I have been married by a narcissist for 30 years but I had no clue. Life got so bad, I thought I could fix all the problems. It got to a point where I had to clean up and flush the toilet after him. At that point I felt so minimized! It’s been two weeks since I came across these videos and I now feel energized, I am in the process of detaching myself from him and he’s already throwing tantrums but I don’t care! I simply want my life back!
Left the narcissist 10 weeks ago! Blocked and went no contact, the only way to get out and stay out! Working on me so I can live my best life! A weight has been lifted from me and I'm at peace with me! Thanks for these videos, they help justify my decision to leave!🎉
I just want to say something about my situation, I never asked the narcissist in my life to help me with anything. He volunteered and had I’d known that his policy was you owe me, I never would have let him. So coming from experience don’t let someone say that they just want you to move forward with your life, help you financially and then stick a knife in your back the whole time they claim that they are just concerned about your welfare. BIGGEST BS I’ve ever heard 👍👍👍
You just described a needy woman to whom I was a friend - because she needed one. NO, she needed a slave, all you described, and more. I'm glad Andrew has opened my nieve eyes!
@@donnahalsted7718 I’ve been listening to Andrews videos for awhile and I find them very helpful also. Educating myself on narcissism has done more than open my eyes so I’m very grateful for all of the videos on TH-cam regarding this topic.
I had to laugh 😂 when I read your headline! Oh yeah! Drama Queen. Red carpet. Hollywood! The universe isn’t big enough for them and their ego. Thanks Andrew! Namaste!
Yes yes yes!!! That’s exactly right. AWSOME!! Feel your power. Give only what you want, when you want, or not at all. It’s your choice now, your power, you have rights. I remember this when I felt this. So cool!! And important too. Great to hear it Jennifer. .👏👏👏…………P.s. my father played the piano, I played the drums, my older brother played the base, and my mother sang along. 🎼 I did learn a song he had (choreographed?) made, that’s as far as I ever got. Always wanted to learn though. Glad you might be feeling better? I hope so. Naaaamasteeee😊❤️❤️🙏🙏
One of the biggest, largest tantrum that Narc threw at me was about this. I made the mistake of asking "why do I always have to get involved in your stuff?" Narc asked what did I mean, I said "Even when you call for a pizza, I have to get involved somehow. You order personal stuff, send it my way without telling me, and then disappear so I have to find you while the delivery guy is anxious to just get paid and leave". KABOOM.
Newbies, play this video over and over again. Write down notes and read every day for some time. A light 💡 bulb will come on, and you will begin your healing journey. The road is tough, but you will find your freedom and self-worth. You can do it ! I learned this information in the summer of 2022. It is never too late. I am in my seventh decade and making the tough journey. I study and write down notes to recall what applies to my journey with narcissts. I have found many answers listening to Andrew's Narcdaily. You CAN do it . Remember the child classic book, The Little Blue Engine That Could. I continue listening to Narcdaily daily. Very valuable information and tools are treasures for one's soul. ❤ 🙏 ❤
Yes, thank you. I try to record Andrew's lectures too. They are so up to the point to my life experience. Things are changing now. I am 50, just coming out from the fog. I am working hard, daily. It's good to start living my own life.
Yes, my narcissistic ex is lazy. He expects me to work two jobs while he spends 20 hours week on his low profit business, smokes pot, drinks beer and does sports with his brother. Lazy! Today I signed the divorce papers so I now longer have to support the lazy selfish entitled layabout!
In 14 yrs, he payed couple of coffees and we shared it ecually in first month. After that I payed all because he had excuses such as no time, forgot vallet or lost it. It ended with loaning money and stealing and financial froud. He took all with lies and stealing.
It's like you are describing my life. He had loads of debts when we met and I had a good job and real estate. After 20 years he is walking away in a good financial position and I'm worse off than when we met. Yes, he got me to start a business that failed. Almost lost all of my life-savings but managed to rebuild some security. I solved his 'problems' for years and worked like a slave. He appreciates nothing. The drama is something I refuse to participate in any more. It's still hard for me to accept the damage he did was intentional, after making excuses for him for so long. His family helped create his narcissism from childhood. Andrew, you are a great help to me and so many others, sending gratitude x❤😊
I managed to contact another ex of the Covert Narcissist. One of the big themes we noticed was his tendency to tell sob stories about his childhood to get sympathy and paint himself in a good light. It's one of the big cons they use to gain your trust and reel you in. I don't doubt he had some tough stuff to deal with, but so do a lot of people, and they don't feel the need to lie, manipulate, exploit and abuse others as a result.
one of your best videos for me Andrew, thanks so much, it is so hard, it is my son, and he just had a baby boy, so i am walking on eggs shell not to make him angry and loose the ‘right’ to see my grand son, i would love you to talk about a relation like me and him 🌹🇨🇦
Literally one ex of mine told me ' dont make your Problems my problems', after 1 year, in witch I was daily solving his Problems with his Business, his son, his issues. Only ONE time I needed his help, and then such a reaction. Couldnt believe what I hear. I went immediatly out of this Black hole.
They constantly need to unburden themselves, of negative emotions or any kind of responsibilities or accountability. That's the relief seeking they are always on the hunt for.
Another way they love to transfer their problems is spiritually. If you're an unassuming empath and willingly "feel" others' anxiety, narcissists instantly feel relieved and leave you in the dust, knowing how difficult it is to feel good/normal again after lowering your vibration to their nervousness. A decent person who needs help would never want you to lower your energy (or compromise your integrity/standards/happiness) to help them.
Every word of this is true. I lived it for five years until it got so bad that I put an end to it. It was not easy getting him out of my house and life, but with the help of my grown children and an advocate at the local rape and abuse crisis center, I was able to do it. Then I found this channel and you remind me every day that the narcissistic relationship is nothing but a sham. It was a year ago that I got him out of my life. He tried Hoovering, so I blocked any way that he could contact me. My son installed security cameras that showed him driving by and sitting in front of my house at times. I think he has now given up. I hope so.
Maybe my situational awareness is peaking but after Andrew said, " maybe you bought them a car"....you could hear tires squealing a get away. Some narc driving a car borrowed from a supply who hasnt learned yet..
You cannot show passivity or weakness when dealing with people. You shouldn’t be too nice either. Narcissists will sense it like a shark smelling blood. This country seems to be getting more narcissistic by the day. Stay safe people....
Well ya, or we can continue to be who we want as empaths, and learn the signs and better defend without disregarding everyone. People are very untrusting and unwilling to trust, but showing a lack of love from the jump may hinder someone else to receive it, and may want to feel allowed to trust and build that kind of relationship. This is what we are learning in our healing as well. We are learning not to change for others, but to defend by knowledge, and accept our boundaries are secure so that we don’t have to worry, and just love people, until we can’t love that individual any further.
