you can always start over & create a new life
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 31 พ.ค. 2024
- starting over until you find the life you like
when people ask me what my goals are, i feel like i have 10 different answers depending on the day & my mood. there are so many versions of myself that i want to explore in the lifetime, & i eventually realized that i do not have to limit myself to one. for the past year, i've been on a journey of starting over multiple times until i found a life i liked. in this video, i share how to disattach from your old life, embrace change, & start over without fear of the outcome.
timestamps
0:00-2:29 leaving my old life + traveling
2:29 how to know what you want
6:04 the best learning comes from experience
9:24 resenting others cuz you chose the safe route
12:16 this could be your last day
13:56 make the best of what you have + enjoy the side trips
20:12 life is long + disattach from your old self
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really love & appreciate this video 💕 i have struggled so much with feeling like i'm "too late" for everything & anything. since i compared myself to success stories from teenagers on social media making exorbitant amounts of money & fame, i'd think that at 20 years old i missed my "prime" age. graduating from university at 22 rather than traveling the world & coming home to beautiful apartment would feel like i failed even though nothing could be further from the truth. now i'm 23, starting my own jewelry business, & with content like yours, i'm realizing that we all deserve to pursue our passions & goals freely. no time limit. no comparison. just sincere excitement for what's to come 💖 xoxo
You will never be too late, life will give what you want and your age, your situation doesn’t matter for her, you are unique and your life, and experience are unique. I struggled so many years by comparing myself to others in everything (beauty, body, relation, work, carreer) but now that i realised that my path is different, and that’s the life I’m so happy to just try, search by myself what i want, i just want to experience life, différents type of work, all the anxiety that i put on me doesn’t bother me anymore.
I felt this ❤ why I resonate so much with her channel 🥹
Yes to all of this!! Congrats on starting your own jewelry business & going after what you want, I love that for you! 🥳
Every single sentence find its place on me, thank you ❤ need to listen this
Love this! I’m 47 and still finding new things out about myself!
. I’m 42….same
That's one of the beautiful things of life. Every day we have a choice to do and be something totally different . Embrace the journey💕
That’s goals, I want to feel like that at 47!
Turning 39 in April and its like my life hasn’t even started yet. I have so much to learn about the new me since my healing journey began in 2022.
I feel like having confidence in oneself is what will truly remove that fear and open so many other doors of opportunity.
As someone who has anxiety the fear of rejection/failure makes it so hard to even begin 😢 but getting better everyday
Girl. This is my life. I am literally jumping from state to state to just explore cause it’s a new chapter in my life that I have to honor. I love you channel so much man. I am starting to shift my content to this stuff.
I love that yes definitely document the experience it will be so nice to look back on one day! Sending you love & good vibes on this chapter!!❤
I'm about to turn 53 and my career has transitioned from reception/admin support to massage and now to solo entrepreneur. I started over from scratch as a writer, but 7 years down that road and I decided to leverage 15 years of experience as a massage therapist instead. Those social media ideas of what happiness looks like are misperceived. They are legitimate visions of what happiness looks like, and it's healthier to see happiness as infinite. My happiness vision is perfectly OK for me. Someone else's vision is equally valid and worth pursuing for them. You're quite wise and generous for sharing.
I knew I would resonate with this video before even clicking. I just turned 26 and have just been having this overwhelming feeling- feeling like I’m running out of time with things, people, and places. I just recently moved back in with my mom just to get a fresh start and build myself back up & tbh the generations before us just don’t understand… the burning desire to explore, travel, experience new things & get looking outside of where they were raised, the constant state of fear at times, everything that comes with this journey, etc! Channels like yours literally make me feel seen, heard, & less alone. Still a work in progress but I’m here… and I’m trying🤍
Yess the part about being a work in progress and trying. Sending love and good thoughts.🤍🤍
i just decided to do something risky for my life. i went back to school, to risk the possibility that I will get a better job--not even a secured decision.
You got this, trust your gut & that everything will work out as it should. wishing you the best!
