Jesus Christ, hope you're all getting at least some help. Want you to know that no feeling is final, there are brighter days ahead, might not be tomorrow or next week. There is beauty in the small things, just the fact you are alive makes you strong, please be persistent and just continue...
@@badernera7497 I’m in tears, i want to let you and everyone under this comment know that i have recovered from my eating disorder, i feel like a brand new person, i stopped letting food have my whole attention, i fixed my social life, moved on with life, i want to let you all know that there is hope for everyone, as this once seemed impossible to me, thank you all for your kindness, sending much love to everyone reading this. ✨
This breaks my heart. I’m in Scandinavia, currently in treatment for an eating disorder- and it is completely free, costs nothing. I wish this was the case all over the world
After 20 years of bulimia, I am on day three and so hopeful. I nearly cried when you said I’m not willing to trade the size of my life for the size of my body and that truly puts it into perspective. I cannot afford treatment but even if I could, I’ve been labeled chronic as well and therapy is not available. However it’s been long enough that I think I know my triggers and am putting myself first, and videos like this from people who know the disorder and have recovered give me so much hope. Thank you thank you thank you!
I love that this lady is wearing short sleeves even though she has self harm scars on her upper arm that are pretty visible. So many times therapists are told to hide their scars because it can be triggering, but in reality we need to learn to live with the fact that there are people around us with self harm scars.
I relate so much to her story. I’m 19 and have had an eating disorder for nearly 11 years. I’m high functioning and nobody knows- deans list college student, working, extremely independent. The system has always failed me. I have seen so many doctors and therapists and none of them acknowledge my problem because I was never severely underweight. My heart, stomach, and bones are so weak and damaged. I have had a nurse tell me “you don’t look like you’re starving” when I was hospitalized for a suicide attempt related to my body image issues. I live in borderline poverty, and any healthcare treatment is inaccessible. $60 twice a month for therapy is even too expensive for me to keep up. I’m not sure how anyone can afford residential. But I hope anyone who is struggling with an Eating Disorder, can get better.
@@reginaphalange7065 you can, trust me. if motivation is there it is only fear that is stopping you. And recovery anxiety is TEMPORARY. ED anxiety is PERMANENT. You got this!
Might be commercial, impossible to pay for most of us, and so on, but she said one really REALLY important thing : all of us could recover. No matter how long we've been seek and how many times we've already tried to get better, we can do it. Now. 🙏
Yes you can! Nearly 6 years ago I started working with her and can say she helped me fully recover. Something I truly didn’t believe was possible after so many years of struggling!
Thank you so much for this ❤️ as someone who struggled with an eating disorder for 14 years I know first had how important it is to have individualized care. I never could have done it on my own. Your talk inspires me so much to do more instead of sit around passively hoping this problem is fixed. Thank God for recovered living. You are amazing Kristie and bring so much HOPE. Without you I’m not sure where I’d be today 💕
i picked up that something is going seriously wrong only a few weeks into anorexia . Now I'm almost a year into it .. on waiting lists.. reading books ... but im not giving up.. i will fight my way out .. to full freedom
Stubbled on this while trying to keep the recovery fire burning, my eating disorder only became apparent to me after getting pneumonia and dropped to 45kg. In NZ we are somewhat lucky, but specialist care is so pricey. I live on a farm and am extremely active, but proper nutrition is also so expensive that I have to choose between therapy or nutrition. Advice could be nice✌️
@@AngelicasRecovery We should talk, I am a long time sufferer of anorexia but trying to stay out of hospital. Heading toward a healthier future... I hope...
I just completed six months of treatment. Inpatient to IOP. I’m done Friday and I hope I can get to that point that I can comfortably say: I am recovered. I’m still struggling unfortunately. But God has helped me through all this. Sometimes I still struggle with my goal’s being out of wack. I want recovery so bad. There’s still an ED voice. But I hope to make Gods voice bigger.
11:35: "The people who scare me the most are not the ones we see in the media. The people that scare me the most are the ones with jobs, partner, and families. " Same!
I love this Woman!!!!!! 🙏🏻🙏🏻💕💕💕💕 God bless her!! Struggling with anorexia myself and eating for the first time in years (like actually eating. Not quasi eating..). I’ve never been so scared in my life. Thank you for this talk. It has helped me immensely! ❤️❤️
Her story is similar to my best friend’s story, I’m helping her recover so I’m watching and reading a lot about EDs .. we can’t afford treatment and the circumstances is very different in my country, I realized just today how bad it is in the Middle East! I just hope we can do it right, I don’t wanna watch her get sicker. she was athletic and helped me get into the world of exercises and taking care of my body but she had a bad knee injury and she hasn’t been the same since.. I really hope she recovers.
Gd luck hope your friend is doing better. I also live in the middle east and I know how hard for any kind of care to be accessible, specially after all the recent crises.
great talk, except you talk about wanting to help everyone, and that everyone deserves recovery. but a 60 minute videocall session on your website is $105 per session. if i needed a session every single day, thats $735 a week. working class people, students and families can’t afford that kind of money.
She isn't saying that counselors must offer their counseling for free in order to cut the costs. If we want to make treatment affordable for everyone, we need to get our governments and health services to give us better, more affordable care. Even if her services were free that would literally just give the few clients she can take on a better treatment option. There is no point in asking health care professionals to do their job for free, because costs are too high. Health care services must pay better, educate more people in the field and make the treatment more affordable.
Carmelliea Hewitt lol @ thinking that meditation can heal an eating disorder - that is ridiculous. Meditation is a nice part of a self care routine, if you like it, but it doesn't cure ANY mental illness - as it doesn't cure any physical illness either.
I'm in South Africa. I was busy dying. My best friend died. Another friend managed to get into recovery early enough, but she, too, was on the verge of death. When it's between life and death, this story becomes way more complex and dark. Yet, what I can say is that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. There is hope. There is the grace of God. I'm grateful to be alive. But I live with the pain and responsibility to stand up, and hold a light to the path. I like your vision, I share in it. Reach out . Save lives. Help one another. Be kind .
Great talk. You said some really powerful things that brought me to tears. I don’t know that I will ever recover but you are telling me that you know it’s possible.
Meal support, you need an acquaintance to be there to make you accountable. Cannot do it on your own. Have your meal plan from the dietitian, and have someone there at every meal and snack to help you through it.
Watching this 5 months ago made me realise that my own struggle nearly 20years ago, should be shared and offered to help others. I’m now due to start my masters in Psychology to complete previous studies in mental health and counselling, and have already got clients I call friends who pay as they can. It’s about support, not money. I’m on the uk BEAT website on their help finder, active support worked, West Yorkshire. It is possible x this lady made it all clear. Thanks so much!
Today is my 16th birthday so I’m gonna try today to get through and eat I’m done pushing it to the side I can’t keep living like this it’s been 5 years and I’m now finally taking a stand to get better
You should really be so proud of yourself for choosing to fight! I also had an eating disorder since I was around 12 years old, now I am 18 and after choosing to really recover last year, I can honestly say my life is so much better. I'm not yet fully recovered but I can grantee that a better life is possible. I don't know you at all but I just think you must be so brave and strong for commenting this, I really wish you all the best.
Thank you for sharing your story, Kristie. I developed anorexia around age six and bulimia at age ten. Now as a seventeen year old, I have been in eating disorder treatment for eight months and this was very motivating for me. Listening to people's recovery stories reminds me that I can recover and that I don't have to live my life controlled by my eating disorder
This is amazing! Treatment is essential for all types of illness, both physical and mental. I hope that you continue to be successful in your eating disorder recovery and that your clients are successful in their journey towards recovery as well! Your approach of connecting with your clients directly as they’re facing their challenges head-on is amazing, and definetly something that more eating disorder recovery treatment centers, and other mental health treatment centers, should focus more on, especially since these issues exist for people well beyond the confines of their therapist’s office or recovery center.
Fighting this disease daily for years has been exhausting. At this point, a good 15 years of suffering, I can't see a day when I'll be able to recover but god I wish I could. I wish for just a single day of being able to eat 'normally' I would give everything and anything. This disease has literally ruined my life and I hate it.
This video is very interesting but didn’t offer much advice to those wanting to get practical help... I struggled w/ ED’s for several years and I was young and broke and could not afford professional treatments... I tried everything that was free or cheap. I got books from the library, had trusted friends and family for accountability, tried a counsellor thru kaiser but it wasn’t a good fit at the time, I had many ups and downs. I got a Cognitive behaviour therapy workbook for anorexia and bulimia, and journaled through it which was huge for me, I finally was able to have victory in that area of my life. I started gaining weight and having a more healthy outlook. Also, more recently I went through an Intuitive Eating workbook both at has been so helpful in me being able to have even more freedom when it comes to my relationship with food... it’s been a long journey but I’m so thankful to say that I feel free and recovered now.
I find it so frustrating and patronising to encouraged to ‘seek help’ and presented a load of horrifying stats by someone who is lucky enough to have 40k worth of savings knocking about her bank and parents that can fork out over 1k A DAY on treatment?! You can’t send a message of ‘hope’ that it ‘really is possible to recover’ when the only way you did it was by paying an obscene amount to go to a residential for 7 months! What about the majority of people that are living pay check to pay check with no savings and families that can’t help? We just have to accept that we have to be severely underweight and sick to even get seen by a doctor (this is my experience in the UK). I’m sorry, but it is really tiring listening to stories from people in such a privileged position that it’s impossible for me to even comprehend. I cannot relate. I need to hear stories from people that have managed to recover in ways that are accessible to the masses. Unfortunately, it seems to me that recovery from an eating disorder isn’t designed for working class people.
I am SO with you on this. Although it is better to have the kind of care she was able to afford, not many of us can afford that. I sure can’t. I’ve been using resources from youtubers in recovery, meditation, opposite action, yoga, and a food journal where I write about how food makes me feel instead of calories. My family has made scales and calorie counts unavailable to me and I go to a therapist and journal to work through the problems that I’m using my ed to cope with. If there is anyway you can see a dietician or therapist that is ideal but there are ways to get started on your recovery without professional help at first.
I think her point is exactly that - it's too expensive and out of the reach of most people. So that seems to have motivated her, since she started to develop other ways which are cheaper (no not free) but designed to help people recover. She didn't say it's perfect but at least she's excited to help others get through and be where she is. She could have just gone home and said 'stuff everyone else!' I imagine once a new model of treatment gains traction, is tweaked to work more efficiently and cheaply, it would get known. Then more sponsorship and funding could come in, which means it could 'franchise' so to speak. That will spread the model to other places and more and more people on board will help it grow... Yay!! That would be amazing.
