This call is so helpful. I lost my dad February 26, 2021 and my mom November 18, 2021. They were both only 62, my dad died after complications from heart bypass surgery and my mom had massive spontaneous multiple brain bleeds (extremely rare). I’m only 31, I shouldn’t be without my mom and dad. My kids should not be without their Nana and Grampa. It’s been the hardest year and a half of my life, one that I never could have imagined. It’s lonely to be a part of the back-to-back major loss club, especially this young. Caller, you aren’t alone. It hurts, it hurts so bad…keep putting one foot in front of the other, I’m walking a similar path and trying to do the same.
Caller is not alone. Lost my mom Sept 2020 and spiraled downward. It was the last straw in a string of stressors and losses. Developed an autoimmune condition, horrible pain and drastic weight loss. Caller needs to place self care at the top of his list. My sympathy is with him.
I’m so sorry for your loss! Please look into Dr. Sarno’s work and the mind-body connection. There’s free info all over the net. Sooo many people have healed from virtually every chronic symptom once they realize it stemmed from nervous system trauma. It’s so simple it sounds crazy. But you deserve to be pain free! Best wishes
I lost my mom may 2021, watching myself and my two brothers grieve so differently has been eye opening. Everyone grieves differently and in their own time. My brother actually was offended I wasn't upset enough, but he didn't see my shower crying or drive crying. Be patient with yourself. ❤️
1 year ago Nov 20th I lost my wife of 33+ years during Covid, I was also suffering from Covid and was on O2 and sleeping in the recliner in the living room. The next day I went to check on my wife and found her dead in bed half in half out, like she was trying to get up. I can't get that image out if my mind and feeling thst I wasn't there for her. On top of this my sister a month later went on a vent and was in a coma in ICU two days before Christmas that lasted 3 months + nursing. Thank God she lived, but it was a daily trip to the ICU for me and my mom, waiting for the shoe to drop. Since then I'm just there... smile for family and grandkids. They know and we've had talks, about feelings.....
I can't stop crying. My heart goes out for the caller. My only sibling, my little sister, just passed away almost 3 months ago, she was also 35, and it hurts so bad. Sending you prayers.
Thank you so much for what you do John. I did the exercise your mentioned in this video, and I didn't realize how much I was holding back until I finished my letters. I lost my mom and dad about 5 years ago, and since then I had completely fallen into a deep depression. Right before my mom passed shed given me the role of becoming guardian over my younger sisters. I WAS ONLY 18. I had and still have no idea what I am doing. While doing this exercise, I realized that I was holding so much resentment towards my parents. When I finished it, I felt a huge presence of calmness and love that I haven't felt in a very long time. I finally feel like I am able to breathe. I really love and miss mom and dad so much, but my resentment and grief was holding me back. I feel that writing these letters, finally gave me the permission to move forward and to let go of the burdens I was carrying. I have never felt this free. Thank you so much John. This one conversation impacted me more than you know. Please keep doing what you're doing. It's very much appreciated.
We don’t teach people in our society how to help others grieving. We often say and do things that are far more hurtful than helpful. And then we not only don’t help those with grief, we judge them. And we don’t teach people what grief is, how it’s all different for each person. How they feel is valid. Grief changes you. No shame. People: Learn to be a supportive person to those grieving. And if you are grieving, read about grief, and get support.
A few months ago, I suddenly lost my mother who was also my best friend. We were having a conversation as we usually did and then I left the room for 15 or 20 minutes and I came back in the room and she was slumped over not breathing. I am devastated, I miss her so much, it is so hard.
You are not alone, I recently lost my mother 2 days ago, her birthday is tomorrow. All of it still feels surreal and it’s like she’s still here at the hospital, but their spirits will forever live on.
I can't tell anyone how to grieve. Is there something that your mom and sister loved to do? Have a special moment to remember them. Condolences to you 🥲
The point about the last image is exact! My wife recently died of cancer, and the last image I have is her begging for me to help her die, before telling me to go away,
Caller, when you're able journal or audio-journal all your memories with your Sister and mom. As they come to you, add them to the journal ❤ It might be hard at times but it helps to remember and laugh at the funny things they did, even if that laughter is through tears. Sending you big hugs!
