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"Biology is the nature of pronouns"
*Calls a boat "she"*
DolphinsWIthIgloos English isn’t one of them
@DolphinsWIthIgloos The Spanish word _masculinidad_ ('masculinity') has feminine grammatical gender. In French, the masculine noun _cheval_ ('horse') applies equally whether the animal is male or female (as does just about every other name for an animal). Some languages have three grammatical genders instead of two. It all seems pretty arbitrary to me.
Language has whatever meaning we assign it
@DolphinsWIthIgloos So Language supercedees science? Let's call you a molecule!!
@DolphinsWIthIgloos You just did
Trans woman absolutely demolishes conservative snowflake
Not. enough. CAPS!
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@Thomas Heath and you are wasting your time here, why?
@Thomas Heath good for you, I guess?
Conservative destroyed with sociology and facts
Why does Benjamin call himself "Ben", when his biological name is clearly Benjamin?
Names are a social construct, being male or female in humans isnt
@@leafleafleaf9272 Regardless of how you feel about the difference between sex and gender, and the degree to which they are socially constructed, you have to realize that gendered pronouns are 100% socially constructed.
@@brageok I'll one-up you: language as a whole is 100% socially constructed.
@@leafleafleaf9272 except it is
@@leafleafleaf9272 actually the simplification/generalization that is binary sex IS a social construct, otherwise we’d have at least one umbrella role for when people don’t meet the checklist we made up for male and female (or if we were being really objective one for every kind of variance), but we don’t.
Ah, I see. Ben was "rewarding" Blaire for being what he considers attractive and feminine by not calling her "sir". 🙄
I find it so fitting that Ben Shapiro's initials are B.S.
More fitting: Bernie Sanders.
Carlos Saraiva And spoken like a red cap.
Carlos Saraiva It means Trump supporter.
Carlos Saraiva it wasn't
And that is going to be the only way I will refer good ole B.S.
I think if people can call their boats "she" they can handle calling a trans woman "she".
THAT'S SO INCREDIBLE I CAN'T--
Depends how womanly she looks.
If I meet someone new and they look manly to me yet they personally identify as a woman. I'd call them he,his Because that's what we're used to. Not because I'm transphobic.
@@Zohairshanteer this is ironic, right?
Zuhair shantir My dude, do you use the same logic on ships?
@@Zohairshanteer Yeah we were socially conditioned to call people based on their physical appearance, but it's not hard to change the way you call someone when they straight up tell you what they want.
There are cis women who look very masculine. Would you call them he/him if they asked you to use she/her?
Probably not. It's almost like it's not about appearance.
"How do I explain to my ChIlDrEn?!"
As someone who's parent came out to them at age 7, you explain it calmly and as simply as possible. What they said went roughly,
Parent- "I feel like a woman on the inside"
Little me- "So a boy on the outside, but really a girl?"
Parent- "yes"
Little me- "can't you fix it?"
Parent- "It takes a lot of money"
Little me- "Guess I'll get a job so your outside matches your inside"
That's what I remember anyway. I didn't know the word transgender then, but I understood the concept.
Ummm adorable. Marry me.
you're right. when people use this argument, they're underestimating children's intelligence. most likely, they know that they can explain it to kids, but they just don't want to, so they pretend it's impossible.
That and kids are learning about the world, and because everything is so new and not cemented into dumb rock yet, they are often more able to be flexible in their category ideas than adults
That's really wholesome
I was like 10 when I first saw an ftm person on the news and my only thoughts were "ewww he's a boy now"
I got teary eyed after hearing the analogy about adopted children and parents. The analogy is so on point that it shows how big of an asshole you'd have to be to consciously not call someone by their desired pronouns.
Shapiro refuses to do it because by refusing to do so he is virtue signaling. Oh the irony.
I'm a cis dork trying to be a good and respectable little ally. But I still have troubles and make self corrections; stuff that gets caught before it ever comes close to leaving my head, but it feels bad. Like there's a fragment of learned transphobia stuck inside there still and I can't cut it out. I feel ashamed a lot because of it.
The part about adoptive parents really helped with that. I'm not sure it fixes things completely, but I at least feel pointed in the right direction now.
@@yoji0 don't be too ashamed, even trans people generally have to deal with their own transphobia. The same way it took time to learn it, it will take time to get over it, but I'm sure you'll manage that eventually
@@cleo42So then all normal non-brain dead droid persons are transphobic? Transphobia starts with hating transgender people, not with refusing to use their pronouns or considering them male/female. Everyone has the right to decide who they think is a man and who is a woman. A brain dead droid who accepts another's reality instead of his own. As a liberal, I would tell a trans woman to refer to herself as she feels, but equally, to someone who thinks trans women are not women, I would say to refer to them as feys and ignore their feelings. Everyone should be loyal to themselves!!
Because you're a pathetic mind-dead Nazi... and you're still surprised that Donald Trump won for you... You deserved it, but unfortunately he's also a climate denier and an animal hater, so it wasn't just the idiot Nazi who caused harm to Americans... You're incredibly pathetic with this childish sentimentality and with your disgusting collectivism! You are the same as Trump just in a different way!!
"If we don't base our use of pronouns on biology, how will we distinguish between trans and cis women?"
You use the words "trans" and "cis," ya goof.
@hugo zubiria .. what? Buddy. Dude. Oh my god. Pronouns have literally nothing to do with your sex. Also your gender is whatever. It can be as big or a small of a deal as you like it to be, and you clearly think it's huge deal. Just chill. Cis and trans people have different experiences, and those terms can be used to differentiate them. Trans women are women, just as much as tall women are women or black women are woman or fat women are women. It takes just about no effort to use the pronouns the person asks you to and it's just polite
@hugo zubiria why are guys like you so obsessed with other peoples bodies?
@hugo zubiria And how old did you say you were? I refuse to believe you are more than a very spoiled, self-centered and egoistical 7 year old. Your level of ignorance and lack of empathy are astonishing, hope you get to mature someday.
OR, and hear me out, OR you don’t bother determining because it doesn’t mean anything? Since they’re both women,l?
@hugo zubiria nice egoism there buddy
I actually kind of feel sorry for Shapiro's daughter. I was raised in a really weird way by my stereotypical militaristic, misogynist dad. When I acted girly (I am a cis woman) he would often patronize me (or just outright abuse me) but when I acted more masculine in order to please him (because that's what I do. I just want to be liked by everyone all the time.) his initial reaction would be approval until it hit him that I was still biologically female and then he accused me of being a lesbian (more than once). The point is, I guess, dads who are vehemently gender normative or who have veiled, misogynistic attitudes (like my dad) really are hell to live with. No matter what you do, you're still a just bitch. Needless to say, we don't speak anymore.
Mad Poet Society omfg same. All of it. Same. I'm sorry things were like that.
Hey, you don't know me and I don't know you, but I'm sorry your dad is an asshole and I hope you have a good day.
Their subconscious end goal is to train you to act like a woman but also train you to accept abuse and marginalization while doing so. I'm sorry you had to go through that.
I grew up in a traditional family and thrived meanwhile one girl i knew cut herself regurlarly because of her alcohol adddiction that she got because her parents wanted her to explore herself. Traditional gender roles Work for most people
Mad Poet Society Very much same. When you act girly, you're treated as inferior. When you act manly, you're told that you're not supposed to do that. As if you're supposed to act like the inferior human breed you apparently are.
I always wonder what pronouns Ben Shapiro would refer to an intersexed person as since he’s so concerned about pronouns and chromosomes
Shapiro isn't the one with a solid half-hour, produced video on the topic.
@@leobigelow7021 yet here you are, watching it💀
@@leobigelow7021 Natalie would probably refer to them by whatever pronouns they preferred. This comment doesn’t even make any sense 😂
@@beachwasher6140 intersex is a term used to describe people who’s anatomy doesn’t fit the binary of male or female. Even if they are assigned a legal sex, according to Ben Shapiro that doesn’t matter because the only thing that defines male and female is sexual anatomy and chromosomes. According to his logic, intersex people are by definition neither male or female. This obviously doesn’t even account for gender identity and natural variation in humans.
