We always work for better , tomorrow But , when tomorrow comes Instead of enjoying tomorrow, we again Think of better , tomorrow Let's have a better today
Is this what he says? Because if so, it’s really not true… The pain is not solved if the “solution” becomes an addiction. That’s why it’s addicting: the pain is still present to be solved.
@@TR-pd8zi Very true man, only way to solve the pain is to avoid "distraction(addiction)" chanel it into "traction(right way to encounter the pain)" it's the permanent solution.
T R What you said has nothing to do with original comment... Everything that solves some kind of pain (aka gives pleasure) is addictive... Addiction itslef may be different kind of pain, still It does not mean that the thing youre addicted does not give pleasure:) It does, even if youre addicted to It and that gives you pain.. So I believe you misunderstood the comment
its true, i have a treadmill in my room and i just dont know what this force within me is but it jus stops me from getting on it. I’ll get thru it doe hopefully
I employed a version of this when I quit smoking (cold turkey). I used a little mantra 'urges come & urges go' that was embedded in my 'heart'. When the urge hit it triggered that mantra (which is basically wait 10 minutes) & it worked every time & never another puff for 8 yrs so far. A form of this also worked when I lost 80 lbs 9 yrs ago & the weight never came back. I didn't go on a diet I changed my diet thus my thinking. That grey computer tween our ears is amazingly programmable if you want it to be.
@@pointythecactus5469 A distraction is something we do that moves us away from what we want to do. Traction is an action that moves us towards what we want to do. Or something like that.
Wow! So good! And proof is that you're here WITH THIS COMMENT to help someone else who needed to hear that they can heal as well. I feel your oneness with all in this moment. Thank you. 💗💥
I'm happy you're not hurting yourself anymore but i urge you to be careful. "I'll do it tomorrow" will one day catch up to you. Please contact someone specialized that may help you get to the root of your self-harm instead of delaying it.
Video starts at 8:27. To anyone in a rush or low attention spans, the main meat of this is to before you give into an urge you are trying to quit or dislike, wait ten minutes and think and discuss with yourself why you are doing this and what is making you feel this way, the emotional triggers that made you feel like doing the urge will fade away. It's a bit similar to "activating sage mode" if you know what I mean, but it kind of forces it out by taking a step back for ten minutes and observing, questioning and fulling absorbing what you are about to do, like pausing a game.
Most people won’t even realize this, but in these 10 minutes he spoke in this video, he told you more information about general mentality and mindset than you even realized. It’s also the same thing how depressions, social anxiety and sadness works. None of that is real, it’s just in our head, it’s in our head because the human drives set us all these things in our head that make us feel uncomfortable, depressed etc.. it’s our job to clear our mind and manifest things into it what we want to achieve and who we want to become. Once you realize the bigger picture, you’ll wonder why people even suffer things like that and you wonder if something is wrong with you. Till you realize that 90% of people aren’t able to control there mind and are manipulating themselves.. it’s hard to help people like that I always try but that’s something that you have to find out yourself in order to really realize.. anybody else ?
I thought I was crazy and not normal till I realized that I was able to see the bigger picture and I am glad that I am able to really see it. I wouldn’t be happy to be a robot like people who don’t see it and can’t control their own mind
It's funny people don't catch the double speak nonsense he's spouting. Pain avoidance and avoiding discomfort are essentially the same thing. If something is urgent it is inherently important. You can do something unimportant urgently (used as an adjective) but something that is urgent (used as a noun) is important by it's nature. He just gave a big carrot and stick analogy but started off by saying most people get it wrong by using that analogy. It's fluffy mean nothing acidemia speech for "I'm surreptitiously trying to sell a book of gobbbleygook". This guy is spouting flawed arguments, superficially correct in his reasoning, designed to deceive by using deceptive speech, caught in the act of obfuscating for deceptive purposes, slight objections and criticism about a trivial matter. The guy has a Masters degree in sophistry.
@@forposterity4031 Actually, the urgent vs important point he is making is a reference to a well-known concept usually found in business circles, google it :)
imagine you are an owner of a small restaurant with no staff. will you ignore your clients and rather focus on creating a long-term forecast to attract investors?
This video describes perfectly how I was feeling maybe 2 or 3 weeks ago, trying to run away of myself when the certain way is exactly the opposite of it, waiting for 10 minutes and then, carefully going to meet myself again. It's wonderful when we start to bring our feelings to the conscious mind. 🌟🌠
Still got a way ahead of myself, but here are my two thought helping me when good ol' distraction kicks in: 1) what do I really WANT? Is it that bar of chocolate, the next YT video or another look into Facebook? If so, then do it. When I'm searching for a HowTo or need music, then do it. But if those things don't help and I in truth want something different, then to this and not something that leads me even further astray. We have to accept that our superficial thoughts and urged are not always helpful. Sometimes they get quite messy, so we need to be good guys and help ourselves to follow our true intentions, the deeper onea. They are "me", those other thingies are usually the byproducts of said deeper, basal feelings. Like a tree. If you want to find the stem, don't just brushing the superficial twigs and branches. Look for the source, and follow this path. 2) it's okay to be lazy. We wouldn't like those physical or mental drugs if they had nothing good for us. So if I just NEED said bar of chocolate or nonsense YT vid, I allow myself. Because of the ricocheting effects like in the video, it's true as heck XD but also I watch myself doing it. I try to be really aware of myself doing the distraction. Is it good? Does it help and strengthen my true path, or is it just sugar for me moment leaving me dizzier and more exhausted than before? You get the idea. Thanks for reading and sorry for grammar mistakes^^ I wish you the best, folks. Always remember: you've got this, you have everything you need already inside you, you just have to find it and learn how to use it!
"When you're lonely, check facebook." And feel even more lonely because everyone else is starting families, and you're still struggling to figure out where you're supposed to be and who you are in this universe
You don’t have to do anything just because someone else is. Everyone’s journey is different. Some people get married at 20 and have a bunch of kids, some get married at 40 and have one kid ect. Do what you want, if you wanna start a business, start one. If you wanna be in a relationship be in one. If you want to just figure out what you’re doing, use your mind, ask yourself challenging questions and figure it out. Life isn’t a set path for anyone, you don’t have to do anything. Plus, you’re here watching this video which shows you do want to get better, and just from that know that you can get better. Take the time to do so :)
I don´t think that we are "supposed" to be anyone. We are who we choose to be, not who the world "expect" you to be. I have suffered from long term depression, and whenever i thought of doing something i was always thinking "What if it goes wrong" But one of the ways i managed to turn it around was instead asking my self "What if it goes right". If it goes right i get the job, i get the girl etc. Maybe start challenging your thought process, and instead of asking yourself where you belong, ask yourself where you want to belong.
Don't judge or compare your self to Facebook friends. How would feel if all your Facebook friends were millionaires by age 22? Everyone is on a different path and no one path is not worth living to over coming its challenges
I've been using this for my PTSD and panic attacks in 20 min intervals. It actually does work and I am thrilled to see that other people have realized it too. Just wait 10 to 20 mins and you'll feel differently. Sometimes you need another 10 to 20 mins but over time it becomes just one 10 to 20 min increment. Maybe eventually there will be no need to have a time increment at all.
I only picked this up which is enough: "Getting ahead in life is not just about doing the right thing. It about avoiding or not doing the wrong things".
@Samuel I feel your pain. It’s not easy to do things that could have a negative impact and say, oh ok, it’s all good! I am learning from this! We just don’t have enough time to do enough mistakes!!!
He actually said "avoiding not doing the wrong things" which means we should not just do the right things but 'do the wrong things'. pesky double negatives :)
I've always said that when trying to break any kind of habit or addiction to not be too hard on yourself if you slip up, otherwise you tell yourself you can't do it so may as well give up.
So true people nowadays find happiness in materialistic things and truly they don't like like them themselves they like it because other people do I wish the world was run by the people not rich immoral governments or cults
will first be achieved when you end the persuit of happiness. what is needed is to find balance with all your state of mind, because by persuing happiness as an ultimate ideal you stigmatize sadness and pain as useless. you can not be happy without being sad. so when you accpt that it is good to be sad, you will be able to also be happy.
