The thing about it is, most husbands with full custody of their kids don't talk bad about their Cheating spouse Infront of their kids. Why? because guys still want their kids to have a relationship with their mother. But.... Moms with full custody will talk bad about their EX-husbands (even lie to their kids), even if the mom was the one who cheated, because they want their kids to hate their Dad. It happens all the time.
When my parents got divorced my dad never, NEVER said anything negative about my mom. My mom, on the other hand, bad mouthed him constantly. So much so that my brother and distanced ourselves from her for years.
@@HasufelyArodnahh almost most of the women do that while fraction of men cheat physically cause girls like bad guys and didn't like good who is working hard girls like guys who they can hang around
So you cheated, made a bs excuse, changed your sexuality, left, cut contact for 3 fucking years and you think you was gonna get welcomed back because you came with a smile?
*Pulls out the white board and begins to write.” Ok so to answer your question we need to understand the meaning of the word I just wrote on the board which… is…“ACCOUNTABILITY”. Now class mind you, this is something that all women have the ability to take but very few do…
@@jdsheleg8332 Child abandonment is a serious crime JD. The moment she disappeared for a long duration, she had already abandoned those children. It falls within reason to a court that if said parent shows back up without notice, and takes said children from school, it would without a doubt be child abduction. You have forfeited your parental rights. There are laws that cover this. You do NOT need a court order within circumstances.
This honestly sounds like my neighbor's story. He works in ships so he's away months to years on end. The wife is left alone and lonely and some lesbian preys on this loneliness and starts a relationship with his wife. The wife is more than happy to oblige because the husband is away. It's really a sad state of affairs.
@@MrGrimjaw as I said, he works on ships. I don't want him to get depressed while in the seas as I've heard pretty much crew toss themselves overboard because of family problems.
@@MrGrimjawwhen you work on the ship, you simply cut out from the rest of the world. My dad a ship worker too and when he leaves, the fastest he come back is a few months while being home just a month at most He told me that one of ship crew's greatest worry is that their wives are alone at home and how the home fares because they can't keep an eye on them
Op's ex wife had most likely been cheating on him before tellong him about her coworker. Ditching your kids isnt an "on a whim of a crush" decision. She was fully engaged in cheating. Its no different than if a man meets a hot young chick at work or an event and leaves his family.
The brother of one of the best friends of my sister got to know a few weeks before the wedding that his spouse was cheating on him with her female boss. I can’t fathom how people can do things like that. If you find a person you think fits better for you that’s fine especially before commitments like a marriage but telling after you cheated is really scummy
*betrays family in worst way possible* "You're hurt. Let me hug you because i'm sad!" I've only ever seen women do this. "I had to cut contact with you, my children, so *I* could move on with my life! ME!" Absolute garbage.
Both can be garbage in different ways. Both can be horribly and recalcitrantly selfish in different ways. I'll say your comment stands on solid ground, based on all the Reddit stories and real life situations I've seen.
not women but either a narcissist or borderline. Cluster b disorders have no gender it so happen that this one was a female. But women are generally caring of their kids. You cant see a mentally challenged individual and assume everyone is like that. Thats wrong
@@GangstaG42 She probably thinks the way Ellen Page used to think. That we can do everything we want to whenever we want to. These people think being a man means to live in paradise. Now look at Page and what has become of her. She is completly crushed.
This happens to so many men. Their wives leave them to go “find themselves” and abandon their responsibilities for the most selfish reason possible. My wife’s mother did it to her family when she was a teenager and it has caused so many trust and abandonment problems
It happens. One woman married young, to a 12 year older man. Kids turn 4-6 somewhere, she says she was beaten and held captive and forced to bear his children. She always was by his side, smiling, not working, easy house life. She walks and signs away her rights. Minimum child support, like actually £12 a fortnight when she outearned the guy by a bit. No man could pay that little. She was forced by that disgusting man to leave and find herself. She came back beaten around by life (and no doubt by many coques, she bragged about a dozen first week in) 1 decade later, her youngest didnt even remember her. Promised to work hard and help pay if he would just take her back. He kept shutting the door, police in the end wouldn't show up and courts refused a stay away order because woman. After more than a year trying she gave up. Hit by the wall and used up, lives on the other side of town. Closeted drinker, now has a 2 decade younger bf that is not right in th head and perpetually broke. Where before she had no bills and 2 kids now she has to pay all the bills alone and 1 of the kids doesn't even remember her.
This story is definitely fake because you legally can’t just leave your kids. If this actually happened, the father would’ve taken this up with the court and sued the mother for child support and request a divorce.
I was raised by a single dad. He wasn't home a lot, and I was sometimes a little upset about that. But, out of any criticisms, I would never say that he didn't care. I always knew he cared.
@@MisterX867 I don't know about that. I mean I always heard that when children are raised by only one of their parents it will forces them to mature quickly because some kids understand what a single parent struggles are (kids are very observant compared to what adults give them credit for) and some wants to ease their parent burden by becoming more independent.
@@MisterX867 fathers normally teach their kids to think logically. Mothers normally teach their kids to think emotionally. They made the logical choice.
Funny that this is what people think about children. Like really? I grew up in an abusive household. From the day 1, I knew who was wrong. And this 'Day 1' was when I was only 6
Kids aren’t stupid, if they see their mom leave, maybe at first they’ll blame the father or they’ll have hope that she’ll come back but after a few months, most kids will understand that the dad staying with them and taking care of them isn’t the bad guy while the mom who ditched them after cheating on their pops is the bad guy. Plus she explained to them why she was leaving so it makes sense why they don’t blame the dad.
Get the restraining order, as it doesn't seem your ex-wife will be able to control herself. Keep the ex-wife's phone number written down & stashed in a drawer, in case in 5 - 10 years your daughters want to contact their mother. Then leave it to your daughters to contact their mother IF they ever want to. You just keep being the best dad for them. When your spouse betrays you, that is horrible & painful. When your parent betrays you, that is infinitely worse.
This is a very lied about and hidden fact. The statistics absolutely implode the lie that mother should get the children using the argument that "that's what's best for the kids."
@@made160 Crime statistics. I know nothing liberals hate more than statistics and most are incapable of comprehending them but the data makes it obvious and the fact that you're even making that statement means your either trolling or you don't know how to do a basic google search and decide who to trust (using math).
@@made160 CPS, school records, police records, criminal history of SDH raised children. SMH on the other hand, lead on runaway adolescents, drug addictions, criminal acts, suicides, CPS interventions and children custody relocation to foster care. Go figure.
My daughter (7yrs) asks me this atleast once a week. It breaks my heart that she knows what her mother tried to do to her, and it infuriates me that her mother tried. For context, not only did my ex-wife abandon our kids, my kids, but she tried to give my daughter (at the time 3yrs old) up for adoption, because she thought the adoption agency would "buy" my daughter. I didn't know what what going on until the agency called me at work.
Because she's an idiot. I doubt she was a great mother before all of this happened. Anyone who has main-character syndrome doesn't care about anyone other than themselves.
