I think my dog is a Christian too. She has unconditional love. Greets me every morning before work and every evening when I get home. I've even told her Jesus loves you & she makes special noises of contentment. The only problems we've had in our relationship is invading my space when I get a midnight snack.
@@DavidRomero-vj4ldmy dog wasn't saved. I asked her if she wanted to get saved and she would walk away😂 but as she got older I think she accepted God privately. I'm confident that she is in heaven 😇
“How does the church submit to Christ? …The Church follows His lead; it’s not domination, it’s surrender. It’s following His leading.” That quote brought a sense of clarity and understanding about submission that I have not seen previously.
I appreciate this conversation today and the banter between John and Lisa. As a Christian woman, I can only recall a few different men who knew how to model healthy, Biblical leadership that I would want to submit to in that way. Many people who talk about submission see it as one sided, but dying to yourself everyday for your spouse like Christ died for the church is no small calling or responsibility.
Fascinating video, Let's stop taking relationship and family for granted. I have battled depression since my wife left me. I have tried all I can to make her see that I love her with everything I am made of but she has insisted on leaving. This has made me so empty, and I do not know what to do. I can barely function properly at work. I am frustrated and miserable. I really miss her.
Your pain resonates with me. Letting go of someone dear to your heart is an immense challenge. I found myself in a comparable situation when my 12-year-long relationship ended, and I struggled to accept it. Despite my efforts to reconcile, I eventually turned to a spiritual counsellor for guidance, which eventually led to a reunion. I'm now filled with joy
Online, you'll find shelly renee white, revered for her expertise as a spiritual counsellor. She has the ability to reunite couples and promote holistic well-being.
I find myself at a crossroads, feeling a deep yearning for marriage yet an even stronger pull towards the pursuit of God. This balance between my desire for companionship and my commitment to my faith creates a unique harmony. While I dream of sharing a life-long love with one particular woman, I know that my love for God transcends everything else. My heart is set on following Him, trusting that if it's His will, He might one day bless me with a partner. But until then, I'm content in my devotion to God, leaving all else in His hands.
I get this!! God is soooo soooo kind. I'm learning that with God its not one or the other. What matters is that He is the very center of your everything. We are very complex!
What’s “good-looking?” What I find attractive someone else won’t. Dating for Christians is a battle between the flesh and the Spirit (Holy Spirit). What we want for us, isn’t necessarily what God wants for us. All is not lost! Because if we seek the Will of God, He Will line up someone fantastic for us, a life long companion. And it will be a pleasant surprise!
I like how this podcast addressed both the married and the single status in life - all with their own challenges. Helps to realise one isn't better than the other
You guys are so awesome! I did not have a healthy model for dating and marriage growing up, and , at age 56, I am pursuing an understanding of godly dating and perhaps marriage, as well as the skills for both. You two model and teach both so well. Thank you for your godliness, your openness, your wisdom, and your willingness to teach.
Thank you for touching on people who have lost a spouse. It’s not a subject touched on often in the church, especially in regard to dating. Widowed for almost 4 years now and following God’s lead along the way 🙌🏼
I’m glad their testimony gave you strength. In my case, any advice rings hollow when given by someone who’s never lived it. It would’ve been more impactful to bring on a widow/er and let that person say the same thing. I’m an immigrant and appreciate when locals give me advice but there’s certain type of advice that’s more meaningful when a local who’s lived overseas gives it because that person has a deeper understanding of my situation. All the more so with spiritual advice.
Hi John and Lisa, I will be married 15 years on 4 April my husband Gary took me to the mall and bought me a dress when we were dating I love what you guys are saying we had talks about things we wanted for a future. We are immediately told each other about our past which I thought was very important. Nothing was hidden. We were open and honest I love that I was able to be who I was when I was with him or when I wasn’t with him. Me and my husband love listening to both of you. We did one of your marriage books and my husband said the date of Satan really helped him thanks John and Lisa Levere for following after God and what he wanted you guys to do love and God bless.
Following brother John Bevere's concept of Honor , i learn to develop honor first before 'familiarity' and warmness in any relationship especially in dating , because if in the end the person would not be our spouse at least we would still be respectfully loving each other as friend and brethren in Christ.
I am single and still believing God for His best for my life and this podcast has been a source of encouragement and wisdom to me. SO i just want to say thank you for sharing it~ Loved the Christian dog too~
YAS! If a man makes no effort I make no effort to engage with them. 🙄 It’s really sad and frustrating. BUT I also think it weeds out the men who will also give zero effort in your marriage so it’s kind of a blessing in disguise.
needed to hear this. I dont know why but my church makes it look so taboo that singles want to meet and talk. I remember recommending a meeting for singles during the week and it was rejected heavily. Its wild to me how christians dating is seen more weird than Worldy dating.
@@sushimamba4281to be honest, the church elevates marriage too much... it seems like people in the church don't think you can have a whole, loving, Godly life unless you are married. That's not true. Paul had a more productive and fulfilling life than any married couple I know. Marriage isn't the end goal.... it's just something that some of us partake in, but it is not necessary.
