" is a common sentiment because we work hard to adapt to fit in. I have an older friend (like myself) who has a multi-million dollar company. He once said that he feels sorry for those who don't have ADHD. This friend has learned to embrace his neurodivergence as a gift and not a deficit. Eamon, your ADHD is a gift from and to the universe.
Thanks for this.
I have a child with adhd and my husband was diagnosed last year with adhd. I promise you he tried everything under the sun to “rewire his brain” in his 45 years. It isn’t possible. You can develop coping mechanisms, but an adhd brain is different than a neurotypical one. And adhd meds work differently for their brains. It calms their mind and allows them to focus.
“Chaos” is another way to describe how a person with ADD thrives because of the way their brain works. It is just as valuable and genuine as being in a meditative state.
Exactly! He’s constantly looking for a dopamine hit.
It's also viewed in a "disorder" lense but only because of how our western society at least, is set up is very colonized and putting us all into the same box. I think neurodiverence is here for a reason. We need diversity. Even animals have neurodiverence.
Bec, just so you know, adhd is a thinning of the prefrontal cortex as well as a lack of dopamine in the brain, a chemical imbalance, it’s literally a difference in the physical brain, nothing can change that. Same with autism for example, it is a brain with more connections, usually those connections prune during early development but autistic brains don’t. So we intake more information that allistic people. Nothing will change that either, just food for thought. It’s hard to understand when you don’t have it but it is very much real and unchangeable. You can manage the symptoms and have a great balanced life, but you can’t rewire it away. And you should remember that because adhd is genetic and your children could end up with it. I have autism and my husband has adhd and I have a hard time understanding adhd and it’s many facets but it’s not our job to tell them it’s not real or they can ‘fix’ it. And if your kids have it, it would be a major disservice to them to say what you said to eamon. It’s important to lead as a good example and be supportive of people who are different than you and believe them.
52:09 when Osso comes to support Eamon who faces a very emotional situation, was so heartwarming. How incredible sensitiv can a dog be. So sweet!
Just want to say here. A label doesn't define a person. A label helps us to help that person navigate the world with the correct tools. I love how eamon says his ADD is a gift. Yes. Yes it is. ❤
Bec, I will preface this with love for your position of learning and personal betterment. But a diagnosis or label has a good side. It doesn't necessarily tell a child "this is your limitation". It gives them access to support and an understanding of how their brain functions and why they have been struggling. It gives them validation for their strengths that aren't always recognized otherwise. Getting diagnosed, given a label, can be cathartic and very healing. It's not a bad thing to have adhd, add, dislexia, autism (the list goes on). Using it as a crutch not good, but understanding the way your brain works and getting support in that capacity is awesome and a label or diagnosis does that.
Agree and the chances are Frankie may well turn out to have ADD too as it can be partially genetic.
It’s not hereditary.
Well said.
@randyholloway920 - It tends to run in families. If a parent has it the chances of a child having it is very high.
100% this. Seeing a diagnosis as a “negative label” is based in old, stigmatized thinking. And it’s very damaging. New research and thinking about neurological differences allows for self discovery and empowerment. Embracing our brains, as they are, with self-compassion and curiosity, allows us to pinpoint our needs, find wonderful resources, magnify our gifts, and live life as our authentic selves.
Focusing on positivity should also be about supporting your partner's opinions and the quirks that make him, him. Criticising and nitpicking is not helpful.
Best comment here
Bec pls God listen to this important advice
So, I've been watching you on TH-cam for literally years. And your videos drew me in immediately. I'd have to go back through to remember where in the world you were when I discovered you. But I so enjoyed them, that I went back and watched all the ones you had done up until that point. I was actually kind of bummed when I'd totally caught up and had to wait for a new one to come out. But much as I enjoyed your videos, these podcasts are on a whole different level! Maybe because I'm a retired educator, and therefore have always been a studier of human nature. But I've found the podcasts utterly fascinating. Eamon, I thought I had you somewhat figured out. But, now, after watching this I understand so much more about what makes you tick! Thank you for being so open and honest with us! I know that can't have been easy. But this was truly an incredible podcast!! But after reading a lot of the other comments, I do want to add one thing I saw no one else talk about. As a long time viewer, I remember back aways, and an issue Bec had. I'm sorry, I forget the scientific name for it, but Bec, I remember you talking about a hypersensitive you have to noises, that don't bother most people, for example how loud someone else chews. I remember you often objecting to Eamon chewing around you, and when you were in the van, he had to go outdoors so as not to make you uncomfortable. As I recall, he never objected to that, because he understood it was a divergence in your brain that made you hypersensitive, and he realized it was not something you could control. So Bec, perhaps the next time you're inclined to tell Eamon he needs to rewire his brain and get rid of his ADD, perhaps you need to remember you had your own brain issues. I assume you still have the issue, although I've not heard you guys discuss it for awhile. Anyway please try to give him a bit more grace, and as others suggested, perhaps you need to learn more about ADD or ADHD.
