While I understand the focus was on clothing and presenting ourselves in a modest manner. That is just scratching the surface. Our behavior while dressed modestly can be extremely immodest.
100%! I wanted to touched on it more but the video was already getting long. 😬 To me, I believe how we dress is an immodest action stemming from behavior!
@@faithfulacresfarmhouseI think it stems from a void we are trying to fill in an illegitimate way. Many times we don't stop and ask ourselves what we are really needing and how is our dress or behavior filling that need. We should be asking ourselves questions like, Why am I loud? Why do I want men to look at me? Why do I want to be the center of attention etc. And in those moments what am I truly needing. Because those are symptoms and not the root. Am I wanting to feel noticed, beautiful, powerful? Why am I wanting those things. How old do I feel when I act this way? When's the first time I felt those things and what was the situation ? What wound in my life needs healed? It's hard and sometimes very painful work, but good work. I know most people feel if we say anything about women's behavior or dress that is shaming, but I don't think wanting women to be their most empowered self is shaming. And we are most empowered when connected to God and He is the one filling our voids. Using people to do that doesn't work. It may feel like it does temporarily, but often over time you just realize your emptier and more lost than before and now have more to overcome to heal. You're right this is a large topic! But I think your video was done nicely and is a great place to start the conversation. ❤
I cannot love this video enough! I have felt this conviction of modesty in the last few months. I don't feel comfortable wearing a lot of the things I used to and I know that's a sign of growth. I'm continuing to work on switching out my wardrobe with pieces that are more honoring to God and to my husband and it feels freeing! Thank you for posting this video!
Is there a company or brand that you love? I've been struggling to find good ones, most are "body shaping/sculpting " it seems when I search online and also pretty pricey
@@emilyneville5906 Unfortunately no. I have been wearing the same slip for 30 years now! lol It is an A-line slip that goes well under so many things. I recommend a couple of things, take good measurements before going shopping. Go to a store that has a lingerie section like JC Pennies if you have one, or a store like it. If you just cannot find a department store in your area and you must order online, again, be very sure of your measurements. Also, blouses are so sheer these say a nice camisole keeps things private. God bless!
GREAT VIDEO. I was raised a catholic and at 13 years old I stopped going to church following family events that weakened my faith. I recently started going to church 20 years after living a secular life. My breakthrough was related to immodest clothing. I am a very attractive woman and I have great style, I used to dress very sexy, I was living for Instagram. At some point, it was suffocating how much attention I was getting from men, and how jealous other women could become of me. I used to tell myself "its okay to dress like this", "my body my rules" and "not my problem if you're jealous". My therapist advised me to put my boundaries up around men approaching me. But I couldn't do that forever, for there were so many. I was not gonna spend my time putting boundaries with men I dont even want to talk to in the first place. I had to think of something. Indeed, I changed my style and BOOM! No more men pursuing me to waste my time. And I'm back at church and Im very much committed about learning the word of god now! I GET IT NOW!! Thanks for the video and I love your content in general.
After having my third baby 4 years ago I felt a conviction to dress more modestly. I tried wearing dresses and skirts for a month straight. I loved it and slowly started building a more modest and feminine closet. It took me a while to find my style and what works for me, and to incorporate the styles my husband likes. I like wearing dresses most, but a high-waisted skirt and top and very easy to breastfeed in. I’m now pregnant with my 5th and never went back to pants. Occasionally when I *have* to wear them, bike riding, really messy gardening, I find them so uncomfortable. I’ve started to transition to finding more dresses I can wear pregnant and breastfeeding. I’m pregnant with my 4th girl and want to teach by not just word but example to my daughters modesty and respect her their beautiful God-given bodies. Thank you for sharing 💗
The fashion industry knows how the shape of the female body affects a man, and they have capitalized on it. Unfortunately, women as a rule seem ignorant of it. And after all, we are not "wired" like men. God made us women and we think differently. But Christian women need to wake up to the fact that they have a responsibility to cover their bodies modestly. We need to realize what we are doing when we dress the way the world wants or thinks is acceptable. We do have a duty to uphold Christian modesty for the sake of ourselves, men, the family, the church, and society in general. With prayer to God guidance will be given us in the particulars. And he is so kind and merciful that I have found that often He leads step by step, advancing all the time, but slowly enough for us to keep up following. Just like Christian growth.
Christian modesty (you can fact check me using the bible) has nothing to do with sex or men’s sexual desires. Modesty in the bible is about humility, being set apart from worldly ppl and decreasing ourselves so Christ may increase. When it comes to male lust, Jesus tell men to pluck out their own eye. Jesus says your lust is your responsibility. I dress modestly but I’m not a Muslim so I don’t do it to help men not sin (also even dressing modestly has never stopped men lusting after you, you must’ve seen it yourself in the world and I’ve experienced it myself), I dress modestly for God, for the reasons the bible tells me to dress modestly for.
@akubia97 what I believe is that we are not responsible to help a man out who is determined to lust, but we should help a brother out who is trying not to lust. It's a kindness and a consideration for men's wives, not making them feel threatened or jealous or insecure by flashing their husbands. There are many benefits of dressing modestly.
The Bible also says not to be a stumbling block for one another. If someone struggles in lust and sees a woman dressed immodest. That may cause a sinful though. It's up to the man to immediately recognize that though and hold it captive and give it to the lord. Only he is strong enough to break addiction and strong holds
I once ran a modesty ministry for a few years and had one online as well that did pretty well, but over time, I realized that it became a bit legalized of what to wear and I realized that everyone is swerved in different ways by God on what is modest, and cultural differences are a thing as well as location. It was very interesting to realize. For a while I started to be less modest and I worked at a sustainable and ethically sourced bra company. In doing so, I learned even more about such things. It was interesting. I am becoming more modest again, because I am just becoming less comfortable. As you said though, we are the temple of the Lord. The Lord will not tell us to wear certain things. It is interesting though, because in the 1800s, showing your ankle was immodest and long sleeves were worn all the time even in hot weather. I don't think God wants us to live completely uncomfortably and I sweat a lot and get itchy easily, so I show my arms off a lot. I like my skirts to be knee length or longer, and always have. I have seen the church hurt people by telling them what to wear instead of seeing their heart. Like, a young woman who is just learning about God and feels God's spirit within her, but is dressed without a bra. . I have seen this in person. . .they didn't realize that they should wear one because of the culture they were raised in, so over time, God had to speak to them about what was appropriate or not. Man telling them what to wear pushes them away a bit at times. Also, I have found that when I had smaller breasts, it was much easier to be modest. With nursing large breasts that I have now, it is so hard to cover up when I try and I keep having a hard time finding clothes that fit. It has always been that way with me when pregnant and nursing, and then I get small again and it is easier again. I think one thing is that man looks at the outer appearance, but God looks at the heart. It is such a hard and fine line. I have so many stories shared with me or that I have lived because of the ministry and the area I live in. It is difficult. I feel like I go in these cycles of becoming more modest some years and less others, and I have just started to learn the balance of things. God teaches us as individuals with His Spirit. It is really beautiful. Your dresses are amazing and definitely modest. I love them! I would love to wear them too. Yey.
