how to stop overcomplicating life - practical stoicism 101
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 12 มิ.ย. 2024
- life gets sooo much easier with stoicism as a foundation for your mindset. this mindset has helped me build inner strength, find peace and be grateful for what i have. no matter what life throws at me i can learn to handle it peacefully. and i want you to learn it too.
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0:00 - intro
2:05 - tiktok
4:54 - nobody is better than others
07:02 - accept your humanity
10:50 - decenter pleasures
11:52 - what stoicism taught me
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"Take things as they are, and not what they could be” wow, it really reasonated with me in some ways
When I entered my mid twenties I took on stoicism naturally, I didn't realize it was an entire concept/philosophy.
@@Jenna1394 Stoicism is really calling me right now, I want to learn more and it !!
Yeah, i’ve wasted years of my life trying to understand why people behave badly instead of letting them go and focusing on what makes me happy and calm.
Its especially hard when we don’t understand how they can he that way when we can never be so and treat others that way
@@rachelr22 yes! The ”good projection” is real.
Me too. Best decision ever
Yes me too.
Be strict with yourself and tolerant of others, the only person you should compare yourself to is you but from yesterday. I love this so so much!
What if i was much better in the past and now im like shit
@@bloom9586change your mindset
4:55
Be ruthless to systems, be kind to people
@@bloom9586 same
"Seek nothing outside of yourself."
~Miyamoto Musashi
Except jesus
"you shouldn't deny yourself humanity" really stuck with me
"Our minds are our prisons but they also hold the keys to our freedom." That is powerful, thank you for sharing.
It’s hard when your surrounded by so much negativity in others that strive so vastly to bring you down with them
this exactly!!
one thing that i saw on a tiktok MONTHS ago, with the caption "how are you always so calm" was the affirmation:
"everything works out for me in any given point of time, even if i don't feel it or don't believe it, it's true, and it's happening right now."
so getting a terminal disease is a good hting?
@@asuka_the_void_witchNo one ever said that everything that happens in life is good, but everything creates some kind of change or shift in your world view. An illness of that nature is objectively tragic yes, but no one who has ever experienced that could say they went unchanged by it. It’s not about good or bad, it’s about purely accepting the things that we cannot change in life.
she has what it takes to be a youtuber with 1M subscribers real quick
Absolutely!!!!
Never understood why she hasn't got them yet!
Let's just be glad the video reached us.
@@msplayer08because most people don’t want to hear this
I got chills when you said “you are divinely protected “ omg
I don’t think you understand the weight of this video and how much I needed this. Thank you so much for putting this out there. I don’t know if I would have seen another day had I not found this.
i hope you're doing okey
Sending you so much love 🫂💞❤️🩹
same here, there's always paths to know that may let us want to keep going, hope you're doing okay
I felt that too 🤗
When you mentioned that spirits miss feeling heartache, joy, even the taste of strawberries... I think you summed up everything perfectly. Such an amazing video, thanks!
Your the 1st female TH-camr I’ve seen to speak about stoicism
It’s refreshing tbh
It’s because the extreme stoic people are against feminine and the féminin energy. It’s very very male centric and all the philosophy have to regards of the female perspective. If you are a girl, when it comes to stoicism, take what resonate with you and LEAVE what does not. Being soft and allowin ppl in your heart won’t kill you, isolating every emotion you deep negative and not understand the root cause of your triggers will
Really? There are a whole bunch of women who talk about it on TH-cam.
@@LeahIsHereNow i think they’ve been increasing recently
This world would be a lot better if women learned stoicism tbh
@@scentsoftravelmeditationwhy do you say that?
@@nexithedestroyer why not?
the only possible problem with stoicism is that we might missed out on life. Sadness, pain and suffering is part of the human experience. If we don't feel them because we are stoic, we might miss out on experiencing life. I am pretty cold blooded and see people around me having stronger reactions than me when faced with similar situations, and it make me wonder if i am not missing out. Like for example, whenever i felt love for someone, i never aloud myself to go to the full extent of my emotions. And then when those relationships failed i wasn't hurt so badly. But i missed out on both sides of those lives events, on the good ones (the falling in love) and on the bad ones (the heart break). Life is messy and no person has the right recipe for it. Currently i am of the believe that the purpose of life is to suffer and to survive, since those are the things that we humans seem to good at. And in order to know the purpose of something you analyze and see what that thing is good at.