It’s a walking on eggshells date feeling you want them to know you’re Christian but not be a super Christian without being worldly, I think that’s the hard part of Christian dating if that makes sense.
Hi, dear John and Lisa. I just wanna thank you for one more treasure trove of godly-practical advices, as a single younger woman I've been surrounded by diverse thoughts and experiences most of them have been really disgusting personal ones, but there are others parts which are comments from other people, and just learning from God plus watching your teachings are currently part of my fresh pathway. Honestly, not only your words get stuck in my mind but also your real connection between each other make me believe that true love sustained in God is what gives life abundantly, and absolutely what I desire to live all of my life in every season of my life. Blessings dear family, greetings from Ecuador.❤😊
I understand now Lord why you want me to build a firm foundation in you FIRST Before anything or anyone gets added. You want to be ( I want you to be) my source of Joy and happiness. If not, you’d be forgotten, If not, I’d continue to create false gods you’d be replaced by idols. You’re cultivating eternal Joy and rooting me to be my source of life! OHMYGOODNESS ☀️30:58 - 31:53 ☀️
Totally what I needed to hear and pray with you today widowed for almost 5 years looking for a new mate is not an easy thing I need to just be happy where I am and wait on the Lord for his timing. The questions are do I look or do I just stay put and wait? That is my dilemma. God knows the desire of my heartIs to be married. Thank you for your words of encouragement
Hi! My name is Asia, I am single at the moment, and I’ll say that your video was very helpful me! I’m going to try my best to take it one day at a time, being faithful to what God has given me. ❤️. Thank you!
I've come to learn that dating is not Gods intention for us anyway. Even though it can be done without premarital sex, you still get your heart broken one way or another. No man or woman is an "option"; we are special and God truley is the ultimate matchmaker if we'd only listen to Him.
I agree. Even with sex off the table, there's still an incredible amount of intimacy and "unifying" that happens in the dating process, and most people dont even know what to look for to build a lasting relationship. The more I think about it, the more arranged marriages and short engagements make sense, but I dont see that gaining popularity anytime soon 😅
I appreciate husbands like John who want to lay down their desires for their wives. I personally would be willing to take turns with my husband. I don’t ever want him to always be laying aside what God has put in his heart to enjoy only to fulfill my owns hearts desires. I think that’s one thing that submit to one another means. Compromise and take turns. ❤
I broke when lisa also ask to pray for divorce. It is really weird being in a state that God didnt meant for us. But i also am closer to God then ever before. And that is what i want to give to my kids. Whatever the situation is, in God is the amswer. And thanks for this series. It realy helps me on focus in what for season i am. What sirection i need to look.
Thanks for the conversation! This was very helpful and inspiring for me. Especially thinking of my life in the present season and not stressing so much about the future. There is so much that God can do through me in the present season I'm in to prepare for my future. I just have to recognize it and allow Him to work.
I love you guys so much! Pray for my marriage and family to be grounded in Christ. Praying for unity and growth and protection. Healing. ❤Thank you so much.
Our dog is a Christian 🤣 Love listening to you both. God is so good and moving through my life in powerful ways. The Awe of God and The Holy Spirit have helped tremendously. Thank you
How about one point 👉 Many Christians ask for a sign, dream, message to know who to date, approach etc. Years later, some are still waiting for the message 😶
I love Country Swing dancing. I joined a Christian swing dance ministry where we have Bible study then dance after. It's great. No pressure or sexual tension.
Hi John & Lisa! It is a blessing that I came upon your channel. I guess GOD has lead me here to hear what I needed to hear! Thank you for what you do and may GOD bless you more!
I just want to thank you both for always being so open and honest. My marriage had been very hard to the point where I wanted to leave and I said things I am not proud of…Those hard times drew me closer to God, because that is all the hope that I had. The Lord would tell me do not leave. And then I would get angry with God to be honest, but watching your videos gave me hope because you all were saying things that we were going through and you spoke about how you got through it all. The Lord would let me know that is going to be me and my husband someday sharing what we went through. I’m happy to say, that praise the Lord we are finally getting on the same page and in the same boat and things are much better. I am just so thankful that you all have shared honesty in your marriage! I’m thankful The Lord told me to stay… Because my eyes are open now to how much I am loved and what I would’ve missed! Love you all!!
Wow wow, so good ! I shared it with my young adult son! ( I hope you visit my little island Puerto Rico one day for beaches beside the mountains) Mrs Lisa when I hear the song " What a Beautiful Name it is..." I have the thought that that is Your song!! God bless you both thank you so much!!! God bless you greatly!
I always listen to you guys. Right now from Colombia❤️ God has given you both so much wisdom and I appreciate a lot your boldness to speak the Word and your vulnerability to share with us your own experiences. Thank you so so much!!
I know this is a podcast and the conversation will flow and very, but as a Christian who is single and was pulled in by the title, I was left wanting by the discussion. Dating was touched on, and left saying (essentially) men need to work harder to pursue Christian ladies. And the rest was about Christian marriage. And I know they are flip sides of the same coin. But I didn’t click to hear marriage advice. I came to get perspective on why Christian dating can seem weird. (I appreciate your ministry. It’s always good to have more representation of healthy Christian relationships in the public eye)
I’m a man in my mid 40s . Never been married and met a woman my age who is divorced. Everything was going well and fine but we are both set in our ways. I can’t see me marrying her just so we can sleep together. I had it all backwards before I was saved. Just may have to be celibate the rest of my life .
