My mother and step father did not take me to Dr. for three weeks when I had a broken arm. By then it had healed in wrong position and I had to have a painful operation. He was afraid to have the family health insurance charged. 1958 child abuse
@@DouglasUrantia I can understand that. No more hurt for you since then I hope. I hope your mother came around to understand the wrong that they did to you.
Man, this reminded me of an event in school when I was a kid. We had two kids per recess stay in class for some reason, I think it was to clean things up. We were gathering money for some class trip or something, and the teacher had left some coins on her desk. I picked them up, told the other kid that "I'm gonna steal these!" and we laughed. At that exact moment, I think the bell rang or something happened, I don't recall, but I soon realized, that I was sitting down, at my desk, with the money still in my hand. I looked at the teacher coming in, hoping that she would not notice, but of course she did. It didn't take a detective for the teacher to figure out that I had the money. I remember sitting down with her at some point, and she would give all these reasons as to why, and tried to force me to admit that I stole the money, but I wouldn't admit it, because that isn't what happened. Since I was a small child, I didn't have the words to explain what happened to an authority that was angry at me. At one point she said, "Maybe you just took them by accident.." My eyes lit up, and the first words I said during that whole sit down was "That's what happened!". She ignored it, and I don't exactly recall what happened later. I remember being accused of every theft and every problem hence forth, when I was actually making a joke about stealing, because that was something I would never in my mind do.
I accidentally hurt someone at school when she was trying to embarrass my tiny best friend by waving a private letter about which she had snatched from my friend's hand. I scratched her with something when I lunged for the letter. Got into a lot of trouble and didn't get a chance to say what had happened, I couldn't interrupt too shy. The other girl went on to be a teacher at the school. Never fkn mind 😢😂
Once again, the male child's rage is caused by a mother who "emasculates" her husband. The avoidant father is not targeted for change, as the child's character is the mother's fault. This child is the best actor in the film. Wonder what happened to him.
You tend to mimics your gender. If the dad isn't respected then the male child won't. If he slaps her, he's probably going to slap his wife. Sins of the father ........
@@dirtymikentheboys5817 Ye used the most in religeon but never was better then and will not today. Can't stay in a same cicle that never mends is total insanity. We are like disfunctional machines in a natural way. Change for the better becomes more a delusion then a dream and fades away with our own control witch does not hold the key. Very cruel with contradicting reason is to be watched and figured of why only if we are still entitled to it.
The mom reminds me of my grandma when she was younger. She would have been slightly younger than her though. I guess she would have just been 13 at the time this was made - my dad's oldest brother wasn't born until 1959. But I really miss all of my grandparents - I guess that's why I see them everywhere. They were like my best friends growing up. I remember her mannerisms on the phone with her mom and sister and friends - "Oh, you don't mean it..", "I declare.." Lol..
Michelle Mamou heck ya. When I was in elementary, our principal still spanked kids discipline. And yep. Parents spanked the hell out of us if we stole.
Absolutely...i remember in 1969..i got my ass. Paddled by my teacher then got home to my mom and had round 2 ass whipping from my mom...and that was for taking this asshole bullys pencil and notebook....was it worth the ass whooping ?? Yeh..heheehee But i never did it again...lol....
I’d say that’s the first things people say imo. I think there are so many components to children’s behavior! Sometimes the parents and sometime true mental illness’s!!
Ashlee. I believe that if you were diagnosed once, you are always mentally ill for life. It is not about what you believe about yourself. Karen Carpenter believed she was fine when someone told her she wasn’t. Although she tried to get better. There are cases when people are harmed really badly because of psychiatric medicine. Then you can get called derogatory words by even your doctor. Your medication can hurt you so bad and your loved ones will wait for you to get psychotic. I guess that it’s jealousy. That the people’s main goal to make yours miserable as possible. They want you to be in a dark place. They don’t blame themselves. They blame you. They will make up stupid reasons to why you need to be in a hospital where they treat their patients like basket cases.
Out of several children my mom is like this with my eldest brother. He's fifty six of age and still treat's him like her lil boy. He always gotten everything even to the rest of us destrement. Even though he's been in cans out of jail all his life she doesn't see any wrong in him but she could see the wrong in the rest of us. I use to have a lot of resentment but not anymore... what good would it be to hang on to past and present of this behavior. I'm not going to ruin my life by giving these facts my energy. If she made him her God then so be it. She even put him before her husband which is our dad.😔
This sounds like my mother in law and her oldest, my husband being the youngest. She does the same thing and this lady lost custody of her 3 children for vary bad neglect and abuse, she still walks on water. Anyway there’s my life story
Don’t you think it’s time they quit blaming mothers for everything? And the fathers are portrayed as blameless. Boils my blood. Quit letting dad off the hook.
MOST people back then were smarter than millenials . They didnt freak out over a bottle of Aunt Jemima pancake syrup and you have DISCIPLINE in the schools.
I let my husband guilt me into moving to new mexico so he could work less and retire. Our son hasn't stopped blaming me yet. Says it's my fault we moved because I didn't put my foot down. That was15 years ago. We're divorced and our son is a raging alcoholic who hates my guts. The mom is damned if she says ok and damned if she says no. I have another kid who loves the life out of me. 50% is a fail. I failed as a mom. There are you happy now
tt , you didn’t fail. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Sounds like one of your children adores you. Try to see in yourself what he/she sees in you. You did the best you could do in the situation- who knows how it would have worked out if you did it differently. Give yourself a break and know you did your best. That’s all any of us can do. Hang in there. ❤️
tt I’m not any happier. Seriously you can’t blame yourself for your sons behaviors. He’s an adult and makes his own decisions. Don’t think of yourself as failing by 50% but succeeding by 50%.
