This is so true. I remember once saying to my husband how I hate being in photos because I'm so heavy. He said that I should be in the photos because these are the memories I'm making now This is who I am now. That now will never be back again. He was right. If I avoid photos I'll never have those memories of me and my family. So with that I've tried to appreciate who I am in the present and work on my self for the future, so that present will be better.
It sounds like you’re describing what I call “milestone melancholy “. Being almost twice your age I’ve …been there done that… a lot. You’re right - the present moment is the best place to be. It’s also the most difficult to maintain due to so many distractions in our lives. For me I try to keep reminding myself of life being like driving a vehicle. The windshield (the future) is large and in front of me and the rear view mirror (the past) is small and to the side. The steering wheel (the present moment) is in my hands to use wisely.
As a mom who dreaded my kids growing up and what that would bring, I understand your feelings. 10 yrs removed from that, it’s even better with 5 grandchildren and those kids become your best friends
Thank you for this comment....I am having such a hard time with my son growing up...he has just starting 9th grade and it is so hard. I love that you said that your kids become your best friends. Thank you
This totally hit home! My oldest son got married in January and all I could think about was him as a baby and toddler and how fast it snuck up on me. I sobbed my eyes out!! I went through a similar process of realization and found so much joy in his new adventure. And also gaining a daughter, which is awesome! But I find myself watching my teenage son now and thinking "Oh no! I only have 2 years left!" Thank you for reminding me to enjoy him now and not worry about 2 years from now.
Good video. Grandchildren really are as awesome as "they" have always said. That's who will want to spend time with you and you will be able to do all those things with them. A mother wears so many hats, but she can't wear them all at once.
I need to listen to this video everyday. Living in the past is a lot of what I do because I'm in constant pain and disabled so I don't see much of a future. Heck I can barely keep up with washing the dishes and clothes. It's easy to get down about it all. I see a counselor via telehealth so I'm trying my best but I need to get rid of a lot of things. I need less stuff. I'm thinking of going tiny (Tiny house living) when my grandchild I'm raising is out of the home, she'll be 18 in 3 years. I'm going to miss her so much😢. We have a great bond because it's only been the two of us for 15 yrs.
I love that. The future isn’t going to be the past. As a mom of 4 adults and 4 kids at home, I can relate to the grief you experienced. I remind myself that it’s too easy to see only the joys we have said goodbye to, but we forget there are joys ahead we haven’t experienced! The grief of past joys is blanketed in the joy of the future! Crazy?!? Not when you get it! When we embrace it, the present is so fun!!!
I can totally relate to mom guilt. I also live in a beach town and feel like you. 😂 I have a few tubs of photos and I never made the baby book, scrapbook or the photo albums. I loved looking at photos as a kid and I never did this with my kids. But photos are digital now so it’s very different than when I was a kid. When I relive a memory my youngest, which graduated last year says he doesn’t remember and that pulls up the mom guilt again. I’m definitely feeling my age of 49. Which is still young but I’m starting to think of things like do I want to save this for my kids. Will they just throw it out. 😢 I’m the families historian and I think I have to start scanning and giving the rest of my family photos now.
I understand what you are saying one thousand percent! It's a gift and a necessity for women to be nurturing, emotional, worried etc. because it is needed when raising children, but it can also be a burden to have all of these feelings when the children are grown. You find yourself asking "what is my purpose?" "who am I today?" Even when you see your adult children struggle you will ask yourself if it was something you did wrong when they were growing up. Transition is always hard but even harder when we don't plan for it. I'm glad there are people like you out there who are encouraging and sharing your story so the rest of us know we are not alone in our struggles. The past is definitely a great place to visit in photos, music, and memories but we cant live there ❤
Such a great topic & video - this one really hit home for me 😮. Dealing with a lot right now, but the issue that is hurting my de-cluttering the most is that 'they' tore down my happy childhood home & replaced it with an ugly mega castle. Since I found this out, I've been struggling to de-clutter anything from my childhood (we're talking very old kitchen stuff, bedding etc.) - talk about living in the past... Re-frame to the present - time to focus on the here and now - yes!
