Seriously wtf is the point of people adopting a child if they’re just gonna be like “Oh. It’s not our REAL child.” Like, the adoption process is just a waist of time and money at that point.
Some people do it for ego honestly. They think they're automatically good people because they "saved a child" but have no intention of actually raising said child.
But besides all that, what bothers me is the 'to the point of abusive'. I know the first half of it happens in Harry Potter and stuff, but that definitely *is* abusive. What are the standards here?!?
A former friend of mine on Facebook has a son who has put cleaning chemicals in bottles of ranch dressing. He would punch and kick adults and other kids. One day this kid covered the stairs of his house in shampoo to make his grandmother trip while she was looking after him. She broke an arm and her hip and was hospitalized. Mom thought he was so smart and thought him being “mischievous” (her words) was cute. This was all before the kid reached five. People calling her out for her Baby Bundy and bad parenting were immediately blocked.
Was semi-friends with a girl in college, prior to this incident. She had a 4 year old girl and after being in classes with her for a year, she got pregnant then had a son. Sometimes she would come into class ticked off at her mother. Her mother had, according to her, stolen her daughter from her and she was in court, trying to get custody of her daughter back. Not knowing anything about the situation, I tried to console her and give her advice on how she could demonstrate that she was responsible. My opinion of her changed towards the end of the second semester, after she had her son. She and I were sitting in the general office, outside the cubicle of our English professor, who was at lunch. She had her son with her, in a stroller. The baby started getting fussy and she realized his diaper needed changing. She picked him up and I grabbed his diaper bag, handed her a diaper, and asked where his wipes were. She said she'd just take the diaper. She put the baby, stomach down, on her knees and he had urinated and soaked his onesee outfit and the pad of the stroller. I looked in the diaper bag again and asked where another onesee was, so she could change him into that. She said he was just fine like he was. She unbuttoned his onesee outfit, changed the diaper, buttoned the urine soaked onesee back up, and placed the baby back in the urine soaked stroller. She then took the leaking diaper and dropped it into the small, wire trashcan beside us, in this general office. I felt like I was going to vomit. I had to get up and leave. No wonder she lost custody of her daughter. I stopped talking to her after that.
Okay I have to come back and reread that. At first I was about to say what's wrong with that. Until I read it again. Then I was like oh I get it. that's why parents should almost always carry an extra set of clothing, / wipes / diapers. You never know when they are going to be needed!!!!😀😀😀
@@amberwilson5769 i always carry an extra soaking sheet when I carry my cat to the vet. I don’t understand how parents can’t foresee the need when it comes to kids
There’s a mom who was so worried about hurting her daughters feelings she never corrected or disciplined the daughter. Now that mother is seventy and her daughter is thirty and is spoiled, entitled, rude, pushy, ungrateful and unable to understand why she has no friends.
My mom was extremely similar to this with our youngest brother (the golden child). She always said "A parent who loves their kids would never hit them," but what she truly meant by that is nobody should lay a hand on her precious baby, because she certainly had no issue with dad disciplining us (the older three kids) with the belt, and she often had no problem slapping and sometimes beating us too (and not for the reasons you may think). He pretty much had no friends (he’s doing better now), and our mom would distance herself from anyone who would even look at him wrong (she had no friends either) as well as try to justify her precious baby’s lack of friends, by saying that “gOd WaS hIs BiGgEsT fRiEnD” and “fUcK tHeM yOu DoNt NeEd FrIeNdS” (my favorite part to this is that she SWEARS kids his age actually gave a shit about god). That golden child grew up to be a spoiled rotten, selfish, narcissistic, abusive kleptomaniac just like her, and he also abused her too, but she didn't care because she was always pretending nothing was wrong or too up on some kind of drug (I guess) that tuned her out of the times he'd really take advantage of her.
@@GokuBlackRose978 yeah, but she remained the same with her; blaming everyone BUT herself as to why she ended up in jail. And I’m doing good. Cut her out of my life two years ago.
The one about the cousin who doesn't bathe with soap: Gotta be honest, what's making me most upset about this is it sounds like she might have a neurodevelopmental disorder which her parents never addressed. Maybe ASD or ADHD. Her parents did a fantastic job failing her.
Yeah I have ASD but I still use soap. And the only reason I don't have a job now is cuz I had a bad case of the stomach flu and didn't want to pass it to geriatric patients at the nursing home I worked at. Whoops.
I'm both an ADHDer and Autistic, and I'm incredibly sensitive to mint, and only recently got diagnosed in the middle of my 20s. You can imagine how much of a nightmare most toothpaste was for me growing up (I have to but it online just so it doesn't have mint in it, which *burns so bad*)
@@HopeGardner3amed same I worked in a drug store. Somebody passed covid to me and I just got tired of it. So I went to the hospital twice to get rid of it and then a month later got vaccinated. If somebody didn't open that stupid factory door in China it wouldn't be every where. People are out of work not because they don't need money its because getting paid like a slave is not worth the risk of dying. So I applied for aid and I'm looking into working from home.
im a slight autist, and i fucking hate showers, ill do it but ill get so pissed that ill tighten up my neck to the point whereit starts to hurt, the only thing not setting me over the edge is that i can hit weed pen after the shower
Dude. I reserve the whole "kid doesnt have to do x if they dont want to" to two things only: kids dont have to give hugs if they dont wanna, and if I've witnessed one kid being an absolute bully to another kid, and the bullied kid retaliates somehow, the bullied kid shouldnt be forced to apologize to the bully if they dont want to.
Yeah, sharing is a weird one for me. On one hand, I would like to encourage a child in my care (doesn’t matter if the kid came from my womb or someone else’s) to share and learn the concept of compromise, but it’s hard to teach them what a good compromise is when they’re single digit ages, though I’ve had better time teaching non-neurotypical children this concept than neurotypical children. I assume it’s because I can relate better to the non-neurotypical kids because I’m also not a neurotypical person, but it could also just be that the “normal” kids are pressured by parents to conform to social norms that should not be considered norms, therefore the child fears further loss of control. Note, I’m only referring to the two basic types of kids and basing my reactions on the people in my area and observations of their strategy of raising children
@@lizipearlvlogs oh yeah that too. No, Lizzie, Johnny was playing with the plastic shovel first, you can't just snatch it out of his hand. My two little nieces do that to each other all the time, they'll see their sister playing with something then all of a sudden want to play with it too. I've seen it more with toys or games than with money, but I don't doubt that that happens too. But mostly it's just been stuff like kids fighting over toys or games and to "keep the peace" the parents will usually just make the kid give up whatever he was playing with. I hate that, that's how I lost my Gameboy Advanced that had a special Mario sticker for the bottom half where the buttons were. My cousin was throwing a fit because I wouldn't let her start a new save file on Pokemon bc of course as soon as she saved her game, mine would be gone and I wasn't done with my Pokemon journey yet. I had even come across a shiny slugma and caught it. She tattled to my mom and aunt and my mom demanded I give her my GBA. She overwrote my game, took the Gameboy home with her, and two years later they moved neighborhoods and my aunt presented me with a smashed Gameboy with a missing pokemon blue cartridge that she had found under her daughters bed when they were moving. The sticker was ripped off, the buttons were missing, she had gotten the dpad pressed down too hard and stuck, as if she had purposefully pressed with all her might in the middle of the dpad, and the corner of the screen looked like it had been hit with a rock or something. It still turned on after I charged it! Couldn't play it though. I remember asking her about it at some point and she told me "oh yeah it turned off in the middle of me playing it and I couldn't get it to turn on again lol then I lost the game" and I'm like "yeah bc you stole it without the charger" and her and her mom had the nerve to be offended that I said she stole it. Btw the whole two years they had it, I would constantly hear from my aunt shit like "It's horrible that your video game went missing! I wonder what could have happened to it??? Maybe you took it somewhere and lost it???? Maybe the kid who found it needs it more?????? At least you can feel better knowing you made someone else happy 😊😊😊 so stop being so upset and forget about it!!!"
There is a third thing I add to that list, with a caveat. Kids, after trying a food at three stages, childhood, teenage, and adult, do not have to eat it if they have tried a "eff you!" bite and don't like it, or have a bad reaction of any kind, be it bodily, texture or just yuck! to it.
I was waiting for a bus a few years ago and I saw a mother and her two kids at the other side of the road. The mother was adjusting the buggy for her youngest child and she told the older one to cross only half of the road and wait at the middle bit. The older child was only about three years old and, hearing the instruction to cross, proceeded to dart across the full road as some traffic approached. Fortunately he wasn't hurt, but she was absolutely furious at him for not fully understanding the nuance of her instructions at such a young age. The most aggravating part of all this is that she could have easily taken 10 or 20 seconds to walk over to the traffic lights that were just a few feet away instead of needlessly risking her child's life like that.
Shit, even I hardly understand that. Idk how the hell she expected a practical baby to understand. Also it’s irresponsible as hell to send such a small child alone like that anywhere aside from a home they’re familiar and comfortable in let alone a busy road.
Knew a kid that would throw a tantrum every time you made him eat anything else besides fries, nuggets and soda drinks. Like full on throwing on the floor, wailing their arms/legs and scream-crying tantrums. Most of his teeth were missing because they started rotting from all the sugar and fell out. I’d like to say we helped him, but his parents just stopped bringing him to kindergarten...
Unfortunately knew people who would lock their toddler in her room at night so they could get drunk and party. Don't think it ever crossed their minds how dangerous that was. I was never close to them but even the majority of their party friends stopped hanging out with them because of their obsessive drinking and irresponsible bullshit like that.
The house my dad bought has all of their locks facing the outside, including what was once the child’s room. It’s likely the parents locked the kids and the dogs away all day and let them defecate everywhere before they left their house. My dad had to replace all the flooring. The only rooms that didn’t have that lock system was the master bedroom and the bathrooms.
in 4th grade i knew a girl who we’ll call fiona for privacy reasons. she was super nice and great to be around. one day we were eating lunch and she just casually said “yeah i haven’t used my ipad for non school related stuff in 3 months, haven’t played a video game in 7, and haven’t gone to a friend’s house in 2 years, my mom says i should just study, clean, and learn to cook”
@@Dead_cvpid If you think not allowing a 4th grader to visit friends for two years, and saying that they should only study, clean, and learn to cook is okay, then I hate to say it but you probably didn't turn out fine. Y'all realize that relaxation, play, and friendships are important parts of child development right?
I knew a girl that grew up only eating chips and cold hotdogs with no buns. Her dad was such a piece of shit and she couldn't understand why the state stepped in and removed her from his house. She had so much issues eating other foods that she would starve herself for days because the food that was served "looked" icky. There were other things with sexual grooming I found out later from her mom. ... :< I haven't seen her in a while but I hope she's doing okay.
This was a lot less depressing than I expected it to be! Usually these kinds of questions get mostly child abuse answers, rather than bad parenting answers, but this was a mix of both! ...God, that’s depressing to think about...
@@VanityDivined The various other videos on this channel that are about bad parenting, or children of mentally ill parents, or carers/teachers of disabled children - pretty much any video featuring children, really. Seriously, go watch any of the UE videos involving kids and see how many of the stories involve abuse/neglect/exploitation/etc.
And it's like, I'm expecting about half of these to happen in the US, where they apparently let some of these things happen, but you can lose custody for watching a child playing outside through the window... I just don't get it
When I was 6, I was on a trip to Disney world and eating at one of the restaurants at the boardwalk resort for dinner. It was a pretty nice restaurant, we were just enjoying our meal and some girl comes running and vomits on the floor next to mad dad and some got on his favorite shirt he was wearing. The restaurant manager actually had to chase the parents down as they were hastily trying to leave to avoid taking responsibility and the staff literally had to make them apologize, they made no effort to help clean up the mess amd it didn’t even seem genuine, just like watching parents make their misbehaving 4 year old apologize, thankfully the staff was super cool about it and even gave my dad a new shirt and they even got the meal for free, but I’m still pretty sure he lost his appetite. Disney world still somehow has the nicest staff despite all the crap they probably face.
Once knew a dude who hated furries so much that he refused to let his kid watch any movie/show, or play any games with talking animals so that way the kid didn't 'grow up a fursuited dog fucker' This kid would be watching nothing but horror movies or action movies, not even cartoons. Kid is 18 now living with his mom and is the biggest furry I know; dad 'disowned' him.
Furries are abominations and disgraces to humanity but I doubt watching Peppa pig and SpongeBob will turn you into a furry the dad definitely overreacted
The fastest way to get a kid to love something you despise... make sure they know you despise it while making their life harder than it should be. Example here: kid goes to school. Kids talk about latest spongebob episode. Kid stares blankly. Kid wonders: why can't I watch spongebob? Goes home, asks dad, dad goes on long angry rant about furries. Kid files info away for later. Still no spongebob. No Avatar the movie. No fun shows. Nothing those his age watch. He still makes friends, warns them not to let dad know he sneakily watches these shows at friends house - tell dad we saw Nightmare on Elm Street or whatever. Dad thinks, good... kid found friend who won't turn him into a furry. Kid bides their time, anger/resentmeny growing over a lost childhood not spent watching silly cartoons like his friends, but being subjected to content much too mature for him. Kid finally gets old enough. Finds Furry crowd. Joins. Dad disowns, but kid is happy. Would kid have become a furry either way? No idea... maybe... maybe not. But the way dad went about it almost guaranteed that particular outcome. Boundaries are very important, yes... but as a parent, you have to remember - these kids you raise are NOT carbon copy minis of you. They are NOT carbon copy minis of the other parent, either. They are MORE than even a mix of the two. They are INDIVIDUALS, and each one will have their own likes, dislikes, lives, hates, emotions, etc. They are also much more likely to become/do something you despise (even subconciously) if you don't have a good relationship with them growing up. Fairness, compromising, listening, and doing your best to understand their viewpoints goes a VERY long way. Sighs... honestly, I've long thought people should be required by law to have a parenting liscence to become a parent. To get the license, you have to pass classes such as "early childhood development", "child psychology", "conflic resolution", "anger management", and "integrating your child into your life." And more... But... that's my opinion. =D
Kid at my old school. His class went through 6 teachers in 2 years, he's been to three schools since he finally left a year ago. His mum is constantly posting on Facebook about how teachers 'just don't understand him.' He's broken multiple tvs at home, and got angry at his brother for having a broken arm and 'only breaking it to steal attention'. He came out as gay recently so now his mum is accusing any teacher who disciplines him of homophobia. Wild times at that old school.
Any parent who follows the book "To Raise Up A Child". It encourages starting to flog your children as infants if they won't go to sleep and to use a length of pipe on older kids.
20:05 As an Asian, this is just so depressing. Can't describe it any other way. It reminds me of the time when I was in high school, my mom told me once that my dad wanted me to become a pharmacist. There was another time my dad told me that if I didn't get a PhD, I was a failure. Then there was a time when my mom wanted me to go to a university instead of a community college (I did end up going to a university but out of my own volition and not anybody else's). Sounds like they were trying to control me instead of guiding me. They didn't even graduate college so how would they know how much stress college or university students go through? The stress that students pursuing a doctor's degree go through? They should understand. I've made my decision to not put up with that much stress. There's a fine line between inspiring someone to do better and controlling someone like a puppet only to satisfy your desires. Fortunately, I was smart to know that I'm my own person and I make my own choices even if it means defying my parents, not some living trophy or puppet to show off. I knew I have autonomy. I'm not a robot submitting to every command. Gonna stop my rambling there. My ultimate albeit morbid curiosity is how did that girl's parents feel when she offed herself? Do those parents have other children? If so, then if the parents don't learn their lesson, I fear that the other children may suffer through the same thing.
