Kody wouldn’t miss a wedding where he has the opportunity to make it all about him, he dances around like he’s the centre of the universe. I have been worried about Gabe for a long time, I hope he’s not suffering from depression. Poor kids having a deadbeat father 😢
I can't stand Kody Brown. He makes me sick. Yep, narcissistic behaviours personified!!!! Poor Gabe, my heart just breaks for him. Christine did good, Janelle should follow and My God if Robyn had any sense she would leave and take her children away from that before he does more damage!!!!!
Ysabel is the same beautiful daughter whom not only he couldn’t be bothered to go to her spine surgery as well as help her move to NC when invited to do so. This was his chance to do something for her, make some memories and just try to be a good dad to her. This man is the epitome of narcissism.
@@msnawrecka9786 💯 agree with you! The way he lies with the agenda to hurt others and the way he reframes things to make himself look the victim. He’s absolutely deplorable.
I agree. What was his excuse for not helping Ysabel move to NC. It had to be around the same time or after this wedding so he can't blame covid. Christine offered him options such as flying down so he can't use the amount of time it would have taken either. What was his excuse?
I vote for you to do the Sister Wives Reunion moderating so you can hold Kody's feet to the fire about his narcissistic behaviors and how they hurt everyone around him.
I agree! Oooh to see him squirm.. “what the crap!” 😂😂😂 It’s such a mess, and I feel so bad for his older kids. He talks about wanting them all close, more land for kids to return, but he just wants to push them out now. They’re grown, intelligent, and can hold their own-total threat to him.
This friend must not have seen when Kody hijacked, uhm I mean, officiated Maddie's wedding. He did the exact same thing here. He totally took the focus off the bride and groom and made it ALL about HIM. It's crazy how much attention and affirmation this dude needs. It's sickening.
the groom got some legsl problems in the early 2000s for illegal weapon selling. he made a deal and snitched on others so he got away and can be near firearms (and deal with them)
Kody says he did not go to the surgery because it was 6 weeks away from Robins kids. I’m sure Christine and Izzy would have been so blessed and happy if he were there even for just the initial surgery and first day of recovery. He gave them NOTHING!
Right? He could've stayed for a day or 2. Get a separate hotel room, wear a mask, stand 6 feet away etc. Then not only the fact that a wedding is fine somehow, but when Robyn had to be hospitalized for C19, he wanted to check himself in cuz 'Maybe I need a chest X-ray'. Dude just admit that you don't want to leave Robyn & her kids. I'd respect him so much more if he was just honest about his feelings. Like if you want to only be romantic w Robyn- cool!!! I only want my partner, I get it. But you still owe your other children a relationship. You owe your other wives help figuring out at least their housing. Sell the mansion. Get the houses built. Then everyone can just live their lives and you can rent out the rest for income. Everyone wins. You can have friendships/coparent w the other wives and settle w Robyn. But NOPE. He wants the money & clout polygamy gives him. He wants the attention/respect being a 'patriach' brings. He can't let go of the control without feeling like he 'lost' somehow. So he just wants to pull away to 'punish' the rest of his family like he did to Meri. Jokes on him. That worked w Meri. Mostly due to her humilation after the catfish. She just wanted to go back to as close to 'normal' as possible. And their marriage had been awful forever. Ironic since this lead to the catfish to begin with. But Christine & Janelle ultimately won't just take it. Neither will his other kids. They'll bail. By trying to bully them into coming back he is dooming any future relationships. And that TLC paycheck. Also eventually when only Robyn & her kids are left, he'll turn his anger & frustration on them. Once Robyn loses not only the big family, but her honeymoon relationship too... Ya she'll leave too. Might take awhile. Might not. Either way he's letting his control issues, attention seeking & attempt to 'be the patriach' ruin his family & life. But the only sympathy I feel is for the rest of his family. He sunk his own ship.
But he was OK with putting himself in the hospital to be near her. When she got Covid, total hypocrite, I wonder how the other wife’s felt about that when they watched that back
Yes! That’s what I’ve always said as well. Just go for the actual surgery, not for the whole thing. And then he let her down again by not driving her to college.
Even his walking and hair flipping is narcissistic. Go back and watch him walking into the venue with his friend. He absolutely takes up as much real estate as he can with his movements. Watch how he flips his hair out of his eyes. I’ve noticed his exaggerated movements from the very beginning. Ick.
Ever heard of a " Whirling Dervish" ? He is such a fool. Hope the state goes after him for all his loans. The man has no job. Robin says his car is his office. What a scam.
I’m an psychotherapist (LCSW) with 30+ years experience. Kody’s behavior makes me throw up in my mouth. Malignant narcissist for sure. I share the feelings of heartbreak for Gabriel
I feel bad for the couple that were getting married. He made it all about himself and it was a HOT mess! If I were the bride I would be FURIOUS!! He only cares about himself. One day he will look around and he will be all alone, no wives, no children, no nobody. One day.
I feel bad for the wife this was probably her husband's idea which was stupid considering he how how public Kody is messing up his marriages. I don't get how Kody has friends at all.
I agree so much with you on this. Also, the episode last season where Gabe tried to have an honest conversation with his dad about the situation and Kody completely shut him down is the most painful in the history of this show, in my opinion.
It was terrible. I teared up. I hope Janelle had had a long, honest talk with Gabe, about how his father is a narcissist and an asshole, and that Gabe needs to learn to live without a relationship with his father. He'll never have the strong healthy relationship he seems to want with his dad.
Kody is so much less than a man! He didn’t even care enough about his older daughter who was facing such a painful operation for her Scoliosis to help her out of pain. A parent is supposed to have unconditional love and support. Kody should never had children because he can’t care for anyone but Kody
He didn’t even offer to go to Christine’s house and help look after Ysabel after she got back to flagstaff. There are so many things he could’ve done. He only likes the kids who do exactly as he says if they even so much as question him, they’re out! It’s dispicable
Don't forget, Yseabel should have had surgery much sooner, but Kody decided to spend a bunch of money on some quack who convinced him that some stretching would do the trick.
I feel so bad for Gabriel. You hear the pain in his voice. You know he is protecting his mom, he had that conversation with Kotex already. If Janelle got Covid, who would take care of her. And both of Janelles boys said we would! And that shocked Kotex. Like, wait. That’s not the right answer. He’s treating these women like dirt, and then is upset that they want a divorce? Please! He’s calling them narcissistic sons. He calls Christine gaslighting. I bet he doesn’t know the meaning of those words. I wonder if he watches any of these TH-cam videos or Tiktock. I mean, they are ruthless in him!! You are great by the way. I enjoy these summaries very much!👍
Kody withdraws his love and affection from his wives and kids when they don’t behave the way he believes they should. It’s so heartbreaking to watch. I’m so happy to see the frustration in you finally! 😂
His love and affection isn't real, no one can suddenly withdraw something they feel, he doesn't appear to feel real love. The affection he gives is superficial because it is on his terms and therefore conditional.....yet if his feelings or pride are hurt, he plays the victim, he is so manipulative and narcissistic in every way. Robyn is also very manipulative as it appears she wants Kody to favour her (which he does), but when all the wives have left and the fame has gone, all she will have left is another dysfuctional relationship and children more emotionally damaged than they were before. What a mess.🙄
@@celinethomas4229 agreed! Robyn is 100% the “good wife”. It seems like she still lives “keep sweet and pray”. I think he will be left with 1 wife if he hasn’t been yet.
I think Kody is truly messed up in his head. We he can't control a person or thing he withdrawls. What is he afraid of because they are leaving by the numbers, who left him and ignored him.
I also thought it was interesting that he said if the wedding didn’t go well it would be partly the couples fault because they asked him to officiate while he was going through a divorce. He seriously cannot take the blame for one single wrong that he does. He’s like a 7 year old on the playground, it’s always someone else’s fault!
Kody always paid attention to the youngest kid and the older boys. He really ignores the older girls until they have babies. It was actually the same child he refused to drive as he did not go surgery and would not see her cause she did in person school. So Gabe this is a real shock. The girls used to being ignored. Janelle raised such good men.
You mean Christine. Janelle didn't raise her kids. She dumped them on Christine and said it was because she had to work. Someone needed to inform Janelle that plenty of moms work and raise their kids. Her kids have said many times that they consider Christine to be their mother figure. Gabriel said he sees Christine as his mom right in front of Janelle and she didn't even seem to care. One of Janelle's sons, Logan, has publicly stated that he was forced to take care of his younger siblings and doesn't know if he even wants kids because he had to raise his siblings already. He had to get them all up for school, dress them, feed them and get them to the bus stop after they moved to Las Vegas and Janelle could no longer dump her younger kids onto Christine. Logan refused to be on the TV show and left home right after high school. Janelle and Kody offered him no help paying for college. He worked hard and paid for it alone. He recently got his master's degree and got married. Logan is very bitter about what Janelle did to him and I don't blame him.
@@mygirldarby you are absolutely correct! Christine was the “mom” and did everything. Mari and Janelle went to work. And Christine didn’t have a dang nanny either!!! She raised those 12 kids alone!
