A cheetah never changes it's spots, but I do believe in giving chances if i can feel the Cheetah's sincerity to change and that I truly love the Cheetah. 👍
on this issue of cheating, i have heard of many stories from people around me whom have been cheated on and one, who once cheated. i strongly believe that cheating is a choice and not just something that “oops i got drunk and we accidentally had sex”. cmon man, stop lying 🤥. the act of cheating always come from a place where one doesn’t feel contented in the relationship, okay lah 90% of the time. so it might be issues like, not getting enough attention from your current partner, lack of communication, incompatibility in sex or values, trauma from the past or insecurities, i mean the list goes on, you get it. the solution is honestly simple but sometimes hard to achieve, talk it out with them and get on the same page. try working through things before you do things that you regret. if it is beyond salvageable and both of you come to a consensus then just break up and move on. ONLY THEN, if you wanna hoe around then by all means. don’t hurt someone whom you love or used to love, it will just be a haunting thought even if they do forgive you (which results in a lot of paranoia). i do agree with both bolin and brenda as always and HI CAN WE JUST NOTE HOW CALM bolin has gotten from the start of the series to now. give that man a thumbs up!!
Oh no, I may be on the minority here but definitely not a hater, I dont know, I am torn because I think Brenda is not credible enough to give advice on serious relationship and deep sexual woes because she is NBSB (no boyfriend since birth) and she said her first experience of love in high school is puppy love which is even short lived. Some may badly translate her advice as "lacking strength and weight" because she has not been there yet personally, but I dont want to come off as mean to Brenda ok lah? but just saying an objective constructive criticism. More power to Brenda and Bolin
Counselling does not involve giving advice. In fact, its a big no no to give advice when trying to counsel someone. It is about giving clarity to someone and identifying emotions or issues that may be not be visible to the person
I dont know, I am torn because I think Brenda is not credible enough to give advice on serious relationship and deep sexual woes because she is NBSB (no boyfriend since birth) and she said her first experience of love in high school is puppy love which is even short lived.
Last scenario is the girlfriend has misdirected anger. She is obviously vengeful but couldnt take it out on the boyfriend so she wants to get revenge on the girls he sext with. The only one responsible to protect your trust is your boyfriend, not random people off the streets he catcalls.
Good to see a ever maturing take on things as this series continues, so good job, but you probably need to put a bigger disclaimer this is opinions, not advice
My friend husband cheated on her years back. She move back to her parent place, yet till now there’s still NO plan to get divorce. Currently, she openly dating other people and still frequently meet up with her husband to talk about some stuff (according to her). It’s feel twisted and wrong, but not sure how to bring this across because I don’t want to hurt my friend. Is this because like what Bolin shared, very a game with a lot of save file,items and memory that’s too painful to discard and start afresh.
I understand what Bolin said when relationship is like a progress and you don't want to just 1 problem then delete the whole relationship. But I experience before is the person character can't changed and is a 6 years relationship. After a long term relationship I see no progress of her changing so I left her.
I would like to apologise to the 2 hosts, but particularly Mr Bolin for being rude in my previous comment. I realised that I grossly underestimated the courage, conviction and moral clarity of Bolin and Brenda especially on this topic of sex. Yes indeed. All of us are so broken sexually and I thank Bolin and Brenda for shedding some light on what are some boundaries we don't cross when it comes to sex and relationship. Thank you so much.
hmm maybe toxic people are meant for each other? imagine this: the world is filled with say 30% toxic people. if these 30% date non toxic people, then 30% of people will be suffering from toxic relationships … their mental health is likely to be affected and then sometimes with emotional attachment, they don’t want to leave… or they are afraid to leave since the other person is toxic… now imagine the toxic people (30% of the population) date one another. they may be happy together (as you mentioned) as they are feeding each others’ toxic instincts/needs etc. well some may not be happy together due to so many possible reasons but wouldn’t this still be a better scenario than the first? all I want to say is that toxic people exists and we can’t stop it. neither can we stop them from dating and getting into relationship. if toxic people are happy together then good lor. I don’t see anything wrong as long as they are happy together. maybe they may even stay together for life?