The older they get the more they demand. They never change. Even the new supply can not keep up with their demands. They usually end up alone. Angry at the world. Because of course they never did anything wrong. And life wasn't fair.
Yes it’s absolutely truth. If you ask them for help with your own problems, the result is word salad or changing the topic to make it about them or if they do say they will help, it’s a LIE! They don’t help at all. Selfish to the core.
@@riel4553 I can imagine that conversation. Here is a scenario. The empath is at home recovering from a car accident. The narcissist is calling. The reason is not to check on the empath who he claims he loves and adores. The reason for the call is because he needs money to pay off his car since the repo company is threatening to take the car. His problem becomes the empath’s emergency. One of my favorite mantras in life is “Your problems are not my emergency. Go away and figure it out yourself.”
The Narcissist also believes that they are invincible!!! ……… until they experience a severe stroke…. Now they can’t speak, drive a vehicle hold a job and or physically beat their spouse etc. That’s what happened to my X narcissist spouse 😬🤷🏼♀️
I was expected to put the narcissists problems and concerns before my own, or those of my child. I was sacrificing my time, money health to keep the narcissists happy. But, “when you’re in it you can’t see it” because you are so beaten down. Not a moment to think and reflect on anything. Now I realize how important it is to take time, pause; reflect on how your life is progressing, and how your situation can be improved/changed. 😊❤
Absolutely right, Andrew. I thought, I can help this woman, I can fix her life, I can give her the life she deserves, after hearing her stories of how toxic her late husband was. Turns out she was the toxic partner. I now wonder if her toxicity played a role in his heart attack and passing at age 38. Fortunately for me, I said enough is enough and said no more and left the marriage. I wasn’t going to be her next victim.
...very interesting, though while it might be a bit macabre, I think you're probably right! As I've observed a narcissist sadly and seemingly induce a heart attack and sadly induced suicide in two different people! So ye, are they readily capable of what must be an immensely intricate process of "inducing" death? Wow! But ye, 38 is way too young! Probably a very wise move of yours! All the very best!
It's funny I was telling my friend, wish I was in my 30s I would set up a vetting business to vet the people one gets involved with fir a reasonable fee..we listen to people tell their story,forgetting there is a flip side to that story..the story off in this case, the dead husband, ,,sad !!!
Hey Andrew, I recommended your channel today to someone who has undergone narcissistic abuse for over 20 years and is having difficulty healing. Someone I know made the social media post basically saying they're tired of hearing the term narcissists everywhere, and that we're all jerks in someone's story, and that we need to not be judging and carrying labels. The women who undergone the abuse commented, and I joined in. Sad to say, that so many people can never understand who have not undergone it themselves.💯 Anyway, thanks for another great video. 💕and✨
@jesseanderson2309 I innerstand the person who posted it perspective, and they later said they were also in an abusive marriage a long time ago themselves. I just feel that saying it's judgemental and creating labels, is themselves judging others who may need to talk about it in order heal. I, myself, don't care for labeling people, yet, seeing the narcissist for who they are, is part of the healing process.
I would get text messages that started off “hi sunshine”. Towards the end of the “relationship” I did start to wonder if he called me that because he didn’t want to accidentally call me by the wrong name. Now I see he was most probably sending out a group text because they were those generic kinds of messages. Anyway, for anyone who is still hurting, it does get better. And you will find your own happiness. #narcissicistfree
And by the way, Before my X spouse told me before his crippling stroke…. He threatened to …… LET ME Go ……. Then he had a major, life crippling stroke 😔🤔🤦♀️
I was basically as if I was his mother. It has been a long time ago and I am still angry not at myself anymore but at him that he did that. I was honest and decent, hard working, caring and he used me.
Oh boy do they ever All you hear is their depressing b.s. 💩 A list as long as the LA phone book This is an EXCELLENT VIDEO AND SHOULD BE BROADCAST ALL OVER THE GLOBE
So fortunate that I didn't experience this. He studied me on social media, and he knew I was a high value woman. I truly believe after he hung out with me and saw how I live, traveling the world, lavish hotels, and a host of friends. He said I suffered from Oprah Syndrome and he didn't see why I needed him. Other than sex what could he offer me, was what I was told by him! Insecurity and the narcissist should be your next video! He started off as a cool, caring person and when that mask fell off! OMG
I have watched a number of Andrew’s videos each day. Every message is so on point, like this one. Andrew’s messages have helped me when I’m down and have helped me heal. In 4 days I will be 3 months narc free and I’m just beginning to feel like myself again. Those trauma bonds have nasty tentacles like an octopus trying to drag you back in. There is no way I’m going back to that living hell, no longer his minion or recipient of his childish dramas. Still trying to hoover…which gives me a new perspective of his methods behind my back. So glad I am out from under that churning turmoil he created and the false scenario of lies. Good bye jerk face! THANK YOU, Andrew! THANK YOU, God! ✝️🙏🏻🕊️☀️😎🦋💪🌸🌳🌎❤️
Just when I am starting to feel better I have received heavy hoovers with suggestions he may be coming out where I live. I STAND FIRM, I AM NOT GETTING SUCKED BACK INTO THAT LIVING HELL. I AM EDUCATED TO THAT GARBAGE ✝️🙏🏻☀️❤️💪
The narcissist takes over your entire life including your personality. Pretending to be you to everyone else and talking mud about you behind your back and when you finally snap, they point the finger at you and everyone thinks you are crazy cuz they have been imitating you to all their friends. Its so sick and twisted. They steal everything from you including your own personality. And you are left a shell.
This will nearly kill you. Your life ends, & it all revolves around them. You are in a job, not a relationship. A 24/27 job now. Your whole life will be to fulfill what the Narc. doesn't do. Daily chores, keeping a home running, keeping a job, taxiing them, supporting their every need. You become a slave, plain and simple. A slave working for free; that they do not have to admit exist's. This will nearly kill you. Lack of sleep, food, peace, & sanity. Take Andrews warnings. It's more evil than one can explain. They work on emotions, brainwashing, gaslighting, ghosting, manipulation, mind control, they take who you are away and recreate what they need out of you to add to the many they keep on their line to reach out and get what you do not have to give, because your too stressed out, over worked, completely broke, drained, not a shinning light any more.
Mine replaced me with a younger shiny light. Now I have a new light inside of me. No one can snuff out. No longer a slave, nice being a free spirit again.
