the reality of dating while living abroad.... welcome to the ghetto
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 8 ก.ค. 2024
- It's no secret that dating in 2024 is not for the weak! Us single people are in the TRENCHES but I still couldn't see this coming a mile away.. spend two days with me navigating the big city of Istanbul and prepare myself for what I thought would be a lovely date night!
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Jasmine, I see a lot of comments from women who are insinuating that your standards are too high, which is sad to see. If a man wants to date, he should be 1) employed, 2) financially & mentally sufficient, and 3) expect to spend money. If women, particularly BW, are telling you that your standards are too high, then that makes me feel as though they are encouraging their sons to be cheap because they don’t value themselves and don’t see value in other BW, which could explain why BM have no problem spending money on nonBW versus BW.
Additionally, BM collectively know that BW are desperate to be partnered with a BM which could have been the reason why your date didn’t prioritize the date and was reluctant to make an effort into planning a nice evening out. His mere presence was supposed to suffice. Also, if BW are telling men, especially BM, that the bare minimum is good for them, that makes it hard for the BW with high standards to date and navigate an already small black dating pool. I hope you are exploring your options because the stats say that the more money BM make, the less likely they are to marry unlike nonBM. You should read, “Is Marriage for WP,” by Ralph Richard Banks. It’s an insightful read.
Hit the nail right on the head! 🤌🏽 When a woman wants nothing but the BEST for herself, the world hates to see it. However, that has nothing to do with me 😂
Sidenote: he actually wasn’t a BM. When experimenting goes wrong 😆
SAY IT!
@@itsjasminegiselle Not me being hype and wrong, assuming he was a BM 😂 but the points made are still valid. You are dating strategically and are open to other groups of men which is a great thing! Keep exploring your options. The fact that you are traveling to different countries and encountering new people and cultures, will definitely increase your chances of finding someone you are compatible with.
@@itsjasminegisellebritish men are notorious for being cheap! Its all over the internet lol
The British men I’ve dated loved to spoil me so idk what the internet talking about 😭
My precious. Please stay off the apps when abroad. I don't do apps even when I'm in my small village abroad. The apps are for hook ups (especially abroad). I meet people by going to village get-togethers, book clubs, over tea, or at the weekly market. I'm mostly stateside (until retirement). But, baybee, when I visit, it's on and poppin with me alone or with friends. Please be safe over there. Cheers.
Don't trust anyone from these applications! You are very beautiful, clever and independent girl. They don't deserve you, like seriously. %100 of the men on apps are trash. I understand and relate to you, you want to meet with a kind and nice guy that you want to spend good time with but no my doll, this is not the right place.
100% demenle biraz abartmışsın 😅
@@tiyes94😂😂 more like 70%
Exactly. I live in Europe. I haven’t dated in about 1 years. I’m good on the apps
I like how they mention your Turkish name Yasemin everytime
Newly found your channel as I’m planning a trip to Malaysia for a few months so, Fellow world traveler here, the honesty and accuracy about dating in this post pandemic world 🌎 is so disheartening.
Online dating is not for me either. It’s even more sketchy now. I like the old fashioned way of meeting.
I’m glad you reuploaded this cos I wasn’t through watching it!
Me either lol
It broke my heart to take it down 😪 8+ hours of editing. She was definitely going back up 😂
I was finna say. I put it in my watch later and when I tried to click, it said it was no longer available! Glad it’s back up tho
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Okay…my nosey self turned the TV volume up and did Google translate in the nail shop: “Sharing yourself is the best way to share. Am I right?” 😊
When you came back and said you didn't go on that date i was shocked! I was not expecting him to make that comment. It makes sense why he was having a hard time picking a place. He just wanted to hunch. Smh Best he showed his true colors before yall met. I dont do dating appa either anymore. I prefer meeting people face to face.
I am so happy your phone is fixed. I am happy God showed you what he really was about. I am happy you have discernment because it keeps you safe. Im sorry that happened.
