Speaking kindly to yourself is so important. I remember once I was criticizing myself, and my friend interrupted me to say, "That girl you're saying all that horrible stuff about is my friend. I really love her and I won't stand for you talking about her like that. She would never talk like that to me, and I would never talk that way to her. Please don't do that." That made me stop dead in my tracks. She was right. And I would never talk about other people that way, so why was I saying it to myself?
You are a breath of fresh air on youtube! I am 26 and I often have to remind myself that I have achieved a lot in my life! I often tell myself I am not good enough and I need to learn to talk better with myself! Great video!
I am 59 and just starting to learn my likes, dislikes, strengths, weaknesses, etc., but most importantly I have finally learned to forgive myself and love myself 💖
Happy birthday! I turned 60 in November, let me tell you that was a big one. I think you have some great ideas for the next 10 years, I think I will steal a couple of them. And, most definitely enjoy your body while you are young. I had terrible body image most my life and now I look back and my body was great!❤
I'm gonna be 34 this year and girl...your video came out at the ideal time for me. It's an absolutely great reminder how one can easily improve going through life and gain better mental wellbeing. Love this!
Your videos are so therapeutic! ❤ I turned 26 in November, and let me tell you, I'm deep in the quarter-life crisis. I will soon start therapy, but this video gave me such a good feeling, I adore you for it! Never stop girl! ✨
Keep plodding along, one day at a time! I moved countries during my quarter life crisis - that sh*t be real! I still don't have things figured out but that's ok. Not many people do. What matters is that you do your best and be nice to those around you. Everything will be ok ❤
@@Gigi......I’m just curious, did it work out for you in the new country? I did too and it’s kinda working kinda not, lol, I love the country just didn’t account for things like medical or some of my lifestyle preferences (dietary primarily). So I’m about to go back to my home country and I’m wanting to try again just with a different country this time. Can’t tell if it’s the quarter life crisis or actually me wanting it tho 🤣
@@ashlamccammon4196 I moved to the United Kingdom and I'm still here 11 years later. Best decision I ever made! Go with your gut and try another place! Who dares wins! 🍀🌠🤞
Love that video! I am 42 years old and I am not a birthday person. I always take that day off, but I so not celebrate, I am just at home and do whatever I want to do. Love that!
Happy birthday! You have a lot of wisdom already ! I’m 56 and now and at this point in my life , I don’t care or give a F what other people think of me , I wish I’d understood that earlier in my life ! and I agree with everything you said !
You should be proud of your achivements. I'm 50 but turning 51 on february 1st. We always go out for dinner because i refuse to cook on my birthday😄 Turning 50 last year knocked the wind out of me i have to say. It was a couple of rough months but i got over it. I never had that problem turning 30 or 40🤷♀️ I had a huge party when i turned 30🎉
I had that problem with 40, no issues before and I didn't expect a problem last year but the reality of being 40 was not pleasant. We aren't the ones who are supposed to get older! We're supposed to stay young and hip forever!
I'm 30 now! I'm glad that most of these are things i was already thinking. There are a few on which i need to act out on. But the most important thing for me is to be present, and enjoy the mundane, ordinary days. 😊
I'm turning 30 in 2 months and girl you said it all ! I came to the same conclusion as you on the other side of the ocean and what a great idea to do that kind of video !!! Love it 😂 thank you ! ❤
I am 24 and this video is amazing! I've already learned that speaking kindly to yourself is a real game-changer. Also, to realize that this inner voice and your thoughts are not equivalent to you and that you can create your reality by embracing positive affirmations.
You are such a light and an inspiration 🫶🏼 I’ve been watching your channel for years and you’ve inspired me in more ways I can count. From going plant based, learning and investing more into sustainability and environmentalism, being intentional about my time and energy and space. It’s a pleasure to watch you grow and accomplish so much, and your confidence shines. Thank you for sharing your life with us and I’m so proud of you for all you’ve done to create an amazing life. Happy birthday & cheers to dirty thirty!!🎉🥂
Love this video! I'm 30 - turned 30 in January :) Some of the lessons I recognise, but they are still good reminders. And some I would probably benefit from working a bit more on :) Honestly I felt a bit disappointed this year at my birthday for how other people celebrated me (or didn't celebrate me) especially my (now ex, not specifically because of this) boyfriend and especially because it was a "round" birthday. A good reminder that you should not rely solely on others to ensure your happiness, but take responsibility for that yourself and then the good people on your life is a bonus :) On my actual birthday I was kinda exhausted since we recently arrived home in Denmark after travelling/visiting family in Asia, so I just wanted to order my favourite takeaway, snuggle up on the couch and watch my favourite movies :) And then I have invited my friends and family for a celebration in the summer, where we will stay in a summerhouse, play games, go swimming hopefully, cook some delicious food and maybe have a bonfire and they can stay the night if they want :)
I am going to turn 30 too this year❤. Thank you so much for this video! I totally relate to your thoughts and lessons and I wish you the absolute best for this new decade of your life. Lots of love to you and the happiest pre-birthday wishes🥰
Turning 30 in a year and I gotta say, I'm pretty excited about the fact. Thank you for this video and all your work here. If some people were telling you bad stuff about doing videos, sucks to be them 😅
GM J😜 you are such a smart human being. And you are on point. In this century people are lost the empathy, everyone wants to be a smart A*s*s.. People stop listening they are here to judge all the time. Many of them don't want to admit that someone can be better than the other one.. It's so hard. But, there is also many beautiful souls around who will support and be happy for your achievements... This is amazing content. So, happy for your successful 20s.❤️🙌💐
Im turning 24 next week. I had a crazy last few years and I feel my frontal lobe fully fusing as we speak. People act like turning 30 is the end of your youth but Im excited to understand who I am better as well as be a little more established.
