I came here because of Crystal, and I like it here. It looks like I have a new podcast to add to my watch list. I really enjoyed this conversation and really hadn't heard this take on the soft life before.
As a man watching this , it is affirming and refreshing to hear how they are able to manage their own individual selves, articulate their feelings and needs , and at the same time find ways to improve . Thank you!
A few things: Pastor Shameka, Been on you because of PD. He has been one of the most influential/impactful Bible teachers/spiritual leaders on my faith walk. I support everything y’all do together or separate, that’s period.🔥 Letecia aka “Twin”, Today is Jacky’s 33rd Heavenly birthday, she is now the same age Jesus Christ was when He died on the cross for our sins. I enjoyed watching that girl be such a phenomenal mother to her children and a light in this world. It was nice to see y’all’s friendship too. I was a big fan of hers. Thank you for being a good friend to her and please let her family know that she has real believers in Christ Jesus consistently keeping her children and them, etc. covered in prayer. 💚 Crystal, Just recently discovered you, and it’s so beautiful and dope to see how God is moving in your life and using you for His purpose. Tuned in and subscribed of course. 🤗 Bottom line, this is a much needed, inspirational trifecta. It’s one thing to see 3 black woman together having valuable conversation then when we add Christ-filled, beautiful, successful, disciplined, caring, led, etc. Y’all become a force to be reckoned with and it’s so important and necessary at a time like this. Thank y’all for setting a great example that we can all follow. God is GOOD!!!! Great show ladies 🙏🏽💚🔥🙌🏽✅
@@RodandLeticiaGardner Thank you so much for the correction. So she literally passed at the exact age that Christ died on the cross, that’s an incredible correlation, continue to thrive🥹🤯🙌🏽💚💕
God shut my body DOWN yesterday. Like literally, I couldn’t get out of the bed. I questioned if God wanted me to do stop all I’ve been working on but I believe he was telling me I need to take care of myself so I can sustain. So I received that and this episode helps too! It’s really hard to balance.
This was good. I pray that their husbands support them by taking the load off of them so that they can live their soft life. I also pray the men be sensitive to them for needing their ME time to replenish.
So, the name of the channel got my attention, then I opened the podcast and saw one of my favourite women - Crystal. Plus, I love the energy in this room. You've got a new subscriber. And.....I am Nigerian, and we own the soft life culture for real.🥰🥰🥰 Well done, Pretty, Brainy Women!!
OK ladies my first time here on this podcast. Hey Crystal. I enjoyed the topic me living the workaholic life never finding the time for myself. 2024 I will adjust my life to the soft life. I took in a lot from this podcast and I wants to thank you all. I will add this new podcast to my list, looking forward for the next episode. God bless! Peace and love..
Ladies I really enjoyed this combo especially with Crystal as the guest was on point. I can relate to her being a single woman but searching with kids I keep praying to God for God fearing man with a little thug in him 😄 Looking forward to more of this! Love it!
Okayyyyy! This was really good. I’m not gone lie “ soft life “ hasn’t settled in me and i’m going on year 3 of marriage. “ Soft life “ hits a little different to me being that prior to being married i’ve been so independent for so long and grow up around woman who was very independent. It becomes difficult to seat back when you know you could make it happen. This is getting good and it’s very resourceful. Thank you Ladies ! PS: y’all should bring me on the show 🥹 one episode
Very sweet atmosphere. I am so happy that I followed the advice of the lovely Ms. Hayslett and tuned in. I just love me some Chrystal. God bless all of you. May the blessings of the lord continue to make your lives rich and add no sorrow!! Chrystal you know your KIPS Family will stand with you wherever you decide to go!!
I think A LOT of men don’t realize how they contribute to this or don’t contribute. My point is, it’s like they said, TRUST is everything! If you are unfaithful, inconsistent, don’t keep your word, overly aggressive with your woman, not affectionate, etc that causes a woman to not trust you. Once we don’t trust you, we will NEVER be soft around you because it puts us into survival mode. It forces us to feel that you’re putting us in a position to have to protect ourselves, which shows up in the behaviors that men call being a masculine woman. A LOT of men think that’s an excuse but they actually fail to accept that, it’s actually how God wired us as women.
