Is Our Kids’ Misbehavior Our Fault?
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- Is Our Kids’ Misbehavior Our Fault?
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I hope they understand what their teachers are going through and will support them instead of blaming their teachers for their behaviour.
Yes! The stories I’ve been hearing from educators all over is absolutely ridiculous
The best summation of this kind of behavior I heard from someone not that much older than I. “You wouldn’t tolerate this behavior from friends, coworkers, or a partner. We would call it abusive, hateful, toxic behavior. Therefore we have to find ways to stop this behavior as early in childhood as we see it, because out of control children become abusive angry adults.”
It’s always interesting that when parents don’t want to be home with them all day. I can only imagine how the kids are treating their teachers and if she’s defending the behavior.
I raised three boys as a single mom from ages 3-14 to adulthood. Younger two had ADD. I worked full time and went to school. NEVER had my kids be disrespectful or in trouble at school. I wouldn’t have it and they knew it.
Was this my husband and I calling? Wow, So crazy this addressed our exact situation and I feel so much hope after hearing this. Thank you Dr. Delony!
That idea to have one child stay up a little later to spend quality time with mum or dad is an excellent idea. Thanks for that. I hope you both remember you're doing a great job and you obviously care so deeply about your children.
Did anyone else think : SUPER NANNY, when the mom first started?
"Do not let your children do anything that makes you dislike them." - Jordan Peterson
Best piece of parenting advice
All that will do is drive them to lie about doing it unfortunately. If a kid wants to do something they will make sure they do it no matter what
@Reelfilms1998 No matter what? Kids are less likely to make poor choices if there are consequences to those actions. There are no guarantees, but that is why we have rules. And for adults, that is why we have laws.
"Don't take anything I say as gospel because what the hell do I know?"- Jordan Peterson, Jan. 25, 2022
That man is so dumb he was promoting an exclusively all meat diet and then drank apple cider vinegar and said it caused him not to sleep for 25 days and inflicted him with a sense of profound dread. He also talked crap about addicts and then became an addict and made no apologies or self reflection on his previous points.
He also lied about canadian laws to make a name for himself at the expense of a vulnerable group of people
And claims women invite men to assault them by wearing red lipstick. He sucks.
I love Jordan Peterson, but this “rule” is too simplistic. Parenting is so much more than behavior correction, and if kids feel that our only job as parents is to push against what we “dislike” in them, they will grow up believing that we only love them when they behave, and they will go elsewhere for support and safety.
Gentle parenting only works if you have gentle kids lol. I have a nephew who is parented in a very gentle way because he requires very little. He’s a naturally obedient and thoughtful child and that temperament was visible in him since he was a baby. My niece is naturally disobedient, rebellious and thoughtless. My sister HAS TO be more assertive with her. Some might think my sister is being mean or parenting badly but I think my sister is aware of what temperament her child has and is doing what’s necessary to raise her child properly. What works for one child won’t work for another. Everyone needs to understand that.
This. I don't have kids, but my best friend does. Her oldest two daughters are night and day in temperament. The youngest is quiet and gentle, and only needs a slightly raised or sharp voice to knock it off. Her sister on the other hand is loud and destructive, but incredibly outgoing and loving. She needs a firmer hand and if the same way was used to correct her sister, then it would emotionally harm her.
Kids and their temperaments are different and parents should adjust to their kids needs.
@@alishavogel7926 Absolutely!
Gentle parenting essentially just means you’re not gonna scream and yell at your kids or hit them or spank them. I use gentle parenting with both my stepson’s and my own son. But gentle is not the same as soft.
Great advice from Dr. John! Make each child feel like they have a purpose in the family. Go on walks outside.
“Have you tried whoopin his ass”? -Grandad from the boondocks
They probably haven’t. lol
@@gloriack7976and they shouldn’t. I lost years of my life to an extremely abusive relationship because I learned that love = anger, fear, being hit, pain, yelling, guilt, and shame. That’s all my parents knew how to do to deal with my undiagnosed ADHD symptoms. I didn’t find wellness until after I was diagnosed at 24 and found a provider that specialized in neurodivergence and trauma.
