What Is My Spouse Thinking During Separation?

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  • @cedricbaker7768
    @cedricbaker7768 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    Been seperated 3 yrs Coach! Since i discovered your channel over 2yrs ago. Ive done everything i mean everything you suggested. And worked on self. And most importantly got off DRUGS been clean 3 yrs. Yesterday she said we gotta go to dinner when she picked the kids up. Not sure if with the kids or us.I didnt jump all on it. Then i got a lengthy text praising me for being a great dad to our sons 🤔 i reciprocated the same back to her for being a great mom.

    • @zikkimuziki
      @zikkimuziki 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      I hope it works out for both of you 🙏🏿

    • @cedricbaker7768
      @cedricbaker7768 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@zikkimuziki thank you🙏🏿

    • @wm1231
      @wm1231 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      I broke into tears, reading this, man... We all going through the hard time, but your story is the next level. Truly a life changing story. May God bless you and your family and everything that you've lost returned 10 times.

    • @cedricbaker7768
      @cedricbaker7768 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@wm1231 Thank you man. And may the same happen for you as well✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿💯

    • @Xile179
      @Xile179 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Update?

  • @Aramakie98
    @Aramakie98 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    On the subreddit r/Divorce and even on r/Marriage you can see the cycles that so many of these relationships are going through with the various different rants and questions. Just know that you should be fun, almost flirty, and consistent with your STBX, just as Coach Lee has suggested in other various videos. Best of luck and keep working on you!

  • @jimboslice22
    @jimboslice22 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    I got my girl back like 5 months ago but it was a slippery slope at first but everything is way better now

    • @BrokenPhoenix42
      @BrokenPhoenix42 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Good to hear that, happy for you! 😊 And as always, curious how long you were separated.

    • @Fit_soldier
      @Fit_soldier 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Please teach me how to get my wife back!!!

  • @user-ee1mz7ht3d
    @user-ee1mz7ht3d 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Awesome coach Lee. Can’t wait. Please! I hope you talk on when the separation has been over a year and they are seeing someone casually for a while and insisting it has nothing to do with not coming back. They says they’re not in love with you and think they want a divorce thinking that’s the only way to be happy but deep down know you are great. How to get them back especially when kids are involved. I really feel people are struggling with longer separations and feeling a bit hopeless especially when they’ve changed and the spouse knows this but are hesitant for whatever reason or they believe they have made a decision and can’t go back on it. No social media as such is involved. Us more mature people in their early 50s don’t use social media that much.
    Thanks again.

    • @RealCoachLee
      @RealCoachLee  11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You should get my free mini-course about saving a marriage. All you have to do is go here: myexbackcoach.com/hope-for-marriages-in-crisis/

    • @user-ee1mz7ht3d
      @user-ee1mz7ht3d 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I have already, thanks Coach Lee. My situation is tough and it will take a lot of time. I like the idea of appreciating small moments. Despite telling me for months that if I want a holiday I should just take the kids he sent me a Facebook memory of a holiday years ago the other day. I can’t believe I’m at this point after 17 years together. My small goal is to get him to the stage of asking me out for a coffee.

  • @cLL1234
    @cLL1234 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    My husband did the classic I don’t love you anymore. I honestly thought we were going through a rough patch of two young kids and no time to ourselves. He’s admitted there’s a connection to someone he works with but nothing has happened and isn’t the reason he left. We’ve been together 18 years and have always been so in tune with each other. I have tried the no contact but it hasn’t worked for me. We are in constant contact over kids, business and house. It’s so difficult

  • @Pickles1497
    @Pickles1497 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thats what he told me . Ive done everything for everybody else and nothing for me . I'm still sad, i still cry. 😢

  • @jonathanpatten7067
    @jonathanpatten7067 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Hey Lee, I have been binge listening to your content! I also have the emergency break up kit. I have looked and I don't see anything that comes close to what I have going on. Mine is a 3 year relationship with a female, who I met when she was 9 months out of an 18 year relationship. Now, we had an amazing connection, passion and love and so much fun for 3 years. We started in the last year to cycle through connection, disconnection, and then reconnection. She could not plan with me and did not feel she could build a future until she dealt with her divorce. She left me this December due to not feeling connected, more so drained from the cycle, and needing to be alone to process her divorce. Now I see that she was trying to keep the limerence feelings as she couldn't move into the longer term emotions as they require commitment. Im following your course to the T. Im optimistic, but Im not seeing what to do in my kind of case, does the system have a chance? Thank!

  • @everythingkarma
    @everythingkarma 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Please do a video like this for married people whose spouse is in a rebound

    • @RealCoachLee
      @RealCoachLee  11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I suggest you get my free mini-course on saving a marriage at myexbackcoach.com/hope-for-marriages-in-crisis/

    • @NMTDelightfulMusic
      @NMTDelightfulMusic 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Check if your spouse is narcissist 😂

  • @Pickles1497
    @Pickles1497 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    We had a good marriage,good times ,bad times worked through it. Then boom.

    • @RealCoachLee
      @RealCoachLee  11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I suggest my free mini-course on saving a marriage at myexbackcoach.com/hope-for-marriages-in-crisis/

  • @tjmurphy2759
    @tjmurphy2759 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Mine put a felony charge on me. Like gah dang. No contact to the extreme now.

  • @therai300
    @therai300 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Coach lee what about if my wife separated with me to pursue her affair? Ive seen videos with Limerance. I know for a fact that she is making a mistake. But before she left i told her to think long and hard about a divorce and that she must pay for it and not this guy. She has given me the "i still love and care for you" and "just because im not there doesn't mean i don't care for you."

