What's really bothering me is dealing with my own critisism about myself and everything i do. No one can hurt my feelings as much as myself. I restart to play the guitar after a 15 years break so basically restarting from zero. And i used to draw for 3 years before, never been good enough to me so i quit and i regret it everyday and yet i can't find the strenght to go back at it. I really don't like the sensation of realising how much skills i lost because i've worked so hard to gain them. This is an awful sensation. Anyway hopefully i will draw again soon. I also wanted to tell you Mark that you are a wonderful person. I've discovered you via SBSK video where you tell your Life story and all you've been through. You trully are inspiring man, thank you for being who you are and trying to help people. You make the world a better place. Greetings from France.
@@user-wk7ve9bh4s well thank you so much. I'm glad you could make it here from SBSK. And even cooler that you're in France and I'm reaching you. But yeah, I totally feel you. I also have a lot of my own harsh self criticism that I take way too seriously. But after just knowing myself for so long I try to ignore that criticism and no i'm a perfectionist just being harsh on myself. i'm very glad you did pick up the guitar again. And shitty if you gave up a drawing, but I'm glad you want to bring it back. You seem like a strong willed person and I think if it's something you want you will be able to start doing it. Just remember, it's cool that you're aware your criticism is harsh on yourself, don't let your criticism stop you from doing things. Cause It can just give you another reason to criticize yourself. But good luck in your future with Music and with drawing.
@@markehlert979 Thank you for the repply Mark. You are so right, letting my criticism to stop me is indeed another reason to criticise myself. It's fuel to it. Criticism directed toward ourselves feeds on itself. The only way to stop it from growing is to stop feeding it. Easier said than done but this is the only way. Even if it is was hard to take the decision then buy and even go to the store to pick up the guitar again i'm glad i did it because it helps me to let go for a moment. And i kinda made peace with not being very good at it. It's okay as long as i have fun at it. Hopefully i will pick up the pencils again, weirdly they seem way heavier to pick up than a guitar. Thank you again for your kindness Mark. My name is Edward by the way. I precise it because i know your name so it's normal for you to know mine. Makes it fair to me. And yeah it's pretty cool to know that internet can connect people from all over the world. I wish you and the people you love the best and a wonderful Christmas if you celebrate it. And of course a happy new year in advance ! Have a wonderful day man. It made me happy to have this little conversation with you. Merci encore. ( i've no idea if you know some French so it means : thank you again )
@@user-wk7ve9bh4s and thank you Edward. Merry Christmas to yourself as well. Because yes, I do celebrate. I do consider myself Catholic. and thanks also for telling me your name. Cause that can make our conversation more personal. And you're welcome. I'm also very grateful for this conversation and to get to know you. But yes, the self criticism can be very perpetual. It's easy to fall in that negative thinking Loop and beat ourselves up farther and farther. but it's most important when we become aware and start to recognize us doing it so we can stop ourselves and just remind ourselves it's our own criticism and not to take it too seriously. That's when we try to notate some of the good things about it and what we're doing. very cool, thank you for sharing. Because no, can't say that I do know too much French. But when I was 17 I did take a trip to Paris France where I stayed for a little over a week. That's where I got my first tattoo. And before leaving I did study a French dictionary for a while just to remember a few Phrases to be able to get by. But I was pretty shocked when getting to Europe how fluent everyone spoke English
@@rebeccapeters816 yeah, funny. Because when I was uploading this video adding it to my playlists, my intent versus impact playlist came up, and I thought that could be a great way to approach this video.
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This is good advice Mark. Good stuff
What's really bothering me is dealing with my own critisism about myself and everything i do.
No one can hurt my feelings as much as myself.
I restart to play the guitar after a 15 years break so basically restarting from zero.
And i used to draw for 3 years before, never been good enough to me so i quit and i regret it everyday and yet i can't find the strenght to go back at it. I really don't like the sensation of realising how much skills i lost because i've worked so hard to gain them.
This is an awful sensation.
Anyway hopefully i will draw again soon.
I also wanted to tell you Mark that you are a wonderful person.
I've discovered you via SBSK video where you tell your Life story and all you've been through.
You trully are inspiring man, thank you for being who you are and trying to help people.
You make the world a better place.
Greetings from France.
@@user-wk7ve9bh4s well thank you so much. I'm glad you could make it here from SBSK. And even cooler that you're in France and I'm reaching you. But yeah, I totally feel you. I also have a lot of my own harsh self criticism that I take way too seriously. But after just knowing myself for so long I try to ignore that criticism and no i'm a perfectionist just being harsh on myself. i'm very glad you did pick up the guitar again. And shitty if you gave up a drawing, but I'm glad you want to bring it back. You seem like a strong willed person and I think if it's something you want you will be able to start doing it. Just remember, it's cool that you're aware your criticism is harsh on yourself, don't let your criticism stop you from doing things. Cause It can just give you another reason to criticize yourself. But good luck in your future with Music and with drawing.
@@markehlert979 Thank you for the repply Mark.
You are so right, letting my criticism to stop me is indeed another reason to criticise myself.
It's fuel to it.
Criticism directed toward ourselves feeds on itself.
The only way to stop it from growing is to stop feeding it.
Easier said than done but this is the only way.
Even if it is was hard to take the decision then buy and even go to the store to pick up the guitar again i'm glad i did it because it helps me to let go for a moment.
And i kinda made peace with not being very good at it. It's okay as long as i have fun at it.
Hopefully i will pick up the pencils again, weirdly they seem way heavier to pick up than a guitar.
Thank you again for your kindness Mark.
My name is Edward by the way. I precise it because i know your name so it's normal for you to know mine. Makes it fair to me.
And yeah it's pretty cool to know that internet can connect people from all over the world.
I wish you and the people you love the best and a wonderful Christmas if you celebrate it.
And of course a happy new year in advance !
Have a wonderful day man.
It made me happy to have this little conversation with you.
Merci encore. ( i've no idea if you know some French so it means : thank you again )
@@user-wk7ve9bh4s and thank you Edward. Merry Christmas to yourself as well. Because yes, I do celebrate. I do consider myself Catholic. and thanks also for telling me your name. Cause that can make our conversation more personal. And you're welcome. I'm also very grateful for this conversation and to get to know you. But yes, the self criticism can be very perpetual. It's easy to fall in that negative thinking Loop and beat ourselves up farther and farther. but it's most important when we become aware and start to recognize us doing it so we can stop ourselves and just remind ourselves it's our own criticism and not to take it too seriously. That's when we try to notate some of the good things about it and what we're doing. very cool, thank you for sharing. Because no, can't say that I do know too much French. But when I was 17 I did take a trip to Paris France where I stayed for a little over a week. That's where I got my first tattoo. And before leaving I did study a French dictionary for a while just to remember a few Phrases to be able to get by. But I was pretty shocked when getting to Europe how fluent everyone spoke English
Criticism versus a helpful critique!
@@rebeccapeters816 yeah, funny. Because when I was uploading this video adding it to my playlists, my intent versus impact playlist came up, and I thought that could be a great way to approach this video.
Good video and message!
This is good advice Mark. Good stuff