I remember seeing a story on reddit about some girl who got her period on a plane during a school trip. The pain was so bad she puked several times, then she laid down in the aisle and, in her words, "waited for sweet death to take me, but death has terrible customer service." Apparently, after that she went to a doctor. It's wild how many women and girls put up with agony because we assume it's normal.
@luisfilipe2023 Don't sell yourself short. There are days I'm glad I'm not a guy. You guys have your own crap to deal with that I don't envy. Keep slaying King
@@trini2DBone134 for sure! If i don't immediately take medication im down and out for the day. I also tak BC witch only kinda helps and also fucks with my depression 😡
i always thought that i was weak because "some discomfort" was supposed to be normal but i was always knocked out. when i was 15-16 i was missing three days of school every month because the pain had me stuck in the fetal position on the bathroom floor. i'm still horrified by the fact that i've heard multiple stories of women ignoring heart attacks because they thought it was just period cramps
I have found that prescription muscle relaxer works TREMENDOUSLY well for menstrual pain! (the one I use is called tizanidine) Unlike narcotics, muscle relaxers are not addictive and are safe for long term use! I recommend seeing a neurologist to get a prescription for a muscle relaxer as a gynecologist is unlikely to prescribe them.
@@Shield954that’s cool that it works for you and thanks for sharing the info. It is true that different specialty doctors tend to have completely different perspectives on how to treat stuff like that. I’m glad you mentioned this. A neurologist will try to prevent the pain differently than a gynecologist would. A gyno is also trained to rule out things like endometriosis and other reproductive disorders so they would probably just say “take a Tylenol” even though for me it doesn’t help much unless I take 200-400mg. Which I try not to do unless the pain is severe and preventing me from living my life
@@Shield954Muscle relaxers have a potential for abuse and addiction. Prolonged use can lead to increased tolerance and physical dependence, especially with Soma. For this reason, muscle relaxers are intended as a short-term treatment not to be prescribed for more than 2-3 weeks.
I almost didn't make it to the hospital in time for my first birth because I didn't think I was in labor because I really thought it was going to hurt more than period cramps.
I went to see 2 separate gynecologists & both didn’t help me with severe pelvic pain & bleeding. One said if I didn’t want hormonal birth control that they couldn’t help me and also told me to just take ibuprofen even though I told them it wasn’t working. The other doctor flat out told me that they didn’t have time to discuss my concerns that day even though I’d made my appt for pelvic pain and went there specifically because they did laparoscopic surgery. She did however, make sure to discuss birth control which I had already said I didn’t want. When I wrote a negative review about her office online, she sent me a letter dismissing me from the practice. I obviously didn’t plan on going back there, but the audacity she had was unreal. I later finally got a laparoscopy & some answers almost a year later after seeking out a 3rd doctor who actually listened to me. It seems like nobody really cares about women’s pain.
Those doctors were very rude to you which is obviously very unprofessional. But to be fair to them, birth control is currently the best treatment for period related pains. And although hormones have their risks, surgery is even more risky. So I’m not surprised they would suggest birth control first
@@RosesAndIvy I have a lot of experience with hormonal bc and it doesn’t work well for me for many reasons. Most doctors ignore women like me that say it doesn’t work and keep suggesting methods. I did end up trying 2 methods out of desperation (after many years off of bc) and my husband of 8 years said I turned into a totally different person. My marriage suffered because I hated my husband for no reason. My mental health suffered so badly that I was told by my doctor to discontinue it because she was concerned. It’s not for everyone and women like me need better options. Synthetic hormones that effect our brains have major side effects for many women. Once doctors figure out what’s wrong, I get it if birth control is a treatment, but don’t suggest that before you know what’s even going on. It’s a bandaid and it’s lazy medicine.
My pain is very bad. I hate this time of the month. Last Saturday i got sick and couldn't stop shaking due to the pain. And monday morning it started and i have to go to work. I drank some painkillers but couldn't even sit on the chair. But work has to be done. I go to the toilet and sat there for more than 30 min. Last night was horrible. But this morning to now everything is normal. This is how my P is. When i explain this to girls who don't get pain they laugh at me. But they are so Lucky because even they got their pain free Period. I always make suer them sit and wont do hard work. Because i know the pain. 😔
@@ndwstark9918 I feel for you although I don’t get period cramps badly. Once in a while I’ll feel like a stab in my stomach but I bet it’s absolutely nothing compared to what you go through. Hopefully as you get older or soon the pain slowly goes down or some type of medication can help you
Ok, mine aren’t that bad, mine are very very light and don’t come often, it doesn’t hurt that bad it’s just really uncomfortable. I feel very lucky after reading all of these comments. I am sorry for the women who have to deal with fainting, vomiting, and nauseousness. I love you guys. ❤
I was told by a GP "pain is part of being female, get used to it" I'd literally gone in because I'd been bleeding for months and had cramps so bad I was passing out. Just for reference, I gave birth without any medication so I've got a pretty decent pain tolerance!
I was badly bleeding for like two months when I was the the birth control shot and at first my OB told me oh that's fine breakthrough bleeding will happen until she actually checked me out and said actually you're right this is more than it should be but told me just to take iron pills.
@Diamond Storm After I had my first son, he ended up in the hospital for a week and one of the nurses was asking me what birth control I was on. She talked me in to getting a depo shot. What's crazy is that she went and grabbed it right then and gave me the shot, all of this happening in my son's hospital room. She leaves for about 15 min and comes back with a second shot and told me that she prepped the first shot wrong and gave me a second shot. A day after that, I started to bleed like crazy, for a year, with a few days when it would stop but it would always come back with a vengeance, I was bleeding and pushing out bloodclots the size of oranges. I was in and out of the hospital on top of multiple clinic visits, yet the doctors didn't know what was happening to me. There was no record of this nurse giving me those shots either, because she didn't put any of this in my file or on a chart of any kind, so the doctors didnt believe me when I told them that my sons nurse gave me two depo shots.
I think I have undiagnosed endometriosis or something similar and unfortunately I'm not taken seriously by medical professionals. Its been a long tiring and frustrating journey, sometimes i give up. (I started my first period at 9 and i have been dealing with it ever since). It was the same thing when i thought i had PCOS, and i was heavily dismissed and disrespected by a doctor who didn't took my concerns and history into account and there was no tests or anything being done. Fast forwarding, i got diagnosed with PCOS but only when I didn't get a period for two years and suddenly the doctor sent me to a gynecologist and blood work etc. Unfortunately, the gynecologist tossed me aside onve I got diagnosed with PCOS according to the results, symptoms and refused to look into endometriosis. It doesn't help that i have heard and seen articles/stories of female's struggling with seeking help and etc from medical professionals and are oftentimes dismissed and at times in a disrespectful way.
I have PCOS and endometriosis and its awful. I'm sure you do everything you can to help your daughter feel more comfortable during their time of the month. You're a good mom 🩷
My aunt has endometriosis but the scar tissue has spread through a lot of her abdomen. The doctors out here in southen az said they won't do anything about it because "theyll just come back in a few years anyways"..
When 12 year old me had crippling, vomit-inducing period cramps and my stepmom didn’t get cramps so she told my dad that I was acting dramatic for “attention” and that I must have a “low pain tolerance” 😃
@@unknowncaller3255 seriously. Luckily my mom was very sympathetic and did what she could to help me with the pain. I’ve been on birth control since I was 17 which has helped with cramps a lot, though I’ve had really bad ones a couple of times since then (so I KNOW it wasn’t just me being “dramatic” as a teenager)
@@emmakristineplougmannhansen that was one of my mom’s first thoughts but the doctor refused to do an exam on me, told me to try birth control instead. I wasn’t comfortable trying it right away because of possible side effects, but then I got a boyfriend so I ended up trying it anyway. I finally had an exam at 21 and everything checked out fine so that’s good at least
Seeing these comments is terrifying… People go through so much and some would call them exaggerated, like huh?? I was here going to complain how my legs feel weak and my head hurts a tiny bit sometimes, but daaam… I am grateful, and hopefully people are able to get help/treated (idk how these things are handled)
I don't know if you'll see this or if you know anything about this, but I would love a video that talks about periods in women with Mast Cell Activation Syndrome. MCAS is a horrible disease that can make women spontaneously go into labor, and I haven't heard much talk about it online, but I'm so glad to finally have an answer for what I've been experiencing for years.
Omg im biologically female with heds (hypermobile ehlers-danlos syndrome) and mast cell sctitivation syndrome with a lot ot period issues. Abd gosh thatd be a cool vid
Other symptoms that can fuck up your life are mood swings, digestive issues, heat intolerance, orthostatic intolerance (issues when standing up), etc. Most important thing I want to share though is that feeling suicidal on your period is not normal like I thought it was.
Absolutely. I always feel exhausted when PMSing (gonna have to try taking vitamins more regularly in case I'm just low iron) and also my body gets incredibly sensitive - it's hard to get comfortable enough to sleep and I'll end up tossing and turning, and usually the tenderness in my legs and groin is more uncomfortable than the cramping. Overall, periods and PMS can suck ass... they just shouldn't be debilitating and keep you from living life, I feel so bad for everyone who thinks that's normal. Never heard of suicidal thoughts as a thing some people get. It makes sense, my depression gets worse when PMSing, but still, damn. Wishing you luck
I'm nearly 30 and I only learnt LAST WEEK that not all period sufferers have cramps, and especially not ones that hurt so bad you can't stand. Genuinely felt gobsmacked to learn that.
@@ivak1897I do know that while i experience cramping, mine are weird where it's almost debilitating for a day (at my worst periods, i was on the verge of crying) and the rest of the week almost non existent. and weird knee pain that feel like my uterus is shedding inside my knee and is arguably worse than my actual cramps. fortunately for me i just take painkillers before it truly hits or peaks to avoid it. I'm also very lucky that they have gotten shorter compared to when i was 13. mostly because I'd take 6 day periods over 8 any day. unfortunately I'm not free from cramping outside of periods cuz my ovaries absolutely hate me during ovulation
My periods growing up from middle school to about 21 years old were extremely painful the first two days of my cycle to the point that I would take PM medications to sleep through those days I would hurt so much. And when I got it at school I would be sent home from the pain and hot flashes I got, one time I had to be taken down to the front in a wheel chair I almost passed out from the pain. And the nurse asked me once, “how are you going to function in the real world? You can’t just go home everytime you’re in pain.” Worst years of my life, I hated every second of it.
It's extra obnoxious when adults do this kind of shit to kids. Talking down to them and telling them they are dramatic or that "this wont fly in the real world". Its all gaslighting and theres an automatic assumption kids and teens are lying for attention or to get out of stuff. I think it contributes to a lot of misses early symptoms of a larger issue.
I hate schools talking about "the real world". Im 27 and at my workplace, its much more lenient than school ever was. Our manager listens to us and makes reasonable adjustments so that we can all pull our weight and give ourselves grace on the days we aren't at 100%
@@Hi_Im_Akward I'm so glad my mom was never like that to me. Seriously, I really do gaslighting kids like that causes psych problems later down the line
Omg I have the WORST period cramps like I cannot walk, I throw up every 10 minutes, I can’t eat or smell certain things, and I’m convulsing on my bed like I’m friggin possessed by the devil himself. I always thought it was normal because everyone told me it’s normal to have cramps (I guess they didn’t know the severity because mine are SEVERE) so I just suffered for so long without ever doing anything about it. That was until recently I saw a gynecologist and they told me that my level of cramps are not okay and they gave me birth control. I can finally do my everyday activities without feeling like I’m being punched in the stomach repeatedly by a heavyweight bodybuilder!!!!❤❤❤
Can you explain to women that it's not ok to shame women for being to sick or being in too much pain to work during their period. I had endometriosis for 23 years before I was diagnosed and women bullied me regularly when I would call out of work or leave work early or cry. Now that i've been diagnosed, they immediately back off but we need to end the period pain bullying.
I have found that prescription muscle relaxer works TREMENDOUSLY well for treating menstrual pain! (the one I use is called tizanidine) Unlike narcotics, muscle relaxers are not addictive and are safe for long term use! I recommend seeing a neurologist to get a prescription for a muscle relaxer as a gynecologist is unlikely to prescribe them.
Yes this video gives up the same vibes. I have a med called feminax it helps but im still in a lot of pain. What is normal? What do you want me to do about it? Rip out my overies? 😂
I remember when I learned periods aren't suppose to hurt as bad as mine do. I could never figure out why my mom never took me to the doctor for the pain
I used to think something was wrong with me because I never have cramps but my older sister and mother have the worst cramps and they said it was supposed to hurt and I was concerned about why mine didn't
Yeah, looking back that's the thing that disturbs me to. How do you have a child that is throwing up and fainting from the pain, and just belittle them to anyone who will listen instead of helping.
Doesn't the pain become more mild overtime on it's own? I don't take any pain killers and just don't think about it. It hurts the most in the morning and then gets tolerable to a point I can do things
@@RimFaxxe Everyone is different, and have different levels of pain. *Some* pain is normal, but some people get actual crippling amounts of pain, and that's a pretty big sign that something is seriously wrong. My pain lasts all day, and the pain level varies a bit, but I can get to pretty much painfree if I take pills, like ibuprofen and paracetamol, and/or use a heatpad.
Man, these comments are heartbreaking. My 16yo just got diagnosed with pcos a few weeks ago. I've suspected she had it for a few years. Talked to her pediatrician multiple times about it. She had an ultrasound, and we were told everything was normal. Her pediatrician retired recently, and the new one actually read her chart and looked at all of her labs for the last few years. One of the first things the new doctor asked was if we had a history of pcos in our family. And I was so relieved someone finally believed me. She has also suffered with ibs symptoms for years that were dismissed. The new doctor gave her some meds to try, and it's absolutely changed her life. From now on, I'm going to absolutely advocate for a second opinion if something feels wrong. I might not have a ton of medical training, but I do know what's normal or not for my child.
@kcxxxx9838 They did, but she doesn't like the side effects. So she decided she doesn't want hormone treatment. Of course, we talked with her doctor about it first.
Aww this makes me feel a rollercoaster of emotions, it’s crazy how doctors will dismiss things as “normal” when it comes to periods. I think more research should be done about it because few doctors actually know what they’re doing when it comes to it. Your daughter is so strong though! For going through all of that 😊❤.