Here’s the thing tho, sis… I definitely understand what you’re saying.. but here’s what we as men see: Many sisters don’t like/trust/respect men in general (mainly BM).. so we’re literally trying to forge a relationship with a woman who doesn’t like or trust men. How would you treat someone who doesn’t like or trust you because of ur gender? How would you forge a relationship with a person who doesn’t think you’re competent just off the strength of ur race? Of course this ain’t all women.. but it’s a decent number. I understand sisters are protecting themselves from hurt.. I understand life has brought y’all to certain conclusions.. …but this is how it looks to men.. luckily many men were raised by that type of woman so they see it as regular.. but the lack of male presence in his life may create problems for you as a woman.. U feel me? ✌🏾
@@PrinceInawRakah I love your name by the way! ❤️ And I understand where you are coming from as well. For the women who are like that, sadly, MOST of that still falls back on BM. Those women have been hurt by dads, brothers, friends, etc and then get into relationships and get abused, used for their money, cheated on, etc. Therefore, they feel all BM are the same and are not worth their effort anymore. BUT, those women are not the majority and are NOT the women I was referring to. Studies have proven that BW are very race loyal. I’m talking about women who are still interested in BM, (AKA the ones who if certain men don’t change, they are going to turn these women into the ones that you described above.) but the men are taking them for granted in the marriage and therefore they don’t trust their husbands. The husbands are complaining that their wives are not “soft enough” but don’t want to accept that their behavior creates the environment in the home. The saying goes, “Men create the environment in the home and the woman MAINTAINS it.” I’m not referring to myself but I know and have known A LOT of women in that situation and they are about to give up and join the others.
This conversation resonated with me so much! Being an alpha female and married to an alpha male was a challenge early on in my marriage but I’ve learned and continue to work on embracing the soft life…and it’s wonderful! New subscriber here ☺️
Thank you for this podcast. Real women talk... need to learn more. I'm like Leticia in way because I wasn't taught and learned how to be soft and show love growing up.. was raised by my dad, mom passed away when I was a baby..please help lol
I been in my soft girl ear for years being single, hopefully I’ll be with a man who doesn’t take my softness for granted. Men are always calling me wifey and trying to lock me down and sone of these mofos are taken. I have peace and quiet in my life and I’m not given that up for no one who ain’t acting right.
Yes, don't discount the beta's. I always thought i needed a alpha knowing good well i can be pretty hands on and vocal lol...until i met an alpha and i did NOT mesh well with them at all. My brother spoke some sense to me, (he loves dharius d. btw) and said Roxanna maybe you need a beta because of your personality (a little calmer man than i am 😂) ill take it 🙃😁
Question Ma'am (s): Religion or business how many sports or languages? In Inn End, sounds like Jesus Yeshua and Issacaar Jesus. I am from The Tribe of GAD and The Tribe of JUDAH.
I’ve come across some men, in my own experience, some black men, who want me to be ON all the time so they can rest in their feminine energy. I have been single since 2011 because I refuse to be the man. My ex wanted me to be the provider while he figured out what he wanted to do in life. I got rid of him. He had his own of everything and turned it in, job, place, car and tried to live off me. I put him out. The last time I was able to rest in my feminine energy with a black man was in 1999. The last couple of guys who tried to run game on me , were married and tried to hide it. That was the first time and last time they saw me. This guy actually came out and said he wanted xyz because he was so tired of doing things for a woman, that he wanted to be on the receiving end. I’m like who is raising these effeminate men? I lost my mother to an abusive man because she was on all the time and he broke her spirit. I’d rather be single than with any man who wants to need me all the time. And these men act like they are so masculine but they talk to me and start calling me wife material this and that trying to run game and they are looking for their mother. I dated Caucasian and Latin men and I never had to be in control all the time and take the lead. My own men, some, get mad when I won’t take the drivers seat and make decisions. After my mother passed my father put all the responsibility on me as a child while he did nothing but take the government money. I had to get a job and provide and I was a teen. I had siblings and just because I was the youngest and a female he did this. He didn’t do anything. He treats women like slaves still to this day.
Can you pray for a man who learned financial understanding from the culture not a banker. Is that okay and the Duality of the unbalanced scales of nations and other tribes.
No judgment but I find it funny that traditional African teachings is to make the man the head of the house and the woman the head of the home. Foreign influence all confused and poisoned the people. It did not mean the woman did not work, it meant she worked for herself if she wanted to but the man is to take care of the house. Colonialists came in to say our women were repressed but they met our men treating the women like Queens that they are. They even called the men idiots for serving women. The men learned from them how to be a man who does not care for his woman. Now, men need a re-education. Women need another education. Nothing beats going to history and your culture to see how your ancestors succeeded in raising families.
I came here because of Crystal, and I like it here. It looks like I have a new podcast to add to my watch list. I really enjoyed this conversation and really hadn't heard this take on the soft life before.
Came here because of Crys too
Me too❤❤ great conversation ladies👌
me too 🤗 love it heree ❤
🥰
I too came here for CrystalRenee, I like it. Also First Lady Shameka of course for you. #Trentonindahouse.
