Puppy Blues 101
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- Puppy Blues 101 // Do you have the puppy blues? Did you recently bring home a new puppy? Puppy depression or the puppy blues are real. When you are feeling overwhelmed, frustrated, and worried about your new puppy, you may be wondering how to overcome the puppy blues. The more puppy training you and your puppy work through together the faster the puppy blues will go away. Getting a new puppy is exciting but the puppy crying, puppy accidents, and puppy biting are no fun. In this video, we are going to talk about how to stop puppy frustration and curb those new puppy blues.
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Thanks for watching Puppy Blues 101. In the comments below let us know if you have experienced the puppy blues.
Didn’t know this was real until my gf started crying from the next day.
I grew up with a dog so I know they can be a lot more stubborn then they look, but didn’t know it would be such a psychological stress to somebody who never experienced them.
Thank u for the infos!
I’m 10 days in and feeling so overwhelmed thinking why did I take on such a huge responsibility. But then I look at him and he’s just so loveable and sweet. Hopefully the puppy blues pass
I am totally losing my mind! I got a 6 month old puppy. He is now 9 months and hasn’t changed a bit. He’s learned commands and is completely potty trained and crate trained at night, but the constant jumping and biting are overwhelming. He’s gained 18 pounds in 2 months. I feel like I’m failing him because I didn’t have the opportunity of getting him when he was younger.
I'm experiencing the puppy blues it's going on week 3 and I'm feeling tired and overwhelmed but this video was very helpful we had a dog before but he was already two when we adopted him from the humane society so this is all new to me .
I’m suffering so bad with this bc I’m also bipolar and my illness has gotten so much worse with the puppy. I’m scared how bad I’m going to get. She’s a cavapoo and seems to get worse just when I it’s improving. She’s 4 months.
I definitely have the puppy blues. Getting a puppy was an item on my bucket list for a long time. I've read books, watched videos and dog sat for friends over the last several years. I thought I was prepared. I wasn't. It all cost way more in time, money and effort than I thought it would. I've been on my own during COVID, and I thought it would be a good time to get a puppy since I'm housebound. I didn't factor in how much attention it would take during work hours. Work has eased up a little, and Jerry is learning more and can hold "it" longer. So, things are getting easier. But, OMG!!!!!!!!! it's been hard. Within the first three days, I was on my kitchen floor crying. I really did think this was the absolute dumbest decision I've made in my life. Now that things are a little easier, and I've been able to socialize him more, I'm much happier. But, I cried just a couple of days ago when he had two back to back accidents, when he had every opportunity to do the right thing (and he was doing the right thing consistently). I adopted Jerry back in August. It's hard. Hang in there, everyone!
Jerry will be back on track in no time. He's still young and has lots to learn. He's getting there. You've got this! 🥰
Omg it feels so good to read this, I hope some stuff got better over time ...My baby is amazing but I am so overwhelmed by responsibility, judgment or "advice" from people, expectations and habits from my family living with me....I'm literally crying every day not knowing if I made the biggest mistake of my life
I am in the exact same boat! Thanks for posting this.
I really feel you. A day ago I was in my living room floor
It's like I'm reading a summary of my first month with my puppy! He was pooping everywhere, barking through the night, he was sad and withdrawn and yet would bark his little head off every time I left him alone ... it was a nightmare! Just like OP, I found myself on the living room floor bawling my eyes out while cleaning dog poop off my hardwood floors. it felt as if I had just commited the worst mistake of my life.
Things got a lot better for me after the 1st month. He still had accidents, he still barked through the night but slowly we started to understand each other. He's almost 7 months old now and I can't imagine life without him. Hang in there, whoever is reading this! It gets better!
Definitely experienced the puppy blues in the first week of getting my baby. I felt SO DEPRESSED! Overwhelmed with the feeling that I had ruined my life because of the responsibility! I felt so guilty for thinking I may need to re home him because of the lack of connection and anxiety!
He’s 3 months old now and has become my best friend, I absolutely ADORE him even though he’s a little monster sometimes! 😅 I’m so happy the puppy blues passed! I sympathise with anyone experiencing it 🌷
Any tips on how to make this feeling pass? I've had my dog for 2 months now
I feel the same as a new puppy owner, I feel so guilty feeling like this but my husband and son are so supportive, it’s not even been a week yet and the guilt is overwhelming xx
Today is literally my first day with my puppy. Reading your comment made me cry thinking I made a big mistake or maybe I was just having a nightmare and that maybe I should re-home him, but this gave me hope that this puppy blues will soon pass. Thank you.
Hi guys! I’m sorry you’re experiencing the blues 🌷 From experience, it really isn’t a nice time at all so my thoughts go out to you.
Yes! I have tips that REALLY helped me and I wish someone would have told me! So, in hindsight I think the reason for which I felt so bad was the “lack of connection” I couldn’t understand him nor him understand me! He felt alien to me and it made me feel guilty and bad for not “loving him”.
The first and only thing that helped me overcome it all was: TRAINING, sounds silly and pathetic but I tried and tried to train him for 2/3 days and he wouldn’t respond (I felt worse) then one random day I just said “SIT” and he sat!! My heart thumped! And I think the spark was lit! Lol I felt like a proud momma. Suddenly I started to love him and realised that my emotions were not actually caused by “him” but he was more just like a “trigger” of all the lack of confidence and patience I have in myself!
I hope this helps in some way. Just be patient and compassionate with yourself 🌷 Our minds play tricks on us specially when past traumas or lack of confidence is lying around. The mind will be triggered by these events and tell us things like “what have you done!” “You can’t do this!” So we just gotta be kind to ourselves and give ourselves time to adapt 🌷 Good luck guys! Keep me updated on how it’s going! I genuinely care 🌻
P.s remember that we’re all different so different strategies will work for different people don’t despair if you haven’t found your strategy yet, be patient 😘🌷
@@shaynaharper1457 the main thing that helped me is that I stopped putting pressure on me and on him. An accident happened? I accepted it and moved on. He barked through the night? I got ear plugs and finally managed to get some sleep. He peed on the couch? I have a good stain remover. And so on ... Basically trusting yourself that you can deal with whatever he/she throws your way and realizing that nothing, no matter how bad, is going to last forever helps. And not thinking that everything bad that happens is somehow catastrophic helps. Like if he cries through the night, he will be fine in the morning. If he has an accident, it doesn't mean he will never be potty trained. And so on ... Simply accepting that shit happens (sometimes very literally) despite our best intentions helps.
Also, and this is going to sound stupid, simply enjoying him helped me. Letting him on the couch with me and snuggling with him helped. Taking a nice walk in the afternoon helped. Spending time with him without having a "project" to work on (like potty training or tricks or whatever) helped. Just letting the puppy be a tiny goofus who just wants to lick your face helps. A lot of the puppy blues in the beginning was also generated by him not feeling 100% at home yet and me resenting him for it. Like in my mind I was turning my life upside down and he didn't even like me. lol It was really when I started showing him more and more affection that he started returning it 10 fold.
Thank you the video helped alot, I visited this video 2 months ago and cried coz I felt puppy blue. I wanna update today I don't anymore and realised few thing. And have my own few tips hope it's of some help.
1. From past few days all u are doing is researching about puppies, especially videos that say DO THIS FROM DAY 1. You are too overwhelmed. Let me tell u it won't matter take ur damn time for God sake.
2. Before getting puppy people would have asked you fe question like what are you gonna do if u have to go to work whole day, out of town, out of country and u probably said them some random solution like ya i will figure it out. Once u get puppy suddenly u start questioning yourself WHAT AM I GONNA DO?
solution: u are not going out today so let it go. And guess what u will figure it out once u are out of panic state. Kennel or friends or one of the member from dog community which u will eventually build.
3 YOU ARE SLEEP DEPRIVED
guess what the best thing about a puppy.. U don't have to watch it 24 hours like a baby. Put them in a safe and comfy space they will be fine and probably snooze off. Go get some sleep. Worst case the puppy will pee or poop not the end of the world u can clean it.
