Update: After listening to the entire podcast, I recognize that I have ruminated big time about a relationship that has shifted over the past five years. I need to let it go and make room for the possibility that it may come back around in the future, but I will be okay if it never does. It's hard for me to make friends, so losing one I hoped would be forever was painful. Thanks for dropping this gem, Chrystal.
This was so relatable I had to leave this message to let you know that it resonates with me. Allow me to squeeze on the “let it go” bench next to you, simultaneously saying, “Hi there nice meeting you.”
This happened to me in 2020, and it took me a year of sorrow, questioning myself, and placing blame on myself before I started to move forward. We were close since high school, and in our mid-50s when it ended. Yes, I kept overthinking everything she said in her very long text.🤦🏾♀️ Since then, I've been very intentional about the 5 friends whom I've chosen to keep in my personal circle.❤️
I had a friend that I met over 27 years ago. We became fast friends and I thought I could trust her and she'd never back stab. With my close friends, I keep shared things between I and that person. I dont spread their business....at all and I expected the same. So, I heard on numerous occasions that she was dogging me and criticizing me behind my back. I was hurt, but I just stopped initiating the communication. Now, occasionally I run into her and I make sure that I'm cordial. But I make sure I stay private and keep it moving after we've greeted one another.
I have learned that people break up with me and they just stop calling and when I reach out they don’t bother. It takes me a little while to realize that the friendship is over. I’m currently praying about why I don’t have any friends.
Don’t worry Renee 😢same here! I want a good Christian friend who works at being a better person regardless! And is a person of their word. May you be blessed with quality friends.
I have the same problem . Tend just stop calling wanting to hang then I see them hanging with other people hanging out and I guess I don’t fit in no More but I speak when we see each other and text happy birthday that’s it
It's so hard to find genuine friendships in this day and age. I've learned to set boundaries, I'm not a YOYO and wont allow people to come in and out of my life when they feel like it and I just had to end a friendship because of that. Yes it hurts 😔
I think we need to normalized leaving toxic and unhealthy relationships. God tells us to flee after PEACE... NEVER FEEL BAD FOR MOVING ON..THE KEY IS TO FORGIVE THEM AND YOURSELF..
Last year I lost the person I considered my best friend since we were 5 years old (we are 60). I recognized many times she did not feel the same way...never best friend. I put more effort into the relationship than she did and I was okay with that, however, I have learned that I discounted my worth. When she ended the relationship it was all about me and things she had ruminated about that were totally not what I said or did. I apologized and tried to patch it with explanations, but she never accepted my apologies. I grieved that friendship hard. I had a very small circle and it was difficult. I don’t feel like I have a true friend that I can depend on except my husband and daughter here on earth. I will never trust that person again. I have not closed the door or burnt the bridge, but neither am I reaching out.
This is really good. Thank you for bringing this subject "to the table". I had to stop halfway to go and think about a lot of what you just said. Yes. "Be honest"... so needed. God bless
Thank you for sharing such a powerful episode. In this episode I realize I have been on variety ends of the spectrums of of break ups over the years. I like how you stated that we are not to mull over nor allow our minds to imagine things beyond what was stated for the reason for the break up. This was very helpful and provided practical insight on how to handle friend break ups going forward.
Sometimes when God move people out of lives we go back and pick them back up again. And God is showing that season is up. And some of them be our freindenemies and not our friends. And that hurts because you be done shared things and personal prayers and it's like a betrayal. God is a true healer.
I ended up a friendship that was not going anywhere. I didn’t feel my true self, did things I was not, had some red flags in the beginning; yet I kept going for my own satisfaction and out of compassion towards them. But the time came and tried my best to end it gracefully. The Lord has helped me grieve, and seen things in eternal perspective.
Very insightful & what I needed to hear. Lost a friend recently of 8yrs so it hurts terribly. Im at the stage that I have to let it go but hopefully we will connect again on a mature level
This was so good cause I just ended a so called friendship. After realizing it was a seasonal thing and we were never meant to be friends . I repented to the Lord for doing it because truth is I was on assignment. Nevertheless, I am still praying for salvation and healing for her and her family. 🙏🏽🙌🏽✌🏽
Chrystal, oh I needed this word now and many years ago. “Bless your friends. So, now I KNOW better and will pray for strength and courage to DO better. Found you. Subscribed.
