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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 25 ก.พ. 2022
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The honeymoon is over. Now our wojak couple has to face a real challenge. Times of being lovebirds quickly pass when you have to enter the bathroom after your other half. The ideals from television do not help in our judgments. Every little gesture, every habit that was once unnoticeable, now intensifies the infuriates those who were willing to accept us.
Will our couple find their way?
Will they move past their flaws?
Can they build something that may seem bland at first glance, but it will become something more with time...
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"It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages."
-Nietzsche
Nietzsche is always on point.
@Chris m being friends before lovers makes it a perfect relationship
@sitiy "22" Leave us the fuck alone.
"Your mum"
Sigmund Freud
I was just thinking that when I saw your comment. I knew I read that somewhere
‘Be careful who you start dating,
a lot of people aren’t looking for love,
they’re looking for help.’
I think this applies for a lot of modern day relationships
That's on point.
incels will take whatever they can get
Especially applies to women.
Its not a novelty that most girls see men as ATM´s.
Thank you!
Despite the robotic and monotonic voices, the dialogue between characters is so natural and so real. Impressive, honestly.
True, even though most of the time you're just staring at some people talking, the conversations are so good that just keep me engaged throughout the entire video.
@beePie fqqfb
NPCs talk like robots in real life
We know that from a long time. He even had a poll about hiring voice actors but the community thought it would kill the essence of the videos.
How to have a healthy relationship
1) communicate your needs
2) be honest
3) temper your expectation
Dude, most people can't go past step 1.
I would
And respond, don't react. The day I learnt to remove myself from a triggering situation, cool down, and then come back and have a calm and collected conversation was game changing
Being honest never ever works
The needs: shopping, trips, attention…
The lie that couples are always perfect and always do these romantic things everyday and are meant for each other is a lie. To me, when you have reached a state of where the mere company and loyalty you have to the person is still there, shows me that THAT is real love. Real love is companionship, not always being all romantic and passionate.
This! You got it
Damn straight
The first sentence of this comment: ,,Ah yes, this floor is made out of floor!“
Reproduce is the point
You said it all dude
You're pretty good at writing natural conversation between people.
Proly he have an experience
Cause he touched grass unlike some people in comments
"natural conversation between people"? 💀 dont lie
More impressive because I think English is his second language.
@@arusse They're not lying. The robotic voice might make it awkward at times, but I swear with each video I feel like I'm listening to real people talk to each other. It may be wacky scenarios sometimes, but a lot of the times it's just real world scenarios.
A lot of guys nowadays are desperate for a relationship until they get in one and realize most relationships are just for show and dating the wrong person can actually be more annoying than fulfilling. Regardless, I think it’s a lesson everyone should learn so they aren’t left wondering what a relationship is actually like vs what they see on social media or in public.
That’s why I’m perfectly fine with clumsily navigating through life by myself
Yes, a relationship with a bad person is horrible, but it's not like you'll get an amazing relationship on demand. I would rather keep searching than doing nothing about it for the rest of my life.
O god it is true, its absolutely horid.
for incels, a relationship is a better option than fecking the couch crease.
@@user-ej3iw8lw3w escorts bro
There’s gotta be some level of acceptance between the two. My bf and I are thinking of getting married soon, and we’re great friends. How can you have a stable relationship if you aren’t even giving the other a chance? It shows from boy wojak outright rejecting the movie and girl wojak outright rejecting the video games. It’s no wonder she’s trying to set up vacation time doing something extravagant when she isn’t enjoying any of the regular time they are spending together. You can argue that her expectations are way too high, but at the same time, if he gave her a chance to share the things she enjoys, maybe she’d lower them and try some of the things he enjoys. There’s no meeting halfway anymore, apparently.
But nobody shoud become somebody personal Jester. And try to give smb fun. They need both equal to eather learn how to live together in Simple life or to find sth shared that they woud enjoy in theirs house. What means they need to give chance for that. This relationship is doomed because they cant just live together. Doing this normalny life things by theirs side.
Ofc romantic days and some trips woud help relationship and give some nice memory. But reality check telling US that there need to be balance. Reality just wont allow u to live Like that forever. She woud be Happy for couple of days and same problem woud be again. Because At same time they woud need to come back to work. To home. And woud find out again no shared intrest. With girl wanting too much. And guy just give up on her needs since dont know and dont try to find anything shared. When girl one wants sth idealistick Like from movies. But she dont even know how to mąkę IT into real life. And also dont even try to find sth smaller for both of them.
Sińce they both coud find sth simpler to enjoy together but nobody just try. They are both equal going to doom. It is sadly a common thing in modern relationship when there is lacking of friendship and company. With no shared intrest at all. When they are telling about true love but u arent even soulmates.
@@pancernyhusarz2985 You need to have humility in a relationship. Metaphorically, you both take turns being the jester to enjoy each other's time. Some people have been friends for years and years, and one of the things that allows for that is that they enjoy spending time with one another. They laugh together, they cry together, and they celebrate their accomplishments together. It seems both men and women these days are looking for something unrealistically divine and problem-solving.
I think it's unreasonable to ask for a trip all of the time, but everyone needs a vacation every once in a while. She needs to be more realistic in her standards. A trip to Paris or Rome can be pricy and way out of most men's price range. When both of you are stressed out and need to relax, a weekend trip to a nearby hotel with a little spa might be nice for the two of them. I agree that the main problem, though, is the fact that they don't have anything they both enjoy doing anything at home TOGETHER. Even just enjoying each other's presence is a chore for them. How are you supposed to spend the rest of your life with someone whose presence you can hardly tolerate?
We had originally wanted to do something nice for Valentine's Day, but after he told me that he was stressed out with a lot of things from work and his family, and I told him we wouldn't stress about it then. We would just stay inside, cook a nice dinner, and watch a new movie. We still spent a little extra money on a nice dinner, as well as time and effort to actually make it, but we didn't stress ourselves out too much. That's what a relationship is about - taking each other into consideration, making compromises, and working together. Honestly, neither of the wojaks in the video were willing to do either of those things.
Will you change your username when you get married
@@DoomShrm Do you mean my surname? I don’t have a problem changing/adapting that, but I think my username will probably stay the same lol
This is a very good point the only thing I might disagree with is the fact that from the video he asks her what do you want to do and she says I don’t know it seems like she doesn’t really know or share those type of things with him
Mass media and pop culture made us think that we need a boyfriend/girlfriend just to "have fun". This is an extremely fragile fund for a relationship because everyone can be boring after some time...no. We need companionship to overcome life's challenges together.
Eh it's actually true as much as people don't want it to be true. When school was over everyone went their separate ways, I was all alone, that's when I realized I needed a partner to have fun with someone otherwise I'll stay alone cause adults rarely hang out due to their different lives. But your partner lives with you so you can always go out and have fun, unless you're both dead like these two. Idk it's really bad being adult, there's nothing fun ever going on, everyone lives too fast and are grumpy all the time.
People in the past only stayed together because they had to for survival. Nowadays, it's not necessary for one's own survival, so few people actually stay together past the honeymoon phase.
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@@legalduidriving nice one Sherlock
This
horribly sad how average this type of relationship is now, it makes me terrified to end up in such a loveless and stressful marriage when im older
Same. That's why I'm reluctant in getting married and having children. Especially in today's climate.
are you a girl, because somehow I feel like this would effect your thoughts on the matter. I personaly think the guy has some valid points. Ofc I'm not saying that he isn't in the wrong, but every day doesn't have to be a big surprise or designated for your other half...
There are ways you can prevent this:
1. Don't look at relationships as what can the other person can do for you, look at it as what you can do for the other person whilst looking for your needs to be fulfilled.
2. Don't withhold intimacy or affection when you are mad at the other person, it shows them you are not their safe space.
3. Don't be superficial about the person you choose, don't choose them because they have a certain superficial thing you like (Race, eye color, hair color, job, Wealth, etc.) Be attracted to the person, but you should always look at what's in their heart.
