This is also why I ALWAYS do my own hair, and make my own Wigs. This way, if I'm ugly...its my own fault😂. TH-cam taught me everything about hair💅🏾. I haven't been to a salon in over 12 years.
I've saved thousands of dollars by switching to TH-cam Beauty Academy🤣. So thankful for those that take the mystery out of things for us everyday people!! My most traumatic experience was when I went to get a sew-in for my senior head shots. (This was back when sew-ins were new to the scene..) Went to the salon and spent $200 to look a fool to only come home and take my hair down, cry and figure out what I was gonna do for my pictures. I was so hurt and and ugly.
Had a french silk wrap on my nails, it lasted one day, called to have nails redone, the owner refused, and no refund. I called State of Cosmetology of California, filed a complaint. In thirty days the owner refunded my money with a smile. I don't cry, I don't argue, I let consumer protection agencies do the work.😎
Probably because it reminds us of our moms doing our hair when we were younger and we couldn’t talk back then so as adults we carry the same traits in the salon chair……
@@teniaosayande6355 yes sometimes you sit and establish a rapport with them. It’s hard for me to be what I perceive as “rude” or dissatisfied with somebody I just spent hours chatting politely with. I also wonder if they’ll be angry or embarrassed if their co-workers or the other customers overhear or see. I wonder if I’ll look like a Karen for complaining. As you can see, I overthink it, that’s why I mostly just do my hair myself.
I went to get box braids, but I ended up lookin like the black version of Anjelica's doll from the Rugrats. 🤣😂 I was so mad I told her I'd give her something for her time, but I refused to pay for the work cause it was trash. She had the nerve to ask me what was wrong with it. I was like... Girl are you serious? Look at my head! After that, she just said "ok then". My bf came to pick me up, and when I got in the car, he didn't say a word. Not one word...just stared at me. We drove in silence the whole way home. 😂🤣😂
Omg...the way you talked about the car ride home got me cracking up 😂 Trust me I've been there before with tree braids when they first became popular. Ole girl had me looking like a Rastafara from the islands...nothing like the pictures I showed her 🤭😂
As a stylist of 25yrs who have witnessed others go through this.... Most often I'd fixed it for them when the client asked. The other stylist can get mad if they want, I'm not gonna let someone suffer for the ignorance of others. If I feel I'm unable to accomplish what a customer is looking for I will refer them to the one person I know is the best at what they asked for. Trust is not given, it's earned. I pray I never stop earning the trust of my clients. Shalom
And the stylists be trying to support each other, telling you on the way out the door how good your hair looks, knowing their coworker just did you bad.
True story! I left a mall salon looking like my hair was cut in the dark…looking like an uneven plucked chicken😳 The other stylists tried to convince me it wasn’t that bad…two thumbs up. Ahhh, whenever is a randomly plucked chicken (look) a good thing😂?
I haven't gone to a hairdresser in years because I CANNOT with beauticians who think they're magicians and can do 8 heads at the same time. I told one beautician that she should be paying me after spending almost 8 hours in her shop watching her do everybody's hair except mine. I have no problem speaking up when I'm spending my money.
I had to leave multiple stylists because no you cannot run an errand and do a twist out, sew in and butt length braids when I came in for a wash and style. You're playing with me and my money. I learned go where the old ladies with money go, they schedule your time and you're the only person in there seat.
I hate to say it, but I don’t get that treatment in the suburbs. You’re going to pay a bit extra but you’re going to get exactly what you pay for plus some education and questions answered I can’t do the waste my time ratchet shit, irks my soul 😮💨😮💨
I spoke up many years ago. Older woman named Evelyn in our church owned a salon, did everyone’s hair. I was trying to grow my hair out of a style and every time I’d go to her, I’d reiterate this fact-don’t cut my hair. Apparently she was trying to keep it in the old style. Come to find out she would be cutting my hair when she’d have me turned away from the mirror or if my eyes were closed. I made sure that when I nervously addressed the issue with HER, that no one else was around. I was more disappointed-the whole trust issue, than angry with her. She went OFF on me! She then blasted me among the church members! Years later she actually attended my sister-in-law’s funeral. She spoke to everyone else there. But she was still pissed off at me-turned her nose right up at me, refused to say a word to me. This! This is why women don’t speak up! Some beauticians like doctors, try to place themselves in godlike positions-like you aren’t suppose to express yourself about your own care or hair!
I’m so sorry you experienced that sis. That was wrong and totally unacceptable what that lady did. And it’s disgusting when so called Christians treat people like this then try to hide behind cross…crazy cowards!!!
Kudos to you sis. Last person that spoke up was Shirleen. Boy did she speak up when they gave her a pineapple. She even tore the salon up before they put her out.
Yes chile! Shirleen gave them womens the bizniz! Lawd I need to start channeling me some Shirleen when I go to the salon cuz I'll pull aside a chicken shack server, a government clerk even a lazy retail worker respectful like ya know but nooooo chile my drawers ain't big enough to take on no hair stylist. Its "oh thank you! Yes see you next week!😁👍".......😢😢😢😭😭😭
I've cried in the car too many times. Now I'm that annoying client that triple checks what's going on back there every ten seconds. You not about to have me paying 100+ dollars just to leave looking like Lord Farquaad
I never spoke up when I was younger but little by little I started to but always in a respectful way. I taught my daughters from day one to never be afraid to vocalize their opinions, discomforts and never be afraid to say no as long it is said it a respectful but assertive way. Chile that oldest girl be telling the nail technician and the stylist her thoughts in a New York minute with no shame or hesitation…Im like in my mind, girl you could have let that little mistake slide!!! lol but I taught her that so it’s great that she can stand up for herself…but I have created a monster lol
Congratulations to her! As a white woman with very curly fine hair, I've cried after paying good money for a hair cut. However, the only time I asked them to fix it was when my "Cherry Cola" hair color turned magenta. We need to speak up!
I most definitely have spoken up at the beauty shop. This particular stylist kept trying to overcharge me due to my occupation. I was referred to her by a work friend. This heiffa double charged me for a service and I told her, if I find out you were lying to me, I’m going to be back. Mind you I would tip her, so I wasn’t being shiesty. I had my home girl call back to the salon and ask for the price of the same service (on three way) as I sat in the parking lot of the salon. She called, was given the correct price and I rolled up in that salon to shut it all down! Lol the stylist hid in the supply closet. I told her to come out or I was going to drag her out. 😬
I prayed to God to help me maintain my hair. It was one of this long hard crying prayers. Because I was tired of paying people to do what they want to do with my hair. Two weeks later I learned how to maintain my locks. That was year 2000. That is how long it's been since someone has touched my hair. I haven't had any problems with my hair since.🙏🏾
I spoke up. 😭 Because it was a HELLLLNA for me. So I walked in with my hair longer than it had been since I was 12 (I was 21 when this happened) so I was excited. I said I wanted an A line bob. I wanted her to trim my ends in the front but DONT 👏🏾CUT 👏🏾NONE 👏🏾OF 👏🏾THE 👏🏾HAIR 👏🏾IN 👏🏾THE 👏🏾FRONT! So she washed it, blow dryed it, and then straightened it and I was GEEKED because my hair was passed, beyond, over, my shoulders ok. This coming from someone who spent most of her adult life with chin length hair. So I was like OMG this is about to be so damn cute. She starts cutting the back and I am on my phone. The pulls back my hair in the front and I'm like ok cool she trimming it.....y'all....YALLLLLLLLLLL!!!. 😭😭😭😭 WHY DO I LOOK UP......and my passed the shoulder length hair is touching my cheek????? Like......why do I look like the little boy from damn Shrek 4 talking about 'Do the roar!!"??????? I got up and was like nope no this is not what I wanted I said don't touch the front and I refused to pay. I wanted to cut her hair so she could see how I felt... like....I was .38 hot!!! The owner came and apologized and tried to do something but it didn't work and I just left in tears and it took me ....4 years to go to another salon after that I was just defeated and distraught. 😐😐😐😐😭
She did that on purpose. Sometimes they don't want you to be too cute and are all to thrilled to cut all your hair off sadly. I hope your hair grew back quickly, healthy, and longer than before.
I spoke up about terrible customer service at the salon...she got mad and refused to take accountability...I was over her and that ridiculous behavior so I found a new stylist. ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!
I remember when I was about to enter my senior year of highschool and I wanted a sew in soooo bad. I never got a chance to get one because beauticians would always say I have enough hair and I didn’t need one( this was back when the natural hair movement was just taking off and a lot of them low key didn’t know how to do natural hair especially long natural hair.)My mom finally found a lady that said she could do it. I was so excited. Maaan this woman ended up braiding my hair into basically a top not bun! She didn’t know how to braid my hair into a pattern that would lay flat and I ended up walking around the house looking like a cone head for 3 days until I just ended up taking it down and wasting my lil hard earned teenage money😩
I didn't know other women struggled with this. The last time I went to the salon I spoke to the hairdresser before my actual appointment and explained to her how uncomfortable it is for me to speak up about exactly what I want and what I don't want, she was very nice and understanding. My previous salon visit prior to this one was over five years ago because the hairdresser cut my almost bra strap length hair into a Bob and I didn't say a word. I can't be silent no mo to nobody after that.🙄
folks are going right to hell, why have we all had that Edward scissor hand experience like every time I get a trim I'm swinging my head around to look because someone cut me bald years ago.
@@helenaduncan2310 Maybe so, but to cut someone's hair off when they didn't ask that is damaging to our Spirit. I know it's just hair but, I have always felt downtrodden and embarrassed when my hair wasn't right. And to purposely do that is like a doctor maiming a patient because he felt like it.