I empathize with these girls so much. A parent that leaves also leaves a hole in their children that never fully heals. Like the girls, my mom sacrificed so much to give me and my brothers a happy childhood. But growing up not having a father has negatively impacted me in many ways. I grew up around so many loving relatives, but that abandoned feeling was always there. Most days, you never notice, but the days you do are the worst. And you always ask that one question. Why? It took me years to move past it all, i wouldn't say i'm "over it," but i won't let it ruin MY life. I'm an independent, gainfully employed man, standing on my own two feet. That's everything he never was.
Meanwhile. Despite being 20 years old as of this writing, my nephew never brought up me the complete lack of a biological father. Is he feeling this void and simply refuses to tell me about it?
If you abandon your kids you forfeit any rights to them forever. This guy sounds like an amazing Dad and he is lucky to have amazing daughters that have his back. Theyre lucky to have each other and lucky to be rid of that horrible "birthgiver".
Realizing that you're attracted to the same sex plus wanting to explore that is one thing. But going NC with your kids as well ?! What the Actual F ?! And then be delusional enough to think that your kids will welcome you back ?? The OP has done an admirable job as a dad to his kids.
That……person…… demonstrated her utter selfishness by abandoning her children. It’s one thing to abandon a spouse in favor of another (can’t say, if she was really lesbian, bisexual, or it was a convenient excuse)….. but to excise your children from your life, demonstrates a complete lack of character. Maybe she really does feel bad about her life choices, but they were still the choices that SHE made. She felt bad that she couldn’t be with her children. But she never really thought about what misery she had inflicted upon her family. Her spouse and her her daughters. The turmoil that she left in her wake to pursue her own desires. Guilt seems like the least she deserves. Maybe she will reconnect with her children one day. But she will have missed out on half of their lives because of her own decisions.
What do you mean by this? I do agree they should get family therapy, but how does this affect them distrusting people they don’t want around them? I think it’s clear they want nothing to do with the mother by the fact she abandoned them for a fling and now wants to be absolved of all her actions nah fam that’s called accountability!
@@juggalo2670 you completely misunderstood me. I'm talking about the after effects of trauma. Trauma causes trust issues. That doesn't heal all by itself Their mother is a piece of shit.
@@juggalo2670 well besides what you said, i think what he/she meant is that the one person that they were supposed to trust ended up abandoning them when they needed her the most. Especially that young, kids need both parents. I do wish this family well
@@juggalo2670emotionally your parents are quite special figures. You're supposed to be able to depend on them. However one of them left when the children were still in development stages. Basically this is where trust issues come from, of course usually not in such a grand way. So in short I definetly agree, those kids need therapy for their coming trust issues.
The highest divorce rate are the lesbians. 2 emotionally creatures being together is just a recipe for disaster. Kudos to OP for taking a good care of the kids while in depression. A true hero.
Second highest are straight couples, I wonder why. Women most of the time do the divorcing. Gay couples I think don't even make 20% on the divorce rate
@@Netherwolf6100 On paper it's not: both are logical and capable of managing their motions, giving them better financial opportunities. Not to mention, the strongest couple because I mean, who would try to jump two dudes at the same time while your girl just watches? 🤷♂ The downside; two sexually active dudes being together can be a good thing or a bad thing as long loyalty is there and finally when two men get into a heated argument and negotiations have fail, that's when we settle things like men. 👊
She would have been fine abandoning her children if her gay relationship had worked out. Treating her kids like a consolation prize, indeed. Truly evil.
She could codeparent with her husband. I am closeted bisexual man and when I see fellow lgbt or people does this, it makes me disappointed and I do dislike when gay people does this to their straight husband or wife or viceversa where a lesbian wife caught her wife with a man and men husband with another woman. There is a lack consideration when a person is open up their sexuality and the spouse have to suck up to that fact without them processing what they have got told to them and if you objetivo you are homophobic. It only makes me mad when said wife and husband was good to them and are quite liberal or at least respect their autonomy. I can at least get if said wife or husband were horrible , oppresive, homophobic then I get more or less where they come from but still I would not justify cheating. I have the feeling that honesty , intergrity, love , respect, civility and cordiality and vulnerable connection are getting more sparse nowadays. From relationships, friendships, workplace or anywhere.
The best thing that happened in this situation was that you let the kids make the decision , right or wrong it had to be their choice. You saw the evidence of you raising them alone, no parent could wish a better result . That is the reward of what was sacrificed and that is priceless.
OK she decided she was lesbian you got divorced. Being lesbian doesn't involve alienating or abandoning her daughters. Whether she left you for another man or a woman is immaterial. She is your EX WIFE. You are under no obligation to have her back or have her contacting you. If she wants to rebuild her relationship with the children you should not stand in her way but equally you should ensure she does no harm to them psychologically. You OP went through a lot as her result of her decision and the divorce. Respect for how you supported the children they and you should be your priority now.
guess what she already did harm them!! by abandon them!! children is always the first to be hurt i say this because i was abandoned by my mother and afte 25 years or so she come back said she was always thinking about me but i forgive her God show me he true way but let me tell you i was drepessed all my childhood it kinda sucks...
I know a guy who went through a similar situation. He got married and had a daughter, but one day his wife said that she had fallen in love with a woman and she left home. This guy got divorced and married a friend of his ex-wife who was also divorced and had a daughter. This friend had always advised this boy's ex-wife not to break up the marriage without however succeeding in her intention. Now after a few years his ex-wife has gotten closer to her ex-husband because she broke up with that woman and realized that she made a mistake. Unfortunately for her, her ex-husband doesn't want to hear about it anymore, because he is now happily married to his ex-wife's friend and loves both her biological daughter and her non-biological daughter. The only contact allowed to the ex-wife is her contact with her daughter
Tldr My kids and my Husband are the backup plan in case my new relationship fails. What a trash human being trying to manipulate the kids by saying they were on her mind all this time and the excuse of not be3able to contact them because she deleted the numbers? Did she forget where she used to live too? Hopefully her life is falling apart from that point onwards.
Why in the world did she feel she needed to cut them off? She could have discovered herself whilst still sending but her ex-husband and children letters, calling them intermittently to check up on them, sending them presents on major holidays etc. Cutting them off was highly selfish and disrespectful.
Honestly i dont believe in said find yourself kinda thing.... Its sad but you choose to get married You choose to have kids You choose all these responsibilities at some point pleasure becomes secondary... Not because you have a change of heart you are gonna change and break a family. And thats why todays society is fuckedup because instead of what was done back in days where you will be shamed the rest of your life for what u did , here we accept to be like" oh poor soul had to live like this must be hell she needs to find her self" .... Family is sacrifice. I would agree if she was forced to do anything but this was all her doing you cant have a change of heart if you commit.