Very wise, Gittemary. I am sure the next decade will be more enjoyable in the sense that you'll feel a lot more comfortable being yourself, with your decisions and mistakes, probably too. I am not there yet, and I've got a good 15 years on you. Wish you the best of things!
I'm turning 27 this year, and like you, I'm very excited to be growing older and wiser and being more confident in who I am. I've never really been a birthday person and often get very weird and awkward when others want to celebrate me (since I grew up in a family that didn't celebrate birthdays), but I have been trying to come up with my own birthday traditions! (work in progress)
Can definetly recommend an appetizer party. Invite a few friends and have them all bring an appateizer + prepare some your self. Nobody feels like they need to bring a gift because they're already bringing food and it's easy to snack on while hanging out or playing games. 🎉
I’m 27 (28 in the summer) and started watching your videos at 20. It’s just in the last two years that I’ve learned these lessons (mostly from therapy, which opened my eyes to how I thought about the world!). There is a definite shift between your early 20s and later 20s and I am loving the wisdom that comes with it. Happy birthday girl!
I'm turning 31 in a couple of weeks, and for my 30th I got a bunch of my friends together, put on our fancy clothes, and went out for a nice dinner - being overdressed for the restaurant I chose made it feel like An Event, and I got to hang out with my favorite people.
I'm turning 40 this year and there's a few lessons I wished I learned in my 20s. Learn to manage your finances: invest wisely to provide yourself with an early retirement and financial security in this crazy unstable world. Never regret anything: your shittiest moments were the fastest way to make you the way you are. Don't be a tough cookie: tough cookies crumble. Feed birds, plant trees and help others: it will give your life value at the worst times. Nobody will take care of you if you don't. And don't sacrifice anything for anyone: you only have one life and there's no option to relive it again. I'm totally not a birthday person, but I've been practicing birthday experiences with my son for many years and now i'm testing it on myself. Just do whatever you want to do on this day. With one exception. No work or extra work and pressure. At all. Including housework. Our tradition is to have a huge birthday dinner party with family and friends and cook everything for it. And clean, because you should impress everyone. And do the dishes afterwards. But for several years i say no to the tradition. If it's a meal, we go out or order something. If it's a day off, I go for a walk, some movies, coffee outside - anything that makes me full and content. And weekend trips are most definitely my favourites. Happy upcoming birthday to you, strong and talented girl!
Happy birthday 🥳 30 was the best year of my life! It's interesting to see how we all draw similar conclusions from our twenties regardless of our experiences. Btw I went zip lining with my mum on my 30th 😁
Happy early birthday! 🖤 Your videos bring me so much joy and are always full of the best info and advice. Whatever you decide to do for your 30th, I hope you have the best time! I'll be 29 in March and I'm hoping for something low key with plenty of chocolate. 😁
I'm almost 36 (the 30s have been fantastic and educational in their own right) and I echo every one of your lessons from your 20s! I am so much more in tune with who I am as a person, mentally and physically, and do what makes me happy and fulfilled. I am not a huge birthday person but chose to go bungee jumping to celebrate my 30th birthday by doing something exciting and adrenaline filled. Happy 30th! It's only going to get better!
Happy birthday, Gittemary! 🥰🎂 I'm turning 30 as well in a couple of weeks, so this was both fun and a little bit emotional to watch. I feel like making a similar list now and maybe writing a blog post about it. Thank you for the inspiration - on this and everything else, too! 💕
These lessons were so great! You're super sweet. Thanks for sharing 🥰 I'm currently 28, I was always a birthday person but for a long time I haven't celebrated for some reason and this last birthday was the first to celebrate after 11 years. A few years ago I recorded a video of myself that I'm gonna watch on my 30th birthday, and I'm going to see how things changed. I was depressed then. I'm slightly better, but I still have phases so it will be interesting to see the difference in 2 years from now 🤗 Can't wait for my 30s honestly 😂
I am 39 and just learning some of these things.It's taken a long time to reject people pleasing and sit with discomfort that comes when I feel like I'm not meeting up to what other people want. Great video as always!!
hey! I’m just 23, my birthday was on January 25, I’m definitely a birthday person, every year is a new victory, your video was very helpful, I will certainly follow your advice!