4. Even when hard times come by, be their safe space, but make sure they are yours as well.
5. COMMUNICATE, for the love of God, COMMUNICATE. This is the best thing you can do.
6. When you are in a relationship, give your 100%, don't expect it to be 50/50, because you both need to give your 100% to it.
7. You might find other people attractive and even develop small crushes, but remember what you have and remember the person you are with. Those feelings will go away.
Hope it helps.
@@cherryhazard8002 your point 3 is so wrong, would of been icing on the cake if you put gender and age in the "superficial" aspects lmao.
@@useritiswhatitis4655 It's fine to have preferences, but if you are so strict on it, then it's gonna be hard for a person to come by. A lot of people don't have partners because they are so picky (Women on their 30s on Tinder for example)
This really makes me appreciate that the relationships that really meant anything to me started off as friendships. Strong friendships with foundations and like-minded interests, introspection and reflection. It doesn't have to be like this. But even if it IS, effort and growth go a long way.
And why did they end if they started as friendships ? lol
@@ROForeverMan sometimes things end; whether it's mutual or not. It's funny, too. Sometimes things don't work out, and my ex's are still my friends. Hell, one of them happens to be closer to me now than they were when we were living together.
It's never a black and white thing. The relationships can work without the bleak stuff. That's why they can last for years.
@@ROForeverMan til you have
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It is scary how almost accurate this is regarding my past relationship with my ex. Especially the part about fantasizing fictional romance with the real one!
Not to mention she kept nitpick on things irrelevant ( and i really mean irrelevant) to turn it into a big issue...
There is nothing more damaging to immature relationships than Disney and Porn.
Edit: changed "relationships" to "immature relationships."
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disney copied japanese animation Kimba the white lion to make Lion king
and Nadia The Secret of Blue Water to make Atlantis Lost Empire
japanese studios couldn't sue disney for that because they were afraid they will lose against a giant.
If you porn with your gf, that's good. 🤣
Another big one is an aversion to conflict.
If you avoid solving your conflicts and instead just "agree to disagree." You end up just creating much larger problems down the road.
The analogy my wife and I have always used is "putting apples in boxes."
If you take a bite out of an apple, and instead of finishing it, you stick it in a container and put a lid on it, sure, it's out of sight and out of mind, but one way or another you're gonna either open it, or it's gonna open up by accident. The longer you wait, the more it festers and rots and by extension, the more unpleasant finishing it will be and the less beneficial actually finishing it will be. Wait too long and it becomes so fetid and gross that it becomes pretty much inedible and you find yourself riddled with regret and dissatisfaction. And as a result no one grows from the experience.
@@Darkseany This can only work if two people are willing to make that effort.
Another quality video from Millenia Thinker.
Depressive, hopeless but yet realistic and relatable.
It is not hopeless
It just makes you think
And thinking my friend
Brings a lot of hope
@@scottishwanker6202 well said! amen to that. God bless you! But your name though. 😂💀
its not realistic, literally theres prob no woman that behave like that. Yall just watched too many films
The only reason it seems hopeless is because we are nearing the end of the decline and so thats all younger folks are use to. There is always hope. Thats what makes hope so terrifying and overwhelming.
@@arusse it's only realistic if you can relate to it
When she said "take some initiative" and he said "I do sometimes" that was a big indicator that neither of them bring anything good to the relationship
The way the guy carries himself makes the girl not respect him. She knows something is missing but she can't figure out what exactly. She probably wishes she could respect him more and let him take care of her but he barely does that for himself which makes her look down at him. But instead of leaving him she stays to act insufferable towards him
It's an amazing short story. Both are wrong for each other but they go along with it cause there's nothing better to do. You are correct, the girl wants the guy to be Alpha and the guy wants the girl to be lovey dovey towards him.
@@almostontimehero5415 Exactly. Both don't know how to take up their roles in the relationship
a woman telling you to take some initiative says a lot about you.
it's also the best straightforward advice she'll ever give you
Lol when he pointed to another girl on vacation and said to his girlfriend, “look at that hot naked chick with big titty!” 😂
@@user-ej3iw8lw3w Cringe take. He can't always be a jester. He takes initiative sometimes and was even shown on video. What happens when he does? She either ignores it (during movie) or doesn't appreciate it (taking on vacation). Just because she's a woman does not automatically make her take right.
MilleniaThinker at 3:11 points out how men who say things like "ha, this is just how women are, so narcissistic and complicated" or other generalizations and oversimplifications likely have no actual experience with women or sucessful relationships themselves.
And then you guys watch the video and still comment things like "ha, this is just how women are, so narcissistic and complicated".
Bonus irony for calling women self-absorbed, but only focusing on the girl's mistakes while ignoring how the videos goes out of it's way to portray the dude as equally wrong, because you've projected yourselves in him. The video is a warning for you too, brothers; don't be too egotistical to recognize your own faults.
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Best comment in this whole thread - a lot of other people here are lacking in self awareness.
Too many gross "men", betas, and incels take the wrong message from these videos now
THIS!!
Bruh most of the comment know that they all wrong
I’ve been married nearly 18 years now, since age 21. Marriages change, just like everything else, and you have to remember that you’re not always going to be the Disney movie. Have good times, bad times, hard times, easy times, etc.
One thing I’ve found out that makes a big difference (besides religious commitment) is making time for each other. Doesn’t matter what you do. My wife and I make an hour or so a day for each other. Sometimes we wash dishes together, just talk, take a walk, or see how hard we can make the headboard hit the wall. It’s not so much romantic as it is a reprieve from work, kids, life.
Second thing we do is take one thing we don’t like the other did - just one a day - and instead swallow it and say something positive. You’d be surprised how much bullshit gets averted this way. I found that 95% of the time, whatever annoyed me is just inconsequential. It really cuts back on bickering.
Thank you!
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Finally, a comment with a healthy mindset! I wish you guys the best, seems it's working for you 👍🏼
I’ll take this advise to heart, thank you.
but if you don't bring stuff up how are you gonna annoy your partner(s) less
-She wants an idealized life, but doesnt even know what it really consists of, and therefor doesnt know what she actually wants - all she has is a vague notion
-He puts 0 effort into trying, has no playfulness or affection - he gets annoyed because of a movie, or some playful nudging. He is a consistent liar as well.
The boildown of this relationship
‚Can we do something fun?’ (Without giving any ideas herself)
‚Well what do you want’ (an answer that he knows she cant respond to, it seems reasonable until you get that he perfectly understands her feelings of boredom/stagnation, but doesnt want to humor her even every once in a while)
He is in a relationship and doesn't have sex... That means the girl has sex elsewhere.
@@verkes And what exactly is a relationship without sex ?
- Friendship or Genuine connection?
@@verkes As a man, im sure you are comfortable with having sex and not caring afterwards...
- Nowadays women act like MEN and they are glorified for it.
The difference is - woman choose when to have sex, man choose when to have relationship and that's it
There is NO deeper meaning in our society NOWADAYS.
@@dr.feelgoodslab3915 if a girl youre in a relationship with doesn’t want to have sex, it…
…doesnt mean anything exactly, because relationships differ and its on the pair to work it out between themselves. She could be cheating, she could have had a bad experience (maybe with you, even), she could have emotional blockage, the relationship might be failing hard and fast and you might not even be realizing. Theres a billion possibilities.
When someone goes "let's do something fun" or "entertain me", without having an idea, that is beyond unreasonable and egoistical. People are not clowns or jesters, which exist just to humor one of their boredom/stagnation.
me and my girlfriend are at this stage of our relationship where we are arguing and are trying to figure out each other and our long-term goals in the relationship and I want to say to everyone I'm glad things are working out with me and her, but this video is so relatable to my situation right now and I thought this was ever only me. I think that when you do come to this part of your relationship both you and your partner need to work together in communication to figure out what you both want and agree on each other. If you both truly love each other, you'll both will change for each other
This video sent me through a wave of emotions. Relatable, hilarious in some part, but also self reflection. Hopeful my life and marriage doesn't end up like this
Yeah, bros, a relationship is not going to fix your lives. Stop trying to find that happiness in others when you cannot even create that happiness by yourself.
