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Our two favorite people in the world sitting down together and giving life-giving content to the people. These two men are amazing souls who are truly using their voice and gifts to transform the world with love, kindness, and positivity. Love this!
@@lewishowes This is one of the most powerful videos I have seen about this topic. It has spoken to me so deeply. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you, so much for this guys. I cannot begin to explain how incredibly enlightening it has been to listen to you speak.
yes, it just gets tricky because in our times many people are not healthy on so many levels..hmm..so romantic and in other words reproductive relationships, sociology is becoming more relevant as a entryway to solving problems..if we addressed health on a societal level it would permeate all aspects of human experience..let go of the ego in true love especially when y'all both in the struggle! let go of the fake ideals perpetuated in the media, that's what ruined my last relationship 😔 I feared love
I love how Stephan doesn’t knock institutions, relationships or people in whole. He goes after mindsets, values and bad beliefs. Such a awesome approach
This is the kind of stuff that should be taught in schools I think. It's been an absolute education watching this interview. I know I am a better person for watching this interview!!
This year 2020 has been so blessful to me for God has given me a reason to live happily again after been heart broken for 11 months when my partner neglected me for another man. I suffered and went through all types of emotional tortures for i couldn't get any help to get my partner back not until i was refereed to PROPHET EHIAGWINA by my co-worker who gave me her full assurance about him that he can be of help to me. I got in touch with prophet ehiagwina and i hearken to his words and followed the instructions given to me by him. Could you believe that my girlfriend got back home within 48hours as said by him and today, my relationship life is restored & i'm so thankful, appreciative & grateful to God for using PROPHET EHIAGWINA to get my girlfriend back after 11 months of broken relationship. Is there anyone out there who needs to get back to he's or her lover back or needs any help of any kind? Then, i suggest that you get in touch with prophetehiagwina@gmail.com now through hiS email given and Call /WhatsApp: +2348139182295 for more information. ARE YOU INTERESTED IN *binding spells *Ex back spells *Make a right choice in relationship *Stop your partner from cheating *Take someone out of your marriage life THEN CONTACT PROPHETEHIAGWINA
How can ppl in unstable relationships teach children about being in a healthy relationship? Anyone can't teach any thing. Your parents, a family member, or an older mentor should teach you. School can't teach ppl how to live. 🙄🙄🙄🙄 What is the family's responsibility? Nothing?
People jump from relationship to relationship without figuring out who they are by themselves. Stephen is SO right-on about sex blocking reality (not his words) for both men and women. People mistake lust for love and then when things start to settle into real life, typically between 1 and 3 years, people tell themselves that they've "fallen out of love". The person you should have the most love for is YOU! Relationship is giving to one another - if you do not love yourself you have no love to give. I was married for 26 years and divorced. I do not feel that marriage was a failure. I was young and we grew in different directions. I waited one year to date and I'm now in my second marriage 15 years and adore my husband. I met my second husband at 49 years old. He's a few years younger. I never waited for his phone calls or felt fearful in our relationship. Men definitely latch on quickly and when you introduce sex into the relationship too soon, before you really get to know one another it often convolutes everything. The #1 important quality in relationship is shared values. You can have great sex, etc. but if you don't have shared values the relationship will crumble. Stephen has a lot of relationship wisdom. Thanks for having him on the show.
Two broken people don't work but two wholeness people work. Focus on God first, heal from the past, let go of the past, wait on God to tell you yes this is the partner. Don't make the choices on your own
The power of vulnerability is just incredible in a relationship. It’s ego that separates us. LOVE should be unconditional but RELATIONSHIPS should not🤷🏿♂️ Never confuse love with relationships. Love should be given to everybody freely. Relationships require more than just love. Love = being kind, patient, understanding n compassionate. These are the things we have to give to pple in general. Relationships = require communication, commitment n effort.
Idk... I don't think that love should be given unconditionally to just anyone. You have to be worthy of someone's love. Never take their love for granted!
This video hit me in so many ways. I knew 2 weeks before I got married that it was the wrong decision, but I felt that I was in too deep as there were guests that were coming over from Scotland. I also really knew that he was not my person when he gained a lot of weight while we were together and I was no longer attracted to him. The funny thing is that he would blame me for the food I cooked yet I had 3 kids and ate the same food as he did!! I ended the marriage about 7 years ago because I really wanted to cheat and human to human I didn't want to treat him that way. We've had conversations since then along the lines of me being the one who had the guts to pull out of a relationship that neither of us wanted to be in. Right now we are doing well as co-parents and we were always better friends and teammates then romantic partners. I did get into a relationship 3 years later that was off and on for 3 years and I recognize looking back that neither of us was fully able to get past our pasts. At the moment I've decided to be single and abstinent to gain a better knowledge of myself so I can heal the wounds of the past so I won't feel the desire to bleed all over the future. At the moment I am working towards my true purpose working in an addiction treatment center and attending university to get my bachelor in addiction counseling. Thank you for all the people you bring onto your show, I love your message keep being amazing!!!
Thank you for sharing your experience. I think it's courageous to make that step of deciding divorce was better than cheating, especially because children are involved and as parents we at times make the mistake of staying in an unhappy marriage at all costs so that the kids won't have to experience divorce.
Two quality men here. I watched two other dudes on YT the other day expecting a talk like this, but it turned out to be two nearly middle aged men who still couldn't figure out the difference between lust and love. Anyway, this podcast makes me so grateful to have found my husband. We're not perfect but we're perfect for each other. :)
@@Jack-rd7li not true. You may have chemistry but there’s no connection. Although connection allows chemistry to come naturally. (Hope that makes sense)
I swear by living in your feminine energy. The minute I started doing this the caliber of men I started to attract changed and I found who I believe is the perfect person for me. I’m very glad Stephan touched on that because not many people do and it’s such an important piece of information for woman to be aware of.