Oh, how I needed this! It’s been 22 months since I lost my son. I finally reached out for therapy and was so let down. This is exactly what I needed to hear. I haven’t been able to work through those lightening bolt moments of regret. Thank you for this strategy. I’ve been listening to Dr. John for years. I’ve said several times that if I could just talk to him, I felt like he could help. My heart knew he would have the answer. I can’t believe I haven’t heard the segment yet. I guess I just need to wait till this point in my healing process to hear it . Thank you !💜
I just lost my mom a month ago and in ways it seems she's been gone forever and in ways it seems like only a day. Sometimes i think I'm doing bad and then others i feel better and then that makes me feel guilty. I'm afraid of forgetting her. People say you won't forget your mom but i know I'll remember stories and how precious she was but i don't want to forget how she smelled and how she sounded. It's tough loosing your mom. I still need her. My dad is struggling and that's really hard watching that.. there's nothing i can do to really make him feel better. He thanks me so sweetly for washing his dishes and sweeping his floors or washing and folding his towels. He thanks me for taking care of him and asks what is he supposed to do now after nearly 60 years. He's lost and I'm changing jobs to be closer to him. This video really helped me. Thank you!! 🤍🕊 Please pray for us. ❤🙏🏻
I sympathize with this gentleman about losing his sister and his mom. I know the feeling. I lost my mom and sister within days of each other in 2014. My son was diagnosed with cancer a month before. I have been grieving so much for so long. I have lost so much in my life and grief has just made life a struggle. Life is a test of learning and growing.
Gee how sad listening to this poor guy. Grieving is a horrific thing to go through. Losing my two parents close together one by a horrific accident and the other getting Alzheimer’s and going from a 10 to 2 in such a short space of time and so I understand your pain. I don’t think there are any answers. Dr John has given wonderful advice. Prayers for this guy to stay strong. Life is tough. God bless. 🙏
I lost my sister (who was my mother figure throughout my life) to cancer 2 years ago. Thank you so much for this video! what brilliant advice and love that Dr John’s rocking a Turnstile shirt 🤘
You will grieve the loss of your mother, and your sister, forever. And losing them to Covid amplifies this loss, in my opinion. I lost my mother 18 years ago. I still grieve her loss. I lost my dad in January 2020, and as much as that hurt, I was grateful that he didn’t witness Covid. I still grieve my dad, too. And I will always grieve my parents.
Thank you Dr. John, you got it spot on, time is the only thing to readjust to this new normal, am going through similar at the moment… life is very unfair
Kudos to Dr. John for calling out how harmful the conspiracy theorist deniers are to the millions of people whose families have been ripped apart by COVID. Terrible enough that we've lost so many, but so many more parents and children and spouses and siblings and friends are trying to move through a world where they have a huge gap left behind, at all the talking heads are saying that it's over and was never that bad. The cognitive dissonance is shattering.
His sister had special needs with health issues already. Most died WITH Covid…not because of it, champ. My aunt had stage 4 cancer, had pneumonia, contracted Covid resulted in double pneumonia and died. They listed COD of Covid which we knew was a lie. Her health was already in massive decline because of cancer.
Thank you. My sister in law's sister, who had two beautiful little girls, lost her 37 year old husband to covid. You wouldn't believe the conspiracies being spouted off AT THE FUNERAL! We live in a small, conservative southern town, so lots of folks couldn't let go of their rhetoric even with evidence to the contrary right in front of their face. Fortunately, her family managed to shield her from the worst of it but she'll still get snide comments a year later.
Kudos to you for even commenting on that piece! I listen to this podcast while running today and thought “oh the TH-cam comments.” I’m glad you and Dr. John both said something. 👏👏👏👏
We lost our father unexpectedly at the age of 50. That was 3 months ago. I really don't wish that on anyone. That was the most traumatic day of our lives.