Ben would freak out and privately refer to an intersex person as "it"
There is something that has yet to change my mind on this topic:
Ben Shapiro was born as crying baby.
And he still presents as one.
PREACH 😭🤚
Ayooo 🤣🤣
Ben is going to be really upset when he discovers that all words are made-up.
And so we meet again! ^^
Excellent taste you have
Word mines don't care about your facts.
@@concibar4267
If I were contrapoints, I'd be embarrassed by the stupidity of my fans. Contra is much smarter than 99% of 'comments' like this.
Yes, all words are 'made up'. No, it doesn't mean you can use them any way you like. If you have a barque, you CAN call it 'my war galleon', if it makes you happy. but if you go out on a limb and start insisting that EVERYONE calls your barque 'war galleon' - because you feel like that - and then 'justify' that demand by saying that 'all words are made up anyway - I'm gonna just call you 'dumb'. And you are even free to believe that this MADE-UP word 'dumb', actually means that you are 'highy intelligent'.
@@antebagaric1970 words matter sure but you know what matters more? Being polite if someone is really adamant about calling their barque a 'war gallon' then why not? What's the harm in that?
Ben Shapiro's feelings don't care about facts
>graduated from UCLA with highest possible honors in less than 3 years
>graduated from Harvard law right after with Cum-Laude (highest honor possible) in less than 3 years
>speaks at campuses around the country and destroys everyone he debates, even when he's being an asshat with his shitty trad-con nonsense
>140-160 IQ minimum
>Is slowly allowing himself to shed the skin of an overly religious and biased Jew because he's open minded
What were you saying again..? Just because he presents facts and statistics that disagree with your own biased and unsubstantiated beliefs doesn't mean he's caught up in his feelings. In fact, the only people caught up in their feelings in this thread are you and I. I don't want to be lumped in with the likes of you though, so I'll just say Shapiro is magnitudes sharper than anyone here, period... At least I'm distancing myself from you by being in a group of currently 400,000 people on this video.
Bennys feels < reals
@@MrCholoPants3415 lmao did you not watch the Contra video?
@@MrCholoPants3415 _">speaks at campuses around the country..."_
How is that possible? I thought those had all been overrun with Marxists since the 1920s...
@Traditional European Him needing $600k worth of security and having riots at many of the events wouldn't really support the moronic point that you're so subtly alluding to.
"Otherwise I will throw you in imaginary Canadian pronoun jail."
As a Canadian I find this particularly amusing considering our official second language is French and that language (among others) has the audacity to assign genders to inanimate objects.
As someone with Québécois heritage who’s anglophone I’m still not fully over that time at my family reunion where I said “le table” and it became a running joke.
That said if I can survive misgendering a table other people can survive having to correct themselves when they misgender a *person.*
"has the audacity" XD
I can proudly claim That i have the femininity of an axe!
@@labistellaire3983 That just randomly reminded me of that one OKGO lyric where he sings: "She's got a body like a battleaxe."
@@tortis6342 transition goals
*"I'm straight, I don't use Pronouns"*
*Good for , Good for , :)*
LMAOO
Lol
(proceeds to use two pronouns in the very sentence saying [REDACTED] doesn't use [REDACTED])
This is genius, Imma use that the next time I hear anyone say "I don't use pronouns" lmao
Parents who have adopted children are "Adoptive parents" yeah, and women who are trans are "trans women." You did it Benny!
It's such a good comparison that it's funny to watch him try to use it as a negative
@@saltmomtmissad8384 yeah I love how a lot of the things he said kind of went against the point he was trying to make.
So his problem is that we can say "trans women" but we only have one one version of "she" to use for everyone who is female. OK, just say "T-her," "T-she" and "T-ma'am," and stop complaining, Shapiro.
@@premanadi yah that's so logical
i hate Benneth Sharpie
I just address everyone with the gender free pronoun Comrade
captain is better
Reginald Höfnerspoon “Your Excellency” is best!
@@dylanchouinard6141 fuck you, captain
'Mortal' is my go-to gender free pronoun
Reginald Höfnerspoon well that was uncalled for, Your Excellency!
The "how do I explain this to my child" argument never made any sense to me. How do you explain to your children that at some point their parents will die? How do you explain to your children that they could die in a school shooting and they have to reharse and hold drills to prepare for such event? How do you explain to your children how sex works? Just because something is difficult to understand doesn't mean your child should be unaware of it. Learning about death did more to my psyche than realizing transgender people exist ever could, and yet they're things children simply have to learn at some point.
Ikr. Also there is an intense laziness to the whole thing. Keeping your child locked in Plato’s cave because you’re too lazy/dumb to explain things to them 😂
He is a normal parent, he never talks to his child about sexuality and most children would not allow this to their parents. Most kids would probably slap their parents right away if they even started talking about such a topic. Transgender is different, but I think most kids don't care and it's not a problem.
@@vilagistene2939 explaining the birds and the bees to your children is so commonplace that we have multiple specific phrases for it in common parlance.
Also like all schools have some kind of sex education program (as woeful as a lot of them can be) because it's, yknow, important.
Not to mention that there is a non zero chance that your child turns up being transgender / non-binary themselves, and hence would benefit from already having at least heard of the topic. Communicating your own acceptance of trans people early on can help them be more comfortable with it so they don’t stay in the closet and struggle with dysphoria / depression and so on when growing up. The very outdated rhetoric of « what if representation turns my children gay* » is harmful in more ways than one imo.
ContraPoints DESTROYS conservative snowflake ben shapiro in EPIC video essay
Part 69
Very underrated comment
Mommy Feelings destroys 'Daddy' 'Logic'
I don't think conservatives will agree because they use their own logic.
“How do I explain to my child?!”
I’m a transman and in my experience kids always understand much better than adults, not to mention they don’t care.
Which is why it bothers me when .... trans folks... or people in general are ready to jump like hyenas on people who were raised differently and therefore already have pre-existing definitions for pronouns.
Just because you want the pronoun usage to change, doesnt mean you get to try to make people feel like shit for needing time to get it.
Yes children are pliable. It's not really a good thing. It makes it easier for you to influence them yes... But if we remained that pliable even as adults, there would be no stability. Because you're not the only one influencing.
Mr S but then they’re grown up and understand that life isn’t as simple as you knew when you were six. I don’t see the problem but I see you jumping to a conclusion.
Exactly. The world is full of weird and confusing things. Kids are faced with new and unfamiliar concepts on an almost daily basis. The idea that somehow transgender people are a concept just too foreign and alien for young minds to digest is silly. If a kid is old enough to understand that a Caterpillar turns into a Butterfly, but they are still the same animal, then they are old enough to understand binary transgender people. NB identities might be a little harder, but also easily doable.
SilverishKitten I agree but I also you paint with a pretty wide brush. In my experience when I misgendered someone what I got is “ooooh, I’d prefer she or her” and I’m like “oh shit, sorry my dude. I’ll try to remember that” and that’s it. Yeah people are more vicious online but that could be said by any group of any interest. I.e. don’t like that a Jewish mother wanted to kick out their neighbor? Dox her and send death threats to her personal phone. Don’t like a guy who’s advocating conservative values? Group up and riot an entire town until the event is cancelled.
@Mr S I really can't see how "unlimited" genders can affect society in a bad way. I tried to think of the possible scenarios but nothing terrible comes to mind. Care to elaborate?
The clip where he accidentally uses Laverne Cox’s preferred pronoun and then has to hastily correct himself is the clearest example of how this talk of biology isn’t an ignorant interpretation of science or a sincere belief on Ben’s part. It’s performative cruelty that he has to actively make himself engage in.
That he seems to derive a kind of pleasure from it would be almost pitiable if he didn’t make so much money from it.
Yeah i don't know what to make of that, or one time milo yanopa-whatever proudly indicated that he was 'deliberately mis-gendering' some person. At times i can get that, if someone believes trans people are just delusional or attention-seeking or, i dunno, gross or whatever objection they might have, that they'd bristle at being pressured to use a different pronoun*. And that's unfortunate. But yeah, ben shapiro and the like don't strike me that way, i think your 'performative' is spot on. 'Cruelty' though, i don't know... it's just the assholery posing as bravery that's his brand and gets his audience off. Although even that crowder guy who shares shapiro's audience and politics will still actually be civil and call people by the right pronoun from what i've seen.