I agree with you but sometimes it is a challenge being that our society is trending towards role reversal. It's almost challenging to find someone who believes that appreciates femininity at its purest form
Rebekah Bart on TH-cam I follow April Mason and Helena Hart. They both speak a lot on this topic and have been very helpful in my feminine journey. All the best to you ☺️
The part where Stephan says ‘stop letting your children see you miserable ‘ struck a cord. From me being a mother to seeing my parents. Healing time, xxx Truly, this was beneficial on so so many levels, as well as paradoxical One of your best x all momentarily of course x
I'm hearing a lot of words like "prayer" "healing" etc, let's remember this all stems from our one true God, Jesus Christ. He is our best mentor and all the advice you could ever need is in the bible! It's amazing
Unfortunately because people suffer in different ways, objective interpretation of the good book becomes difficult. Have you ever been jaded by life, and if so how did you find your way back to let the bible heal you?
THE NOW CO. Have you given into the thought of reading it or pray before even beginning too? because it won’t help you healed if you’re not inviting the Holy Spirit to guide you in the first place that’ll be complicated.
Wow 😮Our 3 truths were so similar! He asked that question and I thought it was so deep. I said: 1. Heal 2. Find your true identity 3. Learn/embrace true love That’s good stuff! What a great interview.
I love this man (not in sexual way) his energy is different, I learned about Love and relationship more from this video than ever before. His perspective and knowledge is amazing. Much thanks for bringing him on stage.
4 months and abstinence is sometimes challenging . When I think about my husband and what he deserves, I’m through giving all of me to anyone who’s not him.
This is a podcast that you have to listen to more than once! I listened to this on your podcast and is so informative for relationships with ourselves, love, friendships for true meaning. 😃😊
Think there are a lot of childhood molestation issues out there that inadvertantly shape who we are as adults and how we respond to people we're intimately involved with. We mostly walk down a very unhealthy path.
Amazing after my divorce I realized I was in a relationship where he just drained me in every possible way, nothing was enough. Thank goodness I finally left that marriage. And with work I realized a whole bunch about my childhood and my self and that marriage. Today I am so much happier and I have learned. Great lessons here. Thank you both.
I often tell people to stop separating friendzone and partner material because if you want to last you must be able to be best friends at the same time or you won't communicate, hang out, have fun together after a few years, or lean on each other when going through hardships. I'm always so glad to see another INFJ personality ^^ It took me such a long time to accept being a born helper that people open up to very quickly. I've heard so many dark secrets over my years. Great advice, truly! Edit: I feel lucky that both grandparents pair, my parents, and my aunts found their forever best friend, and my uncle had 1 divorce and then found his forever best friend wife so my whole relative tree was full of role models to what a marriage can be and should be.
Good information but I don’t think some important root issues were addressed. The fears women (and men) have were not created in a vacuum. It’s not all about past issues...it’s about the present dating culture that people fall into that keeps people from truly connecting. There are a lot of emotionally abusive men and women out there creating these scary experiences. In my case, I did the inner work, increased my self esteem and self love, I wake up extremely happy every day and all of my other relationships have improved. I’m positive and open emotionally but I find I have to cut off a lot of people early on in dating relationships because of disrespectful and emotionally manipulative behavior. I think that I will run into someone I can connect with if I keep myself open and positive but it’s looking like it will take a while to push past all the BS people that are out there. Doing inner work doesn’t automatically guarantee the availability of other emotionally balanced people to date. Hopefully the trend will catch.
i think the point he was trying to make is that its easier to navigate the current situation if your mind isn't clouded by past pain. When you know yourself and know what you want its a lot easier for you to tell if a guy is right for you or not which saves you the time and stress of dealing with bs. It doesn't mean you become a magnet for only great guys. It means in a room of 100 men you can more easily choose the one good one. also, just because someone is a good person doesn't mean they are good for you.
100% with you on this. Then, from whoever is left, the stars still need to align. For me, that's aligning for 3 things: intellectual compatibility, physical attraction and similar values. When the odds are initially narrowed to such a degree (weeding out the emotionally unavailable & the manipulative), it's truly like finding a needle in a haystack of whoever is left ☹️
Sealina LaShelle exactly. People act like dating dating is some magical thing where as soon as you get your shit together Prince Charming will just come chasing you down. You still have to kiss a few frogs.
"The majority of people aren't even married to the person they have the deepest feelings for." I believe this. Through observing other relationships as well as mine over the years, I've learned that what determines a relationships success is not how much you have in common, or your attraction to each other or ANY of that. There is ONE thing that determines the success of a relationship- 'How much both people are willing to make it work.' That's pretty much it. And boy can that be frustrating.
I am going have to watch twice to really sink in. This is one of the deepest videos I have watched. Divorced twice, my first husband meets all the criteria of the one of a lifetime connection. I cant explain but he was that man. We never ever had a fight during our dating or while we were married. We laughed together, we had beautiful baby boy and we had each others back. Unfoetunalty he moved and I didnt want to move at the time bcos I was too young and my parents didnt want me to leave them. Every relationship after him did not work, I became angry woman, I cant bond or be vulnerable or trust anyone. My second marriage was due to desperation. I was single mum n was struggling. I was married to him for 8 years. The most miserable years of my entire life. I have a daughter for him but I really know now I would never have married him had I not been struggling. I have been divorced for 6 years, I dont think marriage is for me, I spent alot of time alone, my relationship with myself is great, my career is great, I have done well for myself. I am scared now to try out, I dont want all this to be taken away from me. My lifestyle, my happiness and peace that I have. Ugg it feels nice to have someone but when you have got out of the storm you get scared. Thanks for this video, so powerful!
I would love to see a part two on this! I love it when two men get together and have conversations like this in a healthy way. It's not about bashing either genders. It's more about clarification and understanding.
