10 PARENTING MISTAKES WE SHOULD AVOID
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 8 มิ.ย. 2017
- Many parents have experienced that unpleasant situation when they realize their child’s behavior has changed, but they can’t understand where the problem came from. We at Bright Side have found some answers that all parents will be able to learn something from.
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Why your child is secretive 0:40
Why your child is irritable 1:00
Why your child shows envy and jealousy 1:15
Why your child is overly shy 1:30
Why your child doesn't respect others 1:48
Why your child is rude 2:03
Why your child takes other kids' toys 2:21
Why your child lies to you 2:35
Why your child can't stand up for themselves 2:52
Why it's important to affirm a child's uniqueness 3:05
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That awkward moment where more children then adults watch the video...
I might be the only 16 yr old herr
Lunar Eclipse than ffs-
Lunar Eclipse yep
Lunar Eclipse lol, I guess the parents can't do anything at that point though. At least this teaches the children who are to become parents later.
Lunar Eclipse I'm only 12
i hope that by the time i have my own kids i will do the best i can to give them a better childhood than mine.i am not watching this as a son but as someone who could be a father one day
same
Ruben Moniz So you were born by a flower? Dude, that comment makes me laugh even if you an adult you are a son too because you have a mom and a father even if you hate them you were born as all of us.
That's very wise of you. Goodluck being a good dad someday 👍.
Same
Ruben Moniz I dont know if I will be a good dad. I will give all for my kid to be educated and happy.
Parents should start realizing that they make mistakes too. They always think they're the ones who are correct.
Hakim Aziz
Parents : You should be a doctor one day
Child : But I want to be a TH-camr
Years later
Child : *Hangs self*
Parents : Why did my child suicide *Cries*/*being mad* (Still doesn’t realize their mistakes)
A _A FACTS, I WANNA BE A LAWYER ONE DAY AND I MEAN IT, MY PARENTS DON’T HAVE AN ISSUE WITH THAT SINCE MOST OF MY RELATIVES ARE LAWYERS. BUT YOU’RE RIGHT, WE HAVE OUR OWN TALENTS AND INTERESTS AND WE SHOULD PAVE OUR OWN PATH. NO MATTER WHAT SIN A CHILD COMMITS, AT THE END OF THE DAY, ITS THE PARENTS FAULT.
My mom yes my dad no he admits his mistakes I can tell him anything
EXACTLY
Yeah. I realize it too. My parents always blame us.
Mom: I don't want to pressure my daughter (me)
**using my phone**
Mom: Did you even study?!
Me: we studied at school.
Mom: Well at least study here!
Me: Later.
Mom: I don't want to pressure you. But if you get home and didn't get a high grade You know what will happen.
Me: **In my mind** Your kinda pressuring me right now.
Me: ...
**While studying**
Mom: Don't just read it UNDERSTAND it.
Me: **reads book**
Mom: Are you even listening?
Me: **continues reading**
Mom: LISTEN!
Me: **in my mind** you wanted me to study so I am. So just please be quiet.
**after school**
Mom: so what top are you?
Me: top 13.
Mom: ... Do better next time. How about you best friend?
Me: (Name)?
Mom: yeah what top is she?
Me: top 8.
Mom: ... Why can't you be good as her.
Me: **in my mind** Why can't you just say your proud of me.
I just want to tell you guys what happens every quarter in school.
cody y I RELATE 100%
she always compares me to others and such..also this happened.
Mom: Why is your grade F?
Me: ..well,some of the questions are too hard,my friends also got F..
Mom: I DON'T CARE
Me:*in mind* here we go again..
Mom:What about (name)?
Me: (name) got B..
Mom: Why can't you be like (name)?
Me: Because I'm me?
Mom: Stop wasting time and study! Will you even start to be responsible like (name)?
Me: ..*in mind* I wanna be free and fly awayyyy
Mom: ANSWER ME!
Me: but didn't you just said you don't care-
Mom: OH! So you're answering me like that!
Me: *in mind* for real?
yeah... just a summary but our convo was long..still I relate 100%
just curious if this is just my family or others have this problem too but..
I really want to take advanced classes next year and I feel I'm up for it, but my parents say that I proved that I couldn't handle it at the beginning of last school year (I nearly got a 4.0 GPA at the end of it all but I guess that's irrelevant) so they went to my school and had all my classes changed and they nearly signed me up for band when I told them that I didn't want to take it. So now I'm stuck in whatever classes they want me to take and they're all the easiest, most basic and boring classes the school has to offer. They're reasoning for this? As I said I apparently proved my incapability of passing such classes, that taking basic classes would prove that I could handle advanced ones, and that this was a punishment for, and I'm paraphrasing here but this is pretty much what they said, not studying as much as I should have. Oh, and they think that taking basic classes (where people don't really care about the class much and just talk to each other) will help me become "normal". They don't seem to comprehend that I'm not the only slightly antisocial introvert in the world. They think anyone who doesn't really like to talk much, meet new people, or has less than 10 true friends is abnormal and should be taking antidepressants (and yes at one point they tried).
cody y the same thing happens to ne
+cody y
if your mom compares you with your friend, compare your mom with your friend's mom.. and if she gets irritated tell her : "now we both got the same feelings"...
Your mom sounds like she just wants the best for you. Top 13, in her mind, isn't good enough- she thinks that you can achieve MORE. So instead of complaining it to a bunch of strangers on the internet, thank your mom for wanting to do better.
Who here is a child not a parent and thinking I wish my mom or dad knew this
Nah mine are cool B)
me
me
Sweet Sun me
Me
I wish my mom understand all of this
show this video to your mom. No need to thank me for helping you out
#ChancierHades / /TheCrazyCH yeah but the thing is......she uhh like don't care but the same time trying to be serious in a kinda "child" way as if im no mature enough
me too
calm down the camera is there your being prank I know but I'd get in trouble for 'sass' 😒
me and my sister get told off for ''fighting'' which means politely asking each other to stop something that they find irtating (sorry for the bad gramer)
Problem is,Adults wont even bother watching these.
