Who cares...at the end of the day, most men are self absorbed, selfish and will eventually will treat all women according to his true character anyway. So ladies, do and look like what feels good and natural to you!!! DO NOT try to please them. Be your authentic self at all times. Look how YOU WANT TO LOOK at all times. Period.
Children see beauty in a very different way. They see inner beauty, they see your aura. They don't sexualize, they are pure. Once I was having a bad day, I had been crying. I prayed and went to the Target 🎯 store. I was looking for an item in an isle, and a little boy came up to me out of nowhere and looked up at me and said "you are so beautiful!". He made me smile and I was so grateful because I was having such a bad day, and I was heartbroken. It was what I needed to hear to smile. I will never forget it. Kids don't see your bra size or your curves. They see your soul. Of course I am talking about normal kids.
I would like to add that if you’re a beautiful woman people are awestruck & stare for too long during conversations also everyone tryna talk to you about any random shit & hang on every word or strangers come up & wish you well for no reason at all
@@TheAstroAnalyst Yeah I gaslit myself for so long into believing pretty privilege was good and that I should seek it and flaunt my beauty. Finally have come up to the conclusion that pretty privilege is cool only up to a certain point. Stopped wearing makeup. Stopped wearing feminine clothing. Started wearing crocs and hoodies everywhere with a Janesport backpack. Just writing this made me realise I haven't caught anyone looking at me in a while. I used to dread going anywhere -literally anywhere- because of the amount of attention I would get. It used to make me cry, it was really bad. You get pretty privilege between 6 7 and 8. People are naturally (mostly) positively biased towards you, etc. If you're past that however and feel like you can't exist without being stared at everywhere you go, it becomes dangerous. I don't care who says the opposite. I've had strangers follow me and take pictures of me. Notice how really gorgeous girls never make videos about pretty privilege and enjoying it. Only 6,7,8s are doing it. Because 9+ are getting harassed over their beauty and trying to dim themselves down. I'm convinced 9+ are more miserable than 4s. At least 4s have friends and families that love them.
@@SaadetOZTRK Yea and no. For sure it happens more to the pretty ones however within the women’s realm, it happens to all women because we are just different and operate on different dynamics. Not only will a woman with low self esteem/ugly/unhealed/just mean will get triggered by a pretty girls looks, but other things we see as valuable as women like personality, friendships and the silliest stuff like your purse, your education, your genetics, new nail polish color, your shirt, etc. lol All of that causes triggers. Personally, I curate my circle (and life) and only closely associate with women similar to me however, it’s very hard to avoid at work where you’re exposed to people you wouldn’t naturally be friends with.
I was bullied in school and even college. I've never realized my beauty until mid twenties... others noticed that so they was always trying to humble me and put me down. People can't get neutral while interacting with me. Nowadays, I finally become who I am. Beautiful people have to love theirselves inside out, nurture the soul, the mind and body with Love, harmony and resilience.
Yeah your perception of yourself is the most important thing. Because others perceptions of you can be changed so you have to remain solid. And yeah depending on the type of people you are around they may want to keep you from shining in any regard. So be careful of the company you keep.
No other things matter. It’s just amongst the comfortable middle class and on social media. Elon isn’t worried about looking pretty. There are different spaces.
@cristinachaliandroi1369 Hillary Clinton* and the millions of women who aren’t concerned about that because they are moms and wives, church goers and career women. And they have other priorities. There are different spaces and communities within our society that you can choose to be apart of. But yes there is definitely a superficial part.
It is not superficial. It is natural. It only becomes a problem when people cannot look beyond it into the character of the person or when they allow themselves to be played because they got carried away with looks and never evaluated the actual human. I as a woman enjoy my good looks. Nobody will shame me for my beauty because I myself already enjoy what I see in the mirror looking back at me. I also love my intelligence so I consider myself as a whole. Plus, I already know that not everyone will find me attractive. Who cares...
Men are visual creatures…I respect that. You can tell a lot about a man’s character that looks good and can get any woman he wants that settles for an average looking woman. Sometimes her femininity outdo’s her looks.. and that’s more important to him
Yes for sure. Men who have options don’t value beauty as much. They know that it doesn’t mean much is she doesn’t treat him the way he wants to be treated.
I wouldnt say i am pretty. But i havs an east african feature which makss others exotic looking. Believe it or not, i have literally never been treated 'good' by a man in my entire life. They feel like my life is too good why bother treating her special . Most of my ex tried to ruin my life, slandered my name. My reputation was ruined. I never experienced pretty privilege whatever people talk about on tiktok all i recieved was wrath. Any men that dated me or talked to me had to make a point that they did. Whether it's sharing my private conversation or destroy me. They had to make a big slander of my name. Kind of sad.
Yesss, I have a ‘mixed’ look so my pretty privilege is heightened within my community even though I’m average. The hate you get from this is crazy fr, people hating on you and envying you for things they don’t have
@Rihannalover12 this is a mix of things though. In the black community there is often a negative feeling towards people who aren’t “fully black” so that may be adding to the negative responses you’re getting.
I think everything is about "Confidence", attitude, and how you carry yourself. There are some beautiful women with horrible attitudes. There are some Not so handsome men that are "Incredible", respectful, & caring. A beautiful personality goes a long way. Morals and values go a long way. Mutual respect for one another's feelings and goals go a long way. Beauty Fades and people change, so if your mating for superficial things. Goodluck!❤
Is she overly fashionable? Female 7s and 6s are the most stylish. The super attractive dress well enough. Some take the backwards American approach: my body is good so anything looks good lmao
Exactly, and especially because most beautiful are very confident in her looks (doesn't mean in other stuff too) so so she doesn't need to try to get attention, she already knows it.
This is very true. While I've always been very pretty I paid way more attention to what I wore a few years back before I really physically bloomed. I was really into fashion, and dressed better than most people in the rooms I walked in. Then my wardrobe became basic. I still had some extra stuff, but I felt I had no desire to wear them. I thought I was just mentally maturing at first, ageing, but it's actually too much if I try to dress up now. I end up looking like I tried way too hard. Whereas 5-6-7s will get the opportunity to wear crazy outfits and no one will bat an eye. I think it's cool that people can "balance" things with their clothes and makeup if they chose to.
The only demographic group of people calling me pretty are elderly ladies! 😂Men are really not into me, and I respect that. I had the 'Ugly duckling syndrome' almost my entire life, and it still haunts me sometimes, but I'm actually thankful that I had to learn the hard way to be selfsufficient and to live without male validation. But really interesting video, would love to see more about that topic
Preaciate it 🙏🏾 I have another video called “How Ugly, Average, Pretty And Beautiful Responded To Handsome Men” you might enjoy that one, that’s what kind of spurred this one. But yeah it’s honestly better to be self validated. Of course if you can have the best of both worlds that’s ideal but confidence is better than beauty
MJ made a video on this yeeeaaars ago. I feel like he perfectly described all the categories especially differentiating between he said an 8 and 10. He did the number scale.
Very interesting video. Your assessment is SPOT ON in my opinion, speaking as what most would consider a “pretty girl”. My general experience when it comes to people’s reaction towards my appearance is EXACTLY as you’ve described. I do often get very strong reactions when I dress up but on a regular basis I’m able to blend in without receiving overwhelming attention. Definitely prefer being able to play my looks up or down as I don’t often feel like I want to be spotlighted. Being the “pretty girl” may not be considered the peak of beauty standards. However, as you paraphrased, it has been my experience that women in this category do hold the most optionality when it comes to our pick of men. And THATS why we play the most games. 😇
Preciate the comment 🙏🏾 this is what I’ve seen to be the case with the pretty girls I know. And just observing people around me and seeing their reactions to certain women in certain situations. I’m glad the resonated with you.
Most models aren’t beautiful or even attractive they just have features that look good on camera. I know plenty of working female models personally who I don’t find attractive at all. Plus every single photo is edited.
