Handling an angry child. The first step. | Parenting - 105
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- If you are the parent of a teenager who's frequently angry and shows temper tantrums, it can be very distressing. I discuss one of the first steps in tackling the problem. Apply this as soon as possible.
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This is probably the best advice I've come across.. throughout my teenage years I was still very intimidated by my mother, so I never really pushed back unless I felt absolutely suffocated,
but over those as you said there is so much resentment built up in me towards her that I have no peace of mind.. it's a horrible feeling. I always feel angry and hopeless.
My parents never realised this and I think many others don't either.
It affects our self esteem, and the way we view the world and other people around us...
I am 22 and personally I find it very hard to trust people, I have almost no confidence to do anything and horrible self esteem...
I overthink everything and always question even simple things.. I find it very hard to be assertive and stand up for myself even today... this has cost me a lot of time, unnecessary worry and even money in cases where I have to charge clients .
Worst part is even when I know that only I can fix myself now, I can't help but blame my mother for the way I am today.
I am trying as hard as I can to be self aware now and fix myself before I become a mother someday, so that I don't have to repeat the mistakes she made with me.
Please take this advice your children will thank you someday.
When I argue with my mother now I subconciously say some things that she says to me or has said to me growing up and I don't even notice it till she tells me " not to repeat her dialogue back to her " xD..
It's quite funny now when I'm not angry because if she feels bad because of what I say why did she tell me the exact same thing ?
Karma is real xD
Annu I understand you completely. I am 44 now and suffering with the same issues of anger. Destroyed most and all of my relationships with people. Still working towards it.
Dear Sridhar , I was introduced to your videos by my wife , a gynaecologist who truly admires your knowledge and skill.
I am a practicing psychiatrist and I would like to congratulate you for the wonderful work that you do. I’m impressed by your depth of knowledge, I truly wish that all parents listen to your talks and follow your advice.
God bless you
When your cute little child transitions into this weird unpredictable creature called teenager 😂😂😂😂
Didn't expect it to be teenager....
I can't believe he gives such great advices, where was he when I was a teenager
I always keep in mind what things I used to hate or get irritated about my parents and how I felt when they scolded without understanding me and my feelings. This helps me in understanding my child psycology and dealing with him.
I am 22 years old now. And this video made me cry. I am still scared to show this to my parents because I have always feared them and till date I do so.
It has affected my personality on such a deep level. I felt unworthy of everything. Had serious confidence issues. I had to face a lot of trouble getting a job and making any friends. I have never been to a friend's party even if the party was at the daytime at her own house!
All these things seem petty now and I have learnt to grow up from them. But I wish I could talk fondly about my childhood.
So to all the parents watching this video! Thank You for watching it! Even your thought to change for your children will mean a lot to them I am sure!
Jagruti Thakkar don't be.. ur strong
Can relate ! I hope you're better now. :)
I was so dissappointed with myself as a parent when I wached this video.. I realised How badly I was treating my child.. From now on I will start respecting my child and always see him as an individual with his own thoughts and likes.. M so grateful that TH-cam recommended me to watch this video🙏
Level of aggression my son has at this moment, though he is 7 yrs old, is I guess 5.. Becos he reciprocates angrily to us and mainly when it comes to school related.. He doesn't like to study at all but he is with a good brain that I know.
Wow. Your comment is how I feel. My daughter is 6 years old with so much aggression toward me. Also, at school she have a behavior problem at school but she is so smart and get good grades.
I know its been 3yrs with your son. How is he doing?
I am very late to see Ur videos...as a mother....I have to change a lot...lots of change is needed...thanks you bro...may God bless you
Really I to
Anna Math we are all not perfect . There is no graduation in motherhood . You are just fine . Keep improving .
I too
Yet not too old....keep learning
Thank you my brother. I m loving my children by now more than countless times I did. Keep going. God bless you always..... God send angels n ur one among them.
I loved this guy. He gives great advice so many adolescent changes and have better home. Because of behaviour from parents there r children who have that side effects in later part of their life. I am one of them.