I love the title. We are all born into the world and automatically programmed in whatever town are parents put us in to be raised. Some people stay in one place their whole life (that's fine also) but there comes a point I think for some of us where we start to look outside of that. We have big dreams that don't relate to our enviroment we grew up in. We travel, move to a new city, pursue a new life and then flourish.
I believe the burning desire in ones heart for a goal, the people who look after themselves, manifest/work towards something are meant to fulfill that we just can never give up. The more you live the more you know about yourself.
I love these kind of videos as it reminds me I'm not alone doing it!
Yesss there is so much life to be lived it’s beautiful!
I just want to say that your work online has continued to shape and change me for the past 2 years. Thank you for all you do Lynette, and continue to express yourself and your ideas with the world -- I watch every upload silently but your journey has been incredible/continues to keep me in awe
This means the world - thank you so much❤
This is such an aligned messages. The collective is real. Thank you for utilizing your voice & power in a gracefully productive way. You’re a true inspiration 💫🫶🏾
❤️ thank you
I got fired from a Target job a few months ago, which forced me to start chasing after the career I've been wanting. I'm currently 26, and I already regret waiting this long to start. I appreciate you posting this. It reminded me that it's never too late to start. 🙌❤️
I'm a new subscriber, btw 👍
When you live without fear, your life absolutely changes. 💯
I knew I'd resonate with this before I even clicked on it. In my astro chart, there's a part that reads that I'm meant to create my own life. My biggest hurdle was post-grad and being let out of the gates to do just that. I felt decision paralysis so hard but also things not panning out, feeling stuck, feeling behind, etc. I even recently quit my full-time job because I felt so stagnant and unfulfilled. I've tried soooo many different things and will continue doing so. I'm meant to create my life and I'm starting to fully understand that.
PS I think the point of creating more than you're consuming is ESSENTIAL
Yesss omg post grad can be such a jarring experience especially when you know you want more than the standard route. I love that you’re committed to trying new things despite how challenging it can feel sometimes, it’s so worth it. Wishing you all the best on your journey🤗
I’m 39 years old and living with my dad for medical reasons. I pursued a certificate in medical billing and coding and it didn’t work out. I saw signs and the way I was treated. It was toxic and unacceptable. I have transferable skills but people keep trying to pigeon hole me into customer service but I won’t allow it because I have PTSD. I like administrative work so I’ll keep pushing for it and not giving up. I’m also pursuing a bachelor of science in business administration with a concentration in human resource management. I’m gonna keep going until my PhD is done. I’ve been through some really bad relationships and doing this, not having kids or relationships, and traveling the world is for me. I need to do this for my health. I knew I wanted to become an entrepreneur as a teenager but trauma and toxic family kept me from it. I’ve had enough. I have to do this. Me being happy is what I choose.
were in a cost of livinh crisis in the UK which makes moving a big, often unaffordable commitment for alot of us, especially younger. I also hateee houseshares
The annoying thing is I know exactly who I am and I knew what I wanted. Sadly I freaked out over a massive decision that I needed to choose to live my best life. That opportunity has now gone and I have no idea what to do now. Which really sucks 😢
I Love Following Your Journey Because I Always Feel Like We Talk About The Same Topics & Themes, Without Ever Talking. 🥺
I’m Currently Pivoting & Building My Business. Collecting All The Knowledge I Need & Implementing Said Knowledge.
PLUS Finishing My Accounting Level 3 Which Will Allow Me To Have A Skill That Gives Me Location Freedom.
I’ve Met Someone Who Aligns Deeply To How I See My Future. So My Partner & I Have Weekly “Monday Meetings” To Ensure Separately We Are Achieving Our Goals, That Ultimately Work Towards Our Shared Future. This Includes Hobbies & Passions Not Just All The Career “Western World” Worries & Concerns.
I’m Ultimately LOVING LIFE Not Comparing Myself To Anyone, Not Even My Partner. I Only Compare Myself To Who I Was Yesterday, Last Week, Month, Year Etc.