I just stumbled upon this page/video and I absolutely adore her spirit and energy! Continue to be safe and have a ball!
Hey Jasmine👋🏾. The scenery around you is lovely, and the environment is lively. Be encouraged…continue to have fun…all will be well. Blessings to you for continued, safe travels.🤗🌹
You had me 😅dying at “obviously Hinge is for the Unhinged!!”😂😂😂 Love your videos. I’m heading to Türkiye in mid August and from your videos it looks like it will be a hit!
I hope you have the best time 😍🥰
The young man spoon feeding you at Bubble Tea.., sweetest human ever!
As for the apps, if someone has looks, swag and money, unfortunately they will likely not be on the apps, (or if they are, they will probably treat it like an open bar). Be mindful as most men on it are very nonchalant on casual things and ghosting ..
As difficult as it has become, nothing beats meeting people in real life because you can get a real feel about who they are. Oh and always trust your gut feeling. Better safe than sorry, and that boy, looked like it was going to be a ‘sorry’.
Still waiting for the Greece vlog though. I can only imagine the madness 🤣
Jas!!! I love your content sm! Watching your journey is super inspiring and making me excited to travel more! Now...the date thing lol. The signs were there! It's so important especially for us as women to stay in tune with our intuition so we can read people (men) clearly. (I recommend meditation!) He was definitely super mad that you told him your standards, as you should. When he mentioned that he "didn't have a wife to iron his clothes" that was a clear indication that's what he's looking for smh. And a lot of men don't see marriage how we do. Unfortunately he wasn't a good one. But don't lose faith, there are plenty good men out there. In the meantime meet some girlfriends and just enjoy your youth! You'll find who you're looking for when you least expect it! We don't know each other personally but you're like my sister and I'm rooting for you!!!😭❤❤❤
So funny the guy feeding you nonstop 😂
Turkish people are so amazing! 🤣😂 they will feed you! 🤣
I am just LOVING these vlogs, you are so inspiring
Much props and respect for stepping outside your comfort zone 🇺🇸
He was out of line but I am so glad he showed himself before you actually met up with his ass!!!!!!
This.
Girl you are so BRAVE. I’m too old to travel abroad by myself. I do travel the states alone but it’s getting a little lonely. I just got back from Nashville to Homewood Illinois driving by myself taking my grandson back to Nashville. I try to go somewhere for my Birthday , last year New Orleans, my next trip should be Savanna Georgia soon, alone. My hats off to you, live your life !! Blessings ❤
Get a friend or go on single tours. ❤
Hair products for natural hair is expensive here in New York City too!!! He was offering the top of the line products but even regular products you usually spend $50-65 between gel mousse leave in shampoo etc…. 🙆🏽♀️
Oh also the overseas product textures are so different and mix it with the water and whoa ya might not get what ya want it will be what ya need lol😊
It’s so weird how I’m invested to watching u live in turkey. I guess cuz I been there before lol
Your hair after washing it looked so good my jaw droppeddddd :000
Thank you 🤩☺️
OMG, you literally saved yourself a whole lot of trouble there. Thank you for your video vlogs, its opened up my eyes about the places to go to in Istanbul. Its a beautiful city and whole lot of places to see.
the date things was a mess. most of them are out looking for prey. online dating is bottom of the barrel though
İstanbul Büyükşehir Belediyespor this basketball team
Istanbul Panterleri Women's
I expect nothing less from dating apps. My husband of 30 years died on June 24, 2024. I will be alone for the rest of my life. I refuse to do dating apps.
Hugs 🫂 and sending love and blessings your way ❤🫂🙏🏾🙏🏾
My condolences to you. 🙏🏻🙏🏻
My condolences and sending you an virtual 🫂
My heartfelt condolences! May God give you the fortitude to bear this loss.
My condolences to you.
