heartache sucks, breakups suck but the sun will rise and we will try again tomorrow. This is just me pretty much spewing my thoughts, i'm sure my thoughts and feelings will change so maybe in a while I will do an updated one but for now these are the tips that have helped me get through my current breakup. They may not work for you, it may take more time then you think to get over someone but it's all ok. Love you all, if you're going through it im right there with ya xx
@Anton Boludo Well Anton to further elaborate on what I was trying to convey initially, I will give it some context. My great grand aunt would always say that if you live long enough you will eventually have the last laugh meaning that for every disappointment there is always something better waiting and that always stuck with me... I don't know Allegra nor Joey personally but I have grown to like them both from watching their vlogs and I wish them both the best as well as I do you.
Currently going through my first break up with the first guy I’ve ever loved, I’m really comforted by your videos right now, it’s nice to feel like I’m not alone - thank you
I was engaged to be married 5 years ago (already...), and I remember the anxiety I felt for over a month when I knew something was wrong. He wasn’t the same, became a little more cold, and overall wasn’t the person I had met 4 years prior. He had met someone else, and ended the engagement, leaving me to stew in a shit ton of emotions I’ve never felt in any of my previous breakup’s, it was the hardest time I had dealing, and worst feeling. At that time I didn’t feel I could fully get over it, and while I still have teeny minor issues to work on, I am thriving today, we always come out, it’s just a matter of pace and stepping forward when we are able! Absolutely love love love the new place! The brick wall is chef’s kiss 💋 thank you for sharing!
7 months later and still makes me emotional. I’m trying to focus on myself. Do things I love. Things I put on hold and made excuses not to do. Put myself and goals first
If you're here because of someone who's now part of your past and you still can't get over them, I have a few words of advice for you and I hope you'll take it: You're wasting time and energy obsessing over someone who clearly doesn't feel the same about you. What's the point? It may sound cliché but there's plenty of fish in the sea, and in the sea there could be your real soul mate. But by chasing something that's just not meant to be you're denying yourself the chance to have a loving relationship with someone who can give you all the love you crave. You need to move on. It's called growing up. You grew up with that person and in that stage of your life she/he was important to you. So what? You met her/him for a specific purpose and she/he served that purpose. You are no longer together because she/he is not the right person to accompany you for the rest of your journey which we call life. Cherish those moments. Take with you what she/he taught you and what you have learned during the time you spent with her/him. But now move on. Stop overromanticising the past. It's not healthy. Look around have fun and be more open minded about meeting other women/men. There are other nice women/men you could meet. The right person, the one you are meant to be with, the real love of your life is just around the corner. You just have to allow yourself to be loved again. Blessings and lots of love ❤️
Girl same. My bf and I broke up exactly one month ago and I was totally blindsided. I agreed to the breakup because why be with someone who doesn’t value you and see your worth.. ugh it’s hard but we just got to keep moving forward!
It happened to me 4 months ago, and for real the breakup helped me love myself again, you will be fine!! This experience will help you grow so much, it is a blessing in disguise believe it or not❤️
love how authentic and honest you've been about your breakup - even though this is a tough time and not the easiest topic to chat about. Thanks for sharing
I totally agree with the fling thing. It’s fun and quite cute to have someone with whom share that aspect of life idk. It def helped me lots in my recent break. Great advice Al! Love you 🖤
The fling thing is great. Or even just go out and flirt with some guys. You don't need to go home with them or anything, just talk to some guys, have fun and get a bit of a confidence boost. :)
Hilde Elisa K absolutely! Whatever you feel most comfortable doing. I ended up having such a good vibe with my “fling” that we ended up being friends so weird but oh well
i\m going through a breakup right now and it's honestly my first real heartbreak in my life. this video could not have come at a better time and you always have such wise advice, thank you so much
I think the hardest thing when you get older is realizing that no one is necessarily at fault, and that it just didn’t work. I was used to a guy screwing me over and then me cutting them out. So I went through a similar situation in that respect this summer as well. But time heals all, and a cocktail with some friends doesn’t hurt 😜
i was in a relationship for 7 years, and we haven’t been together for 7 months now & it still hurts soo much.. everyday, i wake up so sad knowing i lost the person i wanted to marry and have my kids with . .
