Robert Waldinger: ON How To Nourish Your Meaningful Relationships & The Power Of Quiet

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  • On this episode of On Purpose, I sat down with Robert Waldinger. Robert is a Harvard psychiatrist, psychoanalyst, and Zen priest. He’s the director of the longest study on adult life and happiness.
    Robert reminds us that having a person you can call in the middle of the night when you are scared or sick is what keeps us happier and healthier. He shares that it takes vulnerability to have meaningful relationships, but the rewards are always worth the risk of rejection.
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  • @TimeFliesTimeManagement
    @TimeFliesTimeManagement 5 ปีที่แล้ว +51

    13:56 When you are arguing, don’t forget that it’s not you against each other, it’s both of you against the problem 🤯 I LOVE THIS 💙

  • @ErikaK
    @ErikaK 5 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Comprehension, support , compassion, kindness, communication and being able to listen will always nourish a relationship ♡ before reacting towards something that you don't like, take a minute, find assertive words to Express your feelings always showing respect for the other...

    • @MeditatewithAbhi
      @MeditatewithAbhi 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yes so true

    • @ErikaK
      @ErikaK 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@MeditatewithAbhi sending lots of love ! ♡

    • @MeditatewithAbhi
      @MeditatewithAbhi 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ErikaK just checked out and subscribed to your channel ! Love it..seems like we have a lot in common 💓🙏

    • @ErikaK
      @ErikaK 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@MeditatewithAbhi ♡ I also subscribed to your channel !!! You are wonderful !!! Sending the best energies !!

    • @MeditatewithAbhi
      @MeditatewithAbhi 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ErikaK left a message on your video

  • @TheArmaan81
    @TheArmaan81 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    This is by far the best Jayshetty podcast. He should have him on more and more. Both of them are so poised

  • @randompenguin6376
    @randompenguin6376 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    This is one of the best podcast episodes I've ever heard. It's something I'm definitely going to listen to again and again while having a morning walk in the nature.

  • @AdventureKody
    @AdventureKody 5 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    The audio quality on this is amazing. Feel like y'all are right in my ears

  • @Vanjuska0212
    @Vanjuska0212 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    This man is amazing! I could listen to him forever. Beautiful topic. I enjoyed imensely.

  • @InnerVisionStudios
    @InnerVisionStudios 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    The quality of our relationships directly affects the quality of our lives. Appreciate this interview with Robert!

  • @loomonda18
    @loomonda18 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I love that bit where Jay talked about having different friends for different roles in his life...some friends are daily friends, and some you see once a month or once a year - ALL are valuable and meaningful though, and I think a lot of people forget that.

  • @osse1n
    @osse1n 5 ปีที่แล้ว +58

    *When you value yourself, others will be forced to do the same.*

    • @namitha5611
      @namitha5611 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I see you everywhere man ❤️

    • @osse1n
      @osse1n 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@shilpa9309 When your self esteem and self respect are on top, you won't tolerate BS and only quality people will surround you

    • @MeditatewithAbhi
      @MeditatewithAbhi 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      You are the man

    • @MeditatewithAbhi
      @MeditatewithAbhi 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@osse1n best explanation in a few words !

    • @antoniobalint7206
      @antoniobalint7206 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Get a job

  • @dianegiovanniello3948
    @dianegiovanniello3948 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you for inviting Robert Waldinger on your podcast. I meditate everyday and walk in nature. This is so beneficial in being in the moment with no thought. Just be! Much gratitude joy and more podcasts like this.

  • @berrychowchow4978
    @berrychowchow4978 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I heard this episode first on the podcast where I wasn't able to leave any comment, then I came here, just to say thank you and this is probably one of the best podcasts I have listened to (They are all very good! Just this one is really awesome!) Doctor Robert Waldinger's way of describing his research and his opinion is so objective and clear and informative. Love your work Jay! Appreciate that you're doing it for everyone.

  • @Annie-lu5rt
    @Annie-lu5rt 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I saw you with Russell Brand. I have been a follower ever since. Your vision for creating movies and such with a positive vibe really resonates with me. I am 65. When my children were little I was always looking for programming with a higher vibration. Let's enhance love and compassion in programming. starting from a young age. I predict a brighter future for us all if we do. Your You Tube videos appeal to the older generation too. I thank you for that.