As a trauma therapist and a big fan of you guys, I do want to nuance some of the things you say because the mental health advice might be very painful for some listeners. I’m specialized in cognitive behavioral therapy, act and somatic work so I do believe in the power of thoughts and working with it as a tool. Yet, it’s very important to know that not everyone has the access to this tool and it’s not as easy as you portray it for some ppl. It’s not your mind that controls it, but your nervous system. So, where some people might be able to work with their thoughts like you do Bec, other people, especially ppl with a trauma history or neurodivergent ppl just don’t have that acces as easily. I see people beating themselves up on a daily basis because they can’t ’be normal, can’t control their thoughts, can’t meditate, can’t focus, can’t be mindful, can’t be fully present…’. They blame themselves for something their system just doesn’t have access to that easily. To be able to selfregulate like you suggest, you need to be able to feel safe. A lot of people live in a chronic state of fight and flight or freeze. In those states, the thinking isn’t in control but the nervous system, and it focuses on protecting the body or mind from any kind of ‘danger’. I know you both mean well and I really appreciate the way you try to help others but please be considerate giving mental health advice because believe me, people are trying their hardest to feel better and advice like this can be very triggering, painful or harmful. Unfortunately it’s not a one size fits all approach and advice like this makes people beat themselves up even more and I know that’s the opposite of what you want to achieve with this advice. Might be interesting to have a psychologist on the show, also regarding adhd because I think it might give a lot of insight and acceptance to the both of you :) I’m living too far away but I m sure a lot of psychologists would love to help you out guys. Lots of love, Kelly
Exactly! It’s all about the body and the nervous system in the end, yes of course it’s healthy to have a positive outlook on life, but if you start trying to control how your body is feeling from the mind you’re doing more harm than good. Listen to your body and it will guide the way to find true and genuine peace and fulfillment that comes from within that you don’t have to work so hard for.
Thank you for this!!
I agree Kelly, thank you for your input..✌🏼
Love this.
Yes! One size Does Not Fit All. And for the record: Planet Fitness Is just fine - for me, for my husband. It has saved our sanity through these last few stressful years.
Eamon, you are a great dad!! We CAN always be doing more with our kids, but that isn’t ALWAYS healthy for parent and/or child. I can imagine you are such a FUN and HAPPY dad- and that means everything!!! ❤ You are amazing.
As someone who has ADD also, I would love to see both of you learn more about it. I think it could really benefit both of you in different ways in your relationship and work life to understand how Eamons brain works.
💯💯💯
For the first half of the video I was a bit sad for all the reasons other people are sharing in the comments, but then I realized that it is actually refreshing to see that even after having experienced immense personal growth, Bec is still only human and has much to learn - just like all of us humans! Their relationship is amazing in many ways, but is also imperfect and that leaves space for them to get to know each other better and love each other even more. I am 1000% sure they both know this and hope that the comments are not being taken the wrong way. To me, seeing your imperfections is just as enriching as seeing your growth❤ Thank you for sharing your life with us and lots of love for you, Frankie and Oso 🐶
AGREED!! 💯, this needs to be the TOP comment!!
Such a nice way to phrase this. I hope Bec reads this one!
Agreed! They’re being vulnerable and that takes a lot of courage.
Clinical psychologist here - In clinical psychology, "ADD" is no longer recognized as a diagnostic term. Instead, we use the umbrella diagnosis of ADHD-Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder-which has three subtypes: ADHD, Predominantly Inattentive Presentation (often observed in women, though it can affect men), ADHD, Predominantly Hyperactive/Impulsive Presentation, and ADHD, Combined Presentation (characterized by both inattentive and hyperactive-impulsive symptoms).
I'm very surprised Bec has not learnt more about it. But she doesn't seem interested. If frankie does inherit it then it will be a, differnt matter.
Thank you for the explanation. My 41 year old son was diagnosed with ADD when he was six. I’d love to finally learn more about it. I’ve read things but never really understood. Can you recommend any books I could read? My son is on medication now but I don’t know what. He says it helps
I always thought add, was attention deficit disorder without the hyperactivity. Ie.. eg.. unable to concentrate in a classroom.. so looks out the window, and the mind goes into dreamland, imaginations. It’s harder to diagnose, because the person is not disruptive.
@@nchilts Yes, that is what it stood for. Now those symptoms would fall under the inattentive subtype.
@ me too
Dear Eamon,
Your love is a palpable force that resonates deeply, inspiring countless hearts. The unwavering support and devotion you've shown Bec throughout her cancer journey is a testament to the transformative power of unconditional love.
Your unique energy, fueled by your ADD, brings creativity, spontaneity, and enthusiasm to every aspect of your life. It's a gift, allowing you to approach challenges with innovative solutions and infectious positivity.
Frankie, your little miracle daughter, has brought out the best in you. Her presence has awakened new depths of love, patience, and purpose. Witnessing your fatherhood journey has been a privilege, showcasing the beauty of vulnerability and selflessness.
Your journey hasn't been without darkness. We've seen you face struggles, doubts, and fears, especially during Bec's cancer battle. Yet, you've emerged stronger, wiser, and more compassionate. Your resilience inspires us to confront our own shadows and persevere.
Through trials and triumphs, you've demonstrated that true strength lies not in perfection but in vulnerability, empathy, and love. Your bond with Bec and Frankie is a shining example of what it means to live with intention, authenticity, and an open heart.
Thank you for sharing your story, for being raw and real, and for showing us that love can conquer even the darkest moments. Your vibrations of hope, love, and resilience continue to ripple outward, touching lives and warming hearts.