It hurts and it will keep hurting, but you will find someone in the end, i promise you. Your heart will heal and you’ll find out that you’re stronger than all of this.
this video was so raw and real and vulnerable and sad. not in like a fake way. one of the reasons i believe you're so successful on youtube is the fact that you never seem to be putting on anyyy sort of fakeness. this vid made me feel sad and hopeful all at once. like many amazing artists, you evidently feel things very deeply and have a talent for projecting complex emotions to your audience. you have a really cool personality. hope you feel better soon
My all-time favorite thing to tell myself after a breakup is that this won't last forever. Whatever you feel at the moment, won't be the same in weeks, months, a year. It sucks for the moment, but you'll get over it.
Best thing to get over a relationship is say you did all that you could to make it work. That you put in your best effort. It didn't work and that's ok, but knowing there's nothing you could have done to change it makes it easier to move on. Because you've done the work. :)
I’ve needed this video but when you first posted it I wasn’t ready, I literally couldn’t even hear the word breakup without having a breakdown. I can finally process everything without crying (kind of) and this video was so so helpful to me💕💕 sending love your way
I’m not currently going through a break up but was going through one last year ... this video resonated with me. I am in a new relationship , and love my boyfriend dearly. But residual negative feelings from a previous break up exist ! This is super helpful for all stages of a breakup. Thank you Allegra 💓
I think break ups are experienced in many different ways, you can’t always be friendly with your ex, sometimes the person might choose to not accept your kindness and your need to end things peacefully. What you always need is to take time for yourself, be busy and not treat the break up like you lost the ONE. If things didn’t work, then this person wasn’t.
I think this is my first time ever commenting on a YT video but I think it’s worth mentioning - I’m not going through a break up and yet some of this advice is gold and so, so relevant to everyone. I know I needed that reminder of keeping yourself, your friends and hobbies and feeling complete on your own in any relationship! Annnnd everything life is temporary. So true. So thank you for the words. ✌🏼lots of love from Boston🖤
Allegra, are you kidding! You are so precious! I teared up about you learning that song on the piano. Good for you bb!! Been really keeping you in my thoughts. Thanks for the video!
So proud of you for handling this tough time so well. I went through one this year also, and it was gut wrenchingly painful. Remembering you're not alone helps so much!
Break ups are the shittiest. I love your advice to keep your own portions of your life, see new people and pick up a hobby. And I totally agree with the last one, who cares if it's healthy, it works. To get over someone, get under someone else. ;) Sending my love out to you and I am excited that you are rebuilding your life so well. Doesn't take away the hurt but you are so damn strong. Much love xoxo
Very good advice. You’re so brave for posting this so soon after a breakup. I completely agree with everything you said and I wanna thank you for putting this out for other ppl to feel like they aren’t alone!!
I'm not going through a break up, but I've been there and heartache sucks but you will recover it just takes time and patience. And anyone who is going through you will be alright, you smile and laugh again. 💕💕
WILL THORBURN i did that and i completely shattered the poor guy's heart :( i was clear from the beginning but I should have not trusted him on his feelings.
The best way to get over someone is to get under someone. A friend told me that and I've taken that advice and not taken it, but it does help! It can definitely boost self esteem and give you a different perspective on the whole relationship.......
Currently getting over a breakup and I can attest to all of this advice. Especially the fling thing! Not only does it give you something else to think about, but for me, it taught me a lot about how I deserve to be treated. My flings would treat me a lot better than my ex ever did. And while I was blindsided and devastated when my ex broke up with me, this helped me to accept that he wasn't what I wanted from a partner anymore.
I was in a short-lived high school relationship that continued into college. We were only officially together for like 6 months, but he was my first love and it took me a few months to get over it. Also I’m all for unfollowing/unfriending your ex on socials. I didn’t have the self control so I had to. I was worried that people would think I was being petty but honestly it was something I did for me, and it helped me move on. I’m also not friends with my ex and that’s okay too. It really depends on the people. I think that it’s so important to feel the grief and not hold it in. But distractions are key. Picking yourself back up is key. Start with something small if you have to, like if you have a test coming up for school, put your energy into that. Or hobbies like you said. Remind yourself of your short term and then your long time goals. Get excited for yourself! I find that really helps ❤️
Kelly Alexa I’m currently going through a break up and it sounds really similar to yours - dated for 6 ish months, my first love, I’ve had to unfollow him and I don’t think we’ll ever be friends. Right now it feels like someone close to me died but it’s comforting to know someone else has had a similar experience
@@oliviashealy it's a loss for sure! im sure it doesn't feel like it now, but it does get better. you got this, don't be too hard on yourself, and taking care of yourself is so important! best of luck to you
You know Allegra you are a really strong person. Whatever you went through was definetly really hard that maybe I wouldnt or couldnt even get through. Like whenever it comes to such situations or relationships I tend to learn so much stuff from you. You literally just change my mind in a really different way (better way). Thank you for still being strong no matter what ❤
I broke up with my ex about a month ago but we continued sleeping together for the following weeks and it made the overall breakup 1000 times harder and I’m still struggling with it so thank you so much for making this video
my full support is here for you Allegra ❣️ you are strong, beautiful, and on to bigger things. not to mention you have a whole world of love here by your side!!