Sex bots trying to corrupt the minds of the youth. Literally 2077...
Thank you for the enlightenment
*GigaBro*
This is a cope, it definitely will.
@@FaithfulOfBrigantia Good luck.
I feel like the guy screaming "What do you want!?" At the top of his lungs is a perfect summarization of every relationship ever xD
@@qdpqbp bingo. It sounds like chad copypasta bullshit but its true that you should do what you want and if a girl is interested in that then let her experince it with you. If you ask open ended questions abiut what they want you are gonna get the worst possible outcome. Instead say "im gonna do this, are you in?" or "it seems like you like this, is that true?"
@@qdpqbp what lmao
That guy screaming "what do you want" is from an actual movie called THE NOTEBOOK, for anyone wondering.
I’ve found the straight person
@@qdpqbp true
as long as you can talk to your partner and truly understand each other, you'll be fine. Remember to mend and repair small cracks in your relationship, if you don't it'll create distance. Don't be afraid to say sorry and make sure the other knows they're loved appreciated.
This hit hard. I felt like a simp in my own relationship. I didn't want to end it because I was alone and had nobody else to rely on at the time. Then she left as well. I didn't even cry/feel that emotional when she did. I just lost myself in my head, lost my confidence. Why was I trying so hard when she wasn't? Was I lacking in something? Was she just using me to coast? Am I that naive/oblivious? I still have some form of trauma from this.
Problems with the guy: he lie a lot and can not turn the situation to something funny.
Problem with the girl:she doesn't know what she wants but she always wants more.
She is shit testing him and hes losing
I get the sense he knows all this but doesnt feel or have the energy to respond how she wants all the time.
@@Yarmox How could he have passed the st?
@@spacemeter3001 slapping her
@@spacemeter3001 by not taking her seriously
Bruh, that hit really hard. Its almost like you knew what happened on my last relationship.
True. Especially the notebook part and wanting to go on spontaneous trips . My ex was easily influenced by tv and social media.
Failed to happen to me but she accepted the reality of life.
She understand she can't have everything.
It's too typical nowadays
These are some possible red flags I've noticed in certain women for a while now. If you're looking for a good partner for a stable, healthy relationship filled with peace of mind or just curious, this could be worth a read:
1. Long (fake) nails
2. Fake hair (~long and/or bright colored)
3. Makeup (mostly heavy makeup)
4. Big earrings
5. Provocative clothing
6. Very active on social media (attention seeking content; thirst trap antics, etc.)
7. Questionable.. questions (e.g. "Babe, would you date me if I were a worm", "babe do you think I'm pretty"..)
8. Tattoos/body mods/piercings (especially in weird places)
9. Most/all of her friends are male.
10. Promiscuous or Using se>< as a proxy for feeling loved and adored (this can be especially true for people who struggle with attachment issues/daddy issues)
11. S.I.G.N language (Shaming, Insult, Guilting & Need to be right)
12. Herd mentality/No sign of individualism (follows beauty standards, fashion trends, body ideals, bad friends or other trends without questioning or reflecting on their reason[s] for doing so) [often correlates with No. 2, 3 & 5]
13. Spoilt brat-like/elitist behaviour (e.g. people who refer to themselves as "bad b*tches", claim to have "very high standards" or are "high maintenance" ) [often correlates with No. 1, 2, 3, 4 & 5]
14. Materialistic [often correlates with No. 12 & 13]
15. Their actions don't follow their words (cognitive dissonance)
16. No sense of boundaries
17. Uses past events or personal information you gave when you 'opened up' to them, as ammunition against you during fights or quarrels.
18. Clingy, jealous or possessive (e.g. not being allowed to have any female friends)
19. Frequent quarrels over trivial things--it seems some people think toxicity makes relationships more 'fun or exciting' (or even straight up admit they enjoy toxicity in relationships)
20. Habit of lying (shouldn't be ignored [along with No. 7, 14 & 16] as it could escalate over time [often correlates with No. 10, 11, 13 & 15. Possibly with No. 6] )
21. Has a tiny, little girl/baby-like voice (possibly due to trauma or abuse at a young age [Reference: Dr. Drew Pinsky - Loveline] )
22. Expects you to 'mind-read' their thoughts and/or 'hints'--- (Quora; Do women expect men to be mind-readers?)
*Their mentality of dependence and expectations is so high they use emotions to smoke screen this shameful behaviour. [Shouldn't be ignored. Could correlate with No. 19]
23. Sh*t Tests---"used to determine your frame. Frame is a concept which essentially means 'composure and self-control.” (shouldn't be ignored; usually continues indefinitely, may escalate over time [Often correlates with No. 11, 16 & 19. Possibly with No. 7 & 17] )
24. Ultimatums (could correlate with No. 13, 16 & 18)
25. Can't/doesn't take 'No' for an answer (Strongly correlates with No. 16, possibly with No. 11 & 18 [Shouldn't be ignored; possible sign of an abusive person, may lead to tantrums, physical assault or other 'crazy' behaviours] )
26. Comes from a broken/toxic/abusive home and/or lacks (proper) parental figure(s). (Often correlates with No. 4, 6, 8, 10, 16, 19, 20 [compulsive or pathological lying] & 21)
*The issue is simply not just coming from aforementioned homes, but many don't seek professional help and/or properly work on themselves so they carry that mental/emotional baggage into their relationships.
27. They're often passive aggressive (Could correlate with No. 22. Possibly with No. 7, 11, 19 & 25)
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28. Bisexual ("People with loose sexual boundaries like bisexuality, polyamory & pansexuality- sexualities where they can't really declare a major or stick to a specific type tend to be trauma survivors*." [*May correlate with No. 26] )
29. Exhibits 'infantile/neotenic' behaviours when in need of aid (e.g. using a childlike voice* and speech pattern, acting "cute", naive; sometimes with a 'sensual' undertone - often used to avoid accountability, responsibility or get their way) [*Not to be confused with No. 21; this one (29) is intentional while No. 21 is 'involuntary'] [Could correlate with No. 10 & 25. Likely with No. 16] )
30. Frequent mood swings-- could be 'preemptively' identified with certain comments e.g. "Having someone who can handle your mood swings is such a blessing", "Need a man that can handle me (when I'm mad, act crazy..)" [Correlates with No. 19. Possibly with No. 13, 17, 18, 22, 23 & 25]
31. Really into astrology (has their personality, behaviours or actions based on zodiac signs) 32. Being "Free-spirited"; 'Hippie' or 'Gypsy-like'. (Could correlate with No. 8, 10 & 26. Possibly with No. 28)
33. Often/always plays the victim-- "When you're so used to playing the victim you don't realise when you're being the villain." (Often correlates with No. 15, 20 & 29. Possibly with No. 6, 10, 11, 16 & 17)
For those who are perplexed about No. 1-5, google search for images of Saweetie or blac chyna or sumn idk
These flags could be a result of insecurities, emotional and/or mental immaturity, childhood emotional neglect, attention/validation seeking, attachment issues, etc.
Observing people's personalities, character and behaviours rather than focusing on their 'physical attractiveness' is a good way to overcome the halo effect.
Also, like attracts like, so make sure to be self-aware and reflect on your actions/behaviour to grow and mature as a person. And be compassionate to others as you'd be to yourself.
These are just my observations & opinions and should be held up to scrutiny.
Love is when you want no more than just simply being with them, not when you always want the craziest adventures. Being with someone you love is always enough, but with social media, many always feel bad comparing their relationships to others
My favorite part of these videos has to be the conversations, they feel so real.
When the two were talking about Bikinis i cracked up ngl.
I love how MilleniaThinker films show us that „both sides” can be bad….the film was good as always, keep creating this AMAZING work
Yeah fr
True but I think a lot of the audience doesn’t see anything wrong with how Wojack handles the situations. They just see themselves and still think it’s just the woman at fault. So many people in the comments just have horrible communication skills.
@@BlunderB I think the problem arises because most viewers of the channels are male so automatically they insert themself into wojak in most videos. So then they see wojak (themselves) as the character who does nothing wrong.
