Disclaimer: Hi everyone thank you so much for your support and your kind comments! I just wanted to pin this comment on all of my old videos to let you guys know that I started my TH-cam channel one month after I became a born-again Christian and was baptized, prior to that I was deep in self development and some New Age beliefs so you’ll see some of that in my old videos however the reason why I am keeping a lot of my old videos up is so that you can also see the transition that the Lord took me through! I do apologize if you hear things that are unbiblical because of the stage I was at in my faith at the time 🥰 In this specific video what I was trying to describe but didn’t have words for it at the time was that Idolizing our physical appearance (vanity) is a sin, but also so is neglecting to take care of our bodies.
You know, as a short boy I understand depressions by appearance though I overcame all now :) And I feel sad when pretty girls say they're not pretty. While you're constantly thinking about appearance, you'll be trapped. But once you let it go, You'll be free like a butterfly. And girls you're much more prettier than you actually think ;)
@@NatureBoyWooo because you are 100% shallow person. And you will never love a woman in your life. Women wants a man who loves them not simply attracted to their looks.
I used to do the exact same..then i realise the actress beauty is 97% times result of extreme skin procedure, tons of makeup and hella good lightening...i stop comparing my natural self to artificial standards...but i still compare myself to daily life natural beauties 😣
im a boy but i cared a lot about my looks, few mins ago the realization hit me that im so stupid for thinking like that, how much it held me back , i felt free and loved and i cried, it was godly and i feel amazing right now.
BlueSky ah I’m so happy for you! I’m going to do an updated version of this video as well :) it’s so true we are so consumed by something so silly when God looks at the heart.
Same bro don't worry my guy this generation loves to show that we look great and that's the only thing that matters (love island,etc...) but it doesn't its the inside keep your chin up king 👑
I wish I didn’t care so much about my looks. I know it has held me back for so long in my life and I’m just in deep need of healing right now. This video gave me some hope, god bless. 🙏🏼
XOX Natalia it’s a struggle and I still will fall back into being consumed at points but just focusing on making the inside beautiful is what makes you truly shine! But of course not neglecting our bodies just not placing all of our value in the physical since our bodies are temporary anyways! I have faith for you as well, just keep declaring the truth of all the amazing qualities you have- you are so beautiful 💜
This reminded me of the quote, "If you have good thoughts they will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely". As well as a quote by Rupi Kaur, "I want to apologize to all the women I have called pretty before I've called them intelligent or brave. I am sorry I made it sound as though something as simple as what you are born with is the most you have to be proud of when your spirit has crushed mountains. From now on I will say things like you are resilient or you are extraordinary, not because I don't think you are pretty, but because you are so much more than that".
I am a 19 years old guy and for the past couple of years I was really overweight, bad hygiene, and even had skin conditions because I didn’t treat and clean myself enough. Then around the age of 17, I started running and ate clean. So I dropped around 28kg and started to taking care of my body. Everyone at school said I looked handsome and even the girls who I thought was “hot” approached me saying I look really good and telling me how they are amazed at my result. After that, I couldn’t stop thinking about how I looked. Everywhere I go, I think about how I looked and I thought about how people look at me even strangers who walk past me, I’ll ask to myself did that stranger thought that I was good looking? Thank you so much for this video, it truly made me happier and I almost cried when I finished watching your video. And PS I was raised/ born a Christian so I definitely hear you out
I’m at the polar opposite. I don’t put any effort in my outer appearance at all. Because of that I suffer greatly in society - ppl tend to overlook and mistreat you based off what you look like. It’s good to just have a healthy balance. Focus on your inner beauty, but also invest some time in looking approachable / presentable.
Growing up as a kid I was told by many people I was ugly and everything so that made me really insecure about my looks. Fast forward to my teens until now I am told I am really handsome and I believed this is what made people like me. People started acting nicer towards me, doing me favors and what not. Believing in that attractiveness made me worth something has killed my whole personality off. When I was younger I was more playful and had deeper conversations than ever, but when I started to focus more on looks everything went away. At party's I was fixed on if I looked good or not and my day was made if something said I looked handsome. From now on I will also want to start focusing on my inner beauty more because as you said this is what will make you happier and not how you look. I really appreciate this video and needed to hear this. Thank you!
I have been caring and investing soo much into my appearance, so ended up being empty, anxious, weak character, no values, couldn't even support conversations. My confidence could easily break just from 'bad hair day' or when I have pimple, or wore not nice clothes. And ofc I always attracted mostly shallow guys or just players. Now I am praying God will help me not to put my value to appearance, and learn me to have a character of Jesus..
this video made me cry. this helped me so much. i am so glad you asked god to speak through you. i know god showed me this video magically it popped up on my feed even though it has little views, for a reason today. thankyou so much, lots of love
Ilana Livia yes exactly! It’s ok to enjoy hair and makeup and it’s good to put an effort but you’re right it can’t consume us because what’s really unique and truly beautiful in a way that can’t be described is having a beautiful spirit ✨🙏 and I’m sure you do
I'm ngl I judged you before I played the video I thought "Obviously it's so easy for you to say, you look stunning!". After I watched the video i thought "she's even more beautiful inside and I can see Jesus in her!". Really happy for you, may Jesus make you more and more beautiful inside eachday. Thank you for the practical, honest and loving message. 💕 exactly what I needed rn.
It seems like12 is one of the most challenging times! Just look to God. God is going to make you your best if you seek Him. You don't need to care about the opinions of man. I a m almost 16, but even though I struggle still with outward beauty sometimes, I am reminded that only God's opinion matters.
I am in my late teens and I just wanna say that I wished I realized this way earlier. You are only 12 and already watching vids like this, I really hope you apply this in your life too.