@@cashwalk7253its a joke about lesbian couple where its based around when 2 women have sex, they'll just be in a position where they'll be in a scissors formation and pound their genitals because there is nothing to insert with(no man) 😂😂
I am a single Dad after my ex-wife cheated on me with a minister she went to college with, we had been married for almost 15 years. My son came up to me one day and said, "Daddy, I think Mommy has a boyfriend". I was in disbelief and said something like she has many friends, but he said no, more than that. I checked some things out and found he was right, it killed me but I never said anything bad about her in front of my son. She, on the other hand, would sh*t talk me to her family in front of him, he even stepped in and said I don't want to hear this and so he was sent out of the room, alone in his grandma's house until he was called for dinner. (when I heard that I was so mad) My Dad raised me and my brother because my mother was an alcoholic spouse abuser child abuser, and cheater, my Dad never said a bad word about her in front of us. My Mother moved across the country after the divorce (when I was 3) my Dad even paid for her to move back because he wanted us to know and have a mom, she has never been a Mom just a Mother. She is dead now after her boyfriend beat her to death in 2000 when I was 23 years old, we cannot pick our family! Well, that is not completely true, my Step-Mom is the best Mom I could ever ask for. I would not blame you if you did not believe what I've written but my whole life is like a soap opera, I would give a link to her news story but in a way, I worry I might be doxing myself.
at least she didn't try to reconnect with him. I know a guy who went through that. 35yo wife of 6 years left(rather, made himleavr) saying she DISCOVERED she was a lesbian. Jump to 8 months later and she's repented, it was all a mistake, "please, take me back". What brought me real disbelief was when he tried to take her back. I legit lost my nerves and started scolding him when I discovered that. No long after, he saw the dead end he was in and bolted. It's amazing how much a full grown educated woman with life experience(she wasn't locked in a convent) doesn't know about herself. also, these kids are lucky. Imagine if she tried to fight for the kids. Children of single fathers are much more well adjusted and successfull in life than children raised by single mothers.
Reminds me of something a friend had told me when I was younger: "Demons are real and are among us. Taking the forms of friendly faces but are always sewing seeds of doubt, always tempting and are always corrupting. Told me to always stay vigilant and look for the signs of manipulation"... In these days, I'm more and more convinced that he's right.
@@jhonmaverick9963 Because of people I became a bit like that demon haha because I hate people hypocrisy, and it's way better like that, when I was a kind person I was always mistreated, now people either respect or fear me
Reminds me of a thing my online friend asked me (though maybe he was trolling) he asked “do you think there’s a problem for an older person dating a younger person?” I said no not really, and he then said his ex girlfriend is dating his mother, she’s like 19 and his mom is in her 40s. I said I don’t think the issue is the age the problem is it’s it’s your mom and ex, I even went to my mom and asked her what she thought and she said “the age isn’t the issue, that just sounds like a terrible mother”
My mother abandoned my sister and I to live with some guy who was almost 20 years younger, in a different country. On New Years Eve. Now that her fling has his green card, he's going to his real wife, and she wants to move in with me to save on rent. I'm conflicted because at the end of the day that's my mom, but its just crazy how women act and then try to justify their actions thru emotional manipulation. I've forgiven a lot but I'm just feeling obligated to support someone who betrayed my trust.
This tale is more common than you’d think. At the end of the day, your feelings are your own, and as long as you can sleep well at night, that’s enough.
Chasing the wild life that ex. Just remember even if you fell in love with that person, doesn't mean your interest will be the same and always clash. The simple of life and enjoy it is with the people you love family and friends
@@comparecards5688and she also did the same thing , using her family as the last resort and abusing her authority as a mother. This wouldn't have happen she wasn't a piece of human trash in the first place
@@comparecards5688That is actually statistically likely to have happened, it’s statistically proven that lesbian relationships have the highest spousal abuse rate of all relationship types
Forgiving a woman is just a pass for her to do the same shit all over again in the future. Good thing the OP and neither of his daughters are falling into that trap.
Parents who abandon their children are evil, straight up. You have no idea how much damage you're doing to your child. And there is absolutely nothing you can do to undo the damage once your conscience catches up with you.
What a crazy person. Married already yet still decided to act frivolously with no regards to the consequences of her actions. Then decided to act pitiful even after all the hurt she caused.
That was such an awesome dad here. Really respect it. The daughters feelings were definitely justified here. How could the ex wife leave them just like that and if it's bad enough? She threw out any way of contact when she left originally. I respect this dad for what he did to keep his family going. Bravo dude ♥ 🐀
I want more stories like this. Im tired of hearing about deadbeat/criminal/abusive fathers. Lets hear some good examples and role models of fathers who despite all the BS that life throws their way still want to give their children the world. I also realized, you notice how th ex keeps trying to use the kids as a scapegoat? Never once did she ever talk about how hurt she made the husband feel depressed and lost, it was always just the kids. She was sneaky with it, cause once she gets the support of the children then its all over.
It's not harsh. Get the restraining order and try to go on with life with your daughters. You obviously do a great job as a parent. Your ex is just trying to deal with her guilt. Don't let her off the hook. She deserves to suffer. A mother leaving her children is incredibly selfish. Stay strong and think about your precious daughters.
Dads like this are inspiring, going through a divorce, depression and financial hardship and still he strapped up his pants for his daughters and carried the family.
I went through a similar situation but my mom never came back. OPs mom figure is just like mine, narcissistic. Everything in her life has to be about “her” and “her happiness”. As I got older, she would try to justify it by saying she was “depressed and in a dark place, blah blah blah”. 3 children left with a full time working dad. Needless to say, I don’t call her my mom, even all these years later.
If the mother said she wasn't happy and is filing for divorce, didn't give her reasoning and just ended the marriage. Then ended up in a relationship with this other woman all the while keeping her relationship with her children, she'd of still had her kids in her life. But she made a conscious choice. She chose a stranger over her children. Fingers crossed those kids remember that for all time. About how their dad stuck by them and that this miserable muff diver has no place with them.
I don't care if you're gay or straight, you don't leave your kids for "exploring your sexuality" period. You're free to divorce, but never leave your kids behind
The kids are really smart. They knew the mother was extremely selfish. I know stories similar to this except the mother is still in the lives of her kids. This leads me to believe there is more to her story.
Your ex-wife is messed up in the head and you don't want her around poisoning your daughters. She didn't care about them enough to stay in contact, she chose the carpet over them.
This video made me realize why I never actually finished Spider-Man. I would just start swinging around the city and never get anything in the game done
Trying to figure out who you are doesn’t mean you have to leave your kids behind. I’m of the mindset that once you have children, that is your life. Do what you want and leave your ex, but leaving your children that’s different.
nah my man, that is not harsh. This story sparks so much joy for me, because ive dealth with several families of friends who one parent also decided to bail and then returned like nothing ever happened.