@erikmcfarland
I am a 20yo woman and I found the gf more annoying
I understand that she wants a guy from some romance movie and gets disappointed with the gap between the reality but I don't think she will ever be satisfied with what she gets. she always hopes others to make it funny but never tries to entertain by herself.
and I think the bf would do anything she wants if she be specific so he did well. of course he is not a creative man tho,he is better than the gf because at least he tried to make their relationship better while she just stood there expecting bf to fix it
Don't put unrealistic expectations into a relationship or yourself. Not to say that doesn't become complex situations; but it really is that simple. So don't pair up with someone who has put that upon themselves, their environment, and their relation to others. This will save a lot of trouble, in time.
Nobody in this comment section needs this advice.
The people you typed this out for don't watch this channel
@@walterrising4276
I believe that not. If that were true, such people would already be in the ground. Despite all the grimdark telling of life this channel portrays, it still speaks of hope. A hope to avoid a similar relationship, a hope to better oneself, regardless the matter, still the presence of hope for triumph over odds.
Any who have truly lost hope no longer tend with the mortal coil. For the grave is always but one small step away from misfortune.
Does everybody ignore genetic and mental stability when choosing a partner? Seems like a recipe for disaster if you don't, on both sides.
@@shinji1264
In many cases, yes. It can be quite surprising how willing some may be to undergo turmoil with little to gain from doing so.
@@pentagon56 cope
This hits hard for me. I am a 17 year old who just had his first break up a few weeks ago after being in a relationship for a year and a half. The spark just wasn't really there for us, we didn't feel the need to be in each other's company so we just broke up. This showed me that maybe if I had tried a little harder I maybe could have saved the relationship, but in the end I think if you can get over it, break ups are good for people to grow as individuals.
This video is not about that at all.
"How can you live in this country and not smoke?"
Love your content, a friend of mine showed it to me a few days ago, cannot stop watching, so relevant and yet so entertaining. Stay safe!
Real love is reaching a point where you stop doing all the romantic stuff and just experience life together while trying to help each other and putting up with the bullshit of each other. Find a teammate, not a liability.
Sound like a stressful situation to stop doing all the fun stuff and just deal with problems. That's unhealthy. It wouldn't hurt people to smile sometimes or be positive, everyone has problems that doesn't mean we have to act like suicidal vegetable all the time like in this vid.
@@phoenixangel5073 I read the comment as not being mutually exclusive. You know it's real love when in the time(s) you "no longer do the fun things, " you're both still there and experience life together, holding each other as you do it. If not being fun all the time becomes more of the focus, the relationship becomes a liability. Doesn't mean you can't see the negative, you just aren't letting the fear of it drive the way your relationship operates.
Much like helping a friend that is recently dealing with the loss of a loved one; Fun times come and go but you can't fix the "problem" of their loss, you just help them get through it.
@@phoenixangel5073 he's saying relationships aren't about making grand gestures and having fun all the time. You know you are with someone you truly love when the mundane reality of most days can be enjoyed together without fear or question of the others love
@Lutumaru What about the other way around?
@Lutumaru What is even this other duties? Just asking because Beeing curious. Because in my opinion there need to be balance with evrything. And things expected from stereotype not always woud accually mąkę healthy relationship. Sińce trying to organize sth romantick or just nice memory woud for shure help relationship. But also man shoud never become a personal Jester trying to give smb fun in all possibile time. And got Blame if world is not always an intresting rainbow but just this chilling in home. Doing normal daily things by side of loved one.
Two exceedingly unbalanced people. One wants everything to be like a romantic movie with completely unrealistic expectations that only adds to stress, believing her partner needs to be a romantic idealization of a Ryan Gosling-type partner who is romantic at all times, and the other has very little patience and is bordering on stomping out the flames of his romantic relationship with his reactive and harsh nature, not even having the patience for playful kicking.
Instead of putting each other first, they are frustrated and only communicate through passive aggression.
"having the patience for playful kicking" lol so you mean a s1mP then? XD Not a single person who respects themselves should put up with being automatically categorised as the jester. Entertain me you fool, if you dont you are of no value to me and ill treat you like dirt and cheat on you until you do. To me the guy in this story was just going about his day to day life, trying to entertain someone who thinks far too highly of herself because of his unhealthy need for companionship. Much rather be alone than with someone like the chick in this story.
@@user-kp4jv2tr1d it would take about 1-5 sec to grab her foot, bite it and continue on. is he 65? why are you worrying about being degraded to a jester? is she a worker when she is treating him? lol
I remember that in my last relationship my then girlfriend and I both became passive aggressive a lot. We had different expectations of how our life should look like and therefore had to fight for everything we wanted. And everytime we couldn't win a fight, the passive aggression came through. It's not that I wasn't able to make sacrifices, but making them hurt me so much that I felt like I deserved something in return, which I couldn't get. Her and I simply weren't right for each other and the relationship I guess was as toxic as it was lovely. The shown behaviour in this video is something that I can really relate to and it's astonishing how accurate and on point the dialogue is. But having had such a relationship has its benefits, because you learn A LOT about what not to do, what kind of partner to look for and what sacrifices you should and shouldn't make
If you take that kind of shit im assuming all of your past gf abused you
@@user-kp4jv2tr1d when’s the last you’ve talked to a girl??
some couples will never get what they wanted. the problems they created in their head eventually and will projected onto another. there is little room for communication or understanding, but every now and then behind closed doors - couples argue and make up over and over again. the only difference is they either post fake happy images of themselves on social media or, and sadly, they make up quietly because this is a realistic average couple just like mine. we don't flaunt on social medias but we both do want something spontaneous privately yet in some situations things are out of reach. I'm speaking as a man of 10 years dating and often with s.o problems. thanks for making this MT
Man that’s the shit the scares the fuck out of me in relationships. It just feels so rewarding to finally be with someone you like only to find out either your partner is the problem, you’re the problem, or the both of you discover that you two can’t be in a relationship with eachother because of how dysfunctional you are. Sometimes you’ll never know a true person’s nature until you’re in situations like this
Heard this quote once:
"Most people are looking for help, not for love."
These are some possible red flags I've noticed in certain women for a while now. If you're looking for a good partner for a stable, healthy relationship filled with peace of mind or just curious, this could be worth a read:
1. Long (fake) nails
2. Fake hair (~long and/or bright colored)
3. Makeup (mostly heavy makeup)
4. Big earrings
5. Provocative clothing
6. Very active on social media (attention seeking content; thirst trap antics, etc.)
7. Questionable.. questions (e.g. "Babe, would you date me if I were a worm", "babe do you think I'm pretty"..)
8. Tattoos/body mods/piercings (especially in weird places)
9. Most/all of her friends are male.
10. Promiscuous or Using se>< as a proxy for feeling loved and adored (this can be especially true for people who struggle with attachment issues/daddy issues)
11. S.I.G.N language (Shaming, Insult, Guilting & Need to be right)
12. Herd mentality/No sign of individualism (follows beauty standards, fashion trends, body ideals, bad friends or other trends without questioning or reflecting on their reason[s] for doing so) [often correlates with No. 2, 3 & 5]
13. Spoilt brat-like/elitist behaviour (e.g. people who refer to themselves as "bad b*tches", claim to have "very high standards" or are "high maintenance" ) [often correlates with No. 1, 2, 3, 4 & 5]
14. Materialistic [often correlates with No. 12 & 13]
15. Their actions don't follow their words (cognitive dissonance)
16. No sense of boundaries
17. Uses past events or personal information you gave when you 'opened up' to them, as ammunition against you during fights or quarrels.
