I’ve been totally isolated these past couple of years. And within that time I’ve had to accept responsibility for my own actions that lead me to the narc. And to come to terms with my own set of narcissistic traits. It’s been an eye opening and most importantly, peaceful couple of years. no contact is truly the way.
@7:41 "You need to let people lose you. Let them go along with the crowd, let them believe what they want to believe, let them think they have better, let them sleep on your worth. Because, in due time, they will realize the mistake they made, and it will be just enough time for you to accept that you’re better off without them." - Morgan Richard Olivier
Yeah agreed. They walk into stupid situations quickly, carrying their recent past behind them. I've experienced being a"new supply" and it's nothing to envy. I hope this might help someone out. You're unaware that you're being viewed as an emotional baggage handler. The first thing they'll discuss is their side of their last story. These kinds of people are hurting inside, somehow you can feel it. Nothing seems deep or close, it's weird. The sexual fireworks generally last as long as fireworks do. There's usually lots of superficial activities with no actual connection. Boredom sets in fast, sometimes it's very mutual! If you've been recently exed or discarded by a narcissist, be cool. Say nothing ever again and leave them in the wilderness to fend for themselves. Don't worry about what's happening behind the scenes, it won't be what you expected and will probably be more about you.. With the other person they'll often act distant, sometimes preoccupied if you're hardcore ignoring them. They're also likely triangulating your name into conversation, making sly remarks, unfairly comparing the other person to you, deliberately creating insecurities in them etc. Thanks Joe
I remember my ex narc saying if he lost me what he would do is get an old hag use the bitch and do what he likes with her. he said all this then said after all i will never meet anyone like you who makes me peaceful inside so i will go back to the old me again on drugs and manipulating everyone. we were married 10 years and i know him this is what he will do to his own demise. He is a diabolical whore empty no soul or empathy. He can rot. I do hope more woman who are single get educated on the narc so the could stand a chance to break free before their soul gets robbed. Thankyou for being honest with what you said im sure it means alot to us. Thanks❤️
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on the new supply, the narcs always portray the scenario that the problem was you and they don't have the same issues with the new person. The new person understands them better and is better suited to them. But I guess the mask hasn't fallen off yet that's why things are still.good.
@@sanjmalik6282 Also, the "evil ex" narrative they lay on you during the grooming phase is intended to serve as proxy for their expectations of how you're going to best serve them.
That is such a good point about the narc person needing another person to prop them up & keep them going, while we don't need others to keep us going. Thank you for expressing that.
Good morning ! 🌞Time to enjoy a cup of joe☕☕ with Joe ! 😊 Narcs and us is like night and day, we have nothing in common with narcs, this is why it can never work. Narcs have no virtues , no integrity and i think they would have better relationship with same kind of people as they are. We on another hand have virtues and we want to do what is right and what is moral and we need to find people with same views and values. In a New year lets find these kind of people and love and cherish them and forget about narcs forever. Thank you ! ❤🤗
I love this, lioubovgrant! And, I love ❤ your posts about having a cup of Joe ☕ with Joe! 😊 But, I really love your comment on this video. Really is beautiful. I hope for the same thing. Happy New Year! 🎉
I literally find myself listening to Joe just to get sleep n unbrain wash myself! I feel so distraught all day for finding myself even at this point of homelessness n my losing my son to my stupidity n naiveness ughhh every day sucks ass beyond n I only want out of my body n head but I’ve still kept my sobriety n even that I’m not proud of cause I’m to busy being tired hungry n severely paranoid n depressed
@@B-Niathis isn’t me just saying this either. I’ve experienced it and so have all of you. How many times when you were with ur ex narc did they mention there ex?? They never truly valued you cuz they never heal and move on. Only difference now is ur the ex
My ex narcissist will never hoover me because I took him to court and got a huge financial settlement....he loved his money and I was awarded alot of it!!😊
They either run into another narc or someone who just won’t take their shit. They are playing with fire. There are people out there who would easily do away with them.