@@Grøntommel Ying and yang Claus one foot in chaos one foot in calm, too much of either your perfect balance can never be achieved. No-one can appreciate true happiness if they have never had great sorrow . The journey is continuous the greatest battle will always be within. Much love for your understanding
There was a phone brand tha made phones to can only send and receive text messages, calls and alarm clock. That was it. I wanted to buy one but unfortunately, they were just a start-up and I do not remember their name. Luckily I do not use my cell phone at all. I am considering myself fortunate to not being addicted to my phone. One thing that is really helpful I am buying cheap dumb cell phones that are so bad and limited the only thing I can do is text to my wife and call for other uses other things they can drive you crazy they are so slow they are complete junk. This helps a lot. I cut out FB and I use only YT. That is all.No other social media.
@Raylon Bender Rodriguez LOL I am not a boomer. I am working with computers all day long so I hate any other electronic device. If I start using other electronic devices after using computers My entire day will be occupied by fucking dumb electronics. About social media, I am not interested in other people's bullshit.
The comments make up the consensus, opinions and views most the time I pause the video 1st to read the comments to see if the video is worth it or truthful by assessment ! We're not in this world alone even though you is all you got...much wouldn't matter if no-one was around to critique and criticize nor would you even feel any emotions because you need and look for reaction..that is purpose !
They did a study on mice and found that when a mouse was devoid of dopamine altogether, the mouse would literally just sit there until it died. It wouldn’t eat even when food was right beside it. It wouldn’t do anything. And in this age of technology which perpetuates increasingly dramatic dopamine addictions I think it’s vital we know about these kinds of things. There’s also a term (can’t remember what it’s called) but it’s when you repeatedly get on technology for extended periods of times over and over, and eventually you can’t get adequate dopamine responses from normal things. So you’re sort of numb to the world, and you do not find pleasure in normal things in life. Pretty scary stuff. Also one more dopamine fun fact : when you do something that gives you a dopamine response your neuro-connections for the actions you took preceding the dopamine response are reinforced based on the amount of dopamine released, and the actions you took *closest* to that dopamine response are reinforced more so than previous ones. So with any kind of addiction, the actions you’re taking leading up to and including the dopamine response , the more you’re literally hardwired to have these eventually become so fundamental to your core that it feels instinctual. This is a MAJOR reason drug addiction (or any addiction) is so devastating. (I’ve been clean 3 years now so I know first hand)
Good job.iv3 been clean for awhile now too and have absolute zero want or thought or any need at all to return to the shit I wasted so much of my life on and was completely in love with.heroin is a fucking government snare and it's almost a permanent problem because 8 honestly cannot believe thelat I got clean at all.it took me 18 years to get clean.18 fucking long fucking years ..omg.im a moron for even trying it.damn that shit and every single gard drug in the whole world.
you arent wrong, im a recovered addict too, i still catch myself playing with items that i would usually use during my “routine” back when I was doing bad. It actually genuinely frustrates me that I still have the framework of this habit in my mind, and that it will probably never go away.
I really put myself in the mice's position a bit too hard there. I made so many connections with myself based off the video and this comment. I'm glad I found this video and thank you for posting your comment, it has actually helped me in a weird, curiosity driven way
It all boils down to what my dad taught me and I taught my kids.. Discipline.. a disciplined mind can do anything.. (Respect, a respectful person will gain respect.. Then a positive mental attitude, which will help make you a happy person and finally leave them laughing.. Leave a person with a smile on there face and leave them in a better place then you found them)
@@Infamous1424v That is because you do not understand what it means. To be disciplined it means that you over come adversity, improvise in times of need and adapt to your surroundings in a way that brings strength and calmness to those around you.. At 70 years of age I have had my crushing moments in my life also.. But I also was determined not to let those moments define for me who I am.. Yes those time are hard and in private moments you grieve. But just moments and when they have passed they are passed and laid down. There is nothing you can do to change it, accept it and move on.. that is discipline. Living in the past will stunt you emotional growth and hold you back from being the person you want to be.. We are born as many men but die as only one.. your choice.. It will be ok brother.. you will become the man you want to be.. Just remember these words and in 10 or 15 years look back to see it all..
@@pb3392 So true my brother.. The worst part in now at 70 sometimes I feel I lack that old discipline at times and it takes a little struggle to get it back.. Getting old is a very interesting thing.. So much different then when I was young look at it from the outside. Carry on!
I’m getting ready to quit smoking again and I’m gonna try this. I quit for two years. I do t really know / can’t pinpoint why or when I started again but I need to stop.
@@evrettej Just quit after 40 years. Out of nowhere a big vein from my heart got blocked and my leg hardly has any energy and a toe went black. Do it before you have to! Not having them in the house was the final trick for me. Get someone to hold them and give you a couple a day, until you ready for total stopping. Stopping isn't really that hard; it's just that carrying on and having another is just so easy. This vid did help me a lot I think.
@@Trowblood wow. Thank you for sharing that actually helps. I have 2 kidos and I want to be around for them to grow up. I will take what you said to heart.🙏🏾
I agree,wish I never picked em up,should've stayed in church and not allow myself to believe the lie that this world has something to offer,it doesnt..give me Jesus
Once you learn to peacefully "do nothing " it is a stimulation. It feels amazing to just relax and let go...let your mind wonder & your body & mind & spirit rest
I literally JUST tossed out a brand new pack of cigarettes because I want to finally be DONE with smoking! And then... This video pops up. A million times...thank you. I truly feel like this is going to work for me. ❤🙏😊
@@kremzupa_69 Unfortunately....I slipped up shortly thereafter lol. But bringing me back to this video was a great reminder so thank you for commenting! Going to give it another go! 🤞😁
@Heyall I quit 2 years ago. It was tough but I feel so much better. I decided I was going to die before my daughter (3yrs old) graduated high school if I kept smoking. All of the sudden smoking didn't seem that important.
ashish yadav Well, it's simple and not. If choice = fate, then what fate will you choose? Don't second guess yourself. Suddenly have an urge to do something new, you do it. Suddenly want to end something, you do it. It's not so much control, as it is self guidance.
ashish yadav Your answer is inside of passion. Something tells me that your experience has become less than human. What you study, does it fill you with energy? If not, start exploring things you've never done but wanted to do. For me, I was stuck. My depression lead to me being homeless, and so rather than being in a suicide mind set, I chose to travel. Since then, I have done things that the locals haven't done their whole lives, such as gold prospecting. It's in this quest for what speaks to my inner joy, that I forgot my suicidal thoughts. Another tip, death is an important signal for you mind from your body. Thinking on a very raw primal level, yes, death of the current movement/lack there of, can be just effective as being born again, as you start to learn, like you did as a baby. Growth isn't comfortable. But without it, we feel less than human.
The only way to succeed is by getting uncomfortable 💯 spend more time getting to know yourself and by being alone! I did it this weekend by turning off all social media/email notifications and now I have created my very own PODCAST 🔥🔥 & I also got to know my son a bit more too it’s beautiful to spend time getting to know YOURSELF without distractions ❤️
I've been practicing this for 19+ years now. Granted, I'm doing it as meditative practice at times up to 30+ minutes. This practice is to observe until whatever sensation or object's true nature is revealed. This is what Patanjali was talking about in his Yoga Aphorisms and reveals the real, the unreal, and the really unreal.
I smoke because I’m lonely. I smoke because I’m bored. I smoke because it comforts me. I smoke because I could. Sometimes I don’t want to smoke but I still do. I’m just happy I found this 10 minute rule which I’m going to apply because my smoking habit is ridiculous now. I have upgraded from buying packs to buying cartoons
Do things with intention. This is beautiful. I broke my ankle a few weeks back, and have been trying to cope with pain that I never thought I could experience. Applying the concept "become curious" can be applied to addictions, poor behaviors and the like is a beautiful way of thinking.
Lol, yep. And I was just about to abandon the video at the point when he said ‘we know how to do these things, the problem is we don’t follow through.’ 😊
Feels like youtube can read my mind ... Had seen this video around 5-6 months ago, and something reminded me of this today and thought of searching for this again. And miraculously, it's on my youtube feed when I'm casually scrolling..