Wow. This was a literal answer to what I just prayed to God. Less than an hour ago I was online shopping, & started to feel conflicted/convicted over prioritizing or idolizing my image and what others thought, so I searched minimalist wardrobe videos for inspiration & knew that wouldn’t be enough. Mentioned to God that I wanted knowledge of how to balance having a style without identifying with it or prioritizing it in any way and was led here. I have a lot of work to do 🙏🏾. Thank you, and God bless!
THIS IS SO GOOD!!!! I was given a revelation of a similar spirit yesterday about how I have unconsciously made a particular body type lord and savior over my life. "Once I look like ___ then I'll be liked, confident, chosen, etc." This mentality came with huge food idolatry and fear issues along with gluttonous sin and guilt. If I REALLY believe in my heart that Christ is Lord and Savior period then that dispels all of the falsity that has been placed on the external. HE IS SO GOOD. Like you testified, this issue has bound me for most of my conscious life and by giving The Spirit space to shed light and break chains True Healing occurs, and in a much more timely yet lasting way. Gotta let His light shine through instead of believing it exists in the body. THANK YOU FOR YOUR MESSAGE SISTER!!!!
I love this video!!! This is so inspired. I have literally been told by God just recently about not looking at others and defining them by their looks.
THIS VIDEO IS SO GOOD I love you so much for making this because though we all realize this in ourselves, hearing you say these things are still so helpful
what really drives this home is the fact that even if you didnt watch the video and never saw her, you would know she is a beautiful person because of how lovingly she delivered this message. i dont mean that you would know she's physically attractive, i mean that you'd instantly notice she is someone you would want to engage with because her soul is beautiful
Thank you for sharing and may God bless you. Society does and has been determining what beauty is for decades. And it changes from decade to decade, and that is the trap most of us fall into-that if we look a certain way we will be loved. Was bulimic in my early 20’s, battled with weight pretty much all my life and in my mind being skinny was beautiful. And it’s only until I got into my 40’s did I realize that beauty is not what you wear or look like, it is as Proverbs 31:30 says: “Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised” a woman who FEARS the Lord. Its still a process, don’t get me wrong, but through Gods grace He helps me each day to release who I am in Christ.
A good therapy is having a friend who is disabled and it is visible in an obvious way in their appearance. I have met a girl nextdoor (she was my neighbour for 3 years) who was on a wheelchair, half- paralysed, loosing muscles because of terrible incurable diesase. And you know what? Comparisons didnt make sense. I was the lucky one to be able to walk, she was the hero. And she was looking not like everyone who are healthy, because of the disease. But she was a normal adult woman, not having less value than me! And she was so smart, she had many interests and a great boyfriend. I want to say, that this disease didn't DEIFNE her in my eyes, I thought of her as a person, as a friend, as a very girly girl (she was sweet, sensitive, deep thinker, understanding, she was great when comes to music - oh, she would be a great music journalist/critique if she could work!). And she wasn't just "poor paralysed person", she was a person who happened to be paralysed. PS. I BELIEVE She would get healed one day and Jesus would come to her life. She is not a believer. YET. But she is great.
This really blessed me. This video is a few years old, but the Lord really used this to bring me deliverance from a similar situation that you were in. Thank you for letting the Spirit speak through you so that the Lord is using it to touch people years later! God bless y'all for your obedience and genuine hearts!! Love y'all
its kinda crazy i realised that the only thing that made me kinda confident of myself was my face and well i started gradually loving and accepting my body and doing all the self love things for it but yea i noticed that i love my body but not my inner self like and that was a major revelation for me. i focused too much on my outer appearance and like i noticed myself getting an ego or confidence boost only by appreciating what i saw in the mirror. I never really took any time to appreciate what i couldn't see but was inside me all along. thanks for making this video~✨
Thank you for sharing this video. As a women struggling with this notion since childhood and hearing you talk about your experience has made me realise how so many of us struggle with this. So thank you for sharing ❤️
When I came to the Lord about nine years ago, He pretty quickly convicted me to stop wearing makeup (and also to change how I dressed). It hasn't always been easy-especially growing older as a woman-but it's been an excellent lesson in humility. Not being able to cover up any blemish, let alone wear eye make up or any other enhancement was a big shift for me (I didn't wear super heavy make-up before, but I definitely wore it and relied on it). God bless you!
Wow, I needed to hear this. Thank you for this video! I've received this revelation as well from the Lord. I've been struggling so much with placing my identity in my looks the past couple of months, even after being saved. But the Lord has been so patient with me and I know my identity comes from Him. I am who He says I am. Our physical appearance is temporary and fading. Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever. He is my strength and joy & HE IS ALWAYS ENOUGH. God bless you sister! Stay strong in the faith ❤️
This was a really good video. I am a guy who has struggled with mental health my whole high school life because of my physical appearance. There were some days where my mental health got to my head so bad that I had to leave early in school. Ironically, even though I do not like the way my face looks, people think the opposite. They say that I could model. As of right now, I am doing a lot better and am starting to feel more confident and go on with my life. Thank you so much!
Thank you for your post. It means a lot to know there are still normal people who value inner beauty. I am so disappointed. I hear even guys at church saying 'I want a good looking girl, but also a girl with a good heart and christian', after saying' I like the attitude of the uglier girls from church, but not their appearance'. It hurted me a lot as I am short and not so pretty, though I do not consider myself ugly. I have all my organs, beautiful eyes and really cute face and smile. Sometimes I see myself beautiful, but when I see others, I start comparing and I end up feeling bad. Considering how others girls look nowadays. Men compare a lot and they also look how young is a girl. Though they are in mid or late 30s they want to receive attention from women from church much younger. I am really disappointed how things turned for Christian women nowadays. Beauty standards so high, plus the men expecting a women to be career-oriented, plus with a good heart, and in turn they offer little. Is that a punishment for Christian women because of Eve? I do not get it.