It's clear your son isn't taking responsability for his immaturity and addiction. It's sometime easier to blame someone else then holding ourself accountable. I wonder what he thinks would have been different if you didn't move. He may have experienced something traumatizing there, and link it with the move. Do not let him bully you and put your foot down. You moved there for a reason and were hoping for the best. Remind him you love him, and urge him to seek help for his addiction, and emotional struggle. I am glad you get to know a nice relationship with your other child.
Ahh back in the days when drs actually LISTENED to people and children instead of prescribing a stimulant and or norepinephrine /serotonin hijacker pill For every problem
This is a film displaying what Psychologists do, not Psychiatrists. The talking cure is Psychology, Psychiatry is what they do today in any event, by giving people drugs, the ever powerful PILL...
Sure. Actually, the principle would have gotten his paddle out and beaten Tommy in his office. There was no referring anyone out for an assessment. That's what happened "back in the days..." The teacher could have also smacked him across the face. I know, I was there in the '50s.
@@diane9247 This is truth in school, even in the 70's. I kicked a girl in the shin and knocked a scab off her leg so it did bleed. The principle got out her paddle aka the board of education for the seat of understanding. I was exceptionally tall and she couldn't go thru with it. She told me I was to big to paddle and she expected more from me. That has stayed with me. I'm 53 now. I was grateful, my life at home had enough violence. By the way, I kicked the girl in the shin on accident. Swinging.
Brooks Murphy - Yep! In 1986, 7th grade, I got a paddling by our vice principal (a super creepy dude) for sucking on a lemon drop candy during class. That was a huge thick paddle and I was maybe 90 pounds tops. Makes me furious to this day.
This film shows a time when people cared about their children. In our 2018 world the parents would say, don’t you see your mother and I have our own problems and also we are thinking about getting a divorce and then you can tell your foster parents your problems. The world has changed to a, what’s in it for me society.
I know you’re a boomer just from your comment. That or you’re a child. Either way, you’ve got it COMPLETELY backwards 🤣🤣 Children were to be seen & not heard, & also mostly not even seen. The women were mean, the mean were cruel. You’re so wrong it’s laughable lol
@@Name-oz4lq “Vicious” an appropriate name for a monster that just wants to belitle the handicapped in private to upgrade his pathetic ego. Fucking loser
I bet my bi polar would have gone undetected. If those were the signs they were looking for? Yes Indeed. Of course they will still calling BP2 Manic Depressive disorder then.
Because that’s the exact wrong thing to do. Parenting isn’t a one size fits all. Each child is different and so requires a different approach. Otherwise you end doing irreplaceable damage to their mental health and jeopardizes your bond with them. Ie. family is quite strict. One child is more of a rule follower and the other is a free spirit. The strict environment will make the rule following child more rigid later in life and the free spirited one feel like they are a bird in a cage. Parents should reward the rule follower but also encourage the him/her to be more logical and not just blindly follow rules aka get him to loosen up a bit. And for the free spirited one, they should put down a few more extra rules to guide him/her a little bit more but they should still allow for freedom of activities. Free spirit isn’t a crime unless it harms someone else. Just like rule following is also a crime if it harms someone else. In a separate case, if a family is very outspoken and always in the limelight, a child that is more reserved will feel inadequate if they are forced to be in public all the time. They should encourage socializing but it should never be forced upon someone who is more introverted. For these kids, give them time to do activities they enjoy e.g. painting, reading, making music etc. and if the other one is more extroverted, allow them to do more socializing activities however, rules will need to be put down on what kind off activities these are and how they should behave in public.
@@86harao I am REALLY kind and loving towards everything. But i can "Sound" like i am angry when i am talking sometimes if i am frustrated, but i don't get angry for real. Unless someone hurts someone in the "Pack" or me. ( Like ruining my teeth and so on),, then i don't know what i would do. Maybe biting their nose off or something after i have ruined their mouth in the same fashion.. I CAN*t feel empathy towards people that display "Sadistic" or "Cruel" traits/behaviour. Hard to explain.. I am just SUUPer Kind, and sweet towards all life. And i rather help a caterpillar across the road than letting the cars cross(Yeah the can only wish)
Because most of them skip out physically or emotionally. Then they are blamed for not being there. Probably because they are shacked up with their girlfriend, who at least likes them.
Now, this was a good one. Logical reasoning, the whys of the exhibited behavior, and how to understand yourself and thus others. The pictures were actual drawings by a child, very easy to tell. The feelings which this bought out, sure as hell have surprised me. I find I am very angry. As a teen I was not treated as myself, but an appendage to my father’s life, without much support from the mother wow! What a way to put it - “the mother”. I certainly don’t feel that way, but she was absent from how my dad dealt with us. She wasn’t protective of HER children. Everything revolved around the dad!!! I am now 78, and am amazed that I am still affected, although much, much less. Still need to be positive about stuff, but also much less than used to be. 🌷🌱
Now-a-days, they wouldn't really talk to Tommy, or let him near toy firearms. They'd just write out a scrip and send him on his way. The following week they'd ask him, "How are you feeling?" If he gives the wrong answer they'd just double his dose.
Wow what a great doctor the kid got. And the mum actually. I have met good doctors in these times but meds are almost always a part of it. Have doctors changed or needs or ailments itself?
You are so right! My oldest grandson has to be doped to be in class (1st grade). He doesn't need it but in order to be allowed in school he has to take his "chill pill". 6 year old boys are supposed to be active...they want him in a corner quiet and drooling. It sickens me.
@@brett6905 Thank you Brett. I agree with everything you said. My grandson would tear up his assignments in class if he made a mistake....then he'd run and hide under a table in the classroom and his temper. His mom, my daughter, just stares at her phone all day long.