And that's a pretty fucked up editorial standard for a publication in any case.
Raketemensch 00000 I don’t know how useful it is to debate the semantics, but to me “assholery” is the kind of behaviour that you’d find in a typical episode of House MD or Sherlock. Ben actively lies about marginalised groups of people to promote his ideology, gets well paid to do it and seems to enjoy being nasty to people. If that’s not cruelty to you then perhaps my bar for that label is lower than yours. But I don’t think it’s defensible behaviour either way.
Even if we grant that the way he acts is just his “brand” and he’s not actually a bad person in his heart, that just means he’s a mendacious coward who’ll say things he doesn’t believe for a quick buck.
Cruelty? No it's the refusal to feed a delusion, but even then of course he accidentally used the wrong pronoun, because HE LOOKS LIKE A GIRL. You know who looks like girls? GIRLS DO. Real women typically look like girls, so of course the pronoun has connection to biology
Account: You can argue that it's wrong for biological males to dress and act as women (I disagree, but you could argue it), but the idea that pronoun use actually naturally comes from biology is pretty clearly false in any practical sense.
In fact, in actual scientific contexts, pronouns are very rarely used to identify biological sex. We use "male" and "female" in research, and if you started calling, say, ginkgo trees, "girls," you'd be in some trouble with your editor. Often, "it" is actually used instead of "she/he" in plant and animal studies because it feels so damn strange to call a tree "she" (though people certainly do sometimes) even if its biological sex is known.
When he/she pronouns are used, though, that alone is not enough for science-you have to specify "male" or "female," even in human medical trials sometimes.
The idea that pronouns as a language tool come from biological or genetic sex is pretty easy to disprove. This argument doesn't really say anything about whether trans people are "real," but it does say something about Shapiro's argument. This particular point is outright illogical-it comes from political goals and personal views about trans people, not from a truth about language use. Coming from someone who so prides logic and facts, it becomes laughable.
I think in Ben's case he wants to believe this because of his religion. And he is absolutely within his rights to do so. His aversion to preferred pronouns is justified. Justified by his religion, that is. We, as a society, give extra leeway to religions. Bigotry, close mindness, discrimination and cruelty are all fine, as long as you do it in the name of religion. Just remember to say your particular god is just and loving and you can pick up your pitchforks and torches with a clear conscience.
And as long as we, as a society, keep giving religions exemptions, we can't really say anything against religion based bigotry. We enable it after all.
Contra: I am a woman in identity and in expression I am a mess
Me, a cis woman: Same
me, a gender non conforming person:
i am a mess
Basically me when I saw that part
Good. Being perfectly feminine is not realistic.
"What am I supposed to tell my children?!" Kids are born open minded and curious; it's us as adults that slowly close it for them.
Idek when I first learned about trans people as a little kid I was initially disgusted and confused, despite being trans myself.
but that disgust and confusion is a great first step towards understanding vs. encountering trans identities later in life and experiencing that unresolved disgust towards fellow adults
@@tshred666same here, I suppose it is because some children assimilate gender roles and stereotypes faster than others and for that reason they initially refuse the notion that those "rules" can be broken, at least that happened to me (I came out as a trans girl last year and it was one of the best things I ever did :3)
Ben Shapiro: Trans people shouldn't be asking others to use certain pronouns, they should be getting medical help.
Trans Person: *takes HRT*
Ben Shapiro: no not like that
only act the way I like, nooo
he isnt wrong. We all want different things in life, you get over it and move on. Not chop your dick off and call yourself by a different name.,
@@AddedSugar9 Since gender identity isn't something you can "get over and move on", your statement is non practical, useless and wrong.
@PUNMPKIN what is this conversation XD
@@AddedSugar9 This is like saying, "We all want different things in life, you get over it and move on, not quit your job and move to LA to become a famous actor." SOME people do that, and are in fact very successful at it. It doesn't work for everyone, no, but, like... it does for some. Frankly it sounds like you gave up all of your dreams and ambitions to work in IT and now you're projecting that regret and depression onto everyone else.
he got the pronouns right BY ACCIDENT LMFAOOOO
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he’s such a dumbass why waste so much energy on misgendering people when you can just be respectful.
Really shows how much effort is needed just to misgender people
The key to this one is issa waste of energy 🔑
"a dude explaining philosophy 101", that's a true female experience. As a doctor in genetics, I've gotten random dudes try to explain genetics to me.
I had this discussion with a bro culture friend of mine. Apparently, some men like starting discussutions on topics with experts to see how well they hold up compared to the expert.
And the job of the Experte is to either correct them and add more stuff they dont know
Mansplaining
@@amamuffin are we women so dumbass that we never explain nothing to men and try to make them understand? 🤦
@@katrinam6795I’ll say as the man who’s been both the guy looking to test his knowledge against the expert AND the guy who just likes to explain stuff, you can usually tell which one you’re talking to using context clues. The former will talk to get you talking, and the latter will talk to get you to shut up and listen. It’s a weird impulse that seems to exist far more in men than women for whatever reason, but it makes us feel smart and validated in a way that kinda comes from a place of insecurity, and naturally gets real toxic when misogyny is a factor.
My 3yo niece: "Why is auntie an uncle now?"
Me: "Because your auntie wanted to be a boy so he's uncle now."
Niece: "Oh, ok."
Yeah because that's how it works
@@brendan904 that *is* how it works, actually, and you're just going to have to get over it.
Literally one of the easiest conversations to have with a young child I stg
@@brendan904 My child cousin understood perfectly that I was a boy now (I'm ftm), she had no problem understanding when she was 5-6 years old. It's not confusing to toddlers, it's only confusing to close minded people
@@falcon_arkaig it’s only confusing specifically to people who choose to be confused
Contra, I'm a cis woman in my 60s. I have never felt at all feminine, even though that was the only option for cis women when I was young. You are a gem. I wish women like you existed when I was 20. My life would have been completely different. I feel more free to be more of who I am because you and people like you exist. xx
Christine Jorgensen came out, very very publicly in 1952. It's not that trans-women weren't around, it's just been a fight that's been going on continuously since the '50s in the US.
This is a beautiful comment :(
Speaking of 60s, how were the 1960s for you? It's a pretty cool decade, just in terms of art and music, so I'm always interested in hearing more personal accounts. If you're willing to share.
Beautiful.
@@josh-oo I was a child of neglectful parents in the 60s. I grew up in San Francisco, so was exposed to lots of amazing music and art. But too young to fully participate, which is something that I regret even though there was nothing I could do about it. It *was* a pretty cool decade - even the 70s were pretty cool, especially compared to what we're dealing with now.
I especially love that Ben Shapiro slips up and uses Laverne Cox's preferred pronoun in an attempt to quickly explain and bring someone up to speed with the person he's talking about....you know, like what pronouns are literally *for* in language.
Right
I died when he “corrected” his use of she. Like, he has to make sure we all know he’s deliberately working to be asshole
I think he's just mad because we all know how sexy and beautiful Laverne is. That and Laverne is a transwoman with a decent amount of cultural clout. We just can't have that now can we?
Laverne is a transwoman with a decent amount of cultural clout and widespread recognition. We just can't have that now can we?/s
That shit happens. I have a few trans gamer friends, and we all use the preferred she pronouns.
But I noticed even the women in our community still call the individuals he when they arent in the room
I am a cis gender woman and I used to be misgendered because I shaved my head.
It is so funny to me that people argue that pronouns are biological when some people called me a "he" because of my hairstyle.
Thats an honest mistake. Its not the same as people screeming at you for "misgendering" them.
Here is the question. Did you scream at them for misgendering you?? Thats the difference
@@ad8447 I felt a little embarrassed but I didn't yell at them because they weren't trying to hurt or offend me. I have a lot of experience dealing with bullies to tell the difference, but I wouldn't blame trans people for snap out at people who refuse to recognize them for who they are.