The Lord has a Higher Standard & Higher Purpose for your life and He wants the same for your marriage someday as well. Your still very young with regards to starting a family with someone. May the Lord strength your heart & give you more courage in finding a good Godly wife. You sound like an upstanding individual and a true gentleman. Don't give up! God bless you Brother 😊
IV enjoyed this video so much, I appreciate how you love each other and IV been taken back to a place of the idea of pure love. Being a divorcee and trying to date again ( mostly my fellow divorcees), I realize that most of us are so injured that we don't know how to be selfless anymore, we are looking for our benefit mostly than look for wat we can give to others. Most of us are so corrupted with anger and hurt from our past marriages and divorce processes...it's just so refreshing and heavenly to see you two go over each other on how you do things to please the other more than self. Bless your hearts.
Your podcast has been one of my healing place to listen to. I pray you can make more episode about everything. And also can you make an episode about women being symbol of sin? I figure it's a perfect episode since it's women's month. ❤ I really wanna hear some insight from the holy spirit.
Thank you, John & Lisa, for the authenticity you bring in being yourselves and coming together to share common sense wisdom from above regarding relationships of marriage and singlehood. Your message definitely resonated with me. And thank you for your prayer at the end, John. Going through some challenging times in my marriage. I am thankful for the "tuition" and coursework that the Lord has taken me on during this season of trial and growth. Blessings to you both and to your family and your ministry!
Mabuhay from the Philippines! I am a widow now for 11 years and at times, I feel the loneliness of having no partner to joke with or go out with since I was blessed to have a husband who was both my best friend, my lover and my partner in missions. But I love the way you mentioned how we should enjoy each season given to us. And by God's grace, I am enjoying my singleness and trying to focus on how the Lord would still use me more in my senior years. (I am 68) 🙏. God bless you both and I won't ever forget Affabel: Window of Eternity, because it was the 1st time we knew about you and my husband and I listened to it before bedtime when we had our mission in Malta. And we were both affected by it that I saw my husband cried. Then we made sure we shared this with our small church when we went back to the Philippines .Thank God for you both. 🙏🙏🙏
Thank you so much for sharing this wisdom from God’s word through your real life perspective in today’s world and practical life experiences. I’ve listen to At Home with the Bevere’s and didn’t realize you had this other channel. So happy to have come across this! 😁🙌💕
My favourite quote from this: "If a guy called me and said 'do you want to go out?' I'd say, 'and do what?'' and if he's say, 'I dunno, just hang out' I'd say 'Why don't you call me back when you've thought out the evening?'" Gold, haha. God's been teaching me this exact thing in the last year, if they're not giving their best, don't make it easy for them. Call them higher.
Me too. Thankfully, it's been a season of growth like no other for me, through all the struggles I'm relying on Him more than ever and He's teaching me so much. I'm "content" to continue in this vein for now and let the season be what it is, although it's sometimes difficult to acknowledge the difference between what I want and what I need in this time. Wishing you strength and an open heart to God for you.
Quite a long time ago I was attending a well known large church in my city. One evening they were letting the congregation know about an upcoming event for single Christians at the church. I still remember the woman pastor admonishing us along the lines of "DO NOT come to the meeting with the idea of expecting to meet a partner or potential spouse..." She made it sound so wrong, so taboo, just the idea of adult believers meeting and wanting to to talk and maybe get to know other believers of the opposite sex.
Hi John and Lisa! This is isn’t related to the episode but I wanted to ask if it would be possible for you tackle the topic of cults vs religion. I recently had a friend who turned away from Christianity and got baptized into a big cult here in the Philippines which so many people sadly consider as a “religion” and I’d really love to hear your thoughts on this ☺️
There is the antidote about the girl. Praying to God, asking God to send her, her husband. God answers her and tells her, “I did send him to you, but you told him you wanted to be, ‘just friends.’”
I AM 53 years old and so appreciate this wisdom and encouragement as the Bride of Christ I often wonder if marriage to a man who is also part of the Bride tribe is still possible for me as I have never been married nor have children in the natural realm but do love the idea of perhaps even adopting if there’s even time for this?
Have a good, Christian circle of friends & treat them like your brothers and sisters & become good friends....no strings attached, no agendas, no romantic inclinations. Stay pure, trust the Lord for your spouse & be sincerely godly & the Lord WILL bless you!! The secret is to wholeheartedly DELIGHT YOURSELF IN THE LORD ❤
Thank you for giving some reminders and guidance! I'm enjoying this season with the Lord ... It was this month I got introduced to your podcast, now I have the app and have been listening to some of the books and other resources, you guys are such a blessing thank you for equipping the church for such a time as this! Again I just wanna say thank you and keepin y'all in my prayers!