They'll probably say "That's nonsense!" or "I know what's right!"
you're too hip
Nope
No wonder why the majority of comments are from kids
It will hurt their ego.
Yes aren't we all right? I mean really parents really take protective this and a authority way to far
Those dislikes are from parents
The Ninth Fallen Human YOU'RE HIP 😂
I'm not a parent and I disliked the video. I disagree and agree with a couple of things here.
Amarilis Curet Like?
Yep.
Yeah these dislikes are from the parents I defiantly agree
The *worst* thing parents do is comparing.
BALDOMAR bALDOMAR thank you ..I am not English speaker and I will keep that in mind
Shreya Jadhav i know right.. i remember when i was in kindergarden my mom compared me to my friend in front of her and her mom because i had forgotten to tuck in my undershirt and i felt so ashamed of myself. a person shouldn't have to feel ashamed or be compared to someone else at five years old.
Shreya Jadhav I know right like might as well set us up for adoption if you're not too happy with us!
The Brown Soul Made Of Memory and Magic haha true ...XD
strawberry fraisier ikr....
"Why can't you be like her?"
"See her stuff everything is so neat and clean"
*pisses me off*
I wish my mom could see this
lel
Show this to your mom, thank me later
Kxng Kat lol ikr
Kxng Kat if she sees this vid, she still would not change
Kxng Kat yeah me to
If you punish your child for something they shouldn't do, without making them understand why you're punishing them, they will do it again and will just become very good liars.
edgiest kid on the block /noah ikr whenever i get yelled at im always like what did i do? And she just gives me this look a goes you know what you did
edgiest kid on the block /noah Quite true
Can confirm this,i have turned into said liar
Hah, agreeeeeeeeeeed
So basically people from the balkans (no hate but i have seen enough)
Wish my parents saw this video cause they've made MANY mistakes
Alexa Kawaii pretend that you forgot the video playing on the laptop so while they are walking around the house (somewhere like kitchen or living room) watch it
Your parent are doing the right thing you are making a mistake !!!!
Cleaste : nope , everyone does mistake.
Haha
Same I feel you... And am only 10
I have a little story... So basically my brother when he was little he liked playing soccer, but my mom said he should stop wasting his time and become another profesion like doctor or computer expert, but my brother said he would one day become a soccer player. Even my dad said he is just going to end up homeless, without a job and his friends will succeed more than him. So one day he got shouted for taking back because he said I will become a soccer player.... He felt like he wasn't getting support from his parents, he even thought of sucide....... But then one time at school he played a game there then some scouts drive by and wanted to take a look how good the players where, they caught my brother doing very good, they then came to him after school and asked if he could train with them to show the scouts how good he really is. But he needed to talk to his parents so he asked them but they didn't belive him, because they thought he was going to a gang. Then he called the coach if he could take him, and they did, after the training the coach was impressed, so they offered him a professional contract to play with youth clubs of big teams. 7 years later, he is now playing in a professional soccer team, in Montreal impact
AsphaltPlays Well my parents were proud, and they begged an apology, but because my brother is loyal, he forgives them for the sufferment that he had
That is a perfect example right there!
Parents shouldn't force some other profession on them if they're more talented and interested in something else ;o;
Good on him!! c:
Venom TH-cam Your brother is actually doing something he loves! Congrats to your brother taking opportunity to make HIS life HIS.
Space nugget Thank you!
Venom TH-cam what is your brother name?
my late dad avoided this mistake. He raised me well to be kind and loving, he pay attention to me, always respected me ad teach me the right but he passed away when i was 7. I wish other parents would learn from him
daisy-sweetgirl also, I am the first like
poor you
Sounds like a hero; must take an enlightened person to raise their child into an awesome human being.
daisy-sweetgirl Well, when you get an opportunity, you take it and enjoy it. I hope you really enjoyed your time with your wonderful father.
I wish my dad was like urs
I used to be scared to give my opinion on things because everytime my parents asked me a question I would say my answer and they would always scold me for picking "the wrong answer" and tell me to pick the other instead. I always thought my answer would be wrong so everytime someone asked me a question I got used to saying "idk" everytime bc I was scared they'd yell at me for picking what I wanted instead of what they wanted. When I went to a restaurant with my aunt one day she asked me what I wanted and I said "idk..." and I was very hesitant and anxious to hear her reply. She asked me why I always said idk whenever someone asked me a question and I was silent. However my aunt is a family psychologist so she kinda figured what was going on on her own lol. She told me that I should've be afraid to give an answer because the question is for the own benefit of myself, and if I was able to tell people what I wanted I could get it, instead of getting something I didn't want. Till now I'm still a little anxious to answer people's questions but I improved a lot since about a year or two ago :)
Sounds an awful lot like hyper religious parents who probably have a psychological disorder.
My dad is forcing me and my sisters to go to college and he wants my oldest sister (senior and wants to go to college) to get a "full ride" or a scholarship for a college that she doesn't wanna go to (she's super smart and she'll get into good colleges). But yeah...
흔졷
This is why so many "male kids" commit suicide in Asia!!! So sad!!! This thing doesn't happen to girls too often and they turn out to be the "pride" of the family and the family Start hating on the sons!!!