I had a relationship that lasted 8 years before healing. It was very disfunctional. I knew I didnt really love him since the first day, but I couldnt find a reason why. He was nice, clever, handsome, he loved me much more of what I thought I deserved, so how could I leave him? Maybe it was me? I wasnt able to experience love? I had a mask for years. He never truly knew me and I never let him in. I feel sad when I remember It. It wasnt fair. I was toxic. But I don't think he was the problem. I was. I didnt have any self esteem. I couldnt trust myself. I hated myself in many ways and I needed so much to heal. I wasnt responsable of my life. Now, I am concious, and I am healing everyday. I am a very new person. And I found a wonderful human being that I love deeply and he loves me back. We are building something very beautiful together and I am proud of our relationship. I could never get here before healing. The same way, my friendships were not real. I was faking my life. So yes, we need to heal. At least I had to.
The interviewer was everything I wanted him to be. I was wondering if the questions I had in mind would have been answered and he certainly hit em ... thank you! Great video.
Healing✨ couldn’t agree more. My relationships and the woman I am today wouldn’t be the same without healing. Few books that started it all for me: Wayne Dyer “Change Your Thoughts. Change your life” Michael A. Singer “Unthreaded Soul” Gary Chapman “5 Love languages”
That's the key; healthy relationships not only empower people to live better it also promote people to encourage others to live better. We you are in a healthy relationship you feel good and want to share that feeling, however when you're in a unhealthy relationship you are more prone to share that feeling as well
You know what the 22nd minute inspired in me? Sit down in my meditation and ask myself what is holding me back from opening up all the way to my core? Of course, only to the person I feel is the one for me. I too agree with the sad part that we don't have that deep connection more than once or twice in our lives.
Awesome topic to address in today's self-centered, over-sheltered, snowflaked, insecure culture when there's an abundance of loving connections to be experienced! More please!
This literally happened to me twice...the first time I figured it out and I was thankful that the LORD didn't allow to become emotionally invested in that woman. However, the second time it happened I just didn't get until Stephan spoke about how the woman lost emotional control. Thank you sir for the enlightenment.
I love what Stephans says here. It's so balanced and there's so much truth in it. I understand why people opened up to him so easily. He clearly had a lot empathy and emotional intelligence from a young age.
Leaving behind my past relationships mistreatment , when I’m with a guy who treats me well rather than feeling surprised I say to me in my mind “ that’s the way I deserve to be treated because you are a Queen “ and I received it and enjoy it .
Stephan Speaks is the "Man-of-Men!" I love his presence, his points, his principals and his powerful practices! Keep speaking and thanks for showcasing him Lewis Howes! #stephenspeaks #speakstruth #therealdeal
I’m in tears for how powerful this video was. Reflecting on my own true love and our relationship. Resonating with so much. So much truth, thank you 🙏🏻
i agree with the connection thing, either it's there or it's not!!!!!!!! if I don't vibe with you from our first few min of interaction, then it's probably not going to happen..
I have been in an uncommitted long distance, open relationship which has been part of the healing journey for my partner and I for more than three years. You don't have to be "the One" to have a healthy relationship. I think people put unrealistic expectations on romantic relationships. I found a person I had that connection with, we got together twice in this lifetime, more than ten years ago we broke off our engagement...we both had LOTS of unhealed trauma which led to us both damaging ourselves and each other more. Sometimes healing is necessary before a healthy monogamous relationship can really 'make it'. Also, the idea of a 70 year monogamous relationship is new and seems highly impractical to me. Relationships can be beautiful in many contexts, when there is an agreement to share love, pleasure, growth, silences, experiences, and conversations. There's not one way. Much love!
It took me more than two years of solitude and a profound and serious work done upon myself, until my wonderful man and me crossed paths. It's so magical 😊
Wow! What a powerful podcast! I felt this was about my life. Everything was 100% true and i was that woman that stayed in a marraige 18 years and knew in the first year he wasnt the one but was already pregnant. Im now in the process of divorce and have done the work on healing and loving myself again.Thank you stephan for your expertise.
Such a powerful interview. Healing is so important. When I started to work on myself, the blessings in all areas started pouring in. It's a constant battle of old habits but I wouldn't change it for anything else! 🙏🏽
Heartbreak is horrible. I couldn’t imagine loving someone like I did my ex. Love is the only thing to me that hurts but feels good. 🤦🏾♀️ Now the two are dating other people I still can’t find complete happiness. But I enjoy listening to you. ✌🏾
Stephan, you are a true gift! Watched this entire video and it spoke to my soul! Thank you. And like you mentioned, with your words, your knowledge, and being so intuned you are FREEING millions. Keep up the great work. xo
I’m 22, but I think I’ve found this. A good friend of mine for the past 6 months, we just had our first date last night. We both noticed it. It’s overwhelming and amazing at the same time. It will come
The reason this is flawed is that it's tied to expectations.. so you can only get disappointed. Some expectations you can't get rid of, but you can choose how you act on it. You can be grateful when they show you they care.. and not focus on the one time they forgot to.
Amazing episode. Initially people contact me for therapy for Anxiety or Depression symptoms, but during assessment, it quickly becomes clear that there are relationship issues in their life. We repeat what we haven't healed. Thank you Lewis and Stephan.
I'm only 1/3 of the way through this and had to pause it to say that this - is FULL of gold advice.... I needed to hear everything I have so far. Thank you... Just, thank you! Perfect timing for my life right now.
Stephan and I have alot in common, especially the part about people opening up to me about their life stories and traumas. He is such a blessing in this planet and I truly believe everyone needs to hear his words of his wisdom!
I thank you for your wisdom and I wish that the world can hear this advice!! I listened two days the same message to make sure I didn’t miss anything. ❤️
I am going thru a divorce, got married 5 years ago and knew it wasn't right when I walked down the aisle....but at the time we had already invested 4 years so I figured I might as well make it work....I definitely learned my lesson never again!
