one of these LOVELY interviewees is a youtuber too^^ check him out on youtube :Ben deen and you can get their instagram in the description box. thanks for watching it. Have a good day ! :) Oh, I forgot that one of girls has a youtube channel too. (Rachel) : Rachel Rostad
Heechulism I like the last girl, specially when she tries to speak hangeul. She's awesome! Can you tell her that I want to meet her? Or maybe we can communicate atleast.
진태라는 분 진짜 상처가 많으신 것 같아서 이야기 듣는 내내 마음이 시큰시큰했음.... 차라리 입양가서는 완전 좋은 부모님 만나고 항상 주위에 좋은 사람들만 가득해서 본인을 버린 한국 욕하고 살았다면 그래도 전화위복이라고 축하해주고 이렇게 미안한 마음이 들지 않았을텐데...
They guy in the gray shirt....its soo sad that his adoptive parents told him if that if he stayed in the U.S then he would still be considered part of the family but if he looked for his blood parents then he wouldn't be...I..had trouble processing that.. But it started to make more sense when he walked about how his adoptive family only wanted a korean adoptee because they thought he would be a doctor/lawyer/engineer..thats soo selfish..they legit pretended to love him for all those years while scheming to make money off of him. Thats infuriating!!!!
***** No..I know humans are generally more bad than good. But since my parents are soo good to me it just maddening knowing that people adopt for this reason. Its better that they were honest with him, but why ruin people's lives like that?
The dark Grey shirt guy's adoptive parents have some issues. For them to give him an ultimatum on finding his biological parents and to adopt a baby to earn more money later is just plain screwed up.
grey shirt adoptee's story brings tears to my eyes :(( i never thought korean adoptees would struggle to be loved by their parents.. i thought all adoptee parents were loving & supportive!
Most of them are, trust me, but it's important to really emphasize that adoptive parents are human too and make mistakes. So many people just assume adoption is wonderful and amazing, which parts of it are, but realistically, it cannot be all good. My parents did some bad things just like other parents. We criticize our lives just like other people. But, it's okay, because support comes from other places too! It's just a bit harder when you don't get it from the people you are closest to.
+Jill Thompson True, and in a recent particular case actually, a man named Adam Crapser has been in a fight with the system to keep himself in America and not get deported back to Korea, after going through legal trouble and rehomed several times (by abusive parents). These facts I agree cannot be ignored.
i agree :( it's super sad he was given such an ultimatum and to be adopted under such an impure reason. i hope he doesn't feel unloved or alone or something
가슴 짠하네요... 그리고 인터뷰하신 분들 많이 힘드셨을 텐데 다행히 나쁜길로 가지 않고 바른길 걸어오신 거 같습니다. 대단하시네요... 많이 힘드셨을 텐데 다들 앞으로 승승장구하시길... 그리고 뉴욕에 입양됐다시는 분... 마음이 많이 아프실 거 같은데... 무덤덤해보이시는 거도 저는 슬프게 느껴집니다. 부디 앞으로는 진심으로 사랑해줄 수 있는 사람들을 만나시길...
bendeen! thanks for mentioning this vid in your livestream. i love hearing these international stories! thats how i originally found your channel. but now im hooked. hook, line + sinker! lots of love from austin! 🙏🏻🖤🌏
I hope the parents of the guy in the gray shirt come to understand where he's coming from and accept him discovering a part of himself. Very good video!
I felt a little sick to my stomach when I heard him say his adoptive parents gave him an ultimatum against finding his Korean roots. I'm glad he did what he felt he needed to despite his adoptive parents' insecure pettiness.
E kids The channel accidentally publicly uploaded the uncut video of the guy's interview, so I heard his story from start to finish. It's even more sad than this video shows.
I don't wanna be judgemental, but it seems like the adoptive parents of the guy in the grey shirt are not really good. Adopting a Korean guy so that he can become a doctor and support the family financially? Mmm ok
and they even told him how much they paid to adopt him in the middle of all those circumstances of pressure and racism. no wonder why he chose to come to Korea.. I really wish him the very best in his pursuit of happiness
I have white america parents who adopted me at 16. I Am Nigerian, i also have sisters from Ethiopia. I have Twin brothers who are American Belizian(??) and a brother from Haiti. My mom has two biological kids and honestly to this day we can't tell who she loves more and she has no favorite(me??). In her heart we are all equal. We share that space. My mom has encouraged all of us to pursue and pushed us all toward our culture. To her, i am her Nigerian queen.
That's beautiful, and most people should grow up this way. If it's not too personal, may I ask if there's a reason why your parents had so many black kids? lol.
No idea. Maybe in her past life she was black? JK. I think my mom is someone that has always be enthralled with the capabilities and abilities of Black Americans. She swears that a psychic told her years ago that in her past life she was a white women that helped with the underground railroad.
호주에서 입양된 한국 아이에게 한국어를 가르치고 있습니다. 아이가 아직 어려서 표현을 잘 하진 못하지만 아이의 입장을 더 잘 알 게 된 것 같아요. 가슴 뭉클해지는 영상이었습니다. 제 학생도 키워주신 부모님과 행복한 기억 많이 쌓고 한국이라는 나라에 대해서 고민해 볼 수 있는 아이로 성장했으면 좋겠네요.
나의 남편은 한국에서 입양된 사람입니다. 자랄때부터 힘들게, 백인들 속에서 자라났고, 학교에서도 늘 눈총을 받았다고 하더군요. 좋은 양부모 밑에서 자라난건 행운이였다고...남편의 누나 (백인 시누이) 가 친엄마를 찾아주고 싶어서 한국과 연락을 했지만, 찾고싶지 않다고 합니다. 이름은 유 형진 (1살때 입양-서초동) 모두들 건강하게 잘 지냈으면 합니다.
Great video! I felt so sad for that guy in the dark grey shirt.... doesn't sound like he had exactly a great time growing up... I hope he's okay, that he finds his birth parents, and that his adoptive parents understand him. As for all the other adoptees, it must be so hard... my heart go out to all of them!