I'm so glad you said the tip about having a fling. I had one recently that helped me get over my most recent ex. It was the best way to force myself to get out of the house, meet new people and realize that life can be fun again just in different ways. Sending love and good vibes to you during this time
imo it's easier for a girl/woman to 'have a fling'. For a guy, it's harder. Maybe you should all wear signs around your neck: LOOKING FOR A FLING. that would be sooooo much easier
Love this advice especially the fling one . It does help especially if the guy broke up with you , it happened to me he broke up with me through a text after 2 years of dating totally blindsided he just texted me one night and said he wants space , of course I felt like shit and unwanted and just unlovable . I cried a lot kept myself busy but I have to say the moment I allowed myself to see other guys go on dates and actually realize taht there are people out there that want me , even tho my ex didn’t , helped a lot with self esteem and self love . ❤️❤️❤️ we are gonna get through this whoever is suffering from a broken heart right now
Nothing is final is the first relationship advice my father gave me at my first break up when I was seventeen. I fully understood what that meant after my third break up at 22 when they all started coming back! Men always do at some point...
Big hugs to you Allegra. I feel like we've all been there and can empathize with you. Can't wait to see your new apartment and the furniture you pick out!!
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I don’t even know why I’m watching this since I’ve been happily married for two years, but let me tell you - those tips are great! Hope all of you lost and grieving souls will find your second half soon! ❤️
Such a great video and really loving the comments here too. I agree with the hobbies bit, get back to something you used to do or learn a new skill and find a new group of refreshing people and try and think of it as a step towards new you, shedding a skin if you will. Thanks Allegra, you are a strong beautiful person and very happy I found you ☺️
I think this is such an open minded and helpful video so many relatable tips and I’ve only recently been following your channel but I resonate so well with the messages you put out to the public you’ve really inspired me through a difficult time in my life ! Keep doing what you doing ⚡️
Thanks for sharing and always being so honest. Your new apartment looks cute. I love the brick wall. Breakups suck and I just went through one this summer. But I love my new apartment and space now. It takes time but it always is okay. Like you said, doesn’t last forever.
I sent you this recommendation on Instagram!! so awesome you followed through with it -i'm sure other people asked for this kind of content video too!!!
My ex broke up with me on the first month of october of this year, we only had three months together, he said he lost feelings for me and said all this stuff the other week how he was in love with me but now i don't know what to believe? i'm trying to make myself happy and i know i deserve better now
yeah flings def help a lot! some might think it's not fair to the other person but I think we all go through similar phases. So you sometimes end up being someone else rebound. And it's FINE! it's life it happens. Thanks for being brave and honest about your thoughts! nice video
Cannot agree with the fling thing. To me in the past, they always gave me feelings of some guilt and stupidity... it's not healthy as she pointed out. But I do hope she feels better and finds someone later when ready.
I’m on like day 5 of my breakup and I still can’t convince myself it’s something permanent. I was so blindsided. I’ve literally had panic attacks from it. There are studies that show breakups are very similar to a drug addict going through withdrawal which I really resonate with.
I broke up with my ex as I knew he wasn't the one for me. A few weeks later he was with another girl and it has been the most heartbreaking thing to watch. It's hard knowing that she's doing exactly what I did with him. 7 months later theyre still together and I still think of him.
My boyfriend and I have broken up before. It seemed like it was definitely over. He blocked me off social, I deleted all his photos. Several months later we bumped into each other at a bar/club that neither of us would have gone to on our own accord. Later we started talking again and being together again just made so much sense. Life is funny that way!
I think why flings work for some people is because it feeds your self confidence! So many of us after a break up feel unwanted and unloved. Having a fling or even just flirting can boost your confidence and remind you that you are sexy, smart and worthy of great things!
me and my girlfriend of 5 years just broke up, its soooo weird. its the little things. rolling over in the middle of the night and relazing nobody's there. the house being silent all the time. soo weird.