Thank you so much for making this video Gittemary! We are a similar age and this has made me think a bit about my own life and what I have achieved. Keep doing what you are doing, you are one amazing person ❤
I’m 46 and still learning some of these life lessons 😆 my most memorable birthday was going up in a hot air balloon over the Nile at sunrise for my 30th 🎈
I'm 24 turning 25 this year. For many years of my life I didn't have many friends and feelings of loneliness and having expectations of how a birthday should be celebrate correctly would bother me. In an effort to be more true to myself I realized I am not very extroverted actually and I get recharged in nature or in experiencing traveling to a new country instead. Generally speaking I stick to this plan and this year I am going to travel to another state to visit a national park and go hiking.
I watched this video twice in a row, which I never do, because it was so important to me. I’m 26 and a lot of these I still haven’t figured out yet, so thank you ❤
Hi!! Happy almost birthday! 🎉 I have been watching you for probably 5 years now. Started out watching your videos as a teacher on my lunch breaks learning how to have a less waste lifestyle and haven’t been able to stop watching! 😅 thanks so much for the inspiration your videos bring! It’s definitely been awesome to see even just in those 5 years how you and your channel have grown and expanded- all the amazing things that you’ve made happen in your career! Cheers to that!! Keep going! ❤ Love from Alaska!
Love this video, so inspiring to watch on Sunday, when it's possible to process it and start fresh from Monday ;) I always take day off for my b'day, just to focus on myself that specific day - I recommend it to everyone!
Looooved this video and your energy is so contagious! I turned 30 this past fall and have definitely learned some of these things in recent years, but still have a way to go. Here's to us having a great time in our 30s!
Hello: fellow color-number synesthete here! I turned 56 a few days ago and spent the weekend with three dear friends, knitting/spinning/quilting/weaving, having tasty drinks and delicious vegetarian food, and talking nonstop by the fire: sleepovers are the best no matter your age!
I’m 44. Best advice wish I’d known it. What’s your fave thing do to? Special birthday dinner doing your fave thing for the day. Must not feel like a chore this thing. Have a pamper hour (self care). Depends how much time you have. Stop. breathe and enjoy! Happy birthday 🎉 🎂
New sub here! I love everything about your channel. I’m not vegan but more like pescatarian. I’ve cut out toxic people since I was bout 25 when I had my first son. You don’t need them. You’re doing an amazing job and I love your accent and channel!!
I'm 25, and I'm usually not a birthday person I spend nearly 10 years without celebrating it until last Xmas when I got a lot of friends and people that I care for together and celebrated it for the first time again.
I really enjoy your videos and I just want to thank you for what you do. This year I will turn 30 too, and something I keep telling myself is that as long as I keep growing as a person, as long as I keep building the best version of myself then I'm doing great 😅, even if that doesn't mean perfect for someone's point of view. Keep growing, keep being humble and kind with others, keep being you, with the good things and the flaws too ❤️
Almost done with my 20s and think I have most of these things figured out. Talking kindly to myself and not comparing myself (in many matters) are still hard sometimes. Last weekend I had a really bad time and was starting to talk down to myself about being a wimp etc. but managed to catch myself and stop it. It takes a lot of practise though. What you said in the end about luck I can only partially agree with. Yes, many things we can achieve with hard work, determination, a good attitude etc. but there are always factors beyond our control and things like privilege, chance, opportunity, timing etc. definitely play a big roll. The "just work hard and you can do it" mentality can be devastating for people who are trying their best but circumstances won't allow their success. Instead of this I like to have an attitude of gratefulness. With that I can be grateful and proud for the things I accomplished, but I also know I have been blessed with many fortunes outside of my control and can try to uplift people who aren't that fortunate.
Thanks for your lessons, good to learn from you and hear some reminders! I am 30 now and for my birthday (and also for my husbands 30’s birthday) we ordered a foodtruck (pancakes!) and we had a garden party en it was amazing to gather with friends and family. Defenitly recommended!
I'm 24, I'll turn 25 in a month and there's things in your list that I already learned, and there's other things that I do know, but don't necessarily applied yet in my life. But there's one thing that you said that I trully think is so important now is to love yourself in every way. Know your flaws and try to be better, but it takes time and it's ok. Nobody is perfect.
I'm 27 and hate my birthday. I'd like to have a big Party but I never had friends as a kid and teen and still struggle with social interaction as an adult although I've been to therapy. It got better but not good. I tried to host a small party 2 years ago. I invited 15 people and only 5 came. I won't try again, it still hurts. Last year I got my tongue split a week before my birthday, so it was okay to spend the day alone, my body needed to heal.