I really wanna comment on Crystal's outfit. It's Selena-inspired and she killed it!!! ❤
As a man watching this , it is affirming and refreshing to hear how they are able to manage their own individual selves, articulate their feelings and needs , and at the same time find ways to improve . Thank you!
A few things:
Pastor Shameka,
Been on you because of PD. He has been one of the most influential/impactful Bible teachers/spiritual leaders on my faith walk. I support everything y’all do together or separate, that’s period.🔥
Letecia aka “Twin”,
Today is Jacky’s 33rd Heavenly birthday, she is now the same age Jesus Christ was when He died on the cross for our sins. I enjoyed watching that girl be such a phenomenal mother to her children and a light in this world. It was nice to see y’all’s friendship too. I was a big fan of hers. Thank you for being a good friend to her and please let her family know that she has real believers in Christ Jesus consistently keeping her children and them, etc. covered in prayer. 💚
Crystal,
Just recently discovered you, and it’s so beautiful and dope to see how God is moving in your life and using you for His purpose. Tuned in and subscribed of course. 🤗
Bottom line, this is a much needed, inspirational trifecta.
It’s one thing to see 3 black woman together having valuable conversation then when we add Christ-filled, beautiful, successful, disciplined, caring, led, etc.
Y’all become a force to be reckoned with and it’s so important and necessary at a time like this. Thank y’all for setting a great example that we can all follow.
God is GOOD!!!!
Great show ladies 🙏🏽💚🔥🙌🏽✅
💛Thank you! Jacky was 33 when she passed. 🙏🏾 today she would have been 34. 🦋
@@RodandLeticiaGardner Thank you so much for the correction. So she literally passed at the exact age that Christ died on the cross, that’s an incredible correlation, continue to thrive🥹🤯🙌🏽💚💕
23:25 30 days of gentleness yes ! No raising the voice ! I’m with you Leticia on that one ☝🏼! Starting today Nov 3rd 2023
God shut my body DOWN yesterday. Like literally, I couldn’t get out of the bed. I questioned if God wanted me to do stop all I’ve been working on but I believe he was telling me I need to take care of myself so I can sustain. So I received that and this episode helps too! It’s really hard to balance.
Yes… Please sign me up for the Soft Life class!
This was good. I pray that their husbands support them by taking the load off of them so that they can live their soft life. I also pray the men be sensitive to them for needing their ME time to replenish.
I'm here because of Crystal, I support anyone associated with her. I just subscribed! I like the vibe.
🗣️🗣️WOW @CRYSTAL BROUGHT ME HERE AND I LOVE THIS PODCAST TOO 💥💥💥💎💎🙌🏽👏🏽🤎🫶🏽
Yes, Crystal is in the house. i am love this. Thank you at Crystal for introducing me to this podcast 🫶🏾🫶🏾
Good talk ladies. I came here to listen to Crystal
Thank you ladies! This is refreshing and the transparency is phenomenal!
Love Crystal Renée.
I would honestly love for Pastor Shameka to coach me for the dating and then the premarital coaching 🙏🏾💕
Love this podcast!
This episode was so good! I am learning to be softer and come out of my survival mode so thank you for this ladies!
First time watching you ladies and new subscriber now. Please, please do the matchmaker podcast! I can't wait!
Come through Pastor Shameka! So glad to see you in this platform. Keep growing and going. Super proud of you!🤗💜🔥🔥🔥
So, the name of the channel got my attention, then I opened the podcast and saw one of my favourite women - Crystal. Plus, I love the energy in this room. You've got a new subscriber. And.....I am Nigerian, and we own the soft life culture for real.🥰🥰🥰 Well done, Pretty, Brainy Women!!
Welcome aboard!
OK ladies my first time here on this podcast. Hey Crystal. I enjoyed the topic me living the workaholic life never finding the time for myself. 2024 I will adjust my life to the soft life. I took in a lot from this podcast and I wants to thank you all. I will add this new podcast to my list, looking forward for the next episode. God bless! Peace and love..
First time viewing it. Loved it and will be doing the 30 days challenge in my home with my husband of 43 years.
Good morning this is beautiful
Pastor Shameka I am here for the dating services and counseling. I definitely would pay for that! These streets are rough!
Ladies I really enjoyed this combo especially with Crystal as the guest was on point. I can relate to her being a single woman but searching with kids I keep praying to God for God fearing man with a little thug in him 😄 Looking forward to more of this! Love it!
And a pinch of thug in it😂😂this made me LOL!