4. Watch something else on TH-cam apart from how to train this, can i feed that, 10 things u should do this kind of video. Go watch something apart from puppy related. U are most likely feeling puppy blue because now u feeling ur life is over. As soon as u release u have life outside this u will do just fine.
If u made it till here just know u are doing fine with puppy, ur puppy is fine, ur pupper has got the best parents even if not the best version yet, u are going to get better and for few weeks till u are confident enough to ignore STAY THE F AWAY FROM CRUNCHY KERENS who say stuff like, u are bad parent if u don't do everything right from day 1.
Thanks so much for sharing your own personal tips to other puppy parents experiencing the puppy blues!
Good advice!
Thank you for this! Exactly what I needed to hear ❤️
Thank you for this. I'm only on day 2 but I felt so exhausted and even sick from the first night. I cried for about an hour wondering what I'd done, still trying to get through a panic attack.
Hang in there! The first few days and weeks can be an adjustment, both for you and your puppy. You got this. ❤️ For some extra support, and to meet other puppy parents going through the same thing, we'd love for you to join our Puppy Training with Michele Lennon Facebook group: howtotrainadreamdog.com/FB-group
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Yes, the blues are real. I'm in month 2 with no real end in sight. It helps to know I'm not crazy.
Same here! I’m three months in, I started praying for patience.🙏🏽 We can do it! 😎💪🏽
How's it going now
Sadly our lives just could not handle it and our little puppy is now living with a family friend. We miss her but know it was the best thing. Good luck to you all.
Same! Going on 5 weeks
I felt this comment... I adopted him when he was around 2 months and have him for 1.5 months now. I have 2 roommates but I am the only caretaker right now. They are even irritated by the dogs barking all the time. I feel like there is no real end in sight and I feel like I am going insane. I cant seem to tire him out because I cant take him out for a walk before his shots finish. So I'm constantly playing with him whenever he is not sleeping... I know nothing he does is his fault, but I couldnt have one meal in piece in the last 1.5 months. I feel like I need a day off without him but nobody is really helping me... It's nice to know that I'm not alone, but it is the most lonely I've ever felt!
I am feeling extremely overwhelmed. I am so sad and anxious. I already have mental health issues, which was the reason I got a puppy to begin with! It’s barely day 3 and I’m already considering giving her back which makes me feel absolutely awful.
I’m not even eating, showering, I was constipated the first day.
I’m so overwhelmed 😢😢😢
Has it gotten?
Same!!! How are you guys doing now?
I felt this😔 are you doing any better now?
@@rekagran5663 hey how are you doing right now?? I too am having these puppy blues
Thank you! Finally, there is a name for what I've been feeling! I'm raising a puppy alone and everybody thinks I'm exaggerating when I tell them how frustrating and overwhelming it is to single-parent a puppy and keep offering useless advice. It seems like no matter how hard I try, nothing I do is right or enough :( This is HARD WORK, especially for one person. Kudos to everyone out there doing their best yet going through puppy blues. It has to be over at some point.
I was a single puppy parent until my significant other returned (his absence was part of the reason I got the puppy!). It is SOOOOOOOO hard to have all the responsibility on your shoulders. Thankfully, my mom and sister help me take care of Jerry a couple of days per week. I have had countless breakdowns. It's hard. It gets easier, but it's been traumatic.
It will get better for sure! Hang in there. Work through puppy training games, canine entertainment games when you can. 🥰
single puppy owner here as well. I genuinely wanted to move back with my mum at some point just so someone could take the pressure off. :))))
Hello, can you please tell me , is it better now??
I adopted a puppy a few days back and I am having these puppy blues right now.....
Single puppy owner as well and No one can prepare you for this! 😢 I like my dog but Im wondering when I will be able to enjoy him
I just got a dog 4 days ago and lemme tell u, those puppy blues are nothing but eating me up. He won’t stop crying at night and even when we ignore him. I can’t handle it.
Have you peeked at the stop crying in the crate video we have?
@@HowToTrainADreamDog Yes we actually have me and my family love your vids. but I think our dog just is always crying :(
@@samaihab9110 how is it going? Is it better now 6 months later?
@@MM-jc7uv hey, thank you so much for asking this made my day, yess it’s so much better, he’s even been doing way better at potty training, he’s becoming more mischievous tho haha. He’s currently 8 months old now. And officially the cutest little dog to ever.
@@samaihab9110 I got a pomsky puppy 2 weeks ago and he’s a little devil too. Just wanted to know when I can expect him to calm down and relax a bit (he’s currently 10 weeks old)
Haha oh my goodness my husband would come home every day to me crying on the couch...for a couple months!! It’s gets better everyone, she is now an angel!
I wish that were true :/
Yeah. I’m 9 months in and it hasn’t
I have 2 senior beagles. I just fostered a puppy pulled from a kill shelter. When I was in the middle of the experience it felt overwhelming. She was hyper, put everything in her mouth, jumping, kept trying to play with the old dogs. She was sweet too. She got adopted pretty quickly. I was exhausted because I'm older too. But after a few days of rest I thought wow I miss her. I'm going to foster again soon! And the 3-3-3 dog adoption rule really is spot on. You'll get through it and it will be so rewarding to know the progress you and your dog make together.
I had this for the first 3 weeks i had my puppy...its been a month and a half now and im glad i didnt give him away hes the love of my life now !!!! Stay strong
This is really encouraging. I've had the puppy home for 6 days and barely gotten any sleep. Despite my best efforts, she cries all night, but still has tons of energy during the day. She is in constant biting mode and will pull on everything, even electric cables. I am so tired that I feel like giving up.
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My first couple weeks with my puppy (now 7 months old and a delight!), I cried almost every day.
To the puppy parents struggling rn: you can get through it! Don’t be afraid to ask friends or family for help. And be sure to make time for yourself every day- even if it’s only 15 minutes to take a shower, eat a snack, or take a cat nap!
When we got our puppy in August I had puppy blues big time! It's so difficult because if you tell others their really don't understand. This is the first thing I've ever seen acknowledging it!
OMG. I thought I was going crazy. Thank you for doing this video. I’ve been struggling thinking I’m doing everything wrong and he’s going to be a terrible adult dog. Was feeling so overwhelmed. Thank you.
Its amazing how one little pup can be so much work, right? You've got this, you can do it! 🙂
Thank you! I'm literally sitting here crying cause I'm suffering from the blues so bad. It helps knowing I'm not alone.
You are not alone... if you need extra support, we would love to have you join our Puppy Training with Michele Lennon Facebook group: howtotrainadreamdog.com/FB-group
How is it going? I'm also suffering a lot :[
@@kriw5658 much better. We have had him just over 3 weeks now. We are finally getting into a routine. He's sleeping through the night now so that makes everything better.
@@kriw5658 it gets better. The first 2 weeks we had him are a blur cause I was just so tired.
@@andreaberezowski998 thats great to hear :)
This makes me feel so much less like a monster, thank you all so much!!
I have always been a cat person but my husband loves dogs. I always knew we would get a puppy one day. We lost our beloved cat in November and with both of us working from home, we thought now is the time. ITS BEEN SO HARD. I was not prepared mentally or emotionally at all for how hard this was going to be, and I admit I have had major regrets. I thought it was just me. Its good to know that there's hope, haha.
This helped me so much. I’m suffering a major case of the puppy blues. After months of waiting so long for a puppy, she finally arrived last Friday and I’ve started regretting my decision so much. But after reading so much about people’s experiences, I’m feeling so much better. Especially since she’s started getting used to her crate and settling more quickly. Makes me feel like I’m doing a good job. It’s a long process, but she is so worth it.
Ah I had no clue this was a real thing! Everyone would ask me how happy I am now that I have a puppy, or how in love I am with her. And don’t get me wrong, I love her so much and can’t imagine re-homing her, but every time I explained these feelings of regret and overwhelm to others (even to myself), I felt like a bad person. It’s a relief to know I’m not alone and that it does get easier.