I was gaslighted by emergency staff who talk me being huddled over myself throwing up every 5-15minutes from pain was completely normal for my period, I was 16. Doctors tried to prescribe Percocet (1/2-2 pills as needed) after 1 1/2 pills i was still in agonizing pain but was loopy and talking about floating away on clouds. That’s all I remember wasn’t until recently that a mental health care professional explained that no those symptoms were not “normal”
As a woman with PCOS. I can tell you as a teenager I would be curled up crying every night I came home from school on my period. Which chainsaw massacre 3 was coming out of my netherlands.
I wish more doctors even understood this. I went for a decade with endometriosis type pain without any doctors saying "hey yeah let's refer you to a gyn and check this out". I've been happily uterus free for 3 months now and its the best I've felt in years. No, doctors, being crippled by pain during your period is not normal. Who knew? 💁♀️
@@diosaamor if you get rid of you uterus (aka a hysterectomy) you won't be able to have babies. That's where babies grow so its pretty well essential to the process. So them saying it like a threat is hilarious. Also, no, you don't continue bleeding and very few have cramping style pain after. I was working out my provera levels needed to control my pmdd/pms symptoms and had what I call a comma. Period but without the cramps (which used to be debilitating), bleeding (well there's no endometrium anymore to be shed). I think the cases where there's some bleeding tend to be when they leave the cervix (there's debate about it re sexual pleasure but most who have it removed have very little issues and many are able to enjoy sexual activity more after bc less pain) Its absolutely worth talking to a good gynaecologist, but be warned, many will try to tell you not to because you might want kids later yada yada yada, especially bc of your age- my first tried that with me when my youngest was already 10. I can assure you I would rather die than have more kids now) and take an advocate that will speak up for you not against you. It helps.
I had horrific periods, the doctors never looked into why & I spent 10 years asking for a hysterectomy & they wouldn’t give me one. Now I can’t have one, but luckily I don’t have periods anymore. Still mad at the doctors though.
I'm bedridden for the first three days of my cycle. Have to take off work because I physically can't move. My Dr. Prescribed me painkillers and just gave me more when I complained the painkillers didn't help. Apparently I'm over exaggerating my pain. So I deal with it. 🤷♀️
that's terrible, finding another doctor is easier said than done but for me I've been taking the birth control pill (as directed by my doctor) where it's the active tablets for 12 weeks then 1 week of inactives so basically my period is only every 3 months and it really helps, just an idea
@@luvcherry I've tried 15 different birth controls mostly oral. The last one was an IUD that started coming out on its own. Dr didn't believe I was still in intense pain from the IUD till I insisted I had been bleeding heavily for a whole month and I told her she would take it out because I wasn't leaving till she did. She reluctantly agreed. She had spent an hour trying to convince me to give it more time. When she went to take it out she said it must have begun expelling itself already. I'm now infertile from the scarring so I decided not to put my body through more stress from birth control since none of them have ever done me any good and the option of children was taken from me. Despite all this they've never agreed to test me for any sort of disorder that may have caused the heavy bleeding, large blood clots, and crippling pain that no birth control or painkiller ever helped before the IUD even. I'm used to living in my bed several days a month but it would be nice to know why it was that bad since I was 14. I am now 29.
I have found that prescription muscle relaxer works TREMENDOUSLY well for menstrual pain! (the one I use is called tizanidine) Unlike narcotics, muscle relaxers are not addictive and are safe for long term use! I recommend seeing a neurologist to get a prescription for a muscle relaxer as a gynecologist is unlikely to prescribe them.
I read these comments of women saying how bad their cramps are and that just reminds me how thankful I have to be to not feel any kind of pain or discomfort during my period or before it. So glad that I'm made this way 😅
I'm grateful that you are available for the young ladies of the world, but I wish you had been around before I went through menopause. We had to learn things (or not learn things) the hard way. Thank you for the knowledge you share.
Same. I do occasionally get the lightning bolt butthole pain out of nowhere, it's like all the cramps are saved up and cashed in at once directly into the anus 😂
As a 16 year old, mine are fine too. I feel some pain in my stomach, open the calendar and go "Okay, now it makes sense." Not too painful but definitely noticeable.
Severe pain one week before, during, and one week after my daughter’s period ended up being stage IV endometriosis. She lost both her fallopian tubes during a surgery that was suppose to help her get pregnant. She will have a full hysterectomy this fall. She’s only 34. She fought with doctors for over 10 years before one finally took her serious. To late though.
She should keep her cervix and ovaries if able. That's what I did and its good because the ovaries can keep producing hormones and the cervix can just do its job. And the recovery time is so easy
I suspect that some of the scar tissue removed in my washout surgery 18 months ago was probably endometrial given the fact my cramping has been reduced since then to less than it ever was.
Yeah....some cramping IS fine, if it's bearable!! What's not fine is if it hurts so badly you feel like you're gonna throw up! You're right MDJ, but the problem is...drs only care if you're bleeding longer then 7 days....it doesn't matter if you're in a lot of pain, or if your periods are heavy, or having huge blood clots...every thing is apparently fine if you're bleeding less then 7 days... NO.IT.IS.NOT.FINE!! Please set these people straight that you do not need to be bleeding more then 7 days for a dr to say "hey somethings wrong with you"!!! Guh! Those bleeding disorder tests are seriously bogus!!! I check off everything on the list for period issues except for the "bleed more then 7 days." And because of that ONE question, it says "you're fine...." Nooooo!!! If I need birth control pills to control the heaviness of my bleeding and the amount of pain I get then noooo I am not fine...also...my period was very irregular till I got on them...bleeding two weeks after the day I was supposed to...so yeah....I am lucky the birth control help me, but I can not go off them at all!!!
Erm... sorry, you're wrong. For decades I had to put up with 10 to 14 days heavy bleeding, vomiting, diarrhoea, and crippling cramps that made walking difficult, I was repeatedly told it was normal! I was fortunate enough to see a locum, purely by chance, who happened to have had similar problems herself. She helped me.
My crams literally made me bedridden for two weeks. But my doctor's only suggestion was "let's put you on birth control and come back to it". I was bleeding enough i could have become anemic. I was pale and ill during my periods. I'm 21 and I still have no answers as to why, my family just says it's the family curse. I know I have PCOS which doesn't help but it shouldn't make it so I couldn't get out of bed.
I have PCOS as well and I have found that prescription muscle relaxer works TREMENDOUSLY well for menstrual pain! (the one I use is called tizanidine) Unlike narcotics, muscle relaxers are not addictive and are safe for long term use! I recommend seeing a neurologist to get a prescription for a muscle relaxer as a gynecologist is unlikely to prescribe them.
I'm also fainting and throwing up during my period, specifically on the first and the third day. I have been checked multiple times by multiple doctors and absolutely nobody can find out what is wrong with me. I keep seeing "oh it is not supposed to hurt that's an illness" but no actual answers... I kinda got used to it and just take painkillers with a certain schedule. I feel like it is just natural for some women, idk
I remember seeing my sisters absolutely debilitated by her periods when we were growing up. When I was 29, I was dx with stage 4 endometriosis and I strongly suspect both my sisters have it too. It’s easier to find people who understand and specialize in endometriosis now. (I’m 52 now)
I was hospitalized for 3 days as a teen because my period sent my body so completely haywire. My doctor at the time prescribed me 600mg ibuprofen. That’s it. I now use Mirena iud to stop my periods and, at the time, I went on birth control pills to help. The bc pills were prescribed for actual birth control and not because my periods were hell. The doctor I got them from said my highly irregular periods (I had gone 4 months without a period at this point) were due to a “growth spurt.” The pills helped a bit but it was still pretty bad. I finally got an obgyn that said I likely have endometriosis and confirmed poly cystic ovaries. My gynecological journey is just one aspect of doctors doing me dirty in my life. I’m so happy I have a great medical team on my side now.
What always drove me crazy is that my doctors would take me super serious when I come in with a fractured bone, a big burn injury...etc. I would sit there and tell them that I know I need to get it checked, but it's really not that painful, and they would be impressed or even irritated that I don't think this is more than an annoying inconvenience. But then I go to a gynaecologist, tell them that I had extreme pain after sex that made me nearly pass out and felt like my body was shutting down. Leading to me laying in bed crying from pain until I fell asleep from exhaustion, and thankfully woke up without pain after a looing sleep. And the doctor shrugs their shoulders, tells me it was probably not that bad and there is no need to check anything because the pain is obviously gone now.
Growth spurt my ass. I got my period at age 11 and NEVER missed a period. It wasn't even the slightest bit irregular even in the first couple of years. Which is unusual, yes, but if growth spurts caused that kind of thing I think it'd be pretty common knowledge by now
Awesome that you got to the bottom of it eventually. im currently on 500mg naproxen pain killers for cramps and i was supposed to get a recommendation thing for an ultrasound (forgot what its called) but it never came and my periods have been super weird (and painful). i hate how the first thing they said was to try pain killers or birth control. like why not check out the situation first and then go to pain killers second? i dont get it tbh. hoping to get an appointment over summer though
@@harmonicaveronica I got mine at 10 and had a period that lasted for two weeks during Ramadan, I felt bad eating in front of my family while they were fasting.
Long term use of high dosage ibuprofen causes stomach ulcers and liver damage. 😭 I have found that prescription muscle relaxer works TREMENDOUSLY well for menstrual pain! (the one I use is called tizanidine) Unlike narcotics, muscle relaxers are not addictive and are safe for long term use. I recommend seeing a neurologist to get a prescription for a muscle relaxer as a gynecologist is unlikely to prescribe them.
Bruh I was in French class DYING from cramps. Like I couldn’t breathe and I was going through waves of pain and looking pale according to my friend. I could barely stand to even request to use the restroom 💀 and once I got there I couldn’t stand back up the moment I sat down. I was a step away from tears bro and I don’t tear up. I broke my arm and didn’t know for three days, I broke my ribs and didn’t know until they healed oddly. And this pain is an every month scenario that I thought was just normal wtf ?!!
Story time abt cramps- 4 days ago I was in math class and started getting cramps at first it wasn’t very painful but it still DID hurt then I felt leaking so I thought “oh sh!t I must’ve got it” I raised my hand and asked the male teacher to use the restroom and he said “No,Kardemon u should’ve gone at lunch” soon after that I was cramping so bad and I’m talking some of the worst freaking cramps of my life and I raised my had and told him it was an emergency then he said “NO. YOU MAY NOT. U ALREADY USED UR BATHROOM PASS THIS YEAR” and then my cramps got so bad my classmates started to notice I was in pain and asked asked if I was ok or needed anything 15 minutes later I passed out apparently I woke up 30 seconds later tho and when I woke up I started crying because it was so bad the teacher sent me to the nurse and on my way there I puked. Long story short that was the worst day of my life 😃. Btw I’m 12
Before my most recent family doctor took me on, I was taking a total of 24 painkillers a day while I was awake. I needed to take 6 every 3.5 hours just to function my normal day to day life. Now I'm currently prescribed stronger meds that I take maximum 2 a day for the 7 days. And I'm on the list for a hysterectomy. Took 7 years to get an endometriosis diagnosis, and I pushed for the hysterectomy before the age of 30 while single and childless. Sometimes, you just have to fight for your health.
I have found that prescription muscle relaxer works TREMENDOUSLY well for menstrual pain! (the one I use is called tizanidine) Unlike narcotics, muscle relaxers are not addictive and are safe for long term use! I recommend seeing a neurologist to get a prescription for a muscle relaxer as a gynecologist is unlikely to prescribe them.
Mine can get just below the threshold of where I can’t act normal. But when I don’t have to act normal, I still choose to curl up into a ball and cry because they are still bad. My favorites are the ones that happen at 3am because then I have to eat something to take a painkiller, and then wait like half an hour in agony for it to kick in so I can go back to sleep
I have found that prescription muscle relaxer works TREMENDOUSLY well for menstrual pain! (the one I use is called tizanidine) Unlike narcotics, muscle relaxers are not addictive and are safe for long term use! I recommend seeing a neurologist to get a prescription for a muscle relaxer as a gynecologist is unlikely to prescribe them.
After 14 year of crippling period pain finally found a gynecologist who take it seriously. She is talking about surgery want would love to see a video about Endometrial Ablation and Hysterectomy as options for period pains, pros and cons.
@Jessica Meierhofer It has been mentioned but no one has ordered investigations past an ultrasound, which I don't think Endo shows up on. I have another appointment tomorrow, so I will ask about it again.
I had endometrial ablation years ago best thing I ever had done, I didn't want a hysterectomy if I didn't need one, and if I did everything was going especially if I was going under, that's just me. My doctor she is no longer in the office where I go, but she is a genius and she listens to you too she respects her patient 🤗, she is so skilled.
If you are done having children, ablation is wonderful!!!!! I was up and about the next day. The day of the outpatient surgery, I came home and slept off the anesthesia. I needed no pain killers at any time. My abdomen just felt a bit weird for a day or two. It worked wonderfully for me. I recommend it to everyone who is having period problems and is done having children!
Theres also ignorant fools out there like my mother who allowed my older sister to stay home from school for period pain in high-school [even though she WAS faking] and when i got to high-school she ignored my pain because i had an overall higher pain tolerance and she thought i was faking....i was not.... now in my 30s she's FINALLY realized ive never faked or over exaggerated my pains. I even had a teacher who was more understanding and would allow me to rest in her classroom when i was hurting.
When I was a teenager I had HORRIBLE periods. I would get nauseous, vomit, get dizzy, faint, be in excruciating pain, SUPER heavy flow, etc. I actually developed iron deficiency anemia because of all the blood I lost. My period made me miss my first ever day of highschool. I’m so blessed to have access to birth control, it literally changed my life.
My eldest sibling and I had very different experiences with periods. They had awful cramps that would leave them lying on the floor for days hugging a hot water bottle and downing painkillers as often as allowed. I never had much of cramps, but I got awful headaches, and even migraines. I ached all over, felt lightheaded and felt nauseous. Every month. We both had very different experiences, but when my sibling went to get treatment finally, and started taking hormones to stop their period, I didn't. I was convinced that so long as I wasn't on the floor crying, I should be fine. Cause people talk about periods being so awful, I genuinely thought that I had it ok. I thought it was just part of life that I had to learn to accept. I think I was about 10 when I got my first period? I was 21 before I finally went to a doctor to talk about it and get it fixed. I dealt with it getting progressively worse for OVER A DECADE because I was so convinced that I was just supposed to hurt. That it was normal, and fine, and people would tell me I was lucky cause I didn't have the cramps, and I had other symptoms. I got a different hormone treatment to my sibling, so my period isn't gone, but it's much lighter and all my other symptoms are gone. No more headaches, no more nausea, no more planning my life around when I was going to be sore and bleeding, and incapable of doing the stuff I wanted to. I waited so long to get treatment, and I seriously regret it. I wish I had done this sooner, because I wasted so much of my life on that shit. Just because it's not awful cramps, doesn't mean it's fine. It's the only symptom people talk about, but it's not the only symptom people get! If anything stops you from living your life, go get help. Seek treatment, and enjoy your life as much as you can!