For a majority of my life, I was “average” and even “ugly”, but once I started learning how to groom myself better (with my eyebrows, eyelashes, and skin) and learning how to do makeup, then I shifted over to the “pretty” category. I get a lot of love online, however it usually doesn’t translate over to real life, esp in high school. My eyebrows weren’t as good looking as they are now, which I feel like kind of bumps me down by a point 😂 I also didn’t wear makeup on a regular day to day basis. But even with light makeup, I still get compliments. I’ve been rated from 5-7 but each persons scale differed. I’d personally say that I’m a six out of ten (above average) or maybe even a 6.5, but I don’t really think I’m “average” anymore considering the fact that the average young American woman now isn’t really in the best shape. This is all just my opinion. But thanks for your insightful videos!
Preciate it 🙏🏾 and yeah there are a lot of variables that go into to it like I mentioned this was just my general take on it. But yeah as a 6/10 girl you’ll have a lot of options and with being feminine you’ll find someone who will be happy to have you. Cause like you said that is above average.
Wow, this is exactly my experience. I wasn’t the best groomer in high school but 4 years later I get a lot of attention because I invested some time into myself, finding what flatters my complexion, hair, etc. it’s a unique experience going from being overlooked to turning heads.
I am sad. Husband of 20 years left me for younger married woman. I thought we were happy but found out I was the bob the builder wife. Once he got his career established he traded up. I feel stupid. I was never in the pretty girl category. This depresses me. But he is correct as I have been treated like exactly what he said over the years by men and how they deal with pretty and ugly women. I am not the Victoria secret model type and I’m not the voluptuous boob hanging out type either. Now I’m old and have no options. I guess this is something i have to accept. It hurts but even on my best day I can’t look like these skinny Filipino and Asian woman these men prefer.
Sorry to hear that… As a woman though, you’ll always have options. Workout, eat right, and present yourself well and you will have some men interested. Presentation is like 80% of it for women. I hope this gives you some hope!
Its soo funny how they think about woman while they themselves arent even average 😂😂 u see many unattractive man with pretty girls yet woman never complain.
@Sotori I guess but women asked me to make this video. And I’m not I’m judging based on experiences. People want to know where they stand because unfortunately it matters in dating and will give them context on how to approach dating. And I give dating advice. I didn’t say anything that wasn’t objective or was attacking anyone. Read the comments some of the other women literally appreciated the fact that I was able to do this in a way that wasn’t mean spirited because I’m not.
@MarvOverMatter its true physical appearance is very important now days but we shouldnt pay to much attention on that...also honestly every person knows how good-looking they are if they just look in the mirror and its confidence that enhances the natural beauty within u....but I understand that u just wanna to help and u are just being honest.
I have a Levels of Attractiveness video for men. But ugly and average men don’t need a video because it’s not as confusing for them. They will know because women will show them little to no interest at all. But women will still get specifically sexual interest from even attractive men regardless and unless they are aware of that they may be fooled into thinking they are attractive. Which is dangerously because they won’t realize that they’re just being used for sex and these guys they want won’t take them seriously in terms of a relationship. And hopefully with that info they look for other markers of interest not just sexual ones to determine if a guy actually likes them.
Great pivot in content. You’ll do well on TH-cam. You are concise and your tone is very comforting. I appreciate that you analyze topics from the lense of attractiveness. Perhaps you may want to expand your topics beyond the dating sphere and into social, occupational, psychological spheres e.g developing authentic & fulfilling friendships, surviving workplace drama, becoming an influencer, managing inner & outer jealousy, etc.
I really appreciate that 🙏🏾 And I’ve been contemplating that very idea. I wasn’t sure if I should start a new page for that or if it would be received well by my core audience. But this is looking like a sign lol thank you!
The video is excellent. You’ve explained things very well. I can’t believe how exceptionally well you’ve explained things that I have experienced through the years. And you’ve been able to condense them in a 21-minute video. Wow. Bravo! That being said, how do I know if guys compliments are genuine? Because I see photos of myself and I see flaws, but then guys compliment me a lot. I think that compliments are meaningless and men will compliment any woman just to get in her pants. Also, this is gonna be unpopular and you won’t like it, but men lose a percentage of attraction the minute you reciprocate them
Wow I really appreciate that 🙏🏾 As far as seeing flaws in pictures, pictures aren’t a reliable depiction of how you actually look. Because there are so many variable that affect how a picture turns out. You can look different in 4 different pictures. This is why rating someone from a picture doesn’t make sense the lens’s the distance the angle the lighting all matters. The eyes see things differently than cameras do so you can never really know what you look like in my opinion. With the compliments you can’t really know if they are genuine but consistency of compliments over all especially if the compliments are generally the same that’s a sign. If those same compliments come from women as well. But just because a man compliments you even if he means it it doesn’t mean he wants to be with you initially the only genuine interest a man can have in you is sex because he doesn’t know anything else about you to want anything more with you. And men feel the same way about reciprocating interest. I guess it’s just human nature. But I’m not sure if it’s a loss of attraction as much as response the an increase attainability. They become a bit more confident and less afraid of rejection the playing field becomes a bit more even so the power dynamic shifts a bit. I hope this was helpful!
@ how did you learn all of this stuff? I’m a woman in her 20s and I’ve learned more from your videos than I have ever learned from videos specifically targeted to women. I found the answers I was looking for. Unbelievable. I’ve shared some of your videos with my female friends. I say “unbelievable” because you presented things so well! Can you make a video for women on how to differentiate a guy who really wants an LTR from a guy who is just manipulating you to have seggs? (I’m misspelling it on purpose) Because other women’s advice tend to be trash since they believe that life is a Disney movie. Some guys genuinely future fake, date, act like they want your children, and then disappear once they get what they want. Luckily, I’m unattracted to most men (I can’t help it), so I just reject them before they even try their games
@SvetlanaKaff-p9k I appreciate that for real 🙏🏾 Thats my goal to help people understand what’s actually happening below the surface so they can move appropriately. I learned through experience, observing, watching content, analyzing situations I’ve gone through comparing them to other peoples experiences, having conversations with men and women. I’ve learned in quite a few ways tbh. And yeah I can do a video on that. I’m going to start a channel for women though because I want to give the men who have supported me from the beginning a space to have their own community. But I’ll definitely get to it.
@ thank you! Well, you have a gift. You are very eloquent and you explain things exceptionally well. And I’m not being a creep. I’ll keep watching your videos
I have been told that I’m pretty all my life by various people of all ages but I date men based more on character than looks. I feel that I have tended to date more average looking guys than good looking ones because it seems some of the good looking ones bring too much drama, or feel they are so good looking they seem entitled to sex and for me that is a turn off. Like I said for me it’s more about character of the person.
@@Jewelz87 oh please! Wake up. There’s someone for everyone or there’s a lie for every pot are stupjd platitudes. Reality is different. Also, saying that there are 7 billion people is a fallacy. Certain traits are ugly universally.
There was a girl who was melted by me she was uncontrollably attracted to me and she rejected me she bragged about me to her fem co workers but when i acted cool and unbothered she wasnt happy about it.
The friend group thing doesn’t work like that in the south. You could be a beautiful, stacked brown or darker skinned girl and the guys will still go for the less attractive lighter skinned girl. She could also be 300 lbs and bad built. Skin tone is what matters
It sounds like that’s may have been your experience but I promise that’s not the rule. It would not be based strictly on skin color generally. Skin tone definitely matters I’m not denying that. But if the darker skinned girl is actually attractive and if the lightskin is 300lbs and bad built like in your scenario that’s unusual. I don’t know where you live or the other variables but that’s not something I’ve seen.
@@MarvOverMatter I’m not saying that it’s always the case of the girl being 300 lbs and bad built being chosen, but I have seen it where I’m from quite a few times. Light skin is just valued more where I’m from. I’ve seen it even more, light skinned and less attractive or unattractive being chosen over some beautiful brown and darker toned women. In other parts of the country I’ve seen exactly what you were saying in this video.