  • @cynthiamendes3094
    @cynthiamendes3094 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I always listen to your podcast in the morning while making breakfast. I want to say that this episode was one of the most profound so far. It really spoke to me. 💜 Thank you.

  • @madhurichakraborty1254
    @madhurichakraborty1254 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Your Podcast is genuinely maturing us in all fields. Thanks. Two lovely advice in relationship :
    * We have to strike the iron when cold , not hot.
    *Relationships are like physical fitness and requires consistent maintenance.

  • @gurskyman
    @gurskyman 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Robert is a wonderful, insightful person. Thank you so much for introducing me to him.

  • @mazil.i
    @mazil.i 5 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    "Change begings when you realize that you aren't what you yourself wanted to be"
    ~ Have a nice day! 😌

  • @AuthenticSelfGrowth
    @AuthenticSelfGrowth 5 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    You know when you have a good relationship with someone when you can just hangout and say very little. But just enjoy being with them.

  • @MeditatewithAbhi
    @MeditatewithAbhi 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Amazing Jay ! Thanks for bringing these inspiring guests consistently 💓🙏

  • @NenaLavonne
    @NenaLavonne 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This. 👏👏👏👏😊 Happy Monday, everyone! I hope your week is extraordinary ♥️

  • @mariaansola1964
    @mariaansola1964 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love this Podcast with Dr Robert so calm and soothing Awesome job Jay it was a blessing indeed 🙏♥️♥️

  • @TheTAMMY97
    @TheTAMMY97 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I love your videos. My mediation place is the beach. I think the best there. I have gone several times this year since I have been listening too you. My other meditation place is cutting grass. I know strange. But it does help.i have grown so much much since I started listening too you. You have helped me alot.

  • @vinayalex2319
    @vinayalex2319 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great interview by all means ..
    You are nature,and through serving others we can allign with it.. .full of energy and presence.. .loved it..

  • @verjindemerjian8642
    @verjindemerjian8642 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks Jay for inviting a person like Robert I like your both conversation it's very inspiring and much helpful you're the best Jay like your speech you're really amazing💖

  • @positiveenergy8598
    @positiveenergy8598 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is one of the best podcast episodes I've ever heard. Beautiful topic. I enjoyed immensely.

  • @NoobVisions79
    @NoobVisions79 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    What an amazing conversation! Thank you for this!

  • @jyotiubryani9826
    @jyotiubryani9826 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Amazing episode..loved all Zen practices and was very peaceful and spiritual talk of both of you..Thanks for sharing this video.

  • @PowerfulU
    @PowerfulU 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Can't believe I missed this one! So glad I got to catch it because the conversation was so great and meaningful to me.

  • @algerian_daizy
    @algerian_daizy 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I really enjoyed watching this conversation , thank you Jay for everything you are doing

  • @rothmonorady397
    @rothmonorady397 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks Dr Robert and Jay.

  • @maimohamed3590
    @maimohamed3590 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Im glad I watched this, thanks for sharing guys😊👏🙏✨

  • @ombayan967
    @ombayan967 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I'm form Sudan and l love what you doing

  • @kalpanakalpana3347
    @kalpanakalpana3347 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Lots of love from INDIA 🔥
    Keep rocking jay✌🥳

  • @altasocieta4775
    @altasocieta4775 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great guest

  • @samramajeed5315
    @samramajeed5315 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Omg Jay I can give my feedback here please please tell me that you read it. I am new on podcasts and I have been listening to all of your podcasts from 2 month. And you what man you have changed my perspective specially regarding relationships. I am so grateful to you you made me realize my mistakes and helped me to end that vicious circle of all that hurt that we find in relationships but you opened my eyes I don't know how I can thank you I wish I could give a hug and you would see what you have given me. And one more thing that I want to tell you that there is something in your voice that tells me that you genuinely want us to grow that what I hardly found in anyone. Thank you so much thank you so much ❤️. Please let me know you got my feedback 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

  • @rakiamamudu8044
    @rakiamamudu8044 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Lots of love from Ghana. I love you Jay for this motivational speech

    • @SherrilynnGrayer.prettyeyes
      @SherrilynnGrayer.prettyeyes 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      I am from London Ontario Canada and was just looking to plan a trip.to your beautiful country next year. I have a strong desire to come. When is the best time of year to go.....