Good evening everyone. Love you all. ❤️ You are all brave and strong. So, my narc would claim lies to me, then partake in those same things with others. I was being understanding of this thinking she was being nice to her relative or I thought she’s just trying to make a friend. So I didn’t push it. Then I wasn’t allowed to be happy, whatever it was. She liked a song, and once I listened to it and liked it, she was over it and didn’t all of A sudden. Same with food, or animals, or styles. If the animal and I got along, she didn’t want anything to do with it. If I liked a food, she would make it but then not eat it. Normal diners and food! She would make a stink about it like she didn’t like the texture. Made me feel gross for liking it. If I liked a style, she moved on from it. So abusive psychologically and emotionally by these subtle ways of hers. Hence I fell into the “ what do you want, I’ll do it” trap. I said all that to say this. She didn’t like me with a beard. I’m now growing a “ go T type beard “. I like it. It’s enhancing my facial features. Ok and hiding some wrinkles. Tbh lol it’s not permanent, but it’s the point I need to make. It’s mine, and I don’t care what she wants or wanted. Right? Have a good night, we are giants, we just need to uncover the truth. ❤️❤️🙏🙏 Namaste
@@Star-xe2fe Hi Star!! It’s wild huh? We saw it, recognized it, just couldn’t understand it. Thank you for that vote of confidence. I’m excited to see some evidence of healing as well. Star is a good name for you. You are a ⭐️. I’m encouraged by your caring comments. I wish you the best in your healing, and hope to connect with you again. 🌼❤️🙏🙏🙏🙏👍
@@Star-xe2fe Oh Tamar ok, I’m a little embarrassed, I don’t know how to see notifications. I did just turn them on for TH-cam. If there is something else, I would appreciate assistance. 🙏
@@Star-xe2fe It was actually connected to my email, so that’s how I’ve been reading replies. Lol thank you Star, your a GIANT! Hope to see your future comments and victories. 😀⭐️🙏
😄 Nice finish 🚂 train!!! Well this is quite accurate as I’m getting off work and peeling my shoes off and saying “amen! That’s right! The narcs are lazy!” I work for my life now. I don’t go to work for a narcissist to take and take and take what I’ve worked hard for. Don’t get me wrong, giving is a joy, but I’m learning to give to myself. Giving to myself what I have given to others. Education. Food. A place to live. Flowers (I try to buy myself flowers weekly) and TIME. That’s right. Sometimes I choose to say “no” to work opportunities to give myself time and refilling my cup. I don’t give a HOOT about what anyone else has to say about my choices - are THEY taking care of my expenses??? 🤔 😂 👎 nope. They aren’t. And I love that you pointed this out today Andrew. I am dealing with my life and I’m not responsible to take on someone else’s problems. Not that I was a huge financial resource for all the narcs, but I definitely supplied their black hole need for empathy. I think I’ll fill this night with me time. Thank YOU ANDREW ❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏
@@jennifernewton4637 hi Jennifer ❤️🤗❤️ I’m sooooo glad to hear you’re back to your passion 🎹 🥰 One day I’ll be listening to YOUR music while soaking in the tub on my Spotify maybe? I bet you’re an amazing musician.
This is literally what I have experienced with my brother, my mom, my neice, my ex, and a co- worker. Literally solved their million problems and wasted my time, energy and money and they never appreciated it and just stressed me out. Literally. This video spoke my life.💜💔
Having reached the pinnacle of indifference, there isn't a time I watch a video of yours and not think how glad I am not to have to deal with this anymore. The narcissist & their behaviors used to be an enigma to me. Couldn't understand it. Now it is all crystal clear. Thank you for all that you do to pay it forward 🙂. God's blessings to you 🙂
Well, I must be pretty strong then because I was the one who left all the narcissists who came into my life. I pray that I never meet any more narcissists in the future, I know that might not be possible. There are an abundance of them out there lurking around for supply. Unfortunately.
He hid all finances from me. He didn’t want anyone else to have the power. Now I’m paying his debts. He had big trust issues. No one else around here was lying to him but he didn’t believe other people. He missed so much of real life. His insecurity was massive.
Yes they do, But when you have a problem they dont seem to listen or care. But they expect you to be their therapist when they have a problem. I love the comment on the cockroach so true so funny.
Discarded in May after 12 years married to a Covert Monster 😈he immediately shacked up with his coworker. Cowards. Thanks Andrew, Standing strong in No contact although the divorce isn't even final
You know what his problem is he can't accept the truth😅. So now he's making it our problem. I'm just so glad that I have the knowledge and The Awakening to deal with such a situation now. My only recourse and solution is to keep moving forward for myself and my daughter. Thank you God😊.
I finally understood why some people thankfully celebrate some people's death days. She will be celebrated, every year, full heartedly and souful too. The world will sigh with relief and delight come that day, come that night.
Every adult must deal with their problems on their own. The narcisists’ problems which they create on a daily basis are their problem. Full stop. Thank you Andrew. God bless you❤
I was about to say no, but just today I thought that to myself. “ hey, I think I feel normal again.” Maybe a fleeting moment, but a fleeting moment counts doesn’t it? Well sure be wiser and more careful now for sure. Plus value ourselves, and decide to be the loving people we choose to be. So there’s all those nice things that are normal, but deeper in meaning. An enhanced normal I think. So yah I think so ! 😃🎉👍
Your spot on about that one. Me and my daughter are going through it right now because he has a problem that my daughter won't criticize me with him. Absolutely absurd. So now he has cut her off from giving her child support. He literally said he is done with them. Not her, them. He is mad at me so he's taking it out on her. And thinking that's hurting me. But it's not. I don't give a fuuf. But He's and It's hurting my daughter😢 he's a very mean and spiteful man. I'm still going to take care of my daughter. With or without him. No matter what.😅.
I thought I was strange in my narc relationship. He asked me to put his name on my house. No! You have your house, I have mine! Power struggles struggle at all times, I was suppose to do everything his way at his time. It was very trying to say the least. So many times I had to reminded him: “My father is dead! You’re not it”. He was relentless. Yes! Evil exists. It has been months and I’m still exhausted. I’m grateful and happy those years ended. Growing pain. I had to go though what I had to go though to get where I’m going. Peace is priceless! Thank You Andrew🙏 I stumbled on your videos, there is no such thing as coincidence. That is God works in mysterious way. Stay Strong my Brothers and Sisters. Namaste 🙏
This is the smallest living being my narc missed. This was Brother Bird who was a stellar Jay and stole my heart. He followed me and showed me birds are mathematical by testing me to repeat the number of chirps he sang. When I got it right he reduced the number-if I messed up he started over. This went on for a couple of days. He labeled me ultimately a “2” for the two chirps I got whenever he saw me. “1’s” are familiars and I was one until brother saw me with my dog and gave us the final number. He showed me the wonder of loving a wild animal, in his territory and in his style of affection, for years. He was faithful and funny. Forever in your debt, Brother Bird. 💙🌹
I AM NOT THE PROBLEM!! I have to keep reminding myself . I was just thinking to myself today the narcissist wants me to feel like I’m everyone’s problem . She would tell me my co workers thought I was racist to drive a wedge between me and them now I know it was a lie . The narcissist told me so many lies about people so I would not interact with them anymore..I was always there to help her with her problems she would always vent to me and I would always help no matter what . Your right Andrew she never gave me any credit for helping. There was just always another problem to solve . It was always some drama
Yes Andrew i had to have superpower to handle all that works,problems,needs .It is a breaking point when my body started to be weak ,my spirit was almost broken i was pushing myself to do more ,to be the best version not formyself no matter what .That is not right path it was all i know back then it was a race against me ,trying to save what wasnt good while i was worse
Thank you, Andrew this should be labeled a punishable sickness. I say punishable because some of them know full well what they're doing. I have 2 sisters, one younger, and one older. Both within 3 years of me. They tried to take everything. Manipulated 4 generations and affected the following 5th. I avoided jail time because I chose to consult with a higher power at a young age. What you're saying here, you're telling my story. We all need people. We're here to help not hurt. Single digit age I played/ worked the electricity; that's why I pray. Once it's done you cannot undo it, regardless of the reason.