흔조디 it's just the same with me
My parents care more about my grades than my personality. I try so hard to be nice, and I really do give it my all on school work, but I have grades just good enough to get by. My sisters are honestly just the worst people I've met in my life, and they cheat on schoolwork and tell my parents about it. My mother has told me "If cheating would make your grades better then do it". Yes, I do get frustrated a lot with the fact that everyone around me is doing their work easily and I just don't understand. But I'm also comforted at school knowing that I am surrounded by people that I love. We go through everything together. If I get into college then I'm satisfied. Because when we die, no one is going to say "They made straight A's" at their funeral. They are going to say "They were such a kindhearted person. They always wanted to make people happy" and that's what I aspire to be remembered as. It saddens me that we are given 13 years to form a bond with these people that we are around every single day and some of them don't even know each other's names. When we met we were 5 years old, when we leave, we are adults. Some of the most valued lessons I have learned at school by teachers and classmates, were not even about school.
wow this is deep
first last I actually have a friend who kinda has parents like yours, although I'm pretty sure that they don't encourage cheating and they still care about personality. Unlike your parents, instead of just telling and forcing her to get high grades, they actually push her to the limit and now she's smart.(kinda, I'm saying kinda because although she's a good student, she's only considered a little bit above average to me.) I really do feel bad for her having to put up with her parents harsh ways though sometimes. I agree with the fact that parents should focus on personality as much as grades, maybe even more. My parents currently want me to have a good personality for me to better fit society, and I feel like that's a step into the right direction for both me and them. I also agree that the greatest lessons of all are not learned in school, but through the bonds we've built throughout our lives. I hope you can still survive under your parents' roof.
@@melindad3643 but they won't get judged by it, they will most likely say that they were such a kindhearted person
same my parents mostly care about WHAT im doing and not HOW im doing
your sisters'
brain cells and knowledge will be in the negative number
My situation...
Mom: You got a C in math class again?!
Me: I know I can easily get a B, but *all of us got a bad grade!*
Mom: I don't care about OTHER, I care about YOU.
Me: *rolls eyes*
Mom: What did (input_name) get?
Me: An A, ofc...
Mom: WHY COULDN'T YOU GET A GRADE LIKE (input name)!?
Me: Because (input name) is good at math!
Mom: (input name) studied more than you..!
Me: You said you don't care about the othe...
Mom: I. AM. SPEAKING.
Spirit True, very true.
Spirit i totally agree with this . every time i get a test i hear this things in the same order and i feel that my live is scripted
That's my mom right there
omg if I say amen one more time...this is my mother with every single grade that I get if it is not an A
...........u have now scared me cuz when I was young my mom would say that to me everytime when I got a bad grade and say the exact thing even now.....does this happen often to kids now??!?
Where's my "Why Am I Watching This I'm Not A Parent" Squad????
TheMrSNakeBite me
TheMrSNakeBite here
TheMrSNakeBite me
TheMrSNakeBite I'm down here guys! Sent me the wrong address. Who was it?
Ummay Shabbir seems like it was Bright Side... ^u~u^
If your child lies to you part is true.Because if a parent didnt acted harshly to the kids mistake then he or she wouldnt be scared to tell the truth.
Hacked And Cheated Games Showcase exactly, when I was little I lied all the time because I would make a honest mistake and I would get harshly criticized then punished. now im in high school waiting to get out on my own. 😐
I got in trouble today for wetting my hair in the shower and i did not know she was going to do my hair today..... She yelled at me...know i am in my room feeling depressed as usual...i am 12 by the wayy... I want to move out so badd... 😭
my mum always did this
me: Hey mom can we ta-
Mum: Shush! im trying to play my game
Me: but its really importa-
Mum: I dont care, now go to your room
^ and then a few years later ^
Mum: Honey is their anything you need to tell me?
Me: no..
Mum: okay!
Me: well actually i-
Mum: Shush im doing something!
hint hint why im depressed and anti social Hint hint
Edee Chan same
MAY -DAY94 no they mean games like saw
Edee Chan same.
Me: mom i need to tell you something
Mom: maybe later shush now im watching tv
Me: bu-
Mom: ShuSH
3 days later
Mom: look what are you becoming you, dont come to talk, you just sit with your phone. Thats it no more phone for you.
Me: .... do i need to remind you of something ....
Edee Chan my mom is like this now and I she doesn't even care 99% of the time. She'll complain about her problems to me multiple times but whenever I want to do the same with her, she'll zone out
Tweny One My Chemical Crybabies At The Disco That's so true omg, btw I love your name😂
I bet about half the people watching this aren't parents
PAWDEWPAI More than half
oh it is more than half
I ate my parents
You're way wrong dude.
90% aren't parents
How did you know?
Who else watched this and made a list in their head of what their parents do to them?
Check, check, and check... 😂
Dude... if most of these apply to you, your parent is probably abusive.
XxGodzillaxX ha, same
XxGodzillaxX Me.
Sappy Lol they're not abusive. I checked of about two or three of these. My parents pretty much spoil me. 😂
same XD
The people who disliked this are parents who can't stand up for themselves in difficult situations.
THANK YOU
👏👏👏
as a teen, I wasn't allowed to go out with my friends. im 21 now and my parents ask me why I never go outside. -_-
my payback: my mom can't invite her friends to the house because she knws I hate it when ppl come over. ^_^
Mom: NO THIS VIDEO WAS MADE BY CRIMINALS
familiar story
Very familiar story
super familiar story
MOMents
my mom be like 'not everything you see on the internet is true' yet she goes to fb and warning me abt news from there and i can't tell her abt this tf...
Off topic but I hate it when my parents want me to do all sorts of outside activity by myself and get a job by myself but they don't let me go for a walk or hang with my friends -.- ;-;
that's cruel
Me Me Really I have the opposite problem. It's so hard to study and to do clubs/sports for school 😂😂😂
Me Me ikr...
I currently have 2 jobs, am in highschool and do a school sport. I have the opposite problem you have... my parents want me to take a break and hang out but I can't 😝
so true!!
This says a lot about my life and my mom. I never got treated equally, always lower, and the choices I made on what I wanted was almost always told no. I had to be what I was told to be. A lot of poor parenting has caused issues in my life. I always knew that, but parts of this clarified some of it. Thanks for the video.