The same thing happened to me but flip the genders. My dad had tons of problems and didn’t even want me at first. He was a drunk, a drug dealer/user, he was violent at times(but rarely to my mother), and all this amplified when I was born. The tipping point however, when she broke up with him and got the restraining order, is when they were arguing and I tried to step in to intervene when I was like three! Since then I was allowed to see him once a week but it was more like once every two weeks. According to my mom he didn’t want a lot to do with me but whenever I visited him he never got violent, he never neglected me, I was very self entertained and our relationship was actually very close. Years go by my dad got a new girlfriend and my mom got a new boyfriend. Years go by once again and I turn 13-ish, so while mom breaks up with the boyfriend after like ten-ish years I spent a month at my dads place while he packed everything up. And apparently in which two years prior he actively decided to have a baby, who I hated. I was born with major sensory problems and later on was diagnosed with light autism, and this child loved me. She loved playing with me, and messing with me, and hitting me, and pulling my hair, and spitting on me, and screaming CONSTANTLY during my almost one month of hell while she(my mom) packed. Two days before the month was up I. Was. Miserable. from being tortured by my stepsister(who I won’t name, I love her now) so I called my mom on my flip phone and said “Please pick me up, I don’t want to be here anymore. I don’t care if I haft to help pack just please pick me up!” and the next day she did. That was my last fading memory of my dad for three years until during my dojo lessons I get the strangest call, my dad wanted to reconnect. I was in a different state at that point so I told my mom about it and so she called him up, talked and he was being genuine. During my time away from dad he had developed an advanced form of diabetes, he and my mom both knew that his time was running short so for his final few years I came over to visit him and he really turned over a new leaf. He made SO MANY FRIENDS, he worked at a bar, he genuinely cared about his daughter and me, and did his best to be a better man, a better dad. Sadly however on his last day, the next day I was so excited to see him, he had passed quietly into the night from food allergies. When I look back on my dad I see a man who did wrong and spent what little time he had repairing the damage he caused, and then after seeing that he had reconnected with his son and made thing right, I think that allowed him to pass on peacefully. I hold my father highly as a redeemed man, not a perfect man, but one who made the struggle to be better and followed through. May he continue to be at peace.
Tbh, your story doesn't sound that similar with the vid. At least you kept up some contact with your dad for a while, minimal it may be, and at least your dad at least put his best effort into self-improvement.
Children who suffers from deep emotional wounds would either close up their hearts or mature too quickly. Both of these a compensation to protect they psyche from breaking down and will result in mental and social issues as adults. There was no description on how his children are doing in their lives other than from the perspective of the father, but I wouldn't put them out of the way of professional counseling since what the two sisters experience was extremely huge mental and social trauma.
If this happens to you- guys- get out of town. Have your mail forwarded to a PO Box. Don't let any of your mutual friends know where you live. Then move again, a year later. If you can't do all that, then at least get out of your state. Get a Restraining Order on the ex.
The thing about it is, most husbands with full custody of their kids don't talk bad about their Cheating spouse Infront of their kids. Why? because guys still want their kids to have a relationship with their mother. But.... Moms with full custody will talk bad about their EX-husbands (even lie to their kids), even if the mom was the one who cheated, because they want their kids to hate their Dad. It happens all the time.
But All women do this .
When my parents got divorced my dad never, NEVER said anything negative about my mom.
My mom, on the other hand, bad mouthed him constantly. So much so that my brother and distanced ourselves from her for years.
@@kd9749Same here. The only reason I haven't disowned her is because my grandmother begged me not to.
Men cheat physically, while women do it emotionally.
Men be more physically-oriented while women be more emotionaally-oriented.
@@HasufelyArodnahh almost most of the women do that while fraction of men cheat physically cause girls like bad guys and didn't like good who is working hard girls like guys who they can hang around
Sweet thing when daughter told Dad that he was the only parent they needed 🥹
That moment was so wholesome 🥹
I'd cry if I ever hear that honestly
So you cheated, made a bs excuse, changed your sexuality, left, cut contact for 3 fucking years and you think you was gonna get welcomed back because you came with a smile?
typical LGBTQ+ brain
You _do_ understand she is a woman right?
Exactly.
*Pulls out the white board and begins to write.”
Ok so to answer your question we need to understand the meaning of the word I just wrote on the board which… is…“ACCOUNTABILITY”.
Now class mind you, this is something that all women have the ability to take but very few do…
You heard that right. This is explaining how people can be ridicilous
Dissapearing, and than grabbing your kid from school is child abduction. She's no longer their parent. If that was a man he'd be in prison.
The world's upside down I'm surprised he's not in jail and on death row
No, is not. As wrong as she was, not only she still their mother, but there was no court order limiting her access to her children.
@@jdsheleg8332
Child abandonment is a serious crime JD. The moment she disappeared for a long duration, she had already abandoned those children.
It falls within reason to a court that if said parent shows back up without notice, and takes said children from school, it would without a doubt be child abduction.
You have forfeited your parental rights. There are laws that cover this. You do NOT need a court order within circumstances.
@@jdsheleg8332 sorry you give up that right the moment you leave them for dead trash
@@jdsheleg8332 your mom either drank while pregnant with you or dropped you on your head too many times, probably both
OP's truly the dad of the century, going past depression and hardships for his daughters
This honestly sounds like my neighbor's story. He works in ships so he's away months to years on end. The wife is left alone and lonely and some lesbian preys on this loneliness and starts a relationship with his wife. The wife is more than happy to oblige because the husband is away. It's really a sad state of affairs.
@@Incubator859tell the husband don't let him be the chump by chump I mean don't know of his wifes cheating on him I hate cheaters
@@MrGrimjaw as I said, he works on ships. I don't want him to get depressed while in the seas as I've heard pretty much crew toss themselves overboard because of family problems.
@@MrGrimjawwhen you work on the ship, you simply cut out from the rest of the world. My dad a ship worker too and when he leaves, the fastest he come back is a few months while being home just a month at most
He told me that one of ship crew's greatest worry is that their wives are alone at home and how the home fares because they can't keep an eye on them
Men will be men.
Op's ex wife had most likely been cheating on him before tellong him about her coworker. Ditching your kids isnt an "on a whim of a crush" decision. She was fully engaged in cheating.
Its no different than if a man meets a hot young chick at work or an event and leaves his family.
The brother of one of the best friends of my sister got to know a few weeks before the wedding that his spouse was cheating on him with her female boss. I can’t fathom how people can do things like that. If you find a person you think fits better for you that’s fine especially before commitments like a marriage but telling after you cheated is really scummy
*betrays family in worst way possible*
"You're hurt. Let me hug you because i'm sad!"
I've only ever seen women do this.
"I had to cut contact with you, my children, so *I* could move on with my life! ME!"
Absolute garbage.
Both can be garbage in different ways.
Both can be horribly and recalcitrantly selfish in different ways.
I'll say your comment stands on solid ground, based on all the Reddit stories and real life situations I've seen.
@@HasufelyArod But only one can get through with it.
not women but either a narcissist or borderline. Cluster b disorders have no gender it so happen that this one was a female. But women are generally caring of their kids. You cant see a mentally challenged individual and assume everyone is like that. Thats wrong
What I’m saying!!! Her whole story is “me me me me me me me”
@@GangstaG42 She probably thinks the way Ellen Page used to think. That we can do everything we want to whenever we want to. These people think being a man means to live in paradise. Now look at Page and what has become of her. She is completly crushed.