@@VS-yi8eo Oh ok yeah it might be the environment you’re in. Thats unfortunate and silly really but people like what they like. You can relocate to somewhere you’ll be more excepted or hopefully you can come across at least a few who prefer your type. But yeah sometimes the dating pool you’re in just sucks.
@@MarvOverMatter oh I don’t live there anymore. I get more than enough attention where I live now, mostly unwanted attention, even back home I got lots of attention from guys and was lots of guys crush, still am. I’m not really focused on dating right now, just found the topic interesting and wanted to add some input.
I think one more thing to consider is the cultural environments, so for example in America, people are way more overt and forward with compliments and approaching all the time compared to some European countries that are reserved, like Czech Republic or Finland etc. - you can be very beautiful there but you won't get as much forward attention due to the social culture of people usually avoiding strangers. Approaching strangers or commenting on them is a no-no most of the time.
Yeah that makes sense for sure. I don’t have the experience there I’m referring to here in America but yes what you’re saying makes complete sense and I’ve heard that before from a Swedish girl specifically.
This reminds me of a funny situation from a steam room. A random man who couldn't clearly see my face, but could see my body when I entered the room, called me beautiful. I laughed and asked how he could tell if he couldn't see my face. Now I know how 😅
I consider myself average but good looking. Everywhere I go I get compliments on how gorgeous I look(even when I dress down). Ngl at times I get 3 compliments a day(even from strangers) on how beautiful I`am. Sometimes it`s even overwhelming for me to reply to compliments...But I realized 90% of the compliments I get are mostly from average looking women, so sometimes I think maybe I´m just "girl pretty".Would you say that there is a difference between "girl pretty" and "guy pretty" and do they have the same value?. Also I dont really get that much attention from attractive guys.. one of my male friends who is average looking told me that a give out reserved vibes so thats why guys dont approach me, but he also told me that I am attractive. But I also have to add that my body is on the heavier so side so maybe thats the reason. honestly I dont know I´m just confused
There are a lot of variables that could affect why guys are not complimenting you. But yes I think there is a girl pretty, from what I’ve seen it’s usually less sexual and there’s a more youthful aspect to it. And yeah being heavier depending on the shape will affect how guys react to you for sure. Even more so depending on your race and the race of men that you are around. And the thing about friends is they may say things to spare your feelings so you kind of have to go off of your experiences with strangers when it comes to dating.
This is very informative. I always characterize myself as “pretty” but since I got my body done. Omg it’s even worse. I get compliments from women men kids lol. It’s crazy you’re sooooo right I have to dress down alllllllll the time! 😂 but I also live in Houston. Baby it’s nothing but competition here. lol 😂
My life is the last category. It’s been my experience forever and I’m in my 30s and it’s still my experience. I think I’m average/pretty. I think any woman can have these things if they just present themselves in a confident way and act appreciative of the things men do for you but create boundaries to keep users away. It’s not just looks it’s how you carry yourself.
I think from my observation in real life, beauty and preferences are subjective. A lot of guys like women with pretty beautiful faces, clear skin, pretty hair and healthy in shape toned slim women, and some guys like tall women that look like models. Also it depends on the demographics, and location of where the men and women are. Lots of average regular guys are with average looking women and a few of them with sexy or pretty women. Some guys, not that many like large women or morbidly obese women, and those men are far and few who like overweight women. And keep in mind, what you call cute or pretty may not be to other people. I don't think it's fair that you generalize men that they will be just fine with bedding down any random women who might have a decent body but a regular or ugly face, not every man want that either. A woman's face is the first thing we see, and lots of men want the face and body to match, or at least have a nice decent pretty face and decent body.
I’m not generalizing it there are studies to prove it. In a long term relationship the face matters more but in short term sexual interactions men prioritize the body. Theres a lot of hooking up in our culture. So it’s quite common for me to be interested in women because of their bodies.
@MarvOverMatter Ok I understand, sorry I misread your comment. To me when it comes to studies, I take it with a grain of salt, it's limited info. Reality is more different and nuanced when it comes to sexuality. I get the part about the physical body appearance but again irl men have different body preferences as well. I've seen women who are very skinny, with small boobs, small booty and they hook up with good looking guys, and large overweight women and some are very curvy women hook up, there's various ranges of body types of women that hookup with guys. And some very attractive pretty or beautiful women with pretty faces hookup with guys too, so to me there's variety of different types and different looking people that hooked up with someone at least once. But not everyone engaged in hookup culture, to me hookup culture is trash and disgusting, it's harmful to both men and women, but it affects women more in a negative manner. Nothing good comes from hookup culture, this is why STDs and incurable viruses are on the rise now. Another downfall is when people get addicted to hookup culture with strangers, it destroys the ability to pair bond with future potential mates for long term relationships and marriages. Also some people who are promiscuous have those same problems and worse mental health problems. I believe hookup culture is vile and people who constantly engage in it, keep collecting and storing different soul ties and unwanted attachments that causes later in life depression and other mental disorders. On a spiritual level it's destructive and diseased.
@@novagalaxy342 Yeah no problem. I agree real life is more important than studies for sure. That’s why I mentioned in the video it’s hard to tell if you’re attractive or not as a woman because not all but some guys will sleep with just about any girl given the right circumstances. So seeing it in real life makes sense. But there is a big difference between who guys WILL sleep with and who they PREFER to sleep with. Most men just don’t have the option to choose. Now as far as your thoughts about hookup culture, I can’t say you’re wrong.
idk where i fit into but a lot of men fetishize me and also most of my exes always got uncomfortable when men would check me out. i’ve always been accused of cheating when im not that person.im also dark skinned and slim. my exes always ended up jealous and hateful towards me too. i have men project onto me a lot
Do you present yourself in a sexual way, like the way you dress, being flirty/friendly to men, doing things that garner the sexual attention of other men?
Nahh if ur a beautiful woman, women will still hate on you! I personally have dealt with this. In my opinion if ur a beautiful woman who is popular other women will respect u but low key be jealous of u so I can see what u mean. I feel like beautiful women who are popular get a lot of fake love from females. Ain’t no way u not jealous of someone who looks damn near perfect. But if ur not well known alot of girls don’t know u they definitely will be more blatantly mean to u. Plus if they get a vibe that ur arrogant it’s a wrap. I think if ur pretty or beautiful and u show off a lot then you’ll be faced with more jealously cuz then now u look sexy which signals competition for male attention to other women. If yr pretty and modest u ain’t gone get that much hate.
Yeah I agree when the woman is sexy she gets more hate and jealousy. When she’s beautiful and feminine and elegant she gets admirations from other women
I feel that women wouldn’t choose a man who’s more attractive than she is. Same for a man; he shouldn’t be the prettier of the two. Looks and personality are what I look for. Women are visual too, but might prioritize other things.
@ Numbers are relative opinions. Just sayn I look in the mirror and know what’s prettier than me. A 10 to me might be a 7 to someone else, and she’ll probably drop the more I see her.
I have to disagree on this one. A woman will definitely choose a man that looks better than her especially if it’s just casual. For a long term relationship they may be more hesitant but that still happens quite often. I will say this is more prevalent in younger women.
I’m not gonna lie from my experiences if I even count myself as attractive, people tend to ignore you, but are very receptive to you once you approach them. Girls never overtly express jealousy but it’s more in a way they express it through social cues and body language. In terms of dating men put you on a unrealistic pedestal which has led to downfalls of many relationships/talking stages. Men have tend to be very expressive with telling me they’re obsessed with me and tend to do a lot for you/is on their best behaviour even if they have generally been bad partners to previous women. But on the other side of the coin a lot of men have generally been nasty to me in terms of dating(even if they like you) and self sabotage the connection due to probably insecurities, for example they’ve assumed I’ve been talking to other men when I never have and have expressed I’m only into them. So they generally reject you before you reject them in a weird way.
So I mean in the initial interactions men are going to be generally nice. Once they know you and start dating you especially after sex the beauty loses its full effect and then men are going to respond to what’s actually happening, or what they perceive to be happening. With getting ignored that’s going to depend on different variables. It’s been pointed out to me that different cultures or regions have different social customs and sometimes approaching a random person isn’t apart of those customs. The way you dress has something to do with it, if you have RBF etc… But overall a beautiful woman’s initial interactions are going to be more pleasant more often than most of the other women’s.