Hello Andrew, I completely agree with this video. In the past the narcissists just manufactured problems for me to put out regularly. Always a crisis or a need they claimed they didn't want to bother you for which becomes a pattern. I realised that it was just a distraction to block me from my own life goals and socially. By the end of the day you're worn out putting out their fires and start cancelling your own commitments and self care for them. They continuously create problems because they lack social responsibility and don't care about others. The minute they see that you're focusing on yourself finally, you now become the worst person on the planet. Now it's time for revenge against you because you didn't take on their many problems. All the good things you did for them are forgotten and it's now your problem you helped them. They don't care about people's well-being. I'm so done with these individuals and their shenanigans. Just stay clear of them and let them experience natural consequences for their actions. Peace and light.🦅
So true there problem is your problem and always creating drama..that's my ex narc..1year no contact, now I'm in happy and peaceful life thanks Andrew have a great day!😊
I have been feeling overwhelmed lately, but I am still healing. I feel like I have agoraphobia or something since encountering the narc. I adopted a kitten and it is so loving I am almost overwhelmed haha. Just trying to hang in and always look forward to Andrew's videos. Let us stay strong and not give up on love and light.
Ohhh! Kittens are adorable. Have fun and congrats 🎉🎈 one of my used to wait for me to move my foot under the blanket the attack. Lol! Good thing he outgrown that stage
You are so right, the narc waited for me to take care of everything. If something broke in the house he expected me to call someone to fix it. I had to take care of every detail. Yes I was the slave.😢😢😢😢The good thing is that I wised up and fed up, I left, now I am healing, I am taking care of me. I am number one, second, and third.
After his stroke: I left him to his children…….. that I raised FOR him 🗡🌈💕🤷🏼♀️
A relationship built on sand, and filled with lies and betrayal on a monumental scale. How they live with themselves god only knows .
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Their life is misery and they will end alone withouth anybody it is a fact .
@@lauraantic1384yes I saw this it's TRUTH ✨
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Don’t forget that ALL their bad behavior became your problem. That’s the biggie!!
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100% accurate. And then blame you for not being able to handle it all
He was ALWAYS playing the victim. I could be bleeding to death & he couldn't be bothered. He never heard me!
Love you, Andrew!
They were my step children. I had no children of my own but raised his …………🙏🏼
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U’ve come 2 the right place 2 find healing! ❤
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WE ARE THE EMPATHS AND THIS IS OUR FORUM.
I have been married by a narcissist for 30 years but I had no clue. Life got so bad, I thought I could fix all the problems. It got to a point where I had to clean up and flush the toilet after him. At that point I felt so minimized! It’s been two weeks since I came across these videos and I now feel energized, I am in the process of detaching myself from him and he’s already throwing tantrums but I don’t care! I simply want my life back!
I hear you and understand,blessings and much love and encouragement sent to you🌻🧘✨❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🌟
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Mine was like that. I won't go into detail about his toilet mishaps, but boy it got old.
I'm right there with you. 32 years now.
You take care of YOU. Many prayers and encouragement are coming your way...🙏🙏❤️💞💪
Left the narcissist 10 weeks ago! Blocked and went no contact, the only way to get out and stay out! Working on me so I can live my best life! A weight has been lifted from me and I'm at peace with me! Thanks for these videos, they help justify my decision to leave!🎉
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Welcome to the community Linda. Life gets better. 🌺💪🦅😊
I left my narc years ago. It's amazing how much better you can eat & sleep. 👍🌷🫠🖐
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I just want to say something about my situation, I never asked the narcissist in my life to help me with anything. He volunteered and had I’d known that his policy was you owe me, I never would have let him. So coming from experience don’t let someone say that they just want you to move forward with your life, help you financially and then stick a knife in your back the whole time they claim that they are just concerned about your welfare. BIGGEST BS I’ve ever heard 👍👍👍
@@catherinefry49 yes and too bad I didn’t see the sea of red flags with this dude🤨
You just described a needy woman to whom I was a friend - because she needed one. NO, she needed a slave, all you described, and more. I'm glad Andrew has opened my nieve eyes!
@@donnahalsted7718 I’ve been listening to Andrews videos for awhile and I find them very helpful also. Educating myself on narcissism has done more than open my eyes so I’m very grateful for all of the videos on TH-cam regarding this topic.
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I had to laugh 😂 when I read your headline! Oh yeah! Drama Queen. Red carpet. Hollywood! The universe isn’t big enough for them and their ego. Thanks Andrew! Namaste!
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They only want your MEAT- Money, Energy, Attention, Time (negative or positive) DONT Share Your meat folks!!!!
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Emotional vampires! 🧛♂️
MY time, MY money, MY love, MY empathy, and ALL my other resources are MINE! Great video today, thank you, Andrew!⏳💰❤😇 💪💪😁💯🎯☝️☝️☝️
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Yes yes yes!!! That’s exactly right. AWSOME!! Feel your power. Give only what you want, when you want, or not at all. It’s your choice now, your power, you have rights. I remember this when I felt this. So cool!! And important too. Great to hear it Jennifer. .👏👏👏…………P.s. my father played the piano, I played the drums, my older brother played the base, and my mother sang along. 🎼 I did learn a song he had (choreographed?) made, that’s as far as I ever got. Always wanted to learn though.
Glad you might be feeling better? I hope so. Naaaamasteeee😊❤️❤️🙏🙏
Happy healing everyone .❤
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Extremely great topic. It's called splitting. Do you ever talk about splitting? All their problems become yours.
@@catherinefry49 I believe that you'll find it's a npd trait as well.