I'm recovering from Rd and Currently I'm having a breakdown after a large portion of dinner which is also my fear food ......I'm extremely tired of trying to battle every day with my mind and changing body .... previously I also struggled with (sh) ...in recovery I'm stopping myself every time it gets too hard from trying to end my life .....I hate the filling of being full..,I hate the fact I can't control what I eat .....I'm having breakdown many times every day .... panic attacks every time I have to eat .......I feel like a burden to my family and don't feel sick enough to recover..... But I'm trying my best my sis is trying to help me I feel like giving up every day but I'm trying to be strong cause I want to experience real happiness...2weeks clean I hope that I can make a full recovery one day.....✊
I wish that my daughter had seen this talk and heard about this treatment before she died in late 2022 after an 18 year battle with ED. She needed this type of assistance and positivity but it was not offered to her, nor us.
@@maimoonajanbaaz5352 I’ll talk to you or anyone who needs it I thought I recovers from anorexia more than 5 years ago but it creeps in and out of my life and I’m working on educating myself and helping myself I think it’d be nice to have someone who understands what I’m going through ❤️
Therapy is the best solution. Usually these disorders are more of symptoms of something else. Anorexia for instance is often from false body perception rather than a mutation that kills appetite.
Agreed. False body perception and sometimes (for me) a perceived need for control are the driving factors behind eating disorders. I recovered with a therapist, and occasional meetings with a dietician to ensure I was on the right path.
Kiiro Sagi Therapy, including medical supervision for re-feeding. Balances in blood-work need to be monitored, could kill to refed without reference to what body is doing in starting to re-feed. Anorexia is a mental illness. Physical decline brings on mental decline--if you are missing one-third of your body, that means one-third of your brain is missing, and judgement is impaired. While judgement is impaired, fear and anxiety make it seem that control is important. Gaining weight can help suffers learn why they get in this anxious state, and losing again is a relapse that again requires medical intervention. With mental illness, you are in a 10-foot hole and you cannot get out by yourself.
This is so true! I had to use all my college money to go get help but was still only able to stay three months and was just finally getting weight restored. That was 15 years ago and I am still not recovered. I am trying so hard to get better, but feel stuck. I can only see my dietitian maybe three times a year because the costs for a session. Insurance does not cover things termed mental illness and especially eating disorders like they need to. I believe that if I could see my dietitian more or get outpatient treatment at an eating disorder treatment center then I’d have a strong possibility of recovering because unlike fifteen years ago, I want to recover. The costs though is too much. Hopefully, in time, people have more access to affordable care and insurance will offer more coverage.
I've been struggeling with mostly EDNOS, but also two types of bulimia, anorexia nervosa, and binge eating disorder ALL MY LIFE. I just want to keep a weight I'm comfortable with for more than 6 months, and I'm not even considered sick to most people, but I've got no hope of getting better neither. I just want to feel pretty, and forget about food, stop feeling insecure and and focus on other things
I feel so ashamed.. I had one of those 3 beds in Ireland and now I've relapsed. Listening to this searching for hope. I live in the UK now and finding it a daily struggle to get treatment.
Hi Linda, how are you doing these days? I hope you've gotten the support you needed and are in a better place now. Relapsing isn't erasing your progress, or starting from square one! It's starting again, from experience, I know it's so hard but it's nothing to be ashamed about. Please be gentle with yourself. I wish you all the best for your healing.
Her point was not that she had that much money, it was that the treatment costs are outrageous, obviously. Perhaps listening to what a person actually says will help you with your listening disorder.
@@aylbdrmadison1051 are you kidding me? Do you have any idea how much money 6 months at 1200 a day cost? She didn't even explain her disorder... $208,000 is a 30 year home mortgage that many people end up defaulting on. It is not a luxury item expense. She needs a therapist for her disorder not a 1200 a day scam...
@@bonzainews The clincher in her whole spiel about how astronomically expensive that treatment centre was/is, is that she received her ED coaching certificate from that very centre(Monte Nido). Her coaching isn't less expensive, it's an added expense on top of the treatment that the client already has to have, since the disclaimer on her coaching site says that the client must already have a diagnosis, be in therapy, and already have a meal plan in place. One can get one of these coaching certificates in little time, yet she's charging a rate higher than what one would pay to see a certified clinician face-to-face. There is definitely a value to peer coaching, and treatment centers/hospitals do hire them, but it's under their supervision. I feel like Monte Nido is taking advantage of people recovering with EDs in the same way that those MLM companies take advantage of vulnerable people.
People seem stuck on the $1,200 per day, which is not her own program cost, but the place she visited in the USA. She's from New Zealand. I think her point is exactly that - it's too expensive and out of the reach of most people. So that help she got and expense seems to have motivated her to develop other ways which are cheaper (but not free) which are more accessibly designed to help people recover. Fantastic idea. She didn't say it's perfect but at least she's excited and motivated enough to use her experience to help others get through and be out of the struggle to be on the way to where she is. She could have just gone home and said 'stuff everyone else!' I admire the goal. It's a work in progress doing something like this. I imagine once a new model of treatment gains traction, is tweaked to work more efficiently and cheaply, it would become widely known. That could encourage more sponsorship and government funding to come in, which means it could be 'franchised' so to speak and spread this model to other places; then more and more people come on board will help it grow... Yay!! That would be amazing.
This girl is so, so strong. I wouldn't ever be strong enough to work with people with mental disorders. I have a friend who often doesn't eat anything for 2/3 days because of stress and it triggers me so fuckin badly
Always thought if i ever start loving my body and accept the way it is I’ll will stop trying to change and i would be stuck in this physique but now i get it loving the way we are mean we do our best to be better but if we can’t that’s okay there’s no guilt or disappointment
I grew up in the US and spent 30 years with an ED without getting help because of the cost. I moved to Europe and now am finally getting treatment thanks to national healthcare. One of the hardest things to deal with is knowing I spent 30 years suffering and wasting a lot of my life because of this. What could I have done with my life if I had gotten treatment 30 years ago? What a loss.
What I've learned from a loved one with mental health issues, is that if you don't have money, you don't get help. Period. Watching my loved one die a little each day.
I've been living with eating disorder my untire life and I never believed in a recovery like 100%...But to be honest I've never been able to pay till finish a treatment.
You can recover outside of formal treatment. I've been better supported by people who have recovered and written books or shared their experiences online than I ever was by formal treatment. It is possible but it is tough. It is tough with treatment or familial support. I hope you get there.xx
Recovered Living I also found full recovery following good inpatient treatment (and also following a really abusive and horrific inpatient treatment the year prior to the one that actually helped me... lots of predatory people out there, sadly) and I love seeing the word spread that it is possible. I genuinely haven’t struggled with anorexia at all for five years, I don’t even think about it anymore. People always say that it’s a constant battle and that you’ll fight it forever and I think that’s such a toxic thing to tell people. It becomes a self fulfilling prophecy.
@@Anna-cu7iz thank God for people like you who believe it's possible to live fully healed. I'm not there yet but reading your experience makes me think it's still possible.
I know that terrible feeling well, but remember that that just means there is SO MUCH of yourself that you’re gonna get to uncover in recovery!! ED doesn’t want you to be independent of it but you CAN become that way on your own and live a beautiful life❤️❤️❤️
Thank you very much for sharing this lovely video with us; it was fascinating to learn more about anorexia and how it is an illness that impacts so many people in such a negative way. Thank you for sharing such an inspiring story with us!
I'm from the UK. My eating disorder has gone unnoticed for 7 years. I have been waiting for NHS mental health support for that long for multiple reasons. I was diagnosed with anorexia earlier this year. I went to my GP 5 times, my referrals for support were rejected 3 times. I was told to visit a service that could not help me. I got an assessment by our community team,diagnosed and was signed off work. I am not expected to be seen for 6 months. This will be 1 year without support. I have been told by my doctor that I am not thin enough for treatment. I have been to my doctor nearly 5 times to almost beg for help. To note; I am underweight, so others who are a normal weight are being treated even worse than I am.
Tell you GP you won't leave without a benchmark order of blood and urine tests. Your GP can order blood work and you go to a lab. Your treatment starts with dietitian who provides you with a meal plan. You follow the meal plan with the help of *someone!* who will sit with you 6 times a day, be encouraging, and not listen to excuses, change the subject, talk about ordinary things that don't bring on anxiety. Not expensive, don't wait. You need the blood test, dietitian's meal plan, and friend to be meal support--all these things NOW. It is a treatable disease with predictable outcomes when treated. It is a mental illness and you can't cure it by yourself. People get scared an ED will be taken from them and they think, Better to do it on my own and they succumb.
Your 40 yr old client sounds just like me, except I'm 36, have 4 kids and a husband, and have had bulimia for 25 years, I've got 10k in new top teeth because mine rotted out, I've gone to treatment 2 times, and I'm still battling it every single day, and it all stems from self hate. Money is the reason I didnt finish my treatment and my husband was in the military when I did get partial treatment, so even military which is as close to universal healthcare as you can get in america didnt cover my sever e.d ?they also Put me in a mental ward for 24 hrs until I would ge transferred to the facility and treated me like I was crazy because I threw up food (but I wasnt healthy under weight) but people who are deathly overweight never get treated like they are insane infact they are glorified in the media nowadays
Kayla Austin I’m sorry you’re going through all this. I have my own struggles with chronic depression coming from a dysfunctional abusive household. I was floored how so many licensed people in the medical field are severely incompetent. They made my depression worse rather than helping me, so I can relate to your struggles. I wish you the best on your journey to a happy, healthy life. I’m 38 now, and for the first time in my life I feel I’m on a steady path to recovery by listening to own heart and instincts to do whatever it takes to heal my soul after decades of abuse.
Kayla Austin I’m battling bulimia right now too. Let me know if you’re interested in being my buddy/accountability partner. I really need someone who gets it and can vent to. I can offer the same in return.