Thank you so much for the video.i saw the video at the right time when I was going through the same issue of handling my kid and you have undoubtedly open my eyes.i would say in my case 95%i was wrong in my way of tackling.thankyou once again
Wow! YOU ARE JUST AMAZING! So thankful to you. No, we are very grateful.
Thank you for explaining the practical scenarios in a very brief understandable way... Parenting is inshort learning to grow together and I should start listening to the child just as you said 🙏
I just can't explain how much your video has affected me. I had never been so introspective about my own behaviour towards them. It's like I had been wanting someone to tell me what to do where to get help from. I am so very thankful to you. Keep posting videos on child rearing.God bless you.
You have acknowledged all the problems I have been facing as a child all these years. I have been facing all these problems since my birth but when I share with somebody they never understand, tell that parents are God, they brought you to this World so they have full right to do anything and call me disrespectful. So I stopped sharing my pain and that has accumulated in me and has turned into frustration. I become very aggressive whenever someone asks me about my parents. For the first time someone has viewed the problem through my perspective.
I request all the parents to learn good parenting otherwise not to give birth. 🙏
Baishali Das thanks for sharing your views as a child,truly sympathise with you...will surely apply ur feedback as a parent 👍but not all parents are literate enough to understand what they are doing(though educated)I mean the understanding level...and most of them just follow a trend ...a repetition of what they see around,the way some of the relatives or friends might be asking them to treat their kids,be strict etc...or a repetitive behaviour of things being said to them as children...that’s sad of course and children do become a victim to it! I would urge you to look beyond what you view them as...being a victim to all such trends of the society and Forgive them unconditionally for they r humans after all...u are mature indeed for which you cud pen down ur feelings so well,try speaking to them whenever u get an opportunity to...anytime in life...season ur words with salt be gentle and explain them ,if they don’t understand you...it’s their choice....You be the change you want to see😄👍All the best dear!
@@nancypimenta9388 I try to explain them but I always fail and end up with anger and consequently crying. I try to forgive and forget but they keep repeating the negative things. The things that hurt me a lot, more than a break up because they are my family members, the closest. I cannot even escape from this anyway.
Very nice information Shridhar.. Looking forward for more topics like how to prevent child from flighting with siblings or cousins..
You were awesome on this particular topic it would really help many parents to reconsider their behaviour towards their children.
You are correct. Thank you so much. I will follow you, I will fix myself. ☺
Very informative and educational video. A lot of people need to listen to this and learn how to deal with their kids. Thank you!!
Atleast there is someone who understands
I wish my parents watch this video
I cant even recommend them
I wish ur counselling was there when I was bringing them up single handed for my husband was in the field most of the time, being in the Army .I am only filled with remorse when my loving children complain me of their childhood. I sincerely wish if I could only relive that period with my most treasured children. No matter they love us so much but I feel the void.
I also thank the creator of u tube which is reaching every household to help them in bringing up their children in the best way for all the parents love their children
Sir, I liked your English. I'm impressed the way you guide 👌
Good information to all parents. By Knowingly or unknowingly every parent does the mistake that you listed. Thank you very much for your open speech. All the best and wishes you to put more videos
Awesome lesson. Thanks a lot for such a great life lesson and parenting tips. Keep guiding and keep up the good work.
Very well define, after listening this, I got so many answers and got to know my mistakes and the ways to proceed further. Child nourishment is a huge responsibility specially in this age of competition and technology. Thank you so much. Stay blessed brother...
An eye opener video for most of the parents sir... Thank you very much... Please make a video on dealing with tantrums of preschool child and some ideas of positive way to inculcate good behaviour in a publi place...
Bravo sir what a speech. Wish all parents listen to this. Very good work sir.
Nicely putted Shridhar keep going. All these are very simple ways and very small moves but it will change our life.
Last part was gem. Do the same to your partner too show respect.
Thank you so much..ur video is like a God's gift for me. I'm making all that mistakes with my son..he is only 5year
A good and well explanation. A very good beneficial massage for all the parents...