I was just going through my 16 year old son’s closet to get rid of all of his Lego’s and my heart was aching. Exactly what you said in your video, I was holding on to those toys bc I could not let go of my sweet little ‘LegoMaster’ as we called him. I miss my babies sooo much but I’m so proud of the beautiful, young men they have become. Trying to be grateful and to live in the present. Thanks for the pep talk. I really needed it.😊☮️
We have a tonne of lego that I spent a fortune on and I am contemplating doing the same thing. What’s worse is my boys did not even play with it much! We have a small house and they had very little room to set it up and continue building sets etc. In addition my husband (having not grown up with lego himself) thought the purpose of a lego set was to get it built as soon as possible - and since our boys naturally struggled a bit - my husband would take it on himself to build the sets for them, all in one day usually. He would then pat himself on the back thinking ‘job well done’ and the boys would be left with a fully built set and no further interest in it! I on the other hand was full of imagination and would buy many sets in a certain theme - eg pirate lego, or house / villa, the Lego movie, etc etc. Probably spent thousands. But my vision never quite caught on and again there was the space issue. I’m contemplating keeping it all for grandchildren in the distant future but in the meantime its all very much sunk cost.
I totally get your point. A group text of moms were all so so sad middle school was over and I was the only one who was SO EXCITED. I hated middle school and I hated it for my daughter. Her and I are both so excited for her to start high school. I've always been excited to see their journey and watch them fly. I've never expected them to move down the street or even across town. With that being said I worry like hell about them and I can't believe how FAST time goes by. 4 kids and the youngest is now 15. Wow. Just Wow. Am I ever a little sad certain times are gone, sure but mostly I'm excited for the current or next season. And a weirdo to all of my friends, lol.
My 25 year old SON moved to KC in 2020 (during the pandemic) for a job. I was terrified! And heart broken.💔 Fast forward to 2023. He has experienced so many great things on his own that he would have never gotten to here in the Memphis area. If you are reading this. Mama Bird......don't be scared to let them FLY! 💕💕💕💕💕
Yes totally get this. My children are about the same age. Daughter is about to graduate this year. I know we haven’t done enough with the kids as a family. I worry about their lack of experience & life skills compared to their peers. But the truth is both me and my husband have had unresolved trauma from childhood that I have tried to deal with on my own and now feel I have largely sorted out. But I doubt my husband will ever reach any insight on his, he is extremely cut off from his emotions and not v interested in that type of thing either. So we have not had a very congruent relationship and waste a lot of time second guessing each other’s plans instead of communicating directly. I used to be more direct in my communication with him but he tends to feel attacked very easily and get angry so I stopped and now I just try to read and gauge what he is doing & what his plans are which is unhealthy and exhausting. On top of that all our children have had specific health issues that have all taken a toll on how we’re able to function and that have limited our ability to do things normal families do easily - eg food allergies, autism, adhd, EDS. It really has taken a lot of the spontaneity out of our family life. My husband & I both have chronic health conditions - he has type 2 diabetes and I have chronic fatigue. I always think that all sounds as though I am making excuses as to why we don’t do much as a family compared to other families but it is our reality and I have to accept it and therefore try not to feel as guilty about not giving our children the life I would have liked to. And I try to keep reminding myself of that, that we didn’t ask for all these health conditions and have tried our best under the circumstances.
I, too, was taken by surprise by all of the emotions of having a child graduate and move out. I hadn’t really dreaded it. My goal in becoming a parent and throughout parenting had been to raise good people and I was excited to see what they do in their adult lives. So, to grieve through my daughter’s whole senior year was completely unexpected. I definitely had the reminiscing and the mom guilt and the resistance to change. But, I eventually came to realize that one of the main things I was grieving was my own mortality and how time stands still for no one. Although it ushered in quite the existential crisis, I believe it increased my ability to live in the present and to work toward the things that are most important to me.
I have been missing out on precious time with my grands due to being stuck in the past revolving around my kids and am now dealing with all of this stuff and clutter so I can move ahead and enjoy my grandkids. I don’t want to leave all of this accumulated stuff behind someday for all of them to deal with. Moving into the present one day at a time. Thank you for this one!!
