Bruh women always say men are insensitive and theyre actually "emotionslly intelligent" u poison boys minds early to think the way you do it leads to the same rise in femenine mental health issues in boys and then some ho makes a video saying thinking like a man changed her life and u act like its a miracle😮💨😮💨
I love your perspective on things Mae! I agree that we can only control what we actually have control over, which are our thoughts, feelings and actions. When I learned about the things that I’m not in control of, like other people’s thoughts and feelings, it was strangely freeing in its own way, helping me worry less about those kinds of things. And learning how to be grateful and learning how to accept things as they are also goes a long way
I'm going insane. Work home life. Pressure to drive with no help anxiety is just getting worse. I literally wanna run out of work it's so fcked I hate everything. I can't even express myself cos no one gives a sht.
Yeah, i’ve wasted years of my life trying to understand why people behave badly instead of letting them go and focusing on what makes me happy and calm.
the best advice any therapist ever gave me was that when I'm feeling a strong emotion that scares me, I should lean into it and let my body feel it. whenever I'm anxious I let my body feel the physical feeling of anxiety and it poses within seconds. running from our emotions makes them stronger, but feeling them for even one or two seconds will stop them having power over you. it works literally every time.
Can confirm, I've been doing trauma therapy and EMDR. I realized I had been intellectualizing my feelings and not REALLY feeling them. I work hard to give myself space to feel like shit when my body needs it. I feel lighter afterwards and happier the next day.
I don’t think you understand the weight of this video and how much I needed this. Thank you so much for putting this out there. I don’t know if I would have seen another day had I not found this.
"When there's a problem in your life, it either has a solution or it doesn't; you can either do something about it or you can't" was perception shifting for me. There's things I wish went differently, but I can't make other people behave the way I wish they would. And meanwhile, there are things within my control that I'm not doing anything about... Definitely something to work on.
When you mentioned that spirits miss feeling heartache, joy, even the taste of strawberries... I think you summed up everything perfectly. Such an amazing video, thanks!
I didn't realize that this was an entire philosophy/concept until recently. For me, this felt like a natural progression to adapting to life as I grow older and enter different life stages, granted my base personality lends itself to this disposisiton.
It’s because the extreme stoic people are against feminine and the féminin energy. It’s very very male centric and all the philosophy have to regards of the female perspective. If you are a girl, when it comes to stoicism, take what resonate with you and LEAVE what does not. Being soft and allowin ppl in your heart won’t kill you, isolating every emotion you deep negative and not understand the root cause of your triggers will
one thing that i saw on a tiktok MONTHS ago, with the caption "how are you always so calm" was the affirmation: "everything works out for me in any given point of time, even if i don't feel it or don't believe it, it's true, and it's happening right now."
@@transsexual_computer_faeryNo one ever said that everything that happens in life is good, but everything creates some kind of change or shift in your world view. An illness of that nature is objectively tragic yes, but no one who has ever experienced that could say they went unchanged by it. It’s not about good or bad, it’s about purely accepting the things that we cannot change in life.
Its super easy to subscribe to this mindset you and the tik tok girl have when you both clearly have your basic needs met with stability and consistency. have enough money to live well and enjoy things. That girl was coming back from a RAVE in MIAMI lmaooo obviously she can manage feeling good and rolling with whatever punches life throws because its clearly not beating her into the ground every single day with constant roadblocks and obstacles and wasted efforts just hitting walls.
Exactly! Everything like manifestation , and all those laws, the people talking about it had a standing point. Money! None of them where ever « ugly » their glow up is just losing some weight. All this law does not include the people who are neurodivergent with disorders and people who dealt with so much trauma or being poor. They be like « get over it, create your reality » yeah, I would do that, OF I HAD THE MONEY. If I can wake up tomorrow and only go to work and school without worrying about grades or what I will eat next week then maybe I would be able to « manifest ». They talk about blockages and negative energy, all my blockages is the fact that I am not mentally stable and I am broke. Yes I can use the law of affirmations but it’s hard to say “I am pretty” or “I am rich” when they outside is the opposite. It takes time! And understanding what you can physically do then from then you see how YOU want to view the world and then maybe we can be less than half way to be like those people who have it all and say it’s “easy to manifest”
@@yeonjunhour3733this video is not about manifestation, but about a stoic mindset. Stoicism means you focus on what you can control to make your life better and let go of those things out of your control. For example, you can’t control your genes, if beauty is what concerns you, neither the fact that you are not as privileged as some other people on the internet. It’s just your reality, which won’t change whether you consider it fair or unfair. Now the matter is what can you do with your reality? Your reality just as it is. I understand what you’re going through because it overlaps with my experience at the moment. I know it’s difficult, but we somehow have to find a way through if we want peace. We must figure out how to keep enjoying life in the simplest of ways even during times of hardships. We can always be grateful for what we get to do, to have and to feel at the moment. Many aspects of our lives are privileges we have that we aren’t yet aware of. It’s okay if it takes time to process all of this, I am still trying to fit it in my own brain. But you are strong. You are capable of making the most out of your circumstances . And most importantly, you are able to live and feel human.