@ I think the way I dress quite quirky probably affects it, women are more likely to be very nice(they are nice in general + giving)if I dress that way. Men only approach me strictly if I’m with another woman. I’ve had guys say to me they thought I was out of their league so I generally think that’s why I don’t get approached at all😂If I get the confidence to approach as I’m a shy girl, they get really nervous or pretend to be confident/showing off.
@Backbite124 Yeah I mean that can be the case too. Especially if you’re amongst the general public beautiful women are going to be more rare. If you’re dealing with “higher class” men I’d assume they’d be less aw struck by your looks.
In all honesty it’s very tough. I’m referring to natural beauty but in reality what matters is the reaction she gets from the world regardless of how she got there. A woman can be made to be artificially beautiful. Now a good amount of men don’t consider that beautiful but a bbl or breast implants, for example, are sexually attractive to a lot of men so these women will get the similar treatment.
I agree with this. 💯 Cause I’m thinking of beautiful feminine and elegant/classy. Not highly sexually attractive that’s more like sexy than beautiful in my opinion.
Just wondering if being baby faced (looking 14 y/o) will impact my attractiveness level? I am 25 and get approached a lot in clubs where I wear makeup to look older and I'm offered drinks by decent looking men, but outside of the club I never get approached with my guy friends saying I'm pretty but look really young when they first met me they thought I was a minor. An example would be actress Jenna Ortega who also looks really young but is pretty.
It seems like in the club guys just feel safer because you’ve been carded. But also alcohol is involved so there less inhibition. Being young looking in the face is generally not an issue though men are attracted to youth, however if your body also looks like a teenagers then that would be less attractive to most men because there would be no markers of maturity specifically sexual maturity.
Don’t listen to this asshole anybody type is beautiful obviously not fat but skinnny is definitely where it is Espically if you tall slim their no such thing as a teenager body he literally cappin if it was then all guys who are althetic fit and skinnny have a teenager body to huh ? 😂this man is biased af
It’s science. Also I said nothing about being skinny. I said a teenage body but I meant a body where there are no markers of sexual maturity. Large woman can have no markers of sexual maturity as well. A woman doesn’t NEED them but it is definitely considered more attractive for a woman to have move developed body by most men. Especially when talking about the size of the waist in proportion to the hips. You’ll find men who like all bodies though. But given a choice most men would choose a woman whose body looks more sexually matured all other things being equal. There’s a name for guys who PREFER prepubescent looking bodies.
@genovasquez8361 Take her to a hole in the wall that serves good food or better yet the worst ethnic restaurant in town with delicious food. Someone will delusions of grandeur will go emo
I would yes in certain situations… say if she has a really pretty face but maybe a not so attractive body then yes she could improve her physique. Or if she’s beautiful but doesn’t present herself well like has poor hygiene or something drastic like that but then fixes those issues… But other than that I can’t think of another scenario off the top of my head. I guess you could get surgeries but I’m talking about natural beauty.
What might I be considered if I have a cute face (7 maybe with makeup) but I’m tall with apple shape ( I have a wide upper body, bigger boobs but my legs are long and skinny and no butt/curves)?
I can’t tell you that because it’s a preference thing. What I can say though is that if your waist width is 70% of your hip width then you have the ideal figure to majority of men. Thats something that’s been studied in psychology, and we can see it play out in real life. Breast size is more subjective some guys like big some like small and some don’t care about them same with butt size. But the hip to waist ratio matters. I hope this helps!
I love average women because they usually have 1 or 2 features I like and you usually do not have to guess if they’re feeling you or not. They’re either wit it or not (playing games, hard to get etc)
Meh.. I am a mixed bag, but I haven’t experienced the “unattractive” treatment in a very long time, probably before my adolescence. I usually get stared at when I am dressed down and no make up on. I try to keep my appearance natural-like nowadays, my body makes up for everything else, ngl. 🤷🏿♀️.
I have a mirror to tell me whats up. But not a store mirror, those are rigged lmao. Honestly though, how can one determine if they're beautiful or not. I am for some, but not for others if they're into tall women, or blondes, or blue eyes, or big boobs. Its kinda relative.
I would determine by the amount of cross over you get. So the more different types (race, age, attractiveness levels etc..) find you attractive then the more attractive you are by default. Of course there are other factors but that’s a good start.
I still question my looks I started going to the gym in September I wear my real hair no makeup & I had 26 different men ask me out on dates but women rarely pay me that much attention. Only mostly older women & younger girls are nice to me not so much women close to my age . It was like only men seen me attractive but women called me ugly or pay me no mind if we’re close in age & I see all my friends As pretty and I still get hit on when I’m with them even if I’m with my pretty friends with the pretty face & nice body.
Based on what you’re saying you probably have more of a sexual appeal. So women aren’t going to notice because they aren’t looking for those things in other women the way men are.
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Who cares...at the end of the day, most men are self absorbed, selfish and will eventually will treat all women according to his true character anyway. So ladies, do and look like what feels good and natural to you!!! DO NOT try to please them. Be your authentic self at all times. Look how YOU WANT TO LOOK at all times. Period.
This!! ^
❤ Yesss 👍
Very attractive women experience differently and prefer wanting to please her man, which is more feminine.
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@@stephanie3506 the attitude good men shy from
If kids and teens call you pretty thats how you know
Especially kids! Lol
That’s true.
Children see beauty in a very different way. They see inner beauty, they see your aura. They don't sexualize, they are pure. Once I was having a bad day, I had been crying. I prayed and went to the Target 🎯 store. I was looking for an item in an isle, and a little boy came up to me out of nowhere and looked up at me and said "you are so beautiful!". He made me smile and I was so grateful because I was having such a bad day, and I was heartbroken. It was what I needed to hear to smile. I will never forget it. Kids don't see your bra size or your curves. They see your soul. Of course I am talking about normal kids.
As a teacher, I whole heartedly agree.
@ Okay, but tell us why then.
I would like to add that if you’re a beautiful woman people are awestruck & stare for too long during conversations also everyone tryna talk to you about any random shit & hang on every word or strangers come up & wish you well for no reason at all
Yup I absolutely hate being stared at too because I feel like I’m always being watched when I’m in public , it’s an uneasy unsafe feeling for women
@@TheAstroAnalyst Yeah I gaslit myself for so long into believing pretty privilege was good and that I should seek it and flaunt my beauty. Finally have come up to the conclusion that pretty privilege is cool only up to a certain point. Stopped wearing makeup. Stopped wearing feminine clothing. Started wearing crocs and hoodies everywhere with a Janesport backpack. Just writing this made me realise I haven't caught anyone looking at me in a while. I used to dread going anywhere -literally anywhere- because of the amount of attention I would get. It used to make me cry, it was really bad.
You get pretty privilege between 6 7 and 8. People are naturally (mostly) positively biased towards you, etc. If you're past that however and feel like you can't exist without being stared at everywhere you go, it becomes dangerous. I don't care who says the opposite. I've had strangers follow me and take pictures of me. Notice how really gorgeous girls never make videos about pretty privilege and enjoying it. Only 6,7,8s are doing it. Because 9+ are getting harassed over their beauty and trying to dim themselves down. I'm convinced 9+ are more miserable than 4s. At least 4s have friends and families that love them.
you are wrong on "jealousy" stuff. women get jealous of average women as well as gorgeous women, it depends on so many other factors as well
Completely agree with you!
Everybody deals with jealousy, but I’ve seen it more with pretty girls in regard to the attention they get.
@@SaadetOZTRK Yea and no. For sure it happens more to the pretty ones however within the women’s realm, it happens to all women because we are just different and operate on different dynamics. Not only will a woman with low self esteem/ugly/unhealed/just mean will get triggered by a pretty girls looks, but other things we see as valuable as women like personality, friendships and the silliest stuff like your purse, your education, your genetics, new nail polish color, your shirt, etc. lol All of that causes triggers. Personally, I curate my circle (and life) and only closely associate with women similar to me however, it’s very hard to avoid at work where you’re exposed to people you wouldn’t naturally be friends with.