I Allow Myself The Freedom To Be Able To Pivot & Change Direction If That Is What I’m Called To Do. ❤
As I Will Not Settle & Allow Fear To Keep Me Stuck.
Love You Lynette, You Are Amazing & Keep Being Amazing. ❤
This is amazing!! Congrats on all the wonderful things you have attracted into your life! I love this reminder that there is nobody to compare to but yourself 🙏🏽
I love hearing these topics trying to juggle mental health & reality of what you wanna be. It’ll feel like a rat race of just chasing Your tail…
You have no idea how timely your videos are to my life 😮 I just booked my first trip to USA from UK and I’m going there to explore see if it’s a good fit for me to maybe move there one day. You helped me be bold an book it solo ☺️
My life has always been full of side quests, and I’ve had loved ones look at me sideways for doing so. But I follow my gut, and for me that is the fun, what gives my experience meaning ❤
This video was amazing. Blessings to you and whomever wonderful spirit happens to gaze by this post. Just know you are loved, cared for, watched over, and thought of. You are a blessing to this world, your actions matter, your thoughts matter your emotions matter your feelings matter. Be a blessing, LOVE IS GOD, GOD IS LOVE.
❤️❤️❤️
New subscriber here, we are all in the same boat. Early thirties, trying to reinvent myself, trying to get into a new career with no experience has been challenging, countless rejections emails from job applications, but can’t give up now.
lynette… please more sit down videos. i love your vlogs too but your words are very encouraging
On it🫡
Still find it so interesting that you're living in my hometown. I'm glad you're enjoying it so far.
I give this kind of advice to people in their 20s. That's what your 20s are for. Now, in my 30s, it feels more difficult to just go and do whatever it is I feel called to do. It's always a matter of strategizing because of finances and having a kid. Trying though because I need a career change like yesterday. 😅
Omg this is so accurate, all of these expectations that we adopted growing up
Now that I’m turning 24 it’s clear that I have to unlearn and try my own path .
You`re literally describing my life 😄 the tagline of my TH-cam channel is "Unconventional living" as I want to live with no regrets so I do everything I want to do. I feel like I`ve lived 3 lives already 🙃 Just in the last 10 years I`ve lived in 4 countries, traveled to 40+, worked on a cruise ship, lived in a cave, trained in the military, worked my dream career, lived in a hotel, became a dj... should I go on? 😂
This is my goal in life!! To live many lives! ❤
can't explain how much I appreciate you and your content
Exactly you can create your own reality and happiness 🎉
Lynette this video was on point. It resonated with me. I feel that you"ve encouraged people from every level in life that they can do this. Creating your own content more than consuming social media can open the door to a meaningful life. Just something as simple as taking a 30 min walk is investing in yourself. I agree with everything you said. You do have to take risks to be extraordinary. Watchers stay safe. Doers take leaps. Peace to you.
P.o.p.
Yes to all of this! So glad this resonated & thank you for the continuous support!🙏🏽
@@LynetteAdkins Always my pleasure. I rock with your content.
This is fitting really well because I will be trying to swith careers and generally want to move in other directions and there is a lot of doubt right now.
needed this today! life has felt so uncertain lately and it feels like the world is pushing me to go the safe route. i’m about to graduate college and have always wanted to move to ny or europe and now my hs friends are moving home my college friends are staying around our town and i feel so torn. its like a leap into the abyss of the unknown or seek comfort and abandon that fire and forever wonder what it would’ve been like
even when it comes to trying everything!! i’ve always been more jack of all trades master of none. have had internships in different areas but i get bogged down cuz im not all that great at any one thing. but there is something to be said about figuring out what doesn’t work alongside what might work
you always cone thru w healing🙌🏿
Your vids are always some of my fav. Thank you
Lynette, Momento Mori is the tradition of considering one's death, remembering that death is democratic and comes to all. It is a good practice to incorporate into a life philosophy: how one wants to live in the world.
I love this, thank you for sharing!