Just got a puppy yesterday, I felt the anxiety, depression and tiredness in taking on this puppy. I don’t think I’m ready guys, I need helpppppp but I ain’t gonna quit 😭
i’m curious as to how it’s been going!
literally me right now omg. how’s it going for you??
Girl I'm right there with you. I've had my pup for a week and I'm not eating because of stress. 😅😭
Im right there right now, good to know im not the only one
@@abbirevelle5654 is it okay now?? I am feeling really down.... I am also having these puppy blues
My basset passed away in 2016 and since then I’ve wanted another dog so bad. I started working full time last year and knew I didn’t have time to raise a puppy but still wanted a dog. I bought a house this summer with my sister. She works a lot of overtime so I found myself really ready to get a dog to come home to, play with, and have a best friend in like my basset. After contacting a nearby shelter multiple times and never hearing back, a friend told me her cousin was giving away her chocolate lab pup. She was 6 months so I figured she wouldn’t be too difficult since she was out of those really early puppy stages. I was so excited to go get her, and as soon as we walked in, she ran over to me and peed on my foot from excitement. My heart immediately dropped and I wondered what I had gotten myself into. I had had neighbors with labs and they were always the sweetest dogs. But this puppy was so hyper and crazy. I cried as I took her to my parents house. I cried as I took her out to pee every couple of hours throughout the night. I cried all day as I cleaned up her accidents. I cried as she had diarrhea and threw up her food-a trip to the vet confirmed it was just anxiety. I cried as she would steal something and then steal something else when I wasn’t looking. I cried as she cried in her crate while I showered. I missed my basset so much and just wanted a strong bond like that again, and I wasn’t getting it with dog. I also missed my cat my parents still had. I regretted jumping into it so quickly. I knew it would be hard work, but I didn’t have any idea how emotionally draining it would be.
It’s been three months now. She’s gotten way better. She still has those rough days, and I have those nights where I cry and just wish she would listen. But it’s gotten way better. She’s grown so much over the past few months.
I’m glad to see so many people here who know how I feel and what I’m talking about. I really felt kind of alone in all this and even thought “other people just adopt dogs and have no issues, why do I get a dog who’s so hard to handle?” But it gets better. It doesn’t feel like it is, but you look back and see how far you’ve come and you see that it has.
I’ve had to get up about 4 times while typing this to deal with the pup lol. One day we’ll have more good days than bad
It will get better as your pup matures and you train together. I had a basset hound too long ago. They are such sweet goofy dogs.
This is exactly what I needed to hear. My senior dog recently passed and I miss him so so much. I miss that bond and fear I'll never get that bond again.
I’m DEFINITELY experiencing puppy blues. I call it puppypartum. I even apologized, through tears, to my mother that she had to take care of me! I don’t have children so this is my intro to parenthood.
Everything is changing and it’s SOOO hard!! My husband got a new job where he works really long hours! I quit where I was working to work from home 😭 and I miss my coworkers. I’m nervous about when I need to start taking clients again. And that wine /cry that I hear every day from her breaks my heart! She can’t eat or sleep if I’m not near by and I’m feeling like I need to be away from her, which also makes me feel guilty! It’s just all Soo hard!!!!
Hang in there, I'm going through it too with my 9 week old puppy. He doesn't mind eating in his crate but just last night finally slept in there on and off. I have to go back to work today so he's going to have to spend a few hours in there... I'll be coming home for "lunch" after about 2 hours just to take him out and then it's back in until my roommate gets home 3 hours later... I feel so bad about having to leave him alone that I, a grown man, burst into tears when I found this video.
The biggest thing I can recommend if he's having trouble eating or sleeping without you is if you have a crate, let him eat in there and stay in the room but further and further away until he doesnt cry when you leave the room. I started out sitting beside the crate while he ate and within a few days was able to leave the room, door closed, and get some chores done until he was finished eating. Baby/puppy steps!!
We are sorry to hear you're struggling but we've got some great resources that can help you! Take a look at this video for some good tips on crate training in a positive way: th-cam.com/video/s0r-E3R3XT4/w-d-xo.html
@@koiokoi thank you so much for you’re kind words and help. I love you’re suggestions! And it’s validating to hear what you’re going through too. I feel so similar.
@@koiokoi how are things going for you now? How is everything with you’re work schedule and puppy?
Things have been getting a little better over here. It’s starting to feel a bit more normal. Still overwhelming but more manageable
hey, good to hear things are going better for you lately, that's great to hear!! Things have really been getting better here too. NO accidents in the house in over a week, walking great on leash, and really getting a lot better over all. Only thing I am still struggling with is anything involving leaving him on his own when he isn't asleep hahaha, he really doesn't like being alone but he's still young so I'm holding out hope and will keep working on it!! You stay strong too!
@@debgal26
I've only had Ava for 3 weeks and I'm overwhelmed! My first puppy/dog. Thank you for this video!
It will get better! Hang in there.
Like so many people here, I never knew “Puppy Blues” were a thing. My wife and I got our first puppy last week & yesterday I started feeling so overwhelmed. I’ve grown up with dogs my entire life, I’ve never not had a dog when I lived with my parents and my partner and I were so so excited to get a puppy. I’ve been wanting my own for 8 + years. I’ve helped train the my parents puppies (but never had the full on responsibility) I knew I was ready.
Then an accidental pregnancy happened between a Catahoula Leopard Dog & a Labrador Retreiver. My sister in law is friends of the puppies dad. She actually adopted my girls brother.
Tomorrow will mark 1 week since we brought Willow home.
The first few nights went as expected. We were spot on with taking her out to avoid accidents.
We don’t have a fenced in yard so I have to take her out on the leash & she just pulls and pulls and pulls.
That’s getting better with treats reinforcements.
I crate train her everyday to stop the whining but she just whines and whines if we need to put her in to do something and does not stop. But if we put her in and are quiet to go up to bed, she whines for a bit the. Settles. Accidents around the house started happened about the 3rd day in & at least once every day since. (Which I know isn’t horrible).
She only listens to me when I have treats. (Which I know will take time)
I’m just so overwhelmed and yesterday fear for the future started setting in.
What if I can never get her to listen without treats?
I started getting upset at myself for disrupting our cats lives. Our cats were our babies & treated as such and I feel like a horrible person to have brought this on them.
I started fearing her being an anti-social, aggressive dog.
I feared her getting anxiety.
I feared that even though I’m going to work my butt off to train her properly, what if it doesn’t pay off?
It has been a whirlwind of serious emotions these last two days & idk who to talk to about it. I’m feeling defeated and in over my head.
We wanted to rescue but with the two adult cats, we felt a puppy would be a better decision.
I’ve been feeling like a horrible person because I’ve been regretting getting a puppy.
I’m pretty glad to hear I’m not the only one & pray the puppy blues pass on before too long.
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@@HowToTrainADreamDog Thank you for replying. I ended up talking to my spouse about it, which was the best thing I could have done. It definitely helped but didn't take the blues fully away. I am definitely looking into your PRO level. We are giving our all with our new puppy and I am trying to continue to tell myself that she is still just a baby and to take it one day at a time. I started looking into the future of all the things that can go wrong and unfortunately my personality is "worrying." I just want the best life for our new puppy and I want her to be happy. Yesterday my spouse made a perfect point in that I am expecting too much not only out of our puppy but out of myself and we aren't even 2 full weeks in, and I do feel like we should be further than we are, but I am taking steps back and focusing more on being a calm and collected leader to our new puppy. I am working on not getting too worked up because she just doesn't understand what I am asking. It's been such an overwhelming rollercoaster of emotions that I have never experienced before.
I think the blues definitely needs to be talked about more and I definitely think if someone is experiencing them that they should talk to someone and not go through it alone.
Again, thank you for replying. I am definitely looking forward to learning more about from you.
I think you would love the support and community provided at the PRO level, and you can hear from other puppy parents who can reassure you as well. With guidance from our certified trainers we can help you feel more comfortable about "training the puppy you have in front of you" and helping you with expectations. Knowing you are not alone with these feelings is helpful!