A barber once put this powder on my hairline to fill it in that I did not ask for. i was so confused when I felt him doing it, unannounced, and then confused how I ended up with that 5 gum edge up. Also for context I’m white 😂 Then I sweated it off biking to my job. It was so embarrassing when I showed up to work. But nope I never complained or made a fuss. He was such a sweet guy and kind to me. But, I also never went back 😭😂
😂😂 So why did I just get a visual of some white dude on a bike pedallin like crazy and sweatin the hell out of that ish on your forehead? 😂😂 so sorry guy.😂😂
Yes! My regular stylist had an emergency and was not available for the week. I called around and a hair salon in the mall assured me that they did ethnic hair. I arrived about 15 minutes early and watched the stylist do an older white ladies hair in a bee hive style bonnet up do. After the lady was done she tipped the stylist, thanked her and appeared to leave quite happy. The same lady then called my name after checking the appointment book and I was taken aback. I said to her, "they told me the stylist I would receive can do "ethnic hair" and she said,-" oh honey I do all kinds of hair. I've been a stylist for 20 years." I hesitantly went to her chair and she could tell I was reluctant. She felt my hair out, said I had long hair or more hair than she thought and I again asked, So you've done " ethnic hair" often? She confidently said, " of course". What would you like done today? I showed her a picture of an Chignon (up do) very classic and elegant because I was going to a wedding. She said " oh that's niiiice with a southern drawl. By the time she got finished, and swung me around in the chair to see myself in the mirror-- girrrrrl I looked like a black country and western singer that should have had on a white fringed jacket and a guitar strumming some horrible song like my dog died and my husband dun left me for my step-daughter. It was a HOT mess! It looked just like the white ladies hair she did right before me! I got the shaking my head like oh hell nawwwww. She replied, you don't like it? I said no ma'am I do not. It looks nothing and I mean nothing like the picture. I just kept saying I can't, I can't. I asked to see a manager and another white lady came from out of nowhere and instantly looked at me as if she wanted to burst out laughing, but managed to keep her composure--slightly. She didn't even have to ask me what was wrong-- she immediately knew. That woman had put so much hair spray in my hair,.... there was no movement, no nothing but just stiffness in every direction. The manager said there was another black stylist who worked there in the evenings but was not due to arrive for another hour and would I be ok with waiting or coming back. I looked at her like where the hell imma go looking like this! I kindly told her that I will not pay for two different hairstylist. She assured me that there would be no additional fee for the incoming stylist to redo what I wanted. I swear I could hear the manager lady laughing in the back office. I was so hungry that I took my hard ass bee hive country sanger hair do and went to sit in chick fila, and got the biggest cup of sweet tea I could get. At the end, I was so traumatized I just asked the black girl to wash it and flat iron and curl the ends. 3 1/2 hours-4 hours later I came out of the salon with the simplest hairstyle ever and ended up getting lots of compliments. Clearly, she may have been a stylist for 20 years, but she absolutely DID NOT know a damn thing about a Chignon nor ethnic hair. LOL!
😂😂….beehive country singing lol oh no yikes! That lady knew she couldn’t do ethnic hair. Smh she might have done some other ethnic folks hair but not our type hair. And the hairspray 🤣
See? Glad you got your hair right. I seeing or Using the term "ethnic" to our hair, because then what is Caucasian hair? And what makes it non-ethnic or standard? It slightly implies superiority over another's hair. I just say, afro ,kinky,curly or textured etc Its clearer going by texture than race.
I used to take PICTURES of what I wanted and still walked out dissatisfied. I never got my Monie Love ponytail and bang style OR my Janet Jackson Pleasure Principle wrap. Just a bunch of press and curl foolishness. Once I was able to go to the beauty supply store by myself I never walked back into a salon. I know now at my big age of 41 I STILL wouldn’t be able to speak up for myself. Smh 😂
Dropping truth bombs and facts.👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 I went in the salon “asking” for a Fantasia hairstyle and I “got” Sophia Petrillo from the Golden Girls hairstyle. Aka Dorothy’s mom. Family, friends, and others couldn’t stop laughing for days. #Facts
I learned how to do my own natural hair because of this. I can’t count how many times I had my hair ripped out, chopped uneven, too much chopped off, blow dried to a crisp, box braids straggly on the ends, and much more. Each time I said thank you I love it and walked out crying. I solved it by doing my own hair and never going back to a salon again.
Amen to this. I always figure out a way to do my own natural hair. The amount of hair setbacks i got when going to the salon and feeling like half my hair was ripped out. The amount of damage control i had to do afterwards was not worth the short term hairstyle
@@blaqmermaiid yes! All those dang setbacks. 😂Could have had hair down my back by now in it’s natural state (no blowout needed). It’s armpit length now in it’s natural state, so It’s making its way back down.
CRIEDT hard about that! I had 4 different hairstyles on my one single head. One on each quadrant. going clockwise, a finger wave, a French roll, some crimps, and some pincurls. Beautician was hyping me UP, she thought she was in her BAG with this one. And when I got in the car I cried and cussed everybody in that salon for gassing her up and agreeing with her that it was so cute. They knew that mess was ugly!
Child, this is why I do my own hair even if my only style is a puff and a bun. I have one braid shop that I go to when I get sick of looking at my puff.🤣🤣🤣
I went to a nail salon a few weeks after the world reopened due to the pandemic. I got the werks, mani, pedi and my eyebrows done. The eyebrow tech singed my my right eyebrow and skin underneath completely off. So when it started to heal, the skin looked like an upside down Nike check. Not only did I pay him, he got a tip too. It took about 2 weeks for the skin underneath my eyebrow to grow back. Took a whole new meaning to beauty is pain. Unfortunately I didn't feel beautiful with a singed eyebrow 😕.
Wow 😮 sorry to hear that! But Lolol about the payment and the tip, I would’ve done the same lol (it only really sinks in for me once I get home in the bathroom mirror 😂)
Y'all ever get a full set and your whole index finger nail be mad at the rest of the hand of nails so the index finger nail is crooked and facing in a completely different direction 😑 😒 😤, and i still paid smh
Aww honey. I feel you, haven't had any one touch my brows in years because where I moved to it seems like nobody does good brows. Got my eyebrows done they look like distant cousins. barely related, had a quizzical look to them. I had to draw them on for weeks, my mother saw me without them drawn and laughed me right out the house
This is a level of maturity I am not sure I will ever reach.. I have finally gotten comfortable with returning items without over thinking it. This one is going to take some time lol
LAWD, the stories I could tell. Not only have tears fallen on the way home, despite being totally dissatisfied, I gave a tip! Now that's insanity. However, I've gotten better. The last time it happened, I didn't pretend like I liked it, nor did I leave a tip. I just went home and tweaked it. What's crazy is that even when you show some stylists a picture, you still don't get the style that you requested. Suggestion stylists: If you're unable to do the style, it's ok - JUST SAY THAT.
I speak up! There’s a way to respectfully do it and not make someone feel bad. The times I’ve had to say something the correction was small. I’m also very selective about who I allow to do my hair. My stylist knows me and we have no problems.
Years ago I got Individuals done, guess now people call them box braids. They were so thin, she did big parts but used a little bit of hair, no wonder she got done so fast. When I got home, i pretty much redid my hair by splitting the braids into two...😔
My knotless fell out days after I got them in the back when I reached out to the stylist to get them redone she blocked me. For two years I went to another stylist in the shop and knotless bad hair braider would make a big deal to not speak to me after speaking to every other client. Stank for yeeeaarrsss, Jokes on her that's why she was trying to expand her business into doing coochie steams because the braiding was 👎🏽
I've been going to the same beautician for over 20 years. I've cursed, cried and tried to leave her for almost 20 years but can't nobody and I mean nobody do my hair like her. She gonna be late, she gonna take forever and she gonna charge according to what bills she gotta pay and knowing all of this, I will go to her till one of us departs this earth. Many have called me a fool, hell I've called myself a fool but can't nobody do my hair like her.
I asked for rod curls came out looking like Ronald McDonald. She patting it like it's cute. I hated it!!! Ans, overpaid her and said Thank you so much🙄🙄🙄
I was raised by a beautician grandmama and good gracious almighty truer words have never been spoken. I’m 28 years old and ma’am I have never in my life ever said anything except thank you after any hairstyle I didn’t like.
I did too this past weekend!!! I went to the salon for the first time in almost 5 yrs because I just got sick of paying for something I could do myself. This weekend, I just wanted to be pampered. When for just a wash/conditioner and straighten. Walked into the Dominican salon, 💨 smoke hit me at the door. As I waited, I watched the stylist work and picked who would not burn my hair off. When I sat in her chair , I asked her to lower the temp on heat tools. She told me my hair wouldn’t get straight without high heat. I told her I’d rather my hair not get super straight than it fall off. My hair was beautifully straight after the blow dry i told her to skip the flat iron. I will never let someone ruin my hair again by not speaking up. I know my hair better than anyone else.
I never knew that not speaking up was a thing. I used to get my haircut at a mall salon and once I spoke up immediately to this one stylist “are you using the clippers or your fake nails!?” Before that, I asked this barber if he would shampoo my hair after the cut and he said “I don’t wash no dude’s hair.” I responded ‘I’m not asking you to marry me, I just need a shampoo.’ My barber/stylist back in Puerto Rico, Jason, really spoiled me. Since Covid, my wife gives me the “taken husband” cut at home.
@@guruchess I’m sure she puts some mark on the back of my head. (Kidding!) Actually, it’s an all around buzz cut since she hasn’t figured out how to do a proper fade.
You were at a hood Barber but the real ones will do it all. We had a man stylist all out life. He cut men and women but eventually only men but he will wash ya hair etc. You have a good wife
So so so many times I've gotten out of the chair, cried in the car and fixed it when I got home. The whole time I was in the chair thinking "what in the world is she doing?".
My Mom was never like this. She was never afraid to let people know that she was dissatisfied. I learned from her that customer service was important and there was never a reason to leave dissatisfied if "you paid hard earned-money for a service".