With deepest gratitude and admiration.
Zack.
Your very insightful comment brought tears to my eyes. That was beautifully said
Beautiful comment!
Thanks for the podcasts . Your podcasts have already shed light on cancer, depression, suicide, ADHD, perfectionism, ethics around foods and drugs/ medicines and so much more . Opening up discussions on these topics helps others . With all the privatisation , medicalisation and economic focus , we rarely get to discuss individual, community and society trauma and the repercussions in a meaningful, genuine and honest way ; so thank you both for already raising awareness on so many important issues. Prayers and hugs
26:36 Love ya Bec but I sure disagree about rewiring the ADHD out of a brain. You can force a left handed person with great effort to fake being right handed but what has been lost? ADHD isn’t a disease or even a disability in the right environment. It gets diagnosed that way because the K-12 educational environment is biased towards a certain type of brain and natural traits. Those that don’t shine there get diagnosed and offered remediation for a way of being that is not a liability for many normal healthy life patterns outside of education. There are many many necessary jobs that need people who are wired to enjoy a highly stimulating environment. ER or other emergency staff on all levels, creators of many types, child care (not school), retail, technical work that requires on the spot diagnosis with lots of variables, zillions more that aren’t coming to me now. It’s not a fringe group that shines and comes into their own after k-12. It’s a large portion of the population. We are not damaged, we’re just waiting until we are not living an institutional life to come into full flower.
Wow ! Well said !
Just wanted to comment on forcing Leftys to be rightys. School did this to my daughter and told me oh she may be dyslexic. Also her hand writing was so bad I couldn't read it. At all! 4 years later, we discovered she's left handed and has no issues writing letters or numbers backwards. Her writing is clear now.
I totally agree 💯
Very well said ❤
I love what you said. My son has adhd and is struggling a bit with his really tough engineering classes. But he is such a born engineer in every other way. He can build anything and trouble shoot any problem. I feel like his creativity and passion will allow him to see solutions that neurotypical minds wouldn’t see.
Ok, I’m a retired maternity nurse and an old granny and I love you guys! I’ve watched your TH-cam’s for a few years and think you are both amazing. First, I believe a baby rolling off the bed is a right of passage and rarely harmful. Next, as a premie, you should adjust Frankie’s age to align with her due date for at least for 12 -18 months when watching her developmental milestones. And by the way, she is sooo cute and adorable! I so admire how you guys are doing life. Wishing you happiness and good health ❤
And I’d like to order your tea but don’t know how!
@@nancysmith8572 ~ 🍵 I'm sure there's links in the description for this video; also - their company is called HABIT 🍵 out of Canada! 🥰
@@nancysmith8572 P.S. Yes, there's a link to HABIT in their description box --- 😉
I literally cried when Bec explained what her cancer numbers are, I could not be happier for you and I have always loved your videos, but I am loving the reroot podcast
You saying the number of markers in your blood made me cry happy tears. So thankful that you are healing love
Oso on the couch is EVERYTHING. Such a good boy.
I was thinking the exact same thing! What a great dog 🐕 ❤
I just have to say, kids falling off the bed is common. As a toddler i fell off the bed and have a scar on my forehead to this day to show it.
Love you guys!
It happened to my baby and it just happened to my daughter’s baby. I told her “she will be fine!” And she was” 😂
It might well be common, but can it simply be avoided? Can simple steps be taken to avoid it? While we can easily say it's common, is the preponderance of occurrence shown it to be negligence? Please note I'm referring to all occurrences and not one in particular.
@@tracygarrett3952 Yes, we definitely took steps to avoid it, but we are not perfect. I was right next to my baby when he rolled over. I didn’t realize he could roll yet.
I fell off a kitchen counter because my cousin decided to fry an egg - he was baby sitting - i am now 31 and I’m fine - Bec, stop being so dramatic - there are going to be sooo many worse things than falling off the bed and you seem so hard on Eamon about EVERYTHING
There’s a beautiful wealth of information and people to connect with and relate to within the neurodivergent community. I’d highly encourage you both to explore as much as you can to understand for yourselves and also to be a better advocate and compassionate observer of others within your community. I have Autism and ADHD and was diagnosed as a 32 year old. I’m so grateful for everyone who has nourished my life and wrapped me in love within the neurodivergent community.
There is a lot to unpack. This comment comes from a place of pure love for you both.
First, I love you guys. My sons now watch you guys and take a lot of advice. So, I want to start this comment with that tone.
Secondly, IT IS SOOOO NORMAL FOR KIDS TO FALL. Off the bed, out of your arms, off steps, off slides, just pretty much everywhere. And it doesn't make anyone a bad parent. There shouldn't have been an issue, but a quick "you're okay? Awesome, let's move on." Mom of 8 here. Two from my body and 6 adopted in, in some form or another.
Lastly, after being married for most my life, a HUGE and AMAZING lesson I learned as I grew wiser: my husband is his own person and thank GOD he isn't like me or like how I want him to be because I couldn't live with another me. Eamon, be you. Bec, love him, don't parent him. ❤ I learned the hard way on this and caused so much disruption of peace in my home for overcorrecting, bossing, and judging my hubby. I'm not saying you are doing that fully, but I see a lot of beginning stages. A therapist told me once that I was doing that because some part of me felt out of control, so I doubled down on myself and perfectionism and, in turn, started analyzing everything my husband did. Fear.
