Over the past several months, my husband and I have been taking frequent day rips to small towns in our state, parking at the edge, walking down one side of Main Street and up the other, exploring all the little shops, eating lunch at local diners, meeting such friendly people, and learning so much about the history of our state (Kentucky). We truly enjoy those little excursions.
When I was young, and working, there was a lot of time ahead but I didn’t have a lot of time to enjoy it. Now that I’m retired, there’s less time ahead, but it’s time I will get to thoroughly enjoy. So it’s the quality of the time, and not the quantity, that I focus on. I cherish every second with loved ones. I stop and smell the roses. Life is good.
Great color on you Margaret! The older I get, the more precious time becomes. I am 69 and still work part time due to finances. I am very selective as to how I spend my free time as far as what I do, where I go, and who I see. The older I get, the more I focus on developing a closer connection with my Higher Power/God through my inner self and connection with others on a spiritual path. Always something new to learn and experience.
I am 70 and also work part-time out of necessity. So my time off work is very precious to me and I guard it as such. And , Margaret seems to be able to wear every color well!
I am quite happy living a simple life, in the past I couldn't spend a lot of time with my beloved companion animals, and their time with us is short, so for the time being I'm happy to stay at home with my senior cat who is so loving and misses me like a dog whenever I go out. I treasure every day I spend with him.
I completely understand this...talked it over w/ a friend and decided on a "30-day reset". The reset is to embrace things I need (emotionally/intellectually/physically): relationships (new/old friends); beauty/color (in home/self/my appearance); creativity; upgrade my surroundings (organize/clean/plants); and challenge (physical/mental). Like a shot in the arm--it's only 30 days, and I am still scheduling things (buying a ticket to a ballet/exhibition/concert, paying for a new tech certification in advance) that are more likely to be completed than cancelled. The trips to see older friends are in the future, but buying travel tickets next payday so I'm committed. The structure is in place, but I would like to get an idea of what sticks & can be maintained.
I’m 72. Tomorrow I’m leaving for a tour of Wales (I live in Virginia, US) with a friend. I will then go in to London, Amsterdam and Paris by myself. My husband passed away nearly six years ago after a short illness. It made me more aware of how quickly things can change so I now try to enjoy every day and to experience new things when the opportunity comes. I love to travel but am also a homebody. I enjoy my little garden, knitting, sketching, my grandchildren and my wonderful friends. Life is good, although sometimes I need a reminder. Thanks for the video, Margaret.
Hi Jan. That trip sounds absolutely wonderful. You are going to have a fabulous time. Hope the weather is good for you and that you experience all the amazing beauty of that part of the world. Take good care and let us know how it goes.
@@jangold6787 good for you Jan for going even though you’re a homebody, and going alone part of the time. That takes guts, imo. I am 71 but with multiple health issues can’t travel, but my brother who is 77 and was dragging his feet after Covid and a break up with his fiancé was finally talked into, by our SIL, traveling more before it’s too late. So now he’s going to Antarctica with side trips next month, and Italy and New Zealand/Australia next year. He’s using the OAT travel company on one or two of those, they somewhat cater to singles. We live in Colorado. Happy Travels!
I’m 65 and have believed for at least 30 yrs that we may not have tomorrow. I try to appreciate and enjoy each day as a gift. Yes I am aware of our lifespan ha ha ha according to science but don’t worry about it. I’m gonna live until I die! You look BEAUTIFUL today. Love your outlook and spirit!
Hi, I’m 60 yo and have had that “running out of time” dread for some time. I think some of it is watching parents and in laws pass away. My younger sister is on hospice care and I guess I’m grieving time lost and not much more to go. What is saving me right now is having a grandson and watching the beginning of new life.
I think about these things a lot. I have recently been doing new things. More visiting with friends and enjoying the conversation and laughter. I will be a great grandmother in September and I can't wait!
I recently thought about people I knew decades ago, and, decided to look them up! I reconnected with an old friend from 25 years ago. I sent a birthday card to a cousin and told her how grateful I am that she's in my life and how I admire some of her sterling qualities. I want to take the time now to let other people know how much I appreciate them. If we don't tell others now how we feel; when will we, or, will we ever? I guess I'm striving to become more authentic. Thank you for your good ideas, Margaret!
No, we have no idea how much time we have. Time and unforseen occurrence befall us all. I just try to take life a day at a time and be grateful and appreciative in the process for every day I granted to be alive.😊
That's lovely. I have no natural painting ability but I've just done a house sign which took me a month and it looks better than I had hoped. When I was 70 I bought myself a Yamaha keyboard.
I’m doing a watercolor class too even though I have no artistic ability. It’s fun to try and I’ve read it’s good for your brain to do creative things like painting or drawing. I just need to get over my desire to be good at everything I do!
It's very simple. I think the reason we feel we're running out of time is because we are most of our life is now behind us and it can get very depressing. But by the same token we can impart wisdom really stop and enjoy life like never before. There's no perfect and I'm also grateful that I've made it to 70 and that I've been so blessed with a beautiful family. Thank you for your topics. They are very necessary
Retired people have more “free time” than they ever had when they were younger and working full time and/or raising a family. They just need to use that time wisely. Also, as a Christian, spending time with God gives me a sense of security and a real hope that my time will not run out as I will simply be transitioning to the heavenly realm, eternal life having already begun for me. Hope and pray this helps someone. 🙏❤
I am most definitely aware that my time here is less. I don't have places I want to go or people I want to meet. I just enjoy all that I do have. I find beauty in my everyday life. I am so fortunate to be here, to be healthy & to have my loved ones. I don't take any of this for granted. The best use of my time is being a blessing. I have lived my whole life this way so it is no different now.