I was bullied in school and even college. I've never realized my beauty until mid twenties... others noticed that so they was always trying to humble me and put me down. People can't get neutral while interacting with me.
Nowadays, I finally become who I am. Beautiful people have to love theirselves inside out, nurture the soul, the mind and body with Love, harmony and resilience.
A good heart is also something people will envy and try to destroy, so you cannot shine!
Yeah your perception of yourself is the most important thing. Because others perceptions of you can be changed so you have to remain solid. And yeah depending on the type of people you are around they may want to keep you from shining in any regard. So be careful of the company you keep.
Superficial society only appearance matters😕
No other things matter. It’s just amongst the comfortable middle class and on social media. Elon isn’t worried about looking pretty. There are different spaces.
@MarvOverMatter but we re talking about women now
@cristinachaliandroi1369 Hillary Clinton* and the millions of women who aren’t concerned about that because they are moms and wives, church goers and career women. And they have other priorities. There are different spaces and communities within our society that you can choose to be apart of. But yes there is definitely a superficial part.
It is not superficial. It is natural. It only becomes a problem when people cannot look beyond it into the character of the person or when they allow themselves to be played because they got carried away with looks and never evaluated the actual human. I as a woman enjoy my good looks. Nobody will shame me for my beauty because I myself already enjoy what I see in the mirror looking back at me. I also love my intelligence so I consider myself as a whole. Plus, I already know that not everyone will find me attractive. Who cares...
I always wondered where I fit. Based on this video, I think I’m somewhere in between pretty and beautiful. This was really informative! Thank you!
Preciate it 🙏🏾 and you’re welcome!
Men are visual creatures…I respect that. You can tell a lot about a man’s character that looks good and can get any woman he wants that settles for an average looking woman. Sometimes her femininity outdo’s her looks.. and that’s more important to him
Yes for sure. Men who have options don’t value beauty as much. They know that it doesn’t mean much is she doesn’t treat him the way he wants to be treated.
I wouldnt say i am pretty. But i havs an east african feature which makss others exotic looking. Believe it or not, i have literally never been treated 'good' by a man in my entire life. They feel like my life is too good why bother treating her special . Most of my ex tried to ruin my life, slandered my name. My reputation was ruined. I never experienced pretty privilege whatever people talk about on tiktok all i recieved was wrath. Any men that dated me or talked to me had to make a point that they did. Whether it's sharing my private conversation or destroy me. They had to make a big slander of my name. Kind of sad.
Yesss, I have a ‘mixed’ look so my pretty privilege is heightened within my community even though I’m average. The hate you get from this is crazy fr, people hating on you and envying you for things they don’t have
@Rihannalover12 this is a mix of things though. In the black community there is often a negative feeling towards people who aren’t “fully black” so that may be adding to the negative responses you’re getting.
I think everything is about "Confidence", attitude, and how you carry yourself. There are some beautiful women with horrible attitudes. There are some Not so handsome men that are "Incredible", respectful, & caring. A beautiful personality goes a long way. Morals and values go a long way. Mutual respect for one another's feelings and goals go a long way. Beauty Fades and people change, so if your mating for superficial things. Goodluck!❤
Everything plays a role.
Is she overly fashionable? Female 7s and 6s are the most stylish. The super attractive dress well enough. Some take the backwards American approach: my body is good so anything looks good lmao
Exactly, and especially because most beautiful are very confident in her looks (doesn't mean in other stuff too) so so she doesn't need to try to get attention, she already knows it.
This is very true. While I've always been very pretty I paid way more attention to what I wore a few years back before I really physically bloomed. I was really into fashion, and dressed better than most people in the rooms I walked in. Then my wardrobe became basic. I still had some extra stuff, but I felt I had no desire to wear them. I thought I was just mentally maturing at first, ageing, but it's actually too much if I try to dress up now. I end up looking like I tried way too hard. Whereas 5-6-7s will get the opportunity to wear crazy outfits and no one will bat an eye. I think it's cool that people can "balance" things with their clothes and makeup if they chose to.
The only demographic group of people calling me pretty are elderly ladies! 😂Men are really not into me, and I respect that. I had the 'Ugly duckling syndrome' almost my entire life, and it still haunts me sometimes, but I'm actually thankful that I had to learn the hard way to be selfsufficient and to live without male validation. But really interesting video, would love to see more about that topic
Preaciate it 🙏🏾 I have another video called “How Ugly, Average, Pretty And Beautiful Responded To Handsome Men” you might enjoy that one, that’s what kind of spurred this one. But yeah it’s honestly better to be self validated. Of course if you can have the best of both worlds that’s ideal but confidence is better than beauty
MJ made a video on this yeeeaaars ago. I feel like he perfectly described all the categories especially differentiating between he said an 8 and 10. He did the number scale.
Very interesting video. Your assessment is SPOT ON in my opinion, speaking as what most would consider a “pretty girl”. My general experience when it comes to people’s reaction towards my appearance is EXACTLY as you’ve described. I do often get very strong reactions when I dress up but on a regular basis I’m able to blend in without receiving overwhelming attention. Definitely prefer being able to play my looks up or down as I don’t often feel like I want to be spotlighted. Being the “pretty girl” may not be considered the peak of beauty standards. However, as you paraphrased, it has been my experience that women in this category do hold the most optionality when it comes to our pick of men. And THATS why we play the most games. 😇
Preciate the comment 🙏🏾 this is what I’ve seen to be the case with the pretty girls I know. And just observing people around me and seeing their reactions to certain women in certain situations. I’m glad the resonated with you.
But even most models don’t look like models when they dress down
Most models aren’t beautiful or even attractive they just have features that look good on camera. I know plenty of working female models personally who I don’t find attractive at all. Plus every single photo is edited.
@ you are right, but even the most beautiful women get approached when they are dolled up and they kind of fly under the radar when they are not
For a majority of my life, I was “average” and even “ugly”, but once I started learning how to groom myself better (with my eyebrows, eyelashes, and skin) and learning how to do makeup, then I shifted over to the “pretty” category. I get a lot of love online, however it usually doesn’t translate over to real life, esp in high school. My eyebrows weren’t as good looking as they are now, which I feel like kind of bumps me down by a point 😂 I also didn’t wear makeup on a regular day to day basis. But even with light makeup, I still get compliments. I’ve been rated from 5-7 but each persons scale differed. I’d personally say that I’m a six out of ten (above average) or maybe even a 6.5, but I don’t really think I’m “average” anymore considering the fact that the average young American woman now isn’t really in the best shape. This is all just my opinion. But thanks for your insightful videos!
Preciate it 🙏🏾 and yeah there are a lot of variables that go into to it like I mentioned this was just my general take on it. But yeah as a 6/10 girl you’ll have a lot of options and with being feminine you’ll find someone who will be happy to have you. Cause like you said that is above average.
Wow, this is exactly my experience. I wasn’t the best groomer in high school but 4 years later I get a lot of attention because I invested some time into myself, finding what flatters my complexion, hair, etc. it’s a unique experience going from being overlooked to turning heads.
It’s true that woman appreciate beauty in woman. Like wow God, you did that
That’s what I’ve seen.
I am sad. Husband of 20 years left me for younger married woman. I thought we were happy but found out I was the bob the builder wife. Once he got his career established he traded up. I feel stupid. I was never in the pretty girl category. This depresses me. But he is correct as I have been treated like exactly what he said over the years by men and how they deal with pretty and ugly women. I am not the Victoria secret model type and I’m not the voluptuous boob hanging out type either. Now I’m old and have no options. I guess this is something i have to accept. It hurts but even on my best day I can’t look like these skinny Filipino and Asian woman these men prefer.
Sorry to hear that… As a woman though, you’ll always have options. Workout, eat right, and present yourself well and you will have some men interested. Presentation is like 80% of it for women.