@@mygirldarby I have a question about your perspective. I view the dynamic between Christine and Janelle as more of a breadwinner-homemaker relationship. The two are very much like a nuclear family where one works and the other cares for the kids. I do not understand how men can work and leave their kids home to be taken care of by their spouse while they work, yet women who have that same family dynamic are shamed for it. Janelle does the same thing that millions of men do based on their chosen family dynamic, yet you bash her for it. My mom was my primary care giver and did most of the childcare duties while my dad worked and each played a vital role in my development neither should be diminished because both roles are important.
@@afullchalicevlogs7979 yeah and then we recently found out that Christine did all of this and was working nights and asked Kody to put the kids to bed each night but he said he was too busy so that responsibility went to Aspyn. Kody is seriously just a POS. 🙄
I don’t have a psychology degree, but I could easily recognize Kody’s absolute emotional abuse to his kids, especially Gabe. Kody uses the health of his relationships with the mothers as a way to guide his relationships with his children. Christine’s kids and Janelle’s older kids recognize this about him and discuss. They are all going to need therapy to undue the damage he’s done to their self esteem.
I agree. The women have been taught to reconcile the Dad with their children, unfortunately it reinforces the emotional abuse of the Dad. I really believe they would be better off without this guy. He’s a fair weather dad.
I’m so tired of Kody saying “Christine didn’t ask his permission to pack his belongings up and move them to the garage, Christine didn’t ask my permission for a divorce, Christine didn’t ask my permission to move to Utah” since when does a grown ass adult woman need to ask his permission to do anything?
Narcissist expect 100 percent loyalty. You don’t question them. Period. Kody used covid as an excuse to spend all his time with Robyn and their children. He loves the younger children because they never question his authority
It could have worked it he said something like, "I've known him for 25 years and this the happiest I've ever seen him and I'm so proud to be a part of this important day for him and his bride." That would have been about the couple not Kody.
@@rosesweetcharlottesometimes people purposely choose to be blind. He knew- she hung in for 13 seasons of being miserable. She actually cared about all of the kids, hell she raised most of them (all except Robyn’s kids). She just couldn’t handle his bs abymore. I cheered so loudly when she left. Same when Janelle did ❤
When the Dr was describing the surgery to Isabel and he mentioned having to collapse a lung so they can do the procedure I just can’t imagine any parent staying away during such a risky, scary procedure!! I pretty much wrote Kody off at that point. I almost feel like I need to stop watching the show because adding to the high ratings is rewarding Kody’s ab behavior.
Not only did Kody refuse to be present for Isabel's surgery he also missed the first birthday of his grand-daughter AND amputation surgery! Kody is nothing more than a sperm donor and a total waster of space.
I couldn’t wait for your response. With Kody talking about gaslighting, I thought “he’s been listening to what others say about him, and applying it to others”. He’s so awful!
There’s something really wrong with Kody, really. He is so apathetic as a parent and lately I was wondering if he was on cocaine or what…his eyes were bulging out of his head at times and his pupils looked dilated.
@@jackiec4483 She is the only one he sleep with . So she has his ear and know more then she let on. The wives see her for what she is # 1 wife. I think he wants only one wife and it Robyn. He just can come out and say it to them, makes a lot of excuses
Could it also be that she is submissive in the way Cody wants her. She clearly doesn't defy him, I think she is brainwashed and abused. The fact that people keep attacking her probably pushes her further into submission to prove she is the good wife.
You hit the nail on the head!! Narcissist and asshole are terms of endearment at this point. I’ve learned with the two narc’s in my family that whatever they say about you is the truth about them!!
It is the same thing he does to all of them. He withholds himself from those who don't do/say/act as he wants them to. Can't think anything more painful than that for a child (or a spouse), to have affection/consideration/love withheld just because you don't agree with or act the way they want you to. Sad for all of them.
If you open a dictionary and look for the definition of "malignant narcissist"... you will see Kody's face. There's an rule in etiquette that says, never upstage the bride. Kody upstaged the ceremony, he upstaged the reception dance, and he definitely upstaged someone else's special day. It was "their wedding",... Kody. Repeat: "Their" wedding.
The term gaslighting does come from the movie Gaslight. In the movie, the husband keeps adjusting the lights throughout the home (they were gas lights) to a lower flame and when his wife mentions it he tells her she’s imagining things. He continues to make her question herself about other things as well…
Yes, he is sneaking around the house while she is in the bedroom and lying about it. Whenever a new light is turned on, all of the lights in the house dim. I guess because they all share the same gas/power.
That wedding was such narc. behaviour. I also noticed he got really the most animated and the most excited when speaking about himself. Just wanted to add that the kid moving to college and the kid who needed surgery are the same person.
It seems to me that Kody is under the impression that when the kids reach a certain age he is no longer responsible for their needs - emotional, financial, anything. I don't think he has really emotionally attached to anyone. When his wives don't act the way he thinks they should - he shuts them down, and when his kids start to see the cracks in his facade he cuts them off. This episode made me particularly angry. My heart just broke for Gabe, and poor Ysabel; being away from her dad is probably the best thing for her. Kody really is a piece of crap.
Christine is honestly a saint for being as patient as she has been in this transition away from Kody. I really hope she gets Truely some therapy. I’ve been Truely and she is bottling up so much emotion that I don’t think she even knows yet how much distress she’s in.
You hit it right on the nail. The hypocrisy is astonishing. He refused to go be with his daughter when a surgeon was putting a scalp to his child’s spine. That is a life changing surgery and it could have gone very very bad. I feel so bad for his children. Clearly his needs and wants outweighs everyone else’s.
You couldn’t have explained it any better than with the “dance!” When my son was graduating from ARMY, I drove by myself 34 hours to watch him graduate. The car trip home would give us each overdue time together, catching up and speak freely as adults. We were really enjoying this new type of relationship and assembling it properly. I thought he would be upset with me because it was a risky endeavor for me (Autoimmune Disease, liver failure and some lung issues when it flares) and I “showed up” happy and smiling! Our Family Mantra has always been “SHOW UP” and you will never be wrong. This teaches to own not only your accountability but your value. He is our oldest of 5, so my husband stayed back to keep the little ones in school and in rhythm (our baby is autistic). There’s nothing that separates our children from us. We travel together, vacation together, RV camp together and much more. I feel satisfied as a mother. We now have best friends as they are all over 18. A family that grows together stays together. Each has their uniqueness and rockstar qualities. I think my perception as a parent is why I dislike this Kody. He loves himself first. He should have moved mountains to be with his daughter for her surgery. Christine raised such beautiful children with sweetest of souls. Her sweet daughter said it was ok that Kody would not be there. How incredibly unselfish she acted. She had more adult qualities than her own father. People like him demand those who are permitted to be in HIS life be unselfish and non restrictive. This is so the narcissistic behavior can shine. A good parent puts their children above their self. Kody is grotesque and an extremely poor decision maker. He is THE DANCE. I would encourage everyone to keep Kody at arm’s length because he is a delusional narcissist and will inflict emotional stress and pain just by being himself.
I agree that Truely had too little perspective to know how to react but expressed negative emotions well and in a way that showed security. Also, my heart aches for Gabe. Kody’s behavior is just horrible.
It wasn’t just that the wife was taking her husbands last name, it was that she was willing and wanting for them to be introduced as Mr and Mrs Brad Smith (whatever his full name was). Kody thought there marriage would be a success because she wanted to basically go unnamed, as just a part of her husband. I have no issue with brides and grooms being introduced like that, but it was how Kody twisted that into her being submissive and a good wife if she wanted to give up her self autonomy and only identify as an aspect of her husband. That was VERY telling of where kody’s head is at in relation to his wives who want their own voices to be heard.
When you watch one of the recent episodes and then go back to a first or second season episode, it's like 2 different families. Different opinions, different interactions, they way they treat each other is world's apart. Watching the implosion of a family is heartbreaking.
Their behavior really isn’t that different in season one and two they just act better back then or should I say Cody is pretending more in the beginning because in those first few episodes Christine feels the same way she does now and Cody is still ignoring it
@@LisaTheBookworm He shows many of the classic behaviors. From the grandiose grandstanding, sense of entitlement and deep resentment when angry. He never takes responsibility for his actions and blames whoever is calling him out. I also notice that he doesn't place value on relationships that don't gratify him.
Bingo. My ex husband's behavior wasn't that overt when I married him but became really horrible after 5 years. I would advise anyone to run not walk away from a spouse with bipolar
I don't think Ted Bundy was bi-polar. I don't think Kody Brown is bi-polar, either. Both men can be best described as narcissistic, controlling misogynists.
I felt the same way about he had no idea what he was doing officiating a wedding. It was embarrassing to his friend, wife and all the family members who attended. He made it about him.
Kody also keeps harping on the supposed fact that he would have had to be gone 6-8 weeks to go for the surgery. Why couldn't he at least have shown up for 3 or 4 days and then gone home. Selfish! I think gaslight is his new favorite word.
Kody always delays decisions which is why his daughter was in pain so long, she should have had surgery long time ago, why he hasn’t left Meri properly, why he didn’t get his stuff from Christine’s…
@@muriel5826 yep they are forced at some point to make the decision already and he usually criticizes it. Just like the daughters making fun of the RV. But it takes all responsibility if it doesn’t work out off him.
BINGO. I remember being furious they put her through years of ‘exercises’ bcuz Kody didn’t want (to pay IMO) for the surgery she so clearly needed. He did nothing to help her recover either and that had to have been a nightmare. Remember Christine talking about setting an alarm bcuz she had to give Ysabel meds all through the night for months? Bingo Christine for no respect for a man like that.