Friend break ups really hurt. Got divorced and lost my great friend who had literally become family in a span 2 years. Can’t really tell which hurts more. But both really hurt bad
Crystal, great insightful points on the topic discussion...one or two, three at the most were close friends and yet, the 'bucket' reference is a smart choice because they are on different levels personally and professionally! ❤😊
Very well put Chrystal, ve had a friendship breakup, almost 2 years now. The circumstances were very painful, she left me abandoned when I lost a premie, had known her over 20years. We sort of had a talk a year into the breakup, I expressed how I felt about her abandonedment and i hoped it will rebuild the friendship but just confirmed its death.
I'm sorry to hear about the end of that friendship. I know it was hard. I hope you have started experiencing recovery -- even if only little by little.
I understand your podcast. I used to be friends with a guy from Puerto Rico. We used to be friends for around four years. Then, I started a text fight and we broke up. I apologized, but we ended up estranged since. It was my fault that I let my views ruin our friendship.
Some people do not want to be in my life because they see the growth and blessings of God in my life. They are in the church but they just cannot handle my blessings. It takes work to move on up.
I am exhausted! I just blocked myself away from long time friends that always made promises but never followed through. I’ve had friends i meet through my dorm or job and they have given me deeper conversations and have helped me more in more ways than my long time friends it’s crazy! 😢
I would feel a way and ask too if at one point we talked all the time and the next we didn't and the response to that is .... Seasons change 😳? I have someone I was building relationship with however, she's in law school now and I don't hear from her like that anymore, yet.... We talked about the change and what it would look like in that season of her life and I respected that but it's something different when the other person moves in silence and leaves you in the dark.
Hi Mrs. Chrystal I've always been the one to apologize but hitting 40 a week ago I'm learning who, matters and what matters. Unfortunately I believe they backed up and I'm taking the back up it's well.
I never really broke up with a friend. I have 1 that is constant even in different states every 2 weeks we call talk pray. People drop out of my life and because life is always lifing I don't recognize they are gone. If I don't call, send a card, do something for them I don't hear from them and I'm ok with that. That 1 and 1 other is the exception.
I feel like i dont have friendships because I could never just keep people at arms length. I like consistency and effort. When I stop reaching out or making an effort , those "friends" didnt either; which resulted in me seeing that they didnt value me as a friend. Maybe its a culture or maybe its me. Noone tried to have the hard conversation or show intention in my breakups
My hugh school BFF stopped being my friend after becoming a mother. I think it was slme class thing where she was a lawyer and Im a stay at home mom and maybe she only wanted lawyer friends or people in her socioeconomic level. My guess because no confirmation. I felt rejected, I grieved and sometimes I still reflect on it. It wasnt until i had to break up with another friend because she was a reflection of who I used to be and am not anymore. It sucks all the way around to be rejected and to do the rejecting. For myself, if I dont see you as a role model for my children, in one way or the other, I cant have you around my family.
Crystal, also you have to ask God and yourself, what does this person want? Because believe it or not, they just want your service or money to borrow (my experience) A married fellow befriended me and I said to him, let me see if God sent you in my life. As soon as I got a job, he asked me for money to borrow. I did not even respond. Yes, they are in the church but instead of trusting God, they befriend you for money and other things.
I am guilty for not being Intentional with friendships, I have good ones and I don't need to see a good friend all the time but I have friends who need it all the time and I cannot give that so tend to be good being alone. It takes alot to be intentional with friendship and I know I am wrong but at 51 I don't feel I want to give that all that energy. I need to do that say that, I have good friends who may think I am not trying, I should clarify when I have been distant, or have not returned a text or do not reach out and not trying to be a good friend as they are to me, is nothing wrong, but it just me.
