Passport Bro Marries a Thai Bar Girl (how it all happened...) | One Night in Bangkok Podcast Ep. 007
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 7 มิ.ย. 2024
- What happens when an American passport bro visits Thailand for the first time? In this episode we sit down with my good friend who met his future wife in Soi Cowboy on his very first night in Bangkok. In this episode we find out what Thai bar girls are REALLY like, and go behind the scenes of his four-year journey - from meeting a girl in a go-go bar to getting married and taking her back to the USA.
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⬇ TIMESTAMPS ⬇
00:00 Intro
01:02 Beginnings in Boston
02:04 First trip to Thailand
06:00 Full Moon Party
07:22 First time in Soi Cowboy
12:38 Meeting his future wife
17:30 Coming back to Thailand
20:00 COVID changed everything
21:19 Types of girls at Soi Cowboy
23:03 Getting a job in Soi Cowboy
27:42 The business model
33:05 Long-distance relationship
35:54 Cultural differences
38:34 Passport Bros
40:10 Visiting Isaan
44:34 The bucket shower
48:37 Leaving Thailand
50:25 Getting a US visa
55:13 Her new job
57:05 Leaving her family
58:25 Moving to Thailand?
01:02:03 The truth about Thailand’s bar girls
This must be the most naive conversation about bar girls I ever heard 😂
My girl is different lol 😂🤦♂
You beat me to it
I working juss dlink na kaaaaaa....
@@pg.travels I not go cussmerrrrr, I good girl na kaaaa 😂😂🙈
bro 😂😂😂 im at 25:00 and he sound like he believes everything she ever told him 😂
Maybe she only talked to customer for Ladydrink 😂😂😂
Great chat guys really enjoyed listening to your experiences while here in Thailand 👍
Thanks, Peter 🙏
Both of you 4-5 years in Thailand. Still so naive on how it all works. Hate to say it, She’s using you mate, you’ll never be number one or ten. You’re her sugar daddy now!
Don't get it twisted...the host knows lol he's just being a friend
let him enjoy his fantasy or more precisely, delusion. really wish him luck with that. i recognize him from tik tok, the bar girl apologist. i have known some also and some used to come over after work to hang out (not for money) one in particular, was a bright eyed bushy tailed sweet girl that could not believe all the attention and all the money these foreign guys were throwing at her. (i read, write, speak thai) her english was very poor at that time. never forget the time she came over and asked me which one of two guys she should marry. she showed me the judging criteria; photos of their houses and cars. said one guy told her one of his cars is special, a porsche. i saw it was a 924 (basically a volkswagon) and that that model is nothing special and even frowned upon. i think she chose the other guy. also recall the occasional long distance phone call she would get and she told me to be silent if not go to the other room before she answered. a few years pass then shockingly (sarcasm intended) she calls my name from a beer bar in bangkok. lived in america, marriage over, back to work.
Yes she just wants to come to America to work she will dump you once she gets to the states
I would have been more optimistic if she was a "normal" thai girl and if they met under different circumstances and I'm wishing the bro all the best but the odds are severely stacked against him and his naivete is palpable in choosing to start a relationship with his first bargirl "experience", him having to "insist" that she stop working in Soi Cowboy and even worse marry her in the US of all places with a 56% chance of divorce and this is further compounded my her potential isolation from family/friends, culture shock, the brutal Boston winters and those inevitable "how did you two meet" questions from friends and coworkers. I would love to see an update in a couple of years.
Spot on
Love this channel
Thanks 🙏
We all know that "This bar girl is different" and we know what the outcome is 95% of the time.
Simp comes to mind but good luck to him.
Couldn't take a "bucket shower". Wimp comes to mind.
She doesn't sound like the type of girl that would enjoy living in the USA permanently if she loves going back to her family in Isaan.
I am sure that a lot of us would like a yearly update on this relationship.
I thought the same thing about the bucket shower. Little girls take that bucket shower. Old women take that bucket shower. A grown man couldn't? I hope it does work out with the bar girl, but if not the shit is going to feel a hell of lot more uncomfortable than a bucket shower.