“Don Jelony” 😂 she was super nervous
I caught that too! 😂 Love it!
Yes 😂 someone else noticed too
lol at Dr. Delony saying his brother “Dan” 👌
That's his brother.
I have 3 toddlers, I needed this call. I need to give each of my kids a purpose in the house to feel needed.
I usually comment on the callers, but I love how hit or miss John's jokes are really before the call essencially begins. Clealry he is doing it to build rapport and start on a light note which is great, but his jokes that miss are actually more entertaining than the jokes that hit. Aw man, Dr. John, that guy is awesome.
Boys and puppies are both better when they are tired. Take those boys for a 3 mile run every morning before anything else. Yes, you might have to work up to it over a month or two (though you will be surprised how far they can go before getting tired). It will change everyone's life.
Loved this call, the parent’s hearts, and the wisdom given. Well done Deloney 🤘🏻
Crazy how so many parents are hostages in their own house these days. I think this is another area where we have overcorrected. The threat of a smack was all we needed to stay in line.
Children need constant attention from or they will act out. Smacking isn’t good for children on a psychologically. Four kids this close together is far more than natural. Its too many they cant possibly be getting the attention they need
@@Chicky1234-m3f🙄🙄🙄🙄
dude society is a freakin mess. thats what smacking children got us collectively.
in 20 years we will see where gentle parenting vs ipad kids got us.
Im willing to bet good money that 10 year old girl is often ignored due to her wild younger brothers and/or is also helping to parent them. Although she may seem so great and responsible she’s likely not doing great on the inside.
Right? This was me growing up, I was the mature calm one, caused all kinds of issues that I had to work through.
Agree, possibly a perfectionist and very hard on herself.
The irony is the dad said he would never have behaved the way his child did towards his mother because of what his father would have done. Maybe that’s what needs to happen! Children should not be allowed to disrespect their parents. Spanking in moderation does not hurt kids, especially boys. We have so much wimpy parenting now and behavior issues are off the charts.
Exactly. If he turned out well and he was respectful then why was he trying to paint it in a negative light? Makes no sense.
Studies would disagree with you
@@litenmighty link a study
This was such an amazing episode. Thank you to the callers for their bravery to dial in, and thank you to Dr. John for the amazing advice!
You feed the monster, it grows, when you starve the monster, it gets angry.
Dude. This just solved so many problems in my personal life as an individual, a wife, and a mom. 21 minutes and lots of answered questions. Awesome job Delony, and awesome parents.
Someone please PLEASE check on that oldest girl. I can pretty much guarantee she's not OK. Just because she's "wonderful" doesn't mean she's OK, and perfect behavior can be just as much of a trauma response as acting out. I was that girl, so I know.
This! Absolutely this, it was me too 😔
I am an early childhood educator and the mother of an adult son who was homeschooled. Children only act like absolute heathens if their parents allow it.
When the father said he’d never dream of saying things that his (extremely young) kids say to their mother, my first thought was, “What are you allowing them to be exposed to?”
I bet they get too much screen time and since she admitted she’s not up to having her kids home with her all day, they’re obviously not being properly parented.
There is no such thing as a bad 3yo. Just bad parents. Period.
Oh yeah, they are definitely iPad babies for sure.
These comments sadden me. Kids with neurological disorders are different. Would you say an autistic child just had bad parents because they get overstimulated and melt down? Adhd is also a neurological disorder. Children who have it develop at almost a 3 year delay behind their peers, mentally. They also suffer from serious executive disfunction and emotional disregulation because the brain is wired differently. I was diagnosed with adhd when I was 10 in 1990. I grew up feeling like a lazy piece of sh*t because my dad made me feel like a jerk for not being able to function like a neurotypical child. I’m still healing those issues.
@@ChardeeMacdennis339 I’m sure you realize that we are not talking about autism. Don’t read something into my statement that isn’t there.