@@elisebeachy8182 Hey don't worry too much....it goes away easier than you think. I suffered from very severe bulimia for 12 years and fully recovered within less than a year without ever spending a cent or seeking professional help.. It was meditation 2x a day for 20 min (very important to be consistent) that healed me. Coincidentally when it was 95% gone I fell very ill for couple days due food poisoning which totally purged my body. After that I was in the clear. Try it out. It will gradually go away by itself. Also deep belly breathing helps. Blessings and I wish you good luck 😊
My daughter has had difficulty eating since the day she was born (a month early). Just getting her to eat anything has been such a struggle. Looking at her, you’d never know it. She is petite and beautiful. She is just a tad small. We are finally going to a registered dietician to see if we can help her out. She has anxiety and OCD and the past year she’s been in therapy. I hope to God she can overcome this and not get worse when she goes off to college. I know I’m not supposed to talk about food with her. That’s going to be so hard! My heart is breaking and I feel like a complete failure as a parent and a human. I am going to make more time to learn more about diet, nutrition, and anxiety and OCD. Any tips from those with eating disorders are welcome.
I think you should focus less about the food/eating disorder itself and focus on the co-morbidities first and foremost. Which you already sound like an amazing sweet mother who genuinely cares for her child, therapy for her anxiety and OCD will be the best way to help with her food issues. This is coming from someone who’s recovered from an eating disorder myself, I’m going to tell you right now… I truly believe eating disorders in of itself aren’t disorders, but are a symptom of a much bigger problem + and it’s more about seeking control when you feel that there’s none (in my experience that was my autism and generalize anxiety disorder), however for your daughter, her story could be very different. But I feel like in cases like hers since her issues aren’t rooted so heavily in body image issues, a dietician isn’t going to do as much… the best thing you can do is find a therapist that specializes in anxiety and OCD opposed to seeking a therapist that “specializes in Ed recovery”, the main reason for this is because eating disorder specialist tend to care more about the symptoms (the physical aspects of food issues, body images issues, ect…) and put any possibility of a co-morbidities (anxiety, depression, OCD, ADHD, Autism, Gender Dysphoria, BPD, bipolar disorder, ect…) all on the back burner. Once her anxiety and OCD are under control with help of a good therapist that specializes with anxiety/OCD (if she needs meds, she should take them), her food issues will naturally disappear with time. From my personal experience with anorexia binge/purge, I don’t subscribe to be belief that anorexia/bulimia/ect… + body dysmorphia aren’t disorders in of themselves but symptoms other other mental/neurological disorders/illness. From my experience, my anorexia slowly but surely disappeared once I saw a therapist for anxiety. I truly wish the best for you and your daughter, she’s so blessed to have a loving, wonderful, supportive woman like you in her life! I hope this helps ❤️
The positivity behind her words it's charming, but there's not a single piece of specific content about eating disorders and how to changed them. Yes, she mentioned the importance of doing your grocery and being thoughtful about our eating behaviors. But those things are just a small part of it. I think that anyone, whit the right motivation and tools, it's capable of recovery and I'm not trying to be judging, but paying 200 bucks a month for more than 10 years, or even more than 6 moths it's crazy. Sometimes you're not the problem, but the professional that it's not finding the way to help you and decides to keep going whit the treatment, instead of introduce you whit another professional.
You managed to miss some of her talking points through not understanding English all that well. I think if you talked to her personally, you would find you both agree far more often than not. Yes the professionals are often more at fault, but most often their hands are tied by the laws created by corporations whose only interest is in selling medications that are often useless in the long term. Capitalism without democracy, plus a massive decline in linguistic literacy among the population in general is to blame for this. I cannot say for certain about other countries, but that is what is happening here in the U.S.
Her talk isn't about how one person specifically can recover, but it is more about the state that treatment is in and how intensive treatment is needed but can't be paid for by the people and therefore health services must do better in offering treatment and paying for treatment.
Just seeing my hair falling off my hand, pillows and when I’m brushing it makes me so sad, and when I’m trying to eat my family tells me how much can u eat, otherwise my mom says that I look like a stick…
You telling me, You did really spent 252,000 in seven months. I don't know how useful this talk is. But I can Say it doesn't really helped me. I could be sure that 99% of eating disorder patients DO NOT HAVE 36000 A MONTH FOR TREATMENT
I agree. I healed meditating 2x day for 20 min. It's free. Lucky I didn't hear this talk when I was still sick. It would hv depressed me even more. Terrible.
@@aylbdrmadison1051 Even better than listening to her talk, look at the cost of her services and the disclaimer that -> someone can only have access to her as a coach if they've already been diagnosed, and are in treatment with therapy and a meal plan. So, they do have to pay all of the treatment and therapy fees(perhaps not the exorbitant Monto Nido fees that she referenced) in addition to her coaching fees, which essentially is the equivalent of a luxury AA/NA/OA sponsor.
What did she really say was needed? Someone in your life that will do meal-support with you, sit with you and make sure you complete your meal plan, make you accountable. Make sure you eat (meal, snack, meal, snack, meal, snack) each and every day. Listen to you complain about why you cannot--and they change the subject for you, and you keep going and get used to it. The cost is human resources--do you know someone who will be that for you?
I've been living with eating disorder for about 20 years and have been "functioning" for several years. Right now I'm not, but the eating disorder is only part of my struggles. I have recurring severe depressions, anxiety, personality disorder... Also after all this time the problem is considered chronic. And feels more like a permanet passenger that like the main driver. If I was not living in a country where I am lucky to benefit from social menthal heath care (means for free for me) I would most likely by dead by now. The years when I studied I could not afford any help and got so much worse. So money IS a real problem to add to all the rest. But still I can only agree that "generalized" mental health clinics just don't seem to work. I had several bad experiences in those, only consolidating my disorder and being forced to learn "new tricks" that are even harder to let go. So I know just how incredibly hard it is to challenge an eating disorder, and other mental health problems too. After all it is my way I found to somehow survive and cope the insanity that was/is my family/life situation. (I was about 15 when I started losing weight). And I'm so exhausted, and helpless, and depressed that I really don't know where to take the needed energy from.- Worse so, I honestly can't see the point, can't find the needed motivation, since I really can't find a perspective. I can't imagine a life without, a life worth living. The very little thing that are "me" and that I cherish obviously were not enough. I am about to get "invalidity pension" for 14 months, and be re-evaluated afterwards. Meaning finances too will decrease heavily. But don't let yourself be dragged down by my dark thoughts. To all of you who are doing what I can't, taking the path to recovery, kudos to you. It is hard and you deserve it and you can be SO PROUD of every single step you achive.
I sincerely hope you get better. I told my wife today about my Bulimia which I have had for 20 years since 14. I'm terrified I have developed irreversible conditions, hoping the doctor can advise and do tests to see what is happening to me.
@@DinoSpumoni213 thank you very much, and same to you. You can be proud to have found the courage to tell your wife. I hope you find a good and understanding doctor who can help you as good as he can.
28+ years with anorexia here. I can’t get treatment covered. It’s truly the dark ages of treatment for this illness. I have my masters degree and a part-time job in a call center because this illness has stolen my life. 😢
Alice Olivia and anyone else promoting weight set point theory needs to be listened to and shared. Sooo many people dont realize they even have an eating disorder. It wasn't until I started working on healing my immune system that I learned 1000-1500 calories a day wasn't good enough. I've been eating 1000 more calories a day than I did 4 months ago and have onot gained about 10 lbs even though I'm hypothyroid and not on medication. This is because of my body's set point. And because I'm getting better nutrition my mind and body works better. I was low on calories from avoiding high sugar fruits while on a plant based diet due to chronic infections. I started using a dry suana to keep my temperature up a few times a week to kill off yeast overgrowth, viruses, streptococcus, ect. This is the healthiest I've ever been and I'm sorta shepherding my husband with me who's been too busy to eat but even as a man worried about his weight. We can't keep hiding the fact if you just keep going on an abundantly healthy diet your hormones and metabolism will catch up and you'll loose weight if you've gain in the healing process or you had weight to loose. Your body is self healing & self regulating.
Wow, thank you for sharing this useful information....I also have followed plant based lifestyle for 2 years now with low sugar because of yeast infections and I just got sicker. I self diagnosed myself with ME as the pain and fatigue are so intense that some days I couldn't get up the stairs. After following 2 months on an elimination diet to try and detect which foods were making me so sick this summer and ending up barely functional, I suddenly had a weird out of body realisation that this was not ME, it was an eating disorder that I have had for 32 years. 32 years of trying to supress my body weight. I am now in 'self' recovery since 5 weeks and I have never felt so healthy. I can't get help where I live so have done research online and am following a structured eating plan. This is the hardest thing I have ever had to do, and it feels terrible not having any support. Anyway, I have gained weight but I realise that this is how my body has to be to function properly. The sauna tip is very interesting. Thank you
@@naomijaneartworks34 Thank you for sharing your story. I don't know about you but it feels like support just to know someone else has gone through the same thing and is getting better! It is weird waking up from a eating disorder slowly like this. I've watched a random handful of different 'what I eat in a day' videos to validate my concern that under eating is a common problem. And wouldn't you believe not one single woman I watched got close to 2000 calories. If you have regular access to a suana, take advantage!
@@naomijaneartworks34 "the hardest thing I have ever done," is sometimes the most rewarding. Good for you for figuring it out, how restricting was making things worse (instead of the goal of helping feel better).
I've been in recovery for almost a year now and am really starting to get thoughts and want to stop eating again. I had anorexia and wouldn't eat over 500-900 calories a day and it's not that I miss it. I just miss the feeling of " healthy and slim". I am still really slim but my body is filling out like it is supposed to but it scares me.
Thank you so much for this- great talk. If possible, could you provide the sources for your statistics used in the slide? I wanted to include them in a paper I am writing for school. Thank you!
My only problem with this is the accidental asmr from the microphone. Please fix your audio before you post. Other then this, it's a good video. Most people in these comments don't understand. We need to educate people more on eating disorders, how to watch for them, how to get help, etc.
Once something like that has been recorded, there is little to nothing most people can do to get rid of it before posting. Unless they happen to be a recording engineer. Even then, there are no perfect fixes. Other than that, it's a *very* good comment and I agree 100% with everything else you typed. ^-^
@@aylbdrmadison1051 The thing is with eating disorders. It takes one to know one, so I'm glad they had someone who actually went through it speak about it.