I had to do some serious introspection... So overwhelmed putting everyone's needs before my own. I would just put my clothes on and ride out.. 3 yrs. and 45 lbs. later. I did not realize how much weight I gained until I had to go to the mall and pick out a outfit. I was looking crazy😯🙄. I have learned the power of putting myself 1st. My emotional, and physical health it's all I have. I will no longer put others needs before my own. And practice praying before I speak and take anyone's emtional baggage. Thank you.
I believe that we must find time to get to know each other. We are all different. The weakness to me is that males do not want to commit or compromise which lead to unfavourable communication.
I blamed myself for this, but now I'm not taking it out on myself anymore. I'm also realising that there are people out there that haven't put in the work to be a better person to achieve a healthy relationship. Ive realised That has nothing to do with me personally, I'm doing the work on myself and being open minded. I've learnt it's about meeting someone on the same level as you.
Wow it’s so wonderful to see Stephan bring wisdom and simplicity back into relationships, which have become far too complex. It’s uncanny how Lewis’ style and narrative is almost exactly like that of Tom Bilyeu, even down to the same catchphrases and intonation. I wondered if they inspire each other. Wonderful insightful interview and excellent questions thanks so much to you both.
This guy is on point. In the beginning of this podcast Stephan described every romantic relationship I have ever had. Guess I got some healing to do, looking forward to learning more from him.
excellent ... excellent episode. Another great one Lewis. Thanks for being consistent with your interviewing of your guests. Always great guests and great questions asked. I'm always enjoying your book the Mask of Masculinity. #blessup
Stephan and Lewis thank you for putting together this amazing show! Stephan spoke on something that was mind blowing for me. He mentioned a man that cares for you will listen to you and do the things you need even if it's not exactly what you wanted because us women may tend to not be clear....wowww. Us women, sometimes overlook the attempts of men trying to please us. But not only that, sometimes us women are not honest with ourselves in realizing some men don't try to please us or listen to us because they don't care. If there is no action taken after the conversation then a man is clearly showing us how he truly feels. We must acknowledge those feelings, love that person for who they are, and most importantly move on.
Wow Stephan, that was a truly truly powerful video. It impacted me alot. I'm wanting to master relationships in this way. I'm working on becoming a entrepreneur, life coach and and philanthropist. I pray one day I'll be able to sit in the same room as you and meet you. Be blessed and thank you 🙏🙏
“It’s not just think before you speak, it’s pray before you speak”
What a great line 💕
Janey Imaani - Emotional Awareness amen
Sylvia Leads 💕
beautiful- resonates in my soul
SoMoS me too
There's a lot more to this. Go read this book "THE UNSPOKEN SECRET" by John Gram . Its a powerful insight to relationships.
"You only find that connection once or twice in your life. Twice if you are lucky." - That statement ripped my heart out my chest 😭
Maybe you just think you have experienced that amazing connection when in reality there is a connection out there that is greater than you ever dreamed or knew possible.
@@Ethawa From your thoughts /keyboard to God's ears. Thanks for the positive vibes.
Look what I found. He is talking to you now! ;) th-cam.com/video/gM2WQWeH_SE/w-d-xo.html
i felt it too
@@Ethawa dang.. that's deep! 🤔
"We've normalized disfunction too much" ABSOLUTELY 100%!!
That's the truth... this is how we tend to ignore major red flags
Yes! Such a true statement.
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Our two favorite people in the world sitting down together and giving life-giving content to the people. These two men are amazing souls who are truly using their voice and gifts to transform the world with love, kindness, and positivity. Love this!
@@lewishowes This is one of the most powerful videos I have seen about this topic. It has spoken to me so deeply. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you, so much for this guys. I cannot begin to explain how incredibly enlightening it has been to listen to you speak.
I was so excited to see these two together!!!
You guys are amazing too.. 😊😊😊
You guys are amazing...very intentional....can't wait for 2019...
I am a big of yours Stephan. This interview was incredible & much needed for me. God Bless you!
In my opinion, the secret to keeping a healthy relationship is to realize that a healthy relationship means two healthy individuals.
Ooooo that’s heavy but correct!
yes, it just gets tricky because in our times many people are not healthy on so many levels..hmm..so romantic and in other words reproductive relationships, sociology is becoming more relevant as a entryway to solving problems..if we addressed health on a societal level it would permeate all aspects of human experience..let go of the ego in true love especially when y'all both in the struggle! let go of the fake ideals perpetuated in the media, that's what ruined my last relationship 😔 I feared love
Tanvir Ahmed yes Interdependent relationships. Too many are co-dependant
@@Lisa_M_V Exactly!
Love it👍
I love how Stephan doesn’t knock institutions, relationships or people in whole. He goes after mindsets, values and bad beliefs. Such a awesome approach
Being abstinence does work!!! You can see your life much more clearly! And remember it is not always about us. Listen.
How long have you been abstinence? And if you want to share why but ofc no problem if you don’t want to share that here
This is the kind of stuff that should be taught in schools I think. It's been an absolute education watching this interview. I know I am a better person for watching this interview!!
I Agee!!
This year 2020 has been so blessful to me for God has given me a reason to live happily again after been heart broken for 11 months when my partner neglected me for another man. I suffered and went through all types of emotional tortures for i couldn't get any help to get my partner back not until i was refereed to PROPHET EHIAGWINA by my co-worker who gave me her full assurance about him that he can be of help to me. I got in touch with prophet ehiagwina and i hearken to his words and followed the instructions given to me by him. Could you believe that my girlfriend got back home within 48hours as said by him and today, my relationship life is restored & i'm so thankful, appreciative & grateful to God for using PROPHET EHIAGWINA to get my girlfriend back after 11 months of broken relationship. Is there anyone out there who needs to get back to he's or her lover back or needs any help of any kind? Then, i suggest that you get in touch with prophetehiagwina@gmail.com now through hiS email given and Call /WhatsApp: +2348139182295 for more information.
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This is the kind of stuff that should be taught AT HOME, IN the HOME! It is not the school's responsibility.