Spot on
@@amyk87 adhd is a neurological disorder just like autism. I didn’t say autism. I’m talking about adhd… the mom said the kid has adhd
"Raising children is really just an 18 year process of taming little beasts" - Ben Shapiro
Boundaries are required, and remember... it's for your kids' own good.
There's a huge question that was avoided. If the kids only talk to Mom this way, how does Dad treat Mom?
They learned the disrespect for her somewhere.
Maybe dad doesn't tollerate bratty behaviour and mom does. Kids misbehave around the soft parent that spoils them. I worked in a creche for five years and the majority of the kids were better behaved around the fathers than the mothers because the mothers were extremely lenient while the dads enforced discipline good manners.
I’m 1000 percent respectful with my wife and my son has had the same problem with his mother for years. I try everything and continue doing so. You never really know where it stems from. Some experts say it happens to mom because she’s the safest place.
Kids don't have to learn disrespect. If a toddler is allowed to behave poorly they'll continue to behave poorly as they grow.
The family I nanny for has two boys. They behave excellently with me. As soon as mom or dad get home they demand things and whine and interrupt and refuse everything the parents say. 100% night and day.
The parents are absolutely sweethearts. The husband and wife are a wonderful, loving couple.
They've never raised their boys. There's no boundaries. There's no "no." There's no consequences or behavioral choices for their sons.
When I'm there with them it's a great time because I enforced with the boys from my day-1 that that behavior is not acceptable. If they whine or scream i do not care; if they use their words or do any other form of good communication then I will be very excited to help them or add their wish to our schedule.
The parents just do what the kids want to the detriment of everyone. The boys didn't LEARN disrespect; disrespect is natural human behavior. Disrespect is anyone older than a baby who's using baby communication skills. It's not disrespectful to scream when you're a baby but it is if you're older. Babies who aren't raised to be toddlers and toddlers who aren't raised to be kids WILL be disrespectful because they weren't taught how to communicate any other way. They don't have to see disrespect; humans are disrespectful until taught otherwise.
It doesn’t help to use the term blame but ultimately you are both responsible. Be on the same team with each other and stick to agreed consequences.
Agree also what you won’t do.
You can do this together
Sounds like the parents, mom in particular, have been too soft on these kids from the very beginning of their lives. When a mother asks,"Is there anything I'm doing or not doing" you want to answer them, "Yes, your kids have no respect for you because you never inculcated that into their lives in the very beginning. Kids should not be allowed EVER to mouth off to a parent. Don't let them do it once. Immediate pour the consequences onto them.
She might be from the school of gentl parenting,,,, which is load of rubbish
It appears to be the reverse. The mom takes on the role of disciplining the children, occasionally carrying them to their rooms when needed. However, it seems the father may be too lenient or doesn't support the mom when he gets home, given his statements "The kids don't listen to me when I'm nice" and "I come home and I'm rarely the bad guy." This implies that he might not reinforce the mother's authority after she informs him of the situation.
It sounds like the mom has told the dad “no spanking. No hitting- no matter what the kids do or how disrespectful they are”
So the mom has feminized her husband and made HIM into a more feminine parenting style instead of letting him bring his natural biological instincts to it
Short answer is yes bc u allow it
Parenting books I swear by:
-How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk, by Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish (there is a whole series of these)
-If I Have to Tell You One More Time..., by Amy McCready
McCready offers the same advice about kids needing to have a purposeful role in the family. She also recommends uninterrupted 1-on-1 time with each parent, and it sounds like these parents are trying to do that already.
You have a basset hound, John?! Me too! Aren't they the best dogs in the world?!