Love the takeaways in this episode ❤
Okayyyyy! This was really good. I’m not gone lie “ soft life “ hasn’t settled in me and i’m going on year 3 of marriage. “ Soft life “ hits a little different to me being that prior to being married i’ve been so independent for so long and grow up around woman who was very independent. It becomes difficult to seat back when you know you could make it happen. This is getting good and it’s very resourceful. Thank you Ladies !
PS: y’all should bring me on the show 🥹 one episode
Very sweet atmosphere. I am so happy that I followed the advice of the lovely Ms. Hayslett and tuned in. I just love me some Chrystal. God bless all of you. May the blessings of the lord continue to make your lives rich and add no sorrow!! Chrystal you know your KIPS Family will stand with you wherever you decide to go!!
I think A LOT of men don’t realize how they contribute to this or don’t contribute. My point is, it’s like they said, TRUST is everything! If you are unfaithful, inconsistent, don’t keep your word, overly aggressive with your woman, not affectionate, etc that causes a woman to not trust you. Once we don’t trust you, we will NEVER be soft around you because it puts us into survival mode. It forces us to feel that you’re putting us in a position to have to protect ourselves, which shows up in the behaviors that men call being a masculine woman. A LOT of men think that’s an excuse but they actually fail to accept that, it’s actually how God wired us as women.
Here’s the thing tho, sis… I definitely understand what you’re saying.. but here’s what we as men see:
Many sisters don’t like/trust/respect men in general (mainly BM).. so we’re literally trying to forge a relationship with a woman who doesn’t like or trust men.
How would you treat someone who doesn’t like or trust you because of ur gender?
How would you forge a relationship with a person who doesn’t think you’re competent just off the strength of ur race?
Of course this ain’t all women.. but it’s a decent number.
I understand sisters are protecting themselves from hurt.. I understand life has brought y’all to certain conclusions..
…but this is how it looks to men.. luckily many men were raised by that type of woman so they see it as regular.. but the lack of male presence in his life may create problems for you as a woman..
U feel me?
✌🏾
@@PrinceInawRakah
I love your name by the way! ❤️
And I understand where you are coming from as well. For the women who are like that, sadly, MOST of that still falls back on BM. Those women have been hurt by dads, brothers, friends, etc and then get into relationships and get abused, used for their money, cheated on, etc. Therefore, they feel all BM are the same and are not worth their effort anymore.
BUT, those women are not the majority and are NOT the women I was referring to. Studies have proven that BW are very race loyal. I’m talking about women who are still interested in BM, (AKA the ones who if certain men don’t change, they are going to turn these women into the ones that you described above.) but the men are taking them for granted in the marriage and therefore they don’t trust their husbands. The husbands are complaining that their wives are not “soft enough” but don’t want to accept that their behavior creates the environment in the home. The saying goes, “Men create the environment in the home and the woman MAINTAINS it.”
I’m not referring to myself but I know and have known A LOT of women in that situation and they are about to give up and join the others.
Pastor Shameka…as a dating coach…yes please! Sign me up sis 😊
First time seeing this podcast and I enjoyed it immensely, Beautiful and very informative segment from start to finish. ❤
Well done ladies 🙏🏾
This was a great episode. Practical steps to make life better 😊
Please do that !!!
Much needed convo. 💕
First time here, i enjoyed it
Great episode.
This conversation resonated with me so much! Being an alpha female and married to an alpha male was a challenge early on in my marriage but I’ve learned and continue to work on embracing the soft life…and it’s wonderful! New subscriber here ☺️
Thank you for this podcast. Real women talk... need to learn more. I'm like Leticia in way because I wasn't taught and learned how to be soft and show love growing up.. was raised by my dad, mom passed away when I was a baby..please help lol
I love this, I'm learning so much as a married business woman mom!
Really enjoyed this episode!! Definitely gonna keep watching!! Keep up the good works ladies! 🥰🫶🏼
Part 2 of soft life
First time watching I enjoyed the energy definitely subscribed with notifications on. Thank you and blessings to all
Yeah that nurturing is hard cause I don’t have patience for grown people but I have alot of patience for kids
I’m spontaneous like let’s go here next month but I like to know what I’m doing when I get there
Sooo ready for today’s episode ♥️♥️♥️♥️
I been in my soft girl ear for years being single, hopefully I’ll be with a man who doesn’t take my softness for granted. Men are always calling me wifey and trying to lock me down and sone of these mofos are taken. I have peace and quiet in my life and I’m not given that up for no one who ain’t acting right.
I'm here for it (the dating process) Pastor Shameka. I'm in your Westampton, NJ location...
Great show!!
Sound the alarm 🚨 QUEENS! WHEW CUSTOMIZE SOFT LIFE! DEPENDING ON WHAT TYPE OF MAN YOU HAVE SISSSSS
Another excellent episode! You all enlightened me. #SoftEraLife I’m in on the challenge.