I might be the only one with this problem, But do you ever feel ur parents Dont trust u. LIKE AT ALL? they might have ur teacher as a contact to find out when u do and don't have hw or they might be checking in ur backpack every now and AGAIN. and they dont do this for ANY of ur other siblings as much as they DO TO YOU. and U might have told a few fibs here and there when U were younger but ur older now and ur generally an honest person. Not only that but they compare u with ur older siblings and WHATS WORST is they compare u to ur younger sibling and friends saying things like " Ur little sister is a better role model than u" or "ur little brother is getting much better grades than u are" or even things like " ur so skiny, ur friends arent skinny maybe u should ask them for tips"
sometimes my parents are my bffs but other times they make me wanna just scream. Like and reply if any of these things happen to u.
"Sometimes my parents are my bffs but other times they make me wanna just scream."
Not to be rude, but it just sounds like you're on your period. Don't worry, this thing is just temporary. It'll get by.
I recognize myself here, not as the parent, but as the child
Me too
Flawless Unicorn same
me too
Flawless Unicorn same
same >:(
My mum always compares me to my younger sister. She is the 'perfect child'. I'm not perfect because my mum doesn't give me attention, always compares me to my little sister, and is a helicopter (narcissistic) parent and doesn't let me do things on my own. I wish I had more freedom and independence... Sorry if this was boring but I had to get it out.
Preach!
UltRaVioLeT HD not at all I know how you feel
Same, but my mother doesn't give me any attention at all. But she always compares me to my little sister. But whatever, I'm going to be 18 next year so bye bye mom lol
I see a privileged 1st world child...........……… I bet your parents bought you the device you wrote this comment on.
Regan Corbett go away. respect people's opinion.
so now I know why I'm so messed up
Explains why I'm depressed, suicidal, have anxiety and OCD.
My mom be like:
"So you had a D in the Test? Why? Your friends all had a B."
(weeks later)
-'Mom, I have only an D in this test. All my friends even have Es."
"I don't care about your friends' grades!"
Lilli Jäger that must be very irritating
Lilli Jäger sadly it's true tho...i got annoyed each time they ask..so I didn't say anything when they do
same as me :(
Lilli Jäger hahaha all moms are same!!!
true!!!
My parents made ALL these mistakes and others, now they're surprised I barely say "Hi" when I meet them.
ipnotiK from Italy me too
Same my parents are surprised why I’m avoiding them
How about teaching new parents proper ways to deal with children?
Me too
Well my parents did the opposite of everything on this video and I turned out just fine.
That was sarcasm. My friends think I'm going to be a school shooter.
Tell me when not to come to school okay dude we're friends okay right we're friends please don't shoot me
Alex OH MY GOD 😂💀💀
Alright!
*pulls out revolver*
See ya at Yale
Alex Me too :(
I'm actually seeing a therapist now. Good to know I'm not alone.
@@mojojojo7515 ikr
so
f u n n y...
"You should be more sociable"
"Can I go out?"
"No"
My mom never understood me...she always compared me to my siblings and my friends. She is really changed. Sometimes I get irritated and go to my room without letting her complete, and then she would again compare me like "Look at her, she is so well behaved and look at you". Once or twice its okay but everyday just pisses me off. Thankfully my dad is not like that. He understands me, but again my mom tells my dad not to pamper me that much or else I'll misbehave....Parents really think that kids these days are independent. But they don't understand that they have to 'make' us independent.....
Happy Crafts I AGREE WITH YOU
Unika And Rhythm Rizal I feel you! My mom is exactly like your mom and my dad is exactly like your dad!
good for you coz it's only your mom but not for me/us siblings but I guess my mom is nothing compared to my dad , coz he will just usually supplement to what our mom is saying. They're both teachers and they can relate to students who are unfortunates and they always compare us with their students especially with those who are intelligent, they say like you should be like my student like us we always do that and this and blablabla but the truth is we're not really below average in terms of studying almost all of us are honors (not bragging) even though we're just like in second, third but both of most of their reactions are like "why are you only in second in third place you should have studied more you should have done this and blablabla ( then they start comparing again) instead of complimenting us. We expect them to react like "WOW we are so proud of our children we should celebrate and we should buy you what you want" but in reality it's the opposite. And it really upsets us and I believe the effect of that kind of attitude of parents really plays a huge part on the development of their child and we are the result of them sometimes we thought like getting a honorable place in school do us nothing instead it just make our parents compare us to others and we're no longer inspired/motivated at all if we get an honor we're like "okay" we dont care bout it anymore even we get it or not it's still the same....BUT BTW WE STILL REALLY REALLY REALLY VERY MUCH LOVE THEM
Happy Crafts hope you get better!
my mom compares me to other kids when she speak I just cry
Just realised my mum makes all of those mistakes... like ALL of those mistakes mentioned here. She makes a bunch of other mistakes too:
1) She humiliates me in front of others and treats me like I am the worst person in the world.
2) She doesn't let me choose anything and she makes decisions about me on her own.
3)She forces me to learn French but I hate them.
4) She has never given me the chance to express my self and talk to her about what she does wrong etc.
5) She never understands me, she never gets what I say to her and If I just say something, she is gonna change my words and make me sound wrong while im actually right.
"3)She forces me to learn French but I hate them" Stop hating : problem resolved ;)
More seriously, you should go to a psychologist. It could actually prove to be a good thing to get out all the bad things you've accumulated over the years. Maybe then, you'll find a way to behave differently and more accordingly to your mother's reactions.
You can't just Stop hating something you hate Duuh
Martial Verstiggel Why he should forcee himself into thing he hates?
+Topol Polak adapting to life
well except for the French this sounds like my mother
in third grade when they asked all us students if we wanted to learn how to play the recorder (most annoying instrument ever) I was the only one to refuse. flat out not interested and was not swayed by the "but everyone else is" speech. I wanted to draw. and draw I did while everyone piped away at Hot Cross Rolls. my mom told the school I would not be forced if it was a voluntary project.
Carrie Wright My school forced us to do this at KINDERGARTEN. I'm glad you had the right to choose, at least someone escaped that instrument.
Well, that explains why I’m shy, indecisive, and I’m bad at standing up for myself.
99% Teenagers and kids Watching
1% Adults are watching.