7:04
Stoicism isn't not feeling your feelings. Stoicism is about accepting what is and focusing on what you can control (your own actions) and letting go of worry of what you cannot.
you confuse classic stoicism w/ contemporary stoicism
Did you watch the whole video? Lol
Someone didn’t watch the video
limerence isn’t about just thinking other ppl are amazing lol its a whole trauma response you need a lot of therapy or at least self education to heal u can’t just snap out of it
I didn't realize that this was an entire philosophy/concept until recently. For me, this felt like a natural progression to adapting to life as I grow older and enter different life stages, granted my base personality lends itself to this disposisiton.
I came in with a shite mindset
And left with a smile and a little hope.
i didnt know i was practising stoicism without knowing that its a whole another topic . I've always found it sm easier to live life with this mindset . definitely agree a whole lot with this .
Its super easy to subscribe to this mindset you and the tik tok girl have when you both clearly have your basic needs met with stability and consistency. have enough money to live well and enjoy things. That girl was coming back from a RAVE in MIAMI lmaooo obviously she can manage feeling good and rolling with whatever punches life throws because its clearly not beating her into the ground every single day with constant roadblocks and obstacles and wasted efforts just hitting walls.
Exactly! Everything like manifestation , and all those laws, the people talking about it had a standing point. Money! None of them where ever « ugly » their glow up is just losing some weight. All this law does not include the people who are neurodivergent with disorders and people who dealt with so much trauma or being poor. They be like « get over it, create your reality » yeah, I would do that, OF I HAD THE MONEY. If I can wake up tomorrow and only go to work and school without worrying about grades or what I will eat next week then maybe I would be able to « manifest ». They talk about blockages and negative energy, all my blockages is the fact that I am not mentally stable and I am broke. Yes I can use the law of affirmations but it’s hard to say “I am pretty” or “I am rich” when they outside is the opposite. It takes time! And understanding what you can physically do then from then you see how YOU want to view the world and then maybe we can be less than half way to be like those people who have it all and say it’s “easy to manifest”
@@yeonjunhour3733this video is not about manifestation, but about a stoic mindset. Stoicism means you focus on what you can control to make your life better and let go of those things out of your control. For example, you can’t control your genes, if beauty is what concerns you, neither the fact that you are not as privileged as some other people on the internet. It’s just your reality, which won’t change whether you consider it fair or unfair. Now the matter is what can you do with your reality? Your reality just as it is. I understand what you’re going through because it overlaps with my experience at the moment. I know it’s difficult, but we somehow have to find a way through if we want peace. We must figure out how to keep enjoying life in the simplest of ways even during times of hardships. We can always be grateful for what we get to do, to have and to feel at the moment. Many aspects of our lives are privileges we have that we aren’t yet aware of. It’s okay if it takes time to process all of this, I am still trying to fit it in my own brain. But you are strong. You are capable of making the most out of your circumstances . And most importantly, you are able to live and feel human.
@@yeonjunhour3733HEYOO BRO FELLOW POOR NEURODIVERGENT HERE!! the thing is bro, manifestation isn't easy, but it is simple. It's simplicity comes from trusting dude!! And if u find yous have blockages there, like if trusting feels icky to ya, then seek out methods that's help get to the root of that blockage, and other possible subconsciously held beliefs! FOR ME JOURNALLING HELPS A TON! YES UR SOCIETAL STANDING WILL MAKE THINGS HARDER THAN OTHERS ABSOULETLY!! BUT TRY TO ACKNOWLEDGE THAT AND SIMPLY MOVE ON, NOT HYPERFIXATE ON IT AND USE IT AS A MEANS TO HALT YOUR PROGRESS! THERES A DIFFR3NCE BETWEEN ACKNOWLEDGING SUM AND HYPERFIXATING ON IT! NO POINT FOCUSING ON SOMEONE ELSE WHEN ITS UR LIFE U WANNA IMPROVE BROCHACHO!! THO I UNDERSTAND THE FUSTRATION IT CAN BRING FOR OTHERS WHO DONT RECOGNISE THEI3 PRIVELLGE THEN TRY TO RELATE WIT U ON SOMETHING THEY HAVENT EXPERINCED OR TRY TO MAKE IT OUT LIKE WE ALL HAVE AN EQUAL PLAYIN FEILD.