As someone who's parent decided to just disappear one day...this guy is a great parent.
Stay strong king 👑
Same, but it was my Dad.
@@AMPMASTER10 the threads of destiny align
Exactly
@@RabidDisposition????
It’s crazy because i want to think its fake, but I’ve seen this happen to men before and it hits different
This happens to so many men. Their wives leave them to go “find themselves” and abandon their responsibilities for the most selfish reason possible. My wife’s mother did it to her family when she was a teenager and it has caused so many trust and abandonment problems
there is a law & order episode with this.
It happens.
One woman married young, to a 12 year older man. Kids turn 4-6 somewhere, she says she was beaten and held captive and forced to bear his children. She always was by his side, smiling, not working, easy house life.
She walks and signs away her rights. Minimum child support, like actually £12 a fortnight when she outearned the guy by a bit. No man could pay that little.
She was forced by that disgusting man to leave and find herself.
She came back beaten around by life (and no doubt by many coques, she bragged about a dozen first week in) 1 decade later, her youngest didnt even remember her.
Promised to work hard and help pay if he would just take her back. He kept shutting the door, police in the end wouldn't show up and courts refused a stay away order because woman. After more than a year trying she gave up.
Hit by the wall and used up, lives on the other side of town. Closeted drinker, now has a 2 decade younger bf that is not right in th head and perpetually broke. Where before she had no bills and 2 kids now she has to pay all the bills alone and 1 of the kids doesn't even remember her.
It happens. My ex left me last year for a lesbian.. I couldnt believe it at first
This story is definitely fake because you legally can’t just leave your kids. If this actually happened, the father would’ve taken this up with the court and sued the mother for child support and request a divorce.
I was raised by a single dad. He wasn't home a lot, and I was sometimes a little upset about that. But, out of any criticisms, I would never say that he didn't care. I always knew he cared.
This is rare for kids to see who the real villain was. The kids choose the right parent side. This is truly rare this man is blessed.
That's actually the only thing that makes me say this story is fake. I personally can't believe girls that age would actually make the right choice.
@@MisterX867 I don't know about that. I mean I always heard that when children are raised by only one of their parents it will forces them to mature quickly because some kids understand what a single parent struggles are (kids are very observant compared to what adults give them credit for) and some wants to ease their parent burden by becoming more independent.
@@MisterX867 fathers normally teach their kids to think logically. Mothers normally teach their kids to think emotionally.
They made the logical choice.
Funny that this is what people think about children. Like really? I grew up in an abusive household. From the day 1, I knew who was wrong. And this 'Day 1' was when I was only 6
Kids aren’t stupid, if they see their mom leave, maybe at first they’ll blame the father or they’ll have hope that she’ll come back but after a few months, most kids will understand that the dad staying with them and taking care of them isn’t the bad guy while the mom who ditched them after cheating on their pops is the bad guy. Plus she explained to them why she was leaving so it makes sense why they don’t blame the dad.
Get the restraining order, as it doesn't seem your ex-wife will be able to control herself. Keep the ex-wife's phone number written down & stashed in a drawer, in case in 5 - 10 years your daughters want to contact their mother. Then leave it to your daughters to contact their mother IF they ever want to. You just keep being the best dad for them.
When your spouse betrays you, that is horrible & painful. When your parent betrays you, that is infinitely worse.
I couldn’t even imagine leaving my kids. My children are my life.
That 'mother' was never a good mother. She was just looking for a next bedwarmer.
People can have these throughts.
sometimes you are forced to by an abusive partner....
@@TheRahsoftsometimes but not this story's case
yeah surprisingly that's the idea; that's how it's supposed to be.
Children raised only by their Father statistically end up much better in life than a single mother. I hope thisev2 will grow up to be great people.
Ill drink to that.
This is a very lied about and hidden fact. The statistics absolutely implode the lie that mother should get the children using the argument that "that's what's best for the kids."
Is there any source behind this statement? 😅
@@made160 Crime statistics.
I know nothing liberals hate more than statistics and most are incapable of comprehending them but the data makes it obvious and the fact that you're even making that statement means your either trolling or you don't know how to do a basic google search and decide who to trust (using math).
@@made160 CPS, school records, police records, criminal history of SDH raised children. SMH on the other hand, lead on runaway adolescents, drug addictions, criminal acts, suicides, CPS interventions and children custody relocation to foster care. Go figure.
The little daughter asking to her dad if he will also abandon them is absolutely hearthbreaking man😢absolutely hearthbreaking
My daughter (7yrs) asks me this atleast once a week. It breaks my heart that she knows what her mother tried to do to her, and it infuriates me that her mother tried. For context, not only did my ex-wife abandon our kids, my kids, but she tried to give my daughter (at the time 3yrs old) up for adoption, because she thought the adoption agency would "buy" my daughter. I didn't know what what going on until the agency called me at work.
My ex did the same thing..only she never came back..I raised my nine year old son myself.
Hang in there Chad.
same here
Brother, I want you to know that you are a hero to your son. You did and are doing your best and you are an ACTUAL hero for what you do.
Kudos to you
Hang in there, God loves you and your son
Your daughters did well. I hope everything will be okay with you and your family.
Ex wife sounds like a complete psycho, but the actual type where you don't know it until a situation like this occurs
Why did she have to leave her daughters? Why couldn't she have just gotten a divorce and co-parented?!
I wouldn't have want her anywhere near the kids, they dont need an example or role model like that in their life
Because she’s “brave” and “progressive”.
Because she's an idiot. I doubt she was a great mother before all of this happened. Anyone who has main-character syndrome doesn't care about anyone other than themselves.
Because something something leaving old life behind. It was just a way of rationalizing avoiding responsibility.
Coparenting? Have you been in one?
I empathize with these girls so much. A parent that leaves also leaves a hole in their children that never fully heals. Like the girls, my mom sacrificed so much to give me and my brothers a happy childhood. But growing up not having a father has negatively impacted me in many ways. I grew up around so many loving relatives, but that abandoned feeling was always there. Most days, you never notice, but the days you do are the worst. And you always ask that one question.
Why?
It took me years to move past it all, i wouldn't say i'm "over it," but i won't let it ruin MY life.
I'm an independent, gainfully employed man, standing on my own two feet.
That's everything he never was.
Based
This is similar to my upbringing. Getting over the chip on your shoulder is difficult but once you get past it life really gets better.
Meanwhile. Despite being 20 years old as of this writing, my nephew never brought up me the complete lack of a biological father.
Is he feeling this void and simply refuses to tell me about it?
That was a brilliant question from 13 years old. It shut all the dispute.
She probably just got it from How I Met Your Mother.
If you abandon your kids you forfeit any rights to them forever. This guy sounds like an amazing Dad and he is lucky to have amazing daughters that have his back. Theyre lucky to have each other and lucky to be rid of that horrible "birthgiver".
Realizing that you're attracted to the same sex plus wanting to explore that is one thing. But going NC with your kids as well ?! What the Actual F ?! And then be delusional enough to think that your kids will welcome you back ?? The OP has done an admirable job as a dad to his kids.