Truely an eye opener.Thanks a million times.
I am so wrong! Thank ever so much for opening my eyes. Forever grateful.
great. I found your videos at right time. I am changing for good of my son. thanks Sridhar. you are an enlightenment.
You are so amazing! Thank you so much for your wisdom.
Very nice and useful video which i really wanted to see thanks Sreedhar
Absolutely found this helpful and an eye opener👍👍 Keep it up I think you are helping a lot of people!!
Amazing!! may Allah reward you for the amazing informative videos . I just dicovered you and I will share with everyone I know. Thank you so very much!
Sir ur videos are eye-opening , exactly I have done all the mistakes as a parents ,I will try to change myself hereafter,but the problem with me is I am not able to think I react immediately
THANK YOU SO MUCH, you are the best one!
Very beautifully explained sir.. I can just recall my day tantrums of my kids.. Thanks alot for sharing this.
Thank u so much for your valuable speech and suggestions
Sir, thanks for the video. It's an eye opener. My children are of 5 & 8 years old. I impose lot of rules to make them more disciplined, this is first thing which irritates them. Secondly talking on phone instead of concentrating on them.
Hi the suggestions or advice given by you is perfect as parents we do mistakes but blame our own children first we should correct ourselves. Thank u
Sir this was exactly my mirror image of me and my son . Before my son I think I need counseling for the happier relationship with my son
The most beneficial video. According to me, Even parenting is itself an art which should be handled with patience. From here, from this video I just want to correct myself were I have gone wrong. And I wish all the parents Good luck for a successful parenting.
Thank you for your advice I love to listen to you your advice helping me a lot i have two kids,when they do not listen to me for sure I am going to use your technique
True and clear explanation for managing situations while raising a kid.. 👍🙏
Nice video you had done enough research on the subject,
Sir!! U r guiding us for better tomorrow 👌👌I realise...What I am???& my child.?..what to set in... Thanks a lot... Really super...
It was really really really useful video I ever felt. Thank you sir.
Very self reflective! Thank you
Thanks sir.. You are giving so good points in each video... Thanks
Pranams 🙏🏻😇perfect words..It works if parents works and impliment it..Thankyou for sharing..will share your vedio 👍👌Love and gratitude 🙏🏻😇
Tqq so much sir....u r an eye-opener in parenting...😍😍My daughter is 7 years old. .. it's really helpful for me to change myself as a mother... I ll definitely control my gestures and anger......I love her so much...
Very useful message.. I'm hearing you as if you see everything what's happening around me ... Very useful I will change to change my child I will respect him unconditionally with all words and body language too really helpful.. Thank you for making this video
Hi...all the comments below ..are my feeling to Express you...so well spoken...my God...I have a child of 3 yrs and unknowingly am showing my anger for some reason becoz she does not eat....and go to school...or the simple things like this...but yes ...those are not imp than my child and her relationship with me to her...thanks a ton...definitely implement the takeback....
Hi sridhar garu, your suggestions are helpful. Thank you
Very brilliant discussion.... Thank you for the enlightenment
Ur guidance is very helpful. I m really grateful to u.
I can only say THANK YOU 🙏 I
I totally agree wht u say....I think before kids parents needs counselling......n i vil try to focus wht u said regarding parenting...thanxs alot .
Sir your words have helped me immensely in dealing with my children.thankyou so much
sir really this message was really an eye-opener,I THOUGHT PARENTS SHOULD BE STRICT AND WAS STRICT.But after watching your video I came to how harsh was I to my children . Really I should change from this moment.Whatever points u told ,all I've done ,Many days I'll be thinking why my children are not closer to me,like others without knowing that all because of me.Really I should change myself and be friendly with my children. But whatever I've done I because of my parents ,they were strict me and I that habits I reflected the same.Thanks for the video and expecting more videos on parenting.
Really I love your videos. I am very thankful to you tube because I got great messages for parenting. Your parents are so lucky to have a son like you.