Thankyou for this ! I can relate to everything you said and your advice to put in time for self care but drop it as soon as u leave the house is so good. I'm going to constantly remind myself to do that.💙
Jacqueline V. I’m so sorry to hear that you’ve always been judged in those areas - I don’t know you but I don’t have to to know for a fact that anyone and I mean anyone who would ever ridicule someone based off of their appearance in any way shape or form cannot have a true peace with who they are and with loving themselves. When people point out flaws in others it’s because they see “flaws” in themselves or are highly critical of themselves. We are so much more than our bodies but the standard of beauty has been created by society it’s something that was designed to make us feel that we constantly need to invest in external sources to “fix” our appearance as if there’s something wrong with us in the first place. No matter how you look it’s actually a battle that goes on inside of our minds in terms of how we view ourselves - it sounds crazy but once you start really focusing on healing the inside and discovering WHO you are (not how you look) you start to see yourself differently .. that’s why there are people considered so beautiful who are highly insecure and there are people who may not meet society’s made up standard of beauty but are so confident and therefore radiate beauty because they know who they are. We were made as individuals and not copies - you ARE beautiful. I really encourage you to write a list of all the incredible things about yourself and all your strong points and just declare those over yourself verbally (never speaking badly about yourself) I say this all in love 💜 bless you
What you said towards the end completely condradicted everything you said from the beginning.even putting your best self forward is so pressurising all the time. If everytime a girl goes out or goes to work, she has to put in one or two hours to get ready, how is that helpful? Yes keeping yourself healthy is important but isn't doing your hair, wearing the best outfits, all this , how is it convenient? How are you not caring about your appearance if you are investing time and money into your hair and makeup and everything
9:19 I really never thought about this.. I usually spend a lot of time getting ready, feel great looking in the mirror but as soon as I step out I immediately feel uncomfortable and question everything about what I put on, drew on etc... I should let my personality and a friendly face instead of an insecure one do the work instead.. I will try to use this advice in my life, thanks♥️
Wow..I really needed to hear all these words that you have said..I have been seriously dealing with the big big insecurity of how I look like ALL the time. When ever I go out with friends I would constantly think if I looked good or if there was something in my face or hair that needed to be changed or fixed up. It was really annoying me and bother me because it prevented me from being my full best inner self when I went out in the world. I even thought that beauty or your appearance had to do something with how smart you are. I know this is very very horrible to think but I really did think that if you looked unattractive or not too attractive then that meant you were more intelligent/smart than the other person who is more beautiful. My overthinking on how I look like did not allow me to make deep connections with friends nor did it allow my mind to be free from this self-destruction thought. I would be unconsciously be jealous of other people appearances. I would even build barriers between me and the “beautiful people.”In its most basic form: my constant every-single-day worry on my appearance NEVER ONCE GAVE ME AN OPPORTUNITY to grow in the person I wanted to become internally. It’s so sad i had to deeply struggle with this throughout all my years. This video was truly a revelation!!! Thank you and God bless you...thank you lord Jesus Hallelujah...
If you wore any clothes you want even it is shabby but have a good and pleasant attitude, people will love and respect you. No one cares about how you look from the outside, it is what in your heart.
thank you so much for your videos. I recently started watching your channel and it has helped me so much and has opened up my eyes. I pray the Lord continues to bless you!
I feel like honestly beauty comes in many different shapes and sizes and there is no one standard definition of beauty. What one may find beautiful, someone else won't.
This is a big topic which I wish was talked about more, it’s definitely an idol in my life that I feel trapped in and oppressed by. Thank you I will spend time with God on this. I know it helps me to think of people I love, and realise it’s not about how they look as to why I value them it’s for who they are x
Kenny Ward thank you, however that’s actually not true, we look at people and assume they don’t have anything to be insecure about when in reality some of the most “beautiful” people I know are the most insecure, because it’s about how you view yourself, that’s why body dysmorphia and eating disorders exist because they don’t have a healthy self-image, it’s hard to accept that from an outside perspective because we look at someone and say they shouldn’t have self-image issues when really we can never assume that or invalidate someone who is insecure just because we think they are beautiful on the outside, it’s about whats going on in their minds ❤️
Agree w Sarah- these are traps and snares as the enemy attempts to kill steal and destroy us. We must overcome the world and be more influenced by Jesus :)
All very true words of wisdom. The hardest part sometimes isnt having a positive image in our own minds, Its choosing to not listen when negative comments are shared about a person’s appearance and then over many, many years this can be hard to change the narrative in your mind. As its so confusing.. ☮️
Hi Sarah, I really like what you said about once you go about your day you are not focused on how you look now you are focusing on how to make someone's day better, etc.
Thank you for this. An old book that's been helpful for me is Disciplines of the Beautiful Woman by Anne Ortlund. The chapter on how much we should focus on outward appearance in relation to our whole self is very in line with what you say.
I agree that we should be presentable but I wish there wasn't pressure for women to cover up with make up. If a woman likes to do that, cool, but I love not having to worry about that and just trying to be confident with my natural beauty. The most I put on is moisturiser so my skin isn't dry and of course keep hygienic and smelling nice
My problem is I have no inner strengths to focus on/to shine through. I know that it may become more clear by dropping caring about how I look, but without any gifts I don't really know how to be confident. And that's a pretty sad statement bc it goes to show my confidence isn't all on God right now!
Well sis, the Lord Jesus did it again..... He sent your vidoe( this one) to me... I was actually in the process of watching a sermon on satanic attack by Charles Stanley then I paused it to go spank one of my kids because she was in bed goffing around when she is suppose to be sleep, so when I came back in my room to finish watching the sermon by Charles Stanley, I guess I had it paused for too long because instead of it playing ,my whole TH-cam refreshed (bummer) and I was like uuuugh but then out of no where this video of yours showed up ( by the way im not even subscribed) thats how I know for sure the LORD sent it. .....😀😀😀😀😀🤪 Guess what sis, I actually sinned the other day because I did my hair to head to the store and I looked in the mirror and no lie I was feeling myself it was bad sis, cause what happened is the whole time I was at the store I felt as if everyone was aware of my beauty and 👀 watching me... Later on that same day my husband said I needed to do something with my hair as he ran his fingers through it, I thought my hair looked good But based on my husband remark my hair must have looked like a neglected puddles fur and to think I thought I looked good smh 🤦 some serious pride was on me) I repented today about conceit but I think it was more so ego. Okay so I say all of that to say this, the LORD SENT ME YOIR VIDEO TO LET ME KNOW TO STOP FOCUSING ON MY OUTER appearance. So thats just what I will do
This has been percolating in my heart for a while. I struggle with this and I would like to be free because this has taken my joy away. I appreciate you mentioning your faith! I am a Christian also. Thank you. I enjoyed your video. I will be working on this as well as praying for help!