_If you truly a Godly woman is to follow Christ everyday. When Christ is in your heart, You don't need to say anything because people can see your changes. Many woman talk alot but their actions is different of what they say. So we need to be careful for that. It's not about what we wear or what we eat. Above all, Jesus Christ must be the center of our life._
100% Agree!!! yesterday afternoon a furniture mover‘s demon got triggered (he’s in his late 50’s) he said “she’s dressed like that because she’s a teacher right?” These nasty old men are only used to young women looking one way smh... he’s clearly never seen a 25 year old not wearing makeup and biker shorts with a crop top :( LORD HELP US Also, not the first time i’ve made someone uncomfortable because of my mennonite attire (im not mennonite - yet lol)
My husband and I decided together that WE would dress modest. We told each other our desires (I told him no sweatpants or shorts outside the house or pool and he has to always wear a shirt out of the bedroom, I decided dresses and skirts but he told me nothing from fitting and nothing above the knees) we pick our own style and colors/patterns. We are both happy with this decision and neither of us feel oppressed 😂
Another great video! A few years back I was wearing mostly skirts to dress modestly but many folks said I was being legalistic. As a follower of Jesus, in my heart that wasn't my intention. Many years later & more soul searching I have come to this conclusion. I can't find jeans or pants that fit me right without being worried about showing things or being uncomfortable in the fit. I thought about wearing sweatpants all day but I like to look nice for my husband & being nicely dressed helps me be more productive. So I am back to wearing dresses & skirts, they are so comfortable, I feel beautiful & elegant, feminine & my husband likes them on me too & he has told me he wants me to be comfortable in what I'm wearing. I am in the process of finding my style that fits me & my body type best. Fit & flare, love flowing skirts & dresses!!
Oh Kelsey, I agree on the painful part of this topic! It’s so hard because we all end up suffering; the one dressing inappropriately and the one looking too🙏🏻 May God help us!
Amen! I actually wrote a blog article on this about a month ago, after a womam started an argument on Instagram claiming to promote modesty. She then said that pants weren’t immodest. When I responded that they were, her response, and off all her followers was that the guy should gouge out his eyes. Womem should not dress however they please, knowing it could cause a brother to stumble. We are to dress for Our Lord, not our flesh. On another note, there were a few of your dresses that left something to be desired. The one with the gingham print, the black one with the v-neckline, and the one where the slip cuts off mid thigh. I highly recommend the book “Dressing with Dignity” by Colleen Hammond.
The problem with the pants/skirt argument, is that a man is more likely to be turned on by the easy access of a skirt than jeans, while jeans show more of the shape of a body. It is one of those things where God has to touch the heart of the wearer to decide what is modest or not for themselves. I wear pants and skirts. I have had more men hit on me and make advances on me when I am in pretty modest dresses than when I have been in jeans and t-shirts. Be careful to not fall in a legalistic trap.
Our husbands are a great help to tell us what is modest or not. They are men and d many times we can be ignorant on the subject because we don’t see the female body as they see it. Trust your husbands on this matter ladies!
One day I just stopped wearing pants for any occasion and I bought a bunch of dresses and skirts for all seasons. It might seem like such a small change in the grand scheme of things, I started by thinking it’d be a phase just like with the pants where I’d only wear cargos: it’s been two years without pants and I don’t feel like going back y’all 😂. Now I only wear jeans for horseback riding purposes, I always feel more at home in a dress.
Good message! The Holy Spirit had lead me to be modest. I’m not dressing according to other people’s standards! God’s Word has set the standards. You will never please everybody, so don’t try.
Tengo el mismo vestido blanco con flores fucsia😀 (Tienda on- line china) Visto siempre así, es más cómodo, femenino y barato. En España el mercado de la "carne" y la ropa que la muestra o marca es la norma. Bendiciones para usted y su familia🙏❤
Very difficult indeed! He is not coming from a Godly perspective. As long as the wife is honoring God, she will be honoring her husband. The Scriptures speak about not withholding from one another, but dressing a "worldly or certain way" that the wife is uncomfortable with is not God honoring, and the husband is in the wrong.
Clothes are there to cover up our bodys. So we dont have to be ashamed of our nakedness. There is no need to look beautifull on the outside. Its the inside that matters. And what is in your heart comes out in how you act react talk and dress. Always focus on the inside
Makeup makes men desire me way more & makeup makes women feel like im competition so i let them both go! Rather please God than create an allusion of beauty ❤️
St. Paul is referring to the Wealthy Roman Matrons & roman society as a whole with the pearls, braids & such. Pearls had become such a 'hot commodity' that it was a status symbol. people were more concerned with outward wealth than inward treasure. This, I feel, is where we start getting into tricky territory, because WE aren't telling anyone - give up wearing your rings, don't ever braid your hair, or something right now. But some do go this far, like The Amish. There are problems of interpretation, historical context, & heart issues, in this area. It boils down to: don't be putting your appearance 'above' the matter of God. Wearing dresses COULD even be seen as a heart issue, even more so than wearing pants. If you are trying to get attention for it, you are using it to satisfy pride, "See, I am wearing only dresses, that makes me a good Christian", etc...(I am not taking your video this way, Kelsey, because you are backing it up with scripture & hit these points a bit) But i have seen women, make this their whole 'persona' & are definitely deriving pleasure, pride, being haughty etc...from being 'seen' in modest dresses.....I am thinking of a very large family that made their living off of reality tv, (& others) if you catch my drift. Even if you ask some of the Amish, "why do you dress the way you do?", they will answer "Oh, because we have always done so". that is not a good enough reason. The most important thing to adorn yourself with is a cheerful countenance & a beautiful, welcoming SMILE🙂🙂🙂
@@christinascatholichomemaking I never said anything 'discounted' the need, just that you need to understand WHY or you can be doing things not in true accordance with God's word. I can do all sorts of things that might line up with God's word, like 'don't steal', but not being doing so in a Christian manner. I might be doing 'right', but not for the right reasons (this is where the Jewish people were falling into trouble in the OT) And I guess if you are talking about the last TWO things I listed, then I still didn't say they 'eliminated' anything. 'most important' would imply that there is a list of priorities and there might be many things on that list in accordance with God's word & doing all of those things with a cheerful attitude is the most important way to go about it. I don't mean any disrespect by this comment & I DO dress modestly & think it is important. But I don't do it begrudgingly or mindlessly, & I understand the spirit behind it & I think that is important, so one does not fall into legalism. I grew up related to a Independent Baptist family. The wife would chastise MY mother, & us girls, for not wearing dresses. Their church REQUIRED women to wear floor length dresses at all times. Well that would be fine, except she could not articulate why that was necessary. And this family had lots of much bigger sin issues going on - physical child abuse, it came out later that the mother was literally starving one of the daughters, elder abuse (physically assaulting a grandmother living with them), ended up with divorce & the husband came out as a homosexual & abandoned the whole family & now lives with a man. BUT the women all kept up on wearing dresses. So...what good did it do - because in my eyes they were not living in accord to God's word in so many bigger areas that it was almost pointless to worry about clothing.
Excellent Video !! Amazzzing Truths, ... Thank-you soooo Much !! !! !! If I could give it 10,000 Thumbs-up's, I would : ) I haven't wore pants in 14 years & have really cut down on the make-up in the past 7 years, the make-up was a 'hard' one for me : ( d/t my upbringing -[I'm quite a bit older than you therefore the following will sound Olde Fashioned] (pre warning - cute / silly / light lol), my Mother, Grandmother always said ''women need to ''put on their face [makeup] everyday - followed up with ... no man likes a women who doesn't 'take care of her hair & make-up' : ( eeeek ! P.S. In case someone reading my comment still wears pants or make-up, [etc] please trust me when i say ''I am not Judging you'' at all xo ! : ) Again, Thank-you for a Fabulous Video that has really Blessed Me ! Sister in Christ, Cindy
I love your approach. I feel like I am heading down that same path. It's very freeing! (Which of course it is, there is peace when one obeys God.) But yes, I feel your mom / grandma's way of thinking is still very present today and has been passed down sadly. Thank you for sharing beautiful insight!