Nothing wrong with accidentally misgendering someone. Continuing to do so, however, is another story. @@ad8447
@@ad8447 Okay but you do realize people only scream when they are repeated harassed, by the same people over and over and over again.
Sometimes I'm just happy I'm a Turkish speaker. The language has no pronouns, no gender, no tools to express someone or somethings gender. I live in Germany, trying to use German as well as possible in my daily life but even after so many years i still struggle with coping with the insane and arbitration grammar of genders. Turkish is - at least in this respect - so much simpler.
My irish boyfriend tried to learn German and said about our pronouns:"They' are there to sort out intruders!" There are in fact no logical rules to them, children just learn them by imitation.
I’m a native English speaker, but I learned Spanish when I was pretty young. I don’t speak it much any more, but yeah, learning a gendered language like that when you’re young makes it SO much easier to pick up other languages with a heavy reliance on gender
@@cordulam I think there are, but they are very convoluted and only accessible to linguists - so you'd need like five years of extensive study to understand it. And imitation just works much _much_ faster🙂
I once dated a man who idolized Ben Shapiro, dropping that shit was the best decision I ever made
Ben Shapiro should idolize me, and so should your ex and you.
DolphinsWIthIgloos didn’t drop him because of that but go off lmao you don’t know shit about shit so don’t act like you do
Proud of u
Why do people idolize opinion people? You know, those people who get famous for an opinion. Its not an achievment.
I don't get it.
kudosbudo I really don’t get it either. They’re just people and he genuinely had a weird obsession with the man.
"You know, you don't become a woman the first time you put on a dress. You become a woman the first time an older female relative turns to you at a restaurant and says, 'You know, maybe you should order the salad, sweetie.'"
I'm not a woman, but that is a brilliant observation and I believe it.
I fucking died at that.
I thought I was a cis woman, but it turns out I gotta find a judgy older female relative and get her in a restaurant asap
@@vids595 yes all women need an older female relative who body shames them. That's what we all need
@@idkdk569 Nice false dilemma there. Or maybe you could just mind your business and not comment on what people order, as well as not make medical judgements about how much people should exercise based on as little info as what they're eating for one meal out. Do you always express your concern for the health of everyone you see eating processed sugar, imbibing large amounts of drugs, or spending the day on the couch, or does this imperative just apply to people who don't make your dick happy?
@@elperry7733 after thinking about my comments for a while, i realized i was in the wrong, i apologize
have a nice day
I work with kids and a lot of what I do is explaining neurodivergence to neurotypical classmates. Kids are very accepting if you explain things in terms they can understand. It's adults who are the problem.
Yes, children are easily brainwashed. Are you really that surprised?
Pronouns are not biological phenomena. They’re words.
Correct. And who gets to decide how words are used/what they mean?
@@---yl4mf the speakers of the language
@@adrianmoreno8816 Good answer. That means that both those who want 6000 genders and those who deny trans-hood get a voice.
Which is fair, but makes things complicated.
@@---yl4mf Sadly yes but the respect to others is what allows us to comform a society. Anyways, the life is so complicated
they are words that already have definitions. you cant bs something made a long time ago into your own description
"Look at that blonde girl over there"
"Blonde? Where?"
"The one with green hair"
"Then why didn't you say 'green-haired girl' or something?"
"Cause that is not her natural hair color"
"Well I know it's pretty obvious but there is nothing blonde about her hair now."
"Facts don't care about her dry ends. Blondie."
EDIT: heeey this blew up unexpectedly lol
So I’ve seen a few people in the comments who didn’t understand the use of this analogy so I decided to go a little further:
First of all, this is just a joke for funsies. I would never say something like this if I was in a debate with Mr. Shapiro over there.
And second of all, this analogy just applies to the situation of someone insisting on misgendering a trans person, usually binary, who passes, ending up confusing the people around them. If you point to a woman in the crowd and refer to her as a man, the other party won’t know who you’re talking about and you’ll just look stupid and petty.
This is not a situation that can be applied to non-binary trans people or binary trans people who “don’t pass”, such as my own, because the misgendering happens in a different way in this case.
By the way, my pronouns are he/him, if any of you need to refer to me in the replies.
I wish all of you a very nice day and leave a friendly reminder for you to drink water and not skip your meals 💕
Don’t forget eyes, and people who need contacts to see may have contacts that change their eye color. You’d say their eye color is that of what the contact changed it to, but you can’t call a person with XX chromosomes a boy? Kinda confused.
Taichi Fujisaki exactly. In the end it goes down to referring to anyone as being naked because they weren’t born with clothes.
@Ali Arafat The person you replied to was making fun of transphobes, not being transphobic. They're implying that the whole situation they wrote is stupid, and that trans people should be called whatever pronouns they identify with.
@Ali Arafat ................ I'm a trans man.
@Ali Arafat i was making a joke
please don't yell at me i'm already sad enough these days 😢
shapiro's feelings doesn't care about your facts
Radical
CP doesnt have facts, just feelings
@Here to comment/watch weird stuff . I actually do watch CPs stuff. Ever since he was a normal boy on the blaire interview or w.e., it's really interesting to see his alter ego.
Heres my problem, he interchangeably uses transsexual and transgender, but it's clear which he is. At the end, he states his identity is based on societal support. For example, he gets said desired positive reinforcement from the environment (which is nurtured).
@Here to comment/watch weird stuff positive reinforcement is directly related to attention and feelings.... what are you talking about
@Here to comment/watch weird stuff ... just talking from a social standpoint, ignore gender/biology and all the bull shit. Instead replace those with social cliques at school aka demographically. Say cheerleader (erin) wants to be referred to as shaniqua, all of her friends cater to it and call her that "nickname".
Why would I care about her nick name or the feelings of those who "feel" she should be called said nick name.
“Nobody realizes that some people expend tremendous energy merely to be normal.”
― Albert Camus
I just found your channel. My child told me very recently that they are exploring the idea that they're NB or Trans, i am very happy to find positive confident voice for good on this platform. I look forward to learning how strong members of trans community look at the world and what is wanted from the people in this world. Thanks for educating me bit by hit so i can be the right type of mom as my kid walks his journey.
What a horrid parent.
@@AndrosProtos "I love and support my child" = horrible parent to you? I bet your parents are great people just like you...
You prob won't see this because this comment is old, but I seriously admire you for this, it means so much to your child
just wanted to let you know how much it means to have supportive parents. not all of us are so lucky so thank you for loving your child regardless of whatever they identity as.
I wish you were my parent. I sent them resources myself and they haven't looked at any of it. I'm glad that some parents are making the effort of trying to understand out of their own volition
"Hi I'm Ben Shapiro"
"Oh hi Benny"
"Um actually its just Ben"
"Well you look like a Benny to me so I'm calling you that lol"
"Okay but that name feels infantilizing and personally degrading and I don't feel comfortable being addressed by that name"
"Facts don't care about your feelings Benny, this is my freedom of speech"
Does he actually not like being called Benny?
This entire conversation is made up... Oh so transgenders are just playing make believe. I was confused.
@@GamePath That's not what I was saying.
@@sardonicsardonyx359 Oh so benny is a nickname... nicknames are made up. So trangenders are completely made up also. Thanks! Got it.
Calling someone named Ben “Benny” is not the same as forcing people to deny biological realities. A more appropriate analogy would be if someone said their preferred pronoun was “Climate Change is a myth” and reprimanded you and called you phobic every time you protested using their preferred pronoun. Your analogy sucks and only works on this uncritical audience.
Admittedly, I view my adoptive parents as glorified kidnappers.
No officer, I'm not stealing this car, I'm it's undocumented owner.
this made me burst out laughing xD
Were you taken away or could your biological parents not support you?
Do you like your adoptive parents?
I never heard this view point from someone who was adopted and I want to adopt multiple kids so I'm legit curious
@@RockZombieIAm same, adopt with me
How do you make a kid feel not this cuz I wanna adopt
Why does Ben go by he/him when he is clearly biologically an actual toddler.