He makes impulsive decisions which negatively affect his family very quickly and shuts down any arguments. Or he’ll see he is outnumbered in a decision, so agrees, but then leaves the achieving if the goal of that decision to everybody else, while bitching about how hard it is to be him!
@@mandynewman8234 it’s funny the one big house idea was for his convenience. Only one was not in favor. I wonder if that was just for the show.. I don’t see how they would be allowed to even make a pretend 4 unit condo property on that string of parcels. It’s not just them in the subdivision. Also they never decided on one house once Christine said she would leave. It’s let build a bunch of properties and rent a couple out. When it came to Vegas years ago and they announced to the kids the 4 new builds they kids had no reaction. They said it’s cause the kids are used to hearing about plans that never get followed through on.
Gabriel always breaks my heart. Remember the episode where he's trying to talk to kody out on Coyote Pass. That was a HEART WRENCHING episode. Gabe kept saying, "Let me help you Dad." Still chokes me up. Could you analyze that episode? I think all his children have been emotionally damaged by his behaviour. His emotional blackmail. I really am curious about your thoughts on poor Gabe from last year. Thank you. StaySafe&BlessingsAll🦋
Welcome to the world of a narcissistic Father. That is what narcissist do when they feel challenged or losing control, they withhold affection. Also, the narcissistic father competes with his children, specifically, the boys. Unfortunately, Kody doesn’t view his behavior as wrong, it’s about winning the stand-off. His ally, Robyn is just as toxic and she’s encouraging his behavior…it will backfire.
It's also part of the polygamous old style communities. The younger males, unless selected by the elders are literally shunned and run out of the community at the age they would start seeking a vocation, and then choosing a wife. Thus leaving the young women available,e to be 10th or 11th wife to the elders. Many stories of rescue shelters set up to recieve these cast outs in nearby cities to let the boys finish schooling, recover, and be safe as they decide their future. So I see Kody repeating those bigger cult customs on his own family scale. The daughters are too modern to want to stay in polygamy and attached to Kody.
Don't forget that Kody said "I have standards" about his c-19 rules His standards seems to be you can get c-19 from: Christine and her children Jeanelle and her children Meri and her child You can't get c-19 from: Robyn and her children The nanny Weddings
You hit the nail on the head! I never get emotionally invested with reality TV to the point it evokes real anger, but Kody has been pushing those buttons in me. This episode threw me over the edge. I am not sure if it was my mama bear instincts kicked in but I lost it I saw him mask less dancing in a preview to the show. I could not even begin to understand what Ysabel felt seeing that, but when I watched the show and saw Christine's reaction, I understood that. Kody is his own downfall and his actions are textbook definition of gas lighting. Side note, this channel is becoming one of my favorite reaction channels. (also just started 90 day happy ever after? also lol look forward to those videos !)
Your assessment of Kody's behavior is dead on. He is so self- absorbed and self- unaware that he blames everyone else for what has gone wrong. Hie ego is so evident even in the way he carries himself. He is completely in over his head in creating such a large family that he can't or in some cases won't give his family the attention they need. He has the maturity of a junior high student which readily shows in his actions...I.e dancing and making a complete fool of himself. So happy that Christine got out...kudos to her.
I agree with you completely regarding all of these narcissistic traits. Marrying his friend, dancing like that - he really loves the spotlight and attention. And I cringe every time he says someone else is gaslighting him. He doesn’t understand the term and does in fact he himself gaslight the people around him. I’m actually concerned about the signs of rage that creeps out when he talks about Christine...but also Gabriel.
I had a father like Cody very narcissistic I know you don't think he is but I do and he did make me feel like I wasn't valuable and I was supposed to only do things that would impress other people and basically always be meeting his needs instead of it being the other way around because they're emotional children
I agree! My Dad was a Narcissist also. It was ALWAYS about him! I’m the 5th daughter of 7 kids. 6 girls and 1 boy “adopted “ my whole life I was hated by my father. When he got really sick my husband and I moved my parents into our house. For 2 years he lived here. The whole time he called me names told everyone that I was a F ‘n B . It got to the point that we had to move him to the VA home . His abuse towards me and my mom was getting worse. I had to call the care team multiple times crying my eyes out. When he passed away on Aug 4,2020 I never and still have never shed a single tear. I never had to listen and be told a was worthless piece of 💩. I was always respectful my whole life but for 56 years I was put down. He was the same way with my mom. He never treated anyone else this way. My Dad ALWAYS had to have it his way or the Highway! It was always about him. He had to be the center of attention for everything. I see my Dad in Kody so much.
Can you touch on the subject of Kody telling Christine that they have to have a child custody agreement or Truley becomes property of the state & she'd have to get a lawyer who will take all her money? Would anyone actually believe that BS?
If I had needed surgery at ANY point in my life while my dad was alive, NOTHING would have kept him from being there. So Kody has absolutely no excuse and Robyn is pathetic for not urging him to go. Also, I watched that movie Gaslight a while back and it was very interesting. Definitely worth watching.
I keep thinking about Janelle’s youngest daughter who lives with her. All of her siblings have moved out and she is not an adult yet or even like a senior in high-school. She’s in the trailer with Janelle. And Kody doesn’t even seem to mention her or think about seeing her (he sees Janelle and, presumably, the one remaining child who lives with her only every 3 to 4 days even though he doesn’t much see Christine and doesn’t see Merri at all so….shouldn’t he be spending 40% to 50% of his time there?
I absolutely LOVED your analysis of Kody's behavior towards Christine, his kids, and at the wedding. It really seems the events of the last year have rattled him so much that he's lost his mind. He never got his Covid shots and he's having a grand 'ole time at the wedding. Is it any surprise that Robyn's down with Covid? I hope to God she recovers, but it's Kody's fault should worse come to worse. He doesn't deserve the wives he has and I wouldn't blame Janelle if she divorces him, too. I blame Kody for Meri getting catfished and I hope she finds someone deserving of her love. Keep up the good work.
Kody is a master gaslighter and now he is saying other people in the family are gaslighting him because they disagree with him. It really is all about Kody and no one else. My heart hurts for Gabe and Ysabel and all if Christine and Janelle's kids. Praying you are feeling better soon with no lasting effects.
You are my all-time favorite therapist! Your synopsis of each episode is spot-on. You are level headed and honest and you have great insight into human behavior. THANK YOU!!!
Thank you so much for doing these clips. I started watching Sister Wives at the very beginning. I was fascinated by women who could "share" a man and how that all works - because I know personally - I am too selfish. As this series has gone on - Kody has disturbed me more and more. At the beginning I thought man - this guy has a super sized ego. But now - he is an ugly human. The things that he say's about Christine because she had the "gall" to leave him just amazes me! I appreciate you psychological look at this. It provides great validation to those of us that are just stunned by his behavior. Come on Janelle! Get outta there girlfriend!
From reading about other polygamous families, there are MANY reports of physical and mental abuse of wives and children, and the majority of the husbands/patriarchs are very narcissistic. I think that is the way they cope with all of the demands on their time, their personal failures, and the way they justify having intimate relationships with multiple women. It is definitely not a healthy personality trait, but it is fed to them by their church's theocracy beginning when they are infants/preschoolers. Females are groomed to perform the tasks that enrich and improve the husband's life, but the males are lavished with praise about becoming a patriarch and being "in charge" of all the wives and children. Little is taught about romantic love, just that he will be the family leader and make decisions for them. The entire goal of their earthly life is to prepare for their Celestial Kingdom in the after life. They are required to have a minimum of 3 - 4 wives, depending on the branch of FLDS they belong to. Christine leaving Kody and the other sister wives places them in jeopardy of not entering the Celestial Kingdom, so it is more than just the end of a marriage/relationship. Christine is now the outcast. To save their place in the Celestial Kingdom, Kody may have to find more wives.
The truth is that Cody is mad that a large part of his "family" has chosen other paths to pursue without his "consent." So to speak, he's losing control of his massive family. He likes to give the appearance of care and concern when really it's only ever been about control and dominance for Cody. He doesn't really care that these people are hurting, he cares because it makes him look bad. It's never about someone else's feelings with a narcissist. It's always about the Narcissist's feelings. He's downright devestated a huge chunk of his family but doesn't care. He only cares about how it makes him look.
My heart breaks for his kids, especially his daughter who had spinal surgery, I’ve had 13 and the absolute worst was the rod surgeries. The pain is overwhelming as an adult, I couldn’t imagine being a kid. She was blessed with a beautiful mom with an even more beautiful heart who tended to her and encouraged her 24/7. Watching this creepy guy unravel the last few seasons and accelerated during Covid scares me for his family. I think he’s abusive emotionally and I fear physically as well. What scares me the most is he’s going to completely lose it and kill the family members he blames. I’ll pray for everyone’s protection from our God.
Kody waited to the last minute when he officiated at Maddie’s wedding too. He made that all about him, too. He ignored Maddie’s request to keep the service to 10 minutes. He droned on sooooo long.
