a lot of people talk about photoshop and how people present themselves differently on social media, but i find myself feeling insecure when i see girls at my school who look drop dead gorgeous. I see people in real life who are beautiful and have nice bodies. that’s what makes me the most insecure, because i feel like i can only make myself look somewhat decent on social media.
Same but one thing that helps me is when I see someone when I start thinking something about how i wish I had this and that instead I start to compliment them in my head or fr.
I'm crying watching this. I wasted many precious years of my life trying to look "perfect". Looking back i look so pathetic doing so....i cared too much about what peaple will think about me,it felt like a big rock in my head my head was always heavy...many girls compliments about my looks but i always felt i should do better :( i failed to enjoy my school years because of this.i hope the one who is reading this will get to enjoy their life at it's fullest
I think your head is perfect…. I have a big head and seeing your video made me realize no one is thinking about the size of my head. When I see you I don’t see a big head at all!
This video helped me a lot, thank you I was picked on a bit for my looks but I am trying to not seek validation from everyone else and just accept myself, especially for things I cant control
thank you so much for this! i literally want to change myself because i literally obsessed and tired about being perfect. But i want to be myself, love and be kind to myself as well to others, i want to stop thinking about what people think of me and enjoy my life as long as i lived. Because literally im very very obsessed about my looks, trying to be impressed by everyone, and seeking validation from others, im very tired of it, but now i just want to accept the very flaws that i have. i realized that as well. sometimes i look at people, they have some flaws to but i couldn't pay attention to it, thats when i realized that people couldn't care that much about how i look and they pay attention more about themselves. and the truth is if im asking why am i so obsessed about how i looks is because i felt people always point out my face, they point out a little tiny things in my face and saying im ugly in my past self. so now I've been trying to be perfect, trying to be more pretty so people could like me but i had to stop because its literally control the way i lived, i want to lived...
Thank you this helped alot I feel like I can't get a SO because of my hair but this video helped me to not care about that and care about my personality. Thank you.
yes i literally would put a bobby pin on my nose and i couldnt breathe because i told myself id finally be pretty and desireable if my nose was slimmer, if skip classes and have whole panic attacks.. ik exactly how u feel and though ive grown its now grown into my asymmetrical features and now im analyzing how i look… im watching this for help
Respect to You, for Being So Open & Honest✌🏼This Video Will Certainly, Help Many🤍Whilst I Believe, that being Presentable is Important, a Genuine Personality/Soul will Always Shine Through✨May We Never allow Society/Social Media, to Blur these Lines🙏🏼You Have Stunning Eyes, Cassandra😊Stand Proud & Confident, in Who You Are✌🏼Much Love, from South Africa🤍
The thing for me is that most girls hate the beauty standards but still participate in them. If we truly want to let go of these standards, so that people are appreciated for more then just their appearance, but also for who they truly are, then we have to do the work ourselves. Then again I am not saying that you should not care for your body, like go to the gym, or eat healthy food or have a good hygiene or take care of your skin, but realize that you more then just that. You should love yourself regardless of what you look like, don’t become shallow and think that appearances are the only thing that will get you somewhere. Humans should be able to love others regardless of their appearance too. It is hard but the people that will love you, should not only let appearance guide their affection for you. Honestly I don’t dream to be like by others just because I am pretty now, we should make true connections. It is okay to want to look pretty but it should not be for others to like you or accept you, and it should not be to escape your “normal appearance”. If it is then you should ask yourself if you truly love yourself and why?
Looks are an important factor, but it's also important whom you surround yourself with. If it's people who always are stuck with over valuing looks over personality it will make you the same as them You look down on people with shit looks and you also treat yourself like crap. Look good for your own sake, not to impress others Form genuine connections that focus on who you are rather than what you are.
My case is SO much worse than yours. I am thinking about and obsessing over about my appearence for about 10-15 hours a day. I am literally spending around 5 to 6 hours a day just doing my makeup (multiple times a day). My makeup/beauty addiction is ruining my life and I feel trapped. I am going to therapy for this and other issues I have, I hope I can overcome it and be free again😢
Hello! This was definitely so helpful but I've got a problem that i actually can't deal with and i would like an advice. So most of the times im like, okay i will stop caring abt the appearance and i will focus on the positive of this person, but like i usually forget it and im acting like model in front of the mirror and i know it sounds strange as well. This is barely the half i have to say but also the most essential ones! I hope u understand and it would be really helpful if i had an advice from u since u know so many things and im actually surprised of all the things u said in this video. 💞
im attractive and have been told throughout my life i am, but i had a bottle cracked over my nose ab 3 yrs ago and it left a small scar on the tip of my nose and its all i see now and makes me feel the worst.. my girlfriend doesnt care ab it but thats bc she loves me for me but i always feel like other ppl always are like what is that??