This was actually helpful. I'm desperate to sweep my every habit off the table. The problem is that I have full control. I have to stage a breakout from the prison I built,in my own mind. "All things excellent are by nature both difficult and rare.". -Spinoza
Most people suffer from: “One day i’ll..... “ Hope everyone reading this will reach their full potential! Have an amazing and healthy new year everyone!
Time management is pain management... So don't pass the Tylenol just reset the clock... Even if everyone else is on tomorrow already... 🤯🤤🧐 *I tried this... Doesn't work*
Back in 2005 I quit smoking, doing something similar. I smoked my last cigarette as late as I could stay up, because I had to work in the morning. Then I set my alarm for a bit later than I normally would. I drove truck at the time, so when I woke up, I just promised myself, if I just got the truck rolling and headed down the road for a bit, then I would stop and buy a pack. I kept doing this, promising to buy a pack at the next available stop, for the next two weeks or so. I haven't smoked since.
@Heloise O'Byrne Hey, good luck. I tried the gum and just ended up smoking while I was using the gum, haha. It is definitely difficult to quit. And fair warning, I have struggled a bit with weight since I quit.
Vipasanna meditation taught by gautam buddha is about observing sensation- pain or pleasure without any judgement which slowly cleanses our chitta which is convulated because of our past karma or doings.. They teach you that in between input of an environment(stimuli) and output(discomfort,for eg), there is a sensation which is responsible for the discomfort. If you become conscious of it and just observe, you are slowly erasing those self generated or subconsciously generated output from your system gradually but this require immense discipline and sadhana(work).
Can you explain exactly what you did in that 10 minutes? I don't understand the video when he said to be curious about that sensation. I don't know how this helps.
"Getting ahead in life is not just about doing the right things, it's about avoiding not doing the wrong things." Not to be overly critical, but you have a multiple negative going. It would be either, '…avoiding doing the wrong things,' or, '…not doing the wrong things,' not, "avoiding not doing the wrong things." You don't want to avoid not doing the wrong thing. That would mean your goal is to do the wrong thing.
@Scotty miller Your argument, it seems to me, is that your misinterpretation of the sentense gives you guidance. My argument is purely semantic, the double-negative in the sentense ACTUALLY gives it the opposite meaning he intends, and you wrongly interpret.
@@RBZ-1 Your argument, it seems to me, is that your misinterpretation of the sentense gives you guidance. My argument is purely semantic, the double-negative in the sentense ACTUALLY gives it the opposite meaning he intends, and you wrongly interpret.
@@tomcondon6169 it's not my interpretation. I raised an eyebrow as soon as he said it. I only offered another way of looking at the sentence as in afraid to take action and afraid to do something that might go wrong. We learn and grow from mistakes and sometimes rolling the dice and knowingly taking the risk of making a mistake can pay off as opposed to avoiding making a mistake...one does not play it safe and in a way, avoids not making a mistake
This is the best motivation video I have watched! I think if you don’t understand this no other video or advice will work for you. If you don’t understand this video and take the advice nothing will work
I'm watching this video at work ....therefore this video is the distracting me but teaching me how to not be distracted ..by distracting me .........life..
Don't fight it then. Distractions are there for a reason. I can't explain this in words but I happen to know it in my mind. No really. I can really be a big help for all of us. I know certain things but I can't explain it in words. I have the tendency to share what I know from within with others. I just need to learn on how to it share with others so they could understand at their current level of consciousness.
I've been watching a lot of videos and podcasts about procrastination and productivity. This is the best one Period. Please trust me, I want you all to be the best version of yourself!
in some jobs - checking and replying emails is their main job, and would say - i wish i worked only on projects and didn't have to look all day at emails
Do not give up . Always keep moving forward. There is always a chance that you will stumble upon something extraordinary. No one has ever tripped over anything while seated. I pray that God gives you the strength to carry on through the trials
Be the master of your own image rather than letting others define it for you. Your power will be enhanced and your character will seem larger than life.
That are really facts. Cause I was drawing by the effect of the technologies. My spiritual connection is my priority and attraction of what I need for life. I'm having a good life now.
That's your conscious mind thinking but your unconscious mind feels really uncomfortable doing nothing, This is the reason alot of people create drama all the time, thats just to give you an example.. ppl with no purpose.
So while this gentleman was talking about DISTRACTIONS, youtube decide to present me with one of their own. A 5 minute ad for a car I now realize I probably can't afford because honestly, I'm here cause I'm broke AF. Probably most of us. TH-cam also didn't remember what video I was watching when I backed out of the ad because my history didn't have the video I was just watching so I had to back track through 8 other videos I think I saw, basically going through all my mood swings for the last hour, to get back to this video to leave this comment. Also thanks for the 46min ad you snuck into the last 10min video I saw. I'm sure the content creator didnt mind his hard work taking a back seat to an ad, that I can guarantee, won't get to point quickly to Identify what company that was. 46min ad. Wow. Anyway truly great video.
I eat to get away from discomfort, then I gain weight from eating and eat more to distract myself for realising I'm gaining weight. From tomorrow Monday 18/11/2019 I will only eat when I'm hungry.
@murad panjwani I went to a nutrition doctor, started moving more and sometimes working out . I can say 80% is nutrition. I had a lot of support from girlfriend and friends . I cut some unhealthy habits. There is no magic. We can all do it. It is psychological. Good luck.
When I quit smoking I was starting a 2week vacation . I owned horses and a friend invited me to stable my horses on his farm in exchange for fixing the barn , stalls , fences , and caring for his horse minus his horse expenses ! I agreed and every day I worked from sun up to sun down ! If I took a break and started to think about having a cigarette , I would get back to work so as NOT to think about smoking ! By the end of the 2 weeks the farm looked great and I stopped thinking about smoking forever ! I will never go back to smoking and I never think about doing so ! If I used the 10 minute rule , I would probably still be smoking ! Avoid bad habits by not engaging in the thought of the bad habit !
You know what you’re saying reminds me of King Solomon, who had everything, power, position, wealth, favour, his experiment discovered = “I have concluded that there is nothing better for them(mankind) than to rejoice and do good during their life, also that everyone should eat and drink and find enjoyment for all his hard work. It is the gift of God. Ecclesiastes 3:12,13 The conclusion of the matter, everything having been heard, is: Fear the true God and keep his commandments, for this is the whole obligation of man” Ecclesiastes 12:13... we need purpose, that’s how we’re designed. without it, we seek it somewhere but can’t get the satisfaction of fulfilment without fulfilling our obligation to our creator, Jehovah God. 😍
When it comes to food 10mn doesn’t work instead I said to who ever proposing the Cake to leave it for me till tomorrow. After that I would have already forgotten about it I use it and it works
Right! I mean, this guy just said that the primary motivation is some form of avoidance of pain and the pursuit of pleasure (the freudian principle), but neurologically it's avoidance of discomfort and pursuit of comfort. Is that some form of the freudian principle as well?
Interesting to read so many comments that don't refer to the technique described in the video. This suggests people didn't get that far. The technique is for handling compulsive urges and is described from 8:05. Before that, the speaker convincingly lays the groundwork for his conclusions. Try it.
I try this technique with a bottle of red vine. First, i open the bottle, then I analyse it and reflect on it with curiosity for 10 minutes, but after that i feel a tremendous urge to drink it and then i just couldn't resist and i drank all the bottle. I think is a flow in my technique !!! Tomorrow when i will open my next bottle of vine , i will try again !
Someone said to me " it's not what you say it's what you do " and somehow it clicked with me and i just suddenly understood why i did the things i did and you just described it completly i was always finding an excuse and something to blame for my actions after i understood the reason i did the things i did i quit drinking and i quit druggs because i understood i just used them as an excuse to escape problems or situations that didnt made me feel happy instead of solving them basicly got tired of giving bullshit to myself everyday and everything in my life just started to improve you basicly described it in this video and thank you for this you just motivated me more because you just gave me more clarity .
Everything is connected. We are a bio organism of earth, do things that help others. Every time we do this it makes you feel good. When it’s Christmas why is it that you feel better when you watch someone open a present, it always makes you feel better than when you receive one.
I’ve actually used that “10 minutes” rule, or a variation, without even realizing it was a known “concept”. For example, sometimes when I’m craving for some special food, I just think to myself: “Tomorrow, not today.” And eventually, it goes away.