Loved this! I’m currently starting over after my 4 year old relationship ended. Your tips will be very helpful ❤
Thank You for this 💫
i feel like you always post what i need to hear at the perfect moment. thank you for your thoughts and advice! i really needed this
Damn Lynette, this was such a good video and I needed to hear this right now, in this current moment. Starting a new beginning and in the process of moving to NYC. A lot of times I found myself holding on to things that were not fulfilling due to the fear of regret. But, that’s no way to live life and decisions should be made out of love and not fear. Thank you 🫂
this came at such a perfect time, thank you so much for the wisdom
i needed this
So happy to see sit down videos again!🤍🤍
I loveeeee your channel so much
I loved this! Thank you so much for the message 🤍
Always coming in with videos that are relevant to what I’m feeling, I appreciate you!
The timing of this video is incredible! I just moved to a new city and I'm not 100% sure of what I want to do here, and I've been surprisingly comfortable with that. Your words are so validating.
So Inspiring to hear about people making moves, I’ve been in the same place for years and finding the courage & deciding where to move, so Im gunna go travel and find out 😊
Congrats on your move! Definitely can resonate with feeling unsure of what’s to come, it’s such a fun place to be cuz it’s like a fresh start. Wishing you all the best!
@@LynetteAdkins yess exactly! Thank you so much💗
@@Robynvlogs1 yess go for it and trust your timing! It helps to visit a few times before moving and make friends there if you can. Good luck on your journey! I’m excited for you.
I LOVEEE your videos Lynette. You have a gift of explaining things that speak to the soul !!
This really came just the moment I needed it. Thank you so much, all time fav TH-camr ❤
5:55 What You Are Saying Here Reminds Me Of A Book I’m Currently “Dipping My Toe Into” Which Is Called: ZERO TO ONE By Peter Thiel 🥳
thank you so much for this video, truly amazing words of advice and inspiration
love this video and the messages your sharing, definitely needed to hear this right now
Yayay thanks for this video🫶🏼 you’re literally one of my fave TH-camrs bc you think with your own brain and bring interesting insights and your content and point of views are clearly YOURS not something everyone is repeating and I really like you for that ❤️
You’re videos always come at the perfect times🫶🏻🙏🏼
oh my god, Lynette! such a great timing for this video) appreciate your time and words)
you put into words the exact message I'm trying to push myself... thank you
Love the HunterxHunter analysis as a metaphor for life. I love that show so much ❤
I really needed that thank you so much. I am literally balling while watching this video.😭
you’re so right on what you said abt over consumption
I most definitely needed this! I truly related to everything you said In this video and truly appreciate your advice ☁️💤 thank you!
Why are you literally speaking TO ME
I love HxH!!! I’m so glad you also resonate with it
I love how you literally just pivot, it inspires me to do the same. 🤍✨
I've been watching you since 2021, and you have helped me so much with everything. You really paved the way for me to discover more about myself and about loving myself. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. I wish you the best in NYC!!
i loved this video. wow
Man, this video has made me reflect a bit on my life. I appreciate this Lo idea ❤❤❤
Definitely needed to hear this!
This was a great video, exactly what I needed to hear right now going through a career change. Thank you 💜
Hiiii, I was just watching the moving vlog, feeling so happy for you , Lynette, hope you find inner peace in that place❤
Preach sista happy Saturday
Great job with this one! I really enjoyed it. Thank you.🤍
Thank you for this! Definitely resonates, in a transition and I’m so uncomfortable but excited for what’s to come! Sending love on your new chapter!
I love this. Especially the reminder of having a reason to wake up everyday ❤
Made perfect sense, and this video came at the right time
Divine timing. Thank you 🙏🏾 Blessings ❤
Just found your channel
So grateful for it 🤞🏾🤞🏾 yaya
Thank you pooh! ❤❤❤
Resonated with this deeply
This definitely resonated with me! Thank you for showing up for your community, we appreciate you 🤍
So grateful for this video. Life definitely is a journey and although there may be bumps along the way, it’s so important to ride the wave.