I really think that what you are doing is so necessary. People get caught with all the pop culture and never get to see these topics about the culture that are so important. l've watch every video and you never dissapoint me. Thabk you!
정말 많은 생각을 하게 하는 좋은 인터뷰였습니다. 인터뷰하신 분들을 포함한 한국 입양인들 응원합니다!! Such a wonderful interview I've seen and it gave me many things to think. I hope every Korean adoptee including these lovely interviewees can find the missing piece of puzzle!!
I sincerely hope, they'll find what they come looking for and have an undying support from their adopted and biological families. I feel upset they grew up being teased because they were different and Asian, I hope they know they are beautiful and great people and have people who genuinely remind them that everyday. I love ur Videos by the way 화이팅
To be fair, school is a pack mentality. If there is anything different about you, you get teased. Whether it's because your Asian, your pale, you have big ears, etc etc. Its fucked
i absolutely agree. I guess we've all gone once in our life through this, i think being surrounded by people who gave us unconditional love help us remain strong and liking ourselves the way we are.
All of these are lovely and it has helped me understand more that I'm not alone because I am adopted too. I do plan a trip to Korea but idk if I'd go find my birth parents. I will learn more about my culture though, I'm becoming proud to be a Korean.
I feel like if you spend a year in the african continent , then spend another in KR . you'll be able to be at peace. all human ingredients are crucial if you want to understand yourself. don't excise the american identity its a part of you
Good video. Just saw BenDeen's mukbang and this must be the collaboration he was eluding to. I felt really bad for the other guy in this video. It doesn't seem as if he had a good adoptee experience. Can't believe his mom said that to him. I hope he finds, if not his birth parents, then at least some spirit of belonging to something there in Korea. These are interesting stories to tell.
Wow. Thank you for uploading this incredible video, i think it means a lot. I want to appreciate the interviewees sharing there experience and letting me think about it.
한국에 있어야 될 사람들이 미국에 가 있었던 것 같으네요. 대부분 힘든 청소년기를 거쳤고, 어린 시절 내내 외톨이로 지내고 그랬을 것 같아요. 한국에 있는 친부모가 가족처럼 지내기는 힘들더라도 만나보고 하는 것 조차 꺼리는건 애석하긴 하네요. 사람들마다 입양시킨 수많은 이유가 있었을거고, 볼 면목이 없을 것 같긴 해도 한번 정도는 만나볼 수도 있을 것 같긴 하네요. 그래야 할 것 같아요. 수많은 외국인들도 한국에서 생활하는 경우가 많은데 입양된 사람들이 한국에서 생활하는데에 불편함이 없었으면 좋겠네요. 그래도 형을 만난 친구는 다행이다 싶긴 하네요. You better stay in korea forever. We welcome you.
This video is totally eye openning for me. Thank you for making it and to those interviewees who willingly shared their stories. I wish them all the best with finding their birth parents or that missing piece!
These people are so brave, i have so much respect for these guys for not giving up on their search. It's not an easy thing to do. I pray they all get reconnected with their biological parents and resolve these issues. Thanks for doing this topic. It's very interesting
I wish i could just hug them T.T they're so strong i couldn't imagine if i was in their shoes. I cried when i listened to the guy in grey shirt's story he's so strong!
When Ben Deen came on the screen :o Edit: I had paused the video to comment that but after reading the comments like 90% of them were about Ben Deen too... Now that I've watched the whole video, I really hope the man in the gray shirt's mother truly did think more when adopting him and valued him as an individual and human--not as an Asian tool for her to gain success. If that is the truth, I sincerely am hoping he finds someplace in Korea where he can feel loved and not be dragged down by his previous experiences.
I got teary-eyed hearing about the woman who heard her mother on the phone. How painful would that be? She grew up to be a beautiful woman, so it's her mother's loss that she can't even contact her secretly. I feel so bad for the man in the gray shirt, he's had to endure so much. It's strange that his own family can't support his decision. Every person deserves to know where they originally come from. The other girl said she struggled with her appearance just for being different. She is and has been gorgeous her whole life lol, so she should be grateful for that difference. Lastly, the guy in the black shirt looks almost white to me lol, so (unfortunately, probably because of that fact) it's nice that he had a better upbringing . His baby pics were adorable. *ETA: He's a TH-camr? Does he do mukbangs? Cuz his name sounds familiar now.*
soomyeonxing saves lives sweaties I think he’s using fine in the context to imply that they are all attractive. It’s harder to make the distinction on the Internet. To rephrase the initial comment,” DAMN ALL THE PEOPLE WHO WERE IINTERVIEWED IN THE VIDEO ARE ATTRACTIVE.” (Including the interviewer himself hehe)
My mother (who is all white) was also adopted, and believe it or not, she's also had similar thoughts and experiences. Please dont say people shouldn't adopt outside their race because of problems shared in this video, because even within a race the issues still stand. Adoption is beautiful, and a loving home is always better than living in an orphanage with no parents period. If people ever tease you for being adopted/unwanted/abandoned, tell them that its the exact opposite. You were CHOSEN by your family, they WANTED you. They spent all the money, time, and effort to get you. Whether youre were/are 16 year old white foster kid who was adopted or a 3 month old from Kenya who was adopted, always remember that.
Even if I am not adopted I can relate to this in some way, growing up in a country that is culturally so ignorant and different to your own. Only someone who has lived their life like this can feel their pain. There are many benefits but one huge disadvantage is how easy it is to lose your identity. It is easy to become isolated and emotionally traumatised even from childhood. You can be driven by others to forget your own roots, to be ashamed of your culture or even your appearance . But only when you find your true self, that moment of realisation that it is okay to accept who you are, you love yourself more than you ever did before. ^i've never been so passionate in writing before
my boyfriend is a korean american adoptee and he went to korea a few years ago to try and find his parents but they couldn't find them. He 's planning to go again next year so hopefully we can find them. His story is pretty similar, and im really happy that he's starting to embrace his culture more than he did when we met. Wish him luck on a good reunion!