I see the problem as what these kids are WATCHING on their Tablets and TV... IMO they need OUTSIDE analog play w/ other real kids... Tech is DESTROYING these kids
Not if it’s properly managed like anything
Please don’t talk to them about ADHD or having special brains. I was one of these kids, and I can tell you from experience that kids tend to become what they are told they are. They don’t know how to work alongside their challenges so they just lean into them. The best thing you can give them is showing them that everyone in the house is on equal playing ground, and everyone follows the same rules. Take every tablet, video game, toy, and privilege of any kind away from EVERYONE…even the “easy” child. Explain that there are no more rights in the house other than food, clothing, and shelter…everything else has to be earned and can be lost. Ignore them when they scream…seriously, just walk away. You cannot have a rational conversation about feelings in the heat of the moment. Save those conversations for a family meeting when tensions are low. When they ask about a privilege, just say “Well you haven’t earned it yet. But you’re a smart girl/boy, so I know you know what you have to do to earn that privilege.” These Covid kids have to learn, and slapping a diagnosis on them and attributing every behavioral problem to it isn’t effective or healthy.
I couldn't agree more.
As someone who has adhd I really disagree with this. Knowing the reasons why we are the way we are is incredibly validating and can keep us from feeling just lazy or like bad kids. Yes kids with adhd also need consequences. 100%. But the more your child knows about their disorder the better equipped they’ll be to learn the tools they need to deal with it. And the less they’ll grow up feeling like a let down. There is nothing wrong with having adhd. It is literally something we cannot help. Not talking to your kids about it and what they can do to help it is doing them a huge disservice, IMO.
@ChardeeMacdennis339 Yeah, way to make that oldest girl learn that there's no point in acting correctly because she'll always be punished for how her brothers are and lumped in with them. I can promise you she's pretty miserable in that house right now and am willing to bet she absorbs a lot of the abusive behaviors of the 8 and 6 yr old. So yeah, take away every ounce of joy in her life and tell her she now has to work extra hard to "earn" a normal childhood. After all, according to you she deserves the same treatment they do.
And if you are wondering why I'm a bit salty on this subject is because i grew up in almost the same circumstance. To this day i still struggle to feel like i have a right to any feelings, opinions, decent treatment or pretty much anything because i was made to bear the responsibility for my hellion brothers.
How do you know the daughter has nothing going on. More often females adjust to the social norm but its often an internal battle that doesn't surface until she enters a relationship that depends on her compliance. 😢
Sooooo on point! I am the only daughter followed by 4 sons and I can tell you it was exactly what happened…I was the eldest one and decided to carry on even though I was struggling, I just wanted to relieve my parents and have my own burden which imploded eventually later on
@@ElKamarAchems me too. 🥰
Hoping you have had a chance to heal.
Two great behavior management systems are: Love & Logic (by Dr. Jim Fay) and Conscience Discipline (by Dr. Becky Bailey)
They’ve changed my teaching philosophy and perspective on parenting as a whole.
LOVE Dr. Becky! So glad you gave her a shout out. She has so many great suggestions.
My son has ADHD and he loves Ninja zone and gymnastics. I helps to just to move their body and be free to just be a kid. Plus, also I calling your kids on their behavior is ok, it's ok to say that your behavior is not acceptable.
I noticed that kids who are well behaved often turn into monsters when they go back to school/activities in the fall. So looking into the school friends / classroom dynamic. It also sounds like the parents are "extra" also. They both talk in a theatrical way. There is a great workbook called Harley Has Anxiety which kids this age seem to love.
Public school is not designed for boys in particular, but behavior in schools gets worse every day. I want my kid to be respectful, so I'm going to ship him off to spend the day with disrespectful, out of control kids and overwhelmed teachers and expect them to come home as angels.
Instead of time OUT, they should do time IN. Meaning, parent sit with kid and their big feelings
This is exactly what I do with my kids. Coregulate, show how to do big breaths and calm down and then discuss boundaries and show love/how to repair.
Dr Becky is a great resource! So is Dr. Laura Markham
4:16 totally... my kids AND MY DOGS will not do as i ask until i shout...
I'm so happy to hear the first parents attitude and intelligence regarding child rearing. They clearly have the best intentions and are educated enough to know what not to do. Tough situation indeed though, what do you do?;
Problem is, what they are doing doesn't work. Daloneys advise is right along side of what they are doing and they've probably already heard it from the social workers. This house is going to continue being a mad house and these kids will end up being arrested or worse later. The kids walk all over them because their boundaries have no real consequences that affect them. They don't care about the choices they make because the punishment is not severe enough for them to care.