Lots of love and respect for both of you. I am so grateful for you sharing the real and raw. ❤
Really sound advice! While watching this and their interaction, I instantly thought wow that’s a lot of nitpicking. Totally normal in any relationship, but I do think it’s easy to swing too far towards criticism like you were saying. Hope they find the balance since it does seem like they’ve been going through some tough times especially around minute 40 with the “clearly” comment. Clearly, these two are not all happy go lucky and I think that rawness is nice to see versus pretending everything is great through gritted teeth.
@@kmfishbiologist I agree totally! I love the rawness. They're amazing amazing people ❤️❤️❤️
"I didn't want to make these all about me, but these came from the audience", Girl, you chose the questions
I love how open you are Eamon. Your vulnerability makes you a good human.
Bec, You are so beautiful! I was diagnosed 22 years ago with Stage 4 Ovarian cancer, and like you, my doctors thought I had 1 to 5 years to live based on statistics. I, however, disagreed because my middle child, a son, was emotionally dependent on me as he was quadriplegic due to being 12 weeks premature. I always believed that I would bury him. Amazingly, I was able to be present for him until his death 4 years ago. He was a gift to our family, and everyone adored him. Much to the doctors amazement, I have survived, thrived, and now I am 82!! So much of who we are is determined by our individual beliefs. You are so present for Frankie and Eamon, and I truly believe you will continue to be here for a long time. Your attitude toward life is inspiring to others, and obviously, you are doing so much for yourself at the same time. Eamon is a prince, and, together, you both are a model for those who follow you. I will keep praying for your very special family. I will order Habit too!!
Wow you are an inspiration! Thank You for sharing about your Son and health battle. Obviously you are a Warrior 💕. I don’t want to share my story after reading yours but just know you give me hope just as much as Eamon and Bec. Thank You from the bottom of my heart for your comment. So glad I read it!
What a beautiful story. I believe Bec has come a long ways. Her meditation practice and other natural modalities is keeping her healthy. I was really scared for them both when Frankie was born. Frankie is such a gift isn’t she? Her eyes tell a story. She’s adorable.❤❤❤❤Keep it up Bec, we love you guys so much.
U go girl….wow, sorry for you loss
Yes because is amazing!
@@janina8559 sending you healing prayers❤️
there are people who are like "soul of the company" and Eamon this person who connect and inspires people around. these type of people are rare but really needed. Thanks for sharing!
Well said!
I’ve been married to a man who loves chaos for 40 years. There is never a dull moment and life is so much fun! There can be great joy in the chaos!! And he has helped me to break out of the prison of perfectionism! I’m so much more gracious with myself and free-er to break the rules and go with the flow and surrender to the things out of my control! Love you guys!
Much love to you both. You may find it interesting to compare how often Bec adjusted her shawl vs Eamon touching his nose… keepin’ it real with much love in my heart. 😉❤️
So true!
Searched comments for this exact observation. They are both continuing to learn about themselves and each other Mirror Mirror On The Wall much love to them both on their journey
and so what is the deal that Eamon touches his nose, it's his nose and it's not like he is touching his privates while on camera ( in private he can obviously touch as much as he likes lol )
I just subscribed because of Chris And Allie….you are such a cute couple♥️♥️
The world needs more men like Eamon. Loved this episode ❤
I heard a great quote the other day.... When you figure out what you want to be in life and you go for it and apply yourself to a single thing i.e nurse, doctor etc. then you are just a noun your entire life! But if you never really know what you want to be and you can do a lot of things, then you become a verb! How exciting to be a verb all your life...... so go out there and be the best Verb you can be!
Love this comment ❤
I feel more like a cloud of question marks than a verb though... it would be nice to have some sense of what I wanted to do😅
I was a teacher for 37 years and now I have retired I am definitely exploring being a verb!!!
Eamon if you ever want a crazy career change I see you as some kind of healthcare worker or teacher. You are surrounded by, and literally helping in the most important ways, people in your community
Yeah I think he would be an excellent paramedic or emergency department nurse, coming from a past ER nurse.
I love them and the banter…but this at times is difficult to hear Eamon try to answer fully while being so open, but then be cut short and re routed or Bec takes over with her own view or it turns into being about her instead of him. Not being negative…just an observation. They’re a great pair and you can feel the deep love they have for each other. True partners. ❤
This!
Yes, she rarely let's him finish a thought and tries to reshape him, strange.
@@nifflofair6685yes!!! Definitely more so since Frankie has been born.
Yes, this and please Bec stop getting on him in a public forum for touching his face, I do it all the time and if my partner reprimanded me for it we’d have a huge problem, very unkind and judgmental…
I’m glad I wasn’t the only one that’s noticed! I feel like she’s on his case… and why does there have to be such a deep answer to his wanting to be surrounded by community 😂
So sweet to hear more of you Eamon, really big respect to your for dealing with all things you mentioned. Love your energy, your good heart, your crazyness and openness. :) So awesome to have such great dads in the world who also talk open about their parenting struggles.