Rarely have I found a Ted Talk so terrible: not only is it a catastrophe scenario "cured" only by pouring out gazillions of $$$ into a medical industry that understands nothing of eating disorders, but it is also self-promoting and self serving to the max. I have never heard of a complete recovery for such disorder. At very best, one is recover-ING, not quite ever recover-ED! The presenter talks of 6 types of eating disorders but manages to completely elude the list. The case examples given are all about the savior who came and spent time living with the person suffering from the disorder. Really? Living in their heads also? Pleeeaase! There are solutions for eating disorders and they are not thise taking advantage of people's misery and money making operations!
I have heard of and know people who have fully recovered so it is possible. I do however agree that making money out of the misery of others is an awful thing. That said if someone becomes an ED coach or sthg like that then they have to earn a living somehow. There are lots of free resources online. We need to search for them. It took me 10 years to try recovery again and this time I was able to weight restore for the first time in a decade. The mental part is taking longer because I have had an ED for over 20 years. But I still believe it is possible. Some people never fully recover. Others do. I would rather aim for full recovery and miss than aim for partial recovery. But I respect that we are in different places mentally and physically and even partial recovery is better than being completely in the ED.
Dear Kristie, very inspiring story. Thank You. I am struggling with compulsive overeating and binge eating for more than 25 years now, extremely desperate and exhausted. Would you please share which residential place have you been in California? And also if anyone knows a similar and special place in Europe? (I am from Hungary). Thanks a lot in advance. Andrea
People seem stuck on the $1,200 per day, which is not her own program cost, but the place she visited in the USA. She's from New Zealand. I think her point is exactly that - it's too expensive and out of the reach of most people. So that help she got and expense seems to have motivated her to develop other ways which are cheaper (but not free) which are more accessibly designed to help people recover. Fantastic idea. She didn't say it's perfect but at least she's excited and motivated enough to use her experience to help others get through and be out of the struggle to be on the way to where she is. She could have just gone home and said 'stuff everyone else!' I admire the goal. It's a work in progress doing something like this. I imagine once a new model of treatment gains traction, is tweaked to work more efficiently and cheaply, it would become widely known. That could encourage more sponsorship and government funding to come in, which means it could be 'franchised' so to speak and spread this model to other places; then more and more people come on board will help it grow... Yay!! That would be amazing.
Lovely person...didn't actually add anything to the discussion. Saying we 'should' _________, Where is the suggestions? What changes should be taken? Where's the meat (no pun intended), of her talk? I leave this TED presentation no wiser than when it began...unfortunately. : (
Sounds like she's proposing access to trained professionals and monitoring and supervising of meals by Skype as apposed to a more inconvenient and expensive live in care .
@@naomi-gu1gh 'Was' the issue a mystery??? [hmm...maybe it is in Australia; not sure, but in the USA, this issue has been around for a century, at least]!
@@jjo5375 no, but so many people don't know how high stakes it is. I had no idea about a lot of the stuff in her talk, especially the deathrate. If you had already known everything, good on you but not everyone knows the same stuff as you.
You bring up some great points. However, I question the whether it really is ED recovered people who should be the ones professionally helping those still sick. Additionally, you say "The people who will recover are the ones who are willing to do whatever it takes, for as long as it takes, until it's done". How is that realistic?! How do you envision that happening?? Furthermore, would you apply this theory to any other physical or psychiatric illness? No? ...Probably because it doesn't work?
The ED is a mental illness. "... willing to do whatever ..." is the part that is not/not there. Patients with serious eating disorders are unlikely to want the disorder gone. The helpful part of what she has to say is that sufferers need someone healthy to help distract, to be there every time they eat, as meal support.
As someone who recovered from 17 years with eating disorders, she is correct in saying that those who recover are those who do whatever it takes for as long as it takes. It is a daily fight and a daily struggle and those who aren't prepared to do EVERY SINGLE THING to beat it, won't recover.
Hi @@rebeccarobertss, I am also recovered. I guess it's different for everyone. I don't like blanket statements applied to all people with a given illness.
I either starve (which I liked for some reason ) or binge eat a lot of food and feel super guilty afterwards thats why I would try to throw up ,or poop after eating ,I just cant get rid of the cycle of starving or binging , please help me what should I do ?but let me tell u one thing NOT ANY FOOD ITEM/DISH IS WORSE THEN AN EATING DISORDER , (FOOD DOES NOT HAVE TO BE EARNED ,U NEED IT ITS FUEL FOR YOUR BODY, 💕I HOPE EVERYONE WHO REEDS THIS WILL HAVE A HEALTHY Relationship WITH FOOD💕
Been in recovery for over a year and I'm so tired of being controlled by ED...I'm doing the opposite actions that my ed tells me to do and I feel guilty most times but believing that someday the ED voice will be gone..
My gf is struggling with eating disorder for more than 2 years. I don't know what to do and how to make her understand its getting worse. I can't think of loosing her.
Great talk, but after nearly 40 YEARS of struggling with the Demon- Anorexia, I am beyong Cronic. Existing as an inpatient either in a hospital or a Private Clinic spending more time between the two that with my poor-suffering family at home. Unfortunately in Australia, there are NOT many options for help or treatment, both public and private facilities have very long wait lists. At one private clinic the ED Programe is 40 Days, when you are being admitted they tell you the exact day you will be leaving. I have to say, through many stays there myself I main thing I saw was a Revolving Door of mainly young girls comming and going. And if you didnt have Bulimia before you came to this place, you usually left knowing all the tricks by the time your 40 Days were up ! Treatment should be tailored to every individual, no two people are the same, and the longer you are aflicted with an eating dissorder the harder to recover completely.
Yes. The disorder is a mental illness and it can be episodic, like an addiction. Stress brings it back. It is a disease where treatment provides predictable outcomes. Success comes from your individual meal plan written by your dietitian, and meal-support with a trusted person who will kindly redirect your excuses during meal-time and snacks. Sit down 6 times a day with someone. With any mental illness you are in a 10-foot hole ... and you cannot get out by yourself.
2 years waiting for treatmen for diagnosed anorexia. I see a specialist nurse monthly who tells me to eat more. That's it. Yes, I have a remarkably unhealthy bmi
$1200/day is cheap… 😅 But seriously, treatment centers like this are AMAZING but they need to be more affordable (or free). They save lives. I was kicked out of mine by insurance because I was “doing too well”. And when I relapsed a couple months later, I was allowed 12 days of treatment. And that was GOOD insurance. -_-
I'm 27 years old. I've been trying to figure out what my problem has been for quite some time. I think I have finally discovered what my problem is but I don't think I want to believe it. Idk maybe it's something else.
Eating disorder recovery 5 months ofter I'm also suffering from eating disorder I'll pray to ಗುರು ರಾಘವೇಂದ್ರ swamy 🙏 disorder disappeared my English is poor sry guys
Great to see you’re rich enough for your parents to send you there to recover but I don’t see how a regular person’s parents could “scrounge up” even a 100k…
I healed from 10 years of compulsive dieting and bulimia with prayer. I continually cried out to God when I could no longer do it on my own to send someone to heal me and long story short, I’m ED free for 20 years. No cravings, no binging and incredible self control in the face of temptation. I recently gave my life to Jesus after learning that the miracle I experienced and was confounded by for 20 years was divine healing. If you’re struggling with an ED, seek God and Jesus because they love you more than you could ever imagine!
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I just want to recover. I honestly have no energy left neither mentally nor physically. I’m deeply tired.
Same
Have you got anything in place which is helpful to you?
I'm just starting my journey for the same reasons. I hope your winning! X
Jesus Christ, hope you're all getting at least some help. Want you to know that no feeling is final, there are brighter days ahead, might not be tomorrow or next week. There is beauty in the small things, just the fact you are alive makes you strong, please be persistent and just continue...
@@badernera7497 I’m in tears, i want to let you and everyone under this comment know that i have recovered from my eating disorder, i feel like a brand new person, i stopped letting food have my whole attention, i fixed my social life, moved on with life, i want to let you all know that there is hope for everyone, as this once seemed impossible to me, thank you all for your kindness, sending much love to everyone reading this. ✨
This breaks my heart. I’m in Scandinavia, currently in treatment for an eating disorder- and it is completely free, costs nothing. I wish this was the case all over the world
Josefine Smith congratulations on trying to recover. I’m proud of you. 😃
@@AngelicasRecovery thank you so much!! And right back at you :) This honestly made my day
Josefine Smith I wish 😢. I can’t get treatment in America unless my grandma goes bankrupt paying for it 😭😭
Hi I’m in Scandinavia as well... could you tell me where you get the treatment? Thanks!
@@josefinesmith472 well you have to pay sometime. Tax.
After 20 years of bulimia, I am on day three and so hopeful. I nearly cried when you said I’m not willing to trade the size of my life for the size of my body and that truly puts it into perspective. I cannot afford treatment but even if I could, I’ve been labeled chronic as well and therapy is not available. However it’s been long enough that I think I know my triggers and am putting myself first, and videos like this from people who know the disorder and have recovered give me so much hope. Thank you thank you thank you!
I love that this lady is wearing short sleeves even though she has self harm scars on her upper arm that are pretty visible. So many times therapists are told to hide their scars because it can be triggering, but in reality we need to learn to live with the fact that there are people around us with self harm scars.
She doesn't have scars those are veins
@@Taureanfitness I thought she has tattoos on her right inner arm?
Personal mini win: I just ate a bagel WITH cream cheese
I’m so proud of you! You’re doing great
pop off queen !!!!!!!
So so proud of you gurlll♥️👍
YESYESYES
GOOD JOB I'M SO PROUD💕💕💕
I relate so much to her story. I’m 19 and have had an eating disorder for nearly 11 years. I’m high functioning and nobody knows- deans list college student, working, extremely independent. The system has always failed me. I have seen so many doctors and therapists and none of them acknowledge my problem because I was never severely underweight. My heart, stomach, and bones are so weak and damaged. I have had a nurse tell me “you don’t look like you’re starving” when I was hospitalized for a suicide attempt related to my body image issues. I live in borderline poverty, and any healthcare treatment is inaccessible. $60 twice a month for therapy is even too expensive for me to keep up. I’m not sure how anyone can afford residential. But I hope anyone who is struggling with an Eating Disorder, can get better.
I really wish I could recover. I'm incredibly tired of it.
Gaby if you ever need someone to talk to I’m always available. I’m in recovery.
Honestly same
@@reginaphalange7065 you can, trust me. if motivation is there it is only fear that is stopping you. And recovery anxiety is TEMPORARY. ED anxiety is PERMANENT. You got this!