It works even better if the item or technology isn't just out there. My main vices are things that are relatively benign. They aren't going to directly kill me or destroy my life, but over time they just cause me to waste it and have a tough time sleeping. I prefer to keep these things out of sight so that they stay out of mind more easily. The item itself can become a cue to using it and that can become a bit of a self-reinforcing cycle.
WOW!!! The 10 minute rule and reflecting really does make a ton of sense. This was so great! And, it's great to learn about things that may be addictive. Thank you for this!!!
If you go with this idea of sacrificing the present for the future you will never live your life totally. You will always sacrificing today for tomorrow and tomorrow for day after tomorrow and the cycle continues. And then one day you'll be on the death bed wondering what was all this sacrificing for.
Not to be argumentative but, that has to be the worst advice ever. Philosophers and spiritual teachers for thousands of years say exactly the opposite. How about, "be in the present so that you are creating a better future?". Afterall, now is all we have and all of our decision making ability is now. All personal power and all decisions made happen right now in the present. No miserable road leads a person to the land of happiness in the future. Be happy now on your way to more peace, prosperity and happiness. Just my opinion.
@@KP09101 it's about balance right? without a little sacrifice there is no present to enjoy when you don't have your shit together. just go with the flow and enjoy it, but don't waste your life and opportunities away.
@@M0RPHOBIA I get where you're coming from but my foundational beliefs differ some. To each his or her own. 😀 I do believe that by going within we find a vibrational state that inspires us to do the right things. No one can resist following their inspiration. It simply feels good. In this way no present moment ever need be sacrificed and one could thrive in all times. Just my opinion anyways.
We always work for better , tomorrow
But , when tomorrow comes
Instead of enjoying tomorrow, we again
Think of better , tomorrow
Let's have a better today
That's what life is about living in the moment
Or, let's MAKE it a better day. 🤠
If i constantly watch motovational vids, I forget to enjoy the day.
Thanks for the reminder
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@@np9966 under and over motivation are no good
I think motivation comes from within.
No you are too old and all the money you stashed away you are going to spend it on doctors and medication 😂🤣
"Anything that solves pain is addicting in nature" is absolutely true. Hands down.
Is this what he says? Because if so, it’s really not true… The pain is not solved if the “solution” becomes an addiction. That’s why it’s addicting: the pain is still present to be solved.
@@TR-pd8zi Very true man, only way to solve the pain is to avoid "distraction(addiction)" chanel it into "traction(right way to encounter the pain)" it's the permanent solution.
T R What you said has nothing to do with original comment... Everything that solves some kind of pain (aka gives pleasure) is addictive... Addiction itslef may be different kind of pain, still It does not mean that the thing youre addicted does not give pleasure:) It does, even if youre addicted to It and that gives you pain.. So I believe you misunderstood the comment
Every comment I see is some quote you agree with that’s not really true.
I solved my 38 YEARS OF PAINFUL LEG ULCERS.
Mahir Reign
What you said you read and regurgitated it. It’s utterly meaningless and devoid of anything that resembles helpfulness.
“The hardest part, is starting”- idk where I heard it but I live by that. Hope it effects you.
The hardest step a man can take is the second.
He said browsing TH-cam videos
Agreed. Even if poorly, just start. We can usually fix a mistake. We cannot fix inaction
As a mechanic, I say this daily about motors. Never realized how true is is for people until now. Thanks Vick. I'll remember this.
its true, i have a treadmill in my room and i just dont know what this force within me is but it jus stops me from getting on it. I’ll get thru it doe hopefully
I employed a version of this when I quit smoking (cold turkey). I used a little mantra 'urges come & urges go' that was embedded in my 'heart'. When the urge hit it triggered that mantra (which is basically wait 10 minutes) & it worked every time & never another puff for 8 yrs so far. A form of this also worked when I lost 80 lbs 9 yrs ago & the weight never came back. I didn't go on a diet I changed my diet thus my thinking. That grey computer tween our ears is amazingly programmable if you want it to be.
Thank you for sharing! I needed to see this 🙏💜
Terry Tannatt Thank you for your inspiring comment! I love it!💚✨
What grey computer tween?
That's powerful!
I stopped smoking 30 stick/day on 04.04.2019 and never again started.
This is literally the BEST information I've ever heard on distraction and addiction. I am beyond grateful for TH-cam's algorithm right now. Lol
does it work in long term
So true
@Martien de Jong lmaooo. i'm crossing my 1000th time myself.
@@MzSoulll same here
@Martien de Jong ...same over here
How have I never realized until now that the opposite of distraction is traction?
This man is a genius!
What's the meaning of traction.i googled. Didn't understood your point. I believe what you are saying can be helpful to me.
I thought I was the only dumbass that just realized this lol
@@pointythecactus5469 A distraction is something we do that moves us away from what we want to do. Traction is an action that moves us towards what we want to do. Or something like that.
Same thought I had when I heard it
@@pointythecactus5469 traction like a car keep it on track. Go
This way of thinking has “cured” my self harm addiction. When the urges came I told myself “I’ll do it tomorrow” not counting the days just “tomorrow”
Proud of you and so happy this works !
Wow! So good! And proof is that you're here WITH THIS COMMENT to help someone else who needed to hear that they can heal as well. I feel your oneness with all in this moment. Thank you. 💗💥
Maybe i will give this a shot along with rediscovering my religion that i slept on and also AA
I'm happy you're not hurting yourself anymore but i urge you to be careful. "I'll do it tomorrow" will one day catch up to you.
Please contact someone specialized that may help you get to the root of your self-harm instead of delaying it.
yeah you're still a kid you really have no idea what you're saying
Me: *Has work
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Also me: Let me quickly watch 10 more motivational videos on how to beat procrastination
Wouldn't this also means you are on the "shamer" side, looking for something to fix you?
@@mevebelanger Touche
Do it after 10 minutes? 😂
We have to stop this madness
@@mevebelanger that's the joke
Video starts at 8:27. To anyone in a rush or low attention spans, the main meat of this is to before you give into an urge you are trying to quit or dislike, wait ten minutes and think and discuss with yourself why you are doing this and what is making you feel this way, the emotional triggers that made you feel like doing the urge will fade away. It's a bit similar to "activating sage mode" if you know what I mean, but it kind of forces it out by taking a step back for ten minutes and observing, questioning and fulling absorbing what you are about to do, like pausing a game.
Your addicted to life hacks
Saved 8 min thax
Thank you! I stopped watching at 3:01 😂
thank you
MVP😊
Most people won’t even realize this, but in these 10 minutes he spoke in this video, he told you more information about general mentality and mindset than you even realized. It’s also the same thing how depressions, social anxiety and sadness works. None of that is real, it’s just in our head, it’s in our head because the human drives set us all these things in our head that make us feel uncomfortable, depressed etc.. it’s our job to clear our mind and manifest things into it what we want to achieve and who we want to become. Once you realize the bigger picture, you’ll wonder why people even suffer things like that and you wonder if something is wrong with you. Till you realize that 90% of people aren’t able to control there mind and are manipulating themselves.. it’s hard to help people like that I always try but that’s something that you have to find out yourself in order to really realize.. anybody else ?
I thought I was crazy and not normal till I realized that I was able to see the bigger picture and I am glad that I am able to really see it. I wouldn’t be happy to be a robot like people who don’t see it and can’t control their own mind
you sound like a certain psyche idea to deny trauma. i mean we would have less rape issues and war trauma if people just realize its in their head.
@Jamie ah, let me explain how a **comment** section works:
@Jamie you commenting on that even more so...
School gets us off to a dismal start as far as really learning how to live life .
Just saying
U know I am very lazy ,
Today onwards ( November 17 ) I will listen to this and I will update u on January 1st..
I will really change my behaviour...
@@arnas2121
Thank you
Good for you
His telling you to meditate. Because that gives you focus so u not bored with yourself
Hey.. I view it as a new year's resolutions ahead of the game... This however is how to unlock in keeping them :)
I'm going to hold you on that
9 out of 10 people in the montage: Looking off sadly into the distance and reflecting on the self-improvement videos on TH-cam.
Took him so long to get to the point that I got distracted and didn't catch the solution. Going to have to watch it again.