He wanted Truely to feel betrayed by Christine. His younger kids knew already. He kept telling Christine not ready to tell her. He wanted her to find out by overhearing it or someone telling her. He mentioned the reason he has not been close with Christine is he hasn’t trusted her because years ago he heard a rumor thinking she was leaving and felt betrayed. Betrayed an odd word for an 11 year old to use by the way. Truely did say she felt betrayed she was last to know. Christine just said I didn’t know how to tell you. Wrong she wanted to tell her with Kody and didn’t feel she could tell without his okay. She didn’t seem to throw him under the bus. Robyn told Ari and Sol about it and they were interacting outside for the grad party. A 6 year old not moving to keep secret her 11 year old sister was moving? Christine told him too many knew and she didn’t want her to find out in a hurtful way. Kody wanted her to find out in a hurtful way and blame her mom for the pain. Thank goodness Christine heard the gasp and knew she overheard something. Could you imagine holding it in trying to process it without the adults knowing it was out? The accusation she is turning the older kids, her girls against him is the complete opposite with that stunt. I blame polygamy. He is stretched too thin. They don’t get enough of him. Too many caregivers. To much unfair treatment. It’s why it is not legal and they really need to prosecute again. The in equality in marriage, the inequality in the parenting. Why does Robyn have all the money. The legal marriage wasn’t supposed to mean anything expect make him able to adopt her kids. Another thing is what they pulled on her ex from a legal marriage. Men aren’t treated well says expert Kody. How was Robyn’s ex treated? I don’t understand how a 25% time father at best according to the way it was supposed to be is better than a 100% time bio original dad should something happen to Robyn, God Forbid. They didn’t move close to the ex like grown ups for her ex’e convenience. Good gosh.
Also, thank you for touching on his bare minimum! I mentioned it and got pummeled with “he’s done it before!” Cool, but…he doesn’t have it down to a science and, even then, most officiants spend a nice amount of time with the bride and groom to be sure what they want and to get little stories and such. They don’t analyze the concept of marriage, attempt to destroy someone else’s, ignore the bride and so on
Totally agree with your analysis. I had noticed the hypocrisy of officiating travelling to and attending the wedding of his friend but had not noticed that he made his officiant role somehow about himself and his relationship to the groom. His demeanor was not lost on me but the substance of what he was actually saying was. What a missed opportunity for the bride and groom on their wedding day to be celebrated. Shame on Kody for taking away from their special moment and celebration with their family and friends.
This episode was so difficult to watch, and when Kody was dancing, I actually got nauseous. This episode made me really sad for Janelle, her struggles with the 5th wheel and useless Kody throwing his hands up in the air in frustration. It made me sad for Truely and how she felt betrayed by Christine, when it was Kody that didn’t want to tell her and told Christine don’t tell her yet. I felt bad for Gabe, again because of the actions of Kody. I felt sad for the new couple because this weirdo shows up and ruins their wedding in my opinion, he made it all about him. I felt sad for Isabelle because he just told her he can’t help her move to NC because of covid, but then he travels to a wedding. I actually thought about you while watching it, and wanted to ask you, do you think Kody watches this and sees what an absolute jerk he is? I know he’s a narcissist and they are never to blame, and their the victim. BUT, when they see it like this on video, do they see it? Love your channel, hope you feel better soon.
I don't think Kody watches anything about himself. In one of the older Tell Alls he mentioned how upset he got over negative comments. He and Robyn are no longer posting on social media. Maybe he does but I think his narcissistic self can't handle the truth. He and Robyn can't handle negativity. I bet many of the older kids watch though.
He should just rename himself "Kod-me" as literally everything he does has to be about him. me me me. Even off camera, the crew despise him as he's always so selfish and childish. and he's only showing his true colours more as his power is slipping away from him.
I love your takes on Kody. My heart breaks for the older kids. My son is 36 and 1200 miles away we talk 2 to3 X a week and always say I love you. It is so simple to keep in touch with your children instead of acting like a fool dancing.
They live for the experience. They're the party goer. They're only emotions are like a triangle. They only have fear, excitement and anger. Kody is exhibiting this behavior.
I was WAITING for this video!!!!!! Yes. PLEASE do 90 Day Fiancée. … I love the reviews that former participants do in the hour program too … Right on about everything. Angela Lansbury was in Gaslight - and I thought Kody was getting paid for how many times he could work that word INCORRECTLY into the interviews in last night’s episode. Also spot on …. She ‘wanted to be Mrs Brian what’s-His-Name’ so she’ll be submissive to him and they’ll have a marriage that works. Also could have talked about the whole custody thing … LOVE your take on Sister Wives. I’m sorry you have COVID. And we are entering another surge. I’m a DR of epidemiology and public health and masking in a controlled setting is so much safer than being in a crowded room with nobody wearing a mask IN TEXAS! Wishing you well. Thanks for the videos. I really do think about how you’re seeing the show as I watch it because I know we are thinking similar thoughts. Makes me chuckle.
He's manipulative, completely self-centered and emotionally abusive. He thinks he's headed for the Celestial Kingdom but he's in for a rude awakening when he gets on the other side.
Kody wouldn’t miss a wedding where he has the opportunity to make it all about him, he dances around like he’s the centre of the universe. I have been worried about Gabe for a long time, I hope he’s not suffering from depression. Poor kids having a deadbeat father 😢
I was embarrassed by his dancing. He is soooo self involved. I want to cut his hair as well
Any opportunity for him to have the Cody Show!
His dancing was ridiculous. He's just gross all the way around.
I know. It's sad watching him try to keep himself from crying when he speaks about Kody
I can't stand Kody Brown. He makes me sick. Yep, narcissistic behaviours personified!!!! Poor Gabe, my heart just breaks for him. Christine did good, Janelle should follow and My God if Robyn had any sense she would leave and take her children away from that before he does more damage!!!!!
Yes! All his dancing was like watching a 6 year old wearing a princess dress and twirling on the dance floor yelling “LOOK AT ME! LOOK AT ME!!”
😂😂😂😂😂😂 that’s hilarious
That dancing was goofy af
Perfect description
And he has been acting like that throughout the whole series! I felt bad for his daughters at their weddings.
😂😂😂
Ysabel is the same beautiful daughter whom not only he couldn’t be bothered to go to her spine surgery as well as help her move to NC when invited to do so. This was his chance to do something for her, make some memories and just try to be a good dad to her. This man is the epitome of narcissism.
Came to say the same
Yep he’s a true narcissistic ass.
He really is and though I never thought he was a sociopath as well but do now.
@@msnawrecka9786 💯 agree with you! The way he lies with the agenda to hurt others and the way he reframes things to make himself look the victim. He’s absolutely deplorable.
I agree. What was his excuse for not helping Ysabel move to NC. It had to be around the same time or after this wedding so he can't blame covid. Christine offered him options such as flying down so he can't use the amount of time it would have taken either. What was his excuse?
I vote for you to do the Sister Wives Reunion moderating so you can hold Kody's feet to the fire about his narcissistic behaviors and how they hurt everyone around him.
This is a great idea!
I agree! That would be great! Can you imagine!
That would be an awesome idea; but he would end up walking off in a huff. Kody can't handle confrontation based on his own bombastic behavior.
I agree! Oooh to see him squirm.. “what the crap!” 😂😂😂 It’s such a mess, and I feel so bad for his older kids. He talks about wanting them all close, more land for kids to return, but he just wants to push them out now. They’re grown, intelligent, and can hold their own-total threat to him.
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This friend must not have seen when Kody hijacked, uhm I mean, officiated Maddie's wedding. He did the exact same thing here. He totally took the focus off the bride and groom and made it ALL about HIM. It's crazy how much attention and affirmation this dude needs. It's sickening.
Don’t feel sorry for the groom. Kody ditched his sick kid to go to his business partner and also criminal for gun running🤦♀️
I agree and someone needs to tell him he can't dance so stop.
the groom got some legsl problems in the early 2000s for illegal weapon selling. he made a deal and snitched on others so he got away and can be near firearms (and deal with them)
Makes sense why Logan didn’t have him officiate
@@tinaspice maybe that's why he didn't sit in the front. Because he couldnt have the spotlight.
Kody says he did not go to the surgery because it was 6 weeks away from Robins kids. I’m sure Christine and Izzy would have been so blessed and happy if he were there even for just the initial surgery and first day of recovery. He gave them NOTHING!
Right? He could've stayed for a day or 2. Get a separate hotel room, wear a mask, stand 6 feet away etc. Then not only the fact that a wedding is fine somehow, but when Robyn had to be hospitalized for C19, he wanted to check himself in cuz 'Maybe I need a chest X-ray'.
Dude just admit that you don't want to leave Robyn & her kids. I'd respect him so much more if he was just honest about his feelings. Like if you want to only be romantic w Robyn- cool!!! I only want my partner, I get it. But you still owe your other children a relationship. You owe your other wives help figuring out at least their housing. Sell the mansion. Get the houses built. Then everyone can just live their lives and you can rent out the rest for income. Everyone wins. You can have friendships/coparent w the other wives and settle w Robyn.
But NOPE. He wants the money & clout polygamy gives him. He wants the attention/respect being a 'patriach' brings. He can't let go of the control without feeling like he 'lost' somehow. So he just wants to pull away to 'punish' the rest of his family like he did to Meri.
Jokes on him. That worked w Meri. Mostly due to her humilation after the catfish. She just wanted to go back to as close to 'normal' as possible. And their marriage had been awful forever. Ironic since this lead to the catfish to begin with.
But Christine & Janelle ultimately won't just take it. Neither will his other kids. They'll bail. By trying to bully them into coming back he is dooming any future relationships. And that TLC paycheck.