    • @jannlewandowski5540
      @jannlewandowski5540 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      therai300, in this case, I highly recommend Coach Lee's mini course which is absolutely free. myexbackcoach.com/hope-for-marriages-in-crisis
      This course has helped many couples. Good luck to you.❤

  • @jakeknoblett7678
    @jakeknoblett7678 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I was told that I was a great husband, “in most cases”, lol. I’m a great father to our daughters and that she knows that the divorce is not the best situation for them but she doesn’t “feel” like it’s where she’s supposed to be. Side note, there’s been another man in the picture for some time now even before the separation. So it’s been a pretty interesting circumstance to watch.

    • @RealCoachLee
      @RealCoachLee  11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Jake, I highly recommend you get my free mini-course on saving a marriage at myexbackcoach.com/hope-for-marriages-in-crisis/

    • @NMTDelightfulMusic
      @NMTDelightfulMusic 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Me,me,me... She smells like narcissist 😂

    • @jakeknoblett7678
      @jakeknoblett7678 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@NMTDelightfulMusic lol

  • @asteroida3538
    @asteroida3538 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    My ex reached out to me after almost two years of no contact. He said he just wanted to say hello and hoped that I was doing well. I replied in the same way, thanking him for reaching out and expressing my well wishes. It has been about 30 days since then, and he hasn't said anything further. Sometimes I feel like sending him a very short message, but I'm not sure if it's a good idea to initiate a conversation. I'm unsure about what I should do.

    • @Aramakie98
      @Aramakie98 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Start a fresh conversation with them, something open ended and maybe on the playful side. The worst that will happen is that it goes nowhere and there is no sticking the landing; however, if you initiate the conversation and he keeps wanting to invest in that time, that conversation then that is a positive sign (even if it is for purely nostalgia sake on his part). Best of luck!

    • @Troy12-fitnessmodel
      @Troy12-fitnessmodel 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Just breadcrumbs. Let him come to you

  • @Pickles1497
    @Pickles1497 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    When i see him Conversations of what he is doing and what he will be doing have talked about.

  • @PerfectSuperSaiyan
    @PerfectSuperSaiyan 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    What if we are in the same phone plan and are in no contact? She was my fiance and I don’t wanna break no contact

  • @Pickles1497
    @Pickles1497 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    He never said im not in love with you he said im unhappy. I said ok bye.gone he was

  • @RareFootage7
    @RareFootage7 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Need help coach lee - My gf broke up with me she want us to be just friends.. i disagree and ghosted her... i christian she is muslim weve been together for 6years and always asking me to go mosque but i never go because i myself dont velieve in god ...Its been 1 week now she always crying in her 300k follwer tiktok... she keeps calling me on the first day of breakip but i ignore. we have no agreement at no contact rule...should i break no contact rule?
    I feel very pity of her

  • @user-rr6yg1er2o
    @user-rr6yg1er2o 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    What if they are going through a mid life crisis?

    • @RealCoachLee
      @RealCoachLee  11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I talk about that in my Relationship Reignite workshop at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite

  • @Pickles1497
    @Pickles1497 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Good morning coach ❤

  • @jmzelaya1021
    @jmzelaya1021 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Do you have a video when you still live with your spouse. And iStill living together.

    • @RealCoachLee
      @RealCoachLee  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Actually I have a free mini-course about that very thing at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite/

  • @user-fc1fg8yu7i
    @user-fc1fg8yu7i 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Is strategic contact similar to SMART Contact or is it different?

    • @RealCoachLee
      @RealCoachLee  11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Similar but better.

  • @oguguafidelis7715
    @oguguafidelis7715 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Nobody mess with me that will ever have a happy relationship /home even with money

  • @Gilgamesh203
    @Gilgamesh203 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you so much for your great videos coach Lee. I have learnt a lot from you and I am much more confident and knowledgeable now. I really need to contact you and tell you my story because it’s a little bit complicated. Is there any chance I can contact you, book a session if you provide or anything. I’m happy to do anything. I just want to tell you my story and ask you for your opinion if there is a chance or not. I have watched all your videos but in each one there is something different in my situation. I hope you respond and thank you so much again.

    • @RealCoachLee
      @RealCoachLee  11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Hi Gilgamesh, you can book a session with me or a coach on my staff at myexbackcoach.com/book-with-coach-lee/.

  • @rajwinderkaur7786
    @rajwinderkaur7786 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Yes sometimes I laughs that he is like a kid.

  • @jannlewandowski5540
    @jannlewandowski5540 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    cLL1234,, i hughly recommend Coach Lee's mini course which has helped many couples. Also, it is FREE.
    MyExBackCoach.com/hope-for-marriages-in-crisis
    GOOD LUCK TO YOU ❤❤

  • @rajwinderkaur7786
    @rajwinderkaur7786 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    He alone watching, Mr. Lee send his address so I can also see him.

  • @soniyad1993
    @soniyad1993 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    We are in no contact since 4 months he has blocked me on Instagram. But he's still sending me snaps on snapchat however im not sending him back any snaps. He even saved my one photo and replied to it. Im not sure what to do next and why he's still sending me snaps if he has blocked me on Instagram and not talking to me at all? Please respond.

    • @NomadNurseZ
      @NomadNurseZ 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Leave it be. He is trying to give you the bare minimum and hopes you will do all the work. Don’t do anything. Focus on something you enjoy or try a new hobby you could never do with them.