I love how she emphasizes emotional preparation for challenging situations. It's so refreshing to hear practical advice that empowers both parents and kids. I'm definitely going to explore more resources like The ADHD Parenting Guide for Boys by Richard Bass
This hit home! My youngest has gotten stitches because of aggressive older sister. It's hard! "I won't let you!" is my new favorite advice. The way you break this all down is so helpful. New listening to you, but I've already learned so much. I love the good inside thought. It's spot on! I have been leading my kid nothing she's a bad kid. Thank you for sharing this!
Do you have research to support the efficacy of this approach on decreasing aggression? What happens with neurodivergent kids or kids with language delays that may not be able to process all this language you are throwing at them?
There is so much language, and many of the kids I work with don't have that capacity yet. I agree that other strategies than verbal/auditory processing are needed for kids.
Love love love...love Dr. Becky and how she answered that first question! So helpful to role play being on their level and being an ally. On a personal note, I have a lot of activation and trigger to the term "emotional vaccination. That really doesn't land well for me at all... only because vaccination has so so so much around it in this day in age....and for me note positive!
Im sesrching through ur posts trying to find answers to my situation. My 2 boys went from being gentle with each other and being each others cheerleaders to saying things like I hate u, do u want me to hit u, if you dont play with me im not going to stand up for you. And i know me and my husband say things in this structure ! Helpp!!
It’s amazing that we are still so bad at parenting. After all these years. I thought I was going to be a great parent. I never knew I could be so angry daily. I’ve never been an angry person. After kids, omfg. When my kid is bad, it makes me so angry. Don’t get it. I wonder if she’d be better off without me.
Please don't feel that way. We're all trying our best, stuck in repeating cycles that were ingrained in us and breaking free of that cycle is tough, confronting and most of all triggering. You're hear on this platform, seeking resolution. That alone should tell you what an amazing parent you are.
Wow this hit home. I find myself feeling the same. I’m doing a lot of work on myself. Saw therapist for a while, reading Good Inside and working on relationship with wife. Seems to helping slightly. Don’t have the answer, but this seems to be slowly helping me. :( good luck!
I liked because I’m learning English and I have to learn how to take care of boy of 7 years in school the school gave me the opportunity to work there and take care of this child and you teaching me so much because you put the subtitles and when something I don’t onderstend lol in my own lenguaje God bless you
My 4yo grandson was born 3 months before covid started. He went to family daycare from 9 months old and only associated the 2 other children and never displayed any problems with other kids but when he started kindy he was fighting the his peers. The kindy managed this with re-sets, where he was pulled away from the other kids until he calmed down. What we see now that we didnt see before is a 4yo that is terrified of other children. Any child that approaches him sends him into a panic. His fight/flight response is triggered with children. He talks to unfamiliar adults e.g asking a shop assistance for an icecream but if a child approaches him he has a look of pure terror on his face, we have never seen him speak to an unfamiliar child. Recently I took him to a playground and there were 2 children who were about 2 or 3 and he wouldnt go on the equipment until the chilren had left the playground. It is heartbreaking to watch someone so little be socially isolated. 😥 I spoke to his Peadiatrician about this and he said he is seeing so many kids born during the covid years with social anxiety. Is anyone else noticing this amongst their children?
Omg! This is absurd! How would a 2 1/2 year old be able to take in these type of words? and you can “practice “ all you want but when the child bites they are in “fight or flight” meaning they can not reflect and think oh I better bite my chew toy rather than my brother. It’s very obvious from watching this that she has not actually worked with children.
I have two year old twins and I think it’s relevant. I love the advice of, I won’t let you and not letting them think they are out of control or being a bad kid. Redirect into stomping and model empathy over and over again for them.
the only oneway is bhagwat gita . becz spoken by god 5000 yrs ago and the perfect knowledge .human knowlege is not sufficient in this case so read bhagwat gita
I love how she emphasizes emotional preparation for challenging situations. It's so refreshing to hear practical advice that empowers both parents and kids. I'm definitely going to explore more resources like The ADHD Parenting Guide for Boys by Richard Bass
This hit home! My youngest has gotten stitches because of aggressive older sister. It's hard! "I won't let you!" is my new favorite advice. The way you break this all down is so helpful. New listening to you, but I've already learned so much. I love the good inside thought. It's spot on! I have been leading my kid nothing she's a bad kid. Thank you for sharing this!