Hi, new subscriber here. Gurl my mouth hit the floor when he texted that. Smh. On the other hand I admire that you moved out of the US alone, I'm looking to do the same but I don't know where yet. Be careful out there with those men out there sis. I tried online dating a couple of times but it's not for me. Those men were all looking for booty calls
It’s so beautiful there. Girl I’m living through you. Enjoy yourself. ❤
Hey Jasmine I just found your channel yesterday and enjoying it so much. I am Turkish - Australian, i understand what everyone is saying lol, I just talk to the screen saying there saying this, or do that. I just want to guide you LOL. Anyways make sure you haggle with them when purchasing something they all will give you a high price especially if there is no price tags on items always haggle. You tell them how much lol. Either they will agree or not but if they want to make money they should agree. A lot of sleezy guys don't make eye contact or smile unless you like them lol. Love your energy girl and love your independence. I love your channel and subscribed. ❤❤❤🥰😘 PS always check what they are charging you before you tap your card 🙏🙏🙏
Because of the US incomes compared to most countries, dating abroad for women is hard unless they're willing to financially be the provider and take care of a man, which most don't.
I love your vlog. I just found it recently. You definitely dodged a bullet with ol' boy. I hope you find friends there you can really connect with and have meaningful relationships that last even after you're gone from Turkey. Now, I must tell you that I have dreamed of eating Turkish breakfast (with tea in the little glasses) while sitting and looking overlooking the Bosphorus while the wind blew in my face. IF you happen to do that, would you please mention me? My name is Angel, and I will likely never get to do it in my lifetime (I'm disabled). Even if you don't, I'm praying for your peace and safety and that the Lord continues to keep watch over you the way He has up to now. ❤❤❤❤ Oh! I absolutely LOVE your musical choices. They're so perfect for the drives, and the clips of the drives are the perfect transitions.
I love these Turkey vlogs. Keep them coming ❤
I'm loving this walking and riding tour. I'm enjoying the city with you😊
Thank you!! 🤩🥰😍
Thank you sooo much for the beautiful view.
46:43 the father son duo 😭♥️♥️
They were literally the sweetest
Adding Istanbul to my travel list for the street art alone 🔥🔥I saw some amazing murals and tags in the vlog 👏🏾
If you’re into art, you HAVE to go to Colombia 🇨🇴 it’s a must!
Online dating, anywhere, naw..
Done made me a believer lol
Honestly I think he said that to turn you off. Once he said “if you don’t want to go it’s fine” that was him projecting and already decided HE didn’t want to go.
Asking the man for a bigger size when he only sells one size is so American of you. I cracked up so hard.😂
😂😂😂 it was too good. I needed it MORE! 😭
Same…😂😂😂they understand excess in other countries….
I hear tinda overseas works for the girlies. Yall tried it? Also the headlights was on… okur
FACTS🎉😂😂😂😂😂😂❤KNOW THYSELVE!!😅❤
@@callmepj4333 it’s excess because you want some larger volume of something rather than buying too? You need what you need. I’m sure those products are hard to get where she is.
Wow new here I’m loving your vlog while doing homework lol I feel like I’m actually traveling with you ! I also solo travel so this is inspiring So happy you found a wife spot- the and so happy how all the drivers were so friendly and glad you got to do your nails! And you are so pretty with a beautiful spirit!
The drivers were cool. I wonder if that was because she had the camera rolling 🤔
Love Istanbul. Friendly people, great food, and interesting historic places.
I am loving your Istanbul vlogs. I have been in Instanbul 2x for a little over 24hours but did not leave the business lounge. I hope you shop at the Grand Bazaar or the Spice Bazaar, take a bath (Hammam) at Cagaloglu, and take a ferry to Princes' Island . . . all from my wish (bucket) list lol Safe travels and blessing to you
He was feeding you - and trying to pick you up / these Turkish men are loving you
I hope he sees this lol
U are gorgeous! Glad I found your channel. I been thinkin about takin that big step soon. Keep the great content coming
Thank you so much ✨ best of luck to you
I love your approach to dating and finding the man of your dreams 😍
The girls that get it, get it ✨✨
I don't know why I got excited when you pass by my office. 😅❤️ Love the Istanbul vlogs.