He's actually a squid 🐙
@@sionnachmacbradaigh1010 don’t insult squids like that
they go by ba/by
@@amb600cd0 you mean to say "ba goes by ba/by" :))
@@cosmo_junk oops, really sorry Ben, i didnt mean to do that to ba
The "pronouns are based on chromosomes" is such a weird concept to me, because pronouns were used way before chromosomes were even discovered. They were clearly not based on a person's chromosomes, but the perception and the interpretation of someone's presentation.
Bone structure and biological make up is clearly what determined how we assign pronouns.
The whole:"You can't know someone's chromosomes." argument is intentionally taking what is being presented at face value without taking into consideration the actual factors that even make this sentence be uttered by an individual to begin with.
Basically: X means this,Y means this,B means this,therefore: A is due to XYB.
You could claim that everyone can read really well,but then someone could literally just mention dyslexic people who may not be able to inherently read well without practice.
(Dyslexia might have not been a good example,but I'm sure you get the point.
Additional point:Our mind basically determines gender by causing attraction towards the opposite sex,so we socially and biologically base gender off of appearance.)
@@SlutForCynthiaBut there's not even a set bone structure between sexes. Yeah, it can be used to help determine sex but it's not a reliable method at all.
Plus, a lot of languages use gendered pronouns on objects, too.
@@SlutForCynthiaNot even to mention how common it actually is for cis peoples chromosomes to not match up with their sex.
Someone could appear fully biologically male and spend their entire life as a cis man yet still have XX chromosomes.
The same thing can be applied about cis women with XY chromosomes.
Chromosomes aren't a surefire way to determine sex either.
@@sillyspiderIt's still better than defining it by feeling.
O great Ben Shapiro, please end the decades long German debate over the grammatical gender of Nutella and tell us the karyotype of this sweetened hazelnut coca spread
its full of nuts so its gotta be male. I have spoken.
Das Nutella.
Die Butter.
Here in Brazil we call it "A Nutella", "a" being the feminine article
@@jmns9595 That's cool, thank you for your input! As far as I understand the way the name came to be was the (italian) inventor using the english word "nut" and adding the italian diminutive suffix -ella, so it's interesting to see that carries over to Brazil :)
Die Nutella
Only valid answer
I had a trans friend in kindergarten. My mom told me that she was something called transgender, and that she was a girl now. None of us kids gave a crap, and we started calling her she, albiet forgetting sometimes. It wasn't that hard to understand.
you must have been psychologically traumatized by the experience! how did you ever survive without turning trans?? what an immoral mother, putting you in that horrific situation, i am so sorry!!!
(humongous sarcasm alert.)
Every story involving kids i hear is " they don't worry about it and get on with it" when it comes to race, gender. They honestly don't care.
Dat Fishe Boi Yup! Same! She's almost fully transitioned now and she goes by Arabella :) sorry old comment but just wanted to share.
My 12 year old daughter has a friend at school who has been considering transitioning, she told me this as a matter of fact without any judgement etc. It lightened my heart to hear it, their circle has all been supportive. I can't imagine something like that taking place when I was a kid, no one would have felt safe enough to come forward and discuss it. It gives me hope for our future generations. That is if they have a planet that can sustain them by then.
Dat Fishe Boi that’s great
German: has neutral pronouns
Ben's head: explodes
Our neutral pronouns aren't usually used to refer to people. The neutral pronoun is used similar to "it" in English, referring to things/objects rather than people. Which is why if you called someone an "es" or "das" in German they'd feel quite offended. I'm honestly not familiar with any gender neutral term none binary people widely use here, I know some use "they" in normal German language as well but in that community it's an ongoing discussion on how to fill this "language hole" so to speak.
I got the impression you might not be German and the following might be new to you, but if you are and were just making a joke I apologize. Just thought this might be interesting in case you're not.
@@Xsomono In Swedish there are two neutral grammatical genders (den, det) and two gendered 3rd person pronouns (han, hon). There has been for a while an effort to adopt a new neutral/ungendered 3rd person pronoun (hen), which is now starting to be used in legal documents and everyday speech.
In many feminist and leftist circles in Catalonia it is now commonplace to use plural feminine case to refer to a group of people regardless of gender and to indistinctively use masculine and feminine case and pronouns to refer to individual people, regardless of gender. This is because the 'x' in words like 'latinxs' is unpronounceable and the other alternative of naming both grammatical genders every time is impractical as well as non-inclusive.
@@KilgoreTroutAsf Very interesting. I hope your efforts in Sweden develop well. Here in Germany officially introducing a new pronoun is sadly unthinkable at the moment.
@@Xsomono Luckily in isiZulu and most Southern African languages, there are no gendered pronouns that exist. All pronouns that refer to people refer not to gender but to their being people. People = abantu, pronoun bona (they/them plural), person = umuntu, pronoun yena (they/them singular).
Oh I wish
I relate so deeply to not wanting people to use my correct pronouns out of mere politeness, but because they intuitively recognise me as the gender I am. Sadly, as a non-binary person, I am aware that I can't ever "pass" as the gender I want to be seen as. How can I telegraph that I'm agender to a society that by-and-large doesn't even know what that *is*? The best-case scenario for me is that they see me as the "opposite" as the gender I was assigned at birth, maybe.
i guess the way i see it it’s changing
in my school yeah, there’s actually a fair few out enbys (myself included) expressing and identifying with the expected variability… a fair few teachers and the vast majority of students use they/they for us. there’s two that i met that i genuinely couldn’t pick their assigned gender at birth, without them telling me, so i’ve always seen them both, not as more-non-binary (whatever that means), but “passing” as enby, and i sun tilly using they/them
so ur family might not see you as you are, but i think that general perception is changing (at least in some places)
"chromosomes determine pronouns" wait a minute, has Ben ever gotten his chromosomes checked? I sure haven't. How does he even know random stranger's chromosomes?
@@baristaz8834 there are people who have all the physical characteristics of male or female anatomy but the opposite chromosomes. You have no way of knowing. Especially not with strangers you've never met.
@@baristaz8834 then just, don't assume people's sex? It's not really important. If you're not someone's doctor you don't need to know unless they decide to tell you. I know a lot of people who you just wouldn't know their sex by looking at them. Just don't assume.
@@baristaz8834 no it's not. The only thing you really need to know is what name and pronouns someone goes by. You can, and I'd say should, ask someone about those. The rest doesn't really matter in most circumstances unless they choose to tell you.
@@baristaz8834 they don't assume your sex. They assume your gender, and assume the two are the same. You can assume someone's pronouns without assuming someone's sex. I'm not saying never assume someone's pronouns ever, I'm saying that assuming someone's sex isn't a necessary part of social interactions.
@@baristaz8834 Or maybe you're just salty?
As someone who went through a “rebellious” phase by binge-watching anti-sjws and had my views moved to the moderate area (from growing up in a very liberal family) by Shapiro and crew, I really have to thank Contra for helping to inject some sanity and clarity back into my political views. I can say with certainty that if your goal is reaching and changing the views of moderates who were gullible and swept up by the anti-sjw wave that took over the internet, you’re doing a fantastic job!
I drank Jordan Peterson's Kool Aid for like a day, but thankfully I pulled back from his insanity. CP has really helped me swing back to the left, where I belong.
Evidenced by the fact that you are one of those gullible people?
@@snek9353 I mean I was. It was only for about a day though. I can tell you that I'm easily manipulated and JP did precisely that to me.
@@Jamie-kg8ig How, JP is an interesting and intense man, but I've never heard him say anything manipulative?
JBP has some possibly horrible views and implications, and some possibly good and empowering views. Often, he's very "you be you" but opposed to "people changing the world". It does change tho, slowly and usually gently. Contra is pretty darn respectful the fact that people don't start in radical places, vs intentional misinterpretations.
I actually love the conversation with Blair. She basically forces him to make the point for her. You definitely gotta give Blair points for this. She did a good job.
After Eliot Page came out as trans Ben made a whole video where he misgendered him throughout. Unfortunately he has not grown in these past years.
I thought that video was funny as hell. Eliot Page ruined several conservative media personalities’ lives for a few weeks by literally just being a man.
I wonder if Ben refers to young male cartoon characters as "she", due to them often having female voice actors.
scoreunder goku is a girl :p
Miss Bart Simpson lol
VoicelessMusic Butch Hartman, the author of Fairly-Odd Parents is super transphobic which makes it kinda weird in the context
.... it’s literally a show.. WhAt Do YoU mEaN
@M Thomas Presumably it's a matter of the author's intent, but that's not always crystal clear.
