Why? vs Why Not? (And WHY I don't use WHY in the decluttering process)
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- Years ago, I had a mindset shift when a conversation with a friend revealed one big difference between how I viewed stuff and my home and the way she viewed stuff and her home. I'm sharing that shift, and how my five step decluttering process helps me finally have an answer to my own question of "Why not?" I also explain why the word "Why?" is harmful when helping others declutter.
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These videos are so useful in helping someone with early-stage dementia declutter. "Why do you need this?" questions lead to an overwhelming sense of confusion and loss, whereas "where would you look for this first?" takes us over to the container, and the container makes a decision for us. Thank you!
This totally resonated with me. A few years ago, I realized just because something is cool and interesting doesn’t mean I have to acquire it.
me too! it's really freeing now looking at things in the store and whatnot, and not buying them. Like enjoying a beautiful sunset or wild flowers, etc.
Yes! Now I ask myself - where will this live in my home and it usually doesn't come home. Success!
Yeeesss!
I learned a long time ago that if I say, “oh, that’s cute!”, it does not mean I want it. And I’ve let my loved ones know that if they hear me say, “oh, that’s cute,” PLEASE DO NOT make a mental note of it as a gift. It’s worked wonderfully! (Now, “Ooo, I really like/love that” is still a problem, but I’m working on it. 😂)
Or if its beautiful, or i like it. I don't have to OWN it to enjoy or appreciate it!
I need you to know, you are saving my home and giving me the tools to restore PEACE here. Using your "Better is Good" mantra has changed EVERYTHING. I don't know why, but it was the total key. THANK YOU DANA!!!
For me it was ‘You can keep anything; you just can’t keep everything.” Game changer. That and the lids on the Tupperware.
"Better is good" my daughter, dil (daughter- n-law) and I love this saying!
YES! Just telling myself to make it Better has been a game changer for me!
OMG. This helped so much in understanding why my Mom refused to let go of anything when my sister and I were trying to help her declutter her home. We both kept asking ‘why do you need this’ or ‘why do you still have this’. She has duplicates, and sometimes even triplicates, of things, but always had a reason why she needs to have that many. Lesson learned for me.
Dana, I started watching you recently on the recommendation of Dawn @ The Minimal Mom and I am binge watching all your videos because I'm getting ready to move into a new house and I don't want to bring my habits with me.
I have to say of all the decluttering, organizing, minimalist videos I've watched this is the first time I've heard strategy from someone who thinks like I do and it has been transformative!!
I love how you do it all with humor so I get to laugh along the way! 😆
Thank you again Dana for being the one Jesus chose to show a 68yr old that her mindset could be changed 👍It's slow but definitely sure! Be blessed mxxx
@Mary I love this! God is so good!
He used Dana's greatest struggle and turned it into a tool to help her change and grow and to also allow her to break down the steps and be able to teach it to us, so that we can change and grow too!! Thank You Father!🙏
Thank you Dana for being willing to put yourself out there and to be used by God.
The not asking why takes away the judge mental tone….I 💖it.
Yes... when asked why and feeling judged, people tend to provide an answer in the form of justifications! If you ask someone why they have something, they'll come up with several reasons to keep it and you actually make it harder for them to declutter it.
Because of you I can now enjoy browsing and enjoying pretty things like you would in an art gallery. I don’t need to own everything I admire. I went shopping yesterday. I bought one pretty coffee mug (I had over-decluttered and had none for coffee in the morning), one baby gift, and one earring trinket box to replace one I had decluttered and regretted ($4). That may sound like a spree to some but I have definitely stuck to the one in one out rule. My clutter threshold is extremely low. And I’m still working on clothes. Onward and upward! Thanks Dana.
Wow, I never realized I’m a “why not” person! It really is a hard habit to break to stop bringing things home because they’re cool or pretty or just because I like them. It’s beef for me to stay out of stores, especially thrift stores (which are my favorite!) Now I only go if I have specific item I’m looking for to fill a need. And I usually end up putting some of the cool “why not” items back on the shelf before I check out.
Looking so forward to our Salvation Army getting drivers back again and picking up the many things I have on my front porch. It will be a happy day!