The worse salon experience for me was when I trusted my aunt to do a sew-in closure (she's a longtime hairstylist but she's never done closures before just sew-ins with leave out). I was already hesitant because she had no experience in this but I gave her a chance, bad mistake. She refused to use glue and instead insisted on sewing it down tight. She said she watched many TH-cam videos of this and she was sure it'd look good. Chile when I tell you it look horrible! It wasn't aligned right so my hair was clearly visible (I'm talking at least half an inch was showing before the start of the closure) and it was lifting. You know what I did? I told her it looked great and had my mom help me take it all down as soon as I got home.
Love you for sharing. But daaaang. Took it ALL down? After sitting all that time? Gotta say, the OG, Big Mamma, Blue Magic pressing grease sort are very resistant to change or updating their skills. And if you come in with the cutting edge hairstyles, they usually fail.
Been there…only this was my cousin who swore she could braid. I knew it wasn’t going to be good when she kept cutting the braid hair before putting it in my head.
Same my aunt is a beautician and she kept telling me my hair was dead and cutting it real low after I let it grow out. I WOULD JUST SMILE then get in the car and cry. I thought I was bald headed and unhealthy because almost every person in my family has at least shoulder length thick hair. I tried everything. Drinking a gallon of water every day for 3 months, daily moisturizing, deep conditioning, hot oil treatments. I thought I was going great. When I moved to GA in 2013 and almost EVERY beautician/ stylist I went to (about 12 of them) told me my hair was just dull in color but extremely healthy and full and who ever told me my hair was dead didn't know what they were talking about. I wanted to fight my aunt in my head so bad, but then I realized she doesn't update her skills and knowledge. She was working with 1995 beauty school info in a 2000s world. Since then I do not let her near my head with scissors AT ALL.
I had a really bad experience at a hair salon. I'm not exaggerating....my hair literally looked worse when I left, than it did when I came in. She was a sista, so I thought she knew what she was doing. Most, (if not all) of her other clients were caucasian. I went in the bathroom when she was done, and I wanted to cry. Still to this day I WISH I would've took a picture of my hair. I asked for a roller set...she finished and it looked like I had just woke up with my hair all over my head. I said thank you, and as soon as I got in my car I put my hair in a ponytail. Needless to say, I never went back!
@Tammy S I feel your pain sis. Years ago I went to this salon after work. I told her I wanted a relaxer and wrap. I fell asleep in the chair as she was taking the rollers out long story short, when I woke up she had cut my hair in some asymmetrical style that I didn't ask for with the nape cut smooth off. I woke up as she turned the chair around to the mirror. She told me "I'm not gonna charge you for the cut sweetie." I just stared at my reflection. I paid her and never went back... and never fell asleep in a salon again.
Similar experience. I wanted my hair cut and the hair cut she gave me..... no ma'am, no ma'am! She said my clients love this cut! If I'd have known her clients were mostly middle aged white women, I would have run.
@@tammys1696 She sure did. Because of that experience I have never went to a salon alone again. I always take someone with me to make sure the stylist ONLY does what I asked for.
As a matter of fact… I just stopped a stylist in the middle of a cut about 3 weeks ago. He made the statement, “I have something similar but better in mind” I was polite but I told him to stop. I paid him & tipped him & left.
A lot of the times we don’t speak up is because you just feel like “well damn, if she messed up this bad how she gon’ fix it?!? I’ll just try to fix it myself” I rather try to fix it myself than to have the beautician potentially make it worse.
Triggered! 😂 I’ll never forget being 20 years old and going in for a bob. I left with a bowl cut and cried the whole way home saying “I look like a booooy!” 😮💨
No lies detected! And they also expect you to come to them washed already. TFFFFFFF!!!!!! Chile these stylists can all go to hell individually and then again as a group 🤷🏽♀️ Signed, A locced one
I remember being 18 in college getting a roller wrap from an older local beautician. I had a relaxer in, but still ended up with more texture in my hair than I started out with. At the end of her styling my hair I told her it was bit puffier than I usually get it. She took the barrel of the curling iron and ran it over the top of the style. I said thank you, paid her and left. If I say anything, it's only going to be one thing and only one time.
ur absolutely right that the beautician only wants to do what's loosely within the bounds of the picture u show them, but otherwise, it's a free for all for them. 🙄 i think we don't say anything either bc having to micromanage ur stylist every step of the way is annoying for both parties, BUT we absolutely should bc of what we pay!
I just had my hair done last week, and I literally PRAYED and asked Jesus to help me speak up, before she got started.., and it looks great, even she admitted it looked better on me than what she did 6 weeks ago… so YES Jesus came through
I’ve had my share of crying the entire way home from the beauty salon, but as I’ve gotten older, I speak up cause I’m NOT gonna be the only one in tears.🤓
This was me this past weekend . My hair dresser who I have been going to for over twenty years now said that my ends need to be trimmed. Now mind you my hair was past the middle of my back,but by the time she got through "trimming " my hair ,my hair is now sitting just to my shoulders. I just said thank you and went home and cried my eyes out 😭
Oh EJ! Dealing with it right NOW! Went in for light brown hair color. Currently looking like Arnold (Gary Coleman) from Different Strokes. Short black black hair and chubby cheeks. Why!?! 😫. I’ve also gone to a new barber who cut my hair down to the white meat on the back and sides. Looked like I was headed to boot camp! I showed the barber a picture of the cut I wanted. I PROMISE I did not request a military cut! Took months to grow out😫😫😫
OMG - I had that same experience just before the pandemic lock down. Told the barber what I wanted and specifically said I DO NOT want a high top fade. I came out looking like Kidd and Play. Cried all the way home. The lockdown started that Monday and I was spared having to been seen by anyone while my hair grew back.
What yanks me is when I tell them very clearly, "Look, I don't do hair. I'm a brush-and-go girl. Don't give me something I have to do things to." And then they're all done, and they're buzzing all around my head with stuff, going, "Now, see, if you'll just put a little of this product in every morning, and blow it out, and....." and I'm just looking in the mirror thinking, "Well, one of us is crazy, and I think it must be *me* for thinking *you* might listen."
I haven’t spoken up at a barbershop in terms of bad haircuts. Went to this one guy for years, hairline messed up and razor bumps. Finally changed barbers and it’s all good now.
It’s funny to think the “Ninja Turtle” haircuts I had as a child in the ‘90s have come back. I think that’s one thing I’ll leave in my memories and nip nostalgia in the bud. 😂😂
This video hit me heard. Like I’ve cried many tears , looking like them crying scenes in the car where it’s raining and they beating up the steering wheel 😭😅😂
The time I started speaking at the salon I started getting great services. I used to be one who just sit down and let them do whatever.The last time that happened they had my braids different length. So now, I let them know what style and in between if I don’t like it I speak up. Not only I’ll be losing my money, don’t wanna lose my hair too.
I have been speaking up since a Lil girl, had a great beautician back in the day. I'm natural now and do my own hair, but This was TRUE! Women Speak UP, your voice Matters! Stop paying for what you didn't ask for!!!
Nah. This is why I've been going to the same stylist since I was 15. She was 23. If I chose a style that she felt didn't fit the shape of my head or texture of my hair we had a discussion. I only had 1 issue and that wasn't on her. My curls fell she told me to come back she curled my hair again. No issues.
I recently got crochet braids for a trip. I could tell that I hated the way she put them in as she was finishing them but I let her finish,thanked her and took them out myself a few days after I reached my destination.
I just got crochet braids and I hated the pattern, spoke up and they said it would look good and it does not. I didn’t have the time to take them out because I need my ends clipped
My cut that sent me to tears was the Halle Berry cut. It was my junior year of high school. I went to another stylist to get it fixed before Monday morning cause lord knows I wasn't going to school like that. 😂
I have a cousin who can cut hair but I didn’t know had a drinking problem until she messed up one of my sew-ins, I didn’t want the installer to style. When I tell u I had 12 inch hair that went from 10 inches, then a good tapered bob once great clips cleaned it up. I didn’t know she was drunk cutting my hair until I seen the end results.
Yes I have when I was younger. Not many times, but I did. Now that I'm over 50, yes I most certainly will. Not just at the salon, but ANY WHERE I have to spend my hard.earned.money.
When I was relaxed my stylist was having me go bald, and every two weeks i was like...thaaaaaaaank yoooooooou like an idiot 🙄. My hair didn't like the relaxer she was using. My hair was breaking and falling out in chunks! Now im natural, and talk back...because i put too much work into this hair for her to ruin it. I don't play with my natural hair😂😂😂...i want to know exact what she doing, how much she's cutting, why she's cutting...I want to know everything!!!!!! She gets QUESTIONED like she's in a police interrogation room every 3-4M I go there!!! P.S I've been seeing her for about 7 years.
I can remember one time when the “beautician” didn’t fix my hair correctly and I went back and told her that I wasn’t satisfied with my hairstyle. She tried to correct it but it was never right. I never went back. After that, I would try and tell them exactly how I wanted my hair (always nicely). I wasn’t always going to the salon because it was expensive but when I did I try to get what I wanted.
My thing's the opposite. At 59 the same hairdresser has done my hair since I was 15. Gods knows where I'll go when she retires. I don't get much done now but in my 20's & 30's I asked for some weird and what I imagined were wonderful styles. Now and then she'd gently suggest maybe my hair wouldn't do what the photo I'd show her would and I'd listen but not always. I bet she giggled herself silly at some of the styles I came up with.
😄 gotta love a good stylist. i was in tears when my stylist of 15yrs moved. haven't found a good one sense. she was very good at listening to me. she had those "growing hands" too
Lol can't tell you how many times I left the shop with a roller set that I didn't ask for. But the curls was popping and the hair was healthy so I just let her do her 😂
When I relaxed and the natural hair movement started the stylist I would go to stopped using the hooded dryer. A they wanted to do is blow dry and flat iron 3 days my hair would look a mess and 6 months later I would look like a plucked chicken. Relaxers and direct heat do not go together. I went natural and I do my own hair.