18. Clingy, jealous or possessive (e.g. not being allowed to have any female friends)
19. Frequent quarrels over trivial things--it seems some people think toxicity makes relationships more 'fun or exciting' (or even straight up admit they enjoy toxicity in relationships)
20. Habit of lying (shouldn't be ignored [along with No. 7, 14 & 16] as it could escalate over time [often correlates with No. 10, 11, 13 & 15. Possibly with No. 6] )
21. Has a tiny, little girl/baby-like voice (possibly due to trauma or abuse at a young age [Reference: Dr. Drew Pinsky - Loveline] )
22. Expects you to 'mind-read' their thoughts and/or 'hints'--- (Quora; Do women expect men to be mind-readers?)
*Their mentality of dependence and expectations is so high they use emotions to smoke screen this shameful behaviour. [Shouldn't be ignored. Could correlate with No. 19]
23. Sh*t Tests---"used to determine your frame. Frame is a concept which essentially means 'composure and self-control.” (shouldn't be ignored; usually continues indefinitely, may escalate over time [Often correlates with No. 11, 16 & 19. Possibly with No. 7 & 17] )
24. Ultimatums (could correlate with No. 13, 16 & 18)
25. Can't/doesn't take 'No' for an answer (Strongly correlates with No. 16, possibly with No. 11 & 18 [Shouldn't be ignored; possible sign of an abusive person, may lead to tantrums, physical assault or other 'crazy' behaviours] )
26. Comes from a broken/toxic/abusive home and/or lacks (proper) parental figure(s). (Often correlates with No. 4, 6, 8, 10, 16, 19, 20 [compulsive or pathological lying] & 21)
*The issue is simply not just coming from aforementioned homes, but many don't seek professional help and/or properly work on themselves so they carry that mental/emotional baggage into their relationships.
27. They're often passive aggressive (Could correlate with No. 22. Possibly with No. 7, 11, 19 & 25)
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Ive heard this quote a million times so many comments like this lol
28. Bisexual ("People with loose sexual boundaries like bisexuality, polyamory & pansexuality- sexualities where they can't really declare a major or stick to a specific type tend to be trauma survivors*." [*May correlate with No. 26] )
29. Exhibits 'infantile/neotenic' behaviours when in need of aid (e.g. using a childlike voice* and speech pattern, acting "cute", naive; sometimes with a 'sensual' undertone - often used to avoid accountability, responsibility or get their way) [*Not to be confused with No. 21; this one (29) is intentional while No. 21 is 'involuntary'] [Could correlate with No. 10 & 25. Likely with No. 16] )
30. Frequent mood swings-- could be 'preemptively' identified with certain comments e.g. "Having someone who can handle your mood swings is such a blessing", "Need a man that can handle me (when I'm mad, act crazy..)" [Correlates with No. 19. Possibly with No. 13, 17, 18, 22, 23 & 25]
31. Really into astrology (has their personality, behaviours or actions based on zodiac signs) 32. Being "Free-spirited"; 'Hippie' or 'Gypsy-like'. (Could correlate with No. 8, 10 & 26. Possibly with No. 28)
33. Often/always plays the victim-- "When you're so used to playing the victim you don't realise when you're being the villain." (Often correlates with No. 15, 20 & 29. Possibly with No. 6, 10, 11, 16 & 17)
For those who are perplexed about No. 1-5, google search for images of Saweetie or blac chyna or sumn idk
These flags could be a result of insecurities, emotional and/or mental immaturity, childhood emotional neglect, attention/validation seeking, attachment issues, etc.
Observing people's personalities, character and behaviours rather than focusing on their 'physical attractiveness' is a good way to overcome the halo effect.
Also, like attracts like, so make sure to be self-aware and reflect on your actions/behaviour to grow and mature as a person. And be compassionate to others as you'd be to yourself.
These are just my observations & opinions and should be held up to scrutiny.
@@Rownoscc ok
@@Dickson_ So people who aren't perfect or with ANY kind of problems are red flags? Good luck finding a partner then.
Been with my partner for more than 5 years. Yah the first 6months-year was "cupcake suger coated lovie dovie" but it's the years after that are tough.
It's the routine patters and knowing eachother so well that there are no real surprises anymore. Every relationship is that way. It's not the person it's life.
True love is finding a person who you can be with in complete silence preoccupied with other things but still enjoy their presence.
I had that. But it was one sided
@@Innere_Stille then they wernt the right person for you and with a little hope and faith you WILL find someone ❤
@@RainyRunningRiver thanks man, I appreciate it ❤
Pretty accurate. Except it doesn't have to be boring and unsurprising. It can be quite the contrary. Having that one person who knows you better than anyone else also means having someone who can surprise you or entertain you better than anyone else because they understand you in ways everyone else just doesn't. Sometimes they can even grasp things about you that even you don't. But to achieve such a thing, you have to develop a certain level of true honesty with one another.
I love having someone who can just read my mind. But perhaps that's because she isn't just my wife, she's my best friend. Been at it for 8 years and I gotta say I like this better than the early days. It's not hyper gooey sugar rush love anymore. It's warm and soothing like a calm spring breeze. It embraces you deep to your core instead of hair raising excitement and tingles, not that those don't come back in short bursts from time to time.
That 5 year mark is a doozy though. It's the year or two leading up to year 5 that you usually tackle the big challenges and butt heads the most as your values and contrasts begin to assimilate and/or harmonize.
But if you endure the struggle and actually balance out and solve your conflicts instead of letting them fester (which often just creates a stagnant loop and gradual decay), you kind of become literally part of each other. Your psychology sort of merges, almost as if half your brain is just theirs.
You become a single unit. Truly one.
Thank you!
I gotta say sometimes i think being gay myself is a blessing, because straight guys have to honestly play on a very hard difficulty mode when it comes to relationships. The amount of things you have to do to and bear thru is just almost its own work. Often many guys slowly start to mentally crumble down piece by piece as they can find themselves in the situation of either 1. having to leave her to save yourself but still having the fear of feeling alone, the fear of failure to find a new a woman, aka becoming a doomer. 2. You just give up, don't think you deserve better, and accept that your relationship doesnt have any hints of how love left like in the earlier days, and know that it will become the stale. The all known story of mortage, two kids, shit car, and time limit on when she is propably gonna try to divorce and take the custody of kids.
Ofc it might sound a bit simple, but I have about 6 sraight friends that I've known as my best friends since the teens age, and when we play games together these days on discord call, all they fucking do is complain about how unhappy they are lowkey in the relationship, the arguments, and about stresss over tiring dayjob on top of not even remembering what dopamine feels like anymore. It just such glum thing to hear, because this video presents fully their situation.
When it comes to gay relationships, the chance for those relationships becoming anywhere near something like the video, is not even nearly as high chance as compared to it almost being a norm these days for straight couples.
Just try to survive, kings. And know yall worth. You are meant to have a loving partner in your life. Not a simple friend that you have just gotten stuck with and having constant arguments with.
Thanks man. I feel like it's rough for any of us. Feeling like you have to be just about perfect for someone of your type, and as a failed perfectionist knowing how daunting that is to even consider. Or for those who have a severely limited selection who get used in political self-motivated disputes. Though there is a lot of genuine love and support for you and your trials, because as you said, Everyone is meant to have a partner in their life.
With women some guys are on the legendary difficulty tier, especially if you have average good looks.
Is...is that an lgbt person relating to straight people on the internet?
Holy shiiiii
@@thathandsomedevil0828 Hell, even if you have good looks. All it takes is a bit of introversion and that doesnt go a whole long way either, especially with the proper good ones.
@@DkKombo lol
I’m not perfect, neither is my Woman. But the most beautiful thing is that despite each of us has problems, hard times, defects, and we sometime argue a lot, at the end of the day what stay is the immense love that we feel to eachother. A love that, not like anon, gave us the strenght to overcome every bad thing and reminds us everyday that we complete eachother.
I thank God everyday to give me the opportunity to meet her the first time.
I love her so much
That’s sweet:)
If you can't just enjoy chilling out doing nothing with your spouse you really need to work on your relationship together. Most of the time things aren't going to be romantic or spontaneous in a serious relationship but if you can just enjoy being around each other you'll be generally happy and comfortable with each other.