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PS..side note even when there is consiquences to their Behavior,they Never learn by it,,it's never their fault,, there just sorry they got caught,,!!😊
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlonesome of them are utterly Criminal, living on the edge,,🧘🌟❤️
One of the biggest, largest tantrum that Narc threw at me was about this. I made the mistake of asking "why do I always have to get involved in your stuff?" Narc asked what did I mean, I said "Even when you call for a pizza, I have to get involved somehow. You order personal stuff, send it my way without telling me, and then disappear so I have to find you while the delivery guy is anxious to just get paid and leave".
KABOOM.
I understand what you are saying.
Yes it resonates with me I know ❤️❤️❤️❤️👍
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GOTCHA MOMENT. 😮 YOU WERE NEVER DUMB,my hubby same thing,why am I paying for YOUR financial mistakes? AMAZING 😮!!!
Newbies, play this video over and over again. Write down notes and read every day for some time. A light 💡 bulb will come on, and you will begin your healing journey. The road is tough, but you will find your freedom and self-worth. You can do it
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I learned this information in the summer of 2022. It is never too late. I am in my seventh decade and making the tough journey. I study and write down notes to recall what applies to my journey with narcissts. I have found many answers listening to Andrew's Narcdaily. You CAN do it . Remember the child classic book, The Little Blue Engine That Could.
I continue listening to Narcdaily daily. Very valuable information and tools are treasures for one's soul. ❤ 🙏 ❤
To where you will see a light at the end of the tunnel, and it is not a train.! 🌻
Yes, thank you. I try to record Andrew's lectures too. They are so up to the point to my life experience. Things are changing now. I am 50, just coming out from the fog. I am working hard, daily. It's good to start living my own life.
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NEWBEES NEED TO LEARN THIS IN HIGHSCHOOL,EVEN AT HOME FIRST..
So many are waking up late,when their best years are gone, ,waking up non the less.better than never 😮
Narcissists run their game like their lives depend on it, because they do.
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Truth 🙏
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At the top of the mountain:
Wish them well, a good life.
Goodbye.
Enjoy yourself.
You took advantage of me.
You manipulated me.
But no longer 🎉
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My silent treatments lasted up to 9 days 😔😬🤷🏼♀️🤦♀️🗡
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Mine was 6 weeks!
Yes, my narcissistic ex is lazy. He expects me to work two jobs while he spends 20 hours week on his low profit business, smokes pot, drinks beer and does sports with his brother. Lazy! Today I signed the divorce papers so I now longer have to support the lazy selfish entitled layabout!
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Lovely good for you,,there totally Disfunctional,,save yourself from further harm,❤️❤️❤️❤️✨🙏🙏
In 14 yrs, he payed couple of coffees and we shared it ecually in first month. After that I payed all because he had excuses such as no time, forgot vallet or lost it. It ended with loaning money and stealing and financial froud. He took all with lies and stealing.
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Horrible person he is!
It's like you are describing my life. He had loads of debts when we met and I had a good job and real estate. After 20 years he is walking away in a good financial position and I'm worse off than when we met. Yes, he got me to start a business that failed. Almost lost all of my life-savings but managed to rebuild some security. I solved his 'problems' for years and worked like a slave. He appreciates nothing. The drama is something I refuse to participate in any more. It's still hard for me to accept the damage he did was intentional, after making excuses for him for so long. His family helped create his narcissism from childhood. Andrew, you are a great help to me and so many others, sending gratitude x❤😊
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I managed to contact another ex of the Covert Narcissist. One of the big themes we noticed was his tendency to tell sob stories about his childhood to get sympathy and paint himself in a good light. It's one of the big cons they use to gain your trust and reel you in. I don't doubt he had some tough stuff to deal with, but so do a lot of people, and they don't feel the need to lie, manipulate, exploit and abuse others as a result.
Yes the Victim mentality,they know what works,,on people,,behind the mask they are vile,
one of your best videos for me Andrew, thanks so much, it is so hard, it is my son, and he just had a baby boy, so i am walking on eggs shell not to make him angry and loose the ‘right’ to see my grand son, i would love you to talk about a relation like me and him 🌹🇨🇦
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Literally one ex of mine told me ' dont make your Problems my problems', after 1 year, in witch I was daily solving his Problems with his Business, his son, his issues.
Only ONE time I needed his help, and then such a reaction. Couldnt believe what I hear. I went immediatly out of this Black hole.
They constantly need to unburden themselves, of negative emotions or any kind of responsibilities or accountability. That's the relief seeking they are always on the hunt for.
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Another way they love to transfer their problems is spiritually. If you're an unassuming empath and willingly "feel" others' anxiety, narcissists instantly feel relieved and leave you in the dust, knowing how difficult it is to feel good/normal again after lowering your vibration to their nervousness.
A decent person who needs help would never want you to lower your energy (or compromise your integrity/standards/happiness) to help them.
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Absolutely TRUE 💯❤
Well thought out and simply said. When it's real, it's simply so.
Every word of this is true. I lived it for five years until it got so bad that I put an end to it. It was not easy getting him out of my house and life, but with the help of my grown children and an advocate at the local rape and abuse crisis center, I was able to do it. Then I found this channel and you remind me every day that the narcissistic relationship is nothing but a sham. It was a year ago that I got him out of my life. He tried Hoovering, so I blocked any way that he could contact me. My son installed security cameras that showed him driving by and sitting in front of my house at times. I think he has now given up. I hope so.
I'm so glad you got away from that. Stay safe.
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So glad you moved on!
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A sham is a perfect word. Glad you’re safe now
That's pretty extreme stalking, especially sitting outside your house. Hopefully he's good and gone.
Maybe my situational awareness is peaking but after Andrew said, " maybe you bought them a car"....you could hear tires squealing a get away. Some narc driving a car borrowed from a supply who hasnt learned yet..
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You cannot show passivity or weakness when dealing with people. You shouldn’t be too nice either. Narcissists will sense it like a shark smelling blood. This country seems to be getting more narcissistic by the day.
Stay safe people....
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Well ya, or we can continue to be who we want as empaths, and learn the signs and better defend without disregarding everyone. People are very untrusting and unwilling to trust, but showing a lack of love from the jump may hinder someone else to receive it, and may want to feel allowed to trust and build that kind of relationship. This is what we are learning in our healing as well. We are learning not to change for others, but to defend by knowledge, and accept our boundaries are secure so that we don’t have to worry, and just love people, until we can’t love that individual any further.
The older they get the more they demand.
They never change.
Even the new supply can not keep up with their demands.
They usually end up alone. Angry at the world.
Because of course they never did anything wrong.
And life wasn't fair.
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The truth!!!
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Yes they end up alone and worse👍❤️✨
Thank you for helping people!❤🎉❤
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Narcs like to order you to do things to help their lives...
having NO CONCERN how it may affect yours!
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Yes it’s absolutely truth.
If you ask them for help with your own problems, the result is word salad or changing the topic to make it about them or if they do say they will help, it’s a LIE! They don’t help at all.
Selfish to the core.
You're not overworked, I AM!