Thanks! I'm going through a similar life stage to you right now. My kids are 18 and 15. I've been trying to teach them all the "adulting" skills that they need and at the same time trying to spend more quality time with them, knowing that they will be going on their own adventures without me soon. I'm glad for this, but at the same time caught up in the past memories and regrets (big mom guilt here too). I'm also dealing with an aging body (been going through the menopause transition since 36yo, now 49) and it's limits, and trying to figure out what to do with my life next - after my kids are on their own.
Living in the present is key. Being thankful and enjoying the blessings of the present. You are my son's age. I felt everything you mentioned when he moved out. I can tell you that grandchildren in the future will be such a joy! Thanks for sharing this . ❤
Excellent video!I can relate.our daughter is now married & has teens of her own, but I remember when I started crying when she was in 8th grade about change. It IS hard, but new seasons come, & they are good too!
Congrats on over 50K subscribers! Dread/worry/guilt is all tied to anxiety. I'm sure you did more than the bare minimum with your kids and took good care of them. Whether dealing with anxiety or not, we're in survival mode when raising our children, trying to maintain the home, and possibly working too.
This has really resonated with me. My daughter is flying the nest in a few months time and I have been so down yet happy for her. Like you I have been living in the past and feeling so many regrets. Thank you for this reminder that we need to move on not look behind. Take care of yourself. Xx
I get the mom guilt part of letting go of kids who are becoming more autonomous by the day. When my first graduated high school I was reflecting that I really wish we could have done more with and for him. But when I strung up a line of photos for his grad party lots of that faded away into contentment. We weren’t/aren’t perfect parents and did not always have the resources for amazing experiences, but the overwhelming feeling was that this was good and enough and I’m so proud of him and excited for him. Saying goodbye to him (and his sister a year later) at university very far from home was rough. The loving and letting go is a journey. I want to live and enjoy the present, too, and not be weighed down with the past or future. Matthew 6:34 and Luke 12:22-31 are comforting reminders to me.
My youngest (18) just started college today. She got into a Summer Math Program. She’s on campus and rooming with her best friend. Plus, the campus is only 3.3 miles away! It’s SO weird having her room empty. Her cat misses her, too!!
This is happening to me now. My son is a senior and I am having all these mixed emotions...mom guilt is coming in for me. I feel like I didnt do enough. I am sad. I am excited. So many emotions....I am having regret too. Geese I needed this video.
My oldest also just graduated and the mom-guilt hit me hard. As much as I understand that he's young-spirited , I wish I had fought harder to raise him to be more independent and more inline with his peers.
i am hanging on to the lost of Mom and Dad i lost them 6 months a part and it was heart breaking for me slowly getting back on to me life but it been hell for me to move on !
Veo que a pesar de que es muy fuerte lo que sientes, vas pudiendo pensarlo de forma muy positiva. Claro que esto es a nivel intelectual. Lo emocional suele sobreponerse a veces. Pero hacerlo consciente ya es un gran paso. Lo que te sucede es normal. Así que ánimo! Como tú dices, el presente es hermoso. 😘
Thank you for making this video. I’ve been decluttering for 5 years now? And there’s some stuff that I haven’t touched from my past life with an ex and it’s hard to part with because it’s who I used to be and it cost money. And I don’t think I will repurchase in the future? Because it’s hard for me to fully trust another partner again and be as fully happy and open as I used to be.
Thank you for your honesty. Has anything shifted since you wrote this? Anything you’re able to either let go of or reclaim and use in this chapter of your life?
I always tell moms yes they do leave home but they come back and bring more with them! We have raised our nine. It was very difficult to let each go. But we now have a total of 50 from the nine! Twenty five are grandchildren. Best part of our lives right now is our grand-babies. So hang in there.