I always have been told to get over someone you have to get under someone else. As much as I wish that were the case for me it just isn’t. My ex and I broke up almost a year ago, we still talk every day. We still hook up, kiss, hold hands, go on dates. But I know he doesn’t think of it more than just that and I still hold on to the hope of us getting back together. I care so much for him. I have guys asking to hang out, for my number, or just talking to me. I find no interest in it. I actually get annoyed. I feel so bad because one guy is so nice and he tries so hard and I just can’t muster up the courage to commit to talking to him because I have all my eggs in my ex’s basket. Sometimes I think my ex knows I would never move on unless he blocked me from his life, and that makes me so sad. Fuck
Hello sweetheart never give up on the one you love...I know of a man who can attract back your ex within 48 hours hours.... He was the one who brought back my ex within 48 hours, ever since I got back with my ex I have been enjoying my reunion with him..
Recently my bf just broke up with me as well. I never want to. But seeing him already made his choice and he was so cold even when I begged. I decided to move on, even tho deep down I miss him and still want to be together. But i know he didn’t want to and I cant do anything now. So right now I am moving on very sad but I know it might be the right choice.
Dennis Thomas it’s okay I only want to be with someone who is sure about me. He did ask if I wanna be together but thinking about he cheated and he never choose me makes me feel really sad. I need to move on. I deserve to be treated better
I completely agree also I think the dating dept is like a roller coaster and again take your time to cry etc I used to live with a guy I was in a relationship with prior to us getting engaged but then things took a turn for the worse so keep your head up etc god bless you fabulous video
My now ex bf after dating for a few weeks told me I wasn’t his type. Wtf why didn’t he just told me this from the beginning and now I feel played. He just wasted my time😒
heartache sucks, breakups suck but the sun will rise and we will try again tomorrow. This is just me pretty much spewing my thoughts, i'm sure my thoughts and feelings will change so maybe in a while I will do an updated one but for now these are the tips that have helped me get through my current breakup. They may not work for you, it may take more time then you think to get over someone but it's all ok. Love you all, if you're going through it im right there with ya xx
I’m going through a separation with my wife of 12 years. Game changer. It’s horrible
@Allegra Shaw...just to add, you can always write a song about it now that you"re working on honing more proficiency on the piano, helps tremendously.
@Anton Boludo ...HA!
@Anton Boludo what??? ...no lol, I was just responding to what you wrote like, ha ha last laugh type thing.
@Anton Boludo Well Anton to further elaborate on what I was trying to convey initially, I will give it some context. My great grand aunt would always say that if you live long enough you will eventually have the last laugh meaning that for every disappointment there is always something better waiting and that always stuck with me... I don't know Allegra nor Joey personally but I have grown to like them both from watching their vlogs and I wish them both the best as well as I do you.
Currently going through my first break up with the first guy I’ve ever loved, I’m really comforted by your videos right now, it’s nice to feel like I’m not alone - thank you
Same, holidays are hard
I was engaged to be married 5 years ago (already...), and I remember the anxiety I felt for over a month when I knew something was wrong. He wasn’t the same, became a little more cold, and overall wasn’t the person I had met 4 years prior. He had met someone else, and ended the engagement, leaving me to stew in a shit ton of emotions I’ve never felt in any of my previous breakup’s, it was the hardest time I had dealing, and worst feeling. At that time I didn’t feel I could fully get over it, and while I still have teeny minor issues to work on, I am thriving today, we always come out, it’s just a matter of pace and stepping forward when we are able! Absolutely love love love the new place! The brick wall is chef’s kiss 💋 thank you for sharing!
7 months later and still makes me emotional. I’m trying to focus on myself. Do things I love. Things I put on hold and made excuses not to do. Put myself and goals first
If you're here because of someone who's now part of your past and you still can't get over them, I have a few words of advice for you and I hope you'll take it:
You're wasting time and energy obsessing over someone who clearly doesn't feel the same about you. What's the point? It may sound cliché but there's plenty of fish in the sea, and in the sea there could be your real soul mate. But by chasing something that's just not meant to be you're denying yourself the chance to have a loving relationship with someone who can give you all the love you crave. You need to move on. It's called growing up. You grew up with that person and in that stage of your life she/he was important to you. So what? You met her/him for a specific purpose and she/he served that purpose. You are no longer together because she/he is not the right person to accompany you for the rest of your journey which we call life. Cherish those moments. Take with you what she/he taught you and what you have learned during the time you spent with her/him. But now move on. Stop overromanticising the past. It's not healthy. Look around have fun and be more open minded about meeting other women/men. There are other nice women/men you could meet. The right person, the one you are meant to be with, the real love of your life is just around the corner. You just have to allow yourself to be loved again. Blessings and lots of love ❤️
Currently going through it. You are absolutely right. thank you soooooo much for this
This made me feel so much better 🥺💜
Thanks
Interesting timing. My boyfriend broke up with me today and I did not see it coming.