💯 agree! I say that all the time and love having discussions about these topics with my 3 sons. Breaking unhealthy generational patterns..
How can ppl in unstable relationships teach children about being in a healthy relationship? Anyone can't teach any thing. Your parents, a family member, or an older mentor should teach you. School can't teach ppl how to live. 🙄🙄🙄🙄 What is the family's responsibility? Nothing?
People jump from relationship to relationship without figuring out who they are by themselves. Stephen is SO right-on about sex blocking reality (not his words) for both men and women. People mistake lust for love and then when things start to settle into real life, typically between 1 and 3 years, people tell themselves that they've "fallen out of love". The person you should have the most love for is YOU! Relationship is giving to one another - if you do not love yourself you have no love to give. I was married for 26 years and divorced. I do not feel that marriage was a failure. I was young and we grew in different directions. I waited one year to date and I'm now in my second marriage 15 years and adore my husband. I met my second husband at 49 years old. He's a few years younger. I never waited for his phone calls or felt fearful in our relationship. Men definitely latch on quickly and when you introduce sex into the relationship too soon, before you really get to know one another it often convolutes everything. The #1 important quality in relationship is shared values. You can have great sex, etc. but if you don't have shared values the relationship will crumble. Stephen has a lot of relationship wisdom. Thanks for having him on the show.
Two broken people don't work but two wholeness people work. Focus on God first, heal from the past, let go of the past, wait on God to tell you yes this is the partner. Don't make the choices on your own
Oh that is so vital and refreshing to hear. Thank you. Amen
The power of vulnerability is just incredible in a relationship. It’s ego that separates us.
LOVE should be unconditional but RELATIONSHIPS should not🤷🏿♂️
Never confuse love with relationships.
Love should be given to everybody freely.
Relationships require more than just love.
Love = being kind, patient, understanding n compassionate. These are the things we have to give to pple in general.
Relationships = require communication, commitment n effort.
casmuden well said
Exactly! Perfectly worded.
Idk... I don't think that love should be given unconditionally to just anyone. You have to be worthy of someone's love. Never take their love for granted!
Being “emotionally naked” is hands down the most important part of a relationship.
Chemistry is not connection 20:49 that gave me chills. It's so easy to mistake chemistry for a connection if you're not aware that they are different.
Actions. That's the only way! How they treat you.
This video hit me in so many ways. I knew 2 weeks before I got married that it was the wrong decision, but I felt that I was in too deep as there were guests that were coming over from Scotland. I also really knew that he was not my person when he gained a lot of weight while we were together and I was no longer attracted to him. The funny thing is that he would blame me for the food I cooked yet I had 3 kids and ate the same food as he did!! I ended the marriage about 7 years ago because I really wanted to cheat and human to human I didn't want to treat him that way. We've had conversations since then along the lines of me being the one who had the guts to pull out of a relationship that neither of us wanted to be in. Right now we are doing well as co-parents and we were always better friends and teammates then romantic partners.
I did get into a relationship 3 years later that was off and on for 3 years and I recognize looking back that neither of us was fully able to get past our pasts. At the moment I've decided to be single and abstinent to gain a better knowledge of myself so I can heal the wounds of the past so I won't feel the desire to bleed all over the future. At the moment I am working towards my true purpose working in an addiction treatment center and attending university to get my bachelor in addiction counseling.
Thank you for all the people you bring onto your show, I love your message keep being amazing!!!
"Bleed all over the future" I am digging that analogy... That's exactly what it's like!
Wow wow wow
Mariel Snow Amen...
Thank you for sharing your experience. I think it's courageous to make that step of deciding divorce was better than cheating, especially because children are involved and as parents we at times make the mistake of staying in an unhappy marriage at all costs so that the kids won't have to experience divorce.
You're fucking awesome for sharing your story. Self awareness is the tool to absolute healing.
I think i'll put myself at the top of the "who hurt me list".
Two quality men here. I watched two other dudes on YT the other day expecting a talk like this, but it turned out to be two nearly middle aged men who still couldn't figure out the difference between lust and love. Anyway, this podcast makes me so grateful to have found my husband. We're not perfect but we're perfect for each other. :)
@@lewishowes :)
Wow. He just dropped something in my spirit. I wonder how many are married to someone they do not deeply love?
montellmason033 He was nice when he said 60%.I believe it’s 90%.
Plenty
Millions!
@@marshaalison1569 I agree
I think it’s also because marriage in this generation is more about financial needs being met than emotional needs.
Chemistry vs connection... So true and people mostly confuse the two
not hard to realize that they go hand in hand
@@Jack-rd7li not true. You may have chemistry but there’s no connection. Although connection allows chemistry to come naturally. (Hope that makes sense)
I swear by living in your feminine energy. The minute I started doing this the caliber of men I started to attract changed and I found who I believe is the perfect person for me. I’m very glad Stephan touched on that because not many people do and it’s such an important piece of information for woman to be aware of.
Is there a book you could recommend or a person? I'm wanting to grow in this area.
I agree with you but sometimes it is a challenge being that our society is trending towards role reversal. It's almost challenging to find someone who believes that appreciates femininity at its purest form
Rebekah Bart on TH-cam I follow April Mason and Helena Hart. They both speak a lot on this topic and have been very helpful in my feminine journey. All the best to you ☺️
Yes, empower yourself and the rest will fall in line. Keep it going!
@@liabw05 Monique Head on yt also discusses how to tap into your feminine energy at length
The part where Stephan says ‘stop letting your children see you miserable ‘ struck a cord. From me being a mother to seeing my parents. Healing time, xxx
Truly, this was beneficial on so so many levels, as well as paradoxical
One of your best x all momentarily of course x
I've never heard someone breakdown the relationship dynamic with such clarity. This was such a pleasure to watch. ❤️
I'm hearing a lot of words like "prayer" "healing" etc, let's remember this all stems from our one true God, Jesus Christ. He is our best mentor and all the advice you could ever need is in the bible! It's amazing
Right!!! Bless you
Unfortunately because people suffer in different ways, objective interpretation of the good book becomes difficult. Have you ever been jaded by life, and if so how did you find your way back to let the bible heal you?