If both parties have to resort to cheating to stay happy, then why stay together? There are married couples living completely separate lives with mutual acceptance. In a way, it's not considered cheating anymore. That's fine because divorce is troublesome. If they are not married yet, then why bother?
It is not wrong, when people are say "everybody makes mistakes". But it is just so convenient for her to drag everyone else that make the same mistakes as she did. why don't she compare to the people who didn't make the same mistakes as her. which is majority of the people living in this planet. Lulz
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What do you think about the decisions the confessors made in today’s episode? Would you have done the same? Let us know in the comments down below :)
A cheetah never changes it's spots, but I do believe in giving chances if i can feel the Cheetah's sincerity to change and that I truly love the Cheetah. 👍
on this issue of cheating, i have heard of many stories from people around me whom have been cheated on and one, who once cheated. i strongly believe that cheating is a choice and not just something that “oops i got drunk and we accidentally had sex”. cmon man, stop lying 🤥.
the act of cheating always come from a place where one doesn’t feel contented in the relationship, okay lah 90% of the time. so it might be issues like, not getting enough attention from your current partner, lack of communication, incompatibility in sex or values, trauma from the past or insecurities,
i mean the list goes on, you get it. the solution is honestly simple but sometimes hard to achieve, talk it out with them and get on the same page. try working through things before you do things that you regret. if it is beyond salvageable and both of you come to a consensus then just break up and move on.
ONLY THEN, if you wanna hoe around then by all means. don’t hurt someone whom you love or used to love, it will just be a haunting thought even if they do forgive you (which results in a lot of paranoia).
i do agree with both bolin and brenda as always and HI CAN WE JUST NOTE HOW CALM bolin has gotten from the start of the series to now. give that man a thumbs up!!
Oh no, I may be on the minority here but definitely not a hater, I dont know, I am torn because I think Brenda is not credible enough to give advice on serious relationship and deep sexual woes because she is NBSB (no boyfriend since birth) and she said her first experience of love in high school is puppy love which is even short lived. Some may badly translate her advice as "lacking strength and weight" because she has not been there yet personally, but I dont want to come off as mean to Brenda ok lah? but just saying an objective constructive criticism. More power to Brenda and Bolin
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"Sometimes the best way to know if you're truly sorry, is to lose someone". Damn Bolin that is so damn deep.
Bolin... that man has lived life.
his advice is just...wow. I get increasingly amazed with each episode.
Nah. You just didn’t live enough. 😂
You 10 years old
Cheating is a choice, not a mistake. PeriodT.
TSL should start their own company's counselling group with Bolin and Brenda. They have valuable advice for everything.
Counselling does not involve giving advice. In fact, its a big no no to give advice when trying to counsel someone. It is about giving clarity to someone and identifying emotions or issues that may be not be visible to the person
Valuable? Those advices are the bare minimum. 😂
The "Auntie Brenlin" column XD
@@damienlee927 ah ya as well as options
I dont know, I am torn because I think Brenda is not credible enough to give advice on serious relationship and deep sexual woes because she is NBSB (no boyfriend since birth) and she said her first experience of love in high school is puppy love which is even short lived.
I’m here to watch Brenda calm Bolin down again.
Last scenario is the girlfriend has misdirected anger. She is obviously vengeful but couldnt take it out on the boyfriend so she wants to get revenge on the girls he sext with. The only one responsible to protect your trust is your boyfriend, not random people off the streets he catcalls.
Honestly the best ZULA answers episode!! soo fkn juicy and i love it
All the confessions this week seems to emphasize the fact that while men are trash, girls are also seemingly very passionate at picking up trash lol
I like Brenda’s reaction in this! 😂
Same! Her reaction to the 2nd confession was ON POINT!!!👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Good to see a ever maturing take on things as this series continues, so good job, but you probably need to put a bigger disclaimer this is opinions, not advice
confession 2: dump the fwb, find a new one. sex is easy to find. love is not.
