I really always thought that why am I that different in a group, having the qualities of a leader, why do I still prefer giving others chances to lead, and why even wanting to win a debate I always try to make peace, also, while having good intentions, being sometimes very sharp at words, knowing almost everything about a thing or a situation! I really loved this podcast and thanks for introducing us with this amazing person!
as a male ENFJ, I relate a lot to Denzel, being expected to be tough (specially on the "masculine" attitude on Mexico), becoming a clown to fit in because of Se, mind venn diagrams, interest on esoteric knowledge and wanting to lead with harmony, TY for helping me know and accept myself so much
As what I thought I am a female INFJ I completely relate to how Denzel interprets the operation of his processes and his experiences. I love showers and drives to autopilot my mind so it can safely wander.
I am 63 years old and only recently found out my type. I was surprised that I was ENFJ and so I took several different test and they all came out the ENFJ except the longest one which came out 50/50 on the judgement dimension but said it was slightly to the P. So my next strategy was to back test by comparing traits and behaviors of the types with my four letter code . Damn, if not spot on , very close . Listening to Denzel, was so much like listening to myself. Even though other than “type” we probably have very little in common as far as background . Which makes it all the more amazing . I can relate to so much of what he has to say. The part about the ability to easily make friends with women , I can relate to . The problem is I quickly become the “brother they never had “. Or even the “sister they never had”. I have worked in places where I was the only male. It seems like it takes no time for me to become “invisible “. I can’t even repeat some of the things I have heard women say regarding personal matters, when they have apparently forgot that there was a man in the room . I guess I should take it as a compliment . But it is hard to really connect with a woman on what seems like a deep level , just so she can have a buddy to talk to about the knuckle dragger she is infatuated with .
I'm a 46 yr old ENFJ male from CLE who just recently got into type & this interview with Denzel is freaky it's so spot on! Thank you so much for this interview.
Fantastic interview, I'm french, white, atheist, but I never felt so related to someone's way of being, communicating and thinking. I have tears in my eyes right now and want to thank you so much all the three of you. It's been 3 years since I discovered the MBTI, online tests and dichotomies bring to INTP result... It's been a long journey to find my true type. I learned congnitive functions, how they manifest in different positions but I value so much my Ti and I'm so open for the sake of harmony that I thought I was a perceiver... I'm enneagram 9 too ! Such a deep experience, like relief combined to satisfaction, what a great day
My 18-year-old son is an ENFJ and thank you for doing this podcast even though male ENFJs are rare, and not typically looking at this information! I hope I'll be able to get him to listen to them at some point but as the other podcast (ENFJ Personality Type Advice) stated, getting him to actually stop and listen to it will be a challenge. I am loving your videos and learning so much about myself (INFP), my husband (ISFJ) and now my younger son by listening to your insight. Now I just need to test the 21-year-old!
Hi Misty, ENFJ male here. I hope you had some luck getting your son to listen to this kind of stuff. I wish I would have when I was younger! Coincidentally, my mother is INFP also. What a great type to be raised by! If he hasn't given it a chance yet, tell your son, that this stuff (particularly the stuff shared on this channel) will give him a huge advantage. It will heighten his natural abilities in relating with and understanding people, as well as help him learn how to prioritize himself when needed, and to handle conflict in a much more direct and freeing way. It's basically a quickstart guide to badassery. 😁
This conversation helped me a lot. I frequently let my thoughts wander and explore freely and it's very satisfying. I don't restrict myself like Denzel said he did. On the other hand it causes more separation from the real world because when I look to talk about my interests, the people i find who believe similar things aren't showing up in the world like how i want to show up. They also hold other beliefs that I totally don't identify or resonate with. So i feel isolated again. This starts my cycle of withholding my truth again until I can see proper timing of inserting bits of it in conversation. I strategically throw out little off beat truths of mine as feelers to see if anyone will expand on it in the moment or mention later in private conversations. So, I kinda feel like an alien most of the time because I think most people do things like this subconsciously and I do at times but I'm also able to be very aware to the point that I'm almost doing social experimentation to weed out people in my circles. I kinda compartmentalize people at this point and only a small few know me on deep levels. It's just my family a new friend. One old friend ACCEPTS me but can't interact on these deeper levels with me and for some reason she doesn't cause any friction whereas I'm extremely frustrated with most other acquaintances in this way. I loved the language conversation. I used foreign language to use as an escape while I was going through my divorce. I wanted to learn Japanese but ended up getting contacted by Arabic speakers. I tried learning both and failed at both lol. But somehow with my minimal learning I'm able to effectively communicate in deeper levels with those new people over people I meet in my own country. It's helped me realize language isn't the barrier as much as I thought it's vulnerability. And people around me don't display the same levels as people in many other countries. I feel like this path is going to help me feel more satisfied deeply where I get fed. Instead of constantly feeling trapped out as the go to person for emotional dumping.
I guess i really resonated what you re saying. It seems to me like that too. Before i was thinking if i had a intimacy fear , otism smthng like that but no you explained. im more comfortable with another countries. I dont know whatt is this but this is what it is. Thank you for your insight.
The whisked away mid conversation is a result of the Enneagram 9, not the Introverted Thinking. Other non - 9 ENFJs maintain laser focus, especially during conversations or lecturers etc.
I really always thought that why am I that different in a group, having the qualities of a leader, why do I still prefer giving others chances to lead, and why even wanting to win a debate I always try to make peace, also, while having good intentions, being sometimes very sharp at words, knowing almost everything about a thing or a situation!