    • @rakiamamudu8044
      @rakiamamudu8044 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Sherilynn Grayer dear sherilynn am very glad that you want to visit my country.You can come around the early month in the year and then ending of the year

  • @shudiptoshaheenshuvo9573
    @shudiptoshaheenshuvo9573 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you brother.. Thank you so much

  • @beegozutok4630
    @beegozutok4630 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Lots of love from Australia ❤️

  • @contigoconsultingpartnersh1506
    @contigoconsultingpartnersh1506 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Its all about managing the tension between the absolute present and the plays of the mind...which are always past or future. Being present seems to require a lot of effort...which is scarry. But actually it is quite the opossite. Being present is the absence of any possible effort.

  • @Santosh-Chhura-10.
    @Santosh-Chhura-10. 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    ""We are ale always comparing our insides to other people outsides"""
    .... I appreciated strongly💪💪 your support Jay Bhaizaan(brother)

  • @jojofiile4052
    @jojofiile4052 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Amazing day jay I love how you motivate the people thanks for that, from somalia

  • @harshithabanu6131
    @harshithabanu6131 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Keep doing your Great work,, Jay,, much gratitude

  • @_reaper-7o7
    @_reaper-7o7 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    What an insight! Came here after watching TEDTALK. Thank you very much for this initiative.

  • @yuktapalekar
    @yuktapalekar 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for inspiring. 🙏🙏
    Thank you for bringing inspiring people in front of the people.🙏🙏
    Lots of love💕💕

  • @natfyfluffy1474
    @natfyfluffy1474 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Amazing talk you two!

  • @nflfangirl19
    @nflfangirl19 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    This entire video is incredible but 56:30 definitely hit me the hardest! 😩🤯

  • @eunicechinnam8557
    @eunicechinnam8557 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Much love🥰

  • @Babiegurl14300
    @Babiegurl14300 ปีที่แล้ว

    I enjoyed this conversation so much!

  • @electroking7729
    @electroking7729 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Keep it up Jay, your efforts are so inspirational.

    • @NenaLavonne
      @NenaLavonne 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      ELECTRO KING yes!

  • @najdahakim
    @najdahakim 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Love from indonesia
    Thx for making this video
    God bless u ❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @wadalhassan4590
    @wadalhassan4590 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You are the best thanks Jay keep going 😊

  • @kimtien6527
    @kimtien6527 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Always thank you for messages and wonderful videos)) like it so much, a lot of thanks

  • @careytiara
    @careytiara 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    That part 'secured attachment for risk taking' catches my attention. I feel we are often lacking in this, "a ladder/channels out there to reach out to desperate people to help them transform their lives. For eg, learning play by ear music could be a choice of many but there ain't alot of opportunity to learn it for a social purpose rather than commercial one. I would love to join a band & display my singing talent or learn percussion/piano fun-playing so as to build my self confident/worth but these opportunities are scarce..

  • @Paula-me1xs
    @Paula-me1xs 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This is gold ❤️

  • @tonykhoshal2326
    @tonykhoshal2326 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Very beneficial

  • @shikastormcrow6224
    @shikastormcrow6224 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Enjoyed this, soo many things we can learn in regards to many kinds of relationship.
    Thank you Jay and Robert (Dhanyavad ^_^)

  • @mollyred896
    @mollyred896 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Love this man

  • @pavisarav8863
    @pavisarav8863 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Really a good one Sir... ❤❤

  • @ligiasommers
    @ligiasommers 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Loved the episode 🙏🏻💖🌷

  • @Shivaroz9
    @Shivaroz9 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    PURE GOLD

  • @pepealexandre8815
    @pepealexandre8815 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great interview.

  • @thiacastle.7271
    @thiacastle.7271 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Amazing amazing amazing!!!!