I’ve had really bad periods since I was 12 and I’m 21 now but I thought I didn’t have it that bad because I don’t throw up or pass out. The pain keeps me home from school for 2 days per month and my entire body hurts even after taking ibuprofen. I can barely walk up a few stairs
I have found that prescription muscle relaxer works TREMENDOUSLY well for menstrual pain! (the one I use is called tizanidine) Unlike narcotics, muscle relaxers are not addictive and are safe for long term use! I recommend that your sibling see a neurologist to get a prescription for a muscle relaxer as a gynecologist is unlikely to prescribe them.
I'm a retired nurse. I'm very glad that you're doing this. It's unbelievable that we have declined in reproductive education. It's insane what some young people think is fact.
I think we all need to talk about what is normal for periods as a whole. I have a cousin who had a heavy flow for two months straight and didn’t say anything about it because she thought it was normal. Her mom finally caught on some how, and took her to the hospital where she had to get blood transfusions because she had broke the record for “Lowest Blood Pressure in a Living Patient,” at that hospital. She’s fine now, and on birth control to help regulate her periods.
Dude. Both me, my mom, my aunt, and my grandmother all have extremely painful periods to where we've all passed out during them AT LEAST 3 times (at least for me). We even came up with the name "The Miller Curse" because my mother's and my aunt's maiden names are Miller
I’m one of those who has no cramps or very mild. You can bet your ass I am never going to belittle other people’s period pain. If I could share the lack of cramps with them I would do it in a heartbeat. It’s not worth judging people ♥️
I was always confused because I didn't feel pain with my periods, I just got hot and dizzy and nauseous. Now, many years later I realise I was in pain but had been so conditioned to think I wasn't in pain I didn't realise I was unwell until I almost fainted. This was so bad that at 17 I had started crying traumatically in a class and couldn't give a reason. I was sent to the Dr who worked out that I was in pain and had an injury I hadn't realised was hurting. I hope we do better for women and girls.
I never had a period without pain till I consulted with an RE. NO ONE EVER TOOK THE TIME TO PRESCRIBE THE APPROPRIATE TESTS. I had fibroids. I’d had them for years. After the hysteroscopic myomectomy my quality of life improved immeasurably and I was finally able to conceive. She’s 20 now ❤️
Big hugs, absolutely love the video, and please keep teaching people about their bodies and to get help with normal things. Because you're not born with an internal instruction manual and it normal to ask questions. ❤❤❤🎉
Back in the 60’s when I started my period at 13, I immediately experienced horrific pain. I missed at least one day a month from school for 5 years. My mother took me to doctors who said things like, “It’s you body’s way of preparing you for childbirth”, or “They won’t feel so bad after you have a baby”. I suffered for so long (after having 2 premature babies my periods were still terribly painful) and finally when I was 45 when doctor finally agreed to a hysterectomy. It was like being reborn!!!
And what was the reason? For your pain I have severe pain as well and I’m worried to even start working a 9-5 because of how bad I get. Who’s gonna take me home? Will I even be allowed to? I’m scared, I’m 23 and I wish I was done with periods already
@@skywalker6763 I had endometriosis surgery which had no effect on the pain. I had to give myself shots to put my body into a chemical induced menopause, where I suffered excruciating hot flashes, mood swings, and continued pelvic pain. Finally she agreed to the hysterectomy! No more pain!!
@@karenfreedman9180 thanks for your response, btw. And I’m glad it got better for you. This pain is a heavy burden to carry every month, no woman should go trough this.
It's tough when you are in extreme pain, to the point it interferes with your life, but your doctor just dismisses you and says it's normal. Like, I've thrown up and passed out from the pain. And this is a running theme with my family, my sister ended up getting two units of blood because her period was so heavy and painful and they still don't know what's wrong and no one is looking into it.
I’m trying to get a diagnosis right now and it’s very likely that I have PCOS. When I went to the gyno , she asked me why I had never seen a doctor about my super irregular and painful periods. I had been to several doctors but she was the first one who actually cared and wanted to test me for what’s wrong.
I have found that prescription muscle relaxer works TREMENDOUSLY well for menstrual pain! (the one I use is called tizanidine) Unlike narcotics, muscle relaxers are not addictive and are safe for long term use! I recommend seeing a neurologist to get a prescription for a muscle relaxer as a gynecologist is unlikely to prescribe them.
Personally I always heard that periods hurt like a demon was coming out of your stomach but when I got mine I felt no pain. Like when I got it for the first time and there were no cramps I thought it was like diarrhea ( or something I was dumb) never had period pain since, which now it’s hard to tell when it comes but better than pain!
Watching This As I'm On Mine, And In So Much Pain That I Can't Move. I Threw Up My Guts Yesterday And I've Been Taking 5 Ibuprofens Every Time 9 Hours Passes Just To Get Some Relief. The Physical Pain Is Excruciating And The Mental Pain From Dysphoria Is Horrible Too.
When I first started getting periods, they were very painful. I would have to curl up in bed for 2 or 3 days. I didn't think there was anything I could do about it. I was both a track and a cross-country runner through high school. Then years later, I started taking a yoga class. The pain during my period completely disappeared! That miraculous cure kept me doing yoga for the rest of my life! 😁
The bible was written by misogynists as a way to blame women for all of humanity's problems despite men being the ones who cause all the wars and destruction of the world.
We need to stop normalizing heavy period pain! I’ve had friends who I had told for YEARS that it wasn’t normal to have periods as bad as theirs and they just accepted it as a way of life! It’s crazy how people are taught to just deal with pain like that
Dude once when I was 12-13 i was on my period and it was so painful that I couldn't stand up and I had to go to pe since that was what I had next but thankfully the teacher that we had was kind and let me stay in the class to sleep ever since that she had been my favorite teacher I wish I got to tell her how much that actually meant to me and I still remember this story to this day
I used to have periods so bad I would pass out from the pain, have a high fever, and cold sweats. I would tell doctors and they would all say it was normal and to take naproxen. I'm not exaggerating I promise. Things got better when I became an adult and started taking birth control, but even with that there's still pain. Only difference is that now I can make it through the day, but as soon as I stop taking them it's back to how it was originally. To this day I don't have an answer and I just accepted that it's just how my body is. I know I can't keep taking birth control forever, but by the time I stop them hopefully I can find someone who will work with me to at least return it some
You know your cycle stops when you go through menopause, and staying on the pill isn't such a bad thing so long as your healthy, and if you want to have a baby you stop talk to your doctor about that.
I have found that prescription muscle relaxer works TREMENDOUSLY well for menstrual pain! (the one I use is called tizanidine) Unlike narcotics, muscle relaxers are not addictive and are safe for long term use. I recommend seeing a neurologist to get a prescription for a muscle relaxer as a gynecologist is unlikely to prescribe them.
I have a heat pad- I have tried so many things- on meds right now and I am still rolling around in tears. My mom has endometriosis, and she suspects that I also might have it. So sick of this. So much pain. Can’t get out of bed, and so emotional.
I have found that prescription muscle relaxer works TREMENDOUSLY well for treating menstrual pain! (the one I use is called tizanidine) Unlike narcotics, muscle relaxers are not addictive and are safe for long term use! I recommend seeing a neurologist to get a prescription for a muscle relaxer as a gynecologist is unlikely to prescribe them.
I consider myself lucky for experiencing painful period cramps once in a while... I heard of so many girls and women who have to suffer for days every month and they don't even get the medical attention that they deserve. I hope medicine will find a cure for this kind of condition...
I have a very conservative family, and I was brought up on birth control bad, abortion bad, end this is my story of how birth control saved me. I was JUST getting my second period ever when I also was being diagnosed with a digestive chronic illness that caused severe abdominal pain. I was in and out of hospital a lot, and suddenly I was in a period, which was very new to me. My first went okay but my second caused such severe cramps that I threw up all the time, and the doctors could not tell if it was chronic illness or period. The amount of blood I was losing for more than a week was far more than is safe, especially with anemia, and I was out on a birth control pill. My parents willingly agreed because the problems were so big but I was actually scared I would go to hell. Don't let your kids be scared of something that can save their life, and it you need help, ask for it.
Sucks that you were fed a guilt trip about BCPs, but great that you got a solution for your period issues. There's no reason why anyone should suffer like that when there are treatments available.
I have a friend who was born XY female (never developed into a boy fetus cuz their body didn't respond to the androgens correctly, so stayed the default female despite XY chromosomes). Nobody knew until they failed to go thru puberty. Got diagnosed as a young teen and put on hormones to get female puberty to progress... until their Very Catholic parents realized those were the same hormones in BCP and stopped the treatment. Their diagnosis means they're sterile anyway, so what are they even accomplishing besides canceling puberty halfway thru! 🙄 I guess joke's on them though cuz that friend is nonbinary transmasc these days anyway ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
I actually feel worse before the period than when I’m on it. Those PMS symptoms-cramping, diarrhea, fatigue, bloating, headaches, etc. are the worst. Once I start bleeding, I actually feel better. Everyone is different, I guess, but either way, it sucks when you feel like 💩.
You get all that before? For me it's just fatigue and feeling depressed. The rest comes during. But yeah, at around day 3 or 4, when symptoms get lighter it's like heavy weight off my shoulders.
I always feel my worst 2 days after i stop bleeding. The wk before period and during im usually fine, but right after it's really awful for a few days.
Might check out your diet. I've screwed myself up really bad a couple of times from not eating right for weeks. Normally menstruation doesn't bother me beyond the occasional 5 - 10 second cramp, but those times, I was miserable.
That's would be the brewing stage, some months are worse than others so its better to load up on liquids before hand. When the hormone finally does it thing and releases heavy flow, that's when body starts to alivate discomforts. The irritation and pain is real, especially constipation stays around longer than needed.
Growing up, I only had mild cramping. Usually only the first day, maybe take one basic pain pill, and it's good to go. After I had my daughter, it got insane. Would feel it from my back to my legs, have to sit on a massage pillow till meds kicked in. I had to leave my husband's work christmas party early because I had forgotten to take some pills before we left. Turns out I had endometrial hyperplasia. Hysterectomy for the win.
Had a colleague who often had sick days. When I asked her about it she explained it was when she was her period and she wasn't allowed to drive on her medication so she stayed home. She was on morfin! She really wanted to get her tubs tied (or whatever the procedure is) to stop her periods all together, but she had to have 2 kids before her doctor would allow it. So she had convinced her boyfriend to try for babies they didn't really want. Not sure what happened to her or if she kept the children. She quite not long after.
Read a story about a woman who had horrible period pain, she was told to suck it up and that it was normal. When she had her first kid she felt almost nothing because it felt so similar to her period which she was used to
All my life, my period was this evil thing that had a habit of showing up precisely on the very days I didn’t want it to, starting with my first one crashing a Thanksgiving gathering. Birthdays, holidays, a swim-team exchange trip to Bermuda, the first day of my senior year-all were ruined by my period gate-crashing them! To make things even worse, I suffered from killer cramps with my periods (as if starting them at age TEN wasn’t bad enough!), to the point where prescription-level doses of ibuprofen would only work if I spent half the day in bed. Trouble was, Mom wouldn’t let me skip school even though I was in so much pain my friends said I looked like walking roadkill! When I was 16 and learned about the birth control pill and how it helped in health class, I begged Mom to let me go on it, but she flat-out refused. Her reasoning? “It would make me promiscuous.” Needless to say, after two more years of UNNECESSARY pain and suffering, my first act as an adult was to go on the pill when I turned 18! My older daughter suffered from the same debilitating periods, but I told her she could go on the pill for them even though she was only 14. No way was I going to let her suffer like I had! My younger one doesn’t get cramps like that at all, the lucky duck. But I told her if she wants to use contraceptives for any reason, permission more than granted! Health reasons matter, and for many of us preventing unwanted pregnancy is simply a bonus!
I have found that prescription muscle relaxer works TREMENDOUSLY well for menstrual pain! (the one I use is called tizanidine) Unlike narcotics, muscle relaxers are not addictive and are safe for long term use. I recommend seeing a neurologist to get a prescription for a muscle relaxer as a gynecologist is unlikely to prescribe them.
@@Shield954 Thanks, but there’s no need-menopause has crashed the party! Not to mention that my cycle got “tamed” after my older daughter’s birth (although I know that having a kid isn’t a “cure” that everyone wants).
same with the first thing I did turning 18 was get on birth control because of how much I suffered for years & now in my late twentys no longer on bc, but still get cramps and discomfort. it’s nothing how it used to be but STILL so uncomfortable & I just mentally check out 🥲
love that you’re letting your daughter do the same because she is experiencing it too! a lot of our parents didn’t understand the pain we were really going through 😓
I learned after about a decade of cripplingly painful periods that I could, in fact, have safely taken more than 200mg of ibuprofen, multiple times a day, all this time. Learned it from mom offhandedly mentioning how much she took to ease the pain of shoulder surgery. Not that it mattered much as soon after this I was prescribed birth control pills and they also knocked out the pain real good lol
What really put it into perspective for me was someone I know getting pain meds after surgery. They basically got two pills in the morning, two at noon, two in the afternoon, two in the evening and two for the night. I don't remember the exact doses but whichever medication it was, it was more than 500mg. Their mother, who is a pharmacist, did find it excessive to be clear. That's when I really stopped caring about, in rare occasions, needing 3 pills of ibu in a day. I'm lucky that my cramps last only two days at most though, and my general strategy is to take half a pill (200mg) at a time. I'm happy you've found a way to deal with yours, and it really sucks that didn't happen sooner.
Yeah...I'm taking the pill continuesly now, to completely surpress my period. But before, I used to take 800mg in the morning and then 600mg midday and in the evening and it was barely enough. Which is more then the recommended dose, really...but what are gonna do, if less doesn't work?