Yes, Margaret..I do. I've had a "bucket list" for a long time, and, due to either lack of financial resources, or not having a (travel) partner has kept me from visiting places I so wanted to see. I know plenty of mature women don't let that stop them, but, since losing my post-retirement part-time job, my budget won't allow much. Plus, chronic pain from my back issues and fibromyalgia contribute, as well. I'd need someone to go with, if I were able to go to Italy, which is at the top of the list. If not soon, I'll never get there. Yes, I feel like I'm running out of time and never really got to live the life I had dreamed of. I'm sure I'm not alone with that feeling. Thank you for discussing such a relevant topic. Rosemarie ❤
If we lived much nearer Rosey we could go together. I live in the UK. I went to Sorrento and the Bay of Naples 16 years ago with my daughter. It was so beautiful. There are lots of places I'd like to visit in Italy. I loved my few days there 😊
Hi Rosie I live in uk and went to sorrento last year with all the girls in my family , it was amazing. I have a wonderful family but love to have a travel partner to see more beautiful places . I just wouldn’t be able to travel on my own .I am constantly thinking Margaret I’ve got the time now but nobody to do it with . It helps I’m not the only one who thinks like that. Thank you
@@roseyc.5846 Hi Rosey, I am in the North East of England. All my friends are married and don’t want to leave their husbands or are not interested in travelling. I’m happy to travel anywhere in Europe but not sure anywhere further.
Wonderful ideas! I am a very routine person and sometimes that makes me feel like I am in a rut. I never really thought about changing the small things. I need more memory markers!!
First, you look absolutely stunning today Margaret! I retired from teaching and I decided to “take back” all those days (and nights, weekends, holidays, school breaks) I devoted to my students and do things I love. I hope I can get as many days back as I put in! Your perspective on trying new things is inspiring.
Recently tried tofu; good and my husband even liked it! I find energy lower at 65 (big change since 60) so choices need to be made about how I spend my time. And that's okay!
That is just so wise, Margaret! In fact, today I bought a new kind of tea. Just a small thing, but am looking forward to it. Also, I’m traveling to a new state here in the US where I had never been before - so something new on a larger scale. And, too funny, you talked about oat milk one day because you drink it every day, and I almost bought some today to try. Very expensive here in the US, so maybe on my next trip to the store. But you made it sound just so good! :).
I have a lot of dreams and plans but I am so tired! Age really hit me when I turned 70 for some reason. I had to retire. I'm still working when I want to but I really want to travel. It's going to happen very soon! I can't wait!
I do because I'm 65 and thinking of making a big move maybe out of the country which is very challenging but, as a buddhist, I am aware of impermanence which helps live life happily and peacefully. Thanks Margaret for your inspiring talks ❤
I do new things all the time! Hand stitch my clothes, make art, write my blog, cook new dishes. There's always new stuff. I catch wonderful TH-cam presentations on the fiber arts, take part in online pods. It's always new stuff. And I learned to whistle recently, at 85, wheeee. Driving everyone mad now, whistling inaccurate operatic faves.
On the search rail in our charity shop I found a linen blouse three sizes too big, 50p, took it home and cut myself a size 12. Another on the rail had obviously never been worn because the buttonholes were too small, but I soon fixed that. Sewing listening to Jose Cura is heavenly ❤
Absolutely a timely discussion. Thank you so much for bringing this subject to light, amongst all of us. Beautiful and honest words. Yep, clock is ticking…..
You look lovely. I experienced a first this week working with future Guide Dogs for the Blind. The puppies are 12 weeks and yesterday as a volunteer I learned how to place on their Guide Dog ( puppy) in training vest. Also their collar and leash and went for a walk on campus. After our social time we hugged them before putting them down for naps. It was awesome ❤❤❤ 🐕 🦮
Its not imagining that we are running out of time. We really are . I live in the present moment always. I do things that I love, but I think putting pressure on ourselves to do lots of thingz when we are older , can add more pressure. Ive had alot of interests and experiences in my life so I like not having to do alot now Im older. Being is living thats it. The best years of my life were the young years. Probably like most people). My new thing at the moment is buying and trying Arabic perfumes for the first time. Having great fun, in the morning putting on my perfume, sipping mint tea, and later in the morning eating turkish delight. This way I feel like I could be in Dubai. Probably seems strange to some people, but I am a bohemian girl at heart. Musk and sandlewood are my friends. Lol.
Yes, I do think about it sometimes but it's all part of the cycle. Not dwelling on it is important. As you said Margaret we need to open our hearts and minds to new thoughts and activities. Just try to find happiness in small things.
I wake up everyday and thank God for giving me another day. I try to live in the moment. Plan new things to do every week and most of the time stick to what I planned.
Hi Tracy. I hope everything went well. Losing parent is at your hard thing. You will be OK. Just take one day at a time. We’re here for you if you need support. Lots of love.
Do new things! If you’re scared …… then go scared! That’s what I’m trying to do. I’m actually looking for new things yo do deliberately because of how it really does make you feel more alive
I am a young 80, I walk, practice yoga, take pilates classes and am generally very positive until now. My husband of 59 years passed away a few weeks ago and he was truly my best friend. My children are not local so that makes it difficult. I spent the whole day yesterday in tears, feeling very lonely, I even had to leave church early because I couldn't control my tears and sadness. Will it ever get any better?
I can understand why you feel so lonely right now.. Will pass and I’m sure you’re going to be OK. You’re not alone. I’m glad that you’re responding to the question because it means that you’re still engaged and that’s wonderful. Please take good care of yourself.
Yes I have run out of time to do the things I have always wanted and hoped to do. A bad marriage has sucked the years and the time away. Too late now for my specific dreams to come true. Just have to adapt. It’s a terrible shame but it’s the consequence of my error of judgment.
What an interesting way to look at it. When I retired the pandemic hit and was in lockdown. once that stopped I decided to really get out and do something different. So I went to Japan for a class in dying fabric and to tour Tokyo. Had a great time this year I am going to England. Traveling alone can be scary but I am doing it and really enjoying myself.