THE NOW CO. Have you given into the thought of reading it or pray before even beginning too? because it won’t help you healed if you’re not inviting the Holy Spirit to guide you in the first place that’ll be complicated.
Wow 😮Our 3 truths were so similar! He asked that question and I thought it was so deep. I said:
1. Heal
2. Find your true identity
3. Learn/embrace true love
That’s good stuff! What a great interview.
I love this man (not in sexual way) his energy is different, I learned about Love and relationship more from this video than ever before. His perspective and knowledge is amazing. Much thanks for bringing him on stage.
Stephan is like all of the top dating coaches all wrapped up in one person. He speaks amazing truth!
4 months and abstinence is sometimes challenging . When I think about my husband and what he deserves, I’m through giving all of me to anyone who’s not him.
This is a podcast that you have to listen to more than once! I listened to this on your podcast and is so informative for relationships with ourselves, love, friendships for true meaning. 😃😊
These two flow very well together..👏🏼👏🏼
Hi
PLEASE have him back!
Think there are a lot of childhood molestation issues out there that inadvertantly shape who we are as adults and how we respond to people we're intimately involved with. We mostly walk down a very unhealthy path.
Amazing after my divorce I realized I was in a relationship where he just drained me in every possible way, nothing was enough. Thank goodness I finally left that marriage. And with work I realized a whole bunch about my childhood and my self and that marriage. Today I am so much happier and I have learned. Great lessons here. Thank you both.
I often tell people to stop separating friendzone and partner material because if you want to last you must be able to be best friends at the same time or you won't communicate, hang out, have fun together after a few years, or lean on each other when going through hardships. I'm always so glad to see another INFJ personality ^^ It took me such a long time to accept being a born helper that people open up to very quickly. I've heard so many dark secrets over my years.
Great advice, truly!
Edit: I feel lucky that both grandparents pair, my parents, and my aunts found their forever best friend, and my uncle had 1 divorce and then found his forever best friend wife so my whole relative tree was full of role models to what a marriage can be and should be.
that i so sweet!
If you're not connected to yourself, meaning you're disconnected from your heart, no one else can connect with you either.
YhooH
Good information but I don’t think some important root issues were addressed. The fears women (and men) have were not created in a vacuum. It’s not all about past issues...it’s about the present dating culture that people fall into that keeps people from truly connecting. There are a lot of emotionally abusive men and women out there creating these scary experiences. In my case, I did the inner work, increased my self esteem and self love, I wake up extremely happy every day and all of my other relationships have improved. I’m positive and open emotionally but I find I have to cut off a lot of people early on in dating relationships because of disrespectful and emotionally manipulative behavior. I think that I will run into someone I can connect with if I keep myself open and positive but it’s looking like it will take a while to push past all the BS people that are out there. Doing inner work doesn’t automatically guarantee the availability of other emotionally balanced people to date. Hopefully the trend will catch.
HighFrequencyLiving I do agree with you.
i think the point he was trying to make is that its easier to navigate the current situation if your mind isn't clouded by past pain. When you know yourself and know what you want its a lot easier for you to tell if a guy is right for you or not which saves you the time and stress of dealing with bs. It doesn't mean you become a magnet for only great guys. It means in a room of 100 men you can more easily choose the one good one. also, just because someone is a good person doesn't mean they are good for you.
You're one step ahead of the game and what you're describing is just the act of dating. You have to wade through the mess to get to the prize.
100% with you on this. Then, from whoever is left, the stars still need to align. For me, that's aligning for 3 things: intellectual compatibility, physical attraction and similar values.
When the odds are initially narrowed to such a degree (weeding out the emotionally unavailable & the manipulative), it's truly like finding a needle in a haystack of whoever is left ☹️
Sealina LaShelle exactly. People act like dating dating is some magical thing where as soon as you get your shit together Prince Charming will just come chasing you down. You still have to kiss a few frogs.
"The majority of people aren't even married to the person they have the deepest feelings for." I believe this. Through observing other relationships as well as mine over the years, I've learned that what determines a relationships success is not how much you have in common, or your attraction to each other or ANY of that. There is ONE thing that determines the success of a relationship- 'How much both people are willing to make it work.' That's pretty much it. And boy can that be frustrating.
I am going have to watch twice to really sink in. This is one of the deepest videos I have watched. Divorced twice, my first husband meets all the criteria of the one of a lifetime connection. I cant explain but he was that man. We never ever had a fight during our dating or while we were married. We laughed together, we had beautiful baby boy and we had each others back. Unfoetunalty he moved and I didnt want to move at the time bcos I was too young and my parents didnt want me to leave them.
Every relationship after him did not work, I became angry woman, I cant bond or be vulnerable or trust anyone. My second marriage was due to desperation. I was single mum n was struggling. I was married to him for 8 years. The most miserable years of my entire life. I have a daughter for him but I really know now I would never have married him had I not been struggling. I have been divorced for 6 years, I dont think marriage is for me, I spent alot of time alone, my relationship with myself is great, my career is great, I have done well for myself. I am scared now to try out, I dont want all this to be taken away from me. My lifestyle, my happiness and peace that I have. Ugg it feels nice to have someone but when you have got out of the storm you get scared. Thanks for this video, so powerful!
I would love to see a part two on this! I love it when two men get together and have conversations like this in a healthy way. It's not about bashing either genders. It's more about clarification and understanding.
Keep you standards high. Don't settle. You feel loved... You give love.
I had a relationship that lasted 8 years before healing. It was very disfunctional. I knew I didnt really love him since the first day, but I couldnt find a reason why. He was nice, clever, handsome, he loved me much more of what I thought I deserved, so how could I leave him?