It’s all evil and disgusting.
That……person…… demonstrated her utter selfishness by abandoning her children. It’s one thing to abandon a spouse in favor of another (can’t say, if she was really lesbian, bisexual, or it was a convenient excuse)….. but to excise your children from your life, demonstrates a complete lack of character.
Maybe she really does feel bad about her life choices, but they were still the choices that SHE made. She felt bad that she couldn’t be with her children. But she never really thought about what misery she had inflicted upon her family. Her spouse and her her daughters. The turmoil that she left in her wake to pursue her own desires. Guilt seems like the least she deserves.
Maybe she will reconnect with her children one day. But she will have missed out on half of their lives because of her own decisions.
Unfortunately she explored it while she was still married.
@@clydemarshall8095"its natural" even though I kever noticed for 20 some odd years till now... 😂
That excuse is stupid anyway, you're supposed to know sooner than later before kids are had, such a stupid situation to put yourself in
There’s a Special Place in Hell for That Woman. Sir You are a Father like No Other I commend You Whole Heartedly Soldier On!
What I love about this is the answer to her story.
"What if you and your GF had a successful relationship?"
Lesbian gay relationship never successful. What u expect? 😂
6:37 😂😂 👌👌👍🏼👍🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Get those girls some therapy bud. They will need it or they will always distrust people they should be trusting.
What do you mean by this? I do agree they should get family therapy, but how does this affect them distrusting people they don’t want around them? I think it’s clear they want nothing to do with the mother by the fact she abandoned them for a fling and now wants to be absolved of all her actions nah fam that’s called accountability!
@@juggalo2670 you completely misunderstood me. I'm talking about the after effects of trauma. Trauma causes trust issues. That doesn't heal all by itself
Their mother is a piece of shit.
@@juggalo2670 well besides what you said, i think what he/she meant is that the one person that they were supposed to trust ended up abandoning them when they needed her the most. Especially that young, kids need both parents. I do wish this family well
@@juggalo2670emotionally your parents are quite special figures. You're supposed to be able to depend on them. However one of them left when the children were still in development stages. Basically this is where trust issues come from, of course usually not in such a grand way. So in short I definetly agree, those kids need therapy for their coming trust issues.
@@juggalo2670 Your dumbass missed the point by about the distance of a galaxy good god.
The highest divorce rate are the lesbians. 2 emotionally creatures being together is just a recipe for disaster. Kudos to OP for taking a good care of the kids while in depression. A true hero.
Second highest are straight couples, I wonder why. Women most of the time do the divorcing.
Gay couples I think don't even make 20% on the divorce rate
Weird how two men are also the most stable and least likely to divorce.
Women initiate the majority of divorces. Now there's 2 of them.
@@Netherwolf6100 On paper it's not: both are logical and capable of managing their motions, giving them better financial opportunities. Not to mention, the strongest couple because I mean, who would try to jump two dudes at the same time while your girl just watches? 🤷♂
The downside; two sexually active dudes being together can be a good thing or a bad thing as long loyalty is there and finally when two men get into a heated argument and negotiations have fail, that's when we settle things like men. 👊
@@cireratnacla993 I know. I was mostly being sarcastic.
Regardless of the story's validity it does highlight the outrageous narcissism, entitlement, and complete lack of accountability in women
leave his daughters alone
Not all women. By the sound of things, his daughters will grow up with their heads screwed on.
@@davesmith826 depends on what brainwashing they get in college
No sane woman will ever leave their kids.
@@craiver00 check out how many women are on head meds these days
hell nah get the order keep the psycho away
She would have been fine abandoning her children if her gay relationship had worked out. Treating her kids like a consolation prize, indeed. Truly evil.
She could codeparent with her husband. I am closeted bisexual man and when I see fellow lgbt or people does this, it makes me disappointed and I do dislike when gay people does this to their straight husband or wife or viceversa where a lesbian wife caught her wife with a man and men husband with another woman. There is a lack consideration when a person is open up their sexuality and the spouse have to suck up to that fact without them processing what they have got told to them and if you objetivo you are homophobic. It only makes me mad when said wife and husband was good to them and are quite liberal or at least respect their autonomy. I can at least get if said wife or husband were horrible , oppresive, homophobic then I get more or less where they come from but still I would not justify cheating. I have the feeling that honesty , intergrity, love , respect, civility and cordiality and vulnerable connection are getting more sparse nowadays. From relationships, friendships, workplace or anywhere.
The best thing that happened in this situation was that you let the kids make the decision , right or wrong it had to be their choice. You saw the evidence of you raising them alone, no parent could wish a better result . That is the reward of what was sacrificed and that is priceless.
OK she decided she was lesbian you got divorced.
Being lesbian doesn't involve alienating or abandoning her daughters.
Whether she left you for another man or a woman is immaterial. She is your EX WIFE. You are under no obligation to have her back or have her contacting you.
If she wants to rebuild her relationship with the children you should not stand in her way but equally you should ensure she does no harm to them psychologically.
You OP went through a lot as her result of her decision and the divorce. Respect for how you supported the children they and you should be your priority now.
guess what she already did harm them!! by abandon them!! children is always the first to be hurt i say this because i was abandoned by my mother and afte 25 years or so she come back said she was always thinking about me but i forgive her God show me he true way but let me tell you i was drepessed all my childhood it kinda sucks...
Not only NO, but FK NO!!!!
She could have stayed in contact with her kids after the separation. She chose not to, and it seems like the kids are aware of that fact. Fucking sad
Utterly pathetic. What a sad excuse for a human being.
I know a guy who went through a similar situation. He got married and had a daughter, but one day his wife said that she had fallen in love with a woman and she left home. This guy got divorced and married a friend of his ex-wife who was also divorced and had a daughter. This friend had always advised this boy's ex-wife not to break up the marriage without however succeeding in her intention.
Now after a few years his ex-wife has gotten closer to her ex-husband because she broke up with that woman and realized that she made a mistake. Unfortunately for her, her ex-husband doesn't want to hear about it anymore, because he is now happily married to his ex-wife's friend and loves both her biological daughter and her non-biological daughter. The only contact allowed to the ex-wife is her contact with her daughter
Tldr
My kids and my Husband are the backup plan in case my new relationship fails.
What a trash human being trying to manipulate the kids by saying they were on her mind all this time and the excuse of not be3able to contact them because she deleted the numbers? Did she forget where she used to live too?
Hopefully her life is falling apart from that point onwards.
I believe in forgiveness to heal. But abondening children for a bf/gf is some of the worst things a person can do.
Why in the world did she feel she needed to cut them off?
She could have discovered herself whilst still sending but her ex-husband and children letters, calling them intermittently to check up on them, sending them presents on major holidays etc.
Cutting them off was highly selfish and disrespectful.
Honestly i dont believe in said find yourself kinda thing.... Its sad but you choose to get married
You choose to have kids
You choose all these responsibilities at some point pleasure becomes secondary...