Hi Jude. I really admire your decision to take this situation in hand and do something about it. I’d love to know about the Japanese tour that you did. I’d love textiles too and one of my highlights for travel. The last 10 years was to go to India on a Text tour have fabulous travels this year. You’re very brave. Have a wonderful time.
Same for me, I prefer naps because it prevents me from becoming exhausted, and putting my feet up benefits my circulation. The stillness of night is wonderful, a time to reflect and write.
I totally understand this comment. It’s hard for me to sometimes. But I think you have to let go of those fears. If you can maybe try taking a short trip overnight somewhere close and just make sure you stay in touch. I know it’s hard, but please try.
Thank you for broaching this very real topic. This year (75) has been the one that I wrestle with this on a daily basis. I feel like I'm just waiting for the inevitable and I've wondered if others my age feel the same. Thanks Again!
Stella, I understand. What choice do we have but to embrace life and what we can and want to do. Will be 74 soon and am my husband’s caregiver. Don’t have much time for myself or what I’d like to do. I try to embrace the small things that make me happy. Thank you Margaret for presenting this topic. Thinking it should help many of us. ❤
Margaret I just pray that I live long enough that my great grandchildren will know and remember me as a lovely and caring Nanny..Our time and how long we live isn't in our hands.We will live as long as God's plan for us .I firmly believe that Margaret no matter how old we are or what illness we have we aren't going anywhere unless its our time to go.Death has no age or time line,in my humble opinion.
WOW you really look BEAUTIFUL, hair, makeup , jewelry, nice color top & BEAUTIFUL personality! I always look forward to your videos. I've found that I'm normal, because I have a lot of feelings & thoughts that you talk about. I'm not the only one that feels this way. Thank you so much & GOD bless you. 😊
I build my heaven around me and my ashes will be sprinkled on this hillside. This earth provides all we need to make it beautiful if only people could see.
Thank you for your wise words Margaret. I also enjoyed everyone's comments. Your memory markers, triggered by experiencing new things has really resonated with me. Have a wonderful, memorable day. ❤
I've never felt like I was running out of time, but for a while I used to complain that there just "weren't enough hours in the day!" When I was a young single Mom of two active boys, and I was working two jobs to make ends meet, I voiced this complaint to my Mom, who replied " you have the same 24 hours a day that we all have." Right then and there my mindset shifted. I decided to control what I could and do the rest without complaint. This was even before I discovered Stouc philosophy! The mindset shift immediately made me calmer, and I'm sure it made me a better and more patient Mom.
Something I don't have time for anymore is being angry, bitter, and annoyed. It hasn't stopped me of course, but I'm beginning to realize what a colossal waste of time it is. Yes, life and its annoyances happen. But I can choose to take a few deep breaths, do some "box breathing", and quiet my mind. If I can't quite bring myself to feel compassion (I'm reading Pema Chödrön's marvelous book, "When Things Fall Apart"; people who've followed a few of my posts will know why the title drew me; compassion is one of her answers), I can at least calm myself and re-centre.
Thank you Margaret for this very insightful video. The concept of time is on my mind. I find when I’m engaged in activities that I enjoy like looking for deer tracks forest, walking on the beach, swimming in the ocean or playing music, time seems to stop. I’m unaware of it. (:
There are so many things to learn for free on TH-cam, new hobbies to try. It’s not going out and meeting people but the presenters are always fun and engaging and you engage your brain with new things. I’ve taken up the piano at age 63 wow it’s hard and my fingers are a little inflexible but I’m really enjoying the mental workout. I paint, draw, create, sew, sing, cook, dance, listen to new music. You may not be great at all these things but have fun trying. It is easy to sit at home and dwell in the past, worry about the future and not enjoy the present. But I’ve had to have hard words with myself and I said to me don’t look back when your time comes and think damn, why did I worry so much about things outside of my control and not enjoy the present moment. I’ve also reconnected with my faith and understanding of bigger things than myself and meditation, Qi Gong and crystals have helped me with anxiety. Take one baby step at a time, don’t eat the whole pie, take nibbles at it. But do try something new everyday. One little thing…that doesn’t take much commitment but that one tiny little thing may grow into something deeply fulfilling. Peace, love and light to you all ❤️❤️
Thanks for a wonderful video. I love talking about the heavier realities of life. Not too many people want to talk about these things. I was just checking out Amtrak. I’ve never taken the train anywhere and I know you take the train a lot. I do have a car and can do that, but I am going to plan a trip on the train. I have talked about it for years. I will plan for July. You have been an inspiration to me in many areas that you talk about like makeup, teas, travel, packing for trips. I’m packing now for my trip with my family on a Norwegian Cruise ship. I wasn’t sure if I’d make it with being ill, but as of today I am going on Sunday. Thank you to those who commented on a video where I mentioned this and I received positive comments that I would be going. Thank you. ❤️
At 88 I've almost completed my Bucket List, running out of time and energy. I've seen so many wonderful world-wide places, now enjoying things nearer home. My sitting room, sofa, tv, newspapers, magazines, are a great joy!
Love your video and you look so pretty. Your makeup look’s stunning. I am almost 72 and yes I do worry about running out of time. I had some health issues a couple of years ago and I still have to stay on top of my doctor appointments. I was really down about it and I’m doing better now. I paint and do different craft projects and that helps me so much to be busy. When I am creating I lose all track of time and I’m so focused on what I’m doing. It’s great therapy for me and I know it’s helps a lot of people!! Thank you for sharing I really appreciate you!!!🤗
Hi Sandra. You can give me an idea for another 30 day challenge. I think the idea of doing something different. Every single day is really fantastic. Let me think about how I’m going to do this but I really appreciate your feedback and this idea.