The doctor is not a major creep. It's just that Americans have become so gynecentric and so disgustingly obsessed with sex that everything looks like pedophilia to them. What is wrong with boys having male psychologists whom they feel they can trust? That doctor wasn't at all out of order. You probably thought Fred Rogers was 'creepy', too.
Ive read your other comments, i know that you were an amazing mother, one of your children loves you with all their heart! You never wronged your other child. Its on them that they never forgave you, its their fault they are what they are
@The mysterious Miss X big difference between boys and men of course grown men with office jobs have to sit that's their bread and butter but given the choice for the same pay they can either stay in an office or work outside I'd say a greater percentage would prefer doing an active job. I've worked with kids from tiny tots upwards and the majority like being active 🏃♀️🏃🤸♀️🤼♀️
It's not surprising how much sexism there still is today when you see videos like this. That kid is probably just a little bit older than the boomers and he grew up in a world where women were expected to be subservient to their husbands and if they dare spoke out they get blamed as the cause of all problems. No such thing as an equal partnership back then.
My mother used to try and use me to manipulate my dad all the time! When he was actually considering leaving my mother she told him that if he left she would kill me and then herself 😢 back then dads didn’t get custody of the children especially if the child was a girl like me 😢 so I grew up on eggshells about absolutely everything I was never good enough for her so she would grab a belt and just wail on me 😢💔
I won’t say I’m on that dark side of TH-cam but more like the crazy side. Why is this in my feed? That doctor said you get along good with doctors and I get along with boys! In this day and age people would think he’s a pedophile and he’s “grooming” this boy. 😉
these kids now also aren't disciplined. folks may not believe in punishments anymore, but i got my butt busted with a belt a few times and guess what? i'm perfectly alright. some of the old school techniques worked. so many out of control brats running around now.
The mom in the beginning ... I know several women like this. "Oh, no, no, not MY child." It's annoying! What makes you think your child is so perfect that he or she would never do anything immoral or illegal? Aside from that, this was a good, informative video.
Why was my privilege of hearing this noir film? I didn t get to see and hear what punishment they put on this innocent child. You ,UTUBE deprived me if the right to hear and see what further damavd they did to this good a d disciplined kid. I bet he was whipped by his dd when his dad got off work too. Poor kids like him get.labeked by society till I proved myself wirthh if praise for the things I did do right. I turned out to be a vital ok rt of society church and community..
Geez 🙄 if breastfeeding was that vital every other person would be a Tommy. I wasn’t breastfed nor was my daughter abs she’s extremely well behaved strangers praise me for it, I give credit to God for helping us raise her, breastfeeding doesn’t dictate a person’s personality as an adult.
@@sofiabravo1994 I agree. Not every mother can breastfeed. I tried and tried with my first baby, and she tried, too. My anatomy just wouldn't cooperate. How the Hell could I help that or be a bad mother simply cuz I couldn't breastfeed? I wish I could have. Let me add thar I have 2 of the BEST kids in the entire world. They don't drink or do illegal drugs. They're very intelligent. They work hard and have good jobs and great relationships with their spouses. I wouldn't change a thing.
What a stupid, stupid thing to say on your part @alexhagendorn1365. What do you know about female anatomy or breastfeeding or the many reasons some women cannot breastfeed you f-king moron who thinks he’s super smart? For instance, I was in a pretty awful car accident as a young woman. The seatbelt that saved my life also caused some real damage. That included my left breast being “put through the wringer” so to speak. It was also one of the most visually stunning injuries I’ve ever seen or suffered personally. The level of bruising was unbelievable! So many shades of colors that don’t seem to belong in any “healing” process. But it also left me with some severe scar tissue which remains after 27 years. I had to have annual mammograms for the first several years afterwards and I was 24. This scar tissue made it impossible to breastfeed my second child in the same way I had done so with my first child. I was so disappointed in myself. I was shamed by others as well. I did breastfeed my second child but the injury did permanent damage and I was not able to provide enough milk. I had to rely on supplemental formula for her to feel satiated. It really tore me up. No man-I don’t care who he is-has any business calling a mother who is physically unable to breastfeed through no fault of their own (or even a mother who chooses to use formula for other reasons) evil and horrible. He proves just how big an idiot he is when he does so. Makes me wonder a bit about alexhagedorn1365’s relationship with his own mother actually. I recommend that he STFU. It’s also proof that the mother is always the one to blame for any problematic behavior their child displays. I’m sick of it. I know it’s exhausting to try to live up to my traumatized husband’s idealized version of a wife and mother which he holds onto NOT because his mother was a horrible, evil woman who refused to breastfeed. It’s more likely that he hangs onto that idealized version due to the trauma of losing his mother while still very young. It’s a trauma that he refuses to acknowledge. But it’s got everything to do with feeling abandoned and not getting the care he needed to help him learn to cope with and manage that loss. You know…,because kids are soooo resilient, kids don’t know anything about the real world or anything about how they feel, big boys don’t cry….among many other societal BS. It makes for a challenging marriage and life. And so, Alex? Keep your loud a$$ mouth shut and your nasty, archaic opinions to yourself if you’d like to stop proving that you’re a foolish, sad, sorry little man and, instead, educate yourself. Some peoples kids!! I’ll never understand it. Just…rude.