You're not sick, I AM!
Something like that?
Yes yes yes. And competition like wording always.
@@riel4553 I can imagine that conversation.
Here is a scenario. The empath is at home recovering from a car accident. The narcissist is calling. The reason is not to check on the empath who he claims he loves and adores. The reason for the call is because he needs money to pay off his car since the repo company is threatening to take the car. His problem becomes the empath’s emergency.
One of my favorite mantras in life is “Your problems are not my emergency. Go away and figure it out yourself.”
@@gratefultobehere Hi Chelsea. It’s always nice to hear from you. I hope you are doing well. I agree with you. 🌺🕊️💪🦅😊
@@NikkiGRocks4Ever blessings to you Nikki 💞 I enjoy reading your comments and connecting with you too. I’m good. 🙏
You helped me big time. I was close to moving in with my covert narc friend that I’ve known for 5 years.
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Don't do it stay far as possible
The Narcissist also believes that they are invincible!!! ……… until they experience a severe stroke…. Now they can’t speak, drive a vehicle hold a job and or physically beat their spouse etc. That’s what happened to my X narcissist spouse 😬🤷🏼♀️
Another top 10 vid from Andrew. This is so on target.
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I paid his late Dr bill while I was doing without medical care... boy, was I niave or what? Not anymore. TY, Andrew. 😊
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Yep and yep always a problem needing money! You can’t fix people or their problems period. Thank God I’m off that crazy train.
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I was expected to put the narcissists problems and concerns before my own, or those of my child. I was sacrificing my time, money health to keep the narcissists happy. But, “when you’re in it you can’t see it” because you are so beaten down. Not a moment to think and reflect on anything. Now I realize how important it is to take time, pause; reflect on how your life is progressing, and how your situation can be improved/changed. 😊❤
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That's my life 😳
Absolutely right, Andrew. I thought, I can help this woman, I can fix her life, I can give her the life she deserves, after hearing her stories of how toxic her late husband was. Turns out she was the toxic partner. I now wonder if her toxicity played a role in his heart attack and passing at age 38. Fortunately for me, I said enough is enough and said no more and left the marriage. I wasn’t going to be her next victim.
...very interesting, though while it might be a bit macabre, I think you're probably right! As I've observed a narcissist sadly and seemingly induce a heart attack and sadly induced suicide in two different people! So ye, are they readily capable of what must be an immensely intricate process of "inducing" death? Wow! But ye, 38 is way too young! Probably a very wise move of yours! All the very best!
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The first wife of my last ex had a stroke in her 20ths. The second wife ran away with another guy.
Beware of: I am the victim stories in every relationships. Run for the hill, don’t look back
It's funny I was telling my friend, wish I was in my 30s I would set up a vetting business to vet the people one gets involved with fir a reasonable fee..we listen to people tell their story,forgetting there is a flip side to that story..the story off in this case, the dead husband, ,,sad !!!
💯 and they always cost time and money. They don't do anything to improve their lives or situation on their own.
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Fuck that is exactly right
PROBLEMS……WHOOOO HOOOOO!!! Not. 😉😉😉
💪👎 no more. Not going down that road to Destructionsville again (is that how it’s spelled?) 😂
@@gratefultobehere yaaaaasssss!! 😜
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Hey Andrew, I recommended your channel today to someone who has undergone narcissistic abuse for over 20 years and is having difficulty healing. Someone I know made the social media post basically saying they're tired of hearing the term narcissists everywhere, and that we're all jerks in someone's story, and that we need to not be judging and carrying labels. The women who undergone the abuse commented, and I joined in. Sad to say, that so many people can never understand who have not undergone it themselves.💯 Anyway, thanks for another great video. 💕and✨
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Hi Sherry, I hope your friend joins us. How are you? Take care of yourself, and it's always good to see you. 🌷🌞🖐👍😀
@jesseanderson2309 I innerstand the person who posted it perspective, and they later said they were also in an abusive marriage a long time ago themselves. I just feel that saying it's judgemental and creating labels, is themselves judging others who may need to talk about it in order heal. I, myself, don't care for labeling people, yet, seeing the narcissist for who they are, is part of the healing process.
@jesseanderson2309yes ur so Right 👍
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone you're welcome.
He created the troubles I solved. Them but he took all the credit.
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I would get text messages that started off “hi sunshine”. Towards the end of the “relationship” I did start to wonder if he called me that because he didn’t want to accidentally call me by the wrong name. Now I see he was most probably sending out a group text because they were those generic kinds of messages. Anyway, for anyone who is still hurting, it does get better. And you will find your own happiness. #narcissicistfree
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And by the way, Before my X spouse told me before his crippling stroke…. He threatened to …… LET ME Go ……. Then he had a major, life crippling stroke 😔🤔🤦♀️
I was basically as if I was his mother. It has been a long time ago and I am still angry not at myself anymore but at him that he did that. I was honest and decent, hard working, caring and he used me.
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Oh boy do they ever
All you hear is their depressing b.s. 💩
A list as long as the LA phone book
This is an EXCELLENT VIDEO AND SHOULD BE BROADCAST ALL OVER THE GLOBE
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone and it's planned out as long as it can be ..as long as they can string you along
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So fortunate that I didn't experience this. He studied me on social media, and he knew I was a high value woman. I truly believe after he hung out with me and saw how I live, traveling the world, lavish hotels, and a host of friends. He said I suffered from Oprah Syndrome and he didn't see why I needed him. Other than sex what could he offer me, was what I was told by him! Insecurity and the narcissist should be your next video!
He started off as a cool, caring person and when that mask fell off! OMG
Mine complained that I did not need him sometimes either! What a crock!
My indipendance,caused him grief,,and envy😂
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Tell us why have us hanging. What happened and how did you get rid of him?
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I have watched a number of Andrew’s videos each day. Every message is so on point, like this one. Andrew’s messages have helped me when I’m down and have helped me heal. In 4 days I will be 3 months narc free and I’m just beginning to feel like myself again. Those trauma bonds have nasty tentacles like an octopus trying to drag you back in. There is no way I’m going back to that living hell, no longer his minion or recipient of his childish dramas. Still trying to hoover…which gives me a new perspective of his methods behind my back. So glad I am out from under that churning turmoil he created and the false scenario of lies. Good bye jerk face! THANK YOU, Andrew! THANK YOU, God!
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Just when I am starting to feel better I have received heavy hoovers with suggestions he may be coming out where I live. I STAND FIRM, I AM NOT GETTING SUCKED BACK INTO THAT LIVING HELL. I AM EDUCATED TO THAT GARBAGE ✝️🙏🏻☀️❤️💪
Keep going Andrew 💪
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The narcissist takes over your entire life including your personality. Pretending to be you to everyone else and talking mud about you behind your back and when you finally snap, they point the finger at you and everyone thinks you are crazy cuz they have been imitating you to all their friends. Its so sick and twisted. They steal everything from you including your own personality. And you are left a shell.