Girl I feel ya ! My eldest got married and moved across the USA last year - but that was easier than when she graduated and started college. Lol. So much anxiety back then. But the next kid was easier so there’s that. Now I’m a mother in law it’s a shift ya know ? Lol
I'm 42. My older son graduated 5 years ago already. I am starting to think ahead that my younger son is going in 7th grade :( I am guilty of living in the past. The majority of my music and concerts I go to are from my glory days in the 90s era [the late 90s especially]. Getting older is a tough one for me. I lost my dad in Nov and can't imagaine when my mom passes. My friends and I kind of refer to the Class of 1995- 2001 or so as Age Groupers. We are a special set. We were born in the analog era and came of age in the digital.
This is so true. I remember once saying to my husband how I hate being in photos because I'm so heavy. He said that I should be in the photos because these are the memories I'm making now This is who I am now. That now will never be back again. He was right. If I avoid photos I'll never have those memories of me and my family.
So with that I've tried to appreciate who I am in the present and work on my self for the future, so that present will be better.
It is SO true, why not capture life, no matter what?
Very wise words & example for all of us , no matter our personal situations .🥰
It sounds like you’re describing what I call “milestone melancholy “. Being almost twice your age I’ve …been there done that…
a lot. You’re right - the present moment is the best place to be. It’s also the most difficult to maintain due to so many distractions in our lives. For me I try to keep reminding myself of life being like driving a vehicle. The windshield (the future) is large and in front of me and the rear view mirror (the past) is small and to the side. The steering wheel (the present moment) is in my hands to use wisely.
Oooh, i like that, thanks Mary
Milestone melancholy, very well put.
As a mom who dreaded my kids growing up and what that would bring, I understand your feelings. 10 yrs removed from that, it’s even better with 5 grandchildren and those kids become your best friends
Thank you for this comment....I am having such a hard time with my son growing up...he has just starting 9th grade and it is so hard. I love that you said that your kids become your best friends. Thank you
That is love, thanks for sharing ❤️
Yes, I have both, grown-ups and teens children. I am having a hard time.
This totally hit home! My oldest son got married in January and all I could think about was him as a baby and toddler and how fast it snuck up on me. I sobbed my eyes out!! I went through a similar process of realization and found so much joy in his new adventure. And also gaining a daughter, which is awesome! But I find myself watching my teenage son now and thinking "Oh no! I only have 2 years left!" Thank you for reminding me to enjoy him now and not worry about 2 years from now.
Thank you for sharing, it's a strange thing as our kids grow up
Good video. Grandchildren really are as awesome as "they" have always said. That's who will want to spend time with you and you will be able to do all those things with them. A mother wears so many hats, but she can't wear them all at once.
So true!
I need to listen to this video everyday. Living in the past is a lot of what I do because I'm in constant pain and disabled so I don't see much of a future. Heck I can barely keep up with washing the dishes and clothes. It's easy to get down about it all. I see a counselor via telehealth so I'm trying my best but I need to get rid of a lot of things. I need less stuff. I'm thinking of going tiny (Tiny house living) when my grandchild I'm raising is out of the home, she'll be 18 in 3 years. I'm going to miss her so much😢. We have a great bond because it's only been the two of us for 15 yrs.
Aww, I'm sorry
Sending Love. 💖💖💖
I love that. The future isn’t going to be the past. As a mom of 4 adults and 4 kids at home, I can relate to the grief you experienced. I remind myself that it’s too easy to see only the joys we have said goodbye to, but we forget there are joys ahead we haven’t experienced! The grief of past joys is blanketed in the joy of the future! Crazy?!? Not when you get it! When we embrace it, the present is so fun!!!
I can totally relate to mom guilt. I also live in a beach town and feel like you. 😂 I have a few tubs of photos and I never made the baby book, scrapbook or the photo albums. I loved looking at photos as a kid and I never did this with my kids. But photos are digital now so it’s very different than when I was a kid. When I relive a memory my youngest, which graduated last year says he doesn’t remember and that pulls up the mom guilt again. I’m definitely feeling my age of 49. Which is still young but I’m starting to think of things like do I want to save this for my kids. Will they just throw it out. 😢 I’m the families historian and I think I have to start scanning and giving the rest of my family photos now.