Bless ya soul, I hope you find peace and happiness whatever ya choose to do. I follow my folks philosophy, you can be anything ya wanna be in this world except a bum. They would support me regardless, I thank them for that. My only hope is that perhaps they see ya for your own self friend.
God this reminds me of a story my mom likes to tell So when I was just a baby, my family was coming out from Walmart for buying stuff for Christmas (Can't remember why- but I know the story happened in December) and my mom saw this woman on her phone while this woman's sons were being just awful individuals, kicking one another and screaming. My brother (who is autistic) started to get loud himself when my mom stopped to calm him down because probably the yelling from the other boys were getting him overstimulated- and the woman on the phone had the audacity to say to my mom "You should really take care of your kid". Thank god my dad was with me while heading to the car because my mom started YELLING at this woman about being a hypocrite (To the point where other people were staring) and honestly I wish I was older when that happened cause I would've loved to see that. Needless to say, the woman shut up real fast
@@fantasea114 Except it fucking did???? Seriously dude- all because you can't trust everything does NOT give you the right to deny EVERY story you read. And besides, even if it DIDN'T happen, why come after me for it? I'm just sharing my MOMS story. Not my own.
Once I was just walking peacefully in the park near my house with my older brother, we both saw a kid (who looked around my age) throwing the biggest tantrum I’ve seen my entire life about something. We decided to ignore him and continue with our business, when all of the sudden he stopped crying, ran to me and shout to his mom: “I want to befriend with this pretty girl, make her my friend now old woman!!”. Yes, he called his mom old woman and wanted to be my friend at the first time I met him. And, as a protective but polite brother, my brother calmly said no to him ‘cuz he thought that boy was a trouble-maker. Then he got offended and started a fight with my brother. Yes, he really thought a 10-year-old inexperienced boy could beat a brown-belt 15 years old teenager. Very logical. After all, his mom had to apologized for what he’s done. We didn’t accept that, we wanted the boy to apologize, not the mother. He didn’t apologize anyway.
Went out with a girlfriend, we had a surprise guest on our date, her friends 2 year old who she took from the mom because the mom and her boyfriend thought it was funny to get her high and drunk.
I work at an expensive private school. I think one of the hardest relationships I’ve had to see was with narcissistic parents who are not properly grown up themselves. Their kids are props with mommy issues, just starving for love and attention and thrown onto their nannies.
my dad is a police officer who works at the courthouse in my city. recently, he was present during a child abuse/neglect case (basically he stood in the background and made sure no one tried to fight). the case was about a mother with 4 kids, ranging from 6-14 i think, and she would force them to shoplift for her. if they didn't do it, they'd either be beaten, or kicked out of the house in the middle of winter or in the summer. and i live in the south, summers are freaking brutal. thing is, this was actually a case from a couple years ago, 2019 in fact, it was postponed because of covid and the mother is now finally being charged. she also is being charged with sexual abuse i think(?), not sure of the term, because she has "do it" with her boyfriend in front of her kids many times, as they used to share one motel room together, and apparently has done "stuff" with one of her younger children. all around god awful stuff. i dont remember how many years she has behind bars, but let me tell you, it wont be pretty for her. and for the cherry on top, this horrific woman got absolutely hammered by the prosecuter for the closing statement to the point where my dad almost had to jump in as the mother was so furious at being called a piece of shit (which she is) that she started rising out of her seat. i feel so bad for the children, as from what my dad said, were very soft spoken and respectful, and all around beautiful kids. my heart goes out for them
When I was a kid, my next door neighbors had a drug ring going and ran a brothel out of their house. They had a 13 year old daughter. When the undercover cop knocked on the door, he was horrified to learn that her virginity was for sale that night. She was promptly removed and all the adults were arrested. I never saw her again, but I hope everything turned out good for her.
My family has lots of friends and I got to hear the tale of Mary (name changed) the younger sister of my grandmother's best friend Ruth. Mary had made her youngest daughter Goldie the favorite, she could do no wrong and never had to lift a finger. She was also 10 years younger than the next kid in the family. Mary made all of the rest of her children, sons Rudy and Jasper, and daughter Silvia work to support the family. (I suspected more neglect imo but this is how I was told the story.) Silvia eloped and moved across the country, as soon as Rudy was old enough he enlisted in the army and Jasper followed Rudy when he was old enough too. Goldie overdosed on H some years later as a teen. When Mary tried to invite her kids to the funeral they where all unreachable (the age well before facebook) and supposedly hired a private investigator to find out their whereabouts. After a lot of time and money was spent, Rudy was found to have a family in Germany, Jasper had his own in Australia and Silvia had divorced her husband and became a lesbian in New York. They all declined to speak to their mother or attend the funeral, they also told her just to write them out of the will because they all had disowned her. Ruth had limited contact with Jasper because he'd visit our town from time to time and whenever the topic of Mary or Goldie came up he'd change the subject. Mary insisted she had done nothing wrong and all those ungrateful children had no idea how precious Goldie was. Mary died never seeing her children or their families, made her will out to Ruth and as far as I know Ruth made efforts to get part of the estate out to the three. It was an ongoing process when I heard this story and Ruth did not visit anymore after my grandmother's death.
@@madelineschramm2657 I do not know, I head all the story from when my grandma's friend would come to visit and would from time to time keep my grandma informed about the drama. My grandmother died a decade ago and Ruth came to the funeral but that was the last I saw of her. In my heart I hope the lot of them got to have a family reunion.
The smart Asian girl reminds me of myself. My parents are always yelling at me about my grades, if I have a B, they wonder why I don't have an A. It's horrible. I know you think your helping me, but it's hurting me way more than a failing grade is. High school is way harder than it was when you went, so please give me a break
I always had a B. I am doing pretty fine in life, getting paid more than most of my friends. I struggled in the initial years of employment, but I picked up the skills to keep me well paid. Grades don’t matter in real world
Typical immigrant parents have that mindset, they want to see their kids suceed. But that's not always how it works. In the real world grades don't really matter, it's the perfect combo of hard skills, social skills, connection, and opportunity. Your kids can't develop healthy social skills when all they do is study to get As
I developed that at birth and still have a tube in my head from it. The super invasive surgeries saved me from cognitive side effects, but my organs are forever adhered to each other. Even though I’m fine now, I still have to watch my head because I have a permanent hole and weakness in my skull.
I also have hydrocephalus. It can also go the other way where your parent basically raises you constantly saying "You can't ever fall or you will die!" I can jump ala jumping jacks and the like but I can't jump up and forward for step exercises or even jump off the last few stairs because I'm afraid I'll die. Trying to correct this as an adult.
So if a person with that condition jumps off of something, like the stairs in your case, then there's a chance they might give themselves a concussion?
@@kaitlyn3168 Basically we have shunts in our heads like a bunch of tubes bunched together strung all through our bodies. It helps the excess cerebral spinal fluid (that's the water) that we get flooded with so it gets put out with the other waste. If we get a head injury, like a concussion, it will basically crush and block the pathway for the fluid to get out. So yeah, dead.
Genuinely curious if people having a good childhood actually exists. Mine was so painful and everyone else I know has also experienced some level of bad childhood. Society needs so much reform 🙄
I'm very lucky to have my parents, but neither of them had good upbringings either and I know my mum definitely has trauma. Two of my aunts are abusive towards my cousins, and most of my friends have at least one parent who's a piece of garbage. It's scary, like is a decent childhood THAT rare?
I mean, mine was okay, my parents have questionable parenting methods, but it's obvious that they're trying really hard despite their mistakes. I couldn't blame them either since they both grew up without knowing parental affection.
I once saw two young mothers whit children on the bus, they were seated on those bigger seats that face each other, and there was a handle in between for those who struggled to get up. they talked about their kids and one said how she doesn't know why is her toddler son always so sick and they both looked at him WHILE HE WAS CHEWING THE BUS HANDLE AND THEY SEAD NOTHING!!!
My "aunt" and "uncle" have a baby that they don't take care of. His grandparents do everything. He stays up in their trash filled room with them while they argue all night.
Family friends spoiled their kids and treated them younger then they where so they didn't develop as quickly, because their first born was unfortunately a stillborn and the other two kids where born premature (used that as a excuse for a lot of their behavior) when we had several guests over including them and thier kids, me/sister, and another set of siblings there, they acted strange as usual all day and the youngest of us (7) gave the A the 12 year old at the time a werid look and she spat on him the dad was inside but the mom was there and witnessed it the only comment given was "ohh a A that wasn't very nice". Lady parent your daughter toddlers spit on each other.
20:28 No matter what that should always be a red flag. Speaking from experience, the day you decide to end it you'll feel so happy because your suffering is finally over. If anyone ever says something like this ask them if everything is ok, make them feel valued, etc.
So it was bad that I was happy to leave middle school because I was finally going somewhere new away from that hellhole but wasn't feeling unliving-like at the time? Because that suffering was over for all of the summer until I realised those kids came with me to the next place.
Story from just the other day. I work in retail in the UK, I'm 24 and some of my cashier colleges are under the age of 18, they're not legally able to sell alcohol or knives without my or another colleagues permission. Long story short, a lady was refused knives, because she was going to give them to her 16 year old son. She was verbally abusive to the young girl working at the till (I was stood with her and tried to defuse the situation). But what stopped her from having a full blown Karen moment, was her son, who told her she was "embarrassing" and "they're just doing their job". I've never been so proud of being apart of the Z generation. but... F*ck that woman, she should know better then to be a b*tch to someone who is the same age as her son.
I'd get a foot up my arse and a fist down my throat, at the same time! When I was young and would see a brat acting up in a department store, I'd ask my father "what would you do if I acted like that?". His response was "It never would have gotten that far!"
The one with the little girl with the skis and the Dad yelling at her reminds me of a guy I knew. We were going skiing and he brought his gf along. First day she's renting skis and he starts yelling at her for taking so long. Nothing she can do because the ski shop is backed up, but he doesn't care and keeps yelling even after she's in tears. A couple of years later, he, his gf, his brother and his brother's wife get visited by the Secret Service. Friend worked for a bank software company and had copied the bank's ATM PIN number file and was in the middle of making counterfeit ATM cards when the SS knocked on their door. I really felt sorry for the gf. She was a sweet kind woman who would never have done anything like that on her own, but she just attached herself to the wrong guy.
My friend was saving up to move out and start his own life. His mom used his savings to pay rent. I helped him close his account and start a new one at a new bank his mom didn't use. When he moved away I sent him housewarming gifts. We continue to celebrate his escape.
Some of these were super relatable for me. My mom is a narcissistic gas lighter. Some examples of her behavior are; 1. telling me every year what SHE was doing at any particular time on my birthday even after I tell her it makes me uncomfortable, 2. tried to choke me after I said something in a different language and refused to tell her what it meant, 3. screaming at me about not using the heel of the loaf of bread we were using even though she knows that the heels of the bread always screw up my stomach, 4. conveniently “forgetting” I have autism, 5. comparing me to my deadbeat father and saying any negative traits I have (or any trait she hates in that moment, really) I got from him but that everything good I got was from her, 6. saying crap like “oh, yeah. That’s why I kept you” when I grab something to high up for her (not in a joking tone, just deadpan and every time I help her in any way) or “the only reason I gave birth to you was because I had recently had an abortion when I got pregnant with you”, 7. locking me in my room when I was little and pissed her off for so long that I would have to pee in the vent on the other side of my room so I wouldn’t get in trouble for peeing on the floor, 8. telling me to give up on my dream job (being a vet) because I was “so terrible at math and science that [I’d] only end up killing the animals” only to (recently) freak out and demand that I go back to planning on doing some form of veterinary science or be a zoologist because she hates the idea of me going into game design, or 9. (a particular favorite of mine) forces me to watch scenes in movies I am uncomfortable with because “oh, please. It’s just a movie. Stop being so dramatic”. Not to mention her insistence that she isn’t a gas lighter because “I was in a gas lighting relationship before and it hurts me that you would even say that. You don’t even know what that means, anyway.” Mind you, all of these are direct quotes from her. It should come as no shock that I intend on going no contact with her once I have the money to move out.
God you're mother sounds like the mom in Carrie, just awful. Nope, no shock to anyone to that you would go no contact after you move out. I'm so sorry you have to deal with all that and hope you find happiness and follow you're dreams. From a stranger on the internet, I'm rooting for you and wishing you loads of happiness and success
@@luffydpirate9518 Since tomorrow is my birthday and I almost have enough to move out and live on my own, I considered making telling her I was never speaking to her again after my birthday my present to myself. Unfortunately, it’s also my stepdad’s birthday and I don’t want to make his birthday crappy by causing trouble. So, instead, I’m bringing up the fact that I have done everything she herself told me I needed to do years ago to get my own pet and proceed to get myself a kitten. Partially to piss her off (she hates cats), partially to have something in that house that actually cares about me and partially because I want to give a home to an animal in need. I would get a dog but I have neither the energy nor the space to have a dog. Fully intend on bringing the cat with me when I move and head out for college.
@@wolfcat1973 Not sure on you telling her, but don’t give her your address. I read too many horrific stories of abusive/narcissistic parents that stalk their children when they try to leave on their own. Worst case scenario: she poisons every family member, friends or associates against you by claiming you were a problem children and states that ‘your an ungrateful child for abandoning her’; a real tactic most of them use to get people on their side. You ever heard of the gray rock method? If yes, you should practice it.
@@viv7810 Oh, she already has most of the family believing that I’m the problem. The only family I speak to on a somewhat regular basis that doesn’t go along with how she portrays me is my uncle (her older brother) but that’s possibly just out of spite towards her, since she tried to pull the same thing on him and has, thus, not spoken to her apart from begrudgingly wishing her a happy birthday (only because she wishes his a happy birthday under the pretense that he would look shallow and like an ass if he didn’t since his birthday is 2 days before hers and she made sure to wish him a happy birthday) and at my Papa’s funeral back in January in over two years. I have not heard of that technique. I’ll check it out after I finish work today. She already knows I plan on moving out of the county to head to college and has already started trying to make me cast doubts on going there because she knows I don’t like driving on highways and this place is basically a 4 hour drive (bare minimum) on the highway from our town, so she is already trying to poison my mind in that regard. It’s funny to see how my stepdad supports me doing this while my mom keeps yelling at me to get out then throws a fit when I start making plans to actually do so. My plan with the kitten didn’t pan out as she now claims she told me “I only said we could *discuss* getting a pet when you had enough to pay for it.” and “If Rand (step dad) was the one coming to me about this, then this could be a serious conversation, but since he’s not, it doesn’t matter.”
Wow, my parents are great. They put alot of effort into finding healthy foods I liked. Most of the stuff I disliked, but eventually they found what I liked: apples, bananas, burritos. They raised me to be incredibly cautious of being unhealthy.
So I live at an apartment complex, have for my whole life. Majority of people don't stay here for long so there weren't many kids my age after a certain point. When I was about 10 I would play with the younger kids simply because I was bored and needed to be outside. They were nice and my interests were still childish enough for me to get along with them fine. This one girl's mom tried to dump her 6 year old on me to babysit. She really just dropped her daughter next to me and left for work. To be clear, she asked me and left before I could respond. I also had and still have really bad anxiety so needless to say I was the least qualified to babysit. Of course, my parents didn't tolerate this when I told them what just happened and promptly called her mom's work. The girl's mom got really upset at me when she came back to get her kid. But are you really going to blame me when you dumped your kid on a 10 year old and leaving before I could give a response?