@@yeonjunhour3733HEYOO BRO FELLOW POOR NEURODIVERGENT HERE!! the thing is bro, manifestation isn't easy, but it is simple. It's simplicity comes from trusting dude!! And if u find yous have blockages there, like if trusting feels icky to ya, then seek out methods that's help get to the root of that blockage, and other possible subconsciously held beliefs! FOR ME JOURNALLING HELPS A TON! YES UR SOCIETAL STANDING WILL MAKE THINGS HARDER THAN OTHERS ABSOULETLY!! BUT TRY TO ACKNOWLEDGE THAT AND SIMPLY MOVE ON, NOT HYPERFIXATE ON IT AND USE IT AS A MEANS TO HALT YOUR PROGRESS! THERES A DIFFR3NCE BETWEEN ACKNOWLEDGING SUM AND HYPERFIXATING ON IT! NO POINT FOCUSING ON SOMEONE ELSE WHEN ITS UR LIFE U WANNA IMPROVE BROCHACHO!! THO I UNDERSTAND THE FUSTRATION IT CAN BRING FOR OTHERS WHO DONT RECOGNISE THEI3 PRIVELLGE THEN TRY TO RELATE WIT U ON SOMETHING THEY HAVENT EXPERINCED OR TRY TO MAKE IT OUT LIKE WE ALL HAVE AN EQUAL PLAYIN FEILD.
@@yeonjunhour3733a reason as to why manifestation could be harder for u to grasp is cause u probably don't belive in it all that much. And that distrust makes it beyond difficult for the universe to give u the things u ask for when past beliefs and ideals and traumas are stored all up in ya system. The universe can't bring u especially like big things like long term finances when there's no room for it to enter ur life. Ur traumas take up wayy too much room bro! So removing all things thqt don't serve u like old attachments and beliefs about urself, others and the world and having a grounded understanding in who u are will bring u the things ur lookin for!!
@@yeonjunhour3733 something I read in an old book said you have to work within your “sphere of availability” (or something like that) which just means that you may have to start small and work your way up. If someone doesn’t have a place to put a boat or money to take care of a boat, it’s unlikely they’ll be able to manifest a boat; but if you stay within the sphere of where you are while also looking at where you want to go, then you should be able to get some headway
i didnt know i was practising stoicism without knowing that its a whole another topic . I've always found it sm easier to live life with this mindset . definitely agree a whole lot with this .
limerence isn’t about just thinking other ppl are amazing lol its a whole trauma response you need a lot of therapy or at least self education to heal u can’t just snap out of it
Marcus Aurelius is my favorite stoic and former Roman King. His words always deeply resonated with me, so much so that I would listen to audio version of 'The Mediations' (his life's work) he wrote every night. So many times, I would think to myself, it's like I'm listening to my grandfather sharing his wisdom with me. Well, I had my ancestry DNA test and it turns out, he is my ancestor. I had never been so shocked yet not surprised at the same time 😄 I highly recommend listening to the audio version of 'The Mediations' by Marcus Aurelius read by Duncan Steen as he reads it properly
Jesus is the real deal. Look to Christ. [Edit: Struggle in life is inevitable. It will happen one way or another. Sometimes struggles are good, it can result in growth. How you respond when it comes to struggles is something to keep in mind.]
This is no different than people talking about "manifesting" or whatever. So much of this is regurgitated spiritual bull shit that explains nothing. The part where she talks about her friend who talks to ghosts I lost it.
I've actually realised that life is complicated by the good and evil concept. Therefore we live trying to do what we think is good or trying to avoid what we think is bad. This effort can quickly translate to stress. Remove the good and bad concept and live in the present not trying to achieve something and make the life fluid, slowing down and being aware of you, your thoughts, emotions, words, actions and senses and the environment; live a minimalist lifestyle; we actually don't need to pursue money and things instead we should ease into our passion. Life is supposed to be meditative. Meditation is not something we should do only in the morning or at a specific time of the day. We should live meditatively
thank you so much for this. honestly I've been feeling so, so, so much anxiety for so long and it feels like actual torture but I'm realizing I'm the one torturing myself. so much of what you said resonated so much with me, so from the bottom of my heart I want to thank you for this. know that your videos are really helping people out- at least 1 person, you are really helping. and to whoever's reading this: if you spend your life running away from yourself, not facing yourself, you will spend it in a perpetual state of anxiety, even when there is a clear solution to your problem. even if it's really, really hard, do not escape your problems. face them. I believe you can. I promise the perpetual pain of running away feels worse than the temporary pain of facing it. there's always a solution, you just gotta find it and allow yourself to take it, even if it's scary. the best thing you could ever do for yourself is to choose to get better. and remember- it always ends. nothing is ever forever- so long as you choose to get better. so choose that. deal with your sh*t. keep it simple, don't overcomplicate things. simplicity is really the key to life.
Personally, what drew me away from stoicism is having repeated over and over that you can only control ourselves and not others - only that I can't. As an auDHDler (autism+ADHD) with PDA tendencies, I have meltdowns, my mind is a volatile beast. I've accepted it, there isn't exactly much I can do about my inherent neurology. Doing what you suggested was what drew me away from stoicism.
i think more specific to you situation would be "controlling what you can" instead of "controlling yourself." If there are parts of yourself you can't control, there still can be other parts that you can control. for example, if a certain thing triggers you, you can control your exposure to it since you can't control your reaction to it.
new sub here... if not for stoicism would not be where i am today... helped me grow my channel to where its now... rain or shine i always keep pulling up...
I've been preaching contemporary stoicism since the latter half of 2019, and I'm glad to see a youtuber I genuinely respect and admire bring more attention to it, since more than ever when most people are more reactive than proactive a la most people who're online as of late, contemporary stoicism(or what you call practical stoicism) is needed more than ever
I came here to say this is a lie. Struggling is part of growth. If you want to be stagnant then I suggest staying in your comfort zone is the way to gom
Absolutely hated the “i love being alone, nobody is traumadumping on me” take. Unfortunately we’re all alive, and we’re meant to rely on each other and be there for others. This whole extreme self care turns into people just being assholes and saying “but my mental health! You’re an energy vampire.” Super sad way to live, you also say to be kind and help people but say that in the same video 🥴 0/10 video.