I was actually ready to disagree, but then she hit me with that logic.
YES! It must needs to be remarked how wonderful it is that you could stay open to true logic, you are a blessing (and btw give me so much hope and faith :D)
Natalie Wynn DESTROYS a false myth with FACTS and LOGIC
@Le Wats Good artist! I see someone knows what's up.
Transgender calmly DISMANTLES conservatards using FACTS and LOGIC
@@gavinthatcher9307 syntax and analogies are not logic....
Also no facts
Imagine referring to Ben Shapiro as "jew boy," and saying, "what? You're jewish. And you're a boy. So what I said is completely accurate. And facts don't care about your feelings."
Yeah this autistic "but I'm just being truthful here! Facts don't care about the feelings" conservatives like to parrot around is such a simplistic way of viewing human communication and language.
"Jew boy" is never respectful. "Sir" and "he" almost always are.
@@sananton2821 That's the point
@@ihsahnakerfeldt9280 No. Being so mentally ill that you choose to be upset at traditional terms of respect is far different from accepting an intended insult that is only ever insulting. You can't even read.
@@sananton2821 "sir" and "he" are not respectful if you're addressing a woman
"Biological pronoun" is one of the funniest terms I've ever heard
This changed my view on trans pronouns. I was down the anti-sjw rabbit hole and this helped a lot
Hey, hope you're being serious. I was never "anti sjw" but Natalie has definitely helped me better understand things I had previously only agreed with out of the "it's fine to do what you want if you don't hurt anyone and I don't want to be rude" principal. She's intelligent and inquisitive in a way that I connect with
@@Taquinqua Yeah same. Exactly the same tbh
welcome! we've been waiting for you
Obviously cause you're a sponge.
@Sargons wife's black daughter sheneqwa of akkad oof. whats up your butt? why are you so mad lmao how are trans women affecting you?
I am non-binary and use they/them pronouns and I shared this video with my family today to help them better understand me. My 70 year old aunt was really moved by it and wrote me a really thoughtful response. Thank you so much for all the work you put into your videos. They make a huge difference. Your videos make me hopeful ❤️
MC Hill
Awwww. Go aunt!
I’m happy for you. Your aunt is really cool.
Thats amazing! I would be terrified to show ContraPoints to my family because i know i would be judged and i know they wouldn't watch the whole video
Aww, that's so wholesome.
You are not non binary. You are man or woman.
I love the way you think, Contra. When someone asks me my pronouns, I have no idea what to say. “They” doesn’t work for me. “Your Highness” might be ok, but it’s sounds *so* much better on you (than me). You’re definitely my philosopher-queen! xo
One thing when It comes to pronouns is: The only time it's okay to get someone's pronouns wrong is when you do it on mistake, for example if you meet a new person who looks like a man and acts like a man, but uses she/her pronouns, it's okay if you accidentally misgender her if she doesn't tell you right away, but as soon as she informs you "hey I go by she/her pronouns" you better put all of your effort into calling her those pronouns.
@- it is okay if it's an honest mistake but don't purposefully go around misgendering people that's wrong.
Not quite. The other reason to do so is, even if you know the person's correct pronouns, they ask you to not use them so as to not out them. Similarly, people fuck up sometimes, and that's okay and expected, so long as they're making an effort.
Dirty Nazi!! DON'T TELL ME WHAT TO DO!!!!!!!!!
As a cis woman with no trans acquaintances I find it hard to understand all this stuff sometimes, but the way you explain it answers a lot of questions I had. Please keep doing this. Thank you.
@@checkbox197 It must have been a pain in the ass to clean up that bathtub afterwards.
Somehow I thought it said "as a giant woman" at first and I'm sad because Steven Universe is on hiatus.
@@SuviTuuliAllan Speaking of, are you excited about the movie?
@@sardonicsardonyx359 As excited as a depressed person can be, I suppose. You?
@@SuviTuuliAllan Unpopular opinion, but I think I'm going to be disappointed. SU is like Game Freak; they introduce something that's really cool like Mega Evolution but abandon it in the next generation.
SU has cool characters but they take the back burner so often by the time they do develop characters they do so that instead of focusing on what's important. Do I wanna know about Peridot? Yes, but not when the world is at steak and you are taking time to relax in the sun and sing songs! I want to know more about Steven and Connie's relationship? Yes, but not when Lars could be dead in space!
I feel like the gem is going to be a really good villain, then be redeemed by the end of the movie, and then never be developed or spoken about ever again.
"I look inside myself and ask, 'do I feel like a man or a woman?' And the answer is still after all these years, that I feel like shit."
That's a gargantuan mood right there
“It is not me who misunderstands biology; it is you who misunderstands language.” I’m getting that tattooed on my stomach.
Roses are red
Violets are blue
Singular they
Predates singular you
Late 13th century vs 16th century to be exact.
THANK YOU
in my native language i would call a book "a she", a table "a he", a chair "an it" etc. could ben shapiro explain how to check my computer's karyotype to be sure it is indeed a he??
Even in English we call ships "she".
Suddenly, my book has an XY I wasn't made aware of. brilliant
My dumbass neighbor calls his car sheila / her. Does that mean I have to ?
My native language doesn't have gender-specific pronouns at all.
@@ryanthomas9306 This comment is dismissing the notion that "biology is the nature of pronouns".
Did anyone else learn about trans people at a young age, grow up understanding and being ok with it, and now has a perfectly fine psyche?
i actually had damage to my psyche from not knowing what it meant to be trans until thirteen or fourteen. god, i could have saved myself so much pain if id been able to figure out why i felt so wrong and so trapped
*Not* learning about trans people made me feel very uncomfortable when I was struck by reality
yeah i found out about trans people at the age of 12
took a long time to completely understand it
🙋🏼♀️ my mom literally just told 3-4 year old me “some boys are born in girl bodies and some girls are born in boy bodies. Sometimes they decide to change their names and dress different to match who they are on the inside.” And little me was like “ok cool got it, tea party time?” It wasn’t even a “thing” at all, she just told me what trans people are and that was it lol.
My mom and dad told me but always put it in a bad light, so when I realized those feelings weren’t what every other cis girl felt, needless to say I was terrified and thought my parents were gonna hate me.
It’s not just about teaching them but teaching them the right way. No matter how many times my mother said ‘we won’t judge you if you come out as a boy or whatever’ she still would negatively reinforce the idea that trans people were horrible through her constant political rants to my father.
“The kids aren’t going to understand all this nonsense!!” My mum literally just told me that my aunt was now my uncle and that’s just what he’s been to me ever since. A guy. It literally was not confusing at all
The parent argument has always been so absurd. They can’t treat other people with dignity because they have to…be a parent? Uh, that sounds like an iss-you, not an iss-me.
I’m kinda old school Italian, I also know that I’m not the sharpest tool in the shed but my mom taught me to give people a chance and to understand them and be kind. I recently met a coworker who’s a non binary, and they told me about it explained it to me(took a good 10 minutes) and I was honest yk. I told them that I would probably mess up the pronouns and stuff for like a week but I’d try my best. After a week calling them “they” was like second nature and I didn’t even think about it. Just cause I bothered to care and ask. Even a thick headed guy like me can figure it out, I would hope that a fancy lawyer like Ben could too.
Benson
@@bagelforks that’s me
And why? I would never do it because I think it's bullshit. Of course you can, but it's completely unnecessary.
@@vilagistene2939Well, it comes down to respect. I was taught to be compassionate and respectful, you don’t know people’s story or what they got on their mind. Treat people the way you want to be treated. Ultimately you can have whatever opinion you want, it’s not your place for you to decide for them. Going out of your way to call them the wrong thing is just a plain rude thing to do. You can choose to do that, but remember that you reap what you sow. So if you act like that, don’t be shocked if people don’t think too highly of you.