I am recovering PTSD from speaking up at my salon. I've been going to my stylist for 12 YRS!! never had issues until recently I felt like the work was slipping but didn't really care too much, we had (what I thought) was a good client-stylist relationship. I went in for pastel pink hair (I was already light brown/w blonde). Showed 2 images that showed pastel pink hair. When she was done, my hair was blonde with a pink tinge. I was kind of shocked when I saw it and just said "ohh...its not pink?.." She went on to tell me my hair was completely pink, which it wasn't! She ended up breaking down when I didn't want to stay for another application of pink (I was there for 6hours at this point). She wanted me to leave w/out paying but I insisted to pay for her work... She charged me for a full hair cut that she didn't complete. After I applied more pink myself, I ended up dying it all back to my natural brunette bc I didnt want to see the pink mess on my head anymore and remember that awful experience. I am so heartbroken by the event and felt like I lost a friend, I also really need to fix this haircut but cant fathom sitting for another stylist ANY time soon.
I once had a guy bring me to a barbers called "The man cave" against my will, which is basically a hooters for haircuts. It's all women there cutting hair, but they definitely did not like other women going there and the guy refused to believe me. they cut my hair so ratty and then they all gathered around him to touch all over him and flirt with him while i sat there with my ugly haircut 😭
I've had to speak up a few times. But said it nicely so the beautician would at least fix it a bit, but knew I wasn't coming back. The worst time was when I was getting a quick weave (long before lace fronts 🤣). That girl had the tracks dang near touching my eyebrows & glue all on my forehead. It was a flaming hot azz mess. 🤣
I moved to Denver to go to college. The side of town I moved to had ZERO black folks (unbeknownst to me before choosing an apartment there). I called a Super Cuts close to me and asked if they did black hair. The girl on the phone said yes, "we cut black hair, blonde hair, gray hair, red hair...." I fell out....and hung up I then find a barber in the "black side" of town....the barber that was available was also a pastor. She cut my hair, and took the LIBERTY to not only cut a part in my head where I had a scar on my forehead, but she extended that part into a full on SWIRL. When she showed me the finished results, I was NOT happy. I said "ma'am, I work in a bank. I can't show up to work looking like THIS." I had her shave me bald to get rid of it. I never came back and never took her up on her church invitation too. I found an older Mexican gentleman that cut my hair for the rest of the time I lived there.
I quit going to the salon because I’m natural and they had no idea what to do with my head full of fine, soft curls when I’d ask for a trim. It’s like if it’s not bone straight, don’t ask these folks to touch your hair at all.
I spoke up at the nail salon yesterday. The lady was rubbing her snotty nose and then wanted to keep working on my nails, I was like " Excuse me mam but you were just rubbing your nose, can you clean your hands before you continue?" And she did.
I remember the first time I got a bad hairstyle. I was in high school and that woman didn't do anything I asked her to do. The owner was a friend of my parents and had been doing my hair for years; but, she was booked on this day and said her sister could fit me in. Y'all my hair was hard, lifeless, and greasy. I sat quietly but my face was saying some thangs. The salon owner saw my face, looked at my hair, and told her sister to fix it. She didn't like the results so she redid it herself. I never let that woman touch my hair again.
I spoke up. And will do it again...if i ever go back. I didn't NOT go back because of THAT experience though. I was just not about the sit in the chair for 12 hrs. on a Sat. life anymore.
I rarely get my hair done at a salon. One of the times I went, I got twists and didn’t like it at all. It’s silly, but I didn’t think I had enough experience to complain. I had a moment where I thought what if it isn’t the style and I’m just funny looking 😂🤔🤷🏾♀️? It grew on me but I didn’t get it re-done. My boyfriend who usually complains about any and everything goes to the same barber every time and then comes home and completely changes his haircut. He never says anything to the barber and in the two years we’ve been together, he’s never tried a different barber.
Yes girl after a hair appt... crying AND mad at myself for letting it happen 😑and mad till I wash it out or put a scarf on 😆 S.n. I've been speaking up more at the nail salon, so I know how she feel And yes I tell my son "take that lil handheld mirror & look at your whole head before you leave out the chair .....he don't do it....
I'm so glad I found a stylist that GETS me! I've had this experience before & now my stylist is never getting rid of me. I tip her WELL because U can trust her! What a blessing.
Once my barber hands me the mirror to check his work, I'm pointing out every single thing I don't like. Most of the time, it's something he can fix before I get out of the chair.
Sis you got me crying laughing as usual. I think we've all done that a some point; But now, I watch the process with the screen shot on my phone no excuses.
😭😭😭 Reminiscing. I finally just stopped. I would pay and tip and go home to wash and style it myself. Recently I went for a trim. I've been natural for 2 years. Why was my hair cut back into a neck length bob from APL. She asked me if I wanted to see it. I said no, gathered my hair in a ponytail. Went home cried and it's been braided under a wig ever since.
Man I have soo much stories about leaving the hair salon mad and in tears, but the worse is when they insist that I need just a little trim then proceed to do a whole pixie cut. Mind you, I have long hair so my conclusion is always ‘they just jealous’. It still hurts soo bad 😩
I've been getting my hair done at the shop since I was 5 and have always spoke up if I didn't like my hair and they would fix it but we were fortunate to have wonderful beauticians
My grandma used to specifically ONLY send me to the braiding shop with my little cousin to get her hair done when I was in high school because she knew I had mouth and would tell them to take it and do it over if it didn't look right. Same at the nail salon. You can curse me out in whatever language you speak but you will fix it to my satisfaction.
This is also why I ALWAYS do my own hair, and make my own Wigs. This way, if I'm ugly...its my own fault😂. TH-cam taught me everything about hair💅🏾. I haven't been to a salon in over 12 years.
Good for you sis! #goals. We sick of dis sheeitt 😂
I saved a thousand dollars by putting in my own locs.
Same for me. TH-cam hair videos have taught me how to make wigs and it was on from there lol. I even sold a wig that I didn't like on me!😁
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I've saved thousands of dollars by switching to TH-cam Beauty Academy🤣. So thankful for those that take the mystery out of things for us everyday people!!
My most traumatic experience was when I went to get a sew-in for my senior head shots. (This was back when sew-ins were new to the scene..) Went to the salon and spent $200 to look a fool to only come home and take my hair down, cry and figure out what I was gonna do for my pictures. I was so hurt and and ugly.
There isn't a Black salon going woman in the world who hasn't experienced the tears in the car.
Nah I ain't crying because I'm not allowing you to get finished I watch every step they take in my head
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I've never had to cry. I won't let you get to a certain point to ruin my hair.
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Well a curly haired person going to a white person can be pretty bad. I paid the money tipped and cried.
I spoke up my senior year in high school... She was like girl no one is going to have this style... And I'm like neither am I, redo this ish
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Girl I wish I had the balls!
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This comment has me in tears 😂😂
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Had a french silk wrap on my nails, it lasted one day, called to have nails redone, the owner refused, and no refund. I called State of Cosmetology of California, filed a complaint. In thirty days the owner refunded my money with a smile. I don't cry, I don't argue, I let consumer protection agencies do the work.😎
I'm the 👑 of calling and getting results.
No yelling and no arguing.
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Kudos to her. Why do we feel like we can't speak up at the salon when we are paying for the service (with tips)???
Exactly.
Probably because it reminds us of our moms doing our hair when we were younger and we couldn’t talk back then so as adults we carry the same traits in the salon chair……
I think its because they should be doing thier best, its like saying their best isn't good enough.
@@candicedawson4264 i think you may be on to something.
@@teniaosayande6355 yes sometimes you sit and establish a rapport with them. It’s hard for me to be what I perceive as “rude” or dissatisfied with somebody I just spent hours chatting politely with. I also wonder if they’ll be angry or embarrassed if their co-workers or the other customers overhear or see. I wonder if I’ll look like a Karen for complaining. As you can see, I overthink it, that’s why I mostly just do my hair myself.
I went to get box braids, but I ended up lookin like the black version of Anjelica's doll from the Rugrats. 🤣😂 I was so mad I told her I'd give her something for her time, but I refused to pay for the work cause it was trash. She had the nerve to ask me what was wrong with it. I was like... Girl are you serious? Look at my head! After that, she just said "ok then". My bf came to pick me up, and when I got in the car, he didn't say a word. Not one word...just stared at me. We drove in silence the whole way home. 😂🤣😂
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Omg...the way you talked about the car ride home got me cracking up 😂 Trust me I've been there before with tree braids when they first became popular. Ole girl had me looking like a Rastafara from the islands...nothing like the pictures I showed her 🤭😂
Total silence is worse...like they just can't find the words🤣🤣🤣
He knew not to say anything!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
You know it was jacked when his eyes were glued to the road lol
As a stylist of 25yrs who have witnessed others go through this....
Most often I'd fixed it for them when the client asked. The other stylist can get mad if they want, I'm not gonna let someone suffer for the ignorance of others. If I feel I'm unable to accomplish what a customer is looking for I will refer them to the one person I know is the best at what they asked for.
Trust is not given, it's earned. I pray I never stop earning the trust of my clients.
Shalom
And the stylists be trying to support each other, telling you on the way out the door how good your hair looks, knowing their coworker just did you bad.
True story! I left a mall salon looking like my hair was cut in the dark…looking like an uneven plucked chicken😳 The other stylists tried to convince me it wasn’t that bad…two thumbs up.
Ahhh, whenever is a randomly plucked chicken (look) a good thing😂?
@@shelbee7205 Awww sis I'm sorry that happened!! But that's definitely how they do!
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Why do we do that?!! I'm definitely guilty of leaving the salon unsatisfied and ALOT poorer!