I am now 32 and love this episode. Your last tip really moved me, because I feel I am creating the life that I want for myself, but am having a hard time being proud of myself (instread I feel insecure or like everything could fall apart in a second). I feel I have so much potential, and trusting that helps me, whenever I feel it for a second (and sometimes longer ^^) Birthday stress is very very real for me. Personally I created a situation (an art exhibition opening of mine and a workshop the day before) where I was not the main organiser, but I would be in safe, loving, spaces and doing things I love :) )
I am 28 years old. I'm gonna be 29 in two weeks. My birthday plan is a little trip to Capadocia with my loved ones(fam and friends) We will spend the weekend there exploring good food and good sceneries 😍 cant wait for my last 20s birthday
I just turned 20 six months ago and I just went though my breakthrough realizing I’m 20 and I started embracing 20 back in November and I don’t regret it so far
Hej Gittemarie I am 36, been vegan for 10 years ( celebrated in January), also a bit the same here, that I am not so strict anymore and I do eat no vegan pastry from time to time. I live in viborg so it's harder to get all the vegan goodies. Love this video and I am happy that you are sharing. I love my 30's and I am sure you will too. Hugs
Tuurning 21 soon, definitely need this❤ my advice is to never take on a car payment if there is a slight possibility of you buying a car cash/ using public transportation 😊
I’m 22. I usually do like to have birthdays, but tbh they’ve been lonely the past few years, so I’m not as sure about them now. I like other people’s birthdays though because I like to spoil my loved ones. But if I did have a perfect birthday, it would be a few friends or chosen family of mine having a campfire (October birthday here) and eating our favorite foods then retiring inside to watch anime or a movie while cuddling my kitties. Maybe a game of cards against humanity, unstable unicorns, or exploding kittens? Lol… all that stuff happens at night, so in the morning I’d like to do a brunch of some kind and have some of my favorites like crepes with strawberries or raspberries on top, a cappuccino, idk just certain foods make me happy. I struggle with my relationship with food, so I feel guilty having these things usually, but my birthday feels like I’m giving myself a guilt free pass if that makes sense 😅😂
Re: confronting your friends if you hear they are saying rude things about you. Another important reason for this is there is a possibility that said friend wasn’t saying anything rude at all but the person you heard it from is triangulating. Either way, someone is acting shady, but it’s always good to confirm what is happening.
Turned 44 at the beginning of January. I wish I'd known what I know now when I was in my 20s, but I can do better now and help my students learn from my mistakes rather than their own 🙂
I’ll be turning 26 later this year. I love going to a local bakery 🧁on my birthday. I don’t go often cuz it’s expensive. I definitely find it difficult to be proud of myself and fall into the comparison trap often. Gonna restart therapy at some point….
I'll soon turn 27 and I am just figuring out that I am autistic. I did research for over two years now and am on the waiting list of specialists to get it checked. During all this I started to understand who I am behind the mask of trying to look normal. I figured out that I'm a lesbian, ended a long toxic relationship with a man, found my amazing girlfriend and start to thrive while engaging with my special interests. I absolutely hate birthdays, they are just too overwhelming. If possible I just have a relaxed day with nice cake and some Cards against humanity with my friends in the evening.
I’m 23 and used to not be a birthday person until I realized I need to be because most people won’t get to make it to 23,33,43 ect and life is very limited so we should celebrate it
22. You don't get to own them either. I do enjoy your talks about greenwashing. I'll have to go have a look at your TED Talk if it's available to watch.
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The ability to say "although not a successful experience, I'm still glad I went" is a huge benefit of growing up.
University in a nutshell. For me anyway.
I am going to be 65 this year. Wish I had learned some of these lessons in my 20s. I learned them much later. You are going to love your 60s!!!!!❤
Speaking kindly to yourself is so important. I remember once I was criticizing myself, and my friend interrupted me to say, "That girl you're saying all that horrible stuff about is my friend. I really love her and I won't stand for you talking about her like that. She would never talk like that to me, and I would never talk that way to her. Please don't do that." That made me stop dead in my tracks. She was right. And I would never talk about other people that way, so why was I saying it to myself?
Love it!!!❤
omg!! i love this
You are a breath of fresh air on youtube! I am 26 and I often have to remind myself that I have achieved a lot in my life! I often tell myself I am not good enough and I need to learn to talk better with myself! Great video!
I am 59 and just starting to learn my likes, dislikes, strengths, weaknesses, etc., but most importantly I have finally learned to forgive myself and love myself 💖
I spent a weekend at a Silent Retreat for my 30th birthday and stayed in a treehouse! It was exactly what I needed. Great video!
You sound like such a badass - I love it! Keep being you ❤
I just turned 20, and these are all things I needed to hear. Thank you!
Happy birthday! I turned 60 in November, let me tell you that was a big one. I think you have some great ideas for the next 10 years, I think I will steal a couple of them. And, most definitely enjoy your body while you are young. I had terrible body image most my life and now I look back and my body was great!❤
I'm gonna be 34 this year and girl...your video came out at the ideal time for me. It's an absolutely great reminder how one can easily improve going through life and gain better mental wellbeing. Love this!