@@gumbly4174Compassion and respect are one thing, being a brain dead droid is another. Surely you think it's a good thing to give up your own autonomy at the altar of other people's feelings? They feel a certain way, but it's not just about taking the other person's feelings into account and maybe not bringing up a topic or doing something, but they expect you to subordinate your own reality to theirs. As long as you feel transgender women are women, there is no problem, but if you don't feel that way and are still willing to treat them that way/talk about them that way, then you subordinate your own reality to their reality. The same is true for non-binaries. It goes quite strongly against individualism if your first reality is not your own, but someone else's. This could lead to a Black Mirror episode sooner or later. You can look at people, even with respect, and be considerate of their feelings, so that you don't give up your own autonomy and set boundaries! You can listen to other people's feelings up to a certain point, but only if it does not take away from your autonomy. Since it came across from your comment that you are only doing this because of their feelings, and not because you think so, you are giving away a small part of your own autonomy. In addition, respect is optional. If someone considers himself to be respectful and empathetic, he practices it even in situations where the other party is the opposite! If the other party does not behave in a way that suits him, he also loses respect and empathy. Selective empathy is not true empathy. Even the least empathic people can have some empathy, but someone can only call themselves empathic if their empathy is not selective. Regardless, it is a mistake to mix empathy with political issues.
Not only is Ben incorrect in a general cultural sense, but he is also incorrect about gender in the context of Judaism. Jewish culture never based gender on biology, it based gender on legal obligation. Jewish law recognizes six genders: Zachar and Nekevah (men and women, respectively, who can have children), Saris and Ay’lonit (men and women, respectively, who cannot or will not have children. Usually referring to infertile women and men who have been castrated, but the description of Saris Hamah (born eunuchs) used by the Babylonian Rabbi Akiva could have referred to an effeminate gay man), Androgynous (people born with both male and female physical sexual characteristics), and finally Tumtum, people who’s gender is hidden or otherwise can’t be determined.
Edit: it should also be known that many trans Jews have taken the terms Saris and Ay’lonit to describe themselves as a way to decolonize their gender identity
For someone who talks about how he’s Jewish and that his wife is a doctor every five minutes he certainly doesn’t know a lot of about Judaism and science.
Whoa, unexpected Halacha lesson is very much welcome!
Taichi Fujisaki I mean, he’s not the doctor, so why would he? I doubt he even knows the idea of osmosis, let alone can apply it metaphorically to his knowledge of language, psychology, or science as a whole.
This is the guy who thinks women don't get wet during sexual intercourse, too...
@@Itri_Vega oh no, really? Did he actually? lol
"You become a woman when an older female relative turns to you at a restaurant and says 'maybe you should order the salad sweetie'." perf
That was so fucking fabulous. I was reluctant to use "them" or "they" in the singular sense, so I came here looking for a compelling argument to do so, and got schooled in like 2 sentences. Thank you, I owe you, and will do my best to pay it forward.
I was assigned this video for my gender studies class:)
thats cool af
ContraPoints destroys conservative snowflake
with FACTS and LOGIC
I'm still shook that we let the conservatives call liberals snowflakes when Ben Shapiro is loses his fucking mind when someone asks him to be nice
HA you wish. You'd freak out if someone called her 'he'
@@charlene2459 baby, what? are you being transphobic or are you just a dunce?
@@jacksonmaner5997 proved my point exactly!
Pronouns are also respect. If someone ask you to call them as a she or as a he why the hell would you do the opposite on purpose??
Ikr just respect ppl it’s not hard.
That’s EXACTLY how I explain it to some people!! It’s just respect! You don’t turn to someone who says their name is Randy and say “ok mike nice to meet you” like??? WHAT
Because a lot of people think that it makes them look like a big smart intellectual. It's... Really fucking pathetic tbh
For the same reason, for example, that people dislike actually showing respect in Japanese. Because it's another complicated thing you should do to be seen as respectful (though obviously, Japanese is far harder than pronouns). That's still mostly a factor of people thinking everything new is weird because they never think about familiar things, but from an "objective" outside perspective it's just the problem of human society and the fact you need to do things to be seen as respectful. You know how cool would it be if you didn't need to show respect in any (active) way, and people wouldn't be insulted, because they don't know they are supposed to be insulted? That's obviously impossible without a very long (couple centuries at least) social evolution, but essentially that is the idea people express (sometimes without knowing it) when they choose to not show respect in a new way they do not consider obvious and familiar.
For others it's like doing it is agreeing with the ppl from the community and their ideologies.
Personally, I don't mind using he/she pronouns for anyone. But I'm not using they/them or any other kind, cuz it's weird for me to use that with a single person and I've never learnt of any other official pronouns so.
31:53 the entirety of Brazil thanks you for that shout-out
ContraPoints is great because her videos make me feel as if I've absorbed hours of information in 30 minutes.
Ben Shapiro literally made my mom transphobic so god bless this video
I'm so sorry that happened to your mom.
rip
Shannon-igans - goddamn it i hate that little violin playing goblin
Fact: Trans people exist in the world, Ben. I have seen several videos of you speaking to them. Facts don't care about your daughter's feelings.
I really wish I knew how to argue against the "HOW DO I EXPLAIN THIS TO MY CHILD?!" crowd.
@@RyanStorey1231 I'd tell them that it's just something you tell your kid when they get old enough to understand. Of course you don't try to explain it to a 4 year old. It'd be like trying to explain sex to one. They can't get it yet so you tell them when they're more mature and can handle it.
@@RyanStorey1231 Maybe if you aren't equipped to explain things to your child, you shouldn't be a parent. Or you should at least teach them to read a little more quickly so they can learn about things for themselves.
Jamie Ryan Storey “it’s not hard, children are very open to these things. Normalizing these ideas at a young age leads to a more unified society. It’s basically /hey these people exist and they’re the same as anyone else/ end of story. Children have enough of a relative sense of self to recognize themselves in such a description. If they do see themselves in it don’t run away from that. You should help them explore it, with knowledgeable help, so they end up with a greater sense of self trans or not.” That’s how I’d do it at least
Jamthis i know a transgender girl who has a little brother, he’s 6 years old. To him she’s his sister, even though she’s not done transitioning. It’s just part of his « normal ». If you show positive and simple representations of the LGBTQ community to kids when they are young, it will just be part of the idea of normalcy and when they are older they won’t treat the community as something weird. They will be apathetic to it, it will feel natural to them that they exist. Waiting years to introduce kids to that concept as if it was particular damaging or dangerous only runs the risk of them being reactionary to the idea because it will feel « abnormal ». Homophobes don’t usually spend their lives surrounded by free happy gay people, they didn’t get a positive or neutral image of gay people when they were kids. They either inherited their community’s bigotry or constructed one when they got old (it’s usually a little bit of both).
Don’t be afraid to tell your kids about the LGBTQ community and if they ask you « why are they like that? » just tell them « because that’s just how the world is, people are just different and the world is beautiful that way. ». (That’s what my mom told me when I asked her why white people had a fair skin when I saw one in real life for the first time).
A little known fact about Spanish: So you know how in Spanish there are two grammatical genders, feminine and masculine, right? And we have two articles, "el" y "la", right? We tell people that "el" is the masculine article and "la" is the feminine one.
What if I tell you that "el" sometimes acts as a feminine article? PLOT TWIST
In a nutshell, we have some words like "agua" (water) and "hacha" (axe) that are feminine but we use the article "el" because of historical processes of language deformation of the Latin equivalents.
So if we say "el agua" then what happens to the article? Well, in those situations we say that "el" is a feminine article because the article is associated with a feminine noun.
Should I start a petition to call "el" the gender-fluid article?
wait, so agua is grammatically feminine, but you use el because it starts with a vowel? as someone who has just started learning spanish, i have questions.
i speak french though, and we totally do that, where you change the gendered article before a word just to make it sound aesthetic
Spanish also has a neutral article _lo_ that can be used before adjectives (for example, _lo mejor_ "the best"), although its distinction from the masculine gender isn't all that obvious.
They are fem in Latin, that's all. I mean I dont really know axe, but able to recount water at least.
