How I got Sober... and Stayed That Way! (and you can too)
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 8 ก.ย. 2024
- Have you ever heard the saying;
"Once you've gotten the message, it's time to put down the phone"
There are many stages to addiction, and ultimatley, recovery and I take a look at some of them in this video. In my own rambling, non cohesive way of course.
Bare with me on this one. I got off on a few tangents, but I think there is a good message in this video.
Let me know your thoughts in the comments section, like, subscribe and share if this gets you inspired.
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I’ve just completed day 1 of not drinking alcohol.
I need to join ya
Well done, I am 109 days now.
Congratulations! Keep it up, I'm on day 4! We can do this!
I'm on day 4. Feeling strong. Yes we can!
Massive congrats, it’s not easy. I was sober for 27yrs, relapsed and am now a week sober, back doing my meditation etc. The sober life is the only one for me, I loved it and now am back there. Wishing you so much freedom and happiness.
SOMEONE SAID TO ME ONCE WHEN YOUR NO LONGER HAVING FUN ON ALCOHOL ITS TIME TO GIVE IT UP
Total truth!!
I STOPED drinking my girlfriend left me and most of my friends also , but im still sober
Great job mate.....a fitness "high" beats a drunk "high" any day of the week....you have added 10+ yrs to your lifespan....stay the course!!
Day 6... I did 4 months last year.... 30 years of getting drunk, spending thousands on $50 bottles of bourbon and $15 6 packs of IPA, shit choices in women and just wasting time. Don't remember much either especially the "good times".....did about 6 months when I turned 40 and got super fit. Now at 48 40lbs of extra fat, time to turn shit around. Fucking boo-ooze is evil!
Subbed, alcohol has ruined my life over and over again and I poured the poison down thinking it would change the past. At 55 I may have run out of time but even so I will finish sober. Your tone and content are right on, I hope many are helped by your example while they have their lives ahead of them. Drink steals your time, your money and hope, eventually it takes your life and the decades can never be recovered.
59 is still quite young these days
Hi pal
I did 6 years with out drinking , then 18 months ago I decided to go for a pint , bad move , I've been on and of now for all the 18 months , few weeks here and there , I got away with a few drinks sometimes but now it totally ruins me , I'm 5 days of again , I'm laid round the pool at my gym listening to you , brilliant thanks
I'm 45
Great stuff mate...47 yr old here..coming up 4yrs sober..and 3yrs clean from drugs..same problem..same solution..with you all the way thru here..loved the way you covered the progressive nature of alcoholism..getting off can be done..but by god..when we go back to it..it will have progressed!,,challenge anyone with a problem to prove me wrong on this..!!..and the swearing off..with or without..lifes unmanageable!!..you covered it brilliantly bro😥🤗gb.odaat
Spent a long time fighting for recovery, it took 7 years to finally hit absolute abstinence and am now 2 years clean off booze. It’s been a journey, learning to live with no sharp edges blunted. But weirdly, I’ve become the person I always had the potential to be. I wouldn’t change my journey, I think it’s made me the compassionate and empathetic woman I am today. I used to say drinking was the art of boredom and for someone like me, boredom was my nemesis. These days I write a blog about addiction and write poems, had you said I’d be doing that in my twenties, I’d have laughed at you from over my large dry white wine. Great vid. 😊
Well done!!! Respect.
Your dad's a very wise man. Good on you for sharing and being honest. Just for today.
Sobriety is the best gift one can give himself. I tried for 20 years...made it permanent 3 years ago. It's hard but so easy.
I knew when I was seventeen that I shouldn't be drinking booze. It took thirty years to finally stop. 612 days and counting, the world keeps turning.
I'm happy I discovered your channel. This is helping alot. I'm 35 at the moment and it's time to put the bottle down. Thank you for your inspiration.
The less I drink..the less I want to drink....
In the land of the drunks, the sober man is King.
That is true but they sure can make things difficult at times😂
Love that saying
SIR WE DESERVE ALL THE BEST THAT LIFE HAS TO OFFER US, I WISH YOU ALL OF THOSE THINGS. GOOD HUNTING MATE.
So 1 year sober I find myself focusing the effort I put into drinking into tackling my other self improvements. 40 lbs have come off I’m watching my diet. Exercise is coming along slowly and I’m finding I want to venture farther out of the comfort zone. In today’s fucked up society I sometimes question the value of sobriety but I won’t go back to drinking.