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I do agree wholeheartedly, lately I have been convicted of legalism with it though. I at times have seen other women wear jeans and in my mind I would think "they are wrong, they are sinning" God convicted me because I don't believe wearing jeans is a sin. I saw in your video that you only have dresses, do you not believe women should wear pants at all?
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Men will tell you they LOVE deep v necks that will expose you when you bend down, sheer clothing that makes their imagination run wild, short dresses that expose a lot of leg, etc. The point is not everything that we think is modest is modest. We have to remember that its our responsibility to ensure we do not cause another to stumble.
I think there needs to be consideration for the fact that as a married woman, your spouse may have different ideas of how he would like you to dress other than romantic dresses. These are beautiful but not my husbands taste. We are so quick to judge a woman and label her as "immodest" but maybe her husband is not for the look you would choose. Maybe she is simply in submission to her husband. If your first reaction is that a woman doesnt need to listen to her husbands opinions on her dress than do not respond to this comment because we are not discussing the same biblical standards But i would love to hear feed back from some other married women
At the beginning, I shared that, in my own opinion, being modest doesn't mean you have to wear dresses. I believe God gave us all a sense of style and fabrics and textures we like. I agree that our husband's tastes may prefer something over another. I absolutely think the wife should take that into consideration. Great point! I firmly believe one is immodest based on their intention, whether it be clothing, words, thoughts, actions, etc.
I agree with most of this, the whole behaving as temptation thing though I feel like falls under self control of the other person. If someone lusted after the modest by those standards the woman would always be wrong which I don’t think is the case. Women shouldn’t be revealing and showy and men shouldn’t be pretending as if they aren’t responsible for themselves , as much as women need to keep their eyes on the prize (God), men do to.
Amen! I can't speak for teaching men, but yes. If they lust, that is a sin they alone will be held responsible for. As Christians, we need to help each other to prevent any sin from occurring.
I love that you addressed this topic. I think “modesty” seems to be such a touchy and divisive subject among Christians for some reason. I get so weary of hearing how calling our sisters in Christ to a standard of modesty is “body shaming”, and how God “sees our heart” and everything is acceptable if it makes us happy. God has called us to be HOLY, not happy. Our bodies are HIS temple, not our own. Holiness is defined as “exalted or worthy of complete devotion as one perfect in goodness and righteousness” and it really causes one to stop and check our outfit choice before we step out in public. I always love to ask myself “Would I wear this in case I met Jesus today?” Thanks for sharing, you look so beautiful in all of these!!
I agree with everything you said. However, they're men and women who will lust even if the person is dressed modesty. It is a sin of the heart. With that said, we as women of God should dress modest. Becarful not to judge a woman who is new in the Lord and God is working in her. Our dress does not make us holy. It's our heart. Modesty is a blessing to others and ourselves. Great video.
I do like to dress modestly, at the same time I don't think its fair to blame women and the way they dress for men "lusting" over them. If a man can't stop himself lusting over someone or cheating on his partner that is HIS issue and shouldn't be blamed on women - even if they are scantily dressed. As I said, I dress very modestly and don't consider myself to be attractive at all, yet I still had this man basically stalking me for a year. That was HIM behaving badly. It wasnt because of how I was dressed. I really feel we need to stop blaming women for men's bad and inappropriate behaviour. Women should dress the way that feels right to them. They shouldn't dress a certain way because they are trying to either attract or deter men. Dress for yourself - not for men.
I agree and disagree. I agree that men are held accountable for their lust from God, and that's not always on the woman, but I do believe it can be. I am not saying women are the reason for a man's sinful behavior, but if a woman is dressing for the intention of attention, then that is a sin on her, and could be the cause of a man to fall into sin as well. The only one we should be dressing for is God.
@@faithfulacresfarmhouse yes I totally agree that its better to dress modestly and I don't like seeing women wear overly revealing clothing to get men's attention. I guess I just feel men need to be held more accountable as well. Even if a woman is scantily dressed, men still have a choice whether to behave sinfully or not. They may feel some lust, but they can choose to not act on it. I don't think the way a woman dresses should be considered "the cause of a man to fall into sin." Men are in control of their own bahaviour. If a man rapes a woman, it doesn't matter what the woman was wearing he is the one who has commited a crime and a sin. As in my example, I was totally covered up and not encouraging at all in my behaviour, yet still I had a man harassing and stalking me even though I refused his advances. Just my opinion 😀
I believe it is shared responsibility. Women need to do their part not to be a stumbling block, but if a man is still lustful, that is an issue of his that he needs to take to the Lord. Another example is that of drug or alcohol addiction. If we know someone has that addiction, do we place those temptations all around them, or do we try to remove the temptation that is in OUR power to do so? While we connot remove temptation beyond of sphere of influence, we do carry the responsibility and accountability for our sphere. 😊 Blessings❣️❣️
@@lanahundley8625 This is a great analogy & one that hits home as my husband is a recovering alcoholic/addict. I do not have a problem drinking and now that my hubby is 22 years sober, it doesn't bother him if I have a beer now & again. But early on, it WAS a stumbling block for him - he was newly sober when we met. I RESPECTED him by not keeping alcohol in the home, maybe only having a drink once in a while, not inviting others over that centered their social life around alcohol, etc...Now, if he had gone and gotten drunk on his own, that 'sin' would have been on him. but I certainly would not have been pouring a glass of jack & coke & setting it down before him every evening & challenging him to not fall into drinking again. People do not buy him booze as a Christmas present or constantly badger him to go out to the bar. In fact we do not hang out with such people, that make drinking their sphere. I would get highly annoyed if someone was coming around cajoling him to drink. So it is with clothing. if a woman is going around scantily clad or in form fitting stuff for attention, men are going to look - they are visual creatures. I would not let a woman hang around that behaved like this. And it often backfires because then they start getting attention that they don't like. & I am not saying that I think my husband is lusting after women, or that he would cheat if he saw a woman in a mini skirt, but it just is not respectful - to yourself & others to show off. I have learned this the hard way, when I was young. When I wore skimpy stuff, men were only interested in me for my body & really disrespected me (but in all honesty, I was disrespecting God & myself) I had kind of shed that image when I met my husband & he fell in love with me because he found me pretty AND respectful, but mostly for my personality & smarts. I think there are pants that are modest & femininely formed. Jeans didn't exist in Biblical times 🤷....and I also think there are clothes that are appropriate for home that are not for in public & women ought to be able to discern that.
Hate to break it to you ladies, but a hottie is a hottie. Your man will still lust after a woman wearing a full-body potato sack. And it’s okay. Don’t take it so personally. Wear what you want to wear. As someone who was raised an Apostolic Pentecostal, it feels SO GOOD to finally feel confident and not ashamed of the beautiful body that God gave me. I am so blessed and I will not be hiding it. Will I cover up a little more, out of respect for women and their husbands in certain situations? Sure. But in my everyday life, no.
Dear women, your bodies are NOT evil. Your bodies are NOT sinful, it's NOT your fault, if someone commits adultery in their heart - which is what Jesus says, and not that the woman and her body is to shame for the man's weakness. Whats really important is your intention. You can wear shorts to sexualise yourself or you can wear shorts because it's warm. Don't sexualise yourself. If others do sexualise you (whether or not it was your intention) THEIR sin is THEIR fault! Please STOP shaming women for simply having bodies and claiming it's the holy spirit who told you so, so it's an universal truth what you just said. This is the opposite of being humble. I highly recommend anyone to read C. S. Lewis Mere Christianity. Lewis says regarding this topic that a indigenious woman can walk around topless without being unmodest. It's always the intention (and the cultural context of course). Iam a huge fan of modesty - but this video is misleading. Modesty starts in the heart. Wear shorts, show your shoulders - simply don't sexualise yourself, respect yourself, cultivate a humble heart in yourself. And please...PLEASE. don't spread legalistic, religious, completely made up clothing rules to shame women. Thank you.