Best music lol this is therapy
if i was single right now, I would not want to be in the dating scene. Its so unfortunately you can't trust these people out here to be who they say they are. Girl ...... just boy bye.....
If you're in need of hair care products, I recommend checking out the massive shopping centers in Istanbul. You Americans might refer to them as malls.
Sis, at this point, you're Turkish royalty. 👑 👸🏾 🙌🏾❤
HAHAH, you had me cracking up this whole vlog. The guy feeding you boba had me rollinggggggg. Also good for you for deading that date. What a weirdo. He def wanted to test the waters right before the date, like ew. Why waste your time instead of just being straight up from the get? *sigh* I feel you on not being interested in someone that indecisive. Like pick a spot man. Make it cute. It's not that serious.
I’m just happy that some girls in the comments actually have standards 😂 lord I’m praying for the rest of them 😭
My thoughts exactly.
Absoltuely, there are so many horny men out there and they will hide it until the date comes. It’s always kind of surprising, I’ve had guys try it with me on the first date even though I always make sure to tell them I’m looking for a serious relationship and not a hookup, and I don’t continue talking to anyone that isn’t looking for the same thing. Based on those voice notes, I can def see how you thought he was a normal and intelligent person. You’re right to just delete the apps lol, I got soooo tired of online dating too.
Enjoying the vlogs as usual, looking forward to that Greece vlog!
Loving your content! Im also Turkish :) Enjoy your stay in beautiful Turkiye. ❤
LOL - you and that "gurllll".......I'm here to represent the men who follow your travels faithfully :) That terrace view from the workspace spot was fyah!
😂😂😂 okay, I will do better !!
@itsjasminegiselle Just taking a friendly jab...It's cute whateva😅😅 Now I'm listening to how your date went.....Trust me I feel your pain, jist from a different pov
@@itsjasminegiselledon’t forget about us guys!!!
So excited for Greece vlog !
Jasmine let believe , God is protecting you, that I Guy exposed his self, which is better, much better for you . Right decision Jamie.thanks for sharing great content.. Stay safe and enjoy the journey.
So happy to see how your trip is coming along and seeing your faith at work in various situations! God is definitely on your side and I'm glad you dodged that bullet on the dating app. I've never tried it, but all I've ever heard were horror stories. I think the only men on there are the type that either have ulterior motives or simply cannot connect with women the natural way (in person).
Even though you’re saying “I like to see what he would pick”
You honestly didn’t allow him to pick …
Sometime you just have to let the man lead , if he chooses something that wasn’t “up to your standards”
You can kindly decline on the next date or communicate that to him .
Love you to death ❤just some mature advice !
You can take or leave .
I just see a wall up when it comes to you and men but with everything your open and treat it as a new experience !
Maybe you should try the same with dating , let your guard dampen and high expectations.
Love is there to be had 💋
In addition when you upped the restaurant that had him thinking 🤔
She must be giving me some !
Be cautious but also open minded !
Love ya and keep being amazing ❤
It's so fascinating watching ya'll make so many excuses for this man lol no wonder they get away with doing the bare minimum.
Jasmine did allow that man to lead. Initially, he choose a place that wasn’t a restaurant. She said he’s been in Turkey for a month, so he should have had a list of quality restaurants to take her to, but he didn’t put any effort into choosing a decent spot until Jasmine told him to step his game up.
Also, if a man chooses a cheap or mediocre place for a first date, you should speak up. Not speaking up and allowing a man to “lead” you will not work in your favor. He is going to think you have low self-esteem and will exploit your desperation to be with any man. That guy had plenty of time to show Jasmine the caliber of man he was, but he chose degeneracy. Having high standards and a no nonsense attitude will save your life and will be the best fboy repellent in this current dating climate.