All 5 of my kids have fallen off the bed and as they got older much more happen to them . They are fine today . Frankie is beautiful and lucky to have you all for parents.💕
Came to say both my kids have fallen off the bed! I feel like it just happens especially when they go from immobile to mobile within like a day haha then you learn and keep going
Yes! This! My kids are teenagers now; as hard as you try, none of us are perfect and sometimes you’re going to stuff up and accidents happen. The main thing is she’s okay; it’s a lesson learned. 😊
My daughter fell off the bed once. It's a normal rite of passage it seems like. You guys are rockin' the parenting thing. You'll have to keep giving each other grace through all the stages of Frankie's growth.
Exactly. All 4 of mine did too, at some point. They're fine.
Eamon, you are a creative thinker. Many who have ADHD have a need to figure out how things work, then get bored. Your mind is running faster than others. Embrace your gift ! But, tissues, dude 🤧! Bec, you help Eamon balance, and he helps you balance. You are great parents and friends to those you love. Thank you both for sharing your adventures in this life. I pray 🙏 for you to have continued health, happiness, joy, and love.
Eamon, I have 5 kids, I have had one fall off the bed, they were totally fine and I learned she could roll. My husband didn't secure a baby gate and one fell down the stairs, also fine thankfully. There is that brief pause when you hear a disaster happening and being thankful you hear a cry. You are a great dad!
Eamon has accepted Bec through hell and back. I hope she can learn to accept Eamon in the same way. Different is not less, he doesn't have to be like you. He loves you so much, why isn't he enough the way he is. He's pretty awesome. None of us are perfect.
What made you think this? She seems very accepting to me
@@Emma-dx2hbfinally someone that saw this podcast as completely normal and loving as I did. I really don't get people nowadays so much negativity and nitpicking 🤷 I think Becks energy is everything and Eamon loves it 😊
@anjicaphotography7990 Yes thank you! these comments are making me feel crazy, I'm not the type to write comments but my god I think we need to spam these comments with some common sense 🙄
@Emma-dx2hb I'm the same, I don't think I left a comment on you tube in the last 5 years. But it's crazy how offended people feel in the name of Eamon and completely twist everything. All I see is a deep conversation between two people that love each other so much. And I'm sure if he reads all the comments, he would feel the same as we do right now🤷❤️
@@Emma-dx2hb rematch it. EVERY question she asks him, becomes about her. EVERY question.
Bec you kept saying you choose your feelings but when Eamon would state one of his feelings you'd disagree with him and tell him what you thought he should feel. We don't necessarily 'choose' our feelings, we don't 'choose' to be hurt or feel unsafe (like Eamon's fear of sharks, he doesn't choose that) or upset. We should still get to feel those feelings and process them but not have to deny those feelings under the banner of 'choice'. This episode was a real eye opener for me, it felt very hipocritical of Eamon. At 1:24:17 you tell Eamon 'stop touching your ears now' but do you realise you're holding on to your leg for a lot of this? Or retucking your hair? That's the same thing. Just let him be.
Hypocritical
It was hard to watch.
As someone who fell off of the bed when I was young and broke a bone, you guys are FINE! You love that baby. She’s your whole world. You would never intentionally hurt her. It’s hard for parents to realize when their baby isn’t so much of a baby anymore. You can set them down ANYWHERE for at least 4 months and KNOW they won’t move.. it’s hard to break that cycle. You guys are absolutely amazing. Big hugs ❤️
Thank you for saying that ADD is a gift. I truly believe it is. My kid is dyslexic in addition to adhd and we tell her all the time it's her super power :)
I am a Pediatric nurse and my daughter fell off the bed too. 29 years ago. It can happen and doesn’t mean you have to fall in the cross. Yes I felt terrible of course and thankfully she was okay. I would be deeply hurt if my husband had kept bringing it up.
I've been following you guys for a couple of years now and you never seized to amaze me. Thank you for sharing your world with us. Lots of love from SA
You two are amazing together! I look forward to all your videos including this reroot podcast now. I was diagnosed with Guillain Barre Syndrome in 2007. I have been in a wheelchair since then. What gets me through the day are my children and grandchildren and the positive attitude that I try to exude. Definitely count my blessings every day. Sure, there are days that are tough, but I use humor and joking to help me through! You have such a positive attitude Bec and I’m so glad that you have Eamon for support and to lean on. I can’t tell you how much I enjoy listening to your ideas and how to keep positive in your life. Thank you so much!
I'd be careful about perpetuating the myth that they give kids "speed" for ADHD, there's already enough stigma around the diagnosis, it doesn't help to spread misinformation. ADHD is a dopamine deficiency disorder, meaning that the brain can't respond to dopamine as well as neurotypical brains. ADHD medication is often stimulants, because the brain needs that extra boost. They are often in the class of "amphetamines" but that doesn't mean they are literally meth or speed. Also, lots of non stimulant medication exists now for ADHD. It wasn't like that when Eamon or myself were kids, but things have changed a lot!
Yeah, my meds allow me to do the laundry, they don't make me high
Plus not all sub-types of ADHD respond to meds. Its a very individual thing.
But actually amphetamines are speed. And that's ok. Speed actually slows the brain down for those of us with ADHD. But it is indeed speed. 😅
@@h33-q8w I agree with you! As a fellow ADHD person on stimulants, I just think without context, the phrase "they're giving kids speed" sounds like they're unnecessarily doping kids with hard drugs. I think there's already too much stigma around the use of medication for kids with ADHD to be throwing around phrases like that. I just wish people would say "stimulants" instead of loaded language that I think is meant to garner a specific emotional response.