God took covering it do seriously after the fall that he killed an animal and made adam and eve clothes. I'm confident it wasn't a bikini and a speedo. God was angry with Noah's sons for seeing his father's nakedness. No one is saying bodies are evil, but they are private. I find that part if the fall was men's desire to lust the (semi) nakedness of women and women's desire to be listed. She makes some good points at 11:40
But it is on a woman to dress modestly, keeping their brother in mind, and not causing him to stumble. No female has a right to dress as they please. God calls us to modesty.
exactly. this is the sort of thinking that leads to the most extremist types of religion where women are treated as "temptresses." i think a true christian perspective is to allow autonomy for both men and women to dress, speak and act freely, based on their own inner relationship with christ
OK sweetheart, it’s fine to look at other people as long as you don’t go over there like being weird toward the other person or doing things that are inappropriate the way people dress they have a right to dress that way some people don’t wanna dress modest that’s fine. You can wear shorts as long as they are not like to reveal, and you can wear skirts as long as they are not too revealing, there are young teenage girls who do need to cover up because some of them do not do see that people give the young girls and the teenagers cause I also get those looks too when I wear certain outfits but as long as nobody tries to those feelings then they’re fine.
Why does modesty always have to be associated with dresses? No judgment here, I'm wondering why the focus is always on dresses? I like a nice dress. But I am more comfortable in leggings and a T-shirt. Some shirts have scripture on them and others are a favorite music group. Shoot, even a cute pair of jeans and T-shirt are modest.
I enjoy hearing what other women have to say about modesty and their journeys to modesty. But you missed the mark on Scripture. In Matthew 5:28 Jesus puts the responsibility on the person who is lusting, not the object of lust. Men of God also have the Holy Spirit, which means they have self-control as well. If they don't, there may be a stronghold issue or a demonic issue. Then you mentioned showing God our love. Jesus tells us how we show our love John 14:15-24: we love Him when we obey His commandments*. Modesty without good character is vain. A woman can be outwardly modest, and still be a seductress. God cares more about the heart than outward appearance, as you mentioned. The 1 Timothy verses also have a very specific context -it's in the church meetings so as to not to distract anyone else from prayer & teaching. The women in that church would go to the meetings, trying to be the center of attention, disrupting prayer, & leading men which was common for them because* of the pagan culture in Ephesus (women-led sexual cults). They were bringing fleshly worship habits with them. Besides this, I do agree that modesty is part of our worship to God & leaving the old self behind. It's truly liberating to not be remembered for your body, or for people to look you in the eye when they speak with you and not your body parts.
St. Paul says not to cause a brother to stumble too. You can’t ignore the responsibility of the woman to dress modestly and put it on the man as “his problem.” That is prideful and selfish.
@@by_grace_alone1334 the body itself isn’t the problem. Showing too much of it is though. Our bodies are beautifully made: for our spouse, and for God.
I agree with this! I also believe that Scripture holds a meaning for the past time (when it was written), now, and in the future, therefore the 1 Timothy verses relate to us now as well. 🥰 I am not saying "women's bodies are to blame", I am saying that they can be when the woman has a sinful intention. AMEN! Men absolutely ABSOLUTELY have the Spirit of self control, and need to be responsible for their lust. However, women are also equally held responsible and have the same Spirit of self control. Men and women BOTH have to be responsible. We also have to be aware and acknowledge the power the devil has to try to bring us all to lust. We have to do what we can to help each other out, to help prevent each other from sinning, as well as ourselves!
I personally do not. I believe it is the intention behind the outfit. For example: If a woman wear jeans or slacks, why is she wearing it? Is it to make her butt and legs look good or to be warm and be dressed nicely. Does that make sense? I'm a no for leggings and yoga pants though (this was a big conviction for me this past year).
@@faithfulacresfarmhouse I’m struggling with Deuteronomy 22:5 I think it is, where it says that a woman shall not wear what pertains to a man. Isn’t the biggest item of clothing that pertains always specifically to a man is his pants? Except in Bible days maybe. I have been wearing jeans, but they’re not tight, and I wear tunics to cover the whole bottom area. Sometimes I feel it’s too cold to wear a dress, especially in the winter. But I don’t want to be committing an abomination. So that worries me.
I’ve been struggling with this also. Did men wear pants in Moses day? I thought male and females both wore long tunics. I wonder what was the difference between male and female clothing back then was?
I wear leggings under my dresses or skirts to keep my legs warm. I’ve been convicted on clothing too this year and it takes time to change. I still wear jeans every now and then and they are uncomfy and too tight and hug the butt and I wear long sweater to cover it. So I’m about to get rid of those. But yes we can wear warm leggings under dresses. I have long sleeve and half long sleeve and wear a warm cardigan with it.
Also, it tempts young boys into lust-not just men. 😢 The mindset of the world by women and even some Christian women is-that’s the man’s problem, not mine. So sad how little regard there is for our fellow brethren.
I wear only 100 % linnen wool and cotton as a reminder to live pure and holy for God. It automatically makes it more modest since the fabrics are pretty formless. I love etsy and second hand shops (always check the labels!). My clohtes are a reminder te me everyday to live set apart for Him.
While I understand the focus was on clothing and presenting ourselves in a modest manner. That is just scratching the surface. Our behavior while dressed modestly can be extremely immodest.
100%! I wanted to touched on it more but the video was already getting long. 😬 To me, I believe how we dress is an immodest action stemming from behavior!
@@faithfulacresfarmhouseI think it stems from a void we are trying to fill in an illegitimate way. Many times we don't stop and ask ourselves what we are really needing and how is our dress or behavior filling that need. We should be asking ourselves questions like, Why am I loud? Why do I want men to look at me? Why do I want to be the center of attention etc. And in those moments what am I truly needing. Because those are symptoms and not the root. Am I wanting to feel noticed, beautiful, powerful? Why am I wanting those things. How old do I feel when I act this way? When's the first time I felt those things and what was the situation ? What wound in my life needs healed? It's hard and sometimes very painful work, but good work.
I know most people feel if we say anything about women's behavior or dress that is shaming, but I don't think wanting women to be their most empowered self is shaming. And we are most empowered when connected to God and He is the one filling our voids. Using people to do that doesn't work. It may feel like it does temporarily, but often over time you just realize your emptier and more lost than before and now have more to overcome to heal.
You're right this is a large topic! But I think your video was done nicely and is a great place to start the conversation. ❤
Thank You so much
No need to show others your body, regardless of what is in your heart. Rotten heart or not, cover yourself
Beautifully said!Amen! Our Dignity as women has been stripped as we have decades by decade stripped away our clothing.
I cannot love this video enough! I have felt this conviction of modesty in the last few months. I don't feel comfortable wearing a lot of the things I used to and I know that's a sign of growth. I'm continuing to work on switching out my wardrobe with pieces that are more honoring to God and to my husband and it feels freeing! Thank you for posting this video!
Me too! You're not alone!
The argument is always "whatever they - women - feels comfortable in" and " men should control themselves"
Slips are an important part of modesty.