Aww, I feel your pain
I understand what you are saying one thousand percent! It's a gift and a necessity for women to be nurturing, emotional, worried etc. because it is needed when raising children, but it can also be a burden to have all of these feelings when the children are grown. You find yourself asking "what is my purpose?" "who am I today?" Even when you see your adult children struggle you will ask yourself if it was something you did wrong when they were growing up. Transition is always hard but even harder when we don't plan for it. I'm glad there are people like you out there who are encouraging and sharing your story so the rest of us know we are not alone in our struggles. The past is definitely a great place to visit in photos, music, and memories but we cant live there ❤
You are so right! We can’t live there
This was a deep one. Living in the present is a great concept, it can keep our mood balanced.
Yes! Thanks Cazzie
Such a great topic & video - this one really hit home for me 😮. Dealing with a lot right now, but the issue that is hurting my de-cluttering the most is that 'they' tore down my happy childhood home & replaced it with an ugly mega castle. Since I found this out, I've been struggling to de-clutter anything from my childhood (we're talking very old kitchen stuff, bedding etc.) - talk about living in the past... Re-frame to the present - time to focus on the here and now - yes!
Aww, bless you
Thank you for sharing.
"living the moment" is a challenge for me, but I'm trying to learn how to do it, more and more.
Thanks Phoebe
You're welcome.
I was just going through my 16 year old son’s closet to get rid of all of his Lego’s and my heart was aching. Exactly what you said in your video, I was holding on to those toys bc I could not let go of my sweet little ‘LegoMaster’ as we called him. I miss my babies sooo much but I’m so proud of the beautiful, young men they have become. Trying to be grateful and to live in the present. Thanks for the pep talk. I really needed it.😊☮️
We have a tonne of lego that I spent a fortune on and I am contemplating doing the same thing. What’s worse is my boys did not even play with it much! We have a small house and they had very little room to set it up and continue building sets etc. In addition my husband (having not grown up with lego himself) thought the purpose of a lego set was to get it built as soon as possible - and since our boys naturally struggled a bit - my husband would take it on himself to build the sets for them, all in one day usually. He would then pat himself on the back thinking ‘job well done’ and the boys would be left with a fully built set and no further interest in it! I on the other hand was full of imagination and would buy many sets in a certain theme - eg pirate lego, or house / villa, the Lego movie, etc etc. Probably spent thousands. But my vision never quite caught on and again there was the space issue. I’m contemplating keeping it all for grandchildren in the distant future but in the meantime its all very much sunk cost.
I totally get your point. A group text of moms were all so so sad middle school was over and I was the only one who was SO EXCITED. I hated middle school and I hated it for my daughter. Her and I are both so excited for her to start high school. I've always been excited to see their journey and watch them fly. I've never expected them to move down the street or even across town. With that being said I worry like hell about them and I can't believe how FAST time goes by. 4 kids and the youngest is now 15. Wow. Just Wow. Am I ever a little sad certain times are gone, sure but mostly I'm excited for the current or next season. And a weirdo to all of my friends, lol.
My 25 year old SON moved to KC in 2020 (during the pandemic) for a job. I was terrified! And heart broken.💔
Fast forward to 2023. He has experienced so many great things on his own that he would have never gotten to here in the Memphis area.
If you are reading this. Mama Bird......don't be scared to let them FLY!
💕💕💕💕💕
Hi! I'm in Memphis area! ❤️❤️❤️
Aww, thanks!