I always thought Dawn (the minimal mom) was super inspired and that I had learned pretty much everything I needed to know about decluttering and then she introduced me to you and you have a whole new set of inspired thoughts/ways for me to glean from. My brain works like yours and I'm so grateful you've figured out your crap and shared your insights with the rest of us. Blessings to you Dana
I have become a "why?" person after way too many years of "why not?" Thank you for helping me see that asking my husband and daughter "why?" is making the decluttering process more difficult for them. You have such awesome insights!
Wow, this really resonates with me. I need to separate emotion. I am very sentimental and struggle with some things.
I am so grateful to you for being so transparent with us! And the humor 🤣 is an added bonus! I am on the road in the decluttering journey. I long to be able to manage my life and home!
You shared the extreme difference in thinking when each of us consider acquiring things.
Asking the questions in your process enables the person to take responsibility for their possessions. It empowers them to move forward successfully.
My most loved people are attracted to ‘shineys’ 🤩 :) many things qualify as wonderful, could/would be useful, very cool.
The word why will no longer be asked when helping someone declutter or purchase.
Loved the end when you were a ventriloquist (talking through your teeth) cooperating with Reid for editing! 💕🍁🎥🦉
This is so great! Also, your container concept has changed my life! Just spent the past 2 weeks decluttering every single day! SO much has left my home and now I’m actually appreciating and loving the spaces in my home instead of complaining about their size!❤️🙏🏻 thank you!
Awesome! I've been drowning in the"Why not?" camp for SO long! Your process is a perfect fit to my 🧠 brain! TY
❤keep 'em coming Dana, love hearing all your reasoning. Thank you.
Your five steps took us the rest of the way with decluttering because it made sense yo both of us. I watch you because of your sass snd your no nonsense approach. I don’t want pinterest worthy i want functionality and easier to clean and find stuff. Love the credits!!!
I had to go back and watch the credits because of this comment, so funny! Loved it. Love your sense of humor, Dana.💜💜💜😁
YES!! I am def a “why not” kind of gal, unfortunately. I had not thought about it like that and it makes sense how so much stuff has accumulated in my house over the years. I am not really a shopper but I have always accepted pretty much anything that someone has offered me because I could ALWAYS see the POTENTIAL of pretty much anything. I am learning to be much more intentional about what I bring into my home. I have also donated multiple van loads of things that added nothing to my current life except frustration. This was a fantastic video Dana!! ❤️
YES! though I have always "been a shopper" and find joy in shopping with others who may dread the task, or need help with it (I have lots of introvert friends, or those who suffer with crowds, etc, or lack parental guidance).. But through Dana's videos (and other helpful people like the Minimal Mom, ClutterBug, A to Zen Life, and But First Coffee) I have changed my own mindset, along with my main "shopping buddy". I have had the opportunity to test myself, and for the last 8 months, I have hardly bought anything at all. When one of us sees something we like, I initiate a conversation about it - yes it is cute, or yes I do love it... but neither of us NEEEEEED it - or we don't have the space for it... or it doesn't QUITE fit right... (applying the "if it's not an absolute YES, it's a NO" concept) and someone else may need or love it even more, so the item can stay here at the store for THEM instead. lol. It has been life-changing!
Clearly Reid inherited the funny gene! Another great video y’all 😆 Also, the why/why not explanation… more gold! You’re an awesome teacher, thank you! Seriously, time spent with you is always well spent 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
I really appreciated how you put it in the context of helping a loved one declutter, because not only am I working on decluttering, I’m also helping my kids declutter, and I need to be mindful of what I’m saying to them as I help them so they feel empowered by the process. Thank you Dana!
When family was here this summer, my sister and daughter were the last to leave. The day before, they asked if there was anything I needed help with. So we started going through my closet. I'm not really mobile so my daughter helped me try things on as my sister brought them out. I had gotten rid of the first 20 things I had already set aside. When I started saying yes to things, my sister started asking "WHY". As you said, this caused some problems. Thankfully my daughter stepped in and she let my sister know my answers. It started getting better and going much faster. Asking WHY definitely doesn't help. Thanks for this video.
YES! I've been on the decluttering train for several years. I'm 58 now and just last year did this finally .and sense to me that I don't need to bring home everything that I liked or cute,,mindblowng!