What you mean. IF HE WAS COLORED BLACK IN PARTICULAR THEY WOULD'VE SENT HIM TO JUVIE. NO MATTER IF HE CAME FROM A GOOD HOME WITH BOTH PARENTS AND A GOOD NEIGHBORHOOD AS THIS KID . EVEN IF THE MOTHER PLEADED THEY WOULD'VE TOOK HIM AWAY. ! EVEN IF HE IS JUST A LIL BOY . THEY Would've CALLED HIM A NATURAL BORN CRIMINAL FOR ALL THE SHIT THIS WHITE BOOSTED
Back in the 70’s… my dad spanked the ADD and Op Defiance out of me and I turned out fine. Btw… if i call you collect from the Waupun corrections… please accept the call. It’s me pushing fake crypto….
JESUS is THE WONDERFUL COUNSELLOR! 🙏🙌 Every child should be taught St John 3:16! "Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it." Proverbs 22:6!
My mother and step father did not take me to Dr. for three weeks when I had a broken arm. By then it had healed in wrong position and I had to have a painful operation. He was afraid to have the family health insurance charged. 1958 child abuse
Thats absolutely horrible :( I hope your doing fine now.
@@colapinklink8120 I was relieved when he died 3 years later.
@@DouglasUrantia natural selection works its job
@@DouglasUrantia I can understand that. No more hurt for you since then I hope. I hope your mother came around to understand the wrong that they did to you.
@@AnnemieM She never admitted doing any wrong. She said I was big complainer all the time. So it was all my fault.
Damaged parents damage children.
A damaged society traumatizes people, who then cause damage to others🦋
This thing should've been given an Oscar. What an impressive script and acting for an early 50s medical video.
Yeah, not Method though!
Before everything become Walter Disney 🙃 and dreams ran away ideology and marketeers
Tommy is an angry child so the doctor decides to show him how to use a gun. Right.
This is from the 50's
@@Nosferata138 And in the 2040s the doctor'll be showing him how to use a war-club
Worked for me
@@jessicahay9305 were you a patient of this doctor back in the day?
Nowadays the doctor would have gave the troubled boy hormone blockers.
Man, this reminded me of an event in school when I was a kid.
We had two kids per recess stay in class for some reason, I think it was to clean things up. We were gathering money for some class trip or something, and the teacher had left some coins on her desk. I picked them up, told the other kid that "I'm gonna steal these!" and we laughed. At that exact moment, I think the bell rang or something happened, I don't recall, but I soon realized, that I was sitting down, at my desk, with the money still in my hand.
I looked at the teacher coming in, hoping that she would not notice, but of course she did. It didn't take a detective for the teacher to figure out that I had the money.
I remember sitting down with her at some point, and she would give all these reasons as to why, and tried to force me to admit that I stole the money, but I wouldn't admit it, because that isn't what happened. Since I was a small child, I didn't have the words to explain what happened to an authority that was angry at me. At one point she said, "Maybe you just took them by accident.." My eyes lit up, and the first words I said during that whole sit down was "That's what happened!". She ignored it, and I don't exactly recall what happened later. I remember being accused of every theft and every problem hence forth, when I was actually making a joke about stealing, because that was something I would never in my mind do.
@denniswilson8013 This is the dumbest comment on TH-cam in all of it's history. Congratulations.
Jesus Christ.
I accidentally hurt someone at school when she was trying to embarrass my tiny best friend by waving a private letter about which she had snatched from my friend's hand. I scratched her with something when I lunged for the letter. Got into a lot of trouble and didn't get a chance to say what had happened, I couldn't interrupt too shy. The other girl went on to be a teacher at the school. Never fkn mind 😢😂
Once again, the male child's rage is caused by a mother who "emasculates" her husband. The avoidant father is not targeted for change, as the child's character is the mother's fault.
This child is the best actor in the film. Wonder what happened to him.
You tend to mimics your gender. If the dad isn't respected then the male child won't. If he slaps her, he's probably going to slap his wife.
Sins of the father ........
Not necessarily She-Learns, only when she’s ALWAYS Right. And gotta control everything & everyone
@@dirtymikentheboys5817 absolutely incorrect
@@alexhagedorn1365 Sense of getting closer to Reason to the point of cause is all most impossible . why we have so many opinionated Answers.
@@dirtymikentheboys5817 Ye used the most in religeon but never was better then and will not today. Can't stay in a same cicle that never mends is total insanity. We are like disfunctional machines in a natural way. Change for the better becomes more a delusion then a dream and fades away with our own control witch does not hold the key. Very cruel with contradicting reason is to be watched and figured of why only if we are still entitled to it.
The mom reminds me of my grandma when she was younger. She would have been slightly younger than her though. I guess she would have just been 13 at the time this was made - my dad's oldest brother wasn't born until 1959. But I really miss all of my grandparents - I guess that's why I see them everywhere. They were like my best friends growing up. I remember her mannerisms on the phone with her mom and sister and friends - "Oh, you don't mean it..", "I declare.." Lol..
She sounds nice. My grandmother would be on the phone and she'd say, "My land!"
Professional help. Back then they paddled the kids at school. And my mom would slap the shit out of my brothers ( for stealing ).
Michelle Mamou heck ya. When I was in elementary, our principal still spanked kids discipline. And yep. Parents spanked the hell out of us if we stole.
Absolutely...i remember in 1969..i got my ass. Paddled by my teacher then got home to my mom and had round 2 ass whipping from my mom...and that was for taking this asshole bullys pencil and notebook....was it worth the ass whooping ?? Yeh..heheehee
But i never did it again...lol....
These days kids spank teacher's and language they speak.... no respect.
Hitting does not work 😂
@@destblee4489 it does for some others not so much, every child learns consequences differently.
My stepfather was mean to me. I was constantly plotting my revenge on him.
@M Rucci He was a brutal jerk. His first wife committed suicide with a pistol because of his cheating. He finally died a horrible death from cancer.