I am so glad I found you. I have always been known as the baby because I cry all the time. Two years ago, my mom fell and was hospitalized. She had over 20 stitches in her head. They found her heart wasn't working right. She was sent to another hospital for heart surgery. During the surgery she had a stroke. My mom was tough. She had two abusive husband's. Her first shot her twice, in the head and the chest. She lived through this. I kept thinking she's going to be fine because I went to counseling and was told to stop thinking negative. I thought positive. They then found she had thyroid cancer. She passed away a few months later. I thought my life had ended. I had 3 older siblings and 2 adopted Down Syndrome younger siblings. I got guardianship of them. The next year my aunt passed away on Jan 12, the next day my FiL passed away in my house. In Feb my SiL passed away and her husband my brother passed away in June from lung cancer. We had 3 cousins pass away from Jan to April. From Jan 3 to June 17 we had over 30 family and friends die. I could not grieve any of them because of my mom. After losing her I feel like the others are not as important. I know they are important but I have no tears. I feel dead inside. I wake up, eat, sleep, and so nothing else. I go no where. I don't talk to people in my house even my husband. My mom was my best friend. We talked every day. We went everywhere together. I was a stay-at-home mom like my mom was. We went shopping together, outr for lunch weekly, any appointment she or I had the other went to it. My husband doesn't understand. Our two grown kids moved over 2000 miles from home. I feel like I'm alone in this world. We have my husband and myself, his mom, my two younger siblings, and my mom's dog living with us. My husband parents moved in with us not long after my mom passed away in our house. My FiL passed away from covid. I feel guilty about that because I had covid even after getting all the shots. Everyone in our house had it but my husband was fine after one day sick. This year we had 5 nieces and 7 friends who had babies. I was always known as the baby whisperer because I could get babies to sleep in minutes. I've held one great nephew for about 10 minutes but then I gave him back because the joy I felt before when holding a baby is gone. I have no desire to become a grandmother or to see others babies. I'm just waiting for time to quickly pass. Listening to this caller my heart goes out to him. I was fortunate enough that my mom and FiL did spend their last few months with us. We took care of all their needs and we were with them until the end. Well technically my mom waited until I left the room to go to the bathroom. Within seconds she passed away. My husband had just gotten his dad settled when he turned around to say goodnight he was gone. This caller could not spend every minute of every day with his loved ones. If you have loved ones spend time with them now. I wish everyday several times a day that I would have spent more time with my momma
The Internet and society wrongfully assume we should be done grieving within some absurd timeline but it doesn't actually work like that and the only people that understand that are people who are in that trench with you
Loss my mom who was 72 on February 19 2022 due to cancer then my sister just passed away only at the age of 51 April 25th this year suddenly. Both woman that raised me that I was closest to are gone and I feel lost in life. I do have a 4 year old daughter that is the light of my life and gives me hope. However at times my soul feels depleted and life seems meaningless at times. My faith in God and the love for my daughter is what keeps me going but it’s beyond hard….
We can argue where it came from and whether the shots are a good idea but this illness is real. Should it have stopped all of our lives for 2 years ? No but this was real. I almost lost my brother. He tried fighting it at home for a week until his father in law made him put on a finger oxygen meter and it was 70 percent when should be like 99
I would love to make an abstract painting for your caller in the favorite color of his mother, the favorite color of his sister and the favorite color of himself. Please contact me if you would like me to make it for him. No charge.
This call is so helpful. I lost my dad February 26, 2021 and my mom November 18, 2021. They were both only 62, my dad died after complications from heart bypass surgery and my mom had massive spontaneous multiple brain bleeds (extremely rare). I’m only 31, I shouldn’t be without my mom and dad. My kids should not be without their Nana and Grampa. It’s been the hardest year and a half of my life, one that I never could have imagined. It’s lonely to be a part of the back-to-back major loss club, especially this young. Caller, you aren’t alone. It hurts, it hurts so bad…keep putting one foot in front of the other, I’m walking a similar path and trying to do the same.
@kimberlyyytv6232 I am so sorry for your profound losses. I’m sure you feel like an orphan. My deepest condolences to you.
Caller is not alone. Lost my mom Sept 2020 and spiraled downward. It was the last straw in a string of stressors and losses. Developed an autoimmune condition, horrible pain and drastic weight loss. Caller needs to place self care at the top of his list. My sympathy is with him.