I get it now! I have asked the same why question too many times. My 19 year old (high functioning autistic with a bit of OCD) sees treasure in EVERYTHING! Why gets me nowhere, in fact, he becomes more possessive of those items. My 14 year old daughter is a crafter, needle arts, clay, paint, cross stitch, paper crafts,.... ALL OF IT! Why again gets the why not response. This is so helpful!
PROGRESS!!!
I wouldn't say my declutter-hesitant hubby is a convert yet, but he did voluntarily declutter a couple of things. Yay!
How did I get him to do it? Gently and accidentally.
I told him a couple of weeks ago that I wanted us to eventually transfer his items from cardboard boxes into the plastic bins I was planning to empty.
A few days later, he came home from work while I was decluttering in the garage. I mentioned my goal again and casually pointed out his cardboard boxes, which are collapsing. I mentioned that his stuff will be more protected in the bins.
A few days after that, I was decluttering in the garage again and I asked him if he could take a couple of minutes to help me transfer his stuff from one of his boxes into an empty bin.
I could tell he enjoyed looking at his things and sharing memories as we moved the stuff over. At one point, without prompting, he told me what something was and said he didn't need it, I could put it with my giveaway stuff. Surprise! I didn't expect that. Then he found something else he didn't need to keep. Small items, but hey, every little bit makes the load lighter.
It wasn't long before I sensed it was getting difficult, though. This was new to him, and I didn't want him to feel pressured or to become even more resistant to letting go in the future, so I said, "Just because you're going through stuff, doesn't mean you have to get rid of anything, but just because you own something, doesn't mean you have to keep it either." That seemed to make it a little easier for him to continue and enjoy the process and the memories.
He ended up keeping most of the stuff, but the fact that he let go of anything at all was progress. Luckily, everything he kept fit into the bin, so I didn't need to bring up the container concept 😳...baby steps.
Thanks, Dana! I'm a "Why not?" girl married to a "Why not?" guy.
But now I know to say, "No way!"
Melinda! I wrote down your quote of what you said to your husband… SO GOOD!!! Thank you. It is so full of grace and kindness. I really appreciate you taking the time to comment and share these words 🥰
@@Ann.shecopeswithhope Aww! Thank you for letting me know. 😊 ❤💐
@@Ann.shecopeswithhope BTW...❤"Be" is a verb!
Congratulations on the time going down memory lane with your husband! And getting the project done! I wonder...what is your next project plan with your husband?! Inquiring minds want to know.
@@tamarapace3036 Thanks! I enjoyed just watching him enjoy it.
He has several more boxes of stuff in the garage and in the basement to go through, but I have to tread lightly so I don't spook him. My plan is to continue decluttering my own stuff and let his decluttering happen organically, either on his own or just as this box happened.
Showing him that I'm keeping my word and I'm not decluttering his stuff is important to his trusting and opening up to the process. I could have just moved his stuff into the bin, slapped a label on it, and told him afterward, but the box was heavy and it was his stuff, so I asked him to help me. I honestly thought we'd just move all of it over and be done with it because he prefers to work alone (maybe because he's an only child). I was genuinely surprised at how it played out. I kept that surprise to myself, let him go at his own pace, and didn't say much. I didn't make a big deal when he let something go, but after he did let the first couple of things go, I listened and watched for cues. Some things, I knew he would want to keep, but other things, I would ask: Do you want to keep that? Sometimes he said 'yes'; sometimes he said 'no'. I never decided for him. I wanted it to be non-threatening, comfortable, and pleasant so maybe he'll do it again. When I sensed it got difficult for him, I let him know it's okay to keep his stuff if he wants to, but I also gave him permission to let it go.
He said a quiet 'I know'. I could see a subtle shift and he continued. When we were done, I showed him where to put the bin and thanked him for helping me.
I think that's important too. I think he saw it as helping me. He doesn't care about the mess. He doesn't even see it as a mess. But he knows how important it is to me to get things more under control. Plus, knowing he can keep all of his stuff if he chooses to is important. He's just helping me and he's getting a better storage container.
I have another empty bin waiting, so fingers crossed he'll be ready for another trip down memory lane today. ❤ If not, I will always cherish the one I got.