Plenty of people out there to meet and make new friends, we will always remain nostalgic to our old ones but they can be anchors to a past time.
I'm holding pretty good with being sober and really loving it. I think it's now about 9 months of being sober. Though the tough thing for me was the amount of friends I stopped seeing because I quit drinking. So I'm glad that I have music in my life,cause without any hobbies I don't know If I could handle it. Like you said,it's all about being productive that really helps. And this video was another good motivator to keep going on the right path.
Good on ya for 9 months bro. If your not enjoying the drink anymore then it is best to step away regardless of what your friends think.
Shows you have a lot of inner strength. Stay strong bro.
Glad you're still getting motivated from the channel👊
that was like having my life story read to me lol i'm on my sober journey now , all the best
WOW Wow, so true my friend!!!
I’ve been sober 2 years, retired 4 years ago, last 2 years as been awesome, “I can see clearly now the rain is gone.”
I can relate to this video. Thanks for sharing this video. I am in late 30's and I am getting fed up. Weekend Drinker but fed up with hangovers that last longer , almost 2 days sometimes which was not the case, when i was in 20's. I agree only passion for other things can save us..
My dear sir, you have helped more people than you can imagine, I'm sure. Your straight forward delivery is exactly what many need to hear. I have nothing but profound respect for what you've accomplished and what you will continue to bring us in your talks. In a way, you're the friend we all need!
Sorry for such a late reply but I have been away from the channel for a long time now. I have a new video explaining where I have been and future plans going live on the channel tomorrow evening. Hope this is of interest to you but no offense taken if not.
Stay positive!
You helped me. I’m quitting.
don't let that be a cliffhanger man... how ya doin
His drinking lol
I am quitting also, not cutting down, no point
As usual you inspire in some positive direction naturally attracted to that type of mindset it's probably time for you to write your own novel to put your truth down in one easy to read hopefully I know I would I've been dealing with the alcohol do you have any videos about dealing with women I would like to see your insight God bless hang tough
Great video. I'm 60 and have drank since 1982. Never did it in college - played football, and just never was a party guy. Went to work in Atlanta, GA and co-workers (young ones) would get me to go out with them to the clubs, and there you go... I'm on another dry month to lose some weight and get my blood pressure down. Don't drink liquor, but lots of beer. I stopped for a year in 2014 and lost over 50 pounds. I'm a semi-retired high school math teacher and have a lot of time to enjoy beer in the afternoon when I get home...setting out on the deck listening to radio. Sorry for rambling. I don't know if I'll ever quit. Alcoholism runs on my dad's side of the family all the way back to Scotland. I did subscribe and enjoy your frankness and real talk. Keep making these; I'm sure a lot of folks will benefit. Jack
This video has definitely made sense, a hell of alot of sense.. you touched on nutrition, it is essential to change your diet aswell as just giving up alcohol.. Breakfast these days mainly consists of eggs, mushroom, spinach, baby plum tomatoes etc, lunch would be a bowl of sprouts, broccoli, carrots, peas, sweetcorn, sweet potatoes, quorn and such alike... the fresh feeling is something I want to keep up, exercise is essential too, the speed of change is dramatic, definitely getting there this time, thanks for letting us be part of your wagon! You sir are in the driving seat!
You only have to decide not to drink today, do the same thing tomorrow, etc, etc,
much harder than it sounds!
Thank you for posting this. I could relate to much of what you said. It's day 792 alcohol free for me after 25 years of drinking more and more.
Hi Benjamin I just want to thank you for sharing your journey on being alcohol free I have been sober for 1 year and 2 month after 22 years of drinking I just wanted to let you know that alcohol really really really kill dreams and your future THANKS AGAIN Benjamin I know that being alcohol free is amazing I have just been taking it one day at a time THANKS AGAIN STAY SAFE YOU AND YOUR FAMILY MEMBERS 🙏
Yessir no one gets out of a 20 foot ditch without a hand to pull them out. Thx for your words!
I found when I got sober things that would previously make me crumble under pressure turned out to be an absolute breeze, like a cloud had lifted. Nothing is ever perfect but life is more manageable and calmer. Life slows down in a good way. Thanks Ben 👍
Dear sir,
Congratulations with your sobriety! Keep the positive vibe, spread your message and the way will reveal itself. The best way to change the world, is to tell how you have changed.
I am almost 2 years sober, best desission ever!
Like John Joseph would say, PMA all the way!