Perfect! I so needed this. My frustration with my puppy is my fault. It takes patience, repetition, consistency, love and understanding. We will prevail!! 😬 Thank you!!
You've got this! 😍
thanks for making this video. I got a new puppy a week ago, and I haven’t been more overwhelmed in my entire life. I constantly have this feeling of regret, and that i’m ruining my life by keeping this dog. I know he’s just a puppy, but he’s so much work. My parents payed a lot of money for him so I won’t be re-homing him, but I just pray things get better. It’s so hard to love him and I feel so guilty because I just don’t yet. So many videos online talk about how their dog is their best friend, but i’m scared that by keeping him he’s only hating me, and i’m hating him. I hate admitting it but I’m so exhausted from constantly having to wake up in the middle of the night, and having to clean up accident after accident. I have 3 siblings, and none of them will help. My mom tries her best but she gets tired too and I just don’t know what to do. I can’t wait until the day he gets older/more mature and I can love him for the dog he is, and forget about the troubles i’m having with him at the moment. I ask if anyone reading this could just pray for me and that I learn to love my new puppy. thanks❤️
We are so sorry to hear of your current struggles. Puppy-raising is so extremely time- and energy-consuming! We encourage you to check out our Facebook group for people who are in the same boat as you. The following group guide will provide some great info on how to use this group and all the amazing resources we have available to you!
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How have things been?
How are you doing ? ?? Did it get better??
And now? Are you Okay ?
Really feeling the puppy blues today. I've had this puppy for 6 days so far and I feel like I've ruined the next 15 years of my life. My previous dog passed a few years ago and she was so calm and nice. We would go on long quiet walks. Her presence was just so relaxing. With this new pup though, it's the total opposite. I feel like I barely have enough time to take care of myself and the only down time I have is when he is in his cage.... :(
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I'm feeling like the only time I can relax is when she's in her crate, too. How are things now? I think these feelings are super normal. We gotta be patient with our pups and ourselves.
We’re parents to two 7 month old pups. We’re exhausted but it’s getting more manageable. They’ve been to formal training and continue, they were both potty trained by 4 months, they finally slept through the night by 5 months, crate trained, highly active and need a lot of exercise! We’ve lost weight lol! I have cried many times and have been overwhelmed most days. The time, expense and responsibility is unreal. I’ve learned so much patience and they are amazing dogs. The bond we’re creating is worth the effort. Stay the course.❤️
This gives me a lot of hope with my 3 month old pup.
I honestly though I was crazy that I cried - did not know it was real with puppy blue, your videos and these comments from other puppy owners make me feel so much better knowing that I am not the only one. Thank you so much for this.
I thought I was the only one! We got our puppy 2 days ago and I had an anxiety attack on my bathroom floor last night. I thought that I had made a HUGE mistake getting the pup, but today i’m feeling much better. A lot of accidents (thank the Lord for pee pads) but also super cute moments!
Oh my god. I got a puppy many years ago - had a plan, found a good breeder, careful vet care - and I ended up bringing him back to the breeder because I didn't feel a bond with him, he didn't seem to feel one with me, he didn't enjoy walks (pancaked and I had to carry him), and it seemed the only time he was enjoying himself was when he was playing alone. I also had a mild allergic reaction and lived on the fourth floor, and everything was frustrating and depressing. (Happily, the breeder's family had fallen in love with the puppy (he was the last to go) and were happy to have him back and kept him themselves.) Now, I'm older and have experience living and helping with a roommate's puppy for 3 years, and was feeling the urge to try again. I usually talked myself out of it because of my previous failure, and just thought I didn't have what it takes. Then we dogsat someone's poodle for a month and I fell in love - plus they are good for people with allergies! It seemed perfect, so I put myself on the waiting list for a breeder, but there was always the little fear in the back of my mind that I'm not "good at" puppies and might fall into that depression again. BUT to know that it's not just ME, oh goodness. Okay. LOTS of people feel "puppy blues" and *get through it* - I wish I'd known this years ago; I might have built a happy life with that pup. This is so helpful. Okay, I'll remember this. I WILL most likely feel overwhelmed, even depressed, wondering what the hell I did to myself. And this is okay, this is common, this is temporary. /breathes deeply
Three weeks with pup and the last two days have been pretty overwhelming. A heady combo of frustration, sleep deprivation, feeling inadequate and unable to do the right thing for pup, judged by neighbours/family etc., are all feeding into this horrid, burdensome feeling. Reading the comments has given some reassurance that what I’m experiencing at the moment is a common thing. I have wanted (almost needed) a dog for my entire life and I have every faith that pup and I will both turn a corner, but as it stands we’re very much in the trenches and this is undoubtedly a slog of epic proportions.
Hang in there, it won't always feel this way. Adding a new pup to your home definately changes the home dynamic but with training and creating a consistent routine you and pup will soon start feeling better together.
im so glad i bookmarked this video because after finalizing the day im picking up my puppy i was suddenly knocked over with a wave of anxiety
I picked up my puppy 3 days ago and she cried as soon as we left the fosters house. The first night she cried so much. She cried in the pen I’d set up. She had to be carried to the carrier when she was asleep. I got 2 hours of sleep the first night. Last night was a bit better. I’ve had dogs before they were all adults and larger dogs. I am so anxious I can’t sleep or nap when she’s sleeping. I’m a mess. I cry often and my well meaning family just tells me to relax. And I’m doing this by myself and I’m a 7 hour drive away from my nearest relative. So thanks for this video and everyone’s comments.
Brought my puppy home 3 days ago and I’m going through it! This video and these comments have helped a lot.
So glad you have been watching and found our videos helpful! Stay tuned.
I’m currently experiencing the puppy blues. I just got my Newfoundland puppy, Gordy, on October 19. He’s a little over 9 weeks old and he’s a heathen, but we’re doin our best.
I'm on week one with my 8 week old Newfie (Oso)! I've lived with the breed for almost 20 years now, but this is my first Newfie in the city. Keep at it. They're total Drama-Queens and at times absolute pains as puppies. I swear he pees 5 times in a row...
You'll be rewarded with the sweetest and most loyal monster you've ever met in short time.
About to end week one with my 9 week old beagle, blu. I cried because of him. He has so much energy and owes everywhere and howls when you step away for one second. I just want him to mellow out. I tried to cuddle with him but he peed on my bed
You can get through it!! It’ll be worth it soon!!
I'm definitely suffering from Puppy Blues. I didn't know it was a thing until I came across it one day googling things. I felt it within days of the new arrival. Lack of sleep, food, support system. I'm 3 months in (she's 5 months) and it's not going away anytime soon. I'm with you though, it's easy to feel like there's no hope, it won't get better, and I question things all the time, but there's more going on than just a puppy. There's a global pandemic, the weather is changing, even the darkness outside is starting to effect me and the clocks haven't even gone back yet. We can barely separate because there's nowhere for me to go. It's good to talk about this though, especially that "giving up" is an option. We have to have honest conversations with ourselves. I hope it never comes to that with my girl cause she really is cute. Thanks Michelle.
Sending hugs your way... and a little sunshine 🌞 too!
I try to focus on the things she has improved on. Currently the pulling is borderline unbearable, but she did stop the CONSTANT biting finally. And shes much more polite about jumping to try and get our food.
@@jedsanford7879 its true, when the mouthing/biting stopped and i was able to actually cuddle her. I barely noticed. She's getting better day by day and i'm trying not to get hung up on setbacks.
I’m on the same boat and have had my puppy for over a week. Everyday I’ve been waking up anxious and doubtful. I love him but some days I feel like I can’t do it and should give him back which would also be so hard.
@@anzachandara3791 Hang in there girl. I've had many 'what have I done' moments. The way I see it, stick with the training so you get the best dog ever not someone else!
We just got a new puppy 2.5 weeks ago and the first week I couldn’t stop crying. I thought I was going nuts. Thank you for sharing this! It helps so so much.