Very interesting video and I can certainly relate to this theme. I think it is about letting go of the past and the things you planned to do but never got around to. They can feel like a giant to do list and you know you can't do them all in the time that is left. Letting them go, for example getting rid of books that I haven't read yet, so that I can focus on new things
I really enjoyed this video. It highlighted feelings I've experienced over the past three years. Also, I love the necklace you are wearing. Where did you buy it!
A very good video Margaret. I have been thinking about this recently & have booked a few travels. Mainly to see friends that aren't travelling too well. Possibly not much time left so don't want to regret it by leaving it too long.
Orange is your color, Margaret! It's one of my favorites and I always respond to it. Also, wish I could find such a colorful necklace . . . Just embraced 70 in the fall, and I did it with grace and expectation. I'm still working, so many travel things are off my plate. But, I have a "movie buddy", we go see the latest films and follow up with lunch, and a rock-solid group of friends from college. Plus, I have maintained my health and my interests in cultural activities like live music (all types), theatre, art installations. Enjoy my own company (could welcome a little "bass" in my life, but opportunities to engage with men are rare. All in all -- I'm just fine!
I wish I could be "gone" sooner...so to speak. History shows clearly that you only need to live to the end of your 70s . After that your body is not a shelter anymore.
Perhaps some feel not so much that they are running out of time, but more likely fear of death. Death remains the ultimate unknown because no one in human history has survived it to tell us what really happens after we take our last breath. It is human nature to want to understand and make sense of the world around us. The reality is that death can never be fully understood by anyone who is living. The resilient and mentally sturdy live life, even though aware that there will be an end to life. We cannot allow ourselves to be crippled by what is a certainty. "Since we haven't gone through the experience of death (we've never died before) and since death doesn't exist in our unconscious, we can't actually fear death itself. When we say we are afraid of death, according to Freud, we may fear something else - such as abandonment, various unresolved conflicts, or otherwise fear of death may be the outcome of a sense of guilt. Yet
I don't fear death, but I hope to stay strong and resilient caring for my lifetime partner to the very end. Every promise made to those I have loved will be complete, job done. Nobody prepared me for a life in which I have witnessed first hand every obstacle and horror, yet I am stronger for it, and at the same time grasped every opportunity for success and happiness. A gypsy once told me my life would always be blessed, a true prophecy, fulfilled many times over, for which I can expect nothing more. My only wish is that my passing will be peaceful, a last great lovesong.
Hi Dolores. Your comment was so profound and thought-provoking. Thank you so much for taking the time to write those words. I also make a connection between the abandonment and the fear of death. I think having lost my mother when I was very young has established connection. It’s so interesting to think about these things isn’t it? But we have life to live so let’s move forward with this smile :-) thank you again for being here
Over the past several months, my husband and I have been taking frequent day rips to small towns in our state, parking at the edge, walking down one side of Main Street and up the other, exploring all the little shops, eating lunch at local diners, meeting such friendly people, and learning so much about the history of our state (Kentucky). We truly enjoy those little excursions.
This sounds like so much fun to me. Keep doing it!
I love this!! So many of us are blind to the sites around us.
That's lovely. Wish we could do this but instead we do it online.
Canadian here: Love Kentucky. Continue to enjoy your lovely state!
That sounds like a wonderful thing to do.
When I was young, and working, there was a lot of time ahead but I didn’t have a lot of time to enjoy it. Now that I’m retired, there’s less time ahead, but it’s time I will get to thoroughly enjoy. So it’s the quality of the time, and not the quantity, that I focus on. I cherish every second with loved ones. I stop and smell the roses. Life is good.
Pruning mine today, planted in memory of my mother, and called Kathleen's garden.
Great color on you Margaret! The older I get, the more precious time becomes. I am 69 and still work part time due to finances. I am very selective as to how I spend my free time as far as what I do, where I go, and who I see. The older I get, the more I focus on developing a closer connection with my Higher Power/God through my inner self and connection with others on a spiritual path. Always something new to learn and experience.
I am 70 and also work part-time out of necessity. So my time off work is very precious to me and I guard it as such. And , Margaret seems to be able to wear every color well!
I don’t feel that way, I’m renewed every morning with a new outlook and grateful for the good nights sleep
Well whoopie do.
You have a great attitude! Thanks for sharing!
I am quite happy living a simple life, in the past I couldn't spend a lot of time with my beloved companion animals, and their time with us is short, so for the time being I'm happy to stay at home with my senior cat who is so loving and misses me like a dog whenever I go out. I treasure every day I spend with him.
@@luluandmeow I understand completely. Don't let this be your last furbaby.
I took am gratefull for my bed and a good night's sleep
Yes I do. It’s something that's on my mind a lot these days.
Me too!
@@vi3472 Good to know I'm not the only one.
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Yes I think about it and I'm trying to live more in the present 💝 I also suffer from depression.
I completely understand this...talked it over w/ a friend and decided on a "30-day reset". The reset is to embrace things I need (emotionally/intellectually/physically): relationships (new/old friends); beauty/color (in home/self/my appearance); creativity; upgrade my surroundings (organize/clean/plants); and challenge (physical/mental). Like a shot in the arm--it's only 30 days, and I am still scheduling things (buying a ticket to a ballet/exhibition/concert, paying for a new tech certification in advance) that are more likely to be completed than cancelled. The trips to see older friends are in the future, but buying travel tickets next payday so I'm committed. The structure is in place, but I would like to get an idea of what sticks & can be maintained.
Excellent comment angelavan. Thank you.
I’m 72. Tomorrow I’m leaving for a tour of Wales (I live in Virginia, US) with a friend. I will then go in to London, Amsterdam and Paris by myself. My husband passed away nearly six years ago after a short illness. It made me more aware of how quickly things can change so I now try to enjoy every day and to experience new things when the opportunity comes. I love to travel but am also a homebody. I enjoy my little garden, knitting, sketching, my grandchildren and my wonderful friends. Life is good, although sometimes I need a reminder. Thanks for the video, Margaret.