Love her books! Yesterday, we dumped all 9 shelved storage cubbies out on the living room floor. I set a timer for 15 minutes and told my kids (8,4,3) they had that time frame to put all their favorites into a bin (each kid has 3 bins). We did the “15 minute cleanup” and threw out 2 diaper boxes full of junk afterwards. We did save 2 extra bins that can be stored in the boys’ room and rotated out weekly.
I want to do this every month now if not every week!
It was so freeing and really made the toy corner look lighter and neater!
Now we can set the timer every day for a 10-15 minute cleanup (working up to 5 minutes) and it doesn’t allow for questioning - only action - but it’s effective and it gets the kids racing to get it cleaned up. Yay!
The timer didn’t allow for
And it’s doable for their attention spans! And they can accomplish it themselves! And they got to keep their favorites.
Daycares have the Clean Up song. In the song it says 'everybody' .
Dana, not only are you smart and creative - but you are very entertaining. You have such a great sense of humour. You are very funny. I actually Laugh out loud, by myself!
Love your thought processes! This makes so much sense and avoids places where people normally get stuck in decision-making.
You have an insight into my brain! A lightbulb moment for me was FINALLY realizing that just because something was cute/cool/fun doesn’t mean I need to bring it home!
Reid is without a doubt the funniest person on the internet. Love your system, love your talk, but TOTALLY love the end comments by Reid. THANKS!!
Haha!! You totally cracked me up at the end with your ventriloquist talking thru the teeth! But great video. I am guilty of asking my hubby A LOT “why are you keeping this?” Backfires every time.
This will help me so much when working with others in the family. Thank you! Also, love the ending of the video and how he left all of it in.
Dana, thank you for mentioning the fact that the whole family might not have the same mindset. My husband is great at "why not". We have provided free rent to boxes of stuff for years! For 25 years we moved from base to base (military) with these boxes. We are retired now and moved into our new home. I opened boxes that had wedding gifts in them! We recieved 4 knife sets. I'm still using the first set (thank you mom and dad) with 3 sets still in packaging! I feel like bashing my head on some days. All that I can do is take control of my personal belongings and hope my husband likes what he sees. He doesn't understand why we would get rid of something that we might need. We do have plenty of storage but...really? Could you do a video that might give us some tips we can use to be helpful (like not asking a question that puts our loved one in a defensive position) in getting our inventory under control? It helps me when you explain the way your mind processes "things". I'm so tired of keeping track of all of our "stuff".
Loved the credits! I hope that we get to meet you one day, Reid.
Maybe get minimum containers for SOME stuff and gently set up stations sort of and ask him. "This or this? The Rubbermaid container only holds one." Do that with lots of things. He may get annoyed or just bored of it and let you take over ;)
Thank you, Tara! I'll have to decide what my end goal is for my house. I guess I just don't know what my clutter threshold is. We have the space, I am just over too much inventory. It makes my head hurt trying to keep track of everything. When the kids were home and I was younger I must have had a bigger threshold or I was too busy being a mommy.
Ask your pastor if the church have storage for donating to families who lost their homes in a fire..
@@tamarapace3036 I have an idea. If you have plenty of storage, is there any way you can just put away the things you don't want to deal with but he doesn't want to get rid of? Make your home useable and accessible for you, and then put the "extras" away for now. Call it a quarantine. But at this point if he's not open to decluttering it out of the house, you might consider the storage space as his container. He can keep whatever fits in there, even if you wouldn't keep it. And then let it be, and let him manage it. If he realizes that he needs some of those things out, help him find a place for it that works. I think you might be trying to take too big and too fast steps for his personality. As someone who matches more closely to him, that's my advice.
@@sarahmitchell9366 Thank you so much! I am taking on too much. The container! Oh my gosh 🙃how did I keep forgetting, "the container"!?! The garage and attic...he can have! Funny thing is...he'll cart anything that I ask to to the donations center! I am very grateful that I haven't pushed him to declutter only because I am decluttering. Thank you so much! Everyone!
LOVE you Reid! 😊 you're the BEST! 🤣
Do you know how often I ask myself "where would I look first" for something I can't find -- and that question helps me to find it? I am not your most diligent student; I am always testing (I can't seem to declutter my collection of containers!) but your work helps me every day. I have had to stop trying to teach other people your ideas. This why/why not idea gives me the OPTION to say "why?" instead of "why not." Never occurs to me to think of things like a choice. It's like the things have all the power.