I hoped so much that this video will be something helpful, something new, but it's the same "you either change it or accept you can't". I've been lonely my whole life and I can't change it and it brings me immense suffering and I couldn't fix it no matter how hard I tried, am I supposed to just accept it?
Can't believe you have less than 10k subs - I was expecting to find 100,000!!! So glad I found your channel - badass vibes and great messages. I subscribed!
This is actually so comforting to hear summarized and have a name/more better philosophy put to it. Literally my inner monologues and observations over the past few weeks months -> about a year now even. yeah idk , always been a deep thinker kid hence my quietness.
7:06 i am a psychic medium as well, however, i dont channel what most would call ‘spirits’ but i do channel higher frequencies and messages; i have the gift of claircognizance. i was drawing something earlier in my notebook because i am doing this thing recently where i really listen to my emotions and.. ‘accept my humanity.’ i drew a strawberry on the page i was writing, but it was not just a strawberry. i drew a strawberry with a skull’s face on it. death/ transformation represented on a strawberry. this page i was writing on was expressing my limerance for someone and some things and how i was ready to accept it and release it, knowing i can feel it without guilt or shame, and i can release it all the same. it doesn’t mean i care not or love not the person or thing, just that its all okay and meant to be as it is, as it will be in the end. but right now is right now, and right now i’m human. this is humanity, right ? allowing myself to be here and not fear that any more. allowing my self to see who i am and remember that deep part of my self even if i was afraid to meet them before, its divine knowing that i have no choice but to go further or to remain in the past, the same as i always was. today i’m different. right now i am new. it was so interesting to me that your video showed up randomly. i’ve never seen you before but somehow you looked familiar so i clicked your video. i almost felt pushback from the very beginning, my ego was immediately calling you a liar and saying you don’t know what you’re saying; but you do know, and so do i. i know it and that why i clicked this video without reason. just with familiarity because this knowledge, this wisdom; its familiar. its true. its me, and its you. thank you for mentioning specifically the strawberry story about your psychic friend. that was confirmation for me through my own psychic ability. i love this video. thank you for being here and making it. your purpose rings loud and true in this video: your purpose isnt what you do, but the way you made me feel when you did what you did. thank you. i feel hope, i feel like i can remember peace.
Great video. Speaking of being comfortable being alone, that does not mean spending your evenings scrolling on your phone by yourself. It means actually sitting in reflection with your own thoughts.
I do agree with what you are saying to a certain extent and can really see how having a stoic mindset can improve people’s sense of autonomy and choice which can be very empowering. The one thing that I think is too brushed over is that for people who have experienced serious and ongoing trauma is that it can become very entrenched within their behaviours and effects how they physically feel and respond too. If somebody has C-PTSD or PTSD, it can take a long time to develop strategies for managing this and often specialist support is required. It’s not as simple as thinking, well I just don’t think about it that way and then the next minute they’re suddenly carefree and looking at the flowers. And like I said above, I do agree that having a stoic mindset is important and helpful, however there are situations where that alone is not enough.
Hii, just wanted to say that I rlly appreciate your perspective, it's such a unique idea that I haven't seen been talked about so far. Being a stressed student who always subconsciously compares themselves to others and someone who's relatively sensitive and emotional, you don't understand how comforting it is to hear this! Ty and keep up the quality videos girll❤
As someone who is finishing an outpatient program right now, these concepts are referred to as Mindfulness and cognitive skills. I love what you are talking about!! Your have referred to thought distortions, thought reframing, self-awareness, thought stopping, and radical acceptance. this is truly a magical concept that can really help people heal! :) The only issue I have is that humans feel and it should be seen as natural and valid. Feeling leads to processing and then to healing.
@@alexandervelez9507 I believe it is because spirits do not have a physical body and therefore, they can not experience the same manifestations of emotions as living beings can. For example, when you get anxious your heart beat quickens, but spirits have no heart.
i always believed and read that spirits feel love and joy, and safe because they are home. I also read that spirits can manifest and visualise being in a place so vividly that they can put themselves anywhere. so i’m not sure what to believe about not feeling emotions. Because the soul feels love- thats what it’s made up of, we’re not empty energy when we go.
thank you for reminding me of these values I discovered thru Ryan Holiday and practiced years ago at a depressing time in my life and stopped practicing them as life got "better". if I stuck to this mindset I would've picked myself up sooner. either way I'm glad I came across your video. it spoke life back into me! subbed
This was like therapy, I’m addicted to video games, depressed and overweight plus I have adhd and I’m suffering immensely. I find it hard to get out of bed every single day. I’m listening to TH-cam videos as a way to help shift my mindset and something really struck a chord with me in the last minute of this, I started crying all of a sudden. I feel like something has shifted so thank you. 😊
This gave me so much comfort in my heart. I’ve been. Trying to move forward in my life this way and this was even more confirmation for me to keep on the path. Thank you and I love you for sharing this message and how you feel.
Be a better doer of good deeds. Hell exists, be prepared to repent, or else. Have a relationship with God The Creator. KJV is the correct translation. Life is, but a vapor in the span of eternity! Last Days are happening now. Grow through learning lessons from others!
Mae: You are good, but: I think you should attribute videos like that in the future, just in case anyone said it was a copyright thing. Probably a mention and a link is good enough, I would say.
Personally, I've had a different experience, and it also connects to me having different beliefs. I believe everything starts with matter. And then the complexities of the mind build from that. I've also had the same thing in my experience. Planning is rarely something that works for me. I can't control myself like that. I pay attention to the details, start doing, and let my intuition do its thing. I'm not really interested in doing things in a way that doesn't work for me. For what?