She works alot because she has to work to help her family. You will never be number one to her because her family comes first. You need to understand Asian culture.
Eric, thank you for your interviews, just found your channel a few days ago and I'm catching up on all your videos. This video gave me flashbacks of a lot of great memories. I can completely relate to your friend in this video, nearly the same thing happened to me 20 years ago, right down to the lady from Sisaket. Finding a lady that had good values, meeting the family, their simple life on the farm. Bringing her back to America and marrying her. 19 years later we are still together and travel back and forth to Thailand a few times each year. Just wanted to let you and your friend know that he's not the only one to do this and things have worked out great for me.
Thanks for sharing your story 🙏 I think a lot of people need to hear it
He is both right and wrong here (in the end statement). Some of the bar girls are there to use naive men, they actually already have boyfriend and so on.. so if you thinking to get serious with a bar girl, you got to check things out for real and dont be a fool.
The success rate for these relationships is low
Agreed.
“Just by sitting with customers and having some drinks and not compromising yourself”
lol gahh so true ... bro is beyond copeing that "yeah a lot of those stories are true" ... BUT NOT MY BAR GIRL ... should would never whore around like all the other girls in that sex industry area
@@taterrhead yeah interesting that he said she went to Japan too. This story reminds me of a before story from ThaiTalkwithDan
@@netizenplanetLots of Thai bar girls want to go to Japan to earn good money as bar girls there.
Good convo
Thanks for checking it out 🙏
Lovely story Eric of your friend and his future wife. Trust that she will adjust okay in the US. Are there any more photos of the couple that they are willing to share on your channel?
Thanks for the comments. Those are all the photos I have. They've been in the US for a few months now and things seem to be going well.
@@OneNightinBangkok_ lovely
Fantastic story good luck to both of them
Glad you enjoyed it
I really liked this, shows that everything doesn't have to be a scam. Thai people are amazing. I met my fiance in Bangkok, she is a tour guide, doesn't party, no tattoos. Also from Issan.
We are in the middle of the visa process right now and it sucks, especially when you see whats going on in 🇺🇲
I wish those two lots of luck and joy 🙏🏻
Thanks for the comment. And you’re right, not everyone is the same.
Words of wisdom. Never buy a rental car.
Hey buddy, im from south Florida and ive been a subscriber since your first video. Im coming to travel around Thailand for the first time and im starting in Chang Mai and finishing the three month trip in Bangkok where i will fly out of. Could you please tell me where that freindly elephant sanctuary is in Chang Mai. Ill be there January 1st. Thanks for the great videos you make. 😊
Go to phuket and pattaya
These guys will never learn. There’s one born every second.
Thumbs up 👍 Eric
Ladydrink in hua hin was 150 bath this year, great episode was in village in november, its something else
Yes your story is grand, although the outcome will be interesting.
I appreciate the fact you've met the lady of your dreams, and will end up with her forever.
It sounds like a fairytale , but that would be 1 in a million.
Anyway cheers and good luck.
These ladies are different in everyway compared to each other and all other ladies.
Your life ahead and always depends on your experiences with others and how you treat their character.
If this isn't a piss take (hilarious if it is..), id love to see a full length reaction video to it by the two of you in a couple of years...
Entertaining either way!
Keep up yhe good work!
I was thinking the same thing. This can't be real...
😂😂😂something is dodgy about this story or the guy is a complete simp that's desperate for a wife
What did you "Figure out" in a month to come back to Thailand? Is there a video about this somewhere thx
What part of the video are you referencing?
@@OneNightinBangkok_ you were relating your friend/guest about how you went to Thailand and came back to the states and then you decided "I have to figure out a way back to Thailand" I think within a month? And then didnt elaborate on how you did that! I'm wondering if you ever talk about that in your other vids and if not, if you can share? Thx
@17:50
Why did she go to Japan? To complete her doctorate? High level diplomacy?... This guy determined to find out how things work the hard way.😂😂😂
No mention of payment to her family ? Odd … I live in Thailand and Farang going to women’s village usually pay her family but he didn’t mention
Otherwise known as sin sod. It's a scam
Is it a scam if the same happens between Thai man and Thai women?