You have helped me so much!!! This video was spot on for what I just went through when decluttering more. Having no attachment to my stuff is so freeing!!!! I now have a healthier thought process because of you!!! Can't thank you enough!!! Your processes really worked and works for me!!! I so love your scents of humor!!!!
I unexpectedly found you a couple of weeks ago and I have to tell you my world and home have changed drastically for the good of course. I bought decluttering at the speed of life. I am watching all you videos and decluttering spaces, my mantra has changed from why can't I organize like everyone else to this is my container and Better really is Good. You speak my language and I finally have guilt free sanity. Thank you
Very helpful! I’ve been asking the wrong questions to those I’ve been wanting to declutter their stuff.
To me, “why” and “why not” rank up there with “Should” and “Shouldn’t “. Judgy words that automatically put us on the defensive.
I get this. I'm sure that's some of my thinking, too. Why shouldn't I keep this?
Viscera is Latin for “guts,” or intestines. So yes, when you feel something deep in your gut, you are having a “gut reaction,” or a visceral one.
“Some men see things as they are and ask why; others dream of things as they could be, and ask, “Why Not?” (George Bernard Shaw)
I’m a fellow “why not” person, and I loved this video.
Great video! As I declutter my house, I will remember why not to use 'why' & 'why not'. Thank you!
Dana, I always love your take and suggestions. Everything you say resonates with me. I’ve read two of your books - Decluttering at the Speed of Life and How to Manage Your Home without Losing Your Mind - which were both awesome, and yet I’m still stuck. I have a hard time letting go of things. I have major container issues, meaning things are overflowing in my home. I don’t have spaces to put things. In fairness, we live in a condominium, and we have inadequate storage space and no garage! But still I know I have major attachment issues. I don’t even get rid of years old receipts because when I come across them they remind me of an event or special time.
Last week, I donated a box of my daughter’s toys that I’d been collecting in a box to donate. Even though I knew my daughter didn’t care about the items, I texted her a picture and asked her if these items were okay to donate to our doorman’s 5 year old daughter. My daughter said yes. But when she came home from school, she told me that she had showed the picture of the items I donated to her friend and then that friend said she wants the Monster High pillow that was in the pile. 😳 This has thrown me into a bit of regret and despair for donating it to someone who didn’t know about its existence, as I would would have loved to give it to my daughter’s friend. Her friend is super nice! If I had only known... 🤦♀️
Anyway, last year I purchased your class with Dawn the Minimalist Mom and Cassey the Clutter Bug. I didn’t get through the course. 😭
I don’t know what to do but I’m overwhelmed. Do you do consults? I live in NJ. Thanks.
I loved this one. At first I was just fascinated to see how you were thinking and why "why?" didn't work for you, but then I found myself in this. I realized I want to declutter a lot of things, but I will go through this little mental thing -- which isn't exactly why keep this -- but like you said, "Why not keep this?" And boy can I ever come up with a reason, or three, about instantly. Today I did this with something I really wanted to declutter, and ended up walking away from it, disgusted with myself for my weakness. It was a dollar store item!!! Yikes... Anyway, thank you, again, Dana!
Brilliant. What a perspective shift. Huge penny dropped here. Thank you so much. ❤
This is 200% me and my decluttering has ground to a halt because I’m still stuck in “why not” mode. Thank you for the reminder that this is not an important question!
Live your channel, have read both of your books and am continuously blown away by how you explain things that I do that I never even realized were a thing. You have helped me to realize so many things about myself, find ways to improve them and I am so grateful to have found you!
Why? Mind blown. I will ask this with every item coming into my home. On a side note, how very ironic that an ad for Hobby Lobby popped up in the middle of this video. That should be illegal!
That’s great! Makes a lot of sense. I’m like you, I could (and have) justified ‘why?’ I’m also a ‘I may need that (someday). That’s what’s gotten me to my cluttered, overfilled house. I’m so ‘over’ it! Love your 5 steps!
Our brains are so alike. Thus, that is why I am following your 14 day clean up. I think you, think exactly the right way. I just never understood everyone else. And yes, I can just about multi-use about-EVERYTHING!(atleast 2-3 times).