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This will nearly kill you. Your life ends, & it all revolves around them. You are in a job, not a relationship. A 24/27 job now. Your whole life will be to fulfill what the Narc. doesn't do. Daily chores, keeping a home running, keeping a job, taxiing them, supporting their every need. You become a slave, plain and simple. A slave working for free; that they do not have to admit exist's. This will nearly kill you. Lack of sleep, food, peace, & sanity. Take Andrews warnings. It's more evil than one can explain. They work on emotions, brainwashing, gaslighting, ghosting, manipulation, mind control, they take who you are away and recreate what they need out of you to add to the many they keep on their line to reach out and get what you do not have to give, because your too stressed out, over worked, completely broke, drained, not a shinning light any more.
Mine replaced me with a younger shiny light.
Now I have a new light inside of me.
No one can snuff out.
No longer a slave, nice being a free spirit again.
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❤️ job not a relationship 👍🏻 so true!
Tracking this completely!
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So true
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Guten Morgen, genau 👍Andrew das ist sooo typisch für Narcissten 👍 Liebe Grüße aus Deutschland Daniela "Perez
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone DANKESCHÖN ❤👍🙏🙂
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Vielen Dank Andrew 🙂👍❤❣
Thank you, Andrew! Every word you said hits home. This is exactly it. Your videos helps the fog to lift.
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No contact 4 Life is the best solution 🙌💯🔥
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Yes!!!
Good evening everyone. Love you all. ❤️ You are all brave and strong.
So, my narc would claim lies to me, then partake in those same things with others. I was being understanding of this thinking she was being nice to her relative or I thought she’s just trying to make a friend. So I didn’t push it.
Then I wasn’t allowed to be happy, whatever it was. She liked a song, and once I listened to it and liked it, she was over it and didn’t all of A sudden. Same with food, or animals, or styles. If the animal and I got along, she didn’t want anything to do with it. If I liked a food, she would make it but then not eat it. Normal diners and food! She would make a stink about it like she didn’t like the texture. Made me feel gross for liking it. If I liked a style, she moved on from it. So abusive psychologically and emotionally by these subtle ways of hers. Hence I fell into the “ what do you want, I’ll do it” trap.
I said all that to say this. She didn’t like me with a beard. I’m now growing a “ go T type beard “. I like it. It’s enhancing my facial features. Ok and hiding some wrinkles. Tbh lol it’s not permanent, but it’s the point I need to make. It’s mine, and I don’t care what she wants or wanted. Right?
Have a good night, we are giants, we just need to uncover the truth. ❤️❤️🙏🙏 Namaste
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@@Star-xe2fe Hi Star!! It’s wild huh? We saw it, recognized it, just couldn’t understand it. Thank you for that vote of confidence. I’m excited to see some evidence of healing as well. Star is a good name for you. You are a ⭐️. I’m encouraged by your caring comments. I wish you the best in your healing, and hope to connect with you again. 🌼❤️🙏🙏🙏🙏👍
@@Star-xe2fe Oh Tamar ok, I’m a little embarrassed, I don’t know how to see notifications. I did just turn them on for TH-cam. If there is something else, I would appreciate assistance. 🙏
Just FYI, I have been getting the notifications from Tamar. All is well. Thank you.
@@Star-xe2fe It was actually connected to my email, so that’s how I’ve been reading replies. Lol thank you Star, your a GIANT! Hope to see your future comments and victories. 😀⭐️🙏
😄 Nice finish 🚂 train!!!
Well this is quite accurate as I’m getting off work and peeling my shoes off and saying “amen! That’s right! The narcs are lazy!” I work for my life now. I don’t go to work for a narcissist to take and take and take what I’ve worked hard for. Don’t get me wrong, giving is a joy, but I’m learning to give to myself. Giving to myself what I have given to others. Education. Food. A place to live. Flowers (I try to buy myself flowers weekly) and TIME. That’s right. Sometimes I choose to say “no” to work opportunities to give myself time and refilling my cup. I don’t give a HOOT about what anyone else has to say about my choices - are THEY taking care of my expenses??? 🤔 😂 👎 nope. They aren’t. And I love that you pointed this out today Andrew. I am dealing with my life and I’m not responsible to take on someone else’s problems. Not that I was a huge financial resource for all the narcs, but I definitely supplied their black hole need for empathy.
I think I’ll fill this night with me time. Thank YOU ANDREW ❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏
Chelsea, heeyy!!🖐🌞🌷🫨🫠🌺
Hey Chelsea and Jann! 🙌🙌🤗❤️🤗❤️🤗 😛 had a piano lesson today… missed several weeks in there due to doctors appointments, but back on track!
@@jannlewandowski5540 hi Jann 😊 how are you this evening? ✨💖🙏
@@jennifernewton4637 hi Jennifer ❤️🤗❤️ I’m sooooo glad to hear you’re back to your passion 🎹 🥰
One day I’ll be listening to YOUR music while soaking in the tub on my Spotify maybe? I bet you’re an amazing musician.
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This is literally what I have experienced with my brother, my mom, my neice, my ex, and a co- worker. Literally solved their million problems and wasted my time, energy and money and they never appreciated it and just stressed me out. Literally. This video spoke my life.💜💔
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Having reached the pinnacle of indifference, there isn't a time I watch a video of yours and not think how glad I am not to have to deal with this anymore. The narcissist & their behaviors used to be an enigma to me. Couldn't understand it. Now it is all crystal clear. Thank you for all that you do to pay it forward 🙂. God's blessings to you 🙂
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They tie their life decisions to your life! A safety net!
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Well, I must be pretty strong then because I was the one who left all the narcissists who came into my life. I pray that I never meet any more narcissists in the future, I know that might not be possible. There are an abundance of them out there lurking around for supply. Unfortunately.
Darn that’s right on, especially when you said your empathy can be weaponized against you. That was a home run.
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Everything can be weaponized in such relationship removing myself was challenging but Im thankful I did years ago what a relief
He hid all finances from me. He didn’t want anyone else to have the power. Now I’m paying his debts. He had big trust issues. No one else around here was lying to him but he didn’t believe other people. He missed so much of real life. His insecurity was massive.
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You don’t have to pay for debts that are not in your name
Boy, is that completely true? Yes. The covert narcissist woman expects you to improve their life regardless of the effect on you.
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They want a meal ticket, a place to crash and vacations paid for and then to be single and do whatever they want.
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Yes they do, But when you have a problem they dont seem to listen or care. But they expect you to be their therapist when they have a problem. I love the comment on the cockroach so true so funny.
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I had to see this one I love the title.
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Great video Andrew!
Wishing everyone clarity and peace.