Imagine being Marcus Aurelius or any of the other stoics and seeing videos of beautiful feminine people talking about stoicism hundreds (thousands) of years in the future....I am also a stoicism girlie, I love this so much! Also you are GORGEOUS
Every time someone feels not wanting to live anymore I say ok, is there anything you want to experience in this life? You can eat hamburger when you are dead. So maybe you go and eat that now.
I believe my spirit guides are watching, I’ve been seeing a lot of angel numbers, and also I really needed to hear this, as someone who sometimes acts out of impulsively, and overthinks staying calm ofc was the best decision, I’ve been on my self healing journey.thanks for this helpful video
maaan it’s so hard to be kind in my environment when they’re always taking advantage when it comes to someone showing kindness. I’m hoping i’ll get out of this environment i’m currently in
Your tips are practical and easy to follow, and your positive energy makes it all so inspiring. Thank you for helping us simplify our lives and find more joy in the process!
genuine question if we're not supposed to punch up or down, and we are no better than anyone else, and have no enemies... how can we follow it with "why would you want to be on the level of some dirty ass rats who bring you down" like around 6:20? thanks
❤❤ first off, I'm so glad you came across my youtube! New subbie! Loved this video. I've been feeling this way for a long time. Others don't understand why I do things the way i do. Personally, i don't care. ❤❤
one time this family i was living with, the son asked me for some advice so I said it like this “every emotion we experience, we are so lucky to be able to feel so it’s best not to take your feelings for granted, happiness, anger, grief, we are so lucky to be able to experience these feelings. Being human is an a amazing once in a lifetime experience ” so I loved hearing you say this it makes me realize that no matter what, my emotions are normal and I’m not craaaazy cause after I moved in with my family after this, I am experiencing so many emotions and now I realize I’m just getting a different human experience and it won’t last forever , hopefully
im sorry but my toxic narcissistic mother already corrupted my mind and soul that i get stuck every single time i got too comfortable with my self-doubt and anxiety that bettering myself is vain and thinking positive is wrong
Off topic - but I love your make-up! Especially the eye make-up, can you make a tutorial on your yt/tiktok on how you did it? Also what is this make-up style called? Interesting topic and I loved watching this video! (ps: love your cat in the background, it so cute)
"Take things as they are, and not what they could be” wow, it really reasonated with me in some ways
When I entered my mid twenties I took on stoicism naturally, I didn't realize it was an entire concept/philosophy.
@@Jenna1394 Stoicism is really calling me right now, I want to learn more and it !!
Bruh women always say men are insensitive and theyre actually "emotionslly intelligent" u poison boys minds early to think the way you do it leads to the same rise in femenine mental health issues in boys and then some ho makes a video saying thinking like a man changed her life and u act like its a miracle😮💨😮💨
Fr, I FELT that, like rlly *felt* that
i'm so grateful to have come across your channel
off topic but i love how ur place is decorated! and the shibari frame in the back 😭 i love it
I love your perspective on things Mae! I agree that we can only control what we actually have control over, which are our thoughts, feelings and actions.
When I learned about the things that I’m not in control of, like other people’s thoughts and feelings, it was strangely freeing in its own way, helping me worry less about those kinds of things. And learning how to be grateful and learning how to accept things as they are also goes a long way
Ur so amazing and sweet! Your words of affirmation throughout the video made me cry. You have such a beautiful soul
You’re so cute! Thanks so much for sharing this video, my name is also Mae & I love that we spell it the same. Anyway much love to you babes ✨
Can you do a video talking about shame, like feeling ashamed for wanting more or someone thats never date being ashamed of wanting it at some point
Life was never about happiness. It’s about survival. Be grateful for every living day
sweetest video we would get along
I'm going insane. Work home life. Pressure to drive with no help anxiety is just getting worse. I literally wanna run out of work it's so fcked I hate everything. I can't even express myself cos no one gives a sht.
No, I am Guts and I struggglllleee
Yeah, i’ve wasted years of my life trying to understand why people behave badly instead of letting them go and focusing on what makes me happy and calm.
Its especially hard when we don’t understand how they can he that way when we can never be so and treat others that way
@@rachelr22 yes! The ”good projection” is real.
Me too. Best decision ever
Yes me too.
Your comment is for me! I swear that is what I’m realizing right now in my life
Be strict with yourself and tolerant of others, the only person you should compare yourself to is you but from yesterday. I love this so so much!
What if i was much better in the past and now im like shit
@@bloom9586change your mindset
4:55
Be ruthless to systems, be kind to people
@@bloom9586 same
"you shouldn't deny yourself humanity" really stuck with me
"Seek nothing outside of yourself."
~Miyamoto Musashi
Except jesus
@@sergiosuarez5510 seeking God rather than Jesus is more fun in my opinion, but the God is in each one of us so let's just discover ourselves
the best advice any therapist ever gave me was that when I'm feeling a strong emotion that scares me, I should lean into it and let my body feel it. whenever I'm anxious I let my body feel the physical feeling of anxiety and it poses within seconds. running from our emotions makes them stronger, but feeling them for even one or two seconds will stop them having power over you. it works literally every time.
Can confirm, I've been doing trauma therapy and EMDR. I realized I had been intellectualizing my feelings and not REALLY feeling them. I work hard to give myself space to feel like shit when my body needs it. I feel lighter afterwards and happier the next day.
"Our minds are our prisons but they also hold the keys to our freedom." That is powerful, thank you for sharing.
I don’t think you understand the weight of this video and how much I needed this. Thank you so much for putting this out there. I don’t know if I would have seen another day had I not found this.
i hope you're doing okey
Sending you so much love 🫂💞❤️🩹
same here, there's always paths to know that may let us want to keep going, hope you're doing okay
I felt that too 🤗
Much love 💖 keep going
she has what it takes to be a youtuber with 1M subscribers real quick
Absolutely!!!!