Also eventually when only Robyn & her kids are left, he'll turn his anger & frustration on them. Once Robyn loses not only the big family, but her honeymoon relationship too... Ya she'll leave too. Might take awhile. Might not.
Either way he's letting his control issues, attention seeking & attempt to 'be the patriach' ruin his family & life. But the only sympathy I feel is for the rest of his family. He sunk his own ship.
But he was OK with putting himself in the hospital to be near her. When she got Covid, total hypocrite, I wonder how the other wife’s felt about that when they watched that back
I wonder if he even called ????
Yes! That’s what I’ve always said as well. Just go for the actual surgery, not for the whole thing. And then he let her down again by not driving her to college.
@@kathybishop6623I don’t remember him calling.
I love that you describe Kody’s dancing as selfish! That is pretty funny that even his dancing is narcissistic 😅
I agree. He should be embarrassed, yet he thinks the world revolves around him. He is so repulsive in every way possible.
Even his walking and hair flipping is narcissistic. Go back and watch him walking into the venue with his friend. He absolutely takes up as much real estate as he can with his movements. Watch how he flips his hair out of his eyes. I’ve noticed his exaggerated movements from the very beginning. Ick.
Ever heard of a " Whirling Dervish" ? He is such a fool. Hope the state goes after him for all his loans. The man has no job. Robin says his car is his office. What a scam.
I've always said he's like a Banty rooster on crack...... Haha, what a jerk, I hate him more each episode.
That wasn't dancing, really. I thinks it's called making a spectacle of himself.
I’m an psychotherapist (LCSW) with 30+ years experience. Kody’s behavior makes me throw up in my mouth. Malignant narcissist for sure. I share the feelings of heartbreak for Gabriel
Indeed
what if he's doing it for the cameras and for the sake of keeping the show on. acts like an a hole for publicity
You aren’t qualified to make that determination. A malignant narc would eat you alive.
Gabriel’s face said it all. So so sad.
spiritual narcissists are the worst
I feel bad for the couple that were getting married. He made it all about himself and it was a HOT mess! If I were the bride I would be FURIOUS!!
He only cares about himself. One day he will look around and he will be all alone, no wives, no children, no nobody. One day.
He knew that he had a camera filming him, so we could enjoy his speech & dancing prowess 😂
Maybe the show paid for the wedding....which I would had not wanted that intrusion for money....but who knows...
I feel bad for the wife this was probably her husband's idea which was stupid considering he how how public Kody is messing up his marriages. I don't get how Kody has friends at all.
@@aananimity 🤣😂🤣💯
April 2023 and he is already completely alone.
Kody officiating a wedding is like the devil conducting a baptism
He's like a scabby dog in heat.
The interview with Gabe BROKE MY MOMMA HEART! I just wanted to hug him and tell him, you did nothing wrong, you deserve better! 😢
I agree so much with you on this. Also, the episode last season where Gabe tried to have an honest conversation with his dad about the situation and Kody completely shut him down is the most painful in the history of this show, in my opinion.
@@annarensfeldtflink3425 Yes! It was awful!
Yes brought me to tears , I wanted someone to hug him.
I truely feel so bad for the kids, hearing Gabe broke my 💔 heart. I felt same way I wanted give him a huge big hug
It was terrible. I teared up. I hope Janelle had had a long, honest talk with Gabe, about how his father is a narcissist and an asshole, and that Gabe needs to learn to live without a relationship with his father. He'll never have the strong healthy relationship he seems to want with his dad.
By the look on everyone's faces when Kody was dancing like a crazed lunatic all by himself, people at that wedding were not impressed
Sounded more like he was giving a best man's speech than officiating a wedding.
Kody is so much less than a man! He didn’t even care enough about his older daughter who was facing such a painful operation for her Scoliosis to help her out of pain. A parent is supposed to have unconditional love and support. Kody should never had children because he can’t care for anyone but Kody
he even argued against the operation
He didn’t even offer to go to Christine’s house and help look after Ysabel after she got back to flagstaff. There are so many things he could’ve done. He only likes the kids who do exactly as he says if they even so much as question him, they’re out! It’s dispicable
Also he suggested that Isabell should go to the surgery alone by herself 😳 because it was an “excuse” to Christine to having vacations.
Don't forget, Yseabel should have had surgery much sooner, but Kody decided to spend a bunch of money on some quack who convinced him that some stretching would do the trick.
And he never whent over to her house when they came back to help take care of her.......
I feel so bad for Gabriel. You hear the pain in his voice. You know he is protecting his mom, he had that conversation with Kotex already. If Janelle got Covid, who would take care of her. And both of Janelles boys said we would! And that shocked Kotex. Like, wait. That’s not the right answer. He’s treating these women like dirt, and then is upset that they want a divorce? Please! He’s calling them narcissistic sons. He calls Christine gaslighting. I bet he doesn’t know the meaning of those words. I wonder if he watches any of these TH-cam videos or Tiktock. I mean, they are ruthless in him!! You are great by the way. I enjoy these summaries very much!👍
I would bet that he’s seen or heard comments about him gaslighting and being narcissistic, so he uses the words to paint others that way.
it's hard to hear his pain ( Gabriel) Kody is SO mean he really is
Janelle should put her kids Above her loveless marriage with Kody
@@jcam5064 Kody is emotionally abusive a horrible human
@@jcam5064 exactly what I was thinking too! He said it like twice and the second time I thought… hmmm seems like he learned a new term lol
@@samanthaperez5696 happens all the time. They try to flip the situation on the other person they’re dealing with.
It’s like, Sir…ALL OF YOUR WIVES TOOK YOUR NAME! How’d that work out for you in terms of how “traditional” they ended up? 🤦♀️
🤣🤣 well said.
Kody withdraws his love and affection from his wives and kids when they don’t behave the way he believes they should. It’s so heartbreaking to watch. I’m so happy to see the frustration in you finally! 😂
Exactly and that’s exactly what a narcissist does when people are not obeying them
His love and affection isn't real, no one can suddenly withdraw something they feel, he doesn't appear to feel real love. The affection he gives is superficial because it is on his terms and therefore conditional.....yet if his feelings or pride are hurt, he plays the victim, he is so manipulative and narcissistic in every way. Robyn is also very manipulative as it appears she wants Kody to favour her (which he does), but when all the wives have left and the fame has gone, all she will have left is another dysfuctional relationship and children more emotionally damaged than they were before. What a mess.🙄
It's typical of Mormon Polygamy.
@@celinethomas4229 agreed! Robyn is 100% the “good wife”. It seems like she still lives “keep sweet and pray”. I think he will be left with 1 wife if he hasn’t been yet.
You are so right. I was with a narcissist for nearly 4 years and it was so common for him to do that.
Kody withholding affection from his son Gabriel seems like Kody's go-to move. He seems to have done it to at least 3 of 4 wives.
I think Kody is truly messed up in his head. We he can't control a person or thing he withdrawls. What is he afraid of because they are leaving by the numbers, who left him and ignored him.
I also thought it was interesting that he said if the wedding didn’t go well it would be partly the couples fault because they asked him to officiate while he was going through a divorce. He seriously cannot take the blame for one single wrong that he does. He’s like a 7 year old on the playground, it’s always someone else’s fault!
Typical Kody 🙄
Kody always paid attention to the youngest kid and the older boys. He really ignores the older girls until they have babies. It was actually the same child he refused to drive as he did not go surgery and would not see her cause she did in person school. So Gabe this is a real shock. The girls used to being ignored. Janelle raised such good men.
You mean Christine. Janelle didn't raise her kids. She dumped them on Christine and said it was because she had to work. Someone needed to inform Janelle that plenty of moms work and raise their kids. Her kids have said many times that they consider Christine to be their mother figure. Gabriel said he sees Christine as his mom right in front of Janelle and she didn't even seem to care. One of Janelle's sons, Logan, has publicly stated that he was forced to take care of his younger siblings and doesn't know if he even wants kids because he had to raise his siblings already. He had to get them all up for school, dress them, feed them and get them to the bus stop after they moved to Las Vegas and Janelle could no longer dump her younger kids onto Christine. Logan refused to be on the TV show and left home right after high school. Janelle and Kody offered him no help paying for college. He worked hard and paid for it alone. He recently got his master's degree and got married. Logan is very bitter about what Janelle did to him and I don't blame him.
I remember at in the first season them having "problems" with gabe aka he was already speaking out against his dad
@@mygirldarby you are absolutely correct! Christine was the “mom” and did everything. Mari and Janelle went to work. And Christine didn’t have a dang nanny either!!! She raised those 12 kids alone!
@@mygirldarby I have a question about your perspective. I view the dynamic between Christine and Janelle as more of a breadwinner-homemaker relationship. The two are very much like a nuclear family where one works and the other cares for the kids. I do not understand how men can work and leave their kids home to be taken care of by their spouse while they work, yet women who have that same family dynamic are shamed for it. Janelle does the same thing that millions of men do based on their chosen family dynamic, yet you bash her for it. My mom was my primary care giver and did most of the childcare duties while my dad worked and each played a vital role in my development neither should be diminished because both roles are important.