Bet they were both vaccinated ✔️💯
I’m so sorry for your loss! Please look into Dr. Sarno’s work and the mind-body connection. There’s free info all over the net. Sooo many people have healed from virtually every chronic symptom once they realize it stemmed from nervous system trauma. It’s so simple it sounds crazy. But you deserve to be pain free! Best wishes
John is 100% right about the freeze frame of traumatic final images. Been there.
I lost my mom may 2021, watching myself and my two brothers grieve so differently has been eye opening. Everyone grieves differently and in their own time. My brother actually was offended I wasn't upset enough, but he didn't see my shower crying or drive crying. Be patient with yourself. ❤️
1 year ago Nov 20th I lost my wife of 33+ years during Covid, I was also suffering from Covid and was on O2 and sleeping in the recliner in the living room. The next day I went to check on my wife and found her dead in bed half in half out, like she was trying to get up. I can't get that image out if my mind and feeling thst I wasn't there for her. On top of this my sister a month later went on a vent and was in a coma in ICU two days before Christmas that lasted 3 months + nursing. Thank God she lived, but it was a daily trip to the ICU for me and my mom, waiting for the shoe to drop. Since then I'm just there... smile for family and grandkids. They know and we've had talks, about feelings.....
I can't stop crying. My heart goes out for the caller. My only sibling, my little sister, just passed away almost 3 months ago, she was also 35, and it hurts so bad. Sending you prayers.
Kudos to John for bringing up the harm conspiracies do. He is one of many mourning and I pray he finds peace. It's so hard.
Thank you to this caller for asking the hard questions i haven't been able to. I'm grateful for this episode. ❤
Thank you so much for what you do John. I did the exercise your mentioned in this video, and I didn't realize how much I was holding back until I finished my letters. I lost my mom and dad about 5 years ago, and since then I had completely fallen into a deep depression. Right before my mom passed shed given me the role of becoming guardian over my younger sisters. I WAS ONLY 18. I had and still have no idea what I am doing. While doing this exercise, I realized that I was holding so much resentment towards my parents. When I finished it, I felt a huge presence of calmness and love that I haven't felt in a very long time. I finally feel like I am able to breathe. I really love and miss mom and dad so much, but my resentment and grief was holding me back. I feel that writing these letters, finally gave me the permission to move forward and to let go of the burdens I was carrying. I have never felt this free. Thank you so much John. This one conversation impacted me more than you know. Please keep doing what you're doing. It's very much appreciated.
My heart goes out to this caller 😢
We don’t teach people in our society how to help others grieving. We often say and do things that are far more hurtful than helpful. And then we not only don’t help those with grief, we judge them. And we don’t teach people what grief is, how it’s all different for each person. How they feel is valid. Grief changes you. No shame. People: Learn to be a supportive person to those grieving. And if you are grieving, read about grief, and get support.
A few months ago, I suddenly lost my mother who was also my best friend. We were having a conversation as we usually did and then I left the room for 15 or 20 minutes and I came back in the room and she was slumped over not breathing. I am devastated, I miss her so much, it is so hard.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Please be kind and gentle to yourself. Allow yourself the time and grace to grieve. ❤
I really wish I hadn't clicked this video at work.....after I lost my dad to covid. His birthday is in 2 days. Miss you Dad.
You are not alone, I recently lost my mother 2 days ago, her birthday is tomorrow. All of it still feels surreal and it’s like she’s still here at the hospital, but their spirits will forever live on.
I can't tell anyone how to grieve. Is there something that your mom and sister loved to do? Have a special moment to remember them. Condolences to you 🥲
Wow I’m crying my eyes out, thank you for this episode.
The point about the last image is exact! My wife recently died of cancer, and the last image I have is her begging for me to help her die, before telling me to go away,
Caller, when you're able journal or audio-journal all your memories with your Sister and mom. As they come to you, add them to the journal ❤ It might be hard at times but it helps to remember and laugh at the funny things they did, even if that laughter is through tears. Sending you big hugs!