So this is why caffeine actually calms me, doesn’t make me alert and buzzy like people around me. Interesting
I hope she gets your fearlessness Eamon you seem to be so fearless in life which will make her successful and we love watching you be that way 💙💙 its common that kids fall off things, it does happen, you guys are such great parents and Frankie is SOOOOOOO Lucky to have you both
I remember my son was around 7m when he rolled off our bed! I was completely traumatized over it! Had a mark of the floor board right acrossed his little forehead! Luckily we already had an appointment with a neurologist because he was born with a little cyst on his head! I went in and explained the whole situation my tears to the doctor and ill never forget the smile he gave me and he goes "ohh sweetheart you must be a first time mom, kids fall off the bed it happens! It probably will happen again! He will be just fine!" Give yourself a little grace parenting is hard, you guys are doing a wonderful job❤
I’m here for the positive energy and love you both give off - living life to the fullest..it’s so inspiring! Thank you for sharing yourselves so freely!
I’m ADHD but not in need of intervention. I have some very close ADHD friends and we have been very successful humans, ( in our 60’s and 70’s.). Get it Eamon!! You are so fun to watch because you are always busy on a project that you complete with ease!! Love the turmeric tea!! Gotta get some more for the fall!! I have a secret crush on Bob! Hi Bob!!
I absolutely love how much Eamon loves his family. Bec you’re doing a great job. Give each other grace through parenthood & love each other. It’s a tough job
Parenting is HARD AF - and I'm here for normalizing saying that. It's hard, it's exhausting, it's challenging, and sometimes you just want to get tf away from it for a day or five. THAT IS NORMAL and no one should beat themselves up about it. Take care of you so you can take care of Frankie; and give yourself some grace. 💜
Totally!!!
I want to say I LOVE that you are open to discuss issues. You are open!! I hear sighs of frustration the further I watch. You’re ahead of most couples with the open discussion!!!!!! PLEASE continue these discussions behind the camera. You get it and your days are very in tune to each other even if you don’t fully see it now.! That is unless the videos you put out are only for theatrical purposes.
I am 61, and this is my first comment on any pod cast or video. I discovered you guys while watching Max and Occy, and I just love you! I love your energy and zest for life.
I was saddened when you decided to slow down on your posts, but I understand your need to pull back. Now I eagerly anticipate your weekly Reroot Podcast and really enjoy it!!
I am currently dealing with depression and I had a really bad day yesterday . This episode has inspired me to try to be a better version of myself. I watch you guys and Max's vlogs and see you talk about meditation, and it is really inspiring me to give it a try.
Bec needs to understand that you don’t have to actively be working so intensely on yourself. You need to find a place of contentment and have periods of your life where you’re just living. it’s exhausting to constantly be over analyzing yourself and those around you. You’re both great people and great parents and you will naturally grow as you experience life. No need to intensify and put pressure on that growth. I wish she would understand that brains do not need to be rewired to be happy. You do not need to change.
Agreed. This kind of mentality is unfortunately very popular these days in a popularized version of spirituality and manifestation mindset. I think we need to give bec the credit she deserves since she’s dealing with immense challenges and being a mom, partner, friend etc on top of that. But yes this kind of mindset can be exhausting and I hope eamon doesn’t feel too much pressure to be this way too as that could cause distance in their relationship
It's exhaustiing.
Eamon, I also have ADHD. We aren’t sick, we’re different, and that’s okay. It’s not an excuse to let the negative aspects of the diagnosis run rampant, and it’s possible to keep those parts of you in check. But, be easy on yourself. ADHD often comes with a lot of negative self talk and I just want you to know that it’s okay to be who you are even if it doesn’t match what society wants. Bec, I’m so proud and happy for you girl! I’ve been praying for you and I’ll keep praying. ❤
I love that you guys operate from different levels of casualty toward parenting. I have never heard such an honest sharing of hard experiences (my oldest fell off the bed as a baby) and I identified myself in your dichotomy of wanting to feel heard and hear that it is significant and a safety concern and not wanting to feel hammered about a mistake with someone you love. I have 6 month old twins that were born two months early so I’ll be clinging to your 7 month mark like a life raft. Thank you for sharing and being someone that others can relate to. Sometimes it feels lonely in the hard times, thank you for making it feel less lonely.
new follower here just catching up on all of your posts. i rarely comment on things - but i wanted to say thank you to eamon for sharing his experience during bec's diagnosis and journey with cancer and pregnancy. my husband was in a major accident last summer and was in the hospital for over a month - most of which was in the icu and mentally in a state that was not him. it was so hard. so hard for him but i'm still coming to terms with all of it as well, and know that i need to continue to process it. he's doing well now and we're both happy and healthy. thank you so much for doing this podcast and sharing your life. i love listening to you guys and the perspectives you bring to the table that i had maybe never thought of. you inspire me so much.
Dear Bec. Thank you for sharing your journey. Stage 3 cancer patient here. You are amazing and my inspiration since being diagnosed in June and now going through chemotherapy. You are an inspiration to all. Warm genuine and kind.
I am 73 years old and can relate to so much that Eamon says and how he looks at life. It amazes me! Thanks!