Calls like this make me really glad I never had kids. It sounds exhausting.
Yep I made a very conscious decision. I did not want kids dogs will be just fine.
I have kids and they make my life better. No regrets. Firm boundaries from the time they were small, so they have grown into great, responsible people who are loved by their family and community. But it starts at home. Allowing them to behave like banshees is exhausting for the parents and people will actively avoid inviting your kids over - and teachers won't like them either. Soft parenting does them no favours.
@@slackyogurt and that’s the beauty of choice we all get to make our choices. Most people want everyone kids, and frankly quite a few people who wanted kids probably should’ve never had them.
We have 5 kids ages 5-15... ours are in public school and one of our kids has been diagnosed with ADHD so I can relate to this mom on that front. One thing we do different is that I'm a SAHM. I would not consider taking a job during evenings and weekends because I need to be there for them when they are home. Our kids are not perfect, and they have their moments where they fight and talk back, but honstly can say they are good kids and do very well in school and in their activities.
If you can't work and raise good kids there's a problem. It's all about how you parent, working or staying at home.
Well, you have the luxury of not working, especially with five kids most do not. Yes we will have to go to work if that income dries up which sometimes it can.
@@johniii8147💯 agree
I have four girls who are 10, 8, 6, and 4, so I understand the chaos of four kids close together.
Well how the heck did the kids learn the behavior then ? So, yes, the short answer is a yes
Parents are not the only influence in a child’s life in todays society. Blaming solely the parents is ridiculous.
What. People. Did. During. Covid. It. Was. NOT. Homeschool.
Yes!!!! Shout it from the mountains!
Good advice!
You guys need to teach your kids how to regulate their emotions. Read social stories to them, Julia Clark has good ones that cover a lot of different subjects. Buy the Zones of Regulation and teach the some tools they can use.
My oldest is high functioning autistic and has adhd. The "help" you get isn't very helpful. Ok its actually awful and just makes the problems worse. The meds also made it worse because he rebounds within a few hours and his behavior was worse. My sons behavior even started having negative effects for my other two kids, and their behavior got out of control. I found giving him more responsibility has helped so much. Hes almost 15 now, and unless you catch him while he's stimming, you wouldnt even know he's neuro divergent. In fact, the other two have started acting much better too. They are 13 and 8, and are volunteering to take on more responsibility because their older brother is. Giving him responsibility gives him something to really focus on while giving him a sense of pride and a sense of control, which most of these kids act out because they feel they have no control. Even having him make his own breakfast and pack his lunch for school, and do his own laundry has made a night and day difference. And dont worry, we do supervise him while he cooks his breakfast because he does use the stove. We want to give him independence, but we also dont want the house to burn down lol.
I don't appreciate Dr Delony's dig at gentle parenting. I'm not sure he shares my understanding of what gentle parenting is. Gentle parenting DOES set boundaries; gentle parenting DOES impose consequences. It's just that gentle parenting does this (set boundaries and impose consequences) without belittling the child, without traumatizing the child (the parent shouting, losing emotional control or hitting) and in partnership with the child (having the conversations before meltdowns not during meltdowns and responding, not reacting, to the child during meltdowns)
Kids model their parents behavior
It’s because there’s no discipline
Occupational therapy are the therapist who are specialized in sensory processing disorders
My aunt had 5 boys 2 girls never ever ever she had a kid act up or talk back,,, ever
Yes.
Spare the rod, spoil the child!