@@bexf2849 I have no idea who you are but thank you
I also want but I cant, really damn it
Might be commercial, impossible to pay for most of us, and so on, but she said one really REALLY important thing : all of us could recover. No matter how long we've been seek and how many times we've already tried to get better, we can do it. Now. 🙏
Yes you can! Nearly 6 years ago I started working with her and can say she helped me fully recover. Something I truly didn’t believe was possible after so many years of struggling!
Thank you so much for this ❤️ as someone who struggled with an eating disorder for 14 years I know first had how important it is to have individualized care. I never could have done it on my own. Your talk inspires me so much to do more instead of sit around passively hoping this problem is fixed. Thank God for recovered living. You are amazing Kristie and bring so much HOPE. Without you I’m not sure where I’d be today 💕
i picked up that something is going seriously wrong only a few weeks into anorexia . Now I'm almost a year into it .. on waiting lists.. reading books ... but im not giving up.. i will fight my way out .. to full freedom
Stubbled on this while trying to keep the recovery fire burning, my eating disorder only became apparent to me after getting pneumonia and dropped to 45kg. In NZ we are somewhat lucky, but specialist care is so pricey. I live on a farm and am extremely active, but proper nutrition is also so expensive that I have to choose between therapy or nutrition. Advice could be nice✌️
If you ever need someone to talk to I’m always available. ❤️ I’m in recovery from anorexia.
KEEP GOING
I'm rooting for you! Keep going!
@@AngelicasRecovery We should talk, I am a long time sufferer of anorexia but trying to stay out of hospital. Heading toward a healthier future... I hope...
i don’t want to get a lot of attention but i ate 2 apples, 2 bananas and a small bawl of cereals😎🔥
I'M SO PROUD OF YOU💗💗 i really hope that you are recovered🗣️🗣️
how did you do it
@@exotic1887 you can do it too I believe in you
I just completed six months of treatment. Inpatient to IOP. I’m done Friday and I hope I can get to that point that I can comfortably say: I am recovered. I’m still struggling unfortunately. But God has helped me through all this. Sometimes I still struggle with my goal’s being out of wack. I want recovery so bad. There’s still an ED voice. But I hope to make Gods voice bigger.
11:35: "The people who scare me the most are not the ones we see in the media. The people that scare me the most are the ones with jobs, partner, and families. " Same!
My granddaughter, age 14, just entered residential treatment in Mn. This video has helped me understand the importance of this program.
Thank you
I love this Woman!!!!!! 🙏🏻🙏🏻💕💕💕💕 God bless her!! Struggling with anorexia myself and eating for the first time in years (like actually eating. Not quasi eating..). I’ve never been so scared in my life. Thank you for this talk. It has helped me immensely! ❤️❤️
Her story is similar to my best friend’s story, I’m helping her recover so I’m watching and reading a lot about EDs .. we can’t afford treatment and the circumstances is very different in my country, I realized just today how bad it is in the Middle East! I just hope we can do it right, I don’t wanna watch her get sicker.
she was athletic and helped me get into the world of exercises and taking care of my body but she had a bad knee injury and she hasn’t been the same since.. I really hope she recovers.
Gd luck hope your friend is doing better. I also live in the middle east and I know how hard for any kind of care to be accessible, specially after all the recent crises.
great talk, except you talk about wanting to help everyone, and that everyone deserves recovery. but a 60 minute videocall session on your website is $105 per session. if i needed a session every single day, thats $735 a week. working class people, students and families can’t afford that kind of money.
Maybe try meditation 2x a day for 20 min. It really helped me.
@@carmelliea1772 that may help with some of the anxiety simptoms but it will not cure an eating disorder on its own
She isn't saying that counselors must offer their counseling for free in order to cut the costs. If we want to make treatment affordable for everyone, we need to get our governments and health services to give us better, more affordable care. Even if her services were free that would literally just give the few clients she can take on a better treatment option. There is no point in asking health care professionals to do their job for free, because costs are too high. Health care services must pay better, educate more people in the field and make the treatment more affordable.
Carmelliea Hewitt lol @ thinking that meditation can heal an eating disorder - that is ridiculous. Meditation is a nice part of a self care routine, if you like it, but it doesn't cure ANY mental illness - as it doesn't cure any physical illness either.
Carmelliea Hewitt meditation made me worse
I’m proud of myself I’m starting to eat more🥺🥺
It's a long road get support don't give up
I'm in South Africa. I was busy dying. My best friend died. Another friend managed to get into recovery early enough, but she, too, was on the verge of death. When it's between life and death, this story becomes way more complex and dark. Yet, what I can say is that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. There is hope. There is the grace of God. I'm grateful to be alive. But I live with the pain and responsibility to stand up, and hold a light to the path. I like your vision, I share in it. Reach out . Save lives. Help one another. Be kind .
Great talk. You said some really powerful things that brought me to tears. I don’t know that I will ever recover but you are telling me that you know it’s possible.
Meal support, you need an acquaintance to be there to make you accountable. Cannot do it on your own. Have your meal plan from the dietitian, and have someone there at every meal and snack to help you through it.
Watching this 5 months ago made me realise that my own struggle nearly 20years ago, should be shared and offered to help others. I’m now due to start my masters in Psychology to complete previous studies in mental health and counselling, and have already got clients I call friends who pay as they can. It’s about support, not money. I’m on the uk BEAT website on their help finder, active support worked, West Yorkshire. It is possible x this lady made it all clear. Thanks so much!
I hate living with this anxious feeling gaining weight. i just need motivation that its okay.
Today is my 16th birthday so I’m gonna try today to get through and eat I’m done pushing it to the side I can’t keep living like this it’s been 5 years and I’m now finally taking a stand to get better
You should really be so proud of yourself for choosing to fight! I also had an eating disorder since I was around 12 years old, now I am 18 and after choosing to really recover last year, I can honestly say my life is so much better. I'm not yet fully recovered but I can grantee that a better life is possible. I don't know you at all but I just think you must be so brave and strong for commenting this, I really wish you all the best.
How’s it going now, 4 months later?
Thank you for sharing your story, Kristie. I developed anorexia around age six and bulimia at age ten. Now as a seventeen year old, I have been in eating disorder treatment for eight months and this was very motivating for me. Listening to people's recovery stories reminds me that I can recover and that I don't have to live my life controlled by my eating disorder
This is amazing! Treatment is essential for all types of illness, both physical and mental. I hope that you continue to be successful in your eating disorder recovery and that your clients are successful in their journey towards recovery as well! Your approach of connecting with your clients directly as they’re facing their challenges head-on is amazing, and definetly something that more eating disorder recovery treatment centers, and other mental health treatment centers, should focus more on, especially since these issues exist for people well beyond the confines of their therapist’s office or recovery center.
It is a mental health issue. This point, "connecting with ... as they’re facing their challenges ..." is the inexpensive key to the whole thing.
Fighting this disease daily for years has been exhausting. At this point, a good 15 years of suffering, I can't see a day when I'll be able to recover but god I wish I could. I wish for just a single day of being able to eat 'normally' I would give everything and anything. This disease has literally ruined my life and I hate it.
This video is very interesting but didn’t offer much advice to those wanting to get practical help... I struggled w/ ED’s for several years and I was young and broke and could not afford professional treatments... I tried everything that was free or cheap. I got books from the library, had trusted friends and family for accountability, tried a counsellor thru kaiser but it wasn’t a good fit at the time, I had many ups and downs. I got a Cognitive behaviour therapy workbook for anorexia and bulimia, and journaled through it which was huge for me, I finally was able to have victory in that area of my life. I started gaining weight and having a more healthy outlook. Also, more recently I went through an Intuitive Eating workbook both at has been so helpful in me being able to have even more freedom when it comes to my relationship with food... it’s been a long journey but I’m so thankful to say that I feel free and recovered now.
I find it so frustrating and patronising to encouraged to ‘seek help’ and presented a load of horrifying stats by someone who is lucky enough to have 40k worth of savings knocking about her bank and parents that can fork out over 1k A DAY on treatment?! You can’t send a message of ‘hope’ that it ‘really is possible to recover’ when the only way you did it was by paying an obscene amount to go to a residential for 7 months! What about the majority of people that are living pay check to pay check with no savings and families that can’t help? We just have to accept that we have to be severely underweight and sick to even get seen by a doctor (this is my experience in the UK). I’m sorry, but it is really tiring listening to stories from people in such a privileged position that it’s impossible for me to even comprehend. I cannot relate. I need to hear stories from people that have managed to recover in ways that are accessible to the masses. Unfortunately, it seems to me that recovery from an eating disorder isn’t designed for working class people.
I am SO with you on this. Although it is better to have the kind of care she was able to afford, not many of us can afford that. I sure can’t. I’ve been using resources from youtubers in recovery, meditation, opposite action, yoga, and a food journal where I write about how food makes me feel instead of calories. My family has made scales and calorie counts unavailable to me and I go to a therapist and journal to work through the problems that I’m using my ed to cope with. If there is anyway you can see a dietician or therapist that is ideal but there are ways to get started on your recovery without professional help at first.
I think her point is exactly that - it's too expensive and out of the reach of most people. So that seems to have motivated her, since she started to develop other ways which are cheaper (no not free) but designed to help people recover.
She didn't say it's perfect but at least she's excited to help others get through and be where she is. She could have just gone home and said 'stuff everyone else!'
I imagine once a new model of treatment gains traction, is tweaked to work more efficiently and cheaply, it would get known. Then more sponsorship and funding could come in, which means it could 'franchise' so to speak. That will spread the model to other places and more and more people on board will help it grow... Yay!! That would be amazing.
When your fear is you don't have enough money to eat, it is hella bad too hehe
@@1970brenz yeah, but what exactly is the "new approach"? She didn't give any clue or advise .
I'm recovering from Rd and Currently I'm having a breakdown after a large portion of dinner which is also my fear food ......I'm extremely tired of trying to battle every day with my mind and changing body .... previously I also struggled with (sh) ...in recovery I'm stopping myself every time it gets too hard from trying to end my life .....I hate the filling of being full..,I hate the fact I can't control what I eat .....I'm having breakdown many times every day .... panic attacks every time I have to eat .......I feel like a burden to my family and don't feel sick enough to recover.....