YAY!!! Korean Adoptees. I am currently living in Korea and a Korean Adoptee. I really happy to see Koreans showing interest in the Korean Adoptee community that is living in Korea. I've been in Korea since summer of 2015. I was fortunate to find a university job my first year in Korea. Now I am a teaching professor at SNU. I feel very fortunate to be in Korea and have some level of success. But there are still many challenges that Korean Adoptees face both in the US and in Korea...so often times our dislocation has been a challenge to our identity. Adoption has a long history going back to the Korean War and has been systematized and institutionalized into the largest "child-care" program in the world...but the consequences are far ranging. Thank you for making this video!!!
Thank you so much for this video, and to everyone who was interviewed. I'm a Korean adoptee, and sometimes I feel very alone and hurt for Being who I am. It's really nice to hear from others who share this with Me, and to know they have some of the same feelings, thoughts and struggles that I do.
As an adoptive mother, I appreciate your video. Most adoptees, even if it is of the same racial group, feel something is missing. As a parent you don't own your child, they are a blessing. Our daughter always knew she was adopted but also knew we would support any choices she made. As an adult now, she has no desire to connect with her biological family. However, she knows we will support her if she chooses to do so. To new parents, if there is a Korean school on the weekends or any group, join. It is important to let them know about and love the culture they come from. Some schools have adult classes. I belong to one. I feel for the young man who was forced to make a choice and for the small-mindedness and prejudice these young people had to deal with growing up. May they find peace, answers, and contentment.
adoptee here! thanks for this comment. i wish more adoptive parents were like you and mine, i've heard of many transracial adoptees whose parents rose them 'colorblind'. they should be exposed to their birth culture and have the choice to explore it or not!
It's really amazing to hear all these stories! My heartstrings go out to all of them, especially the one wearing the grey shirt! I remember helping my mom search for her biological family, and that was actually about the same time I found Ben Deen. His story really encouraged me, and shortly afterward, my mom found her Bermudian mother, sister and niece (and several more relatives)! I hope every adoptee takes the chance to explore their missing link; I've not seen my mom so happy in a long time, and I hope everyone else finds the same happiness in their respective journeys! It's a true blessing to be able to make these milestones in your life. 💕
drsnowmon thankfully most of the racism these days in the states is kept as civil as possible were issues can be expressed without fear of death or wrongful imprisonment but democracy is not an easy concept and it is still a work progress. " democracy is the worst form of government except when compared to all other forms that have been tried before" Winston Churchill.
Thank you for this vidéo... I am half korean from an adopted mother. I am now in Seoul since 3 months because I want to discover this culture. My mother asked me to look for our korean family, maybe I have cousins 😕. I am not the adopted one but i can relate so much at what these people said. I was the only asian in school and I didnt know anything about asia. I hated korea for years because I thought they abandoned my mother... I wanted to be white but i realised I looked way more asian. Today again one korean told me I was a bad korean because I don't speak korean fluently. Hopefully some koreans are very nice to me. I guess it was way worse for my mother since the oldest mentality was less open. I respect her so much for always being strong and i'm really thankful for this interview.. you just did too videos that touched me so much : mixed and adopted
I am grateful for you bring us relevants things. I am moved watching it. I am brazilian living in Brasil but I was discriminated after marriage cuz I am not caucasian and my husband relatives are Germany roots and they used call me "brasilian" in a negative way which means I was not not blond with blue eyes and not good enough. I am happy those beaufiful guys could found love and family. I don't know the reasons wich lead their parents didn't raise them but they lost a chance of having amazing childrens.
자본주의 표본인 매우 미국적이고 계산이 확실한 현실적인 양부모네요. 진태님 얘기가 맘 아프네요. 그래도 운좋은 분이예요. 양부모가 출생신고 안해줘서 영주권도 시민권도 없는 입양인이 2만명이 넘는데요. 그리고 남한은 남의 시선을 넘 의식하고 지앞길 막고 새출발했던 혼자 살던 자기 사는데 지장줄까봐 버린 자식 찾아오는거 안반겨요. 돈을 싸질머지고 오면 돈 뜯어 먹을라고 반기겠죠. 진태님도 다른 두 입양인도 생부모 찾지 마세요. 유전자만 물려준 타인이예요. 더 상처받지 마시고요. 생각보다 현실이 드라마보다 잔혹해요.
one of these LOVELY interviewees is a youtuber too^^ check him out on youtube :Ben deen
and you can get their instagram in the description box. thanks for watching it. Have a good day ! :)
Oh, I forgot that one of girls has a youtube channel too. (Rachel) : Rachel Rostad
Heechulism i happy to see ben in this bc ik his story and he met his brother through fb and I was glad he was able to be apart of this
Yey! :) I'm so glad you asked Ben to be in the video, made me happy to see him ^^
Heechulism I like the last girl, specially when she tries to speak hangeul. She's awesome! Can you tell her that I want to meet her? Or maybe we can communicate atleast.
Heechulism - How do you meet such lovely people 😊 good networking
+Nikko Cy You can subscribe to me here on youtube! : )
저 회색옷 입으신분은... 참.. 슬프네요. ㅠㅠ 입양한 이유가 한국아기가 총명해서 입양했고 너를 얼마주고 입양해왔다고 얘기하다니...
레알 씹색기들
진태라는 분 진짜 상처가 많으신 것 같아서 이야기 듣는 내내 마음이 시큰시큰했음....
차라리 입양가서는 완전 좋은 부모님 만나고 항상 주위에 좋은 사람들만 가득해서 본인을 버린 한국 욕하고 살았다면 그래도 전화위복이라고 축하해주고 이렇게 미안한 마음이 들지 않았을텐데...