Psychologists are known as wounded healers.
Thank you sir ... it was more informative. I got a big tip to concentrate on my child's character.
Thank you Shridhar ji. Like all your videos and found them very educational.
Totally agree with u...these r all the mistakes we have been doing as parents...my kids r small..so i think we all have hope here to be happier...and yes Respect is the most important thing to be given to each other...
Nice content, nice voice....useful...we all know but such videos refresh which we forget all the time...
It is a very helpful video to meet my present situation with my teenage kid will implement all the suggestions and see that my child is happy.
Hello sir.. first of all thanks a million as ur video is an eye opener for every parent like me.. further I would request for a link if any for how a parent should behave with a 2-3 yrs old child so as to develop good things in him..teach him..
Yes please... please make a video for a 2-3 year old child and how a parent should behave with them
My parents are destroying me ,i feel no future ,he does every harsh and unwise step to make my life as miserable as he can,he doesn't receive my calls,he doesn't reply to any, instead he doesn't even care about my study and results rather he keeps breaking my motivation I asked him to allow me to pursue learning coding and let me go through a better learning process but he just keeps on criticizing me in front of my other family members,I don't understand what to do next,he was never such a weird person ,in past 3-4 years he has turned out to be the most difficult person in my life, somebody's please tell me what to do...
@@_idkwho4975 please seek a motivational guru. Keep your aim high. If he doesn't support you might he have more problems then you have. Forgive him as a human. Keep taking physiologists help. You definitely find a path. Right now no need to tell any one about physiologists appointment.
Thank you sir for the good explanation.
Such a beautiful speech.. Learnt more from u... It will enhance our lives in many ways.. Helpful... Much interactive... Keep doing 👍👍👍👍
Thanks a lot I will change my self I have tooooo...
Very nice information. Thank you💐
Thanks i learnt so much from ur video. Yes ur right my bad attitude is rubbing off on my children. They are so innocent so I need to change first. It’s all my fault. Carry on the lifesaving job.
I shall try this sir,you are right, I am such. a parent , I will surely try to change my behaviour. As you said it has happened by mistake I will respect my child, thankyou so much for such. a wonderful video. thanks once again sir.
Thank you so much for educating on parenting...
My son is 15 yr old..sometimes we r going through a very rough time .my mom says it is just teenage tantrums and i am finding it difficult to accept the change. Came across ur channel today ..really God sent :) thank u so much
You are too good. My friend is not knowing how to deal with his 22 year old daughter who sometimes ill treats her mother and and feels so bad about it.
Thanks Dr. I have a lot to work on.
Thank u . Informative and useful .
Wonderful thanks a lot for ur advice.
Thank you so much sir really I need it for my children thank for good advice
The best session i ever heard
Superb video just best for awareness in parents
Sir ur video is a eye opener to me . I will definitely work on it iam confused how to handle my elder son he is 11 yr old after seeing ur video I made a blunder mistake in parenting I will change myself to get my little one back to me. Now I realise my mistake thanks a lot sir
Fantastic. I doing all this.its a life changing advise.
My son's anger level is 8. He's 5 now and of late is see there's lots of increase in anger. He usually gets angry whenever he loses a game, when we turn off TV after timer rings to which he agrees before we start. As soon as he gets angry he starts crying, shouting and beating.
Excellent video!
Thank you sir !
Very useful tips sir thank s a lot ,we do many things deliberately aware of the results
Thank you so much your videos are valuable for us.as a mother I have change alot ....my daughter's age 12 years
Thanks a lot it's was very helpful.
Thank you so much....🙏🙏🙏
Very informative thanks keep it up
My son is 10 he already has all that irritating list of theirs you said in the beginning. This is exactly the time I wanted some advice on this I need to change. Thank you.
Very informative 👍👍good job bhai
Thank you!
This second one content which is superb... very true
Wow ur way of expressing rolling eyes its just wow i am so impressed sridhar really good job 💓lots of respect n love frm unknown angel waiting for u 😜🙈