Have a great trip Jan! You will enjoy every moment. Greetings from Europe. Bon voyage!
@@doloresaquines1529 Thank you
Hi Jan. That trip sounds absolutely wonderful. You are going to have a fabulous time. Hope the weather is good for you and that you experience all the amazing beauty of that part of the world. Take good care and let us know how it goes.
@@jangold6787 good for you Jan for going even though you’re a homebody, and going alone part of the time. That takes guts, imo. I am 71 but with multiple health issues can’t travel, but my brother who is 77 and was dragging his feet after Covid and a break up with his fiancé was finally talked into, by our SIL, traveling more before it’s too late. So now he’s going to Antarctica with side trips next month, and Italy and New Zealand/Australia next year. He’s using the OAT travel company on one or two of those, they somewhat cater to singles. We live in Colorado. Happy Travels!
@@jangold6787 I just realized you’ve already gone, did you have a good time?
Running out of gas and that’s ok with me!
Did a lot and had a great life, so far.
If I go tomorrow, I’ll be ok with it!
I’m 65 and have believed for at least 30 yrs that we may not have tomorrow. I try to appreciate and enjoy each day as a gift. Yes I am aware of our lifespan ha ha ha according to science but don’t worry about it. I’m gonna live until I die! You look BEAUTIFUL today. Love your outlook and spirit!
Hi, I’m 60 yo and have had that “running out of time” dread for some time. I think some of it is watching parents and in laws pass away. My younger sister is on hospice care and I guess I’m grieving time lost and not much more to go. What is saving me right now is having a grandson and watching the beginning of new life.
I think about these things a lot. I have recently been doing new things. More visiting with friends and enjoying the conversation and laughter. I will be a great grandmother in September and I can't wait!
I recently thought about people I knew decades ago, and, decided to look them up! I reconnected with an old friend from 25 years ago. I sent a birthday card to a cousin and told her how grateful I am that she's in my life and how I admire some of her sterling qualities. I want to take the time now to let other people know how much I appreciate them. If we don't tell others now how we feel; when will we, or, will we ever? I guess I'm striving to become more authentic. Thank you for your good ideas, Margaret!
I don't feel like I'm running out of time. Appreciate what I have. Lost a spouse and many friends. I am satisfied in my life.
Yes, this has been on my mind lately.
With this crazy world, I’m not the least bit worried about running out of time here. I feel sorry for those left behind.
No, we have no idea how much time we have. Time and unforseen occurrence befall us all. I just try to take life a day at a time and be grateful and appreciative in the process for every day I granted to be alive.😊
I'm trying a watercolor class as a new hobby. Learning new things and feeling good.
That's lovely. I have no natural painting ability but I've just done a house sign which took me a month and it looks better than I had hoped. When I was 70 I bought myself a Yamaha keyboard.
I’m doing a watercolor class too even though I have no artistic ability. It’s fun to try and I’ve read it’s good for your brain to do creative things like painting or drawing. I just need to get over my desire to be good at everything I do!
@@donnaengland3629Same here, but we do our best ❤
It's very simple. I think the reason we feel we're running out of time is because we are most of our life is now behind us and it can get very depressing. But by the same token we can impart wisdom really stop and enjoy life like never before. There's no perfect and I'm also grateful that I've made it to 70 and that I've been so blessed with a beautiful family. Thank you for your topics. They are very necessary
Retired people have more “free time” than they ever had when they were younger and working full time and/or raising a family. They just need to use that time wisely. Also, as a Christian, spending time with God gives me a sense of security and a real hope that my time will not run out as I will simply be transitioning to the heavenly realm, eternal life having already begun for me. Hope and pray this helps someone. 🙏❤
Amen. ✝️💕
I am most definitely aware that my time here is less. I don't have places I want to go or people I want to meet. I just enjoy all that I do have. I find beauty in my everyday life. I am so fortunate to be here, to be healthy & to have my loved ones. I don't take any of this for granted. The best use of my time is being a blessing. I have lived my whole life this way so it is no different now.
Yes, Margaret..I do. I've had a "bucket list" for a long time, and, due to either lack of financial resources, or not having a (travel) partner has kept me from visiting places I so wanted to see. I know plenty of mature women don't let that stop them, but, since losing my post-retirement part-time job, my budget won't allow much. Plus, chronic pain from my back issues and fibromyalgia contribute, as well. I'd need someone to go with, if I were able to go to Italy, which is at the top of the list. If not soon, I'll never get there. Yes, I feel like I'm running out of time and never really got to live the life I had dreamed of. I'm sure I'm not alone with that feeling. Thank you for discussing such a relevant topic. Rosemarie ❤
If we lived much nearer Rosey we could go together. I live in the UK. I went to Sorrento and the Bay of Naples 16 years ago with my daughter. It was so beautiful. There are lots of places I'd like to visit in Italy. I loved my few days there 😊
Hi Rosie I live in uk and went to sorrento last year with all the girls in my family , it was amazing.
I have a wonderful family but love to have a travel partner to see more beautiful places .
I just wouldn’t be able to travel on my own .I am constantly thinking Margaret I’ve got the time now but nobody to do it with .
It helps I’m not the only one who thinks like that. Thank you
@deehelen4923 How I wish! 💕🌷
@annefinley5596 Now, we have the time, but, not someone to go with. I don't think I can do it alone, either.
@@roseyc.5846 Hi Rosey, I am in the North East of England.
All my friends are married and don’t want to leave their husbands or are not interested in travelling.
I’m happy to travel anywhere in Europe but not sure anywhere further.
Wonderful ideas! I am a very routine person and sometimes that makes me feel like I am in a rut. I never really thought about changing the small things. I need more memory markers!!