@@yeonjunhour3733a reason as to why manifestation could be harder for u to grasp is cause u probably don't belive in it all that much. And that distrust makes it beyond difficult for the universe to give u the things u ask for when past beliefs and ideals and traumas are stored all up in ya system. The universe can't bring u especially like big things like long term finances when there's no room for it to enter ur life. Ur traumas take up wayy too much room bro! So removing all things thqt don't serve u like old attachments and beliefs about urself, others and the world and having a grounded understanding in who u are will bring u the things ur lookin for!!
@@yeonjunhour3733 something I read in an old book said you have to work within your “sphere of availability” (or something like that) which just means that you may have to start small and work your way up. If someone doesn’t have a place to put a boat or money to take care of a boat, it’s unlikely they’ll be able to manifest a boat; but if you stay within the sphere of where you are while also looking at where you want to go, then you should be able to get some headway
You have no idea the impact this video has made for me. Simply hearing these words can change a mindset. Thank you for sharing ur wisdom girl
thank you so much for this. honestly I've been feeling so, so, so much anxiety for so long and it feels like actual torture but I'm realizing I'm the one torturing myself. so much of what you said resonated so much with me, so from the bottom of my heart I want to thank you for this. know that your videos are really helping people out- at least 1 person, you are really helping. and to whoever's reading this: if you spend your life running away from yourself, not facing yourself, you will spend it in a perpetual state of anxiety, even when there is a clear solution to your problem. even if it's really, really hard, do not escape your problems. face them. I believe you can. I promise the perpetual pain of running away feels worse than the temporary pain of facing it. there's always a solution, you just gotta find it and allow yourself to take it, even if it's scary. the best thing you could ever do for yourself is to choose to get better. and remember- it always ends. nothing is ever forever- so long as you choose to get better. so choose that. deal with your sh*t. keep it simple, don't overcomplicate things. simplicity is really the key to life.
Thank you ❤
This gave me so much comfort in my heart. I’ve been. Trying to move forward in my life this way and this was even more confirmation for me to keep on the path. Thank you and I love you for sharing this message and how you feel.
Hii, just wanted to say that I rlly appreciate your perspective, it's such a unique idea that I haven't seen been talked about so far. Being a stressed student who always subconsciously compares themselves to others and someone who's relatively sensitive and emotional, you don't understand how comforting it is to hear this! Ty and keep up the quality videos girll❤
This is actually so comforting to hear summarized and have a name/more better philosophy put to it. Literally my inner monologues and observations over the past few weeks months -> about a year now even.
yeah idk , always been a deep thinker kid hence my quietness.
Love that you have easy to read captions throughout the video! So so helpful to watch it anywhere, whether on the metro or elsewhere
Girl, thankyou so much for being you !
I had been having a rough day and felt very lonely cause i grew as a person but my friends didn't and honestly everything that you've talked about, i relate to it so much. I'm so glad there's a person out there who thinks like me yk , all the spiritual stuff and self improvement. I'm so thankful for you for uploading this video.
This video actually brought me comfort that I haven’t had all this year. I understand this more that you explained it, your energy and vibe is so calming🤍🤍
I’m sorry it’s off topic but your room is so beautiful 😭 The walls, plants, chair… the chair is so pretty ahh Perfect vibe. Love your aesthetic
Shoutout to the universe for putting this video on my path! ❤ thank you for this info! I will change me
I've been preaching contemporary stoicism since the latter half of 2019, and I'm glad to see a youtuber I genuinely respect and admire bring more attention to it, since more than ever when most people are more reactive than proactive a la most people who're online as of late, contemporary stoicism(or what you call practical stoicism) is needed more than ever
thank you for the support 💜 glad to hear you’re spreading the word, it’s so needed
@@MaeAliceSuzuki why anytime
Marcus Aurelius is my favorite stoic and former Roman King. His words always deeply resonated with me, so much so that I would listen to audio version of 'The Mediations' (his life's work) he wrote every night. So many times, I would think to myself, it's like I'm listening to my grandfather sharing his wisdom with me. Well, I had my ancestry DNA test and it turns out, he is my ancestor. I had never been so shocked yet not surprised at the same time 😄
I highly recommend listening to the audio version of 'The Mediations' by Marcus Aurelius read by Duncan Steen as he reads it properly
I’m so greatful I came across this video and your page. I’m a mess and have tears in my eyes but I feel joy and bliss. Such a simple message, but so powerful. Thank you ❤
the last few words really meant alot to me. thank you. it made me cry
Why was this video the EASIEST to comprehend out of the thousands of self-help videos ive ever watched!!! Love this content, thank you!
ate a strawberry today literally started crying after you said that.Realizing I've been creating so many limiting problems and believes that have been stopping me from where I need to be. I am limitless!!