@@OneNightinBangkok_ Thai man pays WAY less and the women’s Thai family will know if that Thai man has money or not and might have compassion if he can’t pay … with Farang MOST times amount will be more and if can’t pay MOST Thai family will rather have daughter with Farang who has money and will pay !
@BLACKEYETHAI my thai wife's nephew was asked for a large sinsod from the family of an ex because they knew his mother had migrated to the west. So it's not just about getting money from a farang it's about getting money where they think they can get it. She refused their demand and so they broke up. I told my wife l did not agree with sin sod and to their credit they did not care, so l paid a very small ceremonial amount that l decided on.
This guy took the whole shabang, hook, line and sinker. Love to hear how life is at around the 6 month mark of their marriage, how much of an allowance he needs to send to her family and such
Why won't you say his name?
because bro can't COPE with her former customers / flings / sugar daddies reminding him of what he choose for a whife ...
He said it a few times eventually - Kelaiya or something
Great podcast. One thing that I don't agree with is when you talk about ' the west' or ' western men '. The difference between men from the US and EU for example is huge . Even whitin EU the difference of mentality is huge ...
Bar girls are the easiest way, always available, not have a proper job, always ready to listen and take care. Try to get a proper working girl, educated with University, with a normal daytime job, not drinking smoking or partying, where can share costs, not always free for make holidays with men, might be harder but tourists cannot get that…
Some of them still treat night life as a side hustle, but it's way less common. Waking up for the morning shift is a big factor
and the long con is on
If it is true this guys gonna find out the hard way 😂 seen it happen a million times
Thx is for the video. Appreciate a positive story with a current or previous bar girl.
I was hoping your guest/friend could offer sone advice.
I have a white color job working in the Finance industry with a good salary.
I’m currently involved with a girl that works at a bar in Pattaya. I’m from the States also.
We’re looking to do the Fiancé visa so that she can visit here for 90 days before we move forward. I understand that’s not what it’s for but that’s our intention.
Once we marry, We’ll eventually be splitting out time between the States and Thailand each year as my career allows for that.
I am concerned that we may be hitting some issues that I’ve seen in other visa TH-cam videos that concern getting her the visa.
- Age difference 20 years
- she Works as a bar girl
- Short time knowing each other…few months
Not sure if there’s a big age difference between your friend and his girlfriend but it appears that she did work as a bar girl.
Was her working in the industry as a bar girl create an issue during the interview process in getting her a visa?
Appreciate your help.
Best
Dave
He looks fairly young, so probably not that much of an age gap. Sorry to tell you but if she works as a bar girl in Pattaya, she is likely still doing it while your not there.
Even if your sending her money not to. I've been going there for near 40 years and have seen it happen so many times. It's common practise.
Been stung myself but not too badly, as I did some investigative work on her while away.
Although I was told I was her only one, there was a number of us being told the same thing. It was all smoke and mirrors.
If I was to go with a bar girl now it would not become serious. Good luck.
every farang that falls in love with a Thai bar girl feels at first how this guy does. That’s the scam. the fact that he doesn’t see anything wrong with her is a huge red flag. Why marry her so quick, dude? Why not have her live with you and just be your girlfriend?
Not disagreeing with you totally, but it's been four years. How long is enough?
@@OneNightinBangkok_4 years of living under the same roof? nope. how about 4 years of living in the same city? Nope. Country? Nope. These bar girls have boyfriends all around the world that never find out. It hasn’t been 4 years of consistently seeing each other. How much time have they spent in person? maybe a few months out of those 4 years. Weeks even. And there was a pandemic where airlines were closed, so cut the 7 months of airline shutdowns out of those 4 years. I feel bad for him
@@OneNightinBangkok_I’m talking face to face. It hasn’t been 4 years of in-person dating, not even close. To answer your question: 1 year of living under the same roof is enough time. Love your channel, and you should have annual follow-up interviews with your friend. I hope he proves me wrong for his sake
Great interview and I hope their relationship will last forever. But Eric, after watching this video, I don't think you ever can call thai bargirls good or bad anymore. Just girls who want to make money or not. I remember from other episodes you call bar girls who want to make money (bad girls) and that doesn't do them any justice if they're just trying to make a living and support their families.