I grew up in church and never had girls that had a crush on me. My college group and single's group were the same. I never had a chance. Finally, one day I watched a TV show called " Two and a half men". It was a perfect description of my college and single's group in church. The handsome jerks had all the girls, meanwhile, sincere, mature Christians didn't have a chance. I saw many good Christian guys marrying outside the church because they were not jerk enough to attract the girls in church. What an amazing TV series, they really show how things are.
Don't give up!!! You can't wait for a girl to like you before you pursue her...what you need to do is find that one Christian girl who has her eyes on Jesus and You pursue Her!!! And don't quit. When I say pursue, first pursue friendship!!!! Is this a person you enjoy hanging out with this person? Do you see her reactions to people? Is she truly pursuing God? ( Also be looking at yourself. Are you putting God first in everything? Are you willing to put her needs before your own? Are you wanting a relationship purely for selfish reasons???) Just some things to ponder. Good luck!
Hi John and Lisa, what a blessing you have been through this podcast. I've listened to almost every episode at this point. One question remains that I'm hoping could be addressed is that of Christian dating with children after divorce. How to approach this, what resources are available, what the Bible says regarding this when each of the ex-spouses have lost their way. Thank you so much for all that you do! Take care.
If your marriage was a first marriage for both you and your wife, the two of you remain in covenant. The one flesh covenant is for life. Only death breaks the covenant. Divorce is in this realm. But in the spirit realm you remain in one/covenant. So there should be no dating following divorce. Remarriage is adultery. The Bible says in first Corinthians chapter 7 verse 11 that we are to reconcile or stay single following separation or divorce. Anyone who dates you and gets involved with you is violating the covenant you have with your covenant partner. If you date someone that is divorced you are violating that persons covenant as well as your own.
@@daughterofthemosthigh3366 So, if he’s 30 and his life span is another 50 years;he has to remain single and alone for the rest of his life? Or since you believe that Evan after 10 years of divorce he can show up at his ex wife home anytime and expect her to treat him as she did when they were married?
Maybe it’s different today, but when I was in college dating the Christian girls was the best. They were super pent-up, and just out from under the thumb of their parents. They were so easy…
The Bible does NOT say that the man is the head of the house, it’s says the head of the wife in respect to the verses preceding it-the man is to love his wife as Christ loved the church. 20:14
I think we are leaving out how much culture has affected dating, even within the church.
Women including Church girls are feminists
especially hollywood
“Our dog is a Christian” 😂 Love it! A beautiful example of a Godly foundational marriage ❤
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That made me laugh so hard haha
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I think my dog is a Christian too. She has unconditional love. Greets me every morning before work and every evening when I get home. I've even told her Jesus loves you & she makes special noises of contentment. The only problems we've had in our relationship is invading my space when I get a midnight snack.
@@DavidRomero-vj4ldmy dog wasn't saved. I asked her if she wanted to get saved and she would walk away😂 but as she got older I think she accepted God privately. I'm confident that she is in heaven 😇
“How does the church submit to Christ? …The Church follows His lead; it’s not domination, it’s surrender. It’s following His leading.” That quote brought a sense of clarity and understanding about submission that I have not seen previously.
Christ's love is perfect. He is safe to submit to. He died to himself first to prove it.
I heard someone say that a man should love so well that he's easy to submit to. And a woman should submit so well she's easy to love.
@@RCGWho perfect
I appreciate this conversation today and the banter between John and Lisa. As a Christian woman, I can only recall a few different men who knew how to model healthy, Biblical leadership that I would want to submit to in that way. Many people who talk about submission see it as one sided, but dying to yourself everyday for your spouse like Christ died for the church is no small calling or responsibility.
I agree 100%!!! Being a leader is a type of servitude, but people don’t want to hear that part
In what way does Christ submit to the Bride of Christ today?
@@jeremiahchapman9288He literally died for the church.
@@tylermoore949 that is in the past. The question was, "In what way does Christ submit to the Bride of Christ TODAY?"
@@jeremiahchapman9288 Christ doesn't submit to us, we submit to Christ. Christ is God.
Fascinating video, Let's stop taking relationship and family for granted. I have battled depression since my wife left me. I have tried all I can to make her see that I love her with everything I am made of but she has insisted on leaving. This has made me so empty, and I do not know what to do. I can barely function properly at work. I am frustrated and miserable. I really miss her.
Your pain resonates with me. Letting go of someone dear to your heart is an immense challenge. I found myself in a comparable situation when my 12-year-long relationship ended, and I struggled to accept it. Despite my efforts to reconcile, I eventually turned to a spiritual counsellor for guidance, which eventually led to a reunion. I'm now filled with joy
I'm keen on meeting the counsellor you're talking about. What steps should I take?
Online, you'll find shelly renee white, revered for her expertise as a spiritual counsellor. She has the ability to reunite couples and promote holistic well-being.
Thank you for this information. I have just looked her up on Google. impressive.
I am so sorry man that your wife left you
I find myself at a crossroads, feeling a deep yearning for marriage yet an even stronger pull towards the pursuit of God. This balance between my desire for companionship and my commitment to my faith creates a unique harmony. While I dream of sharing a life-long love with one particular woman, I know that my love for God transcends everything else. My heart is set on following Him, trusting that if it's His will, He might one day bless me with a partner. But until then, I'm content in my devotion to God, leaving all else in His hands.