I remember having to skip school for 2-3 days a month because I couldn't move much on my period, like I was in paralyzing pain. I had to skip school because they wouldn't accept Period complications as a valid excuse. I thought it was normal I basically had to pump myself full of pain meds to function. I am currently taking estrogen free birth control which has surpressed my cycle for 5 years now and while I feel the side effects of the medication, I have never felt more free since I started my period. I'm planning on getting a partial hysterectomy as I am not interested in reproducing anyways but I am also not willing to go back to my restrictive life with my cycle.I can't wait to be free of it till the end of my life
Omg I'm in 10th rn and ever since I got my period I always have to take 1 or 2 days off because I cannot function very well. The pain is not ignorable but sometimes if I'm lucky there won't be any pain throughout the whole week (it happened once 😭😃😭)
Interestingly, getting a tattoo and having a kind of reference point for what “very painful” feels like to most people made me realize how awful my period cramps are. It genuinely feels like I’m being tattooed across my uterus. On the bright side, tattoo pain is pretty tolerable now lol
I rarely had cramps and they were light, to my feelings anyway my pain endurance is high. However, I had the legs hurting, the back, the 10 lbs bloating, the insomnia, the shakes….cramps are not everything we get, there are lots of other symptoms doctors have no clue how to treat, they give anti-anxiety pills 🙄
I have found that prescription muscle relaxer works TREMENDOUSLY well for menstrual pain! (the one I use is called tizanidine) I recommend seeing a neurologist to get a prescription for a muscle relaxer as a gynecologist is unlikely to prescribe them.
When I was 12, my obgyn told me this. It didn't make sense that I was in excruciating pain while my friends didn't have an issue. 27 years later, I found out it was Endo when I could no longer stand to cook or shower. My pelvic pain around ovulation and during my cycle was debilitating by that point.
I have found that prescription muscle relaxer works TREMENDOUSLY well for menstrual pain! (the one I use is called tizanidine) Unlike narcotics, muscle relaxers are not addictive and are safe for long term use! I recommend seeing a neurologist to get a prescription for a muscle relaxer as a gynecologist is unlikely to prescribe them.
In my experience if someone asks if they hurt, they’re referring to the bleeding not cramps. So that’s what I think every time someone’s like “yeah it hurts “ or “no it doesn’t hurt” I would try to explain it better in case they’re worried abt that and not referring to cramping
I'm a trans guy and i had awful cramps, so bad that i passed out on the sidewalk once. I always cried and screamed. Well, i got a appendix surgery a few months back and since then my pain has gotten way less. Like, i barely notice it no more.
It's the reason I have so much anxiety around OBGYNs. The first time I went was because of my period pain and I wasn't taken seriously. A few years later I went again because of a small lump on my breast (all good, turned out to be nothing) and she asked me again about my period pain. Told her nothing changed and I just take 6-8 pills of ibuprofen during my period and I'm able to be sorta functioning. She just answered with "Oh.".
If I have cramps on my periods it completely incapacitates me. I will do whatever I want/can (disabled), but every couple of minutes I have to stop walking, talking and just lean over until the cramping has gone. It’s embarrassing in public but I couldn’t really care less because I refuse to stop everything for an entire week every month. I’m also pretty sure the employees know when I’m on my period now 🤣
I have found that prescription muscle relaxer works TREMENDOUSLY well for menstrual pain! (the one I use is called tizanidine) The only downside is muscle relaxer makes you drowsy. But hey, at least you can finally get some sleep. I recommend seeing a neurologist to get a prescription for a muscle relaxer as a gynecologist is unlikely to prescribe them.
I was told periods were meant to hurt. I was also told that periods are only a few table spoons or something. So it seems like a lot of blood but it’s not. I passed out (at a very young age) because of a lack of iron from my periods and it turns out I have Endometriosis. It also turns out I could’ve been on the pill or SOMETHING to try slow down the effect and everything 💀
I have found that prescription muscle relaxer works TREMENDOUSLY well for menstrual pain! (the one I use is called tizanidine) Unlike narcotics, muscle relaxers are not addictive and are safe for long term use! I recommend seeing a neurologist to get a prescription for a muscle relaxer as a gynecologist is unlikely to prescribe them.
👏👏 Thought I was normal for years, turned out that endo and PCOS run in my family. I also see a lot of people discouraging others from seeking help, saying that you probably don’t have a medical condition anyway, and blah blah blah. But EVEN if you don’t have a medical condition, you shouldn’t have to suffer!!!! There are ways to help you either way. No one should discourage others to not seek help because it’s unlikely (there’s a pretty good chance that it is a medical condition too) that someone has a medical condition, THEY STILL NEED HELP. I wish someone had told me this when I was suffering. YOU AREN’T MEANT TO SUFFER. If your period affects your life, go to a health care professional to get help, because they can help you with your pain!!!
I think we should de-normalize too much pain, having cramps is normal, being bed ridden and puking is not normal, after I got my period I had to take extra classes every year of high school cause I'd miss a week every month, when I brought up my issues to my doctors they told me it's ok, my mom told me 'yeah I had a classmate in highschool who'd get sick and wouldn't be able to stand up, it's normal eventually you'll grow out of it" to this day I puke, cry, shake uncontrollably and have went to the ER multiple times to get pain killers, they still tell me everything looks normal
I used to have cramping so bad that I would be bedridden (or at least should've been instead of being told to suck it up) for the first day or two of my period. took fainting in the school bathroom and going to two doctors to find out I have fibroids.
"Suck it up" is the female version of "man up". Anytime a girl displays emotion, society labels her as being "over dramatic" and "too sensitive". It's odd how men think that they're the only ones who can't display emotion. They don't realize that women and girls can't display emotion either without getting berated for it or having their pain dismissed completely.
I've always known my pain was really bad, but the first doctor to actually care was this year...29 years into my life and now having infertility issues.
I'm so sorry. We need to start suing doctors as failure to provide proper testing for conditions qualifies as negligence. I have found that prescription muscle relaxer works TREMENDOUSLY well for menstrual pain! (the one I use is called tizanidine) Unlike narcotics, muscle relaxers are not addictive and are safe for long term use. I recommend seeing a neurologist to get a prescription for a muscle relaxer as a gynecologist is unlikely to prescribe them.
my period made me so nauseous that for the entire week i had it i could barely eat. I would lose like 5-10 pounds every month gain it then lose it again. I started birth control and don’t have a period now it’s great. birth control can be so so helpful and not just for pregnancy prevention!
I'm pretty sure my aunt had to use birth control for her periods too! From what ive been told she had crazy periods that could last for six months! I feel so bad for her now that i know that periods are often uncomfortable/painful.
It's not healthy to not have a period tho. You're a woman and you're supposed to have ur period every month. I suggest u stop using birth control. Use stronger meds that help with pain, not meds that stop ur monthly cycle
I used go through so much pain every month that i had to stay home from school and i would bleed like a pig someone stabbed, so i started taking hormone pills and now I only get my period every three months. It has made my life so mich easier
Thank you. Period is discomfort surely, but any pain,cramps that make us feeling like we are at the death door. I habe endon, and for the longest time, i thought it was normal amount of pain that i experienced. I finally get diagnosed and get treatment for it. Period is more of a discomfort, sharp pain on occasions now. Much better. Thank God. Thank you for saying those.
This message is needed!! I wish i heard it when i started my cycle. Doctor told me painful is normal i couldnt get out of bed bad level. Told thats normal. It was never normal!!!
I always had severe pain the first day or two. Ibuprofen is why I can function on those days. If I don’t have ibuprofen I’m in fetal position until the cramps subside. I can equate my cramps to when I was in labour at 5cm. It sucks especially when I was a teen and adults thought I was lying to get out of school.
I use Ibuprofen as well. When I was little my parents didn't let me use pain killers and I remember vomiting a lot and not being able to walk for hours. The funny part is when you tell how it feels to other girls who're lucky enough not to have any pains, and they're like "do YoU KnOw IbUpRoFeN is BaD foR yoUr hEalTh???" as if I had a choice.
Ibuprofen isn't effective enough for me. I have found that prescription muscle relaxer works TREMENDOUSLY well for menstrual pain! (the one I use is called tizanidine) Unlike narcotics, muscle relaxers are not addictive and are safe for long term use. I recommend seeing a neurologist to get a prescription for a muscle relaxer as a gynecologist is unlikely to prescribe them.
I have bad cramping the first day, and unpleasant cramping the 2nd. It makes me vomit, be shaky, and writhe around in pain for 6-8hrs on the first day. But if I take ibuprofen in time, it has always prevented me from having to go through this so my doctor said I was fine. The problem now is that 800mg of ibuprofen isn't working as effectively anymore and none of the other OTC NSAIDS work well for cramps for me. Might have to ask if I can up the dose again, at least for the first dose. Don't know if I feel like doing anything else about it, though.
My period pain is literally unbearable. Today i've been laying down for like 4 hours cause my cramps are so bad i cant move. I have tears in my eyes atm too lol.
I have found that prescription muscle relaxer works TREMENDOUSLY well for treating menstrual pain! (the one I use is called tizanidine) Unlike narcotics, muscle relaxers are not addictive and are safe for long term use. I recommend seeing a neurologist to get a prescription for a muscle relaxer as a gynecologist is unlikely to prescribe them.
As a girl i got extremely lucky. Most of the time, my period has no affect on me so I dont feel any pain. Sometimes i even forget I'm on my period. Once in a while I'll get some discomfort.
THIS. SO MUCH THIS. After years of absolute h**l, I was diagnosed with PCOS, depsite no visible cysts ever being found. When I brought up the crippling agonising pain, my GP just said "Some people are just unlucky". That was pretty much the sentiment of every doctor and I saw from then on. I've been getting progressively sicker for about a decade with no answer; it's like my entire endocrine system has gone out the window. First FEMALE doctor I see declares that if you include the symptoms they put down to being caused by PCOS, I am a textbook case of having a certain hormone deficiency. That the pain I was describing wasn't normal or able to be caused by PCOS, and is more likely to be endometriosis. And that since doctors basically ignored "severe period pain" as a symptom they almost certainly misdiagnosed me as having PCOS rather than 'endometriosis plus something else'. Them incorrectly chalking up certain symptoms as being caused by PCOS, which I likely never had to begin with, is why I spent my entire 20s in and out of doctors offices feeling like crud. All because these medical professionals didn't consider severe period pain as a symptom or something abnormal.
I never had painful periods, the worst I got was having heavy periods 2x a month which made me anemic but I can see the pain in people's faces. I don’t understand how you can look at someone IN THE FETAL POSITION and say, "you need to toughen up"
The amount of people that look at me surprised when i tell them periods shouldn’t be disabilitating is insane. We need to do better about sex education cause it’s ludicrous
I faint and throw up from the pain if I don't have paracode lol. I was prescribed paracode for migraines and it's completely changed my life because I no longer have to take a week off work every month. I wish I'd been taken seriously with my period pain and been prescribed proper pain relief years ago. Its such a slap in the face being given OTC pain relief by Drs to treat something so horrendous.
My period feels like Satan is doing the Charleston in stilettos. While Freddy Krueger is stabbing me with his knife hand. Oh and the back door stab pain. And the chills. And the cravings. And the sudden ability to hear my brother breath slightly wrong in my direction. Oh and my blood sugar drops. Fun.
If its weird compared to your usual, Get checked If its always terrible and your calling out of work/school constantly Get checked If you aren't having any of the above or a period at all, Get checked. You deserve to be heard, all bodies are different. Dont let a doct tell you its "normal" unless you know its normal. Make them prove it
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I remember seeing a story on reddit about some girl who got her period on a plane during a school trip. The pain was so bad she puked several times, then she laid down in the aisle and, in her words, "waited for sweet death to take me, but death has terrible customer service." Apparently, after that she went to a doctor. It's wild how many women and girls put up with agony because we assume it's normal.
i have puked 4 times in one day and then fainted bc of cramps. like what the fuck am i supposed to do with that. its so bad.
Wow it’s in moments like this I’m happy not to be a girl
@luisfilipe2023 Don't sell yourself short. There are days I'm glad I'm not a guy. You guys have your own crap to deal with that I don't envy. Keep slaying King
@luisfilipe2023 yeah hehe I puke on my periods continuously plus many other uncomfortable symptoms
@@trini2DBone134 for sure! If i don't immediately take medication im down and out for the day. I also tak BC witch only kinda helps and also fucks with my depression 😡
i always thought that i was weak because "some discomfort" was supposed to be normal but i was always knocked out. when i was 15-16 i was missing three days of school every month because the pain had me stuck in the fetal position on the bathroom floor. i'm still horrified by the fact that i've heard multiple stories of women ignoring heart attacks because they thought it was just period cramps
I have found that prescription muscle relaxer works TREMENDOUSLY well for menstrual pain! (the one I use is called tizanidine) Unlike narcotics, muscle relaxers are not addictive and are safe for long term use! I recommend seeing a neurologist to get a prescription for a muscle relaxer as a gynecologist is unlikely to prescribe them.
@@Shield954that’s cool that it works for you and thanks for sharing the info. It is true that different specialty doctors tend to have completely different perspectives on how to treat stuff like that. I’m glad you mentioned this. A neurologist will try to prevent the pain differently than a gynecologist would. A gyno is also trained to rule out things like endometriosis and other reproductive disorders so they would probably just say “take a Tylenol” even though for me it doesn’t help much unless I take 200-400mg. Which I try not to do unless the pain is severe and preventing me from living my life
@@Shield954Muscle relaxers have a potential for abuse and addiction. Prolonged use can lead to increased tolerance and physical dependence, especially with Soma. For this reason, muscle relaxers are intended as a short-term treatment not to be prescribed for more than 2-3 weeks.
I almost didn't make it to the hospital in time for my first birth because I didn't think I was in labor because I really thought it was going to hurt more than period cramps.
@@Shield954Where did you hear that? Muscle relaxers can absolutely be addictive!
I went to see 2 separate gynecologists & both didn’t help me with severe pelvic pain & bleeding. One said if I didn’t want hormonal birth control that they couldn’t help me and also told me to just take ibuprofen even though I told them it wasn’t working. The other doctor flat out told me that they didn’t have time to discuss my concerns that day even though I’d made my appt for pelvic pain and went there specifically because they did laparoscopic surgery. She did however, make sure to discuss birth control which I had already said I didn’t want. When I wrote a negative review about her office online, she sent me a letter dismissing me from the practice. I obviously didn’t plan on going back there, but the audacity she had was unreal. I later finally got a laparoscopy & some answers almost a year later after seeking out a 3rd doctor who actually listened to me. It seems like nobody really cares about women’s pain.
Doctors don't care about you, just the same as government. They emotion less and don't give a f***.
What did the answer turn out to be?