But I'm trying my best my sis is trying to help me I feel like giving up every day but I'm trying to be strong cause I want to experience real happiness...2weeks clean I hope that I can make a full recovery one day.....✊
I don't think I've ever related to a comment so much. How are you doing now?
I wish that my daughter had seen this talk and heard about this treatment before she died in late 2022 after an 18 year battle with ED. She needed this type of assistance and positivity but it was not offered to her, nor us.
I have mad respect for this lady xx
I'm in recovery. I did it on my own. I'm 20 lbs overweight but life..
Okay but where the tf does someone get money like that. I couldnt even do 1 month for 1200
Let alone a day
Hailey Thomas if you ever need someone to talk to I can do it for free ❤️ I’m in recovery
I was thinking the SAME THING
@@AngelicasRecovery hey can we both talk please , I am suffering from anorexia 😭
@@maimoonajanbaaz5352 I’ll talk to you or anyone who needs it I thought I recovers from anorexia more than 5 years ago but it creeps in and out of my life and I’m working on educating myself and helping myself I think it’d be nice to have someone who understands what I’m going through ❤️
@@destineer6612 how can i contact you💖
Therapy is the best solution. Usually these disorders are more of symptoms of something else.
Anorexia for instance is often from false body perception rather than a mutation that kills appetite.
Finally someone in this comment section who understands what eating disorders are.
I’ve never heard anyone describe eating disorders coming from a mutation that kills appetite. Anyone who believes that is seriously misinformed.
@@hindsightpov4218 They literally said that it isn't a mutation but body perception...can you even read?
Agreed. False body perception and sometimes (for me) a perceived need for control are the driving factors behind eating disorders. I recovered with a therapist, and occasional meetings with a dietician to ensure I was on the right path.
Kiiro Sagi Therapy, including medical supervision for re-feeding. Balances in blood-work need to be monitored, could kill to refed without reference to what body is doing in starting to re-feed. Anorexia is a mental illness. Physical decline brings on mental decline--if you are missing one-third of your body, that means one-third of your brain is missing, and judgement is impaired. While judgement is impaired, fear and anxiety make it seem that control is important. Gaining weight can help suffers learn why they get in this anxious state, and losing again is a relapse that again requires medical intervention. With mental illness, you are in a 10-foot hole and you cannot get out by yourself.
This is so true! I had to use all my college money to go get help but was still only able to stay three months and was just finally getting weight restored. That was 15 years ago and I am still not recovered. I am trying so hard to get better, but feel stuck. I can only see my dietitian maybe three times a year because the costs for a session. Insurance does not cover things termed mental illness and especially eating disorders like they need to. I believe that if I could see my dietitian more or get outpatient treatment at an eating disorder treatment center then I’d have a strong possibility of recovering because unlike fifteen years ago, I want to recover. The costs though is too much. Hopefully, in time, people have more access to affordable care and insurance will offer more coverage.
Oh hon I hope you feel better ❤❤❤❤
I've been struggeling with mostly EDNOS, but also two types of bulimia, anorexia nervosa, and binge eating disorder ALL MY LIFE. I just want to keep a weight I'm comfortable with for more than 6 months, and I'm not even considered sick to most people, but I've got no hope of getting better neither. I just want to feel pretty, and forget about food, stop feeling insecure and and focus on other things
I’m on my 2nd meal while watching this ❤️
I feel so ashamed.. I had one of those 3 beds in Ireland and now I've relapsed. Listening to this searching for hope. I live in the UK now and finding it a daily struggle to get treatment.
Hi Linda, how are you doing these days? I hope you've gotten the support you needed and are in a better place now. Relapsing isn't erasing your progress, or starting from square one! It's starting again, from experience, I know it's so hard but it's nothing to be ashamed about. Please be gentle with yourself. I wish you all the best for your healing.
14:40 it only cost a lifetime of savings... or a house, or a retirement portfolio... no problem for her, but a problem for 99.999 percent of the world
Her point was not that she had that much money, it was that the treatment costs are outrageous, obviously. Perhaps listening to what a person actually says will help you with your listening disorder.
"no problem for her" she literally said it was her life savings what do you mean it wasn't a problem for her??
@@aylbdrmadison1051 are you kidding me? Do you have any idea how much money 6 months at 1200 a day cost? She didn't even explain her disorder... $208,000 is a 30 year home mortgage that many people end up defaulting on. It is not a luxury item expense. She needs a therapist for her disorder not a 1200 a day scam...
@@bonzainews The clincher in her whole spiel about how astronomically expensive that treatment centre was/is, is that she received her ED coaching certificate from that very centre(Monte Nido). Her coaching isn't less expensive, it's an added expense on top of the treatment that the client already has to have, since the disclaimer on her coaching site says that the client must already have a diagnosis, be in therapy, and already have a meal plan in place. One can get one of these coaching certificates in little time, yet she's charging a rate higher than what one would pay to see a certified clinician face-to-face. There is definitely a value to peer coaching, and treatment centers/hospitals do hire them, but it's under their supervision. I feel like Monte Nido is taking advantage of people recovering with EDs in the same way that those MLM companies take advantage of vulnerable people.
People seem stuck on the $1,200 per day, which is not her own program cost, but the place she visited in the USA. She's from New Zealand. I think her point is exactly that - it's too expensive and out of the reach of most people. So that help she got and expense seems to have motivated her to develop other ways which are cheaper (but not free) which are more accessibly designed to help people recover. Fantastic idea.
She didn't say it's perfect but at least she's excited and motivated enough to use her experience to help others get through and be out of the struggle to be on the way to where she is. She could have just gone home and said 'stuff everyone else!' I admire the goal. It's a work in progress doing something like this.
I imagine once a new model of treatment gains traction, is tweaked to work more efficiently and cheaply, it would become widely known. That could encourage more sponsorship and government funding to come in, which means it could be 'franchised' so to speak and spread this model to other places; then more and more people come on board will help it grow... Yay!! That would be amazing.
This girl is so, so strong. I wouldn't ever be strong enough to work with people with mental disorders. I have a friend who often doesn't eat anything for 2/3 days because of stress and it triggers me so fuckin badly
Always thought if i ever start loving my body and accept the way it is I’ll will stop trying to change and i would be stuck in this physique but now i get it loving the way we are mean we do our best to be better but if we can’t that’s okay there’s no guilt or disappointment
I grew up in the US and spent 30 years with an ED without getting help because of the cost. I moved to Europe and now am finally getting treatment thanks to national healthcare. One of the hardest things to deal with is knowing I spent 30 years suffering and wasting a lot of my life because of this. What could I have done with my life if I had gotten treatment 30 years ago? What a loss.
Don't think that way. It's your life, everything has a reason. You are who you are thanks to that experience
FABULOUS TALK Thank you Kristie. I am an eating disorder therapist living in Switzerland and France and would love to connect with you
What I've learned from a loved one with mental health issues, is that if you don't have money, you don't get help. Period. Watching my loved one die a little each day.
This is such a helpful talk. I agree, we need much more affordable options. Inherently affordable.
Thank you for what you do
I've been living with eating disorder my untire life and I never believed in a recovery like 100%...But to be honest I've never been able to pay till finish a treatment.
@Recovered Living Thank you very much 😊😊😊
You can recover outside of formal treatment. I've been better supported by people who have recovered and written books or shared their experiences online than I ever was by formal treatment. It is possible but it is tough. It is tough with treatment or familial support. I hope you get there.xx
@@TT-fn1xb Thank you :D
Recovered Living I also found full recovery following good inpatient treatment (and also following a really abusive and horrific inpatient treatment the year prior to the one that actually helped me... lots of predatory people out there, sadly) and I love seeing the word spread that it is possible. I genuinely haven’t struggled with anorexia at all for five years, I don’t even think about it anymore. People always say that it’s a constant battle and that you’ll fight it forever and I think that’s such a toxic thing to tell people. It becomes a self fulfilling prophecy.
@@Anna-cu7iz thank God for people like you who believe it's possible to live fully healed. I'm not there yet but reading your experience makes me think it's still possible.
I can't imagine myself without ed💔💔💔
this is heartbreaking :( let me tell you from my own experience that life without it is so much better
I know that terrible feeling well, but remember that that just means there is SO MUCH of yourself that you’re gonna get to uncover in recovery!! ED doesn’t want you to be independent of it but you CAN become that way on your own and live a beautiful life❤️❤️❤️
@@Ava-hu4gc that's so sweet well I hope that for all of us💖💖
Thank you very much for sharing this lovely video with us; it was fascinating to learn more about anorexia and how it is an illness that impacts so many people in such a negative way. Thank you for sharing such an inspiring story with us!
I'm from the UK. My eating disorder has gone unnoticed for 7 years. I have been waiting for NHS mental health support for that long for multiple reasons. I was diagnosed with anorexia earlier this year. I went to my GP 5 times, my referrals for support were rejected 3 times. I was told to visit a service that could not help me. I got an assessment by our community team,diagnosed and was signed off work. I am not expected to be seen for 6 months. This will be 1 year without support. I have been told by my doctor that I am not thin enough for treatment. I have been to my doctor nearly 5 times to almost beg for help. To note; I am underweight, so others who are a normal weight are being treated even worse than I am.
Tell you GP you won't leave without a benchmark order of blood and urine tests. Your GP can order blood work and you go to a lab. Your treatment starts with dietitian who provides you with a meal plan. You follow the meal plan with the help of *someone!* who will sit with you 6 times a day, be encouraging, and not listen to excuses, change the subject, talk about ordinary things that don't bring on anxiety. Not expensive, don't wait. You need the blood test, dietitian's meal plan, and friend to be meal support--all these things NOW. It is a treatable disease with predictable outcomes when treated. It is a mental illness and you can't cure it by yourself. People get scared an ED will be taken from them and they think, Better to do it on my own and they succumb.
Your 40 yr old client sounds just like me, except I'm 36, have 4 kids and a husband, and have had bulimia for 25 years, I've got 10k in new top teeth because mine rotted out, I've gone to treatment 2 times, and I'm still battling it every single day, and it all stems from self hate. Money is the reason I didnt finish my treatment and my husband was in the military when I did get partial treatment, so even military which is as close to universal healthcare as you can get in america didnt cover my sever e.d ?they also Put me in a mental ward for 24 hrs until I would ge transferred to the facility and treated me like I was crazy because I threw up food (but I wasnt healthy under weight) but people who are deathly overweight never get treated like they are insane infact they are glorified in the media nowadays
Kayla Austin
I’m sorry you’re going through all this. I have my own struggles with chronic depression coming from a dysfunctional abusive household.