I get this!! God is soooo soooo kind. I'm learning that with God its not one or the other. What matters is that He is the very center of your everything. We are very complex!
Amen
I can relate with this as well!
What’s “good-looking?” What I find attractive someone else won’t. Dating for Christians is a battle between the flesh and the Spirit (Holy Spirit). What we want for us, isn’t necessarily what God wants for us. All is not lost! Because if we seek the Will of God, He Will line up someone fantastic for us, a life long companion. And it will be a pleasant surprise!
I like how this podcast addressed both the married and the single status in life - all with their own challenges. Helps to realise one isn't better than the other
❤ “you don’t measure your value by the contribution that you give” 🔥🔥🔥
You guys are so awesome! I did not have a healthy model for dating and marriage growing up, and , at age 56, I am pursuing an understanding of godly dating and perhaps marriage, as well as the skills for both. You two model and teach both so well. Thank you for your godliness, your openness, your wisdom, and your willingness to teach.
Thank you for touching on people who have lost a spouse. It’s not a subject touched on often in the church, especially in regard to dating. Widowed for almost 4 years now and following God’s lead along the way 🙌🏼
I’m glad their testimony gave you strength. In my case, any advice rings hollow when given by someone who’s never lived it. It would’ve been more impactful to bring on a widow/er and let that person say the same thing. I’m an immigrant and appreciate when locals give me advice but there’s certain type of advice that’s more meaningful when a local who’s lived overseas gives it because that person has a deeper understanding of my situation. All the more so with spiritual advice.
Hi John and Lisa, I will be married 15 years on 4 April my husband Gary took me to the mall and bought me a dress when we were dating I love what you guys are saying we had talks about things we wanted for a future. We are immediately told each other about our past which I thought was very important. Nothing was hidden. We were open and honest I love that I was able to be who I was when I was with him or when I wasn’t with him. Me and my husband love listening to both of you. We did one of your marriage books and my husband said the date of Satan really helped him thanks John and Lisa Levere for following after God and what he wanted you guys to do love and God bless.
I like that stateme, "How people see you is how people hear you." Gonna add that one to my repertoire.
Don't be quick to embrace this. This validates biases and makes no room for open-mindedness. Listen to people first, before boxing them. God bless.
Following brother John Bevere's concept of Honor , i learn to develop honor first before 'familiarity' and warmness in any relationship especially in dating , because if in the end the person would not be our spouse at least we would still be respectfully loving each other as friend and brethren in Christ.
That is so true and godly. Those are the fruits of the Spirit.
Thank you for this resource.
Sinful and unrepentant people are not your friends and definitely not your brother. Some ppl really need to read the Bible
I am single and still believing God for His best for my life and this podcast has been a source of encouragement and wisdom to me. SO i just want to say thank you for sharing it~ Loved the Christian dog too~
There’s so much wisdom/insight in this episode for relationships. Also, love the way John looks at Lisa. ❤️
YAS! If a man makes no effort I make no effort to engage with them. 🙄 It’s really sad and frustrating. BUT I also think it weeds out the men who will also give zero effort in your marriage so it’s kind of a blessing in disguise.
needed to hear this. I dont know why but my church makes it look so taboo that singles want to meet and talk. I remember recommending a meeting for singles during the week and it was rejected heavily. Its wild to me how christians dating is seen more weird than Worldy dating.
I know. It's so weird! How are singles supposed to meet godly spouses and get married?
@@sushimamba4281to be honest, the church elevates marriage too much... it seems like people in the church don't think you can have a whole, loving, Godly life unless you are married.
That's not true. Paul had a more productive and fulfilling life than any married couple I know.
Marriage isn't the end goal.... it's just something that some of us partake in, but it is not necessary.
and you wonder why church attendance is down
Church is not a dating site
It’s a walking on eggshells date feeling you want them to know you’re Christian but not be a super Christian without being worldly, I think that’s the hard part of Christian dating if that makes sense.
Hi, dear John and Lisa. I just wanna thank you for one more treasure trove of godly-practical advices, as a single younger woman I've been surrounded by diverse thoughts and experiences most of them have been really disgusting personal ones, but there are others parts which are comments from other people, and just learning from God plus watching your teachings are currently part of my fresh pathway. Honestly, not only your words get stuck in my mind but also your real connection between each other make me believe that true love sustained in God is what gives life abundantly, and absolutely what I desire to live all of my life in every season of my life. Blessings dear family, greetings from Ecuador.❤😊
@genesissimbala2572 I recommend the book “Party of One” by Joy Beth Smith. It deals with Christian singleness in a complex but lighthearted way.
@@Phillysoul922 hi, I really appreciate your suggestion I'll read it sooner😊
The juice is not worth the squeeze. A lot of men aren’t deemed enough at this moment. You are right. Seek compatibility first.
"Mahalo" is a Hawaiian word meaning thanks, gratitude, admiration, praise, esteem, regards, or respects. Love you both!