*to think not nothing
Do you have research to support the efficacy of this approach on decreasing aggression? What happens with neurodivergent kids or kids with language delays that may not be able to process all this language you are throwing at them?
There is so much language, and many of the kids I work with don't have that capacity yet. I agree that other strategies than verbal/auditory processing are needed for kids.
As always............ perfect! Thank you so much!
Love love love...love Dr. Becky and how she answered that first question! So helpful to role play being on their level and being an ally. On a personal note, I have a lot of activation and trigger to the term "emotional vaccination. That really doesn't land well for me at all... only because vaccination has so so so much around it in this day in age....and for me note positive!
Im sesrching through ur posts trying to find answers to my situation. My 2 boys went from being gentle with each other and being each others cheerleaders to saying things like I hate u, do u want me to hit u, if you dont play with me im not going to stand up for you. And i know me and my husband say things in this structure ! Helpp!!
My focus is on eating organic ripe fruits and vegetables. Clean and easy to digest protein sources and good well rounded fat sources.
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thank you
It’s amazing that we are still so bad at parenting. After all these years. I thought I was going to be a great parent. I never knew I could be so angry daily. I’ve never been an angry person. After kids, omfg. When my kid is bad, it makes me so angry. Don’t get it. I wonder if she’d be better off without me.
Please don't feel that way. We're all trying our best, stuck in repeating cycles that were ingrained in us and breaking free of that cycle is tough, confronting and most of all triggering. You're hear on this platform, seeking resolution. That alone should tell you what an amazing parent you are.
Wow this hit home. I find myself feeling the same. I’m doing a lot of work on myself. Saw therapist for a while, reading Good Inside and working on relationship with wife. Seems to helping slightly. Don’t have the answer, but this seems to be slowly helping me. :( good luck!
I liked because I’m learning English and I have to learn how to take care of boy of 7 years in school the school gave me the opportunity to work there and take care of this child and you teaching me so much because you put the subtitles and when something I don’t onderstend lol in my own lenguaje God bless you
My 4yo grandson was born 3 months before covid started. He went to family daycare from 9 months old and only associated the 2 other children and never displayed any problems with other kids but when he started kindy he was fighting the his peers. The kindy managed this with re-sets, where he was pulled away from the other kids until he calmed down. What we see now that we didnt see before is a 4yo that is terrified of other children. Any child that approaches him sends him into a panic. His fight/flight response is triggered with children. He talks to unfamiliar adults e.g asking a shop assistance for an icecream but if a child approaches him he has a look of pure terror on his face, we have never seen him speak to an unfamiliar child. Recently I took him to a playground and there were 2 children who were about 2 or 3 and he wouldnt go on the equipment until the chilren had left the playground. It is heartbreaking to watch someone so little be socially isolated. 😥
I spoke to his Peadiatrician about this and he said he is seeing so many kids born during the covid years with social anxiety. Is anyone else noticing this amongst their children?
Aggression in our case was an unknown sensitivity to artificial food dye. We cut the dye, the aggression (and the hyperactivity) went with it.
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That whisper voice was so cringe! Calm quiet voice is fine but the whispers sounded very fake and disingenuous.
Omg! This is absurd! How would a 2 1/2 year old be able to take in these type of words? and you can “practice “ all you want but when the child bites they are in “fight or flight” meaning they can not reflect and think oh I better bite my chew toy rather than my brother. It’s very obvious from watching this that she has not actually worked with children.
My takeaway was that the parent models a more healthy way to respond, and utilises connection and play to help. Monkey see monkey do lol
I have two year old twins and I think it’s relevant. I love the advice of, I won’t let you and not letting them think they are out of control or being a bad kid. Redirect into stomping and model empathy over and over again for them.
the only oneway is bhagwat gita . becz spoken by god 5000 yrs ago and the perfect knowledge .human knowlege is not sufficient in this case so read bhagwat gita