I was floored how so many licensed people in the medical field are severely incompetent. They made my depression worse rather than helping me, so I can relate to your struggles.
I wish you the best on your journey to a happy, healthy life. I’m 38 now, and for the first time in my life I feel I’m on a steady path to recovery by listening to own heart and instincts to do whatever it takes to heal my soul after decades of abuse.
Sending compassion and understanding your way
Kayla Austin I’m battling bulimia right now too. Let me know if you’re interested in being my buddy/accountability partner. I really need someone who gets it and can vent to. I can offer the same in return.
@@elisebeachy8182 Hey don't worry too much....it goes away easier than you think. I suffered from very severe bulimia for 12 years and fully recovered within less than a year without ever spending a cent or seeking professional help.. It was meditation 2x a day for 20 min (very important to be consistent) that healed me. Coincidentally when it was 95% gone I fell very ill for couple days due food poisoning which totally purged my body. After that I was in the clear.
Try it out. It will gradually go away by itself. Also deep belly breathing helps.
Blessings and I wish you good luck 😊
If you ever need someone to talk to I’m always available. ♥️
I can only afford a week of this, but it costs the same as my college tuition for a semester
We need more people like you ❤️❤️❤️
LOVE THIS!!!!
I have an eating disorder and nobody knows. It’s been years. And I’m scared it’s going to kill me. I need help, I’m so ashamed of myself.
Hope you're doing much better
My daughter has had difficulty eating since the day she was born (a month early). Just getting her to eat anything has been such a struggle. Looking at her, you’d never know it. She is petite and beautiful. She is just a tad small. We are finally going to a registered dietician to see if we can help her out. She has anxiety and OCD and the past year she’s been in therapy. I hope to God she can overcome this and not get worse when she goes off to college. I know I’m not supposed to talk about food with her. That’s going to be so hard! My heart is breaking and I feel like a complete failure as a parent and a human. I am going to make more time to learn more about diet, nutrition, and anxiety and OCD. Any tips from those with eating disorders are welcome.
P.s. I’m willing to acknowledge my part in all of this.
You sound like a sweet person
I think you should focus less about the food/eating disorder itself and focus on the co-morbidities first and foremost. Which you already sound like an amazing sweet mother who genuinely cares for her child, therapy for her anxiety and OCD will be the best way to help with her food issues. This is coming from someone who’s recovered from an eating disorder myself, I’m going to tell you right now… I truly believe eating disorders in of itself aren’t disorders, but are a symptom of a much bigger problem + and it’s more about seeking control when you feel that there’s none (in my experience that was my autism and generalize anxiety disorder), however for your daughter, her story could be very different. But I feel like in cases like hers since her issues aren’t rooted so heavily in body image issues, a dietician isn’t going to do as much… the best thing you can do is find a therapist that specializes in anxiety and OCD opposed to seeking a therapist that “specializes in Ed recovery”, the main reason for this is because eating disorder specialist tend to care more about the symptoms (the physical aspects of food issues, body images issues, ect…) and put any possibility of a co-morbidities (anxiety, depression, OCD, ADHD, Autism, Gender Dysphoria, BPD, bipolar disorder, ect…) all on the back burner. Once her anxiety and OCD are under control with help of a good therapist that specializes with anxiety/OCD (if she needs meds, she should take them), her food issues will naturally disappear with time. From my personal experience with anorexia binge/purge, I don’t subscribe to be belief that anorexia/bulimia/ect… + body dysmorphia aren’t disorders in of themselves but symptoms other other mental/neurological disorders/illness. From my experience, my anorexia slowly but surely disappeared once I saw a therapist for anxiety.
I truly wish the best for you and your daughter, she’s so blessed to have a loving, wonderful, supportive woman like you in her life! I hope this helps ❤️
The positivity behind her words it's charming, but there's not a single piece of specific content about eating disorders and how to changed them.
Yes, she mentioned the importance of doing your grocery and being thoughtful about our eating behaviors. But those things are just a small part of it.
I think that anyone, whit the right motivation and tools, it's capable of recovery and I'm not trying to be judging, but paying 200 bucks a month for more than 10 years, or even more than 6 moths it's crazy. Sometimes you're not the problem, but the professional that it's not finding the way to help you and decides to keep going whit the treatment, instead of introduce you whit another professional.
You managed to miss some of her talking points through not understanding English all that well. I think if you talked to her personally, you would find you both agree far more often than not.
Yes the professionals are often more at fault, but most often their hands are tied by the laws created by corporations whose only interest is in selling medications that are often useless in the long term. Capitalism without democracy, plus a massive decline in linguistic literacy among the population in general is to blame for this. I cannot say for certain about other countries, but that is what is happening here in the U.S.
Her talk isn't about how one person specifically can recover, but it is more about the state that treatment is in and how intensive treatment is needed but can't be paid for by the people and therefore health services must do better in offering treatment and paying for treatment.
these statistics saddens me. i really want to help ppl with eds.... i hope i can do it when i get older
Must be nice to be able to afford treatment like that
Just seeing my hair falling off my hand, pillows and when I’m brushing it makes me so sad, and when I’m trying to eat my family tells me how much can u eat, otherwise my mom says that I look like a stick…
Thank you for sharing this. This will help people live full out
High functioning eating disorder... That's me! 20 years later, no longer "sick", but still sick.
You telling me, You did really spent 252,000 in seven months. I don't know how useful this talk is. But I can Say it doesn't really helped me. I could be sure that 99% of eating disorder patients DO NOT HAVE 36000 A MONTH FOR TREATMENT
That's a Major part of her point. Listen to the talk next time.
did you actually listen her?
I agree. I healed meditating 2x day for 20 min. It's free.
Lucky I didn't hear this talk when I was still sick. It would hv depressed me even more. Terrible.
@@aylbdrmadison1051 Even better than listening to her talk, look at the cost of her services and the disclaimer that -> someone can only have access to her as a coach if they've already been diagnosed, and are in treatment with therapy and a meal plan. So, they do have to pay all of the treatment and therapy fees(perhaps not the exorbitant Monto Nido fees that she referenced) in addition to her coaching fees, which essentially is the equivalent of a luxury AA/NA/OA sponsor.
What did she really say was needed? Someone in your life that will do meal-support with you, sit with you and make sure you complete your meal plan, make you accountable. Make sure you eat (meal, snack, meal, snack, meal, snack) each and every day. Listen to you complain about why you cannot--and they change the subject for you, and you keep going and get used to it. The cost is human resources--do you know someone who will be that for you?
I've been living with eating disorder for about 20 years and have been "functioning" for several years. Right now I'm not, but the eating disorder is only part of my struggles. I have recurring severe depressions, anxiety, personality disorder... Also after all this time the problem is considered chronic. And feels more like a permanet passenger that like the main driver.
If I was not living in a country where I am lucky to benefit from social menthal heath care (means for free for me) I would most likely by dead by now. The years when I studied I could not afford any help and got so much worse. So money IS a real problem to add to all the rest.
But still I can only agree that "generalized" mental health clinics just don't seem to work. I had several bad experiences in those, only consolidating my disorder and being forced to learn "new tricks" that are even harder to let go.
So I know just how incredibly hard it is to challenge an eating disorder, and other mental health problems too. After all it is my way I found to somehow survive and cope the insanity that was/is my family/life situation. (I was about 15 when I started losing weight).
And I'm so exhausted, and helpless, and depressed that I really don't know where to take the needed energy from.- Worse so, I honestly can't see the point, can't find the needed motivation, since I really can't find a perspective. I can't imagine a life without, a life worth living. The very little thing that are "me" and that I cherish obviously were not enough. I am about to get "invalidity pension" for 14 months, and be re-evaluated afterwards. Meaning finances too will decrease heavily.
But don't let yourself be dragged down by my dark thoughts.
To all of you who are doing what I can't, taking the path to recovery, kudos to you.
It is hard and you deserve it and you can be SO PROUD of every single step you achive.
I sincerely hope you get better. I told my wife today about my Bulimia which I have had for 20 years since 14. I'm terrified I have developed irreversible conditions, hoping the doctor can advise and do tests to see what is happening to me.
@@DinoSpumoni213 thank you very much, and same to you. You can be proud to have found the courage to tell your wife.
I hope you find a good and understanding doctor who can help you as good as he can.
28+ years with anorexia here. I can’t get treatment covered. It’s truly the dark ages of treatment for this illness. I have my masters degree and a part-time job in a call center because this illness has stolen my life. 😢
Alice Olivia and anyone else promoting weight set point theory needs to be listened to and shared. Sooo many people dont realize they even have an eating disorder. It wasn't until I started working on healing my immune system that I learned 1000-1500 calories a day wasn't good enough. I've been eating 1000 more calories a day than I did 4 months ago and have onot gained about 10 lbs even though I'm hypothyroid and not on medication. This is because of my body's set point. And because I'm getting better nutrition my mind and body works better. I was low on calories from avoiding high sugar fruits while on a plant based diet due to chronic infections. I started using a dry suana to keep my temperature up a few times a week to kill off yeast overgrowth, viruses, streptococcus, ect. This is the healthiest I've ever been and I'm sorta shepherding my husband with me who's been too busy to eat but even as a man worried about his weight. We can't keep hiding the fact if you just keep going on an abundantly healthy diet your hormones and metabolism will catch up and you'll loose weight if you've gain in the healing process or you had weight to loose. Your body is self healing & self regulating.
Wow, thank you for sharing this useful information....I also have followed plant based lifestyle for 2 years now with low sugar because of yeast infections and I just got sicker. I self diagnosed myself with ME as the pain and fatigue are so intense that some days I couldn't get up the stairs. After following 2 months on an elimination diet to try and detect which foods were making me so sick this summer and ending up barely functional, I suddenly had a weird out of body realisation that this was not ME, it was an eating disorder that I have had for 32 years. 32 years of trying to supress my body weight. I am now in 'self' recovery since 5 weeks and I have never felt so healthy. I can't get help where I live so have done research online and am following a structured eating plan. This is the hardest thing I have ever had to do, and it feels terrible not having any support. Anyway, I have gained weight but I realise that this is how my body has to be to function properly. The sauna tip is very interesting. Thank you
@@naomijaneartworks34 Thank you for sharing your story. I don't know about you but it feels like support just to know someone else has gone through the same thing and is getting better! It is weird waking up from a eating disorder slowly like this. I've watched a random handful of different 'what I eat in a day' videos to validate my concern that under eating is a common problem. And wouldn't you believe not one single woman I watched got close to 2000 calories.