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Yeap just happened to me today🥴🤦🏽♀️ Went for a blowout and flat iron… it’s not terrible but I could have done it myself🙄
70 bucks down the drain😠
I find it so interesting because we have no problem telling the Asian nail tech when they did a sloppy job and what needs to be fixed.
I haven't gone to a hairdresser in years because I CANNOT with beauticians who think they're magicians and can do 8 heads at the same time. I told one beautician that she should be paying me after spending almost 8 hours in her shop watching her do everybody's hair except mine. I have no problem speaking up when I'm spending my money.
I had to leave multiple stylists because no you cannot run an errand and do a twist out, sew in and butt length braids when I came in for a wash and style. You're playing with me and my money. I learned go where the old ladies with money go, they schedule your time and you're the only person in there seat.
I hate to say it, but I don’t get that treatment in the suburbs. You’re going to pay a bit extra but you’re going to get exactly what you pay for plus some education and questions answered I can’t do the waste my time ratchet shit, irks my soul 😮💨😮💨
I had one where I sat on hold for her with the internet and cable company while she was bouncing between me and others. Stayed with her a year!
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Why we be acting like we not paying our money for a service 😒
I spoke up many years ago. Older woman named Evelyn in our church owned a salon, did everyone’s hair. I was trying to grow my hair out of a style and every time I’d go to her, I’d reiterate this fact-don’t cut my hair. Apparently she was trying to keep it in the old style. Come to find out she would be cutting my hair when she’d have me turned away from the mirror or if my eyes were closed. I made sure that when I nervously addressed the issue with HER, that no one else was around. I was more disappointed-the whole trust issue, than angry with her. She went OFF on me! She then blasted me among the church members! Years later she actually attended my sister-in-law’s funeral. She spoke to everyone else there. But she was still pissed off at me-turned her nose right up at me, refused to say a word to me. This! This is why women don’t speak up! Some beauticians like doctors, try to place themselves in godlike positions-like you aren’t suppose to express yourself about your own care or hair!
I'd have - Never mind. Nope. Not gonna say. I will say YOU are better than me.
@@AnonymouslyNotYours I feel you sis!! Church folk or not, we woulda had some words. Respectful non-vulgar words, but words none-the-less
She was just a Straight Up Evil Bit€£! 😡
I’m so sorry you experienced that sis. That was wrong and totally unacceptable what that lady did. And it’s disgusting when so called Christians treat people like this then try to hide behind cross…crazy cowards!!!
@@Naymichelle76 Exactly!!!! And typical narcissist-her playing the victim, acting like I had done something to her.
This is why I do my own hair and sometimes even my nails 😫 The Unversiry of TH-cam has given me all the knowledge I need
I second that. You ain't never lie. Lol
@just curls and sunshine...you're absolutely correct .👏
The nail girl filed my natural nail down too much after I told her not too short 😵💫😵🥴. I snatched my hand back and walked out!
Amen! 🙌🏽
Same alma mater, I do my own everything, haven’t regretted it yet.
Kudos to you sis. Last person that spoke up was Shirleen. Boy did she speak up when they gave her a pineapple. She even tore the salon up before they put her out.
That was actually my favorite video from Shirleen.
I laughed so hard at that video because every woman could relate.
You the lead stylist how you gon fix it” -Shirleen😆😆
Yes chile! Shirleen gave them womens the bizniz! Lawd I need to start channeling me some Shirleen when I go to the salon cuz I'll pull aside a chicken shack server, a government clerk even a lazy retail worker respectful like ya know but nooooo chile my drawers ain't big enough to take on no hair stylist. Its "oh thank you! Yes see you next week!😁👍".......😢😢😢😭😭😭
Did Yall see Shirleen telling ppl GA is Full do NOT move there! Lol she doesn't play bout her business. 😂 😂
I've cried in the car too many times. Now I'm that annoying client that triple checks what's going on back there every ten seconds. You not about to have me paying 100+ dollars just to leave looking like Lord Farquaad
Lord Farquuad had a special type mullet!🤣
I never spoke up when I was younger but little by little I started to but always in a respectful way. I taught my daughters from day one to never be afraid to vocalize their opinions, discomforts and never be afraid to say no as long it is said it a respectful but assertive way. Chile that oldest girl be telling the nail technician and the stylist her thoughts in a New York minute with no shame or hesitation…Im like in my mind, girl you could have let that little mistake slide!!! lol but I taught her that so it’s great that she can stand up for herself…but I have created a monster lol
That's good your daughter speaks up. That way she won't allow people to run over her in life. Nothing wrong with being assertive.
Congratulations to her! As a white woman with very curly fine hair, I've cried after paying good money for a hair cut. However, the only time I asked them to fix it was when my "Cherry Cola" hair color turned magenta. We need to speak up!
I most definitely have spoken up at the beauty shop. This particular stylist kept trying to overcharge me due to my occupation. I was referred to her by a work friend. This heiffa double charged me for a service and I told her, if I find out you were lying to me, I’m going to be back. Mind you I would tip her, so I wasn’t being shiesty.
I had my home girl call back to the salon and ask for the price of the same service (on three way) as I sat in the parking lot of the salon. She called, was given the correct price and I rolled up in that salon to shut it all down! Lol the stylist hid in the supply closet. I told her to come out or I was going to drag her out. 😬
Smart move.
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I’ve NEVER liked the way my stylist did my hair. I’ve ALWAYS had to fix it at home. Now I just do my own lol
I prayed to God to help me maintain my hair. It was one of this long hard crying prayers. Because I was tired of paying people to do what they want to do with my hair. Two weeks later I learned how to maintain my locks. That was year 2000. That is how long it's been since someone has touched my hair. I haven't had any problems with my hair since.🙏🏾
I spoke up. 😭 Because it was a HELLLLNA for me. So I walked in with my hair longer than it had been since I was 12 (I was 21 when this happened) so I was excited. I said I wanted an A line bob. I wanted her to trim my ends in the front but DONT 👏🏾CUT 👏🏾NONE 👏🏾OF 👏🏾THE 👏🏾HAIR 👏🏾IN 👏🏾THE 👏🏾FRONT! So she washed it, blow dryed it, and then straightened it and I was GEEKED because my hair was passed, beyond, over, my shoulders ok. This coming from someone who spent most of her adult life with chin length hair. So I was like OMG this is about to be so damn cute. She starts cutting the back and I am on my phone. The pulls back my hair in the front and I'm like ok cool she trimming it.....y'all....YALLLLLLLLLLL!!!. 😭😭😭😭 WHY DO I LOOK UP......and my passed the shoulder length hair is touching my cheek????? Like......why do I look like the little boy from damn Shrek 4 talking about 'Do the roar!!"??????? I got up and was like nope no this is not what I wanted I said don't touch the front and I refused to pay. I wanted to cut her hair so she could see how I felt... like....I was .38 hot!!! The owner came and apologized and tried to do something but it didn't work and I just left in tears and it took me ....4 years to go to another salon after that I was just defeated and distraught. 😐😐😐😐😭
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She did that on purpose. Sometimes they don't want you to be too cute and are all to thrilled to cut all your hair off sadly. I hope your hair grew back quickly, healthy, and longer than before.
I cant IMAGINE!!!!! that must have SUCKED for you to grow your hair out finally, just for her to cut it back so short. So sorry!!!!!!!
Not "Do the roar"🗣🗣🗣🤣
I'm so sorry you had to go through that but the way you told that got me criiiine! 😂
@@truthhurts...6574 I believe that! My momma always told me to watch who I let in my head.
I spoke up about terrible customer service at the salon...she got mad and refused to take accountability...I was over her and that ridiculous behavior so I found a new stylist. ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!
Yes, girl. Talk with your money! Like she didn't hear you the first time.
Me too! Walked out, went to a stylist down the way. I was proud of myself that day
@@aya9af Good for you girl!! The crazy part is, I had been going to her for years and putting up with the shenanigans for years. Not any more!
It feels good to know I’m not alone…I have not been able to do this and I’m 43 years old…🤷🏾♀️
I remember when I was about to enter my senior year of highschool and I wanted a sew in soooo bad. I never got a chance to get one because beauticians would always say I have enough hair and I didn’t need one( this was back when the natural hair movement was just taking off and a lot of them low key didn’t know how to do natural hair especially long natural hair.)My mom finally found a lady that said she could do it. I was so excited. Maaan this woman ended up braiding my hair into basically a top not bun! She didn’t know how to braid my hair into a pattern that would lay flat and I ended up walking around the house looking like a cone head for 3 days until I just ended up taking it down and wasting my lil hard earned teenage money😩
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Lmao. Not your lil hard earned teenage money sis!
Why didn't she just braid it to the back
I didn't know other women struggled with this. The last time I went to the salon I spoke to the hairdresser before my actual appointment and explained to her how uncomfortable it is for me to speak up about exactly what I want and what I don't want, she was very nice and understanding. My previous salon visit prior to this one was over five years ago because the hairdresser cut my almost bra strap length hair into a Bob and I didn't say a word. I can't be silent no mo to nobody after that.🙄
What a beautiful way to take care of this with your stylist! This approach is such a great idea! Thank you!
folks are going right to hell, why have we all had that Edward scissor hand experience like every time I get a trim I'm swinging my head around to look because someone cut me bald years ago.
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But the going to hell for a bad hair cut is a bit drastic...don't you think🤷
@@helenaduncan2310 Maybe so, but to cut someone's hair off when they didn't ask that is damaging to our Spirit. I know it's just hair but, I have always felt downtrodden and embarrassed when my hair wasn't right. And to purposely do that is like a doctor maiming a patient because he felt like it.