First, you look absolutely stunning today Margaret! I retired from teaching and I decided to “take back” all those days (and nights, weekends, holidays, school breaks) I devoted to my students and do things I love. I hope I can get as many days back as I put in! Your perspective on trying new things is inspiring.
I know I’m running out of time. I thank God for another day every day. This video was great. It makes you think. Thanks Margaret ❤
You are truly delightful, and that was wonderful advice!
Yes we are running out of time. So enjoy every day that is left.
Recently tried tofu; good and my husband even liked it! I find energy lower at 65 (big change since 60) so choices need to be made about how I spend my time. And that's okay!
I use tofu often. Make batch meals with it. Freezes well.
All we have is now - absolutely!
That is just so wise, Margaret! In fact, today I bought a new kind of tea. Just a small thing, but am looking forward to it. Also, I’m traveling to a new state here in the US where I had never been before - so something new on a larger scale. And, too funny, you talked about oat milk one day because you drink it every day, and I almost bought some today to try. Very expensive here in the US, so maybe on my next trip to the store. But you made it sound just so good! :).
It is what it is, no stress, whatever will happen , no rush in life
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I have a lot of dreams and plans but I am so tired! Age really hit me when I turned 70 for some reason. I had to retire. I'm still working when I want to but I really want to travel. It's going to happen very soon! I can't wait!
Work/life balance is so important, on your deathbed you won't wish you had spent more time at the office
Live everyday as if it’s your last..one day it will be
Thank you for this comment. It’s a very stoic perspective. Thank you again.
I do because I'm 65 and thinking of making a big move maybe out of the country which is very challenging but, as a buddhist, I am aware of impermanence which helps live life happily and peacefully. Thanks Margaret for your inspiring talks ❤
This is an interesting subject. My life has become a lot more quiet now and I am happy with that.
I do new things all the time! Hand stitch my clothes, make art, write my blog, cook new dishes. There's always new stuff. I catch wonderful TH-cam presentations on the fiber arts, take part in online pods. It's always new stuff. And I learned to whistle recently, at 85, wheeee. Driving everyone mad now, whistling inaccurate operatic faves.
On the search rail in our charity shop I found a linen blouse three sizes too big, 50p, took it home and cut myself a size 12. Another on the rail had obviously never been worn because the buttonholes were too small, but I soon fixed that. Sewing listening to Jose Cura is heavenly ❤
@@jennywren8937 I like your style Jenny! What a voice he has, José Cura. Unusual and very recognisable.
You look gorgeous in that coral/red color! ❤
Absolutely a timely discussion. Thank you so much for bringing this subject to light, amongst all of us. Beautiful and honest words. Yep, clock is ticking…..
You look lovely.
I experienced a first this week working with future Guide Dogs for the Blind. The puppies are 12 weeks and yesterday as a volunteer I learned how to place on their Guide Dog ( puppy) in training vest. Also their collar and leash and went for a walk on campus. After our social time we hugged them before putting them down for naps.
It was awesome ❤❤❤ 🐕 🦮
Wonderful!
Its not imagining that we are running out of time. We really are . I live in the present moment always. I do things that I love, but I think putting pressure on ourselves to do lots of thingz when we are older , can add more pressure. Ive had alot of interests and experiences in my life so I like not having to do alot now Im older. Being is living thats it. The best years of my life were the young years. Probably like most people). My new thing at the moment is buying and trying Arabic perfumes for the first time. Having great fun, in the morning putting on my perfume, sipping mint tea, and later in the morning eating turkish delight. This way I feel like I could be in Dubai. Probably seems strange to some people, but I am a bohemian girl at heart. Musk and sandlewood are my friends. Lol.
I love those perfumes but at the moment using my husband's Indian cologne. He remarked how nice I wafted round the room...😊
I don't have the same ability to do the things I used to do. I'm healthy but I used to work 12.5 hours and go home and garden etc.
Yes, I do think about it sometimes but it's all part of the cycle.
Not dwelling on it is important. As you said Margaret we need to open our hearts and minds to new thoughts and activities. Just try to find happiness in small things.
I wake up everyday and thank God for giving me another day. I try to live in the moment. Plan new things to do every week and most of the time stick to what I planned.
Thank you. It's my dad's funeral tomorrow and I really needed this today xxx
Hi Tracy. I hope everything went well. Losing parent is at your hard thing. You will be OK. Just take one day at a time. We’re here for you if you need support. Lots of love.
Do new things! If you’re scared …… then go scared! That’s what I’m trying to do. I’m actually looking for new things yo do deliberately because of how it really does make you feel more alive
You look really radiant in this video
I am a young 80, I walk, practice yoga, take pilates classes and am generally very positive until now. My husband of 59 years passed away a few weeks ago and he was truly my best friend. My children are not local so that makes it difficult. I spent the whole day yesterday in tears, feeling very lonely, I even had to leave church early because I couldn't control my tears and sadness. Will it ever get any better?
I can understand why you feel so lonely right now.. Will pass and I’m sure you’re going to be OK. You’re not alone. I’m glad that you’re responding to the question because it means that you’re still engaged and that’s wonderful. Please take good care of yourself.
. yes i feel that way about being around the grandchildren . when they are 20 and over i won't be here any more .
Yes I have run out of time to do the things I have always wanted and hoped to do. A bad marriage has sucked the years and the time away. Too late now for my specific dreams to come true. Just have to adapt. It’s a terrible shame but it’s the consequence of my error of judgment.
You're still here! Don't waste time on what WAS. I hope you can develop NEW dreams and work on achieving them!
What an interesting way to look at it. When I retired the pandemic hit and was in lockdown. once that stopped I decided to really get out and do something different. So I went to Japan for a class in dying fabric and to tour Tokyo. Had a great time this year I am going to England. Traveling alone can be scary but I am doing it and really enjoying myself.
A great color on you!