Brenda and Bolin were wise sages in their past lives
My friend husband cheated on her years back. She move back to her parent place, yet till now there’s still NO plan to get divorce. Currently, she openly dating other people and still frequently meet up with her husband to talk about some stuff (according to her). It’s feel twisted and wrong, but not sure how to bring this across because I don’t want to hurt my friend. Is this because like what Bolin shared, very a game with a lot of save file,items and memory that’s too painful to discard and start afresh.
Yall should do an episode bout "How do you know you are ready for a relationship?" hahahhaa
Here for my weekly consumption of Brenda’s and Bolin’s wisdom
bolin is truly a love guru
The 4th one is really
Fear
Anger
Hate
Suffering.
I understand what Bolin said when relationship is like a progress and you don't want to just 1 problem then delete the whole relationship. But I experience before is the person character can't changed and is a 6 years relationship. After a long term relationship I see no progress of her changing so I left her.
I like this series and the hosts Brenda and Bolin are good in giving advices haha
I would like to apologise to the 2 hosts, but particularly Mr Bolin for being rude in my previous comment.
I realised that I grossly underestimated the courage, conviction and moral clarity of Bolin and Brenda especially on this topic of sex.
Yes indeed. All of us are so broken sexually and I thank Bolin and Brenda for shedding some light on what are some boundaries we don't cross when it comes to sex and relationship.
Thank you so much.
bolin is wearing a new shirt and he looks dam handsome in this video for some reason😍😍
Pale colours, big flower prints, the Hampton style... finally eye-opening. Kudos.
Love this! Hope there will be part 2!
Y’all can be ‘happy’ in a rs but it can still be toxic 😮💨😮💨
hmm maybe toxic people are meant for each other?
imagine this: the world is filled with say 30% toxic people. if these 30% date non toxic people, then 30% of people will be suffering from toxic relationships … their mental health is likely to be affected and then sometimes with emotional attachment, they don’t want to leave… or they are afraid to leave since the other person is toxic…
now imagine the toxic people (30% of the population) date one another. they may be happy together (as you mentioned) as they are feeding each others’ toxic instincts/needs etc. well some may not be happy together due to so many possible reasons but wouldn’t this still be a better scenario than the first?
all I want to say is that toxic people exists and we can’t stop it. neither can we stop them from dating and getting into relationship. if toxic people are happy together then good lor. I don’t see anything wrong as long as they are happy together. maybe they may even stay together for life?
Curious - how many couples actually openly discuss the topic of “cheating”?
From my limited experience - I think not haha. How’s our SG couples be?!
Should let Jesslyn answer this
to the 4th confession, just learn to love yourself, know ur worth and leave. he will cheat again. assholes dont change
If both parties have to resort to cheating to stay happy, then why stay together? There are married couples living completely separate lives with mutual acceptance. In a way, it's not considered cheating anymore. That's fine because divorce is troublesome. If they are not married yet, then why bother?
good knowledgable video & infos....
shit i rly love hearing bolin talk abt these issues!!!!! moooooooore pleaaaaaaaaaase
It is not wrong, when people are say "everybody makes mistakes". But it is just so convenient for her to drag everyone else that make the same mistakes as she did.
why don't she compare to the people who didn't make the same mistakes as her. which is majority of the people living in this planet. Lulz
Cheaters will always be cheaters
Nice shirt by Bolin
Google form? where?
Hi! You can submit your confessions here bit.ly/ZULAAnswers!
Men even he don’t cheat on relationship there will be chance he will cheat on you after married
Got part 2 anot!
That's awkwardness... ...~
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10:36 hahahah
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For Confession 3:
There's many gay youtube channels out there that may touch on the topic of submission and dominance.
In @夫夫之道 FuFuKnows they did mention before that for some gay couples 1 & 0 may be switch but @
官方頻道小賴 did mention that he will ensure compatibility first before getting together. If you're not referring to 1/0, then there is also a possibility of being dominant in other areas of the r/s too, isn't it?