Your videos are so therapeutic! ❤
I turned 26 in November, and let me tell you, I'm deep in the quarter-life crisis. I will soon start therapy, but this video gave me such a good feeling, I adore you for it! Never stop girl! ✨
Keep plodding along, one day at a time! I moved countries during my quarter life crisis - that sh*t be real! I still don't have things figured out but that's ok. Not many people do. What matters is that you do your best and be nice to those around you. Everything will be ok ❤
@@Gigi......I’m just curious, did it work out for you in the new country? I did too and it’s kinda working kinda not, lol, I love the country just didn’t account for things like medical or some of my lifestyle preferences (dietary primarily). So I’m about to go back to my home country and I’m wanting to try again just with a different country this time. Can’t tell if it’s the quarter life crisis or actually me wanting it tho 🤣
@@ashlamccammon4196 I moved to the United Kingdom and I'm still here 11 years later. Best decision I ever made! Go with your gut and try another place! Who dares wins! 🍀🌠🤞
@@Gigi...... Thank you! My eyes are on the Netherlands or maybe Denmark, we’ll see what happens tho 👀😇
Love that video! I am 42 years old and I am not a birthday person. I always take that day off, but I so not celebrate, I am just at home and do whatever I want to do. Love that!
i'm 25, so glad to hear this halfway ;) the sparkle in your eye has never been stronger than in this video, it moved me quite a lot!
Happy birthday! You have a lot of wisdom already ! I’m 56 and now and at this point in my life , I don’t care or give a F what other people think of me , I wish I’d understood that earlier in my life ! and I agree with everything you said !
You should be proud of your achivements. I'm 50 but turning 51 on february 1st. We always go out for dinner because i refuse to cook on my birthday😄 Turning 50 last year knocked the wind out of me i have to say. It was a couple of rough months but i got over it. I never had that problem turning 30 or 40🤷♀️ I had a huge party when i turned 30🎉
I had that problem with 40, no issues before and I didn't expect a problem last year but the reality of being 40 was not pleasant.
We aren't the ones who are supposed to get older! We're supposed to stay young and hip forever!
@@marylamphere2112What are you talking about. We are still young and Hip😄
@@rikkemeek1506 DEFINITELY!
But my hips and knees disagree 😞
Wait until you turn 60 😅
@@marylamphere2112 Yes Hips don't lie😄
I'm 45 and struggled a lot with food. I think it's amazing you went to therapy for that. Love this vid as always and you are effing brilliant. X
Hi Gittemary! I'm 15 and you're one of my biggest inspirations in life! Loved the video!
Happy Birthday, G! Thank you for being you ❤ You're a bright soul and i appreciate your strength, determination, wisdom and confidence 🙏🎉 🎂⭐
I'm 30 now! I'm glad that most of these are things i was already thinking. There are a few on which i need to act out on. But the most important thing for me is to be present, and enjoy the mundane, ordinary days. 😊
I'm turning 30 in 2 months and girl you said it all ! I came to the same conclusion as you on the other side of the ocean and what a great idea to do that kind of video !!! Love it 😂 thank you ! ❤
I am 24 and this video is amazing! I've already learned that speaking kindly to yourself is a real game-changer. Also, to realize that this inner voice and your thoughts are not equivalent to you and that you can create your reality by embracing positive affirmations.
100% ♥️♥️
You are such a light and an inspiration 🫶🏼 I’ve been watching your channel for years and you’ve inspired me in more ways I can count. From going plant based, learning and investing more into sustainability and environmentalism, being intentional about my time and energy and space. It’s a pleasure to watch you grow and accomplish so much, and your confidence shines. Thank you for sharing your life with us and I’m so proud of you for all you’ve done to create an amazing life. Happy birthday & cheers to dirty thirty!!🎉🥂
My perfect birthday: either someone throws me a chill surprise party OR nobody asks why I brought cake
Love this video!
I'm 30 - turned 30 in January :)
Some of the lessons I recognise, but they are still good reminders. And some I would probably benefit from working a bit more on :)
Honestly I felt a bit disappointed this year at my birthday for how other people celebrated me (or didn't celebrate me) especially my (now ex, not specifically because of this) boyfriend and especially because it was a "round" birthday. A good reminder that you should not rely solely on others to ensure your happiness, but take responsibility for that yourself and then the good people on your life is a bonus :)
On my actual birthday I was kinda exhausted since we recently arrived home in Denmark after travelling/visiting family in Asia, so I just wanted to order my favourite takeaway, snuggle up on the couch and watch my favourite movies :)
And then I have invited my friends and family for a celebration in the summer, where we will stay in a summerhouse, play games, go swimming hopefully, cook some delicious food and maybe have a bonfire and they can stay the night if they want :)
I am going to turn 30 too this year❤. Thank you so much for this video! I totally relate to your thoughts and lessons and I wish you the absolute best for this new decade of your life. Lots of love to you and the happiest pre-birthday wishes🥰
Turning 28 this year and definitely gonna try to live by these lessons.
Turning 30 in a year and I gotta say, I'm pretty excited about the fact. Thank you for this video and all your work here. If some people were telling you bad stuff about doing videos, sucks to be them 😅
Welcome to the 30s! I'm 2 years into it and loving it 🙂
GM J😜 you are such a smart human being.
And you are on point. In this century people are lost the empathy, everyone wants to be a smart A*s*s..