Sad truth.
it's fine, teenagers are the future parents
You Know what You Got a point.
1% is good for me ... anything better than nothing
Diamond Gaming Cause they think they have the best parenting style oh fk that
Also, never force your child to hug or kiss someone. That can develop them to be overly-submissive to people of power.
Eh, I was never harmed by having to hug people, and now I don't have to be forced, I enjoy it :3
Julian I hate hugging random people, I hate hugging anyone except my close friends
I hate hugging.
Neha Umapathy That's the most relatable thing I've ever read.
Julian kids will start thinking that they have to touch an adult even if it makes them uncomfotable because they told them to. It's a tool pedophiles use
Actually, my parents are really good. They 've always let me the choice, and sometimes guided me. They never compared to other, because they are aware that I am who I am. They are always supporting and helping me when I have a project. So thanks dad and mom !
Aye That's awesome !!! I'm glad to hear that for you .Now it's time for you to guide others 🙏😄
Gr8
Lucky
The comparison part-
Like they compare us to themselves at that age,
Like dafauq you weren't the star perfect 10/10 on point kid!
I bet you did tons of stuff that was bad when you were little but you just don't mention it
even my parents see this they'll be like "It's not what you think. We just doing the best for you. " and always like that *just my opinion* 😕😐
Reina Quartz I feel you, my parents will do that too saying "But this is for your own good blah blah blah" if only they knew more
Reina Quartz agree
if you buy her everything she wants but she always take other kids toys, it means you have the most spoiled kid in the whole world :)
Sheen Elsedeen 2017
I thought that one was very confusing
I can't even begin to describe how my parents (especially my mother) ruined not only my childhood but my entire life. I have severe depression issues for years only because of them. I have very low self esteem and confidence and I am not sure if I will ever be successful in my life and get over all these. The fact that I still live with my parents just makes things worse.
Go away asap. Move out.
i wish we all could have good loving and caring parents
7moonwalker7 moonwalkerss
Every child has a loving and caring parent ❤️ some times they don't show their love as they want you to be in a right and safe way
They just have a selfishness to make you be happy😇 That is my opinion
that last example was the cruel reality
u forgot something parents say these days ( at least in my country ) :
internet is bad for u...
sure kids and teenagers can get addicted to internet by a game or in social media and other stuff but that doesnt mean the whole internet is a bad influence instead a parent should try to guide their kid on the good side of the internet not trying to prevent it from having access to it just because there are dangers in it.. life itself is a danger u can get crushed by a car and never be able to walk again does that mean that u have to stop going outside and stay in a house all of your life ? NO
then why stop using internet its a similar concept to the car one
Callous Teo yeah, like seriously, you could literally be sleeping in your home and a random car could crash through the wall and crush you. does that mean you should never sleep?
Callous Teo I play football/soccer and I've broke my leg 4 times and broke my ankle 2 times... I still play it because it's an amazing sport... I'm not strong so I sometimes struggle to win the ball but no matter what happens I'll play on... I even broke my thumb once somehow... But what you said is 100% true... No matter who you are or what your like... You can't spend all day 2 inches away from your phone or computer.
well at least there's one good thing about close-minded parents : we will never do the same mistakes they did to us on our own kids and instead we will try to guide them and help them make their choices not force them into our own
Callous Teo "life itself is a danger [...] does that mean that u have to stop going outside and stay in house all your life?" this is typically my mom... she say that EVERYBODY outside is wild, so that why I NEVER go outside, have 0 friends (I have friends on internet but not in real life), and then she tell me "why are you so introvert and passive?" .......... I don't even see the meaning of life anymore...(sorry if my English is bad)
Bakaho バカホ I can't even imagine what you are going through buddy I wish u the best luck
mom tried to stop me from drawing all of my life because ALL she wanted me to become was a doctor. I wanted to learn languages but no she wanted me not to waste my time and become a doctor
now I am a grown up. I am not a doctor, I only speak English beside my mother language (only because we learn it in school) and I am not a good artist. I hate my drawings.
non of us achieved what they want and both of us feel that I am a failure :(
Sindi Hatoyama yea and that means because your mom didn't do what you wanted she doesn't know that you are sad and don't feel like you achieved anything and when she hears you land in prison because of doing something bad she will be like poor baby but in reality she doesn't care at all and she was really just a harsh nun don't let your dreams be dreams JUST DO IT COME ON JUST DO IT
Youre not a failure! There has to be SOMETHING youre good at!
Sindi Hatoyama if someone here is a failure,it is her
No you want a hug? *virtual hug*
Same. Except they wanted me to be an engineer... I m from India its so common here... Society thinks its right... Now their words don't matter to me now my drawings are becoming exceptionally good because i do not have to impress my parents
That last one is just plain awful! I like to draw too, and I am SO glad my parents actually let me express my ideas. Imagine if the mothers of Leonardo Da Vinci, Michelangelo, Van Gogh, Monet, Picasso, Walt Kelly, Charles Shultz, Bill Watterson, Gary Larson, Jim Davis- you name it, all the world's greatest painters and cartoonists- had told them the same thing! We would've missed out on SO many classics!
Isobel Miller Yeah, what would we do with ourselves without Charlie Brown?
that"s correct because theyre too overreacting and they think they are always perfect in everything
If you tell a kid you know what's best for them and don't let them choose for themselves, they'll either rely on you too much and seek your help for everything or not share their opinions or hobbies in fear of having that freedom taken away.
Notoriously Gaming omg this is me right now !!! I feel this way and have always felt this way.
Notoriously Gaming *1000000% agree!!!*
Notoriously Gaming for real, my best friend's mom has never let her choose for herself. and now every time she's in a difficult situation, she's always like "so what should I do? am I making the right choice here?" and I always said "I can't answer that for you, you're the only one in the world who can answer that."
and what did she say in return? "can't you just tell me what you think is best for me to do? just tell me, what should I do?" *NO.*
my mom did every one of the bad things....and never appreciates my efforts just gets angry at me by small mistakes...when i got a medal we just ate outside and went home, but when i got a grade of b she took my phone let me study and locked me in my room then after a day or two she would compare me to other kids and when i try to be the other kids she tells me to not be like them cause they have different parents.
i miss being a 4 year old it was much better.