Im sorry :( hope you heal soon
Shanedawson Uramazing thank you!
Sasha Motovylets Me too 😕😔hope you feel better soon
Girl same. My bf and I broke up exactly one month ago and I was totally blindsided. I agreed to the breakup because why be with someone who doesn’t value you and see your worth.. ugh it’s hard but we just got to keep moving forward!
It happened to me 4 months ago, and for real the breakup helped me love myself again, you will be fine!! This experience will help you grow so much, it is a blessing in disguise believe it or not❤️
One of the hardest things for me right now is the holidays I can’t imagine holidays without him and I don’t know how to cope these holidays
It'll be hard, there's no getting away from that. Let yourself be sad, cry if you need to. Next year will be so much better and I'm rooting for you :)
Emily Lo Awww thank you so much it helps so much knowing I’m not the only one going through this! And knowing I’m not alone :)
same but we’re going to be ok time heals:(
rosie roberts thank you :’) right now is extremely hard
Leslie Esparza i know trust me it’s breaking me but try to think positive
love how authentic and honest you've been about your breakup - even though this is a tough time and not the easiest topic to chat about. Thanks for sharing
I totally agree with the fling thing. It’s fun and quite cute to have someone with whom share that aspect of life idk. It def helped me lots in my recent break. Great advice Al! Love you 🖤
The fling thing is great. Or even just go out and flirt with some guys. You don't need to go home with them or anything, just talk to some guys, have fun and get a bit of a confidence boost. :)
Hilde Elisa K absolutely! Whatever you feel most comfortable doing. I ended up having such a good vibe with my “fling” that we ended up being friends so weird but oh well
@@vaalbikers That's cool, you never know what will happen :)
i\m going through a breakup right now and it's honestly my first real heartbreak in my life. this video could not have come at a better time and you always have such wise advice, thank you so much
Anna Robinson hope you’re doing ok now ☺️
I think the hardest thing when you get older is realizing that no one is necessarily at fault, and that it just didn’t work. I was used to a guy screwing me over and then me cutting them out. So I went through a similar situation in that respect this summer as well. But time heals all, and a cocktail with some friends doesn’t hurt 😜
We were never together in the first place but this is still sooo useful right now ❤️
Those are sometimes the worst ones, feels like you never got a fair shot at it
i was in a relationship for 7 years, and we haven’t been together for 7 months now & it still hurts soo much.. everyday, i wake up so sad knowing i lost the person i wanted to marry and have my kids with . .
It hurts and it will keep hurting, but you will find someone in the end, i promise you. Your heart will heal and you’ll find out that you’re stronger than all of this.
Britney Villeda thank goodness so so much 🥺💛
How are you doing now?❤️
this video was so raw and real and vulnerable and sad. not in like a fake way. one of the reasons i believe you're so successful on youtube is the fact that you never seem to be putting on anyyy sort of fakeness. this vid made me feel sad and hopeful all at once. like many amazing artists, you evidently feel things very deeply and have a talent for projecting complex emotions to your audience. you have a really cool personality. hope you feel better soon
My all-time favorite thing to tell myself after a breakup is that this won't last forever. Whatever you feel at the moment, won't be the same in weeks, months, a year. It sucks for the moment, but you'll get over it.
Totally agree with having a fling, in the past that totally has sped up the grieving process lol!💕
You seem so strong and healthy! I like your no bs attitude and advice . You’re so real and authentic
Best thing to get over a relationship is say you did all that you could to make it work. That you put in your best effort. It didn't work and that's ok, but knowing there's nothing you could have done to change it makes it easier to move on. Because you've done the work. :)
I’ve needed this video but when you first posted it I wasn’t ready, I literally couldn’t even hear the word breakup without having a breakdown. I can finally process everything without crying (kind of) and this video was so so helpful to me💕💕 sending love your way
I’m not currently going through a break up but was going through one last year ... this video resonated with me. I am in a new relationship , and love my boyfriend dearly. But residual negative feelings from a previous break up exist ! This is super helpful for all stages of a breakup. Thank you Allegra 💓
I think break ups are experienced in many different ways, you can’t always be friendly with your ex, sometimes the person might choose to not accept your kindness and your need to end things peacefully. What you always need is to take time for yourself, be busy and not treat the break up like you lost the ONE. If things didn’t work, then this person wasn’t.