50:42 I had to pause. BAWLING with joy and gratitude. 15 years ago my youngest had an issue, everyone said it could only go one way. I read somewhere that in .0001 of cases, it just goes away. I BELIEVED with everything in my soul, and felt the love, ease and gratitude of KNOWING it would just disappear. It did. Around the same time my grandmother (who was my greatest champion and the love of my life) was diagnosed with stage 4 ovarian cancer. She would NOT speak life into that. She called it "some trouble with her belly"... was supposed to live a few months and lasted YEARS. I myself now am struggling with remembering how to believe. Thank you for reminding me. I will be better every single day. When you went ghost, I knew why. I put out the most loving, positive healing energy for you whenever you crossed my mind. Thank you for reminding me. Those who "feel sorry" don't understand how wrong they are. It's not the right tone...lol I love you both so much. Thank you for reminding me to keep rewiring. I've done it for others, and now I'll do it for me!... I'm going to finish this now. lol xoxo
I identify with Bec's parenting style so very much. I've always been a bit of a perfectionist. Now that my daughter is almost 27, I wished I had been more chill raising her. I wore myself emotionally and physically unnecessaly and gave her a bit of anxiety in the process.
I've watched you guys on TH-cam for a few years now and now I'm watching reroot too and honestly you are both so inspiring you make me look on life with so much more positivity and I'm just thankful to you both for that ❤
This podcast makes me feel so seen! Bec you say so many insightful things that help validate so many feelings.
I appreciate how authentic and vulnerable you both are in these conversations. I am sure many will have opinions and that is ok as well but thank you for doing your best to be brave and real. Many cater to others but your intentions are so clear …you want to be honest, open, encourage, and empower others. Keep being you. ❤
This podcast has easily become my “habit”. The fact that I need to have a box of tissues when I watch your episode, my heart is always touched by the beauty and the depth of your discussions. Clearly, you are two heart centered people in hoping to spread light and joy in our world. Thank you for sharing your light so people do not have to live in darkness.❤❤❤
Emon you’re awesome. The amount of love you have is inspiring. I see some sadness in your eyes maybe i am wrong but you are awesome, awesome dad, awesome human, awesome husband. Don’t ever forget that please!!
I appreciate you guys being vulnerable on such a public platform it truly touches all of our lives in a positive way. So happy you chose to come back to the podcast not only to share your personal values but also help all of us open up to have meaningful conversations with our closest family members but also the person sitting next to you on the subway or coffee shop. Thank you! Also very happy to hear Eamon share his story it means a lot.
As a mom. I totally connect with Eamon on the first months being terrible. I felt like a terrible mom because I didn’t really enjoy those months. I didn’t have any serious complications. Once he started navigating life around 6-8 months is when everything started to get easier and my love was always there, but definitely grew stronger. My boy is almost 7 and the absolute best! I carried the guilt for awhile but have since learned to let it go. We are all so happy now!
Bec, I wish, I WISH, you could understand the seriousness of ADHD/ADD and know that it’s not something you can just “mind over matter” to fix. It really hurt my heart to hear you say that 😔 I would give anything for that to be true though, as someone who has been diagnosed since they were 12 (now 34) and who has tried to go off her meds or been in situations where I’ve been without my meds. I know you’ll never see this comment so I’m not going to go off into explaining everything but if you ever want a perspective of a female adult with ADD who also had it during childhood I have a lot to share lol.
Bec, one of the symptoms of ADD/ADHD is fidgeting. He’s not comfortable talking about himself, either. And the opposite of fear is not love. It’s calmness or confidence. The opposite of of love is indifference.
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I have to say that finding spirituality less than a year ago has changed my life enormously. It's so refreshing to hear you talk about being connected to everyone and approaching things with love. my daughter was diagnosed in 2021 and my sister in 2022 and spirituality has been a gift and so is your podcast. Found you back in 2020 on TH-cam and enjoy every single episode. Bec you are the living example of what positive thinking and spirituality can do. And I have nothing but positive outcomes for you and your adorable little family. ❤
I was recently diagnosed with ADHD myself. The label helped me understand myself SO much more. It felt like an explanation for why I struggle with certain things that a neurotypical person cannot relate to. And I feel less isolated because of it. I found the label to actually be less limiting, and more so felt validating. I allot myself much more grace and patience, which in turn has only improved my mental health.
Yes! I know Bec was quick to talk about how damaging she thinks the label of ADHD is on kids, but I was disappointed she didn’t entertain the other option. I wasn’t diagnosed until my 40s and now I’m working to undo all the damage of years of not understanding why certain things were so hard and impossible to do like others. All the years of being labeled lazy and an underachiever and not being able to make sense of the disconnect between my effort and the outcomes. Years of hating myself causing foundational harm.
Her perspective on ADHD was outdated and ableist.
Whether she wants to accept it or not, neurodivergence has a huge genetic component. I don’t think it’s a bad thing if Frankie is neurodivergent, but I hope Bec broadens her perspective before long.
I have followed and LOVED your YT channel for years. This podcast, the insight, reflection, guests, conversations are extraordinary. Honestly, I never appreciated/knew tue depth of your shared passion and brilliance. This is so much more than entertainment. This is humanity out in the open. Thank you!