I hate myself but this is untrue. No matter what. Self love is real and all you need is you. Dont care if you have ingrown hair bad genetics that show up as phenotypes. All these things can be altered in ways but to get there you have to start with self love. And no in the end after all the changes you will be insecure because you wont be happy. You will just move on to other insecurities and coping addictions. True happiness comes from the courage to love yourself. True courage comes from self validation. BE YOURSELF. its not a cliche. Its real life values. Be humble and be kind to YOURSELF. Your self worth is defined by all the things but you cannot control all the factors. LEARN TO LET GO. ACCEPT YOUR FLAWS. MOVE ON. BE IN CONTROL. In a way i understand nudists. Its the same with many religious practices of minimalism and non suffering. Monks dispossessing their earthly connections... We were born naked. We cannnot hide our flaws behind layers of insecurities. Embrace who you are and you can change with acceptance.
'did you care so much about your apperance when you were 3 years old? Probably not" Yeaaaaah The problem is I did. Even in the kindergarden I had face dysmorphia.
hey thanks Cassandra i feel very relatable about your views and thanks you a lot to help sharing your experience and your understanding you got from your experiences. Wish you that your all wishes and dreams comes to reality
a lot of people talk about photoshop and how people present themselves differently on social media, but i find myself feeling insecure when i see girls at my school who look drop dead gorgeous. I see people in real life who are beautiful and have nice bodies. that’s what makes me the most insecure, because i feel like i can only make myself look somewhat decent on social media.
Same but one thing that helps me is when I see someone when I start thinking something about how i wish I had this and that instead I start to compliment them in my head or fr.
I'm crying watching this. I wasted many precious years of my life trying to look "perfect". Looking back i look so pathetic doing so....i cared too much about what peaple will think about me,it felt like a big rock in my head my head was always heavy...many girls compliments about my looks but i always felt i should do better :( i failed to enjoy my school years because of this.i hope the one who is reading this will get to enjoy their life at it's fullest
I think your head is perfect…. I have a big head and seeing your video made me realize no one is thinking about the size of my head. When I see you I don’t see a big head at all!
Oh sorry I just saw your comment😭Thank you for your reassurance and i’m sure no one think about the size of your head either!! Have a good day love xx
This video helped me a lot, thank you
I was picked on a bit for my looks but I am trying to not seek validation from everyone else and just accept myself, especially for things I cant control
thank you so much for this! i literally want to change myself because i literally obsessed and tired about being perfect. But i want to be myself, love and be kind to myself as well to others, i want to stop thinking about what people think of me and enjoy my life as long as i lived. Because literally im very very obsessed about my looks, trying to be impressed by everyone, and seeking validation from others, im very tired of it, but now i just want to accept the very flaws that i have. i realized that as well. sometimes i look at people, they have some flaws to but i couldn't pay attention to it, thats when i realized that people couldn't care that much about how i look and they pay attention more about themselves.
and the truth is if im asking why am i so obsessed about how i looks is because i felt people always point out my face, they point out a little tiny things in my face and saying im ugly in my past self. so now I've been trying to be perfect, trying to be more pretty so people could like me but i had to stop because its literally control the way i lived, i want to lived...
Thank you this helped alot I feel like I can't get a SO because of my hair but this video helped me to not care about that and care about my personality. Thank you.
This made my day i’m happy that it helped ❤️
I normally don’t comment on videos, but I just have to say I watched this at the right time, and you helped me IMMENSELY! Thank you 💚
I'm older now, so I have to learn to be OK with my older face. I have to say it is not easy. I wish I didn't care.
yes i literally would put a bobby pin on my nose and i couldnt breathe because i told myself id finally be pretty and desireable if my nose was slimmer, if skip classes and have whole panic attacks.. ik exactly how u feel
and though ive grown its now grown into my asymmetrical features and now im analyzing how i look… im watching this for help
This needs so much more views
Respect to You, for Being So Open & Honest✌🏼This Video Will Certainly, Help Many🤍Whilst I Believe, that being Presentable is Important, a Genuine Personality/Soul will Always Shine Through✨May We Never allow Society/Social Media, to Blur these Lines🙏🏼You Have Stunning Eyes, Cassandra😊Stand Proud & Confident, in Who You Are✌🏼Much Love, from South Africa🤍
Sorry I saw this just now!! Thank you so much for such kind words😭And I hope you have a good day❤️
@@cassandraaa.y You're Welcome😊God Bless & Stay Safe❤️
Good points! :) I need to work on this myself it’s very hard for me to leave the house without at least some makeup on...