A like what I just turn and I needed to hear it I've got some changes to make to in my view of myself. Thank before the video. I believe it's from God today
Aisha Vamps for me this has come from my faith, the more time I spend with God asking him to show me how he sees me, I keep praying for identity, to see myself how he sees me, and it has nothing to do with physical he starts pouring into your spirit and giving you joy and confidence in who you are, I also don’t look at things on Instagram anymore or watch reality tv shows or idolize models or celebrities that I used to because it automatically pulls me back into negative thinking. I try to not focus on appearance except when I need to get ready for the day if I have to do my makeup just because any outside beauty I have is not going to change the world. But the inside will. It doesn’t matter what the world says is beautiful we have a warped broken perception so the more I remove myself from the ideas of what the world says the less I have a desire to conform to it and the more time I spend letting the lord pour into my spirit that’s what makes us beautiful is the spirit. I hope that helps a bit. God made you and you are so beautiful in his eyes and to the ones that matter most. 💜
Tho action and contemplation are both important but Jesus Christ praised Mary for simply listening and being present with Him and reminded Martha of that fact
it's funny how people that are actually attractive keep saying that but when you are actually unattractive or less then average it's a major difference bc exterior beauty does make an impact on your quality of life and that's just how it goes
I appreciate what you're trying to do.... But looks and your physical appearance does matter. Not taking care of yourself causes your physical self to depreciate. Like you said with "self care", that applies to more than make up, it includes eating healthy and exercising too to attract others. Its a lie if anyone says oir appearance doesnt matter in relationships. Either way i appreciate this video. But i dont want anyone watching to fall off the bandwagon and start eating a package of twinkies for breakfast every day.
Helo ..Is it sin if in cases Iam using a pomade to look more clean / profesional or better to let the natural hair without products ? More mess for sure.. why I have guilty feel to use hair product?
My biggest problem is: some people think this is beautiful and others say that is. And beauty I can not make by myself like changing my character. Sometimes I ask God, why haven’t he made me as beautiful as all the influencers? Than I think okay I don’t look like all of them so that means I need to work hard and become very intelligent. Or I need to become very famous, or rich. The gerat thing is, that I can trust in God. He will show me what to do. Perhaps I’m nothing like that and I will not be very intelligent, famous or rich. :)
It's always been crazy how most women only care about looks, and a secondary interest being social interactions. Caring about 2 things when there is a literal infinity of things besides looks and social interactions in the universe is so vain.
Disclaimer: Hi everyone thank you so much for your support and your kind comments! I just wanted to pin this comment on all of my old videos to let you guys know that I started my TH-cam channel one month after I became a born-again Christian and was baptized, prior to that I was deep in self development and some New Age beliefs so you’ll see some of that in my old videos however the reason why I am keeping a lot of my old videos up is so that you can also see the transition that the Lord took me through! I do apologize if you hear things that are unbiblical because of the stage I was at in my faith at the time 🥰 In this specific video what I was trying to describe but didn’t have words for it at the time was that Idolizing our physical appearance (vanity) is a sin, but also so is neglecting to take care of our bodies.
You know, as a short boy I understand depressions by appearance though I overcame all now :) And I feel sad when pretty girls say they're not pretty. While you're constantly thinking about appearance, you'll be trapped. But once you let it go, You'll be free like a butterfly. And girls you're much more prettier than you actually think ;)
That is so sweet, good luck in your life!
And girls your value is not in the way you look.
@@sarithajagajith6568 coming from a man, looks are like 90% of what we want in a women.
@@NatureBoyWooo because you are 100% shallow person. And you will never love a woman in your life. Women wants a man who loves them not simply attracted to their looks.
TY SO MCH
I hate the fact that nowadays I can’t just watch a show without looking at actresses wishing I looked like that. I don’t enjoy anymore
OMG SAME
I used to do the exact same..then i realise the actress beauty is 97% times result of extreme skin procedure, tons of makeup and hella good lightening...i stop comparing my natural self to artificial standards...but i still compare myself to daily life natural beauties 😣
Stop watching tiktok it's the think effecting you
im a boy but i cared a lot about my looks, few mins ago the realization hit me that im so stupid for thinking like that, how much it held me back , i felt free and loved and i cried, it was godly and i feel amazing right now.
BlueSky ah I’m so happy for you! I’m going to do an updated version of this video as well :) it’s so true we are so consumed by something so silly when God looks at the heart.
Same bro don't worry my guy this generation loves to show that we look great and that's the only thing that matters (love island,etc...) but it doesn't its the inside keep your chin up king 👑
this made me tear up, i love this for you
I wish I didn’t care so much about my looks. I know it has held me back for so long in my life and I’m just in deep need of healing right now. This video gave me some hope, god bless. 🙏🏼
XOX Natalia it’s a struggle and I still will fall back into being consumed at points but just focusing on making the inside beautiful is what makes you truly shine! But of course not neglecting our bodies just not placing all of our value in the physical since our bodies are temporary anyways! I have faith for you as well, just keep declaring the truth of all the amazing qualities you have- you are so beautiful 💜
This reminded me of the quote, "If you have good thoughts they will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely".