People stop listening they are here to judge all the time. Many of them don't want to admit that someone can be better than the other one.. It's so hard. But, there is also many beautiful souls around who will support and be happy for your achievements...
This is amazing content. So, happy for your successful 20s.❤️🙌💐
Im turning 24 next week. I had a crazy last few years and I feel my frontal lobe fully fusing as we speak. People act like turning 30 is the end of your youth but Im excited to understand who I am better as well as be a little more established.
Very wise, Gittemary. I am sure the next decade will be more enjoyable in the sense that you'll feel a lot more comfortable being yourself, with your decisions and mistakes, probably too. I am not there yet, and I've got a good 15 years on you. Wish you the best of things!
I'm turning 27 this year, and like you, I'm very excited to be growing older and wiser and being more confident in who I am. I've never really been a birthday person and often get very weird and awkward when others want to celebrate me (since I grew up in a family that didn't celebrate birthdays), but I have been trying to come up with my own birthday traditions! (work in progress)
Can definetly recommend an appetizer party. Invite a few friends and have them all bring an appateizer + prepare some your self. Nobody feels like they need to bring a gift because they're already bringing food and it's easy to snack on while hanging out or playing games. 🎉
I’m 27 (28 in the summer) and started watching your videos at 20. It’s just in the last two years that I’ve learned these lessons (mostly from therapy, which opened my eyes to how I thought about the world!). There is a definite shift between your early 20s and later 20s and I am loving the wisdom that comes with it. Happy birthday girl!
I'm 25 this year. I love these advice videos of yours. Good pep talk! 🤩
I'm turning 31 in a couple of weeks, and for my 30th I got a bunch of my friends together, put on our fancy clothes, and went out for a nice dinner - being overdressed for the restaurant I chose made it feel like An Event, and I got to hang out with my favorite people.
I'm turning 40 this year and there's a few lessons I wished I learned in my 20s. Learn to manage your finances: invest wisely to provide yourself with an early retirement and financial security in this crazy unstable world. Never regret anything: your shittiest moments were the fastest way to make you the way you are. Don't be a tough cookie: tough cookies crumble. Feed birds, plant trees and help others: it will give your life value at the worst times. Nobody will take care of you if you don't. And don't sacrifice anything for anyone: you only have one life and there's no option to relive it again.
I'm totally not a birthday person, but I've been practicing birthday experiences with my son for many years and now i'm testing it on myself. Just do whatever you want to do on this day. With one exception. No work or extra work and pressure. At all. Including housework. Our tradition is to have a huge birthday dinner party with family and friends and cook everything for it. And clean, because you should impress everyone. And do the dishes afterwards. But for several years i say no to the tradition. If it's a meal, we go out or order something. If it's a day off, I go for a walk, some movies, coffee outside - anything that makes me full and content. And weekend trips are most definitely my favourites.
Happy upcoming birthday to you, strong and talented girl!
Happy birthday 🥳 30 was the best year of my life! It's interesting to see how we all draw similar conclusions from our twenties regardless of our experiences.
Btw I went zip lining with my mum on my 30th 😁
What an optimistic and wise video! Happy birthday!
Im turning 40 next week 🎉 This videos inspired me to do some reflecting on the last decade of my life
Happy early birthday! 🖤 Your videos bring me so much joy and are always full of the best info and advice. Whatever you decide to do for your 30th, I hope you have the best time! I'll be 29 in March and I'm hoping for something low key with plenty of chocolate. 😁
I'm almost 36 (the 30s have been fantastic and educational in their own right) and I echo every one of your lessons from your 20s! I am so much more in tune with who I am as a person, mentally and physically, and do what makes me happy and fulfilled. I am not a huge birthday person but chose to go bungee jumping to celebrate my 30th birthday by doing something exciting and adrenaline filled. Happy 30th! It's only going to get better!
Happy birthday, Gittemary! 🥰🎂 I'm turning 30 as well in a couple of weeks, so this was both fun and a little bit emotional to watch. I feel like making a similar list now and maybe writing a blog post about it. Thank you for the inspiration - on this and everything else, too! 💕
These lessons were so great! You're super sweet. Thanks for sharing 🥰 I'm currently 28, I was always a birthday person but for a long time I haven't celebrated for some reason and this last birthday was the first to celebrate after 11 years. A few years ago I recorded a video of myself that I'm gonna watch on my 30th birthday, and I'm going to see how things changed. I was depressed then. I'm slightly better, but I still have phases so it will be interesting to see the difference in 2 years from now 🤗 Can't wait for my 30s honestly 😂
I'll be 30 in two years. This resonated so deeply, I still have work to do..🙏 thank you
I really like this video! I’m turning also 30 this year. It makes me reavaluate life and my goals and acomplisments. So nice to hear yours
The pep talk we all need! Add, it's ok to fail. "
I'm 19 about to turn 20 and this is exactly what I needed.
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I am 39 and just learning some of these things.It's taken a long time to reject people pleasing and sit with discomfort that comes when I feel like I'm not meeting up to what other people want. Great video as always!!