Maybe it was me? I wasnt able to experience love?
I had a mask for years. He never truly knew me and I never let him in.
I feel sad when I remember It. It wasnt fair. I was toxic.
But I don't think he was the problem. I was. I didnt have any self esteem. I couldnt trust myself. I hated myself in many ways and I needed so much to heal. I wasnt responsable of my life.
Now, I am concious, and I am healing everyday. I am a very new person. And I found a wonderful human being that I love deeply and he loves me back. We are building something very beautiful together and I am proud of our relationship. I could never get here before healing. The same way, my friendships were not real. I was faking my life.
So yes, we need to heal. At least I had to.
I'm rooting for you!🧡
Wow what made your self esteem so low in the first place
One of the BEST podcasts I've ever listened to!👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Hi
I'm good with sparks but I really want that inferno. "El amor es la amistad prendida fuego por el fuego." Love is friendship set on fire.
Yes!!
Wow! I've never heard that expression before. Thanks for sharing!
Hi
Hi
The interviewer was everything I wanted him to be. I was wondering if the questions I had in mind would have been answered and he certainly hit em ... thank you! Great video.
Healing✨ couldn’t agree more. My relationships and the woman I am today wouldn’t be the same without healing.
Few books that started it all for me:
Wayne Dyer “Change Your Thoughts. Change your life”
Michael A. Singer “Unthreaded Soul”
Gary Chapman “5 Love languages”
Great picks!
Just finished 5 love languages. Learned so much!
Shea B Nice!! Excellent read!! What are your love languages?
QT
Serv
Aff
Gift
Touch
Pretty sure QT is his last and Touch is his 1st lol
I’ve read two out of three which are the last 2. Amazing books. Life changing!!!!
That's the key; healthy relationships not only empower people to live better it also promote people to encourage others to live better. We you are in a healthy relationship you feel good and want to share that feeling, however when you're in a unhealthy relationship you are more prone to share that feeling as well
You know what the 22nd minute inspired in me?
Sit down in my meditation and ask myself what is holding me back from opening up all the way to my core?
Of course, only to the person I feel is the one for me. I too agree with the sad part that we don't have that deep connection more than once or twice in our lives.
So many great things to take away from this episode! Stephan is spiritually and emotionally intelligent! I'm so glad that you had him on as a guest!
I love your podcast Lewis!! ❤🙏🏾
Awesome topic to address in today's self-centered, over-sheltered, snowflaked, insecure culture when there's an abundance of loving connections to be experienced! More please!
This literally happened to me twice...the first time I figured it out and I was thankful that the LORD didn't allow to become emotionally invested in that woman. However, the second time it happened I just didn't get until Stephan spoke about how the woman lost emotional control. Thank you sir for the enlightenment.
Been following Stephan for about a month so to see him on my favorite podcast is amazing!
me too
blessed journey to you
I so enjoyed this podcast. Very powerful truth.
I love what Stephans says here. It's so balanced and there's so much truth in it. I understand why people opened up to him so easily. He clearly had a lot empathy and emotional intelligence from a young age.
Leaving behind my past relationships mistreatment , when I’m with a guy who treats me well rather than feeling surprised I say to me in my mind “ that’s the way I deserve to be treated because you are a Queen “ and I received it and enjoy it .
Stephan Speaks is the "Man-of-Men!" I love his presence, his points, his principals and his powerful practices! Keep speaking and thanks for showcasing him Lewis Howes! #stephenspeaks #speakstruth #therealdeal
I’m in tears for how powerful this video was. Reflecting on my own true love and our relationship. Resonating with so much. So much truth, thank you 🙏🏻
My opinion of a healthy relationship is when two person can see each for who they are and willing to embrace each other flaws.
First you see the hair art and then the gems of wisdom :-)
i agree with the connection thing, either it's there or it's not!!!!!!!! if I don't vibe with you from our first few min of interaction, then it's probably not going to happen..
Thank you. People that have happy relationships are happy inside. 🧡
This was so good to hear. Communication and setting expectations ... major key 🔑
I have been in an uncommitted long distance, open relationship which has been part of the healing journey for my partner and I for more than three years. You don't have to be "the One" to have a healthy relationship. I think people put unrealistic expectations on romantic relationships. I found a person I had that connection with, we got together twice in this lifetime, more than ten years ago we broke off our engagement...we both had LOTS of unhealed trauma which led to us both damaging ourselves and each other more. Sometimes healing is necessary before a healthy monogamous relationship can really 'make it'. Also, the idea of a 70 year monogamous relationship is new and seems highly impractical to me. Relationships can be beautiful in many contexts, when there is an agreement to share love, pleasure, growth, silences, experiences, and conversations. There's not one way. Much love!
Back atcha, Lewis! :)
That sounds unhealthy and like emotional unavailability. It's a glorified way to use a person. Not to mention an STD waiting to happen. 🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️
Sounds like you’re making a bunch of excuses. No offense but it sounds like you don’t believe you can have a loving committed relationship.
Every single thing I am going through right now, every thing I'm thinking
It took me more than two years of solitude and a profound and serious work done upon myself, until my wonderful man and me crossed paths. It's so magical 😊
Wow! What a powerful podcast! I felt this was about my life. Everything was 100% true and i was that woman that stayed in a marraige 18 years and knew in the first year he wasnt the one but was already pregnant. Im now in the process of divorce and have done the work on healing and loving myself again.Thank you stephan for your expertise.
Such a powerful interview. Healing is so important. When I started to work on myself, the blessings in all areas started pouring in. It's a constant battle of old habits but I wouldn't change it for anything else! 🙏🏽
Wow,, one of the best interviews I have ever seen. I feel like every person on this planet should watch this. Thank you. So much wisdom learnt.