Not because you have a change of heart you are gonna change and break a family.
And thats why todays society is fuckedup because instead of what was done back in days where you will be shamed the rest of your life for what u did , here we accept to be like" oh poor soul had to live like this must be hell she needs to find her self" ....
Family is sacrifice. I would agree if she was forced to do anything but this was all her doing you cant have a change of heart if you commit.
only women can destroy a family and appears years later acting like nothing happened.
hahahahahahahaha ok
Not so - men have been doing this for hundreds of years.
@@patriciamitchell9365 hundreds?
Unfortunately…… selfishness is a human trait. Not a feminine one. Guys do it too.
@@patriciamitchell9365lmao no they haven't. We are not pulling punches when it comes to female behaviour
Scissors relationships are truly dangerous
Scissors relationships?
@@cashwalk7253
Lesbian Relationships
@@cashwalk7253 It's a relationship between lesbians.
@@cashwalk7253its a joke about lesbian couple where its based around when 2 women have sex, they'll just be in a position where they'll be in a scissors formation and pound their genitals because there is nothing to insert with(no man) 😂😂
@@cashwalk7253 iykyk
And let me guess the mother lesbian didn't payed any support for her daughters.
Always great to hear about happy endings
I am a single Dad after my ex-wife cheated on me with a minister she went to college with, we had been married for almost 15 years. My son came up to me one day and said, "Daddy, I think Mommy has a boyfriend". I was in disbelief and said something like she has many friends, but he said no, more than that. I checked some things out and found he was right, it killed me but I never said anything bad about her in front of my son. She, on the other hand, would sh*t talk me to her family in front of him, he even stepped in and said I don't want to hear this and so he was sent out of the room, alone in his grandma's house until he was called for dinner. (when I heard that I was so mad)
My Dad raised me and my brother because my mother was an alcoholic spouse abuser child abuser, and cheater, my Dad never said a bad word about her in front of us.
My Mother moved across the country after the divorce (when I was 3) my Dad even paid for her to move back because he wanted us to know and have a mom, she has never been a Mom just a Mother.
She is dead now after her boyfriend beat her to death in 2000 when I was 23 years old, we cannot pick our family! Well, that is not completely true, my Step-Mom is the best Mom I could ever ask for.
I would not blame you if you did not believe what I've written but my whole life is like a soap opera, I would give a link to her news story but in a way, I worry I might be doxing myself.
Praying for all the dads that have to go through stuff like this 😔🙏
Women don’t get to be selfish when they have kids. Thats kinda a given.
People are so busy chasing happiness that they become selfish. Its not really happiness they're chasing, its desires and envy.
at least she didn't try to reconnect with him. I know a guy who went through that. 35yo wife of 6 years left(rather, made himleavr) saying she DISCOVERED she was a lesbian.
Jump to 8 months later and she's repented, it was all a mistake, "please, take me back".
What brought me real disbelief was when he tried to take her back. I legit lost my nerves and started scolding him when I discovered that. No long after, he saw the dead end he was in and bolted.
It's amazing how much a full grown educated woman with life experience(she wasn't locked in a convent) doesn't know about herself.
also, these kids are lucky. Imagine if she tried to fight for the kids. Children of single fathers are much more well adjusted and successfull in life than children raised by single mothers.
Bet her colleague was the one who started making her doubt about herself...
Reminds me of something a friend had told me when I was younger: "Demons are real and are among us. Taking the forms of friendly faces but are always sewing seeds of doubt, always tempting and are always corrupting. Told me to always stay vigilant and look for the signs of manipulation"... In these days, I'm more and more convinced that he's right.
@@jhonmaverick9963 Because of people I became a bit like that demon haha because I hate people hypocrisy, and it's way better like that, when I was a kind person I was always mistreated, now people either respect or fear me
@@jhonmaverick9963…among us?
Reminds me of a thing my online friend asked me (though maybe he was trolling) he asked “do you think there’s a problem for an older person dating a younger person?” I said no not really, and he then said his ex girlfriend is dating his mother, she’s like 19 and his mom is in her 40s. I said I don’t think the issue is the age the problem is it’s it’s your mom and ex, I even went to my mom and asked her what she thought and she said “the age isn’t the issue, that just sounds like a terrible mother”
That's disgusting.
Your mom is 💯 percent correct. That’s a bad and selfish parent.
Being a Mother is a privilage not a right...
It's a responsibility.
@@LoganLS0 Historicly privilige always came with dutise so I think it is fitting.
My mother abandoned my sister and I to live with some guy who was almost 20 years younger, in a different country. On New Years Eve. Now that her fling has his green card, he's going to his real wife, and she wants to move in with me to save on rent. I'm conflicted because at the end of the day that's my mom, but its just crazy how women act and then try to justify their actions thru emotional manipulation. I've forgiven a lot but I'm just feeling obligated to support someone who betrayed my trust.
This tale is more common than you’d think. At the end of the day, your feelings are your own, and as long as you can sleep well at night, that’s enough.
Typical. Breaks up a whole family to "find herself" and then expects to come back like nothing happened.
Chasing the wild life that ex.
Just remember even if you fell in love with that person, doesn't mean your interest will be the same and always clash.
The simple of life and enjoy it is with the people you love family and friends
They only come back after they have burned all their other bridges.
More likely after they’ve been used and abused
@@comparecards5688and she also did the same thing , using her family as the last resort and abusing her authority as a mother. This wouldn't have happen she wasn't a piece of human trash in the first place
@@comparecards5688That is actually statistically likely to have happened, it’s statistically proven that lesbian relationships have the highest spousal abuse rate of all relationship types
@@gagefallon1566 That has been proven to be a myth,nice try.
@@irochristodoulou6505Nice try, it's statistical proven you bafoon
Your doing the right thing, get that restraining order before your ex loses it and try's to hurt the girls or kidnap them, be strong.
Forgiving a woman is just a pass for her to do the same shit all over again in the future.
Good thing the OP and neither of his daughters are falling into that trap.
Imagine being a grown ass adult and not knowing who you are as a person 😂
Women never are grown up. They don't mature beyond a 14 year old
Parents who abandon their children are evil, straight up. You have no idea how much damage you're doing to your child. And there is absolutely nothing you can do to undo the damage once your conscience catches up with you.
What a crazy person. Married already yet still decided to act frivolously with no regards to the consequences of her actions. Then decided to act pitiful even after all the hurt she caused.
My empathy stands with the man.
I went through something a little different but I know how you and your girls feel...stay strong...
4:06 why is bro assaulting innocent civilians 😂😂😂
That was such an awesome dad here. Really respect it. The daughters feelings were definitely justified here. How could the ex wife leave them just like that and if it's bad enough? She threw out any way of contact when she left originally.
I respect this dad for what he did to keep his family going. Bravo dude ♥ 🐀
She can never be forgiven she abandoned her family.
We men are way to forgiving when it comes to women.
I want more stories like this. Im tired of hearing about deadbeat/criminal/abusive fathers. Lets hear some good examples and role models of fathers who despite all the BS that life throws their way still want to give their children the world.