@@itsjasminegiselle What Michelle Obama say? “When they go low, we go high”! Your standards are right where they’re supposed to be and guess what - they’re YOURS! I have taught my 26yo son to bring his A game to every situation to attract the right type of woman or he’ll be left with crumbs that will take any ole man just to say they have one. Keep doing your thing! From another mature subbie!! 🫶🏾
Excellent reply for the young lady traveler, didn’t seem to take it well.
Advice is just free information
she is brave i wish i had her tenacity
Not him feeding you 😂😂😂 he meant he was going to get that sale ! IKTRR 🤣❤️
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JASMINE! I SWEAR!!! Your VLOGS ARE LIFE! ❤❤❤❤ It’s the music choices that get me EVERY TIME! I hit the Like button IMMEDIATELY! Tfs 🥰
Thank you so much!! 😍❤️❤️❤️
You're so right. International dating is the same as US/domestic dating: The ghetto.
Just stay sweet, loving and kind. Be careful watch yourself pray a little bit more and you’ll run right into him. Don’t be frustrated. Don’t be sad. Don’t be nothing like you said it’s gonna work out just like when you had to say your stuff in your videos and you had to do different things and it worked out you’re dating situation work out also, don’t worry about it. Keep doing what you need to do because you are very smart and intelligent and I will not-say😊😊😊 the rest cause they don’t need to know.
“Doing things for the plot” - sooo true 😂
Jaz r u reading most if not all ur comments because I saw in one of ur vlogs a comment mentioning they get to choose when taking Uber’s. Also a comment a woman mentioned on how not to engage so much with men because the women don’t. Such as when walking on the street n such. Idk just hopefully all will remain well because its all fun but same time be safe and more aware of the cons of their culture. Not saying worry while traveling but be in the know at all times a little beyond what you can google. Anyway I enjoy ur content. Stay safe ❤
Nice vlog from turkish girl living in sweden❤
Leave it up to a man to put his foot in his mouth 🤦🏾♀️😂
God help us all. Men these days I swear. Chileeee this why I’m single
The struggle is real 🌚
I love this channel lol I was talking to my kids and significant other yesterday about tour channel! I think it would be amazing if you could list the songs/artist you use in your videos! The music be hitting chile😊😂❤
Thank you!! That would just be way more of a hassle for me than y’all realize 😭 but I am considering sharing some of my apple playlists ✨💗🎶
I agree w/you I prefer meeting someone organically outside of the internet. I have a friend that is engaged to someone she met on Tinder but she dated several guys via internet dating before they met. They came to my house for dinner, he is a really nice guy super cool and family oriented and she's met his whole family everyone loves her..I have another friend that dates someone new every week from dating sites. I was like if I ever decided to date via online I would have to check w/my friend to make sure she hadn't dated them already 😂...I don't think that every guy on the internet is trash but I do think the good ones don't stay on there very long feeling the same you did most of the time probably 🤷🏽♀️
Your beautiful and a magnet love your vlogs
Thank you !! ❤️
Is this normal to seat in the front seat?
Yeah I would have simply asked him where the curly hair products were and looked at the ingredients. Google the Afro hair products your used to using and the 3-5 major ingredients and so long as the foreign products contain those ingredients, you should be fine. I just returned from Spain and this is how I survived.
It went south when you called option one a mall …. lol 😅I died laughing 😂
42.00 it's hard to translate cuz it's mid convo but she said something like the best thing is to share/post yourself :)
What camera do you use to vlog in this video.
I loved the walk. Felt .Ike I was there
Pls what camera do you use?
I met my husband on Match 10 years ago. But baaabbyyyy…I could never do it out of country alone. I give you sooo much props for what you are doing.