@@soniccookie655if they got a laprascopy then it was probably endometriosis
Those doctors were very rude to you which is obviously very unprofessional. But to be fair to them, birth control is currently the best treatment for period related pains. And although hormones have their risks, surgery is even more risky. So I’m not surprised they would suggest birth control first
@@RosesAndIvy I have a lot of experience with hormonal bc and it doesn’t work well for me for many reasons. Most doctors ignore women like me that say it doesn’t work and keep suggesting methods. I did end up trying 2 methods out of desperation (after many years off of bc) and my husband of 8 years said I turned into a totally different person. My marriage suffered because I hated my husband for no reason. My mental health suffered so badly that I was told by my doctor to discontinue it because she was concerned. It’s not for everyone and women like me need better options. Synthetic hormones that effect our brains have major side effects for many women. Once doctors figure out what’s wrong, I get it if birth control is a treatment, but don’t suggest that before you know what’s even going on. It’s a bandaid and it’s lazy medicine.
It’s so crazy that people can have cramps so bad they pass out or throw up and can’t even stand up😭
If happens when your hormones are whack
My pain is very bad. I hate this time of the month. Last Saturday i got sick and couldn't stop shaking due to the pain. And monday morning it started and i have to go to work. I drank some painkillers but couldn't even sit on the chair. But work has to be done. I go to the toilet and sat there for more than 30 min. Last night was horrible. But this morning to now everything is normal. This is how my P is. When i explain this to girls who don't get pain they laugh at me. But they are so Lucky because even they got their pain free Period. I always make suer them sit and wont do hard work. Because i know the pain. 😔
@@ndwstark9918 I feel for you although I don’t get period cramps badly. Once in a while I’ll feel like a stab in my stomach but I bet it’s absolutely nothing compared to what you go through. Hopefully as you get older or soon the pain slowly goes down or some type of medication can help you
As I was reading this Im laying on my bed struggling to sit up at all because of the pain
@@Garfield_Lover_33 I’m sorry🙁🙁 I hope it gets better, I know how it feels🙏
Ok, mine aren’t that bad, mine are very very light and don’t come often, it doesn’t hurt that bad it’s just really uncomfortable. I feel very lucky after reading all of these comments. I am sorry for the women who have to deal with fainting, vomiting, and nauseousness. I love you guys. ❤
Mine are terrible I’m on my bed trying to ease the pain and I’m nauseous 😢 I really want to puke 😢
I guess I am lucky too
My periods are heavy but I experience no pain at all
May Allah make it easy for those who suffer from these cramps
@@Thatonehijabi843 me too
I was told by a GP "pain is part of being female, get used to it"
I'd literally gone in because I'd been bleeding for months and had cramps so bad I was passing out. Just for reference, I gave birth without any medication so I've got a pretty decent pain tolerance!
I don't know of any circumstances where bleeding for months is ok.
Get checked for cancer.
I was badly bleeding for like two months when I was the the birth control shot and at first my OB told me oh that's fine breakthrough bleeding will happen until she actually checked me out and said actually you're right this is more than it should be but told me just to take iron pills.
.....holy shit.
@Diamond Storm After I had my first son, he ended up in the hospital for a week and one of the nurses was asking me what birth control I was on. She talked me in to getting a depo shot. What's crazy is that she went and grabbed it right then and gave me the shot, all of this happening in my son's hospital room. She leaves for about 15 min and comes back with a second shot and told me that she prepped the first shot wrong and gave me a second shot. A day after that, I started to bleed like crazy, for a year, with a few days when it would stop but it would always come back with a vengeance, I was bleeding and pushing out bloodclots the size of oranges. I was in and out of the hospital on top of multiple clinic visits, yet the doctors didn't know what was happening to me. There was no record of this nurse giving me those shots either, because she didn't put any of this in my file or on a chart of any kind, so the doctors didnt believe me when I told them that my sons nurse gave me two depo shots.
I have 3 daughters who have endometriosis. One of them can't get out of bed for a week every month. My heart aches for each of them.
I think I have undiagnosed endometriosis or something similar and unfortunately I'm not taken seriously by medical professionals. Its been a long tiring and frustrating journey, sometimes i give up. (I started my first period at 9 and i have been dealing with it ever since).
It was the same thing when i thought i had PCOS, and i was heavily dismissed and disrespected by a doctor who didn't took my concerns and history into account and there was no tests or anything being done.
Fast forwarding, i got diagnosed with PCOS but only when I didn't get a period for two years and suddenly the doctor sent me to a gynecologist and blood work etc. Unfortunately, the gynecologist tossed me aside onve I got diagnosed with PCOS according to the results, symptoms and refused to look into endometriosis.
It doesn't help that i have heard and seen articles/stories of female's struggling with seeking help and etc from medical professionals and are oftentimes dismissed and at times in a disrespectful way.
@@faziefyzul1831 I'm very sorry you've been through so much. It's very hard. Keep looking until you find someone who will listen
I have PCOS and endometriosis and its awful. I'm sure you do everything you can to help your daughter feel more comfortable during their time of the month. You're a good mom 🩷
OMG, how Bad , i hope they get better
My aunt has endometriosis but the scar tissue has spread through a lot of her abdomen. The doctors out here in southen az said they won't do anything about it because "theyll just come back in a few years anyways"..
When 12 year old me had crippling, vomit-inducing period cramps and my stepmom didn’t get cramps so she told my dad that I was acting dramatic for “attention” and that I must have a “low pain tolerance” 😃
You’d think a fellow woman would be a little more sympathetic of you, Jesus smh
@@unknowncaller3255 seriously. Luckily my mom was very sympathetic and did what she could to help me with the pain. I’ve been on birth control since I was 17 which has helped with cramps a lot, though I’ve had really bad ones a couple of times since then (so I KNOW it wasn’t just me being “dramatic” as a teenager)
Omfg I would have busted her head in 😖 cause same… how tf do you say that to a child..
It could be endometriosis you might want to search it up and or get it checked out
@@emmakristineplougmannhansen that was one of my mom’s first thoughts but the doctor refused to do an exam on me, told me to try birth control instead. I wasn’t comfortable trying it right away because of possible side effects, but then I got a boyfriend so I ended up trying it anyway. I finally had an exam at 21 and everything checked out fine so that’s good at least
Seeing these comments is terrifying… People go through so much and some would call them exaggerated, like huh??
I was here going to complain how my legs feel weak and my head hurts a tiny bit sometimes, but daaam… I am grateful, and hopefully people are able to get help/treated (idk how these things are handled)
I don't know if you'll see this or if you know anything about this, but I would love a video that talks about periods in women with Mast Cell Activation Syndrome. MCAS is a horrible disease that can make women spontaneously go into labor, and I haven't heard much talk about it online, but I'm so glad to finally have an answer for what I've been experiencing for years.
Omg im biologically female with heds (hypermobile ehlers-danlos syndrome) and mast cell sctitivation syndrome with a lot ot period issues. Abd gosh thatd be a cool vid
Other symptoms that can fuck up your life are mood swings, digestive issues, heat intolerance, orthostatic intolerance (issues when standing up), etc. Most important thing I want to share though is that feeling suicidal on your period is not normal like I thought it was.
Absolutely. I always feel exhausted when PMSing (gonna have to try taking vitamins more regularly in case I'm just low iron) and also my body gets incredibly sensitive - it's hard to get comfortable enough to sleep and I'll end up tossing and turning, and usually the tenderness in my legs and groin is more uncomfortable than the cramping.
Overall, periods and PMS can suck ass... they just shouldn't be debilitating and keep you from living life, I feel so bad for everyone who thinks that's normal.
Never heard of suicidal thoughts as a thing some people get. It makes sense, my depression gets worse when PMSing, but still, damn. Wishing you luck
it’s not normal and I never knew that until my psychiatrist decided to put me on antidepressants for pmdd and it was a huge diff
It's not? Damn
I assumed it was just a part of my mood swings
I thought that because I don’t get cramps, my PMS/period wasn’t that bad. Turns out hallucinating during PMS isn’t just being a little hormonal lmao
if you have severe mental health issues outside of your period is it normal for them to worsen to SI or SH during it?
I'm nearly 30 and I only learnt LAST WEEK that not all period sufferers have cramps, and especially not ones that hurt so bad you can't stand. Genuinely felt gobsmacked to learn that.
what does gobsmacked mean
It is genetic. My mother me and my sister we dont have cramps.
@@ivak1897I do know that while i experience cramping, mine are weird where it's almost debilitating for a day (at my worst periods, i was on the verge of crying) and the rest of the week almost non existent. and weird knee pain that feel like my uterus is shedding inside my knee and is arguably worse than my actual cramps. fortunately for me i just take painkillers before it truly hits or peaks to avoid it.
I'm also very lucky that they have gotten shorter compared to when i was 13. mostly because I'd take 6 day periods over 8 any day. unfortunately I'm not free from cramping outside of periods cuz my ovaries absolutely hate me during ovulation
It means Shocked.
Are that disconnected from these matters 😭 I was 10 when i knew that
My periods growing up from middle school to about 21 years old were extremely painful the first two days of my cycle to the point that I would take PM medications to sleep through those days I would hurt so much. And when I got it at school I would be sent home from the pain and hot flashes I got, one time I had to be taken down to the front in a wheel chair I almost passed out from the pain. And the nurse asked me once, “how are you going to function in the real world? You can’t just go home everytime you’re in pain.” Worst years of my life, I hated every second of it.
I had a similar experience in that age range. I basically did nothing in those first 2-3 days. So glad it's not that bad for me now.
It's extra obnoxious when adults do this kind of shit to kids. Talking down to them and telling them they are dramatic or that "this wont fly in the real world". Its all gaslighting and theres an automatic assumption kids and teens are lying for attention or to get out of stuff. I think it contributes to a lot of misses early symptoms of a larger issue.
I hate schools talking about "the real world". Im 27 and at my workplace, its much more lenient than school ever was. Our manager listens to us and makes reasonable adjustments so that we can all pull our weight and give ourselves grace on the days we aren't at 100%
@@Hi_Im_Akward I'm so glad my mom was never like that to me. Seriously, I really do gaslighting kids like that causes psych problems later down the line
What a great school nurse! Did you ask her how she gets into relationships with that attitude? 🙄😂
I’m one of the lucky ones who doesn’t get cramps. I’m sorry for those that do, I hear they hurt like hell.
Omg I have the WORST period cramps like I cannot walk, I throw up every 10 minutes, I can’t eat or smell certain things, and I’m convulsing on my bed like I’m friggin possessed by the devil himself.
I always thought it was normal because everyone told me it’s normal to have cramps (I guess they didn’t know the severity because mine are SEVERE) so I just suffered for so long without ever doing anything about it.
That was until recently I saw a gynecologist and they told me that my level of cramps are not okay and they gave me birth control. I can finally do my everyday activities without feeling like I’m being punched in the stomach repeatedly by a heavyweight bodybuilder!!!!❤❤❤
Can you explain to women that it's not ok to shame women for being to sick or being in too much pain to work during their period. I had endometriosis for 23 years before I was diagnosed and women bullied me regularly when I would call out of work or leave work early or cry. Now that i've been diagnosed, they immediately back off but we need to end the period pain bullying.
I have found that prescription muscle relaxer works TREMENDOUSLY well for treating menstrual pain! (the one I use is called tizanidine) Unlike narcotics, muscle relaxers are not addictive and are safe for long term use! I recommend seeing a neurologist to get a prescription for a muscle relaxer as a gynecologist is unlikely to prescribe them.
Yes this video gives up the same vibes. I have a med called feminax it helps but im still in a lot of pain. What is normal? What do you want me to do about it? Rip out my overies? 😂
My mom had that too. She kind of wanted to die because the pain was so bad. Now she has no reproductive organs so she doesn't get it anymore
Careful, Dr. Jones doesn't like it when you call them "women". It's "birth givers" because MeN cAn Be WoMeN tOo
This this this.
I remember when I learned periods aren't suppose to hurt as bad as mine do. I could never figure out why my mom never took me to the doctor for the pain
I used to think something was wrong with me because I never have cramps but my older sister and mother have the worst cramps and they said it was supposed to hurt and I was concerned about why mine didn't
Yeah, looking back that's the thing that disturbs me to.
How do you have a child that is throwing up and fainting from the pain, and just belittle them to anyone who will listen instead of helping.
My mom didn’t take me to a doctor for my severe pain because she had had severe pain during her periods when she was young too. We both have PCOVS.
Doesn't the pain become more mild overtime on it's own? I don't take any pain killers and just don't think about it. It hurts the most in the morning and then gets tolerable to a point I can do things
@@RimFaxxe Everyone is different, and have different levels of pain.
*Some* pain is normal, but some people get actual crippling amounts of pain, and that's a pretty big sign that something is seriously wrong.
My pain lasts all day, and the pain level varies a bit, but I can get to pretty much painfree if I take pills, like ibuprofen and paracetamol, and/or use a heatpad.
Man, these comments are heartbreaking. My 16yo just got diagnosed with pcos a few weeks ago. I've suspected she had it for a few years. Talked to her pediatrician multiple times about it. She had an ultrasound, and we were told everything was normal. Her pediatrician retired recently, and the new one actually read her chart and looked at all of her labs for the last few years. One of the first things the new doctor asked was if we had a history of pcos in our family. And I was so relieved someone finally believed me. She has also suffered with ibs symptoms for years that were dismissed. The new doctor gave her some meds to try, and it's absolutely changed her life. From now on, I'm going to absolutely advocate for a second opinion if something feels wrong. I might not have a ton of medical training, but I do know what's normal or not for my child.
Did they give her birth control?
@kcxxxx9838 They did, but she doesn't like the side effects. So she decided she doesn't want hormone treatment. Of course, we talked with her doctor about it first.
Aww this makes me feel a rollercoaster of emotions, it’s crazy how doctors will dismiss things as “normal” when it comes to periods. I think more research should be done about it because few doctors actually know what they’re doing when it comes to it. Your daughter is so strong though! For going through all of that 😊❤.
Thank you for believing her
I was gaslighted by emergency staff who talk me being huddled over myself throwing up every 5-15minutes from pain was completely normal for my period, I was 16. Doctors tried to prescribe Percocet (1/2-2 pills as needed) after 1 1/2 pills i was still in agonizing pain but was loopy and talking about floating away on clouds. That’s all I remember wasn’t until recently that a mental health care professional explained that no those symptoms were not “normal”
I think that a lot of People, Men especialy, know a shockingly small amount about reproduktive circles and that should change
As a woman with PCOS. I can tell you as a teenager I would be curled up crying every night I came home from school on my period. Which chainsaw massacre 3 was coming out of my netherlands.