So much clearness since I am sober, my life means so much more te me. I enjoy everyday that I got and I don't waste anymore days.
I’ve not connected to anyone talking about being sober. Sir, you have done it, your not waffling your just saying what’s in my head. I’m 5 weeks sober...
Hey Benjamin, this exactly what I needed to hear man. My main motivation has been all about focus on what I want to accomplish right now, spent Canada Day sober for the first time since being a teenager and realised how all of my social interactions were alcohol based, ended ip feeling a bit sober and alone, turned my attitude around through the day and just spent time with family and wrote poetry, here is one of them. It’s about people in my life and feeling alone but then realizing I have everything I need inside of me.
Fireworks
I’ve shared my plans, but at face value
I used my voice which is my most sincere attribute
Actions beyond that moment became more aloof
I chose time with others very near as proof
With that time I know we’ve all been sincere
A silver fire with you all still in my circle, has flown us into outer space
The circle keeps flickering as I stare my future in the face
But I don’t see them anymore.
New ways of doing things shows I care evermore
This love is third eye, leaving demons in the dust
Let’s see the fireworks that we can trust
In our own separate beds, dreaming sweetly
As if this day was never seeking
I see it now, I can feel us breathing
You’re with me anyways, soundly sleeping
Much respect for you bro. I’m really struggling right now. I’ve been over one month sober. Anxiety is killing me at times. These videos have really helped me maintain sobriety. “It’s all in the mind.” 👊🏼
That's great to hear bro. It can be very tough at times but stick with it man👊
I finally and I really mean finally got to the point where I realised that alcohol was controlling me rather than me controlling it. At that point I had my epiphany and changed direction. It was hard and those who say it can't be done are fooling YOU and themselves. "Those who can, Do, and those who can't! Teach" Ben, thank You for putting into words what I would love to say. So pleased to say that, you have done and you teach. May peace go with you.
Thank you very much and congratulations on changing your life for the better.
Keep it going bro 👊
The setting of this video is probably the most beautiful I have seen so far. The grazing animals in the background are wonderful to see. Nice story about your father, happy to hear he was still able to make a difference in your life.
Stay strong, one day at a time.
Wow, our relationship to music is very similar. Didn't create enough when I drank and drugged really hard. I'm still drinking but I cut out 95% of it. I used to take lots of drugs. Quit them completely. But since I've done that I've been creating. Learning to make electronic music. But didn't have the discipline to learn guitar properly. Discovered the same podcasts too including the ones with Rollins on JRE and Maron. Maron, JRE and Radiolab is great along with This American Life. However, more closer to the subject, you might like The Moth book and Podcast. It's full of inspiring stories from inspiring people. You'll most likely like it as you've expressed gaining inspiration from guests on JRE or Maron.
mate you're a legend. you were the same as i am now. although i only really drink at weekends, but i binge, blackout, cant remember getting home. cringe the next day, anxiety. then repeat, expecting different results. im not a bad drunk, more of an annoying idiot. but ive been thinking of quitting for a while now, you're inspiring me. ive not drank since the 3rd (almost 1 week) and i was planning 3 months.... maybe ill go for the year... this video was great. you spoke about staying focused, this makes so much sense..... id love to it down for a coffee with you, you seem like a cool bloke. keep up the videos! (sorry for the punctuation and caps... or lack thereof, but im lazy and i dont care)
I don't know why honestly, I've just about tapped the well of videos on TH-cam on this subject but yours has resonated with me the most and kept me listening from start to finish. Could be that I relate more with what you're saying; but whatever the case may be, just wanted to say thanks :)
I just overdosed and died on Thursday. Today is Monday. I have two fractured ribs from the compressions to get me to breathe and I know this video is about alcohol but for me, I was drunk and I never would've ingested the heroin is I'd been in a clear state of mind. I'm so desperate to get clean and I'm watching every video out there. Thank you for this.
Very sorry to hear about that Erin but I am very happy to hear that you are taking positive steps. Stay strong and good luck with your recovery. It is worth it I can assure you
You really hit home with me brother. We have alot in common. Thank you from across the pond
Glad you got something from the video. Means a lot.
Great video fella👍 No you're not talking bollocks, you're talking from the heart and yes it helps other people. I'm 52 and have now been sober two weeks and I know this time is the time I will succeed. People on a subconscious level can be funny with you when you quit, because on some level they know what they're doing to themselves is wrong and ultimately dangerous. Anyways great video and your talks do help. Thanks again Dave👍
Love your videos. For the first time, I'm hearing somebody speak all the words in my head......thanks so much. Keep 'em coming. Very inspiring.