They guy in the gray shirt....its soo sad that his adoptive parents told him if that if he stayed in the U.S then he would still be considered part of the family but if he looked for his blood parents then he wouldn't be...I..had trouble processing that.. But it started to make more sense when he walked about how his adoptive family only wanted a korean adoptee because they thought he would be a doctor/lawyer/engineer..thats soo selfish..they legit pretended to love him for all those years while scheming to make money off of him. Thats infuriating!!!!
At least that's not as bad as those kids who got abused and some even murdered. Approximately 20% of adoptions end up in abusive homes.
***** No..I know humans are generally more bad than good. But since my parents are soo good to me it just maddening knowing that people adopt for this reason. Its better that they were honest with him, but why ruin people's lives like that?
I agree with you, since I watch about him, I thought every parents who adopt children are an angels or at least good people. This is very sad facts.
이런 영상 정말 멋진 것 같아요. 상상할 수는 있어도 미국으로 입양된 사람을 만난적은 있어도 그런걸 물어보기엔 많이 친하지가 않아서 궁금하기도 했었어요. 마음 아프면서도 마음이 따뜻해지는 영상이었네요. 감사합니다!
자꾸 마음이 아파옵니다. 저들이 행복했으면 좋겠습니다.
The dark Grey shirt guy's adoptive parents have some issues. For them to give him an ultimatum on finding his biological parents and to adopt a baby to earn more money later is just plain screwed up.
인터뷰 잘하시네요. 쓸데 없이 웃길려고 하지 않고 일반인들이 입양인들에 대해 궁금할 만한 점을 잘 집어서 질문 해주셨네요. 다른 재미있는 영상 앞으로 더 기대할게요.
대부분 아시안계 미국인들 보면 자기혐오가 엄청 심해요. 어릴때부터 백인들에 둘러쌓여 놀림을 받다보니 자존감도 많이 떨어지고 그래서 아시아에관련된 모든 것을 지우려고 하죠..
그렇군요..
grey shirt adoptee's story brings tears to my eyes :(( i never thought korean adoptees would struggle to be loved by their parents.. i thought all adoptee parents were loving & supportive!
Richard Yoon you're too hot to handle
yeah he seems like having been hurted a lot
Most of them are, trust me, but it's important to really emphasize that adoptive parents are human too and make mistakes. So many people just assume adoption is wonderful and amazing, which parts of it are, but realistically, it cannot be all good. My parents did some bad things just like other parents. We criticize our lives just like other people. But, it's okay, because support comes from other places too! It's just a bit harder when you don't get it from the people you are closest to.
A significant number of Korean adoptees end up in abusive homes, contrary to popular beliefs.
+Jill Thompson
True, and in a recent particular case actually, a man named Adam Crapser has been in a fight with the system to keep himself in America and not get deported back to Korea, after going through legal trouble and rehomed several times (by abusive parents). These facts I agree cannot be ignored.
I really wish I could speak to the guy in the grey shirt :( He's very strong to do what he is doing, its a sad story
i agree :( it's super sad he was given such an ultimatum and to be adopted under such an impure reason. i hope he doesn't feel unloved or alone or something
Thanks for giving me the opportunity to be in your video 희철형!
감사합니다
ahh good luck park... its okey to find out who u r really.. but dont forget to take care of ur adopted parent when they r old okey...
Park Jin Tae 박진태 진태씨 힘내요
응원합니다💪
한국에서 항상 좋은일만 있었으면 좋겠고 응원하겠습니다 !화이팅!
힘내세요.
중간에 회색반팔티를 입은 남성분이 상처를 참 많이받으시면서 살아오신 것 같아서 보는데 마음이 좋지 안네요. 그분을 동정하는건 아니지만요..
미국에서 아이를 군사학교로 보낸다는게 좀 그렇네요
애를 문제아 취급해서 보낸듯...
가슴 짠하네요... 그리고 인터뷰하신 분들 많이 힘드셨을 텐데 다행히 나쁜길로 가지 않고 바른길 걸어오신 거 같습니다. 대단하시네요... 많이 힘드셨을 텐데 다들 앞으로 승승장구하시길... 그리고 뉴욕에 입양됐다시는 분... 마음이 많이 아프실 거 같은데... 무덤덤해보이시는 거도 저는 슬프게 느껴집니다. 부디 앞으로는 진심으로 사랑해줄 수 있는 사람들을 만나시길...
turned out well man!
bendeen! thanks for mentioning this vid in your livestream. i love hearing these international stories! thats how i originally found your channel. but now im hooked. hook, line + sinker! lots of love from austin! 🙏🏻🖤🌏
BenDeen is that you in this vid buddy?
매우 감동적인 인터뷰였습니다. 여기 나오신 입양인들 모두 언제나 행운이 함께 하길 빕니다.
I hope the parents of the guy in the gray shirt come to understand where he's coming from and accept him discovering a part of himself. Very good video!
the uncut video was really quite sad to be honest
I felt a little sick to my stomach when I heard him say his adoptive parents gave him an ultimatum against finding his Korean roots. I'm glad he did what he felt he needed to despite his adoptive parents' insecure pettiness.
HazewinDog, What do you mean?
E kids The channel accidentally publicly uploaded the uncut video of the guy's interview, so I heard his story from start to finish. It's even more sad than this video shows.
HazewinDog Oh my...
I don't wanna be judgemental, but it seems like the adoptive parents of the guy in the grey shirt are not really good. Adopting a Korean guy so that he can become a doctor and support the family financially? Mmm ok
Ikr? Asians aren't biologically predisposed to be successful; that's way too much pressure to put on your child. 😞
and they even told him how much they paid to adopt him in the middle of all those circumstances of pressure and racism. no wonder why he chose to come to Korea.. I really wish him the very best in his pursuit of happiness
though it would've been an easier choice for him when she made him choose either them or Korea .
They didn't see him as a child, more like a commodity, or investment
다들 바르게 성장한 것 같네요...
ㅅㅂㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ 닥터나 과학자를 원해서 한국남자아이를 입양했다니 ㅋㅋㅋㅋ 개막장가족이네
natalie l 끝까지 다봤는데 그 남자분 인터뷰 들어보면 사랑 제대로 못받고 큰거 같아서 안타까웠어요ㅠ 부정적인 말들뿐이라
막장 가족은 자식이 부모 속 썩이고 불효해도 막장 아닌가요. 한국에 그런 가정 수두룩한것 같은데.
차암 못 배웠음
the guy in the grey shirt has been through a lot. wishing him the best
All the people in this video have very nice voice which i envy
a good microphone and settings does wonders ;)
***** ah perhaps :)
sjduejsj doekdjcncn Agreed.
sjduejsj doekdjcncn i also thought that
Well that one lady gives off a strong Ellen Page vibe. Maybe it's her voice or the way she talks.
잔잔하게 감동적이네요.
다들 말솜씨도 좋으신거같아요.
다양한 생각을 들을수있어서 정말 좋습니다.
희철님은 정말 오래 보고싶은 유튜버네요.
I have white america parents who adopted me at 16. I Am Nigerian, i also have sisters from Ethiopia. I have Twin brothers who are American Belizian(??) and a brother from Haiti. My mom has two biological kids and honestly to this day we can't tell who she loves more and she has no favorite(me??). In her heart we are all equal. We share that space. My mom has encouraged all of us to pursue and pushed us all toward our culture. To her, i am her Nigerian queen.
that's amazing! :)
ahh bless! this was beautiful to read :) it made me extremely happy. i'm super glad you got blessed with such wonderful adoptive parents
That's beautiful, and most people should grow up this way.
If it's not too personal, may I ask if there's a reason why your parents had so many black kids? lol.
No idea. Maybe in her past life she was black? JK. I think my mom is someone that has always be enthralled with the capabilities and abilities of Black Americans. She swears that a psychic told her years ago that in her past life she was a white women that helped with the underground railroad.
oKpiNuts Really? That's incredible. If it's true, she's always been a remarkable individual. You're so blessed.
호주에서 입양된 한국 아이에게 한국어를 가르치고 있습니다. 아이가 아직 어려서 표현을 잘 하진 못하지만 아이의 입장을 더 잘 알 게 된 것 같아요. 가슴 뭉클해지는 영상이었습니다. 제 학생도 키워주신 부모님과 행복한 기억 많이 쌓고 한국이라는 나라에 대해서 고민해 볼 수 있는 아이로 성장했으면 좋겠네요.
+Kyungim Choi 좋은일 하시네요:) 저도 그 아이가 꼭 행복했으면 좋겠습니다
you just doing your job, but learning any language is the knowing everything about culture of the country.
나의 남편은 한국에서 입양된 사람입니다. 자랄때부터 힘들게, 백인들 속에서 자라났고, 학교에서도 늘 눈총을 받았다고 하더군요. 좋은 양부모 밑에서 자라난건 행운이였다고...남편의 누나 (백인 시누이) 가 친엄마를 찾아주고 싶어서 한국과 연락을 했지만, 찾고싶지 않다고 합니다. 이름은 유 형진 (1살때 입양-서초동) 모두들 건강하게 잘 지냈으면 합니다.
Moon Nichols 더이상 힘든일없이 행복하셨으면 좋겠어요. 응원할게요!
영상 보다 보니 두가족에 버림 받은 사람이 있네요..
이번영상이 제일 베스트인거같아요 저한텐! 수고많으셨어요 굿귯귯👏👏
+Haley Jang 현애야 봐줘서 고맙다~~!
희철리즘 보면은 사회 소수자들을 인터뷰한 영상들이 많은데 볼때마다 그들을 조금이나마 이해할수있게 되고 외곡된 생각과 편견을 깨게 해줘서 좋은것같아요 앞으로 이런 영상 많이 찍어주셨으면 좋겠어요
Great video! I felt so sad for that guy in the dark grey shirt.... doesn't sound like he had exactly a great time growing up... I hope he's okay, that he finds his birth parents, and that his adoptive parents understand him. As for all the other adoptees, it must be so hard... my heart go out to all of them!
그냥 인기몰이를 하려는 여타 다른 인터뷰와는 좀 다른 채널이네요.
좋은영상 감사합니다.
뭐랄까 희철님 영상들은 우리가 가려운 부분을 긁어주는 그런 영상이네요.
Christiano Ronaldo 우리?난 안간지러운데? 너혼자 간지럽다고 수정해줄래?ㅎ
시발아 사람마다 다를수도 있지 왜 반말이세영?
Christiano Ronaldo 사람마다 다를수있지 왜 따저?
시발아 난 따진적 없다.
니가 트집잡은거지.
니 의견이랑 안맞으면 가던길 가라. 헛소리 하지말고
나도 트집잡은적없는데? 내의견에 안맞으면 니가 꺼저. ㅂㄷㅂㄷ대지말고
It was so moving to hear Rachel speaking Korean at the end.
