My main concerns about our teenage grandson is his inability to cope with what is going on in his life, his lack of interest in attending school, his limited circle of friends, and his unwillingness to engage in conversations with me and my wife, who have custody of him. Both of his parents are deceased; he has been living with us for nearly three years.
How can I help my heart broken teen? He doesn’t tell me but I assume that he is in love with someone that he can’t open his feelings and he is very sad. He doesn’t study and does not want to do anything. Please help
I'm very sorry to hear that. Hopefully the tips in this video will help. This video should help too: th-cam.com/video/U0qXDZiN30g/w-d-xo.htmlsi=V5jp_ienSypjJnlo
Not really anything spectacular shared here. She sounded very normal-everyday, like any educated mother of two grown daughters. I wanted to hear what she had to share. Nothing special, but nothing crazy. Her references to Trump were sad and cheap though. Trump / Gabbard 2024!
My teenage son is not talking at All ,even if I ask him simple thing like what he like to have for dinner? He is very silent . I don't know what to do .
Hi Daniel, thanks for the video. My son is 14 years old he is become very lazy these days and always on either with mobile with his friends on some game or Television. Now that he has started demanding for a mobile. Please advise how do I handle him and he gets very angry too
I think it seems like the word getting angry is wrong here. It seems as if he is frustrated to not being able to have a good argument/discussion to convince you to do otherwise. The "anger" you perceive could also be secondary, whereas primary emotion is disappointment. Hard to say wether he is disappointed in him self for not being able to convince you, or it could be that the situation has led him to a closed "door". These opportunities gives us all a chance to grow, and investigate our own minds and how we perceive the outer world, through our inner workings. Ps. It would be worse if they never expressed any emotions at all. Most important thing is to do your best into set healthy boundaries, acknowledge their emotions, but for the love of god ask them first..."I can see that you seem frustrated, how do you feel right now?" , if anything nasty gets spewed then set boundaries "I really dont appreciate you treating me with a lack of respect, I wish to have a conversation with you and to listen to what you have to say, I am sure we can figure something out "( which isnt a promise to buy, but to find a way to get what he needs, wants, and learn him how to plan, collect and execute the plan). Its our job, as parents to be creative, and make it some sort of game. He has to level up, and grind to get that upgrade ingame, and go through the steps needed. 🎉🎉 Sometimes being a good parent means we have to deal with the feeling of being disliked.and thats okay. They are supposed to leave the nest and live by themselves. Would you want to be with your parents 24/7? My parents used to kick me out of the house as a grown up 😂 it was my time to get back at them, pinching their cheeks, saying goongoo dada or googoomamma, annoying the fuck out of them...and then lecturing them with wisdom from the gods. 😂 Sometimes it created a lot of laughs...and introspection, and sometimes it would just be annoying. Just "try" to be your creative, imaginative self, and remember that communication takes both practice and time, pluss mutual effort. If only onesided = nagging, smothering. This comment has got to be my longest reply ever on yt. Omg. Not gonna check for spelling, not gonna read it again...just post it.
🎉thank you so so much for this incredible information I see now I've been doing it all wrong where he has completely withdrawn from me for nearly a year I'm so excited to start this journey I appreciate this so much
My teenage son told me to "shut up" at one time when I rush him and ask him to hurry up because I need to drop him off at school. He also gave me the dirty finger when I reminded him about something simple like correcting his posture. Of course, we had a serious talk about his actions and I told him that it's disrespectful but do you have other recommendations to resolve this issue in the future?
Son: SHUT UP!! Me: Ok, I will shut up, but before I do that, Im gonna let you know that I feel very sad and disrespected, I hope you will let me know a bit earlier so that you are not pushed into saying it in that way. Thanks for letting me know what you want me to be mindful of. Im leaving with or without you In 5 minutes. And now, I will shut up 🤐 Do not wait for them, you leave. And then..there is the steps to the rest of their lives...IF you are a likable and compatible person for them.
Thank you for your comment. TH-cam won't let me edit the video now, but for my more recent videos I've reduced the hand gestures and I'll continue to work on this. Thanks again!
thank you for a great video daniel,
i am always showing these to my dad and he is starting to understand the topic a lot more
That's great to hear!
Your videos are very helpful thank you
Glad to hear that!
Thanks so much, sir...
You're welcome. Glad you found the video useful.
My main concerns about our teenage grandson is his inability to cope with what is going on in his life, his lack of interest in attending school, his limited circle of friends, and his unwillingness to engage in conversations with me and my wife, who have custody of him. Both of his parents are deceased; he has been living with us for nearly three years.
I'm really sorry to hear about the challenging situation. I hope the tips in this video help.
Thanks for sharing.
Praise be to God.
U need to improve ur hand gestures. It started bothering me after a while
Thanks, I'm working on it!