I have a twin and my mom always has to say stuff like I'm the loner and my twin is outgoing because I'm shy.I hate it.
Infinity Sweetz I can relate because I have a twin too and i dont like to go outside or talk that much. but its because I dont want and my mother says the same thing
khxlia khxlia she cant expect you to be like your twin your different .Its just the nature of your character she can't change that .
My two brothers are off at college and i swear half my conversations are about "I miss jimmy and stephen so much" or "You look/act/what you just did was just like jimmy/stephen!" so when i was 8 i was behind in school and stephen got in college at 16 so i thought i had to too then i got very depressed and started having suicidal thoughts
So that's why I'm like this, my parents did everything this list said not to do.
My mom always compare me to our friend Dominic. He as never gotten an F that I know of. He always gets A's or B's. He is better than me at all most every subject. It always makes me sad when she starts saying how he is better than me :( She would always yell at me for getting a C or D while he got an A or B on a test. I tell her to stop comparing me and that I am different from him but she says it's an excuse for not studying. I do study, but I have a different mind set. I'm not him or anyone else. He's just smarter than me and is better at different subjects than me. So parents, don't compare your kids, just let them be there self :)
Liliana Macallini
better idea for parents:
Help them study and/or try to give them studying tips
Liliana Macallini what would happen if you would tell her, that Domenic's mother always does ...(fill in something, preferably something true) to support him after she is comparing you?
VanneHeung & Liliana absolutely agree. we must know you what your grace and you like. I believe that everyone just given different grace and have part in life so keep doing your best, make them see who you are and then they will proud of you. Now i just begining working at my potensial side although it is too late at my age. Dont hate them because their ego or lack of knowledge/money coz they still our parent. Keep polite and respect. You guys will be good parent in the future.
I understand that perfectly. My "Dominic" is my friend Sofia and my parents constantly compare me to her because she's practically a genius and I'm...well...average. My dad once said that I shouldn't expect to go to the same college as Sofia because she's on a "higher level" than me....which I mean, he's not wrong but it was still a slap to the face...
COINCIDENCE! my name is Dominic and I usually get A's or B's And I have a friend named Sophia who also gets A's and B's
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First of all I'm 14 years old so why I'm watching this?
my Heart :- for your future dummy...
If you are a girl then note this things to become a successful mother after you grow up
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What you think from word Jay XDXD
I'm 14 as well and i want to be a good parent unlike my own.
Im 14 as well. It seems like our brain is insync
my mom always says "why are you always at home! go hang out with your friend!" but when i ask her "mom can i hang out with my friend?" mom said "no" then i said "just a few hour mom, i will arrive at home before 8 p.m" then mom "i said no!"
write to her a letter talking about all these things that bother you and give it to her and ask her politely to read and pay attention to it. btw be polite in the letter too
I would love your mom! But she would never suggest me going to hang with friends, because I wouldn't give her reason to!
Shy, Nervousness and loss of hobbies... Yep this video partly describes me😭
My 'father' (I wished I never had) did EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THESE THINGS. And worse. Don't you dare tell me things like 'oh at least you have a dad.' I'd rather get BULLIED for not having one than have to deal with a monster in my formative years.
shadypenguinX my dad left me and my mom while i was around 5
I never actually met my dad until a few days ago. I'm going to be turning 14 this year and he now comes into my life. He has 5 other kids that are from 2 different mothers. I'm technically the older one out of all of them, but I don't feel anything. After I met him, my life just continues as normal. He's just that one person that has to be in my life that I don't even care about because he was never there for me. My mom even said, "Watch, one day you're going to be successful and he's going to want to crawl back in your life even though he has never been there for you." I understand him on one thing (that's he has to take care of his restaurants) but it doesn't really explain why he was never there from the beginning. Now I wish he never existed.
shadypenguinX Are you like, 7 or 8?
SCP-079 my dad went to prison (I don't know why) when I was around six months a the when I was around 5 years old I saw him and I saw him again at 11 a I haven't seen him since and don't want to sooo...
GuiDoBairro ya
Wish my mom saw this XD
Show this to your mom. Thank me later
BaeGalaxyGirl kaksj xd?
BaeGalaxyGirl kaksj lol same
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2000 authoritarian and close minded parents and parents wanna be disliked this..
I wanted see where I might improve where my parents failed. I have experienced most of the things in your video
This comment section leads me to believe people are even worse at parenting than i thought. And i didn't have a very high opinion of them to begin with.
this happens a LOT in India. Parents are even afraid to send children out to play... Then how can we children have fun? Childhood is meant for having fun too, not being bossed over elders ALL the time😾
Your parent are 100% right there should be no fun and entariment for kids!!! KID SHOULD BE FOCUSING IN LEARNING AND STOP HAVING FUN!!!!
over here watching and realising my parents didn't know the 1st thing about parenting
I have literally being doing the same thing (drama) for the last 9 years (I joined when I was 4) and they have been forcing me to continue but I don't want to my mum is VERY STRICK what should I do
Ps . I tried to tell her politely and she got very mad and screamed at me then said tidy ur room or you'll sleep in the garden and I'll get rid of everything in your room (she's very serious)
Sp0oky _Jim, this may be late, but tell your father, or friends, or even teachers about this. You may want to tell family friends or even other family members to help, there are so many people who can help. You just have to look in the right place.
I hate when my parents compare me to another kid like seriously I'll never be them I have my own life and I live it different than they do so be quiet already! like might as well just let us be put up for adoption!
I'm Asian, and my mom always says,"Why can't you be more like American kids, they're respectful and obedient." But my mom also says,"Stop being like those American kids. They talk back to their parents and aren't respectful." Like, tf.