GODLINESS IS THE GOAL!!!! -LISA..... MAN THIS POD IS ON FIREEEE AND IS SOOOOO GOOOOOODDDD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I understand now Lord why you want me to build a firm foundation in you FIRST Before anything or anyone gets added. You want to be ( I want you to be) my source of Joy and happiness. If not, you’d be forgotten, If not, I’d continue to create false gods you’d be replaced by idols. You’re cultivating eternal Joy and rooting me to be my source of life! OHMYGOODNESS ☀️30:58 - 31:53 ☀️
Totally what I needed to hear and pray with you today widowed for almost 5 years looking for a new mate is not an easy thing I need to just be happy where I am and wait on the Lord for his timing. The questions are do I look or do I just stay put and wait? That is my dilemma. God knows the desire of my heartIs to be married. Thank you for your words of encouragement
Love to know the same. How do widower and widow dating
I'm on the same journey and this year will be the fifth year of my husband's passing. Looking forward to an insight. 🙏
Hi! My name is Asia, I am single at the moment, and I’ll say that your video was very helpful me! I’m going to try my best to take it one day at a time, being faithful to what God has given me. ❤️. Thank you!
I've come to learn that dating is not Gods intention for us anyway. Even though it can be done without premarital sex, you still get your heart broken one way or another. No man or woman is an "option"; we are special and God truley is the ultimate matchmaker if we'd only listen to Him.
Why is dating not God's intencion? How can a men and woman got to know each other if they don't date? Can you explain it more?
maybe ''dating'' but meeting and community is exactly what God wants for people.
I agree. Even with sex off the table, there's still an incredible amount of intimacy and "unifying" that happens in the dating process, and most people dont even know what to look for to build a lasting relationship. The more I think about it, the more arranged marriages and short engagements make sense, but I dont see that gaining popularity anytime soon 😅
@@eniwla6577 i believe he means dating as it is in our world today and i agree with him
Ok but how does the OP’s post help me find a wife in practical terms?
I appreciate husbands like John who want to lay down their desires for their wives. I personally would be willing to take turns with my husband. I don’t ever want him to always be laying aside what God has put in his heart to enjoy only to fulfill my owns hearts desires. I think that’s one thing that submit to one another means. Compromise and take turns. ❤
I broke when lisa also ask to pray for divorce. It is really weird being in a state that God didnt meant for us. But i also am closer to God then ever before. And that is what i want to give to my kids. Whatever the situation is, in God is the amswer. And thanks for this series. It realy helps me on focus in what for season i am. What sirection i need to look.
Thanks for the conversation! This was very helpful and inspiring for me. Especially thinking of my life in the present season and not stressing so much about the future. There is so much that God can do through me in the present season I'm in to prepare for my future. I just have to recognize it and allow Him to work.
I love how authentic and genuine this was. Thank you for another amazing episode ❤
I love you guys so much! Pray for my marriage and family to be grounded in Christ. Praying for unity and growth and protection. Healing. ❤Thank you so much.
Thank you Lord for this. You’ve ministered to my soul through their conversation and this prayer! What a blessing
3:45 PRRREEEAACHH it feels like being a young adult and having any type of FUN is quickly condemned 😭
So thankful for the godly wisdom of this couple.❤
Our dog is a Christian 🤣
Love listening to you both. God is so good and moving through my life in powerful ways. The Awe of God and The Holy Spirit have helped tremendously. Thank you
How about one point 👉 Many Christians ask for a sign, dream, message to know who to date, approach etc. Years later, some are still waiting for the message 😶
Too right...
I love Country Swing dancing. I joined a Christian swing dance ministry where we have Bible study then dance after. It's great. No pressure or sexual tension.
Thank you for praying for us
A great conversation with much truth. Thanks for sharing this chat, it's been well received.
I’ve been so blessed by this!!! Thank you for your wisdom & honesty ❤ it’s so refreshing
Hi John & Lisa! It is a blessing that I came upon your channel. I guess GOD has lead me here to hear what I needed to hear! Thank you for what you do and may GOD bless you more!
😂When she said our dog is a Christian was hilarious.... I love u all you as FAMILY are my dream what i hope and pray i would get someday
I just want to thank you both for always being so open and honest. My marriage had been very hard to the point where I wanted to leave and I said things I am not proud of…Those hard times drew me closer to God, because that is all the hope that I had. The Lord would tell me do not leave. And then I would get angry with God to be honest, but watching your videos gave me hope because you all were saying things that we were going through and you spoke about how you got through it all. The Lord would let me know that is going to be me and my husband someday sharing what we went through. I’m happy to say, that praise the Lord we are finally getting on the same page and in the same boat and things are much better. I am just so thankful that you all have shared honesty in your marriage!
I’m thankful The Lord told me to stay…
Because my eyes are open now to how much I am loved and what I would’ve missed!
Love you all!!
Wow wow, so good ! I shared it with my young adult son! ( I hope you visit my little island Puerto Rico one day for beaches beside the mountains) Mrs Lisa when I hear the song " What a Beautiful Name it is..." I have the thought that that is Your song!! God bless you both thank you so much!!! God bless you greatly!