I wish more doctors even understood this. I went for a decade with endometriosis type pain without any doctors saying "hey yeah let's refer you to a gyn and check this out". I've been happily uterus free for 3 months now and its the best I've felt in years. No, doctors, being crippled by pain during your period is not normal. Who knew? 💁♀️
I'm glad you're doing so much better with treatment!
@@diosaamorconsult with a doctor. Online you can try to search for lists of doctors who are willing to perform a hysterectomy.
@@diosaamor if you get rid of you uterus (aka a hysterectomy) you won't be able to have babies. That's where babies grow so its pretty well essential to the process. So them saying it like a threat is hilarious. Also, no, you don't continue bleeding and very few have cramping style pain after. I was working out my provera levels needed to control my pmdd/pms symptoms and had what I call a comma. Period but without the cramps (which used to be debilitating), bleeding (well there's no endometrium anymore to be shed). I think the cases where there's some bleeding tend to be when they leave the cervix (there's debate about it re sexual pleasure but most who have it removed have very little issues and many are able to enjoy sexual activity more after bc less pain)
Its absolutely worth talking to a good gynaecologist, but be warned, many will try to tell you not to because you might want kids later yada yada yada, especially bc of your age- my first tried that with me when my youngest was already 10. I can assure you I would rather die than have more kids now) and take an advocate that will speak up for you not against you. It helps.
I’m so jealous 😭 a doctor probably wouldn’t allow me to get mine out because I’m “too young” and I’ll “change my mind” like man fuck them kids!!
I had horrific periods, the doctors never looked into why & I spent 10 years asking for a hysterectomy & they wouldn’t give me one. Now I can’t have one, but luckily I don’t have periods anymore. Still mad at the doctors though.
I'm bedridden for the first three days of my cycle. Have to take off work because I physically can't move. My Dr. Prescribed me painkillers and just gave me more when I complained the painkillers didn't help. Apparently I'm over exaggerating my pain. So I deal with it. 🤷♀️
that's terrible, finding another doctor is easier said than done but for me I've been taking the birth control pill (as directed by my doctor) where it's the active tablets for 12 weeks then 1 week of inactives so basically my period is only every 3 months and it really helps, just an idea
@@luvcherry I've tried 15 different birth controls mostly oral. The last one was an IUD that started coming out on its own. Dr didn't believe I was still in intense pain from the IUD till I insisted I had been bleeding heavily for a whole month and I told her she would take it out because I wasn't leaving till she did. She reluctantly agreed. She had spent an hour trying to convince me to give it more time. When she went to take it out she said it must have begun expelling itself already. I'm now infertile from the scarring so I decided not to put my body through more stress from birth control since none of them have ever done me any good and the option of children was taken from me. Despite all this they've never agreed to test me for any sort of disorder that may have caused the heavy bleeding, large blood clots, and crippling pain that no birth control or painkiller ever helped before the IUD even. I'm used to living in my bed several days a month but it would be nice to know why it was that bad since I was 14. I am now 29.
I have found that prescription muscle relaxer works TREMENDOUSLY well for menstrual pain! (the one I use is called tizanidine) Unlike narcotics, muscle relaxers are not addictive and are safe for long term use! I recommend seeing a neurologist to get a prescription for a muscle relaxer as a gynecologist is unlikely to prescribe them.
@@Shield954 ohhh I have not heard this before!! I will definitely look into it thank you for the advice! :)
You need a better doctor. I had to go to a woman doctor specializing in women's medicine to finally get help
Good luck on your journey
I read these comments of women saying how bad their cramps are and that just reminds me how thankful I have to be to not feel any kind of pain or discomfort during my period or before it. So glad that I'm made this way 😅
I'm grateful that you are available for the young ladies of the world, but I wish you had been around before I went through menopause. We had to learn things (or not learn things) the hard way. Thank you for the knowledge you share.
Thank you so much MDJ, I feel validated in my decision to go on the pill to address these horrible cramps
The most I get is uncomfortable, and I’m so eternally grateful for it 😮💨
Same. I do occasionally get the lightning bolt butthole pain out of nowhere, it's like all the cramps are saved up and cashed in at once directly into the anus 😂
Yea same, But Sometimes, a couple times a year i have that one Day of pure PAIN
@@-Samik- same!
As a 16 year old, mine are fine too. I feel some pain in my stomach, open the calendar and go "Okay, now it makes sense." Not too painful but definitely noticeable.
I have never had any cramps thank god but the world decided to bless me with the weakest stomach ever instead 😅
Severe pain one week before, during, and one week after my daughter’s period ended up being stage IV endometriosis. She lost both her fallopian tubes during a surgery that was suppose to help her get pregnant. She will have a full hysterectomy this fall. She’s only 34. She fought with doctors for over 10 years before one finally took her serious. To late though.
She should keep her cervix and ovaries if able. That's what I did and its good because the ovaries can keep producing hormones and the cervix can just do its job. And the recovery time is so easy
I suspect that some of the scar tissue removed in my washout surgery 18 months ago was probably endometrial given the fact my cramping has been reduced since then to less than it ever was.
Yeah....some cramping IS fine, if it's bearable!! What's not fine is if it hurts so badly you feel like you're gonna throw up! You're right MDJ, but the problem is...drs only care if you're bleeding longer then 7 days....it doesn't matter if you're in a lot of pain, or if your periods are heavy, or having huge blood clots...every thing is apparently fine if you're bleeding less then 7 days...
NO.IT.IS.NOT.FINE!! Please set these people straight that you do not need to be bleeding more then 7 days for a dr to say "hey somethings wrong with you"!!! Guh! Those bleeding disorder tests are seriously bogus!!! I check off everything on the list for period issues except for the "bleed more then 7 days." And because of that ONE question, it says "you're fine...."
Nooooo!!! If I need birth control pills to control the heaviness of my bleeding and the amount of pain I get then noooo I am not fine...also...my period was very irregular till I got on them...bleeding two weeks after the day I was supposed to...so yeah....I am lucky the birth control help me, but I can not go off them at all!!!
Or if you DO actually throw up! Like me! 😭
@@Sly-Moosesame here, I'll feel nauseous from all the cramping and have to hang out near the toilet in case I do throw up
I feel for you my period partners!! ❤️
Erm... sorry, you're wrong. For decades I had to put up with 10 to 14 days heavy bleeding, vomiting, diarrhoea, and crippling cramps that made walking difficult, I was repeatedly told it was normal! I was fortunate enough to see a locum, purely by chance, who happened to have had similar problems herself. She helped me.
I once bled for like 2 months straight and my doctor still didn't care 🤷♀️ they never care
Many many women take birth control specifically for period cramps and yet we make it nigh impossible for people to get it.
Yes, debilitating pain is never the norm for anything.
My crams literally made me bedridden for two weeks. But my doctor's only suggestion was "let's put you on birth control and come back to it". I was bleeding enough i could have become anemic. I was pale and ill during my periods. I'm 21 and I still have no answers as to why, my family just says it's the family curse. I know I have PCOS which doesn't help but it shouldn't make it so I couldn't get out of bed.
I have PCOS as well and I have found that prescription muscle relaxer works TREMENDOUSLY well for menstrual pain! (the one I use is called tizanidine) Unlike narcotics, muscle relaxers are not addictive and are safe for long term use! I recommend seeing a neurologist to get a prescription for a muscle relaxer as a gynecologist is unlikely to prescribe them.
I'm also fainting and throwing up during my period, specifically on the first and the third day. I have been checked multiple times by multiple doctors and absolutely nobody can find out what is wrong with me. I keep seeing "oh it is not supposed to hurt that's an illness" but no actual answers... I kinda got used to it and just take painkillers with a certain schedule. I feel like it is just natural for some women, idk
Endometriosis, adenomyosis, and fibroids can all cause painful periods, and fibroids in particular can cause heavy bleeding.
@@freakcircus2777Many women with severe pain on their periods have endometriosis, adenomyosis, or fibroids.
I remember seeing my sisters absolutely debilitated by her periods when we were growing up. When I was 29, I was dx with stage 4 endometriosis and I strongly suspect both my sisters have it too. It’s easier to find people who understand and specialize in endometriosis now. (I’m 52 now)
I was hospitalized for 3 days as a teen because my period sent my body so completely haywire. My doctor at the time prescribed me 600mg ibuprofen. That’s it. I now use Mirena iud to stop my periods and, at the time, I went on birth control pills to help. The bc pills were prescribed for actual birth control and not because my periods were hell. The doctor I got them from said my highly irregular periods (I had gone 4 months without a period at this point) were due to a “growth spurt.” The pills helped a bit but it was still pretty bad. I finally got an obgyn that said I likely have endometriosis and confirmed poly cystic ovaries. My gynecological journey is just one aspect of doctors doing me dirty in my life. I’m so happy I have a great medical team on my side now.
What always drove me crazy is that my doctors would take me super serious when I come in with a fractured bone, a big burn injury...etc. I would sit there and tell them that I know I need to get it checked, but it's really not that painful, and they would be impressed or even irritated that I don't think this is more than an annoying inconvenience.
But then I go to a gynaecologist, tell them that I had extreme pain after sex that made me nearly pass out and felt like my body was shutting down. Leading to me laying in bed crying from pain until I fell asleep from exhaustion, and thankfully woke up without pain after a looing sleep. And the doctor shrugs their shoulders, tells me it was probably not that bad and there is no need to check anything because the pain is obviously gone now.
Growth spurt my ass. I got my period at age 11 and NEVER missed a period. It wasn't even the slightest bit irregular even in the first couple of years. Which is unusual, yes, but if growth spurts caused that kind of thing I think it'd be pretty common knowledge by now
Awesome that you got to the bottom of it eventually. im currently on 500mg naproxen pain killers for cramps and i was supposed to get a recommendation thing for an ultrasound (forgot what its called) but it never came and my periods have been super weird (and painful). i hate how the first thing they said was to try pain killers or birth control. like why not check out the situation first and then go to pain killers second? i dont get it tbh. hoping to get an appointment over summer though
@@harmonicaveronica I got mine at 10 and had a period that lasted for two weeks during Ramadan, I felt bad eating in front of my family while they were fasting.
Long term use of high dosage ibuprofen causes stomach ulcers and liver damage. 😭 I have found that prescription muscle relaxer works TREMENDOUSLY well for menstrual pain! (the one I use is called tizanidine) Unlike narcotics, muscle relaxers are not addictive and are safe for long term use. I recommend seeing a neurologist to get a prescription for a muscle relaxer as a gynecologist is unlikely to prescribe them.
Bruh I was in French class DYING from cramps. Like I couldn’t breathe and I was going through waves of pain and looking pale according to my friend. I could barely stand to even request to use the restroom 💀 and once I got there I couldn’t stand back up the moment I sat down. I was a step away from tears bro and I don’t tear up. I broke my arm and didn’t know for three days, I broke my ribs and didn’t know until they healed oddly. And this pain is an every month scenario that I thought was just normal wtf ?!!
Story time abt cramps-
4 days ago I was in math class and started getting cramps at first it wasn’t very painful but it still DID hurt then I felt leaking so I thought “oh sh!t I must’ve got it” I raised my hand and asked the male teacher to use the restroom and he said “No,Kardemon u should’ve gone at lunch” soon after that I was cramping so bad and I’m talking some of the worst freaking cramps of my life and I raised my had and told him it was an emergency then he said “NO. YOU MAY NOT. U ALREADY USED UR BATHROOM PASS THIS YEAR” and then my cramps got so bad my classmates started to notice I was in pain and asked asked if I was ok or needed anything 15 minutes later I passed out apparently I woke up 30 seconds later tho and when I woke up I started crying because it was so bad the teacher sent me to the nurse and on my way there I puked. Long story short that was the worst day of my life 😃. Btw I’m 12
Before my most recent family doctor took me on, I was taking a total of 24 painkillers a day while I was awake. I needed to take 6 every 3.5 hours just to function my normal day to day life.
Now I'm currently prescribed stronger meds that I take maximum 2 a day for the 7 days. And I'm on the list for a hysterectomy. Took 7 years to get an endometriosis diagnosis, and I pushed for the hysterectomy before the age of 30 while single and childless.
Sometimes, you just have to fight for your health.
I have found that prescription muscle relaxer works TREMENDOUSLY well for menstrual pain! (the one I use is called tizanidine) Unlike narcotics, muscle relaxers are not addictive and are safe for long term use! I recommend seeing a neurologist to get a prescription for a muscle relaxer as a gynecologist is unlikely to prescribe them.
Mine can get just below the threshold of where I can’t act normal. But when I don’t have to act normal, I still choose to curl up into a ball and cry because they are still bad. My favorites are the ones that happen at 3am because then I have to eat something to take a painkiller, and then wait like half an hour in agony for it to kick in so I can go back to sleep
I have found that prescription muscle relaxer works TREMENDOUSLY well for menstrual pain! (the one I use is called tizanidine) Unlike narcotics, muscle relaxers are not addictive and are safe for long term use! I recommend seeing a neurologist to get a prescription for a muscle relaxer as a gynecologist is unlikely to prescribe them.
After 14 year of crippling period pain finally found a gynecologist who take it seriously. She is talking about surgery want would love to see a video about Endometrial Ablation and Hysterectomy as options for period pains, pros and cons.
Have you looked into endometriosis though? Treatment for that looks different
@Jessica Meierhofer It has been mentioned but no one has ordered investigations past an ultrasound, which I don't think Endo shows up on. I have another appointment tomorrow, so I will ask about it again.
I had endometrial ablation years ago best thing I ever had done, I didn't want a hysterectomy if I didn't need one, and if I did everything was going especially if I was going under, that's just me. My doctor she is no longer in the office where I go, but she is a genius and she listens to you too she respects her patient 🤗, she is so skilled.
If you are done having children, ablation is wonderful!!!!! I was up and about the next day. The day of the outpatient surgery, I came home and slept off the anesthesia. I needed no pain killers at any time. My abdomen just felt a bit weird for a day or two. It worked wonderfully for me. I recommend it to everyone who is having period problems and is done having children!
Theres also ignorant fools out there like my mother who allowed my older sister to stay home from school for period pain in high-school [even though she WAS faking] and when i got to high-school she ignored my pain because i had an overall higher pain tolerance and she thought i was faking....i was not.... now in my 30s she's FINALLY realized ive never faked or over exaggerated my pains. I even had a teacher who was more understanding and would allow me to rest in her classroom when i was hurting.