This right here
yeah many delusional people think relationships equal to running in a flower field holding hands every day lmao
Ya but he’s just playing video games and she expects everything to be a romantic like she sees on tv. They need to compromise instead of letting their own twisted distortions on how relationships should be. They should just do something together instead of both sitting there
@@prozac5314 Ironically, being able to enjoy simply spending time and chilling with your spouse WOULD be like running through a flower field holding hands, at least mentally. Or so I imagine.
@@yungbruhmane8751 your interests should never come in 2nd place. They literally represent who u are
This is so painfully accurate it's why nobody bothers to get into relationships anymore.
Really toxic bro.........I literally was so drained
It's because people have been brainwashed into thinking that you "find" the right relationship when what you're actually supposed to do is build the right relationship.
@@Darkseany I'm 14 thank you for this wise knowledge I shall cherish this moment for the rest of my life may God bless you 🙏
Because of hedonism: "you need to be this way to please me, because the important thing is that I be pleased, forget about patience for your neighbour."
bingo, everyone's got a warped perspective on relationships in part because of movies and social media, the girls always expect stimulation (fun outings dinner nights and the like) while the guys just want to cruise on in life content albeit simple mainly because there's no reason to try as a guy the economy of most english speaking countries is so busted you can't progress the way men have a desire to so they just don't bother and try and tune it out
One thing I can say about all your videos is that they all have a sense of realism.
These videos always bring people together to discuss different ideas and viewpoints! So wholesome!
Just broke up with a woman like this. She had borderline personality disorder, couldn't find piece with herself and was constantly bored, and blamed me for it. When things were peaceful, she would say "This is nice" and almost immediately start a fight over something dumb. Was constantly asking me to change and "grow" and when I made efforts, they weren't acknowledged and it was never enough. The problem was never me. She wasn't happy with herself and the trajectory her life had taken, and she sough to externalize the discomfort. She got used and abused in her 20's and couldn't imagine life being stable and reciprocated. There always needed to be a problem, a fight to be had. Some sort of conflict to explain why she felt so shit, instead of going to therapy and sorting out her bullshit.
I uprooted my schedule, I got her a good paying job at the agency I used to work at, we lived comfortably, but it was never enough. When I finally kicked her out, she took my fucking cat.
But I have learned a lesson, and know what to look out for now. I have found other women in dating apps and it is going well so far, dating during/post covid is still weird, especially at 33, but its not a lost cause. I feel better, and realize that I have a lot to offer and there are people who can and will appreciate my efforts.
she doesn't seem like a person with psychological issues at all lol. I think their love attachment styles just dont match n there is no friendship to save it either
Bpd is just psych parlance for "modern woman"
She got used and abused, it’s not your job to fix her.
@@dgw3650 armchair psychologist phrase for it id say, a serious psychological condition in reality usually with women who have been abused
She took your cat bruh? Why?
Red Flag:
When she suddenly snaps at you and starts an argument about trivial stuff and then later on clings to you all apologetic and try to kiss you so she appears to be really sorry. Doees it over and over again. That's manipulation.
She's not a teammate, but a liability in the future.
I wish I had a relationship with an attractive and good person in general
Thats my mother from head to toe and thats why I ran away at 17.
(btw I am leaving out a lot of what she truly is abuse only touches the surface.)
My current gf did this, so this is manipulation?
@@azurerisus4256 Of course, this suggests that you forgive her and feel it in the next discussions.
@@azurerisus4256 not really unless she’s hurting you or lying to you with gaslighting.
at 5:00 this line reminded me of a girl i went out with twice a few months ago. She wanted shrex but was playing dumb. I wanted her intentions to be clear before i made any move. Some of you will probably call me an idiot for that but , ever since i had a relationship with a girl who was abused as a child im not taking initiative on that kind of stuff ever again. You never know what the other person's been through. I cant watch again a girl i like or have feelings for have a panic attack in my arms because i went to kiss her or hug her.
We should be grown ups. You want intimacy ask for it. Yo uwant sherx ask for it. You want just to hang out ask for it. And dont play games. Espetialy if ur a 23year old woman
I had same relationship. In fact, problem was in me, and only solve here is only 2.
1. You play her game and try to be better only to be faced with even greater will(you'll not satisfy).
2. You calmly quit.
Excessive consumption of social media is conditioning young girls into having these extremely high expectations from men. When a man cannot satisfy these artificial needs, he is often seen as mediocre and boring. The girl leaves him in search of someone "better". It has happened to me personally and it took me years of self-hate and depression to realize that I'm not a failure and it's the expectations that are abnormal. It is me who needs to find someone "better".
Social media got theses girls thinking they deserve better that's why they are never able to stay committed, might as well enjoy and prepare to cut them off at any time.
Happen to men too, sadly. Men have absurd expectations on girls.
untrue, having good hygiene and basic skills is the bare minimum.
@@stefbaws they do deserve better, a lot of guys aren't doing even the bare minimum, cheating is wrong though!
I understand where you are coming from but this also can apply to men but a lot of this comment section only seems to focus on the womens fault ( she did do wrong things but so did the man)
Married for many years to a wonderful woman, let me gift you youngsters with some advice. Learn to accept that the other person is a different person than you. They see the world differently, they taste things differently than you, they feel things differently than you. The greatest thing you both have in common is that you're both imperfect humans who need companionship. Forgive the things that don't really make a difference. Best you can hope for is to try and find someone who also accepts that you're all those things as well. Don't sweat the small stuff.
Today is a different time then before, many women are poisoned by social media. You have no clue what you are talking about. You can be accepting and compassionate all you want, you will be replaced in time you don't fulfill some made up criteria. There are many men to replace you, its just your turn.
You are a man from the past dude, like those cameras with a roll.
I know it seems hopeless guys, but trust me, nothing new is under the sun. Women are not really any different now than ever. Keep the faith and try to remain hopeful, things do get better.
@@justinclifton5521 Oh we know that women didn't really change much. it's just that times changed that allowed them to be even more in tune with their natural self. In the past you had more societal pressure to keep thing stable, now its free for all and men are on the losing side here. There will always be someone to replace you.
Did you or your wife write that comment ?
4:55 it's painful to watch , and yes many years ago i also don't know how to deal with her 😅
This reminds me of my parents relationship, I would have to listen to them argue and it kept going and never stopped and just over time became worse, in the end they ended. Growing up like that makes me scared of arguing myself if I end up with someone, and I’ve already went through it once and I’m afraid to go through it again.
This is why folks, do not be in a relationship if you're not ready for god sake. If your insecurities and internal issues mess up with the chemistry you have for each other, it'll not end well. Both have different problems but wants something the same which is someone to be there for them; the boy is ignorant and doesn't know how to reach the girl's expectations, so he distracts himself to playing games to get over things like these, as the girl expects too much so she gets to have her ''perfect one'', blinded by all these things that are from Netflix and social media. As my partner says, there is no perfect relationship, no lovey dovey, vacations and breaks all the time. This certain love burst is only a temporary high and there will always be issues at the end, and you have to be ready for that. It's healthy when you argue for the better, it's toxic when you argue that grows you apart more and more. Honesty should be necessary; you shouldn't lie for it'll worsen in the long run, trust might go fragile because of that, other than that, commitment. You have to be ready for whatever challenge that comes in between your relationship, because like everything else, it is inevitable. When your self-doubt overcomes your persistence to continue, everything will crumble. It's all about trust, for your partner, for yourself that this will come past...but unfortunately, some things change, and some things don't come to our liking. Me and my partner argue often, as we slowly learn our mistakes over time; I get to trust them completely, and they let me take care of them, I don't want to trust anyone anymore, and they don't think they deserve to be taken care of. We argue because we are afraid we're losing each other, we're scared that we won't get to work this out, that's what we talk about, and we understand what went wrong, took to heart and moved on. Talk, communicate, do not lie, be honest to your feelings. Communication is key.
I’m not reading all that
I read this and yes I agree ☝🏽 don’t have kids either unless you’re well prepared. Not just oh, we’ll figure it out because that’s what our parents did..
Damn, dr love. Good writeup though, valid points
@@MikeDrew312 your parents have you at 35
That is why you were born with autismo
How does one know when they are ready then?