Time is definitely m y side, 7 months since my husband of 12 years discarded & when i researched what the hell just happened is when i realized hes a Narcissist/Psychopath. My healing journey is happening rapidly. Im so grateful now that the trash took itself out. His new main supply opened her door,home & legs to him quickly, the toxic 2 deserve one another & Im FREE
Patiently waiting for this to happen.. unfortunately he’s still under the impression that I am just playing and will take him back.. despite being NC for over two months..ugh. I was primo supply so it’s harder to shake him but I will.
Stay STRONG they Don't change, if anything they get worse with age, he might try to come back to really destroy you the next time, they are NOT CAPABLE OF LOVING ANYONE, PLEASE PLEASE DON'T LET HIM WASTE ANYMORE OF YOUR PRECIOUS TIME, wsd married to a narcissist for 28yrs believe it's HELL, your out now and your free, I'am soooo BLESSED to be FREE to live in PEACE, he DOESN'T DESERVE YOU, you can do soiii much better than him and his breadcrumbs, head up high and value yourself.
They will play all sorts of games…. They have a new partner and try and they then off in front of you. And you will think great they moved on! But in reality they hope it makes you jealous and you come back. 🤪
You got this, my love, Don't let him take your shine away cause his light is dimmed. I would keep the no contact cause it is not about him it about you showing your strength that you deserve the world and self-worth ❤ much love, stay strong, and give your worry to Lord
While not entirely effective, repeating this to myself during the healing phase was very helpful to keep me grounded: "You fell in love with a mirage."
@@robsimmons10 It is also valuable to write down all of the behaviours you witnessed, the reasons you are better off without them. When they try coming back, revisit your list and it makes the decision very easy.
near the end, when I rode by her house and saw the truck of one guy (there were others) she was triangulating me with . I wasn't mad, called her to tell her...she said, 'there was NO truck outside my house.'
I have a narc ex gf too and they are pathological liars. I had to change my phone number twice to escape her. Then was bombarded with emails. She just lied and lied and lied. Like yourself, even when I witnessed something she would lie. My phone never buzzed at 2am. Well yeah it did cause I kept my awake. Lie on lie.
@@KarenEvans-gm9yj She did not take anything from me. She made me realise that I truly am a horrible person and I always will be. Its best that I live the rest of my life without friends, family and loves. Its what I must deserve
@@TheEnd-l8e keep listening to the videos and don’t give up on yourself. You are not the bad person, the narcissist is! I know it’s hard, some days I didn’t think I would make it. I found out I’m stronger than I thought! The narcissist will get their justice for all the bad things they did to innocent people!
Sorry , you sound depressed, not sure is Joe's videos will make i big difference for you. I think in your case you need someone professional to help you. So find this kind of help. I think you have a lot to give, i think narcissist who truly gives zero, but he will never ever said that. Narc. would say ''I give and give and give and i am the giver '' God bless !
While you go on to heal, the narc continues on with their same old destructive patterns. You grow, they continue to deteriorate.
It ain’t hard to find trash
I’ve been totally isolated these past couple of years. And within that time I’ve had to accept responsibility for my own actions that lead me to the narc. And to come to terms with my own set of narcissistic traits. It’s been an eye opening and most importantly, peaceful couple of years. no contact is truly the way.
Diddo😊. God bless you 🙏
Same for me! We got this!
❤❤❤
@7:41 "You need to let people lose you. Let them go along with the crowd, let them believe what they want to believe, let them think they have better, let them sleep on your worth. Because, in due time, they will realize the mistake they made, and it will be just enough time for you to accept that you’re better off without them." - Morgan Richard Olivier
💯❤️☺️
Yeah agreed. They walk into stupid situations quickly, carrying their recent past behind them. I've experienced being a"new supply" and it's nothing to envy. I hope this might help someone out.