I'm going to be 40 this year, maybe I shall do reflection like that too =) Thank you for sharing and happy Birthday!
I really enjoyed this video ❤ I hope you have a lovely birthday and you should be very proud of yourself. YOU ROCK LOVELY LADY!
hey! I’m just 23, my birthday was on January 25, I’m definitely a birthday person, every year is a new victory, your video was very helpful, I will certainly follow your advice!
Thank you so much for making this video Gittemary! We are a similar age and this has made me think a bit about my own life and what I have achieved.
Keep doing what you are doing, you are one amazing person ❤
I’m 46 and still learning some of these life lessons 😆 my most memorable birthday was going up in a hot air balloon over the Nile at sunrise for my 30th 🎈
I'm 24 turning 25 this year. For many years of my life I didn't have many friends and feelings of loneliness and having expectations of how a birthday should be celebrate correctly would bother me. In an effort to be more true to myself I realized I am not very extroverted actually and I get recharged in nature or in experiencing traveling to a new country instead. Generally speaking I stick to this plan and this year I am going to travel to another state to visit a national park and go hiking.
I watched this video twice in a row, which I never do, because it was so important to me. I’m 26 and a lot of these I still haven’t figured out yet, so thank you ❤
happy early birthday!!! 30 is an incredible age, hope this decade brings even more incredible moments!
Hi!! Happy almost birthday! 🎉 I have been watching you for probably 5 years now. Started out watching your videos as a teacher on my lunch breaks learning how to have a less waste lifestyle and haven’t been able to stop watching! 😅 thanks so much for the inspiration your videos bring! It’s definitely been awesome to see even just in those 5 years how you and your channel have grown and expanded- all the amazing things that you’ve made happen in your career! Cheers to that!! Keep going! ❤ Love from Alaska!
Love this video, so inspiring to watch on Sunday, when it's possible to process it and start fresh from Monday ;)
I always take day off for my b'day, just to focus on myself that specific day - I recommend it to everyone!
Looooved this video and your energy is so contagious! I turned 30 this past fall and have definitely learned some of these things in recent years, but still have a way to go. Here's to us having a great time in our 30s!
Hello: fellow color-number synesthete here! I turned 56 a few days ago and spent the weekend with three dear friends, knitting/spinning/quilting/weaving, having tasty drinks and delicious vegetarian food, and talking nonstop by the fire: sleepovers are the best no matter your age!
I’m 44. Best advice wish I’d known it. What’s your fave thing do to? Special birthday dinner doing your fave thing for the day. Must not feel like a chore this thing. Have a pamper hour (self care). Depends how much time you have. Stop. breathe and enjoy! Happy birthday 🎉 🎂
New sub here! I love everything about your channel. I’m not vegan but more like pescatarian. I’ve cut out toxic people since I was bout 25 when I had my first son. You don’t need them. You’re doing an amazing job and I love your accent and channel!!
Oh my gosh- I LOVED this! I just turned 30 this month, and this resonated so much with me!
I love the earrings, they really complement your energy. each time you turn your head they bounce a little and it's really cute :)
I'm 25, and I'm usually not a birthday person I spend nearly 10 years without celebrating it until last Xmas when I got a lot of friends and people that I care for together and celebrated it for the first time again.
I really enjoy your videos and I just want to thank you for what you do. This year I will turn 30 too, and something I keep telling myself is that as long as I keep growing as a person, as long as I keep building the best version of myself then I'm doing great 😅, even if that doesn't mean perfect for someone's point of view. Keep growing, keep being humble and kind with others, keep being you, with the good things and the flaws too ❤️
Almost done with my 20s and think I have most of these things figured out. Talking kindly to myself and not comparing myself (in many matters) are still hard sometimes. Last weekend I had a really bad time and was starting to talk down to myself about being a wimp etc. but managed to catch myself and stop it. It takes a lot of practise though. What you said in the end about luck I can only partially agree with. Yes, many things we can achieve with hard work, determination, a good attitude etc. but there are always factors beyond our control and things like privilege, chance, opportunity, timing etc. definitely play a big roll. The "just work hard and you can do it" mentality can be devastating for people who are trying their best but circumstances won't allow their success. Instead of this I like to have an attitude of gratefulness. With that I can be grateful and proud for the things I accomplished, but I also know I have been blessed with many fortunes outside of my control and can try to uplift people who aren't that fortunate.
Thanks for your lessons, good to learn from you and hear some reminders! I am 30 now and for my birthday (and also for my husbands 30’s birthday) we ordered a foodtruck (pancakes!) and we had a garden party en it was amazing to gather with friends and family. Defenitly recommended!
I'm the same age as you and I found myself resonating with alot of these points. Especially the tax one!!! Goodbye 20's!
I will turn 27 in February and this was a great reminder of what's important in life! Thank you ❤
As I’m 23 I loved this list and going to try to take it on board ❤
This list is GOLD!! Keep up the fabulous work!! ✨Blessed Be!!! ✨
I'm 24, I'll turn 25 in a month and there's things in your list that I already learned, and there's other things that I do know, but don't necessarily applied yet in my life. But there's one thing that you said that I trully think is so important now is to love yourself in every way. Know your flaws and try to be better, but it takes time and it's ok. Nobody is perfect.