I love your perspective on things Mae! I agree that we can only control what we actually have control over, which are our thoughts, feelings and actions.
When I learned about the things that I’m not in control of, like other people’s thoughts and feelings, it was strangely freeing in its own way, helping me worry less about those kinds of things. And learning how to be grateful and learning how to accept things as they are also goes a long way
This is exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you so much. I cannot thank you enough for this.
You’ve gained a loyal follower! Thank you so much for sharing this.
I love the way you speak when you say these things. It feels really genuine and a lot of the things I needed to hear to bring me back to this place. I come and go in and out of it but for the past decade I have spent more time out whereas before that, more time in. I adore you. Thank you, Mae.
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So crazy, I was just telling a friend this general stuff last night and your vid is just a huge confirmation for me waking up the next day.
I really appreciate you including your medium friend’s interactions. I would have never thought to ask that question to spirits.
This is the best advice I've ever heard on the internet. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you I needed to hear this, it made me feel so much better. I listen to your videos when I feel alone becos it feels like a friend is talking to me
Ur so amazing and sweet! Your words of affirmation throughout the video made me cry. You have such a beautiful soul
Beautifully put-stoicism's focus on personal growth and mastering oneself is timeless wisdom. Embracing virtues like courage and kindness brings clarity, even in challenging times. 🌿
Can't believe you have less than 10k subs - I was expecting to find 100,000!!! So glad I found your channel - badass vibes and great messages. I subscribed!
The algorithm recommended this for some reason and its all i needed rn. Thank you so much for this. New sub!
Ur energy is so healing gah dayum
I cut many strawberries everyday but I never eat
Personally, what drew me away from stoicism is having repeated over and over that you can only control ourselves and not others - only that I can't. As an auDHDler (autism+ADHD) with PDA tendencies, I have meltdowns, my mind is a volatile beast. I've accepted it, there isn't exactly much I can do about my inherent neurology. Doing what you suggested was what drew me away from stoicism.
Maybe u can implement what you can from stoicism and look for other ways of life that work better with you mind U CAN DO IT !❤
i think more specific to you situation would be "controlling what you can" instead of "controlling yourself." If there are parts of yourself you can't control, there still can be other parts that you can control. for example, if a certain thing triggers you, you can control your exposure to it since you can't control your reaction to it.
i mean that's the point of stoicism ... it's about not trying to control your autism/adhd, because those things cannot be controlled
I feel the same way.
Yea I am in the same boat
This was refreshing to watch. Thank you so much for making this video.
You seem like a really kind person, I hope I can have the same mindset as you some day
When I clicked on the video and you started talking, I immediately felt peace and calmness, you gained a new sub thank you for the lovely advice ❤
Can't tell you how much this video resonates with me ❤ thank you!
I just love this aesthetic 💛
Thank you Mae, your words made me feel alive
I love this video so much! I needed this today. Thank you! I love your content. ❤
i love the kitty chilling in the back(and this video)
A problem isn't a problem if it has a solution. This may sound so stupid to other people but as simply as she said it, I needed it. This was processed in the mind of an anxious overanalizer and it really soothed me. Wow. It's insane what you see as a huge ass problem can actually have very simple solutions. Bless uuuu queeeeeen 💚💚🙏🏼
Thank you mae 💗 ! This video cleared my some doubts !
As someone who is finishing an outpatient program right now, these concepts are referred to as Mindfulness and cognitive skills. I love what you are talking about!! Your have referred to thought distortions, thought reframing, self-awareness, thought stopping, and radical acceptance. this is truly a magical concept that can really help people heal! :) The only issue I have is that humans feel and it should be seen as natural and valid. Feeling leads to processing and then to healing.