I hope this gives you some hope!
That’s wild so he “upgraded” to a woman who was already married to another man and likely had kids already lol
I feel like your just talking about black men here because i mostly see this type of thinking in black males
Which part?
Its soo funny how they think about woman while they themselves arent even average 😂😂 u see many unattractive man with pretty girls yet woman never complain.
Who’s complaining about anything?
@MarvOverMatter judging others based on appearance "ugly, average...." thats so lame and superficial.
@Sotori I guess but women asked me to make this video. And I’m not I’m judging based on experiences. People want to know where they stand because unfortunately it matters in dating and will give them context on how to approach dating. And I give dating advice. I didn’t say anything that wasn’t objective or was attacking anyone. Read the comments some of the other women literally appreciated the fact that I was able to do this in a way that wasn’t mean spirited because I’m not.
@MarvOverMatter its true physical appearance is very important now days but we shouldnt pay to much attention on that...also honestly every person knows how good-looking they are if they just look in the mirror and its confidence that enhances the natural beauty within u....but I understand that u just wanna to help and u are just being honest.
Like the guy in this video?
Why don't you do one for ugly, average, cute and beautiful men?
I have a Levels of Attractiveness video for men. But ugly and average men don’t need a video because it’s not as confusing for them. They will know because women will show them little to no interest at all. But women will still get specifically sexual interest from even attractive men regardless and unless they are aware of that they may be fooled into thinking they are attractive. Which is dangerously because they won’t realize that they’re just being used for sex and these guys they want won’t take them seriously in terms of a relationship. And hopefully with that info they look for other markers of interest not just sexual ones to determine if a guy actually likes them.
Great pivot in content. You’ll do well on TH-cam. You are concise and your tone is very comforting. I appreciate that you analyze topics from the lense of attractiveness. Perhaps you may want to expand your topics beyond the dating sphere and into social, occupational, psychological spheres e.g developing authentic & fulfilling friendships, surviving workplace drama, becoming an influencer, managing inner & outer jealousy, etc.
I really appreciate that 🙏🏾 And I’ve been contemplating that very idea. I wasn’t sure if I should start a new page for that or if it would be received well by my core audience. But this is looking like a sign lol thank you!
Interesting. It explains why women gas each other up so much about a pretty face but just don’t get the results they expect.
The video is excellent. You’ve explained things very well. I can’t believe how exceptionally well you’ve explained things that I have experienced through the years. And you’ve been able to condense them in a 21-minute video. Wow. Bravo!
That being said, how do I know if guys compliments are genuine? Because I see photos of myself and I see flaws, but then guys compliment me a lot. I think that compliments are meaningless and men will compliment any woman just to get in her pants.
Also, this is gonna be unpopular and you won’t like it, but men lose a percentage of attraction the minute you reciprocate them
Wow I really appreciate that 🙏🏾 As far as seeing flaws in pictures, pictures aren’t a reliable depiction of how you actually look. Because there are so many variable that affect how a picture turns out. You can look different in 4 different pictures. This is why rating someone from a picture doesn’t make sense the lens’s the distance the angle the lighting all matters. The eyes see things differently than cameras do so you can never really know what you look like in my opinion.
With the compliments you can’t really know if they are genuine but consistency of compliments over all especially if the compliments are generally the same that’s a sign. If those same compliments come from women as well. But just because a man compliments you even if he means it it doesn’t mean he wants to be with you initially the only genuine interest a man can have in you is sex because he doesn’t know anything else about you to want anything more with you.
And men feel the same way about reciprocating interest. I guess it’s just human nature. But I’m not sure if it’s a loss of attraction as much as response the an increase attainability. They become a bit more confident and less afraid of rejection the playing field becomes a bit more even so the power dynamic shifts a bit.
I hope this was helpful!
@ how did you learn all of this stuff? I’m a woman in her 20s and I’ve learned more from your videos than I have ever learned from videos specifically targeted to women. I found the answers I was looking for. Unbelievable. I’ve shared some of your videos with my female friends. I say “unbelievable” because you presented things so well!
Can you make a video for women on how to differentiate a guy who really wants an LTR from a guy who is just manipulating you to have seggs? (I’m misspelling it on purpose) Because other women’s advice tend to be trash since they believe that life is a Disney movie. Some guys genuinely future fake, date, act like they want your children, and then disappear once they get what they want. Luckily, I’m unattracted to most men (I can’t help it), so I just reject them before they even try their games
@SvetlanaKaff-p9k I appreciate that for real 🙏🏾 Thats my goal to help people understand what’s actually happening below the surface so they can move appropriately. I learned through experience, observing, watching content, analyzing situations I’ve gone through comparing them to other peoples experiences, having conversations with men and women. I’ve learned in quite a few ways tbh.
And yeah I can do a video on that. I’m going to start a channel for women though because I want to give the men who have supported me from the beginning a space to have their own community. But I’ll definitely get to it.
@ thank you! Well, you have a gift. You are very eloquent and you explain things exceptionally well. And I’m not being a creep. I’ll keep watching your videos
I have been told that I’m pretty all my life by various people of all ages but I date men based more on character than looks. I feel that I have tended to date more average looking guys than good looking ones because it seems some of the good looking ones bring too much drama, or feel they are so good looking they seem entitled to sex and for me that is a turn off. Like I said for me it’s more about character of the person.
Thanks for making this video without having the need to be unnecessarily offensive. Reminder - I need to get back to the gym lol
No problem. There was no reason to be it’s meant to be informative not demoralizing. And yeah that’s never a bad thing.
@@MarvOverMatter 🙏✨
Meh. I’m ALL of these to someone . 😂
I always say one person may find me ugly af and another wants to eat me up. So don’t stress how you look, people!
Good mentality to have. Only worry about the ones that like you!
100%
No, this is not true. There is a degree of objectivity in beauty and ugliness
@@SvetlanaKaff-p9k how so? On a planet with more than 7 billion people there’s someone for everyone.
@@Jewelz87 oh please! Wake up. There’s someone for everyone or there’s a lie for every pot are stupjd platitudes. Reality is different. Also, saying that there are 7 billion people is a fallacy. Certain traits are ugly universally.
You get rejected more if you're attractive
People want to humble you, that’s why!
There was a girl who was melted by me she was uncontrollably attracted to me and she rejected me she bragged about me to her fem co workers but when i acted cool and unbothered she wasnt happy about it.
The friend group thing doesn’t work like that in the south. You could be a beautiful, stacked brown or darker skinned girl and the guys will still go for the less attractive lighter skinned girl. She could also be 300 lbs and bad built. Skin tone is what matters
It sounds like that’s may have been your experience but I promise that’s not the rule. It would not be based strictly on skin color generally. Skin tone definitely matters I’m not denying that. But if the darker skinned girl is actually attractive and if the lightskin is 300lbs and bad built like in your scenario that’s unusual. I don’t know where you live or the other variables but that’s not something I’ve seen.
@@MarvOverMatter I’m not saying that it’s always the case of the girl being 300 lbs and bad built being chosen, but I have seen it where I’m from quite a few times. Light skin is just valued more where I’m from. I’ve seen it even more, light skinned and less attractive or unattractive being chosen over some beautiful brown and darker toned women. In other parts of the country I’ve seen exactly what you were saying in this video.
@@VS-yi8eo Oh ok yeah it might be the environment you’re in. Thats unfortunate and silly really but people like what they like. You can relocate to somewhere you’ll be more excepted or hopefully you can come across at least a few who prefer your type. But yeah sometimes the dating pool you’re in just sucks.
@@MarvOverMatter oh I don’t live there anymore. I get more than enough attention where I live now, mostly unwanted attention, even back home I got lots of attention from guys and was lots of guys crush, still am. I’m not really focused on dating right now, just found the topic interesting and wanted to add some input.
@@VS-yi8eo that only happens in low income communities.