I think this is my first time ever commenting on a YT video but I think it’s worth mentioning - I’m not going through a break up and yet some of this advice is gold and so, so relevant to everyone. I know I needed that reminder of keeping yourself, your friends and hobbies and feeling complete on your own in any relationship! Annnnd everything life is temporary. So true. So thank you for the words. ✌🏼lots of love from Boston🖤
6 months later I still cry 😢... and I will most likely cry for 6 more months.
Lin Binz and if u do thats okay! take ur time. you will be okay :) time is the best healer!
Allegra, are you kidding! You are so precious! I teared up about you learning that song on the piano. Good for you bb!! Been really keeping you in my thoughts. Thanks for the video!
So proud of you for handling this tough time so well. I went through one this year also, and it was gut wrenchingly painful. Remembering you're not alone helps so much!
Break ups are the shittiest. I love your advice to keep your own portions of your life, see new people and pick up a hobby. And I totally agree with the last one, who cares if it's healthy, it works. To get over someone, get under someone else. ;) Sending my love out to you and I am excited that you are rebuilding your life so well. Doesn't take away the hurt but you are so damn strong. Much love xoxo
I’ve never even been in a relationship but I’m still watching this
Very good advice. You’re so brave for posting this so soon after a breakup. I completely agree with everything you said and I wanna thank you for putting this out for other ppl to feel like they aren’t alone!!
I'm not going through a break up, but I've been there and heartache sucks but you will recover it just takes time and patience. And anyone who is going through you will be alright, you smile and laugh again. 💕💕
I love the realistic approach you took in this video. Your world has better things in store for you 💕
If you’re going to rebound....don’t lead the other person on and make things clear from the beginning of the ‘fling’
WILL THORBURN i did that and i completely shattered the poor guy's heart :( i was clear from the beginning but I should have not trusted him on his feelings.
emoko emoko that comes down to being one of the flaws of that guy....not yours. So don’t feel bad. He needs to work on himself in that regard.
The best way to get over someone is to get under someone. A friend told me that and I've taken that advice and not taken it, but it does help! It can definitely boost self esteem and give you a different perspective on the whole relationship.......
Currently getting over a breakup and I can attest to all of this advice. Especially the fling thing! Not only does it give you something else to think about, but for me, it taught me a lot about how I deserve to be treated. My flings would treat me a lot better than my ex ever did. And while I was blindsided and devastated when my ex broke up with me, this helped me to accept that he wasn't what I wanted from a partner anymore.
You are honestly such a badass.I respect the way you've conducted yourself so so so fucking much Allegra seriously.
I was in a short-lived high school relationship that continued into college. We were only officially together for like 6 months, but he was my first love and it took me a few months to get over it. Also I’m all for unfollowing/unfriending your ex on socials. I didn’t have the self control so I had to. I was worried that people would think I was being petty but honestly it was something I did for me, and it helped me move on. I’m also not friends with my ex and that’s okay too. It really depends on the people. I think that it’s so important to feel the grief and not hold it in. But distractions are key. Picking yourself back up is key. Start with something small if you have to, like if you have a test coming up for school, put your energy into that. Or hobbies like you said. Remind yourself of your short term and then your long time goals. Get excited for yourself! I find that really helps ❤️
Kelly Alexa I’m currently going through a break up and it sounds really similar to yours - dated for 6 ish months, my first love, I’ve had to unfollow him and I don’t think we’ll ever be friends. Right now it feels like someone close to me died but it’s comforting to know someone else has had a similar experience
@@oliviashealy it's a loss for sure! im sure it doesn't feel like it now, but it does get better. you got this, don't be too hard on yourself, and taking care of yourself is so important! best of luck to you
You know Allegra you are a really strong person. Whatever you went through was definetly really hard that maybe I wouldnt or couldnt even get through. Like whenever it comes to such situations or relationships I tend to learn so much stuff from you. You literally just change my mind in a really different way (better way). Thank you for still being strong no matter what ❤
I broke up with my ex about a month ago but we continued sleeping together for the following weeks and it made the overall breakup 1000 times harder and I’m still struggling with it so thank you so much for making this video
my full support is here for you Allegra ❣️ you are strong, beautiful, and on to bigger things. not to mention you have a whole world of love here by your side!!