As a mother i tend not to get involved with parents who are reprimand their kids or anything else as i know i don't like it. But the one and only time i have and nearly hit the p.o.s mother was when her toddler was walking through a parking lot wearing only shorts and tshirt and wearing flip flops in -20 weather while snowing. That p.o.s was wrapped up warm and didn't even notice the little girl had fallen in the snow because she was too busy on her phone. I picked the little girl up and carried her to her p.o.s. and she had got in the store before i did. Finally i stopped her and the p.o.s called the cops on me for child abduction. The cops showed up and took one look at the child who was clinging to me and arrested the p.o.s. for child endangerment. I didn't even notice the little girls toes had started to turn blue. Apparently this wasn't the first time they have had to interven with the p.o.s and cps kept returning her. As i knew one of the cops she told me the courts had given the father custody of 5 of their kids and the remaining 3 went into the system as fathers were unknown. The father had been fighting the system for years. Mothers even if your kids throw temper tantrums not wanting to wear the appropriate clothes for extreme weather force them to. They may hate you at that moment but they get over it first. That p.o.s isn't the first mother ive seen not dress their kids warm. Even though they make sure they themselves are. Ive seen what frost bite can do and how sick kids can get. My kids are adults and i understand how frustrating it can be to get them to wear things. Weather walking across a parking lot or walking around out side. Flip flops shorts and tshirt is not Michigan winter weather. They shut the schools at -10.
Ooh, can I jump in if I'm the kid? When I was 2-3, I fell out of the car, bumped my head, and had a seizure. During the hospital visit and scans, the doctor told my mom that a certain feature of my brain was common in psychopaths/sociopaths (idk which, he/she was probably just sharing an interesting factoid and didn't mean any harm). Mom then made it her job to test out my emotional depth and ability to feel guilt. She would go out of her way to make me cry (I wasn't a tearful baby/kid, so I guess it was a point of concern), guilt trip me to the moon and back over tiny, insignificant things, and just generally manipulate my emotions to result in a desired reaction. I caught onto this early even as a young child and just....stopped reacting. I shut down emotionally to protect myself, which only made her try harder and get meaner about how wrong I was. As such, I didn't develop normally socially or emotionally in a lot of ways and I had a meltdown away at college when I finally felt safe to express myself. It took me a looooong time to figure out how to regulate difficult emotions and to figure out that I wasn't in fact a sociopath or psychopath as she sometimes called me. I'm in a better place now but I'm super, super sensitive to being manipulated (watching Ender's Game made me vomit) and I continue to shut down when the situation feels off or I get uncomfortable. It got to the point that I get mad at people who cry because making herself tear up was one of the ways she made me feel guilt and it just...transferred to all crying that's not out of physical pain. Yeahhhhh. I need therapy.
As an adult child of an alcoholic myself who continues to relapse into her 60s, I'm very proud of you!! Keep going for your kids, you're doing awesome! 👏
My great aunt has two teenage children, a boy around 14 and a girl around 16. My grandma was telling me that at home the parents never open the curtains or let light into the house, and that they rarely go outside. The kids have never been to school, meant to be homeschooled yet I am pretty sure they learn nothing. The girl has not had a shower in many years, since apparently when she was young she just didn’t want to and the parents did nothing about it. I saw the kids at a family gathering a year or two ago, and the poor girl was pacing up and down the patio not talking to anyone and getting freaked out any time someone touched her or spoke to her. She has clearly not had much human interaction and seems to have some mental problems because of how she has been raised. The boy does not appear as bad, but still is suffering the same way at home. I feel so bad for those poor children, how will they ever get jobs and go to the real world if their parents have raised them in this way? :(
@@billolsen4360 well my grandma (sister of the great aunt) says that she seemed okay as a child and never appeared to have any mental illnesses, however they could have not noticed or the illnesses could’ve developed later in life. And I’m not sure about her husband. But even if that is the case, the children don’t deserve to be raised like that, so they either need to be taken out of the parents care, or the parents need some treatment/therapy
My story was similar to the Asian girl's, except instead of Harvard, my father wanted me to go into the military. I was rejected by every single one of them. For a long time I was determined to make myself into some kind of Soldier Hunter. It wasn't until many years later when my father confided in me that he has PTSD and was now on some of the medications that were forced on me that everything kinda came into focus. He's retired from the military and still can't be there for the new family he tried to replace me with. I no longer hate him. I just needed to ask myself who I am and what I want. I still don't know. But I definitely don't want to be my father. So I'm going to be a part of my kid's lives. I'm going to be there for them while giving them their own space to grow. I'm going to celebrate their victories and failures so they can grow from both. I'm going to support them with anything they want to do or be even if it's just a passing phase. I have a young girl who wants to be a furry. When my fiancee told me I was mad for almost a minute but my yelling went from my disgust and hatred for furries to how and where am I going to find the resources to make a fursuit for everyone in the family!? She laughed at how ridiculous the change went from me going ballistic in anger to being constructively angry and supportive at the same time lol. Anyway, I want to be everything I needed from my father so my kids can have what they deserve. Someone who loves them with every atom of my existence and wants them to be safe, happy, healthy and for them to know that no matter what happens I'll always believe in them and I'll always be there for them and most importantly, if I make eye contact and adjust my hat it means whatever we're doing, we're having too much fun and we can't tell your mother about this. As long as you understand this code, I will have your back when you need it. Now, reload the multi-crank operated gatling potato gun while I go setup the targets...
Coming from having been raised by crappy parents myself, I think these types of stories hit a more personal nerve with me than with most people. Especially the ones where parents neglect their children to the point where their ability to function suffers as a result because I've been through that myself.
At my baby shower I had a friend that brought her toddler. The toddler proceeded to literally lay in the middle of the floor of where we were all congregating and threw a temper tantrum because she didn’t get a balloon she wanted. Instead of stopping it, her mom just started mimicking her and making crying noises back louder than her. I literally was dumbfounded. As my mother always said… “What’s worse than fighting with a toddler… Losing to one.”
Once witnessed a real classic: a family with two children, older boy and little sister, were doing some clothes shopping. Everybody's nerves were obviously already spread thin. Boy got into an argument with his sister and then proceeded to hit and, I kid you not, curb stomp her. It was unnerving. The mother shouted at him to not hit his sister. And promptly slapped him to prove her point.
Used to have friends that were foster parents to their nephews. They were doing the work to officially adopt them. The boys were 13 and 14. One time, the 13-year-old accidentally called my "friend" at the time by her given name instead of "mom" and this psycho pulled him over her knee, and ripped his neck hair out with her fingers. In front of me. I was like, what the fuck is wrong with you? Thankfully, the boys went to live with their birth father soon after, and I stopped talking to those people. If she was willing to do something like that in front of me, I shudder to think of what went on behind closed doors. Have never been more shocked.
I just remembered a story of my own. When I was like 8 or 9 my Dad, Aunt, and Uncle took my brother and I to a local theme park. We were taking a break at a food court when a baby in a stroller starts crying nearby. After a few minutes we noticed that nobody had checked on the baby yet so my Aunt went up to the stroller and started asking around for their parents. Nobody around knew where the parents were so my Aunt started trying to sooth the baby while my Dad went to go find a park staff to help. What felt like a half-hour later a woman comes charging up yelling at my Aunt to get away from her baby. They got into a shouting match and I don't remember all that was said but I do remember my Aunt asking the woman why she left her baby alone for so long and the woman replying that it was none of her business and that her child was just fine on their own because they were napping. My Aunt then said that the baby had been crying for a long time and that it was irresponsible of her to leave her child alone. My Uncle stepped in at that point and pulled my Aunt away because it looked like the woman was about to jump her and then the woman just quickly left with her baby.
As a now grown womanchild whose parents consist of an emotionally abusive narcissist and an emotionally neglectful and abusive irresponsible drunk who would often drink booze with her epileptic pills, I think we can all agree that crackheads and addicts should not have kids. Too bad too many of these people have kids way too easily. This shit is why I'm asexual.
The last one with the mom yelling at her toddler makes me so angry. She had done nothing wrong and seems smart for her age as well but is punished for it? That’s so unfair.
I didn't witness this myself, I was told of it by my friend who was involved. I used to live in a very small, remote mining village in South Africa. One day my friend was driving home and she saw a toddler of about 3 years old walking along, unaccompanied quite far from his house. It was a small village where everyone knew everyone else so my friend knew where the child lived. She took him home to.his mother who showed no concern at all. The mother said "Oh, don't worry it's in his nature to wander. I just let him go where he wants !" My friend couldn't believe her ears. The village was surrounded by bush that harboured venomous snakes, scorpions and other nasty insects anything could have happened to the child but the mother wasn't concerned for him in the slightest. My friend wasn't the only one who had to take the child home.
My aunt likes to spoil my little cousin, and it’s to the point where he will literally whine and cry like a baby if he doesn’t get his way. He’ll be 10 in February. And what I mean by that is, if you tell him off for being a piece of shit, he’ll go whine to his mommy and get you in trouble. NO JOKE. HE BULLIES MY BROTHERS BECAUSE HE KNOWS HE WILL GET AWAY WITH IT. BUT THE MOMENT MY BROTHERS ACCIDENTALLY TAP HIM WHILE THEYRE PLAYING, HELL WHINE AND CRY AND BE TREATED LIKE A BABY. I get that he’s her youngest, but babying him at nearly 10 and let him bully my 7yo brother and have a, quite frankly, very inappropriate relationship with my 5yo sister is NOT okay. He also tried tattling to his mom bc me and my cousin (his older brother) were watching EmKay, and they have a part of their intro where they flip the bird, and we can’t watch TH-camrs that curse on the tv bc of the kids. My aunt ignored him, bc she knows that they don’t curse (not really), but still. I’m not saying that my mom is a saint, but her parenting is a lot better than my aunts.
How PATHETIC do you have to be , as a grown adult and MOTHER, to hurt another child and steal their belongings for your spoiled little brat? That story is less severe than stories of abuse or such, but that just plain caught me off guard.
I don't know why I listen to these sometimes. I'm a mum to a miracle baby and would love to be an adopted mum someday. I feel bad of I let my kid watch too much TV. Apparently that's pretty low on the list of bad parenting after listening to these. I'm totally crying over some of these stories 😭
two random girls at chuck e cheese took slices of my sister's cake without asking and their parents giggled nervously at my mother, then I witnessed a white girl (around 3 or 4)shove a black boy( around 5 or 6) out of the way when he was playing a game then when he shoved her hand away in defense, she screamed hysterically and ran away. I asked the boy if he was alright and took him to his grandmother and explained what happened. Then Little Karen and her mom walked over and the girl said "Thats him Mommy, thats the (n word) who wouldn't let me play". My jaw dropped to the floor and the grandmother and the girls mom began to cuss each other out, the girls mom was shouting a bunch of racist shit, while the grandmother was telling her how much of a bad role model she was to her child. As a black person, I of course was offended by the racism but Im just shocked at how people could be training their children into Karens Also one time when I was in 7th grade I stopped talking to one of my friends after her younger brother called my sister "slave girl " at school and his fake ass mother laughed it off and didnt do jackshit
"Why don't you have a license and a car like everyone else your age?" "I don't care if your friends get the license paid by their parents and a car for birthday. You work for it!" "No, you don't work for that company. Because I say so" "You shouldn't work so much, look out for your body" "Don't exercise, that is too hard on you" "You don't need to do your homework, you are smart" I was 13 when I understood that my Mom was just anti. No matter what, she disagrees. And I made it a game to see how often I can switch sides in a 30-minute discussion. No, she does not realize that I am using an argument she used 5 minutes ago. These days I just stop and ask in what direction she actually wants to argue, and she just stares at me confused. I shouldn't do A, I should do B. And when I agree, she says how bad B is. I agree and do A and it loops. So I don't take any position at all, not even a hint, and she doesn't know where to go.
My mom went babysitting my 4yo cousin because her mom works 24/7. The kid won't eat nothing then french fries candy and oreos, it wasn't my aunt's fault, my uncle is super paranoid and never tells my little cousin no. My little cousin used to only watch one cartoon in repeat, cry if she doesn't get what she wants. 1year later and my cousin now watches everything, eats very nice and is more well behaved and not a manipulative child anymore.
The other side is let-it-all-hang-out parents who show you how disgustingly selfish, uncaring, un-self-aware, un-self-governing, and hedonistic is the world.
19:28 I feel like it's the son's fault more than the mother's, but you should also know slamming the breaks going 40mph when someone isn't wearing a seatbelt is also a bad idea
she killed her son. The son likely had a mental disorder. She fucking killed her son. That some of the son's fault, but almost entirely his mother's. SHE FUCKING KILLED HER CHILD.
Not me, but my mom works as a kindergardener, and she told me a case of, not only parental neglect, but also hindering her work as a kindergardener. She had one kid that was incredibely spoiled. Well, with food, at least. The kid only got sweets at home, and no normal food. So my mom did force the kid to taste the food, but she didn't actually force the kid to eat it all, she only forced the kid to taste the food. And the kid wasn't even traumatized. Nope, the kid really liked the food once they tasted it. Just until the mom of the kid complained. "Hey, I appreciate that, but please stop forcefeeding my kid." , and the mom shot down my mom's arguments when my mom tried to explain: "Your kid likes the food we serve, your kid finishes the food altogether once they just tasted the food!" After that, the mom of that kid brought her kid in, not to make it to the mealtimes, but right after the breakfast, and right before lunch. Oh, well, maybe I shouldn't have used the word "forced" , it was more like my mom persistantly talked the kid into just tasting one bite of the food, and then the kid joyfully finished the whole plate on their own. My mom is a pacifist, and she does believe in disciplining a kid, when needed, but she doesn't believe in violence, not even for discipline, which is good. An other case my mom talked about was a little girl, who was already about 3, and just was never taught to stand nor walk. It wasn't even a disability, the girl really was never taught how to stand or walk. My mom saw the mom of that girl always carrying the girl around, and the girl just pointed where she wanted to be to her mom. And when the girl wasn't literally picked up by the kindergardeners, the girl would just look in the direction she wants to be in, and not make a noise. When a kindergardener put the girl down, and not even just to stand on her own, but even propped her up to support herself on a piece of furniture, the girl just dropped like a plank backwards. The kindergardener comforted the girl with: "Oh sorry dear, I didn't know you don't know how to stand..." My mom told me the second story when I told her about a friend, who's brother really has been spoiled by his mom, and the brother of my friend just kept breaking bones, and Idk if the mom tested my friend's brother for glass bones, but the assumption was there, and my mom said: "Maybe he doesn't have glass bones, maybe he was just never taught by his mom how to stand and walk properly..." , and then procceeded with the second story.
I lived in one of the apartment buildings for a couple of years. One of my neighbours who has son who was 2 at the time, she thought shoving her young son in the apartment hallway as a punishment and let him scream his lungs out. The hallway made his screaming extremely loud. She never had a thought that someone could walk into the apartment building and kidnapped the tyke. One of the neighbours told her off about it, she still did it up till she moved.