희철리즘 주제들을 항상 좋아합니다. 한국 사회가 한발짝 물러 서 있는 주제들과, 준비되어 좀더 깊은 인터뷰들이 항상 흥미롭습니다. 어떤 편견에 치우치지 않은 인터뷰들을 통해 한번 더 생각 해 보게 되는 것 같아요. 항상 좋은 영상 기대할께요 :)
미혼모 입니다 미국으로 애기 입양보냈고요 ..세월이흘러애기가 친모찻는다는연락을 복지통해서 받은상태입니다 ‥그냥눈물만나옵니다
벅차기도하고 복잡하기도하고요
상담통해 애기보는과정도 있겠지만
그런형식적인 절차말고도
애기보기위해서는
참 여러가지 조심스럽네요
무슨말을 시작해서 애기에게 상처주지않고 만나는과정을 풀어야 하는데 참어렵네요 전말그대로
미혼모 였고 보낸상처만안고 살아왔는데 보내진 애기상처어떤식으로 보듬어줘야할지 솔직히 모르겠습니다 그냥미안하다는말도 형식적이라서 말하기도 미안합니다 너무답답한 나머지 유트브에 입양이라는 검색하고 이동영상을보고 참 눈물만 나오네요 우리애기도 저런맘으로 나란 사람을 찻는구나하고요
미혼모 입장에서 말할수있는거는요
분명 당신들을 잊지 않는다는거에요
적어도 엄마들은 몸에서기억이 남거든요~ 미안하고 사랑한다고 말해드리고 싶어요 모든입양자들에게요
무책임한년
이 좋은 댓글에 저런 더러운 댓글들이라니 한심하네 정말. 댓글들 신경쓰지 말고 힘내세요 어머니!
그냥 만나지 않는게 서로를 위해서 좋을듯.
여기 댓글 상태 왜이래요??
1년 전 댓글이지만 응원해요!
I really think that what you are doing is so necessary. People get caught with all the pop culture and never get to see these topics about the culture that are so important. l've watch every video and you never dissapoint me. Thabk you!
thank*
정말 좋은 영상이네요.. 조금 씁쓸하기도 하고.... 항상 무거운주제를 가지고 영상을 만들어주셔서 감사하게 잘보고 있습니다.
정말 많은 생각을 하게 하는 좋은 인터뷰였습니다. 인터뷰하신 분들을 포함한 한국 입양인들 응원합니다!!
Such a wonderful interview I've seen and it gave me many things to think. I hope every Korean adoptee including these lovely interviewees can find the missing piece of puzzle!!
진태님의 이야기는 살짝 충격적이네요..
훈이의 인생살이 맞아요.. 마음고생 많이 하셨을듯..ㅠㅠ
마음이 넘 아프네요
감동이 밀려오네요
수고했어요
영상 최고입니다
많은걸 생각하게하네요♡
이번 영상은 정말 진지하고 진중있게 봤습니다 제가 몰랐던 그들의 아픔도 있네요.. 잘 봤습니다!!
차별받았다는 말들이 아프네요 비교적 좋은 양부모밑에서 자라신것 같아 다행이지만
자라면서 인종차별과 정체성에대한 회의로 어린나이에 얼마나 움츠려들었을지 가슴아파요
여긴 당신들의 나라에요
한국에 오신걸 환영하고 한국에서 많은 사랑 행복 정을 느끼셨으면해요
응원하겠습니다♡
I sincerely hope, they'll find what they come looking for and have an undying support from their adopted and biological families. I feel upset they grew up being teased because they were different and Asian, I hope they know they are beautiful and great people and have people who genuinely remind them that everyday. I love ur Videos by the way 화이팅
To be fair, school is a pack mentality. If there is anything different about you, you get teased. Whether it's because your Asian, your pale, you have big ears, etc etc. Its fucked
i absolutely agree. I guess we've all gone once in our life through this, i think being surrounded by people who gave us unconditional love help us remain strong and liking ourselves the way we are.
All of these are lovely and it has helped me understand more that I'm not alone because I am adopted too. I do plan a trip to Korea but idk if I'd go find my birth parents. I will learn more about my culture though, I'm becoming proud to be a Korean.
Benja Storie Thats so awesome!!! You go!!! =D
I feel like if you spend a year in the african continent , then spend another in KR . you'll be able to be at peace. all human ingredients are crucial if you want to understand yourself. don't excise the american identity its a part of you
Good video. Just saw BenDeen's mukbang and this must be the collaboration he was eluding to. I felt really bad for the other guy in this video. It doesn't seem as if he had a good adoptee experience. Can't believe his mom said that to him. I hope he finds, if not his birth parents, then at least some spirit of belonging to something there in Korea. These are interesting stories to tell.
뭔지 모르겠지만 진한 감동이 있는거 같네요 감사합니다!
회색옷입은 남자분 얼굴에 고생한게 보이네요
다들 목소리 좋으시다
All you guys and ladies have good voice
ben deen 이다!!
When I saw the video tittle I knew he would interview him
MsBelleFlanders me too~
서윤재 yeaSss
Wow. Thank you for uploading this incredible video, i think it means a lot. I want to appreciate the interviewees sharing there experience and letting me think about it.
I screamed when Ben Deen came on !!!! I love him so much !!!!!!
한국에 있어야 될 사람들이 미국에 가 있었던 것 같으네요. 대부분 힘든 청소년기를 거쳤고, 어린 시절 내내 외톨이로 지내고 그랬을 것 같아요. 한국에 있는 친부모가 가족처럼 지내기는 힘들더라도 만나보고 하는 것 조차 꺼리는건 애석하긴 하네요. 사람들마다 입양시킨 수많은 이유가 있었을거고, 볼 면목이 없을 것 같긴 해도 한번 정도는 만나볼 수도 있을 것 같긴 하네요. 그래야 할 것 같아요. 수많은 외국인들도 한국에서 생활하는 경우가 많은데 입양된 사람들이 한국에서 생활하는데에 불편함이 없었으면 좋겠네요. 그래도 형을 만난 친구는 다행이다 싶긴 하네요. You better stay in korea forever. We welcome you.
This video is totally eye openning for me. Thank you for making it and to those interviewees who willingly shared their stories. I wish them all the best with finding their birth parents or that missing piece!
모두 훌륭하게 자랐군요. 행복 하시고 사랑합니다.^^
These people are so brave, i have so much respect for these guys for not giving up on their search. It's not an easy thing to do. I pray they all get reconnected with their biological parents and resolve these issues. Thanks for doing this topic. It's very interesting
아이를 두번 버리는 친부모 정말 대단. 애 팔아 달러벌이 국가도 대단.. 죽어도 입양 안하는 한국인들도 대단. 우리 모두 대단 대단..