Just some food for thought
No, you misunderstood. Girls who lie, cheat, and steal are indeed "bad girls." That's not everyone, really just a small percentage. But they are out there and should be avoided.
@@OneNightinBangkok_ yes I agree on that but on the episode with the 2 Thai girls on dating you referred to bad girls as girls who are there to make money vs girls with regular jobs.
Just saying. I know it can be complicated for first time visitors but not every bar girl is a bad girl and this episode shows that. Or at least, the future of your friend and his girl should show that
So you have a ex bar girl aswell right
@@Uk_bigboss11 no I don’t. She worked in a video store when we met
Its not gonna end well 😂😂😂
Buffalo falang
Soi cowboy housewife will miss thailand
Great idea for a reality show there
" The real housewife's of soi cowboy"
That could have been interesting to listen to but it was kind of tiring.
All the confusing jumping back and forth, lots of unimportant details, clichee phrases, repetitions.
You know that pictures can be posed, right?
🤷♂️
So naive !!!!
You guys are so naive above Thailand.
Wow you do not even know what a passport bro is.
Lol these guys are still green
This has got to be a comedy skit no way its real he just got his mate to make this up for views i dont beleive it sounds like fairytales
It’s real 🤷♂️
@@OneNightinBangkok_ proof
It feels like theres this draw of each other's culture for US and Thai. My impression is that your guest is ready to leave the US behind but maybe cant due to work. And she is ready for a better opportunity in the US leaving her family behind. Its a conundrum. Do you give up your liberties in America to move to Thai?
Wbo raised these men?😂😂😂
American mothers, sipping wine and scrolling facebook.
Hahahaha 😂
Ohmylord hihihihihihihi🙃
But good luck with your love all the best wishes in the world.
I needed hot water lol what a bigbaby, I have cold showers all the time.. What's wrong with that.
Her family where incredibly good to me lol her mom & dad probably Hi fived each other 😂come on man.. Is this a fairy story or what. You won't reveal her name or face incase her ex customers start messaging the channel lol 😂
How old is this guy 55 or something lol..
I do like this channel..
agreed. this channel is awesome. Surprised by this video but maybe we're all wrong and maybe the guy who (for some reason) never googled about Bangkok, Soi Cowboy, or Thai Bar girls has chosen the .001% of bar girls who might work out long term.
Mmmmm....shock...covid happens, no customers so goes back home and works for the family. So what do you tell your friends and family when they meet.... she's a farm girl? 🙄. Funny how because they are called bar girls in Thailand it's ok.
btw ... I recommend to delete this video. It causes a huge loss of face for her and will haunt her to the dismiss of your relationship and damage whatever your career you envision. Ask me how I know ...
Nobody needs to know that much details. It is enough to tell that you met her thru friends at a night out in Bangkok.
She was cool with it. Not everyone has the same secrets to hide.
@@OneNightinBangkok_ Just so you know, the first time you guys cut out her name but he says it about 2 more times later in the episode. That her name is Kelaya or something. You can still probably cut out the audio for those portions in TH-cam Studio if that was a mistake and would prefer to keep her name out of the video. You can also delete this comment + others that mention her name
@@OlawaleAfi thanks for the headsup
Full Moon party was cool before tards && wannabe influencers started bringing their selfie sticks ...
Firstly, appreciate the interview and style, though please speak as if your an adult. E.g. she had photos on instagram of 'green stuff'. Marijuana is what adults call it.
Can’t say that word in a TH-cam video or it will get demonetized.
Oh I hadn't realised that, I'm sorry for my remark! Just came back from bangkok/phuket and the smell of marijuana throughout the streets was disappointing 😅