@@afullchalicevlogs7979 yeah and then we recently found out that Christine did all of this and was working nights and asked Kody to put the kids to bed each night but he said he was too busy so that responsibility went to Aspyn. Kody is seriously just a POS. 🙄
I don’t have a psychology degree, but I could easily recognize Kody’s absolute emotional abuse to his kids, especially Gabe. Kody uses the health of his relationships with the mothers as a way to guide his relationships with his children. Christine’s kids and Janelle’s older kids recognize this about him and discuss. They are all going to need therapy to undue the damage he’s done to their self esteem.
I agree. The women have been taught to reconcile the Dad with their children, unfortunately it reinforces the emotional abuse of the Dad. I really believe they would be better off without this guy. He’s a fair weather dad.
I’m so tired of Kody saying “Christine didn’t ask his permission to pack his belongings up and move them to the garage, Christine didn’t ask my permission for a divorce, Christine didn’t ask my permission to move to Utah” since when does a grown ass adult woman need to ask his permission to do anything?
I would have binned them not pack them in boxes.
Narcissist expect 100 percent loyalty. You don’t question them. Period. Kody used covid as an excuse to spend all his time with Robyn and their children. He loves the younger children because they never question his authority
I couldn’t believe that Kody starred the ceremony by talking about his own relationship to the groom.
It could have worked it he said something like, "I've known him for 25 years and this the happiest I've ever seen him and I'm so proud to be a part of this important day for him and his bride." That would have been about the couple not Kody.
It would be ok as a toast statement.
@Carolchan86 - I see you point, that is a great dinner toast.
My thing is that he never seems to really understand that his marriages were in trouble until Christine leaves him.
@@rosesweetcharlottesometimes people purposely choose to be blind. He knew- she hung in for 13 seasons of being miserable. She actually cared about all of the kids, hell she raised most of them (all except Robyn’s kids).
She just couldn’t handle his bs abymore. I cheered so loudly when she left. Same when Janelle did ❤
When the Dr was describing the surgery to Isabel and he mentioned having to collapse a lung so they can do the procedure I just can’t imagine any parent staying away during such a risky, scary procedure!! I pretty much wrote Kody off at that point. I almost feel like I need to stop watching the show because adding to the high ratings is rewarding Kody’s ab behavior.
So agree!! I watch to support the kids!
@@ChristianOne I signed
Not only did Kody refuse to be present for Isabel's surgery he also missed the first birthday of his grand-daughter AND amputation surgery! Kody is nothing more than a sperm donor and a total waster of space.
@@susanhogg5601 if only they got paid for being on the show. 🥺
Not watching that narcissist anymore. It's extremely disturbing!
I couldn’t wait for your response. With Kody talking about gaslighting, I thought “he’s been listening to what others say about him, and applying it to others”. He’s so awful!
He's passing the buck . Typical narcissism .
That or he pulled up psychology/therapy buzzwords.
There’s something really wrong with Kody, really. He is so apathetic as a parent and lately I was wondering if he was on cocaine or what…his eyes were bulging out of his head at times and his pupils looked dilated.
I was wondering if I was the only one who noticed this. Especially when he was filming himself in the hotel, I was thinking....is he on something?
He didnt blink for a super long time!
That is what a demon possessed person looks like.
@@packrat1210 call the exorcist 😈🤣
I feel like he's got to be manic or something
Kody's a bad father and even worse husband!!!! Robyn's a manipulating home wrecker!!!
Robyn knows exactly what she does, says and will do to get what she wants. Kody better be careful of her...lol
@@jackiec4483 She is the only one he sleep with . So she has his ear and know more then she let on. The wives see her for what she is # 1 wife. I think he wants only one wife and it Robyn. He just can come out and say it to them, makes a lot of excuses
@@jackiec4483 Why? they are tarred with the same brush.
Could it also be that she is submissive in the way Cody wants her. She clearly doesn't defy him, I think she is brainwashed and abused. The fact that people keep attacking her probably pushes her further into submission to prove she is the good wife.
@@mariadicrasto1573 but she's not submissive. She makes the rules and he follows. Both POS in my opinion.
Kody does not like being a husband and father. He likes being a performer and being in the spotlight.
He's odd
He likes having Sobbyn's undying devotion too.
Gabriel had great communication skills when talking to Cody. He was more mature then Cody.
Thanks to his wonderful mom, Janelle.
You hit the nail on the head!! Narcissist and asshole are terms of endearment at this point. I’ve learned with the two narc’s in my family that whatever they say about you is the truth about them!!
It is the same thing he does to all of them. He withholds himself from those who don't do/say/act as he wants them to. Can't think anything more painful than that for a child (or a spouse), to have affection/consideration/love withheld just because you don't agree with or act the way they want you to. Sad for all of them.
If you open a dictionary and look for the definition of "malignant narcissist"... you will see Kody's face. There's an rule in etiquette that says, never upstage the bride. Kody upstaged the ceremony, he upstaged the reception dance, and he definitely upstaged someone else's special day. It was "their wedding",... Kody. Repeat: "Their" wedding.
Well said !
just like trump!
@@deborah9775 🙄
@@deborah9775 Oh please... how little you know. Try and stay on topic next time.
The term gaslighting does come from the movie Gaslight. In the movie, the husband keeps adjusting the lights throughout the home (they were gas lights) to a lower flame and when his wife mentions it he tells her she’s imagining things. He continues to make her question herself about other things as well…
Yes, he is sneaking around the house while she is in the bedroom and lying about it. Whenever a new light is turned on, all of the lights in the house dim. I guess because they all share the same gas/power.
That wedding was such narc. behaviour. I also noticed he got really the most animated and the most excited when speaking about himself. Just wanted to add that the kid moving to college and the kid who needed surgery are the same person.
It seems to me that Kody is under the impression that when the kids reach a certain age he is no longer responsible for their needs - emotional, financial, anything. I don't think he has really emotionally attached to anyone. When his wives don't act the way he thinks they should - he shuts them down, and when his kids start to see the cracks in his facade he cuts them off. This episode made me particularly angry. My heart just broke for Gabe, and poor Ysabel; being away from her dad is probably the best thing for her. Kody really is a piece of crap.
I don't think it's just that. He doesn't like the older kids because they talk back.
I feel so sorry for Gabe. He’s so hurt. Kody is a monster
Christine is honestly a saint for being as patient as she has been in this transition away from Kody. I really hope she gets Truely some therapy. I’ve been Truely and she is bottling up so much emotion that I don’t think she even knows yet how much distress she’s in.
Truly is better off without Kody....she does not need HIM for an example of either a father or a husband. Glad Christine got her away from him.
You hit it right on the nail. The hypocrisy is astonishing. He refused to go be with his daughter when a surgeon was putting a scalp to his child’s spine. That is a life changing surgery and it could have gone very very bad. I feel so bad for his children. Clearly his needs and wants outweighs everyone else’s.
You absolutely hit the nail on the head about this awful excuse for a husband and father.
You couldn’t have explained it any better than with the “dance!”
When my son was graduating from ARMY, I drove by myself 34 hours to watch him graduate. The car trip home would give us each overdue time together, catching up and speak freely as adults. We were really enjoying this new type of relationship and assembling it properly. I thought he would be upset with me because it was a risky endeavor for me (Autoimmune Disease, liver failure and some lung issues when it flares) and I “showed up” happy and smiling! Our Family Mantra has always been “SHOW UP” and you will never be wrong. This teaches to own not only your accountability but your value. He is our oldest of 5, so my husband stayed back to keep the little ones in school and in rhythm (our baby is autistic).
There’s nothing that separates our children from us. We travel together, vacation together, RV camp together and much more.
I feel satisfied as a mother. We now have best friends as they are all over 18. A family that grows together stays together. Each has their uniqueness and rockstar qualities.
I think my perception as a parent is why I dislike this Kody. He loves himself first. He should have moved mountains to be with his daughter for her surgery. Christine raised such beautiful children with sweetest of souls. Her sweet daughter said it was ok that Kody would not be there. How incredibly unselfish she acted. She had more adult qualities than her own father. People like him demand those who are permitted to be in HIS life be unselfish and non restrictive. This is so the narcissistic behavior can shine. A good parent puts their children above their self. Kody is grotesque and an extremely poor decision maker. He is THE DANCE. I would encourage everyone to keep Kody at arm’s length because he is a delusional narcissist and will inflict emotional stress and pain just by being himself.
I agree that Truely had too little perspective to know how to react but expressed negative emotions well and in a way that showed security. Also, my heart aches for Gabe. Kody’s behavior is just horrible.
Thank you! This episode was the most infuriating one to watch of the season and hearing Gabe ask “what did I do wrong” was heartbreaking.
It wasn’t just that the wife was taking her husbands last name, it was that she was willing and wanting for them to be introduced as Mr and Mrs Brad Smith (whatever his full name was). Kody thought there marriage would be a success because she wanted to basically go unnamed, as just a part of her husband.
I have no issue with brides and grooms being introduced like that, but it was how Kody twisted that into her being submissive and a good wife if she wanted to give up her self autonomy and only identify as an aspect of her husband. That was VERY telling of where kody’s head is at in relation to his wives who want their own voices to be heard.
Oh my gosh, I can’t believe you pulled that name out of the blue, that is my exes name and he has a huge narcissist!
When you watch one of the recent episodes and then go back to a first or second season episode, it's like 2 different families. Different opinions, different interactions, they way they treat each other is world's apart. Watching the implosion of a family is heartbreaking.