I think private social workers should exist. Ones that are like certified as undercover cops so they can arrest the parents right there. But they’re like PI’s. So sneaky 😌
This happened yesterday and today, normally my mum is super calm but since her new doctor screwed up her meds she's been incredibly moody, yells half the time (upsetting both me, her teenage daughter. And our dogo Benny), and on the verge of a panic attack half the time.. and since she's ex Military it gets "scary" real fast- Please note I'm not used to being yelled at-
How you doing now? Is there any relative or adult you can call to tell them about the situation? Not saying your mum is a bad parent, but i think she needs some help while she gets her meds right.
@@phadenswandemil4345 really the only Relative who's number I have is my Aunt and their apartment is MESSY. (I can't even sit on the couch or on one of the beds without tripping on shit-) and I'm doing good, currently staying at a friend's house till.. Today?- Tomorrow?- I dunno 'cause it's 2:52 A.M. for me-
That adopted girl who ended herself after having very abusive ‘religious’ family and sexually assaulted by a police who isn’t held accountable… …Anyone else have that feeling of rage and hoping karma gets all of those arseholes deeper than the depths of hell?
I've lived in an impoverished neighborhood growing up and I've seen a lot of shit. One of my childhood friends there was once dragged out of their house and was sprayed with a very strong hose because she hit her baby brother. The whole neighborhood would see it and watch. They would always say "poor thing" but never help. Sad part is, a lot of kids including me thought it was normal because we see this type of abuse almost every single day and they would always mask it off as "discipline."
I once saw a 5 year old standing alone without an adult around. I asked him where his mom was and he said "shopping, she told me to wait here..." at the time i probably should have called someone in one of the stores but i had just gotten out of an abusive household and had extreme social anxiety towards adults i wasnt sure what to do so i told him to make sure someone sees him and to go to the nearest cashier if she doesn't return soon.
Would it really be that hard to believe? We live in a world where the smallest thing can set people off. The world is getting more and more sensitive as time goes on.
Parents who don't take their kids to the dentist but go to their own appointments EVERY 6 MONTHS, LIKE CLOCKWORK. How is this not considered child abuse??
Be cautious, there can be extra "punishment" towards the kids for 'making me look bad in public'. I've found it better to deflect parents' attention away from the children rather than directly confront their behavior.
I worked in an indoor mini golf course that had black light. The amount of times kids would just run in without their parents or the parents leaving their children there so they could shop resulted in a rule that no one under 12 could be left without a parent. We literally had a rule on the wall saying we are not responsible for kids, we just make sure they aren't hitting the balls too hard, playing the holes in order, and not destroying the courses. Had a kid play one round and left, the mom came back and was angry I wasn't watching her child (who was 12 if I remember correctly). She demanded a refund, I told her one of the rules was no refunds and that this is not a daycare.
My old neighbor got pregnant at 18 and decided she was tired of having kids and would drop the newborn off at my house because “You’re a teacher. You can babysit mine for free.” I wasn’t a teacher yet. My husband worked in a clinic during flu season, and we both knew the kid would die if she got the flu. Mom didn’t care. She wanted to party. So the second time I saw her creeping away, I called CPS and told her she was going to jail. Turns out this married woman was sleeping with another solider and selling off her body. When she and her husband left the military, she told me it was important to only teach the bible and that math and science weren’t important. It’s been about 6 years now…
As someone in school to become a nurse crap like this makes me so mad. I've seen the same neglect happen to old people (I work at a senior citizen home as an assistant nurse). So many of them are completely neglected by their families. I remember one time we tried getting in touch with one of the older mens family member, the one that listed themselves as their contact person, because he had completely run out of sugar free candy (he was a diabetic that loves sweets, so he got sugar free, and we aren't allowed to use our patients money for safety reasons). They didn't pick up for 5 days. We called every person we had the number to in his family and not one person answered. I know it doesn't sound important, an old man getting candy, but that old man was almost completely paralyzed neck down, schizofrenic and a diabetic. One of the few joys in his life were sweets, and his family didn't give a damn. Makes me give up on humanity. He was one of my favourite patients, the sweetest, funniest and smartest people I've met. Always helping as much as he could when we would lift him out of bed or when we fed him, never once snapped at anyone or even got irritated and was just overall an angel. He didn't deserve to be treated that way, which is why I spent so much time just talking to him and not rushing my routines in his room. People can be awful when someone is vulnerable.
17:08 I think this might have been me. My grandma is always trying to force my younger sister to learn how to swim (even though she doesn’t want to, she just wants to play and have fun) even if it means her screaming and crying. I always try to get her to stop but my grandma doesn’t listen.
6:33 And two options, either tease him for that the rest of his life. Or teach him shaking your giblets infront of someone’s face, is not a good thing,
Was with a ex when her sister dropped her kids off. After us saying we wore busy. She just drove off. After the ex had gone to work. I rang the cops and told them I found 2 random kids. They came and picked the kids up. The ex's sister lost her shit when I texted her saying the police had her kid's. I still got to work on time. If you can't look after your kids. Don't have them. Your child isn't everyone else's problem.
My parents refuse to let me have any semblance of independence when it's about something that I want for myself, but if it's about anything that they don't want to do for me or explain then I suddenly have to be a grown-up and just know what to do(Talking about german bureaucracy here. It's very complicated and I was never taught what exactly I had to do and how to do that. My parents didn't even deem to inform me that I have to make doctor's appointments myself now(even though they still have my insurance card) and just expected me to know.) They also refuse to help me with it because "You're an adult now, so you have to do adult stuff and you have to learn it yourself" after refusing to let me learn anything about it or letting me do stuff like that myself for 19 years. But I still have to be at their beck and call anytime they need something, so making appointments isn't even possible, since I have to have enough free time to just give to them for nothing.
That one story about the child with fetal alcohol syndrome right around 12-13 minutes into the video has to be one of the saddest stories I've ever heard! I don't have children of my own but I have seen some kids that behaved very badly and their parents did nothing. I have friends that have children, younger ones between the ages of 5 and 12 years old. They would bring their kids to my house which I understand because they can't find somebody they can trust to watch their kids, but if they're going to bring the kids, why can't they make the behave? My question is what came 1st the chicken or the egg? Is it true that they can't find a trustworthy babysitter or they can't find a babysitter who wants to watch their bratty kid? I've had kids steal my jewelry, one kid pooped on my couch (& the mother tried to flip the couch cushion over, WITHOUT CLEANING IT, in an attempt to covered up but I caught her in the act), I had children give me a hard time and when I'd scold them, the mother would go off on me for yelling at their kid. It's a shame, really...
At around 17:05, I did that once. Walked in to the home of a 9 month old baby girl that my babysitter was watching. There was trash everywhere. Mail from numerous mail boxes that didn’t belong to the adult in charge. There were no diapers. No wipes. No crib. No room for this baby to crawl from all the trash. Liquor bottles everywhere, with cigarettes in them. Trash piled up about 6 ft high in 55 gallon trash cans. The baby was half sucked into the couch. I had a 10 month old boy at the time. I was freaking shocked and furious. I didn’t say a word. Just walked in, picked the baby up and walked out. Took the baby home, got her cleaned up and let her play with my son while waiting for the “mother” to return from buying meth. I threatened cops and CPS, and only after my sitter begged did I relent. I ended up giving the baby back only after they cleaned the house. I returned all the stolen mail as best I could. Told my sitter not to let that baby suffer out of fear of my reaction, but that her “friend” was a shit human being that I would rather enjoy kicking the shit out of should I ever find their home in that condition again. No need for cops. Pissed me off something awful.
And just so y’all know: I avoided CPS for a specific reason. In theory, they’re great. In practice, in my state, they were corrupt. Babies that can not verbalize their pain are routinely abused/trafficked. And I speak from experience, having been in the foster system much of my life.
11:50 PLEASE don’t let this form your opinions of Christians. I hate when there are people that use their religion to justify their bad behavior. There are some bad apples in the community, yes. But 98% of us just want to live a good life and go to Heaven when we die. (Heck, I actually get depressed when I see someone walk away sad from my deli job. I don’t understand how someone who loves Jesus can do something like that.)
Here’s my own, there was thing guy we helped get off bad drugs. And it hadn’t Even been a year since he was clean and he got a girl preggo. We told him he needed to get a few years under his belt of being clean of drugs before starting a family. He didn’t listen to us moved the girl down from Virginia with her cat, daughter, and dog. He had 2 mastiffs btw. So we helped get him a house, a job, and a car. He cut contact with us after that saying we owed him money when we didnt. He had another kid and it has been about 3 years. He died a month ago because of drug addiction. I feel so bad for his 2 sons and the little girl. They didn’t ask for this and my heart bleeds for those kiddos. All kids need parents but not all parents need kids.. prayers for those kids 🙏^^
My grandmother and step-grandmother. My mothers real mother was an alcoholic who did everything for some booze, including steeling money from my mothers saving account and letting my mother starve to under 80lbs at 5 foot 7, because she rather spent the money on alcohol than food for her children. But not just that, when my mother was a teenager, she started to have a relationship to an older guy. She didn't want to sleep with him and well, next day he sat at the breakfast table, because he spent the night with my grandmother. My grandmother would also beat up my mother, when she hurt herself, because her clothes might've gotten dirty. After some time, my mother got away from her and lived with my grandfather. She feels like it was better living with him than her mother. This "better" still meant neglect and abuse. When my mother was hit by a car on her bike, she was at the hospital and needed to stay there + they said she needs rehabilitation afterwards, because she is not allowed to walk, as the leg was severely injured. But they had planned a vacation, that her stepmother didn't want to miss. So they pulled her out of the hospital against medical advice, put a mattress on the floor in the living room and went on vacation without her. She was still a teenager. At age 14, she had to do the whole household on her own, because she had to somehow deserve to live with them. This included literally everything, including raising her younger siblings and cleaning up after her OLDER brother. She was forced to drop out of school at age 15, so she could work and earn money and take care of the newborn baby brother all at the same time, because my step-grandmother wanted to go back to working full-time 2 weeks after giving birth to my uncle. My mother dreamed of becoming a teacher, but obviously, without graduating highschool, that wasn't possible. Her stepmother also told her that she is stupid and worth sh*t, which my mother sadly believes to this day. When my mother was 18, she was kicked out from home. My grandfather and his wife basically forced her to sign a lease to a tiny studio apartment and was sent off. My grandfather theoretically wasn't a bad guy. Only problem was, he knew if he stood up for his daughter, she would not let him get some or cheat on him again, so he did as she said. He died when I was 13. In my entire life, I had seen my grandfather maybe 10 times, because to her, we weren't worth to visit or be ok to come over. They ONCE got us kids some presents. They didn't even have name tags and were just put on our front door. They didn't even knock or ring the bell. But of course my step-grandmother expected to be praised for how nice it was the next time we saw them, which was over a year later. Kicker came when my grandfather was in the hospital before he died. She didn't want him to ruin her vacation plans, so she went on vacation with her new lover, while he was fighting his last fight. When he was dead, she didn't cry. She just asked what people think what clothes she should get for the funeral. My grandfather was somewhat religious and wanted a religious speech at his funeral. She didn't want that, so she hired some random guy to give a speech. Obviously she was supposed to give that guy some information about my grandfather, so the speech can be personal. She told him my grandfather was a locksmith. He wasn't. He was a car mechanic and owned a driving school. But she thought locksmith would sound better. She also gave him the wrong birthdate. Before he died he promised my brother one of his motorcycles. He still didn't get it 10 years later, because we are my mothers kids. My mother also never got a single cent of her inheritance and not even her own babypictures. Honestly, despite being killed by your own parents, I don't think it is possible to have a worse childhood than that.
Seriously wtf is the point of people adopting a child if they’re just gonna be like “Oh. It’s not our REAL child.” Like, the adoption process is just a waist of time and money at that point.
Some people do it for ego honestly. They think they're automatically good people because they "saved a child" but have no intention of actually raising said child.
A lot of people did that in the past
YESSSSS!!! IDOITS!!!
GReat video on how bad parents are made th-cam.com/video/yRq2tYnpgO0/w-d-xo.html
they like having that brag of 'i SAVED this child' and constantly bring it up when the child misbehaves or when they're trying to up themselves
The adopted girl who was abused by their parents and stalked by the cop deserved so much more love than she got. Genuinely pissed off at that one.
One of the saddest stories I ever heard; out of all the stories in this video, that got to me the most!
As an adopted child it really pissed me off Bc why adopt a child and do that the child
Would’ve done so much better without them
Ladies and gents. Look at how shitty those people are. Spit on em
But besides all that, what bothers me is the 'to the point of abusive'. I know the first half of it happens in Harry Potter and stuff, but that definitely *is* abusive. What are the standards here?!?
if i had a chance to have unlimited wishes
i would wish to make the girl safe and make the parents and the cop suffer
A former friend of mine on Facebook has a son who has put cleaning chemicals in bottles of ranch dressing. He would punch and kick adults and other kids. One day this kid covered the stairs of his house in shampoo to make his grandmother trip while she was looking after him. She broke an arm and her hip and was hospitalized. Mom thought he was so smart and thought him being “mischievous” (her words) was cute. This was all before the kid reached five. People calling her out for her Baby Bundy and bad parenting were immediately blocked.
@A H I truly hope so
did cps get involved?
Lullaby baby bunting
Mommy's little psychopath
Has gone a-hunting
Holy fuck
Baby bundy 💀
All kids deserve parents, but not all parents deserve kids.
Conclusion: kill all children
Well said buff Stevie Griffin
Да, тоа е точно, добро господине
@@MushyYGO ?
To simplify; Some kids deserve better parents.
Was semi-friends with a girl in college, prior to this incident. She had a 4 year old girl and after being in classes with her for a year, she got pregnant then had a son. Sometimes she would come into class ticked off at her mother. Her mother had, according to her, stolen her daughter from her and she was in court, trying to get custody of her daughter back. Not knowing anything about the situation, I tried to console her and give her advice on how she could demonstrate that she was responsible.
My opinion of her changed towards the end of the second semester, after she had her son. She and I were sitting in the general office, outside the cubicle of our English professor, who was at lunch. She had her son with her, in a stroller.
The baby started getting fussy and she realized his diaper needed changing.
She picked him up and I grabbed his diaper bag, handed her a diaper, and asked where his wipes were. She said she'd just take the diaper.
She put the baby, stomach down, on her knees and he had urinated and soaked his onesee outfit and the pad of the stroller.
I looked in the diaper bag again and asked where another onesee was, so she could change him into that. She said he was just fine like he was.
She unbuttoned his onesee outfit, changed the diaper, buttoned the urine soaked onesee back up, and placed the baby back in the urine soaked stroller. She then took the leaking diaper and dropped it into the small, wire trashcan beside us, in this general office.
I felt like I was going to vomit. I had to get up and leave. No wonder she lost custody of her daughter.
I stopped talking to her after that.
I hope she either learned to be a better parent or lost custody of both her kids (and any other kid she most likely will get later on).
@@VickyRavnII me too
Okay I have to come back and reread that. At first I was about to say what's wrong with that. Until I read it again. Then I was like oh I get it. that's why parents should almost always carry an extra set of clothing, / wipes / diapers. You never know when they are going to be needed!!!!😀😀😀
@@amberwilson5769 i always carry an extra soaking sheet when I carry my cat to the vet. I don’t understand how parents can’t foresee the need when it comes to kids
Oh man, that's another call to CPS right there. Why do I get the feeling she knows why you stopped talking to her, but didn't even care?