Hi Jude. I really admire your decision to take this situation in hand and do something about it. I’d love to know about the Japanese tour that you did. I’d love textiles too and one of my highlights for travel. The last 10 years was to go to India on a Text tour have fabulous travels this year. You’re very brave. Have a wonderful time.
Not really, since that eclipse I'm full of energy, hard to sleep. But I give myself permission to take naps and just kick up my legs during the day.
Same for me, I prefer naps because it prevents me from becoming exhausted, and putting my feet up benefits my circulation. The stillness of night is wonderful, a time to reflect and write.
Yes, I want to travel but I am afraid I’ll die out there. I know it’s silly and smacks of paranoia. I’ve got to overcome that feeling of fear.
I totally understand this comment. It’s hard for me to sometimes. But I think you have to let go of those fears. If you can maybe try taking a short trip overnight somewhere close and just make sure you stay in touch. I know it’s hard, but please try.
I’m thankful for another day we get. Thanks Margaret ❤
Thank you for broaching this very real topic. This year (75) has been the one that I wrestle with this on a daily basis. I feel like I'm just waiting for the inevitable and I've wondered if others my age feel the same. Thanks Again!
about 1/2 way through my 69th year this started for me and got worse at 70. now I'm fighting my way back to not fill this way.
Thanks for sharing!
Stella, I understand. What choice do we have but to embrace life and what we can and want to do. Will be 74 soon and am my husband’s caregiver. Don’t have much time for myself or what I’d like to do. I try to embrace the small things that make me happy.
Thank you Margaret for presenting this topic. Thinking it should help many of us. ❤
Thank you, Margaret. Absolutely agree!
Margaret I just pray that I live long enough that my great grandchildren will know and remember me as a lovely and caring Nanny..Our time and how long we live isn't in our hands.We will live as long as God's plan for us .I firmly believe that Margaret no matter how old we are or what illness we have we aren't going anywhere unless its our time to go.Death has no age or time line,in my humble opinion.
WOW you really look BEAUTIFUL, hair, makeup , jewelry, nice color top & BEAUTIFUL personality! I always look forward to your videos. I've found that I'm normal, because I have a lot of feelings & thoughts that you talk about. I'm not the only one that feels this way. Thank you so much & GOD bless you. 😊
Thank you so much!!
Running out of time on the earth plane...but there is no time in heaven..only eternity!
Hopefully
How do you know
I build my heaven around me and my ashes will be sprinkled on this hillside. This earth provides all we need to make it beautiful if only people could see.
Amen
Well said Connie
Interesting! Very insightful. Thank you Margaret
i think about this a lot. i'm going to try what you said try different things. thank you for sharing. enjoyed video.
Thank you for your wise words Margaret. I also enjoyed everyone's comments. Your memory markers, triggered by experiencing new things has really resonated with me. Have a wonderful, memorable day. ❤
You are so welcome
Good morning Margaret, thank so much for today’s video🌻🌻🌻Greetings from So California USA🌞🌞🌞
I've never felt like I was running out of time, but for a while I used to complain that there just "weren't enough hours in the day!" When I was a young single Mom of two active boys, and I was working two jobs to make ends meet, I voiced this complaint to my Mom, who replied " you have the same 24 hours a day that we all have." Right then and there my mindset shifted. I decided to control what I could and do the rest without complaint. This was even before I discovered Stouc philosophy! The mindset shift immediately made me calmer, and I'm sure it made me a better and more patient Mom.
Something I don't have time for anymore is being angry, bitter, and annoyed. It hasn't stopped me of course, but I'm beginning to realize what a colossal waste of time it is. Yes, life and its annoyances happen. But I can choose to take a few deep breaths, do some "box breathing", and quiet my mind. If I can't quite bring myself to feel compassion (I'm reading Pema Chödrön's marvelous book, "When Things Fall Apart"; people who've followed a few of my posts will know why the title drew me; compassion is one of her answers), I can at least calm myself and re-centre.
I love Pema Chodron - such a fabulous book!!
Thank you Margaret for this very insightful video. The concept of time is on my mind. I find when I’m engaged in activities that I enjoy like looking for deer tracks forest, walking on the beach, swimming in the ocean or playing music, time seems to stop. I’m unaware of it. (:
Tom at London School of Piano has a video tutorial playing Clocks, it's fun.
Very good and important messages Margaret! Thank you very much!
Such a good idea! I’m just living each day as it comes. I will start that. Tnanks!
Memory marker - Changing things up, great idea- slowing time. 😁👍
Hi I’m so glad to have come across you. You’re such a wise lady I seem to be hanging on to your every word. Tnx so very much
It’s the middle of the night, and I was having a really bad anxiety episode. Your video helped me a lot. Thank you so much 🤍
Thank you for reminding me to be open to doing new things. I will strive to lightened up to a little less structured lifestyle. 💕
There are so many things to learn for free on TH-cam, new hobbies to try. It’s not going out and meeting people but the presenters are always fun and engaging and you engage your brain with new things. I’ve taken up the piano at age 63 wow it’s hard and my fingers are a little inflexible but I’m really enjoying the mental workout. I paint, draw, create, sew, sing, cook, dance, listen to new music. You may not be great at all these things but have fun trying. It is easy to sit at home and dwell in the past, worry about the future and not enjoy the present. But I’ve had to have hard words with myself and I said to me don’t look back when your time comes and think damn, why did I worry so much about things outside of my control and not enjoy the present moment. I’ve also reconnected with my faith and understanding of bigger things than myself and meditation, Qi Gong and crystals have helped me with anxiety. Take one baby step at a time, don’t eat the whole pie, take nibbles at it. But do try something new everyday. One little thing…that doesn’t take much commitment but that one tiny little thing may grow into something deeply fulfilling. Peace, love and light to you all ❤️❤️
Purchased my Yamaha keyboard when I was 70 and following theory online to learn how to write down my compositions.