I'm so glad you said the tip about having a fling. I had one recently that helped me get over my most recent ex. It was the best way to force myself to get out of the house, meet new people and realize that life can be fun again just in different ways. Sending love and good vibes to you during this time
imo it's easier for a girl/woman to 'have a fling'. For a guy, it's harder. Maybe you should all wear signs around your neck: LOOKING FOR A FLING. that would be sooooo much easier
Love this advice especially the fling one . It does help especially if the guy broke up with you , it happened to me he broke up with me through a text after 2 years of dating totally blindsided he just texted me one night and said he wants space , of course I felt like shit and unwanted and just unlovable . I cried a lot kept myself busy but I have to say the moment I allowed myself to see other guys go on dates and actually realize taht there are people out there that want me , even tho my ex didn’t , helped a lot with self esteem and self love . ❤️❤️❤️ we are gonna get through this whoever is suffering from a broken heart right now
Allegra thanks for being You! A loss of something important in your life is part of the journey. 😘
Nothing is final is the first relationship advice my father gave me at my first break up when I was seventeen. I fully understood what that meant after my third break up at 22 when they all started coming back! Men always do at some point...
@ You keep telling yourself that Mikey
I think you explained heartache/breakups in the best way especially during this day and age
love you so much allegra
Big hugs to you Allegra. I feel like we've all been there and can empathize with you. Can't wait to see your new apartment and the furniture you pick out!!
I loved this. you're so strong and beautiful 💕 you're inspiring
This has been so comforting. Thank you for sharing your insights. Sending you comfort x
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Going through a breakup myself..getting better everyday but still have my moments ..this video helped..thank everyone for all of the great advice...💖
I don’t even know why I’m watching this since I’ve been happily married for two years, but let me tell you - those tips are great! Hope all of you lost and grieving souls will find your second half soon! ❤️
Love you Allegra ❤️ so poised and thoughtful as always.
Your skin looks amazing in this video!
Such a great video and really loving the comments here too. I agree with the hobbies bit, get back to something you used to do or learn a new skill and find a new group of refreshing people and try and think of it as a step towards new you, shedding a skin if you will. Thanks Allegra, you are a strong beautiful person and very happy I found you ☺️
I think this is such an open minded and helpful video so many relatable tips and I’ve only recently been following your channel but I resonate so well with the messages you put out to the public you’ve really inspired me through a difficult time in my life ! Keep doing what you doing ⚡️
Subscibed as soon as she said "...practicing clair de lune".
Thanks for sharing and always being so honest. Your new apartment looks cute. I love the brick wall. Breakups suck and I just went through one this summer. But I love my new apartment and space now. It takes time but it always is okay. Like you said, doesn’t last forever.
Totally agreed with everything you said! Thanks so much for opening up. Can’t wait for your vlog!
Going thru a breakup too. Sending love, light and strength.
me and my boyfriend of 7 years just broke up.. glad i found this video, thanks.
I sent you this recommendation on Instagram!! so awesome you followed through with it -i'm sure other people asked for this kind of content video too!!!
My ex broke up with me on the first month of october of this year, we only had three months together, he said he lost feelings for me and said all this stuff the other week how he was in love with me but now i don't know what to believe? i'm trying to make myself happy and i know i deserve better now
Give yourself space and time.
My ex of 4 months randomly broke up with me one day and I am currently going through this ..
how are you doing now?
Thank you for always making such great & relatable videos
yeah flings def help a lot! some might think it's not fair to the other person but I think we all go through similar phases. So you sometimes end up being someone else rebound. And it's FINE! it's life it happens. Thanks for being brave and honest about your thoughts! nice video
Cannot agree with the fling thing. To me in the past, they always gave me feelings of some guilt and stupidity... it's not healthy as she pointed out. But I do hope she feels better and finds someone later when ready.
Got broken up with last month! It’s been hard to see him because I work with him!! But your tips really helped! 🧡
Glad you took time!!! Can you please do budget videos and how to save money and stuff like that!!! Please please
I’m on like day 5 of my breakup and I still can’t convince myself it’s something permanent. I was so blindsided. I’ve literally had panic attacks from it. There are studies that show breakups are very similar to a drug addict going through withdrawal which I really resonate with.
I broke up with my ex as I knew he wasn't the one for me. A few weeks later he was with another girl and it has been the most heartbreaking thing to watch. It's hard knowing that she's doing exactly what I did with him. 7 months later theyre still together and I still think of him.
My boyfriend and I have broken up before. It seemed like it was definitely over. He blocked me off social, I deleted all his photos. Several months later we bumped into each other at a bar/club that neither of us would have gone to on our own accord. Later we started talking again and being together again just made so much sense. Life is funny that way!
how are you guys now?