Yeeeeeah, I knew your stepfather, and you never listened or showed a ounce of appreciation! Little skallawag!
Toxic stress, sometimes purposely.
All pressure on the mother.
I’d say that’s the first things people say imo. I think there are so many components to children’s behavior! Sometimes the parents and sometime true mental illness’s!!
I thought that too. Almost everything was blamed on her.
Ashlee. I believe that if you were diagnosed once, you are always mentally ill for life. It is not about what you believe about yourself. Karen Carpenter believed she was fine when someone told her she wasn’t. Although she tried to get better. There are cases when people are harmed really badly because of psychiatric medicine. Then you can get called derogatory words by even your doctor. Your medication can hurt you so bad and your loved ones will wait for you to get psychotic. I guess that it’s jealousy. That the people’s main goal to make yours miserable as possible. They want you to be in a dark place. They don’t blame themselves. They blame you. They will make up stupid reasons to why you need to be in a hospital where they treat their patients like basket cases.
With that overbearing grandmother I can see why he's angry. Poor kid and poor dad.
Out of several children my mom is like this with my eldest brother. He's fifty six of age and still treat's him like her lil boy. He always gotten everything even to the rest of us destrement. Even though he's been in cans out of jail all his life she doesn't see any wrong in him but she could see the wrong in the rest of us. I use to have a lot of resentment but not anymore... what good would it be to hang on to past and present of this behavior. I'm not going to ruin my life by giving these facts my energy. If she made him her God then so be it. She even put him before her husband which is our dad.😔
This sounds like my mother in law and her oldest, my husband being the youngest. She does the same thing and this lady lost custody of her 3 children for vary bad neglect and abuse, she still walks on water. Anyway there’s my life story
🤔
Sounds a bit narcissistic
Don’t you think it’s time they quit blaming mothers for everything? And the fathers are portrayed as blameless. Boils my blood. Quit letting dad off the hook.
But what if it is the mothers fault??
@@ASmith-jn7kf A child has TWO parents
maybe bcs back in the day fathers were working and mothers were the ones who were looking after the kids
These are generally from the 40's and 50's...
Put either gender in any position and get the same result. This was 70 years ago and kids are being screwed with in the same way. ]
And we're still making excuses for "Tommy" 'till this day...
LOL!
Mag Nificent lmao!
It seems, some people back there were smarter than you in 2020. 😀
@@oOIIIMIIIOo Is "ADHD" beebee twigggered? Or you have one of those " Autistic" melts?
MOST people back then were smarter than millenials . They didnt freak out over a bottle of Aunt Jemima pancake syrup and you have DISCIPLINE in the schools.
No mention of a dad? Interesting
I thought the same thing .
Family hostility boiling right under the surface of a veneer of respectability.
Omg that old lady. That kid. I’d go nuts!
I let my husband guilt me into moving to new mexico so he could work less and retire. Our son hasn't stopped blaming me yet. Says it's my fault we moved because I didn't put my foot down. That was15 years ago. We're divorced and our son is a raging alcoholic who hates my guts. The mom is damned if she says ok and damned if she says no. I have another kid who loves the life out of me. 50% is a fail. I failed as a mom. There are you happy now
tt , you didn’t fail. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Sounds like one of your children adores you. Try to see in yourself what he/she sees in you. You did the best you could do in the situation- who knows how it would have worked out if you did it differently. Give yourself a break and know you did your best. That’s all any of us can do. Hang in there. ❤️
You're being really hard on yourself. He's grown, there comes a point when you can't blame your problems on your parents anymore.
tt I’m not any happier. Seriously you can’t blame yourself for your sons behaviors. He’s an adult and makes his own decisions. Don’t think of yourself as failing by 50% but succeeding by 50%.
Good answer Astrid. You get a Star 🌟
It's clear your son isn't taking responsability for his immaturity and addiction. It's sometime easier to blame someone else then holding ourself accountable. I wonder what he thinks would have been different if you didn't move. He may have experienced something traumatizing there, and link it with the move.
Do not let him bully you and put your foot down. You moved there for a reason and were hoping for the best. Remind him you love him, and urge him to seek help for his addiction, and emotional struggle. I am glad you get to know a nice relationship with your other child.
Ahh back in the days when drs actually LISTENED to people and children instead of prescribing a stimulant and or norepinephrine /serotonin hijacker pill
For every problem
This is a film displaying what Psychologists do, not Psychiatrists. The talking cure is Psychology, Psychiatry is what they do today in any event, by giving people drugs, the ever powerful PILL...
Sure. Actually, the principle would have gotten his paddle out and beaten Tommy in his office. There was no referring anyone out for an assessment. That's what happened "back in the days..." The teacher could have also smacked him across the face. I know, I was there in the '50s.
@@diane9247 This is truth in school, even in the 70's. I kicked a girl in the shin and knocked a scab off her leg so it did bleed. The principle got out her paddle aka the board of education for the seat of understanding. I was exceptionally tall and she couldn't go thru with it. She told me I was to big to paddle and she expected more from me. That has stayed with me. I'm 53 now. I was grateful, my life at home had enough violence. By the way, I kicked the girl in the shin on accident. Swinging.
They did just that then too...
Brooks Murphy - Yep! In 1986, 7th grade, I got a paddling by our vice principal (a super creepy dude) for sucking on a lemon drop candy during class. That was a huge thick paddle and I was maybe 90 pounds tops. Makes me furious to this day.
Good thing they have bags of money to afford two good therapists with a coordinated care plan.
Three!
The film pointed out that Michigan provided it.
This film shows a time when people cared about their children. In our 2018 world the parents would say, don’t you see your mother and I have our own problems and also we are thinking about getting a divorce and then you can tell your foster parents your problems. The world has changed to a, what’s in it for me society.