Jarin Xeno
Same
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Me too. Rewatching sounds like discomfort...I’m just scrolling the comments too see if anyone summarized it for me 😂
@@Advcrazy lol same here
This actually happened to me. So I forced myself to watch the whole thing. Giving in to the 10 minute rule.
Let yourself be comfortable outside your comfort zone.
--> expand your comfort zone by working through the triggers
It’s wonderful inside one’s comfort zone....but nothing ever grows there
I'll let the universe to work for me playdoh
One can never be truly comfortable with discomfort, by definition, what we can do is start to enjoy it
Impossible. Let yourself be uncomfortable in your confort zone.
"We are slaves to the urgent at the sacrifice of the important." I felt that
It's funny people don't catch the double speak nonsense he's spouting. Pain avoidance and avoiding discomfort are essentially the same thing. If something is urgent it is inherently important. You can do something unimportant urgently (used as an adjective) but something that is urgent (used as a noun) is important by it's nature. He just gave a big carrot and stick analogy but started off by saying most people get it wrong by using that analogy. It's fluffy mean nothing acidemia speech for "I'm surreptitiously trying to sell a book of gobbbleygook". This guy is spouting flawed arguments, superficially correct in his reasoning, designed to deceive by using deceptive speech, caught in the act of obfuscating for deceptive purposes, slight objections and criticism about a trivial matter. The guy has a Masters degree in sophistry.
@@forposterity4031 Actually, the urgent vs important point he is making is a reference to a well-known concept usually found in business circles, google it :)
Both of you guys are right. I left a like on both comments
@@forposterity4031 But does the 10 minute rule work?
Business productivity....
I like this line " we are slaves of the urgent at the cost of important ".
So do I Sir!
imagine you are an owner of a small restaurant with no staff. will you ignore your clients and rather focus on creating a long-term forecast to attract investors?
👍
@@XAE_A_Xii Something tells me you missed the whole point.
The last two minutes of this video, is the most important.
thankyiu
Thank you
Thanks!
Thanks.
Me seeing thumbnail: "hey I'm a smoker and I'm lazy"
My exact thought to lol
same lmao
@@CrystalBallIntervention I read your reply 10 minutes ago, now I'm off for a smoke.
Looks like we're related bro
I feel personally attacked
This video describes perfectly how I was feeling maybe 2 or 3 weeks ago, trying to run away of myself when the certain way is exactly the opposite of it, waiting for 10 minutes and then, carefully going to meet myself again.
It's wonderful when we start to bring our feelings to the conscious mind. 🌟🌠
Still got a way ahead of myself, but here are my two thought helping me when good ol' distraction kicks in:
1) what do I really WANT? Is it that bar of chocolate, the next YT video or another look into Facebook? If so, then do it. When I'm searching for a HowTo or need music, then do it. But if those things don't help and I in truth want something different, then to this and not something that leads me even further astray. We have to accept that our superficial thoughts and urged are not always helpful. Sometimes they get quite messy, so we need to be good guys and help ourselves to follow our true intentions, the deeper onea. They are "me", those other thingies are usually the byproducts of said deeper, basal feelings. Like a tree. If you want to find the stem, don't just brushing the superficial twigs and branches. Look for the source, and follow this path.
2) it's okay to be lazy. We wouldn't like those physical or mental drugs if they had nothing good for us. So if I just NEED said bar of chocolate or nonsense YT vid, I allow myself. Because of the ricocheting effects like in the video, it's true as heck XD but also I watch myself doing it. I try to be really aware of myself doing the distraction. Is it good? Does it help and strengthen my true path, or is it just sugar for me moment leaving me dizzier and more exhausted than before? You get the idea.
Thanks for reading and sorry for grammar mistakes^^
I wish you the best, folks. Always remember: you've got this, you have everything you need already inside you, you just have to find it and learn how to use it!
"When you're lonely, check facebook."
And feel even more lonely because everyone else is starting families, and you're still struggling to figure out where you're supposed to be and who you are in this universe
You don’t have to do anything just because someone else is. Everyone’s journey is different. Some people get married at 20 and have a bunch of kids, some get married at 40 and have one kid ect. Do what you want, if you wanna start a business, start one. If you wanna be in a relationship be in one. If you want to just figure out what you’re doing, use your mind, ask yourself challenging questions and figure it out. Life isn’t a set path for anyone, you don’t have to do anything. Plus, you’re here watching this video which shows you do want to get better, and just from that know that you can get better. Take the time to do so :)
I don´t think that we are "supposed" to be anyone. We are who we choose to be, not who the world "expect" you to be. I have suffered from long term depression, and whenever i thought of doing something i was always thinking "What if it goes wrong" But one of the ways i managed to turn it around was instead asking my self "What if it goes right".
If it goes right i get the job, i get the girl etc.
Maybe start challenging your thought process, and instead of asking yourself where you belong, ask yourself where you want to belong.
No facebook for me
haha. this gave me a good laugh thanks :D
Don't judge or compare your self to Facebook friends. How would feel if all your Facebook friends were millionaires by age 22? Everyone is on a different path and no one path is not worth living to over coming its challenges
I've been using this for my PTSD and panic attacks in 20 min intervals. It actually does work and I am thrilled to see that other people have realized it too. Just wait 10 to 20 mins and you'll feel differently. Sometimes you need another 10 to 20 mins but over time it becomes just one 10 to 20 min increment. Maybe eventually there will be no need to have a time increment at all.
Acceptance. The new wave in therapy practices, worked for me as well!
Thanks a lot, and for those who never got the point start from 9:53
Thank me later, if this helped please like
I don't get that part can someone please explain it to me
Bless you ❤
😁
Thank u!
@@ByMariaSimon uhm, set a timer for 10 minutes and hold your gut, according to this, you will lose that sensation
I only picked this up which is enough:
"Getting ahead in life is not just about doing the right thing. It about avoiding or not doing the wrong things".
@Samuel I feel your pain.
It’s not easy to do things that could have a negative impact and say, oh ok, it’s all good! I am learning from this!
We just don’t have enough time to do enough mistakes!!!
He actually said "avoiding not doing the wrong things" which means we should not just do the right things but 'do the wrong things'. pesky double negatives :)
Best TH-cam video I've been "distracted" by in awhile... defining the cause and effect of distraction.. genius!
I've always said that when trying to break any kind of habit or addiction to not be too hard on yourself if you slip up, otherwise you tell yourself you can't do it so may as well give up.
The pursuit of happiness will never be achieved until you realise it's always within you.
So true people nowadays find happiness in materialistic things and truly they don't like like them themselves they like it because other people do I wish the world was run by the people not rich immoral governments or cults
will first be achieved when you end the persuit of happiness. what is needed is to find balance with all your state of mind, because by persuing happiness as an ultimate ideal you stigmatize sadness and pain as useless. you can not be happy without being sad.
so when you accpt that it is good to be sad, you will be able to also be happy.
@@Grøntommel Ying and yang Claus one foot in chaos one foot in calm, too much of either your perfect balance can never be achieved. No-one can appreciate true happiness if they have never had great sorrow . The journey is continuous the greatest battle will always be within. Much love for your understanding
I think I pooped mine out
@@kleautvieul7908 😂
My wife: Take out the trash
Me: Can’t, watching a motivational video on how to not be lazy
Why can't SHE take out the trash...
@@nunyabizness199 🤨 I’m pretty sure you’d both throw stuff into the trashcan so ur both responsible
🤣🤣🤣
@@mente3810 Are you like, a crazy person ?
@@nunyabizness199 who knows.. I like Mente
This is by far, the most useful and life changing video posted on TH-cam
Know yourself
To change yourself
Most distraction is being on our phones
holmes p17 sadly
Even some people while watching this video is distracted and scroll through comments.
There was a phone brand tha made phones to can only send and receive text messages, calls and alarm clock. That was it. I wanted to buy one but unfortunately, they were just a start-up and I do not remember their name.
Luckily I do not use my cell phone at all. I am considering myself fortunate to not being addicted to my phone. One thing that is really helpful I am buying cheap dumb cell phones that are so bad and limited the only thing I can do is text to my wife and call for other uses other things they can drive you crazy they are so slow they are complete junk. This helps a lot.
I cut out FB and I use only YT. That is all.No other social media.