Gave up at 38 - now 53. Enjoy the feeling, wake up to the world, no escape! You'll always be the driver, but by the very nature of that, you'll always be in control. People will laugh, people will say 'ha, give it a week..' prove them wrong. And years later walk through town with the dogs on a Friday night and laugh at the idiots - watch the pools of vomit though and the discarded takeout..
Congratulations! Exercise is key... got to keep the mind onto something healthy and off boredom...
BTW -saw Cro-Mags w/ Motorhead and Wendy-O-Williams in NYC '86 -ears still hurt!
Well said and yes, it has helped! J. Hetfield has always inspired me, too. Those raging hungovers are keeping me away as well, they become excruciating in your late 30s.
A big thank you!
Creativity does not come from drink or and drugs look how creative and inspirational children are they are far from drunks or junkies
this has to do with the children state of beeing in the moment nothing other
it's that "back to square one" ! THAT's the one that helps the most! I went through that when I quit smoking in 05, and though I've had a few moments where I've been really close to asking someone for a cigarette, I haven't done it! I know that the surest way back to being a smoker and suffering all the ill effect (both health and financial) would be to take a single puff! NOT GOING TO HAPPEN! I want the same feeling about drinking! I want that same... AIN"T GONNA DO IT and blow all this time and struggle to hell? NO WAY! ... like you I've quit several times but this time, I'm just psychologically done with the whole process... the whole waking up to a hangover, swearing booze off and doing the same thing the very next day, the futility of just trying to get out of the trap is so disheartening! Thank you for sharing what inspires you to stay sober!
I'm still struggling with alcohol, I'm 21, living in a college town in America. So most people say it's normal, and to go with it. It's definitely not normal though, and sometimes I fear for my life!!!
Anywho... Boohoo big pity party for Kenzie haha. I just want to say that your videos provide what little motivation I have to get better and be sober!
Also, music is everything. Why are most musicians I know addicted to alcohol?! Ive been playing guitar and writing for as long as I've been drinking... The two used to go hand in hand. Now I find it to be a massive struggle to write anything.... Unless it's punk music. I've been writing alot of that, but nothing from my soul! Ya know!?
That sucks to hear man but I am very happy to hear that you are considering a sober life. One of the biggest lessons for me was that i realised how little I had in common with a lot of the people that I was hanging out with. My philosophy now is that I would rather have fewer people around me but going in the right direction then being with a bunch of people I don't like and going along with the herd.
I think musicians are so susceptible to drugs and alcohol because they are sensitive by nature and also they explore emotions where as most people run away from them. That is my theory anyway. I wrote a lot of songs a few years back and I got in a very emotional state when I did. It is very powerful.
Don't beat yourself up on your writing. it comes and goes so just embrace it when it does. Thanks for checking out the video bro and I hope these chats help.
8 days sober today! Took a while, but I've found it to be a surprisingly smooth transition. I feel incredibly lucky, emotional, vulnerable, and my body is absolutely pissed at me, but I have an extremely good feeling that this is going to last. Thank you for contributing to the things that helped me get to this point. 😊
Hi,
I've just found your channel a few days ago and I'm thoroughly enjoying your videos.
Thank you for being so candid and relatable 🙏
I'm coming up on 31 in the summer and I'm determined to stay sober - for me and my son and my mental health
I find so much value in your experiences, thank you 😊
I'm 1 month sober today. I was a binge drinker, I could go 3-4 days without a drop, them boom, knock out 10-12 beers in one sitting. A month ago, I just decided enough was enough. No rehab, no AA, I just wanted it out of my life. Right now, I've never felt better. Tons of energy,, no more hangovers, starting to lean outta, etc etc.
Best decision I've ever made, what the hell took me so long?
Good for you! Keep it up and keep your interest in life!
I come back to these videos over and over. 2 months free now. Watched them for years before I managed to get this far.
Boredom is a huge part that keeps us getting back to getting smashed, you need to find something equally exciting to fill that void. I am still a drinker, but I cut going to bars due to financial reasons for like two years now, even from this, my social life has changed a lot. It's kinda hard to just try and catch up with some of those people with whom I used to go out during weekends, they just start avoiding you since you are no fun anymore. Right then I realized, that people don't go to bars to maintain relationships, they do that so they can feel that they have an active social life even though nothing even remotely meaningful comes out of such activities, but when you don't know any better there's nothing else to do. Of course, if you manage to build a network of people with whom you share other activities then going to a bar is a nice thing to do celebrate something or catch-up, but most people just do that out of boredom.