Heartbreak is horrible. I couldn’t imagine loving someone like I did my ex. Love is the only thing to me that hurts but feels good. 🤦🏾♀️ Now the two are dating other people I still can’t find complete happiness. But I enjoy listening to you. ✌🏾
Stephan, you are a true gift! Watched this entire video and it spoke to my soul! Thank you. And like you mentioned, with your words, your knowledge, and being so intuned you are FREEING millions. Keep up the great work. xo
I’m 22, but I think I’ve found this. A good friend of mine for the past 6 months, we just had our first date last night. We both noticed it. It’s overwhelming and amazing at the same time. It will come
The brother is deep...Great insights. Keep up the good work, be blessed.
Love is so crazy but it is so amazing between women and men
Canada Canada I think love is true but persons need to accept love and truly share true love.
"You don't have to get me anything for my birthday"="you don't HAVE too, but if you do that's how I KNOW you care"
BULLSHIT
What birthday has to do with caring
Women and vanity
Smh
The reason this is flawed is that it's tied to expectations.. so you can only get disappointed. Some expectations you can't get rid of, but you can choose how you act on it. You can be grateful when they show you they care.. and not focus on the one time they forgot to.
I am not mentally healthy. I'll make it though, I know I will.
You got this ✊🏽
Yes you will. (hugs)
You will make it!! God bless
Find guided meditation to heal from Marisa Peer
Yes u willlll
Possibly the best episode ever! He speaks with so much accuracy on relationships and healing. Also, his final answer might be my favorite one so far.
This is simply beautiful! Wow love Stephan's faith based perspective- Thank you!
This whole conversation was gold. So much wisdom ❤️
This podcast was extremly informative. I sent it to my beautiful daughters to gain more knowledge on having the right & loving relationship for them!
Brilliant. Everyone searching for that genuine connection should watch this...several times. Thank you Stephan and Lewis.
Amazing episode. Initially people contact me for therapy for Anxiety or Depression symptoms, but during assessment, it quickly becomes clear that there are relationship issues in their life. We repeat what we haven't healed. Thank you Lewis and Stephan.
I’d love to hear his aspect on how money & being in debt affects relationships as well
I love what he said when it comes to fear. For you to grow you have take fear head on. It shows a lot of maturity
I'm only 1/3 of the way through this and had to pause it to say that this - is FULL of gold advice.... I needed to hear everything I have so far. Thank you... Just, thank you! Perfect timing for my life right now.
this guy is intuitive & possibly an empath. Ppl come to me like that w/stories etc.
I wish that I could give this a 100 thumbs up!👍🏾 I loved this interview!❣ It was very insightful and u ask all of the right questions ❣
absolustely :)
I agree
Stephan and I have alot in common, especially the part about people opening up to me about their life stories and traumas. He is such a blessing in this planet and I truly believe everyone needs to hear his words of his wisdom!
SJHtown maybe you've helped more people than you realize 🤗
I thank you for your wisdom and I wish that the world can hear this advice!! I listened two days the same message to make sure I didn’t miss anything. ❤️
I am going thru a divorce, got married 5 years ago and knew it wasn't right when I walked down the aisle....but at the time we had already invested 4 years so I figured I might as well make it work....I definitely learned my lesson never again!
Thank you for interviewing Stephan... very very wise man!
Just wanted to let you know that I appreciate you replying to your listeners... Awesome!
I had to do some serious introspection... So overwhelmed putting everyone's needs before my own. I would just put my clothes on and ride out.. 3 yrs. and 45 lbs. later. I did not realize how much weight I gained until I had to go to the mall and pick out a outfit. I was looking crazy😯🙄. I have learned the power of putting myself 1st. My emotional, and physical health it's all I have. I will no longer put others needs before my own. And practice praying before I speak and take anyone's emtional baggage. Thank you.
Such a great conversation. I didn't want it to end.
I believe that we must find time to get to know each other. We are all different. The weakness to me is that males do not want to commit or compromise which lead to unfavourable communication.
Not all men. Remember everyone is different.
I blamed myself for this, but now I'm not taking it out on myself anymore. I'm also realising that there are people out there that haven't put in the work to be a better person to achieve a healthy relationship. Ive realised That has nothing to do with me personally, I'm doing the work on myself and being open minded. I've learnt it's about meeting someone on the same level as you.
His 3 truths really hit me.
This should be on TV!!!
Wow it’s so wonderful to see Stephan bring wisdom and simplicity back into relationships, which have become far too complex.
It’s uncanny how Lewis’ style and narrative is almost exactly like that of Tom Bilyeu, even down to the same catchphrases and intonation. I wondered if they inspire each other.
Wonderful insightful interview and excellent questions thanks so much to you both.
"Pray before you speak, pray before you react."
I heard your first sentence and was like oh my I got goosebumps soooo true!
@@lewishowes no worries! 😊
This guy is on point. In the beginning of this podcast Stephan described every romantic relationship I have ever had. Guess I got some healing to do, looking forward to learning more from him.
excellent ... excellent episode. Another great one Lewis. Thanks for being consistent with your interviewing of your guests. Always great guests and great questions asked. I'm always enjoying your book the Mask of Masculinity. #blessup
Stephan and Lewis thank you for putting together this amazing show! Stephan spoke on something that was mind blowing for me. He mentioned a man that cares for you will listen to you and do the things you need even if it's not exactly what you wanted because us women may tend to not be clear....wowww. Us women, sometimes overlook the attempts of men trying to please us. But not only that, sometimes us women are not honest with ourselves in realizing some men don't try to please us or listen to us because they don't care. If there is no action taken after the conversation then a man is clearly showing us how he truly feels. We must acknowledge those feelings, love that person for who they are, and most importantly move on.
True love scares people because they feel vulnerable. Trust me I know how this feels because I am going through this.
Wow Stephan, that was a truly truly powerful video. It impacted me alot. I'm wanting to master relationships in this way. I'm working on becoming a entrepreneur, life coach and and philanthropist. I pray one day I'll be able to sit in the same room as you and meet you. Be blessed and thank you 🙏🙏