A barber once put this powder on my hairline to fill it in that I did not ask for. i was so confused when I felt him doing it, unannounced, and then confused how I ended up with that 5 gum edge up. Also for context I’m white 😂 Then I sweated it off biking to my job. It was so embarrassing when I showed up to work. But nope I never complained or made a fuss. He was such a sweet guy and kind to me. But, I also never went back 😭😂
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😂😂 So why did I just get a visual of some white dude on a bike pedallin like crazy and sweatin the hell out of that ish on your forehead? 😂😂 so sorry guy.😂😂
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Yes! My regular stylist had an emergency and was not available for the week. I called around and a hair salon in the mall assured me that they did ethnic hair. I arrived about 15 minutes early and watched the stylist do an older white ladies hair in a bee hive style bonnet up do. After the lady was done she tipped the stylist, thanked her and appeared to leave quite happy. The same lady then called my name after checking the appointment book and I was taken aback. I said to her, "they told me the stylist I would receive can do "ethnic hair" and she said,-" oh honey I do all kinds of hair. I've been a stylist for 20 years." I hesitantly went to her chair and she could tell I was reluctant. She felt my hair out, said I had long hair or more hair than she thought and I again asked, So you've done " ethnic hair" often? She confidently said, " of course". What would you like done today? I showed her a picture of an Chignon (up do) very classic and elegant because I was going to a wedding. She said " oh that's niiiice with a southern drawl. By the time she got finished, and swung me around in the chair to see myself in the mirror-- girrrrrl I looked like a black country and western singer that should have had on a white fringed jacket and a guitar strumming some horrible song like my dog died and my husband dun left me for my step-daughter. It was a HOT mess! It looked just like the white ladies hair she did right before me! I got the shaking my head like oh hell nawwwww. She replied, you don't like it? I said no ma'am I do not. It looks nothing and I mean nothing like the picture. I just kept saying I can't, I can't. I asked to see a manager and another white lady came from out of nowhere and instantly looked at me as if she wanted to burst out laughing, but managed to keep her composure--slightly. She didn't even have to ask me what was wrong-- she immediately knew. That woman had put so much hair spray in my hair,.... there was no movement, no nothing but just stiffness in every direction. The manager said there was another black stylist who worked there in the evenings but was not due to arrive for another hour and would I be ok with waiting or coming back. I looked at her like where the hell imma go looking like this! I kindly told her that I will not pay for two different hairstylist. She assured me that there would be no additional fee for the incoming stylist to redo what I wanted. I swear I could hear the manager lady laughing in the back office. I was so hungry that I took my hard ass bee hive country sanger hair do and went to sit in chick fila, and got the biggest cup of sweet tea I could get. At the end, I was so traumatized I just asked the black girl to wash it and flat iron and curl the ends. 3 1/2 hours-4 hours later I came out of the salon with the simplest hairstyle ever and ended up getting lots of compliments. Clearly, she may have been a stylist for 20 years, but she absolutely DID NOT know a damn thing about a Chignon nor ethnic hair. LOL!
😂😂….beehive country singing lol oh no yikes! That lady knew she couldn’t do ethnic hair. Smh she might have done some other ethnic folks hair but not our type hair. And the hairspray 🤣
See? Glad you got your hair right.
I seeing or Using the term "ethnic" to our hair, because then what is Caucasian hair? And what makes it non-ethnic or standard? It slightly implies superiority over another's hair.
I just say, afro ,kinky,curly or textured etc
Its clearer going by texture than race.
I used to take PICTURES of what I wanted and still walked out dissatisfied. I never got my Monie Love ponytail and bang style OR my Janet Jackson Pleasure Principle wrap. Just a bunch of press and curl foolishness. Once I was able to go to the beauty supply store by myself I never walked back into a salon. I know now at my big age of 41 I STILL wouldn’t be able to speak up for myself. Smh 😂
Liiissstttteeeeennnn that Janet Jackson Pleasure Principle wrap was a most wanted style! I’d still rock that look tahday! 😂
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Appreciate the honesty😂
Dropping truth bombs and facts.👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I went in the salon “asking” for a Fantasia hairstyle and I “got” Sophia Petrillo from the Golden Girls hairstyle.
Aka Dorothy’s mom.
Family, friends, and others couldn’t stop laughing for days. #Facts
Not the Sophia!!🤭🤭🤣
@@9thborn
Yes, the Sophia😂😂😂😂😂
Omg...this🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
thank you for being a friend 😂😅
@@Andrea.P.
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I learned how to do my own natural hair because of this. I can’t count how many times I had my hair ripped out, chopped uneven, too much chopped off, blow dried to a crisp, box braids straggly on the ends, and much more. Each time I said thank you I love it and walked out crying. I solved it by doing my own hair and never going back to a salon again.
Amen to this. I always figure out a way to do my own natural hair. The amount of hair setbacks i got when going to the salon and feeling like half my hair was ripped out. The amount of damage control i had to do afterwards was not worth the short term hairstyle
@@blaqmermaiid yes! All those dang setbacks. 😂Could have had hair down my back by now in it’s natural state (no blowout needed). It’s armpit length now in it’s natural state, so It’s making its way back down.
Oh they don't know how to do natural hair
CRIEDT hard about that! I had 4 different hairstyles on my one single head. One on each quadrant. going clockwise, a finger wave, a French roll, some crimps, and some pincurls. Beautician was hyping me UP, she thought she was in her BAG with this one. And when I got in the car I cried and cussed everybody in that salon for gassing her up and agreeing with her that it was so cute. They knew that mess was ugly!
Child, this is why I do my own hair even if my only style is a puff and a bun. I have one braid shop that I go to when I get sick of looking at my puff.🤣🤣🤣
I went to a nail salon a few weeks after the world reopened due to the pandemic. I got the werks, mani, pedi and my eyebrows done. The eyebrow tech singed my my right eyebrow and skin underneath completely off. So when it started to heal, the skin looked like an upside down Nike check. Not only did I pay him, he got a tip too. It took about 2 weeks for the skin underneath my eyebrow to grow back.
Took a whole new meaning to beauty is pain. Unfortunately I didn't feel beautiful with a singed eyebrow 😕.
Wow 😮 sorry to hear that! But Lolol about the payment and the tip, I would’ve done the same lol (it only really sinks in for me once I get home in the bathroom mirror 😂)
@@meiy09 it's ok, I had to lol at my ownself.
Y'all ever get a full set and your whole index finger nail be mad at the rest of the hand of nails so the index finger nail is crooked and facing in a completely different direction 😑 😒 😤, and i still paid smh
Aww honey. I feel you, haven't had any one touch my brows in years because where I moved to it seems like nobody does good brows. Got my eyebrows done they look like distant cousins. barely related, had a quizzical look to them. I had to draw them on for weeks, my mother saw me without them drawn and laughed me right out the house
@@AIBot929 😂😂😂
This is a level of maturity I am not sure I will ever reach.. I have finally gotten comfortable with returning items without over thinking it. This one is going to take some time lol
LAWD, the stories I could tell. Not only have tears fallen on the way home, despite being totally dissatisfied, I gave a tip! Now that's insanity. However, I've gotten better. The last time it happened, I didn't pretend like I liked it, nor did I leave a tip. I just went home and tweaked it. What's crazy is that even when you show some stylists a picture, you still don't get the style that you requested. Suggestion stylists: If you're unable to do the style, it's ok - JUST SAY THAT.
I speak up! There’s a way to respectfully do it and not make someone feel bad. The times I’ve had to say something the correction was small. I’m also very selective about who I allow to do my hair. My stylist knows me and we have no problems.
Yes....I looked at my braids when I got home and went back to the shop that same day. She took braids down and rebraided my hair.
Years ago I got Individuals done, guess now people call them box braids. They were so thin, she did big parts but used a little bit of hair, no wonder she got done so fast. When I got home, i pretty much redid my hair by splitting the braids into two...😔
Wow
Mehn I wish I had your courage
My knotless fell out days after I got them in the back when I reached out to the stylist to get them redone she blocked me. For two years I went to another stylist in the shop and knotless bad hair braider would make a big deal to not speak to me after speaking to every other client. Stank for yeeeaarrsss, Jokes on her that's why she was trying to expand her business into doing coochie steams because the braiding was 👎🏽
I've been going to the same beautician for over 20 years.
I've cursed, cried and tried to leave her for almost 20 years but can't nobody and I mean nobody do my hair like her.
She gonna be late, she gonna take forever and she gonna charge according to what bills she gotta pay and knowing all of this, I will go to her till one of us departs this earth.
Many have called me a fool, hell I've called myself a fool but can't nobody do my hair like her.
😂😂😉I Hear you
I can relate. There was a stylist I’ve seen and this was the scenario.
I asked for rod curls came out looking like Ronald McDonald. She patting it like it's cute. I hated it!!! Ans, overpaid her and said Thank you so much🙄🙄🙄
🤣😭☠💀🤡 not Ronald McDonald!!
OMG I had the EXACT same experience,, same hairstyle... for PROM! I cried on the way home, at home, and went straight home after prom was over!
Patting it like it’s cute 😂😂😂😂
Ahhh…. the infamous “cute pat” 😔😔 you poor thang.
Haaaaaaa 🤣🤣🤣
I was raised by a beautician grandmama and good gracious almighty truer words have never been spoken. I’m 28 years old and ma’am I have never in my life ever said anything except thank you after any hairstyle I didn’t like.
I did too this past weekend!!! I went to the salon for the first time in almost 5 yrs because I just got sick of paying for something I could do myself. This weekend, I just wanted to be pampered. When for just a wash/conditioner and straighten. Walked into the Dominican salon, 💨 smoke hit me at the door. As I waited, I watched the stylist work and picked who would not burn my hair off. When I sat in her chair , I asked her to lower the temp on heat tools. She told me my hair wouldn’t get straight without high heat. I told her I’d rather my hair not get super straight than it fall off. My hair was beautifully straight after the blow dry i told her to skip the flat iron. I will never let someone ruin my hair again by not speaking up. I know my hair better than anyone else.