If you have regular access to a suana, take advantage!
@@naomijaneartworks34 "the hardest thing I have ever done," is sometimes the most rewarding. Good for you for figuring it out, how restricting was making things worse (instead of the goal of helping feel better).
recovery opportunities shouldn't be so exclusive, this is so sad to know how expensive it is and that it's pretty much only US-based
I wish I had this woman in my life
I've been in recovery for almost a year now and am really starting to get thoughts and want to stop eating again. I had anorexia and wouldn't eat over 500-900 calories a day and it's not that I miss it. I just miss the feeling of " healthy and slim". I am still really slim but my body is filling out like it is supposed to but it scares me.
Thank you so much for this- great talk. If possible, could you provide the sources for your statistics used in the slide? I wanted to include them in a paper I am writing for school. Thank you!
My only problem with this is the accidental asmr from the microphone. Please fix your audio before you post. Other then this, it's a good video.
Most people in these comments don't understand. We need to educate people more on eating disorders, how to watch for them, how to get help, etc.
Once something like that has been recorded, there is little to nothing most people can do to get rid of it before posting. Unless they happen to be a recording engineer. Even then, there are no perfect fixes.
Other than that, it's a *very* good comment and I agree 100% with everything else you typed. ^-^
@@aylbdrmadison1051 The thing is with eating disorders. It takes one to know one, so I'm glad they had someone who actually went through it speak about it.
We can do it guys :)
I was at the renfrew center of Philadelphia for 2 months and I can confirm it was around 1500 dollars a day. And honestly they didn’t even treat me.
I can't afford treatment
Same):
This is too depressing. NO ONE has this kind of money. We are all screwed.
This is wonderful!!
Rarely have I found a Ted Talk so terrible: not only is it a catastrophe scenario "cured" only by pouring out gazillions of $$$ into a medical industry that understands nothing of eating disorders, but it is also self-promoting and self serving to the max. I have never heard of a complete recovery for such disorder. At very best, one is recover-ING, not quite ever recover-ED! The presenter talks of 6 types of eating disorders but manages to completely elude the list. The case examples given are all about the savior who came and spent time living with the person suffering from the disorder. Really? Living in their heads also? Pleeeaase!
There are solutions for eating disorders and they are not thise taking advantage of people's misery and money making operations!
I have heard of and know people who have fully recovered so it is possible. I do however agree that making money out of the misery of others is an awful thing. That said if someone becomes an ED coach or sthg like that then they have to earn a living somehow. There are lots of free resources online. We need to search for them. It took me 10 years to try recovery again and this time I was able to weight restore for the first time in a decade. The mental part is taking longer because I have had an ED for over 20 years. But I still believe it is possible. Some people never fully recover. Others do. I would rather aim for full recovery and miss than aim for partial recovery. But I respect that we are in different places mentally and physically and even partial recovery is better than being completely in the ED.
Dear Kristie, very inspiring story. Thank You. I am struggling with compulsive overeating and binge eating for more than 25 years now, extremely desperate and exhausted. Would you please share which residential place have you been in California? And also if anyone knows a similar and special place in Europe? (I am from Hungary). Thanks a lot in advance. Andrea
Seriously? 1.200 $ a day? Who has that type of money? This Ted talk is useless. Only for the privileged.
sis the whole point of the ted talk was the ED treatment needs to change so it is no longer for only the privileged did you watch the whole thing
@@clairegaylor8788 She charges $120 for a 60 min videocall, Sis. If you can afford that you are privileged.
Alexandra Quick get some help
@@ashleyhayes1793 i know this is just a meme format reply, but thats what they're saying. if you're not priveleged you cant "get help"
People seem stuck on the $1,200 per day, which is not her own program cost, but the place she visited in the USA. She's from New Zealand. I think her point is exactly that - it's too expensive and out of the reach of most people. So that help she got and expense seems to have motivated her to develop other ways which are cheaper (but not free) which are more accessibly designed to help people recover. Fantastic idea.
She didn't say it's perfect but at least she's excited and motivated enough to use her experience to help others get through and be out of the struggle to be on the way to where she is. She could have just gone home and said 'stuff everyone else!' I admire the goal. It's a work in progress doing something like this.
I imagine once a new model of treatment gains traction, is tweaked to work more efficiently and cheaply, it would become widely known. That could encourage more sponsorship and government funding to come in, which means it could be 'franchised' so to speak and spread this model to other places; then more and more people come on board will help it grow... Yay!! That would be amazing.
This is amazing
this made me cry
Lovely person...didn't actually add anything to the discussion. Saying we 'should' _________, Where is the suggestions? What changes should be taken? Where's the meat (no pun intended), of her talk? I leave this TED presentation no wiser than when it began...unfortunately. : (
Sounds like she's proposing access to trained professionals and monitoring and supervising of meals by Skype as apposed to a more inconvenient and expensive live in care .
The purpose is to inform. If the public knows the issue, then change can start.
@@naomi-gu1gh 'Was' the issue a mystery??? [hmm...maybe it is in Australia; not sure, but in the USA, this issue has been around for a century, at least]!
@@jjo5375 no, but so many people don't know how high stakes it is. I had no idea about a lot of the stuff in her talk, especially the deathrate. If you had already known everything, good on you but not everyone knows the same stuff as you.
You bring up some great points. However, I question the whether it really is ED recovered people who should be the ones professionally helping those still sick. Additionally, you say "The people who will recover are the ones who are willing to do whatever it takes, for as long as it takes, until it's done". How is that realistic?! How do you envision that happening?? Furthermore, would you apply this theory to any other physical or psychiatric illness? No? ...Probably because it doesn't work?
The ED is a mental illness. "... willing to do whatever ..." is the part that is not/not there. Patients with serious eating disorders are unlikely to want the disorder gone. The helpful part of what she has to say is that sufferers need someone healthy to help distract, to be there every time they eat, as meal support.
As someone who recovered from 17 years with eating disorders, she is correct in saying that those who recover are those who do whatever it takes for as long as it takes.
It is a daily fight and a daily struggle and those who aren't prepared to do EVERY SINGLE THING to beat it, won't recover.
Hi @@rebeccarobertss, I am also recovered. I guess it's different for everyone. I don't like blanket statements applied to all people with a given illness.
I would be willing to use all my money and do anything I could to recover
I either starve (which I liked for some reason ) or binge eat a lot of food and feel super guilty afterwards thats why I would try to throw up ,or poop after eating ,I just cant get rid of the cycle of starving or binging , please help me what should I do ?but let me tell u one thing NOT ANY FOOD ITEM/DISH IS WORSE THEN AN EATING DISORDER , (FOOD DOES NOT HAVE TO BE EARNED ,U NEED IT ITS FUEL FOR YOUR BODY, 💕I HOPE EVERYONE WHO REEDS THIS WILL HAVE A HEALTHY Relationship WITH FOOD💕
Been in recovery for over a year and I'm so tired of being controlled by ED...I'm doing the opposite actions that my ed tells me to do and I feel guilty most times but believing that someday the ED voice will be gone..
This is good. Hard but good
My gf is struggling with eating disorder for more than 2 years. I don't know what to do and how to make her understand its getting worse. I can't think of loosing her.
Eating my lunch that I used to skip alllll the time while watching
Great talk, but after nearly 40 YEARS of struggling with the Demon- Anorexia, I am beyong Cronic. Existing as an inpatient either in a hospital or a Private Clinic spending more time between the two that with my poor-suffering family at home.
Unfortunately in Australia, there are NOT many options for help or treatment, both public and private facilities have very long wait lists. At one private clinic the ED Programe is 40 Days, when you are being admitted they tell you the exact day you will be leaving. I have to say, through many stays there myself I main thing I saw was a Revolving Door of mainly young girls comming and going. And if you didnt have Bulimia before you came to this place, you usually left knowing all the tricks by the time your 40 Days were up ! Treatment should be tailored to every individual, no two people are the same, and the longer you are aflicted with an eating dissorder the harder to recover completely.
Yes. The disorder is a mental illness and it can be episodic, like an addiction. Stress brings it back. It is a disease where treatment provides predictable outcomes. Success comes from your individual meal plan written by your dietitian, and meal-support with a trusted person who will kindly redirect your excuses during meal-time and snacks. Sit down 6 times a day with someone. With any mental illness you are in a 10-foot hole ... and you cannot get out by yourself.
I'm 52 been anorexic 40 years to I'm 1 year in recovery but it's tough but it's do able xx
2 years waiting for treatmen for diagnosed anorexia. I see a specialist nurse monthly who tells me to eat more. That's it. Yes, I have a remarkably unhealthy bmi
I have no one to help me through this so here I am
$1200/day is cheap… 😅 But seriously, treatment centers like this are AMAZING but they need to be more affordable (or free). They save lives. I was kicked out of mine by insurance because I was “doing too well”. And when I relapsed a couple months later, I was allowed 12 days of treatment. And that was GOOD insurance. -_-
I'm 27 years old. I've been trying to figure out what my problem has been for quite some time. I think I have finally discovered what my problem is but I don't think I want to believe it. Idk maybe it's something else.
She popped off
Eating disorder recovery 5 months ofter I'm also suffering from eating disorder I'll pray to ಗುರು ರಾಘವೇಂದ್ರ swamy 🙏 disorder disappeared my English is poor sry guys
i’m really struggling and i don’t know what to do
Great to see you’re rich enough for your parents to send you there to recover but I don’t see how a regular person’s parents could “scrounge up” even a 100k…
I healed from 10 years of compulsive dieting and bulimia with prayer. I continually cried out to God when I could no longer do it on my own to send someone to heal me and long story short, I’m ED free for 20 years. No cravings, no binging and incredible self control in the face of temptation. I recently gave my life to Jesus after learning that the miracle I experienced and was confounded by for 20 years was divine healing. If you’re struggling with an ED, seek God and Jesus because they love you more than you could ever imagine!
I have bullima and I will be honest with you all, I haven't eaten all day and I saw this and I went to the fridge. I didn't purge.