You're unaware that you're being viewed as an emotional baggage handler. The first thing they'll discuss is their side of their last story. These kinds of people are hurting inside, somehow you can feel it. Nothing seems deep or close, it's weird. The sexual fireworks generally last as long as fireworks do. There's usually lots of superficial activities with no actual connection. Boredom sets in fast, sometimes it's very mutual!
If you've been recently exed or discarded by a narcissist, be cool. Say nothing ever again and leave them in the wilderness to fend for themselves. Don't worry about what's happening behind the scenes, it won't be what you expected and will probably be more about you..
With the other person they'll often act distant, sometimes preoccupied if you're hardcore ignoring them. They're also likely triangulating your name into conversation, making sly remarks, unfairly comparing the other person to you, deliberately creating insecurities in them etc.
Thanks Joe
Gold ❤
I remember my ex narc saying if he lost me what he would do is get an old hag use the bitch and do what he likes with her. he said all this then said after all i will never meet anyone like you who makes me peaceful inside so i will go back to the old me again on drugs and manipulating everyone. we were married 10 years and i know him this is what he will do to his own demise. He is a diabolical whore empty no soul or empathy. He can rot. I do hope more woman who are single get educated on the narc so the could stand a chance to break free before their soul gets robbed. Thankyou for being honest with what you said im sure it means alot to us. Thanks❤️
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on the new supply, the narcs always portray the scenario that the problem was you and they don't have the same issues with the new person. The new person understands them better and is better suited to them. But I guess the mask hasn't fallen off yet that's why things are still.good.
THIS is pure gold.
@@sanjmalik6282 Also, the "evil ex" narrative they lay on you during the grooming phase is intended to serve as proxy for their expectations of how you're going to best serve them.
To move on quickly, find someone else.
To move on truly, find yourself.
- Jay Shetty
I love this so much. Thanks for sharing this quote!
That is such a good point about the narc person needing another person to prop them up & keep them going, while we don't need others to keep us going. Thank you for expressing that.
Good morning ! 🌞Time to enjoy a cup of joe☕☕ with Joe ! 😊 Narcs and us is like night and day, we have nothing in common with narcs, this is why it can never work. Narcs have no virtues , no integrity and i think they would have better relationship with same kind of people as they are. We on another hand have virtues and we want to do what is right and what is moral and we need to find people with same views and values. In a New year lets find these kind of people and love and cherish them and forget about narcs forever. Thank you ! ❤🤗
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❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
AGREED🏆👑☀️🌛✨
I love this, lioubovgrant! And, I love ❤ your posts about having a cup of Joe ☕ with Joe! 😊 But, I really love your comment on this video. Really is beautiful. I hope for the same thing. Happy New Year! 🎉
@@SagittariusBabe87 Thank you Sarab. Happy New Year to you ! 🤗
Your messages are always so accurate. It really puts you into reality and out of the fog we were in for so long. I so appreciate your work Joe!
I literally find myself listening to Joe just to get sleep n unbrain wash myself! I feel so distraught all day for finding myself even at this point of homelessness n my losing my son to my stupidity n naiveness ughhh every day sucks ass beyond n I only want out of my body n head but I’ve still kept my sobriety n even that I’m not proud of cause I’m to busy being tired hungry n severely paranoid n depressed
They never truly move on
👍👍
@@B-Niathis isn’t me just saying this either. I’ve experienced it and so have all of you. How many times when you were with ur ex narc did they mention there ex?? They never truly valued you cuz they never heal and move on. Only difference now is ur the ex
My ex narcissist will never hoover me because I took him to court and got a huge financial settlement....he loved his money and I was awarded alot of it!!😊
One day they will abuse the wrong person.
They either run into another narc or someone who just won’t take their shit. They are playing with fire. There are people out there who would easily do away with them.
These videos are invaluable. They have enabled so many people to heal. Well done Joe ❤.