I think one more thing to consider is the cultural environments, so for example in America, people are way more overt and forward with compliments and approaching all the time compared to some European countries that are reserved, like Czech Republic or Finland etc. - you can be very beautiful there but you won't get as much forward attention due to the social culture of people usually avoiding strangers. Approaching strangers or commenting on them is a no-no most of the time.
Yeah that makes sense for sure. I don’t have the experience there I’m referring to here in America but yes what you’re saying makes complete sense and I’ve heard that before from a Swedish girl specifically.
damn, you’re quick with it 🤯 i’m glad you made this video 💕
13:40 let me take my ass to the gym. i’m tryna get to the next level 😭
Preciate it 🙏🏾 and no problem. And yeah the body makes a huge difference like I said. Good luck
This reminds me of a funny situation from a steam room. A random man who couldn't clearly see my face, but could see my body when I entered the room, called me beautiful. I laughed and asked how he could tell if he couldn't see my face. Now I know how 😅
Yep that’s it
I consider myself average but good looking. Everywhere I go I get compliments on how gorgeous I look(even when I dress down). Ngl at times I get 3 compliments a day(even from strangers) on how beautiful I`am. Sometimes it`s even overwhelming for me to reply to compliments...But I realized 90% of the compliments I get are mostly from average looking women, so sometimes I think maybe I´m just "girl pretty".Would you say that there is a difference between "girl pretty" and "guy pretty" and do they have the same value?. Also I dont really get that much attention from attractive guys.. one of my male friends who is average looking told me that a give out reserved vibes so thats why guys dont approach me, but he also told me that I am attractive. But I also have to add that my body is on the heavier so side so maybe thats the reason. honestly I dont know I´m just confused
There are a lot of variables that could affect why guys are not complimenting you. But yes I think there is a girl pretty, from what I’ve seen it’s usually less sexual and there’s a more youthful aspect to it. And yeah being heavier depending on the shape will affect how guys react to you for sure. Even more so depending on your race and the race of men that you are around. And the thing about friends is they may say things to spare your feelings so you kind of have to go off of your experiences with strangers when it comes to dating.
Yup this is the one my guy friends always tell me I'm pretty but I
Come off too standoffish and reserved.
This is very informative. I always characterize myself as “pretty” but since I got my body done. Omg it’s even worse. I get compliments from women men kids lol. It’s crazy you’re sooooo right I have to dress down alllllllll the time! 😂 but I also live in Houston. Baby it’s nothing but competition here. lol 😂
Yeah the body makes a big difference lol. It will garner a much more visceral response from men than a beautiful face in most cases.
My life is the last category. It’s been my experience forever and I’m in my 30s and it’s still my experience. I think I’m average/pretty. I think any woman can have these things if they just present themselves in a confident way and act appreciative of the things men do for you but create boundaries to keep users away. It’s not just looks it’s how you carry yourself.
I agree how you present yourself definitely matters as well.
I think from my observation in real life, beauty and preferences are subjective. A lot of guys like women with pretty beautiful faces, clear skin, pretty hair and healthy in shape toned slim women, and some guys like tall women that look like models. Also it depends on the demographics, and location of where the men and women are. Lots of average regular guys are with average looking women and a few of them with sexy or pretty women. Some guys, not that many like large women or morbidly obese women, and those men are far and few who like overweight women. And keep in mind, what you call cute or pretty may not be to other people. I don't think it's fair that you generalize men that they will be just fine with bedding down any random women who might have a decent body but a regular or ugly face, not every man want that either. A woman's face is the first thing we see, and lots of men want the face and body to match, or at least have a nice decent pretty face and decent body.
I’m not generalizing it there are studies to prove it. In a long term relationship the face matters more but in short term sexual interactions men prioritize the body. Theres a lot of hooking up in our culture. So it’s quite common for me to be interested in women because of their bodies.
@MarvOverMatter Ok I understand, sorry I misread your comment. To me when it comes to studies, I take it with a grain of salt, it's limited info. Reality is more different and nuanced when it comes to sexuality. I get the part about the physical body appearance but again irl men have different body preferences as well. I've seen women who are very skinny, with small boobs, small booty and they hook up with good looking guys, and large overweight women and some are very curvy women hook up, there's various ranges of body types of women that hookup with guys. And some very attractive pretty or beautiful women with pretty faces hookup with guys too, so to me there's variety of different types and different looking people that hooked up with someone at least once. But not everyone engaged in hookup culture, to me hookup culture is trash and disgusting, it's harmful to both men and women, but it affects women more in a negative manner. Nothing good comes from hookup culture, this is why STDs and incurable viruses are on the rise now. Another downfall is when people get addicted to hookup culture with strangers, it destroys the ability to pair bond with future potential mates for long term relationships and marriages. Also some people who are promiscuous have those same problems and worse mental health problems. I believe hookup culture is vile and people who constantly engage in it, keep collecting and storing different soul ties and unwanted attachments that causes later in life depression and other mental disorders. On a spiritual level it's destructive and diseased.
@@novagalaxy342 Yeah no problem. I agree real life is more important than studies for sure. That’s why I mentioned in the video it’s hard to tell if you’re attractive or not as a woman because not all but some guys will sleep with just about any girl given the right circumstances. So seeing it in real life makes sense. But there is a big difference between who guys WILL sleep with and who they PREFER to sleep with. Most men just don’t have the option to choose.
Now as far as your thoughts about hookup culture, I can’t say you’re wrong.
God said to treat others how you want to be treated no matter what they look like.
Thanks!
For sure!
idk where i fit into but a lot of men fetishize me and also most of my exes always got uncomfortable when men would check me out. i’ve always been accused of cheating when im not that person.im also dark skinned and slim. my exes always ended up jealous and hateful towards me too. i have men project onto me a lot
Do you present yourself in a sexual way, like the way you dress, being flirty/friendly to men, doing things that garner the sexual attention of other men?
This is a great video.
Preciate it 🙏🏾
@@MarvOverMatterDo you have a physiology background?
@Browngemini2024 no I don’t have physiology background. I have an economics and psychology background.
Generally What resources did you use to make this video ?
It’s a combination of various experiences, video content, online studies and observations.
Yay! Thanks for making this video❤
You’re welcome 🙏🏾
well today I learned I am average - ugly
Being average isn’t a bad thing. It’s most of humanity
Average this girl is beautiful !. see.... beauty is subjective. cant put much stock into what your saying. but very entertaining video : )
@kiasams8715 I didn’t say she was average she did 😂
Me too lol 😂
Nahh if ur a beautiful woman, women will still hate on you! I personally have dealt with this. In my opinion if ur a beautiful woman who is popular other women will respect u but low key be jealous of u so I can see what u mean. I feel like beautiful women who are popular get a lot of fake love from females. Ain’t no way u not jealous of someone who looks damn near perfect. But if ur not well known alot of girls don’t know u they definitely will be more blatantly mean to u. Plus if they get a vibe that ur arrogant it’s a wrap. I think if ur pretty or beautiful and u show off a lot then you’ll be faced with more jealously cuz then now u look sexy which signals competition for male attention to other women. If yr pretty and modest u ain’t gone get that much hate.
Yeah I agree when the woman is sexy she gets more hate and jealousy. When she’s beautiful and feminine and elegant she gets admirations from other women
I feel that women wouldn’t choose a man who’s more attractive than she is. Same for a man; he shouldn’t be the prettier of the two.
Looks and personality are what I look for. Women are visual too, but might prioritize other things.
So if a guy is a 9 then he has to go for a 10 to not be the prettier one ? That’s your logic lol
@ Numbers are relative opinions. Just sayn I look in the mirror and know what’s prettier than me.
A 10 to me might be a 7 to someone else, and she’ll probably drop the more I see her.
I have to disagree on this one. A woman will definitely choose a man that looks better than her especially if it’s just casual. For a long term relationship they may be more hesitant but that still happens quite often. I will say this is more prevalent in younger women.
@ that’s what I was saying no girl cares about if you look better then her especially if you’re an attractive guy but that’s just from my experience
@ Gotcha. Could be my perception. Ladies have a skewed idea of their looks, wigs lashes etc.