This advice is invaluable to the body of Christ!! Thank you ever so much for discussing this topic and imparting such wisdom.
I always listen to you guys. Right now from Colombia❤️ God has given you both so much wisdom and I appreciate a lot your boldness to speak the Word and your vulnerability to share with us your own experiences. Thank you so so much!!
😅I love that your dog is a Christian. Our dogs love praise and worship. Chino and Chai.
My dog Heidi loved praise and worship music so much~
I know this is a podcast and the conversation will flow and very, but as a Christian who is single and was pulled in by the title, I was left wanting by the discussion. Dating was touched on, and left saying (essentially) men need to work harder to pursue Christian ladies. And the rest was about Christian marriage. And I know they are flip sides of the same coin. But I didn’t click to hear marriage advice. I came to get perspective on why Christian dating can seem weird. (I appreciate your ministry. It’s always good to have more representation of healthy Christian relationships in the public eye)
it was a waste of time as usual
This is my first time listening, I love it, am divorced for 8 years
I’m a man in my mid 40s . Never been married and met a woman my age who is divorced. Everything was going well and fine but we are both set in our ways. I can’t see me marrying her just so we can sleep together. I had it all backwards before I was saved. Just may have to be celibate the rest of my life .
The Lord has a Higher Standard & Higher Purpose for your life and He wants the same for your marriage someday as well. Your still very young with regards to starting a family with someone. May the Lord strength your heart & give you more courage in finding a good Godly wife. You sound like an upstanding individual and a true gentleman. Don't give up! God bless you Brother 😊
I love this couple!! So full of wisdom from the LORD.🥰
Wow. What an amazing discussion. This was much much needed.
Agree.. we "would see more ppl saved" if we were living each other more this way. 👏🏻
Love you both! I look up to you and your family for a while now, especially since you both would come to my church growing up!
Love this ❤! Thank you🥰
IV enjoyed this video so much, I appreciate how you love each other and IV been taken back to a place of the idea of pure love. Being a divorcee and trying to date again ( mostly my fellow divorcees), I realize that most of us are so injured that we don't know how to be selfless anymore, we are looking for our benefit mostly than look for wat we can give to others. Most of us are so corrupted with anger and hurt from our past marriages and divorce processes...it's just so refreshing and heavenly to see you two go over each other on how you do things to please the other more than self. Bless your hearts.
Your podcast has been one of my healing place to listen to. I pray you can make more episode about everything. And also can you make an episode about women being symbol of sin? I figure it's a perfect episode since it's women's month. ❤ I really wanna hear some insight from the holy spirit.
I've been tremendously blessed by this podcast. May God bless the entire Bevere family ❤❤❤
Thank you, John & Lisa, for the authenticity you bring in being yourselves and coming together to share common sense wisdom from above regarding relationships of marriage and singlehood. Your message definitely resonated with me. And thank you for your prayer at the end, John. Going through some challenging times in my marriage. I am thankful for the "tuition" and coursework that the Lord has taken me on during this season of trial and growth. Blessings to you both and to your family and your ministry!
THANK YOU FOR THIS DISCUSSION!!!
I think your son's and new daughters should come on the show and there should be a follow up Q n A.
Mabuhay from the Philippines! I am a widow now for 11 years and at times, I feel the loneliness of having no partner to joke with or go out with since I was blessed to have a husband who was both my best friend, my lover and my partner in missions. But I love the way you mentioned how we should enjoy each season given to us. And by God's grace, I am enjoying my singleness and trying to focus on how the Lord would still use me more in my senior years. (I am 68) 🙏. God bless you both and I won't ever forget Affabel: Window of Eternity, because it was the 1st time we knew about you and my husband and I listened to it before bedtime when we had our mission in Malta. And we were both affected by it that I saw my husband cried. Then we made sure we shared this with our small church when we went back to the Philippines .Thank God for you both. 🙏🙏🙏
Mahalo means thank you. Love you both.
Yesssssss! Finally someone is having this conversation
Marriage is very confusing, and I’m completely happy being single.
John your prayer was powerful😭😭 First video I've seen on this podcast, brilliant advice. Thankful for you both 💓
Mahalo means thank you I believe.
Great message and thank you for praying for the lonely people
Amen! Thank you guys! Awesome podcast! ❤️🔥❤️🔥
Thank you for your wisdom and honesty.I felt the power of the prayer Thank you so much ❤️ Bless be your family and ministry
Inspirational message thanks
Thank you so much for sharing this wisdom from God’s word through your real life perspective in today’s world and practical life experiences. I’ve listen to At Home with the Bevere’s and didn’t realize you had this other channel. So happy to have come across this! 😁🙌💕
So much wisdom from this conversation 💙💙💙 thank you for sharing Lisa & John
My favourite quote from this: "If a guy called me and said 'do you want to go out?' I'd say, 'and do what?'' and if he's say, 'I dunno, just hang out' I'd say 'Why don't you call me back when you've thought out the evening?'" Gold, haha. God's been teaching me this exact thing in the last year, if they're not giving their best, don't make it easy for them. Call them higher.