  • @mayurkhamkararts2714
    @mayurkhamkararts2714 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Your tunning very unique ❤️

  • @sankarkrishnaswamy2176
    @sankarkrishnaswamy2176 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Buddy I brought ur book"THINK LIKE A MONK"🙈🙈its so much information 💝💝

  • @anilbamani7915
    @anilbamani7915 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    The way you speak i like the most💓💓

    • @NenaLavonne
      @NenaLavonne 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Anil Bamani yes, he is so inspiring!

  • @fabourique
    @fabourique 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Hey everyone

  • @rollno38
    @rollno38 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I like your voice.

  • @chazgorgeous1354
    @chazgorgeous1354 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    It helps. Thanks for this a lot.

  • @sadiamohamed2683
    @sadiamohamed2683 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Lots of ♥️ jay from Somalia

  • @moongirl8106
    @moongirl8106 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks je 🔥👌🙏🏼

  • @hollisblair224
    @hollisblair224 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great job

  • @tiktik3488
    @tiktik3488 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    😂😂😂😂😂😂Sorry to say i cant spend my whole hour seeing this video but i really ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤your all motivational videos😊😊😊😊😊😊😊

    • @meflea3675
      @meflea3675 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      You shouldn't. He steals them. Watch D'Angelo Wallace's video about him. Fuckin hypocrite

    • @bonifacionavarrete3740
      @bonifacionavarrete3740 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      A💉

  • @chetanasachde
    @chetanasachde 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Your podcasts is available in hindi also ?

  • @sangeetapingale4597
    @sangeetapingale4597 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I feel you should start relationship counseling online for genuine people.

  • @nitaa8659
    @nitaa8659 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Hello! Much love ❤️

  • @Ken-py4pk
    @Ken-py4pk 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Jay Shetty is the best creator for self-improvement. Jay inspired me so much that I started own TH-cam channel. My channel is also about self-improvement. I would love some support from you guys.

  • @sumann9523
    @sumann9523 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    IAM... suman N please talk about me IAM from India ...
    IAM been motivated with you speech
    You are amazing ❣️..you know....

  • @aprilsquad5545
    @aprilsquad5545 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    💓💓💓💓

  • @TheTAMMY97
    @TheTAMMY97 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I wish my X husband had seen that in a relationship. Instead of believing what the other told him him.

  • @Phylmour
    @Phylmour 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    There is something giddying about this audio quality!

  • @gio4074
    @gio4074 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    ❤️

  • @chumdisesangtam7995
    @chumdisesangtam7995 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    ❤️❤️Worth wasting 1 hour🔥❤️❤️

  • @robertmaxa6631
    @robertmaxa6631 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    So, once a year contact isn't acceptable? You don't take risks, when you expect to fail.

  • @rishabhg6120
    @rishabhg6120 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    1st

  • @corrinvoeller9491
    @corrinvoeller9491 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    The largest study of adult ... MEN. More than half the population has been left out. That doesn’t mean it isn’t important. It is. However, think of the massive amount of population that has been left out of this study. People of color and women.

  • @letsstarteconomics1984
    @letsstarteconomics1984 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hey Jay sir I m a big fan of u❤️ and kindly accept my request on Twitter I wanna follow u there😍

  • @SDLaMadrid
    @SDLaMadrid 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    so many endorsements, dude. we just want the meat, not the fat.

  • @ClassicMan33
    @ClassicMan33 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This dude looks line he is Connor McGregor’s daddy.

  • @AdeelAhmad-kr5tu
    @AdeelAhmad-kr5tu 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Pakistan 🇵🇰

    • @mridulsharma6504
      @mridulsharma6504 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Sup neighbours

    • @AdeelAhmad-kr5tu
      @AdeelAhmad-kr5tu 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      tik tik
      Yup buddy 🇵🇰

    • @AdeelAhmad-kr5tu
      @AdeelAhmad-kr5tu 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Mridul Sharma
      Hello 👋 sir
      Now
      Welcome 🙏 to Pakistan
      Border is open for you.

    • @AdeelAhmad-kr5tu
      @AdeelAhmad-kr5tu 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      tik tik who are you?
      I don’t know 🤷‍♂️