When this happens in a relationship, practicing ACTIVE LISTENING is key. It helped my relationship A LOT.
damn so true when you explain everything and your partner get angry when she find out you are right and can not judge you anymore and will blame on you when you look at other chicks.
It’s not the fantasy of a couple without conflict that makes a perfect ideal relationship, it’s the reality of a couple that experiences conflict but sticks together and gets through it all.
Reminded me of the saying "the strongest one isn't the one who never falls , but instead is the one who falls but always get up"
I can see so many people are afraid of such relationships.
From my own perspective, the most important thing is to know your boundaries and acknowledge your own worth, it's a state of mind which is more or less formed after breakups etc... I know it's the most terrible thing if your significant other leaves you, but it makes you think and realize what you have to work on & which exact things you don't want to have in your next relationship. It's a process of learning of understanding yourself and others, and also gives you a greater tolerance of conflicts. It will take time to find someone who you want to live with forever. Every relationship will be a new opportunity too see life from a different perspective. So don't give up. Heartbreaks a terrible, but they are there to clarify to what you need and want in your future.
I hate having to say this but i can't say this didn't happen to me. 😔 i guess you can say that i kinda wasn't relationship ready when i got my first girl. 16 in high school. looking back, it was a disgrace of being overprotective and always assume bs about my girl. Years go by and i thought about how i can right the flaws i had while in love. But at the sametime, it broke me. Since then, i stayed single and avoid any relationships and marriage. ( no I'm not gay either. lol) But yee. it hurts reading this cause its true. 😞 You live and learn ig.
Thank you!
Exactly this. Failure is a strict, but excellent teacher, especially when it comes to forming relationships and bonds with people. I think too many people, myself included, find themselves inundated in the mindset of "I failed once, why bother again?" It's a damn shame, it really is.
To the reader: keep going, keep trying. Time isn't going to stop and wait for you. You have to keep going through the thick and thin, learning, until you eventually succeed.
This.
AND IT WILL COME
LIKE A FLOOD OF PAIN
POURING DOWN ON ME
AND IT WILL NOT LET UP UNTIL THE END IS HERE
AND IT WILL COME
THROUGH THE DARKEST DAY
IN MY FINAL HOUR-
Wow... that is so overwhelming...
You know, I’m not a relationship expert, I’m 21 years old and me and my girlfriend been dating for over a year now, but what has saved me and my partners relationship the most, has been sharing our feelings and remembering how our parents made us feel as children, and how often times the way that my girlfriend treats me Or the way I treat her remind each other of how we were wounded or mistreated as children, and so, I have found that the best way in resolving conflict is identifying, first, how you feel, because feelings blind your logic to the extent that you are experiencing that emotion, and second, trying to identify wounds that are being triggered by the other persons behavior. I have found that when both parties are willing to acknowledge their wounds and feelings and express them in a responsible healthy way, a.k.a., no blaming, guilt tripping, shaming, etc., but simply stating how you feel and then making a connection to how you have felt that way before leads to more productive arguments that often lead to even more productive conversations which can often lead to more connection and intimacy.
wow I think you got the communication on point. you're young but you seem mature and know how to have an effective communication with your partner and how it's important to understand one another. good for you man
God, watching this really struck a nerve with me. My last relationship lasted 4 years and I remember getting into arguments that were sort of like this. She would get bored or expect me to do things and quote "initiative", which I'm gladly did so, but I can't do it all the time every day. During a period of school where I had to focus on school and could not do some of those things for her, she started to distance herself from me which eventually led to us breaking up. I've cried so many tears thinking about her, but I can't let myself do that anymore.
Forget about the bich. Your better off without her
Simp
Perfect representations of what it is like to be in a relationship in this era, reason i don't want to be in one, most peoples out there are full of insecurities, suffering from inferior complex.
Yeah but you're full of them yourself do why do you feel like you're above these people?
Oh my god, how dumb you have to be to take seriously that unnatural "conversation". Literally finding a woman or a couple that would behave like that is extremely rare. I think you should just touch some grass bro
Same, for me what I want in my life is just friends with benefits
Touch grass
@@phoenixangel5073 Oh the Irony.
"What do you want
ITS NOT THAT SIMPLE"
Literally the simplest questions ever.
Cruelty alone is the consequence of ignorance and fear mixed together in a specific way. You might think anger, remorse or spite do something, but truly those are feelings one could hide, but cruelty is an action. You can't be cruel without action.
"What do you want?"
"It's not that simple"
It never is...
Są tu jacyś Polacy?
elo
Jestem 😎😎
no są, a o co chodzi?
Oj tak tak
No raczej byczku
It is shocking how accurate this is. Relationships are work and I think a lot of people forget that. We're so poisoned by the highlight reels of social media and films that very few people understand the day to day dynamics of an actual relationship. Sadly, when faced with reality, most people decide to cut and run. There are so many people in the world and we're so connected that it is common to just jump from honeymoon period to honeymoon period riding the highs before cutting ties when reality sinks in. There is nothing more dangerous to the modern man than being seen as safe and comfortable. Contentment is where relationships are killed in the 2020s.
You need more subscribers, you need to be seen by more people. Im sure a lot of these scenarios are happening to so many people and your illustrations would help them. I wish I'd seen this sooner, but im glad i found you now. Thank you.
It's insane how Wojak's answers to his gf are the opposite of what you should say to your girl, this is painful to watch. If you're living this, fix it or get rid of it
Just *break up, you guys!* Yeah. DO IT FOR YOU!
-Bugs in Adventure Time(Web Weirdos).
@@sussyangel7492 You know what's even better? Staying in a relationship that you BOTH can't stand because you're too pussy to be by yourself for a while. Big brain decisions here!
Yeah, the guy is even more annoying that the girl.
I've seen many relationship parodies through movies, series, short films, skits, TH-cam videos, etc... This has by far been the most realistic depiction of a relationship I've ever seen.
Communication and patience is important for both sides.
Each person needs to be trying to be more understanding for the other.
It doesn't work if it's not both people working together.
0:03 - breaking bad refrence?
yes
I've been through something similar. No matter what you do, it will always turn negative, even if it's the best possible thing, it will be deemed as "you're only doing this now" or it will be "why weren't you like this before", and if you don't do anything, it gets even worse. Bottom line is, it does not really matter.. whatever you do - you will lose. To me, this is a sign that your partner got tired of you, and wants out, so they're trying to wear you down this way until you break and create a leverage for them to end the relationship.
And the worst thing about it, is that even talking doesn't work. If you want to have a serious talk and willing to show that person that you really do care and love them, it will be rejected, and they might even go a step beyond to reject it over some trivial things.
I am glad my relationship is not like this. Even if it's nice that we do romantic gestures to each other and whatnot, it feels nicer to know that we are more of a "ride or die" passionate couple than this picture perfect couple that has no flaws. His flaws and quirks are what keep me attracted to him. I am glad to have such deep love for him that I know I am receiving back.
Lucky you ^^
How long have you two been together?
@@spacemeter3001 Almost 2 years!! Love him so much. Thank you!
Your partner must be a carying person and a man of quality. You must be lucky. :)
@@Some-Rage-Inducing-Provocateur Yes he is, a great man indeed. Thank you.
Good for you but these two more like have problem of being dead inside and would rather feel depressed than try to at least do romantic gestures sometimes, rather than lack love for each other. They need therapist and hobbies.
This feels weird after seeing how they met. Great writing, subtle and all, but damned if modern times aren't depressing as shit.
Watching this I feel enormous frustration and regret... towards my past self.
They can't talk to each other. This is not a relationship, but a bargaining.
Bargaining over who is worse/better.
Who does more for the other person.
Who does less.
If you have lessons to learn from this, try to let go of the grief and work through it slowly together.
Maybe sometimes all it takes is saying out loud what's bothering you to realise that it's actually not that important.
Maybe you just need to start talking, rather than suppressing your feelings before they start to overflow in this way.
What I love about so many of these is how often both people are in the wrong.