Never understood why she hasn't got them yet!
Let's just be glad the video reached us.
@@msplayer08because most people don’t want to hear this
Yes 100% she's going to be super successful in whatever she does , she's amazing
"When there's a problem in your life, it either has a solution or it doesn't; you can either do something about it or you can't" was perception shifting for me. There's things I wish went differently, but I can't make other people behave the way I wish they would. And meanwhile, there are things within my control that I'm not doing anything about... Definitely something to work on.
I got chills when you said “you are divinely protected “ omg
When you mentioned that spirits miss feeling heartache, joy, even the taste of strawberries... I think you summed up everything perfectly. Such an amazing video, thanks!
I came in with a shite mindset
And left with a smile and a little hope.
I didn't realize that this was an entire philosophy/concept until recently. For me, this felt like a natural progression to adapting to life as I grow older and enter different life stages, granted my base personality lends itself to this disposisiton.
It’s hard when your surrounded by so much negativity in others that strive so vastly to bring you down with them
this exactly!!
THISSSS
Your the 1st female TH-camr I’ve seen to speak about stoicism
It’s refreshing tbh
It’s because the extreme stoic people are against feminine and the féminin energy. It’s very very male centric and all the philosophy have to regards of the female perspective. If you are a girl, when it comes to stoicism, take what resonate with you and LEAVE what does not. Being soft and allowin ppl in your heart won’t kill you, isolating every emotion you deep negative and not understand the root cause of your triggers will
Really? There are a whole bunch of women who talk about it on TH-cam.
@@LeahIsHereNow i think they’ve been increasing recently
This world would be a lot better if women learned stoicism tbh
@@scentsoftravelmeditationwhy do you say that?
@@nexithedestroyer why not?
one thing that i saw on a tiktok MONTHS ago, with the caption "how are you always so calm" was the affirmation:
"everything works out for me in any given point of time, even if i don't feel it or don't believe it, it's true, and it's happening right now."
so getting a terminal disease is a good hting?
@@transsexual_computer_faeryNo one ever said that everything that happens in life is good, but everything creates some kind of change or shift in your world view. An illness of that nature is objectively tragic yes, but no one who has ever experienced that could say they went unchanged by it. It’s not about good or bad, it’s about purely accepting the things that we cannot change in life.
doja cat is the exact opposite of stoicism.
Its super easy to subscribe to this mindset you and the tik tok girl have when you both clearly have your basic needs met with stability and consistency. have enough money to live well and enjoy things. That girl was coming back from a RAVE in MIAMI lmaooo obviously she can manage feeling good and rolling with whatever punches life throws because its clearly not beating her into the ground every single day with constant roadblocks and obstacles and wasted efforts just hitting walls.
Exactly! Everything like manifestation , and all those laws, the people talking about it had a standing point. Money! None of them where ever « ugly » their glow up is just losing some weight. All this law does not include the people who are neurodivergent with disorders and people who dealt with so much trauma or being poor. They be like « get over it, create your reality » yeah, I would do that, OF I HAD THE MONEY. If I can wake up tomorrow and only go to work and school without worrying about grades or what I will eat next week then maybe I would be able to « manifest ». They talk about blockages and negative energy, all my blockages is the fact that I am not mentally stable and I am broke. Yes I can use the law of affirmations but it’s hard to say “I am pretty” or “I am rich” when they outside is the opposite. It takes time! And understanding what you can physically do then from then you see how YOU want to view the world and then maybe we can be less than half way to be like those people who have it all and say it’s “easy to manifest”
@@yeonjunhour3733this video is not about manifestation, but about a stoic mindset. Stoicism means you focus on what you can control to make your life better and let go of those things out of your control. For example, you can’t control your genes, if beauty is what concerns you, neither the fact that you are not as privileged as some other people on the internet. It’s just your reality, which won’t change whether you consider it fair or unfair. Now the matter is what can you do with your reality? Your reality just as it is. I understand what you’re going through because it overlaps with my experience at the moment. I know it’s difficult, but we somehow have to find a way through if we want peace. We must figure out how to keep enjoying life in the simplest of ways even during times of hardships. We can always be grateful for what we get to do, to have and to feel at the moment. Many aspects of our lives are privileges we have that we aren’t yet aware of. It’s okay if it takes time to process all of this, I am still trying to fit it in my own brain. But you are strong. You are capable of making the most out of your circumstances . And most importantly, you are able to live and feel human.
@@yeonjunhour3733HEYOO BRO FELLOW POOR NEURODIVERGENT HERE!! the thing is bro, manifestation isn't easy, but it is simple. It's simplicity comes from trusting dude!! And if u find yous have blockages there, like if trusting feels icky to ya, then seek out methods that's help get to the root of that blockage, and other possible subconsciously held beliefs! FOR ME JOURNALLING HELPS A TON! YES UR SOCIETAL STANDING WILL MAKE THINGS HARDER THAN OTHERS ABSOULETLY!! BUT TRY TO ACKNOWLEDGE THAT AND SIMPLY MOVE ON, NOT HYPERFIXATE ON IT AND USE IT AS A MEANS TO HALT YOUR PROGRESS! THERES A DIFFR3NCE BETWEEN ACKNOWLEDGING SUM AND HYPERFIXATING ON IT! NO POINT FOCUSING ON SOMEONE ELSE WHEN ITS UR LIFE U WANNA IMPROVE BROCHACHO!! THO I UNDERSTAND THE FUSTRATION IT CAN BRING FOR OTHERS WHO DONT RECOGNISE THEI3 PRIVELLGE THEN TRY TO RELATE WIT U ON SOMETHING THEY HAVENT EXPERINCED OR TRY TO MAKE IT OUT LIKE WE ALL HAVE AN EQUAL PLAYIN FEILD.