The first year is the hardest
Oh, how I needed this! It’s been 22 months since I lost my son. I finally reached out for therapy and was so let down. This is exactly what I needed to hear. I haven’t been able to work through those lightening bolt moments of regret. Thank you for this strategy. I’ve been listening to Dr. John for years. I’ve said several times that if I could just talk to him, I felt like he could help. My heart knew he would have the answer. I can’t believe I haven’t heard the segment yet. I guess I just need to wait till this point in my healing process to hear it . Thank you !💜
I just lost my mom a month ago and in ways it seems she's been gone forever and in ways it seems like only a day. Sometimes i think I'm doing bad and then others i feel better and then that makes me feel guilty. I'm afraid of forgetting her. People say you won't forget your mom but i know I'll remember stories and how precious she was but i don't want to forget how she smelled and how she sounded. It's tough loosing your mom. I still need her. My dad is struggling and that's really hard watching that.. there's nothing i can do to really make him feel better. He thanks me so sweetly for washing his dishes and sweeping his floors or washing and folding his towels. He thanks me for taking care of him and asks what is he supposed to do now after nearly 60 years. He's lost and I'm changing jobs to be closer to him. This video really helped me. Thank you!! 🤍🕊
Please pray for us. ❤🙏🏻
I sympathize with this gentleman about losing his sister and his mom. I know the feeling. I lost my mom and sister within days of each other in 2014. My son was diagnosed with cancer a month before. I have been grieving so much for so long. I have lost so much in my life and grief has just made life a struggle. Life is a test of learning and growing.
Gee how sad listening to this poor guy. Grieving is a horrific thing to go through. Losing my two parents close together one by a horrific accident and the other getting Alzheimer’s and going from a 10 to 2 in such a short space of time and so I understand your pain. I don’t think there are any answers. Dr John has given wonderful advice. Prayers for this guy to stay strong. Life is tough. God bless. 🙏
I lost my sister (who was my mother figure throughout my life) to cancer 2 years ago. Thank you so much for this video! what brilliant advice and love that Dr John’s rocking a Turnstile shirt 🤘
Lost my mother 02/22/2023. I was 31. My father lost his mother when he was 66. No matter how old you are when you lose a parent, its so hard.
You will grieve the loss of your mother, and your sister, forever. And losing them to Covid amplifies this loss, in my opinion.
I lost my mother 18 years ago. I still grieve her loss. I lost my dad in January 2020, and as much as that hurt, I was grateful that he didn’t witness Covid. I still grieve my dad, too. And I will always grieve my parents.
Griefshare is great. It is helping me grieve my brother, sister, and grandson. They have them all over the country.
Thank you Dr. John, you got it spot on, time is the only thing to readjust to this new normal, am going through similar at the moment… life is very unfair
This is grief.
Kudos to Dr. John for calling out how harmful the conspiracy theorist deniers are to the millions of people whose families have been ripped apart by COVID. Terrible enough that we've lost so many, but so many more parents and children and spouses and siblings and friends are trying to move through a world where they have a huge gap left behind, at all the talking heads are saying that it's over and was never that bad. The cognitive dissonance is shattering.
His sister had special needs with health issues already. Most died WITH Covid…not because of it, champ. My aunt had stage 4 cancer, had pneumonia, contracted Covid resulted in double pneumonia and died. They listed COD of Covid which we knew was a lie. Her health was already in massive decline because of cancer.
Thank you. My sister in law's sister, who had two beautiful little girls, lost her 37 year old husband to covid. You wouldn't believe the conspiracies being spouted off AT THE FUNERAL! We live in a small, conservative southern town, so lots of folks couldn't let go of their rhetoric even with evidence to the contrary right in front of their face. Fortunately, her family managed to shield her from the worst of it but she'll still get snide comments a year later.
@@imveryhungry112 several people at the funeral did.
Kudos to you for even commenting on that piece! I listen to this podcast while running today and thought “oh the TH-cam comments.” I’m glad you and Dr. John both said something. 👏👏👏👏
@@imveryhungry112 I was talking about my relative's funeral. Please read my original comment.