Yes totally get this. My children are about the same age. Daughter is about to graduate this year. I know we haven’t done enough with the kids as a family. I worry about their lack of experience & life skills compared to their peers. But the truth is both me and my husband have had unresolved trauma from childhood that I have tried to deal with on my own and now feel I have largely sorted out. But I doubt my husband will ever reach any insight on his, he is extremely cut off from his emotions and not v interested in that type of thing either. So we have not had a very congruent relationship and waste a lot of time second guessing each other’s plans instead of communicating directly. I used to be more direct in my communication with him but he tends to feel attacked very easily and get angry so I stopped and now I just try to read and gauge what he is doing & what his plans are which is unhealthy and exhausting. On top of that all our children have had specific health issues that have all taken a toll on how we’re able to function and that have limited our ability to do things normal families do easily - eg food allergies, autism, adhd, EDS. It really has taken a lot of the spontaneity out of our family life. My husband & I both have chronic health conditions - he has type 2 diabetes and I have chronic fatigue. I always think that all sounds as though I am making excuses as to why we don’t do much as a family compared to other families but it is our reality and I have to accept it and therefore try not to feel as guilty about not giving our children the life I would have liked to. And I try to keep reminding myself of that, that we didn’t ask for all these health conditions and have tried our best under the circumstances.
Oh, I’m so sorry you have these struggles ❤️
I, too, was taken by surprise by all of the emotions of having a child graduate and move out. I hadn’t really dreaded it. My goal in becoming a parent and throughout parenting had been to raise good people and I was excited to see what they do in their adult lives. So, to grieve through my daughter’s whole senior year was completely unexpected. I definitely had the reminiscing and the mom guilt and the resistance to change. But, I eventually came to realize that one of the main things I was grieving was my own mortality and how time stands still for no one. Although it ushered in quite the existential crisis, I believe it increased my ability to live in the present and to work toward the things that are most important to me.
I have been missing out on precious time with my grands due to being stuck in the past revolving around my kids and am now dealing with all of this stuff and clutter so I can move ahead and enjoy my grandkids. I don’t want to leave all of this accumulated stuff behind someday for all of them to deal with. Moving into the present one day at a time. Thank you for this one!!
You’re welcome! I hope you’re doing well and enjoying the grand kids!
This resonates with me 100% I can’t even tell you how much this video will help me work through things. It was like you’re talking directly to me.
Thank you ❤️
I sooooo went through this intense experience too.
It is hard!
Thanks! I'm going through a similar life stage to you right now. My kids are 18 and 15. I've been trying to teach them all the "adulting" skills that they need and at the same time trying to spend more quality time with them, knowing that they will be going on their own adventures without me soon. I'm glad for this, but at the same time caught up in the past memories and regrets (big mom guilt here too). I'm also dealing with an aging body (been going through the menopause transition since 36yo, now 49) and it's limits, and trying to figure out what to do with my life next - after my kids are on their own.
Thanks Celeste
Living in the present is key. Being thankful and enjoying the blessings of the present. You are my son's age. I felt everything you mentioned when he moved out. I can tell you that grandchildren in the future will be such a joy! Thanks for sharing this . ❤
Thank you Loretta!
Right there with you, sister! I've grieved so hard about the shoulda woulda couldas after my sons left home. Thank you for this video!❤
Thanks Julie!
Excellent video!I can relate.our daughter is now married & has teens of her own, but I remember when I started crying when she was in 8th grade about change. It IS hard, but new seasons come, & they are good too!
Thank you!
Congrats on over 50K subscribers! Dread/worry/guilt is all tied to anxiety. I'm sure you did more than the bare minimum with your kids and took good care of them. Whether dealing with anxiety or not, we're in survival mode when raising our children, trying to maintain the home, and possibly working too.
Thank you Jenny!
My favorite video from you yet.
Oh my goodness, thank you Abigail!
This has really resonated with me. My daughter is flying the nest in a few months time and I have been so down yet happy for her. Like you I have been living in the past and feeling so many regrets. Thank you for this reminder that we need to move on not look behind. Take care of yourself. Xx
Thank you Sylvia ❤️
I get the mom guilt part of letting go of kids who are becoming more autonomous by the day. When my first graduated high school I was reflecting that I really wish we could have done more with and for him. But when I strung up a line of photos for his grad party lots of that faded away into contentment. We weren’t/aren’t perfect parents and did not always have the resources for amazing experiences, but the overwhelming feeling was that this was good and enough and I’m so proud of him and excited for him.
Saying goodbye to him (and his sister a year later) at university very far from home was rough. The loving and letting go is a journey. I want to live and enjoy the present, too, and not be weighed down with the past or future.