Love this episode..
This is good sent this to my friend
Ok first lady ! Dating coach ! Im in!
❤❤❤
Enjoyed this dialogue
Nice Generations of Family Love on you tube by Veronica
Thanks to Crystal im a new subscriber 😂😂. Great episode Love it❤🫶🏽
Good episode . 1st time watching . It was insightful . Keep it up .
Yes, don't discount the beta's. I always thought i needed a alpha knowing good well i can be pretty hands on and vocal lol...until i met an alpha and i did NOT mesh well with them at all. My brother spoke some sense to me, (he loves dharius d. btw) and said Roxanna maybe you need a beta because of your personality (a little calmer man than i am 😂) ill take it 🙃😁
Shameka!! Launch the dating service!! Help me!!! Please lol I’ll be your first try!
Ladies/sister/my new best friends/cousins/……
Where y’all at??????!!!!!😢😢😢😢😢😢
Did I miss the affirmation? I love the show.
Im here for that Lady. Sign me up for it lol
I love being home. Hard to get me out 😂😂😂 I’d rather work from home. I be cooking and cleaning. Not for a man but for me. But I have so much to offer.
This is a superfly dope podcast.
Spontaneous with a plan 😂😂😂 yess Crystal whose the boo 👀👀
Yes joining the challenge 🫶🏽
Just be yourself and trust God! Let God prune you ❤ I can only trust God. Have no confidence in man
I am ready!
Shameka you need to connect with Mrs Kevonstage
Checked in and listening 🩷🧡
Question Ma'am (s): Religion or business how many sports or languages? In Inn End, sounds like Jesus Yeshua and Issacaar Jesus. I am from The Tribe of GAD and The Tribe of JUDAH.
🙌🏾🙌🏾im joining 😅🙏🏾🙏🏾
I’ve come across some men, in my own experience, some black men, who want me to be ON all the time so they can rest in their feminine energy. I have been single since 2011 because I refuse to be the man. My ex wanted me to be the provider while he figured out what he wanted to do in life. I got rid of him.
He had his own of everything and turned it in, job, place, car and tried to live off me. I put him out. The last time I was able to rest in my feminine energy with a black man was in 1999. The last couple of guys who tried to run game on me , were married and tried to hide it. That was the first time and last time they saw me. This guy actually came out and said he wanted xyz because he was so tired of doing things for a woman, that he wanted to be on the receiving end.
I’m like who is raising these effeminate men? I lost my mother to an abusive man because she was on all the time and he broke her spirit. I’d rather be single than with any man who wants to need me all the time. And these men act like they are so masculine but they talk to me and start calling me wife material this and that trying to run game and they are looking for their mother.
I dated Caucasian and Latin men and I never had to be in control all the time and take the lead. My own men, some, get mad when I won’t take the drivers seat and make decisions. After my mother passed my father put all the responsibility on me as a child while he did nothing but take the government money. I had to get a job and provide and I was a teen. I had siblings and just because I was the youngest and a female he did this. He didn’t do anything. He treats women like slaves still to this day.
Can you pray for a man who learned financial understanding from the culture not a banker. Is that okay and the Duality of the unbalanced scales of nations and other tribes.
Imma come back when I clock out
Hey Crystal ❤❤
Yes chrys !!!!! I need a Christian that got a lil thug in him lol I can relate to Chrystal so much. I’m trying to learn how to be soft.
Okay action plan
Oop I like the pre plan in your head to pretend that you not really planning 😂😂
COME ON DATING SERVICE 🙌🏾
We need a 30 day update chi chi 😂😂😂
7:03 that’s gooddd
Been waiting 🥰🥰
“HELP ME TOO”😂😂😂😂
🗣️SIGN ME UP NIE 14:46
Facts🎉🎉🎉
Crys please keep being you🤍
I hate getting gas please do that for me.
A soft life class 😂😂😂
Okayyy lol
Hi
Yes what is soft life 😂
No judgment but I find it funny that traditional African teachings is to make the man the head of the house and the woman the head of the home. Foreign influence all confused and poisoned the people. It did not mean the woman did not work, it meant she worked for herself if she wanted to but the man is to take care of the house. Colonialists came in to say our women were repressed but they met our men treating the women like Queens that they are. They even called the men idiots for serving women. The men learned from them how to be a man who does not care for his woman. Now, men need a re-education. Women need another education. Nothing beats going to history and your culture to see how your ancestors succeeded in raising families.
BC days🤣🤣🤣
Not date an Athlete 😂😂😂😂