In Spanish lo is technically neutral pronoun, but not used for living things. Lo is not neutral in Italian though
Turkish doesn't even have gendered pronouns btw. Turkish kinda only has they, so if we all just spoke Turkish, this whole debate actually wouldn't exist.
oh it was mentioned in the video
lol gotta love them not gendered languages
Hasanabi head
Everytime you say "as a trans woman" you add 5 years to my life.
Literally gives me life
Is Contrapoints transgender? Im new to this channel. (sorry if I seem rude)
@@thomasjefferson2813 Yes, it's quite well established.
Real Darth Revan Did you miss the part where she said she used to be a dude? :/
@@SomeOne-vf1rs I thought she was joking :(
Ben Shapiro is the living demonstration that speaking fast doesn't make you intelligent.
Whenever someone says Ben Shapiro is smart because he talks fast, I automatically think of the Scarecrow from the Wizard of Oz when he says, "Some people without brains do an awful lot of talking."
Sargons wife's black daughter sheneqwa of akkad Does your Mom know you’re using swear words online?
*Eminem is typing*
Ben Shapiro goes way to fat sometimes
I thought that was Trisha Paytas
Revisiting this awesome video, and I wanted to point something out: It is VERY easy to avoid binary pronouns altogether if you aren’t sure. In my everyday life and at work, I have run into people whose presentation is ambiguous, or whose gender identity isn’t obvious to me, and in those situations I can easily avoid pronouns and still maintain a natural flow (“Hi there!” Or “How are you today? What can I do for you?”)No miss ma’am or sir required. If I find it necessary to use a pronoun, I go for them or they and I don’t think I’ve offended a single person yet. Even if it’s not their preferred pronoun, most gender ambiguous or fluid people are perfectly aware of how they present and that most strangers may not be able to deduce their preferred pronoun, and they appreciate the gender neutral fallback.
My point is, this is a easy and courteous thing to do, and anyone who calls a person in a dress and makeup “sir” is either a jerk or truly ignorant. There’s no excuse these days. Using they/them is the safest and most respectful bet in everyday interactions with strangers.
Is there no excuse these days? Exactly! There is no excuse for trying to tell anyone what pronouns to use! What pronouns do you have? But I'm going to call you with the opposite pronoun, whether you're cis or not... Filthy Nazi!
"Facts don't care about your feelings" but for some reason they care about his? It just doesn't make sense.
biological pronoun is possibly the stupidest phrase I’ve heard in my life
bIoLoGiCaL mEn have a “he” carved onto their one X chromosome, and bIoLoGiCaL wOmEn have two of those. Thusly the correct pronoun for them is “hehe”
Its really something how everyone just quietly ignored that the Bill C16 stuff turned out to be a giant hoax.
Exactly. I mentioned this a few people at a meetup when I met Natalie in Boston a couple of months ago. By the way love your channel!!! :)
Hey Drei pfeile! I binge watched your videos today. You're easily one of the most educational channels around. Big ups!
When pushed Peterson would always immediately start conflating the non-prison punishment for the C16 updates with the potentially prison-y punishment he'd face for Contempt of Court in not complying with the punishment for the C16 violations, and I never saw him called on this sudden massive goalpost-shifting or its consequent implications.
Or the powers-that-be in Canada know that they got called out on their stupid shit and are waiting for the public to forget about JBP.
That's an illogical argument. There's no way to know what would have come of Bill C16 had Jordan Peterson not made it an issue. The law did have consequences written into it. There's no reason not to think it would have been enforced. It could be just as easily argued that Jordan effectively negated the bill with his resistance and that had he not resisted there would have been actions taken by now.
In fact the Lindsay Shepard scandal nearly proves the later point true.
not once have i gotten through a contrapoints video without questioning my sexuality
As a doctor, it's a disservice to refer to a trans women as "man" - due to the social, psychologic and biological factors at work in their life. "Trans woman" is the objectively best way to practically convene the patients gender in this case. Language follow practicality, not the other way around
How does the biological part influences the usage of the non-birth gender?
Contrapoints DESTROYS right wing snowflakes in a 30 minute video.
It's actually a 31 minute and 56 second video. Facts don't care about your feelings. /s
Josiah T. Wow rekt 🙄
It's funny how Ben Shapiro realized he almost argued against himself when going from the adoptive parent example back to the dinner example.
He says there's a difference between the biological fact of being a parent and then the social role of 'parent' which adoptive parents can fulfill. Next he says there's the biological fact of Blaire having been born male, but just before saying she fills the role of being a woman he stutters a bit and chooses instead to say Blaire is a man who looks like a woman.
I guess he'll have to change his catchphrase to "facts don't care about your feelings, *they only care about mine.*"
lol
You should watch Some More News’ video on our boy Benjamin. He goes deep into that and does the best job I’ve seen of breaking down the flaws of Ben’s positions and arguments
His argument during that piece became "yes, it would clearly be more useful and expedient to just call you a woman, but then how would you know I don't respect you?"
Blaire said in one of her videos that she interacted with Ben in real life and that he called her by she/her pronouns. I think Ben would call trans people by their preferred pronouns, but he has a conservative audience, which he’d lose if he admitted that it is possible to use preferred pronouns for trans people.
@@user-ub9mm4vr5k That's honestly pretty sad. I mean I don't feel sorry for him specifically, but it is sad that his audience are the kinds of people who'd lynch his career if he showed an ounce of respect publically
people should be allowed to misgender others so we can avoid them.
“Language is just a bunch of fucking sounds coming out of your mouth that humans make up to suit our purposes” is one of the most profoundly linguistically, anthropologically, and philosophically true statements I think I have ever heard said. THANK YOU! That’s why I’m here.
LOL when Ben Shapiro called a transwoman "she". It wasn't that hard, was it?
that was frikkin' hilarious...
you saw the split second panic...
watching that shit slowed down, his blinking rate hit that curb hard as fuck, blinking rate going higher than more than one in three seconds usually is a sign of nervousness lol
@@bubblegum3388 See that shows how easy it is to use the proper pronouns for someone. You literally have to go out of your way to be an asshole to intentionally misgender someone.
Maya Parisan God, I just LOVE Freudian slips.
AnHeC He goes out of his way to call trans women “sir” to their face.
As a nb my pronouns are thou/thee/them. When addressing me thou shalt speaketh in the informal case.
Thou'rt quite correct.
I'm also NB, and I use any pronoun. I don't give a flying fuck.
Acsion42 is it okay if I do this
this. this is beautiful
senpai also a good one =)
As I non native english speaker, I subconsciously consider for example a chair to be feminine and a cloud masculine, because that's how we refer to them in my language Also, we use plural pronouns when talking to someone formally (for example teachers or strangers). In the past plural was also used when talking about someome indirectly as a sign of respect, for example your parents or grandparents. So really, some of those issues are very english-centric.
Indeed. Sanskrit-based languages (like Hindi and Marathi) have the same nuances.
Chairs are female, tables are male, clouds are male, rivers are female, etc.
And yup, respectable persons are addressed with plural pronouns
*Indo-Aryan languages
"Because we want to achieve the same level of sadness and dysfunction as everyone else"
Also nice explanation of prescriptions v dezcriptivism
AS A BRAZILIAN WOMAN, I lost my shit when I saw the "fascistas não passarão" message. Good God. To think you took time of your life to care about something most brazilians pretend not to see is amazing. Hope you continue the good quality and keep up the fight (even though it can be very tiresome, I realize). Thank you for today's silver lining.
We shall be the Resistance. Despite the dread, and the mourning, we MUST fight.
Seremos a Resistência. Apesar do temor e do luto, LUTAMOS.
Como mulher brasileira também, resistiremos juntas!
Eu também! Tem mulher mais woke que a Natalie? Hshahau 😊
Linda demais
Como homem/degenerado alemão, eu espero que vocês ficam salvo e continuam a resistência. É um tempo triste pelo Brasil e o mundo inteiro. Estamos organizando projetos de solidaridade aqui em Hamburgo. FASCISTAS NÃO PASSARÃO.
Natalie left her flat??? she really gave it all for this video
We can only hope she was completely intoxicated :D :D
What I LOVE about your videos is that you can take opinions on different sides and accurately portray their points without being rude or dehumanizing. This kind of discussion is healthy. And it can change minds.