As well as a quote by Rupi Kaur, "I want to apologize to all the women I have called pretty before I've called them intelligent or brave. I am sorry I made it sound as though something as simple as what you are born with is the most you have to be proud of when your spirit has crushed mountains. From now on I will say things like you are resilient or you are extraordinary, not because I don't think you are pretty, but because you are so much more than that".
❤️💯
Obsession with outer beauty could become idolatry so I love what you shared!
I am a 19 years old guy and for the past couple of years I was really overweight, bad hygiene, and even had skin conditions because I didn’t treat and clean myself enough. Then around the age of 17, I started running and ate clean. So I dropped around 28kg and started to taking care of my body. Everyone at school said I looked handsome and even the girls who I thought was “hot” approached me saying I look really good and telling me how they are amazed at my result. After that, I couldn’t stop thinking about how I looked. Everywhere I go, I think about how I looked and I thought about how people look at me even strangers who walk past me, I’ll ask to myself did that stranger thought that I was good looking? Thank you so much for this video, it truly made me happier and I almost cried when I finished watching your video. And PS I was raised/ born a Christian so I definitely hear you out
I’m at the polar opposite. I don’t put any effort in my outer appearance at all. Because of that I suffer greatly in society - ppl tend to overlook and mistreat you based off what you look like. It’s good to just have a healthy balance. Focus on your inner beauty, but also invest some time in looking approachable / presentable.
I also found its beneficial to cut out superficial ppl from ur life
@@Florencethomas405 As did I do it all the time, been very peaceful 😊
Growing up as a kid I was told by many people I was ugly and everything so that made me really insecure about my looks. Fast forward to my teens until now I am told I am really handsome and I believed this is what made people like me. People started acting nicer towards me, doing me favors and what not. Believing in that attractiveness made me worth something has killed my whole personality off. When I was younger I was more playful and had deeper conversations than ever, but when I started to focus more on looks everything went away. At party's I was fixed on if I looked good or not and my day was made if something said I looked handsome. From now on I will also want to start focusing on my inner beauty more because as you said this is what will make you happier and not how you look. I really appreciate this video and needed to hear this. Thank you!
I have been caring and investing soo much into my appearance, so ended up being empty, anxious, weak character, no values, couldn't even support conversations. My confidence could easily break just from 'bad hair day' or when I have pimple, or wore not nice clothes. And ofc I always attracted mostly shallow guys or just players.
Now I am praying God will help me not to put my value to appearance, and learn me to have a character of Jesus..
Going trought the same journey! ;)
@@saragabrielaalexandre7258thats wonderful🌸
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Me too
@@kristiannewaridjan5409 🙏💙
this video made me cry. this helped me so much. i am so glad you asked god to speak through you. i know god showed me this video magically it popped up on my feed even though it has little views, for a reason today. thankyou so much, lots of love
Vree Loeffler so sorry I’m just seeing this now, that’s amazing thank you I’m happy it spoke to you love ✨
Sooooo many women think about that all the time! Its brainwashing 😔 But once we know we do better❤️💕💕💕 looks is not important BUT the heart is💗
Ilana Livia yes exactly! It’s ok to enjoy hair and makeup and it’s good to put an effort but you’re right it can’t consume us because what’s really unique and truly beautiful in a way that can’t be described is having a beautiful spirit ✨🙏 and I’m sure you do
i never actually cared in the first place lol
Women should know that their value is not in their appearance. Their value is in the strength of their character.
I'm ngl I judged you before I played the video I thought "Obviously it's so easy for you to say, you look stunning!". After I watched the video i thought "she's even more beautiful inside and I can see Jesus in her!". Really happy for you, may Jesus make you more and more beautiful inside eachday. Thank you for the practical, honest and loving message. 💕 exactly what I needed rn.
I’ve been through this problem since I was only 9. I’m 12 now and still going through it. Thank you, and wish me luck
It started at a young age for me too , i hope you are feeling better now .
It seems like12 is one of the most challenging times! Just look to God. God is going to make you your best if you seek Him. You don't need to care about the opinions of man. I a m almost 16, but even though I struggle still with outward beauty sometimes, I am reminded that only God's opinion matters.
I am in my late teens and I just wanna say that I wished I realized this way earlier. You are only 12 and already watching vids like this, I really hope you apply this in your life too.
@@randomrandom5316 hi! I’m 13 almost 14 now. Thanks for telling me :)
@@kumaniricks6500 I am thanks! I still struggle through this kind of thing but it’s a little better now
Wow. This was a literal answer to what I just prayed to God. Less than an hour ago I was online shopping, & started to feel conflicted/convicted over prioritizing or idolizing my image and what others thought, so I searched minimalist wardrobe videos for inspiration & knew that wouldn’t be enough. Mentioned to God that I wanted knowledge of how to balance having a style without identifying with it or prioritizing it in any way and was led here. I have a lot of work to do 🙏🏾. Thank you, and God bless!
Your inner beauty overwhelms me ✨
Lauren Ferreira what an angel !!! ❤️❤️
THIS IS SO GOOD!!!! I was given a revelation of a similar spirit yesterday about how I have unconsciously made a particular body type lord and savior over my life. "Once I look like ___ then I'll be liked, confident, chosen, etc." This mentality came with huge food idolatry and fear issues along with gluttonous sin and guilt. If I REALLY believe in my heart that Christ is Lord and Savior period then that dispels all of the falsity that has been placed on the external. HE IS SO GOOD. Like you testified, this issue has bound me for most of my conscious life and by giving The Spirit space to shed light and break chains True Healing occurs, and in a much more timely yet lasting way. Gotta let His light shine through instead of believing it exists in the body. THANK YOU FOR YOUR MESSAGE SISTER!!!!
I love this video!!! This is so inspired. I have literally been told by God just recently about not looking at others and defining them by their looks.