I love your videos. Your speaking style is so fun to listen to and you touch on a lot of really good points that anyone on a serious path of self-improvement can relate to. I love everytime you talk about standing on your own, being able to trust yourself, and know when you say you're going to do something, that you will do it. I think that will be a huge motivation for me to go from merely choosing sobriety to sticking with it.
"I realized that all this time I was waiting around for inspiration...I was basically just getting fucked up." Hahaha that made me cry laugh. Way too relatable.
Thank you very much for your kind words.
Being able to trust myself is, without a doubt, one of the main benefits I have gotten from sobriety. Not only am I more dependable for everyone else but it gives me more and more confidence knowing that I will complete the tasks I set for myself.
It makes me realise that I am way more capable than I thought and that there are a huge amount of options open to me.
Glad you're enjoying the videos and getting something out of them. It makes it all worthwhile for me :)
I'm really up for getting sober and having control and money back in my life your channel is a great help much appreciated indeed I know like you I'm much more creative without the booze
Things only get better
Man these videos are awesome. Sounds like I'm in the exact same boat. I've been on and off alcohol for the past year but have finally gotten to the point that I am done. Only 6 days in now. On one hand it's gonna be the greatest thing I've ever done, the other hand I am so scared about missing out and being happy without it. Just fighting with myself everyday. Thanks for the videos sir !
Great to hear you are making positive changes in your life. If there was one thing I would reccomend going forward, it would be to start making goals and moving towards them.
Sobriety can seem a bit pointless at times unless you have something tho aim for. That is when you are most likely to go back to old habits.
Think of all those things in life that you wanted to achieve but never got around to and then start making steps in that direction. It may take a while but you will be surprised how much you can start to achieve.
The more things you start to do, the more your confidence grows and you realise that you are capable of more than you thought.
Thanks for checking out the video and all the best with your positive life changes. Feel free to message me anytime.
Wish i have a friend like you. Amazing and inspiring mind. Indeed it's all about personal mindset, I've been on the same shit over and over, falling of the wagon when one day just said: fuck this shit!!! Things won't never get better if you repeat same stupid mistakes and expect different results. Alcohol nor smoking were enjoyable things,to understand that for me helped real look at myself and honest questions for self. Once you honest to yourself you won't be needing all this shit. Very good video and once again similar thinking. Thanks man.
You say some great things my friend....Well done
I love the way you edit your videos. And the part about your dad, I watched that so many times.
Sorry for such a late reply but I have been away from the channel for a long time now. I have a new video explaining where I have been and future plans going live on the channel tomorrow evening. Hope this is of interest to you but no offense taken if not.
Stay positive!
I am also sorry for the slow reply@@BenjaminLeeWright
Great video been sober since 3rd of jan 2014 changed my life in so many ways all good ,the friends you drink with are not friends there drinking buddies and when you stop they think your ill and you no longer hear from them.
This was very helpful and I really appreciate you taking time to make these videos. You’re awesome
Sorry for such a late reply but I have been away from the channel for a long time now. I have a new video explaining where I have been and future plans going live on the channel tomorrow evening. Hope this is of interest to you but no offense taken if not.
Stay positive!
I'm 46 and have just spent most of December and start of January getting right royally annihilated...and then this video. Thanks for the vid.
Im 46 too. I got sober 16 months ago. Use youtube and look up this video from Dr Kevin McCauley called The Neuroscience of Addiction and Recovery. It helped me understand everything that was going on at 45 years old.
I ain't never going back.
Really enjoy these walks with you. Keep talking the walk and walking the talk.
I enjoyed this video, I can relate to a great deal of what you've said. Very inspiring. I'm on day 8 of being sober. I'm filling the time that I normally spent drinking playing my guitar instead.
Good for you Jem 7v. I'm also on day 8. Last couple of days were shitty but I see light in the tunnel. And really looking forward to the next AA meeting. That helps me a lot, I do it online with zoom. Piano for me
Mick Betts that’s excellent, I wish you all the luck in the world. I’m actually now on my tenth month being sober and I feel SO much better for it. Stay strong my friend.