Hello, guys, I found the brand.
this is the phone if you are interested.
www.thelightphone.com/
@Raylon Bender Rodriguez LOL I am not a boomer. I am working with computers all day long so I hate any other electronic device. If I start using other electronic devices after using computers My entire day will be occupied by fucking dumb electronics.
About social media, I am not interested in other people's bullshit.
I've seen this video in my recommendations for 3 days and I finally decided to watch, and I'm so glad I did!
"Everything you want in life, is sitting on the outside of your comfort zone" - Unknown
Truth
No its not.
So true ! I'd like to sit in a volcano ! Wait...
Actually no...
@@anthonypolonkay2681 ok polonkayyyyyy
What happens when all the things you want in life are in your comfort zone? Is it time to die then?
The most distraction things is scrolling down this comment.
Ha clever
The comments make up the consensus, opinions and views most the time I pause the video 1st to read the comments to see if the video is worth it or truthful by assessment ! We're not in this world alone even though you is all you got...much wouldn't matter if no-one was around to critique and criticize nor would you even feel any emotions because you need and look for reaction..that is purpose !
Fuck
Shit. Lol
Ang Mundo ko scrolled down, saw your comment. Scrolled up, and scrolled back down to Write this : clever! I needed that. 😂 thanks man.
They did a study on mice and found that when a mouse was devoid of dopamine altogether, the mouse would literally just sit there until it died. It wouldn’t eat even when food was right beside it. It wouldn’t do anything. And in this age of technology which perpetuates increasingly dramatic dopamine addictions I think it’s vital we know about these kinds of things.
There’s also a term (can’t remember what it’s called) but it’s when you repeatedly get on technology for extended periods of times over and over, and eventually you can’t get adequate dopamine responses from normal things. So you’re sort of numb to the world, and you do not find pleasure in normal things in life. Pretty scary stuff.
Also one more dopamine fun fact : when you do something that gives you a dopamine response your neuro-connections for the actions you took preceding the dopamine response are reinforced based on the amount of dopamine released, and the actions you took *closest* to that dopamine response are reinforced more so than previous ones.
So with any kind of addiction, the actions you’re taking leading up to and including the dopamine response , the more you’re literally hardwired to have these eventually become so fundamental to your core that it feels instinctual. This is a MAJOR reason drug addiction (or any addiction) is so devastating. (I’ve been clean 3 years now so I know first hand)
ANHEDONIA.just may be your word.
Good job.iv3 been clean for awhile now too and have absolute zero want or thought or any need at all to return to the shit I wasted so much of my life on and was completely in love with.heroin is a fucking government snare and it's almost a permanent problem because 8 honestly cannot believe thelat I got clean at all.it took me 18 years to get clean.18 fucking long fucking years ..omg.im a moron for even trying it.damn that shit and every single gard drug in the whole world.
you arent wrong, im a recovered addict too, i still catch myself playing with items that i would usually use during my “routine” back when I was doing bad. It actually genuinely frustrates me that I still have the framework of this habit in my mind, and that it will probably never go away.
I really put myself in the mice's position a bit too hard there. I made so many connections with myself based off the video and this comment. I'm glad I found this video and thank you for posting your comment, it has actually helped me in a weird, curiosity driven way
I think it's called hedonic adaptation. And indeed it's scary.
I really love these kind of videos, I always put them on my watch later list to then go watch random shit on YT.
It all boils down to what my dad taught me and I taught my kids.. Discipline.. a disciplined mind can do anything.. (Respect, a respectful person will gain respect.. Then a positive mental attitude, which will help make you a happy person and finally leave them laughing.. Leave a person with a smile on there face and leave them in a better place then you found them)
I was disciplined and all it took was one bad moment in life to make feel not want to do anything but die
@@Infamous1424v That is because you do not understand what it means. To be disciplined it means that you over come adversity, improvise in times of need and adapt to your surroundings in a way that brings strength and calmness to those around you.. At 70 years of age I have had my crushing moments in my life also.. But I also was determined not to let those moments define for me who I am.. Yes those time are hard and in private moments you grieve. But just moments and when they have passed they are passed and laid down. There is nothing you can do to change it, accept it and move on.. that is discipline. Living in the past will stunt you emotional growth and hold you back from being the person you want to be.. We are born as many men but die as only one.. your choice.. It will be ok brother.. you will become the man you want to be.. Just remember these words and in 10 or 15 years look back to see it all..
It is self-discipline. Precious quality.
@@pb3392 So true my brother.. The worst part in now at 70 sometimes I feel I lack that old discipline at times and it takes a little struggle to get it back.. Getting old is a very interesting thing.. So much different then when I was young look at it from the outside. Carry on!
I’m getting ready to quit smoking again and I’m gonna try this. I quit for two years. I do t really know / can’t pinpoint why or when I started again but I need to stop.
Same here
@@evrettej Just quit after 40 years.
Out of nowhere a big vein from my heart got blocked and my leg hardly has any energy and a toe went black.
Do it before you have to!
Not having them in the house was the final trick for me.
Get someone to hold them and give you a couple a day, until you ready for total stopping.
Stopping isn't really that hard; it's just that carrying on and having another is just so easy.
This vid did help me a lot I think.
@@Trowblood wow. Thank you for sharing that actually helps. I have 2 kidos and I want to be around for them to grow up. I will take what you said to heart.🙏🏾
How might you use this technique to quit smoking?
I agree,wish I never picked em up,should've stayed in church and not allow myself to believe the lie that this world has something to offer,it doesnt..give me Jesus
I'm distracting myself by watching this video on TH-cam.
Lol
😂😂😂
Realest comment so far
lol, I got distratced too by it but quickly realize how to remove the distraction. Just stop watching!
Me too..
Once you learn to peacefully "do nothing " it is a stimulation. It feels amazing to just relax and let go...let your mind wonder & your body & mind & spirit rest
That's why I can't get any work done XD
I literally JUST tossed out a brand new pack of cigarettes because I want to finally be DONE with smoking!
And then...
This video pops up.
A million times...thank you. I truly feel like this is going to work for me. ❤🙏😊
It will.
Did it?!?!
does it work in long term
@@kremzupa_69 Unfortunately....I slipped up shortly thereafter lol. But bringing me back to this video was a great reminder so thank you for commenting! Going to give it another go! 🤞😁
@Heyall I quit 2 years ago. It was tough but I feel so much better. I decided I was going to die before my daughter (3yrs old) graduated high school if I kept smoking. All of the sudden smoking didn't seem that important.
The biggest distraction is our own thoughts! Control your mind, control your life ;)
Lindsey Spiteri Bellizzi Yes! Yes and Yes!
Lindsey Spiteri Bellizzi but how to control your mind plz tell me
ashish yadav Well, it's simple and not. If choice = fate, then what fate will you choose? Don't second guess yourself. Suddenly have an urge to do something new, you do it. Suddenly want to end something, you do it. It's not so much control, as it is self guidance.
ashish yadav Your answer is inside of passion. Something tells me that your experience has become less than human. What you study, does it fill you with energy? If not, start exploring things you've never done but wanted to do. For me, I was stuck. My depression lead to me being homeless, and so rather than being in a suicide mind set, I chose to travel. Since then, I have done things that the locals haven't done their whole lives, such as gold prospecting. It's in this quest for what speaks to my inner joy, that I forgot my suicidal thoughts.
Another tip, death is an important signal for you mind from your body. Thinking on a very raw primal level, yes, death of the current movement/lack there of, can be just effective as being born again, as you start to learn, like you did as a baby. Growth isn't comfortable. But without it, we feel less than human.
Alec Fleming thank u so much . can you give me your instagram id
My addiction to escaping discomfort brought me to this video
The only way to succeed is by getting uncomfortable 💯 spend more time getting to know yourself and by being alone! I did it this weekend by turning off all social media/email notifications and now I have created my very own PODCAST 🔥🔥 & I also got to know my son a bit more too it’s beautiful to spend time getting to know YOURSELF without distractions ❤️
TH-cam is social media lol
Jay Kingston I believe so lol! I’m pretty sure it won’t hurt me to watch a video such as this one on my day away from other social media sites 😊😊
a j Yes absolutely AJ!
