I appreciate everyone’s honesty on this show! Especially Xannie being able to own some of those past behaviors. I’m not sure if I could be that brave!! It’s truly heroic
I can totally relate to having more masculine features and friends and those traits becoming more feminine as I work on my BPD. I kind of think its because those features are considered more acceptable for females. When I was breaking shit it was shocking but me crying at everything is seen as normal. Sometimes I feel like its detrimental because then people are less likely to understand that i have a disorder I'm not doing it on purpose - and BPD is something that is not always accepted or recognized as a disorder. Similar to what Andre said, I feel like BPD people are more likely to be written off as someone who is just over-dramatic - whereas when I thought I had bipolar disorder I feel like people were more accepting of it. Side note: every time I watch an episode I feel so seen - thank you!
Andre's point resonates with me a lot. I'm an afro-west indian American myself and my experience has been similar. Mental health is rather taboo in my family, but it's only taken seriously when someone is experience symptoms of psychosis or if they're a danger to themselves
Absolutely❣ I’m from a very small Caribbean island, and the stigma is wild! Mental health is seen as a lack of discipline or weakness. And even as we slowly start to embrace mental health awareness, I feel like we’re behind in knowing how to support. I don’t have bpd, but I strongly believe my partner does, and because of negative media, and stigma, he’s doesn’t want to get diagnosed/professional help. I love would love to hear stories about people embraced the idea that they had bpd, and maybe advice they would give their former selves & the people around them at the time.
I am female but inherited my dad’s personality. I have always been rough and aggressive, with very strong rage and hung out with mostly guys growing up. And even though I’m a girl, my dad taught me crying is weakness and to just do what you gotta do because that’s what he learned. So my BPD presentation, and general way of being is more masculine, although I did have an ED.
Can I ask the host if she has investigated in theraphy her inner child and childlike personality. I also have something similar, but I am afraid to express it because it could look like age regression
Try having a self righteous hypocritial "Christian" mother and her church friends tell you that "your mental illness is due to disobedience to God and its a demonic oppression and a spiritual curse". Then add in my divorced single mother being a covert narcissist so that everything wrong is all me. She never takes accountability. So I never had support. Grew up with two brothers and never knew how to fit in with the female cliques. Im 50 no one really talked about bpd back in the 80s. I became friends mostly with guys but then they'd end up sometimes liking me or I'd like them then it'd complicate things all the more. I didn't find it as a "vlessing" being a girl because we are blamed as being "neurotic" and they love to stereotype us as crazy and women should never be angry or act out. In my divorce I was discriminated against because I was a woman with mental health that regardless my ex was inappropriate I got the blame because of having bpd. My disorder made me a scapegoat.
I hear you. I can relate to a family that if you bring up something you’re trying to do to help yourself they just say “well, have you tried praying about it”. They didn’t listen to a thing I said. Annoying.
I appreciate everyone’s honesty on this show! Especially Xannie being able to own some of those past behaviors. I’m not sure if I could be that brave!! It’s truly heroic
I can totally relate to having more masculine features and friends and those traits becoming more feminine as I work on my BPD. I kind of think its because those features are considered more acceptable for females. When I was breaking shit it was shocking but me crying at everything is seen as normal. Sometimes I feel like its detrimental because then people are less likely to understand that i have a disorder I'm not doing it on purpose - and BPD is something that is not always accepted or recognized as a disorder. Similar to what Andre said, I feel like BPD people are more likely to be written off as someone who is just over-dramatic - whereas when I thought I had bipolar disorder I feel like people were more accepting of it.
Side note: every time I watch an episode I feel so seen - thank you!
So glad y’all are back! You were missed 💗
Thank you!!!
Andre's point resonates with me a lot. I'm an afro-west indian American myself and my experience has been similar. Mental health is rather taboo in my family, but it's only taken seriously when someone is experience symptoms of psychosis or if they're a danger to themselves
Absolutely❣ I’m from a very small Caribbean island, and the stigma is wild! Mental health is seen as a lack of discipline or weakness. And even as we slowly start to embrace mental health awareness, I feel like we’re behind in knowing how to support.
I don’t have bpd, but I strongly believe my partner does, and because of negative media, and stigma, he’s doesn’t want to get diagnosed/professional help.
I love would love to hear stories about people embraced the idea that they had bpd, and maybe advice they would give their former selves & the people around them at the time.
Such an informative and interesting episode! So glad you’re back . I have learned so much and appreciate this channel !
Thank you so much for watching!
I am female but inherited my dad’s personality. I have always been rough and aggressive, with very strong rage and hung out with mostly guys growing up. And even though I’m a girl, my dad taught me crying is weakness and to just do what you gotta do because that’s what he learned.
So my BPD presentation, and general way of being is more masculine, although I did have an ED.
So interesting how we each have our own mix of these different traits! Thanks for sharing
Can I ask the host if she has investigated in theraphy her inner child and childlike personality. I also have something similar, but I am afraid to express it because it could look like age regression
Try having a self righteous hypocritial "Christian" mother and her church friends tell you that "your mental illness is due to disobedience to God and its a demonic oppression and a spiritual curse". Then add in my divorced single mother being a covert narcissist so that everything wrong is all me. She never takes accountability. So I never had support. Grew up with two brothers and never knew how to fit in with the female cliques. Im 50 no one really talked about bpd back in the 80s. I became friends mostly with guys but then they'd end up sometimes liking me or I'd like them then it'd complicate things all the more. I didn't find it as a "vlessing" being a girl because we are blamed as being "neurotic" and they love to stereotype us as crazy and women should never be angry or act out. In my divorce I was discriminated against because I was a woman with mental health that regardless my ex was inappropriate I got the blame because of having bpd. My disorder made me a scapegoat.
I hear you. I can relate to a family that if you bring up something you’re trying to do to help yourself they just say “well, have you tried praying about it”. They didn’t listen to a thing I said. Annoying.