Ok Boomer
tgf xp HAHA GUYS I SAID THE OK BOOMER JOKE, I AM SO FUNNI HAHAHA.
I know you’re a boomer just from your comment. That or you’re a child. Either way, you’ve got it COMPLETELY backwards 🤣🤣
Children were to be seen & not heard, & also mostly not even seen. The women were mean, the mean were cruel. You’re so wrong it’s laughable lol
@@Name-oz4lq “Vicious” an appropriate name for a monster that just wants to belitle the handicapped in private to upgrade his pathetic ego. Fucking loser
Ahhhhhhh that family!! Anyone would be angry living with them it was stressful for me to watch
My parents were like 100000000000000000000000000 times worse than these people.
I believe you, John.
im so sorry
I have bipolar disorder...I guess if i was born in the 50s/60s/70s I'd be in a institution
Me too thank God I was born in 1967 ..
no
Yes you probably have would! They did not understand mental health or treat it properly or humanely!
And if this was the 17th Century we'd be declared possessed. Lol! Chased by torches and pitchforks! =))
I bet my bi polar would have gone undetected. If those were the signs they were looking for? Yes Indeed. Of course they will still calling BP2 Manic Depressive disorder then.
That drawing...! 😆
Dad was kind of out of the picture and we don't see him again.
I’m surprised this kind of therapy was available then
@kaleah Collins that’s probably because you’ve never been controlled by someone. Count yourself Lucky
Be careful, or he'll wish you away to the cornfield.
Nice TZ reference
Dr Marshall 'I get along so well with boys. Were gonna play a bit and talk'.
Me: 😳
we dont grow up.....we just grow old.....
. . . Unless we seek understanding🤔
I wonder how parents can have 2 or 3 children and raised them all the same and each child acts completely different?
@chrissygriffin because they come out who they are, & it's just a gamble on what your going to get.
Right, because each person is an individual.
Because that’s the exact wrong thing to do. Parenting isn’t a one size fits all. Each child is different and so requires a different approach. Otherwise you end doing irreplaceable damage to their mental health and jeopardizes your bond with them.
Ie. family is quite strict. One child is more of a rule follower and the other is a free spirit. The strict environment will make the rule following child more rigid later in life and the free spirited one feel like they are a bird in a cage. Parents should reward the rule follower but also encourage the him/her to be more logical and not just blindly follow rules aka get him to loosen up a bit. And for the free spirited one, they should put down a few more extra rules to guide him/her a little bit more but they should still allow for freedom of activities.
Free spirit isn’t a crime unless it harms someone else. Just like rule following is also a crime if it harms someone else.
In a separate case, if a family is very outspoken and always in the limelight, a child that is more reserved will feel inadequate if they are forced to be in public all the time. They should encourage socializing but it should never be forced upon someone who is more introverted. For these kids, give them time to do activities they enjoy e.g. painting, reading, making music etc. and if the other one is more extroverted, allow them to do more socializing activities however, rules will need to be put down on what kind off activities these are and how they should behave in public.
*What the heck am I watching*
Riad Youssoufi 😂😂 Right? Lol. I laughed so hard I just spit out my tea.
Haha!
Riad Youssoufi Exactky what I said!
same thoughts as mine omg 🤣
May I tell Miss Black to expect your call? Salesman through and through.
I was an Angry Child, oh my. :). ADHD and getting punished for it all the time by my father as a kid 4-10years old, then i got better.
How are you now as a person, are you able to regulate your emotions?
@@86harao I am REALLY kind and loving towards everything. But i can "Sound" like i am angry when i am talking sometimes if i am frustrated, but i don't get angry for real. Unless someone hurts someone in the "Pack" or me. ( Like ruining my teeth and so on),, then i don't know what i would do. Maybe biting their nose off or something after i have ruined their mouth in the same fashion.. I CAN*t feel empathy towards people that display "Sadistic" or "Cruel" traits/behaviour. Hard to explain.. I am just SUUPer Kind, and sweet towards all life. And i rather help a caterpillar across the road than letting the cars cross(Yeah the can only wish)
@@86harao Hope i don't scare you with my explanation of my emotions.. But Yeah,, I CAN regulate them MUCH more now
@@danielengsvang3126 im glad you can, nope you dont scare me, im just curious, hope you are doing well for yourself as per society standards
Not me a matter of fact I’m considered a sociopath now lol by them doctor
Tommy: poster child for birth control
Next up the impotent husband. I'm sure that's the mothers fault too
It's ALWAYS the mother's fault! 🤣
Sounds like you need some counseling
In this case I'd say it is!
Always blamed the mother. Her fault or not. Why were fathers never blamed?
Because most of them skip out physically or emotionally. Then they are blamed for not being there. Probably because they are shacked up with their girlfriend, who at least likes them.
Back then, fathers were always out working. I don't think they would have time to be there for the child.
10:36 says nothing about making up a story of killing a dog.
Yeah, only I doubt he actually made it up.
tommy im grown and cant do fractions lol
Grow up
@@jessicaloveland4034 ...trolls the antagonizer
I flunked algebra twice but i CAN do long division -sometimes.
That kid draws disturbing pictures.
brilliant learning material thank you
Ms. Perkins set Tommy up.
A science that might not be a science!
Now, this was a good one. Logical reasoning, the whys of the exhibited behavior, and how to understand yourself and thus others. The pictures were actual drawings by a child, very easy to tell.
The feelings which this bought out, sure as hell have surprised me.