There’s a mom who was so worried about hurting her daughters feelings she never corrected or disciplined the daughter. Now that mother is seventy and her daughter is thirty and is spoiled, entitled, rude, pushy, ungrateful and unable to understand why she has no friends.
My mom was extremely similar to this with our youngest brother (the golden child). She always said "A parent who loves their kids would never hit them," but what she truly meant by that is nobody should lay a hand on her precious baby, because she certainly had no issue with dad disciplining us (the older three kids) with the belt, and she often had no problem slapping and sometimes beating us too (and not for the reasons you may think). He pretty much had no friends (he’s doing better now), and our mom would distance herself from anyone who would even look at him wrong (she had no friends either) as well as try to justify her precious baby’s lack of friends, by saying that “gOd WaS hIs BiGgEsT fRiEnD” and “fUcK tHeM yOu DoNt NeEd FrIeNdS” (my favorite part to this is that she SWEARS kids his age actually gave a shit about god).
That golden child grew up to be a spoiled rotten, selfish, narcissistic, abusive kleptomaniac just like her, and he also abused her too, but she didn't care because she was always pretending nothing was wrong or too up on some kind of drug (I guess) that tuned her out of the times he'd really take advantage of her.
@@frisbyartI hope she got arrested or something similar.
@@GokuBlackRose978 she did, but for different reasons.
@@frisbyart dang well she atleast got arrested atleast, hope your doing fine.
@@GokuBlackRose978 yeah, but she remained the same with her; blaming everyone BUT herself as to why she ended up in jail.
And I’m doing good. Cut her out of my life two years ago.
The one about the cousin who doesn't bathe with soap:
Gotta be honest, what's making me most upset about this is it sounds like she might have a neurodevelopmental disorder which her parents never addressed. Maybe ASD or ADHD. Her parents did a fantastic job failing her.
Yeah I have ASD but I still use soap. And the only reason I don't have a job now is cuz I had a bad case of the stomach flu and didn't want to pass it to geriatric patients at the nursing home I worked at. Whoops.
I'm both an ADHDer and Autistic, and I'm incredibly sensitive to mint, and only recently got diagnosed in the middle of my 20s. You can imagine how much of a nightmare most toothpaste was for me growing up (I have to but it online just so it doesn't have mint in it, which *burns so bad*)
@@HopeGardner3amed same I worked in a drug store. Somebody passed covid to me and I just got tired of it. So I went to the hospital twice to get rid of it and then a month later got vaccinated. If somebody didn't open that stupid factory door in China it wouldn't be every where.
People are out of work not because they don't need money its because getting paid like a slave is not worth the risk of dying. So I applied for aid and I'm looking into working from home.
im a slight autist, and i fucking hate showers, ill do it but ill get so pissed that ill tighten up my neck to the point whereit starts to hurt, the only thing not setting me over the edge is that i can hit weed pen after the shower
Dude. I reserve the whole "kid doesnt have to do x if they dont want to" to two things only: kids dont have to give hugs if they dont wanna, and if I've witnessed one kid being an absolute bully to another kid, and the bullied kid retaliates somehow, the bullied kid shouldnt be forced to apologize to the bully if they dont want to.
Yeah, sharing is a weird one for me. On one hand, I would like to encourage a child in my care (doesn’t matter if the kid came from my womb or someone else’s) to share and learn the concept of compromise, but it’s hard to teach them what a good compromise is when they’re single digit ages, though I’ve had better time teaching non-neurotypical children this concept than neurotypical children. I assume it’s because I can relate better to the non-neurotypical kids because I’m also not a neurotypical person, but it could also just be that the “normal” kids are pressured by parents to conform to social norms that should not be considered norms, therefore the child fears further loss of control. Note, I’m only referring to the two basic types of kids and basing my reactions on the people in my area and observations of their strategy of raising children
One more: if a kid is being bullied and being told to give something to the bully then they don't have to (not just an apology, but money, toys, etc)
@@lizipearlvlogs oh yeah that too. No, Lizzie, Johnny was playing with the plastic shovel first, you can't just snatch it out of his hand. My two little nieces do that to each other all the time, they'll see their sister playing with something then all of a sudden want to play with it too. I've seen it more with toys or games than with money, but I don't doubt that that happens too. But mostly it's just been stuff like kids fighting over toys or games and to "keep the peace" the parents will usually just make the kid give up whatever he was playing with. I hate that, that's how I lost my Gameboy Advanced that had a special Mario sticker for the bottom half where the buttons were. My cousin was throwing a fit because I wouldn't let her start a new save file on Pokemon bc of course as soon as she saved her game, mine would be gone and I wasn't done with my Pokemon journey yet. I had even come across a shiny slugma and caught it. She tattled to my mom and aunt and my mom demanded I give her my GBA. She overwrote my game, took the Gameboy home with her, and two years later they moved neighborhoods and my aunt presented me with a smashed Gameboy with a missing pokemon blue cartridge that she had found under her daughters bed when they were moving. The sticker was ripped off, the buttons were missing, she had gotten the dpad pressed down too hard and stuck, as if she had purposefully pressed with all her might in the middle of the dpad, and the corner of the screen looked like it had been hit with a rock or something. It still turned on after I charged it! Couldn't play it though. I remember asking her about it at some point and she told me "oh yeah it turned off in the middle of me playing it and I couldn't get it to turn on again lol then I lost the game" and I'm like "yeah bc you stole it without the charger" and her and her mom had the nerve to be offended that I said she stole it. Btw the whole two years they had it, I would constantly hear from my aunt shit like "It's horrible that your video game went missing! I wonder what could have happened to it??? Maybe you took it somewhere and lost it???? Maybe the kid who found it needs it more?????? At least you can feel better knowing you made someone else happy 😊😊😊 so stop being so upset and forget about it!!!"
There is a third thing I add to that list, with a caveat. Kids, after trying a food at three stages, childhood, teenage, and adult, do not have to eat it if they have tried a "eff you!" bite and don't like it, or have a bad reaction of any kind, be it bodily, texture or just yuck! to it.
I was waiting for a bus a few years ago and I saw a mother and her two kids at the other side of the road. The mother was adjusting the buggy for her youngest child and she told the older one to cross only half of the road and wait at the middle bit. The older child was only about three years old and, hearing the instruction to cross, proceeded to dart across the full road as some traffic approached.
Fortunately he wasn't hurt, but she was absolutely furious at him for not fully understanding the nuance of her instructions at such a young age. The most aggravating part of all this is that she could have easily taken 10 or 20 seconds to walk over to the traffic lights that were just a few feet away instead of needlessly risking her child's life like that.
That’s really sad :(
Shit, even I hardly understand that. Idk how the hell she expected a practical baby to understand. Also it’s irresponsible as hell to send such a small child alone like that anywhere aside from a home they’re familiar and comfortable in let alone a busy road.
Knew a kid that would throw a tantrum every time you made him eat anything else besides fries, nuggets and soda drinks. Like full on throwing on the floor, wailing their arms/legs and scream-crying tantrums. Most of his teeth were missing because they started rotting from all the sugar and fell out.
I’d like to say we helped him, but his parents just stopped bringing him to kindergarten...
Dang it makes my parents looks like angels, then again they’re not that bad
Makes mine two of Jesus' disciples
remember, just because someone has it worse than you doesn't mean you don't have the right to also complain about what happens to you :)
@@Perseagatuna Exactly. I hate it when people disregards others feelings just because someone else has it worse.
Facts
@@MattSuguisAsFondAsEverrr hmmm sounds gay
The one about the girl who killed herself made me so sad to hear...how can parents, or PEOPLE be that inconsiderate of their own blood :/
Unfortunately knew people who would lock their toddler in her room at night so they could get drunk and party. Don't think it ever crossed their minds how dangerous that was. I was never close to them but even the majority of their party friends stopped hanging out with them because of their obsessive drinking and irresponsible bullshit like that.
Koreda requem da
The house my dad bought has all of their locks facing the outside, including what was once the child’s room. It’s likely the parents locked the kids and the dogs away all day and let them defecate everywhere before they left their house. My dad had to replace all the flooring. The only rooms that didn’t have that lock system was the master bedroom and the bathrooms.
in 4th grade i knew a girl who we’ll call fiona for privacy reasons. she was super nice and great to be around. one day we were eating lunch and she just casually said “yeah i haven’t used my ipad for non school related stuff in 3 months, haven’t played a video game in 7, and haven’t gone to a friend’s house in 2 years, my mom says i should just study, clean, and learn to cook”
That ain’t bad parenting. Just extremely strict
@@Dead_cvpid
...please never have children. That is really, really bad parenting.
@@raptorcharly8055 tell that to my parents. And I turned out fine. Your perspective is just weird
@@Dead_cvpid
If you think not allowing a 4th grader to visit friends for two years, and saying that they should only study, clean, and learn to cook is okay, then I hate to say it but you probably didn't turn out fine. Y'all realize that relaxation, play, and friendships are important parts of child development right?
@@raptorcharly8055 aiight 🤷🏻♀️
I knew a girl that grew up only eating chips and cold hotdogs with no buns. Her dad was such a piece of shit and she couldn't understand why the state stepped in and removed her from his house.
She had so much issues eating other foods that she would starve herself for days because the food that was served "looked" icky.
There were other things with sexual grooming I found out later from her mom.
... :<
I haven't seen her in a while but I hope she's doing okay.
This was a lot less depressing than I expected it to be! Usually these kinds of questions get mostly child abuse answers, rather than bad parenting answers, but this was a mix of both! ...God, that’s depressing to think about...
Wtf are you used to?!
@@VanityDivined The various other videos on this channel that are about bad parenting, or children of mentally ill parents, or carers/teachers of disabled children - pretty much any video featuring children, really. Seriously, go watch any of the UE videos involving kids and see how many of the stories involve abuse/neglect/exploitation/etc.
And it's like, I'm expecting about half of these to happen in the US, where they apparently let some of these things happen, but you can lose custody for watching a child playing outside through the window... I just don't get it
When I was 6, I was on a trip to Disney world and eating at one of the restaurants at the boardwalk resort for dinner. It was a pretty nice restaurant, we were just enjoying our meal and some girl comes running and vomits on the floor next to mad dad and some got on his favorite shirt he was wearing. The restaurant manager actually had to chase the parents down as they were hastily trying to leave to avoid taking responsibility and the staff literally had to make them apologize, they made no effort to help clean up the mess amd it didn’t even seem genuine, just like watching parents make their misbehaving 4 year old apologize, thankfully the staff was super cool about it and even gave my dad a new shirt and they even got the meal for free, but I’m still pretty sure he lost his appetite. Disney world still somehow has the nicest staff despite all the crap they probably face.
Once knew a dude who hated furries so much that he refused to let his kid watch any movie/show, or play any games with talking animals so that way the kid didn't 'grow up a fursuited dog fucker' This kid would be watching nothing but horror movies or action movies, not even cartoons. Kid is 18 now living with his mom and is the biggest furry I know; dad 'disowned' him.
Thats ironic
At some point. A man just has to cut his losses. The dad could only do so much.
Furries are abominations and disgraces to humanity but I doubt watching Peppa pig and SpongeBob will turn you into a furry the dad definitely overreacted
The fastest way to get a kid to love something you despise... make sure they know you despise it while making their life harder than it should be.
Example here: kid goes to school. Kids talk about latest spongebob episode. Kid stares blankly. Kid wonders: why can't I watch spongebob? Goes home, asks dad, dad goes on long angry rant about furries. Kid files info away for later. Still no spongebob. No Avatar the movie. No fun shows. Nothing those his age watch. He still makes friends, warns them not to let dad know he sneakily watches these shows at friends house - tell dad we saw Nightmare on Elm Street or whatever. Dad thinks, good... kid found friend who won't turn him into a furry.
Kid bides their time, anger/resentmeny growing over a lost childhood not spent watching silly cartoons like his friends, but being subjected to content much too mature for him.
Kid finally gets old enough. Finds Furry crowd. Joins. Dad disowns, but kid is happy.
Would kid have become a furry either way? No idea... maybe... maybe not. But the way dad went about it almost guaranteed that particular outcome.
Boundaries are very important, yes... but as a parent, you have to remember - these kids you raise are NOT carbon copy minis of you. They are NOT carbon copy minis of the other parent, either. They are MORE than even a mix of the two. They are INDIVIDUALS, and each one will have their own likes, dislikes, lives, hates, emotions, etc. They are also much more likely to become/do something you despise (even subconciously) if you don't have a good relationship with them growing up. Fairness, compromising, listening, and doing your best to understand their viewpoints goes a VERY long way.
Sighs... honestly, I've long thought people should be required by law to have a parenting liscence to become a parent. To get the license, you have to pass classes such as "early childhood development", "child psychology", "conflic resolution", "anger management", and "integrating your child into your life." And more...
But... that's my opinion. =D
Hahahaa
Kid at my old school. His class went through 6 teachers in 2 years, he's been to three schools since he finally left a year ago. His mum is constantly posting on Facebook about how teachers 'just don't understand him.' He's broken multiple tvs at home, and got angry at his brother for having a broken arm and 'only breaking it to steal attention'. He came out as gay recently so now his mum is accusing any teacher who disciplines him of homophobia. Wild times at that old school.
Any parent who follows the book "To Raise Up A Child". It encourages starting to flog your children as infants if they won't go to sleep and to use a length of pipe on older kids.
Yeah, but what kind of pipe?
Are we talking pvc or brass?
Yeah I heard of that book and I'm pretty sure Satan himself wrote it.
@@silverbutterfly1739 Satan is a 3 y/o that loves knives and fire.
The duggars use it and it would explain why the kids are so fucked.
@@pharma37 he's also the author of that book.
20:05 As an Asian, this is just so depressing. Can't describe it any other way. It reminds me of the time when I was in high school, my mom told me once that my dad wanted me to become a pharmacist. There was another time my dad told me that if I didn't get a PhD, I was a failure. Then there was a time when my mom wanted me to go to a university instead of a community college (I did end up going to a university but out of my own volition and not anybody else's). Sounds like they were trying to control me instead of guiding me. They didn't even graduate college so how would they know how much stress college or university students go through? The stress that students pursuing a doctor's degree go through? They should understand. I've made my decision to not put up with that much stress. There's a fine line between inspiring someone to do better and controlling someone like a puppet only to satisfy your desires. Fortunately, I was smart to know that I'm my own person and I make my own choices even if it means defying my parents, not some living trophy or puppet to show off. I knew I have autonomy. I'm not a robot submitting to every command.
Gonna stop my rambling there. My ultimate albeit morbid curiosity is how did that girl's parents feel when she offed herself? Do those parents have other children? If so, then if the parents don't learn their lesson, I fear that the other children may suffer through the same thing.
Bless ya soul, I hope you find peace and happiness whatever ya choose to do. I follow my folks philosophy, you can be anything ya wanna be in this world except a bum. They would support me regardless, I thank them for that. My only hope is that perhaps they see ya for your own self friend.
God this reminds me of a story my mom likes to tell
So when I was just a baby, my family was coming out from Walmart for buying stuff for Christmas (Can't remember why- but I know the story happened in December) and my mom saw this woman on her phone while this woman's sons were being just awful individuals, kicking one another and screaming. My brother (who is autistic) started to get loud himself when my mom stopped to calm him down because probably the yelling from the other boys were getting him overstimulated- and the woman on the phone had the audacity to say to my mom "You should really take care of your kid". Thank god my dad was with me while heading to the car because my mom started YELLING at this woman about being a hypocrite (To the point where other people were staring) and honestly I wish I was older when that happened cause I would've loved to see that. Needless to say, the woman shut up real fast
…yes, because that totally happened.