I so needed this right now 😢 there is a grieving that happens for sure. I've never been good with friend breakups. I am always the friend who gives alot and never gets the same in return. I am rebuilding my circle and learning from my mistakes. I'm so grateful you shared this message. I have taken alot from this message. I'm about to go study what the word says about friendships now. ❤
GOD is so good. This morning I was thinking about a friendship break up that occurred a few years ago. I was the receiver. GOD knew I was ready to see this video today. Thanks @crystalevanshurst
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Update: After listening to the entire podcast, I recognize that I have ruminated big time about a relationship that has shifted over the past five years. I need to let it go and make room for the possibility that it may come back around in the future, but I will be okay if it never does. It's hard for me to make friends, so losing one I hoped would be forever was painful. Thanks for dropping this gem, Chrystal.
This was so relatable I had to leave this message to let you know that it resonates with me. Allow me to squeeze on the “let it go” bench next to you, simultaneously saying, “Hi there nice meeting you.”
Same here! Thanks for sharing; you articulated my feelings at the moment.
@@ProactiffScoot down a little more on the bench. Lol 👋🏽
Make room for one more on that bench.. Been a little rough lately. Right on time message..@@VauveAnais
Make room for me
“Don’t take the trauma of a previous friendship in to the beauty of a new one.” I Needed this.
It's a lonely... journey, yet necessary for me!
Hope that this week's podcast was helpful!
This happened to me in 2020, and it took me a year of sorrow, questioning myself, and placing blame on myself before I started to move forward. We were close since high school, and in our mid-50s when it ended. Yes, I kept overthinking everything she said in her very long text.🤦🏾♀️ Since then, I've been very intentional about the 5 friends whom I've chosen to keep in my personal circle.❤️
I had a friend that I met over 27 years ago. We became fast friends and I thought I could trust her and she'd never back stab. With my close friends, I keep shared things between I and that person. I dont spread their business....at all and I expected the same. So, I heard on numerous occasions that she was dogging me and criticizing me behind my back. I was hurt, but I just stopped initiating the communication. Now, occasionally I run into her and I make sure that I'm cordial. But I make sure I stay private and keep it moving after we've greeted one another.
I have learned that people break up with me and they just stop calling and when I reach out they don’t bother. It takes me a little while to realize that the friendship is over. I’m currently praying about why I don’t have any friends.
Don’t worry Renee 😢same here! I want a good Christian friend who works at being a better person regardless! And is a person of their word. May you be blessed with quality friends.
I have the same problem . Tend just stop calling wanting to hang then I see them hanging with other people hanging out and I guess I don’t fit in no
More but I speak when we see each other and text happy birthday that’s it
Chrystal, this episode is very timely, and it hurts.
I'm sorry that you are dealing with pain. Hopefully this week's podcast helps!
It's so hard to find genuine friendships in this day and age. I've learned to set boundaries, I'm not a YOYO and wont allow people to come in and out of my life when they feel like it and I just had to end a friendship because of that. Yes it hurts 😔
I think we need to normalized leaving toxic and unhealthy relationships. God tells us to flee after PEACE... NEVER FEEL BAD FOR MOVING ON..THE KEY IS TO FORGIVE THEM AND YOURSELF..
"Never feel bad for moving on..." #TRUTH
Last year I lost the person I considered my best friend since we were 5 years old (we are 60). I recognized many times she did not feel the same way...never best friend. I put more effort into the relationship than she did and I was okay with that, however, I have learned that I discounted my worth. When she ended the relationship it was all about me and things she had ruminated about that were totally not what I said or did. I apologized and tried to patch it with explanations, but she never accepted my apologies. I grieved that friendship hard. I had a very small circle and it was difficult. I don’t feel like I have a true friend that I can depend on except my husband and daughter here on earth. I will never trust that person again. I have not closed the door or burnt the bridge, but neither am I reaching out.
A thought that needs to be taken captive is unfruitful!!!
This is really good. Thank you for bringing this subject "to the table". I had to stop halfway to go and think about a lot of what you just said. Yes. "Be honest"... so needed. God bless
Thank you for sharing such a powerful episode. In this episode I realize I have been on variety ends of the spectrums of of break ups over the years. I like how you stated that we are not to mull over nor allow our minds to imagine things beyond what was stated for the reason for the break up. This was very helpful and provided practical insight on how to handle friend break ups going forward.