· Panic!AtTheFallØutPiløts · I know how you feel dude
I wish they could feel the pain we have, yes I know their parents were kind of bad too , but they always say they have to wash the dishes or they never acted like that seriously I'm pretty sure we don't believe that
they also tell us honey can you go and get that Q-tip for me please? and then when we ask they throw a fit and say, why can't you get it on your own you're so spoiled!
The Brown Soul Made Of Memory and Magic my parents always used to compare me to my straight A friend, and now I'm just here like "Nope. still not a straight A student 😂 just your average B's and mostly C's girl" they still compare me to her, and I just ignore it at this point. no point in listening if I'm already trying my best and I'm still "not good enough"
My parents were always overprotective, they were on me in almost every situation, and if I've done something well, I'll do better next time. Even if I got an A, I must get an A+ in my next semester. And they didn't tell me "wow, you're awesome. Keep going"; but, when I made a mistake, they were always here. What are the results? A teenager with problems of anxiety, that wants everything done with zero mistakes, not being able to cope about her difficult moments.
(sorry for my english).
This is a time in the comments where the users take off their masks and express what they feel and think.
Let's all be respectful to our parents even if they make unforgivable mistakes, all we can do is learn from them to become our better selves.
I am 14, I consider my parents incredible and they have taught me why all of these parenting mistakes are so wrong, and I agree with thi video whole heartedly
nothing about kids with depression, low self esteem, or that compare _themselves_ to others?
Dawabbit AJ I think that's basically due to not having enough time socialising and hanging out with friends....
So basically, the Parent doesn't let their child play with other kids that much which could lead to low self-esteem (Since you have no friends) which leads to depression.
That's just my observation.
Too many factors
Albatros I have suicidal thoughts and im 10...
emilytaylor177 FROM XBOX :D now. the thing is. do you really know what could happen if you commit suicide? you'll hurt all the people around you.
Depression can be caused by genetics or by any kind of difficult environment. Anxiety and extreme stress can lead to depression as well as any other mental disorder or physical disorder. Other people are right about lack of socialization from others whether their parents allow them to socialize or that other kids may not want to socialize back. Also many kids suffer from depression because of abuse, internal conflict, or from not having any specific reasoning at all. I could go on and on but these arent all the reasons for someones depression. Besides anyone can have depression it just may not be as severe as others. How i know this? I have anxiety and depression.... plus ive studied in psychology and sociology
Another important thing! Teach them about consent as soon as possible. Don't make them give their family members a kiss and a cuddle if they don't want to, don't get all up in their face if they don't want you to, tell them that they can't do things to other people without permission as well! Use the example of, "if you want to give your friend a hug, but they don't want a hug, just give them a wave instead." Don't make your child do things that they don't want to do, make sure they are in their comfort zone and they'll learn to do the same to others.
1:20
I wish a certain someone would just quit doing that....
My parents need to see the first one. I love them but I do keep secrets because I know if I tell them about my girlfriend or my internet friends then they'll just yell before I get to explain myself.
2:08 one time I was being bullied
Dad's advice- PUNCH 'EM IN THE NOSE!!
Mom's advice- Go tell an adult and use your words.
*HAHHAHAH* My parents do that do
my parents would say hit them back
so now when i hit my enemy treath my parents and everyone else wants Me to be a freaking angel or something
and terrorists are my number One enemy treath and no One agreeing on fighting back for their countries
so im besically treathened by law to be put in a jail for teenagers
My dad says punch them in the nose, then curse at them
Mystery TH-camr Edgy meme advice - shoot up the school
Mystery TH-camr - So true
But what if it really was the cat
the world may never know
2:38 **Brandon Roger's voice** "Oh you wanna see Jesus?"
the Mambo
I lie to my mom alot, she always angry at me and not my sister
the Mambo xD
TrickyAppleSugar IKR
If you buy a kid everything and they keep wanting other stuff, it's probably just because they're spoiled. I'm happy with how I grew up, although sometimes I may act a bit spoiled. I'm only thirteen right now. My mom has never really told me I can't have a job I want, but she also doesn't exactly tell me I can. She more explains how it would work out and how I should do research. I wanted to be an artist and author and she told me that I need some type of other job alongside art with more pay so I decided to be a cartoonist and author when I get older. I was around a lot of arguments when I was younger and my older brother needed more attention than me sometimes but I completely understand that. There are some things parents can't help. I kind of disagree with the part of the video that says that you shouldn't scold children in front of people, I think that they need to know they did something wrong and that there's consequences even if the consequences are getting told off in public. I guess I won't know until I am older though.
I think they are trying to say like scold them in a mature behavioral way like with no hittingn but its all perspective and that's mine
People need to watch videos like this before deciding to bring kids into the world. I love kids and few would readily admit to disliking them. But you have to think about how you will adapt ego-wise to the addition of another unique human being to your life. Many just have kids to pass on genes, and that's it. Truth bomb: a child is not an extension of their parent. They are a separate individual. I love beets, but if my kid spits them out? I won't call them names or force feed them. I'll just feed them something else they like. I know by the time I have a child I am going to get heat for treating my child as an actual human being. But luckily I think my generation is coming around to the idea that kids aren't just some kind of tiny 'mini-me.' They deserve nurturing and support to grow into healthy adults.
Mom:"WHY ARE YOU ALWAYS SO FREAKING LAZY GO OUT SIDE OR HANG OUT WITH YOUR FRIENDS GOD" me:"mom can I go play outside?" mom:"No" me:"mom can I go hang out with Taylor? ya know my only friend" mom:"No she is a bad infulence" me:"YOU WONDER WHY IM LIKE THIS!?!?"
I'M DYING AHAHAHA
Basically me but I have more friends.