Is there a company or brand that you love? I've been struggling to find good ones, most are "body shaping/sculpting " it seems when I search online and also pretty pricey
@@emilyneville5906 Unfortunately no. I have been wearing the same slip for 30 years now! lol It is an A-line slip that goes well under so many things. I recommend a couple of things, take good measurements before going shopping. Go to a store that has a lingerie section like JC Pennies if you have one, or a store like it. If you just cannot find a department store in your area and you must order online, again, be very sure of your measurements. Also, blouses are so sheer these say a nice camisole keeps things private. God bless!
@@emilyneville5906 Vanity Fair brand is a classic that has full and half slips. They have non body shaping ones with adjustable straps.
I have found half-slips at Walmart.
I LOVE this video!!! The message you shared is beautiful and spoke to my heart. Thank you💖💖
GREAT VIDEO. I was raised a catholic and at 13 years old I stopped going to church following family events that weakened my faith.
I recently started going to church 20 years after living a secular life. My breakthrough was related to immodest clothing.
I am a very attractive woman and I have great style, I used to dress very sexy, I was living for Instagram. At some point, it was suffocating how much attention I was getting from men, and how jealous other women could become of me. I used to tell myself "its okay to dress like this", "my body my rules" and "not my problem if you're jealous". My therapist advised me to put my boundaries up around men approaching me. But I couldn't do that forever, for there were so many. I was not gonna spend my time putting boundaries with men I dont even want to talk to in the first place. I had to think of something. Indeed, I changed my style and BOOM! No more men pursuing me to waste my time. And I'm back at church and Im very much committed about learning the word of god now! I GET IT NOW!! Thanks for the video and I love your content in general.
After having my third baby 4 years ago I felt a conviction to dress more modestly. I tried wearing dresses and skirts for a month straight. I loved it and slowly started building a more modest and feminine closet. It took me a while to find my style and what works for me, and to incorporate the styles my husband likes. I like wearing dresses most, but a high-waisted skirt and top and very easy to breastfeed in. I’m now pregnant with my 5th and never went back to pants. Occasionally when I *have* to wear them, bike riding, really messy gardening, I find them so uncomfortable. I’ve started to transition to finding more dresses I can wear pregnant and breastfeeding. I’m pregnant with my 4th girl and want to teach by not just word but example to my daughters modesty and respect her their beautiful God-given bodies. Thank you for sharing 💗
What a beautiful message, and congratulations! 🥰 I agree about the pants, that's how I feel too.
The fashion industry knows how the shape of the female body affects a man, and they have capitalized on it. Unfortunately, women as a rule seem ignorant of it. And after all, we are not "wired" like men. God made us women and we think differently. But Christian women need to wake up to the fact that they have a responsibility to cover their bodies modestly. We need to realize what we are doing when we dress the way the world wants or thinks is acceptable. We do have a duty to uphold Christian modesty for the sake of ourselves, men, the family, the church, and society in general. With prayer to God guidance will be given us in the particulars. And he is so kind and merciful that I have found that often He leads step by step, advancing all the time, but slowly enough for us to keep up following. Just like Christian growth.
Christian modesty (you can fact check me using the bible) has nothing to do with sex or men’s sexual desires. Modesty in the bible is about humility, being set apart from worldly ppl and decreasing ourselves so Christ may increase. When it comes to male lust, Jesus tell men to pluck out their own eye. Jesus says your lust is your responsibility. I dress modestly but I’m not a Muslim so I don’t do it to help men not sin (also even dressing modestly has never stopped men lusting after you, you must’ve seen it yourself in the world and I’ve experienced it myself), I dress modestly for God, for the reasons the bible tells me to dress modestly for.
@akubia97 what I believe is that we are not responsible to help a man out who is determined to lust, but we should help a brother out who is trying not to lust. It's a kindness and a consideration for men's wives, not making them feel threatened or jealous or insecure by flashing their husbands. There are many benefits of dressing modestly.
The Bible also says not to be a stumbling block for one another. If someone struggles in lust and sees a woman dressed immodest. That may cause a sinful though. It's up to the man to immediately recognize that though and hold it captive and give it to the lord. Only he is strong enough to break addiction and strong holds
@@lyndseystickles4507 always "it's up to men"
Women never ever had blame
@@RCGWho so in front a man "who is determined to lust" you can wear thong bikini "?
+1 for modesty at the gym, please. I just want to lift in peace!
Beautiful spiritual life, you share with much sense. Like your dresses.
I once ran a modesty ministry for a few years and had one online as well that did pretty well, but over time, I realized that it became a bit legalized of what to wear and I realized that everyone is swerved in different ways by God on what is modest, and cultural differences are a thing as well as location. It was very interesting to realize. For a while I started to be less modest and I worked at a sustainable and ethically sourced bra company. In doing so, I learned even more about such things. It was interesting. I am becoming more modest again, because I am just becoming less comfortable.
As you said though, we are the temple of the Lord. The Lord will not tell us to wear certain things. It is interesting though, because in the 1800s, showing your ankle was immodest and long sleeves were worn all the time even in hot weather. I don't think God wants us to live completely uncomfortably and I sweat a lot and get itchy easily, so I show my arms off a lot. I like my skirts to be knee length or longer, and always have.
I have seen the church hurt people by telling them what to wear instead of seeing their heart. Like, a young woman who is just learning about God and feels God's spirit within her, but is dressed without a bra. . I have seen this in person. . .they didn't realize that they should wear one because of the culture they were raised in, so over time, God had to speak to them about what was appropriate or not. Man telling them what to wear pushes them away a bit at times.
Also, I have found that when I had smaller breasts, it was much easier to be modest. With nursing large breasts that I have now, it is so hard to cover up when I try and I keep having a hard time finding clothes that fit. It has always been that way with me when pregnant and nursing, and then I get small again and it is easier again.
I think one thing is that man looks at the outer appearance, but God looks at the heart.
It is such a hard and fine line. I have so many stories shared with me or that I have lived because of the ministry and the area I live in. It is difficult. I feel like I go in these cycles of becoming more modest some years and less others, and I have just started to learn the balance of things. God teaches us as individuals with His Spirit. It is really beautiful. Your dresses are amazing and definitely modest. I love them! I would love to wear them too. Yey.
_If you truly a Godly woman is to follow Christ everyday. When Christ is in your heart, You don't need to say anything because people can see your changes. Many woman talk alot but their actions is different of what they say. So we need to be careful for that. It's not about what we wear or what we eat. Above all, Jesus Christ must be the center of our life._
100% Agree!!! yesterday afternoon a furniture mover‘s demon got triggered (he’s in his late 50’s) he said “she’s dressed like that because she’s a teacher right?” These nasty old men are only used to young women looking one way smh... he’s clearly never seen a 25 year old not wearing makeup and biker shorts with a crop top :(
LORD HELP US
Also, not the first time i’ve made someone uncomfortable because of my mennonite attire (im not mennonite - yet lol)
My husband and I decided together that WE would dress modest. We told each other our desires (I told him no sweatpants or shorts outside the house or pool and he has to always wear a shirt out of the bedroom, I decided dresses and skirts but he told me nothing from fitting and nothing above the knees) we pick our own style and colors/patterns. We are both happy with this decision and neither of us feel oppressed 😂
Another great video! A few years back I was wearing mostly skirts to dress modestly but many folks said I was being legalistic. As a follower of Jesus, in my heart that wasn't my intention. Many years later & more soul searching I have come to this conclusion. I can't find jeans or pants that fit me right without being worried about showing things or being uncomfortable in the fit. I thought about wearing sweatpants all day but I like to look nice for my husband & being nicely dressed helps me be more productive. So I am back to wearing dresses & skirts, they are so comfortable, I feel beautiful & elegant, feminine & my husband likes them on me too & he has told me he wants me to be comfortable in what I'm wearing. I am in the process of finding my style that fits me & my body type best. Fit & flare, love flowing skirts & dresses!!