Such a hard TRUTH...
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Making room for my new season. Tough❗️
This was/is so ON TIme!
Sometimes when God move people out of lives we go back and pick them back up again. And God is showing that season is up. And some of them be our freindenemies and not our friends. And that hurts because you be done shared things and personal prayers and it's like a betrayal. God is a true healer.
I ended up a friendship that was not going anywhere. I didn’t feel my true self, did things I was not, had some red flags in the beginning; yet I kept going for my own satisfaction and out of compassion towards them. But the time came and tried my best to end it gracefully. The Lord has helped me grieve, and seen things in eternal perspective.
I have learned so many lessons over the years!! I have acquired so many different levels of friendships. One I need to resurrect.
Very insightful & what I needed to hear. Lost a friend recently of 8yrs so it hurts terribly. Im at the stage that I have to let it go but hopefully we will connect again on a mature level
This was so good cause I just ended a so called friendship. After realizing it was a seasonal thing and we were never meant to be friends .
I repented to the Lord for doing it because truth is I was on assignment.
Nevertheless, I am still praying for salvation and healing for her and her family. 🙏🏽🙌🏽✌🏽
Thank you for this! Still grieving a friend breakup after 25 years. Through prayer and therapy, I’m thankful for this season of healing.
Chrystal, oh I needed this word now and many years ago. “Bless your friends. So, now I KNOW better and will pray for strength and courage to DO better. Found you. Subscribed.
This message has been so helpful.....and the 3 things that makes friendship end.
This was amazing! You are GOLD! 🙏🏼 Thank you for this video. Very Helpful.
Friend break ups really hurt. Got divorced and lost my great friend who had literally become family in a span 2 years. Can’t really tell which hurts more. But both really hurt bad
Timely, and insightful. Thank you.
God bless you. Peace & blessing 🙏
Chrystal, thank you for the wisdom and timeliness of this episode. 🙌🏽
You are so welcome!
Crystal, great insightful points on the topic discussion...one or two, three at the most were close friends and yet, the 'bucket' reference is a smart choice because they are on different levels personally and professionally! ❤😊
Thank you. Currently experiencing this and your words help.
Thank you, Chrystal! Intentionality is done that I've learned from you.👍🏾👍🏾🦋🦋
Thank you for this episode ❤
Very helpful, so many have left and as you grow it’s harder to make new friends. But I have doubled down on the ones I have. Maybe even tripled down.
Good for "tripling down". Good decision!
Right on time! Thank you!!
This was so helpful!! Thank you 🙌🏽
I Love my son and my friend and family with my whole heart ❤️
Very well put Chrystal, ve had a friendship breakup, almost 2 years now. The circumstances were very painful, she left me abandoned when I lost a premie, had known her over 20years. We sort of had a talk a year into the breakup, I expressed how I felt about her abandonedment and i hoped it will rebuild the friendship but just confirmed its death.
I'm sorry to hear about the end of that friendship. I know it was hard. I hope you have started experiencing recovery -- even if only little by little.
@@ChrystalHurst I am on the mend now and building into 1 or 2 relationships. ❤️
This was so good ..important topic
It surely happens.
Thank you so much Chrystal ❤
Thanks for watching!
Enjoy the video this was very helpful and it also leaves you with some things to think about keep up the good work🎉❤
Thanks for the encouragement.
Thanks so much for this🎉
Amen! So good.
Very helpful ✅
This is so good Crystal! 2 Corinthians 10:5. Take every thought captive and make it obedient to Christ! I needed to hear this for so many reasons. ❤
That's why I Don't get close to people's cause people are something else
I will always have a friend in Jesus 🎉
The book that changed my life was Friendish, by Kelly Needham...I'm inviting her on my podcast for the next season.
This was so good Chrystal! 🔥
Thanks for the book recommendation!
I understand your podcast. I used to be friends with a guy from Puerto Rico. We used to be friends for around four years. Then, I started a text fight and we broke up. I apologized, but we ended up estranged since. It was my fault that I let my views ruin our friendship.