Did it get better?
@@Reclaim-the-Rainbow it so did. We love our rambunctious, cuddly, and mischievous Doodle! We adore our baby!
@@Alicia-K - I’m so happy to hear that. I got my cavapoo boy on Saturday and I have the puppy blues even though he’s one of cutest, sweetest dogs I’ve ever seen. I guess I just don’t handle change well. I don’t know what to do with myself or how long it’s ok to leave the house for yet.
"Be patient"
Like yeah hold on lemme just flip the switch in my head that rewires my thinking process into being patient. Never knew it was that easy.
😂 so true!!! How *do* you teach patience to yourself (or other humans)?
I am always telling my toddlers “I know, it’s so hard to be patient”, give them a hug and if needed I sing a little song I made up about how hard it is to be patient... it seems to help... sometimes I find myself saying these things to myself in my head and even singing the song! Haha. Maybe it doesn’t help a whole lot, but it does make me laugh at myself and that definitely distracts me from my frustration!
I wish I knew the magic formula. My best guess is to validate your feelings, try to be an optimist about the situation, make yourself laugh, or give yourself a hug and when all else fails there is chocolate! 😂😂
I definitely have the puppy blues. I've been wanting a corgi puppy for over 7 years but needed to wait until I retired. I knew they were work, just not this much! I found your videos and training about 2 weeks ago and it has helped so much, wish I had found them sooner! I think I broke everything rule in the first 24 hours, lol. Trying so hard to keep her to a schedule and working on the training off and on all day.
We are happy to help you! If you love our videos you'll definitely love our online course!
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@@HowToTrainADreamDog yes, I enrolled in the DIY and finding it very helpful. I just need more time to watch all the videos that are also very helpful!
Wow! This video is sooooo timely. Just got a puppy yesterday and already had a breakdown 😫. So good to hear this (hopefully) this time goes by fast.
Hang in there! It will get better. Pup just needs a little transition time.
How are you doing? I just got a puppy today and now I'm here lol
This is really encouraging! I feel like I’ve gone through boughts of the puppy blues at least 3 times since we got our pup 2 months ago. The worst is when I feel like I am working so hard at training and sticking to a consistent schedule and he is just not getting it or is being straight up manipulative (whining or doing the opposite of the command even when he knows what to do).
We’re gonna keep putting in the work but man all day yesterday I couldn’t stop crying during every potty break, every meal time, every nap time. My whole life revolves around him and I don’t think I was as prepared for that as I thought I was.
It’s also very social isolating bc you can’t leave the pup alone for more than a few hours. So no drinks after work with coworkers, or weekends at the lake house, or long sporting events/ shows. I miss being able to be out in the world for more than 2 hours at a time
New puppies are so much work but it gets better! The training is just much more time intensive in the first year. But you're setting the stage for a well mannered dog who can hang out at home while you go out with friends. You're not there yet but you'll get there!
The comment section and video is keeping me hopeful I’ll be back after 3 weeks so far it’s dayb3 we are making progress but day 2 I cried like a baby 😭😭😭 ready to return him back but I truly believe it will get better knowing I’m not alone !
You are definitely not alone! Reach out in our FB group if you have any specific questions we can help with! facebook.com/groups/1608055795943295
I was the same and i called for help everywhere including GP. I started throwing up and non stop crying. Like a destiny I met a beautiful family ( just about next street one minute from my house) who were deperate to have a puppy and so life experienced, took him from me on Day 9. The new family keeps sending me photo of the puppy and I am actually happy that he went to the right family with two kids who would play with him all day.
I grew up with so many dogs and I am very good with dog training. But having a new puppy was a totally different level. I now strongly believe that puppys are better with families, kids can play with the puppy, parents can just watch them relax, puppy can have heaps of playtime, it is just so much better environment for a puppy than a single person in a small house.
I feel for you everyone and i respect everyone who went through it succesfully.
I am very sad my lovely puppy went to a new family but I am really happy that he went to the right family spending quality time there instead of watching me crying and anxious.
Good luck with everyone. ❤
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You did the right thing. Sometimes it just not the right time in life, and that's okay! Congrats on finding a lovely home for your new puppy. Thank you for sharing your story.
I'm so glad I'm not alone here, I got the puppy blues straight from week one, its the end of week three now and I've sobbed on the kitchen floor multiple times, hubbby has been in the other room editing footage with me in the lounge and the tears just came. The frustration is so horrible. He slept in the crate after four days but those first three nights were dreadful. I've grown up with dogs, but this is the first dog i've been responsible for from day dot. It IS getting better!
How is it now??
We love our almost 4 months old mini aussie. Yes, he is a lot of work and can be a monster at times but he is also a loving sweetheart. He has brought our family closer. I wouldnt trade him for the world.
This is absolutely heartwarming! Best of luck to you and your pup ❤️
A friend of mine had the puppy blues for five months on end. It was horrible for her, but she made it through and now has a beautiful, well behaved dog. I will be getting my new puppy in five days, and I really hope this doesn't happen to me. I have been watching all of your videos, and I know that they will help me soooooo much. Thank you!
I have broken down yesterday. I felt everyone's woes here :(
Be sure if you have a partner, ask for help!
"It takes a village," this holds true! Break downs are normal. You can do this!
Our Shiba Inu puppy is 12 weeks old now. I am so glad I experienced puppy blues for only one day after our new puppy bit my whole family, especially my youngest daughter everywhere. I questioned if it was a mistake to adopt her. I asked myself, "why am I creating more work for myself?" I almost cried. I am lucky to have my 2 daughters supporting me. Somehow, our puppy slowed her biting after I looked into her eyes and talked to her. She seemed to understand. But it's not as hard compared to raising my 3 children by myself at night, working full time in the day and my husband working full time at night.
I guess I really needed to see this, and reading everybody else's comments made me feel a lot better. It doesn't actually fix anything, but it certainly gives me hope that the situation will improve.
I adopted an adult dog about 3 years old, 2 weeks ago. He seemed like such an angel for the first few days, but as he got more and more comfortable he started to get more difficult to handle.
Of course that would be my fault because I didn't know everything that I had to learn about properly training a dog, and about 1 week in I started to really question my decision. Almost every day my feelings for him swings between 'I will love you until your last day' and 'I am going to send you back to the shelter'.
I really want to make it work. It's comforting to know that it will get better. I am leaving this comment now and coming back to update it after I've had him for 2 months.
It will get better! Here is the link to our Better Puppy Behavior Workshop to learn more about how your puppy’s brain works and how to adjust your training dial accordingly.
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Hi there just wondering what the outcome is? How did you get on?.'x
I had no idea puppy blues was a thing! I am 48 and called my mom crying because I was sad and anxious and I’m only on day two. Why don’t I feel a bond? How will I deal with this hyperness at my age? I even thought i had broken his tail, only for my mom to assure me that he always had that little kink. This video and the comment section are a blessing! Thank you!
Hi Roz! Thank you for sharing this with us. You are not alone! If you need more support, we would love to help answer any questions you have in the Puppy Training with Michele Lennon Facebook group: howtotrainadreamdog.com/FB-group
I didn't even know there is a term for this feeling~ totally cried ugly the first month i got my puppies~ i have two littermates and they constantly get into trouble and i got frustrated~ i would just sit there look at them and cry thinking they would be happier with a better parent than me~ now things are getting better, they are 5 months today, crate trained~ i take them to dog parks almost everyday~ they are making friends and i am too~ still many more things to work on but I'm glad i didn't give up~
Never thought I would, but I had the puppy blues big time with my wife. My wife brought home a puppy, but I was out of the house working for the entire next week. We were obviously still building basic communication during this time, so it lead to a lot of stress on my wife, as I wasn't around till late at night to assist with things. We both sat on the floor about 5 days in and just cried, even talked about giving our new family member away. But we recommitted to making the house a home for him. A month in and we are hitting our stride. Always reach out for help, you are not alone!
Thank you for sharing your encouraging experience!