How can I help my heart broken teen? He doesn’t tell me but I assume that he is in love with someone that he can’t open his feelings and he is very sad. He doesn’t study and does not want to do anything. Please help
I'm very sorry to hear that. Hopefully the tips in this video will help. This video should help too: th-cam.com/video/U0qXDZiN30g/w-d-xo.htmlsi=V5jp_ienSypjJnlo
His room is a MESS! I’m so….! Cloths all over and bags of chips ( he’s NOT to eat in his room) I’ve given up???😜
Not really anything spectacular shared here. She sounded very normal-everyday, like any educated mother of two grown daughters.
I wanted to hear what she had to share. Nothing special, but nothing crazy. Her references to Trump were sad and cheap though.
Trump / Gabbard 2024!
How do you react to disrespectful comments which they don't realize what there saying can be.
My teenage son is not talking at All ,even if I ask him simple thing like what he like to have for dinner? He is very silent . I don't know what to do .
Good afternoon Daniel, I want to thank you for your video. His pushing every body out, he doesn’t want to talk to no one
You're welcome. I hope the tips in the video help.
Hi Daniel, thanks for the video. My son is 14 years old he is become very lazy these days and always on either with mobile with his friends on some game or Television. Now that he has started demanding for a mobile. Please advise how do I handle him and he gets very angry too
I think it seems like the word getting angry is wrong here. It seems as if he is frustrated to not being able to have a good argument/discussion to convince you to do otherwise. The "anger" you perceive could also be secondary, whereas primary emotion is disappointment. Hard to say wether he is disappointed in him self for not being able to convince you, or it could be that the situation has led him to a closed "door". These opportunities gives us all a chance to grow, and investigate our own minds and how we perceive the outer world, through our inner workings.
Ps. It would be worse if they never expressed any emotions at all. Most important thing is to do your best into set healthy boundaries, acknowledge their emotions, but for the love of god ask them first..."I can see that you seem frustrated, how do you feel right now?" , if anything nasty gets spewed then set boundaries "I really dont appreciate you treating me with a lack of respect, I wish to have a conversation with you and to listen to what you have to say, I am sure we can figure something out "( which isnt a promise to buy, but to find a way to get what he needs, wants, and learn him how to plan, collect and execute the plan). Its our job, as parents to be creative, and make it some sort of game. He has to level up, and grind to get that upgrade ingame, and go through the steps needed. 🎉🎉
Sometimes being a good parent means we have to deal with the feeling of being disliked.and thats okay. They are supposed to leave the nest and live by themselves. Would you want to be with your parents 24/7?
My parents used to kick me out of the house as a grown up 😂 it was my time to get back at them, pinching their cheeks, saying goongoo dada or googoomamma, annoying the fuck out of them...and then lecturing them with wisdom from the gods. 😂 Sometimes it created a lot of laughs...and introspection, and sometimes it would just be annoying.
Just "try" to be your creative, imaginative self, and remember that communication takes both practice and time, pluss mutual effort. If only onesided = nagging, smothering.
This comment has got to be my longest reply ever on yt. Omg. Not gonna check for spelling, not gonna read it again...just post it.
Ps, i know my name is not Daniel. But i took the liberty of responding and sharing .
Hi, can I get a reply
🎉thank you so so much for this incredible information I see now I've been doing it all wrong where he has completely withdrawn from me for nearly a year I'm so excited to start this journey I appreciate this so much
Glad it was helpful!
My teenage son told me to "shut up" at one time when I rush him and ask him to hurry up because I need to drop him off at school. He also gave me the dirty finger when I reminded him about something simple like correcting his posture. Of course, we had a serious talk about his actions and I told him that it's disrespectful but do you have other recommendations to resolve this issue in the future?
Son: SHUT UP!!
Me: Ok, I will shut up, but before I do that, Im gonna let you know that I feel very sad and disrespected, I hope you will let me know a bit earlier so that you are not pushed into saying it in that way. Thanks for letting me know what you want me to be mindful of. Im leaving with or without you In 5 minutes. And now, I will shut up 🤐
Do not wait for them, you leave. And then..there is the steps to the rest of their lives...IF you are a likable and compatible person for them.
Tips are too good but difficult to put into action
Thank you for sharing. Can I ask what the biggest challenge would be in putting the tips into action?
Hey,are you on instgram?
Not yet! Hopefully in the near future.
@@AskDanielWongoh, where can I contact you then? Wanted to talk about something
@@dilpreetg1ll Feel free to send a message via this link: www.daniel-wong.com/contact/
@@AskDanielWong done,let me know what you think
Great video and very helpful. The hand gestures are very distracting though. Maybe crop them out of the video?
Thank you for your comment. TH-cam won't let me edit the video now, but for my more recent videos I've reduced the hand gestures and I'll continue to work on this. Thanks again!