@@yeonjunhour3733a reason as to why manifestation could be harder for u to grasp is cause u probably don't belive in it all that much. And that distrust makes it beyond difficult for the universe to give u the things u ask for when past beliefs and ideals and traumas are stored all up in ya system. The universe can't bring u especially like big things like long term finances when there's no room for it to enter ur life. Ur traumas take up wayy too much room bro! So removing all things thqt don't serve u like old attachments and beliefs about urself, others and the world and having a grounded understanding in who u are will bring u the things ur lookin for!!
@@yeonjunhour3733 something I read in an old book said you have to work within your “sphere of availability” (or something like that) which just means that you may have to start small and work your way up. If someone doesn’t have a place to put a boat or money to take care of a boat, it’s unlikely they’ll be able to manifest a boat; but if you stay within the sphere of where you are while also looking at where you want to go, then you should be able to get some headway
As someone who is currently afraid of their own thoughts this video has been very opening thank you
i didnt know i was practising stoicism without knowing that its a whole another topic . I've always found it sm easier to live life with this mindset . definitely agree a whole lot with this .
I cut many strawberries everyday but I never eat
I’m sorry it’s off topic but your room is so beautiful 😭 The walls, plants, chair… the chair is so pretty ahh Perfect vibe. Love your aesthetic
limerence isn’t about just thinking other ppl are amazing lol its a whole trauma response you need a lot of therapy or at least self education to heal u can’t just snap out of it
The point still stands
Marcus Aurelius is my favorite stoic and former Roman King. His words always deeply resonated with me, so much so that I would listen to audio version of 'The Mediations' (his life's work) he wrote every night. So many times, I would think to myself, it's like I'm listening to my grandfather sharing his wisdom with me. Well, I had my ancestry DNA test and it turns out, he is my ancestor. I had never been so shocked yet not surprised at the same time 😄
I highly recommend listening to the audio version of 'The Mediations' by Marcus Aurelius read by Duncan Steen as he reads it properly
Jesus is the real deal. Look to Christ. [Edit: Struggle in life is inevitable. It will happen one way or another. Sometimes struggles are good, it can result in growth. How you respond when it comes to struggles is something to keep in mind.]
This solidifies my reasons to stop drinking. All it did was lead to trying to numb my emotions. Love this video.
This is no different than people talking about "manifesting" or whatever. So much of this is regurgitated spiritual bull shit that explains nothing. The part where she talks about her friend who talks to ghosts I lost it.
I've actually realised that life is complicated by the good and evil concept. Therefore we live trying to do what we think is good or trying to avoid what we think is bad. This effort can quickly translate to stress. Remove the good and bad concept and live in the present not trying to achieve something and make the life fluid, slowing down and being aware of you, your thoughts, emotions, words, actions and senses and the environment; live a minimalist lifestyle; we actually don't need to pursue money and things instead we should ease into our passion. Life is supposed to be meditative. Meditation is not something we should do only in the morning or at a specific time of the day. We should live meditatively
Wow
thank you so much for this. honestly I've been feeling so, so, so much anxiety for so long and it feels like actual torture but I'm realizing I'm the one torturing myself. so much of what you said resonated so much with me, so from the bottom of my heart I want to thank you for this. know that your videos are really helping people out- at least 1 person, you are really helping. and to whoever's reading this: if you spend your life running away from yourself, not facing yourself, you will spend it in a perpetual state of anxiety, even when there is a clear solution to your problem. even if it's really, really hard, do not escape your problems. face them. I believe you can. I promise the perpetual pain of running away feels worse than the temporary pain of facing it. there's always a solution, you just gotta find it and allow yourself to take it, even if it's scary. the best thing you could ever do for yourself is to choose to get better. and remember- it always ends. nothing is ever forever- so long as you choose to get better. so choose that. deal with your sh*t. keep it simple, don't overcomplicate things. simplicity is really the key to life.
Thank you ❤
You have no idea the impact this video has made for me. Simply hearing these words can change a mindset. Thank you for sharing ur wisdom girl
Personally, what drew me away from stoicism is having repeated over and over that you can only control ourselves and not others - only that I can't. As an auDHDler (autism+ADHD) with PDA tendencies, I have meltdowns, my mind is a volatile beast. I've accepted it, there isn't exactly much I can do about my inherent neurology. Doing what you suggested was what drew me away from stoicism.
Maybe u can implement what you can from stoicism and look for other ways of life that work better with you mind U CAN DO IT !❤
i think more specific to you situation would be "controlling what you can" instead of "controlling yourself." If there are parts of yourself you can't control, there still can be other parts that you can control. for example, if a certain thing triggers you, you can control your exposure to it since you can't control your reaction to it.
i mean that's the point of stoicism ... it's about not trying to control your autism/adhd, because those things cannot be controlled
I feel the same way.
Yea I am in the same boat
new sub here... if not for stoicism would not be where i am today... helped me grow my channel to where its now... rain or shine i always keep pulling up...
14.200 subs but barely views on new videos.. Purchased subs.
@@teeaymusik9811 yawn 🥱
@@teeaymusik9811 I’m not your enemy… the man you are afraid to look at in the mirror is…
@@RicoMoneybags Well that's even true lol. Yeah dont get it wrong, i didnt mean to offend you.