Thank you for this video! I waited for my dog for over 10 years and this year me and my husband finally got our puppy. We had done a great amount of research, learned all about potty training, bought his crate and learned about crate training to avoid an over attached dog… and then he got here. I cried for weeks, I couldn’t sleep (not because he was barking but because I was afraid he would bark and annoy the neighbors), I couldn’t eat and had several anxiety attacks. I really thought about giving him to some other family because for me I had made the biggest mistake of my life. But my husband didn’t let go! He helped me a lot and took care of both me and the puppy. Now he is 5 months old and has been with us for 3 months. Things got easier, we train him a lot and work on our bond. We go with him to puppy school on the weekends and he is pretty amazing. But I’m stI’ll suffering from the puppy blues. It is not as bad as before, but our dog is growing and sometimes starts barking at things that were completely normal before. I get scared that he is just going to go crazy and bark non-stop and that’s when I start crying and having anxiety attacks again. I hope that at some point this is all going to disappear so that I can fully enjoy the wonderful dog we have.
Oh no, I'm so sorry you're feeling the puppy blues. If you ever find that he does start barking it may be because he has an increase in energy and is looking for an outlet to release all that pent up energy. Be sure to go on at least 1 decompression walk a day, it can be beneficial for both of you.
Hi Isabel. I am reading your comment and feeling such compassion. I am going through this right now and of all the comments here I think your experience might be the most similar to mine-even though our new pup doesn't cry through the night, I'm simply petrified she will! And just the constant vigilance-goodness, so exhausting. So tell me-10 months on, how are you feeling? Is there light at the end of the tunnel for me?
How’s are you doing now ?? Hopefully it gets better
I expected it to be difficult but I’d never thought the puppy would growl and bark at our son every time he enters the room. He’s amazing with animals, doesn’t bother the puppy, even leaves the room to sneeze because he doesn’t want to scare the puppy. My husband and I were literally crying yesterday because we’d never seen our son so disappointed and sad, he doesn’t understand what he did wrong and why the puppy is being mean to him. The rest is actually going pretty well, the puppy’s been eating, playing and drinking well, she’s not scared of our vacuum cleaner or cars outside, the first bath was ok. No idea what the problem is.
We are sorry to hear about your difficulty. Puppies can be confusing creatures! If you'd like some personalized help with this, our certified trainers can guide you throw a personalized training plan at the PRO level of our online course. We'd love to help you!
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Hey everyone. Please remember puppy naps are needed. Even “forced ones” I find with my puppy, every 2 hours or so he needs a nap.
You can tell when it’s time as he gets “really bitey” I just pop him in his crate and he may cry or “scream” for a few minutes, but then passes out.
This has helped a lot for me as I was almost in tears thinking about did I make a mistake? And how may have to give him up (I thought I was a horrible person thinking these things and was so glad to see that’s normal)
But in short, naps are essential! Even if it’s only a 45 minute nap.
Michelle has another video on this topic too I believe.
Thanks for sharing this! Here is the link to the video: th-cam.com/video/IguvtdPuSs4/w-d-xo.html
When I got my puppy, I was still in grieving over my previous dog. I was not expecting a new puppy so soon, so when the puppy blues came they hit hard. I was not ready to accept new love so soon, but now he's 9 months old and despite still being disobedient sometimes, I wouldn't trade him for the world. It really does get better, just takes time too.
Thank you for making this video. Like so many things on social media, no one wants to show vulnerability or failure to others. Yet when we do we find out we are not alone and it gets to be normalised and then we can talk about it and learn from it!
This is so true. Its ok to show the real and raw side of things. I've been training for 20 years. I make mistakes too. We are human and far from perfect. 🥰
We have a 3 month old Boxer mix. We got her at about 8 weeks old. We were her 5th home! And she came to us with diarrhea. Definitely had some puppy blues. I said I would never raise a puppy again after our lab, who was a handful. BUT, we adopted a 3 y/o dog after our lab passed who was not properly socialized and although he was a sweet dog, he lived with his tail between his legs. He was even afraid to play! So, here we are raising a pup and making sure she is thoroughly socialized. We have pup on a good schedule and the blues are fading away.😊
It sounds like you're doing great! Pups and older dogs both come with unique challenges. But you're in the right place for some great info and you're doing all the right things! Thanks for watching!
being in quarantine doing online school to me (someone who has never owned myself a young puppy) sounded sooo nice. it seemed like all the puppy prep videos i watched were so sugarcoated like “be warned puppies are a lot of work!” then onto the best toys to get them. i wish i was warned about puppy blues, and how mouthy they are, especially since my puppy is apparently a very extreme case of teething and mouthiness, he’s a saint bernard lab mix, so he’s pretty big at just around 12ish weeks. his paws are absolutely massive as well and sometimes his claws hurt more than his teeth! after lots of bruising and cuts alllll up and down my arms, hands, legs and feet (not to mention the punctured clothes), my family and i are finally taking him to training lessons because i can’t do this myself! at first i was nervous to speak up to my parents and say, “i know i really really wanted this puppy, but i feel really overwhelmed. could we ask for professional help?” but once i did it was so relieving. finally everyone was starting to see what they didn’t while i was left home and they were at work. i do feel pretty good about myself though for not hitting him because i can understand the fact that he’s just a puppy, and everything is sooo fun and exciting! clothes and wiggly fingers are sooo hard to ignore. i have gotten preeetty dang far with him and teaching him how to do sit and down, so it’s also very rewarding! and to think i’ve only had him a few weeks now!
Experiencing puppy blues now. Mind you, I only just brought my baby home yesterday. I feel completely overwhelmed, anxious and depressed. Broke down crying today, and I felt embarrassed. The fact that I have general anxiety as well isn't helping. I've been reading a lot about other people who struggled with it, and I know this will only be temporary. I just need to soldier through it.
We can help you if you need more support! New puppies are a lot of work. Let us guide you and take some of the pressure off. www.howtotrainadreamdog.com/puppy-perfection-course-learn-more/
I’m bringing an 8 week old puppy today!! It is something I’ve wanted for a very very long time! I’m a licensed vet tech so I have a lot of knowledge about animals but I’m still feeling anxious and overwhelmed with bringing the pup home today. Thank you so much for the video! Really helped calm me down this morning
I felt exactly as described in the video and the same as many of the comments. We had a 9-month-old puppy a couple of months ago. The first week was pretty overwhelming and we ended up deciding to return him to the breeder. We have a 3-year-old kid and a 5-year-old. The day after getting the pup we were attacked by two cats during our walk and one of the cats bit my son and I got a bite from the poor pup that was beyond scared, we had to spend the afternoon in emergency care to make sure our wounds didn't get infected. On top of that both parents work full time and one of the kids was home that week without summer camp. The poor puppy was perfect and really well behaved, but the timing was set to failure. I didn't know many things about dog training that I know now after watching your videos (potty and crate training specially). We are considering a second chance in the future when the kids are a bit older and less dependent on us and adopt a mini labradoodle. I plan to take one or two weeks off to focus on bonding and training with the puppy and start things right. Do you have recommendations to make sure both family and puppy are set for success? Do you recommend adopting an 8-week pup and do all the socialization and training in those first weeks of the pup's life or adopt an older puppy, maybe 4-6 months old already started in potty training and other skills? What are your thoughts about adopting an older pup vs an 8 to 9-week-old baby dog? Thank you so much!
It's great that you recognized that maybe you weren't ready for the demands of a new puppy. It's hard to answer your question without knowing more, but I think this video might help you! th-cam.com/video/ryVYu_U-zDM/w-d-xo.html
Alot of these comments make me feel so much better, 3rd day and these puppy blues are killing me
You are not alone! If you need more support, we would love to help answer any questions you have in the Puppy Training with Michele Lennon Facebook group: howtotrainadreamdog.com/FB-group
Seeing this video and the comment section has helped me alot. Feel alot better knowing it's not uncommon
We are so glad you feel supported! You are not alone!