Matthew 6:34 and Luke 12:22-31 are comforting reminders to me.
Thank you so much. And sending love to your mamas’ heart
Great video!!
Thanks Melissa
My youngest (18) just started college today. She got into a Summer Math Program. She’s on campus and rooming with her best friend. Plus, the campus is only 3.3 miles away! It’s SO weird having her room empty. Her cat misses her, too!!
So weird!
In Its All Too Much, Peter Walsh asks, are the good memories you expect to have only in the past?
We need to free ourselves to make new memories.
Oh my gosh, I love that
This is happening to me now. My son is a senior and I am having all these mixed emotions...mom guilt is coming in for me. I feel like I didnt do enough. I am sad. I am excited. So many emotions....I am having regret too. Geese I needed this video.
Ugh, it’s so hard!
Yeah I was going to say it sounded like you are going thru a bout of depression. I'm glad you are doing therapy. ❤
Thanks Diana ❤️
My oldest also just graduated and the mom-guilt hit me hard. As much as I understand that he's young-spirited , I wish I had fought harder to raise him to be more independent and more inline with his peers.
So true! Thanks Colleen
See it like a new chapter in your book of life. Embrace it 😊
Thank you! I am definitely trying to
@@MinimalistHome You have this! 💜💜💜
i am hanging on to the lost of Mom and Dad i lost them 6 months a part and it was heart breaking for me slowly getting back on to me life but it been hell for me to move on !
Absolutely, I'm so sorry for your loss Ellen
Veo que a pesar de que es muy fuerte lo que sientes, vas pudiendo pensarlo de forma muy positiva.
Claro que esto es a nivel intelectual. Lo emocional suele sobreponerse a veces.
Pero hacerlo consciente ya es un gran paso.
Lo que te sucede es normal. Así que ánimo!
Como tú dices, el presente es hermoso.
😘
Thank you so much laura ❤️
Thank you for making this video. I’ve been decluttering for 5 years now? And there’s some stuff that I haven’t touched from my past life with an ex and it’s hard to part with because it’s who I used to be and it cost money. And I don’t think I will repurchase in the future? Because it’s hard for me to fully trust another partner again and be as fully happy and open as I used to be.
Thank you for your honesty. Has anything shifted since you wrote this? Anything you’re able to either let go of or reclaim and use in this chapter of your life?
You were such a Beautiful child/girl ❣️🙃🫠🎀✨️🎉
Thank you!
I always tell moms yes they do leave home but they come back and bring more with them! We have raised our nine. It was very difficult to let each go. But we now have a total of 50 from the nine! Twenty five are grandchildren. Best part of our lives right now is our grand-babies. So hang in there.
Aww, thanks
Wow, you are amazing to raise all those children. MAy God bless you with many more happy years.💕
40+ Anniversaries!💕💖 Grandchildren! ❤
So lovely
Living in the now is the key to an amazing life.
Yes!
Girl I feel ya ! My eldest got married and moved across the USA last year - but that was easier than when she graduated and started college. Lol. So much anxiety back then. But the next kid was easier so there’s that. Now I’m a mother in law it’s a shift ya know ? Lol
That sounds nice Christi
I'm 42. My older son graduated 5 years ago already. I am starting to think ahead that my younger son is going in 7th grade :( I am guilty of living in the past. The majority of my music and concerts I go to are from my glory days in the 90s era [the late 90s especially]. Getting older is a tough one for me. I lost my dad in Nov and can't imagaine when my mom passes. My friends and I kind of refer to the Class of 1995- 2001 or so as Age Groupers. We are a special set. We were born in the analog era and came of age in the digital.
Love to you!
I experienced Mum Guilt - when my youngest started school at 5 years old.
Thank you Anna
TOOL reminds me of my teen years too
Man, they are so good. Going to see them in the fall! yay!
I only disagree with 1 thing --the beach is never boring ---Never never never 🐱😻
hahaha, I mean I like to walk there, but just not sit
I do not want to be that old lady that only speaks about the past.
EXACTLY! I totally agree
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be kind to yourself friend
Thank you Julie!