Watching this cus i cant afford therapy🥰
I've been preaching contemporary stoicism since the latter half of 2019, and I'm glad to see a youtuber I genuinely respect and admire bring more attention to it, since more than ever when most people are more reactive than proactive a la most people who're online as of late, contemporary stoicism(or what you call practical stoicism) is needed more than ever
thank you for the support 💜 glad to hear you’re spreading the word, it’s so needed
@@MaeAliceSuzuki why anytime
I came here to say this is a lie. Struggling is part of growth. If you want to be stagnant then I suggest staying in your comfort zone is the way to gom
Good message.
Read Imam Al Ghazali's works.
Also sihr(magic or dealing with spirits) can mess up your life. Protect your energy. Peace.
Absolutely hated the “i love being alone, nobody is traumadumping on me” take. Unfortunately we’re all alive, and we’re meant to rely on each other and be there for others. This whole extreme self care turns into people just being assholes and saying “but my mental health! You’re an energy vampire.” Super sad way to live, you also say to be kind and help people but say that in the same video 🥴 0/10 video.
I hoped so much that this video will be something helpful, something new, but it's the same "you either change it or accept you can't". I've been lonely my whole life and I can't change it and it brings me immense suffering and I couldn't fix it no matter how hard I tried, am I supposed to just accept it?
Wow your face.
Can't believe you have less than 10k subs - I was expecting to find 100,000!!! So glad I found your channel - badass vibes and great messages. I subscribed!
This is actually so comforting to hear summarized and have a name/more better philosophy put to it. Literally my inner monologues and observations over the past few weeks months -> about a year now even.
yeah idk , always been a deep thinker kid hence my quietness.
Omg I did NOT expect this video to make me cry 😂😭😭😭 thank you you beautiful soul! 🙏🙌 I think I need that book you mentioned
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i am a psychic medium as well, however, i dont channel what most would call ‘spirits’ but i do channel higher frequencies and messages; i have the gift of claircognizance.
i was drawing something earlier in my notebook because i am doing this thing recently where i really listen to my emotions and.. ‘accept my humanity.’
i drew a strawberry on the page i was writing, but it was not just a strawberry. i drew a strawberry with a skull’s face on it. death/ transformation represented on a strawberry.
this page i was writing on was expressing my limerance for someone and some things and how i was ready to accept it and release it, knowing i can feel it without guilt or shame, and i can release it all the same. it doesn’t mean i care not or love not the person or thing, just that its all okay and meant to be as it is, as it will be in the end. but right now is right now, and right now i’m human.
this is humanity, right ? allowing myself to be here and not fear that any more. allowing my self to see who i am and remember that deep part of my self even if i was afraid to meet them before, its divine knowing that i have no choice but to go further or to remain in the past, the same as i always was.
today i’m different. right now i am new.
it was so interesting to me that your video showed up randomly. i’ve never seen you before but somehow you looked familiar so i clicked your video.
i almost felt pushback from the very beginning, my ego was immediately calling you a liar and saying you don’t know what you’re saying; but you do know, and so do i. i know it and that why i clicked this video without reason. just with familiarity because this knowledge, this wisdom; its familiar. its true. its me, and its you.
thank you for mentioning specifically the strawberry story about your psychic friend. that was confirmation for me through my own psychic ability.
i love this video. thank you for being here and making it. your purpose rings loud and true in this video: your purpose isnt what you do, but the way you made me feel when you did what you did. thank you.
i feel hope, i feel like i can remember peace.
Great video. Speaking of being comfortable being alone, that does not mean spending your evenings scrolling on your phone by yourself. It means actually sitting in reflection with your own thoughts.
I do agree with what you are saying to a certain extent and can really see how having a stoic mindset can improve people’s sense of autonomy and choice which can be very empowering. The one thing that I think is too brushed over is that for people who have experienced serious and ongoing trauma is that it can become very entrenched within their behaviours and effects how they physically feel and respond too. If somebody has C-PTSD or PTSD, it can take a long time to develop strategies for managing this and often specialist support is required. It’s not as simple as thinking, well I just don’t think about it that way and then the next minute they’re suddenly carefree and looking at the flowers. And like I said above, I do agree that having a stoic mindset is important and helpful, however there are situations where that alone is not enough.
You raise a lot of good points.
Also, holy smokes, you are gorgeous.
great video 🩷 and off topic but: you’re gorgeous and i’m obsessed with your makeup 💕
thank you angel 💜
When you said "no enemies" it made me think of Vinland Saga, one of the best animes ever made!!
Hii, just wanted to say that I rlly appreciate your perspective, it's such a unique idea that I haven't seen been talked about so far. Being a stressed student who always subconsciously compares themselves to others and someone who's relatively sensitive and emotional, you don't understand how comforting it is to hear this! Ty and keep up the quality videos girll❤
welcome back Mae! great video as always ⭐
appreciate you 🫶!
Thank you for this message, you are so beautiful btw!
As someone who is finishing an outpatient program right now, these concepts are referred to as Mindfulness and cognitive skills. I love what you are talking about!! Your have referred to thought distortions, thought reframing, self-awareness, thought stopping, and radical acceptance. this is truly a magical concept that can really help people heal! :) The only issue I have is that humans feel and it should be seen as natural and valid. Feeling leads to processing and then to healing.
Shoutout to the universe for putting this video on my path! ❤ thank you for this info! I will change me
Your sooo beautiful 0:11
Ur energy is so healing gah dayum
I'm just falling in love with you I kid you not your mindset I just love ya girl I can totally relate wanna be kind helping people love it 😭❤❤❤❤
Seeing this at 77.7k subs
That spirits comparison was eye-opening
i didn’t really understand that part. do spirits not feel emotions?