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i am a psychic medium as well, however, i dont channel what most would call ‘spirits’ but i do channel higher frequencies and messages; i have the gift of claircognizance.
i was drawing something earlier in my notebook because i am doing this thing recently where i really listen to my emotions and.. ‘accept my humanity.’
i drew a strawberry on the page i was writing, but it was not just a strawberry. i drew a strawberry with a skull’s face on it. death/ transformation represented on a strawberry.
this page i was writing on was expressing my limerance for someone and some things and how i was ready to accept it and release it, knowing i can feel it without guilt or shame, and i can release it all the same. it doesn’t mean i care not or love not the person or thing, just that its all okay and meant to be as it is, as it will be in the end. but right now is right now, and right now i’m human.
this is humanity, right ? allowing myself to be here and not fear that any more. allowing my self to see who i am and remember that deep part of my self even if i was afraid to meet them before, its divine knowing that i have no choice but to go further or to remain in the past, the same as i always was.
today i’m different. right now i am new.
it was so interesting to me that your video showed up randomly. i’ve never seen you before but somehow you looked familiar so i clicked your video.
i almost felt pushback from the very beginning, my ego was immediately calling you a liar and saying you don’t know what you’re saying; but you do know, and so do i. i know it and that why i clicked this video without reason. just with familiarity because this knowledge, this wisdom; its familiar. its true. its me, and its you.
thank you for mentioning specifically the strawberry story about your psychic friend. that was confirmation for me through my own psychic ability.
i love this video. thank you for being here and making it. your purpose rings loud and true in this video: your purpose isnt what you do, but the way you made me feel when you did what you did. thank you.
i feel hope, i feel like i can remember peace.
love this thank youu
this might be one of my fave videos all time
i love you i needed to hear this
This really open my mind and body and soul to a whole new perspective 💖 THANK YOU SO MUCH THIS IS WHAT I NEEDED TO BE FREE!
I fell in love with your outlook. thank you for your energy ❤
Just learned about stoicism rn but this is how i naturally try to live my life and im known as sweet. I do appreciate the extra guidance i am about to learn as i watch the video.
I really needed to hear this today, thank you
thank you for reminding me of these values I discovered thru Ryan Holiday and practiced years ago at a depressing time in my life and stopped practicing them as life got "better". if I stuck to this mindset I would've picked myself up sooner. either way I'm glad I came across your video. it spoke life back into me! subbed
This video was such a breath of fresh air. Thank you so much Mae!!
I adore you. Gained a new follower today. You express these sentiments with such love and care in your heart. Thank you.
this is so comforting
your videos are game changing for me
no it’s true im always bringing the drama in my own life ty for this
I believe my spirit guides are watching, I’ve been seeing a lot of angel numbers, and also I really needed to hear this, as someone who sometimes acts out of impulsively, and overthinks staying calm ofc was the best decision, I’ve been on my self healing journey.thanks for this helpful video
so pretty and love your message!
*Adds "The Daily Stoic" to my reading list*
Thanks for this video, I found it really valuable to myself and my own journey.
wow, I admit I always felt very critical about stoicism, however somehow I felt like checking out your video and it actually helped me to change my perspective on certain things in life which caused me quite some trouble. thanks
When you said "no enemies" it made me think of Vinland Saga, one of the best animes ever made!!
Love love love this video, thank you. I needed it
amazing substantively, but also you have a beautiful calming voice
Just randomly came across this video now and you are so beautiful and soothing that I had to subscribe to your channel, thank you for being you!
found this vid JUST when i needed it
NEEDED THIS SIS.
She’s back! 🎉🙏
I love your video sm I wish there were more content creators that pushed out informative videos that help humanity evolve more Ty sm for sharing this with us
This is basically speed running DBT I love it. I wish everyone would internalize what she says in this
thank you for making this video, it came into my life in divine timing. every word resonated with me. i appreciate you making this
I feel the same :)
hi Mae! LOVE this for people who are on the journey to find peace.
glad it’s helpful 🙏💜
I really loved the video, thank you so much for this 💗
thank you.
this video has helped me so much thank you so much!!
Great video. Speaking of being comfortable being alone, that does not mean spending your evenings scrolling on your phone by yourself. It means actually sitting in reflection with your own thoughts.
Your words are inspiring! Thank you very much.
this is just came at the right time
I love this video ✨💛💛🌄💛💛I needed to hear this and see!!
being optimistic and seeing the beauty in everything and I like to think everything is character development and a repeated lesson I havent yet learned from when something comes back that I dont want in my life.
Such an interesting and inspiring video! Thank you for sharing, I very much needed that!
I love ur perspective 💜
You are a real life Bratz