I find I am very angry. As a teen I was not treated as myself, but an appendage to my father’s life, without much support from the mother wow! What a way to put it - “the mother”. I certainly don’t feel that way, but she was absent from how my dad dealt with us. She wasn’t protective of HER children. Everything revolved around the dad!!! I am now 78, and am amazed that I am still affected, although much, much less. Still need to be positive about stuff, but also much less than used to be. 🌷🌱
0:38 he drew that spongedoodle guy from spongebob. Lol
id be pissed if i was tommy too...
23.00 Gee whizz, to think Dr Marshall's wooden err i mean wonderful acting not even nominated for Oscar. Yip that Hollywood a big mystery
Now-a-days, they wouldn't really talk to Tommy, or let him near toy firearms. They'd just write out a scrip and send him on his way. The following week they'd ask him, "How are you feeling?" If he gives the wrong answer they'd just double his dose.
24:00 left handed shooting
Rafael Rabinovich I’m right handed but my aim is better with my left. Am I angry or crazy, lol
"the way you get along with doctors and I get along with boys" just sounded creepy smh
Tommy doesn't have a dad in his life. Every boy and girl needs a mom and a dad at home for guidance and love. It,s sad ,i know a few Tommy,s.
@Geoff Trump You must be a Tommy. Sad.
Wow what a great doctor the kid got. And the mum actually. I have met good doctors in these times but meds are almost always a part of it. Have doctors changed or needs or ailments itself?
You know psychiatrists don't give talk therapy anymore but see you for 15 min. and give you your pills. Anything else costs too much.
Nowadays, they'd just stuff that kid with Ritalin and say he's all good.
You are so right! My oldest grandson has to be doped to be in class (1st grade). He doesn't need it but in order to be allowed in school he has to take his "chill pill". 6 year old boys are supposed to be active...they want him in a corner quiet and drooling. It sickens me.
@@brett6905 Thank you Brett. I agree with everything you said. My grandson would tear up his assignments in class if he made a mistake....then he'd run and hide under a table in the classroom and his temper. His mom, my daughter, just stares at her phone all day long.
Hahaha! Yup. Sad but True.
No, he doesn't display any of the symptoms for ADHD.
10:05
The "story" 😢
the doctor is a major creep
The doctor is not a major creep. It's just that Americans have become so gynecentric and so disgustingly obsessed with sex that everything looks like pedophilia to them. What is wrong with boys having male psychologists whom they feel they can trust? That doctor wasn't at all out of order. You probably thought Fred Rogers was 'creepy', too.
It's always the mothers fault
Ive read your other comments, i know that you were an amazing mother, one of your children loves you with all their heart! You never wronged your other child. Its on them that they never forgave you, its their fault they are what they are
@@Rev101 thank you 💜
Then give your children to the father.
some kids especially boys just aren't cut out to sit all day 😢❤❤❤
@The mysterious Miss X big difference between boys and men of course grown men with office jobs have to sit that's their bread and butter but given the choice for the same pay they can either stay in an office or work outside I'd say a greater percentage would prefer doing an active job. I've worked with kids from tiny tots upwards and the majority like being active 🏃♀️🏃🤸♀️🤼♀️
The intro music is like you are about to watch a romantic movie. Boy, is that wrong!
Ned Flanders
Hahaha!
"I ain't no snitch , Dr. Marshall!", Tommy exclaimed.
Too bad Tommy and dad can't leave town
Great Story
Poor Tommy
It's not surprising how much sexism there still is today when you see videos like this. That kid is probably just a little bit older than the boomers and he grew up in a world where women were expected to be subservient to their husbands and if they dare spoke out they get blamed as the cause of all problems. No such thing as an equal partnership back then.
Miss Perkins sets up Tommy.
Hmmm ..Eunice, Ed and Mama
Who wears the pants in this family. Poor dad
If you couldn't hear through your right ear, your crush is cheating on you...
If he was a Black child he would've been takin into juvey no matter the reason
Yeah, dragged out in handcuffs. White kids would have the parents called to come get him.
Don't Hop on Pop, Jump on Mom.
if i was the man id say "see ya,,...im going to new york"
Typical male response. Walk off into oblivion. The child might find you one day...if you get the drift.
@Solo Odyssey Thanks! Yes, the abyss, and he still should look over his shoulder!
These days there is no respects for each other wind changes and im off... lol
....nature vs neuture - good vs bad ... either way moms influences run deep
its always the mothers fault
It usually is in one way or another....
A handful of singles & a gold bracelet? We know where this is heading.
26:00 dead bodies!!
Lmao that's funny.
Hahaha! Yup! Serial Killer somewhere roaming the country right now. Lol
Indian Parents after watching this :We can't hit our kids? What a joke
😂
And that is how serial killers are born..when mommy coddles them🙄
🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
My mother used to try and use me to manipulate my dad all the time! When he was actually considering leaving my mother she told him that if he left she would kill me and then herself 😢 back then dads didn’t get custody of the children especially if the child was a girl like me 😢 so I grew up on eggshells about absolutely everything I was never good enough for her so she would grab a belt and just wail on me 😢💔
No doctor ever listens like that. It's definitely acting
Tommy went on the lamb and changed his name.
He is now in Federal lockup for murder.
His aka: Charles Manson ...
I won’t say I’m on that dark side of TH-cam but more like the crazy side. Why is this in my feed? That doctor said you get along good with doctors and I get along with boys! In this day and age people would think he’s a pedophile and he’s “grooming” this boy. 😉
Thought the same thing really strange!
Thats how sick this world is... including me.
that lady is terrible and tearing the man down.
Holy shit!!?!