Just had this revelation SO recently, love this! AMEN! who you are on the inside defines so much more of your beauty than just looks
THIS VIDEO IS SO GOOD I love you so much for making this because though we all realize this in ourselves, hearing you say these things are still so helpful
what really drives this home is the fact that even if you didnt watch the video and never saw her, you would know she is a beautiful person because of how lovingly she delivered this message. i dont mean that you would know she's physically attractive, i mean that you'd instantly notice she is someone you would want to engage with because her soul is beautiful
Thank you for sharing and may God bless you. Society does and has been determining what beauty is for decades. And it changes from decade to decade, and that is the trap most of us fall into-that if we look a certain way we will be loved. Was bulimic in my early 20’s, battled with weight pretty much all my life and in my mind being skinny was beautiful. And it’s only until I got into my 40’s did I realize that beauty is not what you wear or look like, it is as Proverbs 31:30 says: “Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised” a woman who FEARS the Lord. Its still a process, don’t get me wrong, but through Gods grace He helps me each day to release who I am in Christ.
A good therapy is having a friend who is disabled and it is visible in an obvious way in their appearance. I have met a girl nextdoor (she was my neighbour for 3 years) who was on a wheelchair, half- paralysed, loosing muscles because of terrible incurable diesase. And you know what? Comparisons didnt make sense. I was the lucky one to be able to walk, she was the hero. And she was looking not like everyone who are healthy, because of the disease. But she was a normal adult woman, not having less value than me! And she was so smart, she had many interests and a great boyfriend.
I want to say, that this disease didn't DEIFNE her in my eyes, I thought of her as a person, as a friend, as a very girly girl (she was sweet, sensitive, deep thinker, understanding, she was great when comes to music - oh, she would be a great music journalist/critique if she could work!). And she wasn't just "poor paralysed person", she was a person who happened to be paralysed.
PS. I BELIEVE She would get healed one day and Jesus would come to her life. She is not a believer. YET. But she is great.
This really blessed me. This video is a few years old, but the Lord really used this to bring me deliverance from a similar situation that you were in. Thank you for letting the Spirit speak through you so that the Lord is using it to touch people years later! God bless y'all for your obedience and genuine hearts!! Love y'all
its kinda crazy i realised that the only thing that made me kinda confident of myself was my face and well i started gradually loving and accepting my body and doing all the self love things for it but yea i noticed that i love my body but not my inner self like and that was a major revelation for me.
i focused too much on my outer appearance and like i noticed myself getting an ego or confidence boost only by appreciating what i saw in the mirror. I never really took any time to appreciate what i couldn't see but was inside me all along.
thanks for making this video~✨
Thank you sister I struggle with this ... God bless
Tasha Adolph thank you love for sharing 💜bless you as well
Thank you for sharing this video. As a women struggling with this notion since childhood and hearing you talk about your experience has made me realise how so many of us struggle with this. So thank you for sharing ❤️
When I came to the Lord about nine years ago, He pretty quickly convicted me to stop wearing makeup (and also to change how I dressed). It hasn't always been easy-especially growing older as a woman-but it's been an excellent lesson in humility. Not being able to cover up any blemish, let alone wear eye make up or any other enhancement was a big shift for me (I didn't wear super heavy make-up before, but I definitely wore it and relied on it). God bless you!
HALLELUYAH!!
Wow, I needed to hear this. Thank you for this video! I've received this revelation as well from the Lord. I've been struggling so much with placing my identity in my looks the past couple of months, even after being saved. But the Lord has been so patient with me and I know my identity comes from Him. I am who He says I am. Our physical appearance is temporary and fading. Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever. He is my strength and joy & HE IS ALWAYS ENOUGH. God bless you sister! Stay strong in the faith ❤️
This was a really good video. I am a guy who has struggled with mental health my whole high school life because of my physical appearance. There were some days where my mental health got to my head so bad that I had to leave early in school. Ironically, even though I do not like the way my face looks, people think the opposite. They say that I could model. As of right now, I am doing a lot better and am starting to feel more confident and go on with my life. Thank you so much!
I love that you had that realization, I’ve had similar realizations and it’s exciting to know that others are struggling with this!
Your transparency is one of the things that make you so beautiful, thank you so much for sharing that with us
Thank you for your post. It means a lot to know there are still normal people who value inner beauty. I am so disappointed. I hear even guys at church saying 'I want a good looking girl, but also a girl with a good heart and christian', after saying' I like the attitude of the uglier girls from church, but not their appearance'. It hurted me a lot as I am short and not so pretty, though I do not consider myself ugly. I have all my organs, beautiful eyes and really cute face and smile. Sometimes I see myself beautiful, but when I see others, I start comparing and I end up feeling bad. Considering how others girls look nowadays. Men compare a lot and they also look how young is a girl. Though they are in mid or late 30s they want to receive attention from women from church much younger. I am really disappointed how things turned for Christian women nowadays. Beauty standards so high, plus the men expecting a women to be career-oriented, plus with a good heart, and in turn they offer little. Is that a punishment for Christian women because of Eve? I do not get it.