When I was a teenager I had HORRIBLE periods. I would get nauseous, vomit, get dizzy, faint, be in excruciating pain, SUPER heavy flow, etc. I actually developed iron deficiency anemia because of all the blood I lost. My period made me miss my first ever day of highschool. I’m so blessed to have access to birth control, it literally changed my life.
My eldest sibling and I had very different experiences with periods. They had awful cramps that would leave them lying on the floor for days hugging a hot water bottle and downing painkillers as often as allowed.
I never had much of cramps, but I got awful headaches, and even migraines. I ached all over, felt lightheaded and felt nauseous. Every month.
We both had very different experiences, but when my sibling went to get treatment finally, and started taking hormones to stop their period, I didn't. I was convinced that so long as I wasn't on the floor crying, I should be fine. Cause people talk about periods being so awful, I genuinely thought that I had it ok. I thought it was just part of life that I had to learn to accept.
I think I was about 10 when I got my first period? I was 21 before I finally went to a doctor to talk about it and get it fixed. I dealt with it getting progressively worse for OVER A DECADE because I was so convinced that I was just supposed to hurt. That it was normal, and fine, and people would tell me I was lucky cause I didn't have the cramps, and I had other symptoms.
I got a different hormone treatment to my sibling, so my period isn't gone, but it's much lighter and all my other symptoms are gone. No more headaches, no more nausea, no more planning my life around when I was going to be sore and bleeding, and incapable of doing the stuff I wanted to.
I waited so long to get treatment, and I seriously regret it. I wish I had done this sooner, because I wasted so much of my life on that shit.
Just because it's not awful cramps, doesn't mean it's fine. It's the only symptom people talk about, but it's not the only symptom people get! If anything stops you from living your life, go get help. Seek treatment, and enjoy your life as much as you can!
I’ve had really bad periods since I was 12 and I’m 21 now but I thought I didn’t have it that bad because I don’t throw up or pass out. The pain keeps me home from school for 2 days per month and my entire body hurts even after taking ibuprofen. I can barely walk up a few stairs
I have found that prescription muscle relaxer works TREMENDOUSLY well for menstrual pain! (the one I use is called tizanidine) Unlike narcotics, muscle relaxers are not addictive and are safe for long term use! I recommend that your sibling see a neurologist to get a prescription for a muscle relaxer as a gynecologist is unlikely to prescribe them.
We don’t need your whole life story
I'm a retired nurse. I'm very glad that you're doing this. It's unbelievable that we have declined in reproductive education. It's insane what some young people think is fact.
I think we all need to talk about what is normal for periods as a whole. I have a cousin who had a heavy flow for two months straight and didn’t say anything about it because she thought it was normal. Her mom finally caught on some how, and took her to the hospital where she had to get blood transfusions because she had broke the record for “Lowest Blood Pressure in a Living Patient,” at that hospital. She’s fine now, and on birth control to help regulate her periods.
Dude. Both me, my mom, my aunt, and my grandmother all have extremely painful periods to where we've all passed out during them AT LEAST 3 times (at least for me). We even came up with the name "The Miller Curse" because my mother's and my aunt's maiden names are Miller
Im crying on my toilet shaking rn. Thank you 😍
I’m one of those who has no cramps or very mild.
You can bet your ass I am never going to belittle other people’s period pain. If I could share the lack of cramps with them I would do it in a heartbeat. It’s not worth judging people ♥️
I was always confused because I didn't feel pain with my periods, I just got hot and dizzy and nauseous. Now, many years later I realise I was in pain but had been so conditioned to think I wasn't in pain I didn't realise I was unwell until I almost fainted. This was so bad that at 17 I had started crying traumatically in a class and couldn't give a reason. I was sent to the Dr who worked out that I was in pain and had an injury I hadn't realised was hurting. I hope we do better for women and girls.
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I never had a period without pain till I consulted with an RE. NO ONE EVER TOOK THE TIME TO PRESCRIBE THE APPROPRIATE TESTS. I had fibroids. I’d had them for years. After the hysteroscopic myomectomy my quality of life improved immeasurably and I was finally able to conceive. She’s 20 now ❤️
I need to find a way to come see you. I have a lot going on and i think i need a doc with compassion for their job, like you.
Big hugs, absolutely love the video, and please keep teaching people about their bodies and to get help with normal things. Because you're not born with an internal instruction manual and it normal to ask questions. ❤❤❤🎉
Back in the 60’s when I started my period at 13, I immediately experienced horrific pain. I missed at least one day a month from school for 5 years. My mother took me to doctors who said things like, “It’s you body’s way of preparing you for childbirth”, or “They won’t feel so bad after you have a baby”. I suffered for so long (after having 2 premature babies my periods were still terribly painful) and finally when I was 45 when doctor finally agreed to a hysterectomy. It was like being reborn!!!
Wtf 😢
And what was the reason? For your pain
I have severe pain as well and I’m worried to even start working a 9-5 because of how bad I get. Who’s gonna take me home? Will I even be allowed to? I’m scared, I’m 23 and I wish I was done with periods already
@@skywalker6763
I had endometriosis surgery which had no effect on the pain. I had to give myself shots to put my body into a chemical induced menopause, where I suffered excruciating hot flashes, mood swings, and continued pelvic pain. Finally she agreed to the hysterectomy! No more pain!!
@@karenfreedman9180 thanks for your response, btw. And I’m glad it got better for you. This pain is a heavy burden to carry every month, no woman should go trough this.
It's tough when you are in extreme pain, to the point it interferes with your life, but your doctor just dismisses you and says it's normal. Like, I've thrown up and passed out from the pain. And this is a running theme with my family, my sister ended up getting two units of blood because her period was so heavy and painful and they still don't know what's wrong and no one is looking into it.
I’m trying to get a diagnosis right now and it’s very likely that I have PCOS. When I went to the gyno , she asked me why I had never seen a doctor about my super irregular and painful periods. I had been to several doctors but she was the first one who actually cared and wanted to test me for what’s wrong.
I have found that prescription muscle relaxer works TREMENDOUSLY well for menstrual pain! (the one I use is called tizanidine) Unlike narcotics, muscle relaxers are not addictive and are safe for long term use! I recommend seeing a neurologist to get a prescription for a muscle relaxer as a gynecologist is unlikely to prescribe them.
Endometriosis, adenomyosis, and fibroids can all contribute.
I wish someone has told this to 13 yo me because i spent way to many years with cramps that where so bad i couldn't even breathe properly
Personally I always heard that periods hurt like a demon was coming out of your stomach but when I got mine I felt no pain. Like when I got it for the first time and there were no cramps I thought it was like diarrhea ( or something I was dumb) never had period pain since, which now it’s hard to tell when it comes but better than pain!
Watching This As I'm On Mine, And In So Much Pain That I Can't Move. I Threw Up My Guts Yesterday And I've Been Taking 5 Ibuprofens Every Time 9 Hours Passes Just To Get Some Relief. The Physical Pain Is Excruciating And The Mental Pain From Dysphoria Is Horrible Too.
D: noooo u have it too??? :(( 🫂
When I first started getting periods, they were very painful. I would have to curl up in bed for 2 or 3 days. I didn't think there was anything I could do about it. I was both a track and a cross-country runner through high school. Then years later, I started taking a yoga class. The pain during my period completely disappeared! That miraculous cure kept me doing yoga for the rest of my life! 😁
Infuriating is when some usually man says it hurts because God cursed you due to Eve and that stupid apple.
The bible was written by misogynists as a way to blame women for all of humanity's problems despite men being the ones who cause all the wars and destruction of the world.
We need to stop normalizing heavy period pain! I’ve had friends who I had told for YEARS that it wasn’t normal to have periods as bad as theirs and they just accepted it as a way of life! It’s crazy how people are taught to just deal with pain like that
Yes! I was told periods don’t hurt bad and I was super dramatic. I was sobbing in my bed, I didn’t eat for days and I missed a bunch of school
Dude once when I was 12-13 i was on my period and it was so painful that I couldn't stand up and I had to go to pe since that was what I had next but thankfully the teacher that we had was kind and let me stay in the class to sleep ever since that she had been my favorite teacher I wish I got to tell her how much that actually meant to me and I still remember this story to this day
I used to have periods so bad I would pass out from the pain, have a high fever, and cold sweats. I would tell doctors and they would all say it was normal and to take naproxen. I'm not exaggerating I promise. Things got better when I became an adult and started taking birth control, but even with that there's still pain. Only difference is that now I can make it through the day, but as soon as I stop taking them it's back to how it was originally. To this day I don't have an answer and I just accepted that it's just how my body is. I know I can't keep taking birth control forever, but by the time I stop them hopefully I can find someone who will work with me to at least return it some
You know your cycle stops when you go through menopause, and staying on the pill isn't such a bad thing so long as your healthy, and if you want to have a baby you stop talk to your doctor about that.
@@traceykoontz2868if something is wrong with your reproductive system I think it’s a good idea to know what that is before you get pregnant
try carnivore diet it really works
I have found that prescription muscle relaxer works TREMENDOUSLY well for menstrual pain! (the one I use is called tizanidine) Unlike narcotics, muscle relaxers are not addictive and are safe for long term use. I recommend seeing a neurologist to get a prescription for a muscle relaxer as a gynecologist is unlikely to prescribe them.
I have a heat pad- I have tried so many things- on meds right now and I am still rolling around in tears. My mom has endometriosis, and she suspects that I also might have it. So sick of this. So much pain. Can’t get out of bed, and so emotional.
I have found that prescription muscle relaxer works TREMENDOUSLY well for treating menstrual pain! (the one I use is called tizanidine) Unlike narcotics, muscle relaxers are not addictive and are safe for long term use! I recommend seeing a neurologist to get a prescription for a muscle relaxer as a gynecologist is unlikely to prescribe them.
@@Shield954 aww ty sm!! 🙏🙏
I consider myself lucky for experiencing painful period cramps once in a while... I heard of so many girls and women who have to suffer for days every month and they don't even get the medical attention that they deserve.
I hope medicine will find a cure for this kind of condition...
I've literally tried to tell my mom this, but she brushed me off and left me doubting myself. Thank you for this validation!! 😭💕
I was blessed with having cramps for not one but two weeks! Happy days!🎉❤
I have a very conservative family, and I was brought up on birth control bad, abortion bad, end this is my story of how birth control saved me.
I was JUST getting my second period ever when I also was being diagnosed with a digestive chronic illness that caused severe abdominal pain. I was in and out of hospital a lot, and suddenly I was in a period, which was very new to me. My first went okay but my second caused such severe cramps that I threw up all the time, and the doctors could not tell if it was chronic illness or period. The amount of blood I was losing for more than a week was far more than is safe, especially with anemia, and I was out on a birth control pill. My parents willingly agreed because the problems were so big but I was actually scared I would go to hell. Don't let your kids be scared of something that can save their life, and it you need help, ask for it.
Also with Crohn's I can not take good pain medications, and no, Tylenol doesn't cut it.
Sucks that you were fed a guilt trip about BCPs, but great that you got a solution for your period issues. There's no reason why anyone should suffer like that when there are treatments available.
I have a friend who was born XY female (never developed into a boy fetus cuz their body didn't respond to the androgens correctly, so stayed the default female despite XY chromosomes). Nobody knew until they failed to go thru puberty. Got diagnosed as a young teen and put on hormones to get female puberty to progress... until their Very Catholic parents realized those were the same hormones in BCP and stopped the treatment. Their diagnosis means they're sterile anyway, so what are they even accomplishing besides canceling puberty halfway thru! 🙄 I guess joke's on them though cuz that friend is nonbinary transmasc these days anyway ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
@@lynnebucher6537 agreed!
I actually feel worse before the period than when I’m on it. Those PMS symptoms-cramping, diarrhea, fatigue, bloating, headaches, etc. are the worst. Once I start bleeding, I actually feel better. Everyone is different, I guess, but either way, it sucks when you feel like 💩.
You get all that before? For me it's just fatigue and feeling depressed. The rest comes during. But yeah, at around day 3 or 4, when symptoms get lighter it's like heavy weight off my shoulders.
I always feel my worst 2 days after i stop bleeding. The wk before period and during im usually fine, but right after it's really awful for a few days.
Might check out your diet. I've screwed myself up really bad a couple of times from not eating right for weeks. Normally menstruation doesn't bother me beyond the occasional 5 - 10 second cramp, but those times, I was miserable.
That's would be the brewing stage, some months are worse than others so its better to load up on liquids before hand. When the hormone finally does it thing and releases heavy flow, that's when body starts to alivate discomforts. The irritation and pain is real, especially constipation stays around longer than needed.
@@CIorox_BIeachwhat did you change about your diet that worked?
Growing up, I only had mild cramping. Usually only the first day, maybe take one basic pain pill, and it's good to go. After I had my daughter, it got insane. Would feel it from my back to my legs, have to sit on a massage pillow till meds kicked in. I had to leave my husband's work christmas party early because I had forgotten to take some pills before we left. Turns out I had endometrial hyperplasia. Hysterectomy for the win.
Had a colleague who often had sick days. When I asked her about it she explained it was when she was her period and she wasn't allowed to drive on her medication so she stayed home. She was on morfin! She really wanted to get her tubs tied (or whatever the procedure is) to stop her periods all together, but she had to have 2 kids before her doctor would allow it.
So she had convinced her boyfriend to try for babies they didn't really want.
Not sure what happened to her or if she kept the children. She quite not long after.
Read a story about a woman who had horrible period pain, she was told to suck it up and that it was normal. When she had her first kid she felt almost nothing because it felt so similar to her period which she was used to
All my life, my period was this evil thing that had a habit of showing up precisely on the very days I didn’t want it to, starting with my first one crashing a Thanksgiving gathering. Birthdays, holidays, a swim-team exchange trip to Bermuda, the first day of my senior year-all were ruined by my period gate-crashing them! To make things even worse, I suffered from killer cramps with my periods (as if starting them at age TEN wasn’t bad enough!), to the point where prescription-level doses of ibuprofen would only work if I spent half the day in bed. Trouble was, Mom wouldn’t let me skip school even though I was in so much pain my friends said I looked like walking roadkill! When I was 16 and learned about the birth control pill and how it helped in health class, I begged Mom to let me go on it, but she flat-out refused. Her reasoning? “It would make me promiscuous.” Needless to say, after two more years of UNNECESSARY pain and suffering, my first act as an adult was to go on the pill when I turned 18!
My older daughter suffered from the same debilitating periods, but I told her she could go on the pill for them even though she was only 14. No way was I going to let her suffer like I had! My younger one doesn’t get cramps like that at all, the lucky duck. But I told her if she wants to use contraceptives for any reason, permission more than granted! Health reasons matter, and for many of us preventing unwanted pregnancy is simply a bonus!