Glad it's happening to Creepy Kody
Their behavior really isn’t that different in season one and two they just act better back then or should I say Cody is pretending more in the beginning because in those first few episodes Christine feels the same way she does now and Cody is still ignoring it
It is heartbreaking, and yet we watch.
@@paulan7218 I agree Kodys mask had come down
@@kellysaunders8770 he NEVER smiles anymore
I often wonder if Kooty is manic depressive. He really is a sad example of a father, husband and friend.
Yes. I think he is bipolar and a narcissist.
@@LisaTheBookworm He shows many of the classic behaviors. From the grandiose grandstanding, sense of entitlement and deep resentment when angry. He never takes responsibility for his actions and blames whoever is calling him out. I also notice that he doesn't place value on relationships that don't gratify him.
Bingo. My ex husband's behavior wasn't that overt when I married him but became really horrible after 5 years. I would advise anyone to run not walk away from a spouse with bipolar
I don't think Ted Bundy was bi-polar. I don't think Kody Brown is bi-polar, either. Both men can be best described as narcissistic, controlling misogynists.
Spot on! Kody on display again, spreading his narcissism wherever he goes! There is nothing less attractive than an aging Peter Pan!
I felt the same way watching Kody. I was getting more and more perturbed. What a narcissist.
I felt the same way about he had no idea what he was doing officiating a wedding. It was embarrassing to his friend, wife and all the family members who attended. He made it about him.
Kody also keeps harping on the supposed fact that he would have had to be gone 6-8 weeks to go for the surgery. Why couldn't he at least have shown up for 3 or 4 days and then gone home. Selfish! I think gaslight is his new favorite word.
Kody always delays decisions which is why his daughter was in pain so long, she should have had surgery long time ago, why he hasn’t left Meri properly, why he didn’t get his stuff from Christine’s…
Yes. He holds off making a decision and then complains about the decisions his wives are forced to make.
@@muriel5826 yep they are forced at some point to make the decision already and he usually criticizes it. Just like the daughters making fun of the RV. But it takes all responsibility if it doesn’t work out off him.
BINGO. I remember being furious they put her through years of ‘exercises’ bcuz Kody didn’t want (to pay IMO) for the surgery she so clearly needed. He did nothing to help her recover either and that had to have been a nightmare. Remember Christine talking about setting an alarm bcuz she had to give Ysabel meds all through the night for months? Bingo Christine for no respect for a man like that.
He makes impulsive decisions which negatively affect his family very quickly and shuts down any arguments. Or he’ll see he is outnumbered in a decision, so agrees, but then leaves the achieving if the goal of that decision to everybody else, while bitching about how hard it is to be him!
@@mandynewman8234 it’s funny the one big house idea was for his convenience. Only one was not in favor. I wonder if that was just for the show.. I don’t see how they would be allowed to even make a pretend 4 unit condo property on that string of parcels. It’s not just them in the subdivision. Also they never decided on one house once Christine said she would leave. It’s let build a bunch of properties and rent a couple out. When it came to Vegas years ago and they announced to the kids the 4 new builds they kids had no reaction. They said it’s cause the kids are used to hearing about plans that never get followed through on.
Gabriel always breaks my heart. Remember the episode where he's trying to talk to kody out on Coyote Pass. That was a HEART WRENCHING episode. Gabe kept saying, "Let me help you Dad." Still chokes me up. Could you analyze that episode? I think all his children have been emotionally damaged by his behaviour. His emotional blackmail. I really am curious about your thoughts on poor Gabe from last year. Thank you. StaySafe&BlessingsAll🦋
You are right on the money that’s exactly what I was thinking about Cody. Sorry about you getting Covid. Feel better soon
Kind of ironic that he ends up with Covid, that's all Kody talks about.
Welcome to the world of a narcissistic Father. That is what narcissist do when they feel challenged or losing control, they withhold affection. Also, the narcissistic father competes with his children, specifically, the boys. Unfortunately, Kody doesn’t view his behavior as wrong, it’s about winning the stand-off. His ally, Robyn is just as toxic and she’s encouraging his behavior…it will backfire.
It's also part of the polygamous old style communities. The younger males, unless selected by the elders are literally shunned and run out of the community at the age they would start seeking a vocation, and then choosing a wife. Thus leaving the young women available,e to be 10th or 11th wife to the elders. Many stories of rescue shelters set up to recieve these cast outs in nearby cities to let the boys finish schooling, recover, and be safe as they decide their future. So I see Kody repeating those bigger cult customs on his own family scale. The daughters are too modern to want to stay in polygamy and attached to Kody.
@@joywebster2678, thank you so much for sharing.👍 It’s so sad and disgusting.
IF KODY WAS A SOUND IT WOULD BE FINGERNAILS ON A CHALKBOARD!!!
Kody’s only currency is his love and affection. He “bestows” it only on those who tow whatever line he’s throwing out at the moment. He’s cruel.
watching the whole driving to the wedding, preparing for the wedding etc, I felt like I was watching Jack Nicholson in "The Shining."
Those dance moves! He’s was the clown at the wedding.
Don't forget that Kody said "I have standards" about his c-19 rules His standards seems to be you can get c-19 from:
Christine and her children
Jeanelle and her children
Meri and her child
You can't get c-19 from:
Robyn and her children
The nanny
Weddings
You hit the nail on the head! I never get emotionally invested with reality TV to the point it evokes real anger, but Kody has been pushing those buttons in me. This episode threw me over the edge. I am not sure if it was my mama bear instincts kicked in but I lost it I saw him mask less dancing in a preview to the show. I could not even begin to understand what Ysabel felt seeing that, but when I watched the show and saw Christine's reaction, I understood that. Kody is his own downfall and his actions are textbook definition of gas lighting. Side note, this channel is becoming one of my favorite reaction channels. (also just started 90 day happy ever after? also lol look forward to those videos !)
Why does TLC constantly reward and promote people like this? It’s despicable.
Your assessment of Kody's behavior is dead on. He is so self- absorbed and self- unaware that he blames everyone else for what has gone wrong. Hie ego is so evident even in the way he carries himself. He is completely in over his head in creating such a large family that he can't or in some cases won't give his family the attention they need. He has the maturity of a junior high student which readily shows in his actions...I.e dancing and making a complete fool of himself. So happy that Christine got out...kudos to her.
I agree with you completely regarding all of these narcissistic traits. Marrying his friend, dancing like that - he really loves the spotlight and attention. And I cringe every time he says someone else is gaslighting him. He doesn’t understand the term and does in fact he himself gaslight the people around him.
I’m actually concerned about the signs of rage that creeps out when he talks about Christine...but also Gabriel.
I had a father like Cody very narcissistic I know you don't think he is but I do and he did make me feel like I wasn't valuable and I was supposed to only do things that would impress other people and basically always be meeting his needs instead of it being the other way around because they're emotional children
@@ChristianOne great idea
I agree! My Dad was a Narcissist also. It was ALWAYS about him! I’m the 5th daughter of 7 kids. 6 girls and 1 boy “adopted “ my whole life I was hated by my father. When he got really sick my husband and I moved my parents into our house. For 2 years he lived here. The whole time he called me names told everyone that I was a F ‘n B . It got to the point that we had to move him to the VA home . His abuse towards me and my mom was getting worse. I had to call the care team multiple times crying my eyes out. When he passed away on Aug 4,2020 I never and still have never shed a single tear. I never had to listen and be told a was worthless piece of 💩. I was always respectful my whole life but for 56 years I was put down. He was the same way with my mom. He never treated anyone else this way. My Dad ALWAYS had to have it his way or the Highway! It was always about him. He had to be the center of attention for everything. I see my Dad in Kody so much.
Can you touch on the subject of Kody telling Christine that they have to have a child custody agreement or Truley becomes property of the state & she'd have to get a lawyer who will take all her money? Would anyone actually believe that BS?
If I had needed surgery at ANY point in my life while my dad was alive, NOTHING would have kept him from being there. So Kody has absolutely no excuse and Robyn is pathetic for not urging him to go.
Also, I watched that movie Gaslight a while back and it was very interesting. Definitely worth watching.
I love that movie, the old one. I've watched it so many times. Lol
I keep thinking about Janelle’s youngest daughter who lives with her. All of her siblings have moved out and she is not an adult yet or even like a senior in high-school. She’s in the trailer with Janelle. And Kody doesn’t even seem to mention her or think about seeing her (he sees Janelle and, presumably, the one remaining child who lives with her only every 3 to 4 days even though he doesn’t much see Christine and doesn’t see Merri at all so….shouldn’t he be spending 40% to 50% of his time there?
Gosh my heart breaks for Savanah… she deserves so so much better!
Gabe should not be surprised, as Kody has done this to his mother (and some of the other wives) for YEARS. Remember, it's all about Kody!
I absolutely LOVED your analysis of Kody's behavior towards Christine, his kids, and at the wedding. It really seems the events of the last year have rattled him so much that he's lost his mind. He never got his Covid shots and he's having a grand 'ole time at the wedding. Is it any surprise that Robyn's down with Covid? I hope to God she recovers, but it's Kody's fault should worse come to worse. He doesn't deserve the wives he has and I wouldn't blame Janelle if she divorces him, too. I blame Kody for Meri getting catfished and I hope she finds someone deserving of her love. Keep up the good work.
Kody seems insane. That manic dancing at the beginning is cringe.