Thankyou for this ! I can relate to everything you said and your advice to put in time for self care but drop it as soon as u leave the house is so good. I'm going to constantly remind myself to do that.💙
mahnoor a thank you I’m so happy it helped in some way 🙏💜
This is amazing. Thank you God. Thank you Sarah. ✨
You shine so brightly
Im so insecure about my height hair skin tone and weight because i have always been judged
Jacqueline V. I’m so sorry to hear that you’ve always been judged in those areas - I don’t know you but I don’t have to to know for a fact that anyone and I mean anyone who would ever ridicule someone based off of their appearance in any way shape or form cannot have a true peace with who they are and with loving themselves. When people point out flaws in others it’s because they see “flaws” in themselves or are highly critical of themselves. We are so much more than our bodies but the standard of beauty has been created by society it’s something that was designed to make us feel that we constantly need to invest in external sources to “fix” our appearance as if there’s something wrong with us in the first place. No matter how you look it’s actually a battle that goes on inside of our minds in terms of how we view ourselves - it sounds crazy but once you start really focusing on healing the inside and discovering WHO you are (not how you look) you start to see yourself differently .. that’s why there are people considered so beautiful who are highly insecure and there are people who may not meet society’s made up standard of beauty but are so confident and therefore radiate beauty because they know who they are. We were made as individuals and not copies - you ARE beautiful. I really encourage you to write a list of all the incredible things about yourself and all your strong points and just declare those over yourself verbally (never speaking badly about yourself) I say this all in love 💜 bless you
Hey lola i hope you are doing better now..i've also been judged by my appearance , they don't define you ..JESUS does
You explained this so well. Thank you for sharing, this really helped me. God bless you
What you said towards the end completely condradicted everything you said from the beginning.even putting your best self forward is so pressurising all the time. If everytime a girl goes out or goes to work, she has to put in one or two hours to get ready, how is that helpful? Yes keeping yourself healthy is important but isn't doing your hair, wearing the best outfits, all this , how is it convenient? How are you not caring about your appearance if you are investing time and money into your hair and makeup and everything
Appreciate the rawness. I think many people deal with this.
9:19 I really never thought about this.. I usually spend a lot of time getting ready, feel great looking in the mirror but as soon as I step out I immediately feel uncomfortable and question everything about what I put on, drew on etc... I should let my personality and a friendly face instead of an insecure one do the work instead.. I will try to use this advice in my life, thanks♥️
Really NEEDED to hear this ! Been having the worst anxiety dealing with body issues and this really helped. ❤️
Wow..I really needed to hear all these words that you have said..I have been seriously dealing with the big big insecurity of how I look like ALL the time. When ever I go out with friends I would constantly think if I looked good or if there was something in my face or hair that needed to be changed or fixed up. It was really annoying me and bother me because it prevented me from being my full best inner self when I went out in the world. I even thought that beauty or your appearance had to do something with how smart you are. I know this is very very horrible to think but I really did think that if you looked unattractive or not too attractive then that meant you were more intelligent/smart than the other person who is more beautiful. My overthinking on how I look like did not allow me to make deep connections with friends nor did it allow my mind to be free from this self-destruction thought. I would be unconsciously be jealous of other people appearances. I would even build barriers between me and the “beautiful people.”In its most basic form: my constant every-single-day worry on my appearance NEVER ONCE GAVE ME AN OPPORTUNITY to grow in the person I wanted to become internally. It’s so sad i had to deeply struggle with this throughout all my years. This video was truly a revelation!!! Thank you and God bless you...thank you lord Jesus Hallelujah...
If you wore any clothes you want even it is shabby but have a good and pleasant attitude, people will love and respect you. No one cares about how you look from the outside, it is what in your heart.
I am dealing with this now and I’m so tired of caring so much 😢thank u love for this video
Your opinions are very relatable, I've thought about it the way you thought about this! It's so surprising. God bless.
thank you so much for your videos. I recently started watching your channel and it has helped me so much and has opened up my eyes. I pray the Lord continues to bless you!
Wow I never thought it like that. I always thought to shut down that voice that said “show your best version of yourself”.
I don't like how asymmetrical my face is thank you for this video
I feel like honestly beauty comes in many different shapes and sizes and there is no one standard definition of beauty. What one may find beautiful, someone else won't.
you are very inspiring and your message definitely deserves to go viral
President Othniel Kings thank you so much 🙏✨
This is a big topic which I wish was talked about more, it’s definitely an idol in my life that I feel trapped in and oppressed by. Thank you I will spend time with God on this. I know it helps me to think of people I love, and realise it’s not about how they look as to why I value them it’s for who they are x
I always compliment others because I know it makes them feel good and it makes me feel good too. I wish They would compliment me sometimes though.
FYI, Its easy to accept your appearance when your near the top off the appearance totem pole like you are. 💓
Kenny Ward thank you, however that’s actually not true, we look at people and assume they don’t have anything to be insecure about when in reality some of the most “beautiful” people I know are the most insecure, because it’s about how you view yourself, that’s why body dysmorphia and eating disorders exist because they don’t have a healthy self-image, it’s hard to accept that from an outside perspective because we look at someone and say they shouldn’t have self-image issues when really we can never assume that or invalidate someone who is insecure just because we think they are beautiful on the outside, it’s about whats going on in their minds ❤️
Agree w Sarah- these are traps and snares as the enemy attempts to kill steal and destroy us. We must overcome the world and be more influenced by Jesus :)
All very true words of wisdom.
The hardest part sometimes isnt having a positive image in our own minds, Its choosing to not listen when negative comments are shared about a person’s appearance and then over many, many years this can be hard to change the narrative in your mind. As its so confusing..
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You really hit the nail on the head with everything you said! Thank you for this I really needed it 🥰
Hi Sarah, I really like what you said about once you go about your day you are not focused on how you look now you are focusing on how to make someone's day better, etc.
Thank you for this. An old book that's been helpful for me is Disciplines of the Beautiful Woman by Anne Ortlund. The chapter on how much we should focus on outward appearance in relation to our whole self is very in line with what you say.
Same, same! Nice to see someone who feels the same!
You don't have to compare anybody but still dress well-Which means your appearance is important.
You have no idea how much it helped me
Thank you so much
I agree that we should be presentable but I wish there wasn't pressure for women to cover up with make up. If a woman likes to do that, cool, but I love not having to worry about that and just trying to be confident with my natural beauty. The most I put on is moisturiser so my skin isn't dry and of course keep hygienic and smelling nice
Godly men and women prefer a more natural look.. the way father made us :)
A good idea is to stop looking at the world and celebrities etc father looks at the heart and beauty is fleeting indeed
I just for us on being clean and healthy. I bath,brush my teeth and eat well
My problem is I have no inner strengths to focus on/to shine through. I know that it may become more clear by dropping caring about how I look, but without any gifts I don't really know how to be confident. And that's a pretty sad statement bc it goes to show my confidence isn't all on God right now!