Thankyou, my twin from some other momma!
Danielle
Dana, I love you! You are literally inside my mind and making improvements on me every week! THANK YOU!!! Reid, I love your editing style and sense of humor. Keep ‘em coming! Lol!
Wow I’m such a way not person! This is mind opening thank you 😊
Ty for helping me declutter! I love both of your books and all of your videos! Life changing is such terrific ways! 💝
you are clever and adorable and fullof wisdom. thank you Dana.
This is my aha moment. Love watching and listening to you. It makes so much sense. I would keep everything because why not.
I have tried for most of my life to figure out how to have an amazing, beautiful and organized home. My mom's home was always well kept and we never had any clutter. I could never reach her level but I managed to sorta make do. Then eight years ago I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia and I have fallen apart. I noticed that my home just kept getting worse because I no longer could pull off the all day cleaning I used to, which meant my clutter got to crazy level. The other reason was because I was no longer moving. I used to move every couple of years and when I did it I would do a massive declutter. Essentially I got rid of everything I owned other than what fit in my vehicle. For me to live in the same home for ten years means ten years of accumulated clutter.
When you said that the friend said why, my mind immediately started going......"it's pretty, to play with, to decorate with, to use for a future party"..... So this really resonated with me.
wonderfully honest. You've become my best friend because you clean and have a vivacious interesting personality, you've endeared me to you being honest. hugs for motivation!
Something that helps me is “ where would I put that?” 99 times out of a 100 I don’t get it.
I LOVE all your lil sayings...has helped me so much in my journey to declutter 25 years of accumulating.
“It’s not Harry Potter here” 😂😂😂 Thanks for all of your wonderful advice ❤️
"It's not Harry Potter in here." 😂 Love your channel have enjoyed seeing you progress in your journey. You talk sense girl 💕
I watch your content for me and education but totally heard my ex-husband in this because he was and came from a family of hoarders. I also think his right brain creative side was similar to yours in thinking of creative what ifs for things like a pinwheel in the garden. Thanks!
“This is not Harry Potter here” she says as I had just put down Harry Potter to watch this video lol. And my thought is instantly “why not?!”
So happy you're posting vids regularly 😉
I have too much. You have helped me. I’m not done but it is better
Visceral was a great word! Probably because you had to struggle to understand things, you are able to explain them so much better. This is a great concept, and very insightful. Thank you. I'm more of the "why?" person, but after 20 years, and 2 kids, we've accumulated so many things that now I'm becoming a decluttering fool. Thank you!
You are fun to watch! Wishing you every success in your journey 🙂
Every time I hear you talk about your previous self, I feel like you are describing my life. I'm absolutely the garage sale/thrift store girl, the person who wants to save everything that could be useful someday. You are helping end a lifelong struggle with clutter and stress! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!!
I resisted a why not. It was cute, so I took a picture of it with my phone. I am slowly but surely undoing years of hoarding. I'm trying not to be too hard on myself, but I'm still sickened by what I've done here. I keep telling myself that better is good. If I can't handle another minute of cleaning, I look at what little I have done and declare that it's better. It's getting there!
I'm happy to hear that you're saying "better is good." It's helping me also. Keep up the good work at your own pace. 😁👍
@@lindastewart4565 Yes! We will get through it! One of the worst parts for me is trying to forgive myself for letting it get out of hand. I don't think I learned pick-up techniques that worked for me and I got too discouraged and left it alone. Now, it's one piece at a time.
@@dracofirex Getting discouraged always gets in my way. I do the same with the guilt and now that I'm not so mobile I always have to wait for help and that's most annoying.
I love every video and book from you! This one really was a wow for me! 😮
The ending, hilarious!
Dana… you’re freaking adorable & amazing! Thank you for being you! Love&light from California 💗💗
"But it's only a dollar or 2, and it's so cute, I'm sure I can find somewhere to put it!" Now: "Oh that's so cute.........and cheap! Wait, where am I gonna put this? What am I willing to get rid of so that I can buy this? Total 360 in my thought process thanks to you Dana
Yes long enough 😂 and great thinking! So helpful. Going to watch it again right now.
Love the ending 🤣🤣🤣
ughhhhhhhh. DANA. WHYYYYY did you have to speak directly to my guilt?!?! LOL.