Kody is a master gaslighter and now he is saying other people in the family are gaslighting him because they disagree with him. It really is all about Kody and no one else. My heart hurts for Gabe and Ysabel and all if Christine and Janelle's kids. Praying you are feeling better soon with no lasting effects.
Surgery daughter and school daughter=same daughter
Gaslighters essentially say, "That DIDNT happen AND there's something WRONG with YOU because you believe that's what happened."
Gabrielle is sensitive and aware. He has a lot of anger and sorrow
I hated how Kody tried to blame Christine for his lack of being prepared for the wedding. It annoyed me so much. His never too blame!
When Cody was marrying them, it felt like he was speaking to Christine. He used their ceremony to get out his angst. Horrible
Omg. That was so awful. I felt embarrassed for him. His friend was embarrassed and disappointed, as well. He looks like he has mania.
You are my all-time favorite therapist! Your synopsis of each episode is spot-on. You are level headed and honest and you have great insight into human behavior. THANK YOU!!!
I have never yelled at a tv show more than I yell at this one
Love watching your perspectives on sister wives.
Thank you! Someone who understands gaslighting. I'm sick of people overusing it.
Thank you so much for doing these clips. I started watching Sister Wives at the very beginning. I was fascinated by women who could "share" a man and how that all works - because I know personally - I am too selfish. As this series has gone on - Kody has disturbed me more and more. At the beginning I thought man - this guy has a super sized ego. But now - he is an ugly human. The things that he say's about Christine because she had the "gall" to leave him just amazes me! I appreciate you psychological look at this. It provides great validation to those of us that are just stunned by his behavior. Come on Janelle! Get outta there girlfriend!
From reading about other polygamous families, there are MANY reports of physical and mental abuse of wives and children, and the majority of the husbands/patriarchs are very narcissistic. I think that is the way they cope with all of the demands on their time, their personal failures, and the way they justify having intimate relationships with multiple women. It is definitely not a healthy personality trait, but it is fed to them by their church's theocracy beginning when they are infants/preschoolers. Females are groomed to perform the tasks that enrich and improve the husband's life, but the males are lavished with praise about becoming a patriarch and being "in charge" of all the wives and children. Little is taught about romantic love, just that he will be the family leader and make decisions for them. The entire goal of their earthly life is to prepare for their Celestial Kingdom in the after life. They are required to have a minimum of 3 - 4 wives, depending on the branch of FLDS they belong to. Christine leaving Kody and the other sister wives places them in jeopardy of not entering the Celestial Kingdom, so it is more than just the end of a marriage/relationship. Christine is now the outcast. To save their place in the Celestial Kingdom, Kody may have to find more wives.
The truth is that Cody is mad that a large part of his "family" has chosen other paths to pursue without his "consent." So to speak, he's losing control of his massive family. He likes to give the appearance of care and concern when really it's only ever been about control and dominance for Cody. He doesn't really care that these people are hurting, he cares because it makes him look bad. It's never about someone else's feelings with a narcissist. It's always about the Narcissist's feelings. He's downright devestated a huge chunk of his family but doesn't care. He only cares about how it makes him look.
My heart breaks for his kids, especially his daughter who had spinal surgery, I’ve had 13 and the absolute worst was the rod surgeries. The pain is overwhelming as an adult, I couldn’t imagine being a kid. She was blessed with a beautiful mom with an even more beautiful heart who tended to her and encouraged her 24/7. Watching this creepy guy unravel the last few seasons and accelerated during Covid scares me for his family. I think he’s abusive emotionally and I fear physically as well. What scares me the most is he’s going to completely lose it and kill the family members he blames. I’ll pray for everyone’s protection from our God.
Kody waited to the last minute when he officiated at Maddie’s wedding too. He made that all about him, too. He ignored Maddie’s request to keep the service to 10 minutes. He droned on sooooo long.
He wanted Truely to feel betrayed by Christine. His younger kids knew already. He kept telling Christine not ready to tell her. He wanted her to find out by overhearing it or someone telling her. He mentioned the reason he has not been close with Christine is he hasn’t trusted her because years ago he heard a rumor thinking she was leaving and felt betrayed. Betrayed an odd word for an 11 year old to use by the way. Truely did say she felt betrayed she was last to know. Christine just said I didn’t know how to tell you. Wrong she wanted to tell her with Kody and didn’t feel she could tell without his okay. She didn’t seem to throw him under the bus. Robyn told Ari and Sol about it and they were interacting outside for the grad party. A 6 year old not moving to keep secret her 11 year old sister was moving? Christine told him too many knew and she didn’t want her to find out in a hurtful way. Kody wanted her to find out in a hurtful way and blame her mom for the pain. Thank goodness Christine heard the gasp and knew she overheard something. Could you imagine holding it in trying to process it without the adults knowing it was out? The accusation she is turning the older kids, her girls against him is the complete opposite with that stunt. I blame polygamy. He is stretched too thin. They don’t get enough of him. Too many caregivers. To much unfair treatment. It’s why it is not legal and they really need to prosecute again. The in equality in marriage, the inequality in the parenting. Why does Robyn have all the money. The legal marriage wasn’t supposed to mean anything expect make him able to adopt her kids. Another thing is what they pulled on her ex from a legal marriage. Men aren’t treated well says expert Kody. How was Robyn’s ex treated? I don’t understand how a 25% time father at best according to the way it was supposed to be is better than a 100% time bio original dad should something happen to Robyn, God Forbid. They didn’t move close to the ex like grown ups for her ex’e convenience. Good gosh.
Also, thank you for touching on his bare minimum! I mentioned it and got pummeled with “he’s done it before!” Cool, but…he doesn’t have it down to a science and, even then, most officiants spend a nice amount of time with the bride and groom to be sure what they want and to get little stories and such. They don’t analyze the concept of marriage, attempt to destroy someone else’s, ignore the bride and so on
Embodying narcissism in a dance. 😂
Well,...at least nobody can ever accuse Kody Brown of having any rhythm, or knowing how to dance 😂🤣😂
Didn't find that Truly's speech was a little bit scripted? She used betray, betrayal.....a lot like her dad does. I agree with you 150%.
Totally agree with your analysis. I had noticed the hypocrisy of officiating travelling to and attending the wedding of his friend but had not noticed that he made his officiant role somehow about himself and his relationship to the groom. His demeanor was not lost on me but the substance of what he was actually saying was. What a missed opportunity for the bride and groom on their wedding day to be celebrated. Shame on Kody for taking away from their special moment and celebration with their family and friends.
This episode was so difficult to watch, and when Kody was dancing, I actually got nauseous. This episode made me really sad for Janelle, her struggles with the 5th wheel and useless Kody throwing his hands up in the air in frustration. It made me sad for Truely and how she felt betrayed by Christine, when it was Kody that didn’t want to tell her and told Christine don’t tell her yet. I felt bad for Gabe, again because of the actions of Kody. I felt sad for the new couple because this weirdo shows up and ruins their wedding in my opinion, he made it all about him. I felt sad for Isabelle because he just told her he can’t help her move to NC because of covid, but then he travels to a wedding. I actually thought about you while watching it, and wanted to ask you, do you think Kody watches this and sees what an absolute jerk he is? I know he’s a narcissist and they are never to blame, and their the victim. BUT, when they see it like this on video, do they see it? Love your channel, hope you feel better soon.
I don't think Kody watches anything about himself. In one of the older Tell Alls he mentioned how upset he got over negative comments. He and Robyn are no longer posting on social media. Maybe he does but I think his narcissistic self can't handle the truth. He and Robyn can't handle negativity. I bet many of the older kids watch though.
If he even watches it he would probably say that edited it to make him look like the bad guy.
He should just rename himself "Kod-me" as literally everything he does has to be about him. me me me.
Even off camera, the crew despise him as he's always so selfish and childish. and he's only showing his true colours more as his power is slipping away from him.
I love your takes on Kody. My heart breaks for the older kids. My son is 36 and 1200 miles away we talk 2 to3 X a week and always say I love you. It is so simple to keep in touch with your children instead of acting like a fool dancing.
Omg...I can't even take the second hand embarrassment 😖
Hope you feel better soon. Kody is so very dismissive of anyone's feelings but his own. 🙏
They live for the experience. They're the party goer. They're only emotions are like a triangle. They only have fear, excitement and anger. Kody is exhibiting this behavior.
I was WAITING for this video!!!!!! Yes. PLEASE do 90 Day Fiancée. … I love the reviews that former participants do in the hour program too …
Right on about everything. Angela Lansbury was in Gaslight - and I thought Kody was getting paid for how many times he could work that word INCORRECTLY into the interviews in last night’s episode.
Also spot on …. She ‘wanted to be Mrs Brian what’s-His-Name’ so she’ll be submissive to him and they’ll have a marriage that works.
Also could have talked about the whole custody thing …
LOVE your take on Sister Wives.
I’m sorry you have COVID. And we are entering another surge. I’m a DR of epidemiology and public health and masking in a controlled setting is so much safer than being in a crowded room with nobody wearing a mask IN TEXAS!
Wishing you well. Thanks for the videos. I really do think about how you’re seeing the show as I watch it because I know we are thinking similar thoughts. Makes me chuckle.
He's manipulative, completely self-centered and emotionally abusive. He thinks he's headed for the Celestial Kingdom but he's in for a rude awakening when he gets on the other side.