I never knew that not speaking up was a thing. I used to get my haircut at a mall salon and once I spoke up immediately to this one stylist “are you using the clippers or your fake nails!?” Before that, I asked this barber if he would shampoo my hair after the cut and he said “I don’t wash no dude’s hair.” I responded ‘I’m not asking you to marry me, I just need a shampoo.’ My barber/stylist back in Puerto Rico, Jason, really spoiled me. Since Covid, my wife gives me the “taken husband” cut at home.
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The “taken husband” cut🪒💈💇🏽♂️😩😩
What does the "taken husband" cut look like?? 🤣🤣🤣
@@guruchess I’m sure she puts some mark on the back of my head. (Kidding!) Actually, it’s an all around buzz cut since she hasn’t figured out how to do a proper fade.
You were at a hood Barber but the real ones will do it all. We had a man stylist all out life. He cut men and women but eventually only men but he will wash ya hair etc. You have a good wife
So so so many times I've gotten out of the chair, cried in the car and fixed it when I got home. The whole time I was in the chair thinking "what in the world is she doing?".
Yes ma'am. Years ago I came in for a weave with an " invisible part". Lets just say it was VEEERY visible 😮. Never again 😒😂
My Mom was never like this. She was never afraid to let people know that she was dissatisfied. I learned from her that customer service was important and there was never a reason to leave dissatisfied if "you paid hard earned-money for a service".
We need to have Ms. Jackie comment right here, lol Ms. Jackie would have told that salon person off in a nice way while all the time cussing her out.
Yes! I have done this AND left a generous tip just to go home and figure out how to make it right before anyone else sees me. Why do we do that!?!
Thankfully, I've been with my stylist for 20 years so she's dependable, and I can keep it real with her if needed (which doesn't really happen)... 🙏
😭😭i was so sad when my stylist of 15yrs moved out of state. I'm still struggling to find a good one.
You're blessed. Treat her nice.
The worse salon experience for me was when I trusted my aunt to do a sew-in closure (she's a longtime hairstylist but she's never done closures before just sew-ins with leave out). I was already hesitant because she had no experience in this but I gave her a chance, bad mistake. She refused to use glue and instead insisted on sewing it down tight. She said she watched many TH-cam videos of this and she was sure it'd look good. Chile when I tell you it look horrible! It wasn't aligned right so my hair was clearly visible (I'm talking at least half an inch was showing before the start of the closure) and it was lifting. You know what I did? I told her it looked great and had my mom help me take it all down as soon as I got home.
I am in tears.
Love you for sharing.
But daaaang. Took it ALL down? After sitting all that time?
Gotta say, the OG, Big Mamma, Blue Magic pressing grease sort are very resistant to change or updating their skills. And if you come in with the cutting edge hairstyles, they usually fail.
Been there…only this was my cousin who swore she could braid. I knew it wasn’t going to be good when she kept cutting the braid hair before putting it in my head.
Same my aunt is a beautician and she kept telling me my hair was dead and cutting it real low after I let it grow out. I WOULD JUST SMILE then get in the car and cry. I thought I was bald headed and unhealthy because almost every person in my family has at least shoulder length thick hair.
I tried everything. Drinking a gallon of water every day for 3 months, daily moisturizing, deep conditioning, hot oil treatments. I thought I was going great.
When I moved to GA in 2013 and almost EVERY beautician/ stylist I went to (about 12 of them) told me my hair was just dull in color but extremely healthy and full and who ever told me my hair was dead didn't know what they were talking about. I wanted to fight my aunt in my head so bad, but then I realized she doesn't update her skills and knowledge. She was working with 1995 beauty school info in a 2000s world.
Since then I do not let her near my head with scissors AT ALL.
I had a really bad experience at a hair salon. I'm not exaggerating....my hair literally looked worse when I left, than it did when I came in. She was a sista, so I thought she knew what she was doing. Most, (if not all) of her other clients were caucasian. I went in the bathroom when she was done, and I wanted to cry. Still to this day I WISH I would've took a picture of my hair. I asked for a roller set...she finished and it looked like I had just woke up with my hair all over my head. I said thank you, and as soon as I got in my car I put my hair in a ponytail. Needless to say, I never went back!
@Tammy S I feel your pain sis. Years ago I went to this salon after work. I told her I wanted a relaxer and wrap. I fell asleep in the chair as she was taking the rollers out long story short, when I woke up she had cut my hair in some asymmetrical style that I didn't ask for with the nape cut smooth off. I woke up as she turned the chair around to the mirror. She told me "I'm not gonna charge you for the cut sweetie." I just stared at my reflection. I paid her and never went back... and never fell asleep in a salon again.
@@daytonasmith819 Wow! She cut your hair and acted like it was a favor to you! SMH
Similar experience. I wanted my hair cut and the hair cut she gave me..... no ma'am, no ma'am! She said my clients love this cut! If I'd have known her clients were mostly middle aged white women, I would have run.
@@tammys1696 She sure did. Because of that experience I have never went to a salon alone again. I always take someone with me to make sure the stylist ONLY does what I asked for.
As a matter of fact… I just stopped a stylist in the middle of a cut about 3 weeks ago. He made the statement, “I have something similar but better in mind” I was polite but I told him to stop. I paid him & tipped him & left.
A lot of the times we don’t speak up is because you just feel like “well damn, if she messed up this bad how she gon’ fix it?!? I’ll just try to fix it myself”
I rather try to fix it myself than to have the beautician potentially make it worse.
Exactly.
Not true exactly. You can get your money back.
Its the money part + tips for others.
Triggered! 😂 I’ll never forget being 20 years old and going in for a bob. I left with a bowl cut and cried the whole way home saying “I look like a booooy!” 😮💨
No lies detected! And they also expect you to come to them washed already. TFFFFFFF!!!!!!
Chile these stylists can all go to hell individually and then again as a group 🤷🏽♀️
Signed,
A locced one
I remember being 18 in college getting a roller wrap from an older local beautician. I had a relaxer in, but still ended up with more texture in my hair than I started out with. At the end of her styling my hair I told her it was bit puffier than I usually get it. She took the barrel of the curling iron and ran it over the top of the style. I said thank you, paid her and left. If I say anything, it's only going to be one thing and only one time.
ur absolutely right that the beautician only wants to do what's loosely within the bounds of the picture u show them, but otherwise, it's a free for all for them. 🙄 i think we don't say anything either bc having to micromanage ur stylist every step of the way is annoying for both parties, BUT we absolutely should bc of what we pay!
She gone have to start doing her own hair or find someone else to do her hair 😂 depending on what she spoke up about
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I mean, if that stylist isn't doing it right anyway...
I just had my hair done last week, and I literally PRAYED and asked Jesus to help me speak up, before she got started.., and it looks great, even she admitted it looked better on me than what she did 6 weeks ago… so YES Jesus came through
He’s always on time🙏🏾💪🏾🙌🏾🙏🏾
Same. I had to vow to my mom I wouldn’t leave the salon until it looked like I wanted it. But I did it 52 yo🤦🏾♀️
I’ve had my share of crying the entire way home from the beauty salon, but as I’ve gotten older, I speak up cause I’m NOT gonna be the only one in tears.🤓
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We all finna cry 😂😂😂
Y’all remember the princess cut aka TBoz cut? Yeah…my stylists cut my hair like that…in 2002 when I was a senior in high school…before prom 😩😩😩
This was me this past weekend . My hair dresser who I have been going to for over twenty years now said that my ends need to be trimmed. Now mind you my hair was past the middle of my back,but by the time she got through "trimming " my hair ,my hair is now sitting just to my shoulders. I just said thank you and went home and cried my eyes out 😭
Oh EJ! Dealing with it right NOW! Went in for light brown hair color. Currently looking like Arnold (Gary Coleman) from Different Strokes. Short black black hair and chubby cheeks. Why!?! 😫. I’ve also gone to a new barber who cut my hair down to the white meat on the back and sides. Looked like I was headed to boot camp! I showed the barber a picture of the cut I wanted. I PROMISE I did not request a military cut! Took months to grow out😫😫😫
Not down to the white meat 😂😂😂 Poor thang
@@tashamumu YES! 😂😂😂 And said ‘thank you’ just like EJ said! 😂😂😂
OMG - I had that same experience just before the pandemic lock down. Told the barber what I wanted and specifically said I DO NOT want a high top fade. I came out looking like Kidd and Play. Cried all the way home. The lockdown started that Monday and I was spared having to been seen by anyone while my hair grew back.
@@skategirl8646 😂😂😂Kid n Play😂😂😂! I COMPLETELY understand!
What yanks me is when I tell them very clearly, "Look, I don't do hair. I'm a brush-and-go girl. Don't give me something I have to do things to." And then they're all done, and they're buzzing all around my head with stuff, going, "Now, see, if you'll just put a little of this product in every morning, and blow it out, and....." and I'm just looking in the mirror thinking, "Well, one of us is crazy, and I think it must be *me* for thinking *you* might listen."
God bless this brave innovative woman, paving the way for a better future 🙏🏾 🙌🏾
I haven’t spoken up at a barbershop in terms of bad haircuts. Went to this one guy for years, hairline messed up and razor bumps. Finally changed barbers and it’s all good now.
It’s funny to think the “Ninja Turtle” haircuts I had as a child in the ‘90s have come back. I think that’s one thing I’ll leave in my memories and nip nostalgia in the bud. 😂😂
This video hit me heard. Like I’ve cried many tears , looking like them crying scenes in the car where it’s raining and they beating up the steering wheel 😭😅😂
The time I started speaking at the salon I started getting great services. I used to be one who just sit down and let them do whatever.The last time that happened they had my braids different length. So now, I let them know what style and in between if I don’t like it I speak up. Not only I’ll be losing my money, don’t wanna lose my hair too.
Facts
I have been speaking up since a Lil girl, had a great beautician back in the day. I'm natural now and do my own hair, but This was TRUE! Women Speak UP, your voice Matters! Stop paying for what you didn't ask for!!!