This was helpful...
Glad this was helpful!
@ChrystalHurst I realized that I have been ruminating alot a couple of losses that happened one after the other so thank you
Some people do not want to be in my life because they see the growth and blessings of God in my life. They are in the church but they just cannot handle my blessings. It takes work to move on up.
I am exhausted! I just blocked myself away from long time friends that always made promises but never followed through. I’ve had friends i meet through my dorm or job and they have given me deeper conversations and have helped me more in more ways than my long time friends it’s crazy! 😢
Lessons learned... 🚶🏽♀️
Taking thoughts captive!!!!!!! Repeat please! 😅
I would feel a way and ask too if at one point we talked all the time and the next we didn't and the response to that is .... Seasons change 😳? I have someone I was building relationship with however, she's in law school now and I don't hear from her like that anymore, yet.... We talked about the change and what it would look like in that season of her life and I respected that but it's something different when the other person moves in silence and leaves you in the dark.
Hi Mrs. Chrystal I've always been the one to apologize but hitting 40 a week ago I'm learning who, matters and what matters. Unfortunately I believe they backed up and I'm taking the back up it's well.
No weapon formed against me will prevail against me are my family
SEASONS SHIFTS AND PATHS DIVERGE
Correct.
I never really broke up with a friend. I have 1 that is constant even in different states every 2 weeks we call talk pray. People drop out of my life and because life is always lifing I don't recognize they are gone. If I don't call, send a card, do something for them I don't hear from them and I'm ok with that. That 1 and 1 other is the exception.
18:33 !!!!
Head space... ruminating
I feel like i dont have friendships because I could never just keep people at arms length. I like consistency and effort. When I stop reaching out or making an effort , those "friends" didnt either; which resulted in me seeing that they didnt value me as a friend. Maybe its a culture or maybe its me. Noone tried to have the hard conversation or show intention in my breakups
My hugh school BFF stopped being my friend after becoming a mother. I think it was slme class thing where she was a lawyer and Im a stay at home mom and maybe she only wanted lawyer friends or people in her socioeconomic level. My guess because no confirmation. I felt rejected, I grieved and sometimes I still reflect on it. It wasnt until i had to break up with another friend because she was a reflection of who I used to be and am not anymore. It sucks all the way around to be rejected and to do the rejecting. For myself, if I dont see you as a role model for my children, in one way or the other, I cant have you around my family.
Crystal, also you have to ask God and yourself, what does this person want? Because believe it or not, they just want your service or money to borrow (my experience) A married fellow befriended me and I said to him, let me see if God sent you in my life. As soon as I got a job, he asked me for money to borrow. I did not even respond. Yes, they are in the church but instead of trusting God, they befriend you for money and other things.
It definitely hurts. These explanations are relatable for sure. Being honest is key... So glad that God is a keeper even in this type of situation.
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I am guilty for not being Intentional with friendships, I have good ones and I don't need to see a good friend all the time but I have friends who need it all the time and I cannot give that so tend to be good being alone. It takes alot to be intentional with friendship and I know I am wrong but at 51 I don't feel I want to give that all that energy. I need to do that say that, I have good friends who may think I am not trying, I should clarify when I have been distant, or have not returned a text or do not reach out and not trying to be a good friend as they are to me, is nothing wrong, but it just me.
Amen ❤️ 🙏
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I tried to make my friendship of Three years progress but things weren't getting better
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I so needed this right now 😢 there is a grieving that happens for sure. I've never been good with friend breakups. I am always the friend who gives alot and never gets the same in return. I am rebuilding my circle and learning from my mistakes. I'm so grateful you shared this message. I have taken alot from this message. I'm about to go study what the word says about friendships now. ❤
Thanks for sharing your experience.
Zoop. The season expired.
Replay
Keep the blood of Jesus over my family and children and friends
Be like the Father. If they choose to come back. Have open arms ❤
GOD is so good. This morning I was thinking about a friendship break up that occurred a few years ago. I was the receiver. GOD knew I was ready to see this video today. Thanks @crystalevanshurst
I NEEDED this so much 🥹