Girl it’s the wild Wild West out here 😂
The brand he suggested is a good brand for us
-How are you?
-Ergün (His name)
😂
Whole time I’m thinking that’s how you say it in Turkish 😂🤣
Nasılsın? (How are you?) ❤
He was so. helpful at the beauty supply!!!!
I enjoy your content
Watching these videos is like watching an5 year old joy riding in a pickup truck. I am scared to death for her, praying for a safe outcome, and can't stop watching!
You should get a hot spot. Not the one that comes on your phone but is separate. I have one for work and initially got it when I use to travel to out the country and the WiFi was bad.
Where can I get one ? , I need one for working from home as well.
@@keeyanaamore5430you can get it from your mobile carrier in store. They have different kinds depending on how many devices you need a connection for
I’ve def been searching for one. Any recommendations
My job uses Verizon. T-Mobile has them too. Ask about Mobile Hotspot
I definitely feel like I’m there
Just be your self and do what is best for you Amen 💖
Greetings first time on your channel very nice. May I ask what made you move abroad?
When will we get the Greece vlog? I’m interested in what happened in Greece now.
The drive cam had me nervous 😂the traffic out there is diff. It looked like the driver was bout to hit all the cars and ppl crossing the streets 😂
I wouldn’t be surprised if NO ONE has a license here 😂😂😂
This guy is trying to make him self seem soooo important “my company” 😂😂😂 Men who are truly “busy” don’t speak like that. In fact, they are very punctual and plan immediately. He was trying to butter you up, especially by sending all those voice notes..trying to create familiarity. I’m sorry you had to experience that. You dodged a bullet!
No líes told.
Don't ask for AFRO products they will charge you a lot of money ask for regular shampoo and conditioner and gel it will be cheaper.
Babe, this is MY hair remember. I know what she needs 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Even tho it’s easier to meet people online I had to delete the dating apps. I end up disappointed most of the time
I love your standards, excellent way to gauge if its a waste of time! Can you list the artist you play in your videos? 😊
Somebody gets it! ✨ and my process for picking music for my videos makes it extremely hard to do that 😩
😳 what type of elevator is that at 32:04 opening like a random 🚪?
May I have the name of the song that’s playing @ 43:00? I love it🎶
Imaginary by Mimmi Bangoura 🎶 where I get most of my music from is linked in my description ✨
@@itsjasminegiselle Thank youu🦋
How are you means 'Nasılsın' in Turkish, Ergün is the name of that taxi driver
« I thought I was gonna walk but it was a lie » this is so me lmaooooo
😂😂🤣🤣🤣 Girl I was over it
Jasmine, you should always ask a man , what type of relationship or friendship they looking for, before you proceed with conversation. But sis, you turned him.ofv off with all the demands, the man been there only a month And didn't know you, so maybe suggest something. I bet him I ask you want know a lot of places in Mexico, after being there a month and if you work, you may not hang out like that. But I really think you turned him off, and he didn't see anything developing, so he said she could be a hookup. Men don't like to be told what to do and made to feel inadequate. His self esteem went down, by you saying you didn't want to do the things he suggested.
But shoutout to them for having what you need in the shop. Shoo, that reminds me, I need to make a quick run to the hair store myself🤭☺️Gworrrl, the way I laughed when he started feeding you is ridiculous, lmao.
57:43 Why do these guys do thisss??? I’m not sure what is happening to the dating scene? It’s literally trashy! See, I’m old school too. I need to be courted. It’s like you have to assume to when it comes to online dating, THAT… is expected. I believe I’ll meet my future hubby out and about too- at a festival, at the park, at a social event, whatever. I guess can’t with these dudes these days
Thanks for sharing your day in the life of Istanbul! Uggh sorry that guy tried to do a bait &!switch. Glad his true color came out before the date and you canceled. Intuition wins!
Thank you for watching 🫶🏽✨💗
Jasmine 🔥🔥🔥🔥