@@fantasea114 As much as I do understand the r/thathappened energy, it DID happen
@@nobodynexus it really didn’t though, did it.
@@fantasea114 Except it fucking did????
Seriously dude- all because you can't trust everything does NOT give you the right to deny EVERY story you read. And besides, even if it DIDN'T happen, why come after me for it? I'm just sharing my MOMS story. Not my own.
@@nobodynexus you’re pretty defensive over something that “definitely happened” bro
Once I was just walking peacefully in the park near my house with my older brother, we both saw a kid (who looked around my age) throwing the biggest tantrum I’ve seen my entire life about something. We decided to ignore him and continue with our business, when all of the sudden he stopped crying, ran to me and shout to his mom: “I want to befriend with this pretty girl, make her my friend now old woman!!”.
Yes, he called his mom old woman and wanted to be my friend at the first time I met him. And, as a protective but polite brother, my brother calmly said no to him ‘cuz he thought that boy was a trouble-maker. Then he got offended and started a fight with my brother. Yes, he really thought a 10-year-old inexperienced boy could beat a brown-belt 15 years old teenager. Very logical.
After all, his mom had to apologized for what he’s done. We didn’t accept that, we wanted the boy to apologize, not the mother. He didn’t apologize anyway.
Went out with a girlfriend, we had a surprise guest on our date, her friends 2 year old who she took from the mom because the mom and her boyfriend thought it was funny to get her high and drunk.
how'd the date go?
Oh no. Hopefully it all went ok otherwise 🥺
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I work at an expensive private school. I think one of the hardest relationships I’ve had to see was with narcissistic parents who are not properly grown up themselves. Their kids are props with mommy issues, just starving for love and attention and thrown onto their nannies.
my dad is a police officer who works at the courthouse in my city. recently, he was present during a child abuse/neglect case (basically he stood in the background and made sure no one tried to fight). the case was about a mother with 4 kids, ranging from 6-14 i think, and she would force them to shoplift for her. if they didn't do it, they'd either be beaten, or kicked out of the house in the middle of winter or in the summer. and i live in the south, summers are freaking brutal. thing is, this was actually a case from a couple years ago, 2019 in fact, it was postponed because of covid and the mother is now finally being charged. she also is being charged with sexual abuse i think(?), not sure of the term, because she has "do it" with her boyfriend in front of her kids many times, as they used to share one motel room together, and apparently has done "stuff" with one of her younger children. all around god awful stuff. i dont remember how many years she has behind bars, but let me tell you, it wont be pretty for her. and for the cherry on top, this horrific woman got absolutely hammered by the prosecuter for the closing statement to the point where my dad almost had to jump in as the mother was so furious at being called a piece of shit (which she is) that she started rising out of her seat. i feel so bad for the children, as from what my dad said, were very soft spoken and respectful, and all around beautiful kids. my heart goes out for them
When I was a kid, my next door neighbors had a drug ring going and ran a brothel out of their house. They had a 13 year old daughter. When the undercover cop knocked on the door, he was horrified to learn that her virginity was for sale that night. She was promptly removed and all the adults were arrested. I never saw her again, but I hope everything turned out good for her.
My family has lots of friends and I got to hear the tale of Mary (name changed) the younger sister of my grandmother's best friend Ruth. Mary had made her youngest daughter Goldie the favorite, she could do no wrong and never had to lift a finger. She was also 10 years younger than the next kid in the family. Mary made all of the rest of her children, sons Rudy and Jasper, and daughter Silvia work to support the family. (I suspected more neglect imo but this is how I was told the story.) Silvia eloped and moved across the country, as soon as Rudy was old enough he enlisted in the army and Jasper followed Rudy when he was old enough too. Goldie overdosed on H some years later as a teen. When Mary tried to invite her kids to the funeral they where all unreachable (the age well before facebook) and supposedly hired a private investigator to find out their whereabouts. After a lot of time and money was spent, Rudy was found to have a family in Germany, Jasper had his own in Australia and Silvia had divorced her husband and became a lesbian in New York. They all declined to speak to their mother or attend the funeral, they also told her just to write them out of the will because they all had disowned her. Ruth had limited contact with Jasper because he'd visit our town from time to time and whenever the topic of Mary or Goldie came up he'd change the subject. Mary insisted she had done nothing wrong and all those ungrateful children had no idea how precious Goldie was. Mary died never seeing her children or their families, made her will out to Ruth and as far as I know Ruth made efforts to get part of the estate out to the three. It was an ongoing process when I heard this story and Ruth did not visit anymore after my grandmother's death.
Getting divorced, becoming a lesbian, moving to NY. Sounds like a good life, good for Sylvia.
@@browncat6990 agreed
Did the three siblings remain in touch with each other?
@@madelineschramm2657 I do not know, I head all the story from when my grandma's friend would come to visit and would from time to time keep my grandma informed about the drama. My grandmother died a decade ago and Ruth came to the funeral but that was the last I saw of her.
In my heart I hope the lot of them got to have a family reunion.
The smart Asian girl reminds me of myself. My parents are always yelling at me about my grades, if I have a B, they wonder why I don't have an A. It's horrible. I know you think your helping me, but it's hurting me way more than a failing grade is. High school is way harder than it was when you went, so please give me a break
B's are pretty good. I may be just a stranger on the internet but I'm proud of you
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I always had a B. I am doing pretty fine in life, getting paid more than most of my friends. I struggled in the initial years of employment, but I picked up the skills to keep me well paid. Grades don’t matter in real world
Typical immigrant parents have that mindset, they want to see their kids suceed. But that's not always how it works. In the real world grades don't really matter, it's the perfect combo of hard skills, social skills, connection, and opportunity. Your kids can't develop healthy social skills when all they do is study to get As
I just want to let you know I'm proud of you. Just remember you are doing a great job and doing the best you can no matter what anyone else says.
The ski one is kinda sad, really. Hydrocephalus is a condition that can cause behavioral issues, impaired vision, and much more.
I developed that at birth and still have a tube in my head from it. The super invasive surgeries saved me from cognitive side effects, but my organs are forever adhered to each other. Even though I’m fine now, I still have to watch my head because I have a permanent hole and weakness in my skull.
I also have hydrocephalus. It can also go the other way where your parent basically raises you constantly saying "You can't ever fall or you will die!" I can jump ala jumping jacks and the like but I can't jump up and forward for step exercises or even jump off the last few stairs because I'm afraid I'll die. Trying to correct this as an adult.
So if a person with that condition jumps off of something, like the stairs in your case, then there's a chance they might give themselves a concussion?
@@kaitlyn3168 Basically we have shunts in our heads like a bunch of tubes bunched together strung all through our bodies. It helps the excess cerebral spinal fluid (that's the water) that we get flooded with so it gets put out with the other waste. If we get a head injury, like a concussion, it will basically crush and block the pathway for the fluid to get out. So yeah, dead.
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Having a kid is like having a pet
If you don't wanna treat it/them properly, don't get/have them
you do realise that peoplw don't always have babies on purpose right?
@@angrynoodletwentyfive6463 That's what condoms and birth control is for.
Plus, they think you're very wealthy.
Nobody cares about getting a non existent kid's pronouns wrong, this is what fortnite and tictok binge does to you.
Looks like the little girl @@Manowar231 is angy again
Genuinely curious if people having a good childhood actually exists. Mine was so painful and everyone else I know has also experienced some level of bad childhood. Society needs so much reform 🙄
Yh we exist. I had a good childhood
I mean mine wasn’t horrible but i do know allot of people who had good childhood.
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I'm very lucky to have my parents, but neither of them had good upbringings either and I know my mum definitely has trauma. Two of my aunts are abusive towards my cousins, and most of my friends have at least one parent who's a piece of garbage. It's scary, like is a decent childhood THAT rare?
I mean, mine was okay, my parents have questionable parenting methods, but it's obvious that they're trying really hard despite their mistakes. I couldn't blame them either since they both grew up without knowing parental affection.
I once saw two young mothers whit children on the bus, they were seated on those bigger seats that face each other, and there was a handle in between for those who struggled to get up. they talked about their kids and one said how she doesn't know why is her toddler son always so sick and they both looked at him WHILE HE WAS CHEWING THE BUS HANDLE AND THEY SEAD NOTHING!!!
My "aunt" and "uncle" have a baby that they don't take care of. His grandparents do everything. He stays up in their trash filled room with them while they argue all night.
Family friends spoiled their kids and treated them younger then they where so they didn't develop as quickly, because their first born was unfortunately a stillborn and the other two kids where born premature (used that as a excuse for a lot of their behavior) when we had several guests over including them and thier kids, me/sister, and another set of siblings there, they acted strange as usual all day and the youngest of us (7) gave the A the 12 year old at the time a werid look and she spat on him the dad was inside but the mom was there and witnessed it the only comment given was "ohh a A that wasn't very nice". Lady parent your daughter toddlers spit on each other.
20:28 No matter what that should always be a red flag. Speaking from experience, the day you decide to end it you'll feel so happy because your suffering is finally over. If anyone ever says something like this ask them if everything is ok, make them feel valued, etc.
So it was bad that I was happy to leave middle school because I was finally going somewhere new away from that hellhole but wasn't feeling unliving-like at the time? Because that suffering was over for all of the summer until I realised those kids came with me to the next place.
Story from just the other day. I work in retail in the UK, I'm 24 and some of my cashier colleges are under the age of 18, they're not legally able to sell alcohol or knives without my or another colleagues permission.
Long story short, a lady was refused knives, because she was going to give them to her 16 year old son. She was verbally abusive to the young girl working at the till (I was stood with her and tried to defuse the situation). But what stopped her from having a full blown Karen moment, was her son, who told her she was "embarrassing" and "they're just doing their job". I've never been so proud of being apart of the Z generation.
but... F*ck that woman, she should know better then to be a b*tch to someone who is the same age as her son.
1:08
If I did ANY of these things to my mom, I’d be either
A) Dead
B) Decapitated
C) Buried Alive
D) Set on fire
E) All of the Above.
dont forget vaporization and a slap so hard you become a black hole
@@thebrickinquestion - and a slap so hard you become a black hole
At least then the parent would be telling the truth when they say their child sucks.
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I'd get a foot up my arse and a fist down my throat, at the same time!
When I was young and would see a brat acting up in a department store, I'd ask my father "what would you do if I acted like that?". His response was "It never would have gotten that far!"
Ima go with a, seems the most painless 🤷🏻
I “like” how these are either overly strict parents or parents who can’t be bothered
The one with the little girl with the skis and the Dad yelling at her reminds me of a guy I knew. We were going skiing and he brought his gf along. First day she's renting skis and he starts yelling at her for taking so long. Nothing she can do because the ski shop is backed up, but he doesn't care and keeps yelling even after she's in tears.
A couple of years later, he, his gf, his brother and his brother's wife get visited by the Secret Service. Friend worked for a bank software company and had copied the bank's ATM PIN number file and was in the middle of making counterfeit ATM cards when the SS knocked on their door. I really felt sorry for the gf. She was a sweet kind woman who would never have done anything like that on her own, but she just attached herself to the wrong guy.
My friend was saving up to move out and start his own life. His mom used his savings to pay rent. I helped him close his account and start a new one at a new bank his mom didn't use. When he moved away I sent him housewarming gifts. We continue to celebrate his escape.
Some of these were super relatable for me. My mom is a narcissistic gas lighter. Some examples of her behavior are; 1. telling me every year what SHE was doing at any particular time on my birthday even after I tell her it makes me uncomfortable, 2. tried to choke me after I said something in a different language and refused to tell her what it meant, 3. screaming at me about not using the heel of the loaf of bread we were using even though she knows that the heels of the bread always screw up my stomach, 4. conveniently “forgetting” I have autism, 5. comparing me to my deadbeat father and saying any negative traits I have (or any trait she hates in that moment, really) I got from him but that everything good I got was from her, 6. saying crap like “oh, yeah. That’s why I kept you” when I grab something to high up for her (not in a joking tone, just deadpan and every time I help her in any way) or “the only reason I gave birth to you was because I had recently had an abortion when I got pregnant with you”, 7. locking me in my room when I was little and pissed her off for so long that I would have to pee in the vent on the other side of my room so I wouldn’t get in trouble for peeing on the floor, 8. telling me to give up on my dream job (being a vet) because I was “so terrible at math and science that [I’d] only end up killing the animals” only to (recently) freak out and demand that I go back to planning on doing some form of veterinary science or be a zoologist because she hates the idea of me going into game design, or 9. (a particular favorite of mine) forces me to watch scenes in movies I am uncomfortable with because “oh, please. It’s just a movie. Stop being so dramatic”. Not to mention her insistence that she isn’t a gas lighter because “I was in a gas lighting relationship before and it hurts me that you would even say that. You don’t even know what that means, anyway.” Mind you, all of these are direct quotes from her.
It should come as no shock that I intend on going no contact with her once I have the money to move out.
God you're mother sounds like the mom in Carrie, just awful. Nope, no shock to anyone to that you would go no contact after you move out. I'm so sorry you have to deal with all that and hope you find happiness and follow you're dreams. From a stranger on the internet, I'm rooting for you and wishing you loads of happiness and success
Your mother isn't a narcissist. She is just borderline abusive.
@@luffydpirate9518 Since tomorrow is my birthday and I almost have enough to move out and live on my own, I considered making telling her I was never speaking to her again after my birthday my present to myself. Unfortunately, it’s also my stepdad’s birthday and I don’t want to make his birthday crappy by causing trouble. So, instead, I’m bringing up the fact that I have done everything she herself told me I needed to do years ago to get my own pet and proceed to get myself a kitten. Partially to piss her off (she hates cats), partially to have something in that house that actually cares about me and partially because I want to give a home to an animal in need. I would get a dog but I have neither the energy nor the space to have a dog. Fully intend on bringing the cat with me when I move and head out for college.
@@wolfcat1973 Not sure on you telling her, but don’t give her your address. I read too many horrific stories of abusive/narcissistic parents that stalk their children when they try to leave on their own. Worst case scenario: she poisons every family member, friends or associates against you by claiming you were a problem children and states that ‘your an ungrateful child for abandoning her’; a real tactic most of them use to get people on their side. You ever heard of the gray rock method? If yes, you should practice it.
@@viv7810 Oh, she already has most of the family believing that I’m the problem. The only family I speak to on a somewhat regular basis that doesn’t go along with how she portrays me is my uncle (her older brother) but that’s possibly just out of spite towards her, since she tried to pull the same thing on him and has, thus, not spoken to her apart from begrudgingly wishing her a happy birthday (only because she wishes his a happy birthday under the pretense that he would look shallow and like an ass if he didn’t since his birthday is 2 days before hers and she made sure to wish him a happy birthday) and at my Papa’s funeral back in January in over two years. I have not heard of that technique. I’ll check it out after I finish work today. She already knows I plan on moving out of the county to head to college and has already started trying to make me cast doubts on going there because she knows I don’t like driving on highways and this place is basically a 4 hour drive (bare minimum) on the highway from our town, so she is already trying to poison my mind in that regard. It’s funny to see how my stepdad supports me doing this while my mom keeps yelling at me to get out then throws a fit when I start making plans to actually do so. My plan with the kitten didn’t pan out as she now claims she told me “I only said we could *discuss* getting a pet when you had enough to pay for it.” and “If Rand (step dad) was the one coming to me about this, then this could be a serious conversation, but since he’s not, it doesn’t matter.”