I think why flings work for some people is because it feeds your self confidence! So many of us after a break up feel unwanted and unloved. Having a fling or even just flirting can boost your confidence and remind you that you are sexy, smart and worthy of great things!
we're all with you ❤
thank you, I needed this right now. especially cherish your advice since you're such a badass.
I think you're handling it well! Cheering for you, Allegra!
You look amazing!! Love your videos, this is so helpful
me and my girlfriend of 5 years just broke up, its soooo weird. its the little things. rolling over in the middle of the night and relazing nobody's there. the house being silent all the time. soo weird.
I always have been told to get over someone you have to get under someone else. As much as I wish that were the case for me it just isn’t. My ex and I broke up almost a year ago, we still talk every day. We still hook up, kiss, hold hands, go on dates. But I know he doesn’t think of it more than just that and I still hold on to the hope of us getting back together. I care so much for him. I have guys asking to hang out, for my number, or just talking to me. I find no interest in it. I actually get annoyed. I feel so bad because one guy is so nice and he tries so hard and I just can’t muster up the courage to commit to talking to him because I have all my eggs in my ex’s basket. Sometimes I think my ex knows I would never move on unless he blocked me from his life, and that makes me so sad. Fuck
Youre an idiot. Sorry to be harsh but somebody has to. Stop hanging out and hooking up with youre ex!
@v n Some people need a dose of reality. If youre gonna do something so stupid, at least dont complain about it lol
You are such a strong person and such an inspiration 💋💋 xoxo
Sending you the strongest hug! I'm going through a similar situation and I totally know how you're feeling!
I got left today by my fiancé of 4 years and I’m devastated
You can with this and everything 💪🏻💪🏻 you’re a powerful woman ♥️♥️
I know this might be weird to say but you have one of my favourite voices and personalities on TH-cam! I hope your doing okay ❤️
love u babe!!! seriously such a strong woman
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Recently my bf just broke up with me as well. I never want to. But seeing him already made his choice and he was so cold even when I begged. I decided to move on, even tho deep down I miss him and still want to be together. But i know he didn’t want to and I cant do anything now. So right now I am moving on very sad but I know it might be the right choice.
Xuan Yang no it’s not the right choice. I know of a very powerful man from Africa who can help you out and your boyfriend will come back to you
Dennis Thomas it’s okay I only want to be with someone who is sure about me. He did ask if I wanna be together but thinking about he cheated and he never choose me makes me feel really sad. I need to move on. I deserve to be treated better
After reading all these comments ... I find it harder to believe in love again ...
Love you Allegra !!
Thank you for sharing with us. It's really helpful.
Loved the fling advice! Don’t jump into a relationship just under one LOL! YAS girl🤣👏🏻❤️
Mikey C23 then don’t listen to it bud👏🏻
I admire you so much!
Anyway thanks for this video at the much proper time to me💕💕 so comforting to me even just watching and listening urs.
I completely agree also I think the dating dept is like a roller coaster and again take your time to cry etc I used to live with a guy I was in a relationship with prior to us getting engaged but then things took a turn for the worse so keep your head up etc god bless you fabulous video
I needed this thank you! ❤️
Someone broke my heart today thank you for the video haha
My now ex bf after dating for a few weeks told me I wasn’t his type. Wtf why didn’t he just told me this from the beginning and now I feel played. He just wasted my time😒
This is helpful thank you ❤️ even your last tip 😅 I have to say it does help, I dunno if it’s healthy either 🤷♀️ but whatever works right sis haha
so helpful, thank you!!
That’s what I needed 😫❤️
My girlfriend and I recently broke up and I’ve never felt this low before, I know time will heal but this shit hurts so bad
@@kieli5885 im really sorry to hear about that, I truly hope time heals you asap. I know it really sucks, still does.
daisy castaneda let me know if you want to talk, I’ve been there and I know sometimes it helps to have a listening ear 🥰
daisy castaneda I know of a very powerful man from Africa who can help you out and your love will come back to you
@@paigemcdonagh hey yea that would be great! thank you
daisy castaneda same with me, my girlfriend and I broke up 2 days ago it’s like I lost a big part of my life
Why am I watching this I've never had a boyfriend??
Currently looking for hobbies over here, break ups do suck 😢
Oh I really like your lipstick in the video, could you give us the reference and the brand :D thank you Allegra, U rocks Girl
You was so helpful, thank you. I'm with you baby ❤️