Yes! This is exactly how I feel too! Said so perfectly!
Yes! Love love love this entire video, Kelsey! It definitely felt like the Holy Spirit was talking through you. ❤
Beautiful dresses 😊
Oh Kelsey, I agree on the painful part of this topic! It’s so hard because we all end up suffering; the one dressing inappropriately and the one looking too🙏🏻 May God help us!
Amen! I actually wrote a blog article on this about a month ago, after a womam started an argument on Instagram claiming to promote modesty. She then said that pants weren’t immodest. When I responded that they were, her response, and off all her followers was that the guy should gouge out his eyes. Womem should not dress however they please, knowing it could cause a brother to stumble. We are to dress for Our Lord, not our flesh.
On another note, there were a few of your dresses that left something to be desired. The one with the gingham print, the black one with the v-neckline, and the one where the slip cuts off mid thigh. I highly recommend the book “Dressing with Dignity” by Colleen Hammond.
The problem with the pants/skirt argument, is that a man is more likely to be turned on by the easy access of a skirt than jeans, while jeans show more of the shape of a body. It is one of those things where God has to touch the heart of the wearer to decide what is modest or not for themselves. I wear pants and skirts. I have had more men hit on me and make advances on me when I am in pretty modest dresses than when I have been in jeans and t-shirts. Be careful to not fall in a legalistic trap.
@@TheMennomilistthank you for your comment. This is my thought….
Our husbands are a great help to tell us what is modest or not. They are men and d many times we can be ignorant on the subject because we don’t see the female body as they see it. Trust your husbands on this matter ladies!
One day I just stopped wearing pants for any occasion and I bought a bunch of dresses and skirts for all seasons. It might seem like such a small change in the grand scheme of things, I started by thinking it’d be a phase just like with the pants where I’d only wear cargos: it’s been two years without pants and I don’t feel like going back y’all 😂. Now I only wear jeans for horseback riding purposes, I always feel more at home in a dress.
Your baking is very creative and interesting.
Lol very interesting indeed. Definitely frost after the cream cheese frosting hardens back up in the fridge 😆 much easier and less messy!
@@faithfulacresfarmhouse Looks very delicious. I meant very inspiring!
Amen sister 🙏🏻! Greets a sister in Christ from the Netherlands
This video was so beautiful and full of love & wisdom ! I Truly admire your content :) I Thank God for using you as a wonderful vessel ! Thank you ❤
Good message! The Holy Spirit had lead me to be modest. I’m not dressing according to other people’s standards! God’s Word has set the standards. You will never please everybody, so don’t try.
I love the reminder that Holy Spirit lives in us. We should honor Him.
If I could like this video a 1000 times I would❤
Tengo el mismo vestido blanco con flores fucsia😀 (Tienda on- line china)
Visto siempre así, es más cómodo, femenino y barato.
En España el mercado de la "carne" y la ropa que la muestra o marca es la norma.
Bendiciones para usted y su familia🙏❤
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I am so glad I found your videos. I believe as you do in dress but it's hard when your husband says don't be a prude.
Very difficult indeed! He is not coming from a Godly perspective. As long as the wife is honoring God, she will be honoring her husband. The Scriptures speak about not withholding from one another, but dressing a "worldly or certain way" that the wife is uncomfortable with is not God honoring, and the husband is in the wrong.
Clothes are there to cover up our bodys. So we dont have to be ashamed of our nakedness. There is no need to look beautifull on the outside. Its the inside that matters. And what is in your heart comes out in how you act react talk and dress. Always focus on the inside
Beautiful truthful message.
Thank you for this beautiful video!
Makeup makes men desire me way more &
makeup makes women feel like im competition
so i let them both go!
Rather please God than create an allusion of beauty ❤️
St. Paul is referring to the Wealthy Roman Matrons & roman society as a whole with the pearls, braids & such. Pearls had become such a 'hot commodity' that it was a status symbol. people were more concerned with outward wealth than inward treasure. This, I feel, is where we start getting into tricky territory, because WE aren't telling anyone - give up wearing your rings, don't ever braid your hair, or something right now. But some do go this far, like The Amish. There are problems of interpretation, historical context, & heart issues, in this area. It boils down to: don't be putting your appearance 'above' the matter of God. Wearing dresses COULD even be seen as a heart issue, even more so than wearing pants. If you are trying to get attention for it, you are using it to satisfy pride, "See, I am wearing only dresses, that makes me a good Christian", etc...(I am not taking your video this way, Kelsey, because you are backing it up with scripture & hit these points a bit) But i have seen women, make this their whole 'persona' & are definitely deriving pleasure, pride, being haughty etc...from being 'seen' in modest dresses.....I am thinking of a very large family that made their living off of reality tv, (& others) if you catch my drift. Even if you ask some of the Amish, "why do you dress the way you do?", they will answer "Oh, because we have always done so". that is not a good enough reason. The most important thing to adorn yourself with is a cheerful countenance & a beautiful, welcoming SMILE🙂🙂🙂
Those things do not discount or eliminate the need to dress modest.
@@christinascatholichomemaking I never said anything 'discounted' the need, just that you need to understand WHY or you can be doing things not in true accordance with God's word. I can do all sorts of things that might line up with God's word, like 'don't steal', but not being doing so in a Christian manner. I might be doing 'right', but not for the right reasons (this is where the Jewish people were falling into trouble in the OT) And I guess if you are talking about the last TWO things I listed, then I still didn't say they 'eliminated' anything. 'most important' would imply that there is a list of priorities and there might be many things on that list in accordance with God's word & doing all of those things with a cheerful attitude is the most important way to go about it. I don't mean any disrespect by this comment & I DO dress modestly & think it is important. But I don't do it begrudgingly or mindlessly, & I understand the spirit behind it & I think that is important, so one does not fall into legalism. I grew up related to a Independent Baptist family. The wife would chastise MY mother, & us girls, for not wearing dresses. Their church REQUIRED women to wear floor length dresses at all times. Well that would be fine, except she could not articulate why that was necessary. And this family had lots of much bigger sin issues going on - physical child abuse, it came out later that the mother was literally starving one of the daughters, elder abuse (physically assaulting a grandmother living with them), ended up with divorce & the husband came out as a homosexual & abandoned the whole family & now lives with a man. BUT the women all kept up on wearing dresses. So...what good did it do - because in my eyes they were not living in accord to God's word in so many bigger areas that it was almost pointless to worry about clothing.
I like dressingmodesty - thoughts on head covering?
Love your dresses. Where can we find the recipe for the cake?
Hallo!
What do you wear in winter, when it’s really cold?
Then sometimes I wear trousers, because otherwise I would have cold…
🙋🏻♀️
I wear fleece leggings under my skirts and dresses in winter, and a sweater over the top. Very cozy.
@@christink.5264 👍👍
Excellent Video !! Amazzzing Truths, ... Thank-you soooo Much !! !! !!
If I could give it 10,000 Thumbs-up's, I would : )
I haven't wore pants in 14 years & have really cut down on the make-up in the past 7 years, the make-up was a 'hard' one for me : ( d/t my upbringing -[I'm quite a bit older than you therefore the following will sound Olde Fashioned] (pre warning - cute / silly / light lol), my Mother, Grandmother always said ''women need to ''put on their face [makeup] everyday - followed up with ... no man likes a women who doesn't 'take care of her hair & make-up' : ( eeeek !