Beautiful
Aimeka Ab Aziz Thanks glad you agree!
Emotions are waves.
That's how you can tell whether you are obsessing over someone or if you unconditionally love somebody
stupid.
@@phatcrayonz We are what what we create.
Sorry you're stupid 🤯
I've been practicing this for 19+ years now. Granted, I'm doing it as meditative practice at times up to 30+ minutes. This practice is to observe until whatever sensation or object's true nature is revealed. This is what Patanjali was talking about in his Yoga Aphorisms and reveals the real, the unreal, and the really unreal.
I always thought that abstinence is easier then some kind of moderation. But there is certainly truth in what you say.
I smoke because I’m lonely. I smoke because I’m bored. I smoke because it comforts me. I smoke because I could.
Sometimes I don’t want to smoke but I still do.
I’m just happy I found this 10 minute rule which I’m going to apply because my smoking habit is ridiculous now. I have upgraded from buying packs to buying cartoons
Is it working?
@@tiltedfate1510 yes it is. Today marks a month since I have stopped smoking 🚬
Hiya, please search up Allen Carrs Easy Way, it'll really help with smoking - stopped my habit dead after years :) more power to you
Did you buy the winnie the pooh cartoon?
Do things with intention. This is beautiful. I broke my ankle a few weeks back, and have been trying to cope with pain that I never thought I could experience. Applying the concept "become curious" can be applied to addictions, poor behaviors and the like is a beautiful way of thinking.
Who else is scrolling down the comments while listening?
Haha. Yes. I have ADHD 😝
Everybody
me!
Damnit! Lol
Lol, yep. And I was just about to abandon the video at the point when he said ‘we know how to do these things, the problem is we don’t follow through.’ 😊
Irony:I watch you with full concentration and suddenly an ad pops up.
for real!annoying!
Irony indeed, just after reading your comment, straight to the ad ➡️it shoots🤣
Feels like youtube can read my mind ... Had seen this video around 5-6 months ago, and something reminded me of this today and thought of searching for this again. And miraculously, it's on my youtube feed when I'm casually scrolling..
This was actually helpful. I'm desperate to sweep my every habit off the table. The problem is that I have full control. I have to stage a breakout from the prison I built,in my own mind. "All things excellent are by nature both difficult and rare.". -Spinoza
I'm telling myself "dont study dont study dont study" so i can feel relieved when i do actually study 😂
Nice hack lol
If only this worked 😭
I tried the same thing with my brother long back..i used to ask him to play instead of studying
Reverse psychology! I like your thought process! 😂
It's great 😂
OK this is spooky. Its like TH-cam is reading my thoughts putting this on my feed. Its EXACTLY what I need right now
Most people suffer from: “One day i’ll..... “
Hope everyone reading this will reach their full potential!
Have an amazing and healthy new year everyone!
Yes we do. Guilty
It's more difficult than just trying to accomplish goals.
Time management is pain management... So don't pass the Tylenol just reset the clock... Even if everyone else is on tomorrow already... 🤯🤤🧐
*I tried this... Doesn't work*
@FanaticVII Tru true
Full potential is nice.
However I hope you find contentness. Lasting satisfaction in enjoying your own company.
Back in 2005 I quit smoking, doing something similar. I smoked my last cigarette as late as I could stay up, because I had to work in the morning. Then I set my alarm for a bit later than I normally would. I drove truck at the time, so when I woke up, I just promised myself, if I just got the truck rolling and headed down the road for a bit, then I would stop and buy a pack. I kept doing this, promising to buy a pack at the next available stop, for the next two weeks or so. I haven't smoked since.
That is awesome!! Good job!
still sober check?
@@CptFishy Yep, I haven't smoked since.
@@joat1979 you fockin beast
@Heloise O'Byrne Hey, good luck. I tried the gum and just ended up smoking while I was using the gum, haha. It is definitely difficult to quit. And fair warning, I have struggled a bit with weight since I quit.
This video has got to be THE BEST VIDEO on youtube on this topic. The best.
I found this to be a distraction, so I went to workout
Steve Bracken according to the video your workout is a distraction you use to avoid discomfort. you might even be addicted to workingout
@@ME-jc7xi that was not at all funny
When I go to workout, ladies find it distracting...... and funny :/
Working out😂😂pussy
@@NonyaBiz-rc7ix He's a male weasel with a tiny neck and chicken legs.
“Getting ahead in life is not just about doing the right things, it’s about avoiding not doing the wrong things.”
I hate you
I've screenshot that
3:57
Insert one simple "/" between "avoiding" and "not doing"
"it's about avoiding/not doing the wrong things"
Vipasanna meditation taught by gautam buddha is about observing sensation- pain or pleasure without any judgement which slowly cleanses our chitta which is convulated because of our past karma or doings..
They teach you that in between input of an environment(stimuli) and output(discomfort,for eg), there is a sensation which is responsible for the discomfort. If you become conscious of it and just observe, you are slowly erasing those self generated or subconsciously generated output from your system gradually but this require immense discipline and sadhana(work).
These 10 minutes are more worth than the 40 from my therapist
Can you explain exactly what you did in that 10 minutes? I don't understand the video when he said to be curious about that sensation. I don't know how this helps.
Smart ass arent you
"Getting ahead in life is not just about doing the right things, it's about avoiding not doing the wrong things." Not to be overly critical, but you have a multiple negative going. It would be either, '…avoiding doing the wrong things,' or, '…not doing the wrong things,' not, "avoiding not doing the wrong things." You don't want to avoid not doing the wrong thing. That would mean your goal is to do the wrong thing.
it could be interpreted, avoiding, as in being afraid to make a mistake.
@Scotty miller Your argument, it seems to me, is that your misinterpretation of the sentense gives you guidance. My argument is purely semantic, the double-negative in the sentense ACTUALLY gives it the opposite meaning he intends, and you wrongly interpret.
@@RBZ-1 Your argument, it seems to me, is that your misinterpretation of the sentense gives you guidance. My argument is purely semantic, the double-negative in the sentense ACTUALLY gives it the opposite meaning he intends, and you wrongly interpret.
@@tomcondon6169 it's not my interpretation. I raised an eyebrow as soon as he said it. I only offered another way of looking at the sentence as in afraid to take action and afraid to do something that might go wrong.
We learn and grow from mistakes and sometimes rolling the dice and knowingly taking the risk of making a mistake can pay off as opposed to avoiding making a mistake...one does not play it safe and in a way, avoids not making a mistake
This is the best motivation video I have watched! I think if you don’t understand this no other video or advice will work for you.
If you don’t understand this video and take the advice nothing will work
7:54 it all depends on the situation your trying to overcome❗
We don’t do things in the pursuit of pleasure and the avoidance of pain. Rather, we do things to avoid discomfort. *Mind blown*
I'm watching this video at work ....therefore this video is the distracting me but teaching me how to not be distracted ..by distracting me .........life..
I Almost Got Motivated Then This Ad Came And Now I'm On Ground Zero.
Ad blocker, my friend
Sometimes we spent whole day fighting with distraction .....and in the end we couldn't complete our work .
it happened to me today .
It happens all the time that's the difference between success and failure.
Don't fight it then. Distractions are there for a reason. I can't explain this in words but I happen to know it in my mind. No really. I can really be a big help for all of us. I know certain things but I can't explain it in words. I have the tendency to share what I know from within with others. I just need to learn on how to it share with others so they could understand at their current level of consciousness.
Same
I've been watching a lot of videos and podcasts about procrastination and productivity. This is the best one
Period. Please trust me, I want you all to be the best version of yourself!
This was an eye opener for me. . 👀
I wish I had a job checking emails all day and putting off projects.
LOL
in some jobs - checking and replying emails is their main job, and would say - i wish i worked only on projects and didn't have to look all day at emails
Gave me a good laugh 😁
Do not give up . Always keep moving forward. There is always a chance that you will stumble upon something extraordinary. No one has ever tripped over anything while seated. I pray that God gives you the strength to carry on through the trials
This video was 100% what I needed to hear right now, let's get to work.
Have you progressed anything?
Be the master of your own image rather than letting others define it for you. Your power will be enhanced and your character will seem larger than life.