Perfectionism is one of the most celebrated qualities in business and life that can be so debilitating for the person with the perfectionist habits.
Guys!!!! ❤❤❤ My first born fell off the bed one too many times 🤦🏻♀️ You’re awesome parents. It is so common. We would pile up the pillows and he’d still get around. It happened to me and it happened to my husband. Just have love and grace for each other 💕 Y’all are going to mess up along the way but as long as you remain a team and know that the other would never harm Frankie on purpose yall will fly in parenthood. ❤
Parenting is so amazing! Hard but the best ever. Love you guys so much!!!
Why I loved this episode? Because you guys are always yourselves! And showing you are also not perfect. That makes you perfect and worthy listening to you! Keep going you’re doing great! ♥️
Been watching Eamon and Bec navigate life for several years now. I'm not really a commenter, but here to contribute to their goal of being the most reviewed podcast.
The podcast really gives more detail to who they are outside of the TH-cam channel and only adds to their relatability.
Being pillars for what is possible with a challenging diagnosis and as parents. It is so nice to see people sharing their experiences in this way.
Thankful for your honesty and work ❤
37:37 I relate to this so much. What recently clicked for me was a conversation with an old friend who choses to be child free for a number of reasons, but one big one was that her Mom was a stay at home mom that in her eyes was the perfect mom. She cant see herself living up to that expectation, loves her job, and has no example on how she could be a mom thats 'good enough' without losing who she is.
For kids seeing us moms balancing life, self care, rest and showing up to help others, and finding our way in that (without mastering that skill yet) might be the thing they need to see to have the confidence they can achieve growth too 🙂
Hope this helps someone ❤ love this podcast btw, binge watching it rn 😅
Hmmmmm this is really shedding a new ( not in the best of light ) on Becs perfectionism vs Eamon just being a normal human. Eamon you are enough and speak from the heart.
I would love to hear you have an episode on ADHD and neurodivergence as a topic. I think there is so much to learn from a therapist or someone who specializes in neurodivergence and how your brain works in each stage of life with having adhd or autism and understanding the characteristics of both.
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I'm glad you made this video, it reminds me of my transformation from a nobody to good home, $80k bi weekly and a good daughter full of of love
This is what Daisy Clara does, she has changed my life.
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No words for how much I love you all. I also love this format, this setting. Please please please tell me where you got the sofa. Perfect, all.
I could listen to you guys for hours and never get bored. Such an interesting, thoughtful and respectful conversation, handing some tough topics with grace and care. You're both badasses!
ADHD is very real, it is a neurological condition that we are born with.
I really encourage you both to do more research on what it really means and how it affects someone’s life.
Eamon, I think learning more would be a huge step in realizing your identity!
I was diagnosed, 2 yrs ago at 45 and it has completely changed my life, how I function and how I understand myself.
Yes it a spectrum disorder like AUTISM, but not talked about enough and not diagnosed much at all!!! Very special people, doing special things!
Except we’re not born with it.
The brain develops in context.
It’s also not a condition- it’s a neuro type.
Aaaaand neuro types aren’t fixed.
It’s you who needs to do the reading- I suggest starting with Norman Doidge, then into Van De Kolk and then look at Maté/ Grandin.
Just because you type it/read it online/claim a label for yourself/get slapped with one, it doesn’t make it true.
Partners interviewing themselves has also these components of completing the other sentences. It doesn’t come from imposing themselves. Is just their natural talking and the fact they have angles of the other that they feel important to talk. That happened also with Bec for initial part of the talk (maybe because Eamon talks less Bec was compensating without noticing ). But once Eamon started to open up, it was Eamon been interviewed. I appreciate their honesty; Bec could edit to “look better” to fit the standards that I have read in the comments but she/they didn’t. They are 2 human beings growing up together and navigating the ups and downs of their daily life as a family in a healing process and showing their positive way. Thank you for sharing 😊.
My battle was during chemo I was the patient that ate "healthy". No dairy. No smoking. Exercise daily. I get cancer. My twin sister. Smoker. No exercise. No veggies. Clean bill of health. Also I asked myself many times " How did eating well, taking vitamins, exercise help me?". Should I even try anymore?
My dr always said- “ sometimes it’s not what you’re eating, its what’s eating you.”
Its just the luck of the draw or hereditary. I got diabetes, I'm in better health than my sister and brother and they don't have it.
@@Angela-el3gp I guess. Much luck to you.
Glad to hear about the diet stuff. I’ve been on my own journey and struggling hard with what I eat and I watch way too much of the keto/carnivore influencers and thinking it will click any day now. I even left a comment on one of your first cancer videos because I felt deeply that veganism was the exact opposite of what Bec needed to be healthy. I’m a cancer survivor as well. But I’m not an expert and really know nothing that I should be telling other people. But I feel that my health is the priority and that figuring out how to make the world a better place will naturally come from that.
I'm so impressed with your relationship and authenticity and courage. I imagine a lot of the criticism in these comments come from people who haven't ever experienced the honesty and openness that I see in your relationship. What a gift that you have found each other. Thank you for sharing - I'm guessing a lot of subscribers are trying to learn how to find the same with their partners. Nothing make believe here! I'll be watching and listening as long as you keep creating. Keep growing, beautiful people. Entertainment is much kinder because of you and your guests.