I gave my boy a couple of hits in his bottom and now all I need to say when he’s not cooperating is “do by love or do by pain” (sounds better in Portuguese 😅) and he goes right away… I can’t even remember last time we had a disagreement… Now we’re working on curbing impulsivity by taking control of our body and thoughts. Getting set up for the same thing with little 2yo… 🤷♀️😅
True
Oh gosh this is horrible parenting advice .. kids that are hit struggle to manage their own anger . Hit your daughter and she will find a boyfriend that hits her as well
@@kellyeverett a swat on the behind when a kid is under five and being naughty isn't anywhere close to abusively hitting them
@@scroogemcduckismyspiritanimal - all the research shows that it’s not good. It’s basically a parent taking their rage and anger out on their children. Kids should be put on timeouts.. they should be taught to apologize. Kids that are spanked are more likely to end up feeling disconnected from their parents
Yes! Just because your child fears you does not mean they respect you. Adult children who were spanked and then gaslighted that what they experienced wasn't abuse are just harmed all the more. Some cut off all contact with their parents as soon as they are able. It certainly lays a foundation that any future partner that is abusive can exploit because the now adult child has learned, "Comply or feel pain" and this must be ok and they do love me because my parents did the same and they told me they loved me.
Kids behave, do naughty things because parents don’t step up their authorities especially if the father doesn’t correct or discipline them. Parents not on same page. Another factor is Lack of proper nutrition, junk foods, too much sugar, high carbohydrates, chemicals preservatives contribute to unstable mental/emotional states. Too much T.V. Smartphone is also another big problem.
A MUST READ - The Myth of Normal by Dr. Gabor Mate.
Some huge questions that were missed and that need to be asked: What are the kids eating? How much screen time are they getting and what are they watching? How vaccinated are they? Are they sleeping well? How present is the Father, not meaning just physically.
YES!
She wants to allow kids under 10 years old to tell her how they feel. That is where she has it wrong. They are monsters you need to curb that behavior otherwise they will keep on doing it and think that it is okay
I disagree. From the very beginning we've equipped our daughters with words to say what they feel. The 10 year old may need to be taught the words but she can totally say what is happening
@@pn8326 I disagree with you also because if you have children talk about their feelings all the time they will learn to use that to manipulate. People who manipulate with their feelings usually do not do it for the good of others
@simshengvue5799 True! Not all kids responded to " a talking to." This kids are clearly past that point.
The kids have no respect for their parents and the parents let the kids run the show from day one. These new parents are soft.
I feel like his advice was more gentle parenting. Solid position as it was….
The title: to answer, I’d ask the MI parents in jail for their teen shooting up his school.
Is their behavior our responsibility? Where do we draw those lines as a community?
I know that specific case is likely filled with individual nuances I know nothing about, but it’s worth a conversation if you ask me.
As a nation at least.
Well I grew up getting a whoopin. After an explanation and warning of course. Safe to say it worked.
As a homeschool mom I see so many moms with just as many kids, able to have them with her everyday, all day and they thrive. Why do people have children just to send them away all day? Also, the pandemic was NOT homeschooling. That was distance learning and the teacher was ruling the family schedule through a computer. Homeschooling is controlled by the parents and its on THEIR terms. This mom doesn't realize that most of her problems with her kids stem from the fact that she sends them to public school.
You should do the things your father did to you bc your kids have no respect and like you said you wouldn’t dream of acting the way they act. Take some parenting classes but sometimes what works just works
My childeten are both grown
we let our kids watch youtube all and and are wondering why our kids talk to us like that
Besides the social aspect, sending our kids to school is ruining our homes and their lives. Nobody knows it yet, but you will. The kids go to school and pick up all this crap and come home and disrespect the crap out of the parents. Not in my house.
That’s nonsense
At the same time, you can’t shelter a child. That will ruin them for life
Ridiculous statement. The are supposed to have the contrast of the outside world to inside the home, it's how they grow in their values and character.
@@italkgory99 Homeschooling doesn't necessarily become "sheltering" or "isolating them"! It can be a way to open up chances for community activities, service activities, artistic opportunities AND meeting other kids from families that are a better influence on them. They may realize why manners are needed. They may open new venues of exploration for you as well. Don't knock it due to stereotyping.
@@show_me_your_kittiesUntrue. My homeschooled kid was exposed to and socialized by people of EVERY age in all kinds of social situations, unlike kids in government schools who are socialized by kids their own age 🤡 and (nowadays) leftist teachers with agendas. Why do you think kids are such monsters now?