I'm 27 and hate my birthday. I'd like to have a big Party but I never had friends as a kid and teen and still struggle with social interaction as an adult although I've been to therapy. It got better but not good. I tried to host a small party 2 years ago. I invited 15 people and only 5 came. I won't try again, it still hurts.
Last year I got my tongue split a week before my birthday, so it was okay to spend the day alone, my body needed to heal.
I am now 32 and love this episode. Your last tip really moved me, because I feel I am creating the life that I want for myself, but am having a hard time being proud of myself (instread I feel insecure or like everything could fall apart in a second). I feel I have so much potential, and trusting that helps me, whenever I feel it for a second (and sometimes longer ^^)
Birthday stress is very very real for me. Personally I created a situation (an art exhibition opening of mine and a workshop the day before) where I was not the main organiser, but I would be in safe, loving, spaces and doing things I love :) )
I am 28 years old. I'm gonna be 29 in two weeks. My birthday plan is a little trip to Capadocia with my loved ones(fam and friends) We will spend the weekend there exploring good food and good sceneries 😍 cant wait for my last 20s birthday
Happy 30th G :) love your channel always
I'm 29 and turning 30 in a few weeks. I'm totally in sync with everything you say 🎉✌💪💃
I just turned 20 six months ago and I just went though my breakthrough realizing I’m 20 and I started embracing 20 back in November and I don’t regret it so far
Hej Gittemarie
I am 36, been vegan for 10 years ( celebrated in January), also a bit the same here, that I am not so strict anymore and I do eat no vegan pastry from time to time.
I live in viborg so it's harder to get all the vegan goodies.
Love this video and I am happy that you are sharing.
I love my 30's and I am sure you will too.
Hugs
"Be comfortable and happy and fabulous" 👏👏❤
Tomorrow and the days after the key words will be: “GO FOR IT!!!”
Thank you ❤
Tuurning 21 soon, definitely need this❤ my advice is to never take on a car payment if there is a slight possibility of you buying a car cash/ using public transportation 😊
I am turning 25 in a week and loved this video! Was very reassuring
I’m 22. I usually do like to have birthdays, but tbh they’ve been lonely the past few years, so I’m not as sure about them now. I like other people’s birthdays though because I like to spoil my loved ones. But if I did have a perfect birthday, it would be a few friends or chosen family of mine having a campfire (October birthday here) and eating our favorite foods then retiring inside to watch anime or a movie while cuddling my kitties. Maybe a game of cards against humanity, unstable unicorns, or exploding kittens? Lol… all that stuff happens at night, so in the morning I’d like to do a brunch of some kind and have some of my favorites like crepes with strawberries or raspberries on top, a cappuccino, idk just certain foods make me happy. I struggle with my relationship with food, so I feel guilty having these things usually, but my birthday feels like I’m giving myself a guilt free pass if that makes sense 😅😂
I'm 25, turning 26 this year. My early 20's are so different from my mid-to-late 20's. I feel more myself than ever 😁
In a few months I'm also turning 30. My best friend and I had an idea to have again a shared party like we did in elementary school.
Re: confronting your friends if you hear they are saying rude things about you. Another important reason for this is there is a possibility that said friend wasn’t saying anything rude at all but the person you heard it from is triangulating. Either way, someone is acting shady, but it’s always good to confirm what is happening.
Thank you, I needed to hear that 😊
23 in two days, thank you so much for that video!
Perfect timing! Needed this video today. Thank you
You are showing a lot of wisdom for your young age! ❤❤❤ well done
I’m 41😅 … but low key Looove all of your learnings
Turned 44 at the beginning of January. I wish I'd known what I know now when I was in my 20s, but I can do better now and help my students learn from my mistakes rather than their own 🙂
I’ll be turning 26 later this year. I love going to a local bakery 🧁on my birthday. I don’t go often cuz it’s expensive. I definitely find it difficult to be proud of myself and fall into the comparison trap often. Gonna restart therapy at some point….
You go Glen coco!!
I'll soon turn 27 and I am just figuring out that I am autistic. I did research for over two years now and am on the waiting list of specialists to get it checked. During all this I started to understand who I am behind the mask of trying to look normal. I figured out that I'm a lesbian, ended a long toxic relationship with a man, found my amazing girlfriend and start to thrive while engaging with my special interests. I absolutely hate birthdays, they are just too overwhelming. If possible I just have a relaxed day with nice cake and some Cards against humanity with my friends in the evening.
I’m 23 and used to not be a birthday person until I realized I need to be because most people won’t get to make it to 23,33,43 ect and life is very limited so we should celebrate it
22. You don't get to own them either. I do enjoy your talks about greenwashing. I'll have to go have a look at your TED Talk if it's available to watch.
❤Going to the gym should count, but I get your point! We need many hobbies 🎉