I’m trying learn how to be single in my 40’s after a divorce and boy oh boy what a ride
Me too. Thankfully, it's been a season of growth like no other for me, through all the struggles I'm relying on Him more than ever and He's teaching me so much. I'm "content" to continue in this vein for now and let the season be what it is, although it's sometimes difficult to acknowledge the difference between what I want and what I need in this time. Wishing you strength and an open heart to God for you.
Loved it❤️ beautiful family 😍 so insipring ✨ Jesus Christ bless you all✝️
Love your glasses Lisa!!!
Quite a long time ago I was attending a well known large church in my city. One evening they were letting the congregation know about an upcoming event for single Christians at the church. I still remember the woman pastor admonishing us along the lines of "DO NOT come to the meeting with the idea of expecting to meet a partner or potential spouse..." She made it sound so wrong, so taboo, just the idea of adult believers meeting and wanting to to talk and maybe get to know other believers of the opposite sex.
Thank you both. I was really blessed by your conversation and info
You guys will be my stream when I turn 50.
Loved Loved this episode ❤
So glad y’all made a podcast on this ❤️ God bless y’all 😊
Thank You!😊
Powerful prayer 🙏🏼🙏🏼
Hi John and Lisa! This is isn’t related to the episode but I wanted to ask if it would be possible for you tackle the topic of cults vs religion. I recently had a friend who turned away from Christianity and got baptized into a big cult here in the Philippines which so many people sadly consider as a “religion” and I’d really love to hear your thoughts on this ☺️
There is the antidote about the girl. Praying to God, asking God to send her, her husband.
God answers her and tells her,
“I did send him to you, but you told him you wanted to be, ‘just friends.’”
I AM 53 years old and so appreciate this wisdom and encouragement as the Bride of Christ I often wonder if marriage to a man who is also part of the Bride tribe is still possible for me as I have never been married nor have children in the natural realm but do love the idea of perhaps even adopting if there’s even time for this?
Romans 15:13
Thank you.
Have a good, Christian circle of friends & treat them like your brothers and sisters & become good friends....no strings attached, no agendas, no romantic inclinations. Stay pure, trust the Lord for your spouse & be sincerely godly & the Lord WILL bless you!! The secret is to wholeheartedly DELIGHT YOURSELF IN THE LORD ❤
Thanks for your ministry
Thank you for giving some reminders and guidance! I'm enjoying this season with the Lord
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It was this month I got introduced to your podcast, now I have the app and have been listening to some of the books and other resources, you guys are such a blessing thank you for equipping the church for such a time as this!
Again I just wanna say thank you and keepin y'all in my prayers!
Powerful❤
I needed this, thank u
Amen to Godliness.
Great podcast! 🙏🏼🙌🏻
I grew up in church and never had girls that had a crush on me. My college group and single's group were the same. I never had a chance. Finally, one day I watched a TV show called " Two and a half men". It was a perfect description of my college and single's group in church. The handsome jerks had all the girls, meanwhile, sincere, mature Christians didn't have a chance. I saw many good Christian guys marrying outside the church because they were not jerk enough to attract the girls in church. What an amazing TV series, they really show how things are.
Don't give up!!! You can't wait for a girl to like you before you pursue her...what you need to do is find that one Christian girl who has her eyes on Jesus and You pursue Her!!! And don't quit. When I say pursue, first pursue friendship!!!! Is this a person you enjoy hanging out with this person? Do you see her reactions to people? Is she truly pursuing God? ( Also be looking at yourself. Are you putting God first in everything? Are you willing to put her needs before your own? Are you wanting a relationship purely for selfish reasons???) Just some things to ponder. Good luck!
@@susanestanislao802 Thank you !! I've read a few books about Christian relationships.
Hi John and Lisa, what a blessing you have been through this podcast. I've listened to almost every episode at this point. One question remains that I'm hoping could be addressed is that of Christian dating with children after divorce. How to approach this, what resources are available, what the Bible says regarding this when each of the ex-spouses have lost their way. Thank you so much for all that you do! Take care.
If your marriage was a first marriage for both you and your wife, the two of you remain in covenant. The one flesh covenant is for life. Only death breaks the covenant. Divorce is in this realm. But in the spirit realm you remain in one/covenant. So there should be no dating following divorce. Remarriage is adultery. The Bible says in first Corinthians chapter 7 verse 11 that we are to reconcile or stay single following separation or divorce. Anyone who dates you and gets involved with you is violating the covenant you have with your covenant partner. If you date someone that is divorced you are violating that persons covenant as well as your own.
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So, if he’s 30 and his life span is another 50 years;he has to remain single and alone for the rest of his life?
Or since you believe that Evan after 10 years of divorce he can show up at his ex wife home anytime and expect her to treat him as she did when they were married?
Maybe it’s different today, but when I was in college dating the Christian girls was the best. They were super pent-up, and just out from under the thumb of their parents. They were so easy…
The Bible does NOT say that the man is the head of the house, it’s says the head of the wife in respect to the verses preceding it-the man is to love his wife as Christ loved the church. 20:14