Thanks for a wonderful video. I love talking about the heavier realities of life. Not too many people want to talk about these things. I was just checking out Amtrak. I’ve never taken the train anywhere and I know you take the train a lot. I do have a car and can do that, but I am going to plan a trip on the train. I have talked about it for years. I will plan for July. You have been an inspiration to me in many areas that you talk about like makeup, teas, travel, packing for trips. I’m packing now for my trip with my family on a Norwegian Cruise ship. I wasn’t sure if I’d make it with being ill, but as of today I am going on Sunday. Thank you to those who commented on a video where I mentioned this and I received positive comments that I would be going. Thank you. ❤️
Thank you.
Learning how to do yhings that i enjoy...finding what i enjoy and is possible physically. Im 66 and am constantly lightheaded.
Its a seach
At 88 I've almost completed my Bucket List, running out of time and energy. I've seen so many wonderful world-wide places, now enjoying things nearer home. My sitting room, sofa, tv, newspapers, magazines, are a great joy!
Love your video and you look so pretty. Your makeup look’s stunning. I am almost 72 and yes I do worry about running out of time. I had some health issues a couple of years ago and I still have to stay on top of my doctor appointments. I was really down about it and I’m doing better now. I paint and do different craft projects and that helps me so much to be busy. When I am creating I lose all track of time and I’m so focused on what I’m doing. It’s great therapy for me and I know it’s helps a lot of people!! Thank you for sharing I really appreciate you!!!🤗
Margaret, you are so pleasant to watch and very helpful in giving us tips to live a better life. Thank you for all you do. Much appreciated. ❤😺
Great topic, I plan to go too 10
Places that I have never been before , within a year🎉and do 10 things that I have never done before within a year🎉🎉🎉
Hi Sandra. You can give me an idea for another 30 day challenge. I think the idea of doing something different. Every single day is really fantastic. Let me think about how I’m going to do this but I really appreciate your feedback and this idea.
Mixeds things up that's how I do things wendy😊
Very interesting video and I can certainly relate to this theme. I think it is about letting go of the past and the things you planned to do but never got around to. They can feel like a giant to do list and you know you can't do them all in the time that is left. Letting them go, for example getting rid of books that I haven't read yet, so that I can focus on new things
Thanks for sharing!
I would 65 this year. I absolutely tired.
I really enjoyed this video. It highlighted feelings I've experienced over the past three years. Also, I love the necklace you are wearing. Where did you buy it!
I think Margaret creates a lot of her necklaces herself
A very good video Margaret. I have been thinking about this recently & have booked a few travels. Mainly to see friends that aren't travelling too well. Possibly not much time left so don't want to regret it by leaving it too long.
Orange is your color, Margaret! It's one of my favorites and I always respond to it. Also, wish I could find such a colorful necklace . . . Just embraced 70 in the fall, and I did it with grace and expectation. I'm still working, so many travel things are off my plate. But, I have a "movie buddy", we go see the latest films and follow up with lunch, and a rock-solid group of friends from college. Plus, I have maintained my health and my interests in cultural activities like live music (all types), theatre, art installations. Enjoy my own company (could welcome a little "bass" in my life, but opportunities to engage with men are rare. All in all -- I'm just fine!
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Yes! I've sent you an email so we can meet up before we do run out of time! Let me know if you don't get it! Suzi x
Got it! Hi Suzy! Got your message but not sure what your question was :-)
Yes!
Makes sense. The memory markers is an interesting concept. Thank you for sharing.
Dieing is one sure thing we all have to face so don't waste time 😊
Love this! Thank you ❤
Thank You so much for this topic,
You are most welcome
Running out of steam
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I feel I’m in the “middle of my last chapter” - I’m 76 (or 77) ?
I wish I could be "gone" sooner...so to speak.
History shows clearly that you only need to live to the end of your 70s . After that your body is not a shelter anymore.
That’s an interesting perspective, but I can see it
I agree. We are doing well if we reach mid 70 s.
Perhaps some feel not so much that they are running out of time, but more likely fear of death.
Death remains the ultimate unknown because no one in human history has survived it to tell us what really happens after we take our last breath. It is human nature to want to understand and make sense of the world around us. The reality is that death can never be fully understood by anyone who is living.
The resilient and mentally sturdy live life, even though aware that there will be an end to life. We cannot allow ourselves to be crippled by what is a certainty.
"Since we haven't gone through the experience of death (we've never died before) and since death doesn't exist in our unconscious, we can't actually fear death itself. When we say we are afraid of death, according to Freud, we may fear something else - such as abandonment, various unresolved conflicts, or otherwise fear of death may be the outcome of a sense of guilt. Yet
I don't fear death, but I hope to stay strong and resilient caring for my lifetime partner to the very end. Every promise made to those I have loved will be complete, job done. Nobody prepared me for a life in which I have witnessed first hand every obstacle and horror, yet I am stronger for it, and at the same time grasped every opportunity for success and happiness. A gypsy once told me my life would always be blessed, a true prophecy, fulfilled many times over, for which I can expect nothing more. My only wish is that my passing will be peaceful, a last great lovesong.
@@jennywren8937 Lovely sentiments, Jenny. I concur fully.
Hi Dolores. Your comment was so profound and thought-provoking. Thank you so much for taking the time to write those words. I also make a connection between the abandonment and the fear of death. I think having lost my mother when I was very young has established connection. It’s so interesting to think about these things isn’t it? But we have life to live so let’s move forward with this smile :-) thank you again for being here
All the time😅
At 71 I don’t feel like it, I am. :-)
I don't feel like I'm running out of time, but it shocks me that in 15 to 20 years i will be pushing up dasies!😂
My husband's favourite flower❤
I am 60 and looking for a roommate this will be new to me,I live in south GA. But will move.
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I learned to pump gas 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
That color favors you