P.S. In case someone reading my comment still wears pants or make-up, [etc] please trust me when i say ''I am not Judging you'' at all xo ! : )
Again, Thank-you for a Fabulous Video that has really Blessed Me ! Sister in Christ, Cindy
I love your approach. I feel like I am heading down that same path. It's very freeing! (Which of course it is, there is peace when one obeys God.) But yes, I feel your mom / grandma's way of thinking is still very present today and has been passed down sadly. Thank you for sharing beautiful insight!
Hello blessings, I just subscribed to your channel and it is a blessing. Although I really don't understand everything. I would like to ask if you could please activate the Spanish translation in the settings, I would really appreciate it. 🙏❤️
I do agree wholeheartedly, lately I have been convicted of legalism with it though. I at times have seen other women wear jeans and in my mind I would think "they are wrong, they are sinning" God convicted me because I don't believe wearing jeans is a sin.
I saw in your video that you only have dresses, do you not believe women should wear pants at all?
Hey Kelsey! Funny question, but what kind of sofa do you have? It looks so comfy and we're in the market for a new one.
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@@faithfulacresfarmhouse Thank you!
Love this! Thank you!
Men will tell you they LOVE deep v necks that will expose you when you bend down, sheer clothing that makes their imagination run wild, short dresses that expose a lot of leg, etc. The point is not everything that we think is modest is modest. We have to remember that its our responsibility to ensure we do not cause another to stumble.
I really loved this video
I think there needs to be consideration for the fact that as a married woman, your spouse may have different ideas of how he would like you to dress other than romantic dresses. These are beautiful but not my husbands taste. We are so quick to judge a woman and label her as "immodest" but maybe her husband is not for the look you would choose. Maybe she is simply in submission to her husband.
If your first reaction is that a woman doesnt need to listen to her husbands opinions on her dress than do not respond to this comment because we are not discussing the same biblical standards
But i would love to hear feed back from some other married women
At the beginning, I shared that, in my own opinion, being modest doesn't mean you have to wear dresses. I believe God gave us all a sense of style and fabrics and textures we like. I agree that our husband's tastes may prefer something over another. I absolutely think the wife should take that into consideration. Great point! I firmly believe one is immodest based on their intention, whether it be clothing, words, thoughts, actions, etc.
I agree with most of this, the whole behaving as temptation thing though I feel like falls under self control of the other person. If someone lusted after the modest by those standards the woman would always be wrong which I don’t think is the case. Women shouldn’t be revealing and showy and men shouldn’t be pretending as if they aren’t responsible for themselves , as much as women need to keep their eyes on the prize (God), men do to.
Amen! I can't speak for teaching men, but yes. If they lust, that is a sin they alone will be held responsible for. As Christians, we need to help each other to prevent any sin from occurring.
I love that you addressed this topic. I think “modesty” seems to be such a touchy and divisive subject among Christians for some reason. I get so weary of hearing how calling our sisters in Christ to a standard of modesty is “body shaming”, and how God “sees our heart” and everything is acceptable if it makes us happy. God has called us to be HOLY, not happy. Our bodies are HIS temple, not our own. Holiness is defined as “exalted or worthy of complete devotion as one perfect in goodness and righteousness” and it really causes one to stop and check our outfit choice before we step out in public. I always love to ask myself “Would I wear this in case I met Jesus today?” Thanks for sharing, you look so beautiful in all of these!!
Such a good word❤
Love it!!!!❤❤
I agree with everything you said. However, they're men and women who will lust even if the person is dressed modesty. It is a sin of the heart. With that said, we as women of God should dress modest. Becarful not to judge a woman who is new in the Lord and God is working in her. Our dress does not make us holy. It's our heart. Modesty is a blessing to others and ourselves. Great video.
Amen! Said beautifully!
Amen! 🙌
Amen! ❤❤
I love this ❤
I make sure my dresses are below my knees.
These comments are interesting. When you put something on and look in the mirror, ask God if it pleases Him. If the answer is no, change.
Amen
Thank you
Some of the outfits I see at church astound me. Immodesty is rampant. So sad
Oh how I hate washing the couch covers.
I do like to dress modestly, at the same time I don't think its fair to blame women and the way they dress for men "lusting" over them. If a man can't stop himself lusting over someone or cheating on his partner that is HIS issue and shouldn't be blamed on women - even if they are scantily dressed. As I said, I dress very modestly and don't consider myself to be attractive at all, yet I still had this man basically stalking me for a year. That was HIM behaving badly. It wasnt because of how I was dressed. I really feel we need to stop blaming women for men's bad and inappropriate behaviour.
Women should dress the way that feels right to them. They shouldn't dress a certain way because they are trying to either attract or deter men. Dress for yourself - not for men.
I agree and disagree. I agree that men are held accountable for their lust from God, and that's not always on the woman, but I do believe it can be. I am not saying women are the reason for a man's sinful behavior, but if a woman is dressing for the intention of attention, then that is a sin on her, and could be the cause of a man to fall into sin as well. The only one we should be dressing for is God.
@@faithfulacresfarmhouse yes I totally agree that its better to dress modestly and I don't like seeing women wear overly revealing clothing to get men's attention. I guess I just feel men need to be held more accountable as well. Even if a woman is scantily dressed, men still have a choice whether to behave sinfully or not. They may feel some lust, but they can choose to not act on it. I don't think the way a woman dresses should be considered "the cause of a man to fall into sin." Men are in control of their own bahaviour. If a man rapes a woman, it doesn't matter what the woman was wearing he is the one who has commited a crime and a sin.
As in my example, I was totally covered up and not encouraging at all in my behaviour, yet still I had a man harassing and stalking me even though I refused his advances. Just my opinion 😀
I believe it is shared responsibility. Women need to do their part not to be a stumbling block, but if a man is still lustful, that is an issue of his that he needs to take to the Lord.
Another example is that of drug or alcohol addiction.
If we know someone has that addiction, do we place those temptations all around them, or do we try to remove the temptation that is in OUR power to do so?
While we connot remove temptation beyond of sphere of influence, we do carry the responsibility and accountability for our sphere. 😊 Blessings❣️❣️
@@lanahundley8625 This is a great analogy & one that hits home as my husband is a recovering alcoholic/addict. I do not have a problem drinking and now that my hubby is 22 years sober, it doesn't bother him if I have a beer now & again. But early on, it WAS a stumbling block for him - he was newly sober when we met. I RESPECTED him by not keeping alcohol in the home, maybe only having a drink once in a while, not inviting others over that centered their social life around alcohol, etc...Now, if he had gone and gotten drunk on his own, that 'sin' would have been on him. but I certainly would not have been pouring a glass of jack & coke & setting it down before him every evening & challenging him to not fall into drinking again. People do not buy him booze as a Christmas present or constantly badger him to go out to the bar. In fact we do not hang out with such people, that make drinking their sphere. I would get highly annoyed if someone was coming around cajoling him to drink. So it is with clothing. if a woman is going around scantily clad or in form fitting stuff for attention, men are going to look - they are visual creatures. I would not let a woman hang around that behaved like this. And it often backfires because then they start getting attention that they don't like. & I am not saying that I think my husband is lusting after women, or that he would cheat if he saw a woman in a mini skirt, but it just is not respectful - to yourself & others to show off. I have learned this the hard way, when I was young. When I wore skimpy stuff, men were only interested in me for my body & really disrespected me (but in all honesty, I was disrespecting God & myself) I had kind of shed that image when I met my husband & he fell in love with me because he found me pretty AND respectful, but mostly for my personality & smarts. I think there are pants that are modest & femininely formed. Jeans didn't exist in Biblical times 🤷....and I also think there are clothes that are appropriate for home that are not for in public & women ought to be able to discern that.