Umm I dnt see the difference in the parents Tommy had with the many oldie t.v. shows Father knows best extra
Why make excuses for the child. Thats what wrong with kids today.
these kids now also aren't disciplined. folks may not believe in punishments anymore, but i got my butt busted with a belt a few times and guess what? i'm perfectly alright. some of the old school techniques worked. so many out of control brats running around now.
Why are they always named Tommy
I would have put grandma in a nursing home.
Mom needs to get a grip, dad needs to grow a pair, and grandma has gotta go. Then Tommy will be all better! Lol
the creeep factor is very high here....
The mom in the beginning ... I know several women like this. "Oh, no, no, not MY child." It's annoying! What makes you think your child is so perfect that he or she would never do anything immoral or illegal? Aside from that, this was a good, informative video.
The Young Ted Bundy.... She even looks like Bundy's mother.
It took a medical film from the 1950s to tell me why my husband is the way he is with me.
Psychology--the science of why we hate our mothers! (didn't Freud say everything was Mom's fault?)
27:17 he sounds just like me
P3GN Thunder Did anyone ask though?
She has like half a bird in her hair 5:42
Why was my privilege of hearing this noir film? I didn t get to see and hear what punishment they put on this innocent child. You ,UTUBE deprived me if the right to hear and see what further damavd they did to this good a d disciplined kid. I bet he was whipped by his dd when his dad got off work too. Poor kids like him get.labeked by society till I proved myself wirthh if praise for the things I did do right. I turned out to be a vital ok rt of society church and community..
Couldn't even breastfeed... what a horrible evil mom that is.... the one job, couldn't even do that right
Geez 🙄 if breastfeeding was that vital every other person would be a Tommy. I wasn’t breastfed nor was my daughter abs she’s extremely well behaved strangers praise me for it, I give credit to God for helping us raise her, breastfeeding doesn’t dictate a person’s personality as an adult.
@@sofiabravo1994 I agree. Not every mother can breastfeed. I tried and tried with my first baby, and she tried, too. My anatomy just wouldn't cooperate. How the Hell could I help that or be a bad mother simply cuz I couldn't breastfeed? I wish I could have. Let me add thar I have 2 of the BEST kids in the entire world. They don't drink or do illegal drugs. They're very intelligent. They work hard and have good jobs and great relationships with their spouses. I wouldn't change a thing.
What a stupid, stupid thing to say on your part @alexhagendorn1365.
What do you know about female anatomy or breastfeeding or the many reasons some women cannot breastfeed you f-king moron who thinks he’s super smart? For instance, I was in a pretty awful car accident as a young woman. The seatbelt that saved my life also caused some real damage. That included my left breast being “put through the wringer” so to speak. It was also one of the most visually stunning injuries I’ve ever seen or suffered personally. The level of bruising was unbelievable! So many shades of colors that don’t seem to belong in any “healing” process.
But it also left me with some severe scar tissue which remains after 27 years. I had to have annual mammograms for the first several years afterwards and I was 24.
This scar tissue made it impossible to breastfeed my second child in the same way I had done so with my first child. I was so disappointed in myself. I was shamed by others as well. I did breastfeed my second child but the injury did permanent damage and I was not able to provide enough milk. I had to rely on supplemental formula for her to feel satiated. It really tore me up.
No man-I don’t care who he is-has any business calling a mother who is physically unable to breastfeed through no fault of their own (or even a mother who chooses to use formula for other reasons) evil and horrible. He proves just how big an idiot he is when he does so. Makes me wonder a bit about alexhagedorn1365’s relationship with his own mother actually. I recommend that he STFU.
It’s also proof that the mother is always the one to blame for any problematic behavior their child displays. I’m sick of it. I know it’s exhausting to try to live up to my traumatized husband’s idealized version of a wife and mother which he holds onto NOT because his mother was a horrible, evil woman who refused to breastfeed. It’s more likely that he hangs onto that idealized version due to the trauma of losing his mother while still very young. It’s a trauma that he refuses to acknowledge. But it’s got everything to do with feeling abandoned and not getting the care he needed to help him learn to cope with and manage that loss. You know…,because kids are soooo resilient, kids don’t know anything about the real world or anything about how they feel, big boys don’t cry….among many other societal BS. It makes for a challenging marriage and life.
And so, Alex? Keep your loud a$$ mouth shut and your nasty, archaic opinions to yourself if you’d like to stop proving that you’re a foolish, sad, sorry little man and, instead, educate yourself.
Some peoples kids!!
I’ll never understand it. Just…rude.
The audio is awful.
Theresa Griffin Kennedy oh god, I think the whole thing is awful. Lol.
It was only filmed about 60+ years ago. If the audio was cleaned up, people would yell it was tampered with.
It’s much better than your comment, Theresa.
@5:20 more colored people need to heed this
What you mean. IF HE WAS COLORED BLACK IN PARTICULAR THEY WOULD'VE SENT HIM TO JUVIE. NO MATTER IF HE CAME FROM A GOOD HOME WITH BOTH PARENTS AND A GOOD NEIGHBORHOOD AS THIS KID . EVEN IF THE MOTHER PLEADED THEY WOULD'VE TOOK HIM AWAY. ! EVEN IF HE IS JUST A LIL BOY . THEY Would've CALLED HIM A NATURAL BORN CRIMINAL FOR ALL THE SHIT THIS WHITE BOOSTED
Hey kaleah here’s you a song.... Nobody likes me Everybody hates me I think I’ll go eat Worms 🐛
Back in the 70’s… my dad spanked the ADD and Op Defiance out of me and I turned out fine. Btw… if i call you collect from the Waupun corrections… please accept the call. It’s me pushing fake crypto….
JESUS is THE WONDERFUL COUNSELLOR! 🙏🙌
Every child should be taught St John 3:16!
"Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it." Proverbs 22:6!