Hayley Barefoot So true
Oh my god that is so true
Sadly I can relate
In my softball tournament this girl on my team was probably one of my best friends on the team started breaking down and we all asked her what's wrong she said:My parents made me do this I don't wanna do this anymore! And the coach let her sit out I could hear her mom yelling and the crying getting louder
BOY IN A BOX I know but plz don't cuss I'm a child ☺️
XxJCDATMANGLExX sorry
XxJCDATMANGLExX not to mention creepy people like stalking softball girls because of the stuff they wear sometimes or them peps just mental
Some people don't deserve to be parents.
Most of the comments on this video are privileged 1st world kids that think their parens are THE WORST because they don't give them what they want. Or they make them get of their lazy butts and do something physical, but this one is a real concern. That is a truly unreasonable parent.
I never had a life outside my family,no social life, no friends, no nothing. I wish I could tell my mom how I really feel, about everything. I always lie to her every now and then and I feel bad about it. I still and will always love my mother because she worked so hard to give me a life she could never have.
the girl on 2/3 is me im gonna show this to my mom and can i have a like or two so i can be happy even if my mom doesnt love me pls
BTS INFIRES me to BLINK everyday i got u
You are always loved 🙏💖
parents never think about us at all 😟
Yes i agree. they only think about society and their image in society .most of the parents ruined their children's career by imposing them their dreams and only thinking about themselves
Anu Verma its a vicious cycle
Yes...they only bring us down by all these things
I...kind of actually agree.
WHERES DA REBELLION SQUAD???
I partially agree.
Well they should think a little about us alongside their reputation they get through us.
THEY WOULD NEVER UNDERSTAND THIS.
where my 'I wish my parents were like this' squad at? 😯
Mohammed Arzan here🖐🏼
Here!
WE'RE RIGHT HERE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Mohammed Arzan I'm here, my amigo.
Mohammed Arzan 🙋
YES MANY PARENTS THINK THEIR CHILD PURPOSE IS TO RELIVE THEIR LIFE FOR THEM AND MAKE UP FOR THEIR FAILURES IN LIFE.
What about a kid who often gets bullied, or is selfish or something like that? Could you make a video why those kinds of things happen or did you already?
Bad parents disliked the video I'll pray for you
I think 5 minute crafts fanboys disliked this
#ChancierHades / /TheCrazyCH don't bring 5-Minute Crafts into this, lol, the fanboys might actually come
Karma
Pretty sure prayer and bad parenting go together well.
I DISLIKED THIS VIDEO BECAUSE THESE THINGS ABOUT HOW WE REACT IS NOT ALWAYS TRUE I'M A CHILD I KNOW THE CHILD WAYS
Jane Jones woah woah woah calm down
My mom always tells me to be like other people
I feel ur pain bro anime is the best 🤓
Kaira Kaneki Same... My mom really really hate anime
I was told when I was little that shows like Pokemon and Sailor Moon were for adults and were naughty so that I would not watch them.
lisha96 seriously? my parents even say anime is for child only why don't you find something better to watch
Kaycee draws Rodriguez Thats sad god bless ur life
When there's more kids watching this then there are parents...... (@_@)
My parents do everything that's in the video, because I have an Asian family.
UNICATS true I’m Asian also xd
You’re stereotyping Asian families? Rude!
A mistake that my mom made is pretty much the last example. Everyone on my moms family (including her) want me to be a chef, because I wanted to be a chef when I was, like, 8 years old. But now, I want to be an author, and I'm afraid to tell them the truth
GG *Hugs*
GG same. My mom wants me to be a doctor but I feel like I have more potential as an artist. My mom says I could do both but I can't seem to tell her the truth. I'm not interested into becoming a doctor. and I'm scared of ending up unhappy or making my mom unhappy. The worst part is that I have trypanophobia which means I'm scared of needles. *sigh* I feel your pain bro
If you want to be an artist, be an artist. You shouldn't have to be unhappy (and fearful) your entire life just to please another person. Your mom might be disappointed at first and maybe a little angry, but eventually she'll see that your happy and if you're happy, she'll be happy. It's a mother's goal in life to make their child happy. Even if she for some odd reason doesn't support you being an artist, I say go for it anyways. You could live your entire life being in a career you hate or you could stand up to your mom and tell her who you really want to be and be happy. and for help with your argument if you ever decide to tell your mom, being a doctor AND an artist is very unlikely considering how incredibly busy doctors are. Plus, if you ever want to be a mom, you will never see your kids. As an artist you'd be able to be a huge part of your kids lives but doctors have literally no time. My mom's doctor actually quit a few years ago becaue she never got to see her kids. Good Luck and I really do hope that you follow your passion
Alissa my mom really does hate me. Life my life with her for one day and you'll see what I mean
GG It's your life, if you want to become an author do it, why would you turn down your dreams because your mom wants you to be a chef. That sounds so lame, it's your career choice not your moms.
My mom compares me to my older brother all the time. I also remember getting lost in a store once and asking someone who worked there to help me find my mom, and once we found her she slapped me in front of everybody for 'running away.' I still don't understand that situation.
Reading this physically hurts.
Nashy TV ikr
I hope my parents wasn't like these... They always Let me down and never trust me... If i want that (even though it's not dangerous nor good), they'll give me somethin that i don't want (i sure know parents advice is always good, but i can't get what i want). And because of their behaviour is bad to me, i ended up as somethin that they don't want... Just like that last clip... Hope they can trust me next time. (I'm sorry If my grammar and spelling is wrong)
TORTUREING me is my mom's favourite time pass 😁
No job no hobbies why are you so passive?
Answer: Cuz I knew that this was gonna happen from the very beginning.😐
I wish that my mom would watch this video instead of yell at me when I go to the restroom instead of watching her kids or cleaning the house my life is horrable
Reese Hunter *yelling
*horrible
Sairong Bennett I know
*facepalm
Mom: Yui! You don't have any friends!
Me: I so do! I'm friends with Ashley, I'm friends with Jenny, I'm friends with Courtney...
Mom: They don't count! You've been friends with them for 7 years!
Me: What? If anything that makes them more friendly!
Tip: Move in with a bunch of friends when you finish high school, you can get away from parents and the more friends you have the less you need to pay for rent