Nah. This is why I've been going to the same stylist since I was 15. She was 23. If I chose a style that she felt didn't fit the shape of my head or texture of my hair we had a discussion. I only had 1 issue and that wasn't on her. My curls fell she told me to come back she curled my hair again. No issues.
I recently got crochet braids for a trip. I could tell that I hated the way she put them in as she was finishing them but I let her finish,thanked her and took them out myself a few days after I reached my destination.
I just got crochet braids and I hated the pattern, spoke up and they said it would look good and it does not. I didn’t have the time to take them out because I need my ends clipped
@@Frwill126 A bad hairstyle that you’re paid for is the worst!
My cut that sent me to tears was the Halle Berry cut. It was my junior year of high school. I went to another stylist to get it fixed before Monday morning cause lord knows I wasn't going to school like that. 😂
I have a cousin who can cut hair but I didn’t know had a drinking problem until she messed up one of my sew-ins, I didn’t want the installer to style. When I tell u I had 12 inch hair that went from 10 inches, then a good tapered bob once great clips cleaned it up. I didn’t know she was drunk cutting my hair until I seen the end results.
Yes I have when I was younger. Not many times, but I did. Now that I'm over 50, yes I most certainly will. Not just at the salon, but ANY WHERE I have to spend my hard.earned.money.
When I was relaxed my stylist was having me go bald, and every two weeks i was like...thaaaaaaaank yoooooooou like an idiot 🙄. My hair didn't like the relaxer she was using. My hair was breaking and falling out in chunks!
Now im natural, and talk back...because i put too much work into this hair for her to ruin it. I don't play with my natural hair😂😂😂...i want to know exact what she doing, how much she's cutting, why she's cutting...I want to know everything!!!!!! She gets QUESTIONED like she's in a police interrogation room every 3-4M I go there!!!
P.S I've been seeing her for about 7 years.
You are right that they will do hair the way they want to!!!!!!!
I can remember one time when the “beautician” didn’t fix my hair correctly and I went back and told her that I wasn’t satisfied with my hairstyle. She tried to correct it but it was never right. I never went back. After that, I would try and tell them exactly how I wanted my hair (always nicely). I wasn’t always going to the salon because it was expensive but when I did I try to get what I wanted.
YES YES! I no longer go to the hair solon for this same reason! I just be doing it myself these days
My thing's the opposite. At 59 the same hairdresser has done my hair since I was 15. Gods knows where I'll go when she retires. I don't get much done now but in my 20's & 30's I asked for some weird and what I imagined were wonderful styles. Now and then she'd gently suggest maybe my hair wouldn't do what the photo I'd show her would and I'd listen but not always. I bet she giggled herself silly at some of the styles I came up with.
😄 gotta love a good stylist. i was in tears when my stylist of 15yrs moved. haven't found a good one sense. she was very good at listening to me. she had those "growing hands" too
I have definitely cried over my hair looking like some garbage! I've always felt weak for that. Glad I'm not alone
Lol can't tell you how many times I left the shop with a roller set that I didn't ask for. But the curls was popping and the hair was healthy so I just let her do her 😂
Man I asked a stylist once to curl my hair she told me she didn't feel like it and just straightened it lol I was so mad lol
...want 70 dollars but don't wanna do the work
When I relaxed and the natural hair movement started the stylist I would go to stopped using the hooded dryer. A they wanted to do is blow dry and flat iron 3 days my hair would look a mess and 6 months later I would look like a plucked chicken. Relaxers and direct heat do not go together. I went natural and I do my own hair.
I am recovering PTSD from speaking up at my salon. I've been going to my stylist for 12 YRS!! never had issues until recently I felt like the work was slipping but didn't really care too much, we had (what I thought) was a good client-stylist relationship. I went in for pastel pink hair (I was already light brown/w blonde). Showed 2 images that showed pastel pink hair. When she was done, my hair was blonde with a pink tinge. I was kind of shocked when I saw it and just said "ohh...its not pink?.." She went on to tell me my hair was completely pink, which it wasn't! She ended up breaking down when I didn't want to stay for another application of pink (I was there for 6hours at this point). She wanted me to leave w/out paying but I insisted to pay for her work... She charged me for a full hair cut that she didn't complete. After I applied more pink myself, I ended up dying it all back to my natural brunette bc I didnt want to see the pink mess on my head anymore and remember that awful experience. I am so heartbroken by the event and felt like I lost a friend, I also really need to fix this haircut but cant fathom sitting for another stylist ANY time soon.
I once had a guy bring me to a barbers called "The man cave" against my will, which is basically a hooters for haircuts. It's all women there cutting hair, but they definitely did not like other women going there and the guy refused to believe me. they cut my hair so ratty and then they all gathered around him to touch all over him and flirt with him while i sat there with my ugly haircut 😭
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That's horrible, I'm sorry that happened to you. 🥺😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
What do you mean, he didn't believe you. Didn't he see what you hair looked like afterwards..🤔🥴
I've had to speak up a few times. But said it nicely so the beautician would at least fix it a bit, but knew I wasn't coming back. The worst time was when I was getting a quick weave (long before lace fronts 🤣). That girl had the tracks dang near touching my eyebrows & glue all on my forehead. It was a flaming hot azz mess. 🤣
I moved to Denver to go to college. The side of town I moved to had ZERO black folks (unbeknownst to me before choosing an apartment there). I called a Super Cuts close to me and asked if they did black hair. The girl on the phone said yes, "we cut black hair, blonde hair, gray hair, red hair...." I fell out....and hung up
I then find a barber in the "black side" of town....the barber that was available was also a pastor. She cut my hair, and took the LIBERTY to not only cut a part in my head where I had a scar on my forehead, but she extended that part into a full on SWIRL. When she showed me the finished results, I was NOT happy. I said "ma'am, I work in a bank. I can't show up to work looking like THIS." I had her shave me bald to get rid of it. I never came back and never took her up on her church invitation too. I found an older Mexican gentleman that cut my hair for the rest of the time I lived there.
My nephew wanted to see if Super Cuts could cut his hair… they destroyed his lining! He wore a hat in the house. I warned him.😂 👏🏾
I quit going to the salon because I’m natural and they had no idea what to do with my head full of fine, soft curls when I’d ask for a trim. It’s like if it’s not bone straight, don’t ask these folks to touch your hair at all.
Find you a natural hair stylist, your hair will thank you later. It’s nothing like a person who knows what to do with our curls, kinks, and coils.
Even if it straight sometimes. Smh
I spoke up at the nail salon yesterday. The lady was rubbing her snotty nose and then wanted to keep working on my nails, I was like " Excuse me mam but you were just rubbing your nose, can you clean your hands before you continue?" And she did.
I remember the first time I got a bad hairstyle. I was in high school and that woman didn't do anything I asked her to do. The owner was a friend of my parents and had been doing my hair for years; but, she was booked on this day and said her sister could fit me in. Y'all my hair was hard, lifeless, and greasy. I sat quietly but my face was saying some thangs. The salon owner saw my face, looked at my hair, and told her sister to fix it. She didn't like the results so she redid it herself. I never let that woman touch my hair again.
I spoke up. And will do it again...if i ever go back. I didn't NOT go back because of THAT experience though. I was just not about the sit in the chair for 12 hrs. on a Sat. life anymore.
I rarely get my hair done at a salon. One of the times I went, I got twists and didn’t like it at all. It’s silly, but I didn’t think I had enough experience to complain. I had a moment where I thought what if it isn’t the style and I’m just funny looking 😂🤔🤷🏾♀️? It grew on me but I didn’t get it re-done. My boyfriend who usually complains about any and everything goes to the same barber every time and then comes home and completely changes his haircut. He never says anything to the barber and in the two years we’ve been together, he’s never tried a different barber.
Omg I just love you! I been binge watching you since 2am lastnight! 😂😂😂😂😂😂💯
Yes girl after a hair appt... crying AND mad at myself for letting it happen 😑and mad till I wash it out or put a scarf on 😆
S.n. I've been speaking up more at the nail salon, so I know how she feel
And yes I tell my son "take that lil handheld mirror & look at your whole head before you leave out the chair
.....he don't do it....
I'm so glad I found a stylist that GETS me! I've had this experience before & now my stylist is never getting rid of me. I tip her WELL because U can trust her! What a blessing.
Once my barber hands me the mirror to check his work, I'm pointing out every single thing I don't like. Most of the time, it's something he can fix before I get out of the chair.
I did it last year.
Only took me 41 years to work up the courage to say ‘I ain’t gonna take this anymore!’
Sis you got me crying laughing as usual. I think we've all done that a some point; But now, I watch the process with the screen shot on my phone no excuses.
As an Orthodontist, please let me just state how much I appreciate seeing that you keep your elastics even when filming your videos.
😭😭😭 Reminiscing. I finally just stopped. I would pay and tip and go home to wash and style it myself. Recently I went for a trim. I've been natural for 2 years. Why was my hair cut back into a neck length bob from APL. She asked me if I wanted to see it. I said no, gathered my hair in a ponytail. Went home cried and it's been braided under a wig ever since.
Aww I’m sorry :/
Man I have soo much stories about leaving the hair salon mad and in tears, but the worse is when they insist that I need just a little trim then proceed to do a whole pixie cut. Mind you, I have long hair so my conclusion is always ‘they just jealous’. It still hurts soo bad 😩
A LOT of adults are just simply "conflict avoidant".
I've been getting my hair done at the shop since I was 5 and have always spoke up if I didn't like my hair and they would fix it but we were fortunate to have wonderful beauticians
My grandma used to specifically ONLY send me to the braiding shop with my little cousin to get her hair done when I was in high school because she knew I had mouth and would tell them to take it and do it over if it didn't look right. Same at the nail salon.
You can curse me out in whatever language you speak but you will fix it to my satisfaction.