I’m watching this drunk. I’m gonna subscribe and re look soon. Good stuff mate!
truly love your sincerity along with the humor. You've hit the nail right on the head when you said you have to have inspirational people and you sir have become one of my greatest inspiration. Being a hugh music buff, particularly metal and country (don't ask), it's hard to attend shows and not drink. But sober musicians has helped immensely. Thank you for a great video.
Celebrating one month sobriety myself today - what great timing! Keep up the great content man! 🤟🏻
Sucks, had 31 days sober a few days ago but relapse and drink 3 days in a row. But normally i go all back, like, already losed, but i start again, quit alcohol is a rollercoaster
That's great to hear bro. Keep it going man. Glad you're enjoying the channel 👊
It certainly is a roller-coaster. It took me God knows how many attempts to get away from it but it is was worth it.
Stick with it man
@@BenjaminLeeWright thx for the reply! Its hard to live healthy. I came from a family where alcohol was daily business. Keep you updated on yr channel, keep posting!✌🏼
Stay in touch bro and stay positive 👊
Truth sets us free, thank you for being truthful
Thanks for being brave enough and open enough to post this. Im 45 and have felt like i hate alcohol for last 10years. Ive just started dry Jan. I hope it continues to become a dry life
Wow!!
Great video!!
I'll be sober 2 years January 15th 2023. Yes, just thinking about that raging freaking hangover the next day, and the anxiety & depression that comes with it, keeps me sober. I drank for 50 plus years.
Luckily, I'm still in pretty good shape health wise. But, that doesn't happen with most.
I drove myself to a rehab facility, and admitted myself. I saw some pretty hardcore folks in there, that was in pretty bad shape. Alot worse than I was. I'm glad I quit, when I did.
Love your videos they're very no nonsense and inspiring. I'm on 2 day two of sobriety I don't have the fear today, but do feel like I got the flu and feel like crap ( no cough mind ) my symptoms are totally self inflicted. On the subject of passions and interests I was so inquisitive when I was younger, now looking back at 52 it all just looks like so much time just wasted! This is were me and alcohol part company, I woke up yesterday and finally contemplated my own mortality. After a life drinking alcohol to make me feel normal something else finally has kicked in and that is "how much time do I have left" it's the most sobering thought I have ever had. Thanks again friend stay alive and well 👍
Fantastic stiff Sir I was hanging on your every word.
Good typo. Just leave it in.
I can't tell you how much I relate to just about everything you are saying. I'm 50 yrs old, and at 47 days of sobriety. I know that it's not a lot, but I'll get there. I quit before also, like16 yrs ago. Why I started again, well you know how that goes. You feel about of place, friends acceptance...... and so on.
Thanks for sharing with us. It's a great help!
I think another reason people lose their interests is that they become part of 'the machine'. People get so physically and emotionally invested into their work. Then when they come home they dont feel like doin anything and thar feeling of wanting to sedate becomes greater.
I hear ya. That kept me down for a long time but then I realised that if I was ever going to get anything done that I would have to do it outside of work in my own time.
It is not easy but it is better than being one of the millions of people who don't do anything productive.
Stick with it bro.
Actually to be honest with you. I’m use to gettin shit done after work. I have 2 very needy dogs. My problem is the sedation part. Opiates
That sucks to hear man. I will have a think about that one for a future video.
Stay strong in the meantime man👊
Mate. One of the best rants. Iv ever listen to. Thank you!!!
I got six years this April. If I can do it, you can too. Great vids here. This is the way. Full power to you all. If you want what we have, do what we do.
This is great! Thank you! I remember listening to Devin Townsend while mowing the lawn... drunk. His words inspired me to start working towards sobriety. It’s been a struggle, and I have kept drinking the last couple years. I’ve listened to Rogan and Goggins too. Have you heard Jordan Peterson? His book saved my life.
I’m trying again, last drink was Sunday. For my two boys, my wife and my fitness.
Just found your videos today. Perfect timing. Thanks for the inspiration.
Stick with it man. It is worth it I assure you.
I am well aware of Jordan Peterson. Love his his work and a very inspiring guy.
Keep me up to date with your progress bro.
Check out the stop drinking expert Craig Beck and this naked mind by Annie Grace
I have mental issues been depressed and anxiety issues,drugs or drink help at least that’s what I thought.doesn’t work! Sometimes I want to end it? Nothing seems to work maybe I’m not trying hard enough to better myself don’t know how?these videos give me me a lift for lack of a better word. I’ll keep watching them and go from there or here .nothing to lose
Appreciate your perspective and encouraging message. Thank you.