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You get the narcissist!! Once you start solving their problems, they will use you to solve ‘em all. Next thing you know, you’re up a creek.
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Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom,it has been very helpful to me and many many others Im certain.
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Discarded in May after 12 years married to a Covert Monster 😈he immediately shacked up with his coworker.
Cowards.
Thanks Andrew, Standing strong in No contact although the divorce isn't even final
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You know what his problem is he can't accept the truth😅. So now he's making it our problem. I'm just so glad that I have the knowledge and The Awakening to deal with such a situation now. My only recourse and solution is to keep moving forward for myself and my daughter. Thank you God😊.
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You help, counsel, advise and listen for months and years and all you will ever get is discarded and shat on. It beggars belief. Peace 💕
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I finally understood why some people thankfully celebrate some people's death days. She will be celebrated, every year, full heartedly and souful too.
The world will sigh with relief and delight come that day, come that night.
Every adult must deal with their problems on their own. The narcisists’ problems which they create on a daily basis are their problem. Full stop. Thank you Andrew. God bless you❤
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Great video lol🚂🙏💕
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Sounds about right. Will we ever be normal again?
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I hope so...I'm trying!!!
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I was about to say no, but just today I thought that to myself. “ hey, I think I feel normal again.” Maybe a fleeting moment, but a fleeting moment counts doesn’t it? Well sure be wiser and more careful now for sure. Plus value ourselves, and decide to be the loving people we choose to be. So there’s all those nice things that are normal, but deeper in meaning. An enhanced normal I think. So yah I think so ! 😃🎉👍
I needed to hear this today. ❤ Soul Brother.
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Your spot on about that one. Me and my daughter are going through it right now because he has a problem that my daughter won't criticize me with him. Absolutely absurd. So now he has cut her off from giving her child support. He literally said he is done with them. Not her, them. He is mad at me so he's taking it out on her. And thinking that's hurting me. But it's not. I don't give a fuuf. But He's and It's hurting my daughter😢 he's a very mean and spiteful man. I'm still going to take care of my daughter. With or without him. No matter what.😅.
I thought I was strange in my narc relationship. He asked me to put his name on my house. No! You have your house, I have mine! Power struggles struggle at all times, I was suppose to do everything his way at his time. It was very trying to say the least. So many times I had to reminded him: “My father is dead! You’re not it”. He was relentless. Yes! Evil exists. It has been months and I’m still exhausted. I’m grateful and happy those years ended. Growing pain. I had to go though what I had to go though to get where I’m going. Peace is priceless!
Thank You Andrew🙏 I stumbled on your videos, there is no such thing as coincidence. That is God works in mysterious way. Stay Strong my Brothers and Sisters. Namaste 🙏
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It happened to me.I realized so late. Thanks Andrew.
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Awesome 😎 the train made me smile you beat the train ❤
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This is the smallest living being my narc missed. This was Brother Bird who was a stellar Jay and stole my heart. He followed me and showed me birds are mathematical by testing me to repeat the number of chirps he sang. When I got it right he reduced the number-if I messed up he started over. This went on for a couple of days. He labeled me ultimately a “2” for the two chirps I got whenever he saw me. “1’s” are familiars and I was one until brother saw me with my dog and gave us the final number. He showed me the wonder of loving a wild animal, in his territory and in his style of affection, for years. He was faithful and funny. Forever in your debt, Brother Bird. 💙🌹
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My husband didn’t speak to me very often but “my” bird always did. A tiny real heart showed friendship better than a large one made of stone.
I AM NOT THE PROBLEM!! I have to keep reminding myself . I was just thinking to myself today the narcissist wants me to feel like I’m everyone’s problem . She would tell me my co workers thought I was racist to drive a wedge between me and them now I know it was a lie . The narcissist told me so many lies about people so I would not interact with them anymore..I was always there to help her with her problems she would always vent to me and I would always help no matter what . Your right Andrew she never gave me any credit for helping. There was just always another problem to solve . It was always some drama
Yes Andrew i had to have superpower to handle all that works,problems,needs .It is a breaking point when my body started to be weak ,my spirit was almost broken i was pushing myself to do more ,to be the best version not formyself no matter what .That is not right path it was all i know back then it was a race against me ,trying to save what wasnt good while i was worse
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Thank you, Andrew this should be labeled a punishable sickness. I say punishable because some of them know full well what they're doing. I have 2 sisters, one younger, and one older. Both within 3 years of me. They tried to take everything. Manipulated 4 generations and affected the following 5th. I avoided jail time because I chose to consult with a higher power at a young age. What you're saying here, you're telling my story. We all need people. We're here to help not hurt. Single digit age I played/ worked the electricity; that's why I pray. Once it's done you cannot undo it, regardless of the reason.
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How We Handle Someone's Vulnerability is What DEFINES Who WE ARE.....AMEN.....Reach Down and Pick Someone Up While They Are Down...Good Call.
Andrew, r u coming to Australia anytime??
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Hello Andrew, I completely agree with this video. In the past the narcissists just manufactured problems for me to put out regularly. Always a crisis or a need they claimed they didn't want to bother you for which becomes a pattern. I realised that it was just a distraction to block me from my own life goals and socially. By the end of the day you're worn out putting out their fires and start cancelling your own commitments and self care for them. They continuously create problems because they lack social responsibility and don't care about others. The minute they see that you're focusing on yourself finally, you now become the worst person on the planet. Now it's time for revenge against you because you didn't take on their many problems. All the good things you did for them are forgotten and it's now your problem you helped them. They don't care about people's well-being. I'm so done with these individuals and their shenanigans. Just stay clear of them and let them experience natural consequences for their actions. Peace and light.🦅
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So true there problem is your problem and always creating drama..that's my ex narc..1year no contact, now I'm in happy and peaceful life thanks Andrew have a great day!😊
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I have been feeling overwhelmed lately, but I am still healing. I feel like I have agoraphobia or something since encountering the narc. I adopted a kitten and it is so loving I am almost overwhelmed haha. Just trying to hang in and always look forward to Andrew's videos. Let us stay strong and not give up on love and light.
Ohhh! Kittens are adorable. Have fun and congrats 🎉🎈 one of my used to wait for me to move my foot under the blanket the attack. Lol! Good thing he outgrown that stage
Force yourself to heal in sunshine, sunlight 20 minutes a day..
I want to thank you for your videos. I have found them to be helpful. God bless you!
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Word to the wise if you leave the narc, do not ever go back!
Ty Andrew....I truly appreciate these videos, so much help in every word...GOD BLESS YOU ALL...
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You are so right, the narc waited for me to take care of everything. If something broke in the house he expected me to call someone to fix it. I had to take care of every detail. Yes I was the slave.😢😢😢😢The good thing is that I wised up and fed up, I left, now I am healing, I am taking care of me. I am number one, second, and third.
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