We lost our father unexpectedly at the age of 50. That was 3 months ago. I really don't wish that on anyone. That was the most traumatic day of our lives.
Me too. Just cry. Talk to them like there here. Watch pic & let it out
I hope he finds peace . I pray for him 🙏💜
I am so glad I found you. I have always been known as the baby because I cry all the time. Two years ago, my mom fell and was hospitalized. She had over 20 stitches in her head. They found her heart wasn't working right. She was sent to another hospital for heart surgery. During the surgery she had a stroke. My mom was tough. She had two abusive husband's. Her first shot her twice, in the head and the chest. She lived through this.
I kept thinking she's going to be fine because I went to counseling and was told to stop thinking negative. I thought positive. They then found she had thyroid cancer. She passed away a few months later. I thought my life had ended. I had 3 older siblings and 2 adopted Down Syndrome younger siblings. I got guardianship of them.
The next year my aunt passed away on Jan 12, the next day my FiL passed away in my house. In Feb my SiL passed away and her husband my brother passed away in June from lung cancer. We had 3 cousins pass away from Jan to April. From Jan 3 to June 17 we had over 30 family and friends die. I could not grieve any of them because of my mom. After losing her I feel like the others are not as important. I know they are important but I have no tears. I feel dead inside. I wake up, eat, sleep, and so nothing else. I go no where. I don't talk to people in my house even my husband.
My mom was my best friend. We talked every day. We went everywhere together. I was a stay-at-home mom like my mom was. We went shopping together, outr for lunch weekly, any appointment she or I had the other went to it. My husband doesn't understand. Our two grown kids moved over 2000 miles from home. I feel like I'm alone in this world.
We have my husband and myself, his mom, my two younger siblings, and my mom's dog living with us. My husband parents moved in with us not long after my mom passed away in our house. My FiL passed away from covid. I feel guilty about that because I had covid even after getting all the shots. Everyone in our house had it but my husband was fine after one day sick.
This year we had 5 nieces and 7 friends who had babies. I was always known as the baby whisperer because I could get babies to sleep in minutes. I've held one great nephew for about 10 minutes but then I gave him back because the joy I felt before when holding a baby is gone. I have no desire to become a grandmother or to see others babies. I'm just waiting for time to quickly pass.
Listening to this caller my heart goes out to him. I was fortunate enough that my mom and FiL did spend their last few months with us. We took care of all their needs and we were with them until the end. Well technically my mom waited until I left the room to go to the bathroom. Within seconds she passed away. My husband had just gotten his dad settled when he turned around to say goodnight he was gone. This caller could not spend every minute of every day with his loved ones.
If you have loved ones spend time with them now. I wish everyday several times a day that I would have spent more time with my momma
The Internet and society wrongfully assume we should be done grieving within some absurd timeline but it doesn't actually work like that and the only people that understand that are people who are in that trench with you
Loss my mom who was 72 on February 19 2022 due to cancer then my sister just passed away only at the age of 51 April 25th this year suddenly. Both woman that raised me that I was closest to are gone and I feel lost in life. I do have a 4 year old daughter that is the light of my life and gives me hope. However at times my soul feels depleted and life seems meaningless at times. My faith in God and the love for my daughter is what keeps me going but it’s beyond hard….
I.. so sorry to bother you I lost my mother in September 28 2024 having a hard time I don't have no one to talk to
🙏🏾 Blessings to you
Tomorrow will be 4 yrs my fiancé died….. it takes a very long time… I’m still not sure this is real. Grief sucks the life out of you.
I don't have good days. It's been 500 days.
I lose my scizo mom this friday. I dont know how i can cope
😢
We can argue where it came from and whether the shots are a good idea but this illness is real. Should it have stopped all of our lives for 2 years ? No but this was real. I almost lost my brother. He tried fighting it at home for a week until his father in law made him put on a finger oxygen meter and it was 70 percent when should be like 99
Derik
Someone tag Mariah Carey
I would love to make an abstract painting for your caller in the favorite color of his mother, the favorite color of his sister and the favorite color of himself. Please contact me if you would like me to make it for him. No charge.