That are really facts. Cause I was drawing by the effect of the technologies. My spiritual connection is my priority and attraction of what I need for life. I'm having a good life now.
Day after day I’m still waiting for my “tomorrow”
Steven McCarthy story of my life!
The only truth . Other comments are just wallpaper text
Tomorrow Never Comes
Stop waiting and go make it
Carpe diem!
2:20 we are not uncomfortable doing nothing it;s more about the curiosity.
That's your conscious mind thinking but your unconscious mind feels really uncomfortable doing nothing, This is the reason alot of people create drama all the time, thats just to give you an example.. ppl with no purpose.
So while this gentleman was talking about DISTRACTIONS, youtube decide to present me with one of their own. A 5 minute ad for a car I now realize I probably can't afford because honestly, I'm here cause I'm broke AF. Probably most of us. TH-cam also didn't remember what video I was watching when I backed out of the ad because my history didn't have the video I was just watching so I had to back track through 8 other videos I think I saw, basically going through all my mood swings for the last hour, to get back to this video to leave this comment. Also thanks for the 46min ad you snuck into the last 10min video I saw. I'm sure the content creator didnt mind his hard work taking a back seat to an ad, that I can guarantee, won't get to point quickly to Identify what company that was. 46min ad. Wow. Anyway truly great video.
Essentially, procrastinate the things that make you procrastinate in the first place.
I eat to get away from discomfort, then I gain weight from eating and eat more to distract myself for realising I'm gaining weight. From tomorrow Monday 18/11/2019 I will only eat when I'm hungry.
In your case your distraction is go take a walk without money ONLY the keys. If you can walk on nature even better
I did that now to distract i eated something garbage but then i think i would BE better without eating that stuff
You can do it. I lost 48 kg. You will feel amazing.
💪🏼
@murad panjwani I went to a nutrition doctor, started moving more and sometimes working out . I can say 80% is nutrition. I had a lot of support from girlfriend and friends . I cut some unhealthy habits. There is no magic. We can all do it. It is psychological. Good luck.
Love and friendship and closeness is better than technology.
When I quit smoking I was starting a 2week vacation . I owned horses and a friend invited me to stable my horses on his farm in exchange for fixing the barn , stalls , fences , and caring for his horse minus his horse expenses ! I agreed and every day I worked from sun up to sun down ! If I took a break and started to think about having a cigarette , I would get back to work so as NOT to think about smoking ! By the end of the 2 weeks the farm looked great and I stopped thinking about smoking forever ! I will never go back to smoking and I never think about doing so ! If I used the 10 minute rule , I would probably still be smoking ! Avoid bad habits by not engaging in the thought of the bad habit !
You know what you’re saying reminds me of King Solomon, who had everything, power, position, wealth, favour, his experiment discovered = “I have concluded that there is nothing better for them(mankind) than to rejoice and do good during their life, also that everyone should eat and drink and find enjoyment for all his hard work. It is the gift of God. Ecclesiastes 3:12,13 The conclusion of the matter, everything having been heard, is: Fear the true God and keep his commandments, for this is the whole obligation of man” Ecclesiastes 12:13... we need purpose, that’s how we’re designed. without it, we seek it somewhere but can’t get the satisfaction of fulfilment without fulfilling our obligation to our creator, Jehovah God. 😍
Thank you
Do not "don't want" but do "do not expect".. huge difference! HUGE!
If I tell myself "you can have that piece of chocolate cake, but in ten minutes" there is a serious chance, after ten minutes, to have half the cake!
Don't forget the other part of this technique -- either "riding the wave" (being mindful of sensations) or going back to the task at hand.
When it comes to food 10mn doesn’t work instead I said to who ever proposing the Cake to leave it for me till tomorrow. After that I would have already forgotten about it I use it and it works
@@hiitforesight4215 put the cake where you cant see it. That helps.
Discomfort sounds a lot like pain to me.
Right! I mean, this guy just said that the primary motivation is some form of avoidance of pain and the pursuit of pleasure (the freudian principle), but neurologically it's avoidance of discomfort and pursuit of comfort. Is that some form of the freudian principle as well?
@@toamit123 yea.. at different levels.. discomfort is still pain at some rate
He pointed out that pain is not the right term
Amit Ahmed that freud guy was fucked up in the head man had mental problems or something have u read some of his quotes theyer disgusting
Interesting to read so many comments that don't refer to the technique described in the video. This suggests people didn't get that far.
The technique is for handling compulsive urges and is described from 8:05. Before that, the speaker convincingly lays the groundwork for his conclusions.
Try it.
I was bored didn't want to be in discomfort so I found this video on TH-cam and now im not bored and in comfort. the irony.
I try this technique with a bottle of red vine.
First, i open the bottle, then I analyse it and reflect on it with curiosity for 10 minutes, but after that i feel a tremendous urge to drink it and then i just couldn't resist and i drank all the bottle.
I think is a flow in my technique !!!
Tomorrow when i will open my next bottle of vine , i will try again !
Grew up in the 70s...we did not feel discomfort in boredom. Tech has created that discomfort by creating addiction to tech triggered dopamine.
Dont worry, I dont need 10 minutes with that chocolate cake.
even cigarate
"Well, at least I'm not addicted to technology" I thought, while watching this in bed on my ipad, immediately after waking up.
Also Alexa turn the lights off and play some jazz...😆.
Someone said to me " it's not what you say it's what you do " and somehow it clicked with me and i just suddenly understood why i did the things i did and you just described it completly i was always finding an excuse and something to blame for my actions after i understood the reason i did the things i did i quit drinking and i quit druggs because i understood i just used them as an excuse to escape problems or situations that didnt made me feel happy instead of solving them basicly got tired of giving bullshit to myself everyday and everything in my life just started to improve you basicly described it in this video and thank you for this you just motivated me more because you just gave me more clarity .
Well, I just go praying because God always helps anyone that remember him. Trust me. I see it
The reason people get distracted is because they don't find the things they do intrinsically important.
Everything is connected. We are a bio organism of earth, do things that help others. Every time we do this it makes you feel good. When it’s Christmas why is it that you feel better when you watch someone open a present, it always makes you feel better than when you receive one.
I’ve actually used that “10 minutes” rule, or a variation, without even realizing it was a known “concept”. For example, sometimes when I’m craving for some special food, I just think to myself: “Tomorrow, not today.” And eventually, it goes away.
It works even better if the item or technology isn't just out there. My main vices are things that are relatively benign. They aren't going to directly kill me or destroy my life, but over time they just cause me to waste it and have a tough time sleeping. I prefer to keep these things out of sight so that they stay out of mind more easily. The item itself can become a cue to using it and that can become a bit of a self-reinforcing cycle.
Goodbye, I will check TH-cam videos again in 10 minutes time.😁
Those are rookie numbers you gotta pump those numbers up. 🤣🤣
WOW!!! The 10 minute rule and reflecting really does make a ton of sense. This was so great! And, it's great to learn about things that may be addictive. Thank you for this!!!
Instead of eating that box of donuts and then getting on with the day, now I eat 1 donut every 10 minutes.
Life Hacx
@@a3initials334 lmao true that
"Sacrifice the present for the future" - Jordan Peterson
If you go with this idea of sacrificing the present for the future you will never live your life totally. You will always sacrificing today for tomorrow and tomorrow for day after tomorrow and the cycle continues. And then one day you'll be on the death bed wondering what was all this sacrificing for.
Not to be argumentative but, that has to be the worst advice ever. Philosophers and spiritual teachers for thousands of years say exactly the opposite. How about, "be in the present so that you are creating a better future?". Afterall, now is all we have and all of our decision making ability is now. All personal power and all decisions made happen right now in the present. No miserable road leads a person to the land of happiness in the future. Be happy now on your way to more peace, prosperity and happiness. Just my opinion.
@@KP09101 it's about balance right? without a little sacrifice there is no present to enjoy when you don't have your shit together. just go with the flow and enjoy it, but don't waste your life and opportunities away.
@@M0RPHOBIA I get where you're coming from but my foundational beliefs differ some. To each his or her own. 😀 I do believe that by going within we find a vibrational state that inspires us to do the right things. No one can resist following their inspiration. It simply feels good. In this way no present moment ever need be sacrificed and one could thrive in all times. Just my opinion anyways.