Thank you for this. I really needed this at this moment in my life. X
I think you can be both. That’s why some people are beautiful inside and out
Well sis, the Lord Jesus did it again.....
He sent your vidoe( this one) to me...
I was actually in the process of watching a sermon on satanic attack by Charles Stanley then I paused it to go spank one of my kids because she was in bed goffing around when she is suppose to be sleep, so when I came back in my room to finish watching the sermon by Charles Stanley, I guess I had it paused for too long because instead of it playing ,my whole TH-cam refreshed (bummer) and I was like uuuugh but then out of no where this video of yours showed up ( by the way im not even subscribed) thats how I know for sure the LORD sent it. .....😀😀😀😀😀🤪
Guess what sis,
I actually sinned the other day because I did my hair to head to the store and I looked in the mirror and no lie I was feeling myself it was bad sis, cause what happened is the whole time I was at the store I felt as if everyone was aware of my beauty and 👀 watching me...
Later on that same day my husband said I needed to do something with my hair as he ran his fingers through it,
I thought my hair looked good
But based on my husband remark my hair must have looked like a neglected puddles fur and to think I thought I looked good smh 🤦 some serious pride was on me)
I repented today about conceit but I think it was more so ego.
Okay so I say all of that to say this, the LORD SENT ME YOIR VIDEO TO LET ME KNOW TO STOP FOCUSING ON MY OUTER appearance.
So thats just what I will do
This has been percolating in my heart for a while. I struggle with this and I would like to be free because this has taken my joy away. I appreciate you mentioning your faith! I am a Christian also. Thank you. I enjoyed your video. I will be working on this as well as praying for help!
Just came across your channel 🥰 thanks so much for sharing this girl, absolutely LOVED THIS! 🤍
In God's eye am wonderfully and beautiful made..Thanks so much for this message
This is amazing advice , I really connected with this, i will be watching this time and time again.
Thank you so much for this revelation 😊 much needed word
And god knows ahead of time if you will need to be attractive to your spouse, so he will make sure you are
thank you so much for this, I really needed it
A like what I just turn and I needed to hear it I've got some changes to make to in my view of myself. Thank before the video. I believe it's from God today
Very important topic, but difficult to do when you see grown, Christian men lusting after every woman that passes by
okay but how do you actually do this when you're actually ugly? like it really isn't the same to accept yourself when you aren't beautiful
Aisha Vamps for me this has come from my faith, the more time I spend with God asking him to show me how he sees me, I keep praying for identity, to see myself how he sees me, and it has nothing to do with physical he starts pouring into your spirit and giving you joy and confidence in who you are, I also don’t look at things on Instagram anymore or watch reality tv shows or idolize models or celebrities that I used to because it automatically pulls me back into negative thinking. I try to not focus on appearance except when I need to get ready for the day if I have to do my makeup just because any outside beauty I have is not going to change the world. But the inside will. It doesn’t matter what the world says is beautiful we have a warped broken perception so the more I remove myself from the ideas of what the world says the less I have a desire to conform to it and the more time I spend letting the lord pour into my spirit that’s what makes us beautiful is the spirit. I hope that helps a bit. God made you and you are so beautiful in his eyes and to the ones that matter most. 💜
@@NowBloom I understand your points but you are conveniently beautiful where others are not it is easier for you
@@NowBloom if he loves her, he will not care about how she looks anyway.
Tho action and contemplation are both important but Jesus Christ praised Mary for simply listening and being present with Him and reminded Martha of that fact
I needed this. Thank you🧚♀️
You are beautiful and a lovely lady! Thank You 😊 for the inspiring video.
The Nebraskan thank you so much this means a lot ! 💜
Our value is not in our beauty. As humans, our value is in the strength of our character.
it's funny how people that are actually attractive keep saying that but when you are actually unattractive or less then average it's a major difference bc exterior beauty does make an impact on your quality of life and that's just how it goes
Amazing words ❤️
Ziwa thank you so much 😍
Thank you, that’s awesome!!
I appreciate what you're trying to do.... But looks and your physical appearance does matter.
Not taking care of yourself causes your physical self to depreciate.
Like you said with "self care", that applies to more than make up, it includes eating healthy and exercising too to attract others. Its a lie if anyone says oir appearance doesnt matter in relationships.
Either way i appreciate this video. But i dont want anyone watching to fall off the bandwagon and start eating a package of twinkies for breakfast every day.
You beautiful soul. Thank u so much for making this video
Helo ..Is it sin if in cases Iam using a pomade to look more clean / profesional or better to let the natural hair without products ? More mess for sure.. why I have guilty feel to use hair product?
My biggest problem is: some people think this is beautiful and others say that is. And beauty I can not make by myself like changing my character. Sometimes I ask God, why haven’t he made me as beautiful as all the influencers? Than I think okay I don’t look like all of them so that means I need to work hard and become very intelligent. Or I need to become very famous, or rich. The gerat thing is, that I can trust in God. He will show me what to do. Perhaps I’m nothing like that and I will not be very intelligent, famous or rich. :)
God bless you and your familiy sister. Thank you for sharing
You r legit gorgeous
Love this, thank you 🤍
I wish I had hunter eyes and high set cheekbones
It's always been crazy how most women only care about looks, and a secondary interest being social interactions.
Caring about 2 things when there is a literal infinity of things besides looks and social interactions in the universe is so vain.
Yeah on the day of judgment no ounce of outward beauty will count. That is a little baffling
So good! 👑🩸🤩
Thank you!
This vídeo really helped me
joelma costa that’s amazing I’m so happy to hear ❤️
this is beautiful
Thank you for this❤
I have really bad skin, no matter how much I try to look beautiful my skin ruin it always.
I am sorry you felt that way , how are you today..
I love this video! I can relate