I wish i could just hug them T.T they're so strong i couldn't imagine if i was in their shoes. I cried when i listened to the guy in grey shirt's story he's so strong!
이 동영상이 당신 것중에 최고에요! 너무 좋아해서 반복해서 보고 또보고 이제까지 도대체 몇번을 봤는지 모르겠네요 이제와 새삼 이 오래된 동영상에 댓글을 다는것은 이런 가치있는 영상을 찍어준 당신에게 너무 고마워서입니다 감사합니다
When Ben Deen came on the screen :o Edit: I had paused the video to comment that but after reading the comments like 90% of them were about Ben Deen too...
Now that I've watched the whole video, I really hope the man in the gray shirt's mother truly did think more when adopting him and valued him as an individual and human--not as an Asian tool for her to gain success. If that is the truth, I sincerely am hoping he finds someplace in Korea where he can feel loved and not be dragged down by his previous experiences.
I got teary-eyed hearing about the woman who heard her mother on the phone. How painful would that be? She grew up to be a beautiful woman, so it's her mother's loss that she can't even contact her secretly.
I feel so bad for the man in the gray shirt, he's had to endure so much. It's strange that his own family can't support his decision. Every person deserves to know where they originally come from.
The other girl said she struggled with her appearance just for being different. She is and has been gorgeous her whole life lol, so she should be grateful for that difference.
Lastly, the guy in the black shirt looks almost white to me lol, so (unfortunately, probably because of that fact) it's nice that he had a better upbringing . His baby pics were adorable. *ETA: He's a TH-camr? Does he do mukbangs? Cuz his name sounds familiar now.*
"내인생에 잃어버린조각이 있는것같다. 그걸 찾고싶다." ...
김성경 저도 그 말을 보며 참 찡했어요
They have one thing in common; they all look fine
Kelvin Kenneth fine? fine in what way
I wanna ask you "is there ANYONE who doesn't look fine?"
soomyeonxing saves lives sweaties I think he’s using fine in the context to imply that they are all attractive. It’s harder to make the distinction on the Internet. To rephrase the initial comment,” DAMN ALL THE PEOPLE WHO WERE IINTERVIEWED IN THE VIDEO ARE ATTRACTIVE.” (Including the interviewer himself hehe)
입양된 사람들이 한국에 강한 분노를 느끼고 그것을 표출해도 이해한다. 부모에게 버림받고 저런 어려움속에서도 잘 성장해왔는데 크게 성공하고 나면 한국에서 100% 자랑스러운 한국인 타이틀을 붙일 거라는 생각에 아무 상관이 없는 내가 벌써 미안해질 지경이다.
진태님 앞으로 잘 되시길
I m so glad Ben is in this video :)
My mother (who is all white) was also adopted, and believe it or not, she's also had similar thoughts and experiences. Please dont say people shouldn't adopt outside their race because of problems shared in this video, because even within a race the issues still stand. Adoption is beautiful, and a loving home is always better than living in an orphanage with no parents period. If people ever tease you for being adopted/unwanted/abandoned, tell them that its the exact opposite. You were CHOSEN by your family, they WANTED you. They spent all the money, time, and effort to get you. Whether youre were/are 16 year old white foster kid who was adopted or a 3 month old from Kenya who was adopted, always remember that.
@ Micah , that's mommy dearest . you've heard of it ?
이번 영상은 정말 가슴찡하면서도 정말 정말 좋은 영상이었습니다...희철님 항상 응원합니당..ㅜ
근데 다들 인물 좋네.
Even if I am not adopted I can relate to this in some way, growing up in a country that is culturally so ignorant and different to your own. Only someone who has lived their life like this can feel their pain. There are many benefits but one huge disadvantage is how easy it is to lose your identity.
It is easy to become isolated and emotionally traumatised even from childhood.
You can be driven by others to forget your own roots, to be ashamed of your culture or even your appearance .
But only when you find your true self, that moment of realisation that it is okay to accept who you are, you love yourself more than you ever did before.
^i've never been so passionate in writing before
my boyfriend is a korean american adoptee and he went to korea a few years ago to try and find his parents but they couldn't find them. He 's planning to go again next year so hopefully we can find them. His story is pretty similar, and im really happy that he's starting to embrace his culture more than he did when we met. Wish him luck on a good reunion!
YAY!!! Korean Adoptees. I am currently living in Korea and a Korean Adoptee. I really happy to see Koreans showing interest in the Korean Adoptee community that is living in Korea.
I've been in Korea since summer of 2015. I was fortunate to find a university job my first year in Korea. Now I am a teaching professor at SNU. I feel very fortunate to be in Korea and have some level of success. But there are still many challenges that Korean Adoptees face both in the US and in Korea...so often times our dislocation has been a challenge to our identity. Adoption has a long history going back to the Korean War and has been systematized and institutionalized into the largest "child-care" program in the world...but the consequences are far ranging.
Thank you for making this video!!!
Thank you so much for this video, and to everyone who was interviewed. I'm a Korean adoptee, and sometimes I feel very alone and hurt for
Being who I am. It's really nice to hear from others who share this with
Me, and to know they have some of the same feelings, thoughts and struggles that I do.
한국 서울입니다
미국 업양간 여러분 언제나 응원합니다
건강하게 성창한 모습을 뵈니 기분이 너무 좋습니다 언제나 여러분곁에는 신의 가호가
함께 하시기를 기도 합니다 한국 서울에서 응원합니다
Whoa I was not expecting Ben to be in this video :0O and wow great job to Rachel for her effort in speaking hangul at the end!:0D
Ugh...I want to fight the guy in the grey's parents.