Wow, my parents are great. They put alot of effort into finding healthy foods I liked. Most of the stuff I disliked, but eventually they found what I liked: apples, bananas, burritos. They raised me to be incredibly cautious of being unhealthy.
So I live at an apartment complex, have for my whole life. Majority of people don't stay here for long so there weren't many kids my age after a certain point. When I was about 10 I would play with the younger kids simply because I was bored and needed to be outside. They were nice and my interests were still childish enough for me to get along with them fine. This one girl's mom tried to dump her 6 year old on me to babysit. She really just dropped her daughter next to me and left for work. To be clear, she asked me and left before I could respond. I also had and still have really bad anxiety so needless to say I was the least qualified to babysit. Of course, my parents didn't tolerate this when I told them what just happened and promptly called her mom's work. The girl's mom got really upset at me when she came back to get her kid. But are you really going to blame me when you dumped your kid on a 10 year old and leaving before I could give a response?
As a mother i tend not to get involved with parents who are reprimand their kids or anything else as i know i don't like it. But the one and only time i have and nearly hit the p.o.s mother was when her toddler was walking through a parking lot wearing only shorts and tshirt and wearing flip flops in -20 weather while snowing. That p.o.s was wrapped up warm and didn't even notice the little girl had fallen in the snow because she was too busy on her phone. I picked the little girl up and carried her to her p.o.s. and she had got in the store before i did. Finally i stopped her and the p.o.s called the cops on me for child abduction. The cops showed up and took one look at the child who was clinging to me and arrested the p.o.s. for child endangerment. I didn't even notice the little girls toes had started to turn blue. Apparently this wasn't the first time they have had to interven with the p.o.s and cps kept returning her. As i knew one of the cops she told me the courts had given the father custody of 5 of their kids and the remaining 3 went into the system as fathers were unknown. The father had been fighting the system for years. Mothers even if your kids throw temper tantrums not wanting to wear the appropriate clothes for extreme weather force them to. They may hate you at that moment but they get over it first. That p.o.s isn't the first mother ive seen not dress their kids warm. Even though they make sure they themselves are. Ive seen what frost bite can do and how sick kids can get. My kids are adults and i understand how frustrating it can be to get them to wear things. Weather walking across a parking lot or walking around out side. Flip flops shorts and tshirt is not Michigan winter weather. They shut the schools at -10.
Ooh, can I jump in if I'm the kid? When I was 2-3, I fell out of the car, bumped my head, and had a seizure. During the hospital visit and scans, the doctor told my mom that a certain feature of my brain was common in psychopaths/sociopaths (idk which, he/she was probably just sharing an interesting factoid and didn't mean any harm). Mom then made it her job to test out my emotional depth and ability to feel guilt. She would go out of her way to make me cry (I wasn't a tearful baby/kid, so I guess it was a point of concern), guilt trip me to the moon and back over tiny, insignificant things, and just generally manipulate my emotions to result in a desired reaction. I caught onto this early even as a young child and just....stopped reacting. I shut down emotionally to protect myself, which only made her try harder and get meaner about how wrong I was. As such, I didn't develop normally socially or emotionally in a lot of ways and I had a meltdown away at college when I finally felt safe to express myself. It took me a looooong time to figure out how to regulate difficult emotions and to figure out that I wasn't in fact a sociopath or psychopath as she sometimes called me. I'm in a better place now but I'm super, super sensitive to being manipulated (watching Ender's Game made me vomit) and I continue to shut down when the situation feels off or I get uncomfortable. It got to the point that I get mad at people who cry because making herself tear up was one of the ways she made me feel guilt and it just...transferred to all crying that's not out of physical pain. Yeahhhhh. I need therapy.
This video makes me feel better as an recovered addict that recovered for her kids and I couldn’t ever bear to hurt them or put them in danger
As an adult child of an alcoholic myself who continues to relapse into her 60s, I'm very proud of you!! Keep going for your kids, you're doing awesome! 👏
My great aunt has two teenage children, a boy around 14 and a girl around 16.
My grandma was telling me that at home the parents never open the curtains or let light into the house, and that they rarely go outside. The kids have never been to school, meant to be homeschooled yet I am pretty sure they learn nothing.
The girl has not had a shower in many years, since apparently when she was young she just didn’t want to and the parents did nothing about it.
I saw the kids at a family gathering a year or two ago, and the poor girl was pacing up and down the patio not talking to anyone and getting freaked out any time someone touched her or spoke to her. She has clearly not had much human interaction and seems to have some mental problems because of how she has been raised.
The boy does not appear as bad, but still is suffering the same way at home.
I feel so bad for those poor children, how will they ever get jobs and go to the real world if their parents have raised them in this way? :(
Parents may have mental illness
@@billolsen4360 well my grandma (sister of the great aunt) says that she seemed okay as a child and never appeared to have any mental illnesses, however they could have not noticed or the illnesses could’ve developed later in life.
And I’m not sure about her husband.
But even if that is the case, the children don’t deserve to be raised like that, so they either need to be taken out of the parents care, or the parents need some treatment/therapy
My story was similar to the Asian girl's, except instead of Harvard, my father wanted me to go into the military. I was rejected by every single one of them. For a long time I was determined to make myself into some kind of Soldier Hunter.
It wasn't until many years later when my father confided in me that he has PTSD and was now on some of the medications that were forced on me that everything kinda came into focus. He's retired from the military and still can't be there for the new family he tried to replace me with. I no longer hate him. I just needed to ask myself who I am and what I want. I still don't know. But I definitely don't want to be my father. So I'm going to be a part of my kid's lives. I'm going to be there for them while giving them their own space to grow. I'm going to celebrate their victories and failures so they can grow from both. I'm going to support them with anything they want to do or be even if it's just a passing phase. I have a young girl who wants to be a furry. When my fiancee told me I was mad for almost a minute but my yelling went from my disgust and hatred for furries to how and where am I going to find the resources to make a fursuit for everyone in the family!? She laughed at how ridiculous the change went from me going ballistic in anger to being constructively angry and supportive at the same time lol.
Anyway, I want to be everything I needed from my father so my kids can have what they deserve. Someone who loves them with every atom of my existence and wants them to be safe, happy, healthy and for them to know that no matter what happens I'll always believe in them and I'll always be there for them and most importantly, if I make eye contact and adjust my hat it means whatever we're doing, we're having too much fun and we can't tell your mother about this. As long as you understand this code, I will have your back when you need it. Now, reload the multi-crank operated gatling potato gun while I go setup the targets...
I wish you the best of luck with you life and family
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Coming from having been raised by crappy parents myself, I think these types of stories hit a more personal nerve with me than with most people. Especially the ones where parents neglect their children to the point where their ability to function suffers as a result because I've been through that myself.
At my baby shower I had a friend that brought her toddler. The toddler proceeded to literally lay in the middle of the floor of where we were all congregating and threw a temper tantrum because she didn’t get a balloon she wanted. Instead of stopping it, her mom just started mimicking her and making crying noises back louder than her. I literally was dumbfounded. As my mother always said… “What’s worse than fighting with a toddler… Losing to one.”
Once witnessed a real classic: a family with two children, older boy and little sister, were doing some clothes shopping. Everybody's nerves were obviously already spread thin. Boy got into an argument with his sister and then proceeded to hit and, I kid you not, curb stomp her. It was unnerving. The mother shouted at him to not hit his sister. And promptly slapped him to prove her point.
Used to have friends that were foster parents to their nephews. They were doing the work to officially adopt them. The boys were 13 and 14. One time, the 13-year-old accidentally called my "friend" at the time by her given name instead of "mom" and this psycho pulled him over her knee, and ripped his neck hair out with her fingers. In front of me. I was like, what the fuck is wrong with you? Thankfully, the boys went to live with their birth father soon after, and I stopped talking to those people. If she was willing to do something like that in front of me, I shudder to think of what went on behind closed doors. Have never been more shocked.
I just remembered a story of my own. When I was like 8 or 9 my Dad, Aunt, and Uncle took my brother and I to a local theme park. We were taking a break at a food court when a baby in a stroller starts crying nearby. After a few minutes we noticed that nobody had checked on the baby yet so my Aunt went up to the stroller and started asking around for their parents. Nobody around knew where the parents were so my Aunt started trying to sooth the baby while my Dad went to go find a park staff to help. What felt like a half-hour later a woman comes charging up yelling at my Aunt to get away from her baby. They got into a shouting match and I don't remember all that was said but I do remember my Aunt asking the woman why she left her baby alone for so long and the woman replying that it was none of her business and that her child was just fine on their own because they were napping. My Aunt then said that the baby had been crying for a long time and that it was irresponsible of her to leave her child alone. My Uncle stepped in at that point and pulled my Aunt away because it looked like the woman was about to jump her and then the woman just quickly left with her baby.
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As a now grown womanchild whose parents consist of an emotionally abusive narcissist and an emotionally neglectful and abusive irresponsible drunk who would often drink booze with her epileptic pills, I think we can all agree that crackheads and addicts should not have kids. Too bad too many of these people have kids way too easily. This shit is why I'm asexual.
The last one with the mom yelling at her toddler makes me so angry. She had done nothing wrong and seems smart for her age as well but is punished for it? That’s so unfair.
I didn't witness this myself, I was told of it by my friend who was involved. I used to live in a very small, remote mining village in South Africa. One day my friend was driving home and she saw a toddler of about 3 years old walking along, unaccompanied quite far from his house. It was a small village where everyone knew everyone else so my friend knew where the child lived. She took him home to.his mother who showed no concern at all. The mother said "Oh, don't worry it's in his nature to wander. I just let him go where he wants !" My friend couldn't believe her ears. The village was surrounded by bush that harboured venomous snakes, scorpions and other nasty insects anything could have happened to the child but the mother wasn't concerned for him in the slightest. My friend wasn't the only one who had to take the child home.
My aunt likes to spoil my little cousin, and it’s to the point where he will literally whine and cry like a baby if he doesn’t get his way. He’ll be 10 in February.
And what I mean by that is, if you tell him off for being a piece of shit, he’ll go whine to his mommy and get you in trouble.
NO JOKE. HE BULLIES MY BROTHERS BECAUSE HE KNOWS HE WILL GET AWAY WITH IT. BUT THE MOMENT MY BROTHERS ACCIDENTALLY TAP HIM WHILE THEYRE PLAYING, HELL WHINE AND CRY AND BE TREATED LIKE A BABY.
I get that he’s her youngest, but babying him at nearly 10 and let him bully my 7yo brother and have a, quite frankly, very inappropriate relationship with my 5yo sister is NOT okay.
He also tried tattling to his mom bc me and my cousin (his older brother) were watching EmKay, and they have a part of their intro where they flip the bird, and we can’t watch TH-camrs that curse on the tv bc of the kids. My aunt ignored him, bc she knows that they don’t curse (not really), but still.
I’m not saying that my mom is a saint, but her parenting is a lot better than my aunts.
13:28 "The kid was overweight and obviously wasn't used to hearing the word 'number'" wow
holy hell, i'm mad/sad/raged at these monsters and feel so bad for the kids...
How PATHETIC do you have to be , as a grown adult and MOTHER, to hurt another child and steal their belongings for your spoiled little brat? That story is less severe than stories of abuse or such, but that just plain caught me off guard.
I don't know why I listen to these sometimes. I'm a mum to a miracle baby and would love to be an adopted mum someday. I feel bad of I let my kid watch too much TV. Apparently that's pretty low on the list of bad parenting after listening to these. I'm totally crying over some of these stories 😭
I'll give the blanket answer of "Helicopter Parenting".
My mother was ineffectual ATC and my stepfather was an attack copter.
two random girls at chuck e cheese took slices of my sister's cake without asking and their parents giggled nervously at my mother, then I witnessed a white girl (around 3 or 4)shove a black boy( around 5 or 6) out of the way when he was playing a game then when he shoved her hand away in defense, she screamed hysterically and ran away. I asked the boy if he was alright and took him to his grandmother and explained what happened. Then Little Karen and her mom walked over and the girl said "Thats him Mommy, thats the (n word) who wouldn't let me play". My jaw dropped to the floor and the grandmother and the girls mom began to cuss each other out, the girls mom was shouting a bunch of racist shit, while the grandmother was telling her how much of a bad role model she was to her child. As a black person, I of course was offended by the racism but Im just shocked at how people could be training their children into Karens
Also one time when I was in 7th grade I stopped talking to one of my friends after her younger brother called my sister "slave girl " at school and his fake ass mother laughed it off and didnt do jackshit
Great Parenting© 👌 (Sarcasm.)
@@hollyhayes9640 lol
"Why don't you have a license and a car like everyone else your age?"
"I don't care if your friends get the license paid by their parents and a car for birthday. You work for it!"
"No, you don't work for that company. Because I say so"
"You shouldn't work so much, look out for your body"
"Don't exercise, that is too hard on you"
"You don't need to do your homework, you are smart"
I was 13 when I understood that my Mom was just anti. No matter what, she disagrees. And I made it a game to see how often I can switch sides in a 30-minute discussion. No, she does not realize that I am using an argument she used 5 minutes ago. These days I just stop and ask in what direction she actually wants to argue, and she just stares at me confused. I shouldn't do A, I should do B. And when I agree, she says how bad B is. I agree and do A and it loops. So I don't take any position at all, not even a hint, and she doesn't know where to go.
My mom went babysitting my 4yo cousin because her mom works 24/7. The kid won't eat nothing then french fries candy and oreos, it wasn't my aunt's fault, my uncle is super paranoid and never tells my little cousin no. My little cousin used to only watch one cartoon in repeat, cry if she doesn't get what she wants. 1year later and my cousin now watches everything, eats very nice and is more well behaved and not a manipulative child anymore.
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Agreed
Well, it's a great example of awful parenting....
Any ultra-religious, conservative parents who think that sheltering kids from the world prepares their kids for the world.
Yeah, that doesn't work. It makes a child that will die within a month; either figuratively or literally.
What exactly do you think people like us should not shelter our kids from?
The other side is let-it-all-hang-out parents who show you how disgustingly selfish, uncaring, un-self-aware, un-self-governing, and hedonistic is the world.
@@therealspeedwagon1451 You do seem full of hate.
@@billolsen4360 I just don’t like religion. Maybe a little too much. I need help in not being so hateful of religion.
2:04 Imagine being mad that someone saved your life
19:28 I feel like it's the son's fault more than the mother's, but you should also know slamming the breaks going 40mph when someone isn't wearing a seatbelt is also a bad idea
This one fuxking me pissed me off
she killed her son.
The son likely had a mental disorder.
She fucking killed her son.
That some of the son's fault, but almost entirely his mother's.
SHE FUCKING KILLED HER CHILD.
He wasn't even in the car.
I feel so bad for Eric. It must be hard having parents care so little for your safety and your life.
Not me, but my mom works as a kindergardener, and she told me a case of, not only parental neglect, but also hindering her work as a kindergardener.