You’re gorgeous and i’m sure you can do it❤️
This was such a wonderful video. Thank you for this! 🌸❤
Thank you❤️
The thing for me is that most girls hate the beauty standards but still participate in them. If we truly want to let go of these standards, so that people are appreciated for more then just their appearance, but also for who they truly are, then we have to do the work ourselves. Then again I am not saying that you should not care for your body, like go to the gym, or eat healthy food or have a good hygiene or take care of your skin, but realize that you more then just that. You should love yourself regardless of what you look like, don’t become shallow and think that appearances are the only thing that will get you somewhere. Humans should be able to love others regardless of their appearance too. It is hard but the people that will love you, should not only let appearance guide their affection for you. Honestly I don’t dream to be like by others just because I am pretty now, we should make true connections. It is okay to want to look pretty but it should not be for others to like you or accept you, and it should not be to escape your “normal appearance”. If it is then you should ask yourself if you truly love yourself and why?
I was he exact same and got diagnosed with OCD and everything started to make sense.
Far too much of our lives, we try to please OTHERS. We should learn to accept others the way they are and NOT how we'd like them to be!
Really wise words and eloquently said. Thank you!
Because of my appearance people treated my like shit , ur looks is an important factor
yeah as much as i'd like to believe that appearance doesn't matter, pretty privilege is very real.
Looks are an important factor, but it's also important whom you surround yourself with.
If it's people who always are stuck with over valuing looks over personality it will make you the same as them
You look down on people with shit looks and you also treat yourself like crap.
Look good for your own sake, not to impress others
Form genuine connections that focus on who you are rather than what you are.
Thank you for this video😢
My case is SO much worse than yours. I am thinking about and obsessing over about my appearence for about 10-15 hours a day. I am literally spending around 5 to 6 hours a day just doing my makeup (multiple times a day). My makeup/beauty addiction is ruining my life and I feel trapped. I am going to therapy for this and other issues I have, I hope I can overcome it and be free again😢
Hello! This was definitely so helpful but I've got a problem that i actually can't deal with and i would like an advice. So most of the times im like, okay i will stop caring abt the appearance and i will focus on the positive of this person, but like i usually forget it and im acting like model in front of the mirror and i know it sounds strange as well. This is barely the half i have to say but also the most essential ones! I hope u understand and it would be really helpful if i had an advice from u since u know so many things and im actually surprised of all the things u said in this video. 💞
Thank you for this video, the #7 is life changing
Thank you for watching xx
Let’s be honest it is easier to say this when you’re conveniently attractive.
Yeah it is but the message is still true we should all learn to love ourselves whether were conveniently attractive or not.
Whether you’re a 10/10 or the ugliest creature on earth, the message remains the same: STOP CARING HOW PEOPLE LOOK AT YOU
I am attractive and what? I still have issues with self image. I fucking hate that
I am convieniently attractive and my makeup/beauty addiction is ruining my life
im attractive and have been told throughout my life i am, but i had a bottle cracked over my nose ab 3 yrs ago and it left a small scar on the tip of my nose and its all i see now and makes me feel the worst.. my girlfriend doesnt care ab it but thats bc she loves me for me but i always feel like other ppl always are like what is that??
Omg I recently made a video like this. Your so beautiful by the way
Aww thank you so are you❤️
I hate myself but this is untrue. No matter what. Self love is real and all you need is you. Dont care if you have ingrown hair bad genetics that show up as phenotypes.
All these things can be altered in ways but to get there you have to start with self love.
And no in the end after all the changes you will be insecure because you wont be happy. You will just move on to other insecurities and coping addictions.
True happiness comes from the courage to love yourself. True courage comes from self validation.
BE YOURSELF. its not a cliche. Its real life values. Be humble and be kind to YOURSELF.
Your self worth is defined by all the things but you cannot control all the factors.
LEARN TO LET GO. ACCEPT YOUR FLAWS. MOVE ON. BE IN CONTROL.
In a way i understand nudists. Its the same with many religious practices of minimalism and non suffering. Monks dispossessing their earthly connections... We were born naked. We cannnot hide our flaws behind layers of insecurities. Embrace who you are and you can change with acceptance.
You’re like way hot whoa, everyone has insecurities even a Kardashian I’ve heard on another video. Your have a lot of good points thanks.
thank you! 🥺
Great video, I appreciate you making this. God bless you
Great vid! I feel restored
thank you so much for this video.
Great video thankyou
THANK YOU
Is Darth Vader behind the camera? I can hear him breathing.
'did you care so much about your apperance when you were 3 years old? Probably not" Yeaaaaah The problem is I did. Even in the kindergarden I had face dysmorphia.
I just want to see one of these Videos that are NOT from a conventionally attractive person
If you wear that much makeup, I won't believe you for a second.
hey thanks Cassandra i feel very relatable about your views and thanks you a lot to help sharing your experience and your understanding you got from your experiences. Wish you that your all wishes and dreams comes to reality
I feel really aligned with your words, thanks for bringing up this content🤍