I have found that prescription muscle relaxer works TREMENDOUSLY well for menstrual pain! (the one I use is called tizanidine) Unlike narcotics, muscle relaxers are not addictive and are safe for long term use. I recommend seeing a neurologist to get a prescription for a muscle relaxer as a gynecologist is unlikely to prescribe them.
@@Shield954 Thanks, but there’s no need-menopause has crashed the party! Not to mention that my cycle got “tamed” after my older daughter’s birth (although I know that having a kid isn’t a “cure” that everyone wants).
same with the first thing I did turning 18 was get on birth control because of how much I suffered for years & now in my late twentys no longer on bc, but still get cramps and discomfort. it’s nothing how it used to be but STILL so uncomfortable & I just mentally check out 🥲
love that you’re letting your daughter do the same because she is experiencing it too! a lot of our parents didn’t understand the pain we were really going through 😓
I learned after about a decade of cripplingly painful periods that I could, in fact, have safely taken more than 200mg of ibuprofen, multiple times a day, all this time. Learned it from mom offhandedly mentioning how much she took to ease the pain of shoulder surgery.
Not that it mattered much as soon after this I was prescribed birth control pills and they also knocked out the pain real good lol
Dis you think you couldn't take painkillers for it or smth?
What really put it into perspective for me was someone I know getting pain meds after surgery. They basically got two pills in the morning, two at noon, two in the afternoon, two in the evening and two for the night. I don't remember the exact doses but whichever medication it was, it was more than 500mg.
Their mother, who is a pharmacist, did find it excessive to be clear.
That's when I really stopped caring about, in rare occasions, needing 3 pills of ibu in a day.
I'm lucky that my cramps last only two days at most though, and my general strategy is to take half a pill (200mg) at a time.
I'm happy you've found a way to deal with yours, and it really sucks that didn't happen sooner.
Yeah...I'm taking the pill continuesly now, to completely surpress my period.
But before, I used to take 800mg in the morning and then 600mg midday and in the evening and it was barely enough. Which is more then the recommended dose, really...but what are gonna do, if less doesn't work?
On my period, I take the same amount of ibuprofen that I did after surgery
@@azuriiru You never thought to read the dosing instructions on the bottle? I take 800mg (4 of the 200mg) Advil liqui-gels 3x a day.
I remember having to skip school for 2-3 days a month because I couldn't move much on my period, like I was in paralyzing pain. I had to skip school because they wouldn't accept Period complications as a valid excuse.
I thought it was normal I basically had to pump myself full of pain meds to function.
I am currently taking estrogen free birth control which has surpressed my cycle for 5 years now and while I feel the side effects of the medication, I have never felt more free since I started my period.
I'm planning on getting a partial hysterectomy as I am not interested in reproducing anyways but I am also not willing to go back to my restrictive life with my cycle.I can't wait to be free of it till the end of my life
Omg I'm in 10th rn and ever since I got my period I always have to take 1 or 2 days off because I cannot function very well. The pain is not ignorable but sometimes if I'm lucky there won't be any pain throughout the whole week (it happened once 😭😃😭)
Just wanted to say thanks i ended up talking to my dr because of this. I no longer have excruciating pain. 💙 Grateful.
Interestingly, getting a tattoo and having a kind of reference point for what “very painful” feels like to most people made me realize how awful my period cramps are. It genuinely feels like I’m being tattooed across my uterus. On the bright side, tattoo pain is pretty tolerable now lol
I rarely had cramps and they were light, to my feelings anyway my pain endurance is high. However, I had the legs hurting, the back, the 10 lbs bloating, the insomnia, the shakes….cramps are not everything we get, there are lots of other symptoms doctors have no clue how to treat, they give anti-anxiety pills 🙄
I have found that prescription muscle relaxer works TREMENDOUSLY well for menstrual pain! (the one I use is called tizanidine) I recommend seeing a neurologist to get a prescription for a muscle relaxer as a gynecologist is unlikely to prescribe them.
When I was 12, my obgyn told me this. It didn't make sense that I was in excruciating pain while my friends didn't have an issue. 27 years later, I found out it was Endo when I could no longer stand to cook or shower. My pelvic pain around ovulation and during my cycle was debilitating by that point.
I have found that prescription muscle relaxer works TREMENDOUSLY well for menstrual pain! (the one I use is called tizanidine) Unlike narcotics, muscle relaxers are not addictive and are safe for long term use! I recommend seeing a neurologist to get a prescription for a muscle relaxer as a gynecologist is unlikely to prescribe them.
In my experience if someone asks if they hurt, they’re referring to the bleeding not cramps. So that’s what I think every time someone’s like “yeah it hurts “ or “no it doesn’t hurt” I would try to explain it better in case they’re worried abt that and not referring to cramping
I'm a trans guy and i had awful cramps, so bad that i passed out on the sidewalk once. I always cried and screamed.
Well, i got a appendix surgery a few months back and since then my pain has gotten way less. Like, i barely notice it no more.
Not all girls have painful periods (me) I have headaches, backpain, breast pain (tender breast), & mood swings. I don’t have cramps nor get cramps.
It's the reason I have so much anxiety around OBGYNs. The first time I went was because of my period pain and I wasn't taken seriously. A few years later I went again because of a small lump on my breast (all good, turned out to be nothing) and she asked me again about my period pain. Told her nothing changed and I just take 6-8 pills of ibuprofen during my period and I'm able to be sorta functioning. She just answered with "Oh.".
If I have cramps on my periods it completely incapacitates me. I will do whatever I want/can (disabled), but every couple of minutes I have to stop walking, talking and just lean over until the cramping has gone. It’s embarrassing in public but I couldn’t really care less because I refuse to stop everything for an entire week every month. I’m also pretty sure the employees know when I’m on my period now 🤣
I have found that prescription muscle relaxer works TREMENDOUSLY well for menstrual pain! (the one I use is called tizanidine) The only downside is muscle relaxer makes you drowsy. But hey, at least you can finally get some sleep. I recommend seeing a neurologist to get a prescription for a muscle relaxer as a gynecologist is unlikely to prescribe them.
I was told periods were meant to hurt. I was also told that periods are only a few table spoons or something. So it seems like a lot of blood but it’s not. I passed out (at a very young age) because of a lack of iron from my periods and it turns out I have Endometriosis. It also turns out I could’ve been on the pill or SOMETHING to try slow down the effect and everything 💀
I have found that prescription muscle relaxer works TREMENDOUSLY well for menstrual pain! (the one I use is called tizanidine) Unlike narcotics, muscle relaxers are not addictive and are safe for long term use! I recommend seeing a neurologist to get a prescription for a muscle relaxer as a gynecologist is unlikely to prescribe them.
👏👏 Thought I was normal for years, turned out that endo and PCOS run in my family. I also see a lot of people discouraging others from seeking help, saying that you probably don’t have a medical condition anyway, and blah blah blah. But EVEN if you don’t have a medical condition, you shouldn’t have to suffer!!!! There are ways to help you either way. No one should discourage others to not seek help because it’s unlikely (there’s a pretty good chance that it is a medical condition too) that someone has a medical condition, THEY STILL NEED HELP. I wish someone had told me this when I was suffering. YOU AREN’T MEANT TO SUFFER. If your period affects your life, go to a health care professional to get help, because they can help you with your pain!!!
I think we should de-normalize too much pain, having cramps is normal, being bed ridden and puking is not normal, after I got my period I had to take extra classes every year of high school cause I'd miss a week every month, when I brought up my issues to my doctors they told me it's ok, my mom told me 'yeah I had a classmate in highschool who'd get sick and wouldn't be able to stand up, it's normal eventually you'll grow out of it" to this day I puke, cry, shake uncontrollably and have went to the ER multiple times to get pain killers, they still tell me everything looks normal
I used to have cramping so bad that I would be bedridden (or at least should've been instead of being told to suck it up) for the first day or two of my period. took fainting in the school bathroom and going to two doctors to find out I have fibroids.
"Suck it up" is the female version of "man up". Anytime a girl displays emotion, society labels her as being "over dramatic" and "too sensitive".
It's odd how men think that they're the only ones who can't display emotion. They don't realize that women and girls can't display emotion either without getting berated for it or having their pain dismissed completely.
I've always known my pain was really bad, but the first doctor to actually care was this year...29 years into my life and now having infertility issues.
I'm so sorry. We need to start suing doctors as failure to provide proper testing for conditions qualifies as negligence.
I have found that prescription muscle relaxer works TREMENDOUSLY well for menstrual pain! (the one I use is called tizanidine) Unlike narcotics, muscle relaxers are not addictive and are safe for long term use. I recommend seeing a neurologist to get a prescription for a muscle relaxer as a gynecologist is unlikely to prescribe them.
my period made me so nauseous that for the entire week i had it i could barely eat. I would lose like 5-10 pounds every month gain it then lose it again. I started birth control and don’t have a period now it’s great. birth control can be so so helpful and not just for pregnancy prevention!
Same! Unfortunately, the birth control pill I used to be on worsened my depression.
I'm glad it works for you. 😊
I'm pretty sure my aunt had to use birth control for her periods too! From what ive been told she had crazy periods that could last for six months! I feel so bad for her now that i know that periods are often uncomfortable/painful.
It's not healthy to not have a period tho. You're a woman and you're supposed to have ur period every month. I suggest u stop using birth control. Use stronger meds that help with pain, not meds that stop ur monthly cycle
@@Ash-mm3io 1) not a women 2) it works for me and i have my doctors approval i do not need an internet strangers
@@trustfulplace3894 if u had a period in any point in ur life, you're a woman then. Stop being delusional.
I used go through so much pain every month that i had to stay home from school and i would bleed like a pig someone stabbed, so i started taking hormone pills and now I only get my period every three months. It has made my life so mich easier
Thank you. Period is discomfort surely, but any pain,cramps that make us feeling like we are at the death door. I habe endon, and for the longest time, i thought it was normal amount of pain that i experienced. I finally get diagnosed and get treatment for it. Period is more of a discomfort, sharp pain on occasions now. Much better. Thank God. Thank you for saying those.
This message is needed!! I wish i heard it when i started my cycle. Doctor told me painful is normal i couldnt get out of bed bad level. Told thats normal. It was never normal!!!
I always had severe pain the first day or two. Ibuprofen is why I can function on those days. If I don’t have ibuprofen I’m in fetal position until the cramps subside. I can equate my cramps to when I was in labour at 5cm. It sucks especially when I was a teen and adults thought I was lying to get out of school.
I use Ibuprofen as well. When I was little my parents didn't let me use pain killers and I remember vomiting a lot and not being able to walk for hours. The funny part is when you tell how it feels to other girls who're lucky enough not to have any pains, and they're like "do YoU KnOw IbUpRoFeN is BaD foR yoUr hEalTh???" as if I had a choice.
Ibuprofen isn't effective enough for me. I have found that prescription muscle relaxer works TREMENDOUSLY well for menstrual pain! (the one I use is called tizanidine) Unlike narcotics, muscle relaxers are not addictive and are safe for long term use. I recommend seeing a neurologist to get a prescription for a muscle relaxer as a gynecologist is unlikely to prescribe them.
I have bad cramping the first day, and unpleasant cramping the 2nd. It makes me vomit, be shaky, and writhe around in pain for 6-8hrs on the first day. But if I take ibuprofen in time, it has always prevented me from having to go through this so my doctor said I was fine. The problem now is that 800mg of ibuprofen isn't working as effectively anymore and none of the other OTC NSAIDS work well for cramps for me. Might have to ask if I can up the dose again, at least for the first dose. Don't know if I feel like doing anything else about it, though.
My period pain is literally unbearable. Today i've been laying down for like 4 hours cause my cramps are so bad i cant move. I have tears in my eyes atm too lol.
I have found that prescription muscle relaxer works TREMENDOUSLY well for treating menstrual pain! (the one I use is called tizanidine) Unlike narcotics, muscle relaxers are not addictive and are safe for long term use. I recommend seeing a neurologist to get a prescription for a muscle relaxer as a gynecologist is unlikely to prescribe them.
As a girl i got extremely lucky.
Most of the time, my period has no affect on me so I dont feel any pain. Sometimes i even forget I'm on my period. Once in a while I'll get some discomfort.
THIS. SO MUCH THIS.
After years of absolute h**l, I was diagnosed with PCOS, depsite no visible cysts ever being found. When I brought up the crippling agonising pain, my GP just said "Some people are just unlucky". That was pretty much the sentiment of every doctor and I saw from then on.
I've been getting progressively sicker for about a decade with no answer; it's like my entire endocrine system has gone out the window. First FEMALE doctor I see declares that if you include the symptoms they put down to being caused by PCOS, I am a textbook case of having a certain hormone deficiency. That the pain I was describing wasn't normal or able to be caused by PCOS, and is more likely to be endometriosis. And that since doctors basically ignored "severe period pain" as a symptom they almost certainly misdiagnosed me as having PCOS rather than 'endometriosis plus something else'. Them incorrectly chalking up certain symptoms as being caused by PCOS, which I likely never had to begin with, is why I spent my entire 20s in and out of doctors offices feeling like crud. All because these medical professionals didn't consider severe period pain as a symptom or something abnormal.
I never had painful periods, the worst I got was having heavy periods 2x a month which made me anemic but I can see the pain in people's faces. I don’t understand how you can look at someone IN THE FETAL POSITION and say, "you need to toughen up"
The amount of people that look at me surprised when i tell them periods shouldn’t be disabilitating is insane. We need to do better about sex education cause it’s ludicrous
I faint and throw up from the pain if I don't have paracode lol. I was prescribed paracode for migraines and it's completely changed my life because I no longer have to take a week off work every month. I wish I'd been taken seriously with my period pain and been prescribed proper pain relief years ago. Its such a slap in the face being given OTC pain relief by Drs to treat something so horrendous.
My period feels like Satan is doing the Charleston in stilettos.
While Freddy Krueger is stabbing me with his knife hand.
Oh and the back door stab pain.
And the chills. And the cravings. And the sudden ability to hear my brother breath slightly wrong in my direction.
Oh and my blood sugar drops.
Fun.
If its weird compared to your usual,
Get checked
If its always terrible and your calling out of work/school constantly
Get checked
If you aren't having any of the above or a period at all,
Get checked.
You deserve to be heard, all bodies are different. Dont let a doct tell you its "normal" unless you know its normal. Make them prove it