She had one kid that was incredibely spoiled. Well, with food, at least. The kid only got sweets at home, and no normal food. So my mom did force the kid to taste the food, but she didn't actually force the kid to eat it all, she only forced the kid to taste the food. And the kid wasn't even traumatized. Nope, the kid really liked the food once they tasted it.
Just until the mom of the kid complained. "Hey, I appreciate that, but please stop forcefeeding my kid." , and the mom shot down my mom's arguments when my mom tried to explain: "Your kid likes the food we serve, your kid finishes the food altogether once they just tasted the food!"
After that, the mom of that kid brought her kid in, not to make it to the mealtimes, but right after the breakfast, and right before lunch.
Oh, well, maybe I shouldn't have used the word "forced" , it was more like my mom persistantly talked the kid into just tasting one bite of the food, and then the kid joyfully finished the whole plate on their own. My mom is a pacifist, and she does believe in disciplining a kid, when needed, but she doesn't believe in violence, not even for discipline, which is good.
An other case my mom talked about was a little girl, who was already about 3, and just was never taught to stand nor walk. It wasn't even a disability, the girl really was never taught how to stand or walk. My mom saw the mom of that girl always carrying the girl around, and the girl just pointed where she wanted to be to her mom. And when the girl wasn't literally picked up by the kindergardeners, the girl would just look in the direction she wants to be in, and not make a noise.
When a kindergardener put the girl down, and not even just to stand on her own, but even propped her up to support herself on a piece of furniture, the girl just dropped like a plank backwards. The kindergardener comforted the girl with: "Oh sorry dear, I didn't know you don't know how to stand..."
My mom told me the second story when I told her about a friend, who's brother really has been spoiled by his mom, and the brother of my friend just kept breaking bones, and Idk if the mom tested my friend's brother for glass bones, but the assumption was there, and my mom said: "Maybe he doesn't have glass bones, maybe he was just never taught by his mom how to stand and walk properly..." , and then procceeded with the second story.
I lived in one of the apartment buildings for a couple of years. One of my neighbours who has son who was 2 at the time, she thought shoving her young son in the apartment hallway as a punishment and let him scream his lungs out. The hallway made his screaming extremely loud. She never had a thought that someone could walk into the apartment building and kidnapped the tyke. One of the neighbours told her off about it, she still did it up till she moved.
I think private social workers should exist. Ones that are like certified as undercover cops so they can arrest the parents right there. But they’re like PI’s. So sneaky 😌
Ooooo good idea!
Well, there is such a thing as citizens arrest
This happened yesterday and today, normally my mum is super calm but since her new doctor screwed up her meds she's been incredibly moody, yells half the time (upsetting both me, her teenage daughter. And our dogo Benny), and on the verge of a panic attack half the time.. and since she's ex Military it gets "scary" real fast-
Please note I'm not used to being yelled at-
How you doing now? Is there any relative or adult you can call to tell them about the situation? Not saying your mum is a bad parent, but i think she needs some help while she gets her meds right.
@@phadenswandemil4345 really the only Relative who's number I have is my Aunt and their apartment is MESSY. (I can't even sit on the couch or on one of the beds without tripping on shit-) and I'm doing good, currently staying at a friend's house till.. Today?- Tomorrow?- I dunno 'cause it's 2:52 A.M. for me-
@@undertale4life848 Good to know. Wish you well. Goodnight!
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That adopted girl who ended herself after having very abusive ‘religious’ family and sexually assaulted by a police who isn’t held accountable…
…Anyone else have that feeling of rage and hoping karma gets all of those arseholes deeper than the depths of hell?
I've lived in an impoverished neighborhood growing up and I've seen a lot of shit. One of my childhood friends there was once dragged out of their house and was sprayed with a very strong hose because she hit her baby brother. The whole neighborhood would see it and watch. They would always say "poor thing" but never help. Sad part is, a lot of kids including me thought it was normal because we see this type of abuse almost every single day and they would always mask it off as "discipline."
I once saw a 5 year old standing alone without an adult around.
I asked him where his mom was and he said "shopping, she told me to wait here..." at the time i probably should have called someone in one of the stores but i had just gotten out of an abusive household and had extreme social anxiety towards adults i wasnt sure what to do so i told him to make sure someone sees him and to go to the nearest cashier if she doesn't return soon.
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23:12 Yes, that does sound petty, but I just can't imagine that happening. Like, the need to 'win' any confrontation ever can go this far?
Would it really be that hard to believe? We live in a world where the smallest thing can set people off. The world is getting more and more sensitive as time goes on.
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Foster parents should be required to have weekly inspections and private interviews with the kids
Habitual liars and manipulative pricks with no remorse:
All parents should tbh
12:50 may that girl rest in peace, that's so awful she had to go through that...
Parents who don't take their kids to the dentist but go to their own appointments EVERY 6 MONTHS, LIKE CLOCKWORK. How is this not considered child abuse??
I will try to stop bad parents if I see this stuff.
Someone’s gotta be those kids’ hero.
Be cautious, there can be extra "punishment" towards the kids for 'making me look bad in public'. I've found it better to deflect parents' attention away from the children rather than directly confront their behavior.
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I worked in an indoor mini golf course that had black light. The amount of times kids would just run in without their parents or the parents leaving their children there so they could shop resulted in a rule that no one under 12 could be left without a parent. We literally had a rule on the wall saying we are not responsible for kids, we just make sure they aren't hitting the balls too hard, playing the holes in order, and not destroying the courses.
Had a kid play one round and left, the mom came back and was angry I wasn't watching her child (who was 12 if I remember correctly). She demanded a refund, I told her one of the rules was no refunds and that this is not a daycare.
My old neighbor got pregnant at 18 and decided she was tired of having kids and would drop the newborn off at my house because “You’re a teacher. You can babysit mine for free.” I wasn’t a teacher yet. My husband worked in a clinic during flu season, and we both knew the kid would die if she got the flu. Mom didn’t care. She wanted to party. So the second time I saw her creeping away, I called CPS and told her she was going to jail.
Turns out this married woman was sleeping with another solider and selling off her body. When she and her husband left the military, she told me it was important to only teach the bible and that math and science weren’t important. It’s been about 6 years now…
As someone in school to become a nurse crap like this makes me so mad. I've seen the same neglect happen to old people (I work at a senior citizen home as an assistant nurse). So many of them are completely neglected by their families. I remember one time we tried getting in touch with one of the older mens family member, the one that listed themselves as their contact person, because he had completely run out of sugar free candy (he was a diabetic that loves sweets, so he got sugar free, and we aren't allowed to use our patients money for safety reasons). They didn't pick up for 5 days. We called every person we had the number to in his family and not one person answered. I know it doesn't sound important, an old man getting candy, but that old man was almost completely paralyzed neck down, schizofrenic and a diabetic. One of the few joys in his life were sweets, and his family didn't give a damn. Makes me give up on humanity. He was one of my favourite patients, the sweetest, funniest and smartest people I've met. Always helping as much as he could when we would lift him out of bed or when we fed him, never once snapped at anyone or even got irritated and was just overall an angel. He didn't deserve to be treated that way, which is why I spent so much time just talking to him and not rushing my routines in his room. People can be awful when someone is vulnerable.
what I personally witnessed:
My own parents...
17:08 I think this might have been me. My grandma is always trying to force my younger sister to learn how to swim (even though she doesn’t want to, she just wants to play and have fun) even if it means her screaming and crying. I always try to get her to stop but my grandma doesn’t listen.
Honestly swimming is a valuable survival skill that really should be taught early.
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And two options, either tease him for that the rest of his life. Or teach him shaking your giblets infront of someone’s face, is not a good thing,
Third option: stare the kid in the face and rip his giblets off. You might have to pull a bit, so just keep staring while you yoink
@@superevilscientistgamer5939 yes. and just giving them back to the parents like “btw you might need this”
@@Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa12 alternatively, you stuff it in the kid's mouth and make him eat his own hotdog. But that's only if you're REALLY pissed off
@@superevilscientistgamer5939 fair point,
@@Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa12 don't expect a lot on my channel, okay? Just a heads-up. Are those university videos still on there?
Was with a ex when her sister dropped her kids off. After us saying we wore busy. She just drove off. After the ex had gone to work. I rang the cops and told them I found 2 random kids. They came and picked the kids up. The ex's sister lost her shit when I texted her saying the police had her kid's. I still got to work on time. If you can't look after your kids. Don't have them. Your child isn't everyone else's problem.
This is a great reminder why hell exists
Is that what you tell your kids?
My parents refuse to let me have any semblance of independence when it's about something that I want for myself, but if it's about anything that they don't want to do for me or explain then I suddenly have to be a grown-up and just know what to do(Talking about german bureaucracy here. It's very complicated and I was never taught what exactly I had to do and how to do that. My parents didn't even deem to inform me that I have to make doctor's appointments myself now(even though they still have my insurance card) and just expected me to know.)
They also refuse to help me with it because "You're an adult now, so you have to do adult stuff and you have to learn it yourself" after refusing to let me learn anything about it or letting me do stuff like that myself for 19 years.
But I still have to be at their beck and call anytime they need something, so making appointments isn't even possible, since I have to have enough free time to just give to them for nothing.
People should call these bad parents out in public and shame the shit out of them.
imagine yelling at a neighbour for just calling fire department bc ur son turned gas on stove, wow what the frick
I mean gas can kill on its own, Nevermind the reaction.
That one story about the child with fetal alcohol syndrome right around 12-13 minutes into the video has to be one of the saddest stories I've ever heard!
I don't have children of my own but I have seen some kids that behaved very badly and their parents did nothing. I have friends that have children, younger ones between the ages of 5 and 12 years old. They would bring their kids to my house which I understand because they can't find somebody they can trust to watch their kids, but if they're going to bring the kids, why can't they make the behave? My question is what came 1st the chicken or the egg? Is it true that they can't find a trustworthy babysitter or they can't find a babysitter who wants to watch their bratty kid?
I've had kids steal my jewelry, one kid pooped on my couch (& the mother tried to flip the couch cushion over, WITHOUT CLEANING IT, in an attempt to covered up but I caught her in the act), I had children give me a hard time and when I'd scold them, the mother would go off on me for yelling at their kid. It's a shame, really...
Some of these stories remind me that humans don't deserve to exist.
At around 17:05, I did that once. Walked in to the home of a 9 month old baby girl that my babysitter was watching. There was trash everywhere. Mail from numerous mail boxes that didn’t belong to the adult in charge. There were no diapers. No wipes. No crib. No room for this baby to crawl from all the trash. Liquor bottles everywhere, with cigarettes in them. Trash piled up about 6 ft high in 55 gallon trash cans. The baby was half sucked into the couch. I had a 10 month old boy at the time. I was freaking shocked and furious. I didn’t say a word. Just walked in, picked the baby up and walked out. Took the baby home, got her cleaned up and let her play with my son while waiting for the “mother” to return from buying meth. I threatened cops and CPS, and only after my sitter begged did I relent. I ended up giving the baby back only after they cleaned the house. I returned all the stolen mail as best I could. Told my sitter not to let that baby suffer out of fear of my reaction, but that her “friend” was a shit human being that I would rather enjoy kicking the shit out of should I ever find their home in that condition again. No need for cops. Pissed me off something awful.
And just so y’all know: I avoided CPS for a specific reason. In theory, they’re great. In practice, in my state, they were corrupt. Babies that can not verbalize their pain are routinely abused/trafficked. And I speak from experience, having been in the foster system much of my life.
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PLEASE don’t let this form your opinions of Christians. I hate when there are people that use their religion to justify their bad behavior.
There are some bad apples in the community, yes. But 98% of us just want to live a good life and go to Heaven when we die.
(Heck, I actually get depressed when I see someone walk away sad from my deli job. I don’t understand how someone who loves Jesus can do something like that.)
Here’s my own, there was thing guy we helped get off bad drugs. And it hadn’t Even been a year since he was clean and he got a girl preggo. We told him he needed to get a few years under his belt of being clean of drugs before starting a family. He didn’t listen to us moved the girl down from Virginia with her cat, daughter, and dog. He had 2 mastiffs btw. So we helped get him a house, a job, and a car. He cut contact with us after that saying we owed him money when we didnt. He had another kid and it has been about 3 years. He died a month ago because of drug addiction. I feel so bad for his 2 sons and the little girl. They didn’t ask for this and my heart bleeds for those kiddos. All kids need parents but not all parents need kids.. prayers for those kids 🙏^^
Not only did he die on those kids leaving them without a father he was doing drugs in the house. IN THE HOUSE WITH THE KIDS IN IT!
My grandmother and step-grandmother. My mothers real mother was an alcoholic who did everything for some booze, including steeling money from my mothers saving account and letting my mother starve to under 80lbs at 5 foot 7, because she rather spent the money on alcohol than food for her children. But not just that, when my mother was a teenager, she started to have a relationship to an older guy. She didn't want to sleep with him and well, next day he sat at the breakfast table, because he spent the night with my grandmother. My grandmother would also beat up my mother, when she hurt herself, because her clothes might've gotten dirty. After some time, my mother got away from her and lived with my grandfather. She feels like it was better living with him than her mother.
This "better" still meant neglect and abuse. When my mother was hit by a car on her bike, she was at the hospital and needed to stay there + they said she needs rehabilitation afterwards, because she is not allowed to walk, as the leg was severely injured. But they had planned a vacation, that her stepmother didn't want to miss. So they pulled her out of the hospital against medical advice, put a mattress on the floor in the living room and went on vacation without her. She was still a teenager.
At age 14, she had to do the whole household on her own, because she had to somehow deserve to live with them. This included literally everything, including raising her younger siblings and cleaning up after her OLDER brother. She was forced to drop out of school at age 15, so she could work and earn money and take care of the newborn baby brother all at the same time, because my step-grandmother wanted to go back to working full-time 2 weeks after giving birth to my uncle. My mother dreamed of becoming a teacher, but obviously, without graduating highschool, that wasn't possible. Her stepmother also told her that she is stupid and worth sh*t, which my mother sadly believes to this day.
When my mother was 18, she was kicked out from home. My grandfather and his wife basically forced her to sign a lease to a tiny studio apartment and was sent off.
My grandfather theoretically wasn't a bad guy. Only problem was, he knew if he stood up for his daughter, she would not let him get some or cheat on him again, so he did as she said.
He died when I was 13. In my entire life, I had seen my grandfather maybe 10 times, because to her, we weren't worth to visit or be ok to come over. They ONCE got us kids some presents. They didn't even have name tags and were just put on our front door. They didn't even knock or ring the bell. But of course my step-grandmother expected to be praised for how nice it was the next time we saw them, which was over a year later.
Kicker came when my grandfather was in the hospital before he died. She didn't want him to ruin her vacation plans, so she went on vacation with her new lover, while he was fighting his last fight. When he was dead, she didn't cry. She just asked what people think what clothes she should get for the funeral.
My grandfather was somewhat religious and wanted a religious speech at his funeral. She didn't want that, so she hired some random guy to give a speech. Obviously she was supposed to give that guy some information about my grandfather, so the speech can be personal. She told him my grandfather was a locksmith. He wasn't. He was a car mechanic and owned a driving school. But she thought locksmith would sound better. She also gave him the wrong birthdate.
Before he died he promised my brother one of his motorcycles. He still didn't get it 10 years later, because we are my mothers kids. My mother also never got a single cent of her inheritance and not even her own babypictures.
Honestly, despite being killed by your own parents, I don't think it is possible to have a worse childhood than that.