@pattyhansen7563 thank you for your added insight.
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Hate to break it to you ladies, but a hottie is a hottie. Your man will still lust after a woman wearing a full-body potato sack. And it’s okay. Don’t take it so personally. Wear what you want to wear.
As someone who was raised an Apostolic Pentecostal, it feels SO GOOD to finally feel confident and not ashamed of the beautiful body that God gave me. I am so blessed and I will not be hiding it. Will I cover up a little more, out of respect for women and their husbands in certain situations? Sure. But in my everyday life, no.
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Where can I find that cake recipe?
Finally finished it! faithfulacresfarmhouse.com/2024/04/16/easy-chantilly-cake-recipe/
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Dear women, your bodies are NOT evil. Your bodies are NOT sinful, it's NOT your fault, if someone commits adultery in their heart - which is what Jesus says, and not that the woman and her body is to shame for the man's weakness. Whats really important is your intention. You can wear shorts to sexualise yourself or you can wear shorts because it's warm. Don't sexualise yourself. If others do sexualise you (whether or not it was your intention) THEIR sin is THEIR fault! Please STOP shaming women for simply having bodies and claiming it's the holy spirit who told you so, so it's an universal truth what you just said. This is the opposite of being humble. I highly recommend anyone to read C. S. Lewis Mere Christianity. Lewis says regarding this topic that a indigenious woman can walk around topless without being unmodest. It's always the intention (and the cultural context of course). Iam a huge fan of modesty - but this video is misleading. Modesty starts in the heart. Wear shorts, show your shoulders - simply don't sexualise yourself, respect yourself, cultivate a humble heart in yourself. And please...PLEASE. don't spread legalistic, religious, completely made up clothing rules to shame women. Thank you.
God took covering it do seriously after the fall that he killed an animal and made adam and eve clothes. I'm confident it wasn't a bikini and a speedo. God was angry with Noah's sons for seeing his father's nakedness. No one is saying bodies are evil, but they are private. I find that part if the fall was men's desire to lust the (semi) nakedness of women and women's desire to be listed. She makes some good points at 11:40
But it is on a woman to dress modestly, keeping their brother in mind, and not causing him to stumble. No female has a right to dress as they please. God calls us to modesty.
exactly. this is the sort of thinking that leads to the most extremist types of religion where women are treated as "temptresses." i think a true christian perspective is to allow autonomy for both men and women to dress, speak and act freely, based on their own inner relationship with christ
@@christinascatholichomemakingand god calls men to modesty as well but they still wear tights revealing pants and often go shirtless
@@janej3883 yes and God will hold them accountable. Men behaving badly doesn’t justify women behaving badly.
OK sweetheart, it’s fine to look at other people as long as you don’t go over there like being weird toward the other person or doing things that are inappropriate the way people dress they have a right to dress that way some people don’t wanna dress modest that’s fine. You can wear shorts as long as they are not like to reveal, and you can wear skirts as long as they are not too revealing, there are young teenage girls who do need to cover up because some of them do not do see that people give the young girls and the teenagers cause I also get those looks too when I wear certain outfits but as long as nobody tries to those feelings then they’re fine.
Why does modesty always have to be associated with dresses? No judgment here, I'm wondering why the focus is always on dresses? I like a nice dress. But I am more comfortable in leggings and a T-shirt. Some shirts have scripture on them and others are a favorite music group. Shoot, even a cute pair of jeans and T-shirt are modest.
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I enjoy hearing what other women have to say about modesty and their journeys to modesty. But you missed the mark on Scripture. In Matthew 5:28 Jesus puts the responsibility on the person who is lusting, not the object of lust. Men of God also have the Holy Spirit, which means they have self-control as well. If they don't, there may be a stronghold issue or a demonic issue.
Then you mentioned showing God our love. Jesus tells us how we show our love John 14:15-24: we love Him when we obey His commandments*. Modesty without good character is vain. A woman can be outwardly modest, and still be a seductress. God cares more about the heart than outward appearance, as you mentioned.
The 1 Timothy verses also have a very specific context -it's in the church meetings so as to not to distract anyone else from prayer & teaching. The women in that church would go to the meetings, trying to be the center of attention, disrupting prayer, & leading men which was common for them because* of the pagan culture in Ephesus (women-led sexual cults). They were bringing fleshly worship habits with them.
Besides this, I do agree that modesty is part of our worship to God & leaving the old self behind. It's truly liberating to not be remembered for your body, or for people to look you in the eye when they speak with you and not your body parts.
St. Paul says not to cause a brother to stumble too. You can’t ignore the responsibility of the woman to dress modestly and put it on the man as “his problem.” That is prideful and selfish.
Yes. I do t think woman should be constantly told that their bodies are the problem. Modesty is a thing but we are coming at it from a bad direction
@@by_grace_alone1334 the body itself isn’t the problem. Showing too much of it is though. Our bodies are beautifully made: for our spouse, and for God.
I agree with this! I also believe that Scripture holds a meaning for the past time (when it was written), now, and in the future, therefore the 1 Timothy verses relate to us now as well. 🥰 I am not saying "women's bodies are to blame", I am saying that they can be when the woman has a sinful intention. AMEN! Men absolutely ABSOLUTELY have the Spirit of self control, and need to be responsible for their lust. However, women are also equally held responsible and have the same Spirit of self control. Men and women BOTH have to be responsible. We also have to be aware and acknowledge the power the devil has to try to bring us all to lust. We have to do what we can to help each other out, to help prevent each other from sinning, as well as ourselves!
Do you think it’s a sin for women to wear pants??
I personally do not. I believe it is the intention behind the outfit. For example: If a woman wear jeans or slacks, why is she wearing it? Is it to make her butt and legs look good or to be warm and be dressed nicely. Does that make sense? I'm a no for leggings and yoga pants though (this was a big conviction for me this past year).
@@faithfulacresfarmhouse I’m struggling with Deuteronomy 22:5 I think it is, where it says that a woman shall not wear what pertains to a man. Isn’t the biggest item of clothing that pertains always specifically to a man is his pants? Except in Bible days maybe. I have been wearing jeans, but they’re not tight, and I wear tunics to cover the whole bottom area. Sometimes I feel it’s too cold to wear a dress, especially in the winter. But I don’t want to be committing an abomination. So that worries me.
I’ve been struggling with this also.
Did men wear pants in Moses day? I thought male and females both wore long tunics.
I wonder what was the difference between male and female clothing back then was?
I wear leggings under my dresses or skirts to keep my legs warm. I’ve been convicted on clothing too this year and it takes time to change. I still wear jeans every now and then and they are uncomfy and too tight and hug the butt and I wear long sweater to cover it. So I’m about to get rid of those. But yes we can wear warm leggings under dresses. I have long sleeve and half long sleeve and wear a warm cardigan with it.
@@tanyacagle2423 thanks. I love your channel
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Also, it tempts young boys into lust-not just men. 😢 The mindset of the world by women and even some Christian women is-that’s the man’s problem, not mine. So sad how little regard there is for our fellow brethren.
Too bad most of the dresses are made of Polyester.
Do you have any companies you love? I would love linen dresses, or just cotton, but they are so expensive and hard to find good quality.
Little cottonwood, and super cute dresses
I wear only 100 % linnen wool and cotton as a reminder to live pure and holy for God. It automatically makes it more modest since the fabrics are pretty formless. I love etsy and second hand shops (always check the labels!). My clohtes are a reminder te me everyday to live set apart for Him.
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