"you didn't need to wait that long with the other guys"
*OOF*
Why is he with her if she didn't 'wait that long with the other guys'?! I don't understand it, of course I've never been in a relationship but doesn't that feel like the most emasculating thing ever!
@@nimazsheik5152 I believe it's implying she's with him for a partner dependance then love or attraction
@@nimazsheik5152 because maybe she doesn't feel close enough to him. Her exes aren't him. Maybe she wants to take her time. And why should she have sex with him ? Just because they're together for a long time ? That's not how it work
@@aikotitilai3820 seeing how cold they were to each other, that's probably it
Sums up the video pretty nicely. Never date a girl who wouldn't even sleep with you lmao
I recognize myself in wojak, back in one previous relationship.
Nowadays I control my computer (gaming included) time and let my current girlfriend guide me more often outside my comfort zone.
I know it makes her happy and knowing that makes me happy, even though I might not always enjoy the activity myself.
A (romantical) relationship is a dance that cannot be danced alone.
No compromises, no common life.
Those reoccuring buff and fat guy are always funny as fuck
They don't get along with each other. The guy is a liar and the girl has unrealistic expectations of her guy. There's nothing wrong with admitting that you're just not compatible.
Imagine being in a relationship.
Imagine having to imagine
@@nd7538 nah, I enjoy my life too much for that.
imagine having to imagine imagining
@@nani0logy IMAGINE
Cope lol. There’s plenty of happy couples but it’s easier to focus on the bad ones to fit your narrative.
My last relationship (3yrs ago) didn't end well but taught me so much about what I need to improve on myself. Being in a relationship takes effort and communication. Listen to each other and be patient. Your partner isn't there to be your only happiness, YOU are in charge of that.
When it’s like that one of the two has to take a turning point, if It’s love the other will follow and change for the better, if it’s not the other one will not like the change in the same way they did not like the way things were before.
I love how everyone blames only HER but noone mentions how he keeps lying about the beach girl incident, hoping to gaslight her shamelessly.
Yes agree
Because they lie like this too😂
It's too relatable, I mean some people I meet lie over some trivial things, pathological liars, dunno why maybe it's like a cope mechanism for their boring lives or they just want you off their back with all your trivial questions cause they're bored with you. Beats me, the guy in video clearly lies to avoid argument, ok maybe you didn't look at some girl with such intentions but why lie that you didn't look at all when you did? Avoiding it, sweeping it under the rug only makes you more suspicious of doing something bad.
Exactly
Has anyone mentioned how this chick is still obsessing over a passing comment this dude made on a vacation they took a year ago, and still actively uses it to bolster her argument on a completely unrelated topic (remember the whole topic was about how she thinks she deserves to be taken on a vacation every 6 months because someone else's wife is, and she treats the guy like absolute garbage because he isnt delivering the queen life on a silver platter for her) and the instant she figured out she was losing the initial real argument she switched to this gaslighting tactic to completely change the subject and get this guy on the ropes? So the reason she wants to be taken out on vacation now isnt because of the initial scene of her more successful friend bragging anymore, it's because of a passing comment he made a year ago when he actually did take her on a vacation.
Beware gentlemen, chicks do this all the time, learn to recognise it and never let yourself get derailed by these women.
The whole time I was on her side, at no point did I see her doing anything wrong, yet he was acting like a dick in all those situations
0:59
Godzilla vs Kong Fans: what.
thank god i can't relate to this.
my wife asked me once, is love a feeling, or a choice?
it's both. clearly and without a doubt. yes, i feel love for her in all those little moments, those romantic evenings and intimate mornings. but i still wake up and choose her, i choose to love her. you need to choose to love your partner through the mundane and tedious, because it's true that life isn't always going to be candlelit dinners and rose petals on the bed. you need to choose love through taxes and dirty dishes and squeaky brakes and unfolded laundry.
it's not always perfect, but those moments that are, fleeting and few as they may be, are worth it all.
I am a simple man. I see millenniathinker notification, i hop in
u will be single forever
From personal experience: don't date a person who constantly watches netflix or other streaming platform. Your relationship will be 100% toxic, believe me. They model their lives based on those imaginary people on screen. I think even in '451 farenheit" by Brudbury speaked about this how main protagonist wife is obsessed with fake screen dramas.
thats cope you just picked a bad one and got burned learn from it or repeat your failure
@@smokinbonez420 he is right.
+ netflix is woke propaganda
I mean, not everyone is the same, some people just enjoy watching shows or movies on television, it’s seriously not that deep. Only few are truly influenced by fictional characters that have otherworldly personality.
I would agree but it depends how they see it. If they are obsessed children about it or they actually have a personality and just see it as a way to relax
that's why you have to start being friends first before actually dating, this shit happens all the time and it's depressing, good job making this realistic asf
I spent many days, including an entire summer, with a couple like this. I hated to see the girl deal with it, who was a dear friend and a crush of mine. But there's only so much you can do and give, and I gave whatever I could, and for what.
the thing is, when you finally do date her and treat her every way that other dude never did, that's when you'll see the reason for the dude not caring as much
3:02 "How can you live in this country and not smoke?" Damn, that hit hard. I hear that all the time, and it is even worse with alcohol. Where I live, everyone looks weird at you when you're not drinking in you 14 years. Now I am adult, and complete abstinent with no exceptions for three years now. I wouldn't want it any other way, but people are douches.
Yo brahs you gotta find a friend who can also qualify as a partner. If everything you do is based on love and relationship, it'll be tough. It'll be tough either way honestly, but if you and your girl share hobbies then hanging out is natural and you don't sit around all day looking for something you can enjoy together. It helps
Exactly, spot on. The problem is people are only seeing the other gender as means to an end nowadays. There’s no companionship, people see their partner (and other gender in general it seems like) as “other” it seems like.
That’s partially natural and normal sure, but it’s gotten to an extreme point in today’s society.
See this why I hate social media it feeds into what people perceive of the world
I love how both of them had their own flaws and wanted to be in a successful relationship, but just didn’t know how. I’ve seen so many animations like this where one partner is the one that’s obviously the bad guy actively exploiting the other, who is an innocent little flawless cinnamon roll. This feels so much more realistic, and it shows not all bad relationships are “omg abusive body shaming dork narc bf manipulated naive girl because hot!!!!11!!“ I’m exaggerating a bit here, but yea it’s nice to see this kind of relationship portrayed, where both people mean well but still fail. They say the road to hell is paved with good intentions.
This is actually very well timed, as I have noticed a few people I used to interact with go on and on about girls they met online, and often get ghosted by, but fail to see the red flags in dating them
The thirst is real with some guys.
That was me yesterday when I received a photo of her with a guy who almost lickes her face. Like bruh why is she sending me a picture of some dude. In the end I lost my time and she was just playing with me.
I know someone for quite some time now online.
Honestly never had anything negative.
It's long distance, it hurts.
I'm afraid.
@@marcin8865 You're right. All she was doing was messing with your mind while getting off on it.
@@FireyGaming Cut the cord... Most of the time it's not worth the trouble.
"What do you want?"
"It's not that simple"
And to think there are men out there tolerating this bullshit on a daily basis.
@@qdpqbp Nah, more like never not know the answer to that question for yourself. If you yourself dont even know what you want, you deserve every bit of not getting it.
That’s the price you pay for getting laid. Men have evolved to tolerate it, because the ones that didn’t probably didn’t have kids lmao
It's actually a very realistic representation of a 2004 film with Ryan Gosling and Rachel McAdams called "The Notebook", Millennia Thinker kept even the original voices of the actors...
What movie is that from
they expect men to use 6th sense, read women's mind and predict the future
Relationships are very complicated to make work and communication and being able to admit your mistakes is key. Like in this video the girl is constantly imposing her expectations onto the boy. And the boy also lied about the beach and took the remote from the girl.
6:16 That is so true 😂😂😂. You look at a girl at the beach, you forget what her ass looked like 2 minutes after she passed, your girl will remember far longer than you xD. We are just more visual beings than women, that's all xD
If the Husband on the first couple is a shampoo bottle, he’d be head and shoulders
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