Girl you ate down, you’ve always been one of my favs
great content. I always tend to take a new perspective from your videos you have such good ability at bringing both (inlightment) *if that makes* sense and clarity to revolving thoughts that I believe we all *who strive to be successful* think. super duper thankful for you transparency and honesty🔥✨ stay golden💫
Missed & needed this 🩵
I loved this conversation! And I want to say that your skin looks amazing like ❤️🔥wow
You posted this video at such a great time thank you 🥺 at crossroads in my life being in my mid-20s, my heart desires to get away from my comfort zone and pursue different things, but feeling scared at the same time to leave everything behind.
i have been watching your content for a long time and so happy that you moved to nyc. I am also in nyc and would love to cross paths someday! ✨
Needed this! Recently decided against one path I was walking down, there is a lot of fear surrounding giving something up but the relief in finding something more aligned ahh!
i've missed sit down chit chats w Lynette !! thank you for sharing just know what you've shared has resonated with me and many others
Thank you.
You always say what I need to hear 🫶🏼
New hobbies for me I am going to try ice skating here and also work on my podcast! Great video feeling more inspired
You are such an incredible teacher. The way you are able to turn sight to insight, and information to (self-)revelation is so striking. Every step you've taken - right or wrong, got you here; in your purpose and in your light. It's very encouraging for me, too. Keep offering yourself to the world. May blessings outpour over your life.
Your videos is very authentic/real everything was about real life situations & what’s going on in today’s world
So glad I clicked on this one! Really resonated and it's comforting to read so many comments from fellow ladies feeling the same. I've recently realised I've reached my comfort zone, and it's a privilege to feel so safe and peaceful, but I know I won't grow or reach my higher self if I don't challenge myself. On the other hand, I get overwhelmed by the choice and possibilities of what I can do and who I can be. Taking it 1 day at a time, going to enroll to study herbal medicine and travel as much as feasible this year. I feel like I need to listen to this everyday to keep on the track of 'life is a fun journey' because I get so ungrounded sometimes. Thank you for being a light for all of us.
I want to do so man things! a couple of them is learn herbalism, sew my own clothes, learn to crochet and get back into candle making and photography. I realized more and more im not for the corporate world. I thrive off of being able to make things and share them with people. I love making art and showing that. I get no satisfaction from ringing up a toaster and getting screamed at because a coupon doesnt work. I want to create things and feel like im benefiting the world, even if its putting a smie on someones face.
Speaking to my spirit
I can totally relate to that feeling of being in tears, and knowing that you are going through this situation for a reason, so thank you for sharing. Thank you for creating this video. So glad to see you sitting down again. 💙💜💙 21:27 I enjoy that you do sit down videos and vlog content on the same channel❤️🔥
What a refreshing video with a great perspective on growing through life. I've left like ‘starting over’ my life, and most recently and even through your video, I realised I don't need to start over. It's more important to be curious, take risks, keep learning, and explore. I've identified so many things I'm more interested in because I'm more curious, and it is challenging me to explore more versus dreaming about doing the things I want.
great video! One of my favorite quotes is: "You can fail at what you don't want, so you might as well take a chance doing what you love!"
Thank you so much for this! I’ve been in the paralysis state of feeling like I can’t reinvent myself or I missed my chance with starting something new. You have given me so much insight and inspiration to not quit. I struggle with anxiety, bpd, and imposter syndrome and these things cripple me to the “conditioned” reality and sadly stops me from being able to experience and appreciate life. This video was a breath of fresh air 🫶🏽
I’ve had this burning desire to start my own clothing brand and this was the perfect video to give me that boost and just try ❤
Lynette. You're a goddess. Thank you for saying all of this, because it is exactly everything I've been thinking but didn't know how to vocalize.
Love this advice- as a 22 year old in last year of university I feel this sense of what’s my next step? Where are my priorities… I for sure will take this advice ❤ thx Lynette
This is exactly what I needed to hear right now I'm planning on moving to a new country this year feels like the year to do everything that I want and not to be afraid 🙌🏻 Love watching your videos they always inspire me and I'm loving the New York content ❤🌞