@@alexandervelez9507 I believe it is because spirits do not have a physical body and therefore, they can not experience the same manifestations of emotions as living beings can. For example, when you get anxious your heart beat quickens, but spirits have no heart.
@@alexandervelez9507emotions are physical, so I guess (hypothetically) they would not be able to feel physical sensations anymore
i always believed and read that spirits feel love and joy, and safe because they are home. I also read that spirits can manifest and visualise being in a place so vividly that they can put themselves anywhere. so i’m not sure what to believe about not feeling emotions. Because the soul feels love- thats what it’s made up of, we’re not empty energy when we go.
thank you for reminding me of these values I discovered thru Ryan Holiday and practiced years ago at a depressing time in my life and stopped practicing them as life got "better". if I stuck to this mindset I would've picked myself up sooner. either way I'm glad I came across your video. it spoke life back into me! subbed
This was like therapy, I’m addicted to video games, depressed and overweight plus I have adhd and I’m suffering immensely. I find it hard to get out of bed every single day. I’m listening to TH-cam videos as a way to help shift my mindset and something really struck a chord with me in the last minute of this, I started crying all of a sudden. I feel like something has shifted so thank you. 😊
I’m ngl. I clicked on this video because you’re absolutely beautiful. Grade A topic and discussion though. 💕
This gave me so much comfort in my heart. I’ve been. Trying to move forward in my life this way and this was even more confirmation for me to keep on the path. Thank you and I love you for sharing this message and how you feel.
Be a better doer of good deeds. Hell exists, be prepared to repent, or else. Have a relationship with God The Creator. KJV is the correct translation. Life is, but a vapor in the span of eternity! Last Days are happening now. Grow through learning lessons from others!
Wow you're amazing. This is lowkey how I think. I want to embody it though. Thank you so much I'm so glad I found you.
Mae: You are good, but: I think you should attribute videos like that in the future, just in case anyone said it was a copyright thing. Probably a mention and a link is good enough, I would say.
If I don't read Minds I hear voices. It am unsure who answers my questions when I speak to myself. And honestly I don't believe anyone else's answers.
“They want a reaction from me. They get nothing…. Well Actually yes they do, they the block and delete”
Yooooo this had me rolling 😂
Personally, I've had a different experience, and it also connects to me having different beliefs. I believe everything starts with matter. And then the complexities of the mind build from that. I've also had the same thing in my experience. Planning is rarely something that works for me. I can't control myself like that. I pay attention to the details, start doing, and let my intuition do its thing.
I'm not really interested in doing things in a way that doesn't work for me. For what?
very nice video but could you make it again with more concrete examples of how youve shifted your thinking/reactions to specific situations?
I love you! Thank you so much for sharing💗 I really enjoyed listening and gaining some wisdom along w it!
fierce it up more. i like det. and Get soft and dominant if you want as well too.
Imagine being Marcus Aurelius or any of the other stoics and seeing videos of beautiful feminine people talking about stoicism hundreds (thousands) of years in the future....I am also a stoicism girlie, I love this so much! Also you are GORGEOUS
I found this very helpful. Thanks for posting this video!
Some helpful information, but the second half just felt like a stream-of-consciousness ramble of platitudes and sound bites.
Every time someone feels not wanting to live anymore I say ok, is there anything you want to experience in this life? You can eat hamburger when you are dead. So maybe you go and eat that now.
I LOVE IT. -monita's chicken wangs
Love this and you. Just subscribed. Keep it up girl! 🤍🤍🤍
Wow, I’ve picked up so many people that have told me I’ve given them the greatest advice! As a driver we somehow become therapists lol
I believe my spirit guides are watching, I’ve been seeing a lot of angel numbers, and also I really needed to hear this, as someone who sometimes acts out of impulsively, and overthinks staying calm ofc was the best decision, I’ve been on my self healing journey.thanks for this helpful video
maaan it’s so hard to be kind in my environment when they’re always taking advantage when it comes to someone showing kindness. I’m hoping i’ll get out of this environment i’m currently in
Your tips are practical and easy to follow, and your positive energy makes it all so inspiring. Thank you for helping us simplify our lives and find more joy in the process!
genuine question
if we're not supposed to punch up or down, and we are no better than anyone else, and have no enemies... how can we follow it with "why would you want to be on the level of some dirty ass rats who bring you down" like around 6:20? thanks
❤❤ first off, I'm so glad you came across my youtube! New subbie! Loved this video. I've been feeling this way for a long time. Others don't understand why I do things the way i do. Personally, i don't care. ❤❤
one time this family i was living with, the son asked me for some advice so I said it like this “every emotion we experience, we are so lucky to be able to feel so it’s best not to take your feelings for granted, happiness, anger, grief, we are so lucky to be able to experience these feelings. Being human is an a amazing once in a lifetime experience ” so I loved hearing you say this it makes me realize that no matter what, my emotions are normal and I’m not craaaazy cause after I moved in with my family after this, I am experiencing so many emotions and now I realize I’m just getting a different human experience and it won’t last forever , hopefully
most people who can control reality with their mind would not choose to be lyft drivers - esp with all the traffic and road rage etc. just saying.
im sorry but my toxic narcissistic mother already corrupted my mind and soul that i get stuck every single time i got too comfortable with my self-doubt and anxiety that bettering myself is vain and thinking positive is wrong
The black cat sitting in the background 🥹🥹🥹🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻🖤🖤🖤
Off topic - but I love your make-up! Especially the eye make-up, can you make a tutorial on your yt/tiktok on how you did it? Also what is this make-up style called? Interesting topic and I loved watching this video! (ps: love your cat in the background, it so cute)
See I constantly want to be alone but then after a while all I want is to be with just a singular person but I never know who I’m wishing to be with.