We moved to Singapore and stopped drinking. It was a revelation living in a non drinking Asian culture and then seeing the English and Aussie expats in their sports bars drinking themselves silly. When we eat out and decline the beer or wine the waiters get that fleeting look of approval on their faces. I think they must get sick of the brits getting tipsy on their wine. I was drink free for five months before I came home for Christmas and it was so bloody hard to resist when everywhere you go and every occasion is a reason to open a bottle. The first friend I saw poured me a Prosecco even though I’d had quite deep discussions a few weeks previously on why I didn’t want to drink. It has to be said the drab endless grey days and drizzle make it hard not to cheer yourself up the traditional way. I had a few nights on the booze again but it had lost its luster. I guess I was never in too deep. On the waggon again now and feeling great.
I know it’s fatal for you to have just one when you were strongly addicted (I think everyone is slightly addicted) but for me it was a learning experience and I couldn’t wait to get away from the booze soaked island and back to sobriety in the tropics. The more I drank the less I wanted to.
I quit drinking and a good few of my friends have said how have i become so well off? No drink and good productive work days(only 3 days a week at work used to do 5 days work!! because I don't have to cope with hangovers!!)
Cheers mate....the stand out quality guys like you have is your humility. Honest words better than any pseudo intellectual bull shit spouted by some so called psychologist intellectual. I have tried for the last 4 years to finally quit booze. I will hopefully beat it at some point but I recently got smashed for no reason which has set me back a bit but I'm hopeful. Thank you for you honesty brother
Love the countryside in the background. Thanx for the inspiration.
I love John Joseph’s story, very very inspiring person. I’ve read his books his interviews are fascinating, especially the one with Rich Roll.
Also, you mentioned Henry Miller and I live very close to Big Sur 🙏🏻😊 Thank you for your videos. EDIT just got to the part where you mentioned Rich Roll and David Goggins! We are inspired by the same kinds of people. People who have come up from incredible hardship to the pinnacle of human performance and mental fortitude. Ive read Rich‘s book “Finding Ultra”, and David Goggins’ book twice “Can’t Hurt Me”. 🙏🏻
Sorry for such a late reply but I have been away from the channel for a long time now. I have a new video explaining where I have been and future plans going live on the channel tomorrow evening. Hope this is of interest to you but no offense taken if not.
Stay positive!
You're funny. Powerful.........but enormously sweet. A good teacher.
Thanks very much Terri
I think ‘the music’ invigorated your confidence and made you strong to have more purpose in your life.
True warrior. Must of listened to some powerful metal to get you back on track. :)
Too much booze makes you weak.
Metal definitely played a part. Gives me strength like no other music.
Awesome stuff.
thanks friend across the pond u articulate so well. u made it and im right behind you.
Man. Thanks for this video. I needed this. Know you had an impact on my life. I've never seen you or any other of your videos, but I respect and relate to every fuckin thing you said. Again, thank you for thinking enough about someone else in the position you were in at your worst, and wanting to make a difference for someone else that is suffering. Good on ya. Wish you the best in life 💪⭐
Worth watching. Loved the ending too
I can totally relate to your story, I’ve spent the majority of my adult life looking forward to the weekend so I could get hammered. But as a lover of heavy metal music I have always loved listening to the music while drinking. I’ve tried to stop many times but always go back, like you said, I can’t trust myself. I know I can stop for a few weeks or months but one day, feeling stressed or bored I’ll just say “fuck it” and start again, although I have to say 5 bottles of wine seems like an awful lot in one day lol
In the end it was easier for me to just stop rather than moderate my drinking. I am either all in or nothing.
Your right about 5 bottles being a lot but that was not that out of the ordinary for me around that time (on special occasions that is)
I had a lot of fun in those days but a lot of misery as well and the party is now over for me.
I couldn't be happier
Love the inspiration dude and love the Cleeve hill common walks too!!!
This was fantastic.!!Needed to hear this sir.
wise words, clearly presented. Good luck mate, sounds like you are on the right path.
Hey thank you man, this one really resonated with me. I’m trying to stop my weekly binge and this was very inspirational. Thank you dude 👊🏽
just found your channel, really enjoying it, gutted the videos run out a few months ago. Please get going again in 2020!!!