This is 100% my sister. 7yrs younger. Everything was always a crisis. I had to stop everything and talk it thru for hours - forget that I had grad school exams etc etc. Had to find her RA when she was in college to see if she was OK. Had to uphold her thru everything. When she had a devastating incident while abroad w her husband - she complained to my parents that I wasn’t there for her enough had she taken a moment to ask how I was doing she would have seen my life was no cakewalk. She vented and vented and when you tried to give her help she would say “ya but….” Nothing helped. Ever. Then one day I said “you need to stop saying that my life is easier than yours”. She would always compare and blow my life off as easier. When I said that - it was tue end of our relationship. She again at the age of 37 complained to our parents about me. Again. Then she cut it off saying I was dramatic and abusive towards her (for having boundaries and confronting her off the cuff remarks). And that was that. Unfortunately she wanted me out of her life but not my husband and kids. She said I couldn’t take HER family away from her. And my parents sadly agreed. So here I am 14 years later still balancing that my husband and adult kids still see her but I have no contact. She even tried to split me and my husband up - AND talk to my mother in law about how I was not a good wife for my MIL’s son. And rumors of infidelity were going to be spread before my mil put a stop to it. 31:30 It’s crazy-making. But I have a life without her now and my husband and kids know who I am. My friends and family know who I am. Thank you for this. Spot on.
Please do a video on how to deal with the flying monkeys. Is keeping relationships with them possible if they can't see what they are doing? I'm sick of loosing family, but I have zero tolerance for the gaslighting and blameshifting they have bought in to and use themselves.
This is 100% my sister. 7yrs younger. Everything was always a crisis. I had to stop everything and talk it thru for hours - forget that I had grad school exams etc etc. Had to find her RA when she was in college to see if she was OK. Had to uphold her thru everything. When she had a devastating incident while abroad w her husband - she complained to my parents that I wasn’t there for her enough had she taken a moment to ask how I was doing she would have seen my life was no cakewalk. She vented and vented and when you tried to give her help she would say “ya but….” Nothing helped. Ever. Then one day I said “you need to stop saying that my life is easier than yours”. She would always compare and blow my life off as easier. When I said that - it was tue end of our relationship. She again at the age of 37 complained to our parents about me. Again. Then she cut it off saying I was dramatic and abusive towards her (for having boundaries and confronting her off the cuff remarks). And that was that. Unfortunately she wanted me out of her life but not my husband and kids. She said I couldn’t take HER family away from her. And my parents sadly agreed. So here I am 14 years later still balancing that my husband and adult kids still see her but I have no contact. She even tried to split me and my husband up - AND talk to my mother in law about how I was not a good wife for my MIL’s son. And rumors of infidelity were going to be spread before my mil put a stop to it. 31:30
It’s crazy-making. But I have a life without her now and my husband and kids know who I am. My friends and family know who I am.
Thank you for this. Spot on.
Please do a video on how to deal with the flying monkeys. Is keeping relationships with them possible if they can't see what they are doing?
I'm sick of loosing family, but I have zero tolerance for the gaslighting and blameshifting they have bought in to and use themselves.