I also realized, you notice how th ex keeps trying to use the kids as a scapegoat? Never once did she ever talk about how hurt she made the husband feel depressed and lost, it was always just the kids. She was sneaky with it, cause once she gets the support of the children then its all over.
The “consolation prize” thing was very insightful.
It's not harsh. Get the restraining order and try to go on with life with your daughters. You obviously do a great job as a parent. Your ex is just trying to deal with her guilt. Don't let her off the hook. She deserves to suffer. A mother leaving her children is incredibly selfish. Stay strong and think about your precious daughters.
She’s an adult woman and yet she hasn’t figured herself out by then?
I knew a guy who went through the same, but he had seven kids when his wife left him for a woman. Luckily, he was the breadwinner of the family.
Dads like this are inspiring, going through a divorce, depression and financial hardship and still he strapped up his pants for his daughters and carried the family.
Some people are selfish beyond believe. When you put your personal desires above your children, you don't deserve compassion.
“I did no contacts because I deleted all the numbers”
Yeah, that is definitely a blocker in a world of social networks.
Your sexuality is no excuse to step out of your kids’ lives
I went through a similar situation but my mom never came back. OPs mom figure is just like mine, narcissistic. Everything in her life has to be about “her” and “her happiness”. As I got older, she would try to justify it by saying she was “depressed and in a dark place, blah blah blah”. 3 children left with a full time working dad.
Needless to say, I don’t call her my mom, even all these years later.
If the mother said she wasn't happy and is filing for divorce, didn't give her reasoning and just ended the marriage. Then ended up in a relationship with this other woman all the while keeping her relationship with her children, she'd of still had her kids in her life. But she made a conscious choice. She chose a stranger over her children. Fingers crossed those kids remember that for all time. About how their dad stuck by them and that this miserable muff diver has no place with them.
Kudos to those outstanding daughters.
I hope things go well for them moving forward.
I can't be absolutly sure this is a true story, however i'm 100% sure a man like that exists, and a woman like that exists too
It’s not “poisoning” If you were never there and straight up abandon them. It’s the consequences of your own actions
Old story heard many times before
I don't care if you're gay or straight, you don't leave your kids for "exploring your sexuality" period. You're free to divorce, but never leave your kids behind
Single fathers and father's are the best and should get the kids God bless u and your girls .
I usually listen to the video every day while doing housework, your story is very good
"So you're telling me that all of the sudden you aren't gay anymore?"
" Kris Tyson " ahh situation !!!
The kids are really smart. They knew the mother was extremely selfish. I know stories similar to this except the mother is still in the lives of her kids. This leads me to believe there is more to her story.
Ouch. The daughter asking if he would leave them like mum is so sad.
Being a parent is about sacrifice, not about me, me, me, my happiness first. You create a life, you go all the way in, you don't get second thought.
Now this is a CHAD OF A DAD holy fuck you are my hero dude. That's a huge fear of mine, so you going through it AND coming out of this stronger!
Your wife has more red flags than the Chinese consulate
She definitely cheated for a long time
She sucks for leaving him and *THEIR* kids alone and then coming back after years while thinking that she could just waltz back into their life
Your ex-wife is messed up in the head and you don't want her around poisoning your daughters. She didn't care about them enough to stay in contact, she chose the carpet over them.
I have 3 kids (I say kids but one is 20) I couldn't even imagine what it would mean to leave my kids no contact. The 13 year old was right.
If you take her back , it will be a Huge mistake
This video made me realize why I never actually finished Spider-Man. I would just start swinging around the city and never get anything in the game done
Trying to figure out who you are doesn’t mean you have to leave your kids behind.
I’m of the mindset that once you have children, that is your life. Do what you want and leave your ex, but leaving your children that’s different.
nah my man, that is not harsh. This story sparks so much joy for me, because ive dealth with several families of friends who one parent also decided to bail and then returned like nothing ever happened.
The same thing happened to me but flip the genders. My dad had tons of problems and didn’t even want me at first. He was a drunk, a drug dealer/user, he was violent at times(but rarely to my mother), and all this amplified when I was born. The tipping point however, when she broke up with him and got the restraining order, is when they were arguing and I tried to step in to intervene when I was like three! Since then I was allowed to see him once a week but it was more like once every two weeks. According to my mom he didn’t want a lot to do with me but whenever I visited him he never got violent, he never neglected me, I was very self entertained and our relationship was actually very close. Years go by my dad got a new girlfriend and my mom got a new boyfriend. Years go by once again and I turn 13-ish, so while mom breaks up with the boyfriend after like ten-ish years I spent a month at my dads place while he packed everything up. And apparently in which two years prior he actively decided to have a baby, who I hated. I was born with major sensory problems and later on was diagnosed with light autism, and this child loved me. She loved playing with me, and messing with me, and hitting me, and pulling my hair, and spitting on me, and screaming CONSTANTLY during my almost one month of hell while she(my mom) packed. Two days before the month was up I. Was. Miserable. from being tortured by my stepsister(who I won’t name, I love her now) so I called my mom on my flip phone and said “Please pick me up, I don’t want to be here anymore. I don’t care if I haft to help pack just please pick me up!” and the next day she did. That was my last fading memory of my dad for three years until during my dojo lessons I get the strangest call, my dad wanted to reconnect. I was in a different state at that point so I told my mom about it and so she called him up, talked and he was being genuine. During my time away from dad he had developed an advanced form of diabetes, he and my mom both knew that his time was running short so for his final few years I came over to visit him and he really turned over a new leaf. He made SO MANY FRIENDS, he worked at a bar, he genuinely cared about his daughter and me, and did his best to be a better man, a better dad. Sadly however on his last day, the next day I was so excited to see him, he had passed quietly into the night from food allergies. When I look back on my dad I see a man who did wrong and spent what little time he had repairing the damage he caused, and then after seeing that he had reconnected with his son and made thing right, I think that allowed him to pass on peacefully. I hold my father highly as a redeemed man, not a perfect man, but one who made the struggle to be better and followed through. May he continue to be at peace.
I am open to any and all comments regarding this short story. I hold no secrets, and will do my best to answer each question.
Tbh, your story doesn't sound that similar with the vid. At least you kept up some contact with your dad for a while, minimal it may be, and at least your dad at least put his best effort into self-improvement.
@@mauwus4322 yeah, I more so wanted to get it off my chest more than anything tbh.
Children who suffers from deep emotional wounds would either close up their hearts or mature too quickly. Both of these a compensation to protect they psyche from breaking down and will result in mental and social issues as adults. There was no description on how his children are doing in their lives other than from the perspective of the father, but I wouldn't put them out of the way of professional counseling since what the two sisters experience was extremely huge mental and social trauma.
Hear! Hear! 👏👏👏👏👏
If this happens to you- guys- get out of town. Have your mail forwarded to a PO Box. Don't let any of your mutual friends know where you live. Then move again, a year later. If you can't do all that, then at least get out of your state. Get a Restraining Order on the ex.