I really loved this podcast and thanks for introducing us with this amazing person!
as a male ENFJ, I relate a lot to Denzel, being expected to be tough (specially on the "masculine" attitude on Mexico), becoming a clown to fit in because of Se, mind venn diagrams, interest on esoteric knowledge and wanting to lead with harmony, TY for helping me know and accept myself so much
Same, I think that there’s a lot of expectations on how masculinity is supposed to be expressed in Latino cultures.
Enfj here. I have learned how to make guys open up by sharing a very personal moment they can relate too
As what I thought I am a female INFJ I completely relate to how Denzel interprets the operation of his processes and his experiences. I love showers and drives to autopilot my mind so it can safely wander.
I am 63 years old and only recently found out my type. I was surprised that I was ENFJ and so I took several different test and they all came out the ENFJ except the longest one which came out 50/50 on the judgement dimension but said it was slightly to the P.
So my next strategy was to back test by comparing traits and behaviors of the types with my four letter code . Damn, if not spot on , very close . Listening to Denzel, was so much like listening to myself. Even though other than “type” we probably have very little in common as far as background . Which makes it all the more amazing . I can relate to so much of what he has to say. The part about the ability to easily make friends with women , I can relate to . The problem is I quickly become the “brother they never had “. Or even the “sister they never had”. I have worked in places where I was the only male. It seems like it takes no time for me to become “invisible “. I can’t even repeat some of the things I have heard women say regarding personal matters, when they have apparently forgot that there was a man in the room . I guess I should take it as a compliment . But it is hard to really connect with a woman on what seems like a deep level , just so she can have a buddy to talk to about the knuckle dragger she is infatuated with .
I'm a 46 yr old ENFJ male from CLE who just recently got into type & this interview with Denzel is freaky it's so spot on!
Thank you so much for this interview.
Fantastic interview, I'm french, white, atheist, but I never felt so related to someone's way of being, communicating and thinking. I have tears in my eyes right now and want to thank you so much all the three of you. It's been 3 years since I discovered the MBTI, online tests and dichotomies bring to INTP result... It's been a long journey to find my true type. I learned congnitive functions, how they manifest in different positions but I value so much my Ti and I'm so open for the sake of harmony that I thought I was a perceiver... I'm enneagram 9 too ! Such a deep experience, like relief combined to satisfaction, what a great day
My 18-year-old son is an ENFJ and thank you for doing this podcast even though male ENFJs are rare, and not typically looking at this information! I hope I'll be able to get him to listen to them at some point but as the other podcast (ENFJ Personality Type Advice) stated, getting him to actually stop and listen to it will be a challenge. I am loving your videos and learning so much about myself (INFP), my husband (ISFJ) and now my younger son by listening to your insight. Now I just need to test the 21-year-old!
Hi Misty, ENFJ male here. I hope you had some luck getting your son to listen to this kind of stuff. I wish I would have when I was younger! Coincidentally, my mother is INFP also. What a great type to be raised by!
If he hasn't given it a chance yet, tell your son, that this stuff (particularly the stuff shared on this channel) will give him a huge advantage. It will heighten his natural abilities in relating with and understanding people, as well as help him learn how to prioritize himself when needed, and to handle conflict in a much more direct and freeing way. It's basically a quickstart guide to badassery. 😁
I'm an ENFJ gay man :) I thought I was just always in tune with my feminine side but I'm glad other people think like I do !
This conversation helped me a lot. I frequently let my thoughts wander and explore freely and it's very satisfying. I don't restrict myself like Denzel said he did. On the other hand it causes more separation from the real world because when I look to talk about my interests, the people i find who believe similar things aren't showing up in the world like how i want to show up. They also hold other beliefs that I totally don't identify or resonate with. So i feel isolated again. This starts my cycle of withholding my truth again until I can see proper timing of inserting bits of it in conversation. I strategically throw out little off beat truths of mine as feelers to see if anyone will expand on it in the moment or mention later in private conversations. So, I kinda feel like an alien most of the time because I think most people do things like this subconsciously and I do at times but I'm also able to be very aware to the point that I'm almost doing social experimentation to weed out people in my circles. I kinda compartmentalize people at this point and only a small few know me on deep levels. It's just my family a new friend. One old friend ACCEPTS me but can't interact on these deeper levels with me and for some reason she doesn't cause any friction whereas I'm extremely frustrated with most other acquaintances in this way.
I loved the language conversation. I used foreign language to use as an escape while I was going through my divorce. I wanted to learn Japanese but ended up getting contacted by Arabic speakers. I tried learning both and failed at both lol. But somehow with my minimal learning I'm able to effectively communicate in deeper levels with those new people over people I meet in my own country. It's helped me realize language isn't the barrier as much as I thought it's vulnerability. And people around me don't display the same levels as people in many other countries. I feel like this path is going to help me feel more satisfied deeply where I get fed. Instead of constantly feeling trapped out as the go to person for emotional dumping.
I guess i really resonated what you re saying. It seems to me like that too. Before i was thinking if i had a intimacy fear , otism smthng like that but no you explained. im more comfortable with another countries. I dont know whatt is this but this is what it is. Thank you for your insight.
The whisked away mid conversation is a result of the Enneagram 9, not the Introverted Thinking. Other non - 9 ENFJs maintain laser focus, especially during conversations or lecturers etc.
This man is me and I am this man as a ENFJ woman like his first video on TH-cam is exactly something I would do wooooow
Being annoying is my fear
some best insights in the shower, yes!! hahah
I am an infj female, my father is enfj. Fe dom sounds exhausting!
auto pilot i love it the shower is my sanctuary and holy chamber
@24 that is a very good question
ENFJ here I've posted a lot of video where I put Fe in action btw in case yall want to see Fe at it's finest.