I’m so glad that I am not alone. It is true, if you go looking for help, you will find it. This brings some comfort in my puppy journey.
You are so right. You are not alone! If you need more support, we could love to help answer any questions your have in the Puppy Training with Michele Lennon Facebook group: howtotrainadreamdog.com/FB-group
Thank you for acknowledging that puppy blues is a thing! We had no idea it existed until we experienced it ourselves, and it was a shock. It seemed like any article we read or video we watched to learn how to manage the situation said something like "X Mistakes YOU'RE making" or "how YOU'RE hurting your dog by doing these things", and we felt guilty, overwhelmed, and like we'd lost control over our lives. Luckily we're coming out of it slowly as our pupper approaches 12 weeks.
Hang in there it really does get better. Don't be too hard on yourself. Sending hugs your way! 😍
I had no idea that "puppy blues" was even a thing until I saw it mentioned in the video I was watching about 12-16-week-old puppies, learning how to deal with my 16-week-old Great Pyrenees/Labradoodle mix that I adopted a month ago. I am not a newbie dog owner either. Since adopting my first dog 28 years ago I have had six dogs since then, two of them as puppies, before adopting this latest addition. It was just four years ago that I adopted my "pandemic puppy" and I did not have puppy blues with him at all. He had his moments, but I wasn't questioning the decision to adopt him or whether I made a mistake like I am with the new one! He is such a sweet, well-behaved dog (didn't even need to crate him after 18 months of age because he doesn't chew up anything!), which is why I agonized over whether to rock that boat by adopting a puppy! I even spent months deciding whether to get him a friend/sister, researched breeds, discussed the decision over and over with my husband before we finally decided to go ahead. Two days after bringing her home from her foster home, I was feeling the blues! I felt enormous guilt for feeling that way because I have never rehomed a dog in my life and every one I had until they passed away! I felt so much better knowing I wasn't alone feeling like this. Now, a month in, she has settled in and it's getting a little better every day. She has potty training down, she is fine in her crate and we can actually leave the house for a few hours, she loves our 4-year-old dog, and is learning to be nice to our cat. Now if she would just quit waking at 5 a.m., I would be thrilled!
Yes, the puppy blues are a real thing, even if you haven't had them before. We are so happy that it's starting to get better for you. Give it a little more time and she'll be sleeping later than you are! It sounds like you really thought through this decision and are doing great!
@@HowToTrainADreamDog Thank you. She (Remi) really is a sweet dog and very smart and I am happy that my older dog (Gunner) has a buddy now. Remi has brought the playful puppy out in Gunner! He definitely spoiled us with how easy he was which is why her antics were such a shock to us!
i watched so many videos before getting my puppy so i knew it was goiing to be tough but i didnt know it would be this tough, i have wanted to get rid of him at times and have cried this afternoon, thank god for the crate, it helps him to calm down and gives me space to breath. please keep doing these videos it has definitley made me feel better knowing i am not alone
You are not alone
I adopted a puppy and 3 days later I returned him. I was having panic attacks, sleep deprived and so exhausted. That was 1 year ago. I am now going to pick up my dream puppy in 2 days and I am already watching these videos to get me prepared to what is about to come. I'm scared but this time I want to keep my dog and get through all these phases. Wish me luck!
It's great that you're getting prepared! You're in the right place for some awesome puppy training advice!
No judging from me, but why do you think it’s going to be different a year later? If I give my puppy back to the breeder(not sure yet) I will never ever ever try it again. Never. It’s Exhausting
Thank you for this video, we brought home a new puppy a few weeks ago and its been quite a struggle. Everything you mentioned in this video I have for sure experienced. We have been watching and referring to your videos this whole time though and we are starting to see some progress so thank you for all you do.
Aww, we are so happy to hear you're enjoying the videos and starting to see progress with your puppy. 😍
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Glad I’m not alone.
You are definitely not alone! If you need any more help, reach out in our FB group! facebook.com/groups/1608055795943295
Omg. We just got our puppy almost 2 weeks ago and I have cried twice. The accidents dont bug me as much as the constant biting. The constant not listening and the defiance to get to the thing I moved away from his mouth. Omg. Or... now the running away with whatever it is I dont want him to have. I'm losing my mind. I am SO TIRED lmao. I'm glad I'm not crazy.
Had no idea this existed either, until recently doing a google search. Going through it as well! But we love our puppy! Thanks so much for the video shared it with the family
Hi Michele, we got our pup three weeks ago. He is a 12 weeks old Malshi. Thank you for the video. I was one of those who answer your poll just when I was crying and feeling frustrated. I know about the term in one of your videos and I immediately related the term with what I was experienced last week. I remember passing through the baby blues (20 years ago) and I know the puppy blues will pass as well. In our case, everybody in the family wanted a puppy but me because I knew it is a lot of work and in the end, I would be the one doing the training, the cleaning, and everything. I said no for 12 years! you may imagine my thoughts... just like you mention in your video. The good thing is that I talked again with the family members and they are helping me more. I want to enjoy the puppy now that he is very little. He is a good dog, he sleeps from 8pm to 5.30 am -600 am, he is learning the games. He sits on command, last Sunday, and today we had no accidents, he is not bitting the leash anymore. I am learning how to read his cues, and I am excited to teach him more games. I reflect on what I did wrong and I came to the conclusion that I was teaching him tons of things during the first week. So I went back to the basics, just working on potty training and crate, the sit command, and trying to pay attention to his signals and I am trying to be more patient with myself (very hard task). So the first week of 30 days to puppy perfection had been two weeks and a half, but it is OK. Sorry for the long post. Thanks again for your support.
I love that you had a sit down with the family. That's such an important piece to the puzzle. Everyone has to be consistent. I also love that you're seeing progress and recognizing when you have to take a step or two back.
Thank you for sharing your progress. 🥰
You guys are going to do great!! Keep up all the awesome work.
I’ve recently gotten a new puppy, I have always wanted one and an opportunity arrived when someone I knew was giving away a batch of German shepherd’s. I’m seventeen and I’m on my summer break I had been watching countless amounts of videos thinking that that it would make me prepared and I had worked up some money. But now that I have finally gotten the puppy I have felt miserable and I’ve also realized that I’m not prepared at all. The first couple hours weren’t bad I enjoyed playing with her she had accidents but I cleaned them and wasn’t to stressed about it. And then the night came by, I barely slept, she whined about an hour every time after she woke up. The next day I was tired and i had already started to feel some puppy blues. And now that some time has passed and it feels like everything I do with her and for her is a chore which it’s kinda supposed to be but it feels like the only time that I can have fun with her or at all is when we play soccer or when she’s asleep. Then there’s other problems which came with the dog. I’m seventeen and my parent said that if I wanted the dog I had to be financially responsible for it which as the days go by it seem more and more daunting. I want to buy stuff that I had been wanting for months or years beforehand but now it feels like I can’t or am not allowed to anymore because of her. I can’t really do anything I used to. I can’t go out to eat with my family like I used to, I can’t really play video games, I can’t take care of myself properly, and I can’t even focus on hanging out with my baby brother who was my favorite person but now it’s like I have to keep my brother and dog distanced because she’s too rough with my brother and he’s too rough with her at times and so now it feels like I’m separating myself from him. I also had plans that I was really looking forward too and now it feels like I can’t do them. I wanted to take a vacation with my family, I wanted to buy a car and learn how to drive I wanted to get a job that would let me achieve all of this without working for my dad. And now all I’m left with is regret and anxiety. I just needed to get this off my chest but I’m really struggling on what I should do and I feel like I can’t tell my parents or anyone that know about the dog because I feel like if I tell them I want to re home her they’ll be dissapointed in me and think worse of me but I’m still a kid who wants to live out the last year of his childhood and not spend what feels like 24 hours on taking care of someone that makes me stressed and overwhelmed. You guys might think I’m an asshole as much as I think I am but I’m just really scared of the decision I made.