Time is definitely m y side, 7 months since my husband of 12 years discarded & when i researched what the hell just happened is when i realized hes a Narcissist/Psychopath. My healing journey is happening rapidly. Im so grateful now that the trash took itself out. His new main supply opened her door,home & legs to him quickly, the toxic 2 deserve one another & Im FREE
Their ‘place of insufficiency’ is going back into the abyss.
If I hadn’t even listened to this video, title is so profound! Keep it up Joe!
I put puzzles together during cognitive dissonance. … It ASMR seemed to help.
Do You see what this Guy did right here, he told You problem in the the video title and he gave You the solution in the video thumbnail, Genius 👍
My brain is like a shakin up snow globe I’m want to vomit with my stupidity of being weakened by a snake
Patiently waiting for this to happen.. unfortunately he’s still under the impression that I am just playing and will take him back.. despite being NC for over two months..ugh. I was primo supply so it’s harder to shake him but I will.
Stay STRONG they Don't change, if anything they get worse with age, he might try to come back to really destroy you the next time, they are NOT CAPABLE OF LOVING ANYONE, PLEASE PLEASE DON'T LET HIM WASTE ANYMORE OF YOUR PRECIOUS TIME, wsd married to a narcissist for 28yrs believe it's HELL, your out now and your free, I'am soooo BLESSED to be FREE to live in PEACE, he DOESN'T DESERVE YOU, you can do soiii much better than him and his breadcrumbs, head up high and value yourself.
They will play all sorts of games…. They have a new partner and try and they then off in front of you. And you will think great they moved on! But in reality they hope it makes you jealous and you come back. 🤪
You got this, my love, Don't let him take your shine away cause his light is dimmed. I would keep the no contact cause it is not about him it about you showing your strength that you deserve the world and self-worth ❤ much love, stay strong, and give your worry to Lord
While not entirely effective, repeating this to myself during the healing phase was very helpful to keep me grounded: "You fell in love with a mirage."
@@robsimmons10 It is also valuable to write down all of the behaviours you witnessed, the reasons you are better off without them. When they try coming back, revisit your list and it makes the decision very easy.
Thanks!
near the end, when I rode by her house and saw the truck of one guy (there were others) she was triangulating me with . I wasn't mad, called her to tell her...she said, 'there was NO truck outside my house.'
I have a narc ex gf too and they are pathological liars. I had to change my phone number twice to escape her. Then was bombarded with emails. She just lied and lied and lied. Like yourself, even when I witnessed something she would lie. My phone never buzzed at 2am. Well yeah it did cause I kept my awake. Lie on lie.
@@northernsegageorge6510 yes...they lie about everything, except maybe their name.
Thank you for all these videos, Joe.
I really like your quiet and conversational style, along with how well you convey the subject matter.
Thank you!!
Happy New Year, Joe.
Thanks for everything .
Peace.
Well said my friend...❤❤...
Thank you
Yeah his mother
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I never had anything good to give
The narcissist wouldn’t have been with you if you didn’t have good supply for them to take!
@@KarenEvans-gm9yj She did not take anything from me. She made me realise that I truly am a horrible person and I always will be. Its best that I live the rest of my life without friends, family and loves. Its what I must deserve
@@TheEnd-l8e keep listening to the videos and don’t give up on yourself. You are not the bad person, the narcissist is! I know it’s hard, some days I didn’t think I would make it. I found out I’m stronger than I thought! The narcissist will get their justice for all the bad things they did to innocent people!
@@TheEnd-l8eget your ass off the ground. How dare you allow someone define your value.
Sorry , you sound depressed, not sure is Joe's videos will make i big difference for you. I think in your case you need someone professional to help you. So find this kind of help. I think you have a lot to give, i think narcissist who truly gives zero, but he will never ever said that. Narc. would say ''I give and give and give and i am the giver '' God bless !
My brain is like a shakin up snow globe I’m want to vomit with my stupidity of being weakened by a snake