Love you so much!!!
Thank you.🤣🤣🤣
AH no, I am a SUCKER for cute, funky and unusual. But it's a great point- just because you like it doesn't mean you should own it. I do great with this idea with wall/home decor and kitchen junk and fail fail FAIL when it come to clothing and especially jewelry!
Hello Dana this was perfect. 💕NonnaGrace
I found that I had 5 first aide kits in various areas of my small apartment. I'm going to keep the best one/put the newest ointments in it and donate the others. I do have a to donate area near my door. My plan is to get a ride and take the stuff to the thrift stores.
Love the fact that you keep to the facts 😬🥰
Thank you so much for this video! Makes complete sense….yet….it never occurred to me NOT to just bring home everything I like.😂 BTW your skin is amazing!😁
I remember going to a Christmas concert a few years ago with my boyfriend. They offered me a program and I said "oh, I am ok thanks". My boyfriend was behind me and heard what I said. He later said to me "I NEVER would have thought of not taking the program. I didnt even think that was an option".
I was like, I just know I dont need it. It going to to say the first half, then intermission then the second half. Then I'll feel like I have to take it home. Then what, I'll just recycle it, if I remember to recycle it. Ugh. "I am ok thanks"
some concerts think to put a recycle bin by the exits, stationing a volunteer to point out the box for the first patron to exit that way.
A bit late, but I’m impressed!
I never buy concert programs and have to guess what they’re playing! Adds to the fun 😂
I bought some new shoes this week, and declined the box and the free fabric bag that came with. Nothing to declutter! 😊
@Rosy Wilson yes!!! WTG!
Really good points to ponder thank you! And good job getting to the point quicker!
Love this! Yes, that is a visceral reaction! 😊
I had the same exact mindset years ago, I loved cool stuff (according to me) especially vintage items, my ex-husband didn't like rummage sales I could never figure out why as I loved to go to them. now fast forward many cluttered years later I now live with all my unwise decisions and have to let go of a lot of cool things. sigh.
Your mind and mine work alike. Thank you for this video and your encouragement.
You are the first person who has helped me with how to let go of things with your questions.
I was taking a class from an organizer, and I called her excited to tell her I had convinced myself to get rid of some papers for unemployment. She must have misunderstood me, because by the time she stopped talking to me, she changed my mind, and I couldn't get rid of them.
Love you Dana
I have been using “why” a A LOT in this process and it’s mostly why did I buy this in the first place, and the answer has been “bye bye” to that question
I think I found my clutter threshold. I got a new job and inherited all of the materials in the previous SLP’s speech room/classroom. It was already clean and put together, and I still had to throw things out. I can only have about 3 pens, 2 pencils and 2 highlighters in my desk. It stays clean, but apparently I’m NoT aLLoWeD tO hAvE tHiNgS.
Im experiencing what it is like to live under your clutter threshold, but I’m mourning what this means for my house.
Very awesome subject! Thank you! And, yes wayyy too long before shutting off. 😂🤣🤗💞
I am so glad you are coming to Columbus, OH on Oct. 31. I have my ticket!
Oh yay!!!! Please say hi!
Oh! You are coming to Columbus, Ohio? Going to see if I can get a ticket!! Thank you, Cheryl for mentioning it!
@@DanaKWhite I hope to be able to!
Very helpful. You have helped me so much.
Oh gosh. This is awesome. ❤
Oh, the justification part. yep, that's me. i can make up my mind about getting rid of something and then someone will ask me a question about it, and somehow i will find a way to justify keeping it.
Love this!
Excellent video!
I can see where this mindset would often be a help. But some days all an oblivious, benignly cluttered person needs is for someone to ask why they have a certain thing, for them to reevaluate and realize they have no idea why it still lives in their house. Particularly if they already have many more things that do the same job. Really depends on the person, I think: there is no perfect one-size-fits-all rule.
If I'm shopping I ask myself "Where" as in "Where would I put this? Where would I look for this first?" And I try to picture my house and mentally use the container concept. Maybe there's an old one I know I need to get rid of and I can "one in one out". Maybe there isn't space for it and I decide I like what I already have in my house better.
Your make up looks great! 😊
Great video