I’ma 53 year old man who runs from those women
Women wont be ske this lightly as light as it is.
I’m not gonna lie from my experiences if I even count myself as attractive, people tend to ignore you, but are very receptive to you once you approach them. Girls never overtly express jealousy but it’s more in a way they express it through social cues and body language. In terms of dating men put you on a unrealistic pedestal which has led to downfalls of many relationships/talking stages. Men have tend to be very expressive with telling me they’re obsessed with me and tend to do a lot for you/is on their best behaviour even if they have generally been bad partners to previous women. But on the other side of the coin a lot of men have generally been nasty to me in terms of dating(even if they like you) and self sabotage the connection due to probably insecurities, for example they’ve assumed I’ve been talking to other men when I never have and have expressed I’m only into them. So they generally reject you before you reject them in a weird way.
So I mean in the initial interactions men are going to be generally nice. Once they know you and start dating you especially after sex the beauty loses its full effect and then men are going to respond to what’s actually happening, or what they perceive to be happening. With getting ignored that’s going to depend on different variables. It’s been pointed out to me that different cultures or regions have different social customs and sometimes approaching a random person isn’t apart of those customs. The way you dress has something to do with it, if you have RBF etc… But overall a beautiful woman’s initial interactions are going to be more pleasant more often than most of the other women’s.
@ I think the way I dress quite quirky probably affects it, women are more likely to be very nice(they are nice in general + giving)if I dress that way. Men only approach me strictly if I’m with another woman. I’ve had guys say to me they thought I was out of their league so I generally think that’s why I don’t get approached at all😂If I get the confidence to approach as I’m a shy girl, they get really nervous or pretend to be confident/showing off.
@Backbite124 Yeah I mean that can be the case too. Especially if you’re amongst the general public beautiful women are going to be more rare. If you’re dealing with “higher class” men I’d assume they’d be less aw struck by your looks.
In nowadays, with all this plastic surgery and every procedure, how do you even determine who is more beautiful and who is not?
In all honesty it’s very tough. I’m referring to natural beauty but in reality what matters is the reaction she gets from the world regardless of how she got there. A woman can be made to be artificially beautiful. Now a good amount of men don’t consider that beautiful but a bbl or breast implants, for example, are sexually attractive to a lot of men so these women will get the similar treatment.
As a beautiful woman, i noticed when i go out men tend to Approach my friends first, have a general chat then start flirting with me 😂
Yeah your friends are probably more approachable, but at the end of the day the guys know who they want.
they're warming up
Very beautiful women with no sex appeal men and women are both nice to as long as there is not much sex appeal...
I agree with this.
I agree with this. 💯 Cause I’m thinking of beautiful feminine and elegant/classy. Not highly sexually attractive that’s more like sexy than beautiful in my opinion.
Just wondering if being baby faced (looking 14 y/o) will impact my attractiveness level? I am 25 and get approached a lot in clubs where I wear makeup to look older and I'm offered drinks by decent looking men, but outside of the club I never get approached with my guy friends saying I'm pretty but look really young when they first met me they thought I was a minor. An example would be actress Jenna Ortega who also looks really young but is pretty.
It seems like in the club guys just feel safer because you’ve been carded. But also alcohol is involved so there less inhibition. Being young looking in the face is generally not an issue though men are attracted to youth, however if your body also looks like a teenagers then that would be less attractive to most men because there would be no markers of maturity specifically sexual maturity.
@@MarvOverMatterskinny women have a skinnny body tho ? You sound study
You sound stupid not all women need to have curves or big chest learn some sense 😂😂who are to tell women how they need to have thier body shape ?
Don’t listen to this asshole anybody type is beautiful obviously not fat but skinnny is definitely where it is Espically if you tall slim their no such thing as a teenager body he literally cappin if it was then all guys who are althetic fit and skinnny have a teenager body to huh ? 😂this man is biased af
It’s science. Also I said nothing about being skinny. I said a teenage body but I meant a body where there are no markers of sexual maturity. Large woman can have no markers of sexual maturity as well. A woman doesn’t NEED them but it is definitely considered more attractive for a woman to have move developed body by most men. Especially when talking about the size of the waist in proportion to the hips. You’ll find men who like all bodies though. But given a choice most men would choose a woman whose body looks more sexually matured all other things being equal. There’s a name for guys who PREFER prepubescent looking bodies.
This was very informative 🤔
Glad it was helpful!
I must be hideous then
I'm somewhere in between average and pretty. I have experiences from both sides 🤷🏽♀️
Yeah that makes sense. Like I said there’s levels to it. This was just a general breakdown of each level.
Can you do a video on how to tell if a woman is high maintenance?
If she gives you the mean look after you stared at her or hollad
High maintenance women all do one thing. They want you to spend money on them.
If she spends her money on you instead.
She is not maintenance.
@genovasquez8361 Take her to a
hole in the wall that serves good food or better yet the worst ethnic restaurant in town with delicious food. Someone will delusions of grandeur will go emo
Thank you!
For sure!
Do you think that a girl can turn into a beautiful woman? Like a pretty girl can turn into a beautiful one
I would yes in certain situations… say if she has a really pretty face but maybe a not so attractive body then yes she could improve her physique. Or if she’s beautiful but doesn’t present herself well like has poor hygiene or something drastic like that but then fixes those issues… But other than that I can’t think of another scenario off the top of my head. I guess you could get surgeries but I’m talking about natural beauty.
What might I be considered if I have a cute face (7 maybe with makeup) but I’m tall with apple shape ( I have a wide upper body, bigger boobs but my legs are long and skinny and no butt/curves)?
I can’t tell you that because it’s a preference thing. What I can say though is that if your waist width is 70% of your hip width then you have the ideal figure to majority of men. Thats something that’s been studied in psychology, and we can see it play out in real life. Breast size is more subjective some guys like big some like small and some don’t care about them same with butt size. But the hip to waist ratio matters.
I hope this helps!
I love average women because they usually have 1 or 2 features I like and you usually do not have to guess if they’re feeling you or not. They’re either wit it or not (playing games, hard to get etc)
I can see that. As long as they don’t play games it’s cool.
Meh.. I am a mixed bag, but I haven’t experienced the “unattractive” treatment in a very long time, probably before my adolescence. I usually get stared at when I am dressed down and no make up on. I try to keep my appearance natural-like nowadays, my body makes up for everything else, ngl. 🤷🏿♀️.
Makes sense the body is very important like I mentioned.
@@MarvOverMatterYes! When you take care of your body and SKIN. You can play up and play down your look/style.
I have a mirror to tell me whats up. But not a store mirror, those are rigged lmao. Honestly though, how can one determine if they're beautiful or not. I am for some, but not for others if they're into tall women, or blondes, or blue eyes, or big boobs. Its kinda relative.
I would determine by the amount of cross over you get. So the more different types (race, age, attractiveness levels etc..) find you attractive then the more attractive you are by default. Of course there are other factors but that’s a good start.
5:55 could u do one please?
Yeah for sure I can do that.
I still question my looks I started going to the gym in September I wear my real hair no makeup & I had 26 different men ask me out on dates but women rarely pay me that much attention. Only mostly older women & younger girls are nice to me not so much women close to my age . It was like only men seen me attractive but women called me ugly or pay me no mind if we’re close in age & I see all my friends As pretty and I still get hit on when I’m with them even if I’m with my pretty friends with the pretty face & nice body.
Based on what you’re saying you probably have more of a sexual appeal. So women aren’t going to notice because they aren’t looking for those things in other women the way men are.
Omgosh this is me too. My friends are always 10 years older or younger, never my age.
Lmao @ this video title. WOW
😂😂
A bangin body always on a woman is great …it helps…of course…you don’t …need to a pretty or body to be sexy……Ladies….
So what yall saying is body is more important than face ?
@@Becauseimherit’s not.
@@Lalaland099 facts oh ok
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Yes❤
Unattractive women get the most attention
I’m always the one getting hit on guy want me to be their main or bm
Interesting lol
Thoughts?
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Thoughts?