Is it just me or did the wife begin the phone call by calling Dr. John Dr. Don Jelony?
Haha she did! I guess she was just nervous! 🤣
OH YES IT IS THE PARENTS FAULT
Stop spearing the rod . That’s the big difference ‼️‼️‼️
it's no longer the 80 / 90's people the time to have kids is not now
i dont understand why people have kids, much less 4 😂
i can barely take care of myself.
and with both parents working as well , my god.
I dont understand how you communicate that you will not abandon your child by putting them in time out. Yes you can sugar coat ot with restructuring your words, but bottom line is, you are leaving them in their room, in their weakest moments on their own, with no support, no corregulation and no physical touch available. You basically communicate conditional love and conditional presence.
Please watch videos by Dr Ken Berry about the keto/carnivore way of eating. Stop feeding the children sugar, carbs and processed foods. Feed them meat and animal products like eggs.
Genlte parenting is making horrible adults. And trying to rationlize with a kid. People really are devolved
Don't knock gentle parenting, it's not the same as permissive parenting. There should still be boundaries and consequences in gentle parenting, just in a respectful way. Some people get confused on that.
I was an extreme kid and I did not care for gentle. I made choices to be how I wanted to be because the consequences were easy to handle and I could care less. So no, it doesn't always work
Lol, they are looking at it from their perspective and not the children's. They are the adults and don't know how to reason with those who don't have adult reasoning abilities or values. 🤣
parents excuse for not disciplining and helping their kids control their emotions = my kid has ADHD
I have an unruly son. I have challenged him to a kung-fu fight. He has been given 1 month to train. I will update you all with the results.
(P.S - He is 6)
You need to nip this in the bud...now. if your kids have a video game console take it away. Give it back to your children if the behavior gets better. The next time they disrespect you break the vido game console. In front of them. DO THIS NOW!
This is awful advice. Violently breaking objects in front of kids just scares them and reinforces more violence. Sounds like advice from someone with anger issues.
😂😂😂 well ma am its a jail craft for sure.... i worked in jail and trust me... they are 50 but behave still the same 😂😂😂..if u ever consider career job look up prison service ur skills would be great there
It is sad that parents don't even want to homeschool their own children. God gave them to you not to give them to a glorified daycare.
Not to play the Boomer at 30 years old but these kids today are f'd. These kids are probably better than average because the parents at least care.
Lol.... One word: Chankla 👡
😂 Yes. The chankla will set you right
@@Aeriesan Exactly. 🤣
😂💀 yet another way to deal with issues without the knowledge of the Lord. People are destroyed for the lack of knowledge.
Bible... the best parenting book evee
Their sex life....😂😂😂😂id be like hell no, no more possible babies
This is why kids are so out of control and I think they can call the shots 539 and we did not talk that to my parents we did not yell at them because if we did we got spanked or we got the belt and all it took was a few times of that and we shot our mouths and new our place my sister is one of these with her kids that uses the phrase use your words and tries to talk to her kids like they're adults when they're not and they are the absolute worst and she struggles so bad with them just like these guys are you got to take the role of parent disciplinarian because nobody is going to cuddle and baby your kids out in the real world your job to prepare them for that reality
sooooo hit your kids basically is your answer?
Spare the rod, spoil the child. Simple as that.
Hot take these people need to parent! Not try to be their child’s friend via “gentle parenting” ! I swear gentle parenting is absolute crap.
Make Jesus Christ #1. Kids often rebel when parents aren't worshipping Jesus. The Holy Spirit is likely not very present in this house and being overlooked. That's a big oversight. Find a community of Christ following believers who don't settle for cultural Christianity, they are becoming sought after as our country continues to go through a revival, but still can be tough to find.
Not at all
No religion in our house and my kids are normal and well adjusted.
@@pn8326then the comment wasn't directed towards you. At least you didn't say "spaghetti monster".
You sound like a nutcase
Lots of religious kids rebel
This is a wildly over-simplistic answer
I bet these kids are iPad kids