This is really long and I’m sorry for that
We are proud of you for being brave enough to express your concerns. Please don't be too hard on yourself. There are many adults who struggle with dog ownership. In addition, German Shepherds are a pretty hard breed. We don't recommend them for first time dog owners or people who are inexperienced with the breed. It's OK to make mistakes, that's how we learn. If you decide that owning a dog is too much for you right now, it shows maturity and that you are learning new things and doing what you feel is right for another living being. Try to talk to another adult about this and get some support. It sounds like finding a good home for the dog would be best for both of you. It's OK to change your mind about owning a dog. You're still a good person!
Loved my puppy when I got him but I hate him now. I’m scared it’s gotten to the point that I’ll never be able to love the poor dude. Has destroyed every possible thing u can think of, including my expensive computer charger and shredded $60. pissed and shit in every last inch of my first apartment. I’m trying really hard and I’ve never felt this way towards an animal before.
So sorry you are struggling. It is apparent that you do love your pup because you are seeking help my watching this video! We are here to help. We recommend starting with our Better Puppy Behavior Workshop to learn more about how your puppy’s brain works and how to adjust your training dial accordingly. Better Puppy Behavior Workshop
howtotrainadreamdog.com/BPBWorkshop
Also, if you need more support, we could love to help answer any questions your have in the Puppy Training with Michele Lennon Facebook group: howtotrainadreamdog.com/FB-group
This is only about breeder/puppy mill puppies? You should do a version for rescue dogs from shelters, too.
yes! We have a video on that for you: th-cam.com/video/v2g0frEO6EI/w-d-xo.htmlsi=CKo0CV1Ft0OCo86n
This is a GREAT video. Was looking for some guidance after a hard day with the pup. I have puppy Blues but I doesn’t mean I don’t love him endlessly. Thank you!
Glad it was helpful!
definitly been frustrated with our first puppy and then our second, though I do think what helped us through was when he did things like cuddle up to us and he loves to sleep on our laps and we just saw the love he had for us and the affection (when he wasn't being a little monster) and we knew that all this was worth it.
So sorry we are just seeing this comment now. I apologize that we didn’t see it sooner. We hope all is well with you and your pup.
I’m going though this right now! I didn’t know it was a real thing. I got my 8 week old beagle a week ago and the last few days I have been really upset and depressed.
I got my puppy a week ago and I am feeling so depressed! I feel like I have made a terrible mistake. Does it get better?
@@meaghanparent8740 I wish I could answer your question but we kept her for about six weeks then we had to rehome her. With school and work sadly we just didn’t have the time to care for her.
@@samantharaska6602 oh so sorry! That must have been a tough decision. I may have to make that decision myself if things don't improve. :(
I appreciate this video so much.
So good to know that i was not the only one feeling overwhelm and feel like i should do better.
I am about two weeks in with my new puppy and my feeling go through such a rollercoaster.
Today i was hidden from my puppy, trying to have some lunch peacefully.
You're not alone! Hang in there! If you need more support, we would love to help answer any questions you have in the Puppy Training with Michele Lennon Facebook group: howtotrainadreamdog.com/FB-group
I'm also experiencing puppy anxiety! i keep thinking she will somehow get into something or eat something that will harm her, she puts everything in her mouth!
Got 2 Shibas bro/sis
now 12 wks. They are a handful to say the least. Are beginning to learn what NO and Let Go mean. Frustrating and humorous at the same time🙃 Hang in first timers. It does get better and they'll be your best friend.
I was looking for this comment! I literally cried today all as my pup started chocking on a leaf or stick she picked up outside! I wasn’t fast enough to remove it from her mouth😢 I really hope she will make it into adulthood. I blame myself for all the errors and mistakes I have been making😢
Thank you so much for this video and to see that I'm not alone from reading all the comments from people feeling the same way. I'm on day 3 and the puppy blues as been hitting hard. At first me and my partner wanted to get a dog in May but fell in love and got one earlier. I feel really guilty because I was the one who push to have a puppy. I get really overwhelm and start crying at random I don't want to disappoint or anger my partner.
I know it will pass but it's been harder everyday. The worst part is that my puppy is really good. He doesn't cry at night and is slowly starting to ask for the door, that makes me feel more guilty about the emotions I'm felling.
We are so glad this video provided you some comfort!
You have such a great way of explaining clearly and such a natural positive approach
Aww, thank you for the kind words! 🙂
I am immortal to puppy blues. When you have a whole litter and then just have one it is very easy and less stressful
Thanks for watching!
There needs to be so many more videos about this.
It’s been 8 years and I still have the puppy blues every once in a while for my 8 year old dog lol
Yep! We all get the blues, even if the dog is no longer a puppy!
Thanks so much for making this video! I definitely have the puppy blues. We’ve had our puppy for 6 weeks now and it is getting a little better. I knew adopting a puppy would be really tough and I thought I did everything to prepare. But it’s so much harder than I imagined. Just trying to enjoy this stage because I know this too shall pass.
We lost our 13 year old Maltipoo last March in a terrible accident while we were away. I swore never to get another dog again since losing her just devastated us...she was my BFF....Now we had freedom to do anything without worrying about having a dog to mind...I liked that freedom but missed having a little dog around. We thought about getting another dog and we ended up finding a cute little Maltipoo and were very excited to bring him home. He really is doing great, sleeping at night almost 7 hours, great in the crate, and doing pretty well with letting us know when he wants to go outside for potty. Only recently he has gotten a little wild with the biting but we are working through that. But....I am feeling a bit overwhelmed....I don't remember going through this with our first dog so I feel guilty about my feelings. I confided with my wife and she feels somewhat the same as well....anyway it was good to discuss this with my wife and watching your video made me feel that I am not alone....he is a great dog and we love him...and we'll all be able to get through this!
We are glad this video helped you! Hang in there, it gets better with time and training!
thanks
Yes I got puppy 4 days ago and am experiencing this already!
Same 😭
We are sorry to hear it, but we are here to help!
Have you still got puppy blues now?
I’m definitely feeling the puppy blues! I have a 15-week Bernese Mountain Dog and I’m struggling with the puppy biting and bossiness he’s displaying. I’m also feeling quite alone and just joined your Facebook group hoping it will help. I truly love my puppy and am just trying to get through this challenging phase the best I can but boy, it’s testing my patience!
I have a 14 week old Bernese mountain dog puppy as well and she goes into these phases where she seems possessed and won't stop biting, growling and jumping up on me in attack mode! I definitely notice it more when she's overtired but refuses to sleep. I don't remember this with my previous Berner 😭
Any advice on when they are in that possessed growling biting mood? He only does it to me, not my boyfriend
I didn’t even know about the puppy blues until I watched some puppy training videos recently and omg it explains it all how I’ve been feeling lately and I feel bad about it 😭 I hope it’s over soon!
Yes, it's a real thing. You are not alone! If you need more support, we could love to help answer any questions your have in the Puppy Training with Michele Lennon Facebook group: howtotrainadreamdog.com/FB-group
PS Michelle, you and your crew are amazing. I don't know what I would have done without your guidance. Your program is well worth it (and, I've only gotten through week 2)!
We are so happy to hear you're enjoying the program!! Thank you for your kinds words 🥰
Omg it's legit, I adopted a year and a half year old dog, and man am I feeling desperate.
I feel like it's too much and like life is too much, and it's not even children yet, maybe I should just give up.
So thank you for the video, and those comments as well, make me feel like I'm not alone in this.
We have a lot of TH-cam videos that can help you! You're not alone!
Thanks
Thank you so much for this video, we got our puppy a couple of days ago and I have felt so anxious and been crying at night. This has made me feel so much better that other people have gone through this and come out the other side 🙌
Thank you! thank you! I was very concerned feeling the puppy blues [he's 16 week old mini Australian shepherd]. He's been rebeling... A Lot😅 but he suddenly as I was getting ready to walk him put two paws on my shoulders (tiny hug like move) blew me away. I gotta remember the great moments to overcome the not so fun moments lol.
Yes, think of all the good moments and remember pup is still so little and has a lot more to learn!