As an adoptive mother, I appreciate your video. Most adoptees, even if it is of the same racial group, feel something is missing. As a parent you don't own your child, they are a blessing. Our daughter always knew she was adopted but also knew we would support any choices she made. As an adult now, she has no desire to connect with her biological family. However, she knows we will support her if she chooses to do so. To new parents, if there is a Korean school on the weekends or any group, join. It is important to let them know about and love the culture they come from. Some schools have adult classes. I belong to one. I feel for the young man who was forced to make a choice and for the small-mindedness and prejudice these young people had to deal with growing up. May they find peace, answers, and contentment.
adoptee here! thanks for this comment. i wish more adoptive parents were like you and mine, i've heard of many transracial adoptees whose parents rose them 'colorblind'. they should be exposed to their birth culture and have the choice to explore it or not!
Derra Jill McDonough
헐...반팔티입은 군인형은 입양가정 중에서도 어려운 환경에 있었군요... 한국에 와서 뭔가 만족스러운 결과를 찾을 수 있었으면 좋겠네요.
항상 잘 챙겨보고 매번 조아용 누르고 가요 좋은 컨텐츠...안누를 수가 없어여 💕
RACHEL! I love all of your spoken word poetry and I'm so glad you're taking this new adventure in your life! Good luck with everything!
Ben Deen!!! So good to see him share his remarkable story.
댓글을 잘 달지 않는 편인데 이번편은 정말 감명깊게 봤습니다. 진태씨 이야기는 살짝 충격적이기도 하네요...
I was so touched by this video
It's really amazing to hear all these stories! My heartstrings go out to all of them, especially the one wearing the grey shirt! I remember helping my mom search for her biological family, and that was actually about the same time I found Ben Deen. His story really encouraged me, and shortly afterward, my mom found her Bermudian mother, sister and niece (and several more relatives)! I hope every adoptee takes the chance to explore their missing link; I've not seen my mom so happy in a long time, and I hope everyone else finds the same happiness in their respective journeys! It's a true blessing to be able to make these milestones in your life. 💕
I laugh when Americans say "Racism is not blatant in America as compared to other countries"
drsnowmon who says that :l
Em me
Who else? Americans....
I laugh when people keep score on how many people are keeping score.
drsnowmon thankfully most of the racism these days in the states is kept as civil as possible were issues can be expressed without fear of death or wrongful imprisonment but democracy is not an easy concept and it is still a work progress. " democracy is the worst form of government except when compared to all other forms that have been tried before" Winston Churchill.
You think there's not blatant racism in Korea? lol..
This reminds me of my friend that I mentored during my university days. He also went to Korea to find his birth mother.
Awesome video! I'm a Korean adoptee and was lucky to meet my birth family in Korea this year.
lucky! congrats!
가슴아프네요...각자의 사연이있겠지만은...결코 쉽게치유될수없는 상처일거같네요
I'M SO GLAD YOU INTERVIEWED BEN!
다들 말씀을 잘하시네요.. 항상 콘텐츠가 좋아 꼭 챙겨보게됩니당!
Thank you for this vidéo... I am half korean from an adopted mother. I am now in Seoul since 3 months because I want to discover this culture. My mother asked me to look for our korean family, maybe I have cousins 😕. I am not the adopted one but i can relate so much at what these people said. I was the only asian in school and I didnt know anything about asia. I hated korea for years because I thought they abandoned my mother... I wanted to be white but i realised I looked way more asian. Today again one korean told me I was a bad korean because I don't speak korean fluently. Hopefully some koreans are very nice to me.
I guess it was way worse for my mother since the oldest mentality was less open. I respect her so much for always being strong and i'm really thankful for this interview..
you just did too videos that touched me so much : mixed and adopted
회색옷 입은 분은 진짜....그동안 얼마나 힘드셨을지 정말 너무 속상해요.. 한국부모님 꼭 찾길 바랄게요..ㅠㅠ
I am grateful for you bring us relevants things. I am moved watching it. I am brazilian living in Brasil but I was discriminated after marriage cuz I am not caucasian and my husband relatives are Germany roots and they used call me "brasilian" in a negative way which means I was not not blond with blue eyes and not good enough. I am happy those beaufiful guys could found love and family. I don't know the reasons wich lead their parents didn't raise them but they lost a chance of having
amazing childrens.
It's Ben Deen! I was surprised haha cause i'm subscribed to his channel
when i saw the title i immediately thought of Ben Deen :)
I did too
이 영상은 진짜 좋은 영상이다.. 거의 공영방송 다큐멘터리 수준의 주제와 내용을 담고 있네.. 한국계 입양분들.. 멀리서나마 응원합니다. 그리고 제작자님~ 앞으로도 좋은 영상 부탁드려요 ^^
진태씨는 내적으로나 외적으로나 굉장히 강하신 분이신 것 같네요.
항상 좋은 결과와 행운이 따르시길 바랍니다. 다른 세분도 말이죠.
영상을 보는데 괜히 제가 다 죄송해지네요
한국에서 좋은 일들만 가득했으면 좋겠습니다
진태분 꼭 한국에서 부모 찾고 여기서도 행복한 길을 찾으셨으면 좋겠다 .... 진짜 입양한 부모가 뭔가 핀트가 이상한거같아...
자본주의 표본인 매우 미국적이고 계산이 확실한 현실적인 양부모네요. 진태님 얘기가 맘 아프네요. 그래도 운좋은 분이예요. 양부모가 출생신고 안해줘서 영주권도 시민권도 없는 입양인이 2만명이 넘는데요. 그리고 남한은 남의 시선을 넘 의식하고 지앞길 막고 새출발했던 혼자 살던 자기 사는데 지장줄까봐 버린 자식 찾아오는거 안반겨요. 돈을 싸질머지고 오면 돈 뜯어 먹을라고 반기겠죠. 진태님도 다른 두 입양인도 생부모 찾지 마세요. 유전자만 물려준 타인이예요. 더 상처받지 마시고요. 생각보다 현실이 드라마보다 잔혹해요.
진짜 다들 목소리가 좋으